How to STOP being messy WITHOUT working harder!

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  • Опубликовано: 27 май 2024
  • Are you stuck in the cycle of cleaning and tidying your home, just for it to get messy again? The REAL REASON your home isn't staying tidy and always seems messy is not what you think! You are NOT lazy, in fact, you are probably a perfectionist!
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  • @judithhawkins1126
    @judithhawkins1126 3 месяца назад +338

    I’m 77 and you have inspired me to declutter before I croak🤪. So even my 83 year hubby is impressed with the organization you taught me. Thank you!

    • @user-fv7jh8pp9l
      @user-fv7jh8pp9l 3 месяца назад +35

      Love your comment and resemble it (76 here but no hubby or help) spent the first 60 years gathering stuff hope to spent the next 60? getting rid of it.

    • @brendatomlinson
      @brendatomlinson 3 месяца назад +31

      You ladies inspire me! I’m 61 (62? I forget) and feel like I’m late to the party. But it’s never too late to start!

    • @jamiejoygatto
      @jamiejoygatto 3 месяца назад +18

      I am proud of you!

    • @KSLassie457
      @KSLassie457 3 месяца назад +20

      @@brendatomlinson
      Brenda, 66 here and I have been struggling to get started with decluttering my small home for about 3 years now. I am more determined than ever to make as much progress as possible in 2024. Wishing you can succeed this year also!
      Declutter More in ‘24!❤

    • @marilynndesilva7620
      @marilynndesilva7620 3 месяца назад +27

      I'll be 80 this year. After dealing with my mother's home when she passed I swore I wouldn't inflict the same on my children. Mom was a typical American consumer who acquired way more stuff than was necessary. (How many pairs of shoes with matching handbags does one woman need!?!) Not only have I done my kids a favor, but I've also made my own life easier by eliminating anything that wasn't useful or meaningful.

  • @ChelWagz
    @ChelWagz 3 месяца назад +331

    "Done today is better than perfect tomorrow". That hit me! excellent advice for recovering perfectionists.

  • @MarielaMerino
    @MarielaMerino 3 месяца назад +194

    "be crappier" this is my motto for 2024 😅

  • @ingaredd4671
    @ingaredd4671 3 месяца назад +131

    Sister, you have saved my mental health and life IN 10 minutes.! If you never make another video, this is all we need, LITERALLY ❤😮😮

    • @drvidhyan
      @drvidhyan 2 месяца назад

      😮😮😂😂😂

    • @sarasohail2918
      @sarasohail2918 2 месяца назад +1

      That's true I m feeling like you are talking about me😢

  • @MrsAlmaTrumble
    @MrsAlmaTrumble 3 месяца назад +239

    You're not lazy, you're energy efficient.

    • @jenniferpearce1052
      @jenniferpearce1052 3 месяца назад +29

      Can I get an Energy Star label?

    • @MrsAlmaTrumble
      @MrsAlmaTrumble 3 месяца назад +6

      @@jenniferpearce1052 lol, me too.

    • @Sorchia56
      @Sorchia56 3 месяца назад +4

      Love it! 😂😂😂

    • @Sorchia56
      @Sorchia56 3 месяца назад +4

      @@MrsAlmaTrumble🌟

    • @MrsAlmaTrumble
      @MrsAlmaTrumble 3 месяца назад +3

      @@Sorchia56 thank you.

  • @nontypicalwyominite
    @nontypicalwyominite 3 месяца назад +131

    My daughter calls it “Obsessive Compulsive Distracted Cleaning Disorder”😂
    I can’t just clean the glass on the table without going through my jewelry box in the closet.

    • @JessicaOrban3606
      @JessicaOrban3606 3 месяца назад +6

      😂

    • @jamiejoygatto
      @jamiejoygatto 3 месяца назад +4

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @WholeFoodSpark
      @WholeFoodSpark 3 месяца назад +24

      Exactly. ADHD brain = one small task turns into a full day of cleaning. Lol

    • @loriwald9532
      @loriwald9532 3 месяца назад +9

      OMG! Tell your daughter I wrote this quote down and am going to read it before I do a 10 min declutter or cleaning task each day! It will get me started with a laugh but also remind me that this is who I tend to be and it will trigger in my mind to stay focused on my one goal. ❤😂😅

    • @shellc3509
      @shellc3509 3 месяца назад +3

      😂😂😂 Love this comment!

  • @kayellejay9608
    @kayellejay9608 3 месяца назад +63

    Watched 2 minutes of this video paused and scrubbed my shower for 10 minutes. It's not perfect but it's a lot cleaner than it was.
    Thanks Cass.

  • @karynstouffer3562
    @karynstouffer3562 3 месяца назад +72

    Perfection paralysis is a real thing.
    I feel that so hard. I can hear my mom, in the back of my head, micromanaging my every "cleaning" action. I become frozen with fear of disappointing her, and she's been gone for nearly 21 years.😢

    • @user-fv7jh8pp9l
      @user-fv7jh8pp9l 3 месяца назад +6

      So you're saying she still lives with you but she doesn't live with you...I've been there.

    • @Meltigger
      @Meltigger 3 месяца назад +11

      I so get this. I struggle too with chronic stuff and the voice of a well-meaning mother who has crushed me with her barrage of cleaning help videos, blogs, tiktoks until I finally had to say stop it because you are hurting me. Thankfully she has but the damage is done of never feeling good enough. Amazing how these things can imbed so deep. Hugs to you and know you have a friend overcoming with you. I am perfectly imperfect.

    • @brendatomlinson
      @brendatomlinson 3 месяца назад +12

      OMG yes! My hypercritical mom lives in my head and she’s been dead since 1991!! I took the opposite route of her and became a slob. I’m now trying to change my ways. I’m working hard with the Take Your House Back program, my Christmas gift to me.

    • @karynstouffer3562
      @karynstouffer3562 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Meltigger 💓

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +10

      I think you'll find embracing good enough more liberating than you can imagine. Just keep practicing good enough. One day, you'll breathe a sigh of relief.

  • @mlm85000
    @mlm85000 3 месяца назад +48

    From one recovering perfectionist to another: Done is better than perfect!

  • @kmac7255
    @kmac7255 3 месяца назад +77

    This perfectionist is hearing "whole-ass your half-assing for a while and see how that goes" and I can get behind that!

  • @lillianmartinez1593
    @lillianmartinez1593 3 месяца назад +96

    OMG! A zoom make over!! Wow!
    Honestly, I don't understand why you're not on HGTV!! They are missing the boat on this!! I loved your show, and I am sure that millions of others loved it too!! Thanks for the kick in the butt! You know me too well!! TFS! 💕🌴😎

    • @MrsAlmaTrumble
      @MrsAlmaTrumble 3 месяца назад +4

      They lost out on her and another RUclipsr I watch. Both of them appeared on HGTV.

    • @scattyfi
      @scattyfi 3 месяца назад +13

      I only saw a couple of episodes that people posted on here ages ago (think they got taken down) but because I'm in the UK they just weren't available to watch anywhere & I know all us Clutterbugs on this side of the pond really wanted to see them! Cas is absolutely right, who needs some money making corporate media? Cas can do exactly the same on here & I bet it'll be even better because it won't be set up like a show & Cas can totally be herself! I bet she got told "you can't say that on TV!" a few times on the show 😆

    • @meganfitzpatrick1019
      @meganfitzpatrick1019 3 месяца назад +8

      She was on HGTV! It was an awesome show, too!!!

  • @michellefonville5326
    @michellefonville5326 3 месяца назад +34

    Perfection Paralysis Is So Real!!!

  • @kimreed2489
    @kimreed2489 3 месяца назад +49

    This was very encouraging! I'm struggling with several chronic health conditions, so on some days, just doing the basics is a challenge. I realized I've been beating myself up for the times I don't make it to doing 'above and beyond'', but I feel like I can breathe now and dare I say even feel proud that the basics are done every day even if I feel lousy? On my better days, I have been thinking of all these deep cleaning projects instead of breaking it down into doable steps, and yup, perfectionism paralysis is very real! Thanks, Cas!

    • @jamiejoygatto
      @jamiejoygatto 3 месяца назад +6

      Same! Chronic pain from autoimmune disorders. Ugh. I here you. I am still keeping my home "like a magazine" because decor/antiques/blah blah blah are my passions. Got rid of a WHOLE lot over the past six months. I just want to be ready for days ahead when I can no longer do all this. Take good care!

    • @karrieneal4484
      @karrieneal4484 3 месяца назад +4

      Completely sympathize, and understand with you both. Not just mentally driving myself crazy about wanting things Perfect but yet absolutely paralyzed. when I do attempt at cleaning, can only do so much due to multiple health reasons. My heart breaks & truly am sorry for anyone that has health issues on top of dealing with “ Paralyzed perfectionism” 🙄

    • @kimreed2489
      @kimreed2489 3 месяца назад +4

      @@jamiejoygatto, thank you so much! I know it's hard to balance taking care of our homes and ourselves when facing these challenges. Best wishes to you as well!

    • @kimreed2489
      @kimreed2489 3 месяца назад

      @@karrieneal4484, I hope you can give yourself some grace. :) I pray your health situation improves!

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +4

      You're welcome!

  • @tngirlz4622
    @tngirlz4622 3 месяца назад +52

    Quoting Cass here: “If it’s worth doing, it’s worth half-asking!” A-MEN, sister. Here I am half-assing along with you. Is my house spotless, tidy, and mother-in-law inspection ready? Nope. Are we buried in dust, dirty dishes, and clutter? Also nope. I would put that quote on a plaque to hang in my kitchen, but the adorable wooden letters and plaque bases are all buried in a pile of craft supplies in the basement. 😁 Thank you for your sage advice!

    • @jamiejoygatto
      @jamiejoygatto 3 месяца назад +6

      Seems like you know where you need to start your next half-assed project! DECLUTTERING THE BASEMENT!! 😄😄😄

    • @marlenelieb5935
      @marlenelieb5935 3 месяца назад +5

      Hey, not doing that craft project is not making a mess. That's a win.

    • @cb9825
      @cb9825 3 месяца назад +4

      ​@@jamiejoygatto maybe not like a full basement declutter, but a little half-assed declutter😂also using up some wooden letters will make the stash smaller, so the mess will be smaller too! 👌

    • @jamiejoygatto
      @jamiejoygatto 3 месяца назад

      Like Cas says, "I hope you suck at this." heehee Good Luck and I am proud of you. @@cb9825

    • @carmenhastings9875
      @carmenhastings9875 3 месяца назад +2

      Yes 🙌🏽 decluttering the wooden letters… thats a WIN 🎉 🏆

  • @messily1456
    @messily1456 3 месяца назад +16

    “Done today is better than perfect tomorrow.” 🤯

  • @aurorabella2000
    @aurorabella2000 3 месяца назад +40

    Omg !! Everything you said describes me to a T!! This is a great video so helpful !! I blame a lot of that perfectionist attitude I get from my mom who keeps a tidy and organized home !! So I swear I’m spending my life trying to keep things always tidy !! It’s exhausting 😅 So thank you for your wise words!!! ❤❤❤

  • @claradontcara
    @claradontcara 3 месяца назад +27

    Bwahahaaahahahaaaaaa when you said that we could "shove our tea towels in our kitchen drawers without folding" I almost fell out of my chair. I NEVER fold stuff in my drawers and I always feel so GUILTY about it!

    • @LaJuana558
      @LaJuana558 3 месяца назад +7

      And I went into a panic over it! What, I could never not fold my towels and fold them precisely… which is apparently causing a problem for me. 😂😂😂

    • @CheriJ11
      @CheriJ11 3 месяца назад +12

      I gasped! I could not stuff my tea towels in a drawer without folding them first. I would lose sleep over a thing like that. 😅

    • @lauriepowell3959
      @lauriepowell3959 3 месяца назад +1

      I don’t have problem with tea towels because. I hang them on hooks by the loop/label that’s usually on them. If not, I snap a cafe curtain ring on them and hang them on the hooks with the others. They live on my door to garage, which isn’t too far to manage.
      Now, I DO have a messy linen closet problem.
      I am a butterfly 🦋 so I took the door off it long ago and have a curtain tied back instead. I am now trying to half neatly stuff the bottom sheet in a pillow case so it is all together…and so they don’t fall off the shelves. I don’t even use top sheets so those are folded on top shelf and available to use as curtains, tablecloths, etc.
      Thanks for the “don’t fold them anymore” hint. 👍👍

    • @Nancy-hf6mt
      @Nancy-hf6mt 23 дня назад +1

      My daughter stuffs, I pull it out and fold. Then I worry about what will happen to her when I pass on

    • @claradontcara
      @claradontcara 22 дня назад

      @@Nancy-hf6mt I think My mom was the same way!!!!! She fretted about my non-folding ways!

  • @catherinelain1370
    @catherinelain1370 3 месяца назад +27

    Yes, I am an “all or nothing” person. Perfectionist. I have been working on myself for years. When I go to clean a room, I want to it too top to bottom. I have made myself just do the perimeter and surfaces around stuff. Once I got all the rooms decluttered and in order, I have no problem keeping it that way now. But it used to be messy everywhere. I used to start over writing a post it note at work if I made a mistake. Now I just scratch through the mistake and keep writing. That was very hard to do but now it is easy. Decluttering my house was key so I thank you CAS because you are the one who started me on that journey. ❤

    • @jacinthiajones7346
      @jacinthiajones7346 3 месяца назад

      Goodness, I didn't realize I was a perfectionist until seeing this video. And then your comment about the post it notes! I go through four or five post it notes just writing a simple reminder to myself -- because it has to be perfect. I've got work to do!

  • @tgayer1
    @tgayer1 3 месяца назад +10

    You cracked me up when you whispered “sorry “.😂😂😂

  • @user-nv7rz1bz7w
    @user-nv7rz1bz7w 3 месяца назад +18

    I am 68. I grew up being told, "If a job is worth doing, it's worth doing RIGHT." I never felt like I was doing it right. Add that to ADHD freeze, and there's a LOT that has gone undone far too long. I cannot put my towels or silverware away and let the cupboard or drawer not look perfect. As each of my parents passed, both in different states, their stuff has ended up in and all over my house. I'm drowning in a giant mish mash pile.

    • @mheninger99
      @mheninger99 3 месяца назад +5

      Slow and steady you'll get there...

    • @user-nv7rz1bz7w
      @user-nv7rz1bz7w 3 месяца назад +3

      @mheninger99 I'm trying to keep that mindset. The hardest part is starting. I don't even want to see it lol I'm a sentimental keeper, as were my parents. I try to pretend I'm someone else 😏

    • @MaryKane-qv5vz
      @MaryKane-qv5vz 2 месяца назад

      I have a large bag of ornaments wrapped and ready for the charity shop. If I died tomorrow these items would end up being thrown in the bin. I have way too much anyway and I am happy, at my age, to let the go.

  • @dia9491
    @dia9491 3 месяца назад +4

    Love that scene where you’re pushing the pj’s into the drawer. You had that sneaky smile, like you’re in the know and it cracked me up beyond belief lol😂😂😂😂

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @meganfitzpatrick1019
    @meganfitzpatrick1019 3 месяца назад +16

    Lowering your expectations is brilliant!!! Makes life SO much easier!!! 💕

  • @Lashlove16
    @Lashlove16 3 месяца назад +14

    This video is the best one ever ..I wished I had seen it 30 years ago ……. This explains exactly who I am . I had to realize this 8 years ago on my own
    I dump my freshly washed underwear in a drawer compartment…I don’t fold

    • @sgallant2107
      @sgallant2107 3 месяца назад

      I think it was Heloise II who said there is no point in folding your underwear. Wasted effort!

  • @ccsimonds9590
    @ccsimonds9590 3 месяца назад +11

    Mine is always messy because those living in my house mess everything up faster than I can clean it up.

    • @joannawhite1441
      @joannawhite1441 3 месяца назад

      Same! Three males with adhd and I just can’t keep up. My husband tries but his brain just can’t be organized.

    • @joannawhite1441
      @joannawhite1441 3 месяца назад

      Same! Three males with adhd and I just can’t keep up. My husband tries but his brain just can’t be organized.

    • @joannawhite1441
      @joannawhite1441 3 месяца назад

      Same! Three males with adhd and I just can’t keep up. My husband tries but his brain just can’t be organized.

    • @joannawhite1441
      @joannawhite1441 3 месяца назад

      Same! Three males with adhd and I just can’t keep up. My husband tries but his brain just can’t be organized.

    • @joannawhite1441
      @joannawhite1441 3 месяца назад

      Same! Three males with adhd and I just can’t keep up. My husband tries but his brain just can’t be organized.

  • @sandyrice3559
    @sandyrice3559 3 месяца назад +9

    This totally resonates with me, but it goes against everything that was pounded into my head growing up. I now have a new mantra... "Half-ass is better than not at all". Maybe if I repeat it a million times it'll click!

  • @LivingVintageAndHandmade
    @LivingVintageAndHandmade 3 месяца назад +11

    This is ME in a NUTSHELL! Thank you Cass for permission to not wait until I can do it "perfectly"!💗

  • @lmullens75
    @lmullens75 3 месяца назад +12

    Oh my gosh Cass, this is for me! I’ve been doing counseling for anxiety, and it turns out it’s not, it’s ADHD, and I’ve been labeled type a and a perfectionist… I’ve actually started doing stuff more sloppy, and just attempting to conquer the clutter and little baby steps and it’s helping.

    • @brendatomlinson
      @brendatomlinson 3 месяца назад

      Hey sister, turns out mine is ADHD too! 👊🏻

  • @ladyb5888
    @ladyb5888 3 месяца назад +18

    LOVE YOU CAS! We appreciate you so much! ❤

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      Thank you so much!!

  • @liquidgoldpictures
    @liquidgoldpictures 3 месяца назад +4

    THIS IS BASICALLY FREE LIFE ADVICE - NOT ONLY FOR DECLUTTERING AND DOING HOUSEWORK! You broke it down just so beautifully! Thank you for all your amaze-balls videos :D XX

  • @lina_mityukova
    @lina_mityukova 3 месяца назад +10

    I'd like to submit for this zoom session, but I realize I have already decluttered and organized SO much thanks to you! But this is one great opportunity, and I'm looking forward to seeing the video of someone's house's makeover!

  • @sheryllknapp9803
    @sheryllknapp9803 3 месяца назад +8

    Cas, you understand the overwhelmed 🦋🐝 SO well! That's why I've subscribed to your channel for years! ❤

  • @meriawakened
    @meriawakened 3 месяца назад +6

    I tell myself to do "good enough". One way I cheat is give myself 5 seconds to fold each piece of laundry. Then I immediately put it away. That keeps me from having clean laundry pile up.

  • @adriennebradywalker680
    @adriennebradywalker680 3 месяца назад +5

    I know this is great advice and so true! What is also true is I see the mess, and I just don't wanna...🤣

    • @user-md4yo7ei6e
      @user-md4yo7ei6e 3 месяца назад

      Yes that's me 😂 let's try a crappier 10 minutes 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      You've got this!

    • @adriennebradywalker680
      @adriennebradywalker680 3 месяца назад

      @@Clutterbug Thankfully, most of the time, things are totally fine! Other times I legit just ignore. I'm a teacher and theatre technical director. I am up at 430, and don't get home until 530 (or later). During the week, home is just a place to sleep. 🤷🏼‍♀️ The husband and teenager are the ones that need to look around a little harder sometimes, *lol*.

  • @mckenzielynntozanwrites
    @mckenzielynntozanwrites 3 месяца назад +11

    "Basically what I'm saying is, 'BE CRAPPIER.'" 😂😂😂❤

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      Do it!! It's great! WE can be craptastic together!

  • @kimberlydavisson6634
    @kimberlydavisson6634 3 месяца назад +10

    Thank you, Cas, for this post. I needed to hear that. I spent all of 2022 recovering from near death. Most of 2023 overcompensating for 2022 until I got sick again. I am on the OCD side of perfectionism. My mother believed being in 2nd place was no more than the first loser. I have been striving for perfection ever since. Yet, everything I've ever learned has come to me from a mistake I've made. As 2024 rolled in I gave up. Tomorrow, in 15-minute intervals, I am taking the garbage bag around the house and tossing stuff. I've had a memory bin for years that will be coming with me. Please keep this kind of content coming--you are a great cheerleader!

  • @hyppomaniaa
    @hyppomaniaa 3 месяца назад +1

    your work is life changing. I've cried to your videos so many times.

  • @LyrasStitchery
    @LyrasStitchery 3 месяца назад +6

    I purchased a pot rack for my cupboard and I feel a lot stressed knowing I can pull out a pot or pan and not have an avalanche falling out of cupboard.
    Sometimes my dishes are still a little wet when I put them in the cupboard.

  • @jknallen
    @jknallen 3 месяца назад +6

    OMG!!!! This video is me! I absolutely feel like if I’m not going to do it all correctly and the way I want it why start. But then I never have the time to spend to do it that way. I’ll have to take your advice and try to be crappier!! 😊 maybe just getting 10 minutes of stuff I don’t need out of my house a day will eventually add up to making a difference. Maybe I’ll try one box/bag a day. Here’s hoping. This was a great video!

  • @seralynn7286
    @seralynn7286 3 месяца назад +2

    I'm sure this is true for a lot of people. But what if you really are just very lazy? I can never seem to start on anything -- I can't even get myself to go to bed on time, even when I actually notice that it's getting to be about that time and I need to wrap up what I'm doing. When I do start on something, I rarely finish it. I'm trying to do better in 2024, and I'll try to apply some of these tips to my own life. I'll practice lazily doing things as I'm walking from one part of the house to the other 😅

  • @tokelothabane6721
    @tokelothabane6721 3 месяца назад +2

    Not you flogging that plant😂😂😂

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад

      Oh, I'm flogging it!

  • @marleenduggan377
    @marleenduggan377 3 месяца назад +1

    The "It's ok to suck" really hit home for me... Trying hard to teach my kids (7 & 9) to keep things a little less tornado-like. I need to let them suck at keeping things tidy and I need to be ok with it. Love your work!

  • @evalindell2757
    @evalindell2757 3 месяца назад +4

    😂 My dog peed on the livingroom floor yesterday and I not only dried that up but I vacuumed the entire room, moved couches and took all trimning as well. Then I cleaned the floor before putting the couches etc. back. 😂 Even I felt it was a little over the top but how nice it is to have a clean livingroom! 🫣😬

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +2

      Embrace good enough! Thoroughly clean up the pee, then go back to what you were doing prior to the piddle.

  • @adena1122
    @adena1122 3 месяца назад +3

    Haha! Thanks for making me feel better and keeping it real! It's okay to not be perfect, get rid of crap and shove the crap we keep outta sight. I can't do it all at once and that's okay

  • @deloreshall5459
    @deloreshall5459 3 месяца назад +5

    Hey Cass. Thanks for the peptalk. Recovering perfectionist. Organization and decluttering journey been going on for a while. I have occassional relapses of perfectionism. Needed this reset tonight. Love ya. You should still be on HGTV. ❤❤❤❤

  • @melodysmith9163
    @melodysmith9163 Месяц назад

    Oh my goodness girl. Thank you, you have just encouraged me to stop beating myself up. Low expectations is my new thing.

  • @suzisaintjames
    @suzisaintjames 3 месяца назад +2

    I believe that if I ask for a certain level of clean and tidy of my family, that it's a matter of respecting me and my husband's home. After all my kids live in our house. They need to take care of their rooms as well as common areas to our standards. Once they move to their own homes, they get to make their own standards. But mark my words, there will not be half eaten, moldy sandwiches under my kids beds, in my home! Seriously, how do you teach self discipline if you don't set standards and boundaries?
    Now, my husband is expected to keep common areas tidy to my standards, as it's a matter of respecting me, as I am a work from home mom, (and because I never put his things where he can find them, when I tidy for him...🤫). He's responsible for cleaning his man cave, but the messy level is up to him, as long as he keeps the door closed (and there's no foul odors wafting from under the door). 💖🌞🌵😷

  • @Angebaby1237
    @Angebaby1237 3 месяца назад +14

    ❤❤❤Cas I love you…….I was soooo nervous to watch this weeks video….but I have never felt good about my messy home as I have in this moment!!! This video is incredibly motivating!! I can’t even wait for the video to end. I’m stopping it here and I’ll come back to it!!!
    Thank you!!!!! ❤❤❤

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +2

      You're so welcome!

  • @erinespinosa9739
    @erinespinosa9739 3 месяца назад +10

    Cass I just want to let you know that you and Dawn literally changed my life!
    I started watching your guy's videos about 5 years ago. Did not take action for months, but got really excited. I was literally like that women's kitchen you did, who's house looked great. My house is 4000 sq ft and EVERY closet, drawer, cupboard, under beds .. was jam packed with garbage,junk, nothing had a home...... We have a s cond garage that was floor to ceiling and you had to climb mountains to get to anything!
    I have spent 4 years, got rid of about 50-60 percent of all of our belongings. I have a confession to make though:
    My ADHD brain just can't get my house beautifully organized, so I have hired an organizer to work with me for 30 hours,! Don't judge me!

    • @user-nv7rz1bz7w
      @user-nv7rz1bz7w 3 месяца назад +1

      No judgement here!!!

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +4

      I'm not judging, I'm so happy for you! NEVER be ashamed of getting extra help. That is a beautiful form of self love!

    • @user-gu1dd6dh8u
      @user-gu1dd6dh8u 3 месяца назад +1

      That is great, you did awsome, you did everything you could on your own, and than got profesional help to do the rest. You should be proud of yourself!

    • @user-gu1dd6dh8u
      @user-gu1dd6dh8u 3 месяца назад

      That is great, you did awsome, you did everything you could on your own, and than got profesional help to do the rest. You should be proud of yourself!

    • @user-gu1dd6dh8u
      @user-gu1dd6dh8u 3 месяца назад

      That is great, you did awsome, you did everything you could on your own, and than got profesional help to do the rest. You should be proud of yourself!

  • @elizabethsydnor5247
    @elizabethsydnor5247 3 месяца назад +2

    Omg! The zoom makeover is GENIUS!!!

  • @Scrappicat
    @Scrappicat 3 месяца назад +1

    I'm 54 and just found out I have ADHD. What a revelation. Everything I did in the past makes sense now. The pile of clothes on the bench at the end of the bed makes sense now. There are periods of it being clear but I can't seem to put it all away every day. My craft room is perfectly organized with nothing out of place. Everything is meticulously organized in there, yet I can't seem to keep coffee table clear of junk. How many times has someone said they're be there in 15 minutes and suddenly all surfaces are clear and clean? Don't look at the bag in the closet that I threw the junk into. Lol. I can't be the only one.

  • @LoveableNiki
    @LoveableNiki 3 месяца назад +4

    What is Cass's background???? She reads me in these videos. 😂😭

  • @EverydayBucketList
    @EverydayBucketList 3 месяца назад

    “Time consuming crazy pants-ness.” 😂 I realized that I didn’t really have a lot of clutter, I just didn’t put things away in the moment.

  • @ashblack4351
    @ashblack4351 3 месяца назад +2

    "Be crappier" Best video ever! Yes analysis paralysis the struggle is real! Thank you so much. I love your channel. I think this is really gonna help

  • @naelakhikmiah-yq5js
    @naelakhikmiah-yq5js 2 месяца назад

    I love your vibe😂 feel like "thanks sis, nice talking to you."

  • @debbiev.1311
    @debbiev.1311 3 месяца назад +1

    The struggle of "Perfection Paralysis" is real...I'm in recovery!! Thanks Cas for your inspiration!! ❤️🤗 Love your Virtual Makeover plans...I'm just not that brave yet to show the world, but I'll be watching the others who are as you help them!! 😘

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      You're so welcome!

  • @richellescheepers2453
    @richellescheepers2453 3 месяца назад

    MOST LIFE CHANGING MESSAGE EVERRR 😂

  • @EBouleyPhotos
    @EBouleyPhotos 3 месяца назад

    My father would say, "Your house is a reflection of who you are. If it's messy, then you are lazy and dirty."
    Breaking out of that mindset has been so hard.
    His high expectations of how we cleaned were so damaging, and I'm struggling with it today.
    Thanks to your channel and other ones, I've started my own journey and not been as hard on myself.

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      Wow...there is so much to unpack here! I'm happy to hear you are shifting this thought process. I've worked with hundreds of families who struggle with a messy home and almost ALL of them are just putting way too much pressure on themselves and expecting way too much...it really does cause paralysis.

    • @EBouleyPhotos
      @EBouleyPhotos 3 месяца назад

      @@Clutterbug thank you! Years of therapy and baby steps.

  • @nishas6110
    @nishas6110 2 месяца назад

    Your fern at the background is a beauty

  • @oopurpledove
    @oopurpledove 3 месяца назад +5

    Thank you for being so real 🙏

  • @elisebb3765
    @elisebb3765 3 месяца назад

    Thank you, Cas, for this encouragement! I find that when I have too much on my plate to do, I tend to shut down and do almost nothing. Well, here goes "Crappier!!!"

  • @josephdaly2015
    @josephdaly2015 3 месяца назад +1

    “15 minutes at a time” with a timer. “Expectations set too high” for yourself and family, this is real and we won’t even start with the resentment. Omg have you been in my house??? 😂 Lowering the expectations with 3 non negotiable things to do. Thanks for giving us permission to not be perfect. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👏💪👍💐🙏

  • @a1waystreet597
    @a1waystreet597 3 месяца назад +3

    You are a clutter lightening bug. So positive. Thank you✌️

  • @abbym3915
    @abbym3915 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for this reminder.
    I'm also finding it helpful to see taking care of my home as an extension of self-care; taking care of my space as a way of taking care of myself.

  • @azlizzie
    @azlizzie 3 месяца назад

    My boss gave me an interesting gift a couple weeks ago. I had a task I had to revamp in very little time. He paused me and my perfectionism and asked, “How would a lazy person do this? Like what’s the easiest way to just get it done?” And… I used it for another task this week and it’s surprisingly freeing to think about it that way. I relayed it to mom and she said, “KISS.” We know. We all know. And yet the perfectionism holds us back.

  • @GirlConfident
    @GirlConfident 3 месяца назад

    You just read me all my rights. And also, my whole being rebelled when you spoke about not having to do things well. All I heard in my head was, “the way you do one this is the way you do everything.” 🥴
    Yes, I HATE housework 😂

  • @stefs3460
    @stefs3460 3 месяца назад +1

    I'm a perfectionist that is the daughter of an ultra perfectionist. When my dad does house remodeling he takes forever because he is such a perfectionist about things that no one sees. We got to where when he would notice a tiny imperfect before he would try to make it perfect we would say "no no we like it that way! It adds character!"

  • @londonliving-music899
    @londonliving-music899 3 месяца назад +1

    This is spot on - as of tomorrow my home is going to be tidier/cleaner - just a bit 😬

  • @dedestaggs5093
    @dedestaggs5093 27 дней назад

    I got it drilled into my brain as a kid to "do it right the first time"

  • @coolmammavaterlaus360
    @coolmammavaterlaus360 3 месяца назад +1

    "Crazy-pants-ness" 😍 I love it!

  • @LydiaR418
    @LydiaR418 3 месяца назад +1

    Lol that look at the camera at 01:47 reminds me of my toddler doing something he's not supposed to! 😂thank you for restoring hope!!

  • @AxSDenied464
    @AxSDenied464 3 месяца назад

    “Magical things happen when you suck a little bit” 🤣😂🤣 I’m trying to undo the 2 decades of undiagnosed ADHD impulse shopping damage. Now that I know why I am the way I am, I’ve been watching decluttering vids and actually managed to get rid of 5 large size garbage bags of crap. Doesn’t look like I did anything but I know I did so it feels good! I’m more conscious of what I’m bringing into the house. There’s no room for anything so if something is coming in here, it’s gotta be a necessity and not just “it was pretty and shiny” 🤣

  • @sgallant2107
    @sgallant2107 3 месяца назад +1

    My standards had to drop, due to chronic illness. Letting go of perfection isn't comfortable, but the expectations are far more reasonable.

  • @mrssmurf55
    @mrssmurf55 3 месяца назад +3

    Thanks for this video exhausted after work and the whole house needs hoovering and floors washed and was thinking i shouldn't use the cordless hoover cos it doesn't hoover as well as my corded one so procrastinating even starting this video gave me permission to just do a quick hoover better half done than not.

  • @LettingLoose_NJ
    @LettingLoose_NJ 3 месяца назад +1

    OMG I was just thinking of having you come to my home to HELP! But why not virtual…Amazeballs!

  • @donnasnuggs910
    @donnasnuggs910 3 месяца назад

    My favourite is slap-dusting the plant with a rag.

  • @Flowerchild782
    @Flowerchild782 3 месяца назад

    OMG! You slapping that plant with a towel was way funnier than it should have been! 😂

  • @hudakhamis72
    @hudakhamis72 3 месяца назад

    This definitely hit home.. i have few ‘perfect drawers’ and the rest…😂

  • @PhoebesWorldProductions
    @PhoebesWorldProductions 3 месяца назад +3

    😊👍🏼 cool. (that IS an awesome announcement).
    I don't think of myself as a perfectionist.... but I definitely have too many "want to do" projects and way too much stuff.... phiew. There aren't enough hours in a day.

  • @simonegodwin7449
    @simonegodwin7449 3 месяца назад

    We are a sick household... our home is trashed
    I needed this!

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      Hope it helps!

    • @simonegodwin7449
      @simonegodwin7449 3 месяца назад

      Getting there... only this evening dishes are left, done laundry a few times this week, stove is clean. Bathroom is OK. WE ARE OK. X

  • @WholeFoodSpark
    @WholeFoodSpark 3 месяца назад +1

    I live in a small 2 br apartment. I consider myself a minimalist and declutter semi regularly. I recently went on a decluttering kick… I came out with FOUR garbage bags of trash and donations. I still have about half the apartment to go! 🤯 So the tip is, even if you think you don’t need to declutter, pull stuff out and pretend you’re moving. You’d be surprised how much stuff you’re keeping in corners, drawers, and closets.

  • @tgayer1
    @tgayer1 3 месяца назад +1

    I just started listening to The Lazy Genius Podcast, and this sounds a lot like her message. Be lazy with the things that don’t matter and be a genius with the things that do.

  • @MorgueVOID
    @MorgueVOID 3 месяца назад +1

    You look so pretty in black

  • @MendeMaria-ej8bf
    @MendeMaria-ej8bf 3 месяца назад +3

    True analysis. Thank you, elegant woman.

  • @phionaruwona5361
    @phionaruwona5361 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you so so so true. Perfectionist people want everything done perfection, or they would rather not get to the work at all

  • @Sanakhan-oe8ks
    @Sanakhan-oe8ks 2 месяца назад

    Now i want solution on what is my passion and what is my uniqueness i still dont know in my early 20s after getting impressed by her practicality

  • @fbz2415
    @fbz2415 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi Cas, once my mother said me that I clean "where the mother in law sees", I still do it most of the time 🤭🤭

  • @lbentley
    @lbentley 2 месяца назад

    I watch so many organizing decluttering videos but you’re the only one that hits home and makes sense and gives REAL practical tips EVERY SINGLE TIME. We appreciate you!!

  • @1979France
    @1979France 3 месяца назад

    “Done today is better than perfect tomorrow.” Now, that is one awesome quote 👏

  • @silfervox2970
    @silfervox2970 3 месяца назад +1

    Yay, can't wait for the makeover episodes! I really wanted to see your HGTV show, but sadly couldn't watch it from Europe.

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      You can also watch both seasons on RUclips through HGTV's channel or on Discovery+.

  • @wiseduffy
    @wiseduffy 6 дней назад

    I love this! It has really helped me. I am both a perfectionist & a procrastinator, but I have some rooms that are cluttered. I’m gonna suck! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
    Thanx Cas! ❤️

  • @Erin78G
    @Erin78G 3 месяца назад

    Cas you’re burstin’ all my bubbles!

  • @patpoe7637
    @patpoe7637 3 месяца назад +1

    This is me. I don't want to do it if I can't do it right and I expect too much.

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад

      Emrbrace good enough!

  • @crybebebunny
    @crybebebunny 3 месяца назад +1

    I had to go the department of vehicle to renew my DL today. I saw some videos by them telling me that I needed so much extra paperwork. I left my bedroom looking like HURRICANE had gone Tru. I still have a headache and feel overwhelmed with that mess. I found other paperwork that had been lost for a year and a half. Turn out that I didn't need any of the paperwork I prepared with.

    • @Clutterbug
      @Clutterbug  3 месяца назад +1

      Yikes!

    • @crybebebunny
      @crybebebunny 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Clutterbug I am not lazy, I have some dementia, ADHD, and maybe Autism ❣️❣️🫶🏼😭😩🤯
      You are an Earth Angel, Thank you for Your videos. They are So Very Helpful ❣️❣️❣️

  • @WarriorPrincess615
    @WarriorPrincess615 3 месяца назад

    Omggggg those 3 points hit home HARD

  • @christinedigioia957
    @christinedigioia957 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi Cass, you mentioned, Hot Mess House!
    Love that show and your you tube channel!!
    Will, Hot Mess House, have new episodes, one of these days?

  • @RevertYahya
    @RevertYahya 3 месяца назад

    As someone clinically diagnosed with OCD (I was evaluated 4 times, had to be sure! lol), I'm 2 minutes into this video and holding back tears.
    I grew up in an environment where, if you weren't perfect, you were a failure. Many times I was on my knees scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush and bleach and had no idea this was not healthy behavior.
    Thank you for helping myself and others with this.
    I do my best to remind myself that imperfect is better than nothing, because at least imperfect means you're living.

  • @amberorton6633
    @amberorton6633 3 месяца назад +1

    This is ME. You are seriously the best therapist ever!

  • @ASteph10
    @ASteph10 3 месяца назад

    I'm so excited for the declutter assistance vids! I miss Hot Mess House! Thanks for everything 😊

  • @latoyianewman-gross3396
    @latoyianewman-gross3396 3 месяца назад

    I feel so exposed!!😂😂 But, I definitely needed this!

  • @sahelisur2523
    @sahelisur2523 2 месяца назад

    U have simply nailed it- the underlying reason ( being a perfectionist) consequence ( cleaning becomes laborious) and finally the tendency to procrastinate