@@CoryPchajek If you really want to know, these terms were invented to indicate the roles within the animal world that other life forms have. In our world, these terms do not exist. There is no Alpha and Beta. Another thing is that these terms have been misrepresented. In the animal world and only the predatory one they have these terms. An Alpha predator means a predator that has no hunters, it is Alpha because no one can hunt it, it feeds on everyone and no one feeds on it. In the sphere that concerns the dinosaurs, there were many Alpha predators and Beta predators, they were shown to group and better study the animal world, that's all. As for the wolves, the pack is structured in roles, there is no Alpha wolf, there is the leading wolf of the pack, the one who leads the pack, the young wolves one day, those who are referred to by the ignorant mass as beta wolves, will take the place of the leader when he is gone, so they are not even beta wolves if we really want to specify. Hope this has been helpful to you.
@@myratsalad I wish that would be the case but there are quite a few that take it quite seriously, they are often douchebags and can't hold a relationship for longer than a month.
I feel like Astrology (Not Astrology like what the Babylonians came up with) /Male Type is a bi-product of our ultra-primitive brains when we still walked with 4 legs. Basically, a cave man is smarter than these people
And wisdom is a fleeting resource today. Self-control is all but gone in society. Some hope still remains for the individual though. I see it everywhere. People choosing a more honorable moral foundation. Like the foundations that freed nations, and created the meaning of liberty. But can individuals wake up to the fact. Their life, as the way they are taught to perceive and live their lives. Is a lie, and only going to imprison them spiritually and physically in cages of debt, and societal turmoil, and propaganda. My favorite quote. I have it tattooed on my back. "The free man is wise, and the wise man is free."
The fact that this guy is casually sitting in what would normally be in a uncomfortable environment while talking about strength of character makes his argument more compelling.
Honestly you should try it sometimes. It doesn't feel bad at all. Quite the opposite. Just make sure to wear as many clothes as you can and that your immunity is as good as it can be so you don't catch a cold or something. It's quite nice to enjoy a winter day like that.
True masculinity comes in many forms. It's not about shutting out every emotional response and condemning every human action, it's about knowing when and where it's appropriate to express them. I wish there were more men like you in the world Bjorn, you are the example of how to carry yourself. Calm, collected, together. There is no need for bravado or extreme outbursts of anger to show how you feel about something. That's a mark of maturity in both sexes of course, but it is especially important as men because the draw to explode at times can be much greater, and the consequences thereof are more destructive.
Well put. I've always laughed at the overly-macho guys; just screams insecurity, one of the least manly traits. A real man, like you say, is calm, collected, and in control of his emotions. He is responsible, honorable, honest, trustworthy, reliable, and has the capability to or actually does provide. Most of all, he is someone he can honestly say he respects and is proud of.
Alpha male simply means being yourself and not conforming to what other people expect of you. It is just a way to differentiate from weak males who follow orders out of fear of not being accepted or liked. The overly-macho BS is anything but alpha.
@@TheRealInky or is working to get themselves there. Knows his faults, accepts them, and is making improvements in his life to be a better person. That's hard shit man. Especially when you're doing it by yourself as a lot of young men need to do.
@@no-barknoonan8798 Great addition, and very true. Unfortunately a lot of young men didn't have the best fathers, if any at all. I struggled a long time to get where I am today, and I will keep struggling on. It all gets easier with time.
Speaking as an anthropologist, I always loved reading these "alpha male" websites where they basically just try to be sociopaths. I see it at work all the time too. The problem is, the culture of being a leader or a defender disappeared as generations of parents gradually fell into corporate jobs and those companies no longer provided loyalty or a sustainable career. The people who are honest have to move around, and the people who cheat the system (act unsustainably) are rewarded. This bled into family life and so we no longer have models of sustainable men. Just corruption, and unsustainable or toxic power masquerading as strength. That's why we mint sociopaths and not men these days. The only solution is a return to balancing the population out with more people who work for themselves and not in bureaucracies. It honestly applies to women the same as men.
You've got it right. I feel like previous generations were able to "cash-in" on booming tech and a booming economy while still having some kind of relevant/virtuous society and culture to surround them and help them and keep them inspired and uplifted. Now, for the reasons you've explained (and others), that good society is gone; and chasing after another "cash-in" just isn't enough for real people who want a real society to be a part of. Technology and markets used to be made to serve us, now we are made to serve them/it. It's making us all sick.
Plus the emotional neglect we're all suffering. It's worse if you experience it from primary caregivers as children - neurodevelopment is negatively affected, & adapts that way. We need good, loving people... But we all have less time, less $, more stresses, still lots of stigma around mental health (esp from men).
@@Flusterette I agree with you but want to open a discussion about what you say about men and mental health. Let me first say you are totally right; there is a stigma around mental health and issues from childhood that certainly prevents a lot of people from being taken seriously. But there are so a lot of people who turn their problems into their core identity, and I also think that the "masculine" approach of dismissing pain and challenges has evolutionary behavioral benefit. In a situation where needs can't be met and things are terrible, a survival situation, people must ignore problems in order to focus on things that can be done. Kids learn this, or used to learn this, in sports. The team has a will and goal of its own and can't stop for every injury or injustice. Anyone (intelligent) who played team sports understands both the value and the destructiveness of this mindset, which is why people say sports teach life lessons but then have a hard time explaining exactly why. Plus, after a sports practice or game you are supposed to revert to a system of support and caring at home or at school. The difference between war/survival and sports is how long the period of strain lasts. Great societies have been born from this stoic mindset but that culture usually decays when the society starts to thrive. It has its place, in other words, but it is not a complete solution. At this point, I think society is falling apart because it isn't meeting reasonable needs. I think the reason so many people are pressing so hard on illegitimate needs is because there is no forum for legitimate needs. Your sexual/racial/etc. identity and issues are easier to discuss, actually, than the fact that the entire middle and lower class is failing. Bite sized problems therefore get put before the 800 pound gorilla in the room. And this causes animosity. I don't know how to resolve that but I think it would mean moving in a direction where we focus on common underlying issues and agree to face hard realities instead of relying on hope. If we can no longer afford healthcare or caring for our elderly in a human way, we need to acknowledge the system we are participating in of our own Accord is not working. I think that whenever this happens, the Left and the Right step in to confuse the issues and profit.
@@jonnordland7585 wisdom would be seeing the two scientific disciplines in tandem with others. The forest from the trees, the big picture. Anthro is the study of what makes us human, & physical behaviour is = to psychological motivation/intention. To be a good anthropologist, one would need to be curious about the way many factors intersect. But you talk like one can try not have the authority of one specialty, one way, without being seen as invalid. 😂
I forget where I heard this, but "A soldier should learn to dance before learning to fight" always resonated with me. Strength is important, but so is self discipline, control, and being comfortable being who you really are. "Be a man, that's more than enough"
Beautifully said. Be yourself, man or woman. There's a lot of detrimental conditioning forces that come from the environment and while they're not new I also feel they haven't changed or evolved much. And the only way to fix that is to just be yourself, which is easier said than done considering we're terribly attracted to what we're not
I heard/ read the same thing a while ago. It formed a part of ancient Greek physical training. I was watching a video on Tetrades, but I cannot remember who the quote it comes from. The idea was for a balance between balance and agility & strength and aggression. That is the way I took it anyway.
"Thou wert the meekest man", says Sir Ector to the dead Launcelot. "Thou wert the meekest man that ever ate in hall among ladies; and thou wert the sternest knight to thy mortal foe that ever put spear in the rest." Whenever I wonder about manhood or being a better man, I always remember "the nessesity for chivalry" by C.S. Lewis.
@@dugonman8360 Knights rarely ever upheld the supposed virtues that chivalry espoused. It's all meaningless platitudes when spoken aloud. Actions are what shows resolve. Whether these values are truly virtuous is an important point of contention.
@@guts1258 you mistake the whole point. We can know that a knight falters in his duties because we know what a knight should be in the first place. Besides, most of our perception of the middle ages are written by a modern perspective and academics, who hold that age in contempt. You're thinking in absolutes. Its not to fully become a paragon, but to strive as best as you can to be that paragon. You'll falter, because its human, but you need to keep striving. I'll take that over the modern example of manhood anyday of the week, due to the modern paragon being just a hedonistic animal.
My definition of being a good man came from my grandfather. He worked at a mill grading lumber, boxed successfully, and trapped beaver, coyote, fox, and rattlesnake. He also raised pigeons, goats, rabbits and would care for any suffering animal from skunk to seagull. He always listened to and worked as an equal with my grandmother. I watched him snap a bobcat’s neck in a trap and I watched him weep openly when a sickly goat kid couldn’t be nursed to health. I strive to someday be as strong and gentle and openly accepting as him.
I just found out about this new disorder "they" discovered.. Opposition defiance disorder (ODD). When a person displays defiant and disobedient behaviour towards authority🤣. Are these guys for real! Tyrannical government coming right up🤔
@@Professor__S ODD is a real disorder, and it often progresses to full blown ASPD in adulthood. I think the symptoms aren't really present well.... ODD is like pre-psychopathy, or it's ADHD mixed with a lot of aggression with little to no fear of consequence.
Caring for the weak, even feeding the “little birds”, is masculine. I know you’re not a Christian, but biblical masculinity involves providing for your family and protecting the weak and defenseless. Being hyper aggressive is not masculine, it’s childish.
As a millennial Catholic man, allow me to thank you for emphasizing that part of masculinity as dictated by Christianity. My father and mother were sure to raise me in that similar way when I was a child in Nigeria and it has helped me grow as a man.
Did christianity use the term masculine to describe Jesus's characteristics. If you think about the Romans who killed Jesus and were interested in watching bloodsports could be perceived as more 'alpha'. The most common meaning for 'be a man' isn't 'protect the weak', it's crush and conquer. Honestly you guys need to stop obsessing over the term 'masculine' so much. It's honestly kind of childish. Just be a good person.
@@SynthCool You’re making the assumption that a Christian would think of a modern “alpha male” as masculine. I do believe the stereotypical “alpha” is not masculine from a Christian worldview. There’s not a ton of men who claim the title of Christian who live out their beliefs well. There is incongruity between Christian and non Christian masculinity, and I’ll be ok trying to live that. If it’s childish to discuss masculinity, why are you even voicing an opinion? After all, to be a “good person” within one’s given beliefs, one must live to their standards, which I some way must be established, including what constitutes a “good person”. You may think that different from my idea, and discussion and agreement or amicable disagreement can be reached to form or cement a civil society
@@davidelzinga9757 Why do Christians get to say what is masculine and what isn't? 'Masculine' is so vague that it means nothing. I've heard people say mercy is not masculine and people say helping the weak is masculine and so forth to the point where it all boils down to what you personally believe is masculine is whatever you're secure with yourself
@@SynthCool It's supposed to be about an order of a man at the head of the family.. though modern Christinity is not conserving that point. They just say equate things that have nothing to do with masculinity to make themselves feel better.
Well said Bjorn, men who truly embrace their masculinity also look to better themselves not just for their own benefit, but also for those they care for. That is one of many tenents we as men must look to. Men who are actual alpha males don't brag about it, they prove it by the manner in which they act.
💯% Spot On, it's about Love, Loving each other into wholeness, being supportive like a hammock, nature also does this, it is natural rehabilitation from The Most High Creator God Almighty and why Bjorn enjoys being there in the woods so much and why it feels so Right, because it is!
@@jaredtexter4440 totally agree, "let another praise you, not your own lips" is an old proverb that encourages men to stay quiet and work to better themselves, at their trade, or just working on their own behaviour/personality, and if they have success in any area they know it because others comment or recommend them, instead of self publicizing or demanding rights of respect etc
Just speaking for myself and a handful of my female friends, I can say we are begging for the return of the truly masculine man. I appreciate you making this video explaining the difference between masculinity and the toxic alpha male persona that a lot of men these days adopt.
Stop begging and start treating men like men. Show the proper respect and let them know in multiple ways that being masculine is ok and will not be punished. Advocate and use your feet to change anti-male legislation in your community and keep following up as a community builder.
@@greenghost6416 Exactly! Don't beg, take responsibility for what feminism has done to men and what it can impose on men by law, and try to fix it. Not only do women have to take part in fixing this mess, they also have to be committed to it! No longer choose what you want, and take part in fixing it by committing to it, and not just taking responsibility for cleaning up the mess you've been involved in. So for justice to come, you must feel obligated to fix this mess and not just expect and favor. There is no amnesty. In this way, irresponsible people avoid consequences, on the principle that someone needs to be forgiven. There is no option to forgive or even forget without justice. Probably, however, due to convenience, women will not be able to decide on it, because in fact they only want to change the piece that does not suit them at the moment and leave those that suit them still and, above all, escape from their responsibility for supporting or passively watching activities while they still enjoyed it. This is not and will never be allowed!
Only when you become a complete, truly feminine woman, can you begin to see the truly masculine men. As of now, they are invisible to you, and all of your friends. Why are you and your friends by choice engaging with pretty/shiny men, who offer nothing of real masculine value, and ignoring genuine, masculine men who might approach, but will very quickly identify you and your type as not qualified for what a masculine man demands from a feminine woman who is of benefit and status to pair with?
Men shouldn't be a concern in comparison to the lack of women. The female species is being faded out via genetic engineering and gender inversion. Do a thorough "transvestigation" on this and find that all First Ladies and every supposed female celebrity you've ever had an attraction to was born female (and vice versa to an extent), or are pseudo hermaphrodites. Men could be carrying on relations with a trans women and not even know it, being that the sex chromosomes of XY and YY are being manipulated by the instruments of man (and the effects of 'ultrasound' sessions) and trans-women are also being fitted with makeshift wombs via Vaginal construction (vaginoplasty) and have long been capable of pregnancy, where the baby is delivered via C-section. Baby designer operations in "ethnogensis" is also undertaken where the fetus is periodically grown in artificial wombs as a program striving towards 'trans-humanism'.. "The artificial womb also know as the artificial uterus is a device that allows for extracorporeal pregnancy (situated or occurring outside the body) or extrauterine (a pregnancy situated outside of the lining of the uterus) fetal incubation (EUFI) by growing an embryo or fetus outside of the body of an organism that would normally internally carry the embryo or fetus to a full term pregnancy."
@@Zachary- Yep. The men I know are strong, masculine, confident and do not broadcast the fact. They don't need to. It's evident in their behavior. And strong women don't feel oppressed by that, we are empowered and supported by that masculinity.
just came from lying in the snow in silence, watching the trees and just felling it all. Too bad those that don't know how it feels can't get that added feeling from your videos!! I highly recommend you all leave your things for a while and just go into nature, real nature...
Nature is amazing. I love sitting under a tree by a pond, reading or pondering or fiddling with my guitar. Buying my own land was the best decision ever; I feel at peace out here in the country.
I live in the White Mountains in NH USA, we have 4 distinct seasons...I love being outdoors, I'm looking for a small cabin on 3 or 4 acres right now as a retirement place when I stop working. I'll sell my current house, pay off the cabin and live in the woods till I die
Same here. I do the same with the ocean. Just sit down by the seaside and take it in. When the vawes gets to 5meters pluss, that's where the fun begins. Apreciate mother nature. Leave your phone behind and just have a walk through a forest, a hill or whatever. Take in the sounds, the smells and the visuals. Just sit down and be.
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!! I am SO grateful for my masculine husband of almost 40 years!! I actually feel sorry at times for those searching for a spouse they could truly rely on in times of trouble. My husband has been a support and provider for our family and the Love of my Life...I KNOW my husband will get us through anything that comes...we work together so well. Thank You SO MUCH for your thoughtful, insightful content!!
@Hal You truly have every right to brag and I am happy that you feel that way!!! You brought tears to my eyes, Dear One!! May you have at least 40 more years to enjoy each other!! (Sorry, I corrected your name. I didn't have my glasses on and spelled your name incorrectly. 😊)
Brilliant - it’s what I have said for years - muscles, tattoos, bullying and overuse of bad language isn’t being a man. Mutual respect, honesty, and experience of life is required too.
@@ekko6757 Whilst that is so in the current legal situation in the West, I think perhaps it is better to celebrate that there are still women who have a grasp of what is needed for a successful society.
@@ekko6757 It depends on who he married. Look at Cody from Wranglerstar, another RUclipsr, as an example of picking the right woman. I'm not saying he won't ever get divorced but it certainly appears as though his wife truly adds value to his life, as he adds value to hers. That's the way it should work.
opethfeldt- Are you seriously using a RUclips couple as an example of a good marriage? Of course they are going to display themselves as the perfect couple. It's how they make money. Did you actually think they would post their "issues"? I've known many couples personally that put on a great act of being a perfect and happy couple. As soon as they get home the rails fall off. This is the rule, not the exception. His point, anyway, was that when you sign a marriage license you have legally put yourself in subservience to the woman. This is true.
I'm a woman. And I am working hard on becoming a stronger woman. Embracing my natural femininity while also being self-assured, thick skinned, and hopefully one day free from anxiety which I honestly believe stems from being brought up in modern western culture. It's a rampant and vicious disease. Society needs strong people. Both men and women. I hope to one day be strong enough and feel deserving enough of an equally strong partner. I do not want to continue to settle for weak men because I myself have been weak.
Look into Biblical femininity. It is Amazing. And I’m only agnostic, not preaching. But biblical understandings of masculinity and femininity and amazing.
I have 1 girl and 4 boys. At first I was so overwhelmed with so many rowdy boys. But now I know I am extraordinarily blessed to be chosen to raise up good righteous men when the world needs them so desperately.
Idk about you but the only thing that was able to ruin me for some yeara was a girl... and my parents couldnt have protected me from that cuz i wouldnt have listened. I believe the world is constantly trying to break u in very creative ways u just cant let it
Agreed! The biggest problem I see with "men" today is that they are all afraid! Afraid to speak truth, push themselves, carry heavy burdens...I try to raise my boys to continually push themselves and embrace their fears... Also, at some point, everyone has to be "broken". Whether by a girl, life circumstances, ect..hopefully my boys will use their failures/shortcomings as motivation and passion towards good...
Similarly, we had two daughters, and now two grandsons, rowdy is a good description. I wanted to be sure my Daughters were able to make their own decisions and make good life choices. I like to think we succeeded. Both are well balanced and strong in their own way, they are not people to be walked over and have strong ethical behaviour.
Ya holding a dead fish m8. ^_^ Maybe it's not the big clue... The worst pathologies out there won't even be around a filth that looked like it might smell like an animal... but they can kill you by moving a decimal point on a computer
Sydney Watson the girl he cussed at or the woman from her videos that I've watched she's pretty grounded and got a lot of wisdom and she deserved none of that he did apologize and I hope that was heartfelt but you know when you're on the after the meeting you're hoping to all that kind of stuff just she is opened up people questioning her stuff take care
@@fyrish100 something dies so you can live. You honor the great green beans sacrifice by giving this guy shit about a fish? ^_^ it's about why you eat haha
The same goes for Femininity. Strength and independence and awareness of who you are. Not simpering and silly and impulsive, not following obediently, going along with what isn't right.
@Where's Wendy - So how do you account for the hyper-feminisation of Western society these days? And at the same time we have the demonisation of masculinity.
@@wiseonwords To put it simply we're just lost. With the information overload in the internet there's thousands of paths we can choose to take, it's very difficult to choose the right one
What hyper feminisation? Women aren't women, the word was deleted of meaning and it is like a skin that whomever could wear it whenever they feel like.
@@wiseonwords hyper-feminization? I think what it actually is may be more akin to de-individualization. Removing the conditions require to be able to live a life based on one's own decisions and contemplations. Strength, individual responsibility, self-control, self-dignity, self-sufficiency, stocism, discipline and most importantly accountability for ones own shortcomings,misjudgements and bias. It's happening to both men and women leaving them worse of and unable to help even themselves.
Thank you for standing up for women. During this feminist age, as a woman, I have always stood up for men. They're trying to pit people against each other in any way they can. It's much easier for people to thrive when we work together.
We're in unchartered times. The lucky ones will manage to organise themselves to the extent they can survive in the open away from the towns. I've no idea how I'm going to show up in such a paralel society, but you're right survival depends upon figuring out how to work together
For those who want to destroy a society, the first step is to create doubt, fear, and suspicion amongst the members of that society. If you pit men and women against each other, encourage chaos rather than cooperation, and eliminate the family unit, your goal of "divide and conquer" becomes much easier.
I just had a two day debate with a guy that insisted, a man has authority over a woman. It doesn't matter if he beats you ( maybe he thought, they need it) I told him I always have been submissive to my husband. Not every man deserves respect. He told me I was going to hell. The conversation went into witchcraft. Me saying everyone is a witch but are you a good witch or a bad. They started deleting those posts, not their, I mind you. I said, Jesus used witchcraft to turn water into wine and heal the sick and raise the Dead. These two guys were sending me to hell because I don't respect ALL MEN! 😆 Maybe I'm wrong🤔 I'm a widow. I do not date because I'm not lonely! I'm fine! The choices are slim.
When my friend first introduced me to the Alpha beta concept I never really understood it. I just asked him "So I guess you're an Alpha then" and he was like "yes Ofcourse". I couldn't take him seriously. Every time someone brings up this topic I just end up believing they are insecure about their position in the hierarchy, and the fact that they think about it all the time, just reinforces that belief. And if being Alpha is about being rude, loud and obnoxious, then go try be an Alpha in the military, good luck to you, they will break you down.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't all these labels come from the dating coaches to guide men on what qualities they need in order to better their dating life?
I'm a woman and I feel the same whenever someone brings up these names to me. I still don't understand it. Like.. spend your energy improving and healing yourself, not obsessing over this additional hierarchy people have placed on themselves.
When i was in. My first class gave me a 4.0 eval because i "wasnt a alpha male" . others were able to royally fuck up with little to no repercussions. Like forgetting to top up fuel before a convoy. Rolling a MRAP into a ditch in Kandahar. Or violating lawful orders. Only mistake i made that deployment was clipped a panel box slightly with a fuel six con cause a CE1 didnt want to do his job. Got in trouble for a week and had to give a speech
what does that make me? I feel like an alpha right now while im a beta but all other male's around me are getting so feminized so i feel pretty alpha right now but what does that make me? Am i an alpha or a beta? What determines that?
@@patrickpol6156 insecure beta for putting so much thought into it, honestly 99% of the comments are from gay nerds. if you have to search up 'how to be masculine' on the internet then you're not 'masculine'
to me, masculinity is synonymous with integrity. Not just surface integrity where you make it look like you're a good person to everyone else and behave differently behind closed doors, but doing the right thing for the sake of doing the right thing, and putting others that need you before yourself
It's an elegant quote, but IMO it falls a bit short when put under scrutiny. Everyone of us lives according to a certain picture of what is right and wrong, and in the case of some people, especially those who had a problematic or even abusive upbringing, that picture might be severely skewed or full of contradictions. In that case "just being" can lead to very horrible consequences, since people might lack an innate sense of what is "good". So it is really important to reevaluate one's idea of what it means to be a good person from time to time. The sense of being a conscious individual is to live consciously - it is the only thing that can prevent us from ruining our lives by committing the same errors again and again. Btw. M.A. himself argued for constant mindfulness of ones actions, and I think that can also consist in talking and maybe even arguing with those we trust about the correct course of action from time to time.
@@superpartes4990 Marcus Aurelius held quiet introspection above all else, he would not argue about what it is to be a man, he simply lived his life as the best man he could be and allowed his example to be his argument.
@@Zachary- Do you really think M. Aurelius had no intellectual exchange with others? He wasn't a retired hermit but rather an emperor and thus in continuos contact with the senatorial elite, who - at least since the times of Cicero - engaged in philosophical and political debates as an integral part of their life. He had a huge corpus of correspondence, writing even multiple times a day to some friends. I think it is important to differentiate the Stoic ideal from the actual historical figure who tried to implement those ideals into their life. I think it might be for the better that he had a lot of exchange with others since he became a well rounded and prolific writer, which enabled him to express his ideas in such a way that they had a huge impact afterwards. Whether he wanted to publish the meditations is debatable, but the fact that they reached the public suggests that at least a certain group of people were aware of his literary production.
Wow, I'm so grateful there are still people out there using, speaking and living a common, natural sense in this crazy world. Thank you Bjorn again for your impact.
Bjorn, you are a true example of a man and watching you is inspiring. You don't have anything to prove but you do talk about manhood and real manhood. Too many 'alphas' are posers who have their own weaknesses they are too afraid to face. You don't put on a show, nor belittle others. You just are. And you don't why away from areas that you may have made mistakes in. That is part of being an alpha male is being honest with yourself. Your videos are soothing to me. I sometimes just put them on just to listen while I clean. It's good. Thank You.
Alpha males are from social engineering, exemplified in Brave New World. Anyone advocating for 'true' alpha males is part of the program. Just be. Just be a man, if that is what you are.
@@matoko123 I think sexual morality is just something that is recognized or felt. While you believe that there is nothing wrong with having sex with other women, or happily having other men have sex with your wife, keep in mind that pedophiles believe that there is nothing wrong with THEIR behavior either. Someone who is clearly mentally ill can always justify their behavior...but they'll also have to deal with the fact that most people around them are sane enough to recognize when something is simply wrong. 🙂
Indeed. It starts & ends with the whole "cruddy-Alpha"-premise being based on studying wolves, & then the researcher realizing he got it all wrong afterwards... But, the flawed premise caught on like wildfire, to the point that the researcher explaining he was wrong & how behaviour of alpha wolves really works (nurturing, parenting, sensitive attunement to the individuals, supportive, caring) went relatively unnoticed. It didn't mitigate the harm of his initial flawed-premise.
@@moralityisnotsubjective5 Oh I feel you - pendulums swing, things get distorted... That's life. That's literally anything. I'm not a "group" person - never have been. For that reason. So I'm not much about impressing others & following - I used to be a bit more that way, to my detriment; but I knew at least I'd learned something in retrospect. My best platonic & otherwise relationships are really intimate & deep. You have to do a lot of work on yourself for those. I still have struggles, though. I think some things, once they turn 'fad' -- something genuine is lost; if it has to be that 'novel' then I see it as a tool/accessory/aid, & novelties wear off. It's not permanent, however at the core (however lost in translation by people's perspectives) -- something is there, in common with greater humanity. It is in my favour that I liberated/healed myself (as best as I've been able to, thus far) eclectically & diversely. I tried to find those cores of truth that transcended, & applied them more raw & innately natural & pure to my self-examination. If you want to be your own person, & be genuine & down to earth, & be a good brave person as best as possible -- with conviction to do the hard thing & act on your morals no matter the hurt/sacrifice/consequence (as best as possible)... You need to examine yourself more broadly than just novel flavours, & strip it back. Experiment with the cultures, maybe some aspects enrich your life & connection with others... But see the bias, be aware, own it. Don't miss out by having the wool pulled over your eyes, over a dopamine & serotonin surge of the novelty factor, & stop there. That's how I think the word 'alpha' is being used these days. Branding. That's what appeals about cults! The conformity & distinct ways/beliefs of things. Strip it back to find the real nuggets of virtue & wisdom, though. 😊 Highway to hell is paved with good intentions. That said, some folks lack that capacity & have to be met where they're at, they like what they like, they're willfully ignorant. But: they're hopefully going to be different in a few years. There's ebb & flow. Phases are normal -- self exploration & experimentation. Folks who look to improve themself, even if in ways they laugh at a few years down the road, hopefully gain from their experience. But many will not, & it dissolves into a codependent, festering, abusive, trauma-bonded mental health fiasco, or a world of façade, & everything maladaptive in-between ranging from mild to extreme, "relatively harmless but not your cuppa tea" to "harmful with many falling for it, or raising their children that way." That's why good examples are so important, because as individualistic as we can be, we can't help that we learn by example & crave connection. We're social beings. Real selfhood transcends all that, & can see into another's soul through their eyes & attunement to them as one organism to another. That's why the simple things in life matter -- things are stripped back, free. This is where sensitivity has its strength. It cuts through bullshit. So as best as one can (pending the circumstances), taking the high road with dignity & respect of people, no matter what you think of the other person, will hopefully imprint subconsciously (& maybe also consciously). We have to be the change we want to see.
They sure do love putting people into boxes and labelling them . There is also something very strange and disingenuous about guys 'trying to be' Alpha - like they are playing a role in a movie or something . A lack of a father figure in their life likely accounts for alot of this , and it really is sad to watch . . Especially when they get such lousy advice and think being a loud boorish vainglorious asshole means being a man and ALPHA . . Such nonsense. Just more attacks on manhood and the nuclear family I suppose . ;)
Spot on Bjorn, ...My dad was my example and my hero. He taught by example. 67 years married faithfully to my mother, hardworking, family first, faith, knowing when to walk away, knowing when to stand his ground. A code of honor. Respectful and strong.
Many years ago, I stumbled across a book that honestly changed my life: "Manhood" by Steve Biddulph. I cannot recommend it highly enough. This video is completely aligned with the spirit of that book. A quote from it that I have always held dear: "You must find work you can believe in, so that the time and energy of your working life is spent in a direction where your heart lies. It isn't enough just to make a living. The real work of men is to support and protect life and to build towards a better world. If you don't believe in your own work then the inner contradictions of it will slowly start to kill you. Since most jobs today are for heartless corporations whose goals we do not believe in, this is a huge issue." - Steve Biddulph, 1994 Love to all the good men of this world...which needs you now more than ever.
This! This is exactly the dilemma I now face- working in an industry that I love for just under 35 years, while the corporate bigwigs at the top seemingly do all they can to wreck it.
I know the book well. Actually the author used to live close to my home. Having read the book, I shared it with a very good friend in the UK who then went along to his local town hall where Mr. Biddulph was speaking. Steve's book and what he spoke of at the talk, was something that my friend considered and passed on to his young son, who over time developed into a fine young man with a successful acting career that he loves and completely believes in. I was so impressed that my pal would read and adopt some of those ideas into his own life.
@@jjs5191 so long as it's balanced in a family life. Children need their dads, spouses need to take care that both have some of that balance in their lives outside of work, family responsibilities, & genuine time interacting together (especially with kids - neglect is an invisible trauma). But I generally agree!
The term "alpha male" is far too often used to describe people who are the total opposite. I agree 100% with the "immature" assessment; it seems to be less about being an "alpha" and more about behaving like a 13 year old boy. My personal favorite are the guys that'll smash a TV over a sporting event, can be goaded into a fight over almost nothing, and never miss a chance to "kick someone when they're down."
I totally agree! Which is why I never joined in on the Murphy dogpile. I am very familiar with the personalities that started pestering him originally, and they are very insecure, petty, and vindictive. They've done far worse than Jack ever has with far less provocation. Of course he shouldn't have swore at Sydney, but she could have read between the lines a bit and not pestered him with a comment from a troll. Not as bad as Murphy's tantrum, but still a mistake on her part.
@@insensitive919nah Murphy deserves. These grifters make all kinds of claims and fill the heads of teens with their bullshit and live their lives opposite to what they preach. He deserved to be shamed publicly, especially with how emotionally he handled being exposed 😂
Anytime someone declares themselves to be anything ("I'm a good person, I'm an alpha," etc) I disregard whatever they say. The cream doesn't need to declare itself or be told, it just rises to the top on it's own.
Oh that's an excellent quote. The cream doesn't need to declare itself or be told it just rises to the top on its own. No joke I use heavy whipping cream for my coffee. I love the frothy delicious heavy cream that rises to the top. And I've never heard of that before. I have to share that with my husband that is awesome.
So true. I cringe whenever I hear someone proclaim that they are something. If they truly were that thing, then it would be obvious and no proclamation would be necessary. In the case of these men on the interwebs proclaiming themselves to be "alpha", it is a marketing gimmick. It is my understanding that they charge a lot of money to coach or mentor young lads in how to be an alpha. Unfortunately this is not something that a young man can learn easily when already in to adulthood. That training should have been delivered by his father starting at about five years old. Reminds me of Game of Thrones when Joffrey proclaims "I am the King" and then Tywin responds with "any man who must say I am the king is no true king."
"I'm going to hang some bird food from the trees. Some would say that's not very masculine. I don't care" HAHAHA! You got 'em Bjorn! Love your videos brother! I love birds too, so I must be a true man 😁
i really needed to hear this. i recently had an encounter with 2 friends where it became clear that i was not like them... and it made me question my masculinity. i now realise that what they were projecting was a very childish version of masculinity. i am a man, and i am a good man, and a strong man. thanks for these videos. i'm carrying this message forward with me.
All the 'alphas' still work for, and bow to the man! The man likely being a 90 yr old banker, casino mogul etc.. The idea of the alpha was probably great when we were in the jungles and on the tundras, but we're not.. brains rule this world, and likely always have..
@@debtminer4976 This man speaks facts. I know a couple guys who constantly boast their wage every time I see them and my retort is “in the end isn’t another man wealthier than you essentially the one who is *actually* providing for your family? In the end, don’t you still have to ask permission from another man to leave the job site to 💩?” Some guys are alphas in their own mind and nobody else’s.
I want to thank you, I kind of fell into the whole alpha beta bullshit trying to find myself. It seemed like an answer but lead to dark paths I didn't appreciate and started to think that life was fucked. I came upon this channel and its so simple. Just be a man! It is that simple. Again Thank you.
Real masculinity isn't about how much hair one has on the face, how much one can drink, or how many women one has bedded. Real men think before they act, and take responsibility for the results of their actions. Real men live honorably and their word, not lightly given, can be counted on. Real men are principled and loyal to their families, teach their children to be honorable people, respect the rights and property of others, and feel at home "in the vuds." Real men don't have to tell anybody what a man they are, and can be comfortable with planting flowering shrubs as well as with rebuilding/repairing engines and machinery. Real men care about others, the wannabes only care about themselves and their "image."
@@Deliquescentinsight genuine strength does need to perform, just does not need to "show off". I would say that "Show off" is the narcissism. I think you have the right idea, though.
The ones that only care about their image side with the cult of the marxists, and try to destroy you with that power... instead of learning from you and growing in their philosophy.
This reminded me of the quote, “The most dangerous person in a room is the one who is silent and observes everything.” Growing up I used to think the “alpha” in any situation was the guy that was the most chaotic. Now I realize it’s the opposite. The true alpha doesn’t need to prove anything or appease anyone. He doesn’t perform or promote, he is simply himself.
This I find true about myself at every stage throughout my life. I was the quiet one. If someone was attempting to harm another, I'm coming and coming fast. If someone needs help that I see can't help themselves, I always gave up my "individualist" needs and helped them. It is nothing about wanting to be loved. It is about being a pillar that humans and nature can count on in tough situations. Being that vital part of nature! The other side of that is to think women are weak is complete ignorance. She will go to war and kill anything that attempts to cause suffering of her children more quickly than a man. She will set aside her individualist pride/ego and sacrifice for her family quicker than a man. She don't have the "oh well, I did what I could" in her play book. Real men and real women are both needed to go forward.
Well I'm silent and observe everything, so why am I not able to assemble a tribe with the skills to support itself in the wild? I need to be in the middle of a Canadian forrest but for some reason I'm stuck here..
@@TheEd0205 You've got to do more than just wanting. You've got to learn the methods. A tribe that is to survive must be fully mobile as it collects members and heads off into the wild. It must include a crack core from all disciplines including military. There are more ex military luckily than military and with all those who've been struck off for not taking needlecraft. A gurilla army some might say but it must be even more than that.
Imho I think a balance is required, sitting in silence and just 'observing' I think is passive (cowardly) behaviour, and being loud exposes your weakness, a man must speak or stand whenever he deems is the right time, should also contribute towards to whatever situation he is in.
The most inspiring people in my life have been (in large majority) men. And every single one of them, we’re open and loving, emotionally intelligent and emotionally aware. They were quick to help their fellow man, humble, hardworking and innately strong. You are right. We need real men more than ever before.
As a female it was really refreshing to see you talk about true masculinity Bjorn, thank you for teaching men about it, we certainly need it in these times!
@@lunchmoneyphilipphilip3034 I agree Phillip, it's really sad to see and being on the other end of it it's not fun. Hopefully men will rise up and become true, respected men again. All the best to you! 🙏🏻
To anyone who would say caring for Nature and Animals is not masculine, THEY WOULD BE A DAMN FOOL AND 2000% WRONG. Rather, providing for INNOCENT BEINGS who cannot provide for themselves is UBER MASCULINE AND RIGHTEOUS. Mr. Bjorn, this message you put out today is SOLID GOLD. Mr. Murphy exposed himself to be nothing more than a grifter and hustler and worst of all, as you said, a HORRIBLE example to men and young men of what a REAL masculine man should be. Like you said, We DESPERATELY need real masculinity and femininity and we had best learn what those two are and embrace them. Thank you so much all the way from Annapolis, Maryland, USA.
If someone tries to mess with my family, I'll eat their face off and wash it down with a tall glass of milk. That being said, I also refuse to kill bugs. "Protect the innocent" is the number one rule of masculinity.
On an animal rescue program from America, Animal Cops Houston, I think they showed the number 700 or something very similar in the credits it was part of the logo!!! something like that, anyway when I looked it up in the Strongs Concordance it said. "Doing What is Inherently RIGHT" Looking after strays and rescuing animals is the Right thing to do. Amen
@@goatboy150 they had something back in the days called galanterie (not sure it's the word in english but the bundle of quality you'd associate with a gentleman). Same quality/behaviour society is nowaday trying to purge out of people
I'm glad to see this story has reached so many people as it did. The manosphere sector of yt have been calling men like Jack Murphy/John Goldman out on their dishonesty and willingness to take advantage of vulnerable men seeking advice on how to better conduct themselves for the betterment of their community. The Warband were the ones who exposed Jack on the livestream. Much respect to them. Thank You For Covering This!👏
I'm happy for you to have learned that. It's also called, simply, being a good human. I hope all young men and women learn that, and maybe someday stop assign gender to human traits, because in my opinion that leads to automatically thinking that one gender must be better than the other, since all the good qualities are attributed to just the one they're part of. That then leads to unrealistic expectations from an eventual partner, or wrong presuppositions, instead of just getting to know each other's strengths and weaknesses.
Men like you are needed in these tough times, especially in this quote on quote "civilised" society. I'm a 27 year old guy, and in all honesty I find everything modern society promotes as silly, repulsive, and just plain stupid. Watching your videos, especially ones like this one, teaches me more about what I should do as a guy my age. Thank you for being my teacher Bjorn.
You might also like the channel Academy of Ideas. They often includes the stoics in their videos, and the stoics were very knowledgeable on healthy emotional regulation.
When I was 15 I became severely depressed and detached from everything and everyone. I'm now 30 and am actually thankful it happened, I took my own path and sought truth instead of following everyone else. There is nothing in modern society you are missing out on, the best has already come to pass
@@TheGhjgjgjgjgjg That's almost exactly what happened to me, went through very low times around16 and now i'm turning 30 in a couple months and never felt better.
20 or so years ago, there were strong both men and woman. With no true role models, people mimic what they see. My family continues to live having free thinking, having pride and not become a sheep and follow the masses. We know what is right from wrong. We can depend on each other in many ways. I will NOT conform. Thank you Björn for posting these videos. Hopefully, some misguided youth will view this video and learn something.
I cried when you brought up embracing ones masculinity. Because I have seen myself grow from a fearful, ashamed, guilty young boy to a young man who is learning to do just that: embrace the masculinity that I don’t have to be afraid of. Thank you for these videos.
@ccmetalhead- I wanted to cry for you when I read your comment. Have you checked out Jordan Peterson’s RUclips channel? He’s one of the most intelligent, rational, and exceptional men I’ve had the greatest pleasure to learn from. I would highly recommend that you check out his channel. He’s changing so many lives and especially those of young men.
"Being able to fend for yourself, being independant". You dont need to be an alpha male for that. Heck, you dont even need to be a MALE for that. Just be a strong person on your own.
Not many females id feel comfortable leaving them "fend for themselves" When it comes to violence and rage men are hard to top in that area sadly and built for different purposes giving them a huge advantage. Women are often stronger mentally however
@@independentinstallations8419 I'm going to respectfully disagree. Men are in AVERAGE bulkier and stronger than women. That is true. But average means something different to "all women are weaker than all men". I hit the gym and do martial arts, and i know gals that are shorter than most of the boys and are significantly stronger. One is a professional weight lifter and she can bench press like a hundred kilos easily and doesn't looks like an Amazon. Like if anything she looks like a thinner, shorter, petite wonder woman. Her arms are thinner than mine, but she just has more training and technique in how to expert her strength. And let me tell you, she IS stronger than the average men on that gym. And let's not even talk about the gals in MMA. I'll bet you that those gals can reck any guy any time of the day. If you're a woman and you feel weak and unable to fend for yourself in an abusive setting, you should 100% learn self defense, work your body and forget about that crap of "men are stronger in average".
Exactly. Weirdly these 'alpha' males (and even some regular dudes) claim to be some all powerful men I should swoon for, when in reality they can't even handle basic survivability skills like cooking and hygiene (cleaning, laundry etc.) I was brought up in a farm that's in the middle of the forest, winters are harsh so there's no luxury of "male" or "female" work - everybody does everything. But then again I guess life in nature is beginning to be more and more an exception than norm.
My husband and I have been married for 37 years. We have 4 grown children, 8 grandchildren. You give a very good description of what it means to be a man. A man sacrifices for the sake of his family. He gets up every day and goes to work, even when he doesn't feel like it. He is there for his children. He takes time to listen to his wife. He fights for what is right and fights to protect those he loves, even when it costs him.
It's find it striking how, when women describe what a "real man" is supposed to be like, it tends to sound conspicuously close to the description of a slave...
Thanks for your insights! As a woman, I am saddened by these channels that seem to promote this hatred towards women. I'm not saying that us women should be let off the hook with our behaviour, but like you said, men and women need to work together.
The woman-hating stuff is unfortunate, but I think it's basically a response to all the man-hating going on. Men and women need each other. It's a sad state of affairs the world is in.
I agree. When I clicked on this video, I was sure that it would be full of angry comments blaming women (or 'wahmen', as many call us). I've never been so glad to be so wrong!
@@swanam_1 Even the bible if you read the context, being the man is to care for, appreciate, cherish, protect, and provide for, and care about the woman, not about domineering and abusing or hating the woman. The latter would be from satan via the results from/spoken through the serpent.
I see men at my Church taking care of their small children. They walk their little girls or boys out of the chapel to the restroom or to comfort them in the foyer. To me that is manly, fatherly, and masculine. They are an example to follow. Thank you Bjorn!
To clarify: The term "simp" is used to describe men who donate a lot of money to women on the internet, usually Twitch streamers, in desperate attempts to get attention and possibly an opportunity to meet them in real life. A simp is a guy who deifies a girl he has never met, simply because she is attractive.
@@bartunthegreat2999 yes. There is nothing wrong to agree with women if they are right. Unfortunately many men agree with everything in naive hope to get something.
This is something everyone needed to hear. I don't know why youtube showed me this, but I found what I was looking for. We need more people like you. We need good men.
Masculinity is a threat to their anti-human/ transhuman agenda for sure. I like your definition of masculinity Bjorn. "Be a man, that's more than enough". True words my friend.
@@blahlul95 absolutely, they are two poles of the same magnet. without strong masculinity true femininity cannot be sustained. without strong femininity true masculinity cannot be sustained. There are differences between the genders, it's crazy that that statement is considered offensive to some. However these differences do not make one better than the other, rather they are complimentary with each half upholding and glorifying the whole.
Thoroughly agree, living to have sex isn't alpha. It's insecurity patched up temporarily with sex. The anger isn't masculine either, angry men don't have it together
I agree for the most part. Depends where the anger come from though and whether you can control it to some extent. Anger born out of insecurity is stupid, wrong, and un manly. However if someone punches you , you get angry and punch back. If someone or something commits a grave injustice against you or those you love, you will obviously get angry. Anger itself isn't always bad, it's why you are angry, and more importantly, what you do with it.
@@easternrebel1061 Yet if you had their problems and insecurities it would be justified in your mind. Life can be incredibly frustrating when you're dealt weird cards.
@@Alan_the_Red you have no clue who I am or what I've been through, nor I you. Having said that , believe me when I say that I have dealt a real shitty hand in life, yet I don't act anywhere near tge way theses people do, because I was raised by real men, and I'm following their example.
@@easternrebel1061 Lucky you, I was raised by an angry and unstable father. I am currently finishing a computer science degree and keeping my shit together but having issues is not fun or easy. Edit: Oh and good job dealing with your difficulties! Sorry to be all woe is me but I think it's important for people to understand what's going on with different kinds of people behind the scenes.
Thank you for this. My ex-husband, first person I ever dated, after we were married desperately wanted us to be swingers...to have other men be with me ... Thank God I never did it, but the scars of being "not enough" to the only man you've ever been with at the time was...and still is ..quite devastating. He's about Jack's age or a little younger now. What a disgusting excuse of men.
As a young lady with a beautiful little girl, YOU are exactly the kind of partner I hoped I would always meet and have the chance to be with. I graduated from college and was so lucky to have the greatest, most loving Father in the world. Still, I found an emotionally stunted, avoidant partner who always talked like he was a man but won't even go outdoors to teach our daughter how to ride a bike. I admire your balance of kindness and strength, your willingness to work hard and discuss what you know with humility -- exactly the kind of man I have always hoped to be with. I would love to learn from you and work beside you. I hope my beautiful little girl meets someone wonderful, a real man who is good to her, just like you when she grows up and is ready to start a family. Thank you so much. I'm glad this ole Kentucky gal just found your channel.
The meltdown was totally immature! The masculine thing for him to have done would have been to say something like "yea, that's a part of my past that I will admit I'm kind of ashamed about, maybe even a little embarrassed, but I can't change it since it's in the past. We have all done things in the past that we are either embarrassed, and or ashamed about, but it is what it is, and I am a completely different person today."
Jack Murphy responded in just that reasonable way about a month ago on other podcasts. I'm not familiar with the details of this meltdown, but it sounds like the same old article people dredge up every now and again, trying to provoke him with. Poking the bear. It's too bad he finally lost his cool. That behavior wasn't representative of how he usually is in the public sphere.
@@Harleyh8309 but that's the thing. He responded cooly in the past. Why the short outburst now? He could of acted similarly to his past answers when Sydney asked. She was just asking questions posted by others.
@@Harleyh8309 Not only that, but in the days after when asked about it by another youtuber (tim pool) he handled it well then too. This outburst made no sense. The other detail to know is that he (jack murphy) runs a website that teaches men to be men, or something like that. Ironic.
The better response would be to just laugh it off. We've all done dumb things. He entered the interviewers frame instead of staying in his own, which is essential.
"The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace in a continual state of alarm (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing them with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary." - - H. L. Mencken
I've been told that I need to check my masculinity because I've done without so my wife and kids could eat. I've also been told I'm not much of a man because I've allowed my children to sleep in my bed and I either sleep on the floor, the couch, or in their bed if they're having personal issues or just needed to be close to their mother. I may have been wrong in doing that but my family comes before me in EVERYTHING. Thank you Mr. Bjorn for this video.
Being there for your children doesn't mean being a door mat. My dad wouldn't allow me to sleep in their bed and I had to learn how to grow up and deal with things instead of running to mommy. You're letting your wife and kids push you out of your own bed. Stop it. That's going to hurt them in the long run
@@olliefoxx7165 So, you're the big bad alpha king, huh? Apparently, you've got it all figured out. Thanks and my girls are just fine. If me taking care of my wife and kids these, almost 30 years, makes me less of a man than you, I'm fine with that. Actually, overcompensating beta prince seems to be a better descriptor for you.
@@lukec1651 Stop acting like an emotional 13 year old girl. I'm sure you meant well and thought you were doing the right thing. I'm not trying to attack you just trying to give advice based on my own experiences, experiences of others and observations. A man and his wives bed must be theirs. Allowing a sick child to sleep in occasionally is OK but when it becomes a habit you lose that personal space. When you end up sleeping in the kids bed what does that say to the family? Dad is irrelevant and secondary. Dad and mom are a team. I hope things are going well for you. I'm just some stranger on the internet that means well. Don't allow some stranger to piss you off or ruin your day.
@@olliefoxx7165 you came across as an insecure beta male. I'm not pissed but both could've been handled differently. When my daughters needed their mother for whatever reason at whatever time they took priority. My giving up of my spot does not in any way diminish my masculinity. Me giving up my plate at the table does not diminish my masculinity. If they were boys it would HAVE been different. Now that there's a granddaughter and if the same situation ever arises I'm almost positive it'll happen again. I appreciate the advice but it just seemed more like the same crap I've always dealt with. Seriously, thanks
@@lukec1651 i too put my wife and babies first in my life. Thats what real men do. As for letting the kids sleep in our bed, for a while both of mine would sleep with us because of some strange things that were happening at night. We own a large farm and have everything fenced in with livestock. For a while something was tapping on both of my kids windows about 8 feet high once or twice a week around 1 am. I sat up several nights, rifle in hand and did hear it several times but when i would throw the blinds open it would be gone. One night there was a human handprint left in the dew. Moral of the story is, i didnt feel safe at all leaving my babys in their rooms alone so i put them in bed with my wife and slept in their rooms for weeks waiting to ambush the tapper. I never killed the perp but to make me feel better i built a very nice set of bunkbeds and put them in the corner of our room. As for the tapper, it did infact come and bang on my window two different nights but after that it stopped. Strange thing is that i never got it on any of the security cameras.
It was really eye opening, I seriously reconsidered some of my core mindsets. Not because I'd follow you blindly but because i realized I am following those ideas blindly which do not benefit me and my "tribe" Thank you and cheers from Hungary
Agreed, Bjorn. I started to write a long reply, but there is no need to add to what you said. I pray that many listen to your words, take them to heart and learn. Thank you, sir.
This is a very powerful message that needed being said. I respect your position on this. I'm pushing 70 and I talk to animals, trees, and my equipment. Love is just what you're spelling out and thank you for putting it forth.
Also pushing 70 but female. I talk to all the inhabitants of my garden, go barefoot every chance I get and hug trees regularly. It's so good to see a younger man like Bjorn getting this message out there. I send these videos to my son. Young men and women need all of this they can get.
Classic masculinity has wrongly been branded toxic masculinity these days, there are lots of women missing out on real men. Their heads are filled with rubbish from an early age about masculinity. I find myself very much alone, but saying that I am equally happy in the mindset that I know I'm practical, strong, stoic, intelligent, responsible, able to achieve many tasks that come my way, I choose my life so I'm content, relaxed and comfortable. I turned my back on the current societies that lock me out as a medical leper, thats their loss, because I'm stronger for it, I'm a fighter and I will not succumb to any brainwashed rubbish. We are many in this fight and I will never back down.
good thing is, you don't want to have a partner who thinks true masculinity is toxic. So in a way, they eliminate themselves from ruining your life. They'll just date these "alpha-males" who are arrogant :)
@@princessinaworldofevil I've taken a few chances and had a few lucky escapes too! I'm always looking but at the moment socially is an impossibility due to restrictions, unless I bump into someone whist out walking in the countryside, chances are severely limited at the moment. I'm happy as I am.
Thelast Goodgirl- I'll tell you what. You disguise yourself as a man and approach these "nice" girls for a month and you will find out precisely why men don't bother with them. I doubt you make it a week without a mental breakdown.
@@princessinaworldofevil just re read what you said, girls get approached by the psychopaths who think they are god and end up with them because the good guys don't approach them. Well perhaps these girls shouldn't keep attracting the Psychos, it takes two to tango, it takes seconds to make a decision and these girls can always say no thanks, not interested. Judgement of character is a good tool to have. If your thinking they are a jerk, then they probably are, gut feeling and sixth sense prevails.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I grew up without a dad around, and I'm 27 now. These last few years, I have been really struggling with knowing whether I am truly a "man". These ideas that modern society pushes of what a man looks like, it just doesn't line up with who I am, and so I question my masculinity. I don't make an overwhelming amount of money, I'm not physically impressive, I don't go on grand adventures. But I do work 12 hours a day, 5-7 days a week to make sure My wife and son have everything that they want/need. I do make whatever sacrifice is necessary to provide for my family. I spend any and all of my free time with my wife and son, and I love teaching my son and spending one on one time with him. These things get me made fun of in today's society, because I'm not making myself my number one priority - my priority is my family. I sacrificed my wild dream of becoming a rap artist for a living, because I recognized once my son was born that I couldn't do that, work a full time job, and spend the amount of quality time with my family that I wanted to. I'm happier overall - but society makes it tough to be a man who puts his family first. Thank you for the reassurance.
You are more than man enough. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Just wanted you to know that, regardless of what others or you think about yourself. Keep being a good man. 👍
You my friend are a man. A good man. A far better man than anyone who would attempt to make fun of you for being the best man you can be. You need no one's approval for being the man you are, outside of the approval of your wife and son. Live for what is important, and only what is important, loved ones. All else matters less.
@@guymurphy6982 Thank you for the kind words brother. They're certainly reassuring and comforting. I'm grateful for this video, the comments in reply I've received here, and other voices that have spoken into my life recently. I had a thought today while I was out on a walk during lunch - realized that I used to deeply yearn just to hear someone, anyone really, say that they thought I was "a badass". But at this point in my life - and the change was very recent, although I'm not sure exactly when - I dont need to hear that from anyone. Now, I'd rather hear something I don't already know. I dont mean that to sound arrogant or prideful - but I certainly do feel a large amount more self-confidence. I know that, no matter what anyone else says, if I am doing what is right in my heart and providing for my family, standing up for what I believe in, and trying to make some sort of difference in the lives around me every day, then I have nothing to prove to anyone. I AM a bad motherfucker because of who I am and what I do. Not because of what people think I am or do.
I never thought in our society males would need to be trained in how to be a man. I watched my Dad as I was growing up. He was a man. He worked hard for my Mom and I. He worked long hours, kept up on all the outside work and still had time to teach me to hunt and fish. Before I was born he went off and fought in WWII. When he died the world lost a real man.
Being connected to nature so as to recognize the needs of the little birds and then taking action to provide reflects some of the most beautiful and profound aspects of true masculinity. You're such an honorable man, Bjorn, it brings tears and gives me hope. Thank you.
It is very rare to find someone as clear and wise, as you Bjørn, here on the internet. Some values should not be forgotten in risk of losing the reality of humanity and noble human behavior. Thank you for bringing such great conversation in this discourse.
my masculinity come from hard work in my job and providing for my woman and my kids. a smile a day keeps my worries away. my family is well fed and well looked after my mind is sound now after a short spell of anxiety and depression. and you bjorn I have to thank you in part because you got me through to some extent. the day will come when man has to truly resist, never shall THEY twist my wrist, another day awake is another day not to forsake and another breath drawn is another for you Mr bjorn. God bless you my unknown brother/friend. many blessings from the quite cold uplands of England, Yorkshire. 🏴🍺
Bjorn, starting my day listening to your thoughts in the beautiful natural setting is like a form of meditation to me. I loved what you said and agree. As a 73 year old woman on my own, I have been getting in touch with my masculine side, as I am a happy, free thinking person and I plan on keeping it that way. Ever since I was a child, I felt God's love in nature. Thank you for providing these thoughtful videos.
I grew up in a family where my father instilled in me that my role as a man was to provide for my family, and to enable our children to be balanced human beings, who contribute to their society. His other value passed on was I should strive to improve my knowledge, expertise and I still believe this is what we should focus on. I too feel that the western democracies are in crisis without realising it.
@USERZ123 I understand, but if you think my wife is subordinate to me you have no idea how this family unit works :-) My wife's role has been economic contribution before the children and some after they were past junior school, but largely it has been to create a stable functioning household. We see it as a partnership, the financial side is family financial asset, the work in the home is equally valued. When the children were born we decided that her time was better spent focusing on the home rather than farming out the kids to childcare that would eat most of her earnings. Like bringing up children there is no perfect solution only different perspectives.
So you want to become a servant to society. Bad idea. But go ahead don't say nobody ever warned you. You're married so you're already on your path to self-destruction. Without something to build from the destruction it's pointless. It's just destruction. Marriage is like taking something you built and shattering it into pieces.
@@kissme1518 In your humble opinion. The family unit has been the bedrock of society, it has allowed us to innovate and build the world, otherwise we would have simply been lawless bandits with every man for himself. It has been under attack by politicians for the last 30-40 years and the results are obvious, little safety in society, feral children and generally constant low level crime. Yes I will be servant to society because is society fails and it is everyone for himself then we are all in the shite
You really hit it on the head. I've had similar thoughts myself, and I'm glad that someone is willing to call out the toxic behaviors that are arising in men today. Great video with an excellent message!
I am a masculine woman and I very very much appreciate what you are saying here. There definitely is and will continue to be positive masculinity in men (and women) that I really want to celebrate. You are clearly a positive role model, and I very much enjoy the company of men like you.
@@dutt_arka i completely agree. I think it’s likely that sex does have a very strong causal relationship with personality and self ideals - but it’s definitely not absolute and massively overlaps. It’s part of the beauty of the diverse world. So many kinds of human. Out of interest many of my male friends have told them that toxic masculinity to them is being unable to share their feelings (often with other men), and this results in high suicide rates etc. But it feels like some men see the concept of toxic masculinity as an attack on men and all aspects of masculinity. How do you feel about this? I am very interested to hear your opinions
The only person in this comment section who for a fact doesnt have some kinda distaste towards black people. hilarious that all these dudes up in here saying that alpha male rethoric is stupid actin like they the shit as if they dont say the n word and cigarette in british all the time.
Bout time you finally say something like this. Too many people want labels these days..calling themselves alphas like they're these badasses. Just be a damn man...PERIOD
A good man is smart, responsible, honest, reliable, empathetic, supportive, respectful, strong, mature, self-confident, moral, and loyal. We need more good men to be embolded and stand up for the positivity of masculine traits.
@@andrewrobertson3894 my grandmothers kept the home, meals cooked, garden maintained and understood the importance of that. Didn’t talk negatively of their husbands behind their backs didn’t blow money “shopping”. Family was important and they knew it.
Those were mature, honest, and real words of wisdom. How much do all of us men need to be reminded of this. Bjorn is a man that is grounded. I really appreciated what he had to say. It made me reflect on who I am as a man. Well done Bjorn.
"The lack of fathers..." You hit the nail on the head! There are far too many kids today that are being raised in homes without a solid male role model. There are other factors, too, that have contributed to the rise of beta-males in the past couple decades, but the proliferation of single parent homes has truly impacted our societies.
Social hierarchies are fluid, circumstantial, cultural & individual (& many other facets). It's not as b&w as you think (regarding terms like 'alpha'/'beta').
@@BOG0690 we're all learning. Different vocabularies, different knowledge bases, different cultures, different understanding of concepts. I feel ya, & that's exactly why I did my comment. But mostly I think "charles lamica" was eluding to something - but it was lost in the brevity of his word choice.
@@Flusterette Agree. I see the bigger picture of his context. But, the way he described it made me imagine an ever-growing army of them. Couldn't help but chuckle a bit.
I really liked your definition of masculinity. I also wanted to add being able to be vulnerable to people you trust - able to seek criticism from those who want you to be the best version of yourself.
Most of the time when people describe 'toxic masculinity' they're describing extreme examples of beta male behavior. Insecurity, resentment, envy, pseudointellectualism, unsocial. The list goes on. I looked up Mr. Murphy's meltdown, and he displays a whole bunch of those qualities in that little rant of his.
As a woman I agree. I think that masculinity is primal, but bettered. It is easy to be an animal, but to be a man you must overcome yourself. I think it is a pity that our cultures have lost transition rites, and other methods that helped people to embrace their developement and different stages of life and their meaning. It may be one reason why we are so confused these days... In Mari culture, for example, when a girl becomes of age she is given the horn of the girl, that she must blow, to be a woman. But it is very difficult to get a sound out of it. The girl has to struggle and spend time with the process and go through frustration and anger and sadness when it just wont work... But when she finally gets a sound out of it, she will blow it with great pride! As she should be proud of being a woman! And the sound will be heard from afar by every man in the land and suitors will begin to flock up. As they should. But these days we have instagram and photoshop and...very few women. And even fewer men for serious suitors. Alot of simps and players.
It seems some are falling Into the trap of current morés of academia and cultural marxism which employ the idea that one must be a 6ft myopic swedish phd marine biologist in order to have an opinion regarding 6ft myopic swedish phd marine biologists. (Not you, of course). We shall ignore such assertions of course. Your comment was clearly an observation with insight that none should take offense from.but there are always a few.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ perhaps something is lost in translation. She is saying men must overcome the base primal instincts and control them. As Bjorn is explaining one doesn't give in to outbursts to express masculinity. Just as women must control their innate emotional instincts which might not serve society or themselves well. It was a compliment which you appear to have missed.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ Not take away - refine. Ofcourse you can continue to be a child with temper tantrums, if your women can't raise you better... But it is a cultiral thing, and I accept the differences between slavic and scandinavian. I too am from the time of the CCCP, and as a fin, see much from both sides. Both cultures have their goods and bads. I could not be with a russian man, however... Because the russian man could not be with me! Finnish women, you know... But we do not have to be together. I personally take you for a friend, and that is enough for me. All russian people that I know are goid workers and good people in general... But they do give in to their whims quite easily. It works in russia, tho... So I don't judge. Just respect that some people are more stable than you and might honor backbone more.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ no one said to take away these urges. Manhood means we control them, hone them, tailor them by not acting out every time we feel anger or aggression. Basically what Bjorn said in his video. Try not to read into comments that which isn't stated.
You got me back out into the woods, I've watched so many videos, but it's your videos just sitting and talking and your ideas that put me directly back into the forest. I'm actually in South Korea currently and really at this point the forests are the last refuge considering they want everyone vaccinated, me and my wife are hopefully moving back to the states this summer. But it's right what you say about the woods, when I'm out there I feel so at peace, it does feel right in a way that I haven't felt since I was a child exploring the forests around my home. Just wanted to thank you.
Hope you can get back. Many blue states have gone crazy with NY, Michigan, California the worst, requiring jabs to work, eat, and even shop. They may require jabs to get back in the country soon. The Government is as corrupt as ever, the borders are wide open, at least the southern border, with no jab requirements for those, not even tests. The South is the most free at this point.
I too explored the forest next to our little house in the country..."when I was very young'...like Winnie the Phoo. It was a safe place then...in the '40's....the forest is still there, but the path I always took is over grown now as no one needs to walk to the house at the other end...the house is gone. It was the first time I came across a Jack-in-the-Pulpit in that forest along the path. Always remembered that.
Bjorn I certainly hope people hear you out. Really listen to what you are saying. Because it is Vidally important. As a grandmother of 2 grandsons, I have tried to instill these values in them. Because they do not have father's one passed and the other in the throws of alcoholism. Thank God, both grandsons are their own men. But our young people need mentors. Especially our young men. Thank you for sharing these talks. Our society, no matter your geographic area. As a woman 64 year's of age, I've seen the vast spectrum. And believe me. Women want men to be men. Disciplined, and Mindful of their roll as husband's and father's, sons. Blessings to you Bjorn. Greetings from Ky USA.
It’s strange, I’m female, but I find myself leaning into the traits attributed to positive masculinity; endurance, courage, the willingness to put up with discomfort for the sake of my people- I think both genders should lean into that. The age of “toxic masculinity” is ending, now lets strive for the positive, and even divine aspects of the masculine energy.
I am mistrustful of a great deal of men in general based on experiences with what masculinity has been twisted into- so many seem to believe that masculinity is rooted in the disrespect and abuse of femininity. I am encouraged by men in my life who find their masculinity in patience, protectiveness, support, generosity, and encouragement. I am lucky to have them, and I want to be a supportive influence to the men around me to express their masculinity in a healthy way that comes from within instead.
I think it's not about gender, but about the role you play. Every family needs at least one calm, collected and capable member to stay afloat. Traditionally men are expected to play that role, but reality is another beast. When men are immature, unstable and incompetent, sometimes the women, girls or young boys in the family would have to step in to keep things together.
Masculine traits are not exclusive to men, nor are feminine traits exclusive to women. We all have our share of both, and we need a balance of both to be our true selves.
Thank you. Being a masculine man is about taking care of business, not trying to dominate other people. Masculine men are so confident in themselves that they don't really care what other people do. They build people up, they don't tear people down. They're also insane mentally and emotionally strong.
I'm a male, and I have some "alpha" moments, if the situation calls for one to take charge I am happy to. Though if I genuinely feel another has a better approach to solving a problem than I do I am happy to assume the "beta" role. I think too many people get hung up on winning and losing rather than right and wrong. I try to live in this nature: be strong when the situation calls for it, be kind to everyone until given a reason not to be kind to an individual, and even then don't fight the person - just walk away. Don't invade a person's space and don't tolerate people who invade yours. The world is already a hateful place, why add to it?
THANK YOU! You've made a video on a point I've been trying to articulate for a few years now. There is some kind of programming and manipulation with the "alpha-beta" and male programming. Thank you for articulating this. Good men are what we need in this world. I'm really enjoying your videos so much especially lately and how relevant they are and how they make me feel calm and HOPE, contrary to other prepping videos that make me feel like there is no hope. This makes me prep efficiently and with peace of mind rather than prepping and feeling like I'm already done-for and that there is no need to even try... In many ways your videos have saved me. Thank you Bjorn!
@@ekko6757 Definitely! If those women were Christian then they wouldn't praise being single as it is sinful to not have a husband and to save oneself for marriage. Its the media's involvement too, like TV shows programming women to want to be single mothers and career women. But also, these generations were not raised to tolerate the hardships of marriage and child-rearing as most men and women nowadays are too weak and will resort to substances and other addictions instead of being responsible. I just want to note by me saying "good men" I am re-iterating what Bjorn titled the video. I want to do a video on masculinity and how much I support men and am against Feminism and MGTOW. Men and males are wonderful! I hope I didn't offend anyone from my original comment. I am not like other girls and am not a feminist, I am a Christian Evangelist and through The Holy Spirit and Jesus I see men the way God intended me to see men, and all beings. All Glory to God for my Discernment. Amen!
@@Foreverfreeusa To Pagan women, yes. But not to myself as a Christian girl. I agree women should not be single parents! I am far-right conservative Christian and am far from a left-supporter of the feminist/MGTOW movements. I disagree with all worldly movements fabricated by human beings and only follow God's word.
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“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius
The greatest of all men! And the last great emperor.
Well said. Everyone should look to the stoics and Daoism.
Came here to not watch this video and just say this
@@lioneljohnsononvacation2635 Well, now you can watch the video
@@lewdie Dont simp for him. He is most definetely not the goat, even if we dont look at anything else, he fucked up as a father big time.
The whole “Alpha, Beta, Sigma male etc…” is literally just astrology for men
It's an illusion. You have to have a very primitive brain to actually take these terms seriously.
Edit: can we get to 1000 likes there, aye lads?
@@CoryPchajek If you really want to know, these terms were invented to indicate the roles within the animal world that other life forms have. In our world, these terms do not exist. There is no Alpha and Beta. Another thing is that these terms have been misrepresented. In the animal world and only the predatory one they have these terms. An Alpha predator means a predator that has no hunters, it is Alpha because no one can hunt it, it feeds on everyone and no one feeds on it. In the sphere that concerns the dinosaurs, there were many Alpha predators and Beta predators, they were shown to group and better study the animal world, that's all. As for the wolves, the pack is structured in roles, there is no Alpha wolf, there is the leading wolf of the pack, the one who leads the pack, the young wolves one day, those who are referred to by the ignorant mass as beta wolves, will take the place of the leader when he is gone, so they are not even beta wolves if we really want to specify. Hope this has been helpful to you.
So true
@@myratsalad I wish that would be the case but there are quite a few that take it quite seriously, they are often douchebags and can't hold a relationship for longer than a month.
I feel like Astrology (Not Astrology like what the Babylonians came up with) /Male Type is a bi-product of our ultra-primitive brains when we still walked with 4 legs. Basically, a cave man is smarter than these people
Strength is useless without wisdom and self-control.
Well said !
Bjorn would be that wise Viking you go to for guidance.
And wisdom is a fleeting resource today. Self-control is all but gone in society. Some hope still remains for the individual though. I see it everywhere. People choosing a more honorable moral foundation. Like the foundations that freed nations, and created the meaning of liberty. But can individuals wake up to the fact. Their life, as the way they are taught to perceive and live their lives. Is a lie, and only going to imprison them spiritually and physically in cages of debt, and societal turmoil, and propaganda.
My favorite quote. I have it tattooed on my back.
"The free man is wise, and the wise man is free."
Uncontrolled strength is chaos. Controlled strength is order.
The correct translation of Matthew 5:5 talks about this. It is not the "meek" who shall inherit the earth.
The fact that this guy is casually sitting in what would normally be in a uncomfortable environment while talking about strength of character makes his argument more compelling.
I don't know about that... To me it just seems like a cozy place with clean air and a relaxing ambiance
@@migolan6606 Yeah his voice is really soothing lmao
Whym Hoff be like: I'm sitting in sub zero water! I speak the truth!
Honestly you should try it sometimes. It doesn't feel bad at all. Quite the opposite. Just make sure to wear as many clothes as you can and that your immunity is as good as it can be so you don't catch a cold or something. It's quite nice to enjoy a winter day like that.
He's by a fire?
True masculinity comes in many forms. It's not about shutting out every emotional response and condemning every human action, it's about knowing when and where it's appropriate to express them. I wish there were more men like you in the world Bjorn, you are the example of how to carry yourself. Calm, collected, together. There is no need for bravado or extreme outbursts of anger to show how you feel about something. That's a mark of maturity in both sexes of course, but it is especially important as men because the draw to explode at times can be much greater, and the consequences thereof are more destructive.
Well put. I've always laughed at the overly-macho guys; just screams insecurity, one of the least manly traits. A real man, like you say, is calm, collected, and in control of his emotions. He is responsible, honorable, honest, trustworthy, reliable, and has the capability to or actually does provide. Most of all, he is someone he can honestly say he respects and is proud of.
Alpha male simply means being yourself and not conforming to what other people expect of you. It is just a way to differentiate from weak males who follow orders out of fear of not being accepted or liked. The overly-macho BS is anything but alpha.
@@TheRealInky or is working to get themselves there. Knows his faults, accepts them, and is making improvements in his life to be a better person. That's hard shit man. Especially when you're doing it by yourself as a lot of young men need to do.
@@no-barknoonan8798 Great addition, and very true. Unfortunately a lot of young men didn't have the best fathers, if any at all. I struggled a long time to get where I am today, and I will keep struggling on. It all gets easier with time.
@@poppinbeansdankstyle1255 Jack Murphy? Is that you?
Speaking as an anthropologist, I always loved reading these "alpha male" websites where they basically just try to be sociopaths. I see it at work all the time too. The problem is, the culture of being a leader or a defender disappeared as generations of parents gradually fell into corporate jobs and those companies no longer provided loyalty or a sustainable career. The people who are honest have to move around, and the people who cheat the system (act unsustainably) are rewarded. This bled into family life and so we no longer have models of sustainable men. Just corruption, and unsustainable or toxic power masquerading as strength. That's why we mint sociopaths and not men these days. The only solution is a return to balancing the population out with more people who work for themselves and not in bureaucracies. It honestly applies to women the same as men.
You've got it right. I feel like previous generations were able to "cash-in" on booming tech and a booming economy while still having some kind of relevant/virtuous society and culture to surround them and help them and keep them inspired and uplifted.
Now, for the reasons you've explained (and others), that good society is gone; and chasing after another "cash-in" just isn't enough for real people who want a real society to be a part of.
Technology and markets used to be made to serve us, now we are made to serve them/it. It's making us all sick.
Plus the emotional neglect we're all suffering. It's worse if you experience it from primary caregivers as children - neurodevelopment is negatively affected, & adapts that way.
We need good, loving people... But we all have less time, less $, more stresses, still lots of stigma around mental health (esp from men).
@@Flusterette I agree with you but want to open a discussion about what you say about men and mental health. Let me first say you are totally right; there is a stigma around mental health and issues from childhood that certainly prevents a lot of people from being taken seriously. But there are so a lot of people who turn their problems into their core identity, and I also think that the "masculine" approach of dismissing pain and challenges has evolutionary behavioral benefit. In a situation where needs can't be met and things are terrible, a survival situation, people must ignore problems in order to focus on things that can be done. Kids learn this, or used to learn this, in sports. The team has a will and goal of its own and can't stop for every injury or injustice. Anyone (intelligent) who played team sports understands both the value and the destructiveness of this mindset, which is why people say sports teach life lessons but then have a hard time explaining exactly why. Plus, after a sports practice or game you are supposed to revert to a system of support and caring at home or at school. The difference between war/survival and sports is how long the period of strain lasts. Great societies have been born from this stoic mindset but that culture usually decays when the society starts to thrive. It has its place, in other words, but it is not a complete solution. At this point, I think society is falling apart because it isn't meeting reasonable needs. I think the reason so many people are pressing so hard on illegitimate needs is because there is no forum for legitimate needs. Your sexual/racial/etc. identity and issues are easier to discuss, actually, than the fact that the entire middle and lower class is failing. Bite sized problems therefore get put before the 800 pound gorilla in the room. And this causes animosity. I don't know how to resolve that but I think it would mean moving in a direction where we focus on common underlying issues and agree to face hard realities instead of relying on hope. If we can no longer afford healthcare or caring for our elderly in a human way, we need to acknowledge the system we are participating in of our own Accord is not working. I think that whenever this happens, the Left and the Right step in to confuse the issues and profit.
I find it odd that you state your credentials as an anthropologist, then make an argument in psychology.
@@jonnordland7585 wisdom would be seeing the two scientific disciplines in tandem with others.
The forest from the trees, the big picture.
Anthro is the study of what makes us human, & physical behaviour is = to psychological motivation/intention.
To be a good anthropologist, one would need to be curious about the way many factors intersect.
But you talk like one can try not have the authority of one specialty, one way, without being seen as invalid. 😂
I forget where I heard this, but "A soldier should learn to dance before learning to fight" always resonated with me. Strength is important, but so is self discipline, control, and being comfortable being who you really are.
"Be a man, that's more than enough"
Beautifully said.
Be yourself, man or woman.
There's a lot of detrimental conditioning forces that come from the environment and while they're not new I also feel they haven't changed or evolved much.
And the only way to fix that is to just be yourself, which is easier said than done considering we're terribly attracted to what we're not
I heard/ read the same thing a while ago. It formed a part of ancient Greek physical training. I was watching a video on Tetrades, but I cannot remember who the quote it comes from. The idea was for a balance between balance and agility & strength and aggression. That is the way I took it anyway.
"Thou wert the meekest man", says Sir Ector to the dead Launcelot. "Thou wert the meekest man that ever ate in hall among ladies; and thou wert the sternest knight to thy mortal foe that ever put spear in the rest."
Whenever I wonder about manhood or being a better man, I always remember "the nessesity for chivalry" by C.S. Lewis.
@@dugonman8360 Knights rarely ever upheld the supposed virtues that chivalry espoused. It's all meaningless platitudes when spoken aloud. Actions are what shows resolve. Whether these values are truly virtuous is an important point of contention.
@@guts1258 you mistake the whole point. We can know that a knight falters in his duties because we know what a knight should be in the first place. Besides, most of our perception of the middle ages are written by a modern perspective and academics, who hold that age in contempt.
You're thinking in absolutes. Its not to fully become a paragon, but to strive as best as you can to be that paragon. You'll falter, because its human, but you need to keep striving.
I'll take that over the modern example of manhood anyday of the week, due to the modern paragon being just a hedonistic animal.
My definition of being a good man came from my grandfather. He worked at a mill grading lumber, boxed successfully, and trapped beaver, coyote, fox, and rattlesnake. He also raised pigeons, goats, rabbits and would care for any suffering animal from skunk to seagull. He always listened to and worked as an equal with my grandmother. I watched him snap a bobcat’s neck in a trap and I watched him weep openly when a sickly goat kid couldn’t be nursed to health. I strive to someday be as strong and gentle and openly accepting as him.
Your grandfather sounds awesome.
I just found out about this new disorder "they" discovered.. Opposition defiance disorder (ODD). When a person displays defiant and disobedient behaviour towards authority🤣. Are these guys for real! Tyrannical government coming right up🤔
@@Professor__S ODD is a real disorder, and it often progresses to full blown ASPD in adulthood.
I think the symptoms aren't really present well.... ODD is like pre-psychopathy, or it's ADHD mixed with a lot of aggression with little to no fear of consequence.
What a fantastic role model❤
A perfect ballance between a ,,butterfly and a ,dragon"
My internal goal 😎
Caring for the weak, even feeding the “little birds”, is masculine. I know you’re not a Christian, but biblical masculinity involves providing for your family and protecting the weak and defenseless. Being hyper aggressive is not masculine, it’s childish.
As a millennial Catholic man, allow me to thank you for emphasizing that part of masculinity as dictated by Christianity. My father and mother were sure to raise me in that similar way when I was a child in Nigeria and it has helped me grow as a man.
Did christianity use the term masculine to describe Jesus's characteristics. If you think about the Romans who killed Jesus and were interested in watching bloodsports could be perceived as more 'alpha'. The most common meaning for 'be a man' isn't 'protect the weak', it's crush and conquer.
Honestly you guys need to stop obsessing over the term 'masculine' so much. It's honestly kind of childish. Just be a good person.
@@SynthCool You’re making the assumption that a Christian would think of a modern “alpha male” as masculine. I do believe the stereotypical “alpha” is not masculine from a Christian worldview. There’s not a ton of men who claim the title of Christian who live out their beliefs well.
There is incongruity between Christian and non Christian masculinity, and I’ll be ok trying to live that.
If it’s childish to discuss masculinity, why are you even voicing an opinion? After all, to be a “good person” within one’s given beliefs, one must live to their standards, which I some way must be established, including what constitutes a “good person”. You may think that different from my idea, and discussion and agreement or amicable disagreement can be reached to form or cement a civil society
@@davidelzinga9757 Why do Christians get to say what is masculine and what isn't? 'Masculine' is so vague that it means nothing. I've heard people say mercy is not masculine and people say helping the weak is masculine and so forth to the point where it all boils down to what you personally believe is masculine is whatever you're secure with yourself
@@SynthCool It's supposed to be about an order of a man at the head of the family.. though modern Christinity is not conserving that point. They just say equate things that have nothing to do with masculinity to make themselves feel better.
Whenever I hear young men discussing what manhood is, I loudly proclaim manhood is not having to rely on anyone's definition of what being a man is.
The only person who can define that is you, and that alone speaks enough volume of character.
👏 hell yeah
Absolutely. We are all individuals. Learn what it means to be you, not what it means to be "a man".
Yep, exactly, well said.
What if they are lost between traditional men and modern men ideologies?
Well said Bjorn, men who truly embrace their masculinity also look to better themselves not just for their own benefit, but also for those they care for. That is one of many tenents we as men must look to. Men who are actual alpha males don't brag about it, they prove it by the manner in which they act.
💯% Spot On, it's about Love, Loving each other into wholeness, being supportive like a hammock, nature also does this, it is natural rehabilitation from The Most High Creator God Almighty and why Bjorn enjoys being there in the woods so much and why it feels so Right, because it is!
Thank you 😖.
Right on if you need to say your the king your not the true king
@@jaredtexter4440 totally agree, "let another praise you, not your own lips" is an old proverb that encourages men to stay quiet and work to better themselves, at their trade, or just working on their own behaviour/personality, and if they have success in any area they know it because others comment or recommend them, instead of self publicizing or demanding rights of respect etc
Just speaking for myself and a handful of my female friends, I can say we are begging for the return of the truly masculine man. I appreciate you making this video explaining the difference between masculinity and the toxic alpha male persona that a lot of men these days adopt.
Stop begging and start treating men like men. Show the proper respect and let them know in multiple ways that being masculine is ok and will not be punished. Advocate and use your feet to change anti-male legislation in your community and keep following up as a community builder.
@@greenghost6416 Exactly! Don't beg, take responsibility for what feminism has done to men and what it can impose on men by law, and try to fix it. Not only do women have to take part in fixing this mess, they also have to be committed to it! No longer choose what you want, and take part in fixing it by committing to it, and not just taking responsibility for cleaning up the mess you've been involved in. So for justice to come, you must feel obligated to fix this mess and not just expect and favor. There is no amnesty. In this way, irresponsible people avoid consequences, on the principle that someone needs to be forgiven. There is no option to forgive or even forget without justice. Probably, however, due to convenience, women will not be able to decide on it, because in fact they only want to change the piece that does not suit them at the moment and leave those that suit them still and, above all, escape from their responsibility for supporting or passively watching activities while they still enjoyed it. This is not and will never be allowed!
I second your thinking & searching for ' those men '.
In English begging in this context is not that type of begging, it means welcome or embrace. Ie to welcome masculinity.
Only when you become a complete, truly feminine woman, can you begin to see the truly masculine men. As of now, they are invisible to you, and all of your friends. Why are you and your friends by choice engaging with pretty/shiny men, who offer nothing of real masculine value, and ignoring genuine, masculine men who might approach, but will very quickly identify you and your type as not qualified for what a masculine man demands from a feminine woman who is of benefit and status to pair with?
"Just be a man. That's more than enough." - perfectly expressed.
It was such a profound statement wasnt it.
or, just be a human being?
Men shouldn't be a concern in comparison to the lack of women. The female species is being faded out via genetic engineering and gender inversion. Do a thorough "transvestigation" on this and find that all First Ladies and every supposed female celebrity you've ever had an attraction to was born female (and vice versa to an extent), or are pseudo hermaphrodites. Men could be carrying on relations with a trans women and not even know it, being that the sex chromosomes of XY and YY are being manipulated by the instruments of man (and the effects of 'ultrasound' sessions) and trans-women are also being fitted with makeshift wombs via Vaginal construction (vaginoplasty) and have long been capable of pregnancy, where the baby is delivered via C-section. Baby designer operations in "ethnogensis" is also undertaken where the fetus is periodically grown in artificial wombs as a program striving towards 'trans-humanism'..
"The artificial womb also know as the artificial uterus is a device that allows for extracorporeal pregnancy (situated or occurring outside the body) or extrauterine (a pregnancy situated outside of the lining of the uterus) fetal incubation (EUFI) by growing an embryo or fetus outside of the body of an organism that would normally internally carry the embryo or fetus to a full term pregnancy."
@@danielliberty5945 Yours is the kind that ruins the comment sections of these vids with your lunacy.
@@MrAlepedroza You were nurtured in the biosac of a warthog.
As soon as I hear "alpha" anything I immediately know I'm dealing with an insecure person who needs external validation.
Ironically, that need for external validation disqualifies them from being the "real men" they doth protest so much to be.
@@Zachary- Yep. The men I know are strong, masculine, confident and do not broadcast the fact. They don't need to. It's evident in their behavior. And strong women don't feel oppressed by that, we are empowered and supported by that masculinity.
Says the person with the username "barbidoll". Got it.
@@pigpuke LMAO tell me you don't know what a portmanteau is without telling me you don't know what a portmanteau is.
@@pheenobarbidoll2016 Dropping the 'e' isn't a portmanteau but whatever you gotta tell yourself to sleep at night.
just came from lying in the snow in silence, watching the trees and just felling it all. Too bad those that don't know how it feels can't get that added feeling from your videos!! I highly recommend you all leave your things for a while and just go into nature, real nature...
Nature is amazing. I love sitting under a tree by a pond, reading or pondering or fiddling with my guitar. Buying my own land was the best decision ever; I feel at peace out here in the country.
Yeah I spent most my time outside. I don’t lay in the snow but I’ve found it’s amazing! Amazingly fricken cold! Bring on this global warming!
I live in the White Mountains in NH USA, we have 4 distinct seasons...I love being outdoors, I'm looking for a small cabin on 3 or 4 acres right now as a retirement place when I stop working. I'll sell my current house, pay off the cabin and live in the woods till I die
I've just spent 5 hours with nature, being present and guess what, there are no problems there
Same here. I do the same with the ocean. Just sit down by the seaside and take it in. When the vawes gets to 5meters pluss, that's where the fun begins. Apreciate mother nature. Leave your phone behind and just have a walk through a forest, a hill or whatever. Take in the sounds, the smells and the visuals. Just sit down and be.
Love how practical he is. Very direct and insightful. Concise and powerful. Thank you Bjorn
Thank you for those kind words!
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!!
I am SO grateful for my masculine husband of almost 40 years!!
I actually feel sorry at times for those searching for a spouse they could truly rely on in times of trouble.
My husband has been a support and provider for our family and the Love of my Life...I KNOW my husband will get us through anything that comes...we work together so well.
Thank You SO MUCH for your thoughtful, insightful content!!
If I can brag, you my amazing wife of almost 40 years tells me the same :)
@Hal
You truly have every right to brag and I am happy that you feel that way!!!
You brought tears to my eyes, Dear One!!
May you have at least 40 more years to enjoy each other!!
(Sorry, I corrected your name. I didn't have my glasses on and spelled your name incorrectly. 😊)
Thank u for Ur kind words I've been on my own 21 years and it's tough at times 🤗👍
Behind every man is a stronger women. Respect.
My husband and I are the same way 38 yrs and he is my rock..
Brilliant - it’s what I have said for years - muscles, tattoos, bullying and overuse of bad language isn’t being a man. Mutual respect, honesty, and experience of life is required too.
Those men get the best treatment, so why not emulate them
@@Kameraspie because to paraphrase a Bill Burr bit, that guy ends up having people describing him as a "Bill paying SOB!"
What's required is that your balls produce sperm. That's all.
And responsibility and ambition
@@MrCmon113 Lmao what, you can't be a man if your infertile?
As a woman married to a masculine man, I appreciate your message of real masculinity.
Same. We both have our flaws, but my husband is an actual man, who acts like a man.
@@ekko6757 Whilst that is so in the current legal situation in the West, I think perhaps it is better to celebrate that there are still women who have a grasp of what is needed for a successful society.
@@ekko6757 It depends on who he married. Look at Cody from Wranglerstar, another RUclipsr, as an example of picking the right woman. I'm not saying he won't ever get divorced but it certainly appears as though his wife truly adds value to his life, as he adds value to hers. That's the way it should work.
Same here. I'm very thankful that I'm married to a masculine man.
opethfeldt- Are you seriously using a RUclips couple as an example of a good marriage? Of course they are going to display themselves as the perfect couple. It's how they make money. Did you actually think they would post their "issues"?
I've known many couples personally that put on a great act of being a perfect and happy couple. As soon as they get home the rails fall off. This is the rule, not the exception.
His point, anyway, was that when you sign a marriage license you have legally put yourself in subservience to the woman. This is true.
I'm a woman. And I am working hard on becoming a stronger woman. Embracing my natural femininity while also being self-assured, thick skinned, and hopefully one day free from anxiety which I honestly believe stems from being brought up in modern western culture. It's a rampant and vicious disease. Society needs strong people. Both men and women. I hope to one day be strong enough and feel deserving enough of an equally strong partner. I do not want to continue to settle for weak men because I myself have been weak.
You can
Look into Biblical femininity. It is Amazing. And I’m only agnostic, not preaching. But biblical understandings of masculinity and femininity and amazing.
I have 1 girl and 4 boys. At first I was so overwhelmed with so many rowdy boys. But now I know I am extraordinarily blessed to be chosen to raise up good righteous men when the world needs them so desperately.
do not try to stop it, try to guide their energy, so many boys have been ruined because society wanted to make them docile and obedient,
Idk about you but the only thing that was able to ruin me for some yeara was a girl... and my parents couldnt have protected me from that cuz i wouldnt have listened. I believe the world is constantly trying to break u in very creative ways u just cant let it
Agreed! The biggest problem I see with "men" today is that they are all afraid! Afraid to speak truth, push themselves, carry heavy burdens...I try to raise my boys to continually push themselves and embrace their fears...
Also, at some point, everyone has to be "broken". Whether by a girl, life circumstances, ect..hopefully my boys will use their failures/shortcomings as motivation and passion towards good...
Similarly, we had two daughters, and now two grandsons, rowdy is a good description. I wanted to be sure my Daughters were able to make their own decisions and make good life choices. I like to think we succeeded. Both are well balanced and strong in their own way, they are not people to be walked over and have strong ethical behaviour.
Well, objectively speaking (not from a human-centered POV), the last thing our world needs are more humans. :D
You can tell alot about a person's character in how they treat animals.
Your a good soul Bjorn.
Agreed. And also how they treat the weak and the down trodden and the outcast.
Ya holding a dead fish m8. ^_^
Maybe it's not the big clue...
The worst pathologies out there won't even be around a filth that looked like it might smell like an animal... but they can kill you by moving a decimal point on a computer
Sydney Watson the girl he cussed at or the woman from her videos that I've watched she's pretty grounded and got a lot of wisdom and she deserved none of that he did apologize and I hope that was heartfelt but you know when you're on the after the meeting you're hoping to all that kind of stuff just she is opened up people questioning her stuff take care
…..Says the Fish murderer ,leave wildlife alone
@@fyrish100 something dies so you can live. You honor the great green beans sacrifice by giving this guy shit about a fish? ^_^ it's about why you eat haha
The same goes for Femininity. Strength and independence and awareness of who you are. Not simpering and silly and impulsive, not following obediently, going along with what isn't right.
@Where's Wendy - So how do you account for the hyper-feminisation of Western society these days? And at the same time we have the demonisation of masculinity.
@@wiseonwords To put it simply we're just lost. With the information overload in the internet there's thousands of paths we can choose to take, it's very difficult to choose the right one
What hyper feminisation? Women aren't women, the word was deleted of meaning and it is like a skin that whomever could wear it whenever they feel like.
@@wiseonwords hyper-feminization?
I think what it actually is may be more akin to de-individualization. Removing the conditions require to be able to live a life based on one's own decisions and contemplations. Strength, individual responsibility, self-control, self-dignity, self-sufficiency, stocism, discipline and most importantly accountability for ones own shortcomings,misjudgements and bias. It's happening to both men and women leaving them worse of and unable to help even themselves.
@@necrosteel5013 lowest T levels in men in history
What a beautiful message and even more magical location
Thank you for standing up for women. During this feminist age, as a woman, I have always stood up for men. They're trying to pit people against each other in any way they can. It's much easier for people to thrive when we work together.
We're in unchartered times. The lucky ones will manage to organise themselves to the extent they can survive in the open away from the towns. I've no idea how I'm going to show up in such a paralel society, but you're right survival depends upon figuring out how to work together
For those who want to destroy a society, the first step is to create doubt, fear, and suspicion amongst the members of that society. If you pit men and women against each other, encourage chaos rather than cooperation, and eliminate the family unit, your goal of "divide and conquer" becomes much easier.
Yes and yes!! Division is the agenda, we need to unite and harmonize the polarities
What happens if you are jaded beyond repair and have grown completely indifferent to the “fairer” sex??
I just had a two day debate with a guy that insisted, a man has authority over a woman. It doesn't matter if he beats you ( maybe he thought, they need it)
I told him I always have been submissive to my husband. Not every man deserves respect. He told me I was going to hell.
The conversation went into witchcraft. Me saying everyone is a witch but are you a good witch or a bad. They started deleting those posts, not their, I mind you. I said, Jesus used witchcraft to turn water into wine and heal the sick and raise the Dead.
These two guys were sending me to hell because I don't respect ALL MEN! 😆
Maybe I'm wrong🤔
I'm a widow. I do not date because I'm not lonely! I'm fine! The choices are slim.
When my friend first introduced me to the Alpha beta concept I never really understood it.
I just asked him "So I guess you're an Alpha then" and he was like "yes Ofcourse".
I couldn't take him seriously. Every time someone brings up this topic I just end up believing they are insecure about their position in the hierarchy, and the fact that they think about it all the time, just reinforces that belief.
And if being Alpha is about being rude, loud and obnoxious, then go try be an Alpha in the military, good luck to you, they will break you down.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't all these labels come from the dating coaches to guide men on what qualities they need in order to better their dating life?
I'm a woman and I feel the same whenever someone brings up these names to me. I still don't understand it. Like.. spend your energy improving and healing yourself, not obsessing over this additional hierarchy people have placed on themselves.
@@haethor it's a man thing
When i was in. My first class gave me a 4.0 eval because i "wasnt a alpha male" . others were able to royally fuck up with little to no repercussions. Like forgetting to top up fuel before a convoy. Rolling a MRAP into a ditch in Kandahar. Or violating lawful orders. Only mistake i made that deployment was clipped a panel box slightly with a fuel six con cause a CE1 didnt want to do his job. Got in trouble for a week and had to give a speech
Their error is in even worrying about their position, or even arguing the whole hierarchy among men is even a good thing.
If someone needs to go around telling others that they are an alpha, they’re not an alpha.
what does that make me? I feel like an alpha right now while im a beta but all other male's around me are getting so feminized so i feel pretty alpha right now but what does that make me? Am i an alpha or a beta? What determines that?
@Roobs Beautiful
@@patrickpol6156 insecure beta for putting so much thought into it, honestly 99% of the comments are from gay nerds. if you have to search up 'how to be masculine' on the internet then you're not 'masculine'
@@patrickpol6156 An alpha provides and protects. That's it.
@@SynthCool Lmao that was rough
to me, masculinity is synonymous with integrity. Not just surface integrity where you make it look like you're a good person to everyone else and behave differently behind closed doors, but doing the right thing for the sake of doing the right thing, and putting others that need you before yourself
Integrity is part of being a human, period, regardless of gender. Without it, the individual is a destructive force in the society.
Amen, brother. Real men will continue to do the right thing even if its not beneficial to them
As Marcus Aurelius said: “Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.”
The Stoic app 😎
It's an elegant quote, but IMO it falls a bit short when put under scrutiny. Everyone of us lives according to a certain picture of what is right and wrong, and in the case of some people, especially those who had a problematic or even abusive upbringing, that picture might be severely skewed or full of contradictions. In that case "just being" can lead to very horrible consequences, since people might lack an innate sense of what is "good". So it is really important to reevaluate one's idea of what it means to be a good person from time to time. The sense of being a conscious individual is to live consciously - it is the only thing that can prevent us from ruining our lives by committing the same errors again and again. Btw. M.A. himself argued for constant mindfulness of ones actions, and I think that can also consist in talking and maybe even arguing with those we trust about the correct course of action from time to time.
@@superpartes4990 Marcus Aurelius held quiet introspection above all else, he would not argue about what it is to be a man, he simply lived his life as the best man he could be and allowed his example to be his argument.
@@Zachary- Do you really think M. Aurelius had no intellectual exchange with others? He wasn't a retired hermit but rather an emperor and thus in continuos contact with the senatorial elite, who - at least since the times of Cicero - engaged in philosophical and political debates as an integral part of their life. He had a huge corpus of correspondence, writing even multiple times a day to some friends. I think it is important to differentiate the Stoic ideal from the actual historical figure who tried to implement those ideals into their life.
I think it might be for the better that he had a lot of exchange with others since he became a well rounded and prolific writer, which enabled him to express his ideas in such a way that they had a huge impact afterwards. Whether he wanted to publish the meditations is debatable, but the fact that they reached the public suggests that at least a certain group of people were aware of his literary production.
Wow, I'm so grateful there are still people out there using, speaking and living a common, natural sense in this crazy world. Thank you Bjorn again for your impact.
Yes indeed. I feel the same.
👏👏👏🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼💯
Bjorn, you are a true example of a man and watching you is inspiring. You don't have anything to prove but you do talk about manhood and real manhood. Too many 'alphas' are posers who have their own weaknesses they are too afraid to face. You don't put on a show, nor belittle others. You just are. And you don't why away from areas that you may have made mistakes in. That is part of being an alpha male is being honest with yourself.
Your videos are soothing to me. I sometimes just put them on just to listen while I clean. It's good. Thank You.
Alpha males are from social engineering, exemplified in Brave New World. Anyone advocating for 'true' alpha males is part of the program. Just be. Just be a man, if that is what you are.
@@matoko123 I think sexual morality is just something that is recognized or felt. While you believe that there is nothing wrong with having sex with other women, or happily having other men have sex with your wife, keep in mind that pedophiles believe that there is nothing wrong with THEIR behavior either. Someone who is clearly mentally ill can always justify their behavior...but they'll also have to deal with the fact that most people around them are sane enough to recognize when something is simply wrong. 🙂
"Just be a man, that's enough" every man needs to live by this motto
Even better, just be yourself. That's the best one can be.
@@shepardvasnormandy Nope, you wouldn't give that advice to a psychopath
@@Dooshanche funny you assume psychopaths are being themselves.
@@shepardvasnormandy well what are they being then?
@@Dooshanche it's society, their life situations and upbringing that often leads them to that way.
This is a beautifully worded critique of the “alpha male” aesthetic that has replaced true masculinity
Indeed. It starts & ends with the whole "cruddy-Alpha"-premise being based on studying wolves, & then the researcher realizing he got it all wrong afterwards...
But, the flawed premise caught on like wildfire, to the point that the researcher explaining he was wrong & how behaviour of alpha wolves really works (nurturing, parenting, sensitive attunement to the individuals, supportive, caring) went relatively unnoticed. It didn't mitigate the harm of his initial flawed-premise.
@@Flusterette Sadly nothing stops weak idiots from latching onto flawed ideology and making it even worse somehow.
@@moralityisnotsubjective5 Oh I feel you - pendulums swing, things get distorted... That's life. That's literally anything.
I'm not a "group" person - never have been. For that reason.
So I'm not much about impressing others & following - I used to be a bit more that way, to my detriment; but I knew at least I'd learned something in retrospect.
My best platonic & otherwise relationships are really intimate & deep. You have to do a lot of work on yourself for those. I still have struggles, though.
I think some things, once they turn 'fad' -- something genuine is lost; if it has to be that 'novel' then I see it as a tool/accessory/aid, & novelties wear off.
It's not permanent, however at the core (however lost in translation by people's perspectives) -- something is there, in common with greater humanity.
It is in my favour that I liberated/healed myself (as best as I've been able to, thus far) eclectically & diversely.
I tried to find those cores of truth that transcended, & applied them more raw & innately natural & pure to my self-examination.
If you want to be your own person, & be genuine & down to earth, & be a good brave person as best as possible -- with conviction to do the hard thing & act on your morals no matter the hurt/sacrifice/consequence (as best as possible)... You need to examine yourself more broadly than just novel flavours, & strip it back.
Experiment with the cultures, maybe some aspects enrich your life & connection with others... But see the bias, be aware, own it.
Don't miss out by having the wool pulled over your eyes, over a dopamine & serotonin surge of the novelty factor, & stop there. That's how I think the word 'alpha' is being used these days.
Branding.
That's what appeals about cults! The conformity & distinct ways/beliefs of things.
Strip it back to find the real nuggets of virtue & wisdom, though. 😊 Highway to hell is paved with good intentions.
That said, some folks lack that capacity & have to be met where they're at, they like what they like, they're willfully ignorant.
But: they're hopefully going to be different in a few years. There's ebb & flow. Phases are normal -- self exploration & experimentation.
Folks who look to improve themself, even if in ways they laugh at a few years down the road, hopefully gain from their experience.
But many will not, & it dissolves into a codependent, festering, abusive, trauma-bonded mental health fiasco, or a world of façade, & everything maladaptive in-between ranging from mild to extreme, "relatively harmless but not your cuppa tea" to "harmful with many falling for it, or raising their children that way."
That's why good examples are so important, because as individualistic as we can be, we can't help that we learn by example & crave connection. We're social beings. Real selfhood transcends all that, & can see into another's soul through their eyes & attunement to them as one organism to another. That's why the simple things in life matter -- things are stripped back, free.
This is where sensitivity has its strength. It cuts through bullshit.
So as best as one can (pending the circumstances), taking the high road with dignity & respect of people, no matter what you think of the other person, will hopefully imprint subconsciously (& maybe also consciously).
We have to be the change we want to see.
@meow purr how does anyone? They put themselves out there. Rather this than a lame phony superficial distorted narcissistic vapid influencer 🤷
They sure do love putting people into boxes and labelling them . There is also something very strange and disingenuous about guys 'trying to be' Alpha - like they are playing a role in a movie or something . A lack of a father figure in their life likely accounts for alot of this , and it really is sad to watch . . Especially when they get such lousy advice and think being a loud boorish vainglorious asshole means being a man and ALPHA . . Such nonsense.
Just more attacks on manhood and the nuclear family I suppose . ;)
Spot on Bjorn, ...My dad was my example and my hero. He taught by example. 67 years married faithfully to my mother, hardworking, family first, faith, knowing when to walk away, knowing when to stand his ground. A code of honor. Respectful and strong.
Sounds like an example for us all!
Amen
That was when western women were naturally feminine. That's not the case now nor has it been for quite some time.
Many years ago, I stumbled across a book that honestly changed my life: "Manhood" by Steve Biddulph. I cannot recommend it highly enough. This video is completely aligned with the spirit of that book.
A quote from it that I have always held dear:
"You must find work you can believe in, so that the time and energy of your working life is spent in a direction where your heart lies. It isn't enough just to make a living. The real work of men is to support and protect life and to build towards a better world. If you don't believe in your own work then the inner contradictions of it will slowly start to kill you. Since most jobs today are for heartless corporations whose goals we do not believe in, this is a huge issue." - Steve Biddulph, 1994
Love to all the good men of this world...which needs you now more than ever.
This! This is exactly the dilemma I now face- working in an industry that I love for just under 35 years, while the corporate bigwigs at the top seemingly do all they can to wreck it.
@@sirferr8902 can you strike out on your own? Or start moonlighting to become established until such time as you can?
I know the book well. Actually the author used to live close to my home. Having read the book, I shared it with a very good friend in the UK who then went along to his local town hall where Mr. Biddulph was speaking. Steve's book and what he spoke of at the talk, was something that my friend considered and passed on to his young son, who over time developed into a fine young man with a successful acting career that he loves and completely believes in. I was so impressed that my pal would read and adopt some of those ideas into his own life.
That is good advice for women, too
@@jjs5191 so long as it's balanced in a family life. Children need their dads, spouses need to take care that both have some of that balance in their lives outside of work, family responsibilities, & genuine time interacting together (especially with kids - neglect is an invisible trauma). But I generally agree!
The term "alpha male" is far too often used to describe people who are the total opposite. I agree 100% with the "immature" assessment; it seems to be less about being an "alpha" and more about behaving like a 13 year old boy.
My personal favorite are the guys that'll smash a TV over a sporting event, can be goaded into a fight over almost nothing, and never miss a chance to "kick someone when they're down."
I totally agree! Which is why I never joined in on the Murphy dogpile. I am very familiar with the personalities that started pestering him originally, and they are very insecure, petty, and vindictive. They've done far worse than Jack ever has with far less provocation.
Of course he shouldn't have swore at Sydney, but she could have read between the lines a bit and not pestered him with a comment from a troll. Not as bad as Murphy's tantrum, but still a mistake on her part.
"Any man who must say 'I am the king' is no true king."
@@insensitive919nah Murphy deserves. These grifters make all kinds of claims and fill the heads of teens with their bullshit and live their lives opposite to what they preach. He deserved to be shamed publicly, especially with how emotionally he handled being exposed 😂
Anytime someone declares themselves to be anything ("I'm a good person, I'm an alpha," etc) I disregard whatever they say. The cream doesn't need to declare itself or be told, it just rises to the top on it's own.
My brother pointed this out to me a long time ago.
Like Margaret Thatcher said. "Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell someone you are, you're not."
I agree self proclamation means nothing.
Oh that's an excellent quote. The cream doesn't need to declare itself or be told it just rises to the top on its own. No joke I use heavy whipping cream for my coffee. I love the frothy delicious heavy cream that rises to the top. And I've never heard of that before. I have to share that with my husband that is awesome.
So true. I cringe whenever I hear someone proclaim that they are something. If they truly were that thing, then it would be obvious and no proclamation would be necessary.
In the case of these men on the interwebs proclaiming themselves to be "alpha", it is a marketing gimmick. It is my understanding that they charge a lot of money to coach or mentor young lads in how to be an alpha. Unfortunately this is not something that a young man can learn easily when already in to adulthood. That training should have been delivered by his father starting at about five years old.
Reminds me of Game of Thrones when Joffrey proclaims "I am the King" and then Tywin responds with "any man who must say I am the king is no true king."
"I'm going to hang some bird food from the trees. Some would say that's not very masculine. I don't care"
HAHAHA! You got 'em Bjorn!
Love your videos brother!
I love birds too, so I must be a true man
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BEEEETAAAA!
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i really needed to hear this. i recently had an encounter with 2 friends where it became clear that i was not like them... and it made me question my masculinity. i now realise that what they were projecting was a very childish version of masculinity. i am a man, and i am a good man, and a strong man. thanks for these videos. i'm carrying this message forward with me.
Unfortunately these cartoon versions of masculinity is due to many boys growing up without good male role models,
All the 'alphas' still work for, and bow to the man! The man likely being a 90 yr old banker, casino mogul etc.. The idea of the alpha was probably great when we were in the jungles and on the tundras, but we're not.. brains rule this world, and likely always have..
Don’t let boys lead the man. Hold your head high and strong.
@@debtminer4976 This man speaks facts. I know a couple guys who constantly boast their wage every time I see them and my retort is “in the end isn’t another man wealthier than you essentially the one who is *actually* providing for your family? In the end, don’t you still have to ask permission from another man to leave the job site to 💩?” Some guys are alphas in their own mind and nobody else’s.
Cope....
I want to thank you, I kind of fell into the whole alpha beta bullshit trying to find myself. It seemed like an answer but lead to dark paths I didn't appreciate and started to think that life was fucked. I came upon this channel and its so simple. Just be a man! It is that simple. Again Thank you.
We should always be cautious with world views and roles that defines one's value in relationship to the inferiority of others.
Real masculinity isn't about how much hair one has on the face, how much one can drink, or how many women one has bedded. Real men think before they act, and take responsibility for the results of their actions. Real men live honorably and their word, not lightly given, can be counted on. Real men are principled and loyal to their families, teach their children to be honorable people, respect the rights and property of others, and feel at home "in the vuds." Real men don't have to tell anybody what a man they are, and can be comfortable with planting flowering shrubs as well as with rebuilding/repairing engines and machinery. Real men care about others, the wannabes only care about themselves and their "image."
My husband is all those things but he's not really woodsy. Lol I love the woods though. 😆
Immature narcissism, the body builders and blatant show offs, I agree, genuine strength does not need to perform.
@@Deliquescentinsight genuine strength does need to perform, just does not need to "show off". I would say that "Show off" is the narcissism. I think you have the right idea, though.
@@Deliquescentinsight For some of the bodybuilders it's their job.
The ones that only care about their image side with the cult of the marxists, and try to destroy you with that power... instead of learning from you and growing in their philosophy.
This reminded me of the quote, “The most dangerous person in a room is the one who is silent and observes everything.” Growing up I used to think the “alpha” in any situation was the guy that was the most chaotic. Now I realize it’s the opposite. The true alpha doesn’t need to prove anything or appease anyone. He doesn’t perform or promote, he is simply himself.
This I find true about myself at every stage throughout my life. I was the quiet one. If someone was attempting to harm another, I'm coming and coming fast. If someone needs help that I see can't help themselves, I always gave up my "individualist" needs and helped them. It is nothing about wanting to be loved. It is about being a pillar that humans and nature can count on in tough situations. Being that vital part of nature! The other side of that is to think women are weak is complete ignorance. She will go to war and kill anything that attempts to cause suffering of her children more quickly than a man. She will set aside her individualist pride/ego and sacrifice for her family quicker than a man. She don't have the "oh well, I did what I could" in her play book. Real men and real women are both needed to go forward.
Well I'm silent and observe everything, so why am I not able to assemble a tribe with the skills to support itself in the wild? I need to be in the middle of a Canadian forrest but for some reason I'm stuck here..
@@rogerbraintree9552 because you've yet to want it enough to do more than wanting.
@@TheEd0205 You've got to do more than just wanting. You've got to learn the methods. A tribe that is to survive must be fully mobile as it collects members and heads off into the wild. It must include a crack core from all disciplines including military. There are more ex military luckily than military and with all those who've been struck off for not taking needlecraft. A gurilla army some might say but it must be even more than that.
Imho I think a balance is required, sitting in silence and just 'observing' I think is passive (cowardly) behaviour, and being loud exposes your weakness, a man must speak or stand whenever he deems is the right time, should also contribute towards to whatever situation he is in.
The most inspiring people in my life have been (in large majority) men. And every single one of them, we’re open and loving, emotionally intelligent and emotionally aware. They were quick to help their fellow man, humble, hardworking and innately strong.
You are right. We need real men more than ever before.
I miss old masculinity. That feeling of self confidence and calm strenght I got from my grandparents. I looked up to my grandparents.
As a female it was really refreshing to see you talk about true masculinity Bjorn, thank you for teaching men about it, we certainly need it in these times!
Thank you Jackie, I see many in these times who have no idea of how to treat a woman or be a man who is respected, it seems lost to most.
@@lunchmoneyphilipphilip3034 I agree Phillip, it's really sad to see and being on the other end of it it's not fun. Hopefully men will rise up and become true, respected men again. All the best to you! 🙏🏻
@@lunchmoneyphilipphilip3034 Lol... "how to treat a woman"...you really have your priorities right
There's always a former feminist in the comment sections sucking up. Never forget a traitor, always kill a traitor before an enemy.
you are a dime
To anyone who would say caring for Nature and Animals is not masculine, THEY WOULD BE A DAMN FOOL AND 2000% WRONG. Rather, providing for INNOCENT BEINGS who cannot provide for themselves is UBER MASCULINE AND RIGHTEOUS. Mr. Bjorn, this message you put out today is SOLID GOLD. Mr. Murphy exposed himself to be nothing more than a grifter and hustler and worst of all, as you said, a HORRIBLE example to men and young men of what a REAL masculine man should be. Like you said, We DESPERATELY need real masculinity and femininity and we had best learn what those two are and embrace them. Thank you so much all the way from Annapolis, Maryland, USA.
@Josh Harris Amen 🙏 God called it good.
We are supposed to be good stewards of the land and a righteous man cares for his animals.
If someone tries to mess with my family, I'll eat their face off and wash it down with a tall glass of milk. That being said, I also refuse to kill bugs. "Protect the innocent" is the number one rule of masculinity.
On an animal rescue program from America, Animal Cops Houston, I think they showed the number 700 or something very similar in the credits it was part of the logo!!! something like that, anyway when I looked it up in the Strongs Concordance it said. "Doing What is Inherently RIGHT" Looking after strays and rescuing animals is the Right thing to do. Amen
Well sed
@@goatboy150 they had something back in the days called galanterie (not sure it's the word in english but the bundle of quality you'd associate with a gentleman). Same quality/behaviour society is nowaday trying to purge out of people
I'm glad to see this story has reached so many people as it did.
The manosphere sector of yt have been calling men like Jack Murphy/John Goldman out on their dishonesty and willingness to take advantage of vulnerable men seeking advice on how to better conduct themselves for the betterment of their community.
The Warband were the ones who exposed Jack on the livestream. Much respect to them.
Thank You For Covering This!👏
Couldn't agree more!!
Shout out to the warband 👍.
Who's the warband?
@@youtubedick-tators1991 I think he's referring to Undead Chronic but I could be wrong
UC is legendary 💪
Thank you for this. I have learned that nothing is more masculine (to me) than being honest and accountable for one's actions.
I'm happy for you to have learned that. It's also called, simply, being a good human.
I hope all young men and women learn that, and maybe someday stop assign gender to human traits, because in my opinion that leads to automatically thinking that one gender must be better than the other, since all the good qualities are attributed to just the one they're part of. That then leads to unrealistic expectations from an eventual partner, or wrong presuppositions, instead of just getting to know each other's strengths and weaknesses.
Men like you are needed in these tough times, especially in this quote on quote "civilised" society. I'm a 27 year old guy, and in all honesty I find everything modern society promotes as silly, repulsive, and just plain stupid. Watching your videos, especially ones like this one, teaches me more about what I should do as a guy my age. Thank you for being my teacher Bjorn.
The world is wicked. Continue to walk your path and seek truth.
You might also like the channel Academy of Ideas. They often includes the stoics in their videos, and the stoics were very knowledgeable on healthy emotional regulation.
I'm the same way, most things now a days turns me off big time
When I was 15 I became severely depressed and detached from everything and everyone. I'm now 30 and am actually thankful it happened, I took my own path and sought truth instead of following everyone else. There is nothing in modern society you are missing out on, the best has already come to pass
@@TheGhjgjgjgjgjg That's almost exactly what happened to me, went through very low times around16 and now i'm turning 30 in a couple months and never felt better.
20 or so years ago, there were strong both men and woman. With no true role models, people mimic what they see. My family continues to live having free thinking, having pride and not become a sheep and follow the masses. We know what is right from wrong. We can depend on each other in many ways. I will NOT conform. Thank you Björn for posting these videos. Hopefully, some misguided youth will view this video and learn something.
I cried when you brought up embracing ones masculinity. Because I have seen myself grow from a fearful, ashamed, guilty young boy to a young man who is learning to do just that: embrace the masculinity that I don’t have to be afraid of. Thank you for these videos.
@ccmetalhead- I wanted to cry for you when I read your comment. Have you checked out Jordan Peterson’s RUclips channel? He’s one of the most intelligent, rational, and exceptional men I’ve had the greatest pleasure to learn from. I would highly recommend that you check out his channel. He’s changing so many lives and especially those of young men.
"Being able to fend for yourself, being independant". You dont need to be an alpha male for that. Heck, you dont even need to be a MALE for that. Just be a strong person on your own.
Not many females id feel comfortable leaving them "fend for themselves" When it comes to violence and rage men are hard to top in that area sadly and built for different purposes giving them a huge advantage. Women are often stronger mentally however
@@independentinstallations8419 I'm going to respectfully disagree. Men are in AVERAGE bulkier and stronger than women. That is true. But average means something different to "all women are weaker than all men". I hit the gym and do martial arts, and i know gals that are shorter than most of the boys and are significantly stronger. One is a professional weight lifter and she can bench press like a hundred kilos easily and doesn't looks like an Amazon. Like if anything she looks like a thinner, shorter, petite wonder woman. Her arms are thinner than mine, but she just has more training and technique in how to expert her strength. And let me tell you, she IS stronger than the average men on that gym.
And let's not even talk about the gals in MMA. I'll bet you that those gals can reck any guy any time of the day. If you're a woman and you feel weak and unable to fend for yourself in an abusive setting, you should 100% learn self defense, work your body and forget about that crap of "men are stronger in average".
Exactly. Weirdly these 'alpha' males (and even some regular dudes) claim to be some all powerful men I should swoon for, when in reality they can't even handle basic survivability skills like cooking and hygiene (cleaning, laundry etc.) I was brought up in a farm that's in the middle of the forest, winters are harsh so there's no luxury of "male" or "female" work - everybody does everything. But then again I guess life in nature is beginning to be more and more an exception than norm.
You are wise bjorn, thank you for sharing your Wisdom with us
My husband and I have been married for 37 years. We have 4 grown children, 8 grandchildren. You give a very good description of what it means to be a man. A man sacrifices for the sake of his family. He gets up every day and goes to work, even when he doesn't feel like it. He is there for his children. He takes time to listen to his wife. He fights for what is right and fights to protect those he loves, even when it costs him.
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It's find it striking how, when women describe what a "real man" is supposed to be like, it tends to sound conspicuously close to the description of a slave...
Alaron- That's because a slave is precisely what women are looking for. That what "real man" means to them.
@@alaron5698 men and women should always sacrifice for their families
@@Foreverfreeusa that's bullshit
Thanks for your insights! As a woman, I am saddened by these channels that seem to promote this hatred towards women. I'm not saying that us women should be let off the hook with our behaviour, but like you said, men and women need to work together.
The woman-hating stuff is unfortunate, but I think it's basically a response to all the man-hating going on. Men and women need each other. It's a sad state of affairs the world is in.
@@TheRealInky Love is the answer.
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I agree. When I clicked on this video, I was sure that it would be full of angry comments blaming women (or 'wahmen', as many call us). I've never been so glad to be so wrong!
@@swanam_1 Even the bible if you read the context, being the man is to care for, appreciate, cherish, protect, and provide for, and care about the woman, not about domineering and abusing or hating the woman. The latter would be from satan via the results from/spoken through the serpent.
My gosh you make me feel like I'm sitting with my grandad on a camping trip having a heart to heart. Thank you
I see men at my Church taking care of their small children. They walk their little girls or boys out of the chapel to the restroom or to comfort them in the foyer. To me that is manly, fatherly, and masculine. They are an example to follow. Thank you Bjorn!
Agree, othing weak about looking after your progeny.
True.
men that cheat on their women are weak, men that leave their children behind are weak.
masculinity is about values. not whatever idiots said makes people manly. those men are beautiful
"All it takes for the triumph of evil is for good people to do nothing".
~Edmund Burke
That's why it's been triumphant for so long and continues to be so.
I admire Burke but he never said that.
To clarify: The term "simp" is used to describe men who donate a lot of money to women on the internet, usually Twitch streamers, in desperate attempts to get attention and possibly an opportunity to meet them in real life. A simp is a guy who deifies a girl he has never met, simply because she is attractive.
Well said. They could just buy an escort for their needs and focus on work.
Well frankly it's there money there life should they be doing so no but yah that's not our problem
That's what it used to mean. Nowadays they throw the term "simp" around just because you agree with a woman.
@@bartunthegreat2999 also that
@@bartunthegreat2999 yes. There is nothing wrong to agree with women if they are right. Unfortunately many men agree with everything in naive hope to get something.
This is something everyone needed to hear. I don't know why youtube showed me this, but I found what I was looking for. We need more people like you. We need good men.
Masculinity is a threat to their anti-human/ transhuman agenda for sure. I like your definition of masculinity Bjorn. "Be a man, that's more than enough". True words my friend.
Who's they? Genuine question.
@@twmbwen1402 The globalist cabal that's running the world. Genuine answer
@@spazimdam Femininity is too otherwise every aspect of our society wouldn't historically be based around controlling and demonizing it.
Yes!! Its an innate nature outside of the bs society would try to sell you
@@blahlul95 absolutely, they are two poles of the same magnet. without strong masculinity true femininity cannot be sustained. without strong femininity true masculinity cannot be sustained. There are differences between the genders, it's crazy that that statement is considered offensive to some. However these differences do not make one better than the other, rather they are complimentary with each half upholding and glorifying the whole.
Thoroughly agree, living to have sex isn't alpha. It's insecurity patched up temporarily with sex. The anger isn't masculine either, angry men don't have it together
I agree for the most part. Depends where the anger come from though and whether you can control it to some extent. Anger born out of insecurity is stupid, wrong, and un manly. However if someone punches you , you get angry and punch back. If someone or something commits a grave injustice against you or those you love, you will obviously get angry. Anger itself isn't always bad, it's why you are angry, and more importantly, what you do with it.
@@easternrebel1061 Yet if you had their problems and insecurities it would be justified in your mind. Life can be incredibly frustrating when you're dealt weird cards.
@@Alan_the_Red you have no clue who I am or what I've been through, nor I you. Having said that , believe me when I say that I have dealt a real shitty hand in life, yet I don't act anywhere near tge way theses people do, because I was raised by real men, and I'm following their example.
@@easternrebel1061 Lucky you, I was raised by an angry and unstable father. I am currently finishing a computer science degree and keeping my shit together but having issues is not fun or easy.
Edit: Oh and good job dealing with your difficulties! Sorry to be all woe is me but I think it's important for people to understand what's going on with different kinds of people behind the scenes.
@@Alan_the_Red sorry to hear that man, wish you the best of luck
Thank you for this. My ex-husband, first person I ever dated, after we were married desperately wanted us to be swingers...to have other men be with me ... Thank God I never did it, but the scars of being "not enough" to the only man you've ever been with at the time was...and still is ..quite devastating. He's about Jack's age or a little younger now. What a disgusting excuse of men.
Don't think this type of behaviour is normal in men, it's not. You unfortunately found a very troubled individual.
Fads come from television making people believe "everyone is doing it"...I was never impressed by the latest fad or Hollywood...thank God!
Some people have warped minds we aren't all like that I can assure you most of us just want a good family life.
So you married him then he became a cuck? Doubt it I think you should choose better. No offense
@@alanm6o9 Are you married to the first person you dated? And, you are being offensive.
As a young lady with a beautiful little girl, YOU are exactly the kind of partner I hoped I would always meet and have the chance to be with. I graduated from college and was so lucky to have the greatest, most loving Father in the world.
Still, I found an emotionally stunted, avoidant partner who always talked like he was a man but won't even go outdoors to teach our daughter how to ride a bike.
I admire your balance of kindness and strength, your willingness to work hard and discuss what you know with humility -- exactly the kind of man I have always hoped to be with. I would love to learn from you and work beside you. I hope my beautiful little girl meets someone wonderful, a real man who is good to her, just like you when she grows up and is ready to start a family.
Thank you so much.
I'm glad this ole Kentucky gal just found your channel.
The meltdown was totally immature! The masculine thing for him to have done would have been to say something like "yea, that's a part of my past that I will admit I'm kind of ashamed about, maybe even a little embarrassed, but I can't change it since it's in the past. We have all done things in the past that we are either embarrassed, and or ashamed about, but it is what it is, and I am a completely different person today."
Well said, we all made choices in our lives, good or bad.
Jack Murphy responded in just that reasonable way about a month ago on other podcasts. I'm not familiar with the details of this meltdown, but it sounds like the same old article people dredge up every now and again, trying to provoke him with. Poking the bear. It's too bad he finally lost his cool. That behavior wasn't representative of how he usually is in the public sphere.
@@Harleyh8309 but that's the thing. He responded cooly in the past. Why the short outburst now? He could of acted similarly to his past answers when Sydney asked. She was just asking questions posted by others.
@@Harleyh8309 Not only that, but in the days after when asked about it by another youtuber (tim pool) he handled it well then too. This outburst made no sense. The other detail to know is that he (jack murphy) runs a website that teaches men to be men, or something like that. Ironic.
The better response would be to just laugh it off. We've all done dumb things. He entered the interviewers frame instead of staying in his own, which is essential.
"The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace in a continual state of alarm (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing them with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary." - - H. L. Mencken
I've been told that I need to check my masculinity because I've done without so my wife and kids could eat. I've also been told I'm not much of a man because I've allowed my children to sleep in my bed and I either sleep on the floor, the couch, or in their bed if they're having personal issues or just needed to be close to their mother. I may have been wrong in doing that but my family comes before me in EVERYTHING. Thank you Mr. Bjorn for this video.
Being there for your children doesn't mean being a door mat. My dad wouldn't allow me to sleep in their bed and I had to learn how to grow up and deal with things instead of running to mommy. You're letting your wife and kids push you out of your own bed. Stop it. That's going to hurt them in the long run
@@olliefoxx7165 So, you're the big bad alpha king, huh? Apparently, you've got it all figured out. Thanks and my girls are just fine. If me taking care of my wife and kids these, almost 30 years, makes me less of a man than you, I'm fine with that. Actually, overcompensating beta prince seems to be a better descriptor for you.
@@lukec1651 Stop acting like an emotional 13 year old girl. I'm sure you meant well and thought you were doing the right thing. I'm not trying to attack you just trying to give advice based on my own experiences, experiences of others and observations. A man and his wives bed must be theirs. Allowing a sick child to sleep in occasionally is OK but when it becomes a habit you lose that personal space. When you end up sleeping in the kids bed what does that say to the family? Dad is irrelevant and secondary. Dad and mom are a team. I hope things are going well for you. I'm just some stranger on the internet that means well. Don't allow some stranger to piss you off or ruin your day.
@@olliefoxx7165 you came across as an insecure beta male. I'm not pissed but both could've been handled differently. When my daughters needed their mother for whatever reason at whatever time they took priority. My giving up of my spot does not in any way diminish my masculinity. Me giving up my plate at the table does not diminish my masculinity. If they were boys it would HAVE been different. Now that there's a granddaughter and if the same situation ever arises I'm almost positive it'll happen again. I appreciate the advice but it just seemed more like the same crap I've always dealt with. Seriously, thanks
@@lukec1651 i too put my wife and babies first in my life. Thats what real men do. As for letting the kids sleep in our bed, for a while both of mine would sleep with us because of some strange things that were happening at night. We own a large farm and have everything fenced in with livestock. For a while something was tapping on both of my kids windows about 8 feet high once or twice a week around 1 am. I sat up several nights, rifle in hand and did hear it several times but when i would throw the blinds open it would be gone. One night there was a human handprint left in the dew. Moral of the story is, i didnt feel safe at all leaving my babys in their rooms alone so i put them in bed with my wife and slept in their rooms for weeks waiting to ambush the tapper. I never killed the perp but to make me feel better i built a very nice set of bunkbeds and put them in the corner of our room. As for the tapper, it did infact come and bang on my window two different nights but after that it stopped. Strange thing is that i never got it on any of the security cameras.
It was really eye opening, I seriously reconsidered some of my core mindsets. Not because I'd follow you blindly but because i realized I am following those ideas blindly which do not benefit me and my "tribe"
Thank you and cheers from Hungary
Being capable of that self reflexion is godsend. Never let ourselves plant ourselves too firmly on an idea we really don't fully understand.
Agreed, Bjorn. I started to write a long reply, but there is no need to add to what you said. I pray that many listen to your words, take them to heart and learn.
Thank you, sir.
This is a very powerful message that needed being said. I respect your position on this. I'm pushing 70 and I talk to animals, trees, and my equipment. Love is just what you're spelling out and thank you for putting it forth.
I am 35. I talk to my cat. It's really cold here and my space heater pumps out the heat. So, I talk to that too. It would be really lousy without it.
Also pushing 70 but female. I talk to all the inhabitants of my garden, go barefoot every chance I get and hug trees regularly. It's so good to see a younger man like Bjorn getting this message out there. I send these videos to my son. Young men and women need all of this they can get.
Classic masculinity has wrongly been branded toxic masculinity these days, there are lots of women missing out on real men. Their heads are filled with rubbish from an early age about masculinity. I find myself very much alone, but saying that I am equally happy in the mindset that I know I'm practical, strong, stoic, intelligent, responsible, able to achieve many tasks that come my way, I choose my life so I'm content, relaxed and comfortable. I turned my back on the current societies that lock me out as a medical leper, thats their loss, because I'm stronger for it, I'm a fighter and I will not succumb to any brainwashed rubbish. We are many in this fight and I will never back down.
good thing is, you don't want to have a partner who thinks true masculinity is toxic. So in a way, they eliminate themselves from ruining your life. They'll just date these "alpha-males" who are arrogant :)
@@princessinaworldofevil I've taken a few chances and had a few lucky escapes too! I'm always looking but at the moment socially is an impossibility due to restrictions, unless I bump into someone whist out walking in the countryside, chances are severely limited at the moment. I'm happy as I am.
@@MrCow579 that's very true
Thelast Goodgirl- I'll tell you what. You disguise yourself as a man and approach these "nice" girls for a month and you will find out precisely why men don't bother with them. I doubt you make it a week without a mental breakdown.
@@princessinaworldofevil just re read what you said, girls get approached by the psychopaths who think they are god and end up with them because the good guys don't approach them. Well perhaps these girls shouldn't keep attracting the Psychos, it takes two to tango, it takes seconds to make a decision and these girls can always say no thanks, not interested. Judgement of character is a good tool to have. If your thinking they are a jerk, then they probably are, gut feeling and sixth sense prevails.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I grew up without a dad around, and I'm 27 now. These last few years, I have been really struggling with knowing whether I am truly a "man". These ideas that modern society pushes of what a man looks like, it just doesn't line up with who I am, and so I question my masculinity. I don't make an overwhelming amount of money, I'm not physically impressive, I don't go on grand adventures. But I do work 12 hours a day, 5-7 days a week to make sure My wife and son have everything that they want/need. I do make whatever sacrifice is necessary to provide for my family. I spend any and all of my free time with my wife and son, and I love teaching my son and spending one on one time with him.
These things get me made fun of in today's society, because I'm not making myself my number one priority - my priority is my family. I sacrificed my wild dream of becoming a rap artist for a living, because I recognized once my son was born that I couldn't do that, work a full time job, and spend the amount of quality time with my family that I wanted to.
I'm happier overall - but society makes it tough to be a man who puts his family first.
Thank you for the reassurance.
You are more than man enough. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Just wanted you to know that, regardless of what others or you think about yourself. Keep being a good man. 👍
You my friend are a man. A good man. A far better man than anyone who would attempt to make fun of you for being the best man you can be. You need no one's approval for being the man you are, outside of the approval of your wife and son. Live for what is important, and only what is important, loved ones. All else matters less.
@@guymurphy6982 Thank you for the kind words brother. They're certainly reassuring and comforting.
I'm grateful for this video, the comments in reply I've received here, and other voices that have spoken into my life recently.
I had a thought today while I was out on a walk during lunch - realized that I used to deeply yearn just to hear someone, anyone really, say that they thought I was "a badass".
But at this point in my life - and the change was very recent, although I'm not sure exactly when - I dont need to hear that from anyone. Now, I'd rather hear something I don't already know.
I dont mean that to sound arrogant or prideful - but I certainly do feel a large amount more self-confidence. I know that, no matter what anyone else says, if I am doing what is right in my heart and providing for my family, standing up for what I believe in, and trying to make some sort of difference in the lives around me every day, then I have nothing to prove to anyone. I AM a bad motherfucker because of who I am and what I do. Not because of what people think I am or do.
@@XIsleTheWanderer I would bet you're going to do great things. You're already on the right path.
I never thought in our society males would need to be trained in how to be a man. I watched my Dad as I was growing up. He was a man. He worked hard for my Mom and I. He worked long hours, kept up on all the outside work and still had time to teach me to hunt and fish. Before I was born he went off and fought in WWII. When he died the world lost a real man.
The problem is to many boys today grow Up without a father, singel Mothers can't teach a boy to grow up to be a man.
Here here
@@jontesjoe sad truth
Any man who must say "I am king!" is no real king.
~ Tywin Lannister
Being connected to nature so as to recognize the needs of the little birds and then taking action to provide reflects some of the most beautiful and profound aspects of true masculinity. You're such an honorable man, Bjorn, it brings tears and gives me hope. Thank you.
Fascists are very good at appealing to people with ecological concerns and into oneness with nature ideologies
@@dionysusNME I'm a follower of Jesus Christ and have learned the hard way that God's design is best. Your arrogance doesn't serve you well.
@@teslinjoe5938 I'm not a follower of Christ, so I don't care!
It is very rare to find someone as clear and wise, as you Bjørn, here on the internet. Some values should not be forgotten in risk of losing the reality of humanity and noble human behavior. Thank you for bringing such great conversation in this discourse.
my masculinity come from hard work in my job and providing for my woman and my kids. a smile a day keeps my worries away. my family is well fed and well looked after my mind is sound now after a short spell of anxiety and depression. and you bjorn I have to thank you in part because you got me through to some extent. the day will come when man has to truly resist, never shall THEY twist my wrist, another day awake is another day not to forsake and another breath drawn is another for you Mr bjorn. God bless you my unknown brother/friend. many blessings from the quite cold uplands of England, Yorkshire. 🏴🍺
You cannot beat a true Yorkshire man in God's Own County.
Bjorn, starting my day listening to your thoughts in the beautiful natural setting is like a form of meditation to me. I loved what you said and agree. As a 73 year old woman on my own, I have been getting in touch with my masculine side, as I am a happy, free thinking person and I plan on keeping it that way. Ever since I was a child, I felt God's love in nature. Thank you for providing these thoughtful videos.
Respect to you.
Being strong, self-sufficient, and confident are not only masculine traits. Read Proverbs 31! Stay strong!!
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I grew up in a family where my father instilled in me that my role as a man was to provide for my family, and to enable our children to be balanced human beings, who contribute to their society. His other value passed on was I should strive to improve my knowledge, expertise and I still believe this is what we should focus on. I too feel that the western democracies are in crisis without realising it.
@USERZ123 I understand, but if you think my wife is subordinate to me you have no idea how this family unit works :-) My wife's role has been economic contribution before the children and some after they were past junior school, but largely it has been to create a stable functioning household. We see it as a partnership, the financial side is family financial asset, the work in the home is equally valued. When the children were born we decided that her time was better spent focusing on the home rather than farming out the kids to childcare that would eat most of her earnings. Like bringing up children there is no perfect solution only different perspectives.
So you want to become a servant to society. Bad idea. But go ahead don't say nobody ever warned you. You're married so you're already on your path to self-destruction. Without something to build from the destruction it's pointless. It's just destruction. Marriage is like taking something you built and shattering it into pieces.
@@kissme1518 In your humble opinion. The family unit has been the bedrock of society, it has allowed us to innovate and build the world, otherwise we would have simply been lawless bandits with every man for himself. It has been under attack by politicians for the last 30-40 years and the results are obvious, little safety in society, feral children and generally constant low level crime. Yes I will be servant to society because is society fails and it is everyone for himself then we are all in the shite
@@DavidWhelbourn You are spot on, sadly some people can’t see the wood for the trees.
@@kissme1518 Marriage and society brought humans to where we are now. Seems to be the opposite of destructive to me.
You really hit it on the head. I've had similar thoughts myself, and I'm glad that someone is willing to call out the toxic behaviors that are arising in men today. Great video with an excellent message!
I am a masculine woman and I very very much appreciate what you are saying here. There definitely is and will continue to be positive masculinity in men (and women) that I really want to celebrate. You are clearly a positive role model, and I very much enjoy the company of men like you.
I feel, masculinity and femininity are mindsets and qualities.
@@dutt_arka i completely agree. I think it’s likely that sex does have a very strong causal relationship with personality and self ideals - but it’s definitely not absolute and massively overlaps. It’s part of the beauty of the diverse world. So many kinds of human. Out of interest many of my male friends have told them that toxic masculinity to them is being unable to share their feelings (often with other men), and this results in high suicide rates etc. But it feels like some men see the concept of toxic masculinity as an attack on men and all aspects of masculinity. How do you feel about this? I am very interested to hear your opinions
The only person in this comment section who for a fact doesnt have some kinda distaste towards black people.
hilarious that all these dudes up in here saying that alpha male rethoric is stupid actin like they the shit as if they dont say the n word and cigarette in british all the time.
@@nyxx7813 what?
@@nyxx7813 the Fuck
Brilliant! I think this is exactly the message that every father must convey to his kids, boys and girls! Keep up the good work Bjorn!
"I will do what is necessary for my family, my community, my tribe" *sharpens knife* haha
Bout time you finally say something like this. Too many people want labels these days..calling themselves alphas like they're these badasses. Just be a damn man...PERIOD
Exactly
A good man is smart, responsible, honest, reliable, empathetic, supportive, respectful, strong, mature, self-confident, moral, and loyal. We need more good men to be embolded and stand up for the positivity of masculine traits.
And a good woman?
There aren't many of those around.
@@andrewrobertson3894 my grandmothers kept the home, meals cooked, garden maintained and understood the importance of that. Didn’t talk negatively of their husbands behind their backs didn’t blow money “shopping”. Family was important and they knew it.
Those were mature, honest, and real words of wisdom. How much do all of us men need to be reminded of this. Bjorn is a man that is grounded. I really appreciated what he had to say. It made me reflect on who I am as a man. Well done Bjorn.
"The lack of fathers..." You hit the nail on the head! There are far too many kids today that are being raised in homes without a solid male role model. There are other factors, too, that have contributed to the rise of beta-males in the past couple decades, but the proliferation of single parent homes has truly impacted our societies.
Social hierarchies are fluid, circumstantial, cultural & individual (& many other facets).
It's not as b&w as you think (regarding terms like 'alpha'/'beta').
@@Flusterette
I sort of laughed when I read "rise of beta males"
@@BOG0690 we're all learning. Different vocabularies, different knowledge bases, different cultures, different understanding of concepts. I feel ya, & that's exactly why I did my comment. But mostly I think "charles lamica" was eluding to something - but it was lost in the brevity of his word choice.
@@Flusterette
Agree. I see the bigger picture of his context. But, the way he described it made me imagine an ever-growing army of them. Couldn't help but chuckle a bit.
Being raised with a toxic male model is much worse, imo
I really liked your definition of masculinity. I also wanted to add being able to be vulnerable to people you trust - able to seek criticism from those who want you to be the best version of yourself.
Most of the time when people describe 'toxic masculinity' they're describing extreme examples of beta male behavior. Insecurity, resentment, envy, pseudointellectualism, unsocial. The list goes on. I looked up Mr. Murphy's meltdown, and he displays a whole bunch of those qualities in that little rant of his.
As a woman I agree. I think that masculinity is primal, but bettered. It is easy to be an animal, but to be a man you must overcome yourself.
I think it is a pity that our cultures have lost transition rites, and other methods that helped people to embrace their developement and different stages of life and their meaning. It may be one reason why we are so confused these days...
In Mari culture, for example, when a girl becomes of age she is given the horn of the girl, that she must blow, to be a woman. But it is very difficult to get a sound out of it. The girl has to struggle and spend time with the process and go through frustration and anger and sadness when it just wont work... But when she finally gets a sound out of it, she will blow it with great pride! As she should be proud of being a woman! And the sound will be heard from afar by every man in the land and suitors will begin to flock up. As they should.
But these days we have instagram and photoshop and...very few women.
And even fewer men for serious suitors. Alot of simps and players.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ Sorry if I hurt your feelings.
It seems some are falling Into the trap of current morés of academia and cultural marxism which employ the idea that one must be a 6ft myopic swedish phd marine biologist in order to have an opinion regarding 6ft myopic swedish phd marine biologists. (Not you, of course). We shall ignore such assertions of course.
Your comment was clearly an observation with insight that none should take offense from.but there are always a few.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ perhaps something is lost in translation. She is saying men must overcome the base primal instincts and control them. As Bjorn is explaining one doesn't give in to outbursts to express masculinity. Just as women must control their innate emotional instincts which might not serve society or themselves well. It was a compliment which you appear to have missed.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ Not take away - refine. Ofcourse you can continue to be a child with temper tantrums, if your women can't raise you better... But it is a cultiral thing, and I accept the differences between slavic and scandinavian. I too am from the time of the CCCP, and as a fin, see much from both sides. Both cultures have their goods and bads. I could not be with a russian man, however... Because the russian man could not be with me! Finnish women, you know... But we do not have to be together. I personally take you for a friend, and that is enough for me. All russian people that I know are goid workers and good people in general... But they do give in to their whims quite easily. It works in russia, tho... So I don't judge. Just respect that some people are more stable than you and might honor backbone more.
@JFJFJ JFJFJFJ no one said to take away these urges. Manhood means we control them, hone them, tailor them by not acting out every time we feel anger or aggression. Basically what Bjorn said in his video.
Try not to read into comments that which isn't stated.
Amen brother. I am so glad I found your channel. Your calming voice and clear thoughts are a huge help to many struggling in chaos.
So being a good man equals to being a good person,who would have knew!
You got me back out into the woods, I've watched so many videos, but it's your videos just sitting and talking and your ideas that put me directly back into the forest. I'm actually in South Korea currently and really at this point the forests are the last refuge considering they want everyone vaccinated, me and my wife are hopefully moving back to the states this summer. But it's right what you say about the woods, when I'm out there I feel so at peace, it does feel right in a way that I haven't felt since I was a child exploring the forests around my home. Just wanted to thank you.
Hope you can get back. Many blue states have gone crazy with NY, Michigan, California the worst, requiring jabs to work, eat, and even shop. They may require jabs to get back in the country soon. The Government is as corrupt as ever, the borders are wide open, at least the southern border, with no jab requirements for those, not even tests. The South is the most free at this point.
I too explored the forest next to our little house in the country..."when I was very young'...like Winnie the Phoo. It was a safe place then...in the '40's....the forest is still there, but the path I always took is over grown now as no one needs to walk to the house at the other end...the house is gone. It was the first time I came across a Jack-in-the-Pulpit in that forest along the path. Always remembered that.
@@ds3333 I would add to that certain western states. Dakotas, Wyoming (likely Montana, avoid Bozeman), and Oklahoma.
This man must be protected at all costs (even though, it's clear he does a damn good job fending for himself as it is 😉)
Bjorn I certainly hope people hear you out. Really listen to what you are saying. Because it is Vidally important. As a grandmother of 2 grandsons, I have tried to instill these values in them. Because they do not have father's one passed and the other in the throws of alcoholism. Thank God, both grandsons are their own men.
But our young people need mentors. Especially our young men. Thank you for sharing these talks. Our society, no matter your geographic area.
As a woman 64 year's of age, I've seen the vast spectrum.
And believe me. Women want men to be men. Disciplined, and Mindful of their roll as husband's and father's, sons.
Blessings to you Bjorn.
Greetings from Ky USA.
It’s strange, I’m female, but I find myself leaning into the traits attributed to positive masculinity; endurance, courage, the willingness to put up with discomfort for the sake of my people- I think both genders should lean into that. The age of “toxic masculinity” is ending, now lets strive for the positive, and even divine aspects of the masculine energy.
Nice avatar.
I am mistrustful of a great deal of men in general based on experiences with what masculinity has been twisted into- so many seem to believe that masculinity is rooted in the disrespect and abuse of femininity. I am encouraged by men in my life who find their masculinity in patience, protectiveness, support, generosity, and encouragement. I am lucky to have them, and I want to be a supportive influence to the men around me to express their masculinity in a healthy way that comes from within instead.
I think it's not about gender, but about the role you play. Every family needs at least one calm, collected and capable member to stay afloat. Traditionally men are expected to play that role, but reality is another beast. When men are immature, unstable and incompetent, sometimes the women, girls or young boys in the family would have to step in to keep things together.
Avatar's name?
Masculine traits are not exclusive to men, nor are feminine traits exclusive to women. We all have our share of both, and we need a balance of both to be our true selves.
Thank you. Being a masculine man is about taking care of business, not trying to dominate other people.
Masculine men are so confident in themselves that they don't really care what other people do. They build people up, they don't tear people down.
They're also insane mentally and emotionally strong.
I'm a male, and I have some "alpha" moments, if the situation calls for one to take charge I am happy to. Though if I genuinely feel another has a better approach to solving a problem than I do I am happy to assume the "beta" role. I think too many people get hung up on winning and losing rather than right and wrong.
I try to live in this nature: be strong when the situation calls for it, be kind to everyone until given a reason not to be kind to an individual, and even then don't fight the person - just walk away. Don't invade a person's space and don't tolerate people who invade yours. The world is already a hateful place, why add to it?
THANK YOU! You've made a video on a point I've been trying to articulate for a few years now. There is some kind of programming and manipulation with the "alpha-beta" and male programming. Thank you for articulating this. Good men are what we need in this world. I'm really enjoying your videos so much especially lately and how relevant they are and how they make me feel calm and HOPE, contrary to other prepping videos that make me feel like there is no hope. This makes me prep efficiently and with peace of mind rather than prepping and feeling like I'm already done-for and that there is no need to even try...
In many ways your videos have saved me. Thank you Bjorn!
I feel pretty much as you do....interesting.
@@littlehummingbird1015 so happy to hear I’m not alone 🌻
Ekko- Saying that is blasphemy to a woman.
@@ekko6757 Definitely! If those women were Christian then they wouldn't praise being single as it is sinful to not have a husband and to save oneself for marriage. Its the media's involvement too, like TV shows programming women to want to be single mothers and career women. But also, these generations were not raised to tolerate the hardships of marriage and child-rearing as most men and women nowadays are too weak and will resort to substances and other addictions instead of being responsible. I just want to note by me saying "good men" I am re-iterating what Bjorn titled the video. I want to do a video on masculinity and how much I support men and am against Feminism and MGTOW. Men and males are wonderful! I hope I didn't offend anyone from my original comment. I am not like other girls and am not a feminist, I am a Christian Evangelist and through The Holy Spirit and Jesus I see men the way God intended me to see men, and all beings. All Glory to God for my Discernment. Amen!
@@Foreverfreeusa To Pagan women, yes. But not to myself as a Christian girl. I agree women should not be single parents! I am far-right conservative Christian and am far from a left-supporter of the feminist/MGTOW movements. I disagree with all worldly movements fabricated by human beings and only follow God's word.
This is the only channel I'm subscribed to btw, none others sound as genuine as bjorn.