I met a girl at a party. There was a guy in a wheelchair at the table. I didn't really know him, he was a friend of a friend. This girl couldn't stop saying how lucky he was that he could just sit all day while she had to stand up all day at work. She even said if she could swap places she would. The guy got so uncomfortable he left crying. The girl couldn't even understand what she did wrong. I was flabbergasted. I ended up telling her to shut up and stop being so entitled and insensitive before I left
I became a parent at 10 when my little brother was born. I wouldn't have minded watching him within reason but if I wasn't in school I was watching him. What made it worse was my mom didn't work she just didn't like being a mom.
I became a parent at 12 when my parents had my youngest brother, and then had my sister when I was 15. I was miserable, already had untreated anxiety and adhd and suffered for years. I fought to get a hysterectomy and finally got one in 2018. I had to protect myself from ever suffering like that again.
I'm so glad Claire stood up for herself in the last story, I really felt for her! I'm currently in university studying psychology as well as working part-time as a model, and sometimes I truly feel like it can be hard to be recognised for your intelligence and/or skills when some people only reduce you to your appearance.
0:05: She had the audacity to ask someone in a wheelchair to vacate their spot for her? How insensitive. I get she's with her daughter, which can be difficult, but c'mon! If anything, she should have made more room for them. 1:40: Sandra actually expected the host to already know her daughter's food preferences ahead of time? Really? The host bent over backwards to try to make everyone happy, but this was not good enough for Sandra.There is an obvious lack of communication that could avoided this embarrasing situation. I doubt if Sandra and her family will ever be invited back. 4:36: Amazing how Josie expects OP to sacrifice her time to babysit her two obviously unruly kids. Good for OP to find a clever way to escape this mess. And Josie doesn't exactly come across as Mother of the Year. 7:36: His friend amy have been drunk and jealous, but he was also being an idiot to assume OP was dating Claire for her looks. And kudos to Claire for putting the friend in his place. I wish OP and Claire a long happy life together.
@@Nameless82284 honestly your dad response is stupid... its a cartoon so ofc it is not real u know that. So a lil bit upset is fine cause he doesnt seems to have common sense
@@Nameless82284 no. Apparently your dad thinks you’re either an idiot that can’t tell the difference between a cartoon and real life, OR is shocked that you dared to watch something that’s not a documentary program.
@@Nameless82284 your dad was either simply teasing you on purpose, or he felt afraid you were taking it too seriously as some kids can get crazy about fandom to a toxic level which leads to a lot of money wasting, or he simply isn't the type to indulge in imagination/fantasy works. My mom actually does the same when I talk about about my anime so at first I used to get angry and retorted that her soap operas are also not real. But she has now stopped saying it after I started making her watch cartoons with me - I have to carefully select ones that she'll like, nothing too fantasy/action heavy. You basically need to build a connection with your dad through an activity you both enjoy so you can understand each other better and be able to spend time in each other's company without getting angry.
For the first story, OP is disrespecting the wheelchair user’s disability. Besides, where would the wheelchair guy even go if there’s no other seats? Stand in a wheelchair?
I find that story hard to believe. I take the bus & the wheelchairs are hooked in place by certain hooks(hard to explain) for safety reasons, so a wheelchair user couldn't move to another spot.
no one is obligated to move their seat for you OP. I can sense the entitlement from OP already from this first story. Tf does OP expect the guy in the wheelchair to do get up and move.
Exactly! I'm in a wheelchair on our buses there are a few places I can go with my chair. If I see a mom with her child I'll move if there's another spot, but if not then sorry im staying where I am. If there was 1 seat why didn't she just put the girl on her lap? I'm surprised no one offered her their seat, but maybe it's because they heard her tell the person in the wheelchair to move.
Now hold on. In that first story, it's not an AH move to ask if one is willing to move. Nothing wrong with that. The AH part is when you EXPECT them to move. That would simply be entitlement. And this is REGARDLESS if an individual is handicapped or not (to omit all possible discrimination).
Since a wheelchair user has to have their wheelchair strapped in for safety, usually by the driver, it would be extremely difficult for them to 'just move'
@@laurafranich4807 A fair point. In my country, the buses are all the same without any accommodations for the ones in wheelchairs. One would have to rely on "kind-heartedness" (if any).
@@afollowerofchrist5789 I understand. Here in the US the chairs are strapped for safety to prevent them from rolling around etc. I'm not sure where the original story took place. I don't think it was mentioned.
That's the comment I was looking for! Everyone here is saying that they shouldn't have asked but I don't think it's wrong to simply ask, as long as you don't act entitled
From the UK, there are spaces at the front that are specifically for wheelchair users, people with psychical disabilities, older people and mums with buggies .etc. Also I imagine it’s easier in general (whether there is specific space or not) for wheelchair users to sit at the front so in this case I don’t think it’s rude and she was wrong. She was an able bodied woman, she should’ve just put her kid in the seat and stood next to her. I’m personally of the belief that those seats are priority seats and she was not a priority in this situation
That wheelchair situation reminds me of when a teacher yelled at me for not taking notes but my wrist was dislocated because i have some type of undiagnosed joint disorder and chronic pain and she was aware of it even when i told her my wrist kept sliding out of socket she yelled at me for being disrespectful and gave me a minor
10:30 you know what I love most about this story is that there is no “Was I wrong for thinking this? Was I the ass in this situation?” Because he knows his friend was the ass instead and rightfully stood up for his gf as he should and there was no “underlining loyalty to his friend despite knowing his friend was in the wrong”, doesn’t matter what Claire does for a living so long as she’s comfortable and okay, and no one needs to know what she does unless Claire WANTS them to know. Claire shouldn’t of had to publicly explain herself for the friend to back off, the bf told him from the start that he needed to chill and stop and he still didn’t. The fact that the bf KNOWS he hit the jackpot in a relationship, I know for a fact this relationship is going somewhere, because OP appreciates the hell out of Claire like he should
I just wanna say about the bus one, buses always make me nervous as I am disabled and need to use seats but I know from the outside I look like any other teenage girl. I'm so scared that one day someone is going to try to make me stand up when I can't do that and it's really scary. People like that are the worst and why I hate it.
Well it's reasonable for a grandma or a pregnant lady to ask a teenager to give up their spot for them, you just tell them that you're disabled. I doubt anyone would keep on insisting, I mean I at least hope that no one would...
@@lunarialoonatic omg exactly, especially cus with the way I dress and the fact I have a resting bitch face I know people will assume that and I'm just a rude person which makes of suck even more
Second story. The kid's grandma was in the hospital if I remember correctly. It's not that she didn't like chocolate it's just that she was going through a shitty day.
Yeah I hate when we aren't given all the details and the story is just biased. And just hate when people call others picky eaters. Most of the time it's an eating disorder that they can't control! For example I can't eat most food because I gag and throw up and its a little violent.
@@Feathered_Crow my autism means I can't eat a lot of things either. Whenever I hear people call others picky it just seems ableist to me ngl. This is why I always opt to bring my own food whenever I go to others houses cus I don't like most food that people would normally go to as a safe bet (pizza, chicken nuggets, fish fingers, pasta, noodles ect ect)
Kind of besides the point its fine for people not to like things regardless of what's happening in the background but reacting the way her mum did is not okay. Don't come to someone's house and act like that when they've been kind enough to make you dinner and try hard to make something everyone will like. They even asked beforehand
@@princessofhell4639 being picky is fine. But the kid crying and making a scene and the mom making it worse by insisting something else he made, when she didn’t say anything about food accommodations. The mother enabled her behavior even if it was just bc he had a bad day which isn’t okay and blamed the op
To the people blaming a fucking five year old, wtf. Sure, the parents are to blame but the husband apologized and explained the situation to the op (I don't remember if the wife apologized or not but I think she did? ) . Point is, blame the parents for their behavior not the snog-filled toddler that can't see past her own shoes. You can't expect someone who's still learning the alphabet to have or understand complex emotions or work through them maturely. Of course the wife was also going through Alot, I know how terrifying it is to have your loved ones suddenly fall ill like that, hell that person actually died on me. They had a rough day and took it out on the wrong person which they shouldn't have. That's it, that's all there is to it.
For the second story, I don't think you should force kids to eat something (especially if they don't like it) but it's Sandra's fault for not saying that her kid didn't like chocolate
I had an aunt and uncle, who were both in wheelchairs.. I miss them both more than anything... and I am beyond devastated that I will never see them again.. I'm sorry, don't mind me.
the lady in the first one was so out of line- “i had to stand the whole ride it was so uncomfortable” dude what do you want the other guy to do? stand up and carry the wheelchair just because you decided to have a kid?
As a person with a disability who occasionally needs the use of a wheelchair the first story really bothers me because there are not many spots available for people in wheelchairs on buses and they often have specific spots for wheelchairs so they can lock in the wheelchair so it doesn’t move and get some one hurt that lady was really inconsiderate of the disabled person
I've used my share of transit in my life, and it's firmly set in stone that those who need the spots in wheelchairs, etc., have priority for specific spots. Also, how dare that woman complain about having to stand? If she was thar upset about it, why didn't she take that last seat and have her child sit on her lap? I saw a woman act like that on the bus once, but the bus driver stepped in right away and cut things off the pass, thankfully. I applaud that sibling who hides out sometimes. I don't blame her! My mom was the youngest of nine, and she was often expected to babysit her nieces and nephews. As a result, she didn't want to be a mom, although she did love it when she had me and then my brother. She was the best. Still, her older siblings shouldn't have assumed that she would babysit, just like parents shouldn't make their older children be a built in babysitter. That's not fair to the children. It's one thing to do that occasionally, but not all the time. Let children and teenagers be children and teenagers.
If the person in story 1 got on a bus with only one open seat, where did he expect the person in the wheelchair to go? Was he supposed to magically create another seat? Talk about entitlement. And the guy has the audacity to post this on the Internet? Oblivious, that's all I can think. I'm a little surprised they didn't ask the guy to give them their wheelchair, because they need it more than he does.
number 2 yeah if i was at another persons house and had a tantrum over the food they served you bet id been going home right to bed and would not be getting any ther food
About the second story, there was an update. The grandma of the kid went to the hospital the same day as the dinner. The mother and the kid were upset because of that and that's why the behavior.
"Lady" on the bus who wanted the handicapped man to move..... You should thank the Lord on your knees fasting that you and your daughter CAN stand. I'll bet he would change places in a heartbeat if he could stand and walk like you.
That first story really annoys me. There's one spot next to someone using a wheelchair. Let your daughter sit in the seat and stand by her. I've seen so many people like this. I was on a bus coming home from high school and a visually impaired person got on the bus with their guide dog and a group of 3 kids probably ranging in ages of 9-13 with I'm assuming their parent were sitting in the spots designated for people with disabilities and they refused to move for this person saying they were there first. The bus driver intervened pointing to the sign showing that those specific spots were for people with disabilities where there's pictures of people in a wheelchair, using a cane, using crutches, using a white cane for the blind/visually impaired and of course using a guide dog and they still wouldn't move even though the bus was basically empty and there was plenty of seats available together. It brought me great joy when the bus driver's supervisor came in their truck and told them that they can either get off the bus altogether or the police would be called and they would be forced to pay a fine. Naturally these entitled people dared the supervisor to call the cops because they were in the right and this person shouldn't even be allowed to have a dog on the bus anyway. Oh it was a fun time when the police finally did arrive and they were asked to prove that they were disabled to remain in the spots. They said "we are not disabled, but we were here first so these are our spots. We don't have to move." The officer pointed to the clearly marked sign and told them that it wouldn't be an issue if a disabled person didn't board the bus, but they did so they would have to move." And I kid you not these people said "Well then they (the visually impaired person) can get off the bus and wait for another one because we shouldn't be inconvenienced because this blind person got on with their dog that they shouldn't even be allowed to have on a bus anyway". After explaining the rules to these very stupid people again, each of them were issued a ticket to pay a fine (not sure how much it was) and the older kid started mouthing off to the officer saying they were in the right and calling the officer all sorts of things that RUclips doesn't like so another ticket was issued (again not sure for how much) and all 4 of them were personally escorted off the bus. All of this could have been avoided if they moved to literally any of the other like 15-20 seats that were available. Everyone was apologizing to the visually impaired person saying that they shouldn't have had to go through that and the person literally responded "It's okay. It happens more often than you would think". Like WTF? It should not happen at all and it broke my heart that this person was used to it and completely unfazed by it. It took me longer to get home that day, but I really did enjoy seeing these people put in their place.
Having adhd is not an excuse to break boundaries and break things, yes accidents happen but Josie should teach her kids better and OP isnt required to babysit at all especially if the kids are going to give her a hard time
Why is the last guy whining that he got called out by Claire? She is a cheerleader and a child psychologist, but if she wasnt, it would be okay to mock her?
While I agree, Sandra's reaction was rude and mean, I do believe they're could've possibly been peace if the op offered a snack to the kid. Like one to tide the kid over. Like a snack from the pantry.
Personally I can kind of get where OP in the first story was coming from. It does kind of make sense that seeing the wheelchair user is already seated on the wheelchair, OP and their child can have the seat. Then again the bus was probably cramped up leaving the person no other place to move around to which I understand Sorry if it sounds ignorant, I haven't boarded a bus myself so I'm not sure what the interior is set like
Buses in the UK at least often have a seat or two inside the area designated for wheelchair users to use, but those seats are designed to be used only when someone in a wheelchair isn't there(they usually fold up). I think it might one of those kinds of chairs OP was talking about (I can't think of any other chairs you might need a wheel chair to move for to access on a bus), especially since the person in the wheelchair said they needed the space. That space usually has some things that make travelling on a bus in a wheelchair much easier/safer, for example a lower, horizontal handrail, stop button that's within reach(other buttons might not be), a a padded backrest for the wheelchair back to bump up against. The only other spot I can think they might move to is the middle of the aisle, which would make it difficult for the person in the wheel chair to reach a stop button, and make it less safe as the bus speeds up/slows down/turns, not to mention other passengers have significantly greater difficulty getting on and off around the chair. I understand OP wanting her child to have a seat, but getting annoyed at someone for having a reasonable reason to decline your request, especially when there's an easy alternative (ie just standing) is entitled. I think it might have been a bit of an obtuse question, but I don't think she wrong for asking (how can you know if you don't ask sometimes). She was in the wrong for getting huffy when it didn't go they way she wanted.
Yeah i can see where your coming from and the op is coming from, but idk, the idea of just asking someone who disabled to give up there seat for her and her child does come off as a bit snarky and rude to me.
@@aliceinwonderland8314 Ah I see!! Thanks for the info, and yes I see being in the middle of an aisle could cause a lot of trouble not only for the wheelchair user but for everyone else as well😅
@@lillywolf4687 that's truee! I just thought seeing a wheelchair technically counts as a seat itself it wouldn't be too much to ask for😭 If it was someone with crutches for example I'd 100% be put off by it
Here's the thing you can get buses with a accomodation where you can sit in the wheelchair it's only something you have to ask for so I'm slightly confused.
I mean, asking anyone to move isn't rude, but being mad about it when they said no is rude. And, the kid is 5, just have her sit on your lap in a seat, for real.
I can understand respectfully asking if they can (without it being difficult/painful etc. for them) and are willing to move. But getting annoyed/hostile at them cos they can't isn't okay. I do think asking a person in a wheel chair to move inside a bus is a silly thing to do, realistically where are they going to move.
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? How are you feeling? In the very first story, I am very offended because I've actually had this question asked to me before. and I told that person the is crowded and my wheelchair is not small. He could've just sat in the seat next to the person in the wheelchair and put his daughter on his lap and just held her until they got to their destination. What exactly is he trying to say here, that he doesn't like people in wheelchairs? In the second story, If Charlie don't like his food that's on her then, but how dare Sandra try to belittle him when he literally asked her were they allergic to anything. Mike didn't say a single word because obviously their daughter has acted like this before. He didn't overreacted and he has nothing to feel bad about at all. In the third story, when you have little kids you don't get anytime to yourself because that's the purpose of having children, to fill up your time. I love you!! Stay safe!!
Such a cute shirt!! Any idea where I can find something similar with the heart detail on the front? Love this style of shirt. Also I love all your videos! ❤
1. They were wrong. Where I live people with disabilities, pregnant women, people holding babies and elderly people are made priority on the bus and people get up and give their seats to them. 2. Not wrong. They asked what they should cook to accommodate for everyone. 3. Not wrong. She doesn't have to babysit if she doesn't want to. 4. Not wrong. The boyfriend told him to drop it but he didn't and got embarrassed.
The mom asked a DISABLED PERSON! To move! And then had the Gaul to get frustrated when they refused and then thought about how tiring and uncomfortable it was to STAND! On THEIR WORKING FEET!…..umm excuse me bitch you shouldn’t be wondering if you’re in the wrong, you should KNOW you are. Do you NOT KNOW how LUCKY YOU ARE?! I’m sure that person WISHES they were able to stand like you are-wishes that their feet could hurt! And WISHES they could feel from the waist down but they CAN’T! But of course standing automatically means that you’re daughter will go missing, I mean..it’s not like you can’t just… *gasps* HOLD.HER.HAND! Edit: just want to clarify that I don’t think it’s an asshole move to politely ask if someone is willing to give up their seat, it was an asshole move to ask someone in a WHEELCHAIR to move as if they just have anywhere else to go on the bus without risking the wheelchair rolling during the drive
For the 2nd one, the mom is very much responsible for making a spoilt brat, even I had to go to random houses n my hosts never in my life have ever clarified anything like this (should be grateful), n I had to sit in that table N contemplate my whole life on why people think it's a good idea to add coriander leaves, pista(nut), cashew nuts n multiple big ass potato with tasteless meat/chicken on the side in the same dish n very bland deserts n actually expect me to eat, I was by very means picky n my mom knew that, n I also know mom is embarrassed abt my actions, ever since I was a child I was thought it's disrespectful to the hosts, younger me would just slide whatever I didn't want to my moms plate, teenage me gobbled it down with water, n at times where I couldn't eat anything, I was given smtg else to eat AFTER leaving the house, u don't demand the hosts to cook more just cus u don't like it, seriously 4 year old me knew better then this.
1. Yes, an AH. OP needs to realize that the world doesn't revolves around them. The guy in a wheelchair does have a right in that seat. What OP write was insensitive. 2. NTA. "Sandra" should've told the the kid hates chocolate if being ask if they have restrictions or allergies. "Sandra should make something for her. 3. NTA. If OP wants to have her weekends instead of baby-sitting her stepbrothers, that is valid. The stepmother needs to hire a babysitter. 4. NTA. The guy sounded misogynistic and out of line. Good on OP for defending his girlfriend.
The first story - woman has every right to complain for standing. Sure, what she did was wrong, but it's dangerous for very young kids to stand by themselves on a bus and it's hard to carry them. Of course she shouldn't have asked a person to move their wheelchair, she should've asked literally anyone else to stand up so she can sit. I guess she thought it wouldn't be a problem for them to move it. I don't think she's a bad person, just a bit insensitive and oblivious, I hope she realized her mistake. If anything everyone else on that bus are the assholes. You see a woman with a young kid and you don't give up your seat for her!? Who raised you?
Wait!!! story 1 she asked if the person could move the chair over a little bit. You took it the wrong way! read it again. I agree OP is not entitled to anything at all but you took the story the wrong way.
Thats not how a bus works. Wheelchairs have to be locked in place for safety reasons and thats a rule in any public bus. The OP in the first story was not wrong for asking. The problem is that they EXPECTED the person to move and then got upset when they didn't. That is just insensitive.
I totally agree. I read it as, they had extra space next to the wheelchair on the side that wasnt blocking a regular seat. Wheelchair spaces whether “clip down” or not, dont take up any other seat besides the wheelchair area and if it was taking up a regular seat next to it, they should move because at that point they get the large wheelchair seat and an extra normal seat??? The mother and daughter definitely were in the right.
@@TheJenniVerse They dont have to move their body, they have the entire wheelchair seat for their body, theres no reason they need to take up and additional seat after they already have the wheelchair seat
@@jakimaj7563 That's not something they can control though. The bus driver clips them in so however they're positioned they're going to be stuck like that for the entire ride. THEY CAN'T MOVE
1st Story: The person was very rude to the wheelchair user. 2nd Story: OP shouldn't have apologized. OP did the right thing when they said they weren't going to cook anything else. Sandra, her significant other, and her kid shouldn't be invited back. 3rd Story: Josie is in the wrong. OP shouldn't have to babysit Josie's kids. OP should take photos, videos, audio recordings so they have proof of Josie's behavior.
nah third one OP is definitely in the wrong. When you get into a relationship with a single mother, you can't expect never to look after the kids?!? They're gonna be YOUR kids too if you were to get married! If you don't like her kids, break up and find someone without kids
bruh did you even read the story?? The op is the FATHER'S CHILD. the FATHER married another WOMAN who had TWO CHILDREN from another MAN. The CHILDREN are the Op's STEP SIBLINGS. They're not the one that that married, they just got handed two step-siblings whose mother did not want to take responsibility for them. Try to actually read next time before commenting bruh.
Second story Kid was having a horrible day and was acting like any 5 year old would. Don't blame the child because they were upset, blame the mother for her entitlement. The kid is at 0 fault here and isn't wrong in the slightest. The mother is. Op shouldn't have to make anything else but nobody is entitled to blame the kid and Call the kid spoiled.
I met a girl at a party. There was a guy in a wheelchair at the table. I didn't really know him, he was a friend of a friend. This girl couldn't stop saying how lucky he was that he could just sit all day while she had to stand up all day at work. She even said if she could swap places she would. The guy got so uncomfortable he left crying. The girl couldn't even understand what she did wrong. I was flabbergasted. I ended up telling her to shut up and stop being so entitled and insensitive before I left
Should of given her the wish she wanted before you did leave
“Oh I wish I could sit down all day” “bro I can’t stand or use my legs” “yeah but like I need to stand for a few hrs sometimes”
Sister playing wingman here is so wholesome and cute
I became a parent at 10 when my little brother was born. I wouldn't have minded watching him within reason but if I wasn't in school I was watching him. What made it worse was my mom didn't work she just didn't like being a mom.
I became a parent at 12 when my parents had my youngest brother, and then had my sister when I was 15. I was miserable, already had untreated anxiety and adhd and suffered for years. I fought to get a hysterectomy and finally got one in 2018. I had to protect myself from ever suffering like that again.
I'm so glad Claire stood up for herself in the last story, I really felt for her! I'm currently in university studying psychology as well as working part-time as a model, and sometimes I truly feel like it can be hard to be recognised for your intelligence and/or skills when some people only reduce you to your appearance.
0:05: She had the audacity to ask someone in a wheelchair to vacate their spot for her? How insensitive. I get she's with her daughter, which can be difficult, but c'mon! If anything, she should have made more room for them.
1:40: Sandra actually expected the host to already know her daughter's food preferences ahead of time? Really? The host bent over backwards to try to make everyone happy, but this was not good enough for Sandra.There is an obvious lack of communication that could avoided this embarrasing situation. I doubt if Sandra and her family will ever be invited back.
4:36: Amazing how Josie expects OP to sacrifice her time to babysit her two obviously unruly kids. Good for OP to find a clever way to escape this mess. And Josie doesn't exactly come across as Mother of the Year.
7:36: His friend amy have been drunk and jealous, but he was also being an idiot to assume OP was dating Claire for her looks. And kudos to Claire for putting the friend in his place. I wish OP and Claire a long happy life together.
@@Nameless82284 honestly your dad response is stupid... its a cartoon so ofc it is not real u know that. So a lil bit upset is fine cause he doesnt seems to have common sense
@@Nameless82284 no. Apparently your dad thinks you’re either an idiot that can’t tell the difference between a cartoon and real life, OR is shocked that you dared to watch something that’s not a documentary program.
@@Nameless82284 no. I too get annoyed when people assume im dumb about obvious things
@@Nameless82284 your dad was either simply teasing you on purpose, or he felt afraid you were taking it too seriously as some kids can get crazy about fandom to a toxic level which leads to a lot of money wasting, or he simply isn't the type to indulge in imagination/fantasy works. My mom actually does the same when I talk about about my anime so at first I used to get angry and retorted that her soap operas are also not real. But she has now stopped saying it after I started making her watch cartoons with me - I have to carefully select ones that she'll like, nothing too fantasy/action heavy. You basically need to build a connection with your dad through an activity you both enjoy so you can understand each other better and be able to spend time in each other's company without getting angry.
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Not sure about the rest of the world, but in the US wheelchairs are required to be secured in place. They can't be moved to make room for more seats.
same in canada
For the first story, OP is disrespecting the wheelchair user’s disability. Besides, where would the wheelchair guy even go if there’s no other seats? Stand in a wheelchair?
Ikr? Just put your kid in the last seat and stand in front of her
I find that story hard to believe. I take the bus & the wheelchairs are hooked in place by certain hooks(hard to explain) for safety reasons, so a wheelchair user couldn't move to another spot.
no one is obligated to move their seat for you OP. I can sense the entitlement from OP already from this first story. Tf does OP expect the guy in the wheelchair to do get up and move.
The worst part is that they're still thinking's are not in the wrong the 0p has audacity that I don't even want to even get into right now
Exactly! I'm in a wheelchair on our buses there are a few places I can go with my chair. If I see a mom with her child I'll move if there's another spot, but if not then sorry im staying where I am. If there was 1 seat why didn't she just put the girl on her lap? I'm surprised no one offered her their seat, but maybe it's because they heard her tell the person in the wheelchair to move.
@@valerieb8541 THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I SAID! especially since it's a small child (probably) it'll fit in her lap😭😭
@@valerieb8541 OP's plan was to sit in the empty seat with the child on her lap I believe, but that very seat was behind the wheelchair user so
Now hold on. In that first story, it's not an AH move to ask if one is willing to move. Nothing wrong with that. The AH part is when you EXPECT them to move. That would simply be entitlement. And this is REGARDLESS if an individual is handicapped or not (to omit all possible discrimination).
Since a wheelchair user has to have their wheelchair strapped in for safety, usually by the driver, it would be extremely difficult for them to 'just move'
@@laurafranich4807 A fair point. In my country, the buses are all the same without any accommodations for the ones in wheelchairs. One would have to rely on "kind-heartedness" (if any).
@@afollowerofchrist5789 I understand. Here in the US the chairs are strapped for safety to prevent them from rolling around etc. I'm not sure where the original story took place. I don't think it was mentioned.
That's the comment I was looking for! Everyone here is saying that they shouldn't have asked but I don't think it's wrong to simply ask, as long as you don't act entitled
From the UK, there are spaces at the front that are specifically for wheelchair users, people with psychical disabilities, older people and mums with buggies .etc. Also I imagine it’s easier in general (whether there is specific space or not) for wheelchair users to sit at the front so in this case I don’t think it’s rude and she was wrong. She was an able bodied woman, she should’ve just put her kid in the seat and stood next to her. I’m personally of the belief that those seats are priority seats and she was not a priority in this situation
That wheelchair situation reminds me of when a teacher yelled at me for not taking notes but my wrist was dislocated because i have some type of undiagnosed joint disorder and chronic pain and she was aware of it even when i told her my wrist kept sliding out of socket she yelled at me for being disrespectful and gave me a minor
10:30 you know what I love most about this story is that there is no “Was I wrong for thinking this? Was I the ass in this situation?” Because he knows his friend was the ass instead and rightfully stood up for his gf as he should and there was no “underlining loyalty to his friend despite knowing his friend was in the wrong”, doesn’t matter what Claire does for a living so long as she’s comfortable and okay, and no one needs to know what she does unless Claire WANTS them to know. Claire shouldn’t of had to publicly explain herself for the friend to back off, the bf told him from the start that he needed to chill and stop and he still didn’t.
The fact that the bf KNOWS he hit the jackpot in a relationship, I know for a fact this relationship is going somewhere, because OP appreciates the hell out of Claire like he should
I just wanna say about the bus one, buses always make me nervous as I am disabled and need to use seats but I know from the outside I look like any other teenage girl. I'm so scared that one day someone is going to try to make me stand up when I can't do that and it's really scary. People like that are the worst and why I hate it.
Well it's reasonable for a grandma or a pregnant lady to ask a teenager to give up their spot for them, you just tell them that you're disabled. I doubt anyone would keep on insisting, I mean I at least hope that no one would...
Have been in that situation as a disabled person, it sucks when you “look normal” and people simply assume you are and act as if you’re faking
@@sofija642 yeah I get that but my social anxiety and stuff would not allow me to say that and speak to them yk
@@lunarialoonatic omg exactly, especially cus with the way I dress and the fact I have a resting bitch face I know people will assume that and I'm just a rude person which makes of suck even more
Second story.
The kid's grandma was in the hospital if I remember correctly. It's not that she didn't like chocolate it's just that she was going through a shitty day.
Yeah I hate when we aren't given all the details and the story is just biased. And just hate when people call others picky eaters. Most of the time it's an eating disorder that they can't control! For example I can't eat most food because I gag and throw up and its a little violent.
@@Feathered_Crow my autism means I can't eat a lot of things either. Whenever I hear people call others picky it just seems ableist to me ngl. This is why I always opt to bring my own food whenever I go to others houses cus I don't like most food that people would normally go to as a safe bet (pizza, chicken nuggets, fish fingers, pasta, noodles ect ect)
Kind of besides the point its fine for people not to like things regardless of what's happening in the background but reacting the way her mum did is not okay. Don't come to someone's house and act like that when they've been kind enough to make you dinner and try hard to make something everyone will like. They even asked beforehand
@@princessofhell4639 being picky is fine. But the kid crying and making a scene and the mom making it worse by insisting something else he made, when she didn’t say anything about food accommodations. The mother enabled her behavior even if it was just bc he had a bad day which isn’t okay and blamed the op
To the people blaming a fucking five year old, wtf.
Sure, the parents are to blame but the husband apologized and explained the situation to the op (I don't remember if the wife apologized or not but I think she did? ) .
Point is, blame the parents for their behavior not the snog-filled toddler that can't see past her own shoes. You can't expect someone who's still learning the alphabet to have or understand complex emotions or work through them maturely.
Of course the wife was also going through Alot, I know how terrifying it is to have your loved ones suddenly fall ill like that, hell that person actually died on me.
They had a rough day and took it out on the wrong person which they shouldn't have. That's it, that's all there is to it.
For the second story, I don't think you should force kids to eat something (especially if they don't like it) but it's Sandra's fault for not saying that her kid didn't like chocolate
I had an aunt and uncle, who were both in wheelchairs.. I miss them both more than anything... and I am beyond devastated that I will never see them again.. I'm sorry, don't mind me.
the lady in the first one was so out of line- “i had to stand the whole ride it was so uncomfortable” dude what do you want the other guy to do? stand up and carry the wheelchair just because you decided to have a kid?
For the first story, maybe you should have asked the person in the wheelchair to get up and dance.
The couple in the last story are so cute
As a person with a disability who occasionally needs the use of a wheelchair the first story really bothers me because there are not many spots available for people in wheelchairs on buses and they often have specific spots for wheelchairs so they can lock in the wheelchair so it doesn’t move and get some one hurt that lady was really inconsiderate of the disabled person
First story wheel chairs are usually strapped to the bus. So they can't move.
I gotta stop watching vids on entitled people lol. I'm too short tempered for this 😂
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I've used my share of transit in my life, and it's firmly set in stone that those who need the spots in wheelchairs, etc., have priority for specific spots. Also, how dare that woman complain about having to stand? If she was thar upset about it, why didn't she take that last seat and have her child sit on her lap?
I saw a woman act like that on the bus once, but the bus driver stepped in right away and cut things off the pass, thankfully.
I applaud that sibling who hides out sometimes. I don't blame her!
My mom was the youngest of nine, and she was often expected to babysit her nieces and nephews. As a result, she didn't want to be a mom, although she did love it when she had me and then my brother. She was the best. Still, her older siblings shouldn't have assumed that she would babysit, just like parents shouldn't make their older children be a built in babysitter. That's not fair to the children. It's one thing to do that occasionally, but not all the time. Let children and teenagers be children and teenagers.
At least she is able to stand unlike the gentleman she was trying to impose upon. Why didn't she sit in the remaining seat with her child on her lap?
If the person in story 1 got on a bus with only one open seat, where did he expect the person in the wheelchair to go? Was he supposed to magically create another seat? Talk about entitlement. And the guy has the audacity to post this on the Internet? Oblivious, that's all I can think. I'm a little surprised they didn't ask the guy to give them their wheelchair, because they need it more than he does.
number 2 yeah if i was at another persons house and had a tantrum over the food they served you bet id been going home right to bed and would not be getting any ther food
good for op in their safe space room. but...they have a phone. they shoulda started using it to record the steplady being mean.
That first one how how how can they think they weren’t being ableist?
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About the second story, there was an update. The grandma of the kid went to the hospital the same day as the dinner. The mother and the kid were upset because of that and that's why the behavior.
"Lady" on the bus who wanted the handicapped man to move..... You should thank the Lord on your knees fasting that you and your daughter CAN stand. I'll bet he would change places in a heartbeat if he could stand and walk like you.
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That first story really annoys me. There's one spot next to someone using a wheelchair. Let your daughter sit in the seat and stand by her. I've seen so many people like this. I was on a bus coming home from high school and a visually impaired person got on the bus with their guide dog and a group of 3 kids probably ranging in ages of 9-13 with I'm assuming their parent were sitting in the spots designated for people with disabilities and they refused to move for this person saying they were there first. The bus driver intervened pointing to the sign showing that those specific spots were for people with disabilities where there's pictures of people in a wheelchair, using a cane, using crutches, using a white cane for the blind/visually impaired and of course using a guide dog and they still wouldn't move even though the bus was basically empty and there was plenty of seats available together. It brought me great joy when the bus driver's supervisor came in their truck and told them that they can either get off the bus altogether or the police would be called and they would be forced to pay a fine. Naturally these entitled people dared the supervisor to call the cops because they were in the right and this person shouldn't even be allowed to have a dog on the bus anyway. Oh it was a fun time when the police finally did arrive and they were asked to prove that they were disabled to remain in the spots. They said "we are not disabled, but we were here first so these are our spots. We don't have to move." The officer pointed to the clearly marked sign and told them that it wouldn't be an issue if a disabled person didn't board the bus, but they did so they would have to move." And I kid you not these people said "Well then they (the visually impaired person) can get off the bus and wait for another one because we shouldn't be inconvenienced because this blind person got on with their dog that they shouldn't even be allowed to have on a bus anyway". After explaining the rules to these very stupid people again, each of them were issued a ticket to pay a fine (not sure how much it was) and the older kid started mouthing off to the officer saying they were in the right and calling the officer all sorts of things that RUclips doesn't like so another ticket was issued (again not sure for how much) and all 4 of them were personally escorted off the bus. All of this could have been avoided if they moved to literally any of the other like 15-20 seats that were available. Everyone was apologizing to the visually impaired person saying that they shouldn't have had to go through that and the person literally responded "It's okay. It happens more often than you would think". Like WTF? It should not happen at all and it broke my heart that this person was used to it and completely unfazed by it. It took me longer to get home that day, but I really did enjoy seeing these people put in their place.
Having adhd is not an excuse to break boundaries and break things, yes accidents happen but Josie should teach her kids better and OP isnt required to babysit at all especially if the kids are going to give her a hard time
Why is the last guy whining that he got called out by Claire? She is a cheerleader and a child psychologist, but if she wasnt, it would be okay to mock her?
While I agree, Sandra's reaction was rude and mean, I do believe they're could've possibly been peace if the op offered a snack to the kid. Like one to tide the kid over. Like a snack from the pantry.
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Personally I can kind of get where OP in the first story was coming from. It does kind of make sense that seeing the wheelchair user is already seated on the wheelchair, OP and their child can have the seat. Then again the bus was probably cramped up leaving the person no other place to move around to which I understand
Sorry if it sounds ignorant, I haven't boarded a bus myself so I'm not sure what the interior is set like
Buses in the UK at least often have a seat or two inside the area designated for wheelchair users to use, but those seats are designed to be used only when someone in a wheelchair isn't there(they usually fold up). I think it might one of those kinds of chairs OP was talking about (I can't think of any other chairs you might need a wheel chair to move for to access on a bus), especially since the person in the wheelchair said they needed the space. That space usually has some things that make travelling on a bus in a wheelchair much easier/safer, for example a lower, horizontal handrail, stop button that's within reach(other buttons might not be), a a padded backrest for the wheelchair back to bump up against.
The only other spot I can think they might move to is the middle of the aisle, which would make it difficult for the person in the wheel chair to reach a stop button, and make it less safe as the bus speeds up/slows down/turns, not to mention other passengers have significantly greater difficulty getting on and off around the chair.
I understand OP wanting her child to have a seat, but getting annoyed at someone for having a reasonable reason to decline your request, especially when there's an easy alternative (ie just standing) is entitled.
I think it might have been a bit of an obtuse question, but I don't think she wrong for asking (how can you know if you don't ask sometimes). She was in the wrong for getting huffy when it didn't go they way she wanted.
Yeah i can see where your coming from and the op is coming from, but idk, the idea of just asking someone who disabled to give up there seat for her and her child does come off as a bit snarky and rude to me.
@@aliceinwonderland8314 Ah I see!! Thanks for the info, and yes I see being in the middle of an aisle could cause a lot of trouble not only for the wheelchair user but for everyone else as well😅
@@lillywolf4687 that's truee! I just thought seeing a wheelchair technically counts as a seat itself it wouldn't be too much to ask for😭
If it was someone with crutches for example I'd 100% be put off by it
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Here's the thing you can get buses with a accomodation where you can sit in the wheelchair it's only something you have to ask for so I'm slightly confused.
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Where was a wheelchair supposed to move to? She could have sat in the open seat and hold the small child on her lap.
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I mean, asking anyone to move isn't rude, but being mad about it when they said no is rude. And, the kid is 5, just have her sit on your lap in a seat, for real.
I can understand respectfully asking if they can (without it being difficult/painful etc. for them) and are willing to move. But getting annoyed/hostile at them cos they can't isn't okay. I do think asking a person in a wheel chair to move inside a bus is a silly thing to do, realistically where are they going to move.
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? How are you feeling? In the very first story, I am very offended because I've actually had this question asked to me before. and I told that person the is crowded and my wheelchair is not small. He could've just sat in the seat next to the person in the wheelchair and put his daughter on his lap and just held her until they got to their destination. What exactly is he trying to say here, that he doesn't like people in wheelchairs? In the second story, If Charlie don't like his food that's on her then, but how dare Sandra try to belittle him when he literally asked her were they allergic to anything. Mike didn't say a single word because obviously their daughter has acted like this before. He didn't overreacted and he has nothing to feel bad about at all. In the third story, when you have little kids you don't get anytime to yourself because that's the purpose of having children, to fill up your time. I love you!! Stay safe!!
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1. They were wrong. Where I live people with disabilities, pregnant women, people holding babies and elderly people are made priority on the bus and people get up and give their seats to them.
2. Not wrong. They asked what they should cook to accommodate for everyone.
3. Not wrong. She doesn't have to babysit if she doesn't want to.
4. Not wrong. The boyfriend told him to drop it but he didn't and got embarrassed.
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The mom asked a DISABLED PERSON! To move! And then had the Gaul to get frustrated when they refused and then thought about how tiring and uncomfortable it was to STAND! On THEIR WORKING FEET!…..umm excuse me bitch you shouldn’t be wondering if you’re in the wrong, you should KNOW you are. Do you NOT KNOW how LUCKY YOU ARE?! I’m sure that person WISHES they were able to stand like you are-wishes that their feet could hurt! And WISHES they could feel from the waist down but they CAN’T! But of course standing automatically means that you’re daughter will go missing, I mean..it’s not like you can’t just… *gasps* HOLD.HER.HAND!
Edit: just want to clarify that I don’t think it’s an asshole move to politely ask if someone is willing to give up their seat, it was an asshole move to ask someone in a WHEELCHAIR to move as if they just have anywhere else to go on the bus without risking the wheelchair rolling during the drive
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For the 2nd one, the mom is very much responsible for making a spoilt brat, even I had to go to random houses n my hosts never in my life have ever clarified anything like this (should be grateful), n I had to sit in that table N contemplate my whole life on why people think it's a good idea to add coriander leaves, pista(nut), cashew nuts n multiple big ass potato with tasteless meat/chicken on the side in the same dish n very bland deserts n actually expect me to eat, I was by very means picky n my mom knew that, n I also know mom is embarrassed abt my actions, ever since I was a child I was thought it's disrespectful to the hosts, younger me would just slide whatever I didn't want to my moms plate, teenage me gobbled it down with water, n at times where I couldn't eat anything, I was given smtg else to eat AFTER leaving the house, u don't demand the hosts to cook more just cus u don't like it, seriously 4 year old me knew better then this.
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1. Yes, an AH. OP needs to realize that the world doesn't revolves around them. The guy in a wheelchair does have a right in that seat. What OP write was insensitive.
2. NTA. "Sandra" should've told the the kid hates chocolate if being ask if they have restrictions or allergies. "Sandra should make something for her.
3. NTA. If OP wants to have her weekends instead of baby-sitting her stepbrothers, that is valid. The stepmother needs to hire a babysitter.
4. NTA. The guy sounded misogynistic and out of line. Good on OP for defending his girlfriend.
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The first story - woman has every right to complain for standing. Sure, what she did was wrong, but it's dangerous for very young kids to stand by themselves on a bus and it's hard to carry them. Of course she shouldn't have asked a person to move their wheelchair, she should've asked literally anyone else to stand up so she can sit. I guess she thought it wouldn't be a problem for them to move it. I don't think she's a bad person, just a bit insensitive and oblivious, I hope she realized her mistake. If anything everyone else on that bus are the assholes. You see a woman with a young kid and you don't give up your seat for her!? Who raised you?
Wait!!! story 1 she asked if the person could move the chair over a little bit. You took it the wrong way! read it again. I agree OP is not entitled to anything at all but you took the story the wrong way.
Thats not how a bus works. Wheelchairs have to be locked in place for safety reasons and thats a rule in any public bus. The OP in the first story was not wrong for asking. The problem is that they EXPECTED the person to move and then got upset when they didn't. That is just insensitive.
I totally agree. I read it as, they had extra space next to the wheelchair on the side that wasnt blocking a regular seat. Wheelchair spaces whether “clip down” or not, dont take up any other seat besides the wheelchair area and if it was taking up a regular seat next to it, they should move because at that point they get the large wheelchair seat and an extra normal seat??? The mother and daughter definitely were in the right.
@@jakimaj7563 How the hell are they supposed to move if they're clipped down?
@@TheJenniVerse They dont have to move their body, they have the entire wheelchair seat for their body, theres no reason they need to take up and additional seat after they already have the wheelchair seat
@@jakimaj7563 That's not something they can control though. The bus driver clips them in so however they're positioned they're going to be stuck like that for the entire ride. THEY CAN'T MOVE
1st Story: The person was very rude to the wheelchair user. 2nd Story: OP shouldn't have apologized. OP did the right thing when they said they weren't going to cook anything else. Sandra, her significant other, and her kid shouldn't be invited back. 3rd Story: Josie is in the wrong. OP shouldn't have to babysit Josie's kids. OP should take photos, videos, audio recordings so they have proof of Josie's behavior.
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nah third one OP is definitely in the wrong. When you get into a relationship with a single mother, you can't expect never to look after the kids?!? They're gonna be YOUR kids too if you were to get married! If you don't like her kids, break up and find someone without kids
bruh did you even read the story?? The op is the FATHER'S CHILD. the FATHER married another WOMAN who had TWO CHILDREN from another MAN. The CHILDREN are the Op's STEP SIBLINGS. They're not the one that that married, they just got handed two step-siblings whose mother did not want to take responsibility for them. Try to actually read next time before commenting bruh.
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Kid was having a horrible day and was acting like any 5 year old would. Don't blame the child because they were upset, blame the mother for her entitlement. The kid is at 0 fault here and isn't wrong in the slightest. The mother is. Op shouldn't have to make anything else but nobody is entitled to blame the kid and Call the kid spoiled.