You’re absolutely right that rejection that disabled people get is way way way way more intense than normal rejection because we can’t just go out and get another person who is mature enough to deal with our disabilities. Like for me I live out in the country because living in town was too expensive so I am a 30 minute drive for most people to visit and for whatever reason I can’t convince them to spend a couple hours with me in a romantic fashion. My disability basically has rendered me celibate because I can’t keep up with young people and they don’t seem to be attracted to all the aspects of me. Even though I’m good looking and get along with people.
Absolutely also being really young and disabled from my perspective creates a whole new set of challenges because you want to act young but everybody else who is young is working three jobs and can’t hang out with you while you get to do what they’re they want to do which is be at home with your knitting. So trying to connect and get your social needs met and your relationship needs met is compounded because people want you to come to them when you may be in a wheelchair and spending time at the doctor more then you’re spending time at the bar. To add to that most people don’t remember young disabled people they only remember retired people.
My heart goes out to you friend. My name is Stephen, I’m 29 and I have a Neuromuscular disease myself (Doctors think its Stiff Person Syndrome) and completely disabled. You are 100% correct on how loneliness and rejection in matters of love are devastating in all of this. I get rejected all of the time and it feels like your being thrown out like trash and it hurts so bad. I’ve practically given up hope in finding love. Thank you for making this video as it reminded me that I’m not the only one having problems with this. But you are correct about everything. Prayers. 🙏
SPS is no joke! I got tested for that because I get tremors and it then it hurts really really really bad but I tested negative. Turns out I have a bulging disc in my spine which impacts the nerves so that explains it better. But I follow groups of SPS suffers and their stories of being disbelieved and abandoned just tear at me😢
my son n my heart was so touched u r in r prayers and u r a mighty warrior in the Lord u have suffered so much u will rule n reign I await to see u in r resurrection state my son is not disabled very handsome but rejected he has given up on a relationship at 32 he is a mighty warrior in the Lord he lost his only sibling as we did she was 22 and with the Lord passed on Passover 2016 I have had many dreams n some visions the ones of my girl are the best, u so touched my heart I am weeping and I will pray for u daily I like ur vids u help many u do not even know u r a special treasure a gem in his crown we r his Royal Priesthood
Thank u for making this video. I have lost relationships due to partners not being able to deal with my disability. Then during the pandemic been so isolated. I relate a lot to what you have shared ❤️
I am 29 from Scotland. Long story short through an eating disorder, I caused substantial nerve damage to my body that drastically accelerated after I had my daughter. 9 months later could barley walk, lost some eye sight, lost my hearing fast foward to 2021 after seeking help, slightly getting better and working very hard after a 2 month hospital stint, I tripped on pavement and complelty shattered ny knee.. if this wasn't enough it then got infected. Now for the last year I have had 30 pins in leg, nearly profoundly deaf and can barley walk at all and prognosis isn't good. I've lost my daughter *her dad left me 8 weeks after she was born and now lives with him* and due to mobility I have put on so much weight. I don't have a lot of family support and friends struggle with me due to my hearing difficulties plus mental jmpact things have had on me. J am alone day in day out and miss my little girl so much, no one is likely to ever settle down with me and I genuinely feel like throwing jn towel because I feel like I'm no use to anybody 🥺💔 your tught it's rejection over and over again. Worst of it is the hearing ect is all my fault. After seeking help I was out and having therapy to battle ny problems and working very hard to try and reverse some of nerve damage for me and my daughter then 2 weeks later this jnjury happened. Its my own fault it feels like. I'm sorry I don't know if I'm out of order complaining but I'm likely to be jn a wheelchair a lot, can't hear and worst of all jm a mum without my kid. Loneliness is absolutly destroying me and making me feel suicidal. I've reached out for help but it's pointless. Is it worth even being here i wonder? Don't feel good enough for my daughter who I love and took care of despite getting more and more ill till last year. I'm absolutly devastated the now. Don't know what to do. No guy will ever take me on like this around where j live. Seriously can't do it anymore
I’m living this right now. And I never ever knew this was a thing. How do we go through life and not know the hard ships of those of us with disabilities? Everyone has vanished even my children. I very rarely see anyone. I rarely have my emotional needs met. Disability pays so little yet people don’t seem to realize or care that needs can’t be met financially either so many months I suffer there too…I’m sitting here and I often wonder if the heart aches will have brutal effects on my health and take me before the illness that has made me disabled
By the amount it’s obvious you are on SSI instead of SSDI. Probably didn’t have a chance to build up enough credits for SSDI. Sorry man. I get SSDI. I became disabled in my thirties. I have the most amazing wife that’s been with me for 29 years that has asked for divorce. It’s my fault. I’ve become so self isolated that I’m not giving her what she deserves. The emotional pain health and disabled brings is like a living death
Damn...I wish I was still able to drive and had a car because I'd head down and grab Jess and then head to Kentucky to see you...If the Christian god is real then he should just give me a car and the money to come down to visit but unfortunately mythical fictional characters don't perform miracles.
As an atheist I have no problem with people believing in God. I just wish I could pin all my problems, all my guilt, all my sadness, all my pain on a greater force but the guy who groomed me told me God wasn't real and now I compare God to stupid healing crystals and palm readings. My sister would believe in gems and learn guitar, be social, and so much damn other stuff- and she isn't a normie just like I am. Believing in ANYTHING makes a person so much happier. But because God isn't real- I can't be brainwashed into something that would make me happier. I wish I never delved into atheism. It definitely removes the purpose of life. Never make someone feel bad for believing in something.
This world is full of pain and suffering let us be grateful for the things we can do like writing a comment. Some people are blind or severely autistic they can't even do that.
Precious soul💕
You’re absolutely right that rejection that disabled people get is way way way way more intense than normal rejection because we can’t just go out and get another person who is mature enough to deal with our disabilities. Like for me I live out in the country because living in town was too expensive so I am a 30 minute drive for most people to visit and for whatever reason I can’t convince them to spend a couple hours with me in a romantic fashion. My disability basically has rendered me celibate because I can’t keep up with young people and they don’t seem to be attracted to all the aspects of me. Even though I’m good looking and get along with people.
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Absolutely also being really young and disabled from my perspective creates a whole new set of challenges because you want to act young but everybody else who is young is working three jobs and can’t hang out with you while you get to do what they’re they want to do which is be at home with your knitting. So trying to connect and get your social needs met and your relationship needs met is compounded because people want you to come to them when you may be in a wheelchair and spending time at the doctor more then you’re spending time at the bar. To add to that most people don’t remember young disabled people they only remember retired people.
My heart goes out to you friend. My name is Stephen, I’m 29 and I have a Neuromuscular disease myself (Doctors think its Stiff Person Syndrome) and completely disabled. You are 100% correct on how loneliness and rejection in matters of love are devastating in all of this. I get rejected all of the time and it feels like your being thrown out like trash and it hurts so bad. I’ve practically given up hope in finding love. Thank you for making this video as it reminded me that I’m not the only one having problems with this. But you are correct about everything. Prayers. 🙏
SPS is no joke! I got tested for that because I get tremors and it then it hurts really really really bad but I tested negative. Turns out I have a bulging disc in my spine which impacts the nerves so that explains it better. But I follow groups of SPS suffers and their stories of being disbelieved and abandoned just tear at me😢
You DESERVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and I want that so much to happen for you.
my son n my heart was so touched u r in r prayers and u r a mighty warrior in the Lord u have suffered so much u will rule n reign I await to see u in r resurrection state my son is not disabled very handsome but rejected he has given up on a relationship at 32 he is a mighty warrior in the Lord he lost his only sibling as we did she was 22 and with the Lord passed on Passover 2016 I have had many dreams n some visions the ones of my girl are the best, u so touched my heart I am weeping and I will pray for u daily I like ur vids u help many u do not even know u r a special treasure a gem in his crown we r his Royal Priesthood
Thank u for making this video. I have lost relationships due to partners not being able to deal with my disability. Then during the pandemic been so isolated. I relate a lot to what you have shared ❤️
I am 29 from Scotland. Long story short through an eating disorder, I caused substantial nerve damage to my body that drastically accelerated after I had my daughter. 9 months later could barley walk, lost some eye sight, lost my hearing fast foward to 2021 after seeking help, slightly getting better and working very hard after a 2 month hospital stint, I tripped on pavement and complelty shattered ny knee.. if this wasn't enough it then got infected. Now for the last year I have had 30 pins in leg, nearly profoundly deaf and can barley walk at all and prognosis isn't good. I've lost my daughter *her dad left me 8 weeks after she was born and now lives with him* and due to mobility I have put on so much weight. I don't have a lot of family support and friends struggle with me due to my hearing difficulties plus mental jmpact things have had on me. J am alone day in day out and miss my little girl so much, no one is likely to ever settle down with me and I genuinely feel like throwing jn towel because I feel like I'm no use to anybody 🥺💔 your tught it's rejection over and over again. Worst of it is the hearing ect is all my fault. After seeking help I was out and having therapy to battle ny problems and working very hard to try and reverse some of nerve damage for me and my daughter then 2 weeks later this jnjury happened. Its my own fault it feels like. I'm sorry I don't know if I'm out of order complaining but I'm likely to be jn a wheelchair a lot, can't hear and worst of all jm a mum without my kid. Loneliness is absolutly destroying me and making me feel suicidal. I've reached out for help but it's pointless. Is it worth even being here i wonder? Don't feel good enough for my daughter who I love and took care of despite getting more and more ill till last year. I'm absolutly devastated the now. Don't know what to do. No guy will ever take me on like this around where j live. Seriously can't do it anymore
I would take you on if you were in AMERICA.
I’m living this right now. And I never ever knew this was a thing. How do we go through life and not know the hard ships of those of us with disabilities? Everyone has vanished even my children. I very rarely see anyone. I rarely have my emotional needs met. Disability pays so little yet people don’t seem to realize or care that needs can’t be met financially either so many months I suffer there too…I’m sitting here and I often wonder if the heart aches will have brutal effects on my health and take me before the illness that has made me disabled
A card game. A laugh. A smile. A hug. Like he said human touch.
I pray that you have the peace and love of God in your heart always.
Loss............
Good luck to U,in the future!
What keeps it going for you sir ? I need pointers from my new REAL hero....
knowing that Death is hopefully not far away.
By the amount it’s obvious you are on SSI instead of SSDI. Probably didn’t have a chance to build up enough credits for SSDI.
Sorry man. I get SSDI. I became disabled in my thirties.
I have the most amazing wife that’s been with me for 29 years that has asked for divorce. It’s my fault. I’ve become so self isolated that I’m not giving her what she deserves. The emotional pain health and disabled brings is like a living death
Damn...I wish I was still able to drive and had a car because I'd head down and grab Jess and then head to Kentucky to see you...If the Christian god is real then he should just give me a car and the money to come down to visit but unfortunately mythical fictional characters don't perform miracles.
As an atheist I have no problem with people believing in God. I just wish I could pin all my problems, all my guilt, all my sadness, all my pain on a greater force but the guy who groomed me told me God wasn't real and now I compare God to stupid healing crystals and palm readings. My sister would believe in gems and learn guitar, be social, and so much damn other stuff- and she isn't a normie just like I am. Believing in ANYTHING makes a person so much happier. But because God isn't real- I can't be brainwashed into something that would make me happier. I wish I never delved into atheism. It definitely removes the purpose of life. Never make someone feel bad for believing in something.
This world is full of pain and suffering let us be grateful for the things we can do like writing a comment. Some people are blind or severely autistic they can't even do that.