When you're serious about the work, what you're talking about makes total sense. Ive been on my healing journey for almost 10 year, and where I am at now, I get what you are saying.
I like the way Kenny takes out the blaming. He's a technician. Whatever our parents gave us, its ours now. But we are here to become authentic. Thanks Kenny.
Thank you! I’m in the process of figuring out why I keep getting into toxic relationships with narcissistic men. What is in me that’s thinks I can make them better? Help them? Change them … time to do me. These videos are a great help ! Thank you for your help !
You’re welcome. What you’re describing is false empowerment but done from the disempowered victim position. Basically a person gets power from justifying being victimized and choosing somebody that goes against their morals and values. In other words by picking somebody they can’t change and treats them poorly they are in control and they can guarantee a negative outcome. It repeats the unhealed pain from childhood. The narcissist is the perfect person for them. They get to blame them and avoid having to take responsibility for facing themselves and healing the pain from their childhood. They are not consciously aware that’s what they’re doing but that is the dynamic at play.
@@candyhumpf6267 I didn’t wanna live that way either. My suggestion would be to start with my book and my free master class. They will teach you how you keep doing that but more importantly, how to stop and turn your life around.
I think you are great Kenny you are a breath of fresh air and if we all lived our lives like you are doing we really really would have a much healthier happy life which is what we are all struggling to do .I can’t thank you enough for all you help and wisdom thank you very much it’s very much appreciated
Prayers for answers have been answered. Goal is to watch and read all your work in my next leg of this journey. Dang! It makes total sense you are nailing it!
I was a perfectionist by the time I was in first grade. If I wasn't first in academics I would cry, and I didn't even know why I was crying. Now at 43 I'm learning about denial and delusion about my childhood (I used to think it was great and we were all so close, probably sounds familiar). Thanks for your videos
Perfectly said. For most people the last place they would look when deciphering their struggles is their childhood. In fact, that’s the first place all of us should look. That is very hard for people to accept and that is one of the things I’m hoping to change.
Wow I've learned so much just from 2 videos!! boy I needed this!! I have 5 kids 4 adults already and 1 left at home still that all are self victimized in their thinking!! So happy I found you!! ☺
Yep, yelling seemed normal in my upbringingl. Due to stress, bullied at work by yealous colleagues who couldn’t see that I was the only one who continued a conversation as the department head arrived at the office and was praised for being genuine and brought a positive admisphere to the office. This stress I brought home and I had a small fuse.😅😢
This is very helpful. Thank you! 💜 SPECIAL REQUEST: Can you add #1, #2, #3, etc. to the videos and/or put them in order in the playlist? I've been listening to the first few seconds or minutes of each video to see which video number it is. Thank you! 🙏🏾
If you look on the bottom right of all 3 video thumbnails they are numbered. Also, in the description of each video they are numbered. I will add it to the title as well
If anyone would like to regrow your hair stop using shampoo and conditioner. Maybe a shampoo bar with 3-4 ingredients. Just warm water. And "scratch your nails." (rub your finger tips together). Also eliminate water that has touched plastic. Filter your shower water.
Kenny, what do you do with all of those negative comments? Do you delete them? Do you put them in a file of shame (haha)? Do you block people who are so hurtful? I'm asking because I want to start a RUclips channel, but I don't know what to do with ugly negativity.
Watch my video on how insults are a blessing or any of the videos in my denial and self- deception playlist. Whenever we judge, blame or nate anyone or anything we are always talking about ourselves. If what they say has truth, I own it and admit it. If my reality is different, I recognize that they are in denial and sharing their own self loathing and lack of forgiveness for their own perfect imperfections. Their comments have nothing to do with me and they are actually being incredibly vulnerable about their pain and how they see themselves. I see it as a tremendous gift that they are choosing to be so vulnerable with me.
That’s a great question. We always get to decide what our reality is. So if anyone ever makes a criticism or judgment about us, we check our reality and ask ourselves… Is any part of that statement true? If it is we take ownership of it. If not then we just don’t allow it in. In addition, we recognize that any judgment or criticism somebody makes against us, even if it’s true, is also the other person telling us how they feel about themselves. Because we can only see in others what is already operating in ourselves. Therefore, if someone called us condescending, we would recognize that the person judging us is being incredibly vulnerable and sharing with us how they are perfectly imperfect because they are admitting that they are condescending.
When you're serious about the work, what you're talking about makes total sense. Ive been on my healing journey for almost 10 year, and where I am at now, I get what you are saying.
I'm glad to see an animated man who's not afraid of emotions and telling his truth. I get something out of watching your videos. Thank you.
You do what you know. When you know better you do better - Maya Angelou. I love that quote.
I like the way Kenny takes out the blaming. He's a technician. Whatever our parents gave us, its ours now. But we are here to become authentic. Thanks Kenny.
Man you are doing amazing work
Thank you
We teach what we need to learn the most.😘
Yes we do
Thank you! I’m in the process of figuring out why I keep getting into toxic relationships with narcissistic men. What is in me that’s thinks I can make them better? Help them? Change them … time to do me. These videos are a great help ! Thank you for your help !
You’re welcome. What you’re describing is false empowerment but done from the disempowered victim position. Basically a person gets power from justifying being victimized and choosing somebody that goes against their morals and values. In other words by picking somebody they can’t change and treats them poorly they are in control and they can guarantee a negative outcome. It repeats the unhealed pain from childhood. The narcissist is the perfect person for them. They get to blame them and avoid having to take responsibility for facing themselves and healing the pain from their childhood. They are not consciously aware that’s what they’re doing but that is the dynamic at play.
@@kennyweiss thank you.. I never thought about it like that. So to remain a victim? Not how I want to live at all. :(
@@candyhumpf6267 I didn’t wanna live that way either. My suggestion would be to start with my book and my free master class. They will teach you how you keep doing that but more importantly, how to stop and turn your life around.
@@kennyweiss thank you! Exactly what I’m working towards..
I think you are great Kenny you are a breath of fresh air and if we all lived our lives like you are doing we really really would have a much healthier happy life which is what we are all struggling to do .I can’t thank you enough for all you help and wisdom thank you very much it’s very much appreciated
Great video very inspiring God bless! 🙏
Here it is. Found the starting point.
It's funny how we all have stuff like that. Very cool of you to just come out and say it's one of your vulnerabilities.
Prayers for answers have been answered. Goal is to watch and read all your work in my next leg of this journey. Dang! It makes total sense you are nailing it!
I greatly appreciate your insights.
Thank you.
You are so welcome!
I was a perfectionist by the time I was in first grade. If I wasn't first in academics I would cry, and I didn't even know why I was crying. Now at 43 I'm learning about denial and delusion about my childhood (I used to think it was great and we were all so close, probably sounds familiar). Thanks for your videos
Perfectly said.
For most people the last place they would look when deciphering their struggles is their childhood.
In fact, that’s the first place all of us should look.
That is very hard for people to accept and that is one of the things I’m hoping to change.
Love your videos.. so true and raw.. we need more of this. Authenticity
Thank you.
Wow I've learned so much just from 2 videos!! boy I needed this!! I have 5 kids 4 adults already and 1 left at home still that all are self victimized in their thinking!! So happy I found you!! ☺
Happy to help!
Kenny you're handsome without hair. Beautiful features & witty sharp dressed man! ❤
Thank you. I enjoyed your video. Learned lots!!
Happy to help!
Yep, yelling seemed normal in my upbringingl. Due to stress, bullied at work by yealous colleagues who couldn’t see that I was the only one who continued a conversation as the department head arrived at the office and was praised for being genuine and brought a positive admisphere to the office. This stress I brought home and I had a small fuse.😅😢
Thank you 🙏🏼, I just finished reading your book. You’re amazing. Wish we could have one-to-one sessions to heal my hurt.
Thank you for the kind words. Here’s information on my coaching services and booking a session
www.thegreatnessuniversity.com/coaching/
This is very helpful. Thank you! 💜
SPECIAL REQUEST: Can you add #1, #2, #3, etc. to the videos and/or put them in order in the playlist? I've been listening to the first few seconds or minutes of each video to see which video number it is. Thank you! 🙏🏾
If you look on the bottom right of all 3 video thumbnails they are numbered. Also, in the description of each video they are numbered. I will add it to the title as well
Thank you si much for sharing looking forward to your 5 part series. Happy New Year
You’re welcome 😁
thanks for your wisdom
Kenny, ghost hair or none, you woke! 😂❤
Super :)
If anyone would like to regrow your hair stop using shampoo and conditioner. Maybe a shampoo bar with 3-4 ingredients. Just warm water. And "scratch your nails." (rub your finger tips together). Also eliminate water that has touched plastic. Filter your shower water.
Kenny, what do you do with all of those negative comments? Do you delete them? Do you put them in a file of shame (haha)? Do you block people who are so hurtful? I'm asking because I want to start a RUclips channel, but I don't know what to do with ugly negativity.
Watch my video on how insults are a blessing or any of the videos in my denial and self- deception playlist.
Whenever we judge, blame or nate anyone or anything we are always talking about ourselves. If what they say has truth, I own it and admit it. If my reality is different, I recognize that they are in denial and sharing their own self loathing and lack of forgiveness for their own perfect imperfections. Their comments have nothing to do with me and they are actually being incredibly vulnerable about their pain and how they see themselves.
I see it as a tremendous gift that they are choosing to be so vulnerable with me.
❤❤❤❤
How do you know the difference of a statement being true or not (for example: you are condescending)?
That’s a great question. We always get to decide what our reality is. So if anyone ever makes a criticism or judgment about us, we check our reality and ask ourselves… Is any part of that statement true? If it is we take ownership of it. If not then we just don’t allow it in.
In addition, we recognize that any judgment or criticism somebody makes against us, even if it’s true, is also the other person telling us how they feel about themselves. Because we can only see in others what is already operating in ourselves.
Therefore, if someone called us condescending, we would recognize that the person judging us is being incredibly vulnerable and sharing with us how they are perfectly imperfect because they are admitting that they are condescending.
🥰🌺👍🏾🙏🏽