Hi my loving tiffanythinks family. Since I’ve seen the surgeon, my mind has been all over the place. I am still waiting for my surgeon to arrange another day to meet up to discuss all the possible outcomes and what is the most safest option for me. I have a lot to think about and I appreciate all of your comments helping me decide what’s best. If you haven’t already, please SUBSCRIBE. we got this💙 Instagram, FB & TikTok: @tiffanythinks
Jesus Christ with you and family friends . not worry be strong well done made for new video thanks you for new video .Carry on firgh your cancer see how many people Know
Quality of life is important too, so I totally understand this isn't easy, make the decision together with your family, the surgeon and possible second opinion. Your surgeon sounds very experienced though and he has the full picture which nono of us here on the internet have, even if we're you're friends and want the best for you. I'm sure sure will come to the best desicion for you.
Hi, I commented on your video after seeing the surgeon last week, I am a nurse, my husband is a colorectal surgeon specialising in complex cancer surgery. Listening to the information today I know it is all very overwhelming for you, but I honestly think these results of negative PET scan/ MRI and biopsies is the best possible news given your diagnosis. It sounds like they are classing you as having no evidence of disease at present which is really amazing ( I would specifically ask if you are No evidence of disease). If this is the case I can totally understand the surgeon’s reluctance to perform exenteration surgery now, it really is such a huge operation that has risks related to both morbidity and mortality and would be being performed as a preventative measure against reoccurrence (but with no certainty that a reoccurrence wouldn’t occur elsewhere (metastasis) If you are NED then you do have a little bit of time, you can get the second opinions, ask all the questions and just have time to think about what is the right decision for you. There will be consequences either way that you will have to live with. You need to ask both the surgeon and oncologists about risks v benefits specifically for you and then decide which of the options you feel most at peace with. The difficult thing with medicine is that isn’t an exact science and every individuals body and their cancer can react differently, so no one can give you concrete guarantees , they can only give you probabilities based on the research available. You are in a really difficult position, but at the same time the fact that you can make a decision is so positive. Before this last set of scans you were under the impression that surgery was essential to your survival, that there was no choice. So my advice is gather all the information, ask all the questions and get a second opinion and based on that information make the decision that is right for you, even if that takes a couple of weeks you need to be sure that you are will be ok your decision whatever happens in the future. Sending love and positivity xx
@@tiffanythinks you’re so welcome. I hope my message can help you even in the smallest way. It is ok, even normal to feel overwhelmed and as if it’s an impossible task to make the right decision, but as you gather more information and just let in all sink in and pray for guidance I am sure the way forwards will become apparent and you will feel at peace with your decision xxx
@@tiffanythinks you are an inspiration to so many. I wish you knew how much just hearing your voice and presence brings a happy calm positive feeling to the moment🙏 🦋
Matt deserves NO criticism. He's trying to help you sort this out. He seems like a wonderful man and he obviously loves you very much. He wants what's best for you.
Absolutely I hope people are not criticising him he’s in a terrible situation he is just trying to make sense of this as is everyone this guy has gone through this with Tiffany he must be struggling to
Yes!!!! Its so obvious that this is really hard for him too!! He deserves our support, not criticism. He is such a blessing in Tiffany's life!! He is walking this difficult path with her. His deep love for her shows in his actions by the many things he does for Tiffany and he is always there for her, even in the hardest of times.
I havent seen any negative comments to you or Matt, so I was horrified to hear you say, this today. You are both so perfect for each other, and I've only ever seen Matt being loving and supportive. As you say, he is going through this too. Please let Matt know, that we're behind him as much as we are you. I love all of you. You've got this Tiffany and Matt xxxx
Amma’s smile when she was holding Ella 🥰 for a second she looked free of her worries about her daughter. As a mom my heart goes out to her. She’s so pretty in vibrant colors .
Tiffany, the most important question you need your surgeon to answer is “Are you saying the huge tumor that you said did not respond to chemo or radiation is now gone?” What happened to it?! That surgery is no joke and completely life changing. Quality of life is absolutely an important factor, but only YOU can decide what defines quality for you; no one else can do that. Ultimately, you - and only you - has to live with the outcome of these important decisions. I absolutely wish you clarity and only the very best on your journey forward. ♥️
I agree 100%! I don't understand why surgery is still an option if the big tumour isn't there any more, why would it be necessary? With only the limited information we have it doesn't make sense. I really hope Tiffany gets the answers she needs soon 💙💙
@@debbiebarker1105 If you google Deferral of Surgery you will see. In UK specifically if someone has had a complete clinical response to neoadjuvant chemo therapy they offer deferral as an option. However surgery still has to be offered by the doctor as an option too. What does complete clinical response mean? Complete clinical response is defined as an absence of clinical, endoscopic or imaging evidence of a rectal tumor during the restaging of a patient with locally advanced rectal cancer after neoadjuvant chemo therapy. He would have never offered her deferral of surgery unless she was a candidate. To be a candidate she clearly had a complete clinch response to neoadjuvant chemo.
@@ourcorrectopinions6824 hello, she did say much earlier that she is stage 3, the stage 4 diagnosis was a mistake. If it has progressed I think the surgeon would have said so. Whatever it is , she will have a clearer picture when she sees him next and hopefully share with us. Meanwhile, lets not assume the worst and voice that as it will only frighten and discourage Tiffany. She needs to remain positive and hopeful. Miracles do happen. This surgery is life changing, some patients regret how it affects their quality of life. Maybe he wants her to be sure this is acceptable to her.
@@ourcorrectopinions6824 you are right. A tumour the size of hers couldn’t just disappear. It all seems so confusing. She should go and get an opinion from a private specialist and we all could encourage her to set up a go fund me.
Whoever judged Matt without even knowing him just isn't worth your time. I'm sure Matt is a massive support and like you say, he goes through it too. Wishing you both all the best x
You and Matt were thinking out loud, processing, when you left the surgeons office after the two choices were given. If you weren’t including us in this very personal journey, we wouldn’t have even know the process you both are going through. We LOVE Matt! He is a one in a million great guy! Thank you for giving the mild, gentle, correction to those who need to be reminded to show love and kindness to all.
We've seen how supportive Matt is, so I can't imagine that anyone could say anything acting as though they know what you two are truly going through. No need to defend Matt, we see how he feels about you. Those comments are not helpful and not acceptable. Your quality of life is a major consideration. I can't imagine trying to make that decision. Prayers for you, Matt and your family and hopefully God will guide you in the right direction.
Tiffany, first of all, I just want to say that I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult diagnosis. Being in the medical field, I understand how life altering pelvic exenteration is. Colostomy, urostomy, loss of fertility and everything else that may or may not come with the operation is shocking to say the least. However, life with potential terminal cancer is also shocking. You, your family and the doctors are going to have to make the best decision for YOU. We as your tiffanythinks family are praying for your recovery. The only thing that I do not understand is how maintenance chemotherapy has gotten rid of your stage T4b cancer, especially after harder hitting drugs did nothing to change the mass? My advice is get a second opinion from another leading oncologist and colorectal surgeon. Also, do not waste time, as everyday counts when dealing with cancer. Stay strong, you got this!
The surgeon said in the first meeting......when you will live you must do the surgery, the cancer spread without surgery in 6 month.....What I dont understand, why do surgery when there is no cancer? In the pet scan is now no cancer showing up? I think that is a misunderstanding. When there is no cancer the surgeon would say.....There is no cancer we didn't need the operation, it's all good.....After the chemo the docter said that the tumor did't shrink at all. And than she had the chemo because she must wait so long for the biopsie Op, this chemo was to prevent spreading. I didn't think the tumor is gone, I think the biopsie is without cancer cells. Sorry about my englisch
I wholeheartedly agree. If the chemo didn't shrink the tumors, then how it is possible they are all gone now? I know Tiff will do what's right for her but I think a second opinion, if possible, is a great idea.
I am so sorry some people are saying hurtful things about Matt! That is the last thing you need right now! He seems very caring and loving to me! Please ignore the negativity. Love you, Matt and Mama, take care of yourself!
Matt is an amazing human being, he chose to be supportive, compassionate and kind when you gave him a choice to walk away when you were diagnosed, he wanted to stay. Do people understand how absolutely remarkable a quality that is in a man these days? That’s a beautiful, spiritual and superb loving and profoundly human human being! How lucky Tiffany is to have found someone like Matt!
I totally agree Matt is is a blessing. It's not easy to go through cancer and watch a loved one going through cancer. Praying for healing and comfort during your trying times. Stay strong God is with you. God bless you all.
Maybe ,,,a small suggestion,,,maybe u can take a white sheet of paper with the pro and con' s of surgery ,,,and the pro and con's of not having it,, the main question is, how U , only U want to live your life! The quality of your life , i mean,, there seem to be no certainties here,,no guarantees which makes this very hard for u to take any decision,,, put it straight to your surgeon: if i were your daughter, what would u recommend? What would u do????? Does this makes any sense for u? Think about it, and hold on pretty lady!!
Tiffany, I have faced cancer twice, faced some of the same life changing issues you face. What I would have appreciated, and was never offered, was to talk to one or two patients who experienced exactly what I was facing. It might have been helpful to join a patient support group, both with patients who have had surgery, and others who didn’t. Try to find young patients, dear. A doctor and a nurse have their points of view. They may have difficulty discussing the emotional effects of cancer. They will sugar coat it, because they too fear cancer. They do not want to be the bearer of all the side effects and complications of surgery. If they did, that would make you too anxious to face surgery. While another patient will tell you the real hard facts, and prepare you for what’s coming. There are a lot of unknowns. No one can tell you the future with any certainty. Often, there is pressure to do something. The surgeon wants to do something. And the family wants something to be done. But doing nothing may be the best solution for quality of life. Isn’t quality of life the goal? Surviving with complications, constant anxiety and depression, and just not being happy is not living a quality life Just take things as they come. It is a good thing you are including all your family in your decisions. This is a personal journey, but also a familial one. Try to keep the positive attitude you always have. I know it’s hard. I am on a similar journey. One thing my journey has taught me is that here in the US, we need a lot better genetic counseling. I had a hard time telling my family and asking for help God bless
She should also speak with her Radiologist and Oncologist as they are usually brutally honest and do not sugar coat anything. They are part of her team not just the Surgeon.
@Laney 26 I'm pretty sure that her team will advise her of all of this. That's protocol with every surgery. Please, allow her to gain this knowledge through her surgical team and not on her RUclips site.
I felt so strongly that I had to stop the video a third of the way in to say something. No one who saw the worried look on Matt's face the morning of your hospital appointment could ever doubt how much he loves you. He was trying to be brave for you, but it was obvious just how much he was hurting too. I love the little exchanges between you. You are such a cute couple. He is doing exactly what a supportive partner should do. He is supporting your decision and will be there for you whatever you decide to do. I would love a much older version of Matt for myself, if I was honest. Love to you all and now back to the video xxx
My dear child, Matt is worth his weight in gold and his devotion to you is obvious. Shut out the naysayers. There will always be nasty and disgruntled people. Pity them, and move on. BTW, being that Matt is such a good cook, has he ever been a contestant on the Great British Baking show? Maybe a few years back?? He looks familiar. He is beautiful, inside and out. An all around terrific guy. Chin up Tiffany, don't waste your time or energy on this issue. You've got bigger fish to fry.
Matt is an angel! How dare anyone say one negative thing about that loving sweet man! It is so apparent how much he loves and cares about you, Tiffany. That really saddens me when he is so good. Love you both!
@@Hannah-sg4sr The devil is a LIAR! Why would you speak death, over this precious girl? You are vile. Everything that you called for Tiffany, I reverse that curse in the name of Jesus… and turn it back on YOU! Have the day, that you deserve.
You are so lucky to have such a wonderful partner in Matt. Cancer takes a village and having a loving partner is a big part of the battle. Hug Matt for all of us. Your mum too! Both are lovely!
Matt seems so much like my husband. I’m going through breast cancer and my sweet husband is the stoic and quiet type. People don’t need to underestimate how hard it is on our loved ones to watch us go through cancer. Matt seems like your sweet, strong rock and I’m so glad you have him to lean on. Love you sweet girl. You got this. 💙💙💙
Hi Amy glad you also have a great husband. I’m 64 yrs old and I’ve been with my husband since I was 13yrs old we have three beautiful sons and six grand children. It’s great to be wanted.
Matt is amazing. He deserves no criticism at all. He is walking this journey with you and I don’t think anyone could ever ask for a better partner. Your mom and Matt are incredible. :)
As a 10 year cancer patient, I've learned that you have got to do whatever is right for you! Listening and receiving opinions is great, but advocating for yourself and shutting out the negatives is almost as important as treatment. I've found, at the end of the day, people are more upset by not following their own instincts than they are about being "wrong." I understand how people can become very invested, but, ultimately, you and your family are the ones who have to live with your choices. Absolutely no one else knows what you need, how you define your quality of life, or what you are capable of achieving. Hang in there. Ignore the distractions (including negative comments) and live your life ... one day at a time. I wish you well.
Tiffany, I am also under the care of the Marsden and have had to make difficult decisions with every part of my treatment which could potentially have long term life debilitating affects. In my experience, the surgeons at the Marsden have an incredible success rate compared to national figures, if your surgeon is hesitant to go ahead with surgery it is for a very good reason. As much as people online who are doctors or nurses or cancer sufferers or know someone in a similar situation, your team at the marsden know 100% of your cancer situation and they are who you should be guided by. They may not be a loving family member but I believe that makes them even better equipped to judge the situation as they remove the emotional aspect and deal with the facts. Please feel free to get in touch personally as I am local to you and happy to meet up if you want a coffee xxx
Tiffany I hope you see this comment and will go for coffee. It may be such a great thing fie both of you to be able to share and support each other. Praying for you, Matt, your family and your team of DR'S.
@@sandypandy9161 apparently people were commenting things about Matt like he doesn't care about Tiffany etc basically a bunch of BS. People can be really shocking 😡
@@bendietrees that's some bs...when I had cancer my husband was stoic for the world...but I would catch him crying in the garage...Matt is a hero and a Godsend. Shame on people...the whole family need our support Matt, Amma, and our beautiful Tiff. Makes me do angry people are shading him...
I think Matt is a top guy. He's a keeper. He seems a bit shy which is endearing. He comes across very loving and caring. I love his Northern Irish accent too.
Please tell Matt, he is deeply respected by lots of people he’s never met, myself included. My spouse is my caregiver (chronic long term autoimmune) and I know just how hard that is. It’s often grueling and so difficult. You two will make the best decisions for you both. You shouldn’t have to give one seconds thought to anyone not supportive. I pray for you both. 💜🇺🇸🌵
How can anyone think that Matt doesn't care for you??? He is amazing...and it is SO obvious how much he loves you! You are so loved, Tiffany...by Matt and your Mom above all! 💙
This is a lovely message about your partner Matt. He is going through this just as much as Amma and you. Let's send loving thoughts to Matt and support. I am sorry you had such unkind comments. It was a great message. I hope your videos help anyone else going through your type of cancer. I was wearing the gray v-neck "We Got This" t-shirt to my doctor's yesterday and told him about you. (He is a GI and I have a much easier cancer than you have.). Sending much love. I am glad you got more answers about the risks of surgery. It is important to know how life changing the surgery can be.
@@eunchaneunchan I have Neuroendocrine. I had a 3cm tumor removed from my small intestine and it has spread to the lymph nodes. I still have one area of cancer and it is being watched. I do get injections for symptom management (Sandostatin) and took a break for a few months but start back up in October.
My darling Tiffany. Matt deserves no criticism, he’s a wonderful, loving partner. You are wonderful together, so lucky to have each other. Your Mum is an absolute gem. The three of you are a cocoon of love and support. I think some people may be envious of that hence the delusional comments. Do not let them upset any of you, they are simply wrong. Love Patricia Starkey.
@Sian Strong Me too. Matt is wonderful and supportive. When I had chemo I went to every one by myself because my then bf was not that supportive. He’s been history for a long time now as I never forgave him. We are with you every step of the way Tiffany ❣️
Wow, the way you handled the negative comments about your partner and the way you educated some of the “unfriendly” viewers, deserves an award!!! The amount of professionalism you are displaying, tells how mentally mature you are at this very young age! Yes, most of us know that Mat is not about social media and that’s okay! He respects, adores and cares about you. He does this by keeping calm and firm, because that is what you and Amma need during this bumpy journey💙
I can’t believe people were so judgmental with Matt. I love seeing Matt say hello and you can tell he isn’t comfortable with the camera. A big shout to Matt for keeping it altogether and being there to share this journey with you and your family. Matt you’ve got this💙
A blind person can see how much Matt loves and supports you. There’s no question! Everyone in your circle, )including your tiffanythinks family), is on your cancer journey with you. It’s your body and your life. Just here to support! We got this!💙💙💙💙
I think people forget this is matts journey too, taking away all of your pelvic interior means you’ll always need medical intervention one way or another, risks of infection, body image, loss of fertility, it’s not the future you or Matt imagined. Having the surgery, is still no guarantee it’ll never come back, not having the surgery doesn’t mean it’ll come back either! What’s important is life, but being alive is not the same as living. You do what your gut tells you. What ever the future holds live what ever life you have left with no regrets, never look back and go.. but what if. Because none of us have the gift of hindsight. Massive of loves to you all
There is approximately a 41% false negative when diagnosing mucinous adenocarcinoma with a PET scan. The best way to check for that cancer is with a Diffusion Weighted (DW) MRI. Your surgeon/oncologist would be aware of this. My best to you and your family.
It is not surprising that the PET scan did not light up, because the neoadjuvant therapy transformed the adenocarcinoma to mucin pools. Scanning is difficult. Prognosis is difficult. So many unknowns
I've been where Matt's been and no one knows what it's like until they've been there. Matt you deserve a medal, I know how hard it is watching the love of your life go through this, trying to see the positives whenever you get the chance. Tiffany I send you all the love, prayers and hope i have. God bless you all. Ps to the negative commenters pray you dont have to walk in their shoes !
I really haven't seen a negative comment its really just people are saying not to listen to Matt because his advice isn't very smart, nothing really horrible about him, but like she said, he doesn't know anything about cancer, like alot of people don't
Matt is amazing, he’s brilliant with you , he’s so loving, ignore negativity, he’s your soulmate for sure! I have had cancer, my partner went through so much emotion feeling helpless too but I said just being there my love is what I needed through our cancer story, cancer affected us both as a couple. Xxx
Your darling Matt is AMAZING! I don’t know what others are seeing, it is SO obvious he adores you! Don’t listen to the haters, it’s only because they are miserable and want others to feel the same! Remember to ask the surgeon “ If it was his daughter or wife, would he have them do the surgery” that really is the ONLY question you should ask.
Matt has been nothing but an absolute star!! Even from the 20 seconds we see of him we know he’s been a rock. Plus whatever he suggests in terms of treatment is only coming from a place of wanting Tiffany to better and we love that!!
Matt is a wonderful partner! He is caring, loving and tender, I admire your relationship, you both are so brave to open about this difficult time in your live, and I think we are here to support you so any criticism is out of place. You deserve respect for your opinions and decisions. May God send you the wisdom to make the best choice for you! Love you deeply!
The fact that Matt stayed with you when he can just leave and move on with his life, already says a lot about his good nature. Dont know how some people can be so shallow. I love ur amma to pieces. I wish she was my amma. 😍😍😍. You are in my prayers Tiffany. Always. Sending my Love all the way from Malaysia. 🙂
I just don't understand two things. 1.) How the tumor which has invaded the uterus has disappeared and no longer shows on a scan. And 2.) If there is nothing there and you are healed from chemo and radiation, why is he offering you a choice of surgery or a deferred surgery? I think he needs to get on the phone and spend 30 minutes explaining himself. Much love Tiffany, you're going through so much!
Matt is a GEM!!!!! He dropped everything and moved in with you to support you and Ama. He has been there every step of the way. It is pretty obvious to me that he is the most supportive guy around. I haven't even finished the video, but the thought of anyone criticizing Matt got me a bit riled up.
💙Hi Tiffany - (from USA) I’ve been following you for almost the whole year since your diagnosis. I also have cancer - stage 4 lymphoma and now aggressive breast cancer. It’s so much to process! People with negative comments just have NO idea unless they have been in your shoes!! I absolutely understand what you’re going through and I’m glad you and Matt are getting more info from your doctor. Whatever you decide to do will be right for YOU and it’s YOUR decision of course with Ama & Matt’s input too, because they ARE going thru this with you daily!) I am in a completely different situation (I’m much older and have other medical problems also) than you and have decided not to even do chemo nor further diagnostic testing, but to live my life each day the best I can with whatever time I have….it was MY decision and it’s what’s best for me, whether people understand or not. Just do what is best for YOU - your surgery would absolutely be life-changing! It’s a HUGE decision! Matt is such an AMAZING and supportive partner and you are blessed to have him. I don’t have a “Matt” in my life, so believe me, I know the value of a partner like him! …..please don’t even think about the negative comments! Bless you for standing up for him!! Having someone to go thru all this with you is HUGE and Matt is truly an angel! So loving and supportive! Just know that there are so many watching who have not commented before, but we watch, we laugh with you, cry with you, celebrate with you and worry with you. And some of us are on a cancer journey of our own and understand the difficult decisions on a completely different level. Always in my thoughts and prayers - hugs to Matt, Ama, your huge extended family, so many wonderful friends and all who support and love you! You truly are so blessed that “*WE* Got This”…..I did not buy a shirt because it’s *I* for me instead of *we*. Please never allow anyone to discount the value of your *WE*……STAY STRONG - YOU ARE AMAZING!! 💙
Dear Sunny Bunny, what a truly lovely comment you wrote. As you are much more knowledgable on what Tiffany is going through, since you yourself have cancer, your comments are very helpful. I wish you all the best on your very hard journey. I will keep you in my prayers also. Sending you much love and a big hug, Susan from Switzerland ( american ex-pat from NJ )
Sunny Bunny I’m so sorry that you are going through such a difficult journey. It sounds like you have made some very difficult decisions. I’m glad you feel empowered to choose what is best for you on your own terms. I’m sorry you don’t have more support. I am sending love your way and hoping you find continued peace on your journey. ❤️
You, Matt and your mum are a team. That’s all that matters. He seems nothing but supportive and lovely. 💙 sending you all the positivity in the world. Hopefully you can talk to your surgeon soon so that you can have a clearer plan.
Everytime Matt is in the videos, he is always supportive and I can see the love he has for you and your family. No one should be critical about anything that Matt does or doesn’t do because we are only able to see a snippet of your day. Love you Tiffany, Matt , Ammah & the rest of your family. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰😘
I watched your u tube channel and listenef to the song you dedicated to Tiffany. Lost and Found I believe. It was so beautiful. In my last reply to Tiffany, I wrote to her about your chanel and the song dedicated to her. I hope she will listen to it. What a loving soul you are. Susan
@@susanbaptista3967 Thanks so much for your kind words on this. Tiffany has heard the song and commented on my channel which was wonderful of her!! Thanks again!
Oh my gosh, I can’t believe anyone would say that about Matt.. he seems the most caring, supportive, devoted partner ever. We can see how much you love each other..you have a beautiful relationship. We’re all praying for you, we’ve got this💗✨🙏🏻
I would definitely bring your oncology team into these discussions. I feel they probably know more about the cancer side as opposed to the surgery side. I am glad you are scheduled to talk to them as well.
I agree. Either you have cancer or you don’t. I feel like you’re not getting straight answers from the surgeon, or maybe he’s just not communicating with you well. I’m sure you’re very confused and frustrated.
Don't let the negative people on your channel affect the strength and positivity you need for your lifes journey. Matt has been exactly who and what you need. He is wonderful as is your mum, you seem to have such a loving relationship. Attacking Matt is disrespectful , ugly,venemous and detremental to your situation. This may seem odd but in this video your hair is radientally healthy and you look wonderful. Take care,enjoy the good days and ignore the Negative Nellies they know nothing and do not have your best interests at heart.xx
I was a caregiver to someone that had cancer. I can see Matt not only cares about you but deeply loves you. People that speak negativity dont know anything about what goes through the mind of a person who has a loved one going through cancer. They can kick rocks ! Not only are you living with cancer for a year YOU ARE KICKING CANCER'S TAIL FOR A YEAR ♥️
Matt isn’t just your darling… He’s our darling! He’s a sweet and loving man who is doing his best to support you through what will probably be the most difficult time the two of you will endure. Shame on anyone who’s been critical of him. He’s a young man and it’s understandable that he wouldn’t have any answers for you. That’s not why he’s there! He’s there to love you and support you and he’s doing an outstanding job of that. Much love to you both! Hugs to Amma too! 💜💜💜💜
Tiff your channel is getting bigger, it gets statistically easier to get comments from people who are just not as sensitive or mature. My suggestion is just ignore them, even if they are not trolls. Anyone who stops here just to say unsupportive things is just not getting the point of this channel and that's just sad for them..kisses we got this!
I can’t believe that people thinks that Mat doesn’t care! He’s one of the most caring boyfriend I have seen! He doesn’t have to do what he’s doing, remember he’s doing it because he loves you and and is there to support you! I think people that are negative should not be commenting on your channel! I bet those so called advisers have no darn compassion, they just want to bring you down! Don’t let them. Sending you Mat and your dear sweet mun lots of blessings ❤❤❤🫂🫂🫂🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi Tiffany, this is the first time I have commented on here after following your journey for a long time. Firstly, I want you to know how brave you are, I cannot imagine how hard this must be for you and I am sending you as much strength as I can fit in to this message. When I heard you replay what the nurse had told you it just became so clear to me that you must be the one who makes the decision with the help and support from your darling Matt and your amazing family. We are here for you whatever you decide to do but this is your life, and your future. Please take all the time and all the professional guidance you need. Whatever you decide will be the right thing because it’s what you want. I will keep you in my thoughts.
We have a saying in Italy: ' Angels with just One Wing can fly holding each other' , you and Matt are just like this. Take your time to digest all the information and speak to your surgeon. With the support of all your loved ones you Will get through this.💙
Hi Tiffany, you said something that really stood out and I’d like to highlight that. “The surgery is life threatening and life changing.” Cancer is too. We stand with you and will pray with you and for you in whatever decision you make. No more comments from me, too much input can also be anxiety inducing. Take your time and the knowledge that you’ve acquired and make the decision that best suits you, pray about it and The Lord will help you. 💙
Matt is such and amazing supportive boyfriend, anyone who’s sees different hasn’t truly watched you…you both make a great team..you share your life with us and that feels like a privilege to me, you don’t have to..THANK YOU..YOU GOT THIS..WE GOT THIS! 💜💜💜
I can’t imagine how difficult this decision would be and I pray God gives you peace with whatever feels right for you. Also I would like to say that even though we just see clips of your life you can see the love that Matt and your family have for you. You all are always in my prayers❤️
I don’t comment often here but I just have to say Tiffany you are such an incredibly sweet person. I can’t wait for you to be cancer free. Your positivity and ability to handle this journey with such grace is truly an inspiration to so many of us. Thank you Tiffany for sharing your light with us.
My opinion has changed from last video. immediately I was like Get the surgery straight away but now I realise its your decision and you alone who has to do what's right for you, what feels right for you. Matt is your rock, incredible human being just like Amma and they'll always have your back in every situation. We will be here supporting and lifting you no matter what outcome you arrive at Tiffany. Please know we are all routing for you in this journey 🙏, hugs wee doll from a wife who's husband has cancer too xx we got this 💙 xx
Hi Tiffany, I would advise having regular private scans to stay on top of the cancer returning. This way you are ahead of the game as oppose to relying on NHS scans and their times between scans. Full of admiration for you, Matt, your Mum and family. Keep going ! We are all so proud of you!
It’s really sad that people were critical of Matt’s reaction. He clearly wants the best for you and just wants to support you as best he can and support you in whatever decision you come to 💙💙
Matt has never portrayed anything but love, caring and 100% support for you and your journey. You have a great support system. Those that cannot recognize that have probably never been through trials of their own and/or had to support a loved one through such things. ❤ 💙 💜
Oh yeah, Matt is amazing! Sadly, a lot of men would leave instead of supporting their partner like they're supposed to. The fact that Matt stayed and is by her side through all of this proves he loves her completely and truly.
Tiffany, Matt is a great man. The way he looks at you is so endearing and sincere. He adores you! Let the negativity go. I have been an Oncology nurse for close to forty years and I can say from experience Matt and your family a such a large part of your journey and cure.
Wow, I've always thought how sweet and caring Matt is and not sure how anyone could think otherwise. You are very lucky to have such a wonderful and supporting partner.
Tiffany, your platform is about you and your journey. We are all here to support you through this journey, just remember this is a marathon, not a sprint. You have the best positive attitude, you will beat this monster, and you have no idea how many people you are helping. You’ve got This ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I can’t believe anyone would say that about Matt. It is so obvious even through the little bit we see of him how supportive and caring he is. I’m so happy you have him by your side during this!
Honestly, even I thought “what’s there to think, if surgery saves you, then y wait” but after listening to you it makes so much sense. We see only one side, and you have sooooooo much to think about. Sending lots of love and prayers for you, Amma and Matt ❤️🧿
Tiffany, I’m so sorry that you and your family are going through this. Matt is amazing. I’ve been dealing with cancer for about 11 yrs now. I’ve had cancer 5 times and now it’s possibly in my lungs. I understand totally what you are going through. Just really wanted to say that, YES, we’ve got this!! I keep you in my thoughts sweetheart. {{{Hugs}}}
I think getting a second opinion is a great idea. It's all so overwhelming I think talking to another doctor and seeing what he thinks could help. That's obviously just my opinion. My heart breaks that you had some bad comments about Matt. I think most of us love your Matt. He's such a keeper and a true sweetheart. 💙💙
Yes girl we’re not putting him down we’re just saying he’s not a doctor I have I had colon cancer a year ago and I know it’s been a year and I’m still dealing with that going to see my doctor every six months and is always going to be like that and I had my surgery and I’m much better thank God but you should think about having your surgery and not wait especially because it would spray everywhere in your body so don’t think that we’re putting your honey down. Just use some common sense for yourself to specially when you share your life.
I wish you'd just said the PET scan was clear at the previous video, people were so confused and worried for you. Nothing was making sense to us on delaying surgery. A clear scan makes a HUGE difference. So happy for you!💙
Hi Tiffany, I just wanted to say I’m so proud of you for doing these video during your treatment! I was diagnosed with cancer at the new year and finished my treatment in April and I don’t know how you have been able to still do these videos during your treatment, you are such a strong person! Tiffany, you and you alone will choose to make the right decision for you and it doesn’t matter what other people think or say, please just focus on yourself and not what other people say! Each person will choose to do what they think is right for them and you will too! At the end of my treatment all I kept thinking was if I needed more treatment I would say no or that I need a break cos I found it so hard and I knew that people around wouldn’t be able to understand but I was very lucky that I haven’t needed any more treatment. Please take some time away from other peoples opinions and make the right decision for you! Thank you for sharing with the world!
I never comment on videos and I don’t really have any advice but I just want to say that I think you and Matt are incredible and so so brave sharing your journey. You must be inspiring so many people without even realizing it! There will always be rude, ignorant people but look how much support and admiration you have! Everyone is behind you whatever decision you make and we are all wishing you well xx
Hello Tiffany... I'm from Cape Town, South Africa. I want to comment about the negativity around Matt. I've experienced caring for my Mom and uncle during their cancer journey. People will never understand the emotions of the loved ones caring for the cancer patient, especially during their lowest moments. We share all those emotions with you and we cover our emotions because we have to be strong and positive all the time for the patients well being. Your Ammas love for Matt is so evident and that tells us what a wonderful person he must be. Keep strong, at the end its all in God's hands...continue praying for His guidance. Love and prayers 🌹🙏
I’m glad that you have Matt and he’s so supportive! It’s very difficult to watch someone you love go through this. People shouldn’t comment on things they don’t know. I think it’s very good that you’re talking with the surgeon and getting the whole picture. Decisions are best made once completely educated. Just breathe Tiff, you got this!
Lots of prayers and hopefully Cancer free soon, my respect for Matt and your mom who are always there by your side to help you cope with everything and obviously to all your family.
Tiff, Matt is wonderful! He is a beautiful soul and takes such, good care of you. He adores you. I’m so sorry people were demeaning and expressing skepticism of him. He only wants the best for you, so it’s frustrating to hear people comment anything to the contrary. Sending you so much love and hugs xox
matt for the win!! i love that he wasn’t taking “the doctor is ill” as an answer! 💪🏻 tiffany, please hear this: i went through this with my mom and my best friends husband passed from cancer two months ago. START THE GO FUND ME NOW!! you don’t know what twists and turns are ahead of you, and having it in place and growing will be so helpful and a comfort. and you can use the money to have some fun too! a fabulous mini break, a day at the spa for your mom! 💛and✨
Lovely thought but she politely said she's so overwhelmed that people are thinking this way but she doesn't need help financially, proberbly by doing a go fund me page might feel like she's loosing the fight and she's far from loosing any fight so my thinking is this is why she's declining,
I just don’t understand how you can from a stage 3 t4b malignant tumour which hasn’t responded well to Chemo and radiation (didn’t shrink) to it spontaneously disappearing into thin air and you having no cancer……
I'm currently having chemo for exactly the same cancer as you....T4 tumour. I was luckily (if u can say that) enough to have emergency surgery and have a extended right hemicolectomy, with good margins after removal. Im having chemo as it was in 3 out of 48 lymph nodes. I really can't advise you on what to do but whatever it is...I wish you all the luck in the world. We got this 💪😍
Thank you so much for this update! Knowing the PET scan was clear is very reassuring. With my experience with my mom's cancer journey, I can say your quality of life is the most important thing. I am always thinking of you and praying for you 🙏
Tiffany I just love your mom such a beautiful lady inside and out I can see where you get your personality and beauty from . Matt is wonderful person I can see how devoted he is to you with your journey with cancer it is yours and Matt’s decision how you handle the treatment so sorry people think they have to judge Matt you are truly blessed to have Matt and your mom stay strong .
Dearest Tiffany, one thing I'm SO confused about (so goodness knows how you must be); is if the scans and biopsies are showing negative for cancer, why is surgery still required? And if your surgeon IS still considering surgery, he must believe some cancer IS still there, so then why is he suggesting waiting 6 weeks? Surely that would risk it getting worse? I don't understand.
Cancer can be easily missed if it is too small to be picked up on scans, or is elsewhere other than a site that was biopsied so the surgery would be a preventative measure incase of recurrence as far as I’m aware
If Tiffany has no cancer anymore (except for potential lingering cancer cells), then why is a deeply life-altering surgery still an option? Also, why didn't the surgeon say: Tiffany, I have good news, the cancer responded really well to the chemo and radiation and is now gone as far as we can see, the scans are clean and so are the biopsies. This has become a whole different ball game now and you don't need surgery anymore. Now, that doesn't mean the cancer is literally completely gone and that you are cured, in medicine we don't call it cured or cancer-free because there could still be cancer cells in and around the area of where the cancer was, even if I took biopsies that don't show any, plus there could be cancer cells in other organs that we can't pick up in scans. That's why I suggest a couple of other rounds of chemo. I have good faith Tiffany especially considering the cancer is responding so well to chemo. I watch your videos, and it won't be long anymore before you will be able to do a boomerang. Why wasn't it a clear story, something like this, in the car and why weren't Tiffany and Matt accordingly happy and relieved? Why were some things unclear like cancer cells that would have changed into innocent micu? Why did the surgeon say: the disadvantage of waiting though is that "it" could spread/grow and become inoperable in 6 weeks. (Hence people responding: be careful, Matt shouldn't assume the cancer won't or can't dangerously spread in 6 weeks.) "It" referring to cancer, thus the surgeon saying the cancer is still there. More importantly, other people responded that Micunous Adenocarcinoma doesn't show up in scans. And to ask her doctor to confirm if this is her diagnosis? And that the micu itself *is* the cancer. Yet other people said the cancer cells are hard to detect in biopsy after chemo, and also wondered if this may be the reason the surgeon suggested to wait for 6 weeks without chemo to do another biopsy again. Again? Tiffany isn't a guinea pig. And then why do a biopsy after chemo the first time? So .... Does Tiffany still have cancer or not?
I can’t imagine how hard it is to make a decision like this. Knowing that the pet scan was clear as well as the biopsy, I can understand why the surgeon would suggest waiting. He truly knows the quality of life the surgery leaves people with & I also believe that the last thing he would ever want suggest would be waiting & not doing the surgery if he thought the end result would not be well. Whatever you choose to do, we will support you because the decision is yours & you owe no one an explanation. You got this!! ❤️❤️😘
@@patsyhay9592 True. I am the first to admit that I do not have any first had experience with anything even remotely close to a situation like this. I can’t even imagine what goes into a decision like this & the mental turmoil that goes along with making it.
@@janneal9156 I don't understand this too. This was the only surgeon who would agree to operate on Tiffany and take on her case because its a complicated one. From what I understand the tumor was quite big too can it really just be gone? After the chemo and radiation didn't do anything and the doctor told her it wouldn't so anything either it was just to give them time to come up with a plan? Non of this makes sense or maybe I'm the one who's not understanding it
@@janneal9156 she has clean biopsies, clear pet scan and a clear colonoscopy. the treatment worked. her stage of cancer (locally advanced stage 3) has a good survival rate 71%. Also if you go back and watch the video of her results video in May with her mom in the car after her second round of chemo and radiation, she was told it did shrink 'some' and that she was told she was responding well to chemo, however the team of doctor's treating her met and discussed whether to continue with more chemo since she was responding to it, or to ship her over to this current surgery who does the very difficult full pelvic removal surgery, they decided to have her see the surgeon who does the complicated surgery at RM in London. He then put her on six more weeks of chemo then did biopsies and scans. They turned out to be clear. Maybe her if oncologist team opted for the additional chemo round they would have had the same results. Either way, it seems as if she's been offered Deferral Of Surgery as an option and even a recommendation by her surgeon. This option is only offered to those who have had clinical response to treatment. This is good news.
@@janneal9156 she looks sickly because she had a bad infection then had biopsies that caused vomiting and bleeding. All things considered she looks okay.
I lost My Dad to Stage 4 metastatic Prostate Cancer in 2017 and I now help care for and support my mom who has stage 4 metastatic breast cancer . I just want to say I think you are so courageous and I love your positive attitude . It's people like you with amazingly warm hearted spirits that help the rest of us get through our own days And I am praying for you 🙏🙏🙏 much love from Vancouver Island British Columbia Canada . 💗
Hi my loving tiffanythinks family. Since I’ve seen the surgeon, my mind has been all over the place. I am still waiting for my surgeon to arrange another day to meet up to discuss all the possible outcomes and what is the most safest option for me. I have a lot to think about and I appreciate all of your comments helping me decide what’s best. If you haven’t already, please SUBSCRIBE. we got this💙 Instagram, FB & TikTok: @tiffanythinks
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Don't listen to the negative people Tiffany, å blind persen can see how much Matt loves you 🥰 everybody should have a darling Matt ❤
Jesus Christ with you and family friends . not worry be strong well done made for new video thanks you for new video .Carry on firgh your cancer see how many people
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Quality of life is important too, so I totally understand this isn't easy, make the decision together with your family, the surgeon and possible second opinion. Your surgeon sounds very experienced though and he has the full picture which nono of us here on the internet have, even if we're you're friends and want the best for you. I'm sure sure will come to the best desicion for you.
Jesus Christ with you
Hi,
I commented on your video after seeing the surgeon last week, I am a nurse, my husband is a colorectal surgeon specialising in complex cancer surgery.
Listening to the information today I know it is all very overwhelming for you, but I honestly think these results of negative PET scan/ MRI and biopsies is the best possible news given your diagnosis. It sounds like they are classing you as having no evidence of disease at present which is really amazing ( I would specifically ask if you are No evidence of disease).
If this is the case I can totally understand the surgeon’s reluctance to perform exenteration surgery now, it really is such a huge operation that has risks related to both morbidity and mortality and would be being performed as a preventative measure against reoccurrence (but with no certainty that a reoccurrence wouldn’t occur elsewhere (metastasis)
If you are NED then you do have a little bit of time, you can get the second opinions, ask all the questions and just have time to think about what is the right decision for you. There will be consequences either way that you will have to live with. You need to ask both the surgeon and oncologists about risks v benefits specifically for you and then decide which of the options you feel most at peace with.
The difficult thing with medicine is that isn’t an exact science and every individuals body and their cancer can react differently, so no one can give you concrete guarantees , they can only give you probabilities based on the research available.
You are in a really difficult position, but at the same time the fact that you can make a decision is so positive. Before this last set of scans you were under the impression that surgery was essential to your survival, that there was no choice. So my advice is gather all the information, ask all the questions and get a second opinion and based on that information make the decision that is right for you, even if that takes a couple of weeks you need to be sure that you are will be ok your decision whatever happens in the future.
Sending love and positivity xx
I hope she sees this comment. 💙💙💙
Thank you SO much for your comment💙 you completely understand what I’m going through, lots & lots of love💙💙💙
Very informative! 👍
@@tiffanythinks you’re so welcome. I hope my message can help you even in the smallest way. It is ok, even normal to feel overwhelmed and as if it’s an impossible task to make the right decision, but as you gather more information and just let in all sink in and pray for guidance I am sure the way forwards will become apparent and you will feel at peace with your decision xxx
@@tiffanythinks you are an inspiration to so many. I wish you knew how much just hearing your voice and presence brings a happy calm positive feeling to the moment🙏 🦋
Matt deserves NO criticism. He's trying to help you sort this out. He seems like a wonderful man and he obviously loves you very much. He wants what's best for you.
Yessss agree ! Matt is amazing!
Absolutely I hope people are not criticising him he’s in a terrible situation he is just trying to make sense of this as is everyone this guy has gone through this with Tiffany he must be struggling to
Yes!!!! Its so obvious that this is really hard for him too!! He deserves our support, not criticism. He is such a blessing in Tiffany's life!! He is walking this difficult path with her. His deep love for her shows in his actions by the many things he does for Tiffany and he is always there for her, even in the hardest of times.
YES IT IS TRUE!!! HE IS VERY VARM! LOVELY MAN
I havent seen any negative comments to you or Matt, so I was horrified to hear you say, this today. You are both so perfect for each other, and I've only ever seen Matt being loving and supportive. As you say, he is going through this too. Please let Matt know, that we're behind him as much as we are you. I love all of you. You've got this Tiffany and Matt xxxx
Amma’s smile when she was holding Ella 🥰 for a second she looked free of her worries about her daughter. As a mom my heart goes out to her. She’s so pretty in vibrant colors .
Tiffany, the most important question you need your surgeon to answer is “Are you saying the huge tumor that you said did not respond to chemo or radiation is now gone?”
What happened to it?!
That surgery is no joke and completely life changing.
Quality of life is absolutely an important factor, but only YOU can decide what defines quality for you; no one else can do that.
Ultimately, you - and only you - has to live with the outcome of these important decisions.
I absolutely wish you clarity and only the very best on your journey forward. ♥️
I agree 100%! I don't understand why surgery is still an option if the big tumour isn't there any more, why would it be necessary? With only the limited information we have it doesn't make sense. I really hope Tiffany gets the answers she needs soon 💙💙
@@debbiebarker1105 If you google Deferral of Surgery you will see. In UK specifically if someone has had a complete clinical response to neoadjuvant chemo therapy they offer deferral as an option. However surgery still has to be offered by the doctor as an option too.
What does complete clinical response mean?
Complete clinical response is defined as an absence of clinical, endoscopic or imaging evidence of a rectal tumor during the restaging of a patient with locally advanced rectal cancer after neoadjuvant chemo therapy.
He would have never offered her deferral of surgery unless she was a candidate. To be a candidate she clearly had a complete clinch response to neoadjuvant chemo.
@@ourcorrectopinions6824 hello, she did say much earlier that she is stage 3, the stage 4 diagnosis was a mistake. If it has progressed I think the surgeon would have said so. Whatever it is , she will have a clearer picture when she sees him next and hopefully share with us. Meanwhile, lets not assume the worst and voice that as it will only frighten and discourage Tiffany. She needs to remain positive and hopeful. Miracles do happen. This surgery is life changing, some patients regret how it affects their quality of life. Maybe he wants her to be sure this is acceptable to her.
@@ourcorrectopinions6824 you are right. A tumour the size of hers couldn’t just disappear. It all seems so confusing. She should go and get an opinion from a private specialist and we all could encourage her to set up a go fund me.
@@ourcorrectopinions6824 I didnt realise the surgeon showed concern over Tiff not understanding.
Whoever judged Matt without even knowing him just isn't worth your time. I'm sure Matt is a massive support and like you say, he goes through it too. Wishing you both all the best x
I’m so sorry ppl make such horrible comments.
Everyone who ever sees one clip of Matt can see in 10 seconds his overwhelming Love for you.
Matt is so wonderful Kind and giving 💙❤️
I can not believe people have been saying that stuff! Ohmygod…. That just breaks my heart.
People are terrible.
It's always been Tiffany, Oma, & Matt. Go away anyone insulting any of them. Buzz off.🧓🙏💙💚💛❤💙💜Love to all three of you and all your loved ones.
You and Matt were thinking out loud, processing, when you left the surgeons office after the two choices were given. If you weren’t including us in this very personal journey, we wouldn’t have even know the process you both are going through. We LOVE Matt! He is a one in a million great guy! Thank you for giving the mild, gentle, correction to those who need to be reminded to show love and kindness to all.
WELL SAID!🙏🏼👍🏼👏🏼❤️
At this point Tiffany needs our full support, please let's keep the positive energy through out on this comment section thank you 😌
Well said x
Absolutely!!! 💜
Yes ❤
Agreed!
You are absolutely right!
We've seen how supportive Matt is, so I can't imagine that anyone could say anything acting as though they know what you two are truly going through. No need to defend Matt, we see how he feels about you. Those comments are not helpful and not acceptable. Your quality of life is a major consideration. I can't imagine trying to make that decision. Prayers for you, Matt and your family and hopefully God will guide you in the right direction.
You don’t need to explain anything about Matt. Anybody with two eyes and a heart can see what a great guy he is and how much he loves you.
Beautifully said 😊❤️
@@squincegoddess this^
Tiffany, first of all, I just want to say that I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult diagnosis. Being in the medical field, I understand how life altering pelvic exenteration is. Colostomy, urostomy, loss of fertility and everything else that may or may not come with the operation is shocking to say the least. However, life with potential terminal cancer is also shocking. You, your family and the doctors are going to have to make the best decision for YOU. We as your tiffanythinks family are praying for your recovery. The only thing that I do not understand is how maintenance chemotherapy has gotten rid of your stage T4b cancer, especially after harder hitting drugs did nothing to change the mass? My advice is get a second opinion from another leading oncologist and colorectal surgeon. Also, do not waste time, as everyday counts when dealing with cancer. Stay strong, you got this!
Who did that video of Tiffany about cancer? I can’t remember. Can they get her another opinion? Your comment was excellent. Bless you for helping!💕
The surgeon said in the first meeting......when you will live you must do the surgery, the cancer spread without surgery in 6 month.....What I dont understand, why do surgery when there is no cancer? In the pet scan is now no cancer showing up? I think that is a misunderstanding. When there is no cancer the surgeon would say.....There is no cancer we didn't need the operation, it's all good.....After the chemo the docter said that the tumor did't shrink at all. And than she had the chemo because she must wait so long for the biopsie Op, this chemo was to prevent spreading. I didn't think the tumor is gone, I think the biopsie is without cancer cells. Sorry about my englisch
I wholeheartedly agree. If the chemo didn't shrink the tumors, then how it is possible they are all gone now? I know Tiff will do what's right for her but I think a second opinion, if possible, is a great idea.
I am so sorry some people are saying hurtful things about Matt! That is the last thing you need right now! He seems very caring and loving to me! Please ignore the negativity. Love you, Matt and Mama, take care of yourself!
@@juliegilman1734 agreed
Matt is an amazing human being, he chose to be supportive, compassionate and kind when you gave him a choice to walk away when you were diagnosed, he wanted to stay. Do people understand how absolutely remarkable a quality that is in a man these days? That’s a beautiful, spiritual and superb loving and profoundly human human being! How lucky Tiffany is to have found someone like Matt!
Agreed! I have seen and heard horror stories of partners not being supportive. It's darn nice to see a man being supportive.
I totally agree Matt is is a blessing. It's not easy to go through cancer and watch a loved one going through cancer. Praying for healing and comfort during your trying times. Stay strong God is with you. God bless you all.
Maybe ,,,a small suggestion,,,maybe u can take a white sheet of paper with the pro and con' s of surgery ,,,and the pro and con's of not having it,, the main question is, how U , only U want to live your life! The quality of your life , i mean,, there seem to be no certainties here,,no guarantees which makes this very hard for u to take any decision,,, put it straight to your surgeon: if i were your daughter, what would u recommend? What would u do????? Does this makes any sense for u? Think about it, and hold on pretty lady!!
Tiffany, I have faced cancer twice, faced some of the same life changing issues you face. What I would have appreciated, and was never offered, was to talk to one or two patients who experienced exactly what I was facing. It might have been helpful to join a patient support group, both with patients who have had surgery, and others who didn’t. Try to find young patients, dear.
A doctor and a nurse have their points of view. They may have difficulty discussing the emotional effects of cancer.
They will sugar coat it, because they too fear cancer.
They do not want to be the bearer of all the side effects and complications of surgery.
If they did, that would make you too anxious to face surgery.
While another patient will tell you the real hard facts, and prepare you for what’s coming.
There are a lot of unknowns. No one can tell you the future with any certainty.
Often, there is pressure to do something. The surgeon wants to do something. And the family wants something to be done.
But doing nothing may be the best solution for quality of life.
Isn’t quality of life the goal?
Surviving with complications, constant anxiety and depression, and just not being happy is not living a quality life
Just take things as they come.
It is a good thing you are including all your family in your decisions. This is a personal journey, but also a familial one.
Try to keep the positive attitude you always have. I know it’s hard.
I am on a similar journey.
One thing my journey has taught me is that here in the US, we need a lot better genetic counseling. I had a hard time telling my family and asking for help
God bless
That sounds like good advice. Good luck/good health with your continuing journey
You are totally right. I hope Tiffany sees your post.
She should also speak with her Radiologist and Oncologist as they are usually brutally honest and do not sugar coat anything. They are part of her team not just the Surgeon.
@@peggysue7898 Perfectly said, plus everyone’s situation is unique, doesn’t matter how similar one may think they are.
@Laney 26 I'm pretty sure that her team will advise her of all of this. That's protocol with every surgery. Please, allow her to gain this knowledge through her surgical team and not on her RUclips site.
Matt has been so supportive of you. I’ve been so impressed with how amazing he’s been on your journey. 💙
I felt so strongly that I had to stop the video a third of the way in to say something. No one who saw the worried look on Matt's face the morning of your hospital appointment could ever doubt how much he loves you. He was trying to be brave for you, but it was obvious just how much he was hurting too. I love the little exchanges between you. You are such a cute couple. He is doing exactly what a supportive partner should do. He is supporting your decision and will be there for you whatever you decide to do. I would love a much older version of Matt for myself, if I was honest. Love to you all and now back to the video xxx
How can anyone even think that Matt isn’t being supportive, one only has to look into his eyes to see how much he adores and cherishes you x
Extremely well said 🥰🥰 agreed xxxxxxxxxxxxx
My dear child,
Matt is worth his weight in gold and his devotion to you is obvious. Shut out the naysayers. There will always be nasty and disgruntled people. Pity them, and move on. BTW, being that Matt is such a good cook, has he ever been a contestant on the Great British Baking show? Maybe a few years back?? He looks familiar. He is beautiful, inside and out. An all around terrific guy. Chin up Tiffany, don't waste your time or energy on this issue. You've got bigger fish to fry.
Matt is an angel! How dare anyone say one negative thing about that loving sweet man! It is so apparent how much he loves and cares about you, Tiffany. That really saddens me when he is so good. Love you both!
Matt is a wonderful man, you're lucky to have him there to support you.
Just the thought of how the former boyfriend would have reacted.... NOT like Matt who is head over heels in love.
@@alinafakin370 you are a disgrace! Tiffany is NOT feeling sorry for herself… she is in a life threatening situation and you are not helping!
It doesn’t look good it’s 50/50 I think she will pass way young 💀💀
Hannah h. Get help.
@@Hannah-sg4sr The devil is a LIAR! Why would you speak death, over this precious girl? You are vile. Everything that you called for Tiffany, I reverse that curse in the name of Jesus… and turn it back on YOU! Have the day, that you deserve.
You are so lucky to have such a wonderful partner in Matt. Cancer takes a village and having a loving partner is a big part of the battle. Hug Matt for all of us. Your mum too! Both are lovely!
Matt seems so much like my husband. I’m going through breast cancer and my sweet husband is the stoic and quiet type. People don’t need to underestimate how hard it is on our loved ones to watch us go through cancer. Matt seems like your sweet, strong rock and I’m so glad you have him to lean on. Love you sweet girl. You got this. 💙💙💙
Prayers for you as well, Amy! Good luck and blessings to your husband as well! 🙏🙏🙏
Beautifully put. I hope things go well for you x
Prayers for your recovery
Amy I am sending you so much love I am going to the hospital on Monday for a breast biopsy so now it's so stressful I'm sure e will be fine x
Hi Amy glad you also have a great husband.
I’m 64 yrs old and I’ve been with my husband since I was 13yrs old we have three beautiful sons and six grand children.
It’s great to be wanted.
Matt is amazing. He deserves no criticism at all. He is walking this journey with you and I don’t think anyone could ever ask for a better partner. Your mom and Matt are incredible. :)
As a 10 year cancer patient, I've learned that you have got to do whatever is right for you! Listening and receiving opinions is great, but advocating for yourself and shutting out the negatives is almost as important as treatment. I've found, at the end of the day, people are more upset by not following their own instincts than they are about being "wrong." I understand how people can become very invested, but, ultimately, you and your family are the ones who have to live with your choices. Absolutely no one else knows what you need, how you define your quality of life, or what you are capable of achieving. Hang in there. Ignore the distractions (including negative comments) and live your life ... one day at a time. I wish you well.
Well said. I wish you continued health.
@@beelarehman5992 Thank you!
I totally agree. Beautifully said
So sweet..your message to tiff 💙
Two time cancer patient here as well and here, here! Well said, indeed!
Tiffany, I am also under the care of the Marsden and have had to make difficult decisions with every part of my treatment which could potentially have long term life debilitating affects.
In my experience, the surgeons at the Marsden have an incredible success rate compared to national figures, if your surgeon is hesitant to go ahead with surgery it is for a very good reason.
As much as people online who are doctors or nurses or cancer sufferers or know someone in a similar situation, your team at the marsden know 100% of your cancer situation and they are who you should be guided by.
They may not be a loving family member but I believe that makes them even better equipped to judge the situation as they remove the emotional aspect and deal with the facts.
Please feel free to get in touch personally as I am local to you and happy to meet up if you want a coffee xxx
I hope Tiff sees your comment 🌻
I too am under the Marsden and totally agree with you xxx
Tiffany I hope you see this comment and will go for coffee. It may be such a great thing fie both of you to be able to share and support each other. Praying for you, Matt, your family and your team of DR'S.
Fantastic comment and my sentiments exactly xx
A lovely & wise comment.
I love Matt. He's sweet and shy..I hate that people are saying yucky things about him 😳
What? Who is talking smack about Matt? They can shut the hell up...
@@sandypandy9161 apparently people were commenting things about Matt like he doesn't care about Tiffany etc basically a bunch of BS. People can be really shocking 😡
@@bendietrees that's some bs...when I had cancer my husband was stoic for the world...but I would catch him crying in the garage...Matt is a hero and a Godsend. Shame on people...the whole family need our support Matt, Amma, and our beautiful Tiff. Makes me do angry people are shading him...
@@sandypandy9161 I think they are jealous
@@sandypandy9161 aw angel that breaks my heart to hear how your husband cried for you in private. What a good, strong man. Are you cancer free now?
I think Matt is a top guy. He's a keeper. He seems a bit shy which is endearing. He comes across very loving and caring. I love his Northern Irish accent too.
Please tell Matt, he is deeply respected by lots of people he’s never met, myself included. My spouse is my caregiver (chronic long term autoimmune) and I know just how hard that is. It’s often grueling and so difficult. You two will make the best decisions for you both. You shouldn’t have to give one seconds thought to anyone not supportive. I pray for you both. 💜🇺🇸🌵
agree we’ll said .
Agreed. This is overwhelming for Matt too as it would be for anyone.
How can anyone think that Matt doesn't care for you??? He is amazing...and it is SO obvious how much he loves you! You are so loved, Tiffany...by Matt and your Mom above all! 💙
Perhaps he's just trying to put on a brave face so as not to worry her even further.
This is a lovely message about your partner Matt. He is going through this just as much as Amma and you. Let's send loving thoughts to Matt and support. I am sorry you had such unkind comments. It was a great message. I hope your videos help anyone else going through your type of cancer. I was wearing the gray v-neck "We Got This" t-shirt to my doctor's yesterday and told him about you. (He is a GI and I have a much easier cancer than you have.). Sending much love. I am glad you got more answers about the risks of surgery. It is important to know how life changing the surgery can be.
May I know what cancer you got?
@@eunchaneunchan I have Neuroendocrine. I had a 3cm tumor removed from my small intestine and it has spread to the lymph nodes. I still have one area of cancer and it is being watched. I do get injections for symptom management (Sandostatin) and took a break for a few months but start back up in October.
You got this Matt!! We love you
@@Missing_Xindi stay strong! Sending love, 🍀
@@Missing_Xindi many prayers for you as you fight neuroendocrine cancer 🫶🙏🏼
My darling Tiffany.
Matt deserves no criticism, he’s a wonderful, loving partner. You are wonderful together, so lucky to have each other. Your Mum is an absolute gem. The three of you are a cocoon of love and support. I think some people may be envious of that hence the delusional comments. Do not let them upset any of you, they are simply wrong.
Love Patricia Starkey.
What a beautiful thing to say ! 💜
Well said Patricia ,Matt is a wonderful man ,I love you all much xd
I wish I had a person like Matt when I was going through my cancer journey. He's so supportive and kind. A true treasure.
Sending love and prayers your way @Sian Strong and @Truth1 🌈🙌🏼🙏🏼🫶🏼
@Sian Strong Me too. Matt is wonderful and supportive. When I had chemo I went to every one by myself because my then bf was not that supportive. He’s been history for a long time now as I never forgave him. We are with you every step of the way Tiffany ❣️
Wow, the way you handled the negative comments about your partner and the way you educated some of the “unfriendly” viewers, deserves an award!!! The amount of professionalism you are displaying, tells how mentally mature you are at this very young age! Yes, most of us know that Mat is not about social media and that’s okay! He respects, adores and cares about you. He does this by keeping calm and firm, because that is what you and Amma need during this bumpy journey💙
I can’t believe people were so judgmental with Matt. I love seeing Matt say hello and you can tell he isn’t comfortable with the camera. A big shout to Matt for keeping it altogether and being there to share this journey with you and your family. Matt you’ve got this💙
. Good luck on your journey I know you'll come out the other end being healthy and well
I admire your
I admire your courage
A blind person can see how much Matt loves and supports you. There’s no question! Everyone in your circle, )including your tiffanythinks family), is on your cancer journey with you. It’s your body and your life. Just here to support! We got this!💙💙💙💙
I think people forget this is matts journey too, taking away all of your pelvic interior means you’ll always need medical intervention one way or another, risks of infection, body image, loss of fertility, it’s not the future you or Matt imagined. Having the surgery, is still no guarantee it’ll never come back, not having the surgery doesn’t mean it’ll come back either! What’s important is life, but being alive is not the same as living. You do what your gut tells you. What ever the future holds live what ever life you have left with no regrets, never look back and go.. but what if. Because none of us have the gift of hindsight. Massive of loves to you all
Matt is amazing,I just couldn't imagine you going through this without matt,you did the right thing sticking up for him...we love you too Matt xxx
I agree! They are a great and strong couple..
There is approximately a 41% false negative when diagnosing mucinous adenocarcinoma with a PET scan. The best way to check for that cancer is with a Diffusion Weighted (DW) MRI. Your surgeon/oncologist would be aware of this. My best to you and your family.
Good information
It is not surprising that the PET scan did not light up, because the neoadjuvant therapy transformed the adenocarcinoma to mucin pools. Scanning is difficult. Prognosis is difficult. So many unknowns
How know this even
I've been where Matt's been and no one knows what it's like until they've been there. Matt you deserve a medal, I know how hard it is watching the love of your life go through this, trying to see the positives whenever you get the chance. Tiffany I send you all the love, prayers and hope i have. God bless you all.
Ps to the negative commenters pray you dont have to walk in their shoes !
I really haven't seen a negative comment its really just people are saying not to listen to Matt because his advice isn't very smart, nothing really horrible about him, but like she said, he doesn't know anything about cancer, like alot of people don't
Matt is amazing, he’s brilliant with you , he’s so loving, ignore negativity, he’s your soulmate for sure! I have had cancer, my partner went through so much emotion feeling helpless too but I said just being there my love is what I needed through our cancer story, cancer affected us both as a couple. Xxx
I do have something to say about Matt.....
He is an honorable man who loves you unconditionally!
I'm very happy for you both!!!!
God bless your mum! Honestly she is such a beautiful beautiful soul 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
She’s always by your side 💖💖💖💖
Your darling Matt is AMAZING! I don’t know what others are seeing, it is SO obvious he adores you! Don’t listen to the haters, it’s only because they are miserable and want others to feel the same!
Remember to ask the surgeon “ If it was his daughter or wife, would he have them do the surgery” that really is the ONLY question you should ask.
Matt has been nothing but an absolute star!! Even from the 20 seconds we see of him we know he’s been a rock. Plus whatever he suggests in terms of treatment is only coming from a place of wanting Tiffany to better and we love that!!
Matt is wonderful. Please don't even respond to those naysayers. He love you so much . We all see that.
Matt is a wonderful partner! He is caring, loving and tender, I admire your relationship, you both are so brave to open about this difficult time in your live, and I think we are here to support you so any criticism is out of place. You deserve respect for your opinions and decisions. May God send you the wisdom to make the best choice for you! Love you deeply!
The fact that Matt stayed with you when he can just leave and move on with his life, already says a lot about his good nature. Dont know how some people can be so shallow. I love ur amma to pieces. I wish she was my amma. 😍😍😍. You are in my prayers Tiffany. Always. Sending my Love all the way from Malaysia. 🙂
Matt is such a mature and wonderful man. Praying for Matt, as well.
Matt, you are a STAR! Don't give these negative ninnies a second thought. Your love for Tiffany shines through 😁
I just don't understand two things. 1.) How the tumor which has invaded the uterus has disappeared and no longer shows on a scan. And 2.) If there is nothing there and you are healed from chemo and radiation, why is he offering you a choice of surgery or a deferred surgery? I think he needs to get on the phone and spend 30 minutes explaining himself. Much love Tiffany, you're going through so much!
Me too. I’m confused 😐 about The Who thing. God bless Tiffany
The whole thing
Matt is a GEM!!!!! He dropped everything and moved in with you to support you and Ama. He has been there every step of the way. It is pretty obvious to me that he is the most supportive guy around. I haven't even finished the video, but the thought of anyone criticizing Matt got me a bit riled up.
If only i had had been able to find someone like him…
Matt is THE best!!!!! We can tell how much he loves you!! so sorry you've received hurtful responses ..
💙Hi Tiffany - (from USA) I’ve been following you for almost the whole year since your diagnosis. I also have cancer - stage 4 lymphoma and now aggressive breast cancer. It’s so much to process! People with negative comments just have NO idea unless they have been in your shoes!! I absolutely understand what you’re going through and I’m glad you and Matt are getting more info from your doctor. Whatever you decide to do will be right for YOU and it’s YOUR decision of course with Ama & Matt’s input too, because they ARE going thru this with you daily!)
I am in a completely different situation (I’m much older and have other medical problems also) than you and have decided not to even do chemo nor further diagnostic testing, but to live my life each day the best I can with whatever time I have….it was MY decision and it’s what’s best for me, whether people understand or not. Just do what is best for YOU - your surgery would absolutely be life-changing! It’s a HUGE decision!
Matt is such an AMAZING and supportive partner and you are blessed to have him. I don’t have a “Matt” in my life, so believe me, I know the value of a partner like him! …..please don’t even think about the negative comments! Bless you for standing up for him!! Having someone to go thru all this with you is HUGE and Matt is truly an angel! So loving and supportive!
Just know that there are so many watching who have not commented before, but we watch, we laugh with you, cry with you, celebrate with you and worry with you. And some of us are on a cancer journey of our own and understand the difficult decisions on a completely different level.
Always in my thoughts and prayers - hugs to Matt, Ama, your huge extended family, so many wonderful friends and all who support and love you! You truly are so blessed that “*WE* Got This”…..I did not buy a shirt because it’s *I* for me instead of *we*. Please never allow anyone to discount the value of your *WE*……STAY STRONG - YOU ARE AMAZING!! 💙
Dear Sunny Bunny, what a truly lovely comment you wrote. As you are much more knowledgable on what Tiffany is going through, since you yourself have cancer, your comments are very helpful. I wish you all the best on your very hard journey. I will keep you in my prayers also. Sending you much love and a big hug, Susan from Switzerland ( american ex-pat from NJ )
Sunny Bunny I’m so sorry that you are going through such a difficult journey. It sounds like you have made some very difficult decisions. I’m glad you feel empowered to choose what is best for you on your own terms. I’m sorry you don’t have more support. I am sending love your way and hoping you find continued peace on your journey. ❤️
God bless you Sunny Bunny.🙏💖
will be praying for you ,. want you to know that you will be in my thoughts.. greetings from Holland xxx Juliette
You are in my prayers too SunnyBunny.
Much love from The Netherlands
You, Matt and your mum are a team. That’s all that matters. He seems nothing but supportive and lovely. 💙 sending you all the positivity in the world. Hopefully you can talk to your surgeon soon so that you can have a clearer plan.
Everytime Matt is in the videos, he is always supportive and I can see the love he has for you and your family. No one should be critical about anything that Matt does or doesn’t do because we are only able to see a snippet of your day. Love you Tiffany, Matt , Ammah & the rest of your family. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰😘
It's wonderful that Matt is so supportive of you and your journey, even though he is not into social media! Shows the depth of his love for you!!
I watched your u tube channel and listenef to the song you dedicated to Tiffany. Lost and Found I believe. It was so beautiful. In my last reply to Tiffany, I wrote to her about your chanel and the song dedicated to her. I hope she will listen to it. What a loving soul you are. Susan
@@susanbaptista3967 Thanks so much for your kind words on this. Tiffany has heard the song and commented on my channel which was wonderful of her!! Thanks again!
Oh my gosh, I can’t believe anyone would say that about Matt.. he seems the most caring, supportive, devoted partner ever. We can see how much you love each other..you have a beautiful relationship. We’re all praying for you, we’ve got this💗✨🙏🏻
I would definitely bring your oncology team into these discussions. I feel they probably know more about the cancer side as opposed to the surgery side. I am glad you are scheduled to talk to them as well.
I agree. Either you have cancer or you don’t. I feel like you’re not getting straight answers from the surgeon, or maybe he’s just not communicating with you well. I’m sure you’re very confused and frustrated.
Perhaps I’m mistaken but I believe to do the surgery her surgeon must be a surgical oncologist….
Don't let the negative people on your channel affect the strength and positivity you need for your lifes journey. Matt has been exactly who and what you need. He is wonderful as is your mum, you seem to have such a loving relationship. Attacking Matt is disrespectful , ugly,venemous and detremental to your situation. This may seem odd but in this video your hair is radientally healthy and you look wonderful. Take care,enjoy the good days and ignore the Negative Nellies they know nothing and do not have your best interests at heart.xx
I was a caregiver to someone that had cancer. I can see Matt not only cares about you but deeply loves you. People that speak negativity dont know anything about what goes through the mind of a person who has a loved one going through cancer. They can kick rocks !
Not only are you living with cancer for a year YOU ARE KICKING CANCER'S TAIL FOR A YEAR ♥️
Matt isn’t just your darling… He’s our darling! He’s a sweet and loving man who is doing his best to support you through what will probably be the most difficult time the two of you will endure. Shame on anyone who’s been critical of him. He’s a young man and it’s understandable that he wouldn’t have any answers for you. That’s not why he’s there! He’s there to love you and support you and he’s doing an outstanding job of that. Much love to you both! Hugs to Amma too! 💜💜💜💜
Matt is HEAVEN SENT. AMMA AS WELL.
Well said @Debra Davis. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
We all need a Matt! He's one of a darlin' kind.
Tiff your channel is getting bigger, it gets statistically easier to get comments from people who are just not as sensitive or mature. My suggestion is just ignore them, even if they are not trolls. Anyone who stops here just to say unsupportive things is just not getting the point of this channel and that's just sad for them..kisses we got this!
Was about to say this.. more people, more trolls..
I can’t believe that people thinks that Mat doesn’t care! He’s one of the most caring boyfriend I have seen! He doesn’t have to do what he’s doing, remember he’s doing it because he loves you and and is there to support you! I think people that are negative should not be commenting on your channel! I bet those so called advisers have no darn compassion, they just want to bring you down! Don’t let them. Sending you Mat and your dear sweet mun lots of blessings ❤❤❤🫂🫂🫂🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It’s not about Matt now
Hi Tiffany, this is the first time I have commented on here after following your journey for a long time. Firstly, I want you to know how brave you are, I cannot imagine how hard this must be for you and I am sending you as much strength as I can fit in to this message. When I heard you replay what the nurse had told you it just became so clear to me that you must be the one who makes the decision with the help and support from your darling Matt and your amazing family. We are here for you whatever you decide to do but this is your life, and your future. Please take all the time and all the professional guidance you need. Whatever you decide will be the right thing because it’s what you want. I will keep you in my thoughts.
I couldn´t have said it better.
I love how you say “my darling”…it warms my heart.
I love how you call Matt “my darling”. Always makes me smile! 💕💙
We have a saying in Italy: ' Angels with just One Wing can fly holding each other' , you and Matt are just like this. Take your time to digest all the information and speak to your surgeon. With the support of all your loved ones you Will get through this.💙
What a lovely comment.
Love this comment.
What a beautiful thing to say.❤
Hi Tiffany, you said something that really stood out and I’d like to highlight that. “The surgery is life threatening and life changing.” Cancer is too. We stand with you and will pray with you and for you in whatever decision you make. No more comments from me, too much input can also be anxiety inducing. Take your time and the knowledge that you’ve acquired and make the decision that best suits you, pray about it and The Lord will help you. 💙
That’s so sad that someone would be so negative on someone they don’t know personally. Keep your head up and say hello to Matt! You’ve both got this!
Matt is such and amazing supportive boyfriend, anyone who’s sees different hasn’t truly watched you…you both make a great team..you share your life with us and that feels like a privilege to me, you don’t have to..THANK YOU..YOU GOT THIS..WE GOT THIS! 💜💜💜
Yes, its obvious that Matt loves you.
How could anyone especially a stranger make a comment like that?
I can’t imagine how difficult this decision would be and I pray God gives you peace with whatever feels right for you. Also I would like to say that even though we just see clips of your life you can see the love that Matt and your family have for you. You all are always in my prayers❤️
I don’t comment often here but I just have to say Tiffany you are such an incredibly sweet person. I can’t wait for you to be cancer free. Your positivity and ability to handle this journey with such grace is truly an inspiration to so many of us. Thank you Tiffany for sharing your light with us.
Lots of love and prayers to you. Don't pay any attention to the negative comments. Matt is your angel 😘
My opinion has changed from last video. immediately I was like Get the surgery straight away but now I realise its your decision and you alone who has to do what's right for you, what feels right for you. Matt is your rock, incredible human being just like Amma and they'll always have your back in every situation. We will be here supporting and lifting you no matter what outcome you arrive at Tiffany. Please know we are all routing for you in this journey 🙏, hugs wee doll from a wife who's husband has cancer too xx we got this 💙 xx
Hi Tiffany, I would advise having regular private scans to stay on top of the cancer returning. This way you are ahead of the game as oppose to relying on NHS scans and their times between scans. Full of admiration for you, Matt, your Mum and family. Keep going ! We are all so proud of you!
It’s really sad that people were critical of Matt’s reaction. He clearly wants the best for you and just wants to support you as best he can and support you in whatever decision you come to 💙💙
Matt has never portrayed anything but love, caring and 100% support for you and your journey. You have a great support system. Those that cannot recognize that have probably never been through trials of their own and/or had to support a loved one through such things. ❤ 💙 💜
Oh yeah, Matt is amazing! Sadly, a lot of men would leave instead of supporting their partner like they're supposed to. The fact that Matt stayed and is by her side through all of this proves he loves her completely and truly.
I guess these negative horrors gave never been loved. Matt is beautiful inside and out💙💙💙
Tiffany, Matt is a great man. The way he looks at you is so endearing and sincere. He adores you! Let the negativity go. I have been an Oncology nurse for close to forty years and I can say from experience Matt and your family a such a large part of your journey and cure.
Matt is amazing! So sorry there were some who judged his reactions!
Wow, I've always thought how sweet and caring Matt is and not sure how anyone could think otherwise. You are very lucky to have such a wonderful and supporting partner.
Tiffany, your platform is about you and your journey. We are all here to support you through this journey, just remember this is a marathon, not a sprint. You have the best positive attitude, you will beat this monster, and you have no idea how many people you are helping. You’ve got This ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I can’t believe anyone would say that about Matt. It is so obvious even through the little bit we see of him how supportive and caring he is. I’m so happy you have him by your side during this!
Honestly, even I thought “what’s there to think, if surgery saves you, then y wait” but after listening to you it makes so much sense. We see only one side, and you have sooooooo much to think about. Sending lots of love and prayers for you, Amma and Matt ❤️🧿
But surgery is not always the answer. Tiffany has been sick and weak and maybe now is not the time. Maybe it is.
Tiffany, I’m so sorry that you and your family are going through this. Matt is amazing. I’ve been dealing with cancer for about 11 yrs now. I’ve had cancer 5 times and now it’s possibly in my lungs. I understand totally what you are going through. Just really wanted to say that, YES, we’ve got this!! I keep you in my thoughts sweetheart. {{{Hugs}}}
🙏 for you.🤗
Praying for your healing . It's so grateful of you going through this, to extend encouragement
Matt is your safe place away from social media, and along with being a classy guy, he is such a tender person.
Matt is an outstanding guy - very genuine , sweet , thoughtful , reliable , and loving . What more could you ask for ??
I think getting a second opinion is a great idea. It's all so overwhelming I think talking to another doctor and seeing what he thinks could help. That's obviously just my opinion. My heart breaks that you had some bad comments about Matt. I think most of us love your Matt. He's such a keeper and a true sweetheart. 💙💙
Pshhh, we'd all be fortunate to have a Matt! He's such a great, supportive partner! Y'all Got This!
Yes girl we’re not putting him down we’re just saying he’s not a doctor I have I had colon cancer a year ago and I know it’s been a year and I’m still dealing with that going to see my doctor every six months and is always going to be like that and I had my surgery and I’m much better thank God but you should think about having your surgery and not wait especially because it would spray everywhere in your body so don’t think that we’re putting your honey down. Just use some common sense for yourself to specially when you share your life.
You are absolutely right. People were not rude about Matt, they were just concerned about her health.
Some may well have been rude about Matt. We didn't necessarily see all the comments.
I wish you'd just said the PET scan was clear at the previous video, people were so confused and worried for you. Nothing was making sense to us on delaying surgery. A clear scan makes a HUGE difference. So happy for you!💙
Hi Tiffany, I just wanted to say I’m so proud of you for doing these video during your treatment! I was diagnosed with cancer at the new year and finished my treatment in April and I don’t know how you have been able to still do these videos during your treatment, you are such a strong person!
Tiffany, you and you alone will choose to make the right decision for you and it doesn’t matter what other people think or say, please just focus on yourself and not what other people say! Each person will choose to do what they think is right for them and you will too!
At the end of my treatment all I kept thinking was if I needed more treatment I would say no or that I need a break cos I found it so hard and I knew that people around wouldn’t be able to understand but I was very lucky that I haven’t needed any more treatment.
Please take some time away from other peoples opinions and make the right decision for you!
Thank you for sharing with the world!
This is such a important point of view. Congratulations on completing your treatment & wishing you full health
I never comment on videos and I don’t really have any advice but I just want to say that I think you and Matt are incredible and so so brave sharing your journey. You must be inspiring so many people without even realizing it! There will always be rude, ignorant people but look how much support and admiration you have! Everyone is behind you whatever decision you make and we are all wishing you well xx
Yes Tiffany is very brave and always tries to stay positive.
Well said, exactly my thoughts 👏 xxx
Hello Tiffany... I'm from Cape Town, South Africa. I want to comment about the negativity around Matt. I've experienced caring for my Mom and uncle during their cancer journey. People will never understand the emotions of the loved ones caring for the cancer patient, especially during their lowest moments. We share all those emotions with you and we cover our emotions because we have to be strong and positive all the time for the patients well being. Your Ammas love for Matt is so evident and that tells us what a wonderful person he must be. Keep strong, at the end its all in God's hands...continue praying for His guidance. Love and prayers 🌹🙏
I’m glad that you have Matt and he’s so supportive! It’s very difficult to watch someone you love go through this. People shouldn’t comment on things they don’t know. I think it’s very good that you’re talking with the surgeon and getting the whole picture. Decisions are best made once completely educated. Just breathe Tiff, you got this!
Matt is lovely and so supportive, you can see that from the clips. This is your journey and your choices.
Lots of prayers and hopefully Cancer free soon, my respect for Matt and your mom who are always there by your side to help you cope with everything and obviously to all your family.
Tiff, Matt is wonderful! He is a beautiful soul and takes such, good care of you. He adores you. I’m so sorry people were demeaning and expressing skepticism of him. He only wants the best for you, so it’s frustrating to hear people comment anything to the contrary. Sending you so much love and hugs xox
matt for the win!! i love that he wasn’t taking “the doctor is ill” as an answer! 💪🏻
tiffany, please hear this: i went through this with my mom and my best friends husband passed from cancer two months ago. START THE GO FUND ME NOW!! you don’t know what twists and turns are ahead of you, and having it in place and growing will be so helpful and a comfort. and you can use the money to have some fun too! a fabulous mini break, a day at the spa for your mom!
💛and✨
Lovely thought but she politely said she's so overwhelmed that people are thinking this way but she doesn't need help financially, proberbly by doing a go fund me page might feel like she's loosing the fight and she's far from loosing any fight so my thinking is this is why she's declining,
I just don’t understand how you can from a stage 3 t4b malignant tumour which hasn’t responded well to Chemo and radiation (didn’t shrink) to it spontaneously disappearing into thin air and you having no cancer……
Even if the tumour wasn’t/isn’t now cancerous, you can’t just leave a tumour to grow through multiple pelvic organs and have it not be taken out….
I'm currently having chemo for exactly the same cancer as you....T4 tumour. I was luckily (if u can say that) enough to have emergency surgery and have a extended right hemicolectomy, with good margins after removal. Im having chemo as it was in 3 out of 48 lymph nodes. I really can't advise you on what to do but whatever it is...I wish you all the luck in the world.
We got this 💪😍
Thank you so much for this update! Knowing the PET scan was clear is very reassuring. With my experience with my mom's cancer journey, I can say your quality of life is the most important thing. I am always thinking of you and praying for you 🙏
Tiffany I just love your mom such a beautiful lady inside and out I can see where you get your personality and beauty from . Matt is wonderful person I can see how devoted he is to you with your journey with cancer it is yours and Matt’s decision how you handle the treatment so sorry people think they have to judge Matt you are truly blessed to have Matt and your mom stay strong .
Dearest Tiffany, one thing I'm SO confused about (so goodness knows how you must be); is if the scans and biopsies are showing negative for cancer, why is surgery still required? And if your surgeon IS still considering surgery, he must believe some cancer IS still there, so then why is he suggesting waiting 6 weeks? Surely that would risk it getting worse? I don't understand.
Cancer can be easily missed if it is too small to be picked up on scans, or is elsewhere other than a site that was biopsied so the surgery would be a preventative measure incase of recurrence as far as I’m aware
If Tiffany has no cancer anymore (except for potential lingering cancer cells), then why is a deeply life-altering surgery still an option?
Also, why didn't the surgeon say: Tiffany, I have good news, the cancer responded really well to the chemo and radiation and is now gone as far as we can see, the scans are clean and so are the biopsies. This has become a whole different ball game now and you don't need surgery anymore. Now, that doesn't mean the cancer is literally completely gone and that you are cured, in medicine we don't call it cured or cancer-free because there could still be cancer cells in and around the area of where the cancer was, even if I took biopsies that don't show any, plus there could be cancer cells in other organs that we can't pick up in scans. That's why I suggest a couple of other rounds of chemo. I have good faith Tiffany especially considering the cancer is responding so well to chemo. I watch your videos, and it won't be long anymore before you will be able to do a boomerang.
Why wasn't it a clear story, something like this, in the car and why weren't Tiffany and Matt accordingly happy and relieved? Why were some things unclear like cancer cells that would have changed into innocent micu?
Why did the surgeon say: the disadvantage of waiting though is that "it" could spread/grow and become inoperable in 6 weeks.
(Hence people responding: be careful, Matt shouldn't assume the cancer won't or can't dangerously spread in 6 weeks.) "It" referring to cancer, thus the surgeon saying the cancer is still there.
More importantly, other people responded that Micunous Adenocarcinoma doesn't show up in scans. And to ask her doctor to confirm if this is her diagnosis? And that the micu itself *is* the cancer.
Yet other people said the cancer cells are hard to detect in biopsy after chemo, and also wondered if this may be the reason the surgeon suggested to wait for 6 weeks without chemo to do another biopsy again. Again? Tiffany isn't a guinea pig. And then why do a biopsy after chemo the first time?
So .... Does Tiffany still have cancer or not?
I can’t imagine how hard it is to make a decision like this. Knowing that the pet scan was clear as well as the biopsy, I can understand why the surgeon would suggest waiting. He truly knows the quality of life the surgery leaves people with & I also believe that the last thing he would ever want suggest would be waiting & not doing the surgery if he thought the end result would not be well. Whatever you choose to do, we will support you because the decision is yours & you owe no one an explanation. You got this!! ❤️❤️😘
@@patsyhay9592 True. I am the first to admit that I do not have any first had experience with anything even remotely close to a situation like this. I can’t even imagine what goes into a decision like this & the mental turmoil that goes along with making it.
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@@janneal9156 I don't understand this too. This was the only surgeon who would agree to operate on Tiffany and take on her case because its a complicated one. From what I understand the tumor was quite big too can it really just be gone? After the chemo and radiation didn't do anything and the doctor told her it wouldn't so anything either it was just to give them time to come up with a plan? Non of this makes sense or maybe I'm the one who's not understanding it
@@janneal9156 she has clean biopsies, clear pet scan and a clear colonoscopy. the treatment worked. her stage of cancer (locally advanced stage 3) has a good survival rate 71%.
Also if you go back and watch the video of her results video in May with her mom in the car after her second round of chemo and radiation, she was told it did shrink 'some' and that she was told she was responding well to chemo, however the team of doctor's treating her met and discussed whether to continue with more chemo since she was responding to it, or to ship her over to this current surgery who does the very difficult full pelvic removal surgery, they decided to have her see the surgeon who does the complicated surgery at RM in London. He then put her on six more weeks of chemo then did biopsies and scans. They turned out to be clear.
Maybe her if oncologist team opted for the additional chemo round they would have had the same results. Either way, it seems as if she's been offered Deferral Of Surgery as an option and even a recommendation by her surgeon. This option is only offered to those who have had clinical response to treatment. This is good news.
@@janneal9156 she looks sickly because she had a bad infection then had biopsies that caused vomiting and bleeding. All things considered she looks okay.
I lost My Dad to Stage 4 metastatic Prostate Cancer in 2017 and I now help care for and support my mom who has stage 4 metastatic breast cancer .
I just want to say I think you are so courageous and I love your positive attitude .
It's people like you with amazingly warm hearted spirits that help the rest of us get through our own days
And I am praying for you 🙏🙏🙏 much love from Vancouver Island British Columbia Canada .
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