As someone who has many siblings, including brothers, it just touches me. I don’t think brothers know how much us sisters love them and how protective we are. I used to do the same thing Stephanie’s sister said to the church older sisters for Stephanie for my brother. I would even storm classes, go right at them and threaten them. I think u get very protective when you know your sibling already goes through a lot and feels very unfairly treated. Ppl just need to be nice.
This is kinda sad how Tiffany and mistermangobutt have just normalized their trauma and are confused when people are genuinely concerned bc it’s a horrible thing to experience
Growing up in other countries is much different. Unfortunately, there are still many people that go through the same upbringing. They minimize it because that's not their life anymore --the mindset in Asia, is that they don't call it trauma or abuse. That's simply the norm unless your family came from a lot of money.
I think most asians experienced the same as what Tiffany and MMB went through. These experiences though help you become disciplined and responsible adults. You learn how to value and use money wisely. Most of us look back on these memories and just laugh about it. It's really different how parents raise and discipline their kids before than now.
I had to wear boys clothes too. This were items my dad chose to buy because he saw no difference but you could tell. He also got a me a second hand bra. It made me feel so worthless 😢😢😭
I was taught to appreciate everything I received. I used to get my girl cousins' hand me downs and I'm sure now that we were kind of broke. We were even more so when I was a teen though.
And for some reason no matter what you could never be the number one friend to anyone. And that to me made me feel and I guess everyone who is a ppl pleaser feels like why am I not good enough, and you continue to ppl please. It’s like why won’t they like me. Hahaha like even being friends with people who would bully you like it’s like bastards sniff out the weak and apparently that was me lol ……. My heart hurts
yeah like sometimes like if you don't know why or like with Tiffany and Mistermangobutt they got hit for the most ridiculous things that REALLY messes you up, like you may physically recover and the physical pain might not have been bad at all but the mental trauma from it can really mess you up, and yeah "that's how it was" is really messed up, the punishment should fit the crime honestly.
@@lemon9171um I know it's not my place to tell you this but maybe you should call the police for domestic violence maybe he could learn that violence isn't the answer if he was away from you two and got some therapy.
Bro the way dandan talks about how he had a nightmare and then Tiffany drops how she almost got kidnapped and got sexually harassed multiple times it rlly sucks how this stuff is so normal for women too like it’s happened to me too
i hope i can get to the point where I can talk about my childhood trauma, this is so inspiring even if it hurts, thank you guys for being so open and making a safe space for yourselves to be comfortable sharing them with us and each other
@@yanna.2119 you’re right idk Stephanie’s brain so she could have just zoned out or she could have disassociate. Sorry you got triggered by that. Maybe you shouldn’t be reading the comments if you get that triggered. I know what that word means very well unfortunately. I just know that she has been through some serious trauma and they briefly brought up something similar which could have triggered her to disassociate and that’s why I said that. But you’re 100% right she could have just zoned out. Happy?
@@gigles123451 you're right, it could be either or. We don't know her personally. But as someone with cptsd and adhd who dissociates a lot, my eyes always look glazed over and lost when I do.
sameee as a christian with such a loving church n loving members plus pastors n teachers, i feel so sad n bad that she has to go through sm stuff because of her church n the ppl thr:(
@@zinoma ohh thats true. but for my church, since itd q small we know almost everyone. we do try to provide support and we have small groups that meet up every week or once every 2 weeks and we share abt our lifes. we try to make a safe space and thr r mentors that we can find if we ever need emotional support or any type of support. but yea so we check up on one another!! im p sure ppl in my church have at least 1 or 2 ppl that they r closer to so that they can share more deep n personal stuff w that person!!
please make sure you’re not cultivating a space where adults, especially the men, are getting away with being creeps, sexist, or SAing the girls in your church. so many girls have a story. the way men use religion to justify/cover up their behavior needs to stop.
I'm on my period and I'm too sensitive for this so I'll just leave a comment to tell you I LOVE YOU STEPH, I'll watch this when I'm not an emotional mess❤️
I love how much more were learning about Mr. Mango Butt. He’s really humble but he should really be proud of his accomplishments he really came so far😭
Watching this made me wish I could talk about my childhood traumas with the people around me xD but I'm still at a point of comparing my traumas with others and not feeling like it's that bad. It's just so much easier to validate other people's trauma but when it comes to my own, it just feels like I shouldn't be complaining
this is a really understandable sentiment but i hope you know deep in your heart that your feelings are valid and just because someone may have had trauma worse than you doesn’t mean you didn’t also experience something traumatic. however you feel about what happened to you is valid. even if someone had it worse. there’s always someone out there who’s had it worse and makes our problems seem like they’re not that bad. but you don’t have to compare your trauma with others or try to justify why you feel the way you do. i hope you know that. and even if you already know it, i hope one day soon you can believe it.
Have you thought about better help? ...sorry I had to. But I think when it comes to trauma, people tend to forget that it is about impact too and not just the events that took place. There's nothing wrong with complaining about life. Heck most of us are extremely lucky when compared to some people who don't have a healthy body or can't meet the basic necessities of daily life. But thinking that way helps nobody...especially for the ppl you pity.
exactly. I'm kind of like a therapist to my friends and they always talked about their problems to me. But, when i try to talk to them, they just ignore me, are distracted, or just don't care. It's kind of hard especially right now, because I'm really feeling depressed.
It’s so sad that child abuse is so normalized in the Asian culture and it’s still continued to this day. Me being Asian myself have also experienced many levels of that and it’s something no child should go through. Much love to everyone 💛
this actually makes you feel better? It was a mistake for me to click here...this video makes me so distressed seeing people laughing and yelling about trauma, it just stresses me out, i tried something similar to this and everytime the people laughed i felt like they were laughing at me. Also it's a personal preference but i prefer to just have one to one convos about trauma, it's more personal that way and it helps one face them. But everyone has different preferences.
tiffany and stephiance and me have the same exact trauma, I didn’t stop wetting the bed till middle school either and that story just brought back so many memories, getting hit when wetting the bed every night. having a bloody nose and crying at night and having no one there to comfort me, getting yelled at to be quiet. Having to hide or wash clothes in the middle of the night just so my mom and step dad dont see that I wet the bed again to not get hit. Hiding the wet clothes under the bathroom cabinet all the way in the back or pushing it underneath all the dirty clothes in a basket. sitting there in the bathroom not knowing what to do because you’re all sticky and smelly and not wanting to shower to make noise to wake them up. I would also wash the blanket where I peed and then used the wet blanket in the cold to sleep with. I’m hispanic, and I feel like we went through the same things. My grandma and mom would hit me with them too, in fact they would yell at us to go get the stick from outside and I would be too scared to even go inside to give it to them. I would throw it at her feet and then run to hide so I wouldn’t get hit, I was around 11 I think then, or 9. I also had lice for years. I think I got it in 3rd grade, and I had it all the way up until 11th grade. My mom wouldn’t make an effort to get rid of our lice. I had like 5 other siblings and I was the oldest. We grew up very poor. I always got my cousins clothes. I always got shoes from the thrift store or from ross and it wasnt branded. I used to be so embarrassed at school. I got my first pair of jordans in middle school when my mom started working. they were more than $100 and I was so happy. I walked in school and these boys made me feel so validated complimenting my shoes. I’ve never told anyone this either. It’s embarrassing.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. No child should have to experience that type of fear. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I hope you're now in a better place surrounded by people who are kind and care about you.
I used to wet the bed & I also had lice too when I was younger omg it was awful & them hurting you, yelling at you, embarrassing you in front of everyone else for it never helped.❤ That’s why now I promise to never do that to anyone else’s or my own future children.
I’m so sorry there were no one to keep you safe, emotionally and physically. I am a teacher, and things like what you mention with long lasting lice is something we are thaught to keep watch for. Everyone can have a lice infection at some pint, I think I’ve had it twice, but it’s something that is not too hard to get rid of within a month. I am so sorry no one took care of you, and that there were no one to pay enough attention to notice you struggling.
Hearing all of your traumas and experiences really made me feel so seen as a Hispanic girl who grew up poor in a single parent home and a very strict Christian upbringing. I could relate so much to all of y’all and I’m ngl I could help but to start sobbing listening to you. I hope you’re all doing well heal from all this ❤
This was honestly really fun i want to hear more about Tiff and stephiance since they were siblings in China when there was an 'Only child policy' And also i really like this type of videos!! Hope you can make a part 2 :(( Your relationship with your sister is so sweet
Bc ur brainwashed by western media. One child policy is only implemented on Han ethnic Chinese in big cities. Stephanie husband and Tiffany weren’t born in big cities prob
Bruh the ending was too real. Everyone in the comments on this one yt short was telling their experience with double standards and I shared mine and some person wrote a paragraph on how I'm not special and essentially saying that no one cares. 💀
I think conversations like this could be controversial but a good thing. You get to talk about your trauma which is kinda healing and you get to realize how fked up everyone else actually is.
It makes me so happy in a weird way that Stephanie is so empathetic especially towards MMB it’s as if she cries the tears for MMB and this way he can also relieve the stress :’) best vid idea,thanks for letting us in 😭
This was comforting to hear. I felt like I was trauma dumping with you guys. It’s literally 5 am in Dubai, and I was having all these thoughts alone about childhood trauma so this video came right on time. I love you all ❤❤
them bringing up how you don’t realize your trauma is trauma until your older rlly resonates. when you’re younger you don’t know what trauma rlly is and i feel like i struggled with this. i always felt like my trauma wasn’t trauma or it just was a memory to keep inside my head and just forget about it.
43:46 I also got that "connect" moment.. that you realize you just got SA as a kid when you are older It's exactly as tifanny said.. it's start as an odd moment, than it's click
Ugh Stephanie story reminded me of when I used to get bullied everyday by a group of girls. I was bullied by them from 2nd grade all the way to my junior year of high school. I don’t wanna go into detail bc I will cry and I’m so traumatized by them.
Damn the previous vlog and this vlog are really digging deep into trauma 🥹 on a serious note, I hope everyone can heal from their traumas and be happy 💞💞
I think this video made me realize that we all had bottled up emotions and pain growing up, but it shouldn’t prevent us from thriving and chasing the life we want to live. We need a part two!!!
I honestly would have never guessed that Tiffany or Mr mango butt went through all that trauma. I see them now in the videos and they’re always laughing and being so loving towards everyone that when they talk about everything they went through you see how much Stephanie and everyone else has really played a role in their lives. We knew that Mr mango butt and Tiffany weren’t very affectionate but now looking at them and seeing them say they love their family shows how they progressed through their trauma and all the things that held them back when they were younger. I just wanna end it off with saying that I am so proud of everyone for being so raw and just really being so supportive and listening to everything everyone had to say.
Watching this has me in tears. So many young people experience SA, myself included, and hearing about other people’s experiences always brings me back. My traumas with SA as a child had me questioning and over analyzing all the adult men I would see in my adulthood. Because I didn’t become more conscious of what had happened to me until I was an adult, it created such a bad form of paranoia for me that I would literally be hyper vigilant if I saw an adult male and young child in the same area. To all those that have overcome their traumas and/or are working on overcoming traumas, your pain is heard & I hope you receive the help you need.
honestly I love tiffany so much, she went through so much at such a young age, I literally was crying when she was talking about the old man touching her on the bus.
I love Tiffany and mmb so much. The amount of trauma they went through is horrendous but they're SO strong and im so inspired. As the korean saying..fighting everyone!!
I loved the recent mukbang you did where half of it was telling your childhood stories, so seeing this title was bittersweet. Trauma really is the worst.
I think I cried like 5 times throughout this video because I related sooo much to everyone’s trauma, 😢 I will say though that because of what I have gone through I’m such a mature person now and I think Tiffany and Steph fiancé are emotionally so mature now because of what happened with them in their childhood and I think that’s great ! Stephanie ur so cute I love how u capture everyone’s attention when you talk, your a natural born story teller. Loads of love ❤️❤️❤️ Rida siddiqui 💖
A real Christian doesn’t judge people or act that way. I’m so sorry you guys had to go through that type of bullying. That’s horrendous. As a Christian I’m cringing thinking that there are people like that saying that they are “Christians.” So sad.
This made me tear up and remember my childhood traumas… they explain a lot who i am today, but nobody understands that🥺 they just see who we are now, but not why we are like this💔
oh godddddd i FEEL this so hard … sometimes when you say some of these things out loud it doesn’t seem like a big deal but you always seem to forget just how much it affected you until you’re telling people who care about you and you just start bawling 😭😭 i love you guys 💖 i wish we all had each other growing up 😭 but i’m glad we have each other now 💖💖xx
I was always bullied for being too happy, still to this day I do. I hate that I hide my personality to make other people like me. People always thought I was either weird or annoying. I get so insecure about my personality now that I am scared to make friends. I’ve never had like a best friend or a group of friends. I crave to be accepted so bad and to have people to hang out with.
I do understand Tiffany and MMB. I was teaching Chinese kids before. It was a video class so I can see the student and who's with the student. Our class was normally 5-10 pm China time and the kids were so drained after school yet they need to attend other classes like our class. I witnessed a lot of kids being hit by their parents/grandparents when they can't understand the lesson or if they can't follow instantly. That's so sad because as a video class teacher, there's nothing I can do but to play a song or video for my students after they were beaten up so they will stop crying :(
nooo :( Unfortunately this is so common in Chinese households. I hear it's common in many Asian households, but I can't speak for anybody else since I'm Chinese
Def should do a part 2! I remembered some of my forgotten trauma during this video but it was very comforting being able to have someone who had similar experiences to me. I felt very safe, emotional and happy even though some things were sad❤
Stephanie is me laugh crying about my trauma because I feel dumb and uncomfortable but in hindsight all you can really do is laugh about it lol I have blocked out so much of my trauma and then something happens as an adult and I’m like wait… this feels familiar but I just laugh it off 😂 I hope everyone is ok and has a healthy outlet for their traumas 🖤
My mother left me suddenly in another country with my grandma also...twice. The first time was traumatic, the 2nd time she tricked me into staying. The abadonment and low self esteem issues you get from this are no joke
Watching this helped me realised that I’ve been holding in so much trauma and dismissing them as just bad experiences.. it’s cos of all the traumas from bullies to relatives that causing me so much struggle with my eating disorder,body image and sense of self worth… I feel like a burden and still feel like one and tbh I don’t know if I ever can feel worthy of feeling happy🥺 it’s like I will do whatever to make sure my friends,loved ones and just anyone I know or who know me or get to know me to feel comfortable and at ease that I will sacrifice my time,energy and practically anything for them. But I can’t go one day without “punishing myself” so I can somehow “pamper” myself… it’s like I have to earn my own permission to even allow myself basic human needs like food,rest and yea…guess I have tons to work on.. Anyways sorry for the trauma dump and I’m so so grateful for Stephanie and the Mangobutt fam for holding space for us here and you guys are so pivotal in my life… you have helped me thru so much shits and I’m just so grateful for the y’all❤️❤️
The reading in class one is SO REAL I do be counting when it comes to me but the main reason I’m nervous or scared to read out loud is because I stutter so I’m scared ppl will laugh, I stuttered while answering a teachers question AND HE MIMICKED ME 💀
*People should never feel ashamed to have a difficult economical situation* , instead, should be ashamed of being in a good economical position and use it to do bad things and hurt, explode and humiliate people just because they have less money... I can relate with Tiffany when she mentioned that horrible situation on the bus. Unfortunately, it's something that most of women experience many times in our lives 🤢
Thank you guys for opening up and sharing your dark traumas to us. I feel sad hearing about your sad stories. But, it also makes me feel like I am in a circle, sitting with you, listening to your stories like a close friend. It makes my heart warm and it makes us feel like we are not alone in our battles. I love this video, and I love you guys 💞💖 It means a lot to us.
Stephanie’s story about her mom leaving …. Omg… my heart… 💔 I said “Awh….” Out loud and my husband asked me what? And I couldn’t retell the story because I was going to cry. Sending every one of you love. ❤️❤️❤️
dude, listening to your guys trauma stories, it has just made me feel like how much lucky i have been, like it kinda reminded me that i should be grateful that i had such a great childhood. thanks for all your content Steph! love you guys!❤❤
Stephiance clearly has bonded with DanDan and loves Stephanie and his sister (and others), so he's not going to end up a serial killer. One trait out of three is manageable.
being a people pleaser myself...Steph's story is really hitting me hard. i can totally empathize with you..hope you and your family are doing great! Much love from India! :)
I'm having a terrible time mentally your videos are so comforting and warm, thank you stephanie you don't know me but i'm so glad you exist, you are a gem.
Stephiance's story about him peeing makes me remember my childhood trauma about this too. I was going to school a month late (1st grade), and I know no one even the teacher, my classmates have already known each other and I’m too shy to say anything. We have to stay in school all day so I need to pee so badly but I don’t know where the toilet is. I wet myself almost every day for 2-3 weeks until one day I saw the toilet when I was walking around waiting for my mom to pick me up. Also, my parents work so late, I finish school at 5 p.m. and sometimes my parent won’t come until an hour later, I was crying nonstop.
This one hit close to home for a few minutes.. but heavily relatable on the eating ants and the church trauma... good lord. Been there.. definitely been there. I was bullied too by the girls I wanted to fit in with.. and my LITTLE sister was the one who would literally fight anyone that made me cry. lol Also, Hearing about the stories of being groomed and getting unwanted attention from grown men as little girls hit really close to home and it really goes to show that girls, no matter the race, nationality or anything -- we aren't safe. I have two daughters and these things terrify me.
me and my friends decided to start doing deep talk rather than small talk sometimes, so we talked about some of our lighter trauma, btw. we just met at the beginning of this semester, however we feel safe around eachother and have a good level of mutual understanding, honestly it feels good to talk about it and to know you're not forcing it on anyone
I don't know what my life would look like if I didn't meet you guys (thru the internet) BUT I LOVE YOU STEPHANIE AND THE REST OF THE FAM!!!!! u guys don't know how much you bring joy to us 🤍
I literally cried while watching this 🤧 I didn't know that I could relate to Stephanie this much. While I was listening to her traumas, i could feel all those "memories" rushing through my brain. And the highschool trauma is REAL!!! I also have been a people pleaser and I always regretted it. And when my mom asked about my school I really couldn't help but keep it all a secret. Just like you, school days were never nostalgic for me. I was frequently bullied by the people who I thought, were my 'friends'... I didn't realise that the text was getting long 😅... I just wanna say that I love you Stephanie because you always brightened up my day even when I felt gloomy. I really really love you 🥺& thank you for making this world a little bit more tolerable...
Ok two of you seem to have a tough childhood. Despite Stephanie and Dandan growing up relatively well, I appreciate how grounded you both are, not to one-up the trauma but to just say your part. Enjoyed the episode. Y'all made me laugh and cry, as always
I totally relate to tiffany and stephiance, growing up poor is sooooo hard. I remembered one time I finally have a hotdog for lunch I thought my family's finally rich. 😕
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Seeing Tiffany have a soft spot for her brother warms my heart
As someone who has many siblings, including brothers, it just touches me. I don’t think brothers know how much us sisters love them and how protective we are. I used to do the same thing Stephanie’s sister said to the church older sisters for Stephanie for my brother. I would even storm classes, go right at them and threaten them. I think u get very protective when you know your sibling already goes through a lot and feels very unfairly treated. Ppl just need to be nice.
literally
Y’all Weird
@@Uchiha.watashi Mf what 😭
@@Uchiha.watashithats not even weird?
growing up poor and being embarrassed at school is a different type of character development. 😭✊ I relate so much to tiffany and stephiance
Ikr
Sameee
Me too 😞
Same
@@Bacon4Chi imk
This is kinda sad how Tiffany and mistermangobutt have just normalized their trauma and are confused when people are genuinely concerned bc it’s a horrible thing to experience
Lol same
Growing up in other countries is much different. Unfortunately, there are still many people that go through the same upbringing.
They minimize it because that's not their life anymore --the mindset in Asia, is that they don't call it trauma or abuse. That's simply the norm unless your family came from a lot of money.
@@summerpham5664 that's not the norm in asia though. They r at another lvl.
It's pretty normal in Asia. The school uniform one is probably where I relate to.
I think most asians experienced the same as what Tiffany and MMB went through. These experiences though help you become disciplined and responsible adults. You learn how to value and use money wisely. Most of us look back on these memories and just laugh about it. It's really different how parents raise and discipline their kids before than now.
Almost an hour of Steph and family? I'm gonna cry from happiness
After finishing the video:
I’m gonna cry because of their traumas and mine too
@@zahraaal5371 girlie pop sameee
as an asian who has childhood trauma, i live for this content
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y’all are hilarious 😂
Samee,my childhood trauma got me to feel so lonely,but we can all grow up and heal through out years of life
Tiffany: I always wore guy's clothes handed down twice.
Also Tiffany: We weren't poor!
We were so poor that I NEVER had girl clothes n I was bigger than my brother that was a year older than so I got all my oldest brothers hand me downs
I had to wear boys clothes too. This were items my dad chose to buy because he saw no difference but you could tell. He also got a me a second hand bra. It made me feel so worthless 😢😢😭
Sometimes your family isn't poor but your parents are just cheap or have an extreme "no waste" mindset.
She's the nicest human being. ❤❤🥺🥺
I was taught to appreciate everything I received. I used to get my girl cousins' hand me downs and I'm sure now that we were kind of broke. We were even more so when I was a teen though.
I really hope tiffany is doing great 😭
Tiffany is literal diamond, she was made through burning heat. she flutters like a butterfly yet stings like a bee FOR REAL
@@tuxedo_ri this is so beautiful bro 😭
@@arilexi thanxxx!🙌✨️
Wow
Stephanie's emotional and psychological trauma is so raw and relatable. I felt the people pleaser part in my SOUL.
And for some reason no matter what you could never be the number one friend to anyone. And that to me made me feel and I guess everyone who is a ppl pleaser feels like why am I not good enough, and you continue to ppl please. It’s like why won’t they like me. Hahaha like even being friends with people who would bully you like it’s like bastards sniff out the weak and apparently that was me lol ……. My heart hurts
Same!!
Let's no longer normalize the narrative of "being hit as a kid is normal" or " I turned out fine" 😭
Yeah true
yeah like sometimes like if you don't know why or like with Tiffany and Mistermangobutt they got hit for the most ridiculous things that REALLY messes you up, like you may physically recover and the physical pain might not have been bad at all but the mental trauma from it can really mess you up,
and yeah "that's how it was" is really messed up, the punishment should fit the crime honestly.
When I was younger my dad would intentionally beat me on my left hand cause I had to write with my right 😂
Yup and it doesn't even work... My father was beaten a lot and guess who's unable to keep a job beating his wife and daughter after getting drunk ....
@@lemon9171um I know it's not my place to tell you this but maybe you should call the police for domestic violence maybe he could learn that violence isn't the answer if he was away from you two and got some therapy.
Bro the way dandan talks about how he had a nightmare and then Tiffany drops how she almost got kidnapped and got sexually harassed multiple times
it rlly sucks how this stuff is so normal for women too like it’s happened to me too
It's really a sad reality that there are 4 PPL in this video and both girls have experienced it inspite of being from different backgrounds
i hope i can get to the point where I can talk about my childhood trauma, this is so inspiring even if it hurts, thank you guys for being so open and making a safe space for yourselves to be comfortable sharing them with us and each other
so truueee.
At some point you’ll look back and just… laugh and won’t look back
If its a safe option for you, writing it down and destroying the paper can be a little cathartic. Took me a very long time to be able to talk.
Stephiance and Tiffany conversations are so funny, despite them arguing over who got to go out more😭
Siblings it’s so relatable lolol
Stephiance, wdtm?
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42:30 seeing Stephanie disassociate and Tiger trying to get her attention and help her was soo sweet
I saw this!!! 😭😭
she did not disassociate. she zoned out. please stop using certain terms if you dont know what they mean
@@yanna.2119 you’re right idk Stephanie’s brain so she could have just zoned out or she could have disassociate. Sorry you got triggered by that. Maybe you shouldn’t be reading the comments if you get that triggered. I know what that word means very well unfortunately. I just know that she has been through some serious trauma and they briefly brought up something similar which could have triggered her to disassociate and that’s why I said that. But you’re 100% right she could have just zoned out. Happy?
@@gigles123451 you're right, it could be either or. We don't know her personally. But as someone with cptsd and adhd who dissociates a lot, my eyes always look glazed over and lost when I do.
@@gigles123451 hey you were indeed wrong so why act pissy abt it?
As a Pastor, hearing Steph talking about her church experience broke my heart.
sameee as a christian with such a loving church n loving members plus pastors n teachers, i feel so sad n bad that she has to go through sm stuff because of her church n the ppl thr:(
@@jojihye The thing that's funny though is that while you're having a great time at your church, some else is going through hell a couple rows down.
@@zinoma ohh thats true. but for my church, since itd q small we know almost everyone. we do try to provide support and we have small groups that meet up every week or once every 2 weeks and we share abt our lifes. we try to make a safe space and thr r mentors that we can find if we ever need emotional support or any type of support. but yea so we check up on one another!! im p sure ppl in my church have at least 1 or 2 ppl that they r closer to so that they can share more deep n personal stuff w that person!!
please make sure you’re not cultivating a space where adults, especially the men, are getting away with being creeps, sexist, or SAing the girls in your church.
so many girls have a story. the way men use religion to justify/cover up their behavior needs to stop.
@@zinoma sucks to suck
I'm on my period and I'm too sensitive for this so I'll just leave a comment to tell you I LOVE YOU STEPH, I'll watch this when I'm not an emotional mess❤️
same lol already teared up from the intro haha
@@fairyprincess969 I hope you're not in pain and If you want to cry let it out, it's okay❤️
Girl, me too! 😭😭😭
@@stamstamz same.. mines due anytime now so it's weird we're all in sync but I agree cry it out and then it's over with most times.
SAME, so I was heavily debating if I should skip this vid but I'm glad I watched it anyways. Them leaving the really dark stuff out helped for sure.
I love how much more were learning about Mr. Mango Butt. He’s really humble but he should really be proud of his accomplishments he really came so far😭
Is Mistermangobutt Missmangabutt’s husband?
@@Pastel_lemonsyes
Watching this made me wish I could talk about my childhood traumas with the people around me xD but I'm still at a point of comparing my traumas with others and not feeling like it's that bad. It's just so much easier to validate other people's trauma but when it comes to my own, it just feels like I shouldn't be complaining
this is a really understandable sentiment but i hope you know deep in your heart that your feelings are valid and just because someone may have had trauma worse than you doesn’t mean you didn’t also experience something traumatic. however you feel about what happened to you is valid. even if someone had it worse. there’s always someone out there who’s had it worse and makes our problems seem like they’re not that bad. but you don’t have to compare your trauma with others or try to justify why you feel the way you do. i hope you know that. and even if you already know it, i hope one day soon you can believe it.
Have you thought about better help? ...sorry I had to.
But I think when it comes to trauma, people tend to forget that it is about impact too and not just the events that took place. There's nothing wrong with complaining about life. Heck most of us are extremely lucky when compared to some people who don't have a healthy body or can't meet the basic necessities of daily life. But thinking that way helps nobody...especially for the ppl you pity.
@@lila9349 Very well said ❤
exactly. I'm kind of like a therapist to my friends and they always talked about their problems to me. But, when i try to talk to them, they just ignore me, are distracted, or just don't care. It's kind of hard especially right now, because I'm really feeling depressed.
That story of Stephanie trying to be coollike her sister really be hitting hard
It’s so sad that child abuse is so normalized in the Asian culture and it’s still continued to this day. Me being Asian myself have also experienced many levels of that and it’s something no child should go through. Much love to everyone 💛
Tiffany: *forming a lake with her tears*
Also Tiffany: "iM nOt CrYiNGGGG!!!"
She is so cute ❤❤
The perfect type of content for someone with PTSD like meee!
😂💀yea
Yes yes
this actually makes you feel better? It was a mistake for me to click here...this video makes me so distressed seeing people laughing and yelling about trauma, it just stresses me out, i tried something similar to this and everytime the people laughed i felt like they were laughing at me. Also it's a personal preference but i prefer to just have one to one convos about trauma, it's more personal that way and it helps one face them. But everyone has different preferences.
@yesiwillstealurwig6589as someone with a lot of childhood trauma I agree I was about to cry I feel bad for them
tiffany and stephiance and me have the same exact trauma, I didn’t stop wetting the bed till middle school either and that story just brought back so many memories, getting hit when wetting the bed every night. having a bloody nose and crying at night and having no one there to comfort me, getting yelled at to be quiet.
Having to hide or wash clothes in the middle of the night just so my mom and step dad dont see that I wet the bed again to not get hit. Hiding the wet clothes under the bathroom cabinet all the way in the back or pushing it underneath all the dirty clothes in a basket. sitting there in the bathroom not knowing what to do because you’re all sticky and smelly and not wanting to shower to make noise to wake them up.
I would also wash the blanket where I peed and then used the wet blanket in the cold to sleep with. I’m hispanic, and I feel like we went through the same things. My grandma and mom would hit me with them too, in fact they would yell at us to go get the stick from outside and I would be too scared to even go inside to give it to them. I would throw it at her feet and then run to hide so I wouldn’t get hit, I was around 11 I think then, or 9.
I also had lice for years. I think I got it in 3rd grade, and I had it all the way up until 11th grade. My mom wouldn’t make an effort to get rid of our lice. I had like 5 other siblings and I was the oldest. We grew up very poor. I always got my cousins clothes. I always got shoes from the thrift store or from ross and it wasnt branded. I used to be so embarrassed at school. I got my first pair of jordans in middle school when my mom started working. they were more than $100 and I was so happy. I walked in school and these boys made me feel so validated complimenting my shoes.
I’ve never told anyone this either. It’s embarrassing.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. No child should have to experience that type of fear. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I hope you're now in a better place surrounded by people who are kind and care about you.
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I used to wet the bed & I also had lice too when I was younger omg it was awful & them hurting you, yelling at you, embarrassing you in front of everyone else for it never helped.❤ That’s why now I promise to never do that to anyone else’s or my own future children.
I’m so sorry there were no one to keep you safe, emotionally and physically. I am a teacher, and things like what you mention with long lasting lice is something we are thaught to keep watch for. Everyone can have a lice infection at some pint, I think I’ve had it twice, but it’s something that is not too hard to get rid of within a month. I am so sorry no one took care of you, and that there were no one to pay enough attention to notice you struggling.
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Hearing all of your traumas and experiences really made me feel so seen as a Hispanic girl who grew up poor in a single parent home and a very strict Christian upbringing. I could relate so much to all of y’all and I’m ngl I could help but to start sobbing listening to you. I hope you’re all doing well heal from all this ❤
same hereee
Twins! Dealing w a single mexican late bloomer mother while also being poor was not easy.
This was honestly really fun i want to hear more about Tiff and stephiance since they were siblings in China when there was an 'Only child policy'
And also i really like this type of videos!! Hope you can make a part 2 :(( Your relationship with your sister is so sweet
Never even thought of this
There are so many siblings in China when there was an only child policy, both of my parents have siblings during that policy 😅
Steph is Korean
@@nikkimclay5474 im talking about her husband and his sister
Bc ur brainwashed by western media. One child policy is only implemented on Han ethnic Chinese in big cities. Stephanie husband and Tiffany weren’t born in big cities prob
Bruh the ending was too real. Everyone in the comments on this one yt short was telling their experience with double standards and I shared mine and some person wrote a paragraph on how I'm not special and essentially saying that no one cares. 💀
The fact that they wrote an essay for you means they really do care 😂
Its been a year but just want you to know that I care & am proud of you for sharing that!!
I think conversations like this could be controversial but a good thing. You get to talk about your trauma which is kinda healing and you get to realize how fked up everyone else actually is.
It makes me so happy in a weird way that Stephanie is so empathetic especially towards MMB it’s as if she cries the tears for MMB and this way he can also relieve the stress :’) best vid idea,thanks for letting us in 😭
This was comforting to hear. I felt like I was trauma dumping with you guys. It’s literally 5 am in Dubai, and I was having all these thoughts alone about childhood trauma so this video came right on time. I love you all ❤❤
Gurl with samee it's 10 rn but I've been watching every night till 6 am I'm from Dubai too😭😭😭😭
them bringing up how you don’t realize your trauma is trauma until your older rlly resonates. when you’re younger you don’t know what trauma rlly is and i feel like i struggled with this. i always felt like my trauma wasn’t trauma or it just was a memory to keep inside my head and just forget about it.
43:46 I also got that "connect" moment.. that you realize you just got SA as a kid when you are older
It's exactly as tifanny said.. it's start as an odd moment, than it's click
Omg hearing Steph’s voice break in the intro but also being angry hurt my heart 🥺
Ugh Stephanie story reminded me of when I used to get bullied everyday by a group of girls. I was bullied by them from 2nd grade all the way to my junior year of high school. I don’t wanna go into detail bc I will cry and I’m so traumatized by them.
I hope they're all having the day they deserve
I hope you're okay now
Damn the previous vlog and this vlog are really digging deep into trauma 🥹 on a serious note, I hope everyone can heal from their traumas and be happy 💞💞
I think this video made me realize that we all had bottled up emotions and pain growing up, but it shouldn’t prevent us from thriving and chasing the life we want to live. We need a part two!!!
I honestly would have never guessed that Tiffany or Mr mango butt went through all that trauma. I see them now in the videos and they’re always laughing and being so loving towards everyone that when they talk about everything they went through you see how much Stephanie and everyone else has really played a role in their lives. We knew that Mr mango butt and Tiffany weren’t very affectionate but now looking at them and seeing them say they love their family shows how they progressed through their trauma and all the things that held them back when they were younger. I just wanna end it off with saying that I am so proud of everyone for being so raw and just really being so supportive and listening to everything everyone had to say.
Watching this has me in tears. So many young people experience SA, myself included, and hearing about other people’s experiences always brings me back. My traumas with SA as a child had me questioning and over analyzing all the adult men I would see in my adulthood. Because I didn’t become more conscious of what had happened to me until I was an adult, it created such a bad form of paranoia for me that I would literally be hyper vigilant if I saw an adult male and young child in the same area. To all those that have overcome their traumas and/or are working on overcoming traumas, your pain is heard & I hope you receive the help you need.
Thank you Stephanie for working so hard during this season! I love you videos ❤
steaphnie and dandans trauma are like the traumas children should have while stephaince and tiffannys traumas are the children actually have
I’m so emotional so before even watching it I’ve got my tissues ready,much love to the soo fam
honestly I love tiffany so much, she went through so much at such a young age, I literally was crying when she was talking about the old man touching her on the bus.
I love Tiffany and mmb so much. The amount of trauma they went through is horrendous but they're SO strong and im so inspired. As the korean saying..fighting everyone!!
The different treatment between sons and daughters are definitely universal experience 🤌🏻🤌🏻 and daughters end up hating the sons in their childhood 😂
I can tell this will get emotional, but I love living in a timezone where I'm awake when your videos are posted💞🤗
I love how Stephanie made a video about Dan Dan being in less videos, but continues to see him in almost every video 😆🥰
I loved the recent mukbang you did where half of it was telling your childhood stories, so seeing this title was bittersweet. Trauma really is the worst.
This is so cute because everyone at one point in life needs to let go of childhood trauma to live happily
I think I cried like 5 times throughout this video because I related sooo much to everyone’s trauma, 😢
I will say though that because of what I have gone through I’m such a mature person now and I think Tiffany and Steph fiancé are emotionally so mature now because of what happened with them in their childhood and I think that’s great !
Stephanie ur so cute I love how u capture everyone’s attention when you talk, your a natural born story teller.
Loads of love ❤️❤️❤️
Rida siddiqui 💖
This 1000% needs a part 2. Love how therapeutic this is
A real Christian doesn’t judge people or act that way. I’m so sorry you guys had to go through that type of bullying. That’s horrendous. As a Christian I’m cringing thinking that there are people like that saying that they are “Christians.” So sad.
This made me tear up and remember my childhood traumas… they explain a lot who i am today, but nobody understands that🥺 they just see who we are now, but not why we are like this💔
oh godddddd i FEEL this so hard … sometimes when you say some of these things out loud it doesn’t seem like a big deal but you always seem to forget just how much it affected you until you’re telling people who care about you and you just start bawling 😭😭 i love you guys 💖 i wish we all had each other growing up 😭 but i’m glad we have each other now 💖💖xx
Love these near hour long videos where the Soo family is basically sitting in a circle and talking ... Please make this a series.
I was always bullied for being too happy, still to this day I do. I hate that I hide my personality to make other people like me. People always thought I was either weird or annoying. I get so insecure about my personality now that I am scared to make friends. I’ve never had like a best friend or a group of friends. I crave to be accepted so bad and to have people to hang out with.
I love how concerned her doggo was 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
@INBOX MissMangoButt1 shutup scammers. Why are you using her name for doing horrible scams
I’m sorry you’ve been through that Stephanie! 🥺💞
I do understand Tiffany and MMB. I was teaching Chinese kids before. It was a video class so I can see the student and who's with the student. Our class was normally 5-10 pm China time and the kids were so drained after school yet they need to attend other classes like our class. I witnessed a lot of kids being hit by their parents/grandparents when they can't understand the lesson or if they can't follow instantly. That's so sad because as a video class teacher, there's nothing I can do but to play a song or video for my students after they were beaten up so they will stop crying :(
nooo :( Unfortunately this is so common in Chinese households. I hear it's common in many Asian households, but I can't speak for anybody else since I'm Chinese
I was also a teacher for Chinese kids , they loved my clases because they said I made it fun 😢 I miss them everyday
Def should do a part 2! I remembered some of my forgotten trauma during this video but it was very comforting being able to have someone who had similar experiences to me. I felt very safe, emotional and happy even though some things were sad❤
Stephanie is me laugh crying about my trauma because I feel dumb and uncomfortable but in hindsight all you can really do is laugh about it lol I have blocked out so much of my trauma and then something happens as an adult and I’m like wait… this feels familiar but I just laugh it off 😂 I hope everyone is ok and has a healthy outlet for their traumas 🖤
Stephanie’s ability to talk about adult toys in front of her family will never cease to delight me
Sometimes stuff that happened in your childhood stays with you until adulthood 😢.
My mother left me suddenly in another country with my grandma also...twice. The first time was traumatic, the 2nd time she tricked me into staying. The abadonment and low self
esteem issues you get from this are no joke
Watching this helped me realised that I’ve been holding in so much trauma and dismissing them as just bad experiences.. it’s cos of all the traumas from bullies to relatives that causing me so much struggle with my eating disorder,body image and sense of self worth… I feel like a burden and still feel like one and tbh I don’t know if I ever can feel worthy of feeling happy🥺 it’s like I will do whatever to make sure my friends,loved ones and just anyone I know or who know me or get to know me to feel comfortable and at ease that I will sacrifice my time,energy and practically anything for them. But I can’t go one day without “punishing myself” so I can somehow “pamper” myself… it’s like I have to earn my own permission to even allow myself basic human needs like food,rest and yea…guess I have tons to work on..
Anyways sorry for the trauma dump and I’m so so grateful for Stephanie and the Mangobutt fam for holding space for us here and you guys are so pivotal in my life… you have helped me thru so much shits and I’m just so grateful for the y’all❤️❤️
The reading in class one is SO REAL I do be counting when it comes to me but the main reason I’m nervous or scared to read out loud is because I stutter so I’m scared ppl will laugh, I stuttered while answering a teachers question AND HE MIMICKED ME 💀
*People should never feel ashamed to have a difficult economical situation* , instead, should be ashamed of being in a good economical position and use it to do bad things and hurt, explode and humiliate people just because they have less money...
I can relate with Tiffany when she mentioned that horrible situation on the bus. Unfortunately, it's something that most of women experience many times in our lives 🤢
Being able to share this online for everyone to see is very hard although it’s can be viewed badly it can also help others see that they aren’t alone
I’m ready to cry 🥺 im so sorry y’all had to go through that
Thank you guys for opening up and sharing your dark traumas to us. I feel sad hearing about your sad stories. But, it also makes me feel like I am in a circle, sitting with you, listening to your stories like a close friend. It makes my heart warm and it makes us feel like we are not alone in our battles. I love this video, and I love you guys 💞💖 It means a lot to us.
today was really rough for me and its days like these where i appreciate the uploads just a little bit more. thank you Stephanie 🫶
Stephanie’s story about her mom leaving …. Omg… my heart… 💔
I said “Awh….” Out loud and my husband asked me what? And I couldn’t retell the story because I was going to cry.
Sending every one of you love. ❤️❤️❤️
That was Tiffany lol
I think u mean Tiffany
dude, listening to your guys trauma stories, it has just made me feel like how much lucky i have been, like it kinda reminded me that i should be grateful that i had such a great childhood. thanks for all your content Steph! love you guys!❤❤
Thank you guys for sharing your trauma & being vulnerable with us 💝
Stephiance clearly has bonded with DanDan and loves Stephanie and his sister (and others), so he's not going to end up a serial killer. One trait out of three is manageable.
I cried along with Stephanie. I know just how cruel kids can be and how traumatic it is, especially if you're a sensitive person. 😢
I've seen this video many times, and it's just now sinking in for me how traumatic Tiffany and MMB's childhood was.
virtual hugs for tiffany 😢💓im not saying she had it way worse than stephiance but because she's the youngest and she's a girl 💔
btw that's not just from here but also their older stories about tiffany
being a people pleaser myself...Steph's story is really hitting me hard. i can totally empathize with you..hope you and your family are doing great! Much love from India! :)
I'm having a terrible time mentally your videos are so comforting and warm, thank you stephanie you don't know me but i'm so glad you exist, you are a gem.
Stephiance's story about him peeing makes me remember my childhood trauma about this too. I was going to school a month late (1st grade), and I know no one even the teacher, my classmates have already known each other and I’m too shy to say anything. We have to stay in school all day so I need to pee so badly but I don’t know where the toilet is. I wet myself almost every day for 2-3 weeks until one day I saw the toilet when I was walking around waiting for my mom to pick me up. Also, my parents work so late, I finish school at 5 p.m. and sometimes my parent won’t come until an hour later, I was crying nonstop.
This one hit close to home for a few minutes.. but heavily relatable on the eating ants and the church trauma... good lord. Been there.. definitely been there. I was bullied too by the girls I wanted to fit in with.. and my LITTLE sister was the one who would literally fight anyone that made me cry. lol Also, Hearing about the stories of being groomed and getting unwanted attention from grown men as little girls hit really close to home and it really goes to show that girls, no matter the race, nationality or anything -- we aren't safe. I have two daughters and these things terrify me.
I’m stuck in bed with a high fever and I’m just so grateful Stephanie posted a new video🥺❤️I love you biss!
everytime I watch your videos I can't stop smiling!! watching you guys make me feel like I have friends 😔
Girl we need a confession video to send our trauma anonymously. I just typed a long para and deleted cuz I didn't want anyone else to know.
There's nothing more that i love than an hour long vlog from stephanie
Same, or any length really. Just love hearing from her. :)
1 min in and i can feel this one's gonna be a comfy and healing "safe space" video
i have such a soft spot for tiffany :( she's really so sweet ugh i wish her the best 💖
If you can’t trauma dump with your friends and family who can you? Loved this vid!
omg thanks for sharing these traumas, helped comfort my very own traumas and remind me I'm not alone
I love how they are competing to see how messed up they are, we love a girl that trama dumps😂
They all deserve the lives they have now🥹ugh I feel sm for the beautiful queen Tiffany🥺I just wanna hug herrr
Thank you for making our days better💜💜💜
I thank God for Stephanie for keeping me sane 2022.... I appreciate your hard work Steph
me and my friends decided to start doing deep talk rather than small talk sometimes, so we talked about some of our lighter trauma, btw. we just met at the beginning of this semester, however we feel safe around eachother and have a good level of mutual understanding, honestly it feels good to talk about it and to know you're not forcing it on anyone
How Tiger tries to comfort Steph when she starts crying listening to Tiff's story at minute 42:00... Awwww...... 😭❤
I don't know what my life would look like if I didn't meet you guys (thru the internet) BUT I LOVE YOU STEPHANIE AND THE REST OF THE FAM!!!!! u guys don't know how much you bring joy to us 🤍
29:24 the way he just so casually says she is going to heaven is so fricken sweet ngl
I literally cried while watching this 🤧 I didn't know that I could relate to Stephanie this much. While I was listening to her traumas, i could feel all those "memories" rushing through my brain. And the highschool trauma is REAL!!! I also have been a people pleaser and I always regretted it. And when my mom asked about my school I really couldn't help but keep it all a secret. Just like you, school days were never nostalgic for me. I was frequently bullied by the people who I thought, were my 'friends'... I didn't realise that the text was getting long 😅... I just wanna say that I love you Stephanie because you always brightened up my day even when I felt gloomy. I really really love you 🥺& thank you for making this world a little bit more tolerable...
This video awakened a lot of deep traumas that were locked away in my mind and made me realise that I probably need therapy lol, thx Steph and fam 😂❤
Ok two of you seem to have a tough childhood. Despite Stephanie and Dandan growing up relatively well, I appreciate how grounded you both are, not to one-up the trauma but to just say your part. Enjoyed the episode. Y'all made me laugh and cry, as always
I totally relate to tiffany and stephiance, growing up poor is sooooo hard. I remembered one time I finally have a hotdog for lunch I thought my family's finally rich. 😕
A 58 minutes vlog? Thank you so much Stephanie!!
I know she’s been spoiling us with these long videos