I am a widowed octogenarian and I am living with my son. We are a happy family. So, don't generalize. It depends on family values, personal tastes, and character.
I worked enough in life to afford a roof, a car, and cable, grocery's, etc. Im extremely happy I dont have to bother my kids. Let them live their own life ❤
I am also 77 and live happily with my daughter and her own family with 2 beautiful kids. Yes, I have to trade in a liitle of my privacy and time to help out but the joy of sharing my life with them is so worthwhile. I love my grandkids dearly and my only regret is it will be difficult for me to be able to see them grow up and start their own family also. I treasure every moment with them since I know time is running short. Dont get me wrong, I do go to classes, and do travel a bit. I also do gardening. So, life living with them for me is very positive as I age. I have no doubt that one day when I cannot do much by myself anymore, they will in turn take care of me.
Not all children mistreat their old parents,but most of them forget very fast what their parents went through while caring for them,so its good to live your independent life and visit them oftenly.congratulations to those who live happily with their children in their old age🙏🙏🙏
MY Drther CAME TO LIVE WITH ME AS SHE NEEDED A PLA D FOR A WHILE AS SHE HAD JUST GOEEON A DEFORCE N WAS IN THE HOSPITAL L TOLE TO JUST GO TO MY HOUSE IT TURN OUT GREt for us both we do a lot for each other she has stated with me now she has been a great help for me I thank the lord for her we do get up set at times BUT IT HAS WORKE OUT BESUITYFLL FOR THE TWO OF US I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITH OUT HER BY MY SIDE AMEN
Same in Africa,I can't imagine being alone in my 90's with all the intricate things of life,sometimes someone can be incapacitated and require help. Elderly homes is also a place but life in an institution is not freedom.
I learnt a lot from my parents. They lived in their house. Oldest waited for them to leave so he could get the house they promised him. Ungrateful narcistic child. They sufferers a lot at the end but now resting in peace.
One hundred percent facts! An adult child came home to live during the pandemic. Of course I wanted her to be safe and thought I’d enjoy seeing her every day and I did for a while. Turned out she had a lot of bitterness from recent life experiences and coaching from her mother:my wife to alienate me. Long story short the child ended up angrily confronting me over nothing a few times and ultimately cursing me out for nothing. Had to give her an ultimatum and she ended up leaving soon after and haven’t seen her since. I’m very happy in my solitude not loneliness because I have lots of hobbies and projects to keep me busy. And have time to chat with folks here and there in cafes and farmers markets.
I'm 69, I stay with my daughter's family for 6 months and another 6 months with my son's family. I did visit friends, ex students and travel, once in a while but I've truly changed. Now, I just want to stay in my comfort zone. Go out once a week to buy my essentials , have a hair cut/wash, pedicure. I enjoy my present life. I'm hoping I can leave this world as happy as I am now
I don't have children. After my beloved husband passed away, l am living alone. I have seen how the children take advantage of their parents. To me, two generations can't live under the same roof. You always have to compromise and lose your independence. There are exceptions but rare.
Thanks for your valid tips, i found them very educative and helpful. Indeed, most elderly parents faces harsh reality in life when they decide to live with their grown up children. Not all children do value their parents when they grow old. They feel they are a burden.
We cannot live with children anymore They have their own habits and ways Contrary to our way of living So I think that it's better to be on your but still keep in touch with your children
Living with your child and his or her family is actually not a bad idea. Being alone in old age is what I do not subscribe to. Everything in life depends on how you handle it and how your relationship with your family has been right from time. If you had planned your retirement and have your financial independence no daughter or daughter in law will make you a baby sitter. Living with your son or daughter at old age doesn’t make you a house help. You can live with them and still garden, meet old friends and take part in community or church activities. I’m living with my son and his family and I enjoy it immensely.
I am 71 yrs young, I visit my daughter in another state I’m recently divorced so I spend more time with my daughter and grandchildren ( 3-4 months )because I wanted to help her but it wasn’t helping me ,, I was tried and ready to go home too relax This story can is True,, living my Life like it’s Golden🎉 now Learn to love yourself I’m trying to everyday ❤🎉
Living near but not together is the best option. Gather together once fortnightly to foster relationships . Avoid the toxic member at all cost . In your senior years free yourself from the day in and day out physical labour, as in , free yourself from housekeeping, cooking, toilet cleaning , yard keeping, pets caring , etc for others ... your remaining years on earth are finite so it should be you as a priority , do the things you love❤️. I personally have witnessed how some old folks were callously unceremoniously discarded after their usefulness.
The three times my old mother in law lived with me made my life miserable. The age gap was one reason. Being of different backgrounds, there was so much misunderstanding between us.
Probably the best reason to seek wealth when you are young will give yqou independence when you get old. It's not good to rely on family because they will come to realize you are a pain in the ass.
I am happy with my chelren and grand cheldren I stay them for a long time since my husband died I enjoy my choir of thier house to bost my heatlh now I am turning 73 I can do it everething thanks God fo guidind me in my.journey us an old age
My grown son married an insecure older woman who considered me a threat to her. He treats me like an enemy now. I think he will always be deceived. and self deceived. All he does is bash me. I bent over backwards to get along with his wife. I gave motherhood everything I had. I don't understand how that wasn't enough
I’m in therapy that’s helping me to adjust to my loss and the loneliness in my life,, I’m doing the things that you stated and hiking, 🎶music,gardening,Zumba, Yoga, 💃 dancing and Self Love Dates with myself 🎉❤Laughing is needed too be Happy
I feel it is a Blessing to be with your family.The company of grandchildre is something every grand parents long for.For small things we should not feel bad. Everyone has got their own thinking.
Very good advice, Sir for elders like me. Better to stand on our own feet. Don't trouble anyone. Live in our own house as long as we can. As long as we can walk and do our physical activity all on our own. Better not to bother our son's and daughters. Let them go on with their own lives. I the eldest in the family decided to stay with my grandfather & grandmother until they passed on. The grandparents influence was all over my conduct & behavior. My grandfather ( mother's side) only wants me to study all the time. He must see me with a book all the time. That made me a government pensioner at my retirement age. Me & my wife now at old age also like to stay away from my children. My grandchildren when they come to my house during the school holidays does not want to go back with their parents. Their parents think we grandparents will spoil their children. It's God grace, me & wife are still fit as a fiddle. Let's keep ourselves physically and mentally fit with daily exercises, reading and good food. Let us be kind to all including plants & animals. Tq, Sir. Cheers from Malaysia. God Bless All. 🍁🤝🍁
Will i be able to trust my faculties to help me be independent till my end Can i trust others they are also people like my siblings can the treatment be different
I am 51 and I am living with my mom. I have lived with my parents all my life. My mom is 86 and my dad passed away in January 2023. He was also 86. I was his caregiver for 8 years. There is nothing wrong with living with your children as long as they help out around the house.
When I was in my mid 50s I moved in with my son. He used me to watch his six kids plus their friends who moved in and never went home. My son would be out all nite every nite so I had to deal with the kids. He would bring his girlfriends home and I had to listen to them having sex. I moved out and will never live with him again. Im 70 now and live alone and doing just fine.
This is the case with a friend who is 79 and living with her daughter/ partner, and grandchild. She is a 7 day a week babysitter of a toddler, ( they need "date" night) and used for finances to remodel their house. The parents live in the basement. She doesn't see the error of this but her health and mental has deteriorated since this new living arrangement of 5 years. She complains of being exhausted all the time. I never saw that in the 20 years I've known her. She refuses to see that they are draining her mentally and physically. Prior to this she was energetic and active. Now she can't do anything outside of their needs.
Asians generally live together sometimes with 3 generations under one roof. Yes, there's some no so harmonious situations but few in numbers. If don't get along best live separately no matter what culture. 😊
Things have changed now. Those days when they lived under one roof, they all worked in the same city. But now a days, family members have to move out and live where they work.
IT all depends on how you people treated your elderly parents.If your children had witnessed that,they will also follow you. Good rapport should be built from childhood, being a bit liberal,&sure children definitely remember theirjoyful memories with their parents. Respect their hardship in the present day life.
Good advise to learn that how to live independenly in old age.there were joint families in india &all family members lived happily .now only nuclear families are here.your voice is encouraging .thank you sir
My ex spoiled our daughters and that overpowered my attempts to raise them to have values and respect. He worked hard to mess up our relationship and he succeeded. My kids were everything to me and I sacrificed remarriage to focus on raising them. Why do loving caring people have to get effed over.
Thank you for this eye opener. My daughter is making arrangements for me to move in with her within the next two years, I am 83 and healthy and really enjoy being alone. So with this valuable information I am going to think twice 😮thanks again!!!!
For those with different view, you must have inheritance, property and business to tack along. Without that, it just that you are angelic in temperament and and well love grandparents. 😄👍
I am 83 and live witn one of my daughters, and grandson. Wouldn't want to be anywhere else. May not work for all family's, but works for mine. Would hate a nursing home, there's some horror stories
Very interesting. Must thank the Supreme to be more than 70 in quite good health and be closer. Thx. Will improve myself dealing with life good suggestions. Thx again and again. To be alone is wonderful time to relax and own way to prepare food.
I’m 70 plus retired as a Nurse living on social security I live very well travel when I feeling it have great friends but I love my own company I volunteer a lot and to be honest if I feel Lonely I grab a bite Or Just chit chat being alone gives me freedom I love music dancing art embroidery jewelry making and even volunteer w the city so much to do my grand kids are and is a huge plus and a blessings but back to my retreat I go I’m wash my own dishes and eat my own food explore blue zone I walk a Lot love Boston for that I’m comfortable not a burden to anyone I don’t see myself living w my kids maybe when I’m 90 until then let me be
Moving in with your son and DIL is absolutely NOT the thing to do. The woman is usually the one who "rules" the home and she is one most readily will start regretting (for want of a better word) the fact that you are utilizing your own son's money. This is while she is taking care of her own mother, using your son's money. Your son will be made powerless to refuse!!! If you have a daughter who you get along with, then live with her instead. Don't forget also, to leave all insurance money and other valuables to that child who takes care of you even if that child is not yours by birth; not to the son. Let your son know right away that you will not leave him anything; just so he is not expecting anything after you die.
Never mind….. The 1st part I agree … it never happened to ne tho’ but I know so many…friends.. relatives…co-workers… .. and ALL had THAT CRUEL experience… So unfair…. so unkind of those adult and married children with kids… THEY think IS THE MOM’s obligation .. responsibility to SERVE their children… at their beck and call. Part 2…. I am not a “ people person.””” I prefer “ being on my own”…I keep myself busy…. … never a dull day for me…. And I do stuff that keeps my mind alert…So MANY things to Do!!.. For those who disagree with me…. Well, Each ONE to his/ her Own!!!!
Societal expectations? Some cultures it is normal for elderly live with parents. I am going to move in with my son. And I will leave and go places to visit whenever I want. This has nothing to do with age. Just people allowing themselves to be taken advantage of. I keep kids when I want to and don't when I got something else to do.
I don't have a choice. My sons are autistic though mildly, they are exremely introverts. I don't think they'll ever find a wife so they'll stay with me. Perhaps we'll help each others out till the end. I have my pension they're in some financial support from the government. I think that's okay. We'll live through.
I really hate coming to America raising kids the American way is disaster,. In my country a parent raised from 1 to 15 children and their children all taking turn taking care of their parents til the end. too much freedom here in the USA. We can't even teach and discipline our children, they all do what they want. Everyone turn against each other and some become enemies..in our country, the more numbers in the family is the better and we all have love and respect. Only 10% of a 100 disaster 90% is all loving family. In the usa once they over 21 they're gone most of their life 60% of 100 and forget they had a parent left behind missing them like crazy. No wonder not alot of people want to have kids and not having so many kids.
It is true to live nearer to your children at your old age really you will suffer the children put their responsibillity over you,I am 66 years I really feel the hardship of living nearer to my children they milk you out of money from D in S.A
I am great full the time and era in my years of gratitude aging it is wonderful was shortly with my husband in Cuba to visit family the traveling to my destination was to be thankfully for my country South 🇿🇦 it was also a learning experience appreciate and enjoy your blessings and gracious love ❤️
Living with your own child is still find it changes when theory responsibilities changes to a spouse. If my husband should pass before me I will live alone. Learnt a lot and have been hurt a lot by my in law children effect on my children towards us.
I'm sorry not all Filipinos are family oriented, I have seen many elderly people living alone and those people who are helping them especially the Charity bloggers,., there's an exception to every rule. As if all American people don't care about their parents. I am a home health professional and I seen many elderly parents live with their children, one thing I like about their arrangements is that their parents live in the same house but they have their own room complete with their own dirty kitchen even their own laundry room.
Hindi tlaga good result with a Parent Living with that situation will eventually, yes, the Parent will be an UNPAID maid to them and be UNHAPPY and not good for her health and goodbeing
It depends on how you raised your children. Either you loved them or hated them!!! Like us, our childrens, 3 of them, THEY want us to live with them❤😍💕🤗👍✌️
@@maremediosdavid1345 yeah, but it depends on How you raised n guided them!!! At least you try your best to guide n discipline them. It's. Still up to them " if"" they listened or not!!! But with God's help n you're willing to guide them to have a good n moral character, it will happen.!!
Don't put this on the parents. I loved my kids and I showed it all their lives. But they identify strongly with my ex/their father, who is the most selfish person I have ever met. I was the one who stayed as single to be a loving protective mother. Now I get treated like that never happened.
It's sad a woman toils all her life for her kids, and when she's old, everyone is considered ahead of her. Even their spoiled narcissistic father. Consistently put his needs first from Fay One. Even he is more of a priority than the mother who sacrificed a chance to have a husband of her own.
I am 71 yrs and I am living w my youngest son. My husband died last Aug 2 2023. I am dreaming to have my own small hse near w my kids because I want to have my own kitchen and a working table. I am fun of cooking different goormet and sharing them my cooking .I've got 4 children 3 of the we just live w each other my 2nd son is living at the Base where he has a quarters and his office is situated there also. 🙏🙏👍
Wrong perception. I am living happily with my children & grandchildren. Actually I hopping between them.I feel very secure&safe.Kindly do not generalise. If one can live without interfering in,one's space no problem. Any where, whether it is retired home, assisted living& living with your family, YOU HAVE TO ADJUST& ACCEPT.
Dont agree completely. She could have first spoken to her son and fixed her set of duties. The rest of the time she would be free. Nobody should be harsh , self centred, difficult types. Sharing & caring only helps a family grow
Very bad advise. Children are blessing for parents so it is their responsibility to take care of their oldies when they are old as well it's for their own blessing from the Almighty God as He commanded.
You are referencing people of God, that is the way they think. People entangled in the World system don't treat their elderly parents the same. They can be selfish and cruel. Codependent siding with the ex, their Dad. He took everything but he indoctrinated to them to be on his side with spoiling and competitive lax parenting. It worked!
I am sure you think has you age you think people are stupid know been babies sisters brothers and teens middle age been lovers done a few things in life who been had childen traveld,know how too keep fit cook clean cook know what too eat drink get checked up, can paint pay bills sing dance watch films swims hicking your not getting eny younger look afere your body and I t will look afere you, i think people need too learn do you think older people have not done all that,i think so and old has you feel,
Living with your child and his or her family is actually not a bad idea. Being alone in old age is what I do not subscribe to. Everything in life depends on how you handle it and how your relationship with your family has been right from time. If you had planned your retirement and have your financial independence no daughter or daughter in law will make you a baby sitter. Living with your son or daughter at old age doesn’t make you a house help. You can live with them and still garden, meet old friends and take part in community or church activities. I’m living with my son and his family and I enjoy it immensely.
I am a widowed octogenarian and I am living with my son. We are a happy family. So, don't generalize. It depends on family values, personal tastes, and character.
You are correct 💯
I Agree Depends On Family Values. Spot On
Yes it depends😊
@@karottugeorge1914 you must have money
Also it depends on the gender.
I worked enough in life to afford a roof, a car, and cable, grocery's, etc. Im extremely happy I dont have to bother my kids. Let them live their own life ❤
If your children are with God in their heart......dont worry ..living with them is a gift from God
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Yes it is, and live life happy on your terms not at the back and call of your adult kids.
IF!!!
I am also 77 and live happily with my daughter and her own family with 2 beautiful kids. Yes, I have to trade in a liitle of my privacy and time to help out but the joy of sharing my life with them is so worthwhile. I love my grandkids dearly and my only regret is it will be difficult for me to be able to see them grow up and start their own family also. I treasure every moment with them since I know time is running short. Dont get me wrong, I do go to classes, and do travel a bit. I also do gardening. So, life living with them for me is very positive as I age. I have no doubt that one day when I cannot do much by myself anymore, they will in turn take care of me.
I admire you
I am 70 and live with daughter, son in law and two kids. And it's been good.
Not all children mistreat their old parents,but most of them forget very fast what their parents went through while caring for them,so its good to live your independent life and visit them oftenly.congratulations to those who live happily with their children in their old age🙏🙏🙏
MY Drther CAME TO LIVE WITH ME AS SHE NEEDED A PLA D FOR A WHILE AS SHE HAD JUST GOEEON A DEFORCE N WAS IN THE HOSPITAL L TOLE TO JUST GO TO MY HOUSE IT TURN OUT GREt for us both we do a lot for each other she has stated with me now she has been a great help for me I thank the lord for her we do get up set at times BUT IT HAS WORKE OUT BESUITYFLL FOR THE TWO OF US I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE WITH OUT HER BY MY SIDE AMEN
Not here in the philippines, we help our old parents as a return to what they have done to us when we were just kids !
Same in Africa,I can't imagine being alone in my 90's with all the intricate things of life,sometimes someone can be incapacitated and require help.
Elderly homes is also a place but life in an institution is not freedom.
My only daughter too I'm leaving them no hassle I'm 71
People everywhere help their old parents and some don’t. There is good and bad in all societies. Arrogance is not a good human trait.
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I learnt a lot from my parents. They lived in their house. Oldest waited for them to leave so he could get the house they promised him. Ungrateful narcistic child. They sufferers a lot at the end but now resting in peace.
One hundred percent facts! An adult child came home to live during the pandemic. Of course I wanted her to be safe and thought I’d enjoy seeing her every day and I did for a while. Turned out she had a lot of bitterness from recent life experiences and coaching from her mother:my wife to alienate me. Long story short the child ended up angrily confronting me over nothing a few times and ultimately cursing me out for nothing. Had to give her an ultimatum and she ended up leaving soon after and haven’t seen her since. I’m very happy in my solitude not loneliness because I have lots of hobbies and projects to keep me busy. And have time to chat with folks here and there in cafes and farmers markets.
Shedding ego helps a lot
I am 77 years and I and my daughter are very happy I live with her and her husband.
I will never move into my children's homes,
I'm 69, I stay with my daughter's family for 6 months and another 6 months with my son's family. I did visit friends, ex students and travel, once in a while but I've truly changed. Now, I just want to stay in my comfort zone. Go out once a week to buy my essentials , have a hair cut/wash, pedicure. I enjoy my present life. I'm hoping I can leave this world as happy as I am now
I don't have children. After my beloved husband passed away, l am living alone. I have seen how the children take advantage of their parents.
To me, two generations can't live under the same roof. You always have to compromise and lose your independence. There are exceptions but rare.
Thanks for your valid tips, i found them very educative and helpful. Indeed, most elderly parents faces harsh reality in life when they decide to live with their grown up children. Not all children do value their parents when they grow old. They feel they are a burden.
We cannot live with children anymore They have their own habits and ways Contrary to our way of living So I think that it's better to be on your but still keep in touch with your children
Changes are unavoidable.
We should also go in the direction of the current.Acceptance& non interference will help.
Detached attachment
If you both are financially sound then every one should live independent life
Living with your child and his or her family is actually not a bad idea. Being alone in old age is what I do not subscribe to. Everything in life depends on how you handle it and how your relationship with your family has been right from time. If you had planned your retirement and have your financial independence no daughter or daughter in law will make you a baby sitter. Living with your son or daughter at old age doesn’t make you a house help. You can live with them and still garden, meet old friends and take part in community or church activities. I’m living with my son and his family and I enjoy it immensely.
Exactly
Tell us about yourself, with whom you are living?
I am 71 yrs young, I visit my daughter in another state I’m recently divorced so I spend more time with my daughter and grandchildren ( 3-4 months )because I wanted to help her but it wasn’t helping me ,, I was tried and ready to go home too relax
This story can is True,, living my Life like it’s Golden🎉 now
Learn to love yourself I’m trying to everyday ❤🎉
I wouldn't mind baby sitting my grandchildren and living with my married son, for as long as I have pension I will never be a burden to them.😊
Living near but not together is the best option. Gather together once fortnightly to foster relationships . Avoid the toxic member at all cost .
In your senior years free yourself from the day in and day out physical labour, as in , free yourself from housekeeping, cooking, toilet cleaning , yard keeping, pets caring , etc for others ... your remaining years on earth are finite so it should be you as a priority , do the things you love❤️.
I personally have witnessed how some old folks were callously unceremoniously discarded after their usefulness.
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
The three times my old mother in law lived with me made my life miserable. The age gap was one reason. Being of different backgrounds, there was so much misunderstanding between us.
Probably the best reason to seek wealth when you are young will give yqou independence when you get old. It's not good to rely on family because they will come to realize you are a pain in the ass.
Family shapeshifts when they are certain you need them. If you are the giving giving unselfish one, they are then the pain in the ass, not the elder.
I am happy with my chelren and grand cheldren I stay them for a long time since my husband died I enjoy my choir of thier house to bost my heatlh now I am turning 73 I can do it everething thanks God fo guidind me in my.journey us an old age
You are right nowadays children mostly married we are no longer important to them especially if their wife is ungrateful😥
My grown son married an insecure older woman who considered me a threat to her.
He treats me like an enemy now. I think he will always be deceived. and self deceived.
All he does is bash me. I bent over backwards to get along with his wife.
I gave motherhood everything I had. I don't understand how that wasn't enough
Just ignore& live happily remembering your happy days.
I’m in therapy that’s helping me to adjust to my loss and the loneliness in my life,, I’m doing the things that you stated and hiking, 🎶music,gardening,Zumba, Yoga, 💃 dancing and Self Love Dates with myself 🎉❤Laughing is needed too be Happy
I feel it is a Blessing to be with your family.The company of grandchildre is something every grand parents long for.For small things we should not feel bad. Everyone has got their own thinking.
Very good advice, Sir for elders like me. Better to stand on our own feet. Don't trouble anyone. Live in our own house as long as we can. As long as we can walk and do our physical activity all on our own. Better not to bother our son's and daughters. Let them go on with their own lives. I the eldest in the family decided to stay with my grandfather & grandmother until they passed on. The grandparents influence was all over my conduct & behavior. My grandfather ( mother's side) only wants me to study all the time. He must see me with a book all the time. That made me a government pensioner at my retirement age. Me & my wife now at old age also like to stay away from my children. My grandchildren when they come to my house during the school holidays does not want to go back with their parents. Their parents think we grandparents will spoil their children. It's God grace, me & wife are still fit as a fiddle. Let's keep ourselves physically and mentally fit with daily exercises, reading and good food. Let us be kind to all including plants & animals. Tq, Sir. Cheers from Malaysia. God Bless All. 🍁🤝🍁
Thank you for the good advice and encouragement
It is A wonderful idea of being away from your children during old age
But i would rather live with them using my sense of Diplomacy....
Will i be able to trust my faculties to help me be independent till my end
Can i trust others they are also people like my siblings can the treatment be different
Seniors citizens must live independently thank you
How long will you be independent.
What if you don't have the resources to live alone.....or health
I am 51 and I am living with my mom. I have lived with my parents all my life. My mom is 86 and my dad passed away in January 2023. He was also 86. I was his caregiver for 8 years. There is nothing wrong with living with your children as long as they help out around the house.
God bless you 🎉🎉🎉
@@suryarao9342 Yes, it is a blessing...indeed
@@suryarao9342thank you!
@@johnson2joythank you!
Living alone and expecting s quality life takes money. If money is scarce and there are bills to be paid makes life a hell!
When I was in my mid 50s I moved in with my son. He used me to watch his six kids plus their friends who moved in and never went home. My son would be out all nite every nite so I had to deal with the kids. He would bring his girlfriends home and I had to listen to them having sex. I moved out and will never live with him again. Im 70 now and live alone and doing just fine.
This is the case with a friend who is 79 and living with her daughter/ partner, and grandchild. She is a 7 day a week babysitter of a toddler, ( they need "date" night) and used for finances to remodel their house. The parents live in the basement. She doesn't see the error of this but her health and mental has deteriorated since this new living arrangement of 5 years. She complains of being exhausted all the time. I never saw that in the 20 years I've known her. She refuses to see that they are draining her mentally and physically. Prior to this she was energetic and active. Now she can't do anything outside of their needs.
I am 80.... Male... Two daughters... That live pretty far away.... And I know that would never work out
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My family is very complicated! I'd never live with any of them! 😂
Asians generally live together sometimes with 3 generations under one roof. Yes, there's some no so harmonious situations but few in numbers. If don't get along best live separately no matter what culture. 😊
Things have changed now. Those days when they lived under one roof, they all worked in the same city. But now a days, family members have to move out and live where they work.
IT all depends on how you people treated your elderly parents.If your children
had witnessed that,they will also follow you.
Good rapport should be built from childhood, being a bit liberal,&sure children definitely remember theirjoyful memories with their parents.
Respect their hardship in the present day life.
Sometimes, giving up is the best way to free yourself. Thanks for sharing !
Many thanks for sharing relevant infos! God bless.. Im 67 yrs old
67 too comes 9/26
Good advise to learn that how to live independenly in old age.there were joint families in india &all family members lived happily .now only nuclear families are here.your voice is encouraging .thank you sir
My ex spoiled our daughters and that overpowered my attempts to raise them to have values and respect. He worked hard to mess up our relationship and he succeeded. My kids were everything to me and I sacrificed remarriage to focus on raising them. Why do loving caring people have to get effed over.
Dont use weed killers or pesticides. Bees pollinators bugs dead and few Thats left are dying. Do things that keep things alive.
Thank you for this eye opener. My daughter is making arrangements for me to move in with her within the next two years, I am 83 and healthy and really enjoy being alone. So with this valuable information I am going to think twice 😮thanks again!!!!
For those with different view, you must have inheritance, property and business to tack along.
Without that, it just that you are angelic in temperament and and well love grandparents. 😄👍
Egoistic life😅, i proud and happy to serve others till the end of life as an honour to God.
I am 83 and live witn one of my daughters, and grandson. Wouldn't want to be anywhere else. May not work for all family's, but works for mine. Would hate a nursing home, there's some horror stories
Yes
Very interesting. Must thank the Supreme to be more than 70 in quite good health and be closer. Thx. Will improve myself dealing with life good suggestions. Thx again and again. To be alone is wonderful time to relax and own way to prepare food.
Yes I agree with this story
You are meant to live with your children in old age. It's a practice that makes people human.
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
I’m 70 plus retired as a
Nurse living on social security I live very well travel when I feeling it have great friends but I love my own company I volunteer a lot and to be honest if I feel Lonely I grab a bite Or Just chit chat being alone gives me freedom I love music dancing art embroidery jewelry making and even volunteer w the city so much to do my grand kids are and is a huge plus and a blessings but back to my retreat I go I’m wash my own dishes and eat my own food explore blue zone I walk a
Lot love Boston for that I’m comfortable not a burden to anyone I don’t see myself living w my kids maybe when I’m 90 until then let me be
Moving in with your son and DIL is absolutely NOT the thing to do.
The woman is usually the one who "rules" the home and she is one most readily will start regretting (for want of a better word) the fact that you are utilizing your own son's money. This is while she is taking care of her own mother, using your son's money. Your son will be made powerless to refuse!!!
If you have a daughter who you get along with, then live with her instead.
Don't forget also, to leave all insurance money and other valuables to that child who takes care of you even if that child is not yours by birth; not to the son. Let your son know right away that you will not leave him anything; just so he is not expecting anything after you die.
Sir, I would like to add one activity that to me it is very important. That is give thanks to what we have been achived .
Never mind….. The 1st part I agree
… it never happened to ne tho’ but
I know so many…friends.. relatives…co-workers… .. and ALL
had THAT CRUEL experience…
So unfair…. so unkind of those adult and married children with kids… THEY think IS THE MOM’s
obligation .. responsibility to
SERVE their children… at their beck and call.
Part 2…. I am not a “ people person.””” I prefer “ being on my
own”…I keep myself busy….
… never a dull day for me….
And I do stuff that keeps my mind alert…So MANY things to Do!!.. For those who disagree with
me…. Well, Each ONE to his/ her
Own!!!!
Don't have children if you won't live with them. You brought them into the world.
In Mexico is expected to bring your old parents to live their old children and their families.
Is a tradition.
My mother is bitter, talks to me like I'm garbage, bossing me around. Sorry mommy dearest. MIL lived with us. She was very kind and had her own space.
I don't agree...living with my children makes me safe and loved because my children are loving and caring thanks to God.
Every case is different
9 thank you for the helpful information and enlightening, which I will practice from now on Thanks ❤😊
Societal expectations? Some cultures it is normal for elderly live with parents. I am going to move in with my son. And I will leave and go places to visit whenever I want. This has nothing to do with age. Just people allowing themselves to be taken advantage of. I keep kids when I want to and don't when I got something else to do.
Excellent Pointers!
It inspire me
I love this advices.
Very true.
I don't have a choice. My sons are autistic though mildly, they are exremely introverts. I don't think they'll ever find a wife so they'll stay with me. Perhaps we'll help each others out till the end. I have my pension they're in some financial support from the government. I think that's okay. We'll live through.
Thank you and God bless 🙏
I really hate coming to America raising kids the American way is disaster,. In my country a parent raised from 1 to 15 children and their children all taking turn taking care of their parents til the end. too much freedom here in the USA. We can't even teach and discipline our children, they all do what they want. Everyone turn against each other and some become enemies..in our country, the more numbers in the family is the better and we all have love and respect. Only 10% of a 100 disaster 90% is all loving family. In the usa once they over 21 they're gone most of their life 60% of 100 and forget they had a parent left behind missing them like crazy. No wonder not alot of people want to have kids and not having so many kids.
Agree 100%.
❤ good awareness to shoulders tapping, there is awakening waiting for you ❤😄 👍🙏🏻
It is true to live nearer to your children at your old age really you will suffer the children put their responsibillity over you,I am 66 years I really feel the hardship of living nearer to my children they milk you out of money from D in S.A
I am great full the time and era in my years of gratitude aging it is wonderful was shortly with my husband in Cuba to visit family the traveling to my destination was to be thankfully for my country South 🇿🇦 it was also a learning experience appreciate and enjoy your blessings and gracious love ❤️
Love and blessings of the highest Jesus Christ in years of aging are mentally satisfied and wisdom ❤
Thanks again 😊
Very good
Living with your own child is still find it changes when theory responsibilities changes to a spouse. If my husband should pass before me I will live alone. Learnt a lot and have been hurt a lot by my in law children effect on my children towards us.
I'm sorry not all Filipinos are family oriented, I have seen many elderly people living alone and those people who are helping them especially the Charity bloggers,., there's an exception to every rule. As if all American people don't care about their parents. I am a home health professional and I seen many elderly parents live with their children, one thing I like about their arrangements is that their parents live in the same house but they have their own room complete with their own dirty kitchen even their own laundry room.
Live with children and utilize time productivity in old age , insteat of killig time in selfish pleasure even in old age !? A totally wrong advise !!
That kind of advice will trap some elders with narcissistic abusers.
Hindi tlaga good result with a Parent Living with that situation will eventually, yes, the Parent will be an UNPAID maid to them and be UNHAPPY and not good for her health and goodbeing
9! Thank you!🙏🏾❤️
Nine ❤
Good thoughts 👍👍
It depends on how you raised your children. Either you loved them or hated them!!! Like us, our childrens, 3 of them, THEY want us to live with them❤😍💕🤗👍✌️
It depends on the children you have…😍
@@maremediosdavid1345 yeah, but it depends on How you raised n guided them!!! At least you try your best to guide n discipline them. It's. Still up to them " if"" they listened or not!!! But with God's help n you're willing to guide them to have a good n moral character, it will happen.!!
Don't put this on the parents. I loved my kids and I showed it all their lives. But they identify strongly with my ex/their father, who is the most selfish person I have ever met. I was the one who stayed as single to be a loving protective mother. Now I get treated like that never happened.
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It's sad a woman toils all her life for her kids, and when she's old, everyone is considered ahead of her. Even their spoiled narcissistic father. Consistently put his needs first from Fay One.
Even he is more of a priority than the mother who sacrificed a chance to have a husband of her own.
9👍🏽
I am 71 yrs and I am living w my youngest son. My husband died last Aug 2 2023. I am dreaming to have my own small hse near w my kids because I want to have my own kitchen and a working table. I am fun of cooking different goormet and sharing them my cooking .I've got 4 children 3 of the we just live w each other my 2nd son is living at the Base where he has a quarters and his office is situated there also. 🙏🙏👍
Living with children .noway.
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
nine. Very informative
Ha! Il never live with any of my children fhere way to disrespectful. Im better off by myself.
it all depends. some parents do not know the word boundaries (Caribbean's parent) .
Wrong perception.
I am living happily with my children & grandchildren.
Actually I hopping between them.I feel very secure&safe.Kindly do not generalise.
If one can live without interfering in,one's space no problem.
Any where, whether it is retired home, assisted living& living with your family, YOU HAVE TO ADJUST& ACCEPT.
9 ....
U can if they are like Frasier
How did this Woman's name go from Laura to Jimmy?
Dont agree completely. She could have first spoken to her son and fixed her set of duties. The rest of the time she would be free.
Nobody should be harsh , self centred, difficult types. Sharing & caring only helps a family grow
Did Aura change her name when she stayed with her family?
Aura's story or Jimmy's
That was our mistake, thank you for letting us know.
Very bad advise. Children are blessing for parents so it is their responsibility to take care of their oldies when they are old as well it's for their own blessing from the Almighty God as He commanded.
You are referencing people of God, that is the way they think. People entangled in the World system don't treat their elderly parents the same. They can be selfish and cruel. Codependent siding with the ex, their Dad. He took everything but he indoctrinated to them to be on his side with spoiling and competitive lax parenting. It worked!
1:37
Iam and it is a disaster
Opinyun mo lng iyan
Nonsense
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
I am sure you think has you age you think people are stupid know been babies sisters brothers and teens middle age been lovers done a few things in life who been had childen traveld,know how too keep fit cook clean cook know what too eat drink get checked up, can paint pay bills sing dance watch films swims hicking your not getting eny younger look afere your body and I t will look afere you, i think people need too learn do you think older people have not done all that,i think so and old has you feel,
take care of your family don't pay attention to this lame storytime
Most stupid message
Maybe true for western culture but not Hindu culture
Living with your child and his or her family is actually not a bad idea. Being alone in old age is what I do not subscribe to. Everything in life depends on how you handle it and how your relationship with your family has been right from time. If you had planned your retirement and have your financial independence no daughter or daughter in law will make you a baby sitter. Living with your son or daughter at old age doesn’t make you a house help. You can live with them and still garden, meet old friends and take part in community or church activities. I’m living with my son and his family and I enjoy it immensely.