I read this story elsewhere (story 1), someone suggested the boyfriend put her up to it, but honestly if my boyfriend told me to greet his parents this way, I'm not doing it, no freaking way would I ever say that to the parents, batshit crazy is what that is.
Also for the test story there is an update. So after he saw she was voted Nta, he got upset made his own post and took it down within an hour with all the negative feedback. She told her family and they said she would take his test if he took a similar test. He said they were all being “childish” and op started seeing the flags and asked for a break (I’m guessing it’s probably a forever break)
Talk about backfired and irony twist that op voted nta while the ex boyfriend is voted yta. Because that's so called tradition is toxic and ill bet the wives aren't happy because they were forced themselves into that situation to please their husband. That happens in real life. It's ok to be stay at home parent but u need to have some job experience and waited after being married and have kids then u can be officially stay at home parent. Because quitting ur job before marriage is an wrong path and u are letting urself to dangerous path because u don't know if ur future spouse is one of those abuser who's abuse the financial situation against their wives. This happens alots and not every women don't felt comfortable to be vulnerable when they have to quit their job to be stay at home mom while the husband supporting his family and paying the bills, but scared when the husband will abuse his financial power and control his wife's daily life. And seeing this story and comparing to other stories, no doubt op will be miserable and dealt with future husband will abuse his position and control op's actions as well his family as well. Op dodged the bullet but I fear they will come back for her.
Tell your boyfriend and his parents that he has to pass a test to please your parents. Make it a financial test, since that is "traditional". He has to give her a house or she won't marry him.
My reply would be along the lines of "Bold of you all to assume BF could even match my income, let alone tell me what to do in my own home, that I'd bought and paid for". I would NEVER want a man like that to 'buy me a house', let alone a ball and chain disguised as a ring.
She did in the update. Her boyfriend saw she got voted 'not the ahole,' got upsetti spaghetti and made his own post. That blew up in his face. Op said she started seeing more red flags. She told her family, and they she would take the test if he took a similar test. He called her whole family 'childish.' Op broke up with him, and is happy with her decision. Good👏 for👏her👏.
The SAHW test is humiliating. And it's also a big red flag, especially with the bf thinking his gf is the a-hole. I know I personally could "pass" something like that but not all women are the same and no one should look down on future family members just to try to establish some stupid archaic family values. It's 2023, grow up
I definitely could not pass that, and my mother made sure i knew it when I was growing up. I'm 54 and never married because she taught me that no decent man would ever want me.
it didn't really apply to official's daughters and nobility/aristocracy/ daughter of the chief as it did the rest of the common folk because usually the first cook a person knows is there mother that's why it's tradition and not some fucked up societal rule though many have over the years tried to assert it as such
@@xyreniaofcthrayn1195 The fact that the first cook a person knows is their mother and made it a tradition which in turn becomes a societal rule is why its fucked up. That's the whole point. These are basic life skills, learn them or starve.
@@loosilu You are much better than that and worth way more. Your value is not dependent on a man. I know that you must know this by now and I wish you the best. That test is absolute bs and it means nothing whether you can pass it or not. Your mother did you wrong.
the story with the son making the wooden gift for his step mum kinda made me upset, mum always tells me that home made gifts are the best (she has a cat pendant that I made her out of a bezel and resin back when I was starting out)
Yeah and it was a family tree, I would think any step-parent would be thrilled to know their stepchild thought of them as family and would WANT to show it off to everybody.
When I was incollege I had three roommates. One of the girls was just terrible at household skills, and we joked that she would need a maid and a cook. Well guess what? Joke was on us. She married a rich guy, and she has a full household staff.
0:51 In the words of Peter from Family Guy "Who the f*** starts a conversation like that?" 4:47 For this situation she should ask her bf one question, if she fails the test and then his family ends up rejecting her will he still stand by her? And then depending on how he answers she takes the test and then depending on how it goes afterwards she has a good chance of dumping him, basically there's a good chance Op is gonna leave his butt because the test is stupid and he's stupid for thinking his family is gonna not reject her if/when she fails. 7:16 Tell me you're embarrassed of your step-son's gift without saying you're embarrassed of your step-son's gift. 8:55 Malicious Compliance time, don't do anything and let them smell the diarrhea and then when they ask why it smells so bad just tell them "Well normally I'd do something to cause you not to smell it but you all asked me to stop doing so".
As a mom of teenagers I can say, I have been given selfmade gifts for some years and I have been happy over all of them. The most of them I still have in a cardbordbox in the celler. ( and from time to time I go through it and remember the situation i was given them)
5:23 "fun tradition everyone was looking forward to"?? Having your bedmaking skills criticized? Someone looking over your shoulder as you wash up? People peering into the linen cupboard to make sure everything is military-level folded? I hope OP ran for the hills...that's just a taste of "family intervention"...
Last story just dump him already girl he is so insensitive, he at least could have asked her why she did that and the fact that she gets diarrhea whenever she visits and he doesn't know that and she is not even comfortable about letting him know is a red flag.
I'm kinda on the boyfriend side here, you could've ACTUALLY burn the house down, and its kinda disrespectful for burning something in someone's house. You are in their teritorry, you should respect the rule's that are on there. As for the diarrhea stuff, she could've just tell the boyfriend, she doesnt need the boyfriend to ask her things, she should just tell him and they could figure something out.
Who says that to the boyfriends parents!? I feel like if my boyfriend said something along those lines I’d be to embarrassed and be mad at him not my parents
The title really suits the first story, not only could she have said SOOO MUCH other things, I get why the mom would feel disrespected with this too. Saying smth like that is just not it when it's ur first time meeting.
i would probably be so nervous as to say something similar especially if it was another language like hindi that i probably misplaced several words on the way to something as simple as you have an amazing daughter, sir and madam.
The first story… It was definitely inappropriate to say, but looking at it from the gf perspective I can get feeling anxious and saying the worst thing possible in an attempt to break the ice. I wish it elaborated if she was apologetic or not afterwards
I don't think she was very apologetic because she didn't try to reach out and explain her behaviour . Plus the son is not responding to his mother's calls as well.
As someone with Irritable Bowel Syndrome, the last story is like one of my worst nightmares... I'm lucky I'm on the aromantic spectrum and don't usually have partners I guess.
Agree that saying THAT when meeting the parents is completely uncalled for, but some people say stupid things when they are nervous. I'm sure he's been touting about his parents for the entire year and she just lost her mind.
True, I think they should've treated her a bit less harshly. But she needs to apologize for it. It was a very gross joke to make. Again, I do think they should give her a second chance, but she should apologize.
Time for Dad and son to grow up then. People aren't always receptive to "dirty comments" straight up, at the front door. Not appropriate in any setting that I could tolerate either, and so much worse in the first five minutes of acquaintance. Only if she were trash would she think that's fine to say to parents...regardless of who put her up to it.
@@RedK5 OP states that both Dad and son had the same sense of humour. In other words, the son was imitating the Dad re. terrible jokes/pranks. That's why Dad was included in the 'grow up' comment from me.
Foe the first story imagine if the genders were reversed. Yeah if it was a guy saying "I'm the one who puts my d*ck in her" pretty sure most dads would want to beat the guy up. It sounds so rude and sort of like they see your child as a sex object. Don't think I'd be okay with it either don't blame the mum.
Omg before I watch this I just wanna say I am so tired of people getting disrespected and then when the person who is getting disrespected finally clap back the person who disrespected them gets so sad like bro 😒😒 but love you Ellen ❤❤
@@iamme25yago23 "I aM uNsUrE oF tHe cRyiNg syMbOl aS a meThOd oF coMmuNicAtiOn. WhAt yOu liStEd aRe jUst tHe aCtiOns oF hUmAnity." "I aSsUme yOu aRe a cHilD dUe tO yOuR rAsH rEpLy." Oh, lighten up, Thesaurus. It is not that serious.
For the last one: That's been going on for WAY too long, without doing anything about it. Why not take Immodium, or something like it, before going, or once you get there? This could have been solved years ago.
Yeah this one is crazy, either take something for it, try to learn how to just stink up the bathroom, or don't stay there anymore, not to be rude but that sounds like a lot of effort just to poop. If they always get the runs while their at the house, it's caused by something , OP doesn't want to disclose, without that info it's hard to offer solutions, maybe the father's rigid rules cause anxiety , which could be the reason. Definitely been going on far too long though.
Hold on, let's not just look past the actual situation and blame her. OP used Poopuri to cover the smell, the mother told her to light a match instead, she lit a match and made sure it was out, then her boyfriend's dad woke everyone up instead of investigating the smell. Then the boyfriend's family chewed her out for lighting a match at night even though THE MOTHER TOLD HER TO LIGHT A MATCH INSTEAD. She clearly put it out well, so there was no danger. I've lit matches to cover up bathroom smells. Believe me, the smell of a put-out match isn't strong enough for me start ringing the fire bell. If there's an actual fire, it smells far stronger than a match. Then, her boyfriend had the AUDACITY to fuss at her too, then said try not to wake anyone else up. SHE DIDN'T, THE FATHER DID. Op needs to dump the boyfriend and his jerk family. It sounds like it's nerves that makes her get diarrhea, and no wonder. I would get it, too, if my boyfriend and his family were so inconsiderate and unreasonable.
@@arleneclark6369 they mentioned the reason in the comments! apparently the family had been leaving out the meat used in dinner for the entire day to thaw or something, to the point where it was basically spoiled when they actually cooked with it
2:08 Ehhh okay here’s my take on this. What the girl said was definitely a little…well let’s just say it wasn’t the best place to start. But she really doesn’t seem too bad. Maybe she was nervous and wanted to crack a joke, and that was the first thing that came to mind. If I was the mother, I’d be like “Oh…uhh…I see. Well, come inside” and I really wouldn’t think bad of her or anything. Aside from that, she seems like a great person according to what the son was saying. So yeah, not the best thing to say, but I’d definitely still invite her in. She deserves a second chance
I agree with the mother in the first story, the gf hadn't even greeted the parents and she went straight to the crass comment , absolutely not the way to make a good first impression
What Kyutie says about a joke surprises me, after she approved already burning down someone's house and other's murder previously in her recent videos. The joke was pretty brave. I know, ppl have different limits, but it was the most absurd thing someone ever can say as an introduction. And the guy was liking it, so by rejecting the gf the parents denied their son's true self as well.
i think the 1st story has no a-holes tbh. the comment was a highly inappropriate joke on the gf's side but to just kick her out without giving her the chance to elaborate or even apologise was a sharp decision, to say the least. i understand that she was upset but people make dumb jokes in an effort to break the ice all the time. at this point its not whether or not anyone is the a-hole here, its become how this will turn out for op and her son's relationship, cuz the son really seems like he's in love. op did reply to comments saying she knows that the girl probably feels horrible but opdoesn't have any way of directly contacting her. also op's son said he'd contact her some time after so no, he's not ignoring her
Maybe it was a bit much to kick her out right at that, but I don't think she's wrong. She felt it wasn't appropriate, yet feels bad about what she did. It shows she cares and has a heart
Ofc it’s fun for him, he wouldn’t have to do anything since he’s a guy. Idk why he thinks that’s “fun.” They don’t need to impose that onto her when she doesn’t want to stay at home
No, cos how do you think it's appropriate to say that to your boyfriends parents THE FIRST TIME....like that's not okay whatsoever, the mum has the right to her feelings.
That might have been a weird thing for the girl to say in the first story but I think that was a defiantly an overreaction. Her son has been talking highly about her for (probably) months and yet OP kicks her out over one wrong sentence. I'm not surprised the son isn't talking to her, I wouldn't either. As for the third story I don't know why the wife couldn't just lie about it. "Oh I'm worried someone might get some sauce on it", "I don't want to risk losing it", "It seems a bit heavy to lug around". Like it just seems really stupid to say "the homemade gift your son spent a lot of time on just looks crap and I don't want it to be in a nice restaurant around my precious guests."
@@loosilu She wasn't given a chance to 'control herself'. She said one thing wrong and was kicked out. There are many ways the mum could have told the girlfriend that she didn't accept that sort of rude speech that doesn't also involve ruining the first meeting between the girlfriend and parents.
@@kellycowley3535 That "One thing" was shockingly, stunningly, unbelievably wrong. There is no indication the girlfriend apologized. The GF ruined it all by herself. She is not emotionally mature enough to get married.
@@kellycowley3535 And yes, she had every chance to control herself,. She absolutely destroyed that chance. You cannot take someone like that in public. That's what I mean by emotional immaturity. If she turns disgusting when under stress, she can't join another family.
@@loosilu It's a bit crude maybe but one line that's was said as a joke (since the son is a jokester) is not enough for the mum to kick her out like that. In my opinion it was the mum that ruined that chance because she (literally) kicked her out the first moment the girlfriend did something wrong. The son has been saying how happy he was with her for a while and yet the mum couldn't even let her in the house after a crude sentence. Also whether she is emotionally mature enough to get married or is allowed to join the family isn't for the mum (or you) to decide, the son and the girlfriend will decide if they want to get married or make their own family. The mum probably won't be a part of it though if she continues to throw her weight around like that.
on the first story i can understand why the mom reacted like that and why the dad thinks that the son's girlfriend should be the one apologizing it's not something to find out the moment you meet your kid's lover i agree with ellen that it would ok if you were already close on the second i understand why she'd be like that because they shouldn't be judging her for her ability to clean cook and take care of the kids while working from home considering that if you plan on living with your future spouse you should be taking turns cleaning cooking taking care of the kids etc. on the 3rd story the wife is wrong because of the fact that the guy's son went the hassle of making it and she's saying that it looks ridiculous that's so freaking rude on the last story i believe that the girlfriend is right because she doesn't everyone knowing she has diarrhea and she doesn't want the smell to give it away
Unpopular opinion but I don’t think story one was that bad. It was a little inappropriate but kicking her out was over the line, like just communicate that it made you uncomfortable and move on. I don’t think the parents ever wanted to give her a chance, she wrote the post up like it was a checklist. Whether you like your child’s partner or not, always be supportive until they give you an actual reason not to, she was probably just nervous or wanted to feel comfortable around his parents and took it a little too far, but telling her to get out just means she won’t feel comfortable being around them and if the son loves her it will push him away
1. The girl was probably nervous and thought it was funny. The mom overreacted. Was it inappropriate and weird? Yes! But did she deserve to get kicked out? Hell no! Also why is the mom making it sound like this has been going on for years? She is “finally fed up”…umm sorry…,WHAT?! You just met this girl how are you “finally fed up”. Yeah go feel guilty! you are the asshole. The girlfriend is also weird though ofc
2 rules I have 1. Be happy, safe, and healthy 2. What happens at home and work stay at home or work I had a partner who wanted to just start making out in front of his parents. Didn't have a problem with the peck or quick kiss but like full on french kissing with the groping. 😶 No thank you.
last story.... its the parents house so its their rules. 2nd they have a right to be freaked out about the match at night, homes have burned down for similar things.
Actually I wish Katie would include updates. Turns out she gets diarrhea because they have unsafe / hygienic food practices. Leaving meat out for a long time etc. the poor girl tried poop Purie dad is super controlling and the hosie is not sanitary
First story: Get over yourself. What if she doesn’t understand social cues? What if her son told the gf that it’d be funny to say? What if she panicked and that was the first thing she thought of to say? People make dirty jokes all the time and your son had been so excited about this and had been raving about how amazing and how much he loves his gf. You yourself even said she sounded perfect. Are you the type to turn off a kids show when a dirty joke comes up? Will you not watch a movie because it’s dirty? Are you the type to disallow your kids to watch Dirty Dancing because of the name? Sure, it’s a dumb thing to say, and if this was said in my families house it would be a discussion but we’d never completely kick them out. Cause honestly? This isn’t about you!! Your son is head over heels for this lady and there are so many possibilities that she didn’t mean to say that. The fact that the gf didn’t say anything after and went silent just tells me that she immediately realized that what she said was wrong. Everyone fucks up every so often. So again, this. Isn’t. About. You.
How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? In this first story, you can tell that she's had boyfriends in the past and probably when she said the same thing to their parents they just completely laughed it off. She said that like it wasn't nothing. I would be shocked and truly just so embarrassed for my son and I would honestly talk to him privately about her because that just ain't right. In the second story, I am completely on the girlfriend's side here because she loves her career and refuses to stop doing it. Just because his three sister-in-laws are sahws doesn't mean that she wants to be one as well. I have heard some stories about those tests that the women have to go through, and if she did take it but she failed then they all would completely shun her and his mom and sister in laws would make up lies in order to force them apart. The boyfriend is probably from Iraq, Iran, or Saudi Arabia and women have little rights over there. In this third story, the wife is completely in the wrong here because first of all her stepson is 15 years old so she shouldn't have been snooping around his room and then she wouldn't have found the gift that he made for her, and second of all yes she is ashamed that her stepson is a woodsmen. The wife owes both her stepson and husband a huge apology. I loved these stories!! I love you my friend!! Stay safe!!
The first story is just shocking? How can you meet your boyfriends parents and the first FIRST thing you say is ...that?? No hi no hello just that??
Seriously, what in the world is wrong with her?
Ikr who says that? 🤷
Honestly, unless the mother has similar humour or they already knew her, I think that’s completely out of pocket
I read this story elsewhere (story 1), someone suggested the boyfriend put her up to it, but honestly if my boyfriend told me to greet his parents this way, I'm not doing it, no freaking way would I ever say that to the parents, batshit crazy is what that is.
the PARENTS too..
Also for the test story there is an update. So after he saw she was voted Nta, he got upset made his own post and took it down within an hour with all the negative feedback. She told her family and they said she would take his test if he took a similar test. He said they were all being “childish” and op started seeing the flags and asked for a break (I’m guessing it’s probably a forever break)
Yep I seen the update and was glad she broke up with him!
Where can i read those stories.. Can u plzzz tell me.. ❤
link please!
where do u guys read these stories?
Talk about backfired and irony twist that op voted nta while the ex boyfriend is voted yta. Because that's so called tradition is toxic and ill bet the wives aren't happy because they were forced themselves into that situation to please their husband.
That happens in real life.
It's ok to be stay at home parent but u need to have some job experience and waited after being married and have kids then u can be officially stay at home parent. Because quitting ur job before marriage is an wrong path and u are letting urself to dangerous path because u don't know if ur future spouse is one of those abuser who's abuse the financial situation against their wives. This happens alots and not every women don't felt comfortable to be vulnerable when they have to quit their job to be stay at home mom while the husband supporting his family and paying the bills, but scared when the husband will abuse his financial power and control his wife's daily life.
And seeing this story and comparing to other stories, no doubt op will be miserable and dealt with future husband will abuse his position and control op's actions as well his family as well.
Op dodged the bullet but I fear they will come back for her.
If the wife test was a game, then they wouldn't be upset when she refused.
Tell your boyfriend and his parents that he has to pass a test to please your parents. Make it a financial test, since that is "traditional". He has to give her a house or she won't marry him.
"Can you make 20K every month?"
"Can you give your wife 300K every week for allowance?"
I would say these back and more 😊
I agree with your comment!
My reply would be along the lines of "Bold of you all to assume BF could even match my income, let alone tell me what to do in my own home, that I'd bought and paid for". I would NEVER want a man like that to 'buy me a house', let alone a ball and chain disguised as a ring.
The test is demeaning and sexist, yeah I'm not taking your freaking test.
She did in the update. Her boyfriend saw she got voted 'not the ahole,' got upsetti spaghetti and made his own post. That blew up in his face. Op said she started seeing more red flags. She told her family, and they she would take the test if he took a similar test. He called her whole family 'childish.' Op broke up with him, and is happy with her decision. Good👏 for👏her👏.
@@winniethepooht5776 His accusation, "it's childish"?? Reason is poor with that one. Thanks for follow up story 🙂
The SAHW test is humiliating. And it's also a big red flag, especially with the bf thinking his gf is the a-hole. I know I personally could "pass" something like that but not all women are the same and no one should look down on future family members just to try to establish some stupid archaic family values. It's 2023, grow up
I definitely could not pass that, and my mother made sure i knew it when I was growing up. I'm 54 and never married because she taught me that no decent man would ever want me.
it didn't really apply to official's daughters and nobility/aristocracy/ daughter of the chief as it did the rest of the common folk because usually the first cook a person knows is there mother that's why it's tradition and not some fucked up societal rule though many have over the years tried to assert it as such
@@xyreniaofcthrayn1195 everyone should have to know those basic skills, not just women.
@@xyreniaofcthrayn1195 The fact that the first cook a person knows is their mother and made it a tradition which in turn becomes a societal rule is why its fucked up. That's the whole point.
These are basic life skills, learn them or starve.
@@loosilu You are much better than that and worth way more. Your value is not dependent on a man. I know that you must know this by now and I wish you the best. That test is absolute bs and it means nothing whether you can pass it or not. Your mother did you wrong.
the story with the son making the wooden gift for his step mum kinda made me upset, mum always tells me that home made gifts are the best (she has a cat pendant that I made her out of a bezel and resin back when I was starting out)
Yeah and it was a family tree, I would think any step-parent would be thrilled to know their stepchild thought of them as family and would WANT to show it off to everybody.
The step mom is horrible
When I was incollege I had three roommates. One of the girls was just terrible at household skills, and we joked that she would need a maid and a cook. Well guess what? Joke was on us. She married a rich guy, and she has a full household staff.
Luckyyyy
@@mohsinAli-hq1nd But it's not lucky. That's what she wanted, so she went and got it.
@@loosilubut she didn’t hire the maid though…
@@Silencer796 She married the husband who could hire a maid.
0:51 In the words of Peter from Family Guy "Who the f*** starts a conversation like that?"
4:47 For this situation she should ask her bf one question, if she fails the test and then his family ends up rejecting her will he still stand by her? And then depending on how he answers she takes the test and then depending on how it goes afterwards she has a good chance of dumping him, basically there's a good chance Op is gonna leave his butt because the test is stupid and he's stupid for thinking his family is gonna not reject her if/when she fails.
7:16 Tell me you're embarrassed of your step-son's gift without saying you're embarrassed of your step-son's gift.
8:55 Malicious Compliance time, don't do anything and let them smell the diarrhea and then when they ask why it smells so bad just tell them "Well normally I'd do something to cause you not to smell it but you all asked me to stop doing so".
As a mom of teenagers I can say, I have been given selfmade gifts for some years and I have been happy over all of them. The most of them I still have in a cardbordbox in the celler. ( and from time to time I go through it and remember the situation i was given them)
5:23 "fun tradition everyone was looking forward to"?? Having your bedmaking skills criticized? Someone looking over your shoulder as you wash up? People peering into the linen cupboard to make sure everything is military-level folded? I hope OP ran for the hills...that's just a taste of "family intervention"...
Last story just dump him already girl he is so insensitive, he at least could have asked her why she did that and the fact that she gets diarrhea whenever she visits and he doesn't know that and she is not even comfortable about letting him know is a red flag.
I'm kinda on the boyfriend side here, you could've ACTUALLY burn the house down, and its kinda disrespectful for burning something in someone's house. You are in their teritorry, you should respect the rule's that are on there.
As for the diarrhea stuff, she could've just tell the boyfriend, she doesnt need the boyfriend to ask her things, she should just tell him and they could figure something out.
@@nyes4596 I believe there was an update where she explains the diarrhoea was from the parents unsanitary cooking( they don't refrigerate meat).
@@user-fs5hr2oi7u And you get this from??
@@nyes4596 The OP of the post.
@@user-fs5hr2oi7ugross and nobody else got sick
Who says that to the boyfriends parents!? I feel like if my boyfriend said something along those lines I’d be to embarrassed and be mad at him not my parents
The title really suits the first story, not only could she have said SOOO MUCH other things, I get why the mom would feel disrespected with this too. Saying smth like that is just not it when it's ur first time meeting.
Omg? The first story 😮
Imagine saying that in hindi in front of Indian parents.
Can't Imagine 😢
i would probably be so nervous as to say something similar especially if it was another language like hindi that i probably misplaced several words on the way to something as simple as you have an amazing daughter, sir and madam.
The gf "test" story had an update and OP decided to take a break from him, probably forever lol
The first story… It was definitely inappropriate to say, but looking at it from the gf perspective I can get feeling anxious and saying the worst thing possible in an attempt to break the ice. I wish it elaborated if she was apologetic or not afterwards
I don't think she was very apologetic because she didn't try to reach out and explain her behaviour . Plus the son is not responding to his mother's calls as well.
I’m pretty sure she just froze up lol
As someone with Irritable Bowel Syndrome, the last story is like one of my worst nightmares... I'm lucky I'm on the aromantic spectrum and don't usually have partners I guess.
Agree that saying THAT when meeting the parents is completely uncalled for, but some people say stupid things when they are nervous. I'm sure he's been touting about his parents for the entire year and she just lost her mind.
Then she needs to apologize.
@@loosilu indeed, because that was out of line
there's no excuse for this. she's disgusting like what the ACTUAL fuck
True, I think they should've treated her a bit less harshly. But she needs to apologize for it. It was a very gross joke to make. Again, I do think they should give her a second chance, but she should apologize.
Another youtuber covered the first story and it was implied that the son put his girlfriend up to that because he has that sense of humor.
Time for Dad and son to grow up then. People aren't always receptive to "dirty comments" straight up, at the front door. Not appropriate in any setting that I could tolerate either, and so much worse in the first five minutes of acquaintance. Only if she were trash would she think that's fine to say to parents...regardless of who put her up to it.
Oh wow, hope the gf dumps him then. If he did and didn't immediately step up for his gf to take the wrath of his own mother, he's not a keeper.
@@Kayenne54 Just giving more context. I think XO was the one who covered it a few days ago.
@@Kayenne54what did the dad do. He wanted the girlfriend to apologize
@@RedK5 OP states that both Dad and son had the same sense of humour. In other words, the son was imitating the Dad re. terrible jokes/pranks. That's why Dad was included in the 'grow up' comment from me.
That last story... why is she even with such an insensitive clod like that? Don't be with anyone who talks to you like you're an idiot.
Story 1: Sounds like the gf didn't want to meet the parents.
Foe the first story imagine if the genders were reversed. Yeah if it was a guy saying "I'm the one who puts my d*ck in her" pretty sure most dads would want to beat the guy up. It sounds so rude and sort of like they see your child as a sex object. Don't think I'd be okay with it either don't blame the mum.
Omg before I watch this I just wanna say I am so tired of people getting disrespected and then when the person who is getting disrespected finally clap back the person who disrespected them gets so sad like bro 😒😒 but love you Ellen ❤❤
@I am me • 25y ago That’s the worst part 😭
@I am me • 25y ago hey I seriously don’t care what your or century it is NO ONE DESERVES TO BE DISRESPECTED same thing for animals that’s it💯
@@iamme25yago23 "I aM uNsUrE oF tHe cRyiNg syMbOl aS a meThOd oF coMmuNicAtiOn. WhAt yOu liStEd aRe jUst tHe aCtiOns oF hUmAnity." "I aSsUme yOu aRe a cHilD dUe tO yOuR rAsH rEpLy." Oh, lighten up, Thesaurus. It is not that serious.
For the last one: That's been going on for WAY too long, without doing anything about it. Why not take Immodium, or something like it, before going, or once you get there? This could have been solved years ago.
Yeah this one is crazy, either take something for it, try to learn how to just stink up the bathroom, or don't stay there anymore, not to be rude but that sounds like a lot of effort just to poop. If they always get the runs while their at the house, it's caused by something , OP doesn't want to disclose, without that info it's hard to offer solutions, maybe the father's rigid rules cause anxiety , which could be the reason. Definitely been going on far too long though.
I think that they did anal and after everytime she's gotta release what's inside cause her hole ain't closed up yet
Hold on, let's not just look past the actual situation and blame her. OP used Poopuri to cover the smell, the mother told her to light a match instead, she lit a match and made sure it was out, then her boyfriend's dad woke everyone up instead of investigating the smell. Then the boyfriend's family chewed her out for lighting a match at night even though THE MOTHER TOLD HER TO LIGHT A MATCH INSTEAD. She clearly put it out well, so there was no danger. I've lit matches to cover up bathroom smells. Believe me, the smell of a put-out match isn't strong enough for me start ringing the fire bell. If there's an actual fire, it smells far stronger than a match. Then, her boyfriend had the AUDACITY to fuss at her too, then said try not to wake anyone else up. SHE DIDN'T, THE FATHER DID. Op needs to dump the boyfriend and his jerk family. It sounds like it's nerves that makes her get diarrhea, and no wonder. I would get it, too, if my boyfriend and his family were so inconsiderate and unreasonable.
@@arleneclark6369 they mentioned the reason in the comments! apparently the family had been leaving out the meat used in dinner for the entire day to thaw or something, to the point where it was basically spoiled when they actually cooked with it
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Ehhh okay here’s my take on this. What the girl said was definitely a little…well let’s just say it wasn’t the best place to start. But she really doesn’t seem too bad. Maybe she was nervous and wanted to crack a joke, and that was the first thing that came to mind. If I was the mother, I’d be like “Oh…uhh…I see. Well, come inside” and I really wouldn’t think bad of her or anything. Aside from that, she seems like a great person according to what the son was saying. So yeah, not the best thing to say, but I’d definitely still invite her in. She deserves a second chance
I agree with the mother in the first story, the gf hadn't even greeted the parents and she went straight to the crass comment , absolutely not the way to make a good first impression
What Kyutie says about a joke surprises me, after she approved already burning down someone's house and other's murder previously in her recent videos. The joke was pretty brave. I know, ppl have different limits, but it was the most absurd thing someone ever can say as an introduction. And the guy was liking it, so by rejecting the gf the parents denied their son's true self as well.
It's crude and they should have raised their son better.
i think the 1st story has no a-holes tbh. the comment was a highly inappropriate joke on the gf's side but to just kick her out without giving her the chance to elaborate or even apologise was a sharp decision, to say the least. i understand that she was upset but people make dumb jokes in an effort to break the ice all the time. at this point its not whether or not anyone is the a-hole here, its become how this will turn out for op and her son's relationship, cuz the son really seems like he's in love. op did reply to comments saying she knows that the girl probably feels horrible but opdoesn't have any way of directly contacting her. also op's son said he'd contact her some time after so no, he's not ignoring her
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Run for your life girl
It's one thing to make a joke or two. But as a first impression? How about no. Especially one like that.
Maybe it was a bit much to kick her out right at that, but I don't think she's wrong. She felt it wasn't appropriate, yet feels bad about what she did. It shows she cares and has a heart
Ofc it’s fun for him, he wouldn’t have to do anything since he’s a guy. Idk why he thinks that’s “fun.” They don’t need to impose that onto her when she doesn’t want to stay at home
No, cos how do you think it's appropriate to say that to your boyfriends parents THE FIRST TIME....like that's not okay whatsoever, the mum has the right to her feelings.
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That might have been a weird thing for the girl to say in the first story but I think that was a defiantly an overreaction. Her son has been talking highly about her for (probably) months and yet OP kicks her out over one wrong sentence. I'm not surprised the son isn't talking to her, I wouldn't either.
As for the third story I don't know why the wife couldn't just lie about it. "Oh I'm worried someone might get some sauce on it", "I don't want to risk losing it", "It seems a bit heavy to lug around". Like it just seems really stupid to say "the homemade gift your son spent a lot of time on just looks crap and I don't want it to be in a nice restaurant around my precious guests."
The one wrong sentence is really, REALLY wrong. If she can't control herself, she will not be a good partner.
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She wasn't given a chance to 'control herself'. She said one thing wrong and was kicked out. There are many ways the mum could have told the girlfriend that she didn't accept that sort of rude speech that doesn't also involve ruining the first meeting between the girlfriend and parents.
@@kellycowley3535 That "One thing" was shockingly, stunningly, unbelievably wrong. There is no indication the girlfriend apologized. The GF ruined it all by herself. She is not emotionally mature enough to get married.
@@kellycowley3535 And yes, she had every chance to control herself,. She absolutely destroyed that chance. You cannot take someone like that in public. That's what I mean by emotional immaturity. If she turns disgusting when under stress, she can't join another family.
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It's a bit crude maybe but one line that's was said as a joke (since the son is a jokester) is not enough for the mum to kick her out like that. In my opinion it was the mum that ruined that chance because she (literally) kicked her out the first moment the girlfriend did something wrong. The son has been saying how happy he was with her for a while and yet the mum couldn't even let her in the house after a crude sentence.
Also whether she is emotionally mature enough to get married or is allowed to join the family isn't for the mum (or you) to decide, the son and the girlfriend will decide if they want to get married or make their own family. The mum probably won't be a part of it though if she continues to throw her weight around like that.
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Yeah nah, the girlfriend was so in the wrong in the first story. Not even a hello, hey, how are you?? 😭😭
There's an update, the boyfriend told her to say that thinking they would find it funny. The mother gave her another chance.
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Knowing where Ellen is from the river story made me saying "so not Australian then" as she was saying basically the same thing lol
on the first story i can understand why the mom reacted like that and why the dad thinks that the son's girlfriend should be the one apologizing
it's not something to find out the moment you meet your kid's lover
i agree with ellen that it would ok if you were already close
on the second i understand why she'd be like that because they shouldn't be judging her for her ability to clean cook and take care of the kids while working from home considering that if you plan on living with your future spouse you should be taking turns cleaning cooking taking care of the kids etc.
on the 3rd story the wife is wrong because of the fact that the guy's son went the hassle of making it and she's saying that it looks ridiculous that's so freaking rude
on the last story i believe that the girlfriend is right because she doesn't everyone knowing she has diarrhea and she doesn't want the smell to give it away
Unpopular opinion but I don’t think story one was that bad. It was a little inappropriate but kicking her out was over the line, like just communicate that it made you uncomfortable and move on. I don’t think the parents ever wanted to give her a chance, she wrote the post up like it was a checklist. Whether you like your child’s partner or not, always be supportive until they give you an actual reason not to, she was probably just nervous or wanted to feel comfortable around his parents and took it a little too far, but telling her to get out just means she won’t feel comfortable being around them and if the son loves her it will push him away
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1. The girl was probably nervous and thought it was funny. The mom overreacted. Was it inappropriate and weird? Yes! But did she deserve to get kicked out? Hell no! Also why is the mom making it sound like this has been going on for years? She is “finally fed up”…umm sorry…,WHAT?! You just met this girl how are you “finally fed up”. Yeah go feel guilty! you are the asshole. The girlfriend is also weird though ofc
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Is there an update for the last story
Yes, I don't remember much but she does mention that the parents cooking is what makes her ill.
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I had a partner who wanted to just start making out in front of his parents. Didn't have a problem with the peck or quick kiss but like full on french kissing with the groping. 😶 No thank you.
Wait a minute!!!! You can’t always be happy or safe or healthy
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last story.... its the parents house so its their rules. 2nd they have a right to be freaked out about the match at night, homes have burned down for similar things.
Actually I wish Katie would include updates. Turns out she gets diarrhea because they have unsafe / hygienic food practices. Leaving meat out for a long time etc. the poor girl tried poop Purie dad is super controlling and the hosie is not sanitary
Yeah I agree
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First story: Get over yourself. What if she doesn’t understand social cues? What if her son told the gf that it’d be funny to say? What if she panicked and that was the first thing she thought of to say? People make dirty jokes all the time and your son had been so excited about this and had been raving about how amazing and how much he loves his gf. You yourself even said she sounded perfect. Are you the type to turn off a kids show when a dirty joke comes up? Will you not watch a movie because it’s dirty? Are you the type to disallow your kids to watch Dirty Dancing because of the name? Sure, it’s a dumb thing to say, and if this was said in my families house it would be a discussion but we’d never completely kick them out. Cause honestly? This isn’t about you!! Your son is head over heels for this lady and there are so many possibilities that she didn’t mean to say that. The fact that the gf didn’t say anything after and went silent just tells me that she immediately realized that what she said was wrong. Everyone fucks up every so often.
So again, this. Isn’t. About. You.
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How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? In this first story, you can tell that she's had boyfriends in the past and probably when she said the same thing to their parents they just completely laughed it off. She said that like it wasn't nothing. I would be shocked and truly just so embarrassed for my son and I would honestly talk to him privately about her because that just ain't right. In the second story, I am completely on the girlfriend's side here because she loves her career and refuses to stop doing it. Just because his three sister-in-laws are sahws doesn't mean that she wants to be one as well. I have heard some stories about those tests that the women have to go through, and if she did take it but she failed then they all would completely shun her and his mom and sister in laws would make up lies in order to force them apart. The boyfriend is probably from Iraq, Iran, or Saudi Arabia and women have little rights over there. In this third story, the wife is completely in the wrong here because first of all her stepson is 15 years old so she shouldn't have been snooping around his room and then she wouldn't have found the gift that he made for her, and second of all yes she is ashamed that her stepson is a woodsmen. The wife owes both her stepson and husband a huge apology. I loved these stories!! I love you my friend!! Stay safe!!