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This video came into my notifications this morning and just reminds me of those days when i was so desperately trying to get my ex back. That was 4 years ago. Since then i've grown so much and knows the essence of self love and self worth. You have been of enormous help during those days in trying to get me out of that dark phase. I remember listening to multiple of your videos all night long or whenever i needed some reassurance. Thank you so much Rory and keep up the good job ❤
Same, except I'm a year and a half not 4yrs. I've moved, have a career now that I LOVE, and even though there are ups and downs things are ultimately better.
Dear Rory, I needed this today. I know you don’t get to see the other side of many of your viewers. I have been listening to you for the last 4 months at least. Driving home from work, doing chores, taking a bath, going on a walk, going to sleep, crying in a private moment where nobody else sees, you have been there for me through your content. Wholeheartedly thank you. You give logical, supportive, constructive advice and you have helped me with my journey of self restoration. I am 7 months past a very difficult breakup, and I am still not “better”. But I am moving forward, and I can logically say that despite the awful pain, I have grown and I have become better for it; and while the end is unclear I feel like I am finally finding my path in life again. “Human happiness is not accomplishing a goal it is striving towards one. Strive well.” Thank you.
“It's going to take time, you're going to feel frustration, you're going to doubt what I'm saying. You're going to doubt yourself. But if you stay consistent, against all odds, you will come out of this thing, much better, much happier, much healthier, and much more fulfilled.” Exactly what I needed to hear. 😭 I am going through a very painful separation right now and it feels like the end of the world. What you have just said made me feel a lot better and gave me hope that one day, I will become happy again, even if it’s not with the same person. It’s just so painful, I want it to be over. 😭 I guess I just really have to trust the process and yes, stay consistent, against all odds. Thank you Rory! I will use this as my wall paper: “STAY CONSISTENT, AGAINST ALL ODDS”
100% right. I moved forward, became a better person and now dating a girl way better than my ex at all possible level. Do the work and grow guys, there is light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks Rory for the support, totally agree with you
Before you heal someone, ask him if he is willing to give up the thing that made him sick. Guys and girls, keep the focus on yourself and let it hurt but then let it go. Thanks a lot Rory for another wonderful video💕
I started listening to you and this is my 8th month since my break up, moved on on the 5th month, yes no contact works, she reached out on the 6th month then disappeared but i didn't cared at all because there came a time that i dont want her back anymore, im busy focusing on my NCLEX have plans and set new goals already, ive been talking with people reconnected with my old highschool sweetheart and im getting back with my passion which is producing music and working on releasing a few songs soon, im still listening to your content for character development and it calms my soul, thank you so much Rory! Youre the MVP
Dear Rory, a year ago I began listening to your channel in hope of getting my ex back. When you reiterated to invest in yourself, love yourself and you may eventually not even want him back. I could not believe it would be possible. Thanks for emphasizing the importance of turning your attention inward, it took time, lots of books , journaling, mediatating, and finally it all sunk in. I'm single now and happy that way. I've learned so much about my wounds and how that affected my relationships. Thank you for being a catalyst to my growth .
When this was uploaded, I was really happy with my girlfriend and was not aware of this channel. But now she is my ex, and have been in no contact for the past 3 weeks starting my 4th. I am really missing her and really want to reach out even though she wanted to end things. At the same time I am thankful I have found this channel so I keep moving forward. The fact that she will eventually see someone else really hurts me, but that's life I guess.
I cried (in a good way). This message did cone to me when I needed it most. Especially you acknowledging the "I don't know if I'll find someone I'm attracted to again" thought. I've been worried about that. Thank you for making this content. Can't describe how much it's helped me hone in on and refocus what my priorities are to get me to a better place than I've ever been in my life. I have a long way to go until I'm the person I want to be, but I'm on the right path in becoming.
Breakups can be a great thing Mine was over 2 years ago I lost 50 pounds started dressing better and did so many new and fun things Yes it did hurt but I am so much better off now and have learned so much about me
I will never be sick of your voice, Rory!!! ❤️ you’re amazing, genuine, ridiculously smart, and your advice is golden!! I did not get my ex back but after putting in the work, I got myself back but a much healthier, smarter, and happier version. I will always appreciate each and every video you put out. It saved me and I know it will keep saving so many people. Thank you always my friend!!! 🙏🏼🥺❤️
I really appreciate you, Rory. You and the Dating Guy (long ago!) helped get me through my breakup in 2020. I'm now in my 2nd break up (same guy!! ugh), and I'm at that stage where I can't stop listening to your videos to get me through the night. I'm looking forward to the day where I won't need to listen to The Love Chat anymore. But for now, thanks so much, Rory!
Rory, I just wanted to thank you for keeping me sane over the past three months. Your videos are so soothing and I don't know what I would have done without them. I'm still struggling but I hope and I know that everything will be alright in the end. ❤️
I've found myself searching these videos again over a year on from my breakup, not for myself but to recommend them to my best friend who is struggling with her break up. This time last year I was completely broken and didn't know how to move forwards. My break up as given me a whole new strength and side of me I never knew I could be or feel. Started with all the ex back stuff then realised that I have so much for value and deserved so much better than what that idiot! Thank you Rory and The Love Chat community for all of your help. And to those struggling with a breakup right now, you are high value and to love yourself first. And prioritise being around your friends and people who won't break up with you.
Thank you so much Rory! You got me through some really hard times and I and many others are so blessed and lucky that someone like you is out there taking care of hearts and minds around the world. Much love from Australia! You're a real one✨
I miss her, but I know it's going to be okay. It's been over a month, and I still feel like she was the best thing in my life. Even though I remember all the bad that happened I still think she was the one. But I know I need to move to chapter 2. haha
Not been here in a while now, you helped me during a time when i was barely surviving due to my break-up, basically 2 years later my ex actually contacted me. the text was about how fucked up i am and manipulative, how great she is doing without me, and that she never wants to associate with me again, she isnt wrong in the sense that we truly were having a toxic relationship, especially since i hated myself my whole life and was diagnosed with a personality disorder later on when i put my ass through therapy. I dont really have something to say specifically, I am very thankful for you helping me self reflect and, understand relationships, love and boundaries better. i didnt answer her text, since she specifically said she didnt need a reply, however this time i expect to never hear from her again, and i think thats for the better, i have moved on in many ways, my past still tries to haunt me but i have become resilient knowing I'm not the same person i used to be. Anyway thanks
Rory and his channel really help me a lot when I went through my breakup. No contact does work on me, even thought I don’t hear my ex. When you work on yourself for a while, you don’t care about if your ex reaches out or not anymore. Listen to Rory 💯!
Thank you Rory I am still feeling really hurt and still love my ex but you are a national treasure without your help I would of broken no contact as it's been 73 days without txting or contacting her.
Thank you, Rory, for healing our hearts. Your videos and coaching in person were with me in a darkest moments and helped A LOT. Its so contructive and logical that my healing took me so much shorter time then could be. I know my worth now and its priceless knowledge. Thank you
I ended my relationship with my ex, Bc the relationship was going downhill and I was getting stressed from the relationship, I was upset for a while because it had to end that way, over time I realized that I should be grateful Bc I had the experience and it was a matter of time and sooner the better 🙂
Thank you! This’s exactly what I’ve been needing to hear! It’s been almost 3months since the break up and just about a week since I ceased complete communications with her … Each day that goes by is so difficult! But I’m finally realizing what she meant by telling me she needed space. Hopefully it’s not too late (I made every mistake possible after a breakup). I’m gonna continue holding onto the hope we will get back together… But I also know that this is the best thing that could’ve happened for us. We both need help and we both need to become better people for both each other and ourselves.
Thank you Rory it’s a tough night for me in regards to not giving in to reaching out. It’s been since December before Christmas that we talked. So about a month and a half of NC. I gotta keep listening and I know I can do this but I’m in deep, and yes it sucks and I worry if I will ever see him again. Thank you for not telling us some bullshit to move on or that the pain goes away, it’s about using that pain for something better. I am but for gods sake I just want my ex to contact me. I hate that I can have anyone else but him.
@@TheLoveChat thanks so much I will stay strong I promised myself and it helps hearing that you came out of this horrible experience yourself thanks again Rory I will come out of this thing more fulfilled you’re right
Hey everyone! Rory is 100% right. In 2019, I was ghosted and dumped by my ex who told me she “ loves” me. It was difficult ( emotionally) for the first few months, but I stuck to it, kept on going, prayed, trusted God and today I am with an amazing woman! The experience made me a much wiser and stronger man. Don’t give up my friends, it will get MUCH better with time. God bless you all.
Listening to this makes me feel like someone knows what i'm going through. Especially when the rejection which making me feel pained and this thing drives me to prove that i'm not that bad/worthless to be left behind, but suddenly he has a new date, and he treated his new date better than when he was with me it made me feel insecure and start to compare myself with the girl, compare our past relationship with his new relationship. Hence i feel so so scared to coexist with my ex's new life. But when i realize that i'm fearing something means i'm avoiding to face the truth of my pain, though it was just a lie i tell to myself, it would make me feel devastated if i accept that underlying belief i had no idea about. Now i'm trying to find clarity for my heartbreak, that's why i'm here.
Even computers have to be updated from time to time for it to become faster, efficient and more responsive and with lot of memory but still not overwhelmed.
After 1+ year of breakup I didn't move on with someone else and sometimes i still think about her, but i don't want her back and i am happy but I am scared to move on, i don't want to get hurt.
Well, I've learnt a lot from you Rory, TDG and a couple more and I wanted the next one to be the last.. or actually i didn't intend to have a next one.. anyways, I'm back again to see what I did wrong, much love ❤
You know what, ya it was my fault and I emotionally exhausted my ex, but no one can tell me I didn’t treat her like any man should. I loved her, encouraged her, supported her choices and passions, always reminded her she was beautiful, gave her the love and validation any man should give their girl, bought her gifts and made her feel special, and she seriously can’t handle me at my lowest time, while I stuck through hers; then fuck her, she broke up with me KNOWING I have bad social anxiety and it was my first day of my senior year of collage. She’s so selfish becsuse she gets a new fresh start at a new university a couple weeks after I started, she broke up to move on as quickly as possible with her new friends etc. and left me in the dust. I don’t need her, I am already three steps ahead of her, I’m on top, I’m getting in shape, have an awesome new job for the holidays, I will jump out of this hole she digged me in, she’s not gonna win.
I have to give up on the mother of my children. I think I improved myself 3 fold. She's wanted me dead for years and kids to be without their father. I fought for every minute for my boys. It's not even for me. I have a good life, love, friendship, hobbies, goals. It just kills me that my family tribe needed to be dissolved for my sanity. Custody trial in a month. I didn't want full custody, but given all I learned, it's best for the kids. I am lost in hope to proceed. I spoke to my local district attorney, the FBI.. I just want peace, and to provide the best for the kids. Mom and dad together would be best. Unfortunately I fight off constant allegations of abuse and neglect. Meanwhile my kids are in danger. I took a life insurance plan out with mom as beneficiary.... How do you let go of the mother of your children, for your own sake.... And unfortunately I feel I need to get them out too... Who am I to decide that? Your videos were great during my last break up. I am with a nice woman since. Very free. Decisions.
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This video came into my notifications this morning and just reminds me of those days when i was so desperately trying to get my ex back. That was 4 years ago. Since then i've grown so much and knows the essence of self love and self worth. You have been of enormous help during those days in trying to get me out of that dark phase. I remember listening to multiple of your videos all night long or whenever i needed some reassurance. Thank you so much Rory and keep up the good job ❤
I'm so glad to hear you're doing well!!
Same, except I'm a year and a half not 4yrs. I've moved, have a career now that I LOVE, and even though there are ups and downs things are ultimately better.
Dear Rory,
I needed this today. I know you don’t get to see the other side of many of your viewers. I have been listening to you for the last 4 months at least. Driving home from work, doing chores, taking a bath, going on a walk, going to sleep, crying in a private moment where nobody else sees, you have been there for me through your content.
Wholeheartedly thank you. You give logical, supportive, constructive advice and you have helped me with my journey of self restoration.
I am 7 months past a very difficult breakup, and I am still not “better”. But I am moving forward, and I can logically say that despite the awful pain, I have grown and I have become better for it; and while the end is unclear I feel like I am finally finding my path in life again.
“Human happiness is not accomplishing a goal it is striving towards one. Strive well.”
Thank you.
This comment made me smile! Thank you for all the kind words!!
“It's going to take time, you're going to feel frustration, you're going to doubt what I'm saying. You're going to doubt yourself. But if you stay consistent, against all odds, you will come out of this thing, much better, much happier, much healthier, and much more fulfilled.”
Exactly what I needed to hear. 😭 I am going through a very painful separation right now and it feels like the end of the world. What you have just said made me feel a lot better and gave me hope that one day, I will become happy again, even if it’s not with the same person. It’s just so painful, I want it to be over. 😭 I guess I just really have to trust the process and yes, stay consistent, against all odds. Thank you Rory!
I will use this as my wall paper: “STAY CONSISTENT, AGAINST ALL ODDS”
Getting dumped really has amplified all of my insecurities. I’m walking and exercising and grieving. I appreciate your support and advice.
100% right. I moved forward, became a better person and now dating a girl way better than my ex at all possible level. Do the work and grow guys, there is light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks Rory for the support, totally agree with you
Before you heal someone, ask him if he is willing to give up the thing that made him sick.
Guys and girls, keep the focus on yourself and let it hurt but then let it go. Thanks a lot Rory for another wonderful video💕
Well said!!
I started listening to you and this is my 8th month since my break up, moved on on the 5th month, yes no contact works, she reached out on the 6th month then disappeared but i didn't cared at all because there came a time that i dont want her back anymore, im busy focusing on my NCLEX have plans and set new goals already, ive been talking with people reconnected with my old highschool sweetheart and im getting back with my passion which is producing music and working on releasing a few songs soon, im still listening to your content for character development and it calms my soul, thank you so much Rory! Youre the MVP
Awesome!!! I want to hear those songs when they release!!
Dude you spoke my exact words
Dear Rory, a year ago I began listening to your channel in hope of getting my ex back. When you reiterated to invest in yourself, love yourself and you may eventually not even want him back. I could not believe it would be possible. Thanks for emphasizing the importance of turning your attention inward, it took time, lots of books , journaling, mediatating, and finally it all sunk in. I'm single now and happy that way. I've learned so much about my wounds and how that affected my relationships. Thank you for being a catalyst to my growth .
I loved this comment! Congratulations on all your success, Janet!!
When this was uploaded, I was really happy with my girlfriend and was not aware of this channel. But now she is my ex, and have been in no contact for the past 3 weeks starting my 4th. I am really missing her and really want to reach out even though she wanted to end things. At the same time I am thankful I have found this channel so I keep moving forward. The fact that she will eventually see someone else really hurts me, but that's life I guess.
Been almost 2 years already!?? Wow Rory I don't think anything I can type here would say enough. You saved me man.
You saved yourself!
I cried (in a good way). This message did cone to me when I needed it most. Especially you acknowledging the "I don't know if I'll find someone I'm attracted to again" thought. I've been worried about that. Thank you for making this content. Can't describe how much it's helped me hone in on and refocus what my priorities are to get me to a better place than I've ever been in my life. I have a long way to go until I'm the person I want to be, but I'm on the right path in becoming.
Breakups can be a great thing Mine was over 2 years ago I lost 50 pounds started dressing better and did so many new and fun things Yes it did hurt but I am so much better off now and have learned so much about me
I will never be sick of your voice, Rory!!! ❤️ you’re amazing, genuine, ridiculously smart, and your advice is golden!! I did not get my ex back but after putting in the work, I got myself back but a much healthier, smarter, and happier version. I will always appreciate each and every video you put out. It saved me and I know it will keep saving so many people. Thank you always my friend!!! 🙏🏼🥺❤️
You're so welcome!
This content is gold regardless of which phase we are in. Thank you Rory and glad to hear you are better!
Much appreciated!
I really appreciate you, Rory. You and the Dating Guy (long ago!) helped get me through my breakup in 2020. I'm now in my 2nd break up (same guy!! ugh), and I'm at that stage where I can't stop listening to your videos to get me through the night.
I'm looking forward to the day where I won't need to listen to The Love Chat anymore. But for now, thanks so much, Rory!
I can never get tired of the deep calm voice Rory
Rory you don’t even know how much you have helped people. You deserve a break and I wish you much success in all your endeavors.
Rory, I just wanted to thank you for keeping me sane over the past three months. Your videos are so soothing and I don't know what I would have done without them. I'm still struggling but I hope and I know that everything will be alright in the end. ❤️
I've found myself searching these videos again over a year on from my breakup, not for myself but to recommend them to my best friend who is struggling with her break up. This time last year I was completely broken and didn't know how to move forwards. My break up as given me a whole new strength and side of me I never knew I could be or feel. Started with all the ex back stuff then realised that I have so much for value and deserved so much better than what that idiot! Thank you Rory and The Love Chat community for all of your help. And to those struggling with a breakup right now, you are high value and to love yourself first. And prioritise being around your friends and people who won't break up with you.
Thank you so much Rory! You got me through some really hard times and I and many others are so blessed and lucky that someone like you is out there taking care of hearts and minds around the world.
Much love from Australia! You're a real one✨
I miss her, but I know it's going to be okay. It's been over a month, and I still feel like she was the best thing in my life. Even though I remember all the bad that happened I still think she was the one. But I know I need to move to chapter 2. haha
Not been here in a while now, you helped me during a time when i was barely surviving due to my break-up, basically 2 years later my ex actually contacted me.
the text was about how fucked up i am and manipulative, how great she is doing without me, and that she never wants to associate with me again, she isnt wrong in the sense that we truly were having a toxic relationship, especially since i hated myself my whole life and was diagnosed with a personality disorder later on when i put my ass through therapy. I dont really have something to say specifically, I am very thankful for you helping me self reflect and, understand relationships, love and boundaries better. i didnt answer her text, since she specifically said she didnt need a reply, however this time i expect to never hear from her again, and i think thats for the better, i have moved on in many ways, my past still tries to haunt me but i have become resilient knowing I'm not the same person i used to be. Anyway thanks
Love the part that you put in about your aren’t just saying this to make people feel better.
Rory and his channel really help me a lot when I went through my breakup. No contact does work on me, even thought I don’t hear my ex. When you work on yourself for a while, you don’t care about if your ex reaches out or not anymore. Listen to Rory 💯!
Thank you Rory I am still feeling really hurt and still love my ex but you are a national treasure without your help I would of broken no contact as it's been 73 days without txting or contacting her.
You got this!!
Thank you, Rory, for healing our hearts. Your videos and coaching in person were with me in a darkest moments and helped A LOT. Its so contructive and logical that my healing took me so much shorter time then could be. I know my worth now and its priceless knowledge. Thank you
You are very welcome!!
This is the best video I have seen on RUclips. Thank you so much for this. You are real and this helps me so much. Thank You
I ended my relationship with my ex, Bc the relationship was going downhill and I was getting stressed from the relationship, I was upset for a while because it had to end that way, over time I realized that I should be grateful Bc I had the experience and it was a matter of time and sooner the better 🙂
Thank you! This’s exactly what I’ve been needing to hear! It’s been almost 3months since the break up and just about a week since I ceased complete communications with her … Each day that goes by is so difficult! But I’m finally realizing what she meant by telling me she needed space. Hopefully it’s not too late (I made every mistake possible after a breakup). I’m gonna continue holding onto the hope we will get back together… But I also know that this is the best thing that could’ve happened for us. We both need help and we both need to become better people for both each other and ourselves.
Thank you Rory it’s a tough night for me in regards to not giving in to reaching out. It’s been since December before Christmas that we talked. So about a month and a half of NC. I gotta keep listening and I know I can do this but I’m in deep, and yes it sucks and I worry if I will ever see him again. Thank you for not telling us some bullshit to move on or that the pain goes away, it’s about using that pain for something better. I am but for gods sake I just want my ex to contact me. I hate that I can have anyone else but him.
Stay strong!! You got this, just give it some time.
@@TheLoveChat thanks so much I will stay strong I promised myself and it helps hearing that you came out of this horrible experience yourself thanks again Rory I will come out of this thing more fulfilled you’re right
@@Moonstruck292 Hey there, just dropping in to ask how you have been doing in the past 8 months? Hope everything is going well in the present!
Hey everyone! Rory is 100% right. In 2019, I was ghosted and dumped by my ex who told me she “ loves” me. It was difficult ( emotionally) for the first few months, but I stuck to it, kept on going, prayed, trusted God and today I am with an amazing woman! The experience made me a much wiser and stronger man. Don’t give up my friends, it will get MUCH better with time. God bless you all.
Listening to this makes me feel like someone knows what i'm going through. Especially when the rejection which making me feel pained and this thing drives me to prove that i'm not that bad/worthless to be left behind, but suddenly he has a new date, and he treated his new date better than when he was with me it made me feel insecure and start to compare myself with the girl, compare our past relationship with his new relationship. Hence i feel so so scared to coexist with my ex's new life. But when i realize that i'm fearing something means i'm avoiding to face the truth of my pain, though it was just a lie i tell to myself, it would make me feel devastated if i accept that underlying belief i had no idea about. Now i'm trying to find clarity for my heartbreak, that's why i'm here.
Even computers have to be updated from time to time for it to become faster, efficient and more responsive and with lot of memory but still not overwhelmed.
Great video! Straight-to-the-point information. Provided much help...Keep them coming!👍
After 1+ year of breakup I didn't move on with someone else and sometimes i still think about her, but i don't want her back and i am happy but I am scared to move on, i don't want to get hurt.
Well, I've learnt a lot from you Rory, TDG and a couple more and I wanted the next one to be the last.. or actually i didn't intend to have a next one.. anyways, I'm back again to see what I did wrong, much love ❤
Thank you. Just when i needed it.
Thank you
Man I needed this today
Love you, dude
what a video; true goat
happy new year to you from barbados. dam roy your right on the money with this post.
Thank you Rory !
My pleasure!
😘👍👍💌💋💯👌 thank you so much for your advice !! Want you to know you are very much appreciated.
Gold 🙏🏻
No, you!
You know what, ya it was my fault and I emotionally exhausted my ex, but no one can tell me I didn’t treat her like any man should. I loved her, encouraged her, supported her choices and passions, always reminded her she was beautiful, gave her the love and validation any man should give their girl, bought her gifts and made her feel special, and she seriously can’t handle me at my lowest time, while I stuck through hers; then fuck her, she broke up with me KNOWING I have bad social anxiety and it was my first day of my senior year of collage. She’s so selfish becsuse she gets a new fresh start at a new university a couple weeks after I started, she broke up to move on as quickly as possible with her new friends etc. and left me in the dust. I don’t need her, I am already three steps ahead of her, I’m on top, I’m getting in shape, have an awesome new job for the holidays, I will jump out of this hole she digged me in, she’s not gonna win.
I have to give up on the mother of my children. I think I improved myself 3 fold. She's wanted me dead for years and kids to be without their father. I fought for every minute for my boys. It's not even for me. I have a good life, love, friendship, hobbies, goals. It just kills me that my family tribe needed to be dissolved for my sanity. Custody trial in a month. I didn't want full custody, but given all I learned, it's best for the kids. I am lost in hope to proceed. I spoke to my local district attorney, the FBI.. I just want peace, and to provide the best for the kids. Mom and dad together would be best. Unfortunately I fight off constant allegations of abuse and neglect. Meanwhile my kids are in danger. I took a life insurance plan out with mom as beneficiary.... How do you let go of the mother of your children, for your own sake.... And unfortunately I feel I need to get them out too... Who am I to decide that? Your videos were great during my last break up. I am with a nice woman since. Very free. Decisions.
It's been 2 years i am in new relationship but i miss my ex a lot i don't know what should i do ??
I just viewed my ex story by mistake after 2 months of no contact 🙂🙂🙂🙂
It's okay! Forgive yourself!!