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The Narcissist Whisperer
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A lifelong survivor of people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) who is trying to educate victims on what might be happening to them, and, hopefully, help some people set healthy boundaries and break free.
I was raised by a Narcissist, my husband of 15 years had Narcissism (and cheated on me constantly), and I end up dating Covert Narcissists over and over, because that's what seems familiar and "right" to me. So, I understand the extreme highs and lows that these relationships cause, I know the addiction and codependency that smacks NPD victims upside the head and drives people to make self-destructive decisions, and I'm here to share my ugly experiences to let you know that you aren't alone.
I am not a doctor, I cannot diagnose, I can only share my own experiences in the hopes that it helps other victims process what they've gone through.
I was raised by a Narcissist, my husband of 15 years had Narcissism (and cheated on me constantly), and I end up dating Covert Narcissists over and over, because that's what seems familiar and "right" to me. So, I understand the extreme highs and lows that these relationships cause, I know the addiction and codependency that smacks NPD victims upside the head and drives people to make self-destructive decisions, and I'm here to share my ugly experiences to let you know that you aren't alone.
I am not a doctor, I cannot diagnose, I can only share my own experiences in the hopes that it helps other victims process what they've gone through.
Reading Narcissist Brother-in-Law’s Letter
The fun never ends! I originally read this before Shannon’s letter, but forgot to make it public first.
As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Please seek out a professional counselor with experience in Narcissistic Personality Disorder to help with your mental health properly.
#narcissist #mentalhealth #toxicrelationships
As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Please seek out a professional counselor with experience in Narcissistic Personality Disorder to help with your mental health properly.
#narcissist #mentalhealth #toxicrelationships
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Shannon’s Gaslighting Letter - Part 3
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Welcome to a masterclass in narcissistic gaslighting - part 3! Shannon tried to manipulate my husband, claiming to have NEVER said the words she said to me, and insisting that she has never frozen me out (in a letter addressed ONLY to my husband, after she made no effort to speak to me about our issues). As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vor...
Shannon’s Gaslighting Letter - Part 2
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Welcome to a masterclass in narcissistic gaslighting - Part 2! Shannon tried to manipulate my husband, claiming to have NEVER said the words she said to me, and insisting that she has never frozen me out (in a letter addressed ONLY to my husband, after she made no effort to speak to me about our issues). As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vor...
Shannon’s Gaslighting Letter - Part 1
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Welcome to a masterclass in narcissistic gaslighting! Shannon tried to manipulate my husband, claiming to have NEVER said the words she said to me, and insisting that she has never frozen me out (in a letter addressed ONLY to my husband, after she made no effort to speak to me about our issues). As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of na...
Storytime - What Shannon Said About My Miscarriage
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When your sister-in-law is a terrible, two-faced person and lies about what she told you a week after your pregnancy loss… Since she won’t apologize or talk to me to take accountability for herself, you guys get to hear my story. I’m not telling “my version of the truth,” I’m just telling the actual TRUTH! As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a v...
Drama Continued - BIL/SIL Write Letters
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If your BIL/SIL were mean-spirited towards you for over a year, and then stole your photographer out of your wedding reception to get private family photos done, would you snap? We did, and now the Brother-in-law and sister-in-law are trying to push us back down. NOPE! As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, s...
Part 2 - My Husband Claps Back at Narcissistic Brother (With Receipts)
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Here is Part 2 of my husband's original message to his brother, after that man stole our photographer at our wedding as the cherry on the sundae of treating us like dirt for over a year. As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Plea...
My Husband Claps Back at Narcissistic Brother (With Receipts)
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I have posted, line for line, what it looks like when the sweet kid snaps and goes off on his #bully of a brother! As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Please seek out a professional counselor with experience in Narcissistic Per...
BIL Narcissistic Text to My Husband
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After stealing our wedding photographer out of our reception to take private family photos, my new #brotherinlaw is not happy that I called him out, and he has a lot of narcissistic b/s to spew about how nothing is his fault, ever! As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have lear...
BIL Family Drama Backstory
Просмотров 173 месяца назад
#teaspill and #storytime for my toxic brother-in-law and his wife, and how that has related to me and my husband. As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Please seek out a professional counselor with experience in Narcissistic Pers...
My Ex at My Wedding…
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#storytime for the aftermath of how things went after I got into a fight with my #exhusband right before my #wedding - spoiler alert, it was awkward! As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Please seek out a professional counselor ...
Defending Boomers on No Contact
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If you decide to go #nocontact that is for YOU and your mental health, you don’t do that as a punishment to change someone else’s behavior. That’s #manipulation As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their motives. Please seek out a professional...
My Ex Stole My Disney+ for HIS Girlfriend!
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I have a major #drama #teaspill #storytime - whatever you want to call it, where my ex-husband said I’m petty, spiteful, and not over him because I wouldn’t let HIS girlfriend use MY Disney account! As always, I am not a doctor or any type of medical professional, but I have lived in a vortex of narcissists my entire life, so I speak their language and have learned to understand many of their m...
Toxic Mother Insults Bride (Her Own Daughter)
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Toxic Mother Insults Bride (Her Own Daughter)
Why Get Remarried? Question Answered
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Why Get Remarried? Question Answered
Caught My Ex-Husband in MORE Cheating
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Caught My Ex-Husband in MORE Cheating
Boomers Want You to be Babies and Adults
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Boomers Want You to be Babies and Adults
Boomers Don't Want to be Grandparents?
Просмотров 2835 месяцев назад
Boomers Don't Want to be Grandparents?
Boomers Only Had Kids Because They Were "Supposed To."
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Boomers Only Had Kids Because They Were "Supposed To."
Do Guys Deserve Hand-Holding in Dating?
Просмотров 315 месяцев назад
Do Guys Deserve Hand-Holding in Dating?
When Things First Soured With My Dad
Просмотров 365 месяцев назад
When Things First Soured With My Dad
My Ex Pretending to Go to College for SIX MONTHS
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My Ex Pretending to Go to College for SIX MONTHS
If They Change Their Behavior in Public, They KNEW It Was Wrong
Просмотров 545 месяцев назад
If They Change Their Behavior in Public, They KNEW It Was Wrong
She Doesn't Realize He's a Cheater...
Просмотров 195 месяцев назад
She Doesn't Realize He's a Cheater...
Cray Cray Preacher - Don't Threaten Me With a Good Time!
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Cray Cray Preacher - Don't Threaten Me With a Good Time!
I Have a Better Relationship With My Boyfriend's Parents
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I Have a Better Relationship With My Boyfriend's Parents
Delete Boomerism.
They'll regret it on their death bed.
This really isn’t a fair thing to say. My grandparents are boomers and they’re some of the best intentioned and down to earth people even they have a good idea of what younger generations go through.
Many Boomers compare the time they were young to the time Gen X and Millenials were young. They never got the fact, that the times and the workplace and the whole setting of society changed so rapidly. Many Gen Xers knew in their 20ies and early 30ties that they will work until the end and everything was more expensive and the future looked darker for them than the Boomers, who grew up in an massiv economic upswing. Many Boomers didnt spent much time with their children, but always wanted grandkids.... some of them because THEY had the plan to be grandparents.... and there were few questions how their children (Gen X) will get along.
What a perfect analogy. They climbed the ladder 🪜 of success and pulled it up behind them 😢. Very true.
Post WW2 economy was BROKEN AF since a good faction of working class men were now dead or maimed. The wealthy, mean boomers you see in upper management today aren’t ACTUALLY supposed to be there. Remember! 😅
Its cause the 50/50 partnership we all dont have time for anything. Woman shouldn't need to work. That became a standard cause of the wars i think? If men could afford to support the house and woman do the other daytime duties. Then life wouldn't be so hard. We could even have time for icecream as a family. Wife wouldnt be complaining about whats equal. Having 2 parents work all the time even when you are wealthy honestly just sucks. The kids go unsupervised. The family is stressed. Time is short. House is a mess etc.
My friend, you are exuding extreme "totally misinformed and hatefully angry about things that don't even exist" vibes. My advice is to lay off the television news because it's mostly overblown bullshit and cherry-picked fearmongering.
Parents whine and cry for grandkids, but then when they get them, they don't want to help take care of the grandkids they wanted so much.. If they don't want to help take care of their grandchildren, then they need to stop crying to their adult children to give them grandkids..🙄🙄 I'm in my 40s, and I'm #CHILDFREEBYCHOICE
Dismissive avoidants are human garbage
my grandma never wanted to spend time with me and now as a teenager i’m stuck taking care of her, a women i barely know
As a millennial with silent gen parents with boomer and gen x siblings everyone can go fuck them selves I live for me and me only
Old people: You need a car. Me, who lived in a downtown area: I do not. Cant afford car. Nor insurance. Nor gas. Nor my wife. Nor medical. I got food kinda covered, tho. Old people: Well how does that work?! Me: You watch fox news 24/7. Did they just gloss over the younger generations in pursuit of republican bliss for you boomers? Cuz.. we exist.
Old people: "younger generations ... in pursuit of republican bliss? never heard of it"
The effects of lead are cumulative. It never leaves the body, only gets worse. They think lead had a part in the collapse of the roman empire... makes a lot of sense when you think about all of the country-ending decisions the boomers have made without a second thought about their children or the future ☠️
Boomers in the comments proving the point. :,D
This kind of attitude really pisses me off. I'm a boomer You are a loser. None of what you have said about boomers is true for any of my acquaintances. It's not the boomers' fault you wasted your life pursuing a degree that is worthless. Had you listened to someone like me in your younger life, you would be a much happier person. Now quit your useless whining and get to fixing all the crap you created. No one can fix it, but you. Stop blaming others and just fix it.
Lol. You really are a typical boomer. Have the easiest life ever and look down on others while being no help at all but only a burden. :,D
Just because your parents suck doesn't mean all Boomers are bad. Most of us struggled and are still struggling.
We Boomer generation had parents who lived through the depression and WWII, and we were taught not to complain, make do with what you have, and dont blame others. Be responsible and make the place (campsite, park, or even the world) better than when you found it. Go volunteer at your local food bank or homeless shelter. Volunteer work looks really good on a resume, when applying for a good job. Really.
The reason volunteer work looks good on a resume is that it communicates to a prospective employer the false impression that you are willing to work for free... which is why nobody actually does it
Our parents didn’t even want to spend time with us when they were responsible for raising us ; they’re never getting grandkids
Gen Xers are grandparents now, hopefully we will do better. Shes correct about it all...
I will tell my kid not to have a kid. Unless he has at least 5 millions liquid cash by 2045.
Not to mention, her money was worth more relative to what it’s worth now when she was waiting tables in her 20s. Her hard work paid off. I know people now working 60 hours a week well above minimum wage to just stay afloat. Our hard work is worth next to nothing.
Exactly. Waiting tables and delivering pizza WAS good work back then
It would be really refreshing if you people would stop your whining and grow the hell up.
Boomers are fucking delusional..
Should have went to a trade school teach you to get a real job !!
Ah.. I'm 45.. raised 4 kids, 3 of which were by marriage. It's possible to raise a family, and not be dependent on parents. Yeah, it's not easy, but you can do it. 🤷♂️
Congratulations. You were one of the lucky ones. What applied to you does not apply to everyone.
@chernobyl169 my step daughter is getting her masters, is able to support her lifestyle, and works multiple jobs. Yeah, it's tough, and it sucks, but you can do it. Complaining, and saying it's not fair. Means you probably complain about most things instead of figuring out how to get to where you want or need to be. I don't complain about the hand I was dealt growing up. Most Gen-X don't. We figured it out. Guarantee the new generations can as well.
Well I wouldn't want to take care of my kids kids either unless I lived with them.
You were in a story with a narc and used an avoidant as rebound… you are a strong person.. avoidants are more dangerous tho
I wouldn't say strong, more like I just ended up finding someone who felt "normal" without fully realizing that my sense of normal was all screwed up. Honestly, though, I didn't ever feel like I was in danger with this guy, it was just the emotional turmoil of having meaning to him one minute and being worthless the next. It was so invalidating.
I had nothing to do with it.
„No, you made that up..“ the last time I heard that phrase I asked back: „who did it then? Your evil twin?“ *crickets*
omg you broke one! They had no way to answer that! Bless you for finding a phrase that worked! lol
This is individual behaviour. Don't tar all of us Boomers with this brush.
So many gaslighting, narcissistic takes in these comments. I'm seeing someone use "bootstrapa" unironically, as if comepletely unaware of the meaning of that phrase, a sexist asking if she has a man in her life, and a gen-xer saying to be as apathetic and psychopathic as their lead poisoned generation. Take a breath, psychos, touch some grass, and gfy.
You don't ask a paid professional working for another client to stop working, and do something for free for you. You don't ask someone else's wedding photographer to do something for you instead, potentially missing a shot. You shouldn't be bothering them at all unless directed by the Bride and Groom. A paid professional shouldn't be distracting themselves or doing other work while on a job either. Either they were one of the garbage ones who lie, or they bothered her so much she put down her work to stop the issue and not cause a big drama at a wedding.
You look fabulous btw!
I absolutely agree! I’m starting to post the letters they wrote back with (because we blocked them online) and they are dripping with narcissistic deflection. Nothing is their fault, and, because the SIL decided it was fine without asking up. Their stories contradict their own words, and each other’s versions of events. Straight to no contact!
Maybe should have picked a major that got you a high paying forever job
Maybe you should grow a conscience and stop gaslighting people.
Hi hi… Gen-Xer here. Let me give you a couple tips from our playbook. 1. Don’t GAF whether your parents want you to have kids are not. You’re the one responsible, so your decision to have kids needs to be independent of their wishes for your life. 2. Getting a good job after college sucked for us, too. That’s why many of us became entrepreneurs. Oh and “We didn’t start the fire.” That’s our thing tyvm 😂😂… But in all seriousness, do what you can. Make decisions that work for you so that you don’t get stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Was his name William? 😂
No, but I’m sorry to hear there are more of this guy running around out there!
i got a new rule boomer tax, you wanna see your grandkids pay up 😁
Oh Lord quit whining pull those boot straps up and deal with life we don’t all have parents who care about anyone or anything but themselves no matter what Gen your from
You do realize that bootstraps started as a sarcastic phrase, refering to a literal impossibility, right?
My mom was raised by her grandmother because my granny had to work, my granny raised me (she lived with us) because my mom and dad had to work and my mom always said that she would raise my children if I wanted her to do it. I don’t understand people that receive but don’t want to give.
This is 100% truth. To boomers, nothing is ever good enough and nothing will ever be good enough. Okay. No grandchildren for you, then. What's the point? They'll just end up disappointing you anyway, so might as well spare you, myself and them the trouble.
You are wrong- the most boomer grandparents will be lovely to their grandchildren. And you will hate them even more because they weren‘t able to show only a little bit of kindness they will show to your kids… (not all of them, but many)
@@Chris.R. I seem to recall reading something like that somewhere once. The theory is that boomers were so hard on their children out of fear of spoiling them, of them growing into incompetent adults. There's a saying that says something like "if you raise your children, you get to spoil your grandchildren" (or something like that), because it's their parents' job to raise them, so boomers get to be "cool" grandmas and grandpas. They can always blame their children if their grandchildren fail to live up to their expectations anyway.
Do you have a husband ? that sure would make it a lot easier..
Uhhh, yeah I am married. But that’s a very snarky assumption to disrespect single mothers, Ruby. Do better.
@@NarcWhisperer wasn’t trying to be snarky. Just wondering if you had two incomes and still were having difficulty. So I guess you are I hope things get better for you and your family.
Honestly this is so funny lmao. Yes, I believe in being the bigger person most of the time, but I am also willing to be so much worse for the bit. People will think I’ve hit rock bottom until they see how good I am with a jackhammer that runs on spite 🥰 I hope they like their gifts :p
Due to developments that I will be posting about in the upcoming week (the BIL/SIL sent letters trying to gaslight us into believing they’ve never done a single thing wrong and we just “misunderstood” everything) we’ve gone no contact. So, no canvas for them! But the MIL got hers and didn’t even notice they were missing!
Everytime my Nana tries to pressure me to have kids (I don't want kids if I could afford them or not) I always ask if SHE'S gonna be the one taking care of them She wants them, not me. Her responsibility. But she's not gonna want that (which is reasonable) so no grandkids from me. Because I sure as hell don't want to take care of them
The job wanted vs the job you need. That's the difference in the generations. Don't care about your degree or how old you are. If you are going to complain because you have no money and will not do what it takes to stop complaining about it then go take a long good look in the mirror. No job is beneath you if it gives you what you need or helps you get what you need. Learn to work
It’s almost like the job you want should pay you enough to live? No job should pay so little that the employees can’t make a livable wage. I agree that people should do something about a situation they don’t like rather than just complaining, but I doubt the person you’re watching doesn’t have a job already. You can have a job *and* complain about it, y’know, that’s something you’re allowed to do. Especially when jobs today expect maximum effort for minimum benefits. Experience/exposure doesn’t put food on the table! Most relatives I know are working multiple jobs to support their immediate families and still aren’t making enough. If you know any jobs to get into that anyone can do and make a livable wage on, then you need to start sharing lol. Some of us could use jobs like that.
Every generation did this I pretty sure are kids for those who can have that happen will argue same thing hate me all you want but I heard stories and took them to heart from my parents and there parents and people like therapists and stuff they moved up the ladder they were just wiser and took advantages for there future not there now
Boomers stole their Children and Grandchildrens futures and then scream at them both for not doing better than they did as a generation who had everything handed to them in comparison to us.
Or u r told they r not babysitters. Then the younger sibling has a kid and guess what...
... suddenly your relationship doesn't matter anymore because the grandkid is what's important? Yeah, I didn't have to guess
I'm pretty sure my Boomer mom would watch my kids for free if I ever had any because she loves kids so much. However, I have absolutely no intention of ever having kids. She has many grandkids and great-grandkids already from my brothers, so she doesn't need more from me. I don't care how disappointed she is about it, I hate kids!
Not everyone wants children nor do they want to raise them and that's O.K. I don't know why some people just think life isn't worth living unless you have kids . The one drawback is that when you get older you don't have your children to help you. Then again, a lot of kids never help out their parents anyway so they're still at a loss.
@@robertkartechner5850 I think having kids would make my life a lot worse. I also think I'd rather rely on future technology and society in general to take care of me when I'm old than rely on my potential kids.
@@MatthewTheWanderer My ex took my son some 1300 miles away and cut off communication with him so I don't know how it would have worked out. So, I am essentially without kids for some 47 or 48 years and yeah, it's OK. It's quiet and have lots of freedom. My sister has kids and grand kids so I get to experience it that way. Not sure how my last years will be but one day at a time.
@@robertkartechner5850 My brothers both have kids and my older brother has grandkids that are the same age as my younger brothers kids. So, I'm technically an uncle and granduncle, but I have nothing to do with any of my many nieces and nephews and I have no desire to ever be involved with them at all. So, I don't understand the desire to "get to experience it that way" at all. Why should I or anyone else want to experience that!? I don't like being around kids. Full stop. Why should I have to be around kids just because my brothers made a bad decision without me?
Us boomers don't realize that times change and really don't offer a solution to the problem but make it worse by NOT recognizing it.
Gen x women took care of our own children..talk about privileged entitlement women! Some women should never breed
You should really go outside and touch grass.
I live on a farm, all I do on the weekends is touch grass, but... mmmkay...