Someone who ACTUALLY cares about you won't ghost you. If they ghost you, walk away permanently. There are many more people out there. NEVER surrender your self-respect and self-worth for ANYONE.
No matter how you view it or how much you screwed up or didn't, ghosting is a cowardly act and a reflection of a persons inability to deal with discomfort. Period.
Completely agree. At least have the guts to tell me you don't want to talk. To me it's the ultimate cowardly thing to do especially when you know that the other person loves you and will be hurt by it, wondering what they did to deserve that treatment. It's selfish and self centered. Frankly, I don't give a damn about your stress levels or whatever excuse you come up with. Be a decent human and tell someone straight up that it's over so they can move on with closure.
Ghosting is a ruthless form of rejection. It really really effin hurts. But as I progress in life, time does actually heal my heartbreak. In fact, I actually feel blessed. To those who have experienced this, don't overthink too much and don't feel bad about yourselves because there's nothing wrong with you.
We have to be perfect, any small mistake is kept in the vault and when these add up they are gone . Then they end up in abusive relationships at times . Just can’t understand!
@@ManuB3581 I do not care about any abusive relationship women get in. They are the idiots that got themselves their with there dumb decisions and “emotions”.
If a woman ghosts at least she can have the decency of telling the guy off because ghosting is literally playing games. Don’t pin the fault on the guy mistakes. She made the agreements to the dating then she is responsible for her ghosting actions. She is immature and a low quality woman.
@@dstein111 Attractiveness conquers all. Confidence doesn't hurt but it's easy to fake. A friend of mine uses his false bravado all the time. Easy to see through for me, but a lot of women eat it up. As for me, I'd rather jerk off into a sock than chase American women. Just watching some of this guy's videos, who the f$#@ wants to go through all this shit to get some stinky snatch? I never chase women and pussy falls into my lap literally, none of them are wife material.
Play it cool, until you're no longer insecure and she will start creeping back in. Act needy, blow up her phone ... Poof!!! Back to square one. Keep it cool, let her come to you at her own pace and don't flip out at her tests. If she changes her mind about you coming over, sweet as, You should have alternative activities in your life so if she's blows you off you're not affected "much" lol rejection hurts but if she's not in the mood, why force things. Who wants to hang out with a moody person? So just play it cool and when the right moment comes ... Enjoy it. Otherwise, just move on.
At least this guy got an explanation. I went on 5 dates with a girl and it seemed like it was going well. I wasn’t texting her very much, I was only hanging out with her once a week or so, and she told me she liked me and wanted to take things slow. I was doing everything right and letting her come to me. Then one day she just disappeared abruptly lol
yep at my age of 65 i went through the same thing. dated once a week to give her space. i dated her for 6 weeks. i introduced her to my friends but never met her friends or family after the 6th week she stopped talking and texting me. i got lost.
Just happened to me after 4 dates I think it's her ex of 4+ years relationship, she didn't mentioned anything about it but I just checked her Facebook, I'm not 100% sure though. But she just disappeared
"Lets take it slow" is actually not a good thing to happen. Its an indicator that you are very likely too defensive. If she is attracted to you, she will want things to happen as fast as possible. If she ghosts you, just wait for her to stop. Do not respond to this behavoir. And if she returns after a couple weeks - great. If she still is at least slightly attracted to you, she will at some point start to miss you. Or she will be wondering why you dont chase her meaning your feelings are unclear, which makes you more attractive, which ultimately makes her miss you and then she will return. This works especially well with the better looking girls, because they are used to getting a lot of attention from men, who actually chase her too much. Just dont be offended if she ghosts you. Just smile over this rediculous behavior. Just be like "Ahh, this girl is just playing games. Sure - I can play games." Dont let that bother you. You were busy anyway and you are happy to hear from her again, if you hear from her again. And if you dont, this is her loss. To me is happening a somewhat similar thing. Currently I have been on unread on WhatsApp for 15 days straight but I know she is highly attracted to me. I know that from her really obvious behavior. We still send each other these so called round snaps (or at least hers are intended to seem like round snaps). How do I know this? She is OBVIOUSLY trying to make me jealous and even desperate. These "round snaps" (those are air quotes right there) are like "Im just doing a work out" showing a lot of body and some skin obviously. The next day she is "dating some other guy" (air quotes) - I dont know why someone would snap during a well going date, when they could listen to their date partner instead. The next day I get a "good night" (air quotes) snap, with pillows stacked under her bedsheet to make it look as if someone else was lying there just that it very obviously looks like pillows under a bed sheet. Her ankle are also slightly in the frame. Yeah, I recieved that snap at 7pm. Yeah - I wont respond to that behavior. I'ma just chill out until she calms down and actually realizes how bad she misses me and then she will come back sooner or later. I can be very patient. If you want a metaphor: You are a an island, she is a boat. Sometimes the boat leaves for short. Sometimes it leaves for longer, gets carried away and returns later. You as an island dont move even a little. You will be there just as before for the boat to return. Islands dont move - boats do.
I don't necessarily agree with Corey. While the guy did start acting needy, it only acted as a catalyst for the girls inherent character flaws. You should never take back a person who ghosts you or is not upfront with you. These kind of people have a very serious avoidant attachment style and run from confrontations and honest talks. They are cowardly and are unable to deal with their traumas. If they ghosted you once, they will ghost you again probably. As another youtuber said it so eloquently on some other video about ghosting "The trash took itself out".
@@paul9290 my last girlfriend was pretty honest. Since I have an avoidant attachment style, I also used to run from confrontations. I also did not like to hurt other people's feelings. She thought me how to be more honest and open about my needs and feelings.
@Ron Wilkerson Hey Ron, when a woman tells you I'm a hopeless romantic or anything they say like they're damaged or they never make a good relationship believe them,,, it's true what they're saying you can't fix them!!! don't even try, good you did get out early before you got emotional feelings for this person!! I dated a girl that was married and divorced four times😲 very good-looking biltwell had a lot in common, they seem to go back to their fabulous 3 or 4r ex-husbands and many boyfriends after the husbands they're all damaged goods...
Why is everything the guy's fault? He is letting her know that he isn't playing games and wants to get to know her. Yet, she deletes him from her life? I think instead of blaming the men for everything, I think we need videos to look for red flags to identify commitment-phobes.
Because content on this topic would be very little. No one wants to hear or lecture the person that did the ghosting, but instead for a content rich RUclips video, it would be best to come up with some reason of what the GUY did wrong...as opposed just saying, "Forget her, she's an immature person, move on to the next one" and that's it, as oppose to pontificating what the guy should have done. In reality, there's nothing he can do but move on to a woman that WON'T do this.
This sounds EXACTLY like what my situation was.. she went on holiday and ghosted me for about 2/3 weeks.. so I MOVED ON.. and low and behold I was out on a night out and she seen me getting with other girls.. and the NEXT DAY she started messaging me again.. women are just like men, they want what they can't have and don't want what they can 🤷♀️
Women aren't like men. When people start to understand that, then relationships might start to improve. Listening to what Corey has to offer will help people greatly.
Simon Andrews It’s his fault dude. What non desperate man asks a woman to become exclusive on the 3rd date? What a loser. He deserved to get ghosted. Dude was insecure and thought he would lose her so he wanted to lock her down. What confident man would worry about losing the woman? A man that loses a lot of women, that’s who!
Coach, you have to bring back the music, man. I'm one of your first subscribers and I have crushed every one of your videos. Read your book 18 times. Listened to it twice. I'm telling you, the music really works to get people into coach mode. Please bring it back for some of the videos.
Not to take away from Corey's analysis as it's always spot-on, but I'd like to point out, none of us know what this chick is really like who the guy wrote to Corey about in this. The fact that the guy who wrote in is in such dire assistance to see the logic in forgetting a woman who is obviously too insecure and self-absorbed to say "sorry, this isn't working" makes me not trust the description of the writer's "interpretation of who she is" and leads me to wonder how much was this guy's fault to begin with, as someone who ghosts has little integrity and likely narcissistic (meaning this guy was going to fail no matter what he did or said.) Corey's video on "I Dated a Narcissist" and "She's Insecure" could easily apply in this guy's situation because ghosting essentially is the ultimate silent treatment... it's manipulative, passive aggressive behavior employed by ONLY weak, self-centered men and women who don't have enough self confidence to tell you "they can't"... but would like to keep you in limbo while they move onto a new source of narcissistic supply... no self respecting guy should ever feel like "man I messed up... it's my fault" when dealing with someone who ghosts, unless they've already told you they're not interested.
While you have a valid point and should be the attitude to take in an IDEAL world, unfortunately, we don’t live in one. It is unfortunate that we have to develop strategies to deal with such people out there.
On my 5th read of your book idk how me and my girl is doing she acts cold somtimes then acts like she wants me I’m slowly coming to the conclusion that we are about to end I’m just focusing on hanging out having fun and hooking up and giving her space thanks for all you do coach I’ve learned so much from you I remember when I first found your channel I was like what the fuck does this old ass guy know about women....boy was I fucking wrong lol thanks again coach !!!!
Ghosters should never ever, I repeat never EVER be taken serious after they showed you their true colours. The highest form of disrespect and disregard for someone is ghosting especially for no reason. If they come back, you will use them only as fun and never take them serious. Personally I like to delude them into thinking it's fine afterwards, get them in bed then ghost them. They will not stop blowing your phone up, some good karma and hopefully will teach them not to do it to others.
Oddest shit about applying Corey's teachings of"no contact, give me a call when you change your mind" with a girl (and also whats odd about following him): it works, I noticed the girl was extra caring, she touched me a lot, wanted to know about my trip, told me a long story about hers, kept the conversation about us (not in the couple sense, I mean she didn't talk about anyone else beside a female friend we share). I obviously still find it different because I was not used to it, so I know the doubts I have (e.g, did it really work??) are normal, its just my brain/psyche adapting, but I cant help it that it feels strange. I mean, even though she was checking if I agreed with her, was qualifying herself to me, getting closer with her chair to mine, giving herself a bad hair day with all that flipping and reworking, lifting her long skirt and crossing her legs, etc. I was on the verge of leaving since I was not that much interested. I think it was somewhow apparent to her aswell. So as soon as we agreed on asking for the bill I did so ASAP, just waited for her uber and left the place. I noticed she was kinda surprised. Reason: I usually took her home because I know her neighbourhood is kinda dangerous and she was recently mugged. She would ask me to go upstairs, you know the drill. So in a way, I interrupted the pattern. I don't know what happened to me, man, I now just feel like she is "just another beautiful woman" while I used to think she was the one for me. Maybe if she becomes more aggressive in her pursuit,p it will change something, but for now I feel like she (and all of my previous love interests) aren't worth the amount of effort I put into them. I neither feel the urge to get a gf nor the urge to desperately get laid with the first woman I find attractive. I kinda recovered my 17~20s feeling of being a laid back, self focused dude. This really long comment is also a way of saying" thank you". Life hasn't felt that good in a while, Coach.
you're hilarious haha. I love how you don't beat around the bush either. I was chatting to this girl and she has ghosted me, I think I was maybe just too keen and not chill enough. I know she liked me but I think I was too available, so I've just moved on and focusing on gym/travel/work etc.
In every interaction with a potential romantic interest, I expect the worse to happen. So, I live each day knowing that it could end. At the end of the day when it doesn't, I breathe a sigh of relief and prepare the next day's mental struggle. Ghosted, dumped or whatever is there is no surprise. It is only a matter of time and one can only be prepared. It is only when you get giddy that the shit rolls up behind and smacks you in the back of the skull.
You right about women being emotional and not logical, if you are needy then they are not turned on. We should pay attention to what women are really saying to us. Sometimes they give you tips at how to get them in your arms. :)
This guy didn't get ghosted. Ghosted means doing (almost) everything right, the girl giving you positive vibes, and then disappearing out of nowhere. This dude here did A LOT of wrong things and she even tried to explain to him that things would not work out. He is just clueless.
I cringe when I think back to my late teens / early 20's and realize how many fucking mistakes I made and blown chances I endured. Mistake #1 was taking advice from female "friends", mistake #2 was having female friends.
Same 😂 and it's crazy because I was bringing in girls left and right, but didn't realize I shouldn't have pushed for a relationship with all of them.. now I'm in my thirties and too fucked up from all the relationship rejection to even bother putting any energy into women. Had I known to just have fun and hook up I would be a different man but I thought women wanted relationships.
😂 it’s best to just walk away, hang with women, advance your career, workout and take pictures hanging out with women. Be an alpha. If you hear from her, meet at your crib or meet at a bar. Ain’t no first date nice guy situation...go for the kiss go for the sex. Keep it moving.
She just wasn't into him. I had a guy want to be exclusive pretty quickly and it was what I wanted also. It depends on the chemistry. I think in this situation he acted desperate which turned her off.
Yeah, this guy should have walked. He should have never mentioned a relationship. Who cares if she’s ghosted him. On to the next one. Who really cares about her feelings too. Corey is right, do nothing.
Just got your book today coach Corey looks like very good reading! Thanks for the Honor to the American Soldier in the beginning, us vets appreciate that!
not necessarily true. You can actually text a few minutes or talk for a minutes once a week to touch base because many women will believe the man is ghosting them!! At least make some form of casual contact to just touch base in between dates.
7months or so for me . Worked together. People say not to get into work relationships but the fact is, you spend half your life at work, we spent time together , there for me when I went into the hospital and then boom, just nothing, right after Christmas.
It sounds like she got completely freaked out over it moving too fast and didn't have the guts to say that when he brought up exclusivity. I can relate. It's not always about women being evil, sometimes it's just that we've been hurt so deeply. All the way to the core. And thinking about the possibility of that occurring ever again sets off so many alarms. Fight or flight fear for your life kind of alarms! I'm not trying to give info here to justify anything anyone does, I'm just trying to help with some insight. It's true though, the more you try after we freak out, the worse you make it for yourself. It just keeps upping the fear factor. 🏃 🏃 🏃
Yeah Im in contact with a woman who was cheated on by her ex she was with for 25 years she felt it was going to fast so ive backed of she messaged me 9 days later now im just going take it slow I like her but its going to take time.
adie Larks my bf did with me last year. It took time, months for me to even want to meet to hang out with him. And I'd known him since I was 14! I was just very freaked out at the time. I'm thankful he was patient and kind now.
Maryann Spicher I met the woman on a dating site i did treat her to flowers on the first date even suprised her to some flowers she said it was the best suprise ever, since she said about it going to fast Ive backed of she thanked me for being understanding i guess patience is the key, im a full time single father of 2 teenage daughters I try to think how I would like a man to treat them. I suppose I was trying to show this woman I care but she needs time 25 years is a long time she will be far from ready we live an hour away from each other so communication is by message at the moment.
This was my problem when I was younger and it's so true. Now I have a super hot girlfriend and she makes me feel like a rock star and life is fun. It's funny how it's really easier to get the girl than it is to loose her but guys work so hard at loosing the girl.
Ghosted, so what, I mean so what, come on guys, let go,maybe go figure for 10 minutes or 10 hours,then move on and apply good technique elsewhere ,cmon you can do it
The independent, feminized women are taught to think stupid shit like this. Being cautious not to show neediness is probably a stupid thing in the first place. It causes women to ghost themselves and pin it on the men like its their fault.
Coach! I dig your style of feedback. You never admonish or ostracize but you do tell it like it is! We students already know weve done wrong and you give us hope!
I was even nice enough to give her a way out. Basically said “if we’re not vibing anymore, you can let me know blasé blasé “ and she even managed to stick me with a cliffhanger explanation forcing me to draw my own conclusions.... it sucks but yeah.... it happens.
Yeah women like the unclear emotions thing, but if i feel a shitty vibe i dont dodge the inevitable by making her ghost me i just hit em with the "yeah im not really feeling this anymore, ive lost interest, peace."
This stuff works Coach Corey!!! I went through a break up last July and sold a business and lost my grandfather in the same month. It comes in 3's but I've bounced back. I've remained no contact after going into beta mode but I've picked myself up improving getting back to alpha mode. Looking into a new business venture. Any ideas coach I'm all ears on new business ideas. Also I am dating a woman and another woman from last summer who blew me off. So life is good. Being indifferent is a great quality.
7:20 Sometimes, especially with online dating it can help to text back and forth to see if you have anything in common or whether you have a similar sense of humour to save money and time going on a date with a girl you shouldn't be dating cuz there's no chemistry.
Does "Ghost Mode" make you mysterious? Or should I keep it on to kind of show off going places? 🤔 If you're ghosting she will eventually forget you from time to time?
I recently got ghosted by a chick. She dumped her bf (long term relationship with a psycho restraining order ending. He went crazy), told me all about it without me asking, suggested we make plans. When I asked her out, she proceeded to never return my call (I left a vm) or even acknowledge my invitation and has gone totally ghost. It happens. She will *never* hear from me again unless she reaches out to me first. I understand that rebounding chicks are all over the place emotionally. That's just the way it is. Acknowledge and move on.
It’s possible she wasn’t that into you in the first place (harsh as it may seem). CCW’s advice will never guarantee you will get the girl but if you follow the principles you will increase your chances a whole lot and ensure you don’t mess it up with those girls who have a high level of attraction to you from the get go.
The advice is good but there is no need to drag down the person asking for help. People make mistakes and the fact the person is coming to you for help is good. Just treat the dude with some more respect man
Hey @CoachCorey, I love immersion reading and i believe it makes it easier to read the book 10+ times this way. Is the new book going to also have an audiobook version available?
I have learned and found out in my years of dating that when a woman start to STALK you and talk to anyone and everyone you might mutually know or even reach out to your acquaintances who don't know her then ppl will tell her there opinion about you in certain things they might not agree with and they might get scared off. most of my friends know that I date lots of women and get lots of pooty tang. BUT in there eyes that is wrong! I don't care what they think because they are not a 3% man and don't have my kind of success in dating. but the point being its a silver lining because this just shows these girls who do this are insecure, low quality woman who display stalker behavior and I don't want any of that SHIT! remember our actions repel that bad and attract the good and sometimes it takes a little time but youll always see the real them and its no loss to us. its only another win!
thecanadianwill if acquaintances are talking bad about you that’s one thing but you getting women actually raises your smv (sexual market value) and subconsciously more females will want to see what the hype about you is
Coach would you make a video on addictions ? I know you have one but im wondering if you can make sum on addictions like eating excessively porn,social media, relationships, and things like this.. im struggling with this alot i want to learn how to fullfill my 6 human needs with constructive addictions and not the shit i just mentioned thanks alot Coach and much love from Arizona
I think the girl I’ve been texting ghosted me because I fell into this trap...I double texted because she “liked” a text hours after I sent it. In hindsight she pulled the slow fade from that moment forward. Lesson learned the hard way.
Wish I saw this before it happened. First time ghosted didnt know what I ment and chased till see said I was harassing her. Wtf. Oh well stopped and move on. Right then I new she was never interested and lead me on to believe so before it happened. I need to study Corey knowledge
Someone who ACTUALLY cares about you won't ghost you. If they ghost you, walk away permanently. There are many more people out there. NEVER surrender your self-respect and self-worth for ANYONE.
No matter how you view it or how much you screwed up or didn't, ghosting is a cowardly act and a reflection of a persons inability to deal with discomfort. Period.
Your right
And their lack of communication skills as well! Real men and women communicate their feelings. Immature boys and girls run away
@@monika02ish fax !
Imagine after 3 months. I think if a girl ghosts after more than 2 dates she is mentally ill
Completely agree. At least have the guts to tell me you don't want to talk. To me it's the ultimate cowardly thing to do especially when you know that the other person loves you and will be hurt by it, wondering what they did to deserve that treatment. It's selfish and self centered. Frankly, I don't give a damn about your stress levels or whatever excuse you come up with. Be a decent human and tell someone straight up that it's over so they can move on with closure.
Ghosting is a ruthless form of rejection. It really really effin hurts. But as I progress in life, time does actually heal my heartbreak. In fact, I actually feel blessed. To those who have experienced this, don't overthink too much and don't feel bad about yourselves because there's nothing wrong with you.
We get ghosted for showing interest and we get ghosted for not showing it. WTF
There’s no pleasing women
We have to be perfect, any small mistake is kept in the vault and when these add up they are gone . Then they end up in abusive relationships at times . Just can’t understand!
@@ManuB3581 I do not care about any abusive relationship women get in. They are the idiots that got themselves their with there dumb decisions and “emotions”.
My uncle always said “who fuck who?”
Leave her be. There's nothing more that can be done.
Well, almost nothing. At least he could learn from his mistakes.
If a woman ghosts at least she can have the decency of telling the guy off because ghosting is literally playing games. Don’t pin the fault on the guy mistakes. She made the agreements to the dating then she is responsible for her ghosting actions. She is immature and a low quality woman.
In Summary: Be good at pretending you don't care.
S D a lot easier said than done. It’s oozes out of you and girls can sense it.
@@dstein111 If you're attractive none of this matters
S D it’s about 20% of it.. the other 80 is confidence
@@dstein111 Attractiveness conquers all. Confidence doesn't hurt but it's easy to fake. A friend of mine uses his false bravado all the time. Easy to see through for me, but a lot of women eat it up. As for me, I'd rather jerk off into a sock than chase American women. Just watching some of this guy's videos, who the f$#@ wants to go through all this shit to get some stinky snatch? I never chase women and pussy falls into my lap literally, none of them are wife material.
When the video loaded, I was about to click "Skip Ad". Then I said to myself "Nah this coach, he getting this ad money" lol
Conor Mullan yeah
Conor Mullan lol yeah, coach deserves EVERY penny.
He'll still get the money regardless if you skip it, lmao
Chief Thundrecock That is so extreme, hodgetwins have been demonetized too😥
Chief Thundrecock so coach get no money on his vids? Or just ads?
The Coach is the reason I got my girl back and learned so much of the womans way of acting. You're doing men a great favor Mr. Corey.
You got her back and stayed with her?
@@romesrepublic Yes
@@88khorne good job gentleman
She still with u lol?
Play it cool, until you're no longer insecure and she will start creeping back in. Act needy, blow up her phone ... Poof!!! Back to square one. Keep it cool, let her come to you at her own pace and don't flip out at her tests. If she changes her mind about you coming over, sweet as, You should have alternative activities in your life so if she's blows you off you're not affected "much" lol rejection hurts but if she's not in the mood, why force things. Who wants to hang out with a moody person? So just play it cool and when the right moment comes ... Enjoy it. Otherwise, just move on.
Great advice brother
At least this guy got an explanation. I went on 5 dates with a girl and it seemed like it was going well. I wasn’t texting her very much, I was only hanging out with her once a week or so, and she told me she liked me and wanted to take things slow. I was doing everything right and letting her come to me.
Then one day she just disappeared abruptly lol
Yup just happened to me. 😂
yep at my age of 65 i went through the same thing. dated once a week to give her space. i dated her for 6 weeks. i introduced her to my friends but never met her friends or family after the 6th week she stopped talking and texting me. i got lost.
Just happened to me after 4 dates I think it's her ex of 4+ years relationship, she didn't mentioned anything about it but I just checked her Facebook, I'm not 100% sure though. But she just disappeared
Just happened to me to man not sure what happened but it happened fuck it I guess
"Lets take it slow" is actually not a good thing to happen. Its an indicator that you are very likely too defensive. If she is attracted to you, she will want things to happen as fast as possible. If she ghosts you, just wait for her to stop. Do not respond to this behavoir. And if she returns after a couple weeks - great. If she still is at least slightly attracted to you, she will at some point start to miss you. Or she will be wondering why you dont chase her meaning your feelings are unclear, which makes you more attractive, which ultimately makes her miss you and then she will return. This works especially well with the better looking girls, because they are used to getting a lot of attention from men, who actually chase her too much. Just dont be offended if she ghosts you. Just smile over this rediculous behavior. Just be like "Ahh, this girl is just playing games. Sure - I can play games." Dont let that bother you. You were busy anyway and you are happy to hear from her again, if you hear from her again. And if you dont, this is her loss.
To me is happening a somewhat similar thing. Currently I have been on unread on WhatsApp for 15 days straight but I know she is highly attracted to me. I know that from her really obvious behavior. We still send each other these so called round snaps (or at least hers are intended to seem like round snaps). How do I know this? She is OBVIOUSLY trying to make me jealous and even desperate. These "round snaps" (those are air quotes right there) are like "Im just doing a work out" showing a lot of body and some skin obviously. The next day she is "dating some other guy" (air quotes) - I dont know why someone would snap during a well going date, when they could listen to their date partner instead. The next day I get a "good night" (air quotes) snap, with pillows stacked under her bedsheet to make it look as if someone else was lying there just that it very obviously looks like pillows under a bed sheet. Her ankle are also slightly in the frame. Yeah, I recieved that snap at 7pm. Yeah - I wont respond to that behavior.
I'ma just chill out until she calms down and actually realizes how bad she misses me and then she will come back sooner or later. I can be very patient.
If you want a metaphor:
You are a an island, she is a boat. Sometimes the boat leaves for short. Sometimes it leaves for longer, gets carried away and returns later. You as an island dont move even a little. You will be there just as before for the boat to return. Islands dont move - boats do.
I don't necessarily agree with Corey. While the guy did start acting needy, it only acted as a catalyst for the girls inherent character flaws. You should never take back a person who ghosts you or is not upfront with you. These kind of people have a very serious avoidant attachment style and run from confrontations and honest talks. They are cowardly and are unable to deal with their traumas. If they ghosted you once, they will ghost you again probably. As another youtuber said it so eloquently on some other video about ghosting "The trash took itself out".
Very well put.
Since when are women “upfront”... Good luck finding one that’s honest 😂
@@paul9290 my last girlfriend was pretty honest. Since I have an avoidant attachment style, I also used to run from confrontations. I also did not like to hurt other people's feelings. She thought me how to be more honest and open about my needs and feelings.
@Ron Wilkerson Hey Ron, when a woman tells you I'm a hopeless romantic or anything they say like they're damaged or they never make a good relationship believe them,,, it's true what they're saying you can't fix them!!! don't even try, good you did get out early before you got emotional feelings for this person!! I dated a girl that was married and divorced four times😲 very good-looking biltwell had a lot in common, they seem to go back to their fabulous 3 or 4r ex-husbands and
many boyfriends after the husbands they're all damaged goods...
So true.. good advice
The air jerk motion and him doing her voice is killing me :D
I know right!!
Lol
Hey, reading is fun and mental not just fundamental. 🤣😎
Kek
hahahahahahahahaha that was epic!!!
Why is everything the guy's fault? He is letting her know that he isn't playing games and wants to get to know her. Yet, she deletes him from her life? I think instead of blaming the men for everything, I think we need videos to look for red flags to identify commitment-phobes.
Thank you.Only immature people ghost.
Because content on this topic would be very little. No one wants to hear or lecture the person that did the ghosting, but instead for a content rich RUclips video, it would be best to come up with some reason of what the GUY did wrong...as opposed just saying, "Forget her, she's an immature person, move on to the next one" and that's it, as oppose to pontificating what the guy should have done. In reality, there's nothing he can do but move on to a woman that WON'T do this.
some bitches are cold hearted and then somtimes forever. sad but true
You are getting closer to be redpilled. Look up the red pill philosophy
Tony M well said
This sounds EXACTLY like what my situation was.. she went on holiday and ghosted me for about 2/3 weeks.. so I MOVED ON.. and low and behold I was out on a night out and she seen me getting with other girls.. and the NEXT DAY she started messaging me again.. women are just like men, they want what they can't have and don't want what they can 🤷♀️
Women aren't like men. When people start to understand that, then relationships might start to improve. Listening to what Corey has to offer will help people greatly.
revell55 What did you say to her when she messaged you?
Coach I honestly look up to you like a father type figure. I can't thank you enough for sharing your wisdom in dating.
Buddy don't waste your time with a woman like this. The fact she couldn't speak to you say it all.
Simon Andrews women love the attention nothing else
Deborah Jones too much is a turn off
Simon Andrews It’s his fault dude. What non desperate man asks a woman to become exclusive on the 3rd date? What a loser. He deserved to get ghosted. Dude was insecure and thought he would lose her so he wanted to lock her down.
What confident man would worry about losing the woman? A man that loses a lot of women, that’s who!
Unless this girl was a teenager her behavior was totally unacceptable. People like this learn lessons the HARD way.
Slients is always a answer
Perfect article Corey. Pulling back and moving on works everytime!
Coach, you have to bring back the music, man. I'm one of your first subscribers and I have crushed every one of your videos. Read your book 18 times. Listened to it twice. I'm telling you, the music really works to get people into coach mode. Please bring it back for some of the videos.
Not to take away from Corey's analysis as it's always spot-on, but I'd like to point out, none of us know what this chick is really like who the guy wrote to Corey about in this. The fact that the guy who wrote in is in such dire assistance to see the logic in forgetting a woman who is obviously too insecure and self-absorbed to say "sorry, this isn't working" makes me not trust the description of the writer's "interpretation of who she is" and leads me to wonder how much was this guy's fault to begin with, as someone who ghosts has little integrity and likely narcissistic (meaning this guy was going to fail no matter what he did or said.)
Corey's video on "I Dated a Narcissist" and "She's Insecure" could easily apply in this guy's situation because ghosting essentially is the ultimate silent treatment... it's manipulative, passive aggressive behavior employed by ONLY weak, self-centered men and women who don't have enough self confidence to tell you "they can't"... but would like to keep you in limbo while they move onto a new source of narcissistic supply... no self respecting guy should ever feel like "man I messed up... it's my fault" when dealing with someone who ghosts, unless they've already told you they're not interested.
Good analysis Trevor and I agree. Ghosting is done by weak women (and men) who do not respect the person they're being very passive-aggressive about.
It’s such a waste of energy. I’m 6 months in and get ghosted. How on earth can you do that to someone? Absolutely no values...
While you have a valid point and should be the attitude to take in an IDEAL world, unfortunately, we don’t live in one. It is unfortunate that we have to develop strategies to deal with such people out there.
On my 5th read of your book idk how me and my girl is doing she acts cold somtimes then acts like she wants me I’m slowly coming to the conclusion that we are about to end I’m just focusing on hanging out having fun and hooking up and giving her space thanks for all you do coach I’ve learned so much from you I remember when I first found your channel I was like what the fuck does this old ass guy know about women....boy was I fucking wrong lol thanks again coach !!!!
Robin Colmenares true indeed man I’ve acted indifferent like coach mentioned and stayed to myself and gave her space and she reaches out everytime
Thinking more like, society is fucked up now days
Ghosters should never ever, I repeat never EVER be taken serious after they showed you their true colours. The highest form of disrespect and disregard for someone is ghosting especially for no reason. If they come back, you will use them only as fun and never take them serious. Personally I like to delude them into thinking it's fine afterwards, get them in bed then ghost them. They will not stop blowing your phone up, some good karma and hopefully will teach them not to do it to others.
Oddest shit about applying Corey's teachings of"no contact, give me a call when you change your mind" with a girl (and also whats odd about following him): it works, I noticed the girl was extra caring, she touched me a lot, wanted to know about my trip, told me a long story about hers, kept the conversation about us (not in the couple sense, I mean she didn't talk about anyone else beside a female friend we share). I obviously still find it different because I was not used to it, so I know the doubts I have (e.g, did it really work??) are normal, its just my brain/psyche adapting, but I cant help it that it feels strange.
I mean, even though she was checking if I agreed with her, was qualifying herself to me, getting closer with her chair to mine, giving herself a bad hair day with all that flipping and reworking, lifting her long skirt and crossing her legs, etc. I was on the verge of leaving since I was not that much interested. I think it was somewhow apparent to her aswell. So as soon as we agreed on asking for the bill I did so ASAP, just waited for her uber and left the place. I noticed she was kinda surprised. Reason: I usually took her home because I know her neighbourhood is kinda dangerous and she was recently mugged. She would ask me to go upstairs, you know the drill. So in a way, I interrupted the pattern.
I don't know what happened to me, man, I now just feel like she is "just another beautiful woman" while I used to think she was the one for me. Maybe if she becomes more aggressive in her pursuit,p it will change something, but for now I feel like she (and all of my previous love interests) aren't worth the amount of effort I put into them. I neither feel the urge to get a gf nor the urge to desperately get laid with the first woman I find attractive. I kinda recovered my 17~20s feeling of being a laid back, self focused dude. This really long comment is also a way of saying" thank you". Life hasn't felt that good in a while, Coach.
you're hilarious haha. I love how you don't beat around the bush either. I was chatting to this girl and she has ghosted me, I think I was maybe just too keen and not chill enough. I know she liked me but I think I was too available, so I've just moved on and focusing on gym/travel/work etc.
It's very insulting to get ghosted.
Yes at least tell me is not gonna workout and not ignore makes me mad
True. Hurts a lot.
In every interaction with a potential romantic interest, I expect the worse to happen. So, I live each day knowing that it could end. At the end of the day when it doesn't, I breathe a sigh of relief and prepare the next day's mental struggle. Ghosted, dumped or whatever is there is no surprise. It is only a matter of time and one can only be prepared. It is only when you get giddy that the shit rolls up behind and smacks you in the back of the skull.
You right about women being emotional and not logical, if you are needy then they are not turned on. We should pay attention to what women are really saying to us. Sometimes they give you tips at how to get them in your arms. :)
This guy didn't get ghosted. Ghosted means doing (almost) everything right, the girl giving you positive vibes, and then disappearing out of nowhere. This dude here did A LOT of wrong things and she even tried to explain to him that things would not work out. He is just clueless.
Yeah you're right, it doesn't sound like ghosting. In my experience ghosting happens when she finds someone else or maybe an ex comes back.
Dear viewers, study the law of attraction! The law of attraction will bring you the woman of your dreams or anything else. Great work coach.
Luc Branchaud how exactly?
SigmaMale717 RUclips Tony Robins - The Secret. and study It
Luc Branchaud Law of attraction is lottery mindset bullshit that tricks Democrats into thinking they can “attract” what they want without action.
She wasn't sure where she was able to be at that point in her life.
Champ1988 you know, that should become a meme, hope someone does it lmfao.
Also crazy busy
She should verbalize that. Not leave people hanging.
@@tonymarcuscassani9465 I'm on it chief! Lol
Just finished the book... only 14 more times to go! Then on the the next. Thanks Coach!
Those red light fixtures are badass. Look like pomegranate
I cringe when I think back to my late teens / early 20's and realize how many fucking mistakes I made and blown chances I endured. Mistake #1 was taking advice from female "friends", mistake #2 was having female friends.
Same 😂 and it's crazy because I was bringing in girls left and right, but didn't realize I shouldn't have pushed for a relationship with all of them.. now I'm in my thirties and too fucked up from all the relationship rejection to even bother putting any energy into women. Had I known to just have fun and hook up I would be a different man but I thought women wanted relationships.
Corey this may be your best video. It all came together in this video ...WOW!
😂 it’s best to just walk away, hang with women, advance your career, workout and take pictures hanging out with women. Be an alpha.
If you hear from her, meet at your crib or meet at a bar. Ain’t no first date nice guy situation...go for the kiss go for the sex. Keep it moving.
No man has ever understood women and no one ever will.
I think the dude literally meant sleep, not sex.
😂😂
She just wasn't into him. I had a guy want to be exclusive pretty quickly and it was what I wanted also. It depends on the chemistry. I think in this situation he acted desperate which turned her off.
Why didn’t you tell him to wait, you guys make no sense.
Yeah, this guy should have walked. He should have never mentioned a relationship. Who cares if she’s ghosted him. On to the next one. Who really cares about her feelings too. Corey is right, do nothing.
Corey you were hilarious this video. Awesome work coach
Corey is at his best at 10:55. Made me laugh for the first time when thinking about how I messed up in similar ways with girls.
Just got your book today coach Corey looks like very good reading! Thanks for the Honor to the American Soldier in the beginning, us vets appreciate that!
Ghosting really reveals their maturity level. It’s a sign they are still a toddler
The PHONE is just for setting DATES.
Reca noff learned this the hard way lol
not necessarily true. You can actually text a few minutes or talk for a minutes once a week to touch base because many women will believe the man is ghosting them!! At least make some form of casual contact to just touch base in between dates.
did that and still got ghosted lol
7months or so for me . Worked together. People say not to get into work relationships but the fact is, you spend half your life at work, we spent time together , there for me when I went into the hospital and then boom, just nothing, right after Christmas.
i got her back thanks to you ,shes the world. thank you sir
I asked a girl if we were in a relationship after the second date....... Didn't hear from her again.
To be fair I was about 17.
Coach. You should do voice over work lmao , your impressions are A1 👌🏽
So I clicked on this video depressed thinking about my ex and now I can't stop laughing lol
It sounds like she got completely freaked out over it moving too fast and didn't have the guts to say that when he brought up exclusivity. I can relate. It's not always about women being evil, sometimes it's just that we've been hurt so deeply. All the way to the core. And thinking about the possibility of that occurring ever again sets off so many alarms. Fight or flight fear for your life kind of alarms! I'm not trying to give info here to justify anything anyone does, I'm just trying to help with some insight. It's true though, the more you try after we freak out, the worse you make it for yourself. It just keeps upping the fear factor. 🏃 🏃 🏃
Thanks for the insight Maryann
Yeah Im in contact with a woman who was cheated on by her ex she was with for 25 years she felt it was going to fast so ive backed of she messaged me 9 days later now im just going take it slow I like her but its going to take time.
adie Larks my bf did with me last year. It took time, months for me to even want to meet to hang out with him. And I'd known him since I was 14! I was just very freaked out at the time. I'm thankful he was patient and kind now.
Maryann Spicher I met the woman on a dating site i did treat her to flowers on the first date even suprised her to some flowers she said it was the best suprise ever, since she said about it going to fast Ive backed of she thanked me for being understanding i guess patience is the key, im a full time single father of 2 teenage daughters I try to think how I would like a man to treat them. I suppose I was trying to show this woman I care but she needs time 25 years is a long time she will be far from ready we live an hour away from each other so communication is by message at the moment.
Thanks Maryann for your insight.
He's the amazing guy that she doesn't want to hang out with, makes perfect sense to me.
Lmao coach kills me at times with his stupid simple reactions dudes funny!!! On Saturday she text me this. "Hey!!!!"😃
This was my problem when I was younger and it's so true. Now I have a super hot girlfriend and she makes me feel like a rock star and life is fun. It's funny how it's really easier to get the girl than it is to loose her but guys work so hard at loosing the girl.
Phil Laird dope pic
Today's video very insightful. I loved the extra dramatics. Great vid!
Ghosted, so what, I mean so what, come on guys, let go,maybe go figure for 10 minutes or 10 hours,then move on and apply good technique elsewhere ,cmon you can do it
Never come off as needy to a woman, it's a natural turn off to any woman other than one that's looking to hustle you in some way or another.
Its a turn off in general. Women do it to me and it kills everything.
Sooo true. It's annoying AF
The independent, feminized women are taught to think stupid shit like this. Being cautious not to show neediness is probably a stupid thing in the first place. It causes women to ghost themselves and pin it on the men like its their fault.
Lol 😂
This is me but thank God I found this video. I fumbled but I’ll be better when she comes back to me ( hopefully)
You made me laugh so much Corey. Thanks for the great advice.
Maybe she’s coming out from a long term relationship. The emotions are so raw.
No intro, love the background.
Thank you Mr.Wayne.
Great video coach. Information you're giving here is priceless.
Coach! I dig your style of feedback. You never admonish or ostracize but you do tell it like it is! We students already know weve done wrong and you give us hope!
Your my hero coach! You have helped me out in so many ways. Thank you!
The first video I've seen with this guy- all I can think - Is that a Game of Thrones pinball machine?
I was even nice enough to give her a way out. Basically said “if we’re not vibing anymore, you can let me know blasé blasé “ and she even managed to stick me with a cliffhanger explanation forcing me to draw my own conclusions.... it sucks but yeah.... it happens.
Yeah women like the unclear emotions thing, but if i feel a shitty vibe i dont dodge the inevitable by making her ghost me i just hit em with the "yeah im not really feeling this anymore, ive lost interest, peace."
Would you ever do a workshop in florida coach 😛
This stuff works Coach Corey!!! I went through a break up last July and sold a business and lost my grandfather in the same month. It comes in 3's but I've bounced back. I've remained no contact after going into beta mode but I've picked myself up improving getting back to alpha mode. Looking into a new business venture. Any ideas coach I'm all ears on new business ideas. Also I am dating a woman and another woman from last summer who blew me off. So life is good. Being indifferent is a great quality.
12:46 "we gotta get together and have 'The Talk'" yeah they only talk he is gonna get is the LJBF talk from HER
Coach is such a boss! It just works gentleman
Sometimes getting ghosted is a godsend
God dammit I laughed so hard when Coach was reading her rejection text.
7:20
Sometimes, especially with online dating it can help to text back and forth to see if you have anything in common or whether you have a similar sense of humour to save money and time going on a date with a girl you shouldn't be dating cuz there's no chemistry.
Does "Ghost Mode" make you mysterious? Or should I keep it on to kind of show off going places? 🤔 If you're ghosting she will eventually forget you from time to time?
I recently got ghosted by a chick. She dumped her bf (long term relationship with a psycho restraining order ending. He went crazy), told me all about it without me asking, suggested we make plans. When I asked her out, she proceeded to never return my call (I left a vm) or even acknowledge my invitation and has gone totally ghost. It happens. She will *never* hear from me again unless she reaches out to me first. I understand that rebounding chicks are all over the place emotionally. That's just the way it is. Acknowledge and move on.
Corey, did you move into a diner?? :)
Honestly, stuff like this makes me want to give up. This is more complicated than it needs to be. Eventually, you get tired of trying.
Beautiful House Corey, can I come over? haha...Great video as always
Your videos have been helpful. Having an abundance mindset is key.
That grenade whistle kmsl
That Game of Thrones pineball table to the right of the screen. Knew Corey was a good man!
So what about when you do everything right (keeping texting to setting up dates, etc.) but the girl ghosts you when attempting to schedule date 2?
It’s possible she wasn’t that into you in the first place (harsh as it may seem). CCW’s advice will never guarantee you will get the girl but if you follow the principles you will increase your chances a whole lot and ensure you don’t mess it up with those girls who have a high level of attraction to you from the get go.
The advice is good but there is no need to drag down the person asking for help. People make mistakes and the fact the person is coming to you for help is good. Just treat the dude with some more respect man
Thanks bro, this is old but still worked in my current situation
Hey @CoachCorey, I love immersion reading and i believe it makes it easier to read the book 10+ times this way. Is the new book going to also have an audiobook version available?
yes
This is one of Coreys best videos. Very good info
I have learned and found out in my years of dating that when a woman start to STALK you and talk to anyone and everyone you might mutually know or even reach out to your acquaintances who don't know her then ppl will tell her there opinion about you in certain things they might not agree with and they might get scared off. most of my friends know that I date lots of women and get lots of pooty tang. BUT in there eyes that is wrong! I don't care what they think because they are not a 3% man and don't have my kind of success in dating. but the point being its a silver lining because this just shows these girls who do this are insecure, low quality woman who display stalker behavior and I don't want any of that SHIT!
remember our actions repel that bad and attract the good and sometimes it takes a little time but youll always see the real them and its no loss to us. its only another win!
thecanadianwill if acquaintances are talking bad about you that’s one thing but you getting women actually raises your smv (sexual market value) and subconsciously more females will want to see what the hype about you is
Best thing you can tell someone who got ghosted is it’s not your fault she showed you she isn’t emotionally mature and I just say she isn’t into you
While the roles are reversed in this story, this brings much insight. Holy crap. People can be so incredibly insane!
Beer option is to take the Red Pill guys
Im married but i love these horror stories
Sheesh this was rough lmao you either win or you learn bro! Read the book.
You are the best dating coach on here
Coach would you make a video on addictions ? I know you have one but im wondering if you can make sum on addictions like eating excessively porn,social media, relationships, and things like this.. im struggling with this alot i want to learn how to fullfill my 6 human needs with constructive addictions and not the shit i just mentioned thanks alot Coach and much love from Arizona
2 months and she ghosted me. It's okay though. I guess
I think the girl I’ve been texting ghosted me because I fell into this trap...I double texted because she “liked” a text hours after I sent it. In hindsight she pulled the slow fade from that moment forward. Lesson learned the hard way.
Wish I saw this before it happened. First time ghosted didnt know what I ment and chased till see said I was harassing her. Wtf. Oh well stopped and move on. Right then I new she was never interested and lead me on to believe so before it happened. I need to study Corey knowledge
After three years of relationship I still didn’t want to live together and settle down. And then she ghosted me. Do I qualify as well :D
PowerPoint slides hahaha rate of return oh shit I nearly died laughing 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love you coach Wayne I hope you see this
Hey Coach
How can I use your guide lines when we live together.... She says she fallen out of love with me....how can I make fall back in love with me
I had a lot of fun creating the PowerPoint. She just couldn't appreciate it!!