My father once grumbled "well, I guess your sisters going to be the only one to give me grandkids." And I said "yup!" Because he didn't deserve kids, why should he deserve grandkids? Guess he just wanted to feel important and have someone to yell at and make feel small one more time before he dies.
Personally when I have kids with my future wife I’m not letting my abusive asshole of a dad see them as long as I can help it. Because I’m gonna be the one who breaks the four generations of abuse.
When I was a little kid, my gen X mom kept me away from my shitty boomer grandparents because of the way they talked down and belittled her around me. I’m 30 now and there was a time where she felt a little bad that I never got the chance to build my own relationship with them, but I was quick to point out that I wouldn’t want to spend time with people talking trash about my awesome mom. ❤ These were the kind of religious nuts who chastised and humiliated my mom because she was divorced, I can only imagine how shitty they’d be to me once the find out I’m engaged to a woman. In other words, no love lost where there’s no love to find.
All facts. These people still dont get that kids are a responsibility not a fashion statement. And they made at us for acting like a redponsable adult??!
My grandpa died of lung cancer a little less than a month ago. Hurts a lot even though we weren't close. Idk if it was covid, moving away, growing up, whatever. He never talked too much, although a lot of ghe time I think we still got each other. But as I grew older, I talked less, so it was harder to be close with him or even have a convo whenever I'd stay over, we just didn't click anymore. Sorry lol, I think I'm mainly just typing this for myself cuz I'm sad lol. I'm just saying, somd older people/people in general have a hard time talking, they prefer to be quiet, in some cases they can't communicate well with kids/teens although his case was different. It may have played a role.
My boomer stepmother is furious with me for "locking her out" of my kids lives. She would offer to do things with them, but the children had to plan the "date". And after being turned down too many times, the kids quit asking.
A family friend, who already has three grandchildren, made a comment to me that people my age need to “hurry up and have kids so we can enjoy them!” “We” as in her, not me or my family.
@@reagan1552 when a former friend of mine became an aunt I told her that she is like a dementor who is arbsorbing the happiness of the newborn child. As a potterhead she agreed. They are all dementors 🤷♀️
Not to mention, her money was worth more relative to what it’s worth now when she was waiting tables in her 20s. Her hard work paid off. I know people now working 60 hours a week well above minimum wage to just stay afloat. Our hard work is worth next to nothing.
Yep. This has been needed to be talked about for a really long time now. Everyone is saying, “Don’t expect your parents to watch YOUR kids.” Yet why are our parents allowed to expect us to have kids? Or worse, they are allowed to shame us for having the discernment not to have kids because we can’t afford it! She’s right. “If my car breaks down I’m destitute.” We are living well past the great depression into the great destitution. And our parents that decided to bring us into this awful mess, have decided that they are done, simply because legally they can be. Which makes me feel like they have always wanted to be done, even before they started. They only had kids so that we could give them grandchildren. Grandchildren that they don’t want to have any responsibility for. There! I said it. It needed to be said.
@@davidlafleche1142 They want grandkids for the school pictures and bragging rights at the senior center: "...And this is my grandson Kaiden, he made the varsity football team ya know"
I'm pretty sure my Boomer mom would watch my kids for free if I ever had any because she loves kids so much. However, I have absolutely no intention of ever having kids. She has many grandkids and great-grandkids already from my brothers, so she doesn't need more from me. I don't care how disappointed she is about it, I hate kids!
Not everyone wants children nor do they want to raise them and that's O.K. I don't know why some people just think life isn't worth living unless you have kids . The one drawback is that when you get older you don't have your children to help you. Then again, a lot of kids never help out their parents anyway so they're still at a loss.
@@robertkartechner5850 I think having kids would make my life a lot worse. I also think I'd rather rely on future technology and society in general to take care of me when I'm old than rely on my potential kids.
@@MatthewTheWanderer My ex took my son some 1300 miles away and cut off communication with him so I don't know how it would have worked out. So, I am essentially without kids for some 47 or 48 years and yeah, it's OK. It's quiet and have lots of freedom. My sister has kids and grand kids so I get to experience it that way. Not sure how my last years will be but one day at a time.
@@robertkartechner5850 My brothers both have kids and my older brother has grandkids that are the same age as my younger brothers kids. So, I'm technically an uncle and granduncle, but I have nothing to do with any of my many nieces and nephews and I have no desire to ever be involved with them at all. So, I don't understand the desire to "get to experience it that way" at all. Why should I or anyone else want to experience that!? I don't like being around kids. Full stop. Why should I have to be around kids just because my brothers made a bad decision without me?
As Latin american person, I find interesting these arguments. In here is total opposite. Many unresponsible kids since decades have had children then later are raised by their grandparents while they are working or living their lives. My mom raised her first 3 grandkids while my brothers and in laws were working. Im 42, no kids, and Im the one living and taking care of my mom.
Honestly I don't know what is wrong with many boomers in the USA. Not all, but quiet a few are Karens andsuper entitled. It's interesting to see the differences! Thanks for sharing!
I know of many parents (eventual grandparents) who have helped pay tuition, help with a down-payment, gifted cars. And grandparents that help with childcare, pick up at schools, sports outings.
I'm blessed to have known many like that, too. I've also known parents who had to ration food while living out of a car. And my own mother contested my grandmother's will to disinherit me, so some parents will outright steal from their kids, too.
Went no contact with my entire family in Feb after my brother attacked his son and my daughter on separate occasions few days apart. Every day is better than day before since then and my kids are closer to me now 50’s before I figured it out And no contact means no contact…grey rock…don’t wait
My mom was raised by her grandmother because my granny had to work, my granny raised me (she lived with us) because my mom and dad had to work and my mom always said that she would raise my children if I wanted her to do it. I don’t understand people that receive but don’t want to give.
Hi hi… Gen-Xer here. Let me give you a couple tips from our playbook. 1. Don’t GAF whether your parents want you to have kids are not. You’re the one responsible, so your decision to have kids needs to be independent of their wishes for your life. 2. Getting a good job after college sucked for us, too. That’s why many of us became entrepreneurs. Oh and “We didn’t start the fire.” That’s our thing tyvm 😂😂… But in all seriousness, do what you can. Make decisions that work for you so that you don’t get stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Exactly the mentality of the Boomers. Queen Antoinette mentality. And she got hung for it. The Boomers might think they are getting off Scott free, but God is going to hold them accountable.
@@RollerBaller basically "I'm doing pretty good. I have all my needs met, so that must mean that everyone's just complaining and being greedy, because surely their needs are already met just like mine are.'
As a 53 year old genX. My daughter is expecting my first grandkids. I'm so excited i could shout it from the rooftops. My child is in charge of her babies and as long as i get to be a part of their lives. I will be enormously happy ❤
Everytime my Nana tries to pressure me to have kids (I don't want kids if I could afford them or not) I always ask if SHE'S gonna be the one taking care of them She wants them, not me. Her responsibility. But she's not gonna want that (which is reasonable) so no grandkids from me. Because I sure as hell don't want to take care of them
Boomers: The younger generations are too obsessed with sex. Also Boomers: The younger generations aren't having enough kids. ...Well how else are people supposed to have kids???
Many Boomers compare the time they were young to the time Gen X and Millenials were young. They never got the fact, that the times and the workplace and the whole setting of society changed so rapidly. Many Gen Xers knew in their 20ies and early 30ties that they will work until the end and everything was more expensive and the future looked darker for them than the Boomers, who grew up in an massiv economic upswing. Many Boomers didnt spent much time with their children, but always wanted grandkids.... some of them because THEY had the plan to be grandparents.... and there were few questions how their children (Gen X) will get along.
I am a genxer and my boomer Mother told me that she wasn't going to be an everyday babysitter like my friends parents were, well that was fine with me as I am the parent not my Mother but in retrospect she is a wonderful Nanna. Needless to say my husband who worked hard in poor paying labouring positions and I looked after our 3 children without childcare or babysitters until it was time for them to go to school where got the position of a parent helper. We make our own way in this world and shouldn't rely on others if we cannot rely on ourselves first especially when it has to do what is right for our children. Today I am the grandmother of 4 and I do everything that I can to help my children raise their own beautiful offspring. This is my prerogative to do with my life as I see fit just as it is that of the young lady's mother whose post I am commenting on but as I surround myself with my beautiful family I can't help thinking how much that her Mother has missed on.
1966 Gen X’r here! Way to represent! Excellent wisdom for everyone done in true Gen X style! Grounded in reality, seasoned with love with just enough kick in the pants for motivation and demonstrating our self reliant attitude!
Boomer here. I spent my preteen and teen years looking being daycare for my brother. The summer I was twelve I potty trained him. I was a latchkey kid before there was a name for it. I know what it takes to look after children. Been a school teacher for over 35 years. I do not have the energy or desire to look after little ones for any extended length of time, especially with the very different standards/ rules my friends child asks her to abide by when she babysits her grandkids. My patience is at a very low ebb with children who haven’t heard no or been taught some very basic ways to deal with being corrected in any way.
What I’m trying to say that it is possible there are deeper reasons why an older adult might want to watch kids other than sheer selfishness. My friend in the role of grandparent caregiver tried to impose structure on her grandkids life when sitting for him and got countermanded and undermined by his parents at every turn. They didn’t want to impose structure or bedtime on a toddler because ‘he would go to bed when he was tired’, seriously he was so overtired but seemed to have advanced fomo as a baby.
Good for you, you sound reasonable and decent. I assure you many of your generation are *not* like that. I have a pretty big sample size to reference here.
Attention Boomers. Since y'all have 50yrs of work experience, please, figure out how to make as much money as possible to help the younger generations. Thank you.
@@notbextley6997 I never went to High school , my parents had to many off there own issues and no time for six kids, no goverment support and I rose above it and gave my children and grandchildren a better life
Spoken like a true self indulgent child. You seem to forget that us boomers are in the same situation you're in after saving for decades the be secure in our golden years now find ourselves worried about weather or not we will have enough to take care of ourselves and you want us to just hand over our savings to you to make your life easier, Sorry but That's not the way it works. Everyone is suffering
I live to babysit…It’s Sunday morning and my daughter picked me up in my car…(she is using mine until hers is fixed). She has my Wal Mart card so after church and before she goes to work she can pick up her $347.00 RX that she can’t afford. I have a baby glued to my hip while I watch t show about turtles … I am a boomer, single, still work part time…70….very average…a lot if not most of us babysit, do laundry and mending,vacuum and tidy, help out financially ( a lot)…I don’t complain or throw things in my darters face…I am such an average boomer
Old people: You need a car. Me, who lived in a downtown area: I do not. Cant afford car. Nor insurance. Nor gas. Nor my wife. Nor medical. I got food kinda covered, tho. Old people: Well how does that work?! Me: You watch fox news 24/7. Did they just gloss over the younger generations in pursuit of republican bliss for you boomers? Cuz.. we exist.
I’m a boomer also and I babysit my grandson whenever my daughter needs me to. I help out with his clothes also. My kids are all hard workers but if they need a little help I’m there for them. I also agree with you that Gen X doesn’t know us boomers but puts us down. You’re not that special.
@@Recuper8You obviously didn’t listen closely to the video and don’t know how to read either. The girl was saying how parents don’t want to watch the grandkids so they can work. I understand totally what she’s talking about. I had to work too. Not all boomers (especially later boomers like myself) had it made. My reply is the opposite. I’m ALWAYS there for my grandson. I could easily say no to my daughter also but she needs my help. My kids know I do what I can if they need me. You stfu!
@@Recuper8Hey genius. Read my comment again or can’t you comprehend simple English? I’m always there for my daughter anytime and I never ask for money to watch my grandson. I watched the video and I get what this girl is saying. I had to work too when my kids were little. Contrary to what you think,not all boomers (especially later ones like me) have it made. I love my kids and whatever I can do for them l will. As far as giving them $ as you suggest I don’t have a fat bank account so Stfu yourself!
My parents DO look after my nephew (never having vermin myself) as do at least some of my family for other kids in it, but in general, yeah, this seems to be the weird trend.
“Vermin”! 😂😂 No kids for us- I could never have raised a well adjusted human after the trauma of my childhood. My mother has two daughters, only one married, and no grandchildren. As it should be.
People these days especially the have become overly comfortable living outside their income Pets the can afford kids that can't afford vacations concerts they can't afford constantly dining out
Absolutely correct, but the flip side to the existence of our constantly worsening economy is every younger generation continues to uphold and intensify the negative aspects by supporting terrible financial choices for the sake of their feelings.
We Boomer generation had parents who lived through the depression and WWII, and we were taught not to complain, make do with what you have, and dont blame others. Be responsible and make the place (campsite, park, or even the world) better than when you found it. Go volunteer at your local food bank or homeless shelter. Volunteer work looks really good on a resume, when applying for a good job. Really.
The reason volunteer work looks good on a resume is that it communicates to a prospective employer the false impression that you are willing to work for free... which is why nobody actually does it
My daughter had to quit teaching job because she could not afford daycare for her new baby however she went and got herself a job working at a daycare and she's getting 80% off by bringing her child with her all you got to do is think outside the box
Right but what’s the salary cut and what’s the new career trajectory? I know it’s messed up to put that before having a kid, but I care more about how much money I make and my general economic power than a kid.
First husband died my daughter remarried after 6 years new husband had a fantastic job however he was injured at work this wasn't exactly a plan pregnancy but she is thrilled about bringing a new life into this world and she's only taking a small hit on her income daycare would have cost her $1,800 a month for one child and she would have only received 500 left so now she only has to pay $300 for daycare and still seeing some money a lot more then she had estimated before In-Home Care is no better
Ah.. I'm 45.. raised 4 kids, 3 of which were by marriage. It's possible to raise a family, and not be dependent on parents. Yeah, it's not easy, but you can do it. 🤷♂️
@chernobyl169 my step daughter is getting her masters, is able to support her lifestyle, and works multiple jobs. Yeah, it's tough, and it sucks, but you can do it. Complaining, and saying it's not fair. Means you probably complain about most things instead of figuring out how to get to where you want or need to be. I don't complain about the hand I was dealt growing up. Most Gen-X don't. We figured it out. Guarantee the new generations can as well.
@annaburns2865 not necessarily in this instance, but some people take their kids to daycare instead of family if they feel like their family isn't maintaining the parents' boundaries or they don't feel confident in the quality of care. Not to mention, some people weaponise the idea of watching someone else's kids.
Let's see how much luck you have stopping government from continously printing money...that is the #1 reason for the shape of the economy and worthless degrees doent help.. It took us an hour and a 1/2 of work to afford 1 fast food meal... It takes you less than an hours work... Gas should be twice as high but they play games... Housing is a disaster because artificially low supply and greed + high rates... 70s and early 80s were no picnic... Now constantly raise taxes to spend on their pet projects, never really helping us out... Get mad at the correct people... And no one should be FREE babysitting, super cheap yes, free, no.
@@drummerrck "Feminist studies prepares undergraduates for a variety of careers. The bachelor of arts (B.A.) degree in feminist studies provides excellent grounding for undergraduates who have career aspirations in, for example, law, health, public administration, community organizations, and social services." Stawman burned.
You... uh, I don't know how to break it to you, but you got that idea from the people that make all the money from those high prices They don't exactly have a vested interest in being honest though
Boomer 65 now on SSi raised my daughter on wages between $5.45 and $8.75. I worked put myself through community college, paid for the state required licenses my after college career called for. Finally reach $10.00 when I turned 57. Helped my daughter with her college bills. Now making a grand total of less than $1,300 a month onSSI and if not for my brother I would be homeless. If not for my daughter I wouldn’t have a cell phone or this nice IPad she got me for Christmas 2 years ago. There are a lot of single parent boomers out here that barely made it while raising children. So don’t blame how everything nowadays is messed up. As Billy Joel says…we didn’t start the fire.
True. Most boomers are good ppl in real life. Its the social circumstances they created - promoting feminism - renewable energy - mass immigration and treating housing as an investment that is the problem. The world changed rapidly in past decades and younger generations are left un prepared for the new world. But who could have seen such a perfect storm coming? Probably not me either back then before onformation was so readily available. But there were signs.
Really isnt the flex you think it is. Youve been getting robbed by your employer FOR SURE and you just took it? Look up how much your position SHOULD be making.
@@korvincarry3268 Some jobs are dependent upon location. A job in a bigger city normally demands more per hour than one in a small community depending on the type of work. Of course the number of applicants vs the number of openings also plays a role overall. If a company has 10 positions but 1,000 applicants for those 10 positions they can offer pretty low wages and get away with it b/c chances are there will be 10 people out of those 1000 that are willing to take the job for less simply out of necessity.
Let me see if i get this straight. There's more opportunities to make an income than ever before and somehow it's the previous generations fault that you're not making enough. Oh ok, got it. 🙄
- You cannot blame anyone else. (It also doesn't make any difference. With the same ease, Boomers pass the blame on to the generation before them. And those in turn blame the generation before them. And so on ad infinitum . It's the Big Bang's fault !) And imagine that you were not born in 1985 but in 1960..... then you were a boomer and would act identically , or why do you think you are special and would handle things differently ? - Everyone has the circumstances in which they grew up. Some are lucky, others much less so. If you are a man in 1890 and born in Austria , Germany, Belgium, France, England you are in the trenches for 4 years at 24. If you survive of course. We are not going to complain and be happy with what is there.
38... how long are you planning on blaming others for problems? We are about to enter the world of millennials' creation. Boomers could say they didn't start the problem either. Truth is, as adults, we are all complicit.
Every generation did this I pretty sure are kids for those who can have that happen will argue same thing hate me all you want but I heard stories and took them to heart from my parents and there parents and people like therapists and stuff they moved up the ladder they were just wiser and took advantages for there future not there now
I'm not a Boomer, I'm Gen X but I can explain some things. Older generations had "career mothers" what stayed at home, and they had children while younger so taking care of grandkids was easier and a way to counteract "empty nest syndrome". My own parents got married late, and I did as well, so it was hard for them to take care of their grandkids...they exhausted them easily. Sounds like your mother is near retirement so she can't afford to lose her job in addition to tiring easier. For the record, my wife has a PhD but she stays home taking care of the kids and doing her own projects. It is possible to have children on a single salary (dirt poor parents around the world have been doing it since there were humans), but you need to make sacrifices. When my kids need child care, we will be there for them and hopefully, we won't be worn out like my parents were.
This is what I find most mind-blowing about women who freeze their eggs on the premise that they will become a mother around age 45. Imagine having children graduate from high school at about the time you qualify for Social Security. How are those kids supposed to get their own life established before you're falling apart and need elder care? Those kids would be lucky to even know or remember their grandparents at all.
Its cause the 50/50 partnership we all dont have time for anything. Woman shouldn't need to work. That became a standard cause of the wars i think? If men could afford to support the house and woman do the other daytime duties. Then life wouldn't be so hard. We could even have time for icecream as a family. Wife wouldnt be complaining about whats equal. Having 2 parents work all the time even when you are wealthy honestly just sucks. The kids go unsupervised. The family is stressed. Time is short. House is a mess etc.
My friend, you are exuding extreme "totally misinformed and hatefully angry about things that don't even exist" vibes. My advice is to lay off the television news because it's mostly overblown bullshit and cherry-picked fearmongering.
I am a boomer and while all three of my kids did have a key to the house they weren't a latchkey kid like I was. I raised two Gen. X and one millennial. Two of them shows not to have children and while I was a bit sad, I completely respected their choice. Oldest finally had a little boy and I watched him for three times a week for about 4 months until my daughter and her hubby weren't getting along and didn't go out much anymore. You know nothing about boomers and yet you try to slander us at every chance you get.
@@tanawilliams7498 don‘t take it personally- not every boomer is an „evil boomer“ but the majority commenting here has made bad experience. And if you are an exception we are glad you are supporting your family and show us that not every boomer parent tries to persuade their children into having kids only because they want to be grandparents.
It's basic animal nature to want your genes passed on. This should be obvious to anyone who paid attention in biology. As for not wanting to watch them. Well they already raised you. Often without help from their parents. Many of them didn't want kids at all but were pressured by society. They paid their dues so they're done. If they care about their grandkids at they want to be able to enjoy them not take care of them. I'm not saying it's right or wrong but it is what it is.
I'm sorry you chose a field without a future, regardless of education level, and have parents that don't support you. We took care of our grandkids for decades, and our daughter struggled with some jobs. She changed her career path, and is very successful today. The grandkids, now adults, are both on successful career paths and doing well. Do not lump all boomers into your situation, you have my sympathy, but you do not get to disparage everyone else in my generation. Rethink you career field, stop blaming everyone else for your position.
Same goes to the other generations blaming Gen Z and Gen Alpha for a world they created. One that WE need to grow up and fix. Have faith in us. A lot of us are educated, derermined, and don't stand for the same injustices that preceded us.
Oh, God. You people are just insufferable. I didn't pull up any ladders; as a matter of fact, I went to many high schools to talk about a career in court reporting. There is such a shortage throughout the U.S. and Canada, and my Boomer generation is retiring or about to retire. There is no limit on how much you can earn, male or female, you can easily make, $120,000 a year. It's a two-year program as opposed to four. Guess how many people took me up on spending a day in court with me? Zero. When I asked why, there were two main reasons: One, it looks really hard; yes, it is, but worth it; and two, not glamorous enough, would rather go for a four-year degree, etc. Stop putting us all in the same boat and stop blaming my generation for everything. The generational finger-pointing started with Millenials, not Boomers or GenXers. Also, maybe, just maybe, who you vote for has consequences.
You are 39. You have a Masters and have "been in grad school" and you can't find a blue collar union equivalent job? What was your Major? I think you looked at college as a way to avoid adulthood by taking out a big loan that I'LL HAVE TO PAY FOR, and treating the university experience as your own little growing phase when you should have been attacking life!
People pushed our generation to stay in school and then turned around and said "sorry, now you're overqualified for the job, I can't afford to pay someone with a masters degree." A lot of "blue collar" people feel threatened by people with an education and won't even consider them for a position.
"I'll have to pay for." Are you related to her? You sound like an angry BABY boomer who doesn't understand how things work anymore and you don't deserve the breath wasted trying to explain why your hateful take is so so WRONG.
My parents worked full time and one of them was an 8th grade drop out..... who, by the way, had 4 kids and owned a home (although the babysitting was usually family and quite miminal after a very young age). I left home at 17 with $20 in my pocket and my last day off from 7 day work weeks was 17 years ago (on Memorial Day) / and I'm 61. As you can probably tell, me, like my grandmother that raised 6 kids during the depression, have little tolerance to whining. And when it comes to all this crying about money..... audit 1 - 168hr linear week with a time and motion study and see what you did and how much of it was dedicated to solving your flow of tears? Likely nothing.
The job wanted vs the job you need. That's the difference in the generations. Don't care about your degree or how old you are. If you are going to complain because you have no money and will not do what it takes to stop complaining about it then go take a long good look in the mirror. No job is beneath you if it gives you what you need or helps you get what you need. Learn to work
It’s almost like the job you want should pay you enough to live? No job should pay so little that the employees can’t make a livable wage. I agree that people should do something about a situation they don’t like rather than just complaining, but I doubt the person you’re watching doesn’t have a job already. You can have a job *and* complain about it, y’know, that’s something you’re allowed to do. Especially when jobs today expect maximum effort for minimum benefits. Experience/exposure doesn’t put food on the table! Most relatives I know are working multiple jobs to support their immediate families and still aren’t making enough. If you know any jobs to get into that anyone can do and make a livable wage on, then you need to start sharing lol. Some of us could use jobs like that.
@@NarcWhisperer wasn’t trying to be snarky. Just wondering if you had two incomes and still were having difficulty. So I guess you are I hope things get better for you and your family.
Don't know (or care) who you are, personally.. but if you are 38 already I do hope that if you wanted to have children that you already had them.. b/c at 38 any pregnancy you have going forward is exponentially more dangerous both to you and your unborn child. They call it a geriatric pregnancy after 35 due to increased risks of death or other complications. Not that what I say matters.. I am just some random GenX that had your video pop up on my screen and I was curious what you were going on about. As for having free daycare from parents.. the only time my kids were away from home was when my father took them for a week to visit once per year. My mother was banned from seeing them due to her being a horrible person, and the wife's mom was too absorbed with her life to visit but once in 30 years. No free daycare to speak of. So yeah.. I am unimpressed by your position on this issue.
That's a YOUR PROBLEM. Not a Boomer problem. Furthermore, practically all Grand Parents throughout the ages did not want to be babysitters of their grandkids.
Nope, it’s a Boomer problem, because, when we’re out of money to take care of the elderly, they will be the ones on the streets suffering. Less and less Millennials are willing to take care of their aging parents because of how said parents treated them.
@@NarcWhisperer BS. I’m a boomer, from the 50’s, who was orphaned at age 6. I had my grandmother who would beat my brother and I. I was on my own for my whole life. No help from anyone. I managed. Worked in factories. Those are all gone. Sent to China. That’s not the boomers fault. Unless they are ultra wealthy. I got my house in the 90’s at 14%. Not all boomer’s are like the way you state. I would gladly watch my granddaughter but my insane X who I divorced in 1983!!, (the reason I don’t date) has got parental rights, the Courts always give custody to woman, and refuses to let me and my son see or speak with her. So to those who say boomers got it made and life was a breeze. You are wrong. It wasn’t for everyone. My insane X is a boomer so I guess some of what said rings true.
@@mr.midnight23 not in my case. Many were dead and the others were afraid of my only grandparent. Only one stepped up to the plate. She took us out a few times. No guidance. Left on are own to figure out a path.
So you have more degrees than a thermometer and can’t pay your bills? And that’s somehow my fault? You have made bad choices and now you have to work your way out of them. Consider it a learning experience and have fun with it!
@@cheshireket3132 Well yeah, Grandkids spent the entire afternoon with me! Today they learned that not all dinosaurs went extinct. They learned that Maniraptoran Theropods continued on as birds! So in a very real way dinosaurs are all around us.
So their parents, aka the kids’ grandparents, are strangers to you?! I thought families should help one another, especially in raising the younger generations.
My father once grumbled "well, I guess your sisters going to be the only one to give me grandkids." And I said "yup!" Because he didn't deserve kids, why should he deserve grandkids? Guess he just wanted to feel important and have someone to yell at and make feel small one more time before he dies.
Personally when I have kids with my future wife I’m not letting my abusive asshole of a dad see them as long as I can help it. Because I’m gonna be the one who breaks the four generations of abuse.
They only had kids in order to have grandkids didn’t they?
@@annaburns2865 not only. It‘s because it was the thing to do. A life purpose.
I guess these abusive parents would be lovely grandparents and you as a kid would only be more angry because they never were so kind to you…
That's exactly what i was thinking, which in some instances makes it worse. @Chris.R.
This video is the main reason why older generations should not gaslight younger generations.
Well yeah. Gaslighting is realy never justified. And no one should do it.
@dannavalentin46 this video is a gaslight
@@charlesblusanovics8978 can you explain exactly…?
@@dannavalentin46 no. He can only project in an infantile manner.
It’s not even about them raising our kids. It’s about spending time to get to know them at all!
When I was a little kid, my gen X mom kept me away from my shitty boomer grandparents because of the way they talked down and belittled her around me. I’m 30 now and there was a time where she felt a little bad that I never got the chance to build my own relationship with them, but I was quick to point out that I wouldn’t want to spend time with people talking trash about my awesome mom. ❤
These were the kind of religious nuts who chastised and humiliated my mom because she was divorced, I can only imagine how shitty they’d be to me once the find out I’m engaged to a woman. In other words, no love lost where there’s no love to find.
@@autumn7157 "no love lost where there's no love to find" - I like that, thank you
80s and 90s poverty is a comparative decidence compared to the shitshow we got now.
*decadence
😂😂😂😂 Fried cabbage and egg noodles fried in government butter 4-5 times a week, is DECADENCE? 😂😂😂😂
@@wrg1183 sound tasty to me, and it's about what i can afford. You got a recipe?
@@popejaimie Look it up, my mother cooked it.
I am assuming you were alive during that time? What an uninformed comment!
All facts.
These people still dont get that kids are a responsibility not a fashion statement.
And they made at us for acting like a redponsable adult??!
That part. Kids are whole ass human beings not a box on a to do list to check off.
My boomer parents hardly ever watched my kids. Then they get mad when the kids aren't that close to them.
My grandpa died of lung cancer a little less than a month ago. Hurts a lot even though we weren't close. Idk if it was covid, moving away, growing up, whatever. He never talked too much, although a lot of ghe time I think we still got each other. But as I grew older, I talked less, so it was harder to be close with him or even have a convo whenever I'd stay over, we just didn't click anymore. Sorry lol, I think I'm mainly just typing this for myself cuz I'm sad lol. I'm just saying, somd older people/people in general have a hard time talking, they prefer to be quiet, in some cases they can't communicate well with kids/teens although his case was different. It may have played a role.
My boomer stepmother is furious with me for "locking her out" of my kids lives. She would offer to do things with them, but the children had to plan the "date". And after being turned down too many times, the kids quit asking.
Did you ever ask for them to take care of them? No you didn't now stop complaining and go develop that relationship.
@@copehick7984how do you know they didn't? You know them in real life? Why have this conversation in a RUclips comment section if you know them?
@@copehick7984 I can see why nobody comes over anymore. Stop being rude and develop some empathy.
A family friend, who already has three grandchildren, made a comment to me that people my age need to “hurry up and have kids so we can enjoy them!” “We” as in her, not me or my family.
Well duh. She'll only enjoy the happy, laughing parts and not the "oh shit this kid just vomitted three times" part. Fuck that 🤣
@@reagan1552 when a former friend of mine became an aunt I told her that she is like a dementor who is arbsorbing the happiness of the newborn child. As a potterhead she agreed.
They are all dementors 🤷♀️
Not to mention, her money was worth more relative to what it’s worth now when she was waiting tables in her 20s. Her hard work paid off. I know people now working 60 hours a week well above minimum wage to just stay afloat. Our hard work is worth next to nothing.
Exactly. Waiting tables and delivering pizza WAS good work back then
Yep. This has been needed to be talked about for a really long time now. Everyone is saying, “Don’t expect your parents to watch YOUR kids.”
Yet why are our parents allowed to expect us to have kids?
Or worse, they are allowed to shame us for having the discernment not to have kids because we can’t afford it!
She’s right. “If my car breaks down I’m destitute.”
We are living well past the great depression into the great destitution. And our parents that decided to bring us into this awful mess, have decided that they are done, simply because legally they can be. Which makes me feel like they have always wanted to be done, even before they started.
They only had kids so that we could give them grandchildren.
Grandchildren that they don’t want to have any responsibility for.
There! I said it.
It needed to be said.
That's Socialism for you.
@@davidlafleche1142 They want grandkids for the school pictures and bragging rights at the senior center: "...And this is my grandson Kaiden, he made the varsity football team ya know"
How dumb are you?
Yep
Our parents didn’t even want to spend time with us when they were responsible for raising us ; they’re never getting grandkids
What a perfect analogy. They climbed the ladder 🪜 of success and pulled it up behind them 😢. Very true.
I'm pretty sure my Boomer mom would watch my kids for free if I ever had any because she loves kids so much. However, I have absolutely no intention of ever having kids. She has many grandkids and great-grandkids already from my brothers, so she doesn't need more from me. I don't care how disappointed she is about it, I hate kids!
Not everyone wants children nor do they want to raise them and that's O.K. I don't know why some people just think life isn't worth living unless you have kids . The one drawback is that when you get older you don't have your children to help you. Then again, a lot of kids never help out their parents anyway so they're still at a loss.
@@robertkartechner5850 I think having kids would make my life a lot worse. I also think I'd rather rely on future technology and society in general to take care of me when I'm old than rely on my potential kids.
@@MatthewTheWanderer My ex took my son some 1300 miles away and cut off communication with him so I don't know how it would have worked out. So, I am essentially without kids for some 47 or 48 years and yeah, it's OK. It's quiet and have lots of freedom. My sister has kids and grand kids so I get to experience it that way. Not sure how my last years will be but one day at a time.
@@robertkartechner5850 My brothers both have kids and my older brother has grandkids that are the same age as my younger brothers kids. So, I'm technically an uncle and granduncle, but I have nothing to do with any of my many nieces and nephews and I have no desire to ever be involved with them at all. So, I don't understand the desire to "get to experience it that way" at all. Why should I or anyone else want to experience that!? I don't like being around kids. Full stop. Why should I have to be around kids just because my brothers made a bad decision without me?
As Latin american person, I find interesting these arguments. In here is total opposite. Many unresponsible kids since decades have had children then later are raised by their grandparents while they are working or living their lives. My mom raised her first 3 grandkids while my brothers and in laws were working. Im 42, no kids, and Im the one living and taking care of my mom.
Honestly I don't know what is wrong with many boomers in the USA. Not all, but quiet a few are Karens andsuper entitled. It's interesting to see the differences! Thanks for sharing!
When both of my parents worked (government employees) my grandmother took care of me and my two older brothers. 😅
You have a good family
I know of many parents (eventual grandparents) who have helped pay tuition, help with a down-payment, gifted cars. And grandparents that help with childcare, pick up at schools, sports outings.
I'm blessed to have known many like that, too.
I've also known parents who had to ration food while living out of a car. And my own mother contested my grandmother's will to disinherit me, so some parents will outright steal from their kids, too.
Went no contact with my entire family in Feb after my brother attacked his son and my daughter on separate occasions few days apart. Every day is better than day before since then and my kids are closer to me now
50’s before I figured it out
And no contact means no contact…grey rock…don’t wait
My mom was raised by her grandmother because my granny had to work, my granny raised me (she lived with us) because my mom and dad had to work and my mom always said that she would raise my children if I wanted her to do it. I don’t understand people that receive but don’t want to give.
Hi hi… Gen-Xer here. Let me give you a couple tips from our playbook. 1. Don’t GAF whether your parents want you to have kids are not. You’re the one responsible, so your decision to have kids needs to be independent of their wishes for your life. 2. Getting a good job after college sucked for us, too. That’s why many of us became entrepreneurs. Oh and “We didn’t start the fire.” That’s our thing tyvm 😂😂… But in all seriousness, do what you can. Make decisions that work for you so that you don’t get stuck between a rock and a hard place.
my grandma never wanted to spend time with me and now as a teenager i’m stuck taking care of her, a women i barely know
The comment section is filled with- I have a sandwich so, no one is hungry.
Truly the exact phrase I need to start using as a quick rebuttal to save time. Thank you.
Exactly the mentality of the Boomers. Queen Antoinette mentality. And she got hung for it. The Boomers might think they are getting off Scott free, but God is going to hold them accountable.
@@aprilmurch1054 It comes from DarkviperAU.
I don't think I get it
@@RollerBaller basically "I'm doing pretty good. I have all my needs met, so that must mean that everyone's just complaining and being greedy, because surely their needs are already met just like mine are.'
As a 53 year old genX. My daughter is expecting my first grandkids. I'm so excited i could shout it from the rooftops. My child is in charge of her babies and as long as i get to be a part of their lives. I will be enormously happy ❤
Congratulations. I wish nothing but the best for you all and hope to encounter more people like you
Everytime my Nana tries to pressure me to have kids (I don't want kids if I could afford them or not) I always ask if SHE'S gonna be the one taking care of them
She wants them, not me. Her responsibility. But she's not gonna want that (which is reasonable) so no grandkids from me. Because I sure as hell don't want to take care of them
Us boomers don't realize that times change and really don't offer a solution to the problem but make it worse by NOT recognizing it.
I will tell my kid not to have a kid. Unless he has at least 5 millions liquid cash by 2045.
Uh, it's hard even with 2 incomes and college degrees.
i got a new rule boomer tax, you wanna see your grandkids pay up 😁
I had nothing to do with it.
This is individual behaviour. Don't tar all of us Boomers with this brush.
Someone get this woman into the White House. She’s got some shit to say, and older people need to listen.
Boomers: The younger generations are too obsessed with sex.
Also Boomers: The younger generations aren't having enough kids.
...Well how else are people supposed to have kids???
"when two people get married and love each other enough, the stork comes and brings them a little bundle of joy."
Boomers: Younger generations have too much of a choice #ProLife
That's their logic prob
Gen Xers are grandparents now, hopefully we will do better. Shes correct about it all...
Many Boomers compare the time they were young to the time Gen X and Millenials were young. They never got the fact, that the times and the workplace and the whole setting of society changed so rapidly. Many Gen Xers knew in their 20ies and early 30ties that they will work until the end and everything was more expensive and the future looked darker for them than the Boomers, who grew up in an massiv economic upswing. Many Boomers didnt spent much time with their children, but always wanted grandkids.... some of them because THEY had the plan to be grandparents.... and there were few questions how their children (Gen X) will get along.
I'm so sorry your comments section is filled with selfishness. You spoke the truth.
I am a genxer
and my boomer Mother told me
that she wasn't going to be an everyday babysitter
like my friends parents were,
well that was fine with me
as I am the parent not my Mother
but in retrospect she is a wonderful Nanna.
Needless to say my husband
who worked hard in poor paying labouring positions and I
looked after our 3 children without childcare or babysitters
until it was time for them to go to school where got the position of a parent helper.
We make our own way in this world
and shouldn't rely on others if we cannot rely on ourselves first
especially when it has to do what is right for our children.
Today I am the grandmother of 4
and I do everything that I can to help my children raise their own beautiful offspring.
This is my prerogative
to do with my life as I see fit
just as it is that of the young lady's mother whose post I am commenting on
but as I surround myself with my beautiful family I can't help thinking how much that her Mother has missed on.
1966 Gen X’r here! Way to represent! Excellent wisdom for everyone done in true Gen X style! Grounded in reality, seasoned with love with just enough kick in the pants for motivation and demonstrating our self reliant attitude!
Thank you.
Boomer here. I spent my preteen and teen years looking being daycare for my brother. The summer I was twelve I potty trained him. I was a latchkey kid before there was a name for it. I know what it takes to look after children. Been a school teacher for over 35 years. I do not have the energy or desire to look after little ones for any extended length of time, especially with the very different standards/ rules my friends child asks her to abide by when she babysits her grandkids. My patience is at a very low ebb with children who haven’t heard no or been taught some very basic ways to deal with being corrected in any way.
What I’m trying to say that it is possible there are deeper reasons why an older adult might want to watch kids other than sheer selfishness. My friend in the role of grandparent caregiver tried to impose structure on her grandkids life when sitting for him and got countermanded and undermined by his parents at every turn. They didn’t want to impose structure or bedtime on a toddler because ‘he would go to bed when he was tired’, seriously he was so overtired but seemed to have advanced fomo as a baby.
You're the exception.
Good for you, you sound reasonable and decent. I assure you many of your generation are *not* like that. I have a pretty big sample size to reference here.
people also are not entitled to expect people outside their family to look after their kids as a favor
There's always another side to the story.
It usually involves some perverse expectation for your kids to fulfill the dreams you couldn't, I have discovered
Attention Boomers. Since y'all have 50yrs of work experience, please, figure out how to make as much money as possible to help the younger generations. Thank you.
Like most already invested over 1million dollars into my children
@@petermurphy2167 that's awesome. I was neglected and I'm handicapped.
@@notbextley6997 I never went to High school , my parents had to many off there own issues and no time for six kids, no goverment support and I rose above it and gave my children and grandchildren a better life
Spoken like a true self indulgent child. You seem to forget that us boomers are in the same situation you're in after saving for decades the be secure in our golden years now find ourselves worried about weather or not we will have enough to take care of ourselves and you want us to just hand over our savings to you to make your life easier, Sorry but That's not the way it works. Everyone is suffering
@@notbextley6997 you still had more opportunities than any previous generations.I did not go to high school.
Watching people complain is my favorite thing to do.
This is a whole niche online.
I live to babysit…It’s Sunday morning and my daughter picked me up in my car…(she is using mine until hers is fixed). She has my Wal Mart card so after church and before she goes to work she can pick up her $347.00 RX that she can’t afford. I have a baby glued to my hip while I watch t show about turtles … I am a boomer, single, still work part time…70….very average…a lot if not most of us babysit, do laundry and mending,vacuum and tidy, help out financially ( a lot)…I don’t complain or throw things in my darters face…I am such an average boomer
Yep
Old people: You need a car.
Me, who lived in a downtown area: I do not. Cant afford car. Nor insurance. Nor gas. Nor my wife. Nor medical. I got food kinda covered, tho.
Old people: Well how does that work?!
Me: You watch fox news 24/7. Did they just gloss over the younger generations in pursuit of republican bliss for you boomers? Cuz.. we exist.
Old people: "younger generations ... in pursuit of republican bliss? never heard of it"
I’m a boomer also and I babysit my grandson whenever my daughter needs me to. I help out with his clothes also. My kids are all hard workers but if they need a little help I’m there for them. I also agree with you that Gen X doesn’t know us boomers but puts us down. You’re not that special.
Give them $! Otherwise, stfu
@@Recuper8You obviously didn’t listen closely to the video and don’t know how to read either. The girl was saying how parents don’t want to watch the grandkids so they can work. I understand totally what she’s talking about. I had to work too. Not all boomers (especially later boomers like myself) had it made. My reply is the opposite. I’m ALWAYS there for my grandson. I could easily say no to my daughter also but she needs my help. My kids know I do what I can if they need me. You stfu!
@@Recuper8Hey genius. Read my comment again or can’t you comprehend simple English? I’m always there for my daughter anytime and I never ask for money to watch my grandson. I watched the video and I get what this girl is saying. I had to work too when my kids were little. Contrary to what you think,not all boomers (especially later ones like me) have it made. I love my kids and whatever I can do for them l will. As far as giving them $ as you suggest I don’t have a fat bank account so Stfu yourself!
Just because your parents suck doesn't mean all Boomers are bad. Most of us struggled and are still struggling.
My parents DO look after my nephew (never having vermin myself) as do at least some of my family for other kids in it, but in general, yeah, this seems to be the weird trend.
“Vermin”! 😂😂 No kids for us- I could never have raised a well adjusted human after the trauma of my childhood. My mother has two daughters, only one married, and no grandchildren. As it should be.
Boomers in the comments proving the point. :,D
DAMN FUCKING RIGHT!
Well I wouldn't want to take care of my kids kids either unless I lived with them.
Or u r told they r not babysitters. Then the younger sibling has a kid and guess what...
... suddenly your relationship doesn't matter anymore because the grandkid is what's important?
Yeah, I didn't have to guess
People these days especially the have become overly comfortable living outside their income Pets the can afford kids that can't afford vacations concerts they can't afford constantly dining out
Vacations are better than kids though I would rather spend my money on something I would enjoy
Absolutely correct, but the flip side to the existence of our constantly worsening economy is every younger generation continues to uphold and intensify the negative aspects by supporting terrible financial choices for the sake of their feelings.
We Boomer generation had parents who lived through the depression and WWII, and we were taught not to complain, make do with what you have, and dont blame others. Be responsible and make the place (campsite, park, or even the world) better than when you found it. Go volunteer at your local food bank or homeless shelter. Volunteer work looks really good on a resume, when applying for a good job. Really.
The reason volunteer work looks good on a resume is that it communicates to a prospective employer the false impression that you are willing to work for free... which is why nobody actually does it
Go boomers! They are so entertaining to me.😂
Delete Boomerism.
My daughter had to quit teaching job because she could not afford daycare for her new baby however she went and got herself a job working at a daycare and she's getting 80% off by bringing her child with her all you got to do is think outside the box
Right but what’s the salary cut and what’s the new career trajectory? I know it’s messed up to put that before having a kid, but I care more about how much money I make and my general economic power than a kid.
First husband died my daughter remarried after 6 years new husband had a fantastic job however he was injured at work this wasn't exactly a plan pregnancy but she is thrilled about bringing a new life into this world and she's only taking a small hit on her income daycare would have cost her $1,800 a month for one child and she would have only received 500 left so now she only has to pay $300 for daycare and still seeing some money a lot more then she had estimated before In-Home Care is no better
Ah.. I'm 45.. raised 4 kids, 3 of which were by marriage. It's possible to raise a family, and not be dependent on parents. Yeah, it's not easy, but you can do it. 🤷♂️
Congratulations. You were one of the lucky ones. What applied to you does not apply to everyone.
@chernobyl169 my step daughter is getting her masters, is able to support her lifestyle, and works multiple jobs. Yeah, it's tough, and it sucks, but you can do it. Complaining, and saying it's not fair. Means you probably complain about most things instead of figuring out how to get to where you want or need to be.
I don't complain about the hand I was dealt growing up. Most Gen-X don't. We figured it out. Guarantee the new generations can as well.
I don’t have anything nice to say, so I won’t say anything at all!
And yet you choose to move your fingers to say "something" anyways....
I would love to watch grandchildren but they won’t let us, rather take to daycare
That honestly makes no sense. Who would pay for daycare if they don’t have to?
@annaburns2865 not necessarily in this instance, but some people take their kids to daycare instead of family if they feel like their family isn't maintaining the parents' boundaries or they don't feel confident in the quality of care. Not to mention, some people weaponise the idea of watching someone else's kids.
Well narc spouseof AC that has isolated AC and grandchild from her grandparents, only his parents are worthy, we are beneath him
They are bigots. What do you expect?
Let's see how much luck you have stopping government from continously printing money...that is the #1 reason for the shape of the economy and worthless degrees doent help..
It took us an hour and a 1/2 of work to afford 1 fast food meal...
It takes you less than an hours work...
Gas should be twice as high but they play games...
Housing is a disaster because artificially low supply and greed + high rates...
70s and early 80s were no picnic...
Now constantly raise taxes to spend on their pet projects, never really helping us out...
Get mad at the correct people...
And no one should be FREE babysitting, super cheap yes, free, no.
Omg😊
So what did you get your degrees in?
Feminism, most likely.
@uoabigaillevey Yeah that's not a degree, that's some strawman you and people like you made up.
@@drummerrck "Feminist studies prepares undergraduates for a variety of careers. The bachelor of arts (B.A.) degree in feminist studies provides excellent grounding for undergraduates who have career aspirations in, for example, law, health, public administration, community organizations, and social services."
Stawman burned.
@uoabigaillevey Saying feminist studies is majoring in feminism is like saying religious studies is majoring in catholicism. It's disingenuous.
@@drummerrck It's literally under the same umbrella. Your inability to see that is a you problem.
Who selected the heads of your current government? Not me!
That’s what affects prices…of absolutely everything.
You... uh, I don't know how to break it to you, but you got that idea from the people that make all the money from those high prices
They don't exactly have a vested interest in being honest though
Boomer 65 now on SSi raised my daughter on wages between $5.45 and $8.75. I worked put myself through community college, paid for the state required licenses my after college career called for. Finally reach $10.00 when I turned 57. Helped my daughter with her college bills. Now making a grand total of less than $1,300 a month onSSI and if not for my brother I would be homeless. If not for my daughter I wouldn’t have a cell phone or this nice IPad she got me for Christmas 2 years ago. There are a lot of single parent boomers out here that barely made it while raising children. So don’t blame how everything nowadays is messed up. As Billy Joel says…we didn’t start the fire.
you didnt start the fire but you saved yourself by climbing out the window while you let the kids burn
True. Most boomers are good ppl in real life. Its the social circumstances they created - promoting feminism - renewable energy - mass immigration and treating housing as an investment that is the problem. The world changed rapidly in past decades and younger generations are left un prepared for the new world. But who could have seen such a perfect storm coming? Probably not me either back then before onformation was so readily available. But there were signs.
@@jasondeslatte7611 And she is better off for it with that attitude.
Really isnt the flex you think it is. Youve been getting robbed by your employer FOR SURE and you just took it? Look up how much your position SHOULD be making.
@@korvincarry3268 Some jobs are dependent upon location. A job in a bigger city normally demands more per hour than one in a small community depending on the type of work.
Of course the number of applicants vs the number of openings also plays a role overall.
If a company has 10 positions but 1,000 applicants for those 10 positions they can offer pretty low wages and get away with it b/c chances are there will be 10 people out of those 1000 that are willing to take the job for less simply out of necessity.
Whst did you major in?
Let me see if i get this straight. There's more opportunities to make an income than ever before and somehow it's the previous generations fault that you're not making enough. Oh ok, got it. 🙄
Granny, this is the worst recession with the Great Depression, wtf are you taking about?
- You cannot blame anyone else.
(It also doesn't make any difference. With the same ease, Boomers pass the blame on to the generation before them. And those in turn blame the generation before them. And so on ad infinitum . It's the Big Bang's fault !)
And imagine that you were not born in 1985 but in 1960.....
then you were a boomer and would act identically , or why do you think you are special and would handle things differently ?
- Everyone has the circumstances in which they grew up. Some are lucky, others much less so.
If you are a man in 1890 and born in Austria , Germany, Belgium, France, England you are in the trenches for 4 years at 24. If you survive of course.
We are not going to complain and be happy with what is there.
Best comment.
38... how long are you planning on blaming others for problems? We are about to enter the world of millennials' creation.
Boomers could say they didn't start the problem either. Truth is, as adults, we are all complicit.
Every generation did this I pretty sure are kids for those who can have that happen will argue same thing hate me all you want but I heard stories and took them to heart from my parents and there parents and people like therapists and stuff they moved up the ladder they were just wiser and took advantages for there future not there now
I'm not a Boomer, I'm Gen X but I can explain some things. Older generations had "career mothers" what stayed at home, and they had children while younger so taking care of grandkids was easier and a way to counteract "empty nest syndrome". My own parents got married late, and I did as well, so it was hard for them to take care of their grandkids...they exhausted them easily. Sounds like your mother is near retirement so she can't afford to lose her job in addition to tiring easier. For the record, my wife has a PhD but she stays home taking care of the kids and doing her own projects. It is possible to have children on a single salary (dirt poor parents around the world have been doing it since there were humans), but you need to make sacrifices. When my kids need child care, we will be there for them and hopefully, we won't be worn out like my parents were.
This is what I find most mind-blowing about women who freeze their eggs on the premise that they will become a mother around age 45. Imagine having children graduate from high school at about the time you qualify for Social Security. How are those kids supposed to get their own life established before you're falling apart and need elder care? Those kids would be lucky to even know or remember their grandparents at all.
@@palaceofwisdom9448uh, if they don’t take of us them, then that’s fine since all of us have lives.
Its cause the 50/50 partnership we all dont have time for anything. Woman shouldn't need to work. That became a standard cause of the wars i think? If men could afford to support the house and woman do the other daytime duties. Then life wouldn't be so hard. We could even have time for icecream as a family. Wife wouldnt be complaining about whats equal. Having 2 parents work all the time even when you are wealthy honestly just sucks. The kids go unsupervised. The family is stressed. Time is short. House is a mess etc.
My friend, you are exuding extreme "totally misinformed and hatefully angry about things that don't even exist" vibes.
My advice is to lay off the television news because it's mostly overblown bullshit and cherry-picked fearmongering.
Maybe should have picked a major that got you a high paying forever job
Maybe you should grow a conscience and stop gaslighting people.
I am a boomer and while all three of my kids did have a key to the house they weren't a latchkey kid like I was. I raised two Gen. X and one millennial. Two of them shows not to have children and while I was a bit sad, I completely respected their choice. Oldest finally had a little boy and I watched him for three times a week for about 4 months until my daughter and her hubby weren't getting along and didn't go out much anymore. You know nothing about boomers and yet you try to slander us at every chance you get.
@@tanawilliams7498 don‘t take it personally- not every boomer is an „evil boomer“ but the majority commenting here has made bad experience. And if you are an exception we are glad you are supporting your family and show us that not every boomer parent tries to persuade their children into having kids only because they want to be grandparents.
It's basic animal nature to want your genes passed on. This should be obvious to anyone who paid attention in biology. As for not wanting to watch them. Well they already raised you. Often without help from their parents. Many of them didn't want kids at all but were pressured by society. They paid their dues so they're done. If they care about their grandkids at they want to be able to enjoy them not take care of them. I'm not saying it's right or wrong but it is what it is.
BaSiC BiOLogY. Preschool basic at best. Humans are communal animals, so that means we cooperate with one another. Which means we help eachother.
@RollerBaller What preschool teaches toddlers about reproduction? I don't think you actually read what I wrote.
@@RollerBalleryou've no clue what you're talking about
I'm sorry you chose a field without a future, regardless of education level, and have parents that don't support you.
We took care of our grandkids for decades, and our daughter struggled with some jobs. She changed her career path, and is very successful today. The grandkids, now adults, are both on successful career paths and doing well. Do not lump all boomers into your situation, you have my sympathy, but you do not get to disparage everyone else in my generation. Rethink you career field, stop blaming everyone else for your position.
Same goes to the other generations blaming Gen Z and Gen Alpha for a world they created. One that WE need to grow up and fix. Have faith in us. A lot of us are educated, derermined, and don't stand for the same injustices that preceded us.
@@hehhehhehheh-wn7zzlmfao. You're the same generation that can't define biology. That's why we gave up on you.
Oh, God. You people are just insufferable. I didn't pull up any ladders; as a matter of fact, I went to many high schools to talk about a career in court reporting. There is such a shortage throughout the U.S. and Canada, and my Boomer generation is retiring or about to retire.
There is no limit on how much you can earn, male or female, you can easily make, $120,000 a year. It's a two-year program as opposed to four.
Guess how many people took me up on spending a day in court with me? Zero. When I asked why, there were two main reasons: One, it looks really hard; yes, it is, but worth it; and two, not glamorous enough, would rather go for a four-year degree, etc.
Stop putting us all in the same boat and stop blaming my generation for everything. The generational finger-pointing started with Millenials, not Boomers or GenXers. Also, maybe, just maybe, who you vote for has consequences.
You are 39. You have a Masters and have "been in grad school" and you can't find a blue collar union equivalent job? What was your Major? I think you looked at college as a way to avoid adulthood by taking out a big loan that I'LL HAVE TO PAY FOR, and treating the university experience as your own little growing phase when you should have been attacking life!
You don’t know that. There are now so many software engineers with no job for ex. You can’t make assumptions without information.
People pushed our generation to stay in school and then turned around and said "sorry, now you're overqualified for the job, I can't afford to pay someone with a masters degree." A lot of "blue collar" people feel threatened by people with an education and won't even consider them for a position.
"I'll have to pay for." Are you related to her? You sound like an angry BABY boomer who doesn't understand how things work anymore and you don't deserve the breath wasted trying to explain why your hateful take is so so WRONG.
@@hellokittysuzylearn to weld.
It would be really refreshing if you people would stop your whining and grow the hell up.
My parents worked full time and one of them was an 8th grade drop out..... who, by the way, had 4 kids and owned a home (although the babysitting was usually family and quite miminal after a very young age). I left home at 17 with $20 in my pocket and my last day off from 7 day work weeks was 17 years ago (on Memorial Day) / and I'm 61. As you can probably tell, me, like my grandmother that raised 6 kids during the depression, have little tolerance to whining. And when it comes to all this crying about money..... audit 1 - 168hr linear week with a time and motion study and see what you did and how much of it was dedicated to solving your flow of tears? Likely nothing.
Should have went to a trade school teach you to get a real job !!
The job wanted vs the job you need. That's the difference in the generations. Don't care about your degree or how old you are. If you are going to complain because you have no money and will not do what it takes to stop complaining about it then go take a long good look in the mirror. No job is beneath you if it gives you what you need or helps you get what you need. Learn to work
It’s almost like the job you want should pay you enough to live? No job should pay so little that the employees can’t make a livable wage. I agree that people should do something about a situation they don’t like rather than just complaining, but I doubt the person you’re watching doesn’t have a job already. You can have a job *and* complain about it, y’know, that’s something you’re allowed to do. Especially when jobs today expect maximum effort for minimum benefits. Experience/exposure doesn’t put food on the table! Most relatives I know are working multiple jobs to support their immediate families and still aren’t making enough. If you know any jobs to get into that anyone can do and make a livable wage on, then you need to start sharing lol. Some of us could use jobs like that.
Do you have a husband ? that sure would make it a lot easier..
Uhhh, yeah I am married. But that’s a very snarky assumption to disrespect single mothers, Ruby. Do better.
@@NarcWhisperer wasn’t trying to be snarky. Just wondering if you had two incomes and still were having difficulty. So I guess you are I hope things get better for you and your family.
Don't know (or care) who you are, personally.. but if you are 38 already I do hope that if you wanted to have children that you already had them.. b/c at 38 any pregnancy you have going forward is exponentially more dangerous both to you and your unborn child. They call it a geriatric pregnancy after 35 due to increased risks of death or other complications.
Not that what I say matters.. I am just some random GenX that had your video pop up on my screen and I was curious what you were going on about.
As for having free daycare from parents.. the only time my kids were away from home was when my father took them for a week to visit once per year. My mother was banned from seeing them due to her being a horrible person, and the wife's mom was too absorbed with her life to visit but once in 30 years.
No free daycare to speak of. So yeah.. I am unimpressed by your position on this issue.
That's a YOUR PROBLEM. Not a Boomer problem. Furthermore, practically all Grand Parents throughout the ages did not want to be babysitters of their grandkids.
Nope, it’s a Boomer problem, because, when we’re out of money to take care of the elderly, they will be the ones on the streets suffering. Less and less Millennials are willing to take care of their aging parents because of how said parents treated them.
@@NarcWhisperer BS. I’m a boomer, from the 50’s, who was orphaned at age 6. I had my grandmother who would beat my brother and I. I was on my own for my whole life. No help from anyone. I managed. Worked in factories. Those are all gone. Sent to China. That’s not the boomers fault. Unless they are ultra wealthy. I got my house in the 90’s at 14%. Not all boomer’s are like the way you state. I would gladly watch my granddaughter but my insane X who I divorced in 1983!!, (the reason I don’t date) has got parental rights, the Courts always give custody to woman, and refuses to let me and my son see or speak with her. So to those who say boomers got it made and life was a breeze. You are wrong. It wasn’t for everyone.
My insane X is a boomer so I guess some of what said rings true.
Historically kids would be raised by the village or a large extended family of uncles, aunts, grandparents, in laws, cousins, etc.
@@mr.midnight23 not in my case. Many were dead and the others were afraid of my only grandparent. Only one stepped up to the plate. She took us out a few times. No guidance. Left on are own to figure out a path.
So you have more degrees than a thermometer and can’t pay your bills? And that’s somehow my fault? You have made bad choices and now you have to work your way out of them. Consider it a learning experience and have fun with it!
What’s that smell? Oh! The smell of the rotting Boomer here!
@@NarcWhispererWow. You come up with that zinger all by yourself?
Utter nonsense garbage...
Yea you are
@@cheshireket3132 😂
@@Mr.SharkTooth-zc8rm there's that smile. Always glad to see a happy face
@@cheshireket3132 Well yeah, Grandkids spent the entire afternoon with me! Today they learned that not all dinosaurs went extinct. They learned that Maniraptoran Theropods continued on as birds! So in a very real way dinosaurs are all around us.
Just find a good man and have his kids. You are supposed to raise your children, not some stranger.
So their parents, aka the kids’ grandparents, are strangers to you?! I thought families should help one another, especially in raising the younger generations.
But in this economy, who can afford 1 income only?
College degree…what kind of degree?
A lot of them seem pointless now