Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
A few years ago, when I only worked part time, I didn't mind the fact that he didn't do al lot of housework and child rearing, but the way he stopped caring about the home. He didn't want to know how to tale care of our child and keep track of when the trash would be collected. He just stopped caring. That's what made me ask for divorce
I also feel that there's sometimes this depiction of nagging as a wife's "happy place"? That they get so much satisfaction in making their husband miserable, being the "Queen of the House" or something. A privilege of being a wife, some might say. And they're such a good husband if they tolerate it, give her what she wants in the moment.
There's an enormous difference between openly discussing with and coming to an arrangement with your spouse about an asymmetrical workload at home, usually to balance out an asymmetrical workload outside the home, and a husband just pre-emptively assuming his wife's place is being a household appliance personified. Talk your domestic arrangements out, make them explicit, and revisit them whenever either person is dissatisfied with it.
I married a "male feminist ally" who swore that he would do more than half the housework to make up for millennia of inequity. But he didn't, and he'd get mad when I broke down and cleaned. If I complained about living in squalor he'd call me a nag. Some feminist he was. Divorcing was one of the best things I've ever done for myself.
There was a study where they showed pictures of a messy room and said, "this is Steve's house. Describe Steve." Or *this is Sue's house. Describe Sue." Men were described as "busy, hard working, career oriented." Women were described as, "messy, disorganized, scatterbrained." Men aren't judged for mess the same way women are. So when a space is shared, the pressure is imbalanced. And men aren't able to see that imbalance. They say, she wants/likes to clean."
Also, so many placate for short periods instead of taking the issues seriously and I think that can make wives feel even more betrayed, because it shows they know what to do, they just don't want to
Any woman who has kids must have a lot of trust in their partner. Or a woman who really wants kids themselves. As a woman, I just dont have that level of trust. I'd only be interested in having kids if I was a man and knew the woman would do the majority of the childrearing.
I have thought before that I might want kids if I was a man! As a woman, I do not want kids. My husband doesn't either. I love my husband but I am absolutely sure that I'd end up doing the bulk of the childcare if we decided to have kids.
I didn’t realize how much of it would fall on my shoulders - all of it! Housework, caring for the kids, and the mental load. My husband wanted kids more than I did, so I thought he would just naturally be more involved, but he’s not. And he even talked about adopting kids too!! I’m drowning taking care of our own biological kids, I couldn’t imagine taking on more. Sure, no problem for him since it mostly all falls on me. I wish I could be that selfless, but sorry, I’m going to have to check the “no” box….
Get him to help more or nothing will ever change. Stop doing things for him. I have had to learn, through abuse, that sometimes, I got what I tolerated. @@Angela-zl1ju
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
...but you ARE the nagging wife. All you ever do is complain and moan and ask more and more and more of your husband when he NEVER asks you even a fraction of the same. He never nags you, never demands you do more for him. You do. Yet even in spite of all that nagging, you're STILL not happy. It's no trope, you're STILL unhappy. Even after achieving (alleged) equity with your husband, you're still nagging and expecting and asking more of him, without a shred of appreciation. When has your husband EVER asked you to do more for him to make him happy? Have you done literally anything recently to make HIM happier? I doubt it. He's expected to subjugate every single thing about himself and his life to serve YOUR demands. But you hide those demands behind the guise of "helping make me happy" or "it's for the kids" when really it's for you. And everything you project about women being quiet and stop arguing/complaining is EXACTLY what you've oppressed your husband into doing. It's not worth the argument, so he just puts on a brave face, pretends he's happy, accepts whatever you say, and participates in the next bullshit task you assign to him. You've destroyed him. And you WILL divorce him anyway. He did all that BS you said he should do to make you happy, and you will STILL divorce him. That's the ultimate irony and hypocrisy with you, that once you leave, you'll disprove every word you've been spouting. You can't make a woman happy. Only she can. But a perpetual victim like you will never understand that. It's everybody else's fault but yours
I think a lot of men are miserable in their marriages because they felt pressured (sometimes by their partner, always by society) to get married in the first place. They didn't want to make a lifelong commitment. And the idea that the sacrifice they made in getting married isn't good enough to keep their wife happy on its own is probably offensive to them. But here's the thing: they never had to get married in the first place.
"The sacrifice they made in getting married" - wtf you talking about? What "sacrifice"? Men prosper in marriage; it's women who make the sacrifices, i.e. work FT, do all or most of the housework and childcare, mental load, emotional labour, etc). !!! True Facts, look up the studies.. I would SO love to come home to a cooked dinner, clean home and laundry and my lunch made and clothes laid out ready for work the next day. What a beautiful 😍❤️ life. Oh to be a married man !!!!!
So it's coercion and rape if a girl gets naked and wrestles with a guy before she's ready and regrets it later, but it's not coercion when it's women pressuring a dude into throwing away his future. Got it
I watched it whole and I must say he's one very openly cynical and unhealed red pill who didn't understand literally any of the videos he hated, nor did he understand their purposes. He showed he doesn't know anything about psychology and purposely (or just because he's just that much ignorant) interpreted each of them as things pointing to narcissism, - although he wouldn't be capable to identify real narcisism at all, with how's much ignorant he is about psychology. Anyway,- thanks for nothing. Ugly channel, I would never follow him. That channel is for really not very knowledgeable or smart people who have a lot of as*hole attitudes, to find their echo in him.
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Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?.
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
A few years ago, when I only worked part time, I didn't mind the fact that he didn't do al lot of housework and child rearing, but the way he stopped caring about the home. He didn't want to know how to tale care of our child and keep track of when the trash would be collected. He just stopped caring. That's what made me ask for divorce
This. He just stopped caring and then said I was being difficult.
I also feel that there's sometimes this depiction of nagging as a wife's "happy place"? That they get so much satisfaction in making their husband miserable, being the "Queen of the House" or something. A privilege of being a wife, some might say. And they're such a good husband if they tolerate it, give her what she wants in the moment.
There's an enormous difference between openly discussing with and coming to an arrangement with your spouse about an asymmetrical workload at home, usually to balance out an asymmetrical workload outside the home, and a husband just pre-emptively assuming his wife's place is being a household appliance personified.
Talk your domestic arrangements out, make them explicit, and revisit them whenever either person is dissatisfied with it.
I married a "male feminist ally" who swore that he would do more than half the housework to make up for millennia of inequity. But he didn't, and he'd get mad when I broke down and cleaned. If I complained about living in squalor he'd call me a nag. Some feminist he was. Divorcing was one of the best things I've ever done for myself.
There was a study where they showed pictures of a messy room and said, "this is Steve's house. Describe Steve." Or *this is Sue's house. Describe Sue."
Men were described as "busy, hard working, career oriented."
Women were described as, "messy, disorganized, scatterbrained."
Men aren't judged for mess the same way women are. So when a space is shared, the pressure is imbalanced. And men aren't able to see that imbalance. They say, she wants/likes to clean."
Also, I'm seeing more and more of this "male ally" as an effective means to derail any and all feminist arguments.
Also, so many placate for short periods instead of taking the issues seriously and I think that can make wives feel even more betrayed, because it shows they know what to do, they just don't want to
They find domestic/"women's" work beneath them
Shut up paige
Any woman who has kids must have a lot of trust in their partner. Or a woman who really wants kids themselves.
As a woman, I just dont have that level of trust.
I'd only be interested in having kids if I was a man and knew the woman would do the majority of the childrearing.
I have thought before that I might want kids if I was a man! As a woman, I do not want kids. My husband doesn't either. I love my husband but I am absolutely sure that I'd end up doing the bulk of the childcare if we decided to have kids.
I didn’t realize how much of it would fall on my shoulders - all of it! Housework, caring for the kids, and the mental load. My husband wanted kids more than I did, so I thought he would just naturally be more involved, but he’s not. And he even talked about adopting kids too!! I’m drowning taking care of our own biological kids, I couldn’t imagine taking on more. Sure, no problem for him since it mostly all falls on me. I wish I could be that selfless, but sorry, I’m going to have to check the “no” box….
This.
Luckily I’m bi. So maybe with another woman maybe. But atm I’m way too CF.
I’d make a way better dad than most men anyway.
@@magnarcreed3801 being CF is great. I can think of about a million downsides to having kids. Maybe like 1.5 upsides. Not worth it.
Get him to help more or nothing will ever change. Stop doing things for him. I have had to learn, through abuse, that sometimes, I got what I tolerated. @@Angela-zl1ju
The husband is working 4 hours longer everyday.
Oh, they understand...
As a single person i cant imagine adding another person to my mental load, I'd divorce myself to lessen the mental losd if i could.
Ohhh the inequities...
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Prophetess Regina Kuma,and she is great at what she does. you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
This artificial conversation is hilarious
...but you ARE the nagging wife. All you ever do is complain and moan and ask more and more and more of your husband when he NEVER asks you even a fraction of the same. He never nags you, never demands you do more for him. You do. Yet even in spite of all that nagging, you're STILL not happy. It's no trope, you're STILL unhappy. Even after achieving (alleged) equity with your husband, you're still nagging and expecting and asking more of him, without a shred of appreciation. When has your husband EVER asked you to do more for him to make him happy? Have you done literally anything recently to make HIM happier? I doubt it. He's expected to subjugate every single thing about himself and his life to serve YOUR demands. But you hide those demands behind the guise of "helping make me happy" or "it's for the kids" when really it's for you. And everything you project about women being quiet and stop arguing/complaining is EXACTLY what you've oppressed your husband into doing. It's not worth the argument, so he just puts on a brave face, pretends he's happy, accepts whatever you say, and participates in the next bullshit task you assign to him. You've destroyed him. And you WILL divorce him anyway. He did all that BS you said he should do to make you happy, and you will STILL divorce him. That's the ultimate irony and hypocrisy with you, that once you leave, you'll disprove every word you've been spouting. You can't make a woman happy. Only she can. But a perpetual victim like you will never understand that. It's everybody else's fault but yours
100%. Im way over worked doing everything for our kids and I'm done.
I think a lot of men are miserable in their marriages because they felt pressured (sometimes by their partner, always by society) to get married in the first place. They didn't want to make a lifelong commitment. And the idea that the sacrifice they made in getting married isn't good enough to keep their wife happy on its own is probably offensive to them.
But here's the thing: they never had to get married in the first place.
They do have to get married. There are too many things that men can’t do like clean up after themselves, cook, take accountability, and have children.
"The sacrifice they made in getting married" - wtf you talking about? What "sacrifice"? Men prosper in marriage; it's women who make the sacrifices, i.e. work FT, do all or most of the housework and childcare, mental load, emotional labour, etc). !!! True Facts, look up the studies.. I would SO love to come home to a cooked dinner, clean home and laundry and my lunch made and clothes laid out ready for work the next day. What a beautiful 😍❤️ life. Oh to be a married man !!!!!
@@xysarenottheprizeand yet your screen name indicates you've made them your whole personality
So it's coercion and rape if a girl gets naked and wrestles with a guy before she's ready and regrets it later, but it's not coercion when it's women pressuring a dude into throwing away his future. Got it
@@xysarenottheprize not where I live now. Men have evolved.
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I watched it whole and I must say he's one very openly cynical and unhealed red pill who didn't understand literally any of the videos he hated, nor did he understand their purposes. He showed he doesn't know anything about psychology and purposely (or just because he's just that much ignorant) interpreted each of them as things pointing to narcissism, - although he wouldn't be capable to identify real narcisism at all, with how's much ignorant he is about psychology. Anyway,- thanks for nothing. Ugly channel, I would never follow him.
That channel is for really not very knowledgeable or smart people who have a lot of as*hole attitudes, to find their echo in him.