And then she hits us with, "Turns out the reality is much worse." Uhh, pardon? There's something WORSE than actual bleach on your skin? Yes...yes there is.
___ he had vitiligo that was spreading so he bleached his skin before it spread all over his body and it tarnish his image. Just going off what his mum said
@@jaydajames1910 good for you... It's now a 1 year .. oh my goodness Lord how mu self confidence has leveled up to a 100... Let's keep spreading the awareness & helping others see the truth behind bleaching
A date straight up told me you’re pretty for an Indian girl. And when I checked him on that he legitimately didn’t understand why what he said was offensive! “Why are you upset that I gave you a complement” BRAINWASHED!
That’s a back handed complement, people these days🤦🏾♀️. I’m glad you stood up for yourself because that’s just ridiculous. Indians are beautiful, no matter the shade.
I always reply with a "for" compliment myself... (pretty for a chubby chick? Thanks... you're attractive for a short man)... The only way they understand how bullshit this is is if you do it right back to them. People tend to minimize or say you're crazy for not accepting their backhanded compliments...so i give them one back and have them be the ones to state what is wrong and then i'll say you're right...so ...stop doing it too?
I hate that. My other favorite was "You're so pretty. What are you mixed with?" as though they needed me to have a more varied racial background than black to justify finding me attractive.
Ugh. I've legit had to explain to someone before why the "compliments" they kept saying were backhanded compliments and why they were bad. I had a guy friend who would legit think he was giving a compliment when he would say things like "You're an LA 6" or some crap like that. He would try to explain that he was saying "you'd be ranked this number if you lived in this city, but if you live in this other city, you're this rating" and for a long time he genuinely thought it was a compliment. My husband and I had to explain to him more than once why that was not a compliment, and how backhanded it was, and just how flat out wrong and insulting it was. I'm like, "that's gross and I highly doubt that any woman you've ever said that to has actually been pleased by that comment." Sometimes people just don't get it. I think he eventually did get it, but I can't be 100% sure on that.
@@kirawoods5316 The first statement in Sara the Frog's comment was not a compliment. She put it in quotes because thats what's often said to the darker black women. In other words, if she was lighter skinned, she would be gorgeous. Notice the last sentence in her comment, she's telling CB she's super pretty. So, it's not about racism but about someone being an asshole.
I’m Latina, growing up I would be made fun of when I was “too dark” even though all of the white girls I knew were tanning to be darker. It was a very ugly feeling.
Yes!!!! Same here. And I can't believe that I let it affect me. Now I'm like, bittttchhhh you wish you could have this melanin! You're beautiful ❤️ don't ever doubt that.
My boyfriend is Hispanic and his uncle has a weird obsession of telling women about their skin, he tells my boyfriends cousin she's too dark when she's one of the prettiest people I've ever met, every time I see him he asks if I'm sick or tells me to tan. He stayed at our house for 2 weeks...he asked me every day if I was ill.
@@madisonweber2480 Oh hell no! You need to tell his uncle to worry about his own skin. I hate some Hispanic people. We were told that the most beautiful women were the light skin ones. The darker you are, the more discrimination you get. They'll call you "negro/a" which is literally the word black, which is used as a derogatory term for African-Americans, and people born in places where dark skin is prominent. I hate that my own people are the worst. There's a saying, that a Mexican's/Hispanic person's worst enemy, is another Mexican/Hispanic person. I find that to be so accurate.
@@saraa1741 you're beautiful too! People my entire life have said something about me being pale/needing to tan, I've never had any issue with my skin, it functions how it's supposed to by covering my organs and whatnot. I hope that with things like the body positive movement we can be more positive about skin too. My boyfriends uncle told my boyfriend he was coming to our town again at the beginning of this year he just needed a place to crash....not at our place. The rest of his family is wonderful and kind. Coming from a white family my mom communicated through passive aggressiveness and back handed compliments, she push into into an eating disorder then got mad at me for needing treatment. Maybe families just suck in general
I'm extremely dark, my mum would repeat affirmations about my skin (i.e your skin is beautiful, healthy etc) since I was very young, even prior to going to preschool.. So I grew up knowing deep inside me that my skin is amazing and it came a long way for me because the world can be kinda cruel..
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie yeah and rapid mixing of other human species was prevelant back then as well. just in the older days of enslaving and well stuff that happened. although those species looked a bit different than that of now humans im talking bout ranges between 1000 to 2 milli year ago. we mixed back then and we're mixing now.
Discussing and freedom of speech is really fun. If someone's a jerk, no ones stopping you from not talking to them, or ranting to others about them, or sending them novels about why they suck lol. America is pretty nice, there's faults ofcorse, but hey North Korea exists lol
I think this is a really poignant comment. People hold their tongues all the time not wanting to offend, they don't want someone to think their weird, they don't want to be judged. But some there are other people who seem to have no problem speaking exactly what they think no matter how disgusting and hateful. I think it's time for everyone that is scared to say something because they don't want to not fit in, they don't want to be weird, they don't want to go against the grain, it's time to speak up. Lets be the norm, make those people feel uncomfortable for thinking and speaking negatively!
Vitamin d deficiency is extremely high in black people living in the west. I’d encourage everyone to get their levels tested as it contributes so much to your physical and mental health
Yeah, apparently people with light skin seems to get more vitamin d from the sun than darker skinned people. It makes sense though, people who live in nordic countries/scandinavia etc have very long and dark winters and in some months the sun won't show up at all. Being light skinned will help these people "absorb" the vitamin-d from the sun in the short summer months. While in africa for example, where people are often darkest and the sun is really strong, there's no use in being light skinned (first of all, they'd burn) since they get enough sun and therefore vitamin d as is. But offcourse, if you have very dark skin and on top of that live in a country with little sun exposure, then you might get some issues. It's a bit fascinating how different human features tells a tale of our evolution.
@@semendemon4194 yes there is, just like there are people with different skintones in scandinavia. But back in the old times where man was til in it's pre stages, we evolved according to where we lived. Which is why there are different skintones in the first place. That doesn't mean there can't exist variation in the different countries, and it doesn't mean that our appearance and genetics aren't decided by evolution.
YES, but NO. The 2nd half of the sentence is true, but not because we, men, don´t know what we like, but, rather, BECAUSE MEN FEEL SPECIALLY ATTRACTED TO WOMEN WHO OWN THEIR BEAUTY. If a GIRL is SELF-CONFIDENT about her own SEX-APPEAL, she will be seen by men as prettier & sexier than if she´s not. It makes total sense. And YOU, WOMEN, in fact operate like that, too, but in a lot more prominent way (a man HAS TO HAVE self-confidence in order to be perceived as attractive by girls, there´s no way around it, whereas a pretty girl will still be seen as attractive even if she´s not confident at all).
Omg. . Right??!!! Nothing gets to be more than someone that's insecure about their appearance!! We all have insecurities but you gotta realize your beauty and mute the negatives you've heard from others bc the only reason ppl say things like that is bc they're jealous of you, and/ or they feel lack so much love for themselves that they feel better and bigger when they can make other ppl feel bad about their selves... and that's so so real!! If they can have gain power to make someone else feel bad, they love that control to make ppl feel like their less than them... and how horrible is it that, no matter how much we know that, it still stings to a point?!! Grade school though, and especially teenage years... your reputation and how your treated seriously will do the most damage!! And you'll carry on the negative comments even as an adult! Lol!! It's terrible how societies views on beauty is so narrow minded and harsh!! The world is becoming a better place though to accept everyone for who they are and is amazing!! Hopefully in the future, we'll see all the different "natural" body types on the runways bc that's how it should be! It's sad to think about honestly!!
I’m 46, and this is for the younger ladies who are struggling to embrace their beautiful DARKNESS. Colorisim is real. I understand that people have probably made hurtful comments about your complexion at some point in your life. Please, please, please, don’t internalize what may be their self hatred, ignorance, anti-blackness, and or internalized white supremacy. It’s a huge problem, but it’s their problem. We are beautiful. I encourage you to get MORE sun. Wear bright colors and bright lipstick. Stick up for yourself articulately and intelligently, and refuse to tolerate fake friends who are “just playing” with these comments. Making fun of your friends is not friendly. Use your energy to attract people of whatever complexion who love, appreciate, and support you. Love, from a middle-aged Black lady in bright @$$ lipstick. ♥️👸🏾
Thank you so much! I’m dark myself and I love it! I always find it funny when people say I’m “too dark” because most people I’ve met have always told me I’m attractive, and at the end day they’re the ones crying and posting on their Instagram story sad quotes about how they’re insecure. All shades of black are beautiful 🖤
Idk why ppl say colorism doesn't exist. Here I've been living all around East & SE asia & Everyone still making fun of dark skin on TV(except for Japan & Taiwan) Thailand & Cambodia are probably the worst of asia when it comes to colorism
Pie Some people are so unfortunately blind/ignorant that they equate their lack of perception or experience with the lack of a phenomenon existing. It’s such a small world view. I’ve heard people protest that they’ve never felt the ills of colorisim, etc. I explain to them that it’s analogous to me saying that melanoma doesn’t exist because I don’t have it. 🤦🏾♀️. Colorisim is a cancer. It is dangerous, and I think you’re fantastic for paying attention and calling it out. 💞
Being seen as unattractive by people because your skin is dark is just a different type of hurt. For years I just hated myself and couldn’t even confide that hurt to my mother because her skin was lighter and she just didn’t understand.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I know what it feels like to not be able to confide sth to someone because they just wouldn't understand, and, as an advice, what helped me was seeking for people with similar experiences online! maybe through videos, documentaries, tweets, etc. finally, I just want to tell you that you're beautiful just the way you are. everything that makes you YOU is unique and special. other people's validation does not determine your beauty 💚 I hope you're having a great day (or night 😁)
@@Aurischoice I just don't get it. Dark flawless skin is sexy. Especially when paired with nice teeth. There is a story of an elephant who is tied to a tree from a tender age and even after growing up it did not break the rope and uproot the tree whenever it was tied although it had the strength to. Because the 🐘 was used to being limited it never learned to use its strength. Stop conditioning ourselves to have low self-esteem and treat others poorly
I'm a dark skinned girl that lives in Scotland. I bought a skin lightening soap back when I was a teenager. It is literally one of the lowest points of my life. But things get better. I now embrace my blackness and take pride in it. Also I went on holiday with some of my white scottish friends in the summer and we literally had to go indoors every 10 minutes because they were constantly burning. So black skin is also pretty convenient.
itchypigie hey I’m a Greek girl living in Scotland. When I lived in south east England I was dark!! Now I live in Scotland ...north east Scotland and I am pale as lightly toasted white bread! I look pale ... I am pale next to my greek mum! We have had some sun and I was sooo pale I actually burnt for the first time in my life! I am a little bit more glowy now... and peeling and have a red nose!
british people do burn up really quickly.. now because i'm mixed race i do burn but just not as bad.. if i burn it lasts for 2 to 3 days then my body will instantly renew the skin and i will get a tan wich from that point i'm completely fine being in the sun
I’m a dark skin Jamaican and let me tell you colorism is so deep rooted it’s crazy . Lighter skin women are viewed as upper class and more beautiful. There were a time in Jamaica where only light skin people were allowed to work certain jobs, like banking, flight attendants and customer service. In Jamaica most men prefer light skin women even ones that are not as beautiful as the dark skin women. Hopefully some day the mistreatment of dark skin will change. I was once told by family members that I should just “tone up” (meaning bleach my skin lightly) to look more beautiful. Thanks for making this video.
You are fine the way you are. When you get old with your natural skin all the bleachers will regret. Remember that. From another dark skinned Nigerian girl 💕
You're perfect as you are. People unfortunately are so brainwashed by european beauty ideals. Sending you much love, you are beautiful! Also, my great grandma was Jamaican :)
Camelia Love bleachers look ugly after they damage their skin. Everyone I see do it after a while they look like shit but they don’t know I think. Just look at Kartel 😐. Also people can tell when you do it. Colourist men are not going to love you more. It a waste of time. Do you remember the chicken pill girls used to take to get fat.
That's so sad Camelia. I'm not gay but I think darker skinned women are more beautiful. Colorism is a product of the brainwashing that happens from the media, soap operas, movies and people who perpetuate negative stereotypes of black people. But I find that the beauty industry really exacerbates the problem by showcasing white and lighter skinned models in their campaigns through commercials and billboards. This is changing but not fast enough. Colorism is a terrible thing happening all over the Carribbean and it's terribly harmful to the victims of it. I'm so sorry that you experienced it. But I'm sure that you're gorgeous darling.
True but also colorism isn't as bad as it was back then in Jamaica..females with darker skin do work where ever they desire these days, and the truth is only small minded men devalue a woman based on the shade of thier skin, I'm lighter and yes I do get what your saying but colorism is worst in other countries than it is in Jamaica trust me.
I’m Caribbean and “white passing” (sorry I don’t know how to call it), and the amount of times that my grandma told me to marry a white guy because darker skinned guys will “ruin the family” is absolutely disgusting. Even as a kid I remember how weird I felt when she said it. She now understands why that’s wrong, but it’s systemic racism within ourselves, even with us being of mulato/black descent! It’s crazy.
It’s sad that the “English” from England, and the Dutch years ago decided it was ok to buy and trade Africans for work on their farms. Africans were poor and in poverty. So, many were happy to leave. Their families were paid off. Later sone ships came over from Spain and decided to disregard payment and promise them land or extra benefits after years of working. Still, the Africans saw it as a better chance of a future. It was in comparison. Sadly, many ppl looked down on them as sub par ppl cause they were so poor and uneducated. Had all their bosses or masters educated them by law, it would have brought the level of humanity higher. Sone were butlers, chefs, Nannie’s, etc., and treated well. Others on farms were treated as slaves. That was the problem. Even educated black workers treated the uneducated farm worker differently. It’s like the light skinned black treating the dark skinned black as sub-par. At least awareness is brewing. It takes time for ppl to stop criticizing each other of their cars, houses, looks. But everyone, and I mean everyone does it. Even black children who r taught not to be prejudice still do it. I see children judging other children. The more u ppl point out differences to their children, the more they become aware. Before BLM, many children were color blind. They r being taught 2 messages. That black is beautiful, but also, u r black and she is white. Most children don’t pay attention to it till it’s thrown at them. God made all skin types. It’s Gods design. So, no one is more special than another. Everyone was given the gift of life. It’s what u do with it that makes it special.
@@LGAussie Do you bring God into everyday life or just when talking about skin? do you warn them their culture of fornication is sin? and no fornicator enters heaven?
Hey I Am So Happy you educated your grams But I do have a question. Since she'd been telling you that since you were a younger girl...Did you marry a lighter skin man by chance hun??
What a dumb grandma. She's too old for excuses. If anything you want to get black into your family to keep the legacy going. The earth is heating up and before you know it white people won't be able to stand being outside and they'll slowly die off. In the beginning there was darkness and darkness will thrive.
“You’re pretty for a dark skinned girl??” Haaaaaa! I hate that!!!! I got “you’re pretty for a chubby girl!” I’m beautiful and that’s it! You are beautiful and that’s it!
you're pretty despite being overweight is probably nicer or at least more accurate. you'd be prettier if you were a healthy weight as health is a beauty standard.
On the "dark skin is superior, scientifically", that's a subject that kinda has more nuance to it. Dark skin is biologically superior where there is high amounts of sun, hence why humans around the equator (where the sun is much more intense) tend to have darker skin. Darker skin is much more protected from UV rays, and in areas where the sun is intense, it can still pierce the skin enough to produce Vitamin D. Light skin, on the other hand, is biologically superior in areas where there is less sun. As you move further away from the equator, you both have less intense sunlight and the sun can go away for longer periods of time as the length of the day changes. This means it's important for the skin to resist the sun less in order to get the same amount of vitamin D as a dark skinned person on the equator. Light skin going towards the equator is asking to get burnt, dark skin going towards the poles is asking for a Vitamin D deficiency. Neither is really "superior" in an overall sense. We were all dark to start with, and evolved to have different tones based on different needs regarding sunlight. Different skin tones work better for different climates. But you're absolutely right, that a dark skinned person should not by any stretch feel inferior for their skin tone. It's neither above nor below, just different.
Exactly, vitamin D is a vital part of a healthy immune system meaning those with lighter skin travelling north would be more likely to survive disease etc thus overtime people moving further from the equator developed lighter skin through survival of fittest. People with darker skin tones living further up the northern hemisphere e.g Northern Europe should all take a vitamin D supplement everyday because it’s impossible for some people to make enough outside. It’s also extremely important for bone health as you need sufficient levels of vitamin D for your body to absorb and use the calcium in your diet.
Since we have sunscreen and Vitamin D supplements, all of these don't matter anymore. We have no choice in our skin color. Thinking any color is superior in sociological settings makes no sense.
@@zidapplip actually no, vitamin d still needs sunlight to be effective. Taking it orally without having enough sun exposure is harmful and makes it build up.
I am a brown skinned Latina with curly hair, my family and cousins were all “lighter” I was considered “ugly” with “ugly hair” it was tough growing up since I felt so ugly I tried not to go in the sun or do anything like that, I’ve learned to embrace it now and I’m thankful
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@Am3lia77 Many Hispanics are racist against black in the looks department. They might be friends with them, but they don’t want to look like them. Not all ppl r beautiful in each race. It doesn’t mean their darker skin, or fatter nose, or kinky hair should be frowned upon. Ppl r ppl, they have feelings. Everyone needs to realize there’s a human being behind that person. I was never so judgemental growing up in this world. Instead of it getting better, blacks and Hispanics r making racism the forefront of issues today, which is fooling younger children and ppl to think racism exist everywhere, when it doesn’t. The youth is going to grow up even more with irrational dysfunction and self conscious issues. Creating tensions in the world makes life harder for everyone. Before Floyd, things were calm. That created an uproar. Cop issues have to be fixed, but the rest of the world was getting along fine till ppl acted as if the world was racist. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
The mad hatter in Alice in Wonderland is based off of actual hat makers back in the day, because they used mercury to create/shape their products, thus being in contact with it all the time, giving them mercury poisoning and messing with their brains
To everyone who has darker skin, you are gorgeous and don’t let anyone get you down. This is coming from a light skinned person. I always found dark skin beautiful.
Dark is skin is very beautiful, but I have to say this: If your dark, tan, light skinned, your beautiful. If your white, Latina, Black, Arab, Asian, your beautiful. If your a part of the LGBTQ+ community your beautiful. If your just a human being, and god intended you to be here, your beautiful. ( to anyone with doubts, insecurities ) Stop trying to fit in these stupid beauty standards, cause always know you are your OWN beauty standard. That’s all I have to say 🤷🏻♀️.
Im the "white one" in my mexican family. Ive always inspired to have dark tans in summer. I always thought darker caramel like skin was beautiful. I have like a neautral/tan shade.
I'm a POC woman, Chinese, and it was hard growing up. I am darker than a lot of my cousins who are more fair skinned. My uncle used to tell my cousins to call me 'charcoal' because my skin was darker. For a very long time, I felt really self conscious about it. As a small child, it really was awful of him to bully me and also teach his own children to do that. It messed with my confidence. My mom always said to ignore them and it didn't matter, but it really wasn't enough to make me feel better. I definitely have grown to be more comfortable in my own skin over time as I grew up, but I honestly wasn't comfortable until I was around 22. I'm 26 now. It's been a really long journey. I don't think anyone should be made to feel ugly or bad about themselves for something they can't control. I saw that same uncle just earlier this year and he had the gall to call me 'charcoal' again. I gave him a stare and ignored him.
dude thats absolutely horrible, especially for someone whos supposed to be a grown, mature adult- let alone a family member. i really hope your cousins have at least matured :(( your skin is gorgeous no matter the shade.
MaiYoake all shades of skin are beautiful and it’s the person you are that matters most. It is terrible when adults especially tell children cruel things.
@@rebekahsquires2073 Thank you! It's so important for adults to be good role models. And honestly, it shouldn't make anyone, adults especially, feel good to bully a child.
@@twinbruisesonmyshins Thanks. I used to feel bad about myself whenever people brought it up. It's much less of an issue now. At least I don't get sunburns as easily.
You should slap him, seriously. I've gone through the same thing at school due to a boy I liked saying that he wasn't "into" black girls and it made me very, very upset. I've always wanted lighter skin due to the fact that people think that's more beautiful.. I'm still a minor too.. I hate people..
Just a little correction: We here in the Caribbean do not use umbrellas in the Sun because we don’t want to get darker, we use them because the lack of tall buildings allow the sun to beam down directly and it’s HOT as hell. Umbrellas are used to shade from the intense glare and heat.
All skin tones are superior in the conditions they adapted to. In places where you have day after day of little to no daylight In winter where you need to make your own vitamin d. Being able to absorb sunlight quickly can prevent severe rickets. In places closer to the equator fetal survival can be dependent on having activated melinin cells. Skin cancer is also highly prevelant for people who have or are carriers of the red haired gene in climates closer to the equator. Actually I would say the naturally blue eyes in a medium complexion is strickingly beautiful. I was always called ghosty because the "normal"white kids thought I was weird for not being able to tan. I may not be able to withstand standing in direct sun for four hours. But I can withstand snow and ice for long periods of time even if I am not dressed for it. So there are pros and cons to each phenotype on the planet. There is really interesting group of Asiatic people in northern Mongolia that can withstand Sub-Zero climates better then any other group in the world due to higher amounts of brown fats under their skin then any other groups. And another set of folks that can hold their breaths for six minutes easily. Both groups have slight genetic variations from all other populations. All people have wonderful traits. I learn something new about different cultures and people's every day. B blood types are better at digesting dairy and are less suseptable to altitude sickness. O blood types have better immune systems then anyone else, and A blood types are designed to best digest plants and grains. So name me any group on the face of the Earth and I will tell you at least one way they do something better then everyone else.
This is really interesting & a great way to look at people. There's such variety & I too find it fascinating. There's so much beauty in our differences ❤️ Personally, I'm quite pale & find it hard to be in strong sunlight... But as I live in Yorkshire in England, this isn't really a problem! 😂
Growing up in the Philippines and having darker skin compared to my family, i would get comments like “you would be so much prettier if you had lighter skin” and when we got a family photo done by a professional photographer for weddings or events, they would lighten ip my skin. Took me years to fully love my natural skin tone. Thank you for this!!! 🙏🏽
Your energy is so positive and attractive that I completely forgot your eye color and that that's the reason some people watch/ comment on your videos. When you had the interjection about having blue eyes, I was like "what? oh yeah that's a thing". With that being said, just keep being a beautiful person and continue with personal growth because that shows more than anything.
@@leilo330 Yikes! A recessive trait. Blue eyes are recessive. Not possessed by Caucasians alone. Your thought is also a result of colorism taught to us.
I like when you said, "we are being manipulated by the media every hour, every second, every day" because it is so true. Great point about how seeing a representation in influential roles and the power it holds over young minds! You are such a sweet soul, Cydnee!
I'm a fair skinned white girl who was engaged to a Filipino man. He didn't want me to got out in the sun and get darker. He did the same. Slowly I started clueing in to what was going on as I talked to other Filipinos and saw the skin bleaching products in the local Filipino stores. It was sad to hear people thinking they were not as beautiful because of their darker skin.
My best friend is half Filipino half English and she grew up being told she's pretty much its a shame she wasn't blonde/blue eyed/lighter skinned or skinnier. She used to dye her hair black to try and look paler, stay out of the sun. She's told me it's really intense and to your face critique kind of culture. While it sounds harsh you partner telling you to stay pale, from what she tells me it's so ingrained in their culture that pale/European is beautiful. Each country likes to make their citizens feel like shit. In England people want to be tanned and hate being pale but it seems places with darker skin think pale skin is the beauty standard. It's a losing battle wherever you are.
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
Someone should make the Cydnee Black Barbie!! You are SO beautiful and beyond the physical, I really also dig how you present any topic you are speaking on. The whole peace vibe your silly sense of humor . Im here for it!!
Cydnee: If you're vitamin D deficient you might be depressed. My Doctor: It looks like you don't get out much. You should take some vitamin D, your levels are low. Me: *wondering why I get depressive episodes*
Some of my light colored black gfs won’t date darker skinned guys. Even similar races have prejudices. It’s frightening! I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese, Korean and Indian residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
Any compliment that's followed by a "for a ......" Is NOT a compliment. Just tell someone they're pretty! Or how about something not appearance-based? I personally love to tell people they're smart, funny, strong or a hard worker.
I live in an Arab country, but damn these bitches are always criticizing me. I remember one girl was like “your really pretty but your nose” and one person came up to me and was like “your pretty for a girl at our school” the other said “your lips seem to get smaller are u alright?” And well my confidence is quite low now, I can’t even talk to people properly anymore. I can’t even kid when I say I used to think I was the prettiest girl EVER I had so much confidence in me, and now it’s gone🤷🏻♀️😔
@@maalmnsouri Girl don't let others do that to you they all are just insecure and taking it out on you!! I can't see you but I know you're beautiful bc arabic features are some of the most beautiful ones in the world and I just recently accepted my nose but it was the best decision ever bc I realized my worth
One night I couldn’t sleep and so I turned on the tv and a show was on about a nanny coming to a families house and help parents with their parenting skills. It was a family with 5 children and one little girl was darker than the other 4 . It broke my heart that her own family would tell her she wasn’t pretty because she was darker. I just wanted to hug her and tell her she was beautiful. Please remember you are beautiful no matter what color you are. 💞
PLEASE READ BEFORE COMMENTING -- Some clarifications: 1. You can still purchase hydroquinone over the counter in 1-3%. I misread! The study does state testing results found that some people experienced disfiguration of the skin while using hydroquinone topically in as little as 2%, so you should still be careful! 2. As I stated in the video, I understand people use skin lightening products for specific areas like dark spots from acne, freckles and hyper-pigmentation, there isn't a problem with that! This video is to speak about the use of these products on a larger scale, and the dangers of overuse on larger areas. 3. Addressing the comments concerning my misuse of the word superior to describe darker skin, I am in no way trying to belittle white or light skin. It is true that humans have evolved to withstand different climate conditions all over the world, so if I were talking about Scandinavia for example, it would be incorrect to state that darker skin is superior. However in the context of this video I've INTENTIONALLY used the word superior to describe dark skin, since skin bleaching is only an issue in regions of the world where having dark skin is in fact superior. 4. Every skin tone is beautiful & everyone should wear SPF. I love you guys and thank you for being so civil in the comments!!! xxx Cydnee
Cydnee I love that you took the time to make a correction even though it was just a small point. I can’t wait to watch more of your videos. You’re compassion is amazing and I love that you foster that in your community which I’m glad to be a part of.
If people want to lighten or darken their skin, it's their business, their skin. Just do it the safe way. I'm tired of these b*tches on youtube whining about skin lightening, just because they are insecure with their own dark skin. What I do with my skin is none of your business.
@@DarkKittycat Yikes! What an assertion to make about someone you don't know. Superficial men come in all forms - educated, uneducated, financially well off, poor by most standards. Perhaps you are projecting your experience/feelings onto Cydnee. The world is so vast in variety, so how can you assume that educated men have less ego problems and are wiser in relationship choices? Unfortunately, I must tell you that husbands cheat on their wives. Players may change and settle down with one woman. You are doing a lot of generalizing in your comment. I do not know Cydnee personally, but I am pretty sure that she is aware of her potential. That is likely how she created such a successful RUclips channel at such a young age. It is good to know that you learned to love yourself and not change for the approval of others. Not cool that you assume everyone else (or maybe just Cydnee) is experiencing what you did.
As a white passing native American it IS SO IMPORTANT TO UPLIFT YOUR BROWN FRIENDS. My little sister and I have different dad's and she is much darker than I am. She would always say how much she wished she was lighter and "more beautiful" and thankfully she doesn't do that anymore because I would only ever uplift her and help her realize how gorgeous her dark skin is. ALL SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL SKIN but right now dark folks need light folks like us to uplift them and love them. Use your white privilege to help those without it !!
Thank you!! 💕💕💕 it’s difficult, and I struggle sometimes to keep talking while also making the makeup look nice LOL. So I really appreciate this comment 😭😭
This was fascinating to watch. When I lived in the southern Caribbean years ago I had a friend (literally the most stunning human I have ever seen/known) who hated her skin because she was very dark. I thought her skin was so beautiful (like velvet onyx), but she had been mocked all her life for the darkness of her skin (by her mother, friends, boyfriends, teachers, everyone). I was so shocked! I truly could not understand where they were coming from. Being much older now I have a stronger grasp on the indoctrination of the media with the narrative that dark = less attractive. I still find it to be as ludicrous as I ever did, but now I understand better where her pain and self-loathing came from. Grieves me to the core.
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese and Korean residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
5uava I actually got it from taking a lot of medications and off brand fish oil supplements. I have a rare autoimmune condition that was hard for doctors to control so they put me on lots of prescriptions for all the symptoms. I have to do heavy metal detox for 3 months to get rid of it.
I’m white but I find it interesting (and sad of course) to hear about darker skinned people’s experiences. I hope we can eventually progress a lot further than we have and see far more representation in the media. ❤️
But u do need to understand that alot of these ethnic groups very much hate each other due to skin colour and would not include other ethnic grps due to their cultural differences so whites just do your thing and don't even bother
Imagine being an African in Africa and being teased because you’re dark skinned. It’s so messed up. For the longest time, I thought my older cousins were just naturally lighter, only to find out years later that they were bleaching. It’s so destructive and being teased about your naturally blessed skin really does mess with your self esteem. It’s one thing to hear it from another race but it cuts deeper when it’s coming from your own. As a 36 year old woman, I am just now starting to love my skin and to appreciate what my melanin is doing for me❤ The same people who taught us to hate our skin are the same ones going and laying in the sun to get darker. BLACK is BEEEEEAUTIFUL. And I am so glad you made this video.
All skin tones are so beautiful. It makes me sad that we live in a society that thinks lighter skin is somehow superior. It’s absolutely not. I hope everyone out there is giving their natural skin some TLC ❤️ side note: not shaming! Just be safe and remember how lovely you are!
Why are you so sad when this has been the glaring issue in America and around the world for centuries and still has many brainwashed? I say horses, dogs, bears, plants , flowers, beans, fruits, fish, potatoes, yams, bananas, melons ad infinitum has different coloration so why on earth wouldn't people? We don't say white beans are superior to black beans, or white cherries are superior to black cherries? We just eat them. On the other hand they say the blacker the cherry the sweeter the juice! Ohhh? lol! One up on you. just kidding
@@marvaedwards1719 I feel a little confused by your comment but you’re definitely right about the brainwashing and that this is a glaring issue in America. And that’s why I feel sad: that this idea exists.
@Jen Hay I totally agree with your message. However, if I may, I might just rephrase this to be a statement for everyone, not just women. You’re so right that most media is presented through the white gaze, with white or light skinned models, actors and influencers. There are absolutely people who are attracted to darker skin tones because dark skin is beautiful! It NEEDS to be seen in the media just as much as white/light skin. Representation matters and beauty comes in every color and shape. And you’re right again with the cosmetic industry! While there seems to be a bit more of an improvement (at least to an extent :/ ) in including makeup specifically for darker skin tones, it still is not equal. Not every brand has the darker tones, especially when it comes to drugstore brands (at least the last time I checked). I’m no makeup guru or anything but I’ve liked how Fenty Beauty has sooo many different shades that also take into account undertones. Do you have any favorite brands?
I’ve always had really thick hair growing up. When I permed my hair for the first time, everyone accused me of wearing weaves. They insisted that I must be mixed to have the hair that I had. You having blues eyes as a dark skinned women must have been extremely frustrating. You still have to prove to people that your eyes are real. Must be incredibly annoying. Tbh, it’s obvious that your eyes are real. Not sure how people can’t tell the difference between real eyes and contacts 🤷🏾♀️
True. her eyes are stunning but you can tell that they must be real even if only because of the fact that the blue is so bright. blue contacts don't even become that blue worn over green or gray eyes. never mind brown ones. colored contacts are not miracle workers.
TSprong agreed! She’s also got the beautiful little darker bits in her eyes here and there which isn’t the same in both eyes so I don’t understand why people can’t just see that she’s not lying. Honestly she doesn’t need to prove herself to those people because we love her whatever the eye colour😌✨
I'm going to be completely honest, my initial (2 second) thought was "is she wearing contacts, wow those are neat" Then when she quickly glanced to the side and her eyes SPARKLED in key with her emotion, I knew they were the most beautiful, natural blue eyes I've seen. And 3/4 of my kids have blue eyes lol
it's just what people make the beauty standard. If you were born in Victorian times lighter skin would be more preferable. East Asians and Hindu (indians) find lighter skin prettier and I'm pretty sure middle eastern people do too ofc im blanketing huge swaths of people as one does when one generalizes. Health is a beauty standard and tanned skin is seen as someone being active and having vitamin D makes you healthy and happy so evolutionary it makes a lot of sense to have attraction to that.
@@miri8851 nope, middle easterners depending whom. Iranians/persians like tan skins, most of us are blessed and born with natural olive tan skintone and their are also iranians who have fair skin, and tan, but for us it's very quick to tan, maybe 10 minutes of color in sun might get you two shades darker. So speak for yourself, we middle easterner have never been ashamed of our dark tan skin, thank you very much, quit generalizing. This is mainly because darker peninsular arabs thought only dark middle easterners were superior to the whiter ones.
@@eliza1826 "nope, middle easterners depending whom." Right the Levant, Mediterranean, and Peninsular areas all differ in some respects, it's a diverse area.They differ on individual basis too. "Iranians/persians like tan skins, most of us are blessed and born with natural olive tan skintone and their are also iranians who have fair skin, and tan, but for us it's very quick to tan, maybe 10 minutes of color in sun might get you two shades darker. " Yes I'm very aware, my boyfriend is Iranian... I did know one guy from Tehran who thought that since he is white that makes him a true Aryan and the darker skinned people were not true Persians. I'm pretty sure that many middle eastern people aside from Turks are Caucasian? "So speak for yourself, we middle easterner have never been ashamed of our dark tan skin, thank you very much, quit generalizing. " I only speak for myself and never claimed to speak for anyone else, I didn't say there was a stigma of dark skin I wasn't even sure if the middle east had preferences at all because of limited interactions. Generalizations are necessary for the sake of brevity. If I had to go into ever single minutia and nuance i probably would have written a whole book. "This is mainly because darker peninsular arabs thought only dark middle easterners were superior to the whiter ones." Interesting and thanks for enlightening me.
@@miri8851 no problem. Iranians who call themselves aryans are just embarrassing, aryan is an hindu term meaning to be noble which Persians and north indian call themselves in ancient times but it's an embarrassing term due to Hitler stealing it and making into another meaning. Middle easterners are labeled caucasian on paper in the United state but Caucasian isn’t really the same as caucasoid. Middle easterner are just classified with caucasoid, unfortunately we get grouped in the caucasian label only because we are classified with caucasoid, which caucasoid is the skull classification and a good amount are aware of this grouping and know that it isn’t just white/Europeans who are within it. And we also get labeled white because some middle easterners "look white". That is still a very long and difficult topic, whether MENA should be labeled as caucasian, it's a long story..
I’m from South Sudan a region where some of the most darkest people are from and it’s very normal for the women to bleach their skin especially my mothers generation. I love how you were so informative and especially compassionate about this much needed awareness these conversations will start to liberate many POC. I bleached my skin at one point to even out my overall tone and I quickly started to use it all over because then my body was too light in certain areas I suddenly realized that my natural Skin was actually so much better looking and beneficial in so many ways it was like I had a new found appreciation and I’m forever grateful for realizing it. Being super aware at how the world viewed me with my ultra black skin and also the contradiction to the actual facts of having melanin blew my mind on how humans can be so brainwashed to hate themselves it’s really sad and I understand so deeply, again thank you for your grace and compassion. ❤️
I’m from South Sudan as well! Its honestly so sad that people bleach their skin just to feel accepted because others call dark skin ugly. I wholly agree with what you said.
The term bleach is referred to several chemical compounds that are able to lighten materials, so in this case (hair bleach) we talk about hydrogen peroxide, not chlorine based bleaches. I searched on the wikipedia because in spanish we don't use the same word for chlorine and hair lightener so I was curious about it :)
@Sunchild- this is the 3rd random video I've ran into you on in just the past 4 days! It's freaking me out a little, lol. We must be getting the same recommended videos.👍
Usually the ads are determined by what videos you e recently been watching. If you’ve been watching videos about skin lightening, you’ll probably get vids about that type of product. I’ve recently been watching hair removal vids so I keep getting ads for that. When I was watching vid’s about chemical peels, I kept getting ads for Cetaphil, which a lot of those RUclipsrs were using post-peel
I grew up in a Caribbean household and skin bleaching in that culture is a social norm. I was teased and bullied for being dark skinned by family members and my peers so it drove me to start using them. And I’ve had the same results of the dark blue marks on my face (not as severe, but it’s noticeable). I only have myself to blame for that and now every time I look in the mirror I have a constant reminder of wtf I’ve done to myself. I let people get to me and now I have to live with these marks on my face
Listening to you talk feels like listening to a close friend. You have a natural warmth and I'm thankful that I was able to discover you through RUclips. Cheers.
You are such a good person. These intellectual, thought provoking and compassionate discussions are my favorite part of the day. Thank you for putting such positive energy into the world! Love you!!! ❤
Michael Jackson had vitiligo, which was actually why he made his skin lighter. And probably why he started wearing one glove. Vitiligo is where people get lighter splotches of skin, I've seen models with it. He didn't want that so he used the skin lightening stuff to make all of his skin light so that there wouldn't be splotches. When he died they found a container of the skin lightening cream I think in his bathroom.
Jessie R lol! More like 2 surgeries a year- his nose totally collapsed. That Martin Badger interview made me realize as much as I love MJ the musician the man was flawed and lied quite a bit in that interview
Thank you for saying the truth...I am a black women with Albinism and I have 4 beautiful melinated children and I tell them everyday that their brown skin is so beautiful even at tge detriment of my own beauty...I loved that you said that...thank you
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese and Korean residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
My teacher went to live in Alaska for a year, it was for a teaching opportunity. When she came back she told us that the majority in that part of Alaska were dark skinned people, and she was usually criticised for being light. She said that it felt odd being the "odd one out" for a change and that it reminded her we should spread kindness to anyone no matter their color
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
BTW, did ur mother see a ravenclaw after she gave birth to u? I heard native Americans name their children after the first piece of nature they see after giving birth. Like “running bull”. It’s so fascinating how things originate.
@dd4850 Exactly. We should maintain differences, but the last 30 years everyone is blending together. In 30-50 years, everyone will be honey colored skin and brown eyes. Everyone else will be rare. My science teacher said that. He said the only reason ppl look different is because their country didn’t travel much. So, whole country had similar skin color, hair and eyes, like the Chinese, all look alike, very little difference. Soon, in short years from now, ppl won’t look so different anymore. It will be boring. Now, it’s interesting. Many different looks now, later no.
Not all native Americans name their children like this. I was named after family. My parents gave me a name, a friend of the family gave me another like her daughter who passed. Or because I was named by my parents after my father’s grandma (who passed) so sometimes my third name basically means grandma.
Instead of "skin-whitening" there should be more focus on protecting and repairing skin from the effects of the sun, regardless of what your original skin-tone is. I cannot take "skin-whitening" seriously. In the Philippines, people go as far as attempting to whiten their armpits as well. Finding tan-boosting sun protection in Filipino supermarkets is almost next to impossible.
Yes and all our immunizations contain Mercury, just food for thought and maybe research. I think it is a shame what the media and government create and like cattle we stupidly follow. Stay alert, strong and safe everybody. Unity, peace, and love from an indigenous Canada woman.
When I heard of skin bleaching I thought it was bleach too, I didn’t know any of this information, I have always found darker skinned woman very beautiful, and I’m probably the whites person ever and I’ve always hated it I love darker skin to me it’s very beautiful, I’ve learned to love myself for what I am though ❤️ I love these videos they are always my favorite
I have very fair skin and freckles on my arms and that is fine with me. I'm so pale that I basically glow in the dark and that's fine too. I also think that dark skin is beautiful. I think all skin is beautiful. I truly don't understand why there are any issues between humans based on skin color. It's nonsense. Skin is skin. It's all beautiful.
I've been told I'm "too pretty to be Native" in Canada. Which is insane because I know for a fact that Indigenous women are beautiful. There's a reason nearly everyone claims some great great grandmother who was an "Indian princess" (lmao). Indigenous people have attractive features, high cheek bones, little body hair, no body odor, long pin straight hair (mine is to my waist), bronze and golden skin tones, slim muscular bodies, full lips.. Sure bad diets have affected some, but genetically, we have it pretty good. Idk why anyone would say black women aren't attractive either, their list of features are being copied by white people all the time. I think both just go to show how ignorant and misinformed people are.
I’m sorry my love, the world does not even know about the level of racism against indigenous people in our country. It is no accident that it is swept under the rug. Horrible.
I have about 50% native american but i have pretty light skin, and i live in a community of natives as well. Since my skin is pretty light people always mistake me for not being native, and when I tell them they respond with, "Oh dang I thought you were white" or something. I am proud to have native in me as well as white and it honestly offends me when they think i am not native. I also had 2 friends for the longest time who would hate on natives, saying they had life handed to them. A different friend of mine had a curvier body and dark skin and those friwnds refused to be friwnds with them as they said "it wasnt their type of group". I am so glad I am no longer in any toxic situation like that and we are no longer friends.
It's so sad that Canada can't just acknowledge there's serious racial bias and prejudice since the beginning of time. I'm in Canada too and honestly agree, indigenous features are beautiful. Yall are gifted and good for you to recognize your own beauty. ❤ keep it going. You're the change and the pride shining through!
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese, Korean and Indian residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie As to the Asian story, that's common of many ethnic groups who've suffered immense oppression throughout history, thus they're distrustful. My people do not trust the government in the slightest bit, like many won't get the vaccines because they have the smallpox blanket mentality, they are hugely suspicious. Especially because we were deemed high risk and were among the first to get access. There's a lot of deep, deep hurt in communities like mine, hurts that were inflicted upon us and none of them have ever really been rectified and no amends have been made. The Japanese still have a lot of hurt about the concentration camps during WW2, for example. And the Koreans have a lot of hurt about the Japanese conquering and abusing them. These are all open wounds. Native people are still hurting because of colonization, there's been a lot more hurt since then, but that's still an open wound and it'll never heal. Everything else just makes it fester with infection. So yeah, it's possible that we'll all be mixed and brown in the future, I personally think this civilisation will collapse long before that happens and we'll return to tribal ways. Whoever is left anyway. But the hurt isn't going to disappear. Especially when it's systemic and spans centuries. I think that's the most important thing to keep in mind when discussing these things. Intergenerational trauma.
As a white man, I just want to say this for all my dark skinned fellow humans out there. You do not need to be lighter to be beautiful or to be handsome. Screw the media trying to portray beauty and elegance as some paper complexion white people and screw anyone who thinks otherwise. You are beautiful and loved regardless of how deep your skin tone is. The only thing your skin tone should define is what shade of foundation you buy, not who you are, not how people think of you. And if the people in your life are cruel to you because you are dark, then screw them too, because they are so blinded to not see how gorgeous and amazing you are. Please know that whatever your situation is I appreciate you as a fellow human being. Everyone deserves love and to be treated kindly and fairly, not just white people, not just lighter skinned people. And I want to pass love onto anyone reading this from one human to another ❤
I am 61 years old and love this channel. You have your own make up pointers and processes that work for you. Your content is always engaging and most of all, if you are not familiar with a topic you educate yourself! Shouldn't we all? I rarely follow anyone this young and not purely natural health related. However, you cover so much mental, environmental, and physical health as well as beauty. I love the holistic approach. Keep on rocking it girl!!!! I'm proof we never stop learning and we can even learn from young people! Skin bleaching was an awesome topic!
Honestly I’m still struggling to love my skin and I’m 22 years old ... there will be days where I feel like a melanin queen, then some days I feel so ugly 😭... I’m scared to wear certain hair colors or eyeshadows... I’ve considered bleaching , at first it was for my hyperpigmentation then once it cleared I kept going ... I quit but sometimes I’m still insecure about it .
Thank you for being honest and forthcoming about how you feel. It's ok to struggle from time to time. Sometimes we go through ups and downs in life. But do the best you can to find something about yourself that you love. Once you've done that, embrace that and build from there. I've learned that two of the most powerful words are "I am". Start self talk or positive affirmations. Like "I am beautiful. I am creative", etc. Do them daily to replace and drown out the doubt. I avoided wearing clothing, different colors and makeup that I liked for years. There were even days that it was hard to look at myself in the mirror. I thought "Why bother with any of this it won't make me attractive?" But life is too short to not express yourself in how you dress or at all. When you do that you're denying yourself of being who you are. So switch your hair up, wear the makeup and clothes that you want to wear and be you.
In the case of skin whitening in the Philippines, it is more rooted in classism rather than due to colonial or racial reasons. Historically in Europe and Asia, having a darker complexion (naturally or by sunburn) is associated with having to work outside (farmers, labourers), thus, having a lighter skin tone, particularly among women, meant that they had the luxury of not having to work under the sun or even work at all. As time went on, this was embedded into the larger Filipino society as the norm; and is seen as equivalent to tanning your skin without the idea of classism attached. Basically, it wasn't introduced by the the colonisers, rather, it was already there.
JC Cosip exactly that’s why in Europe and even Egypt it was a big thing. I also think though it has to do with being drawn to or attracted to what stands out if you have light eyes hair or skin there naturally it was rare and in Japan for example they put white paint or power on geishas faces and they were considered the epitome of beauty and grace.
@ThatOneAsianBroChick Aetas are Filipinos and it is definitely not good the way some fellow Filipinos treat them because of their skin tone.... As I have said, this "colorism" already existed even before the Spanish came to our country (although Spanish arrival probably worsened it), we see this even in regions that were not colonized by Europeans (example: Thailand, Japan).
I suffered from dark spots and my dermatologist prescribed hydroquinone. You’re literally supposed to only use it on the spots needed with a q-tip, it definitely lightens the area significantly. When using it you’re only supposed to use it for up to about 8 weeks I believe. it’s reversible so if you go into the sun your skin will go back to normal. Great video 💕
People need to do what makes THEM HAPPY. Period. Not to please ANYONE except themselves. As long as their actions don't hurt anyone else, it's nobody's business.
I honestly love this comment section! People are sharing the hard times they've lived or the times they felt 'ugly' and responses are really heartwarming and encouraging... I love how we support each other and make ourselves feel better!
I have a beautiful dark skinned daughter. I’m a biracial woman. It’s hard to hear my daughter say stuff like she doesn’t like her skin tone or that she wished she was lighter like her brother and I. I tell her she’s gorgeous, magnificent and highly intelligent all the time. I do my best to uplift her, and for the most part it seems to work. I hate that she ever had those thoughts to begin with. I’m going to show her your videos though! She’s just getting into makeup, and I think she’d listen to some of your topics (and maybe learn some stuff too).Thank you for being here ❤️
It’s the music and what she see , she don’t see her in healthy relationship, or being talked up by society, I remember that conversation with my mom , why did my sister turn out beautiful and light ...is what I asked my mama & I saw her tear up , some point I always remember that moment , cause I truly believe I was wasn’t pretty cause of what I saw and how I saw the world treat People like me , Even in dating , keep up lifting her and loving on her .... she has the Eve gene 🙏🏾
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
It’s sad that the “English” from England, and the Dutch years ago decided it was ok to buy and trade Africans for work on their farms. Africans were poor and in poverty. So, many were happy to leave. Their families were paid off. Later sone ships came over from Spain and decided to disregard payment and promise them land or extra benefits after years of working. Still, the Africans saw it as a better chance of a future. It was in comparison. Sadly, many ppl looked down on them as sub par ppl cause they were so poor and uneducated. Had all their bosses or masters educated them by law, it would have brought the level of humanity higher. Sone were butlers, chefs, Nannie’s, etc., and treated well. Others on farms were treated as slaves. That was the problem. Even educated black workers treated the uneducated farm worker differently. It’s like the light skinned black treating the dark skinned black as sub-par. At least awareness is brewing. It takes time for ppl to stop criticizing each other of their cars, houses, looks. But everyone, and I mean everyone does it. Even black children who r taught not to be prejudice still do it. I see children judging other children. The more u ppl point out differences to their children, the more they become aware. Before BLM, many children were color blind. They r being taught 2 messages. That black is beautiful, but also, u r black and she is white. Most children don’t pay attention to it till it’s thrown at them. God made all skin types. It’s Gods design. So, no one is more special than another. Everyone was given the gift of life. It’s what u do with it that makes it special.
I love when you put out REAL content like this, this is a very sensitive subject that affects us all. I can tell this came from a place of education and understanding. I do not believe my skin color is inferior to anyone else's. I feel blessed to have built in protection from the sun. This video was well done Cydnee
Darker skin is soooo amazing! Melanin does all those incredible things you're mentioning and I think it's pretty dope how much research you've obviously done into the science of melanin. Because its evolutionary (obvi) darker skin can cause problems in areas with less sunlight - like kiddos can develop rickets from lack of vitamin d - so supplementation is important! For your bones and your mood like you mentioned :) Also, as a doctor, you're doing great with pronunciation. No, you aren't saying them "right" lol but also it's a damn good effort. Drug and condition names are difficult and half of the medical field can't say them "correctly" anyway. Keep it up peaceful lady!
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese and Korean residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie tbh people overstate the amount of race mixing going on cuz most people still date within their own race/ethnic/nationality group. even then, race mixing doesnt really create people who have the same skin color and can vary quite a lot as genes create various phenotypes. such examples of this would be in heavily mixed countries like those in latin america such as mexico, brazil, venezuela, etc. also red hair genes cant really be phased out together as genes dont really work like that. even for someone who has red hair and their child doesnt, the child would still carry the genes for red hair. thus there is always a probability that the children of the child will have red hair and so on and so forth.
The whole “doing it for the opposite sex” thing reminds me of the whole cult of domesticity and how whiteness and femininity are so tangled up with each other. It’s like the whiter a woman is, the more feminine she is, because the cult of domesticity dictates that the pinnacle of femininity is a docile, domestic white woman.
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
we’re all one race. hooman race. ✌🏼 i do acknowledge that there are other races. but i don’t think too much into it. i hate the whole “i don’t see color” i understand it’s probably from a form of loving intention but it’s just ignorant. i’m white. you may be brown or black. it’s just simple facts. no more, no less. 🧡
Cyd, I love how you always come from a place of compassion. It was such an ahhh moment for me when you said people are being shamed into thinking that they have to bleach and we in turn should not shame them for doing that. Thank you! You always remind me to be kinder
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous! But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
You did an amazing job delivering the topic in this video. Encouraging the conversation is important. We don't always have to have the same experiences or perspectives but in order for change to happen, we have to acknowledge this is a real concern to some people and then shift the conversation from 'blame' to 'how can we change this going forward'. Thank you for this :)
I recently found your channel. I am Latina and have more color in my skin than my sister. We grew up with the comments that said that she was more beautiful than me because she has lighter skin. Recently I went to Spain, particularly north of Spain. And there were a few people that told me hurtful things about the color of my skin and it messed up with my self esteem . I hope that more people will rise awareness about this topic, so children with darker skin would feel better with whom they are
Rosario, nothing wrong with your color. People Can be ignorant at times. Your main battle is usually your thoughts. People will ALWAYS judge You. It's human nature. What matters is how YOU SEE YOURSELF. Don't worry about people's opinions.
The truth behind the belief that lighter skin is beautiful is because caucasians had more advanced technology than most other cultures and when they invaded places because of their technology they were revered as Gods. By technology I'm referring to the fact they were the first to travel on the sea and their weapons.
I don't judge anybody who bleaches their skin. I straighten my hair with relaxer. If you even wear make up your'e trying to enhance your looks to create features you don't have naturally. Skin bleaching is just controversial because skin color is so political. People be getting butt injections, breast implants and lip fillers and then clown on women who bleach their skin. I think its great if you can appreciate your skin's natural beauty. There are so many beautiful dark women, but I don't criticize women who bleach.
Girl, they're the same to me too ( not makeup though because you can love yourself before and after wearing makeup). But I still want everyone to love themselves in the skin they're in. Making advancements to your body shouldn't drastically change your natural body. And I don't agree with bleaching and tanning especially. But because of the history black people have with slavery and colorism, we are especially aware of skin bleaching
All changes are controversial - butt injections, breast implants, lip fillers, tanning, bleaching, relaxing straight hair, permanently curling straight hair. Varied opinions exist for them all.
@@Jessica-og4iq Not true. All people/races have melanocytes. We all (all races) have the same number of melanocytes - cells that make melanin, the dark pigment. However, some people make more melanin than others based on their genes. A healthy person should not care if another person changes herself or himself. What someone else does to his body is not a reflection of you and your self esteem. My esteem isn't hurt if someone else changes something about herself.
@@Jessica-og4iq Unfortunately, it is dangerous. Some people are simply compassionate and don't want to watch other people doing something dangerous to herself because of what has been ingrained into society for many years. Perhaps some people ,whether warranted or not, just want to encourage everyone to love themselves as they are.
"I don't give a f*** what any man likes" *hits subscribe* Seriously thought idk why this was in my recommended but this was such an interesting video. Thanks for teaching me something new today!
Creepy comment #527: your eye shape is a goal and your voice is very relaxing. Also, thank you for the education. I knew about skin bleaching, but not too much.
Hi, I have a story to share In my country/culture, bleaching is REALLY normal I'm 22 now. I had bleached my skin THRICE before I was 18. At around 14, 15, and 16. When I'd go to my local parlor the lady there used to say "why don't you go for bleaching your face? It'd remove all that tanning, dirt etc". She was INSISTENT about it, and the younger me brought into it. I DID look fairer after using it, so I did not find a lot of harm (bruh I'm light skinned already, imagine that) It was so so normalized in my mind because of the way the option was always within reach, and treated like it's equivalent to facial/waxing etc I dont think the ladies there meant harm, but they were ignorant, they did not know They need to market their services, and they do it by making you fee fussy about yourself However, this needs legal intervention. The chemicals you mentioned are so, so toxic. I learnt something new. It boggles me that nobody knows about this and bleaching is a normal practice. It needs to be outlawed I'll do my bit to spread education. Thank you for bringing up this issue
No offense but I kinda have to disagree with dark skin being superior. Light skin absorbs more vitamin D which is absolutely crucial when living in colder areas with less sunlight. Like you said at the beginning of the video, vitamin D deficiency can lead to depression and other health issues. There is a reason why different skin colours are more prevalent in certain regions. Evolution doesn't just happen if there's no benefit. No skin type is inherently superior, they are just better adjusted to certain environments.
Being an older mom of 4 girls, I never thought I would enjoy watching you do makeup while learning interesting facts. But WOW! I'm hooked. Love your makeup and history the most. Please do more
“I thought skin bleaching was using actual bleach like clothing bleach” Girl, me too😂😭
And then she hits us with, "Turns out the reality is much worse." Uhh, pardon? There's something WORSE than actual bleach on your skin? Yes...yes there is.
Probably better to do that, having hearing all this.
Same
Straight up facts😩🤦🏿♀️
I didn't know what's skin bleaching, I thought they use creams and chemicals and strong masks on sking which during the time makes it fairer 😐
In my early 20s I realized that all people really want is whatever the hell they don't have.
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Exactly
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@@CydBee didn’t you said colorism doesn’t exist tho?
Very very true!
I thought skin bleaching was bleach 2 sis its ok 😂
I thought that too 😖
Same. Once I heard about Michael Jackson doing it a long ass time ago I'm like "so he just sat in a bathtub of bleach? Makes sense!" 🙃
@@joonie__juice so it wasn't a skin condition?
___ he had vitiligo that was spreading so he bleached his skin before it spread all over his body and it tarnish his image. Just going off what his mum said
@@esther4482 Ohh
Bleaching is deeper than you all think. I'm celebrating 8 months now of not bleaching any more & l couldn't be more happier
Happy for you
It was hard for me to stop lightening too but it’s been 2 years since I stopped
@@jaydajames1910 good for you... It's now a 1 year .. oh my goodness Lord how mu self confidence has leveled up to a 100... Let's keep spreading the awareness & helping others see the truth behind bleaching
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’m happy for you!!! That’s a huge achievement!
I don't understand why people bleach their skin here I am over here looking pale as f*** trying to get darker 😂😂😂
A date straight up told me you’re pretty for an Indian girl. And when I checked him on that he legitimately didn’t understand why what he said was offensive! “Why are you upset that I gave you a complement”
BRAINWASHED!
That’s a back handed complement, people these days🤦🏾♀️. I’m glad you stood up for yourself because that’s just ridiculous. Indians are beautiful, no matter the shade.
I always reply with a "for" compliment myself... (pretty for a chubby chick? Thanks... you're attractive for a short man)... The only way they understand how bullshit this is is if you do it right back to them. People tend to minimize or say you're crazy for not accepting their backhanded compliments...so i give them one back and have them be the ones to state what is wrong and then i'll say you're right...so ...stop doing it too?
I hate that. My other favorite was "You're so pretty. What are you mixed with?" as though they needed me to have a more varied racial background than black to justify finding me attractive.
If that’s you in your pic, you’re gorgeous! (For a human. Not “for” a specific race or ethnic background!)
Ugh. I've legit had to explain to someone before why the "compliments" they kept saying were backhanded compliments and why they were bad. I had a guy friend who would legit think he was giving a compliment when he would say things like "You're an LA 6" or some crap like that. He would try to explain that he was saying "you'd be ranked this number if you lived in this city, but if you live in this other city, you're this rating" and for a long time he genuinely thought it was a compliment. My husband and I had to explain to him more than once why that was not a compliment, and how backhanded it was, and just how flat out wrong and insulting it was. I'm like, "that's gross and I highly doubt that any woman you've ever said that to has actually been pleased by that comment." Sometimes people just don't get it. I think he eventually did get it, but I can't be 100% sure on that.
17:14 ”You are pretty for a dark skin girl”... no you are super pretty for a human.
I know you're probably just trying to give her a compliment but then u honestly sound racist and it's not nice 😒🙄
You are pretty.......for a_____?
Thats insulting just tell a person you think they are pretty.
@@kirawoods5316 The first statement in Sara the Frog's comment was not a compliment. She put it in quotes because thats what's often said to the darker black women. In other words, if she was lighter skinned, she would be gorgeous. Notice the last sentence in her comment, she's telling CB she's super pretty. So, it's not about racism but about someone being an asshole.
I hate when people say that shit
@@honeybadgerusa5689
I feel you 😂
I’m Latina, growing up I would be made fun of when I was “too dark” even though all of the white girls I knew were tanning to be darker. It was a very ugly feeling.
Yes!!!! Same here. And I can't believe that I let it affect me. Now I'm like, bittttchhhh you wish you could have this melanin! You're beautiful ❤️ don't ever doubt that.
My boyfriend is Hispanic and his uncle has a weird obsession of telling women about their skin, he tells my boyfriends cousin she's too dark when she's one of the prettiest people I've ever met, every time I see him he asks if I'm sick or tells me to tan. He stayed at our house for 2 weeks...he asked me every day if I was ill.
@@madisonweber2480 Oh hell no! You need to tell his uncle to worry about his own skin. I hate some Hispanic people. We were told that the most beautiful women were the light skin ones. The darker you are, the more discrimination you get. They'll call you "negro/a" which is literally the word black, which is used as a derogatory term for African-Americans, and people born in places where dark skin is prominent. I hate that my own people are the worst. There's a saying, that a Mexican's/Hispanic person's worst enemy, is another Mexican/Hispanic person. I find that to be so accurate.
@@madisonweber2480 btw, you're beautiful! You don't need to tan. You don't want to age quicker, nor get skin cancer.
@@saraa1741 you're beautiful too! People my entire life have said something about me being pale/needing to tan, I've never had any issue with my skin, it functions how it's supposed to by covering my organs and whatnot. I hope that with things like the body positive movement we can be more positive about skin too.
My boyfriends uncle told my boyfriend he was coming to our town again at the beginning of this year he just needed a place to crash....not at our place. The rest of his family is wonderful and kind.
Coming from a white family my mom communicated through passive aggressiveness and back handed compliments, she push into into an eating disorder then got mad at me for needing treatment. Maybe families just suck in general
I'm extremely dark, my mum would repeat affirmations about my skin (i.e your skin is beautiful, healthy etc) since I was very young, even prior to going to preschool.. So I grew up knowing deep inside me that my skin is amazing and it came a long way for me because the world can be kinda cruel..
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
Good on you and your mom
@@LGAussie yeah and rapid mixing of other human species was prevelant back then as well. just in the older days of enslaving and well stuff that happened. although those species looked a bit different than that of now humans im talking bout ranges between 1000 to 2 milli year ago. we mixed back then and we're mixing now.
@@LGAussie I don't think that's how genetics work
Big Up to Your Mum 💗
You know what it's refreshing seeing people just saying what's on their mind no matter the consequences
Ppl do it all the time just negatively.
💯 Really though!
Amennnnn
Discussing and freedom of speech is really fun. If someone's a jerk, no ones stopping you from not talking to them, or ranting to others about them, or sending them novels about why they suck lol. America is pretty nice, there's faults ofcorse, but hey North Korea exists lol
I think this is a really poignant comment. People hold their tongues all the time not wanting to offend, they don't want someone to think their weird, they don't want to be judged. But some there are other people who seem to have no problem speaking exactly what they think no matter how disgusting and hateful. I think it's time for everyone that is scared to say something because they don't want to not fit in, they don't want to be weird, they don't want to go against the grain, it's time to speak up. Lets be the norm, make those people feel uncomfortable for thinking and speaking negatively!
Her eyes, the shape and color, her lips, just incredible. What a beauty.
@Why So Serious? how?
Why So Serious? Why are u even here?!?
Simps*?
Right?! She's gorgeous!
@Why So Serious? I think she's exceptionally good looking but I'm not sexually attracted. I just appreciate her aesthetically pleasing features.
Vitamin d deficiency is extremely high in black people living in the west. I’d encourage everyone to get their levels tested as it contributes so much to your physical and mental health
Yes
Yeah, apparently people with light skin seems to get more vitamin d from the sun than darker skinned people. It makes sense though, people who live in nordic countries/scandinavia etc have very long and dark winters and in some months the sun won't show up at all. Being light skinned will help these people "absorb" the vitamin-d from the sun in the short summer months.
While in africa for example, where people are often darkest and the sun is really strong, there's no use in being light skinned (first of all, they'd burn) since they get enough sun and therefore vitamin d as is.
But offcourse, if you have very dark skin and on top of that live in a country with little sun exposure, then you might get some issues. It's a bit fascinating how different human features tells a tale of our evolution.
I'm taking supplements
@@purpledawn2727 but there's people of many skintones in different areas in Africa. Light skins and dark skins 🤔
@@semendemon4194 yes there is, just like there are people with different skintones in scandinavia. But back in the old times where man was til in it's pre stages, we evolved according to where we lived. Which is why there are different skintones in the first place. That doesn't mean there can't exist variation in the different countries, and it doesn't mean that our appearance and genetics aren't decided by evolution.
“most men don’t know what they like, if you like it, they love it” so. fucking. truuuue.
Yes that is true she said a mouthful there didn't she
So fucking accurate tbh
YES, but NO.
The 2nd half of the sentence is true, but not because we, men, don´t know what we like, but, rather, BECAUSE MEN FEEL SPECIALLY ATTRACTED TO WOMEN WHO OWN THEIR BEAUTY. If a GIRL is SELF-CONFIDENT about her own SEX-APPEAL, she will be seen by men as prettier & sexier than if she´s not. It makes total sense.
And YOU, WOMEN, in fact operate like that, too, but in a lot more prominent way (a man HAS TO HAVE self-confidence in order to be perceived as attractive by girls, there´s no way around it, whereas a pretty girl will still be seen as attractive even if she´s not confident at all).
"human beings are weird" accurate. We should advocate to love the skin you're in and love yourself. That's why i love this channel
And your real eye Color*
@@ashleybitchass8257 If you're implying those are contacts that's her natural eye color
Omg. . Right??!!! Nothing gets to be more than someone that's insecure about their appearance!! We all have insecurities but you gotta realize your beauty and mute the negatives you've heard from others bc the only reason ppl say things like that is bc they're jealous of you, and/ or they feel lack so much love for themselves that they feel better and bigger when they can make other ppl feel bad about their selves... and that's so so real!! If they can have gain power to make someone else feel bad, they love that control to make ppl feel like their less than them... and how horrible is it that, no matter how much we know that, it still stings to a point?!! Grade school though, and especially teenage years... your reputation and how your treated seriously will do the most damage!! And you'll carry on the negative comments even as an adult! Lol!! It's terrible how societies views on beauty is so narrow minded and harsh!! The world is becoming a better place though to accept everyone for who they are and is amazing!! Hopefully in the future, we'll see all the different "natural" body types on the runways bc that's how it should be! It's sad to think about honestly!!
@@jessicarenae5107 --then accept yourself for how God made you,
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I’m 46, and this is for the younger ladies who are struggling to embrace their beautiful DARKNESS. Colorisim is real. I understand that people have probably made hurtful comments about your complexion at some point in your life. Please, please, please, don’t internalize what may be their self hatred, ignorance, anti-blackness, and or internalized white supremacy. It’s a huge problem, but it’s their problem. We are beautiful. I encourage you to get MORE sun. Wear bright colors and bright lipstick. Stick up for yourself articulately and intelligently, and refuse to tolerate fake friends who are “just playing” with these comments. Making fun of your friends is not friendly. Use your energy to attract people of whatever complexion who love, appreciate, and support you. Love, from a middle-aged Black lady in bright @$$ lipstick. ♥️👸🏾
thank you ❤️ definitely will try to wear bright colors next time. much love ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much! I’m dark myself and I love it! I always find it funny when people say I’m “too dark” because most people I’ve met have always told me I’m attractive, and at the end day they’re the ones crying and posting on their Instagram story sad quotes about how they’re insecure. All shades of black are beautiful 🖤
Idk why ppl say colorism doesn't exist.
Here I've been living all around East & SE asia & Everyone still making fun of dark skin on TV(except for Japan & Taiwan)
Thailand & Cambodia are probably the worst of asia when it comes to colorism
Pie Some people are so unfortunately blind/ignorant that they equate their lack of perception or experience with the lack of a phenomenon existing. It’s such a small world view. I’ve heard people protest that they’ve never felt the ills of colorisim, etc. I explain to them that it’s analogous to me saying that melanoma doesn’t exist because I don’t have it. 🤦🏾♀️. Colorisim is a cancer. It is dangerous, and I think you’re fantastic for paying attention and calling it out. 💞
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Being seen as unattractive by people because your skin is dark is just a different type of hurt. For years I just hated myself and couldn’t even confide that hurt to my mother because her skin was lighter and she just didn’t understand.
Aww, I hope you now feel better about yourself.
Man this is the one! Light skin women never think about that when being complicit in colorism (as it pertains to dating)
I'm so sorry you went through that. I know what it feels like to not be able to confide sth to someone because they just wouldn't understand, and, as an advice, what helped me was seeking for people with similar experiences online! maybe through videos, documentaries, tweets, etc.
finally, I just want to tell you that you're beautiful just the way you are. everything that makes you YOU is unique and special. other people's validation does not determine your beauty 💚
I hope you're having a great day (or night 😁)
@@Aurischoice
Exactly ! They never think about how complicit they are
@@Aurischoice I just don't get it. Dark flawless skin is sexy. Especially when paired with nice teeth. There is a story of an elephant who is tied to a tree from a tender age and even after growing up it did not break the rope and uproot the tree whenever it was tied although it had the strength to. Because the 🐘 was used to being limited it never learned to use its strength. Stop conditioning ourselves to have low self-esteem and treat others poorly
People coming at you about your eyes, your skin and your choice of partner...I'm glad you're able to stay positive and create respectful dialogue.
I'm a dark skinned girl that lives in Scotland. I bought a skin lightening soap back when I was a teenager. It is literally one of the lowest points of my life. But things get better.
I now embrace my blackness and take pride in it. Also I went on holiday with some of my white scottish friends in the summer and we literally had to go indoors every 10 minutes because they were constantly burning. So black skin is also pretty convenient.
itchypigie hey I’m a Greek girl living in Scotland. When I lived in south east England I was dark!! Now I live in Scotland ...north east Scotland and I am pale as lightly toasted white bread! I look pale ... I am pale next to my greek mum! We have had some sun and I was sooo pale I actually burnt for the first time in my life! I am a little bit more glowy now... and peeling and have a red nose!
@@MelanaC wtf?
Check out the following channels which are Pro Black women channels Cerebral, Chloe_, The Pink Pill, Chrissie, etc.
Melana C "
british people do burn up really quickly.. now because i'm mixed race i do burn but just not as bad.. if i burn it lasts for 2 to 3 days then my body will instantly renew the skin and i will get a tan wich from that point i'm completely fine being in the sun
I’m a dark skin Jamaican and let me tell you colorism is so deep rooted it’s crazy . Lighter skin women are viewed as upper class and more beautiful. There were a time in Jamaica where only light skin people were allowed to work certain jobs, like banking, flight attendants and customer service. In Jamaica most men prefer light skin women even ones that are not as beautiful as the dark skin women. Hopefully some day the mistreatment of dark skin will change. I was once told by family members that I should just “tone up” (meaning bleach my skin lightly) to look more beautiful. Thanks for making this video.
You are fine the way you are. When you get old with your natural skin all the bleachers will regret. Remember that. From another dark skinned Nigerian girl 💕
You're perfect as you are. People unfortunately are so brainwashed by european beauty ideals. Sending you much love, you are beautiful! Also, my great grandma was Jamaican :)
Camelia Love bleachers look ugly after they damage their skin. Everyone I see do it after a while they look like shit but they don’t know I think. Just look at Kartel 😐. Also people can tell when you do it. Colourist men are not going to love you more. It a waste of time. Do you remember the chicken pill girls used to take to get fat.
That's so sad Camelia. I'm not gay but I think darker skinned women are more beautiful. Colorism is a product of the brainwashing that happens from the media, soap operas, movies and people who perpetuate negative stereotypes of black people. But I find that the beauty industry really exacerbates the problem by showcasing white and lighter skinned models in their campaigns through commercials and billboards. This is changing but not fast enough. Colorism is a terrible thing happening all over the Carribbean and it's terribly harmful to the victims of it. I'm so sorry that you experienced it. But I'm sure that you're gorgeous darling.
True but also colorism isn't as bad as it was back then in Jamaica..females with darker skin do work where ever they desire these days, and the truth is only small minded men devalue a woman based on the shade of thier skin, I'm lighter and yes I do get what your saying but colorism is worst in other countries than it is in Jamaica trust me.
I’m Caribbean and “white passing” (sorry I don’t know how to call it), and the amount of times that my grandma told me to marry a white guy because darker skinned guys will “ruin the family” is absolutely disgusting. Even as a kid I remember how weird I felt when she said it. She now understands why that’s wrong, but it’s systemic racism within ourselves, even with us being of mulato/black descent! It’s crazy.
It’s sad that the “English” from England, and the Dutch years ago decided it was ok to buy and trade Africans for work on their farms. Africans were poor and in poverty. So, many were happy to leave. Their families were paid off. Later sone ships came over from Spain and decided to disregard payment and promise them land or extra benefits after years of working. Still, the Africans saw it as a better chance of a future. It was in comparison. Sadly, many ppl looked down on them as sub par ppl cause they were so poor and uneducated. Had all their bosses or masters educated them by law, it would have brought the level of humanity higher. Sone were butlers, chefs, Nannie’s, etc., and treated well. Others on farms were treated as slaves. That was the problem. Even educated black workers treated the uneducated farm worker differently. It’s like the light skinned black treating the dark skinned black as sub-par. At least awareness is brewing. It takes time for ppl to stop criticizing each other of their cars, houses, looks. But everyone, and I mean everyone does it. Even black children who r taught not to be prejudice still do it. I see children judging other children. The more u ppl point out differences to their children, the more they become aware. Before BLM, many children were color blind. They r being taught 2 messages. That black is beautiful, but also, u r black and she is white. Most children don’t pay attention to it till it’s thrown at them. God made all skin types. It’s Gods design. So, no one is more special than another. Everyone was given the gift of life. It’s what u do with it that makes it special.
@@LGAussie Do you bring God into everyday life or just when talking about skin? do you warn them their culture of fornication is sin? and no fornicator enters heaven?
Hey I Am So Happy you educated your grams But I do have a question. Since she'd been telling you that since you were a younger girl...Did you marry a lighter skin man by chance hun??
@@scgeechiegoddessasha6843 I’m 20, not nearly married, but I’m dating someone from my country :)
What a dumb grandma. She's too old for excuses. If anything you want to get black into your family to keep the legacy going. The earth is heating up and before you know it white people won't be able to stand being outside and they'll slowly die off. In the beginning there was darkness and darkness will thrive.
“How are we made to feel inferior by people who can’t withstand one of the earths largest elements”? That was a word!!!!
Unlike me, my husband and daughter can both withstand strong sunlight too. I only have to watch the sun on Teletubbies to get burnt.
Seriously Don't blame it on white people!
@@blackorchid2494 whose fault is it then?
@@Nothingatall1984 Dunno, is colorism in India and the rest of Asia caused by them too?
@@thedeadchannel
Perhaps. Instilled during colonization (India), maybe? And, in Asia and elsewhere through the media.
“You’re pretty for a dark skinned girl??” Haaaaaa! I hate that!!!! I got “you’re pretty for a chubby girl!” I’m beautiful and that’s it! You are beautiful and that’s it!
you're pretty despite being overweight is probably nicer or at least more accurate. you'd be prettier if you were a healthy weight as health is a beauty standard.
oh and the word for that is a backhanded compliment i think
miri the word overweight is just as bad or worse actually
"you're pretty for your age" is another one some of us hear :-\
I got allot of. You're pretty for a goth girl.
On the "dark skin is superior, scientifically", that's a subject that kinda has more nuance to it.
Dark skin is biologically superior where there is high amounts of sun, hence why humans around the equator (where the sun is much more intense) tend to have darker skin. Darker skin is much more protected from UV rays, and in areas where the sun is intense, it can still pierce the skin enough to produce Vitamin D.
Light skin, on the other hand, is biologically superior in areas where there is less sun. As you move further away from the equator, you both have less intense sunlight and the sun can go away for longer periods of time as the length of the day changes. This means it's important for the skin to resist the sun less in order to get the same amount of vitamin D as a dark skinned person on the equator.
Light skin going towards the equator is asking to get burnt, dark skin going towards the poles is asking for a Vitamin D deficiency.
Neither is really "superior" in an overall sense. We were all dark to start with, and evolved to have different tones based on different needs regarding sunlight. Different skin tones work better for different climates.
But you're absolutely right, that a dark skinned person should not by any stretch feel inferior for their skin tone. It's neither above nor below, just different.
Exactly, vitamin D is a vital part of a healthy immune system meaning those with lighter skin travelling north would be more likely to survive disease etc thus overtime people moving further from the equator developed lighter skin through survival of fittest. People with darker skin tones living further up the northern hemisphere e.g Northern Europe should all take a vitamin D supplement everyday because it’s impossible for some people to make enough outside. It’s also extremely important for bone health as you need sufficient levels of vitamin D for your body to absorb and use the calcium in your diet.
Omg thanks I was scrolling to find a comment like that cause I didn't want to be writing 2 hours (my English is not the best )
Since we have sunscreen and Vitamin D supplements, all of these don't matter anymore. We have no choice in our skin color. Thinking any color is superior in sociological settings makes no sense.
Good way to break it down respectfully. Gotta love edumacation
@@zidapplip actually no, vitamin d still needs sunlight to be effective. Taking it orally without having enough sun exposure is harmful and makes it build up.
I am a brown skinned Latina with curly hair, my family and cousins were all “lighter” I was considered “ugly” with “ugly hair” it was tough growing up since I felt so ugly
I tried not to go in the sun or do anything like that, I’ve learned to embrace it now and I’m thankful
You are so beautiful!
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
Yep, latinos offen call black hair "bad hair" ("pelo malo") which I hate.
@@Am3lia77
Many Hispanics are racist against black in the looks department. They might be friends with them, but they don’t want to look like them. Not all ppl r beautiful in each race. It doesn’t mean their darker skin, or fatter nose, or kinky hair should be frowned upon. Ppl r ppl, they have feelings. Everyone needs to realize there’s a human being behind that person. I was never so judgemental growing up in this world. Instead of it getting better, blacks and Hispanics r making racism the forefront of issues today, which is fooling younger children and ppl to think racism exist everywhere, when it doesn’t. The youth is going to grow up even more with irrational dysfunction and self conscious issues. Creating tensions in the world makes life harder for everyone. Before Floyd, things were calm. That created an uproar. Cop issues have to be fixed, but the rest of the world was getting along fine till ppl acted as if the world was racist. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
@@LGAussie I don't think that would happen I can't really explain why since I'm not good at explaining but still
When I heard mercury I immediately thought of queen Elizabeth and was like oh nononoo
Bcs it literally is 😫 cuz we never learn, if it still makes us money
Me too
The mad hatter in Alice in Wonderland is based off of actual hat makers back in the day, because they used mercury to create/shape their products, thus being in contact with it all the time, giving them mercury poisoning and messing with their brains
Same
@@clairem1612 and then the queen of hearts was probably the queen herself???
To everyone who has darker skin, you are gorgeous and don’t let anyone get you down. This is coming from a light skinned person. I always found dark skin beautiful.
Dark is skin is very beautiful, but I have to say this:
If your dark, tan, light skinned, your beautiful.
If your white, Latina, Black, Arab, Asian, your beautiful.
If your a part of the LGBTQ+ community your beautiful.
If your just a human being, and god intended you to be here, your beautiful.
( to anyone with doubts, insecurities )
Stop trying to fit in these stupid beauty standards, cause always know you are your OWN beauty standard. That’s all I have to say 🤷🏻♀️.
Meme Xox Thank you for that beautiful message and I totally agree. ❤️
Yeaaaa I dont really care about my skin color
Im the "white one" in my mexican family. Ive always inspired to have dark tans in summer. I always thought darker caramel like skin was beautiful. I have like a neautral/tan shade.
I'm a POC woman, Chinese, and it was hard growing up. I am darker than a lot of my cousins who are more fair skinned. My uncle used to tell my cousins to call me 'charcoal' because my skin was darker. For a very long time, I felt really self conscious about it. As a small child, it really was awful of him to bully me and also teach his own children to do that. It messed with my confidence. My mom always said to ignore them and it didn't matter, but it really wasn't enough to make me feel better. I definitely have grown to be more comfortable in my own skin over time as I grew up, but I honestly wasn't comfortable until I was around 22. I'm 26 now. It's been a really long journey. I don't think anyone should be made to feel ugly or bad about themselves for something they can't control. I saw that same uncle just earlier this year and he had the gall to call me 'charcoal' again. I gave him a stare and ignored him.
dude thats absolutely horrible, especially for someone whos supposed to be a grown, mature adult- let alone a family member. i really hope your cousins have at least matured :(( your skin is gorgeous no matter the shade.
MaiYoake all shades of skin are beautiful and it’s the person you are that matters most. It is terrible when adults especially tell children cruel things.
@@rebekahsquires2073 Thank you! It's so important for adults to be good role models. And honestly, it shouldn't make anyone, adults especially, feel good to bully a child.
@@twinbruisesonmyshins Thanks. I used to feel bad about myself whenever people brought it up. It's much less of an issue now. At least I don't get sunburns as easily.
You should slap him, seriously. I've gone through the same thing at school due to a boy I liked saying that he wasn't "into" black girls and it made me very, very upset. I've always wanted lighter skin due to the fact that people think that's more beautiful.. I'm still a minor too.. I hate people..
Just a little correction: We here in the Caribbean do not use umbrellas in the Sun because we don’t want to get darker, we use them because the lack of tall buildings allow the sun to beam down directly and it’s HOT as hell. Umbrellas are used to shade from the intense glare and heat.
😂❤️💯 🌞
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I’m an arab and I’ve always heard the backhanded compliment :”You’re very pretty for an Arab”, also you’re so beautiful as a human 😍❤️
You're beautiful for a human, PERIOD
I've never heard that one, smh!
Arab women got pretty eyes
Really? Kids are dumb. I know a lot of white men that love Arab women.
I am willing to bet it came from an insecure white person. Specifically a white woman.
All skin tones are superior in the conditions they adapted to. In places where you have day after day of little to no daylight In winter where you need to make your own vitamin d. Being able to absorb sunlight quickly can prevent severe rickets. In places closer to the equator fetal survival can be dependent on having activated melinin cells. Skin cancer is also highly prevelant for people who have or are carriers of the red haired gene in climates closer to the equator. Actually I would say the naturally blue eyes in a medium complexion is strickingly beautiful. I was always called ghosty because the "normal"white kids thought I was weird for not being able to tan. I may not be able to withstand standing in direct sun for four hours. But I can withstand snow and ice for long periods of time even if I am not dressed for it. So there are pros and cons to each phenotype on the planet. There is really interesting group of Asiatic people in northern Mongolia that can withstand Sub-Zero climates better then any other group in the world due to higher amounts of brown fats under their skin then any other groups. And another set of folks that can hold their breaths for six minutes easily. Both groups have slight genetic variations from all other populations. All people have wonderful traits. I learn something new about different cultures and people's every day. B blood types are better at digesting dairy and are less suseptable to altitude sickness. O blood types have better immune systems then anyone else, and A blood types are designed to best digest plants and grains. So name me any group on the face of the Earth and I will tell you at least one way they do something better then everyone else.
Right back at you ❤️
Except mine I'm white n have no tollerence for the sun. I faint. N I can't go in the cold my fingers and toes go blue n it becomes so painful
True that though I can’t be in the sun for more than 20 minutes without burning to a crisp, I do produce my own vitamin D and that /is/ pretty dope.
I absolutely love this AND learned something new!!
This is really interesting & a great way to look at people. There's such variety & I too find it fascinating. There's so much beauty in our differences ❤️
Personally, I'm quite pale & find it hard to be in strong sunlight... But as I live in Yorkshire in England, this isn't really a problem! 😂
I used to be bullied when I was growing up,I never used to like my dark skin but now I am so inlove with myself and my skin.
Glad for your breakthrough.
🤗♥️
Growing up in the Philippines and having darker skin compared to my family, i would get comments like “you would be so much prettier if you had lighter skin” and when we got a family photo done by a professional photographer for weddings or events, they would lighten ip my skin. Took me years to fully love my natural skin tone. Thank you for this!!! 🙏🏽
Your energy is so positive and attractive that I completely forgot your eye color and that that's the reason some people watch/ comment on your videos. When you had the interjection about having blue eyes, I was like "what? oh yeah that's a thing". With that being said, just keep being a beautiful person and continue with personal growth because that shows more than anything.
Thank you 💕💕
@@leilo330 Yikes! A recessive trait. Blue eyes are recessive. Not possessed by Caucasians alone. Your thought is also a result of colorism taught to us.
I like when you said, "we are being manipulated by the media every hour, every second, every day" because it is so true. Great point about how seeing a representation in influential roles and the power it holds over young minds! You are such a sweet soul, Cydnee!
I'm a fair skinned white girl who was engaged to a Filipino man. He didn't want me to got out in the sun and get darker. He did the same. Slowly I started clueing in to what was going on as I talked to other Filipinos and saw the skin bleaching products in the local Filipino stores. It was sad to hear people thinking they were not as beautiful because of their darker skin.
My best friend is half Filipino half English and she grew up being told she's pretty much its a shame she wasn't blonde/blue eyed/lighter skinned or skinnier. She used to dye her hair black to try and look paler, stay out of the sun. She's told me it's really intense and to your face critique kind of culture. While it sounds harsh you partner telling you to stay pale, from what she tells me it's so ingrained in their culture that pale/European is beautiful. Each country likes to make their citizens feel like shit. In England people want to be tanned and hate being pale but it seems places with darker skin think pale skin is the beauty standard. It's a losing battle wherever you are.
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
i’m glad you “were” engaged to him, and aren’t anymore. no one should have to deal with this.
@Jayda James how did u do it. Im already light btw but i want to be more. I basically tanned and im into light for me .tell me how 🤔 please.
@@lamonochromatique so facts I wanna be pale over here 😂 ain’t nothing weird about that
Someone should make the Cydnee Black Barbie!! You are SO beautiful and beyond the physical, I really also dig how you present any topic you are speaking on. The whole peace vibe your silly sense of humor . Im here for it!!
Cydnee: If you're vitamin D deficient you might be depressed.
My Doctor: It looks like you don't get out much. You should take some vitamin D, your levels are low.
Me: *wondering why I get depressive episodes*
Same bro. Same
Me.
yup me too
Some of my light colored black gfs won’t date darker skinned guys. Even similar races have prejudices. It’s frightening! I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese, Korean and Indian residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
"you're pretty for an Arab" was all I heard in middle school /growing up
I'ma start fighting some bitches 💞💞💞, why do people gotta do that. Pretty people are pretty regardless of their race and/or ethnicity
Any compliment that's followed by a "for a ......" Is NOT a compliment.
Just tell someone they're pretty! Or how about something not appearance-based?
I personally love to tell people they're smart, funny, strong or a hard worker.
I live in an Arab country, but damn these bitches are always criticizing me. I remember one girl was like “your really pretty but your nose” and one person came up to me and was like “your pretty for a girl at our school” the other said “your lips seem to get smaller are u alright?” And well my confidence is quite low now, I can’t even talk to people properly anymore. I can’t even kid when I say I used to think I was the prettiest girl EVER I had so much confidence in me, and now it’s gone🤷🏻♀️😔
@@maalmnsouri Girl don't let others do that to you they all are just insecure and taking it out on you!! I can't see you but I know you're beautiful bc arabic features are some of the most beautiful ones in the world and I just recently accepted my nose but it was the best decision ever bc I realized my worth
Janelle Jajeh I’m accepting myself gradually, and thanks for the encouragement I really appreciate it🥺
One night I couldn’t sleep and so I turned on the tv and a show was on about a nanny coming to a families house and help parents with their parenting skills. It was a family with 5 children and one little girl was darker than the other 4 . It broke my heart that her own family would tell her she wasn’t pretty because she was darker. I just wanted to hug her and tell her she was beautiful. Please remember you are beautiful no matter what color you are. 💞
What was the show called ?
Neziah Burrell nannie something
Hose parents Need to be prosecuted for child abuse.... At least having social services investigate them.
The media is SO powerful, we don't even know. You're absolutely stunning.
PLEASE READ BEFORE COMMENTING --
Some clarifications:
1. You can still purchase hydroquinone over the counter in 1-3%. I misread! The study does state testing results found that some people experienced disfiguration of the skin while using hydroquinone topically in as little as 2%, so you should still be careful!
2. As I stated in the video, I understand people use skin lightening products for specific areas like dark spots from acne, freckles and hyper-pigmentation, there isn't a problem with that! This video is to speak about the use of these products on a larger scale, and the dangers of overuse on larger areas.
3. Addressing the comments concerning my misuse of the word superior to describe darker skin, I am in no way trying to belittle white or light skin. It is true that humans have evolved to withstand different climate conditions all over the world, so if I were talking about Scandinavia for example, it would be incorrect to state that darker skin is superior. However in the context of this video I've INTENTIONALLY used the word superior to describe dark skin, since skin bleaching is only an issue in regions of the world where having dark skin is in fact superior.
4. Every skin tone is beautiful & everyone should wear SPF. I love you guys and thank you for being so civil in the comments!!! xxx Cydnee
Cydnee I love that you took the time to make a correction even though it was just a small point. I can’t wait to watch more of your videos. You’re compassion is amazing and I love that you foster that in your community which I’m glad to be a part of.
If people want to lighten or darken their skin, it's their business, their skin. Just do it the safe way. I'm tired of these b*tches on youtube whining about skin lightening, just because they are insecure with their own dark skin. What I do with my skin is none of your business.
LOL! Having conversation with RUclips being the way it is. Sensoring anyone with the wrong opinion.
@@leilo330 There is not truly a safe way. A person is taking a risk when he does this.
@@DarkKittycat Yikes! What an assertion to make about someone you don't know. Superficial men come in all forms - educated, uneducated, financially well off, poor by most standards. Perhaps you are projecting your experience/feelings onto Cydnee. The world is so vast in variety, so how can you assume that educated men have less ego problems and are wiser in relationship choices? Unfortunately, I must tell you that husbands cheat on their wives. Players may change and settle down with one woman. You are doing a lot of generalizing in your comment. I do not know Cydnee personally, but I am pretty sure that she is aware of her potential. That is likely how she created such a successful RUclips channel at such a young age.
It is good to know that you learned to love yourself and not change for the approval of others. Not cool that you assume everyone else (or maybe just Cydnee) is experiencing what you did.
As a white passing native American it IS SO IMPORTANT TO UPLIFT YOUR BROWN FRIENDS. My little sister and I have different dad's and she is much darker than I am. She would always say how much she wished she was lighter and "more beautiful" and thankfully she doesn't do that anymore because I would only ever uplift her and help her realize how gorgeous her dark skin is. ALL SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL SKIN but right now dark folks need light folks like us to uplift them and love them. Use your white privilege to help those without it !!
You are such a badass, doing a full face of make up while giving a super informative talk! You make it look so easy, you rock Cydnee!
Thank you!! 💕💕💕 it’s difficult, and I struggle sometimes to keep talking while also making the makeup look nice LOL. So I really appreciate this comment 😭😭
This was fascinating to watch. When I lived in the southern Caribbean years ago I had a friend (literally the most stunning human I have ever seen/known) who hated her skin because she was very dark. I thought her skin was so beautiful (like velvet onyx), but she had been mocked all her life for the darkness of her skin (by her mother, friends, boyfriends, teachers, everyone). I was so shocked! I truly could not understand where they were coming from. Being much older now I have a stronger grasp on the indoctrination of the media with the narrative that dark = less attractive. I still find it to be as ludicrous as I ever did, but now I understand better where her pain and self-loathing came from. Grieves me to the core.
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese and Korean residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie u literally commented the same shit on SIXTY FIVE different comments😐 shutuppp
stop patronizing them.
I wanted to bleach my skin but now I'm proud of my skin color because we are the same ✊
I had mercury poisoning and I almost died! It is no joke! Every skin shade is beautiful it is not worth it.
Ceciley Johnson yikes sounds scary
how did you get mercury poisoning if you dont mind me asking?
5uava I actually got it from taking a lot of medications and off brand fish oil supplements. I have a rare autoimmune condition that was hard for doctors to control so they put me on lots of prescriptions for all the symptoms. I have to do heavy metal detox for 3 months to get rid of it.
Ceciley Johnson omg that’s terrible to hear but i hope you’re doing much better now
I’m white but I find it interesting (and sad of course) to hear about darker skinned people’s experiences. I hope we can eventually progress a lot further than we have and see far more representation in the media. ❤️
But u do need to understand that alot of these ethnic groups very much hate each other due to skin colour and would not include other ethnic grps due to their cultural differences so whites just do your thing and don't even bother
Renee Moore Sorry, I don’t understand your point here?
@@MsDesiree39 ... dont see in color were all human beings .
Imagine being an African in Africa and being teased because you’re dark skinned. It’s so messed up. For the longest time, I thought my older cousins were just naturally lighter, only to find out years later that they were bleaching. It’s so destructive and being teased about your naturally blessed skin really does mess with your self esteem. It’s one thing to hear it from another race but it cuts deeper when it’s coming from your own.
As a 36 year old woman, I am just now starting to love my skin and to appreciate what my melanin is doing for me❤
The same people who taught us to hate our skin are the same ones going and laying in the sun to get darker.
BLACK is BEEEEEAUTIFUL. And I am so glad you made this video.
Absolutely, they want to be copper colored. I love my pecan tan.
All skin tones are so beautiful. It makes me sad that we live in a society that thinks lighter skin is somehow superior. It’s absolutely not. I hope everyone out there is giving their natural skin some TLC ❤️ side note: not shaming! Just be safe and remember how lovely you are!
Why are you so sad when this has been the glaring issue in America and around the world for centuries and still has many brainwashed? I say horses, dogs, bears, plants , flowers, beans, fruits, fish, potatoes, yams, bananas, melons ad infinitum has different coloration so why on earth wouldn't people? We don't say white beans are superior to black beans, or white cherries are superior to black cherries? We just eat them. On the other hand they say the blacker the cherry the sweeter the juice! Ohhh? lol! One up on you. just kidding
@@marvaedwards1719 I feel a little confused by your comment but you’re definitely right about the brainwashing and that this is a glaring issue in America. And that’s why I feel sad: that this idea exists.
It’s the men! The damn men are placing lighter skin above darker skin
I completely agree. Yes I have lighter skin, but I think dark skin and medium skin is *absolutely* *stunning* as well.
@Jen Hay I totally agree with your message. However, if I may, I might just rephrase this to be a statement for everyone, not just women. You’re so right that most media is presented through the white gaze, with white or light skinned models, actors and influencers. There are absolutely people who are attracted to darker skin tones because dark skin is beautiful! It NEEDS to be seen in the media just as much as white/light skin. Representation matters and beauty comes in every color and shape. And you’re right again with the cosmetic industry! While there seems to be a bit more of an improvement (at least to an extent :/ ) in including makeup specifically for darker skin tones, it still is not equal. Not every brand has the darker tones, especially when it comes to drugstore brands (at least the last time I checked). I’m no makeup guru or anything but I’ve liked how Fenty Beauty has sooo many different shades that also take into account undertones. Do you have any favorite brands?
I’ve always had really thick hair growing up. When I permed my hair for the first time, everyone accused me of wearing weaves. They insisted that I must be mixed to have the hair that I had. You having blues eyes as a dark skinned women must have been extremely frustrating. You still have to prove to people that your eyes are real. Must be incredibly annoying. Tbh, it’s obvious that your eyes are real. Not sure how people can’t tell the difference between real eyes and contacts 🤷🏾♀️
True. her eyes are stunning but you can tell that they must be real even if only because of the fact that the blue is so bright. blue contacts don't even become that blue worn over green or gray eyes. never mind brown ones. colored contacts are not miracle workers.
TSprong agreed! She’s also got the beautiful little darker bits in her eyes here and there which isn’t the same in both eyes so I don’t understand why people can’t just see that she’s not lying. Honestly she doesn’t need to prove herself to those people because we love her whatever the eye colour😌✨
I'm going to be completely honest, my initial (2 second) thought was "is she wearing contacts, wow those are neat" Then when she quickly glanced to the side and her eyes SPARKLED in key with her emotion, I knew they were the most beautiful, natural blue eyes I've seen. And 3/4 of my kids have blue eyes lol
And I’m a white woman who just wants to be more tanned! It’s so strange how we always want what we don’t have.
it's just what people make the beauty standard. If you were born in Victorian times lighter skin would be more preferable. East Asians and Hindu (indians) find lighter skin prettier and I'm pretty sure middle eastern people do too ofc im blanketing huge swaths of people as one does when one generalizes. Health is a beauty standard and tanned skin is seen as someone being active and having vitamin D makes you healthy and happy so evolutionary it makes a lot of sense to have attraction to that.
@@miri8851 nope, middle easterners depending whom.
Iranians/persians like tan skins, most of us are blessed and born with natural olive tan skintone and their are also iranians who have fair skin, and tan, but for us it's very quick to tan, maybe 10 minutes of color in sun might get you two shades darker.
So speak for yourself, we middle easterner have never been ashamed of our dark tan skin, thank you very much, quit generalizing.
This is mainly because darker peninsular arabs thought only dark middle easterners were superior to the whiter ones.
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"nope, middle easterners depending whom."
Right the Levant, Mediterranean, and Peninsular areas all differ in some respects, it's a diverse area.They differ on individual basis too.
"Iranians/persians like tan skins, most of us are blessed and born with natural olive tan skintone and their are also iranians who have fair skin, and tan, but for us it's very quick to tan, maybe 10 minutes of color in sun might get you two shades darker.
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Yes I'm very aware, my boyfriend is Iranian... I did know one guy from Tehran who thought that since he is white that makes him a true Aryan and the darker skinned people were not true Persians. I'm pretty sure that many middle eastern people aside from Turks are Caucasian?
"So speak for yourself, we middle easterner have never been ashamed of our dark tan skin, thank you very much, quit generalizing.
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I only speak for myself and never claimed to speak for anyone else, I didn't say there was a stigma of dark skin I wasn't even sure if the middle east had preferences at all because of limited interactions.
Generalizations are necessary for the sake of brevity. If I had to go into ever single minutia and nuance i probably would have written a whole book.
"This is mainly because darker peninsular arabs thought only dark middle easterners were superior to the whiter ones."
Interesting and thanks for enlightening me.
@@miri8851 no problem. Iranians who call themselves aryans are just embarrassing, aryan is an hindu term meaning to be noble which Persians and north indian call themselves in ancient times but it's an embarrassing term due to Hitler stealing it and making into another meaning.
Middle easterners are labeled caucasian on paper in the United state but Caucasian isn’t really the same as caucasoid. Middle easterner are just classified with caucasoid, unfortunately we get grouped in the caucasian label only because we are classified with caucasoid, which caucasoid is the skull classification and a good amount are aware of this grouping and know that it isn’t just white/Europeans who are within it. And we also get labeled white because some middle easterners "look white".
That is still a very long and difficult topic, whether MENA should be labeled as caucasian, it's a long story..
@@eliza1826
Yes anthropology is pretty complicated but that was quite a lot of information thanks for your time
I’m from South Sudan a region where some of the most darkest people are from and it’s very normal for the women to bleach their skin especially my mothers generation. I love how you were so informative and especially compassionate about this much needed awareness these conversations will start to liberate many POC.
I bleached my skin at one point to even out my overall tone and I quickly started to use it all over because then my body was too light in certain areas I suddenly realized that my natural Skin was actually so much better looking and beneficial in so many ways it was like I had a new found appreciation and I’m forever grateful for realizing it.
Being super aware at how the world viewed me with my ultra black skin and also the contradiction to the actual facts of having melanin blew my mind on how humans can be so brainwashed to hate themselves it’s really sad and I understand so deeply, again thank you for your grace and compassion. ❤️
I’m from South Sudan as well! Its honestly so sad that people bleach their skin just to feel accepted because others call dark skin ugly. I wholly agree with what you said.
@@insxnitywasconfused hello! My fellow Sudanese! ❤️ yeah it is truly sad but I’m so happy we are waking up 🙌🏿
Cyndee: People with melanin in their skin are scientifically healthier
Me, with probably 0.5% melanin in my skin: Ah, that's explains a lot.
Amber Margaret same
Same
I feel that😂
same 😞
@Epic Quintessence that's... the joke...
i used to think bleaching your hair was literally using bleach too 🤦🏼♀️
The term bleach is referred to several chemical compounds that are able to lighten materials, so in this case (hair bleach) we talk about hydrogen peroxide, not chlorine based bleaches. I searched on the wikipedia because in spanish we don't use the same word for chlorine and hair lightener so I was curious about it :)
WAIT IT’S NOT??!!!?
Oh shit wait it isn't?
@@kiabrooks1472 me?
@Sunchild- this is the 3rd random video I've ran into you on in just the past 4 days! It's freaking me out a little, lol. We must be getting the same recommended videos.👍
It's so gross that the ad under this video is "meladerm skin lightener" RUclips what is you doing?
What???
I can’t see the ads but that’s upsetting
Usually the ads are determined by what videos you e recently been watching. If you’ve been watching videos about skin lightening, you’ll probably get vids about that type of product. I’ve recently been watching hair removal vids so I keep getting ads for that. When I was watching vid’s about chemical peels, I kept getting ads for Cetaphil, which a lot of those RUclipsrs were using post-peel
I have ads for gay comics.....
@@Chanhee Hehehe. You made me chuckle
I grew up in a Caribbean household and skin bleaching in that culture is a social norm. I was teased and bullied for being dark skinned by family members and my peers so it drove me to start using them. And I’ve had the same results of the dark blue marks on my face (not as severe, but it’s noticeable). I only have myself to blame for that and now every time I look in the mirror I have a constant reminder of wtf I’ve done to myself. I let people get to me and now I have to live with these marks on my face
Listening to you talk feels like listening to a close friend. You have a natural warmth and I'm thankful that I was able to discover you through RUclips.
Cheers.
You are such a good person. These intellectual, thought provoking and compassionate discussions are my favorite part of the day. Thank you for putting such positive energy into the world! Love you!!! ❤
🥺🥺🥺 thank you so much
Michael Jackson had vitiligo, which was actually why he made his skin lighter. And probably why he started wearing one glove. Vitiligo is where people get lighter splotches of skin, I've seen models with it. He didn't want that so he used the skin lightening stuff to make all of his skin light so that there wouldn't be splotches. When he died they found a container of the skin lightening cream I think in his bathroom.
@@Yahshija their own dad literally shamed them for it, I think it's an insecurity problem more than a race one
Fragmented Fractal. He had two surgery’s on he’s nose. He broke it then got surgery.
Jessie R lol! More like 2 surgeries a year- his nose totally collapsed. That Martin Badger interview made me realize as much as I love MJ the musician the man was flawed and lied quite a bit in that interview
i would have believed that if he didn't go to extremes to make sure all 'his' kids were white.
True.. but he took it way too far unfortunately.
Thank you for saying the truth...I am a black women with Albinism and I have 4 beautiful melinated children and I tell them everyday that their brown skin is so beautiful even at tge detriment of my own beauty...I loved that you said that...thank you
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese and Korean residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
The way that you talk about these topics are with such elegance. 💚
PS... LOVE how healthy the conversations are in your comment section. You’re a hero.
"Men don't know what they like. If you like it, they'll love it." This is so true
I'm sure there are men who know what they like. Dont be ignorant.
My teacher went to live in Alaska for a year, it was for a teaching opportunity. When she came back she told us that the majority in that part of Alaska were dark skinned people, and she was usually criticised for being light.
She said that it felt odd being the "odd one out" for a change and that it reminded her we should spread kindness to anyone no matter their color
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
BTW, did ur mother see a ravenclaw after she gave birth to u? I heard native Americans name their children after the first piece of nature they see after giving birth. Like “running bull”. It’s so fascinating how things originate.
@dd4850
Exactly. We should maintain differences, but the last 30 years everyone is blending together. In 30-50 years, everyone will be honey colored skin and brown eyes. Everyone else will be rare.
My science teacher said that. He said the only reason ppl look different is because their country didn’t travel much. So, whole country had similar skin color, hair and eyes, like the Chinese, all look alike, very little difference. Soon, in short years from now, ppl won’t look so different anymore. It will be boring. Now, it’s interesting. Many different looks now, later no.
Not all native Americans name their children like this. I was named after family. My parents gave me a name, a friend of the family gave me another like her daughter who passed. Or because I was named by my parents after my father’s grandma (who passed) so sometimes my third name basically means grandma.
Instead of "skin-whitening" there should be more focus on protecting and repairing skin from the effects of the sun, regardless of what your original skin-tone is.
I cannot take "skin-whitening" seriously. In the Philippines, people go as far as attempting to whiten their armpits as well. Finding tan-boosting sun protection in Filipino supermarkets is almost next to impossible.
It's used for people with discoloured scars and all sorts of discoloured spots on their skin too.
It sounded like you said, "I'm in no way advocating foreskin bleaching."
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Hahaha i chuckled at this 😂
🤣🤣I don't think anyone would advocate that!!
I love how you talk about real things on your channel that I feel like people are scared to talk about. plus you are honest and respectful while at it
My god Mercury ?! That’s extremely carcinogenic “cancerous”
Yes straight up metal poisoning going straight to your brain and killing your immune system
Yes and all our immunizations contain Mercury, just food for thought and maybe research. I think it is a shame what the media and government create and like cattle we stupidly follow. Stay alert, strong and safe everybody. Unity, peace, and love from an indigenous Canada woman.
@@lucillerenaud8114 don’t bunch all of us but yes most humans are stupid sheeps
When I heard of skin bleaching I thought it was bleach too, I didn’t know any of this information, I have always found darker skinned woman very beautiful, and I’m probably the whites person ever and I’ve always hated it I love darker skin to me it’s very beautiful, I’ve learned to love myself for what I am though ❤️ I love these videos they are always my favorite
I have very fair skin and freckles on my arms and that is fine with me. I'm so pale that I basically glow in the dark and that's fine too. I also think that dark skin is beautiful. I think all skin is beautiful. I truly don't understand why there are any issues between humans based on skin color. It's nonsense. Skin is skin. It's all beautiful.
If skin color is weaponised, you can easily control people.
It's really that simple (and awful.)
The term "fair" skin was used as an brainwashing tactic as well
@@donthatemeforbeinghonest296 the word fair is used in scripture to describe a woman or man of beauty. ok?
my skin is also very fair. i do not like tans.
@@marilynwillett804 I’m sure Hebrews didn’t use the word fair! That was a brainwashing word. Because what’s the opposite of fair? Us. Riiiiight
I am black skin toned and absolutely proud of it.bleaching has even never crossed my mind.
I've been told I'm "too pretty to be Native" in Canada. Which is insane because I know for a fact that Indigenous women are beautiful.
There's a reason nearly everyone claims some great great grandmother who was an "Indian princess" (lmao). Indigenous people have attractive features, high cheek bones, little body hair, no body odor, long pin straight hair (mine is to my waist), bronze and golden skin tones, slim muscular bodies, full lips..
Sure bad diets have affected some, but genetically, we have it pretty good. Idk why anyone would say black women aren't attractive either, their list of features are being copied by white people all the time.
I think both just go to show how ignorant and misinformed people are.
I’m sorry my love, the world does not even know about the level of racism against indigenous people in our country. It is no accident that it is swept under the rug. Horrible.
I have about 50% native american but i have pretty light skin, and i live in a community of natives as well. Since my skin is pretty light people always mistake me for not being native, and when I tell them they respond with, "Oh dang I thought you were white" or something. I am proud to have native in me as well as white and it honestly offends me when they think i am not native. I also had 2 friends for the longest time who would hate on natives, saying they had life handed to them. A different friend of mine had a curvier body and dark skin and those friwnds refused to be friwnds with them as they said "it wasnt their type of group". I am so glad I am no longer in any toxic situation like that and we are no longer friends.
It's so sad that Canada can't just acknowledge there's serious racial bias and prejudice since the beginning of time. I'm in Canada too and honestly agree, indigenous features are beautiful. Yall are gifted and good for you to recognize your own beauty. ❤ keep it going. You're the change and the pride shining through!
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese, Korean and Indian residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie As to the Asian story, that's common of many ethnic groups who've suffered immense oppression throughout history, thus they're distrustful. My people do not trust the government in the slightest bit, like many won't get the vaccines because they have the smallpox blanket mentality, they are hugely suspicious. Especially because we were deemed high risk and were among the first to get access. There's a lot of deep, deep hurt in communities like mine, hurts that were inflicted upon us and none of them have ever really been rectified and no amends have been made.
The Japanese still have a lot of hurt about the concentration camps during WW2, for example. And the Koreans have a lot of hurt about the Japanese conquering and abusing them. These are all open wounds. Native people are still hurting because of colonization, there's been a lot more hurt since then, but that's still an open wound and it'll never heal. Everything else just makes it fester with infection.
So yeah, it's possible that we'll all be mixed and brown in the future, I personally think this civilisation will collapse long before that happens and we'll return to tribal ways. Whoever is left anyway. But the hurt isn't going to disappear. Especially when it's systemic and spans centuries. I think that's the most important thing to keep in mind when discussing these things. Intergenerational trauma.
As a white man, I just want to say this for all my dark skinned fellow humans out there.
You do not need to be lighter to be beautiful or to be handsome. Screw the media trying to portray beauty and elegance as some paper complexion white people and screw anyone who thinks otherwise. You are beautiful and loved regardless of how deep your skin tone is. The only thing your skin tone should define is what shade of foundation you buy, not who you are, not how people think of you.
And if the people in your life are cruel to you because you are dark, then screw them too, because they are so blinded to not see how gorgeous and amazing you are. Please know that whatever your situation is I appreciate you as a fellow human being.
Everyone deserves love and to be treated kindly and fairly, not just white people, not just lighter skinned people. And I want to pass love onto anyone reading this from one human to another ❤
Man I lost it 15 min in. I couldn't stop crying. Love the way bring awareness to this topic. Thank you.
Not even 2 minutes in, and I'm loving how you're going about this sensitive topic. OK back to the video🙃💙
I am 61 years old and love this channel. You have your own make up pointers and processes that work for you. Your content is always engaging and most of all, if you are not familiar with a topic you educate yourself! Shouldn't we all? I rarely follow anyone this young and not purely natural health related. However, you cover so much mental, environmental, and physical health as well as beauty. I love the holistic approach. Keep on rocking it girl!!!! I'm proof we never stop learning and we can even learn from young people! Skin bleaching was an awesome topic!
Honestly I’m still struggling to love my skin and I’m 22 years old ... there will be days where I feel like a melanin queen, then some days I feel so ugly 😭... I’m scared to wear certain hair colors or eyeshadows... I’ve considered bleaching , at first it was for my hyperpigmentation then once it cleared I kept going ... I quit but sometimes I’m still insecure about it .
You are beautiful! Don’t let them get to you. 💞
You’re gorgeous!! 💛
Girl, wear whatever you want because you are STUNNING STU👏NN👏ING
Thank you for being honest and forthcoming about how you feel. It's ok to struggle from time to time. Sometimes we go through ups and downs in life. But do the best you can to find something about yourself that you love. Once you've done that, embrace that and build from there. I've learned that two of the most powerful words are "I am". Start self talk or positive affirmations. Like "I am beautiful. I am creative", etc. Do them daily to replace and drown out the doubt. I avoided wearing clothing, different colors and makeup that I liked for years. There were even days that it was hard to look at myself in the mirror. I thought "Why bother with any of this it won't make me attractive?" But life is too short to not express yourself in how you dress or at all. When you do that you're denying yourself of being who you are. So switch your hair up, wear the makeup and clothes that you want to wear and be you.
You're beautiful!!!
In the case of skin whitening in the Philippines, it is more rooted in classism rather than due to colonial or racial reasons. Historically in Europe and Asia, having a darker complexion (naturally or by sunburn) is associated with having to work outside (farmers, labourers), thus, having a lighter skin tone, particularly among women, meant that they had the luxury of not having to work under the sun or even work at all. As time went on, this was embedded into the larger Filipino society as the norm; and is seen as equivalent to tanning your skin without the idea of classism attached. Basically, it wasn't introduced by the the colonisers, rather, it was already there.
JC Cosip exactly that’s why in Europe and even Egypt it was a big thing. I also think though it has to do with being drawn to or attracted to what stands out if you have light eyes hair or skin there naturally it was rare and in Japan for example they put white paint or power on geishas faces and they were considered the epitome of beauty and grace.
Same in India and Bangladesh but its both classism and colonialism
@@saeefa exactly same here in Pakistan. Thats really sad that beauty is being judged nowadays looking at skin colour of people.
@ThatOneAsianBroChick Aetas are Filipinos and it is definitely not good the way some fellow Filipinos treat them because of their skin tone.... As I have said, this "colorism" already existed even before the Spanish came to our country (although Spanish arrival probably worsened it), we see this even in regions that were not colonized by Europeans (example: Thailand, Japan).
@ThatOneAsianBroChick sidetrack: sabi mo Indigenous ka, curious lang ako; anong indigenous group ka nanggaling?
I suffered from dark spots and my dermatologist prescribed hydroquinone. You’re literally supposed to only use it on the spots needed with a q-tip, it definitely lightens the area significantly. When using it you’re only supposed to use it for up to about 8 weeks I believe. it’s reversible so if you go into the sun your skin will go back to normal. Great video 💕
Thank you for sharing your personal experience with this!!!
I only used it once, cause my skin literally melted. From my personal experience, DON'T USE IT AT ALL!
People need to do what makes THEM HAPPY. Period. Not to please ANYONE except themselves. As long as their actions don't hurt anyone else, it's nobody's business.
I honestly love this comment section! People are sharing the hard times they've lived or the times they felt 'ugly' and responses are really heartwarming and encouraging... I love how we support each other and make ourselves feel better!
I have a beautiful dark skinned daughter. I’m a biracial woman. It’s hard to hear my daughter say stuff like she doesn’t like her skin tone or that she wished she was lighter like her brother and I. I tell her she’s gorgeous, magnificent and highly intelligent all the time. I do my best to uplift her, and for the most part it seems to work. I hate that she ever had those thoughts to begin with. I’m going to show her your videos though! She’s just getting into makeup, and I think she’d listen to some of your topics (and maybe learn some stuff too).Thank you for being here ❤️
It’s the music and what she see , she don’t see her in healthy relationship, or being talked up by society,
I remember that conversation with my mom , why did my sister turn out beautiful and light ...is what I asked my mama & I saw her tear up , some point I always remember that moment , cause I truly believe I was wasn’t pretty cause of what I saw and how I saw the world treat People like me ,
Even in dating , keep up lifting her and loving on her .... she has the Eve gene 🙏🏾
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
It’s sad that the “English” from England, and the Dutch years ago decided it was ok to buy and trade Africans for work on their farms. Africans were poor and in poverty. So, many were happy to leave. Their families were paid off. Later sone ships came over from Spain and decided to disregard payment and promise them land or extra benefits after years of working. Still, the Africans saw it as a better chance of a future. It was in comparison. Sadly, many ppl looked down on them as sub par ppl cause they were so poor and uneducated. Had all their bosses or masters educated them by law, it would have brought the level of humanity higher. Sone were butlers, chefs, Nannie’s, etc., and treated well. Others on farms were treated as slaves. That was the problem. Even educated black workers treated the uneducated farm worker differently. It’s like the light skinned black treating the dark skinned black as sub-par. At least awareness is brewing. It takes time for ppl to stop criticizing each other of their cars, houses, looks. But everyone, and I mean everyone does it. Even black children who r taught not to be prejudice still do it. I see children judging other children. The more u ppl point out differences to their children, the more they become aware. Before BLM, many children were color blind. They r being taught 2 messages. That black is beautiful, but also, u r black and she is white. Most children don’t pay attention to it till it’s thrown at them. God made all skin types. It’s Gods design. So, no one is more special than another. Everyone was given the gift of life. It’s what u do with it that makes it special.
I love when you put out REAL content like this, this is a very sensitive subject that affects us all. I can tell this came from a place of education and understanding. I do not believe my skin color is inferior to anyone else's. I feel blessed to have built in protection from the sun. This video was well done Cydnee
Imagine being her friend in real life (it would be a dream)
Darker skin is soooo amazing! Melanin does all those incredible things you're mentioning and I think it's pretty dope how much research you've obviously done into the science of melanin. Because its evolutionary (obvi) darker skin can cause problems in areas with less sunlight - like kiddos can develop rickets from lack of vitamin d - so supplementation is important! For your bones and your mood like you mentioned :) Also, as a doctor, you're doing great with pronunciation. No, you aren't saying them "right" lol but also it's a damn good effort. Drug and condition names are difficult and half of the medical field can't say them "correctly" anyway. Keep it up peaceful lady!
I’m so glad ppl will eventually not notice color. I never grew up like that. It’s sad that ppl isolate themselves into zones where they feel most comfortable too. We have a huge Chinese and Korean residential area. I would ask my mother why they don’t speak to us like the other neighbors? She said cause they feel different. They need to be with their own kind to not feel different. It bothers me that those neighbors kids wouldn’t play with us. We r white. We wanted to know them better, but I think Asians segregate their own selves? It’s sad to see that cause I love to know everyone, but my science teacher said, Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie tbh people overstate the amount of race mixing going on cuz most people still date within their own race/ethnic/nationality group. even then, race mixing doesnt really create people who have the same skin color and can vary quite a lot as genes create various phenotypes. such examples of this would be in heavily mixed countries like those in latin america such as mexico, brazil, venezuela, etc. also red hair genes cant really be phased out together as genes dont really work like that. even for someone who has red hair and their child doesnt, the child would still carry the genes for red hair. thus there is always a probability that the children of the child will have red hair and so on and so forth.
The whole “doing it for the opposite sex” thing reminds me of the whole cult of domesticity and how whiteness and femininity are so tangled up with each other. It’s like the whiter a woman is, the more feminine she is, because the cult of domesticity dictates that the pinnacle of femininity is a docile, domestic white woman.
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Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
@@LGAussie gotta love bro-science
we’re all one race. hooman race. ✌🏼
i do acknowledge that there are other races. but i don’t think too much into it.
i hate the whole “i don’t see color” i understand it’s probably from a form of loving intention but it’s just ignorant.
i’m white. you may be brown or black. it’s just simple facts. no more, no less. 🧡
Cyd, I love how you always come from a place of compassion. It was such an ahhh moment for me when you said people are being shamed into thinking that they have to bleach and we in turn should not shame them for doing that. Thank you! You always remind me to be kinder
‘How was we made to feel inferior by people who can’t withstand one of the worlds largest elements’ YASSSS Queen it’s so true
Eventually we will all be honey colored skin after interbreeding constantly. Sadly, we will all look the same. Then ppl will wish there were some differences again, but my science teacher said that only since the past 100 years, ppl have become super mobile, which brings many different races together. Mixing is frequent now. Races from everywhere r mixing rapidly. So, my science teacher said in 50 years, a huge amount of ppl will be honey colored, but he also said that might be boring. He also said red hair might phase out altogether. Which is sad cause my best friend has green eyes and cinnamon colored hair. She’s gorgeous!
But when she has children, which will likely be with a browned haired guy, then her kids may lose the red. It’s fascinating what will happen in the future?
You did an amazing job delivering the topic in this video. Encouraging the conversation is important. We don't always have to have the same experiences or perspectives but in order for change to happen, we have to acknowledge this is a real concern to some people and then shift the conversation from 'blame' to 'how can we change this going forward'. Thank you for this :)
Yes!
I recently found your channel. I am Latina and have more color in my skin than my sister. We grew up with the comments that said that she was more beautiful than me because she has lighter skin. Recently I went to Spain, particularly north of Spain. And there were a few people that told me hurtful things about the color of my skin and it messed up with my self esteem . I hope that more people will rise awareness about this topic, so children with darker skin would feel better with whom they are
Similar things happened to singer and activist Joan Baez.
Rosario, nothing wrong with your color. People
Can be ignorant at times.
Your main battle is usually your thoughts.
People will ALWAYS judge
You. It's human nature.
What matters is how YOU SEE YOURSELF.
Don't worry about people's opinions.
The truth behind the belief that lighter skin is beautiful is because caucasians had more advanced technology than most other cultures and when they invaded places because of their technology they were revered as Gods. By technology I'm referring to the fact they were the first to travel on the sea and their weapons.
I don't judge anybody who bleaches their skin. I straighten my hair with relaxer. If you even wear make up your'e trying to enhance your looks to create features you don't have naturally. Skin bleaching is just controversial because skin color is so political. People be getting butt injections, breast implants and lip fillers and then clown on women who bleach their skin. I think its great if you can appreciate your skin's natural beauty. There are so many beautiful dark women, but I don't criticize women who bleach.
I appreciate this perspective. I really do
Girl, they're the same to me too ( not makeup though because you can love yourself before and after wearing makeup). But I still want everyone to love themselves in the skin they're in. Making advancements to your body shouldn't drastically change your natural body. And I don't agree with bleaching and tanning especially. But because of the history black people have with slavery and colorism, we are especially aware of skin bleaching
All changes are controversial - butt injections, breast implants, lip fillers, tanning, bleaching, relaxing straight hair, permanently curling straight hair. Varied opinions exist for them all.
@@Jessica-og4iq Not true. All people/races have melanocytes. We all (all races) have the same number of melanocytes - cells that make melanin, the dark pigment. However, some people make more melanin than others based on their genes. A healthy person should not care if another person changes herself or himself. What someone else does to his body is not a reflection of you and your self esteem. My esteem isn't hurt if someone else changes something about herself.
@@Jessica-og4iq Unfortunately, it is dangerous. Some people are simply compassionate and don't want to watch other people doing something dangerous to herself because of what has been ingrained into society for many years. Perhaps some people ,whether warranted or not, just want to encourage everyone to love themselves as they are.
The fact that you can talk while doing your eyeliner (perfectly) simply amazes me
"I don't give a f*** what any man likes"
*hits subscribe*
Seriously thought idk why this was in my recommended but this was such an interesting video. Thanks for teaching me something new today!
Black is beautiful
I love appreciate this so much
You’re pretty. Period!
Such an important conversation! Dark skin is beautiful and it's a tragedy when people are made to feel like they have to change it. Love you girl!
Creepy comment #527: your eye shape is a goal and your voice is very relaxing. Also, thank you for the education. I knew about skin bleaching, but not too much.
Hi, I have a story to share
In my country/culture, bleaching is REALLY normal
I'm 22 now. I had bleached my skin THRICE before I was 18. At around 14, 15, and 16.
When I'd go to my local parlor the lady there used to say "why don't you go for bleaching your face? It'd remove all that tanning, dirt etc". She was INSISTENT about it, and the younger me brought into it. I DID look fairer after using it, so I did not find a lot of harm (bruh I'm light skinned already, imagine that)
It was so so normalized in my mind because of the way the option was always within reach, and treated like it's equivalent to facial/waxing etc
I dont think the ladies there meant harm, but they were ignorant, they did not know
They need to market their services, and they do it by making you fee fussy about yourself
However, this needs legal intervention. The chemicals you mentioned are so, so toxic. I learnt something new. It boggles me that nobody knows about this and bleaching is a normal practice. It needs to be outlawed
I'll do my bit to spread education. Thank you for bringing up this issue
Where are you from?
No offense but I kinda have to disagree with dark skin being superior. Light skin absorbs more vitamin D which is absolutely crucial when living in colder areas with less sunlight. Like you said at the beginning of the video, vitamin D deficiency can lead to depression and other health issues. There is a reason why different skin colours are more prevalent in certain regions. Evolution doesn't just happen if there's no benefit. No skin type is inherently superior, they are just better adjusted to certain environments.
Being an older mom of 4 girls, I never thought I would enjoy watching you do makeup while learning interesting facts. But WOW! I'm hooked. Love your makeup and history the most. Please do more