It is only in Africa where we would normalise the extreme caning of a child, even in schools. I would say it is abuse. To an extent you can spank a child or give them punishment. But you see African parents they would beat you mercilessly like they are not your own child. And alot of them need therapy. I have seen cases where some parents would leave markings on their childrens bodies, for what exactly? And then come outside and be claiming "best parent". Ive seen alot of children who weren't spanked mercilessly or injured and they still turn out fine. We Africans need a serious mentality change. And I am in total support of social services getting involved abroad. Maybe that will teach them a very big lesson. It is ABNORMAL! And also a generational curse we need to start breaking because at the end of the day a child will do what they want to do. If you can't sit down and talk to your child like a normal human being about what they have done wrong and try to find out why they did such. You are not parenting right.
Thank you, i was born in Cameroon and moved to the US at 14, I remember one morning before school in Cameroon, I was being naughty like all kids at some point, my stepmom used a stick and brutalized me, cuts and bruises all over my body, I was obviously bleeding, I had to take a shower after that and go to school, i had a shitty day at school and couldn't learn anything, I haven't forgotten that incident and she'll here from me one day, i'm 24 now and if anyone does that to my future son, i'll probably kill them, just being honest.
Caning is the reason africans have good manners than europeans. no sane parent beats a child mercilessly...there is a certain type of africans that like to exaggerate in order to look sophisticated/modern or just please europeans and you seem the type
Times have changed and beating has proven the least effective ways to discipline kids in the long run. Instead of disciplining them, beating makes them susceptible to enduring violence and in the end, they just get used to the pain and even become numb from it as opposed to learning why they shouldn't misbehave in the way they did.
I would never parent my child how my strict Ghanaian parents raised me. Some African parents do too much but that also a huge part of why many of us are or becoming successful.
All I heard was toxic parenting that is predicated on instilling fear in children. Grew up in such a set up but am disappointed we think that's love and it should be ok. So many adults now look back and realise there is so much to unlearn from how they were brought up.
@@fredkaijuka7717 Hardly so, punishment and canning were never tools for parenting. They were used as a means to transfer pain that parents endured at the hands of colonialist. Imagine being abused, canned in presence of your family by a colonial master-this culminated in trauma and anger which often got transferred to children and wives
I was raised by a single mother and an entire village of her relatives. I have been beaten and cuddled, talked up and punished. It was wholesome, filled with love, faith and a genuine "lesson" that my actions have results, positive or negative, and whatever the result, it was my responsibility to deal with them. "Take it like a woman" my mother used to say... best childhood ever! I wouldn't change a thing. It made me self aware very quickly, aware of my actions and inactions and made me a more responsive adult today. Would I beat or threaten my kids? I don't know, but I hope to be half as good as I got it😅
This was good parenting though there’s a thin line between parenting and being violent. We were taught to be attentive, obedient and self aware. Takes a village to raise a child
@Sky if your african or studied English you know the symbolism of this saying and what village can stand for in different situations. Lets not get petty
Parenting in Africa should be viewed from three perspectives,before colonization,during colonization and after colonization.Africans consciousness was hugely affected by conquests and slavery.
whatever excuse you wanna use.... Most of these parents are like that cuz of poverty and luck of education and prob some of the wars in some countries in Africa it but I don't think it has anything to do with colonisation. My grandma never experienced colonisation but she did experience the war between Ethiopia and Eri. A lot of these parents especially the women suffer from PTSD. They had the worst experience so they just inflict the same suffering on their children and I have no idea why that's the part I don't understand? Some of the grousome practices are part of the culture too. Anyways poverty makes you do all sorts of ish you become angry and defenseless so they put their anger on their children...
My father used to say his mother would make him stand on his knees on rocks with all his books in his hand. Every morning he’d be late for school to drink coffee. My parents were very fearful of the US culture and the law, so my parents were very different raising me in the US compared to their upbringing in Ethiopia. I find I am much stricter with my children. My father says I am similar to his mom. I am stern, demand respect, but my teenage son and I also have an awesome Friendship. Strict Discipline though stops for me at a certain age for me and has to transition somewhat into communication and openness. Yes expectations and respect should still be present because that’s how their upbringing was but being too strict in todays culture will push our kids away and into the arms of others for support or too scared to ask for help. Parenting is so different in the US and not the good better. I wish I had the support of an entire Ethiopian community to help me with child rearing, it is no joke!
"The look!" most African kids have experienced the look in one form or another it stops you on your tracks. I swear African parents are the same everywhere! 😂😂 Am Kenyan and I relate to all this. I was meant to understand that the disciplining was out of love and care and I see it now, much love to our very African parents and all their ways
I was raised by both my parents and my grandmother. Although my father never beat me I was scared of him. As the brother from Ghana said the threat of discipline was enough to scare me. My mother was a soft spoken sweet woman. She did spank me a few times. And she will tell me why I deserved it. Its important to point out though that I never doubted their love for me. And I turned out well❤✊🏾 May they rest in glory🙏🏾❤
I knew ma'am was Kenyan before she said it 😂😂 I was born in Zambia and it's wild how similar our cultures are. My mother used to give me "the look" and she'd whip my ass for misbehaving! I'm 22 and I'm still scared of her 😂
Pls don’t overdue discipline.I see the difference between my family and others . I wish the home was not a hostile space and was a space to grow. I see how other less abusive families are not successful and min me is struggling. I’ve seen less abusive Nigerian families have kids that go to Ivy League schools and not abusive households experience suicide of their child as well.
I was beaten at school and so did my father, my mother rarely did. The discipline helped to shape who l am today. My father is no longer on earth but l love him to bits.
Do you feel you were beaten because you were a delinquent, were you ever hugged after the beating. The act of beating is an act of inflicting pain - that pain which you learned over time to mask and within you shaped a copying mechanism of being the best or better kid. So yes you became a great child but one day if you unmasked the pain, you will be horrified to find what lies beneath
@@globalcitizen161 l don't have to unmasked anything, l will always love my father. He was neither a perfect father nor a horrible father. He had his shortcomings. As l said in previous comment, l am a strong person, a person l am today partly Because of my father, even at thousands of my from him the fear of him and respect for him still resonate and many years after his death. People will have various opinions about "discipline" or corporal punishment, l respect their opinions but please respect mine.
Respect the relationship and make sure there’s not a trauma bond is what he is saying . Best way is to talk to someone (therapist cause you might not want people to know your business) about him in full context and get some second opinions on things.
I never hit my children, or threatened to hit them, but from a very early age I let them know (verbally), that acting out was not an option. I was lucky, they both got it, even though they are very different people. As they grew I just had to remind them a few times. I am not a yeller, so when I did have to speak sharply to them they felt it. As I get to the point of the matter. I know they are not afraid of me, but they do respect me. They do not always agree with what I say, so I allow them to voice their thoughts. If with reflection I see they have a better solution I go with their suggestion. But sometimes I have to stick to the original plan or thought. They may not be pleased but they go with what I have said. This way of parenting will not work for every child/home obviously. Some kids definitely need a different method.
Mmmm dear God thank You for everything, I remember growing up in the upcountry, the beating both at home and school,even the village elders would discipline you if you misbehave, I grew up in so much fear that UpTo date, I got so many questions why that was happening actually i don't know much about my family because I choose not to ask , the look eeeh just look that is a story for another day....Ngai
Sorry you had to go thru that, as a Cameroonian kid, now living in the US, i know both sides. I remember one day before school, i was being stubborn, ,my step mom undressed me and beat me with a stick, my whole body was bleeding and i was bruised, she made me take a cold shower after that and go to school, I obviously couldn't learn anything in school, African parents, not all, but a lot of them think that's discipline, that's abuse, if she did that in the US, she'll be locked up in prison, and up to this day, i haven't forgotten and she'll hear from me when the time is right.
@o k t o b e r hello, it should not be the default to be violent when someone is rude/not doing what you want. It doesn't and will not make the situation better. I hope this helps.
My dad made me kneel on the ground and my hands were up at the same for 2 hours bcos of bad grade at elementary school. I still love him up to today. We now live in U.S and he is enjoying been a grandpa. become a nice grandpa lol.
@@LexMoy no sir, it’s a generation thing where most African parents think they can do whatever they want to the child. I was born in 1978 so that era was tough.
In Africa, if you weren't violently punished for witchcraft, you're one of the lucky one's. There are kids in Nigeria who are abandoned because their parents think they're possessed.
Great discipline happens…. Some abuse happens… much love is shown. Different parents are on different parts of the spectrum…the same as anywhere else in the world. In the west, a lot of psychological parenting happens that can impact children in ways that are just as bad as physical
Oh wow. 🤯 American born and bred here. This just gave me a lot of clarity. Some of the ways I was disciplined growing up (going outside and getting a switch, beatings for bad behavior, etc.) I assumed was the result of conditioning from slavery. But you mean to tell me that my own ancestors carried this (at times, inhumane) form of punishment over from Africa and we’ve maintained it for centuries? I’m shocked to say the very least. I need a moment.
You can I’m surprised people don’t know that white people had it as well . Their research led to ban of it in countries because banning it makes children more successful. You turned out well but it’s best that type of discipline be researched on why it’s not helpful
This behaviour is propagated through the Boarding school system in Africa that was set up by the colonial missionary movement. It's a different but similar root in that the Boarding school system mirrors the old system in European schools where corporal punishment was the norm.
How can you decide to raise kids , if you are damaged Goods ? You dont have to study Psychology , to answer that question Just destroying the Future of their so called " Children " Discipline has nothing to do with toughness , or punishment This word describes the meaning of love Discipline , equal the love to something Its about caring , compassion and empathy Good qualities And in the Aftermath they are surprised , that all the time , they invested in was for nothing Why ? Because , all the things , that you do , will definitely come back to haunt you " It rains on the just and the unjust ! " You know what ? Some of these children will become Survivors ad bow down to no one To no one !!!!
Meanwhile the yt people that brought that verse to Nigeria have dropped their rod for over a decade because they know it’s harmful but here we are. These Nigerian kids in the diaspora will just cut their parents off. Chai
My child is 18yrs. I still send him for a cane though his taller than me and definitely would beat me up but I know being an African child, you can't dare dream of dreaming hitting an elder
@@juniorbeckham2928 🤣🤣🤣🤣 his performing to the best of his ability in school, parents in my neighborhood use him as an example for their own kids. FYI beating a child doesn't mean you ain't their friend, doesn't mean they don't understand that they did something that punishable, doesn't mean you love them less. As a parent create boundaries for yourself too. I never beat him when I am angry, hurt people hurt people. Clearly a child hasn't done, said something that drives you mad or make you feel disrespected or just the normal triggers.
@@mildredpearlkagoda551 I understand that and congrats on raising a great young man, but he's an adult now, you can't possibly still put you hands on him that's all i'm saying, in the US, at 18 he can join the military, get married etc. Let me ask you a question, I was born in Cameroon and moved to the US at 14, one day in Cameroon, one morning particularly before school, i was being stubborn, so my stepmom took my clothes off and beat my naked body with a stick, my entire body was bruised and i was bleeding, she then made me take a cold bath and I walked to school, mind you it was cold that morning. i obviously couldn't learn anything that day because i was traumatized, I ultimately retaliated. Up to this day I haven't forgotten about that incident, i'm 24 now and she's gonna hear from me very soon. My question is do you think what she did is discipline or abuse? Because if she did that to me in the US, she'll be in prison.
Oh, you should have interviewed a Nigerian, lol. You'll hear stories that will make you - the interviewer - have nightmares, not to speak of the interviewee. And RUclips will probably ban the video as well, lol. What can I say, man? My parents beat us silly in those days. At a point, I thought they weren't my real parents. Now that I have come of age, I'd say the discipline they meted out, albeit harsh, was for our good. We all turned out fine, but I wouldn't apply the same methods they used to my kids.
Love me the African and Asia n South American parenting. It has saved us the sever decay these No spanking, cuddle societies are dealing with. A few things can be improved but on the overall we have the upper hand in the parenting game
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It is only in Africa where we would normalise the extreme caning of a child, even in schools. I would say it is abuse. To an extent you can spank a child or give them punishment. But you see African parents they would beat you mercilessly like they are not your own child. And alot of them need therapy. I have seen cases where some parents would leave markings on their childrens bodies, for what exactly? And then come outside and be claiming "best parent". Ive seen alot of children who weren't spanked mercilessly or injured and they still turn out fine. We Africans need a serious mentality change. And I am in total support of social services getting involved abroad. Maybe that will teach them a very big lesson. It is ABNORMAL! And also a generational curse we need to start breaking because at the end of the day a child will do what they want to do. If you can't sit down and talk to your child like a normal human being about what they have done wrong and try to find out why they did such. You are not parenting right.
Thanks
Thank you, i was born in Cameroon and moved to the US at 14, I remember one morning before school in Cameroon, I was being naughty like all kids at some point, my stepmom used a stick and brutalized me, cuts and bruises all over my body, I was obviously bleeding, I had to take a shower after that and go to school, i had a shitty day at school and couldn't learn anything, I haven't forgotten that incident and she'll here from me one day, i'm 24 now and if anyone does that to my future son, i'll probably kill them, just being honest.
Caning is the reason africans have good manners than europeans. no sane parent beats a child mercilessly...there is a certain type of africans that like to exaggerate in order to look sophisticated/modern or just please europeans and you seem the type
Thanks so much
They dont have DYFS in Africa i heard.
Times have changed and beating has proven the least effective ways to discipline kids in the long run. Instead of disciplining them, beating makes them susceptible to enduring violence and in the end, they just get used to the pain and even become numb from it as opposed to learning why they shouldn't misbehave in the way they did.
I would never parent my child how my strict Ghanaian parents raised me. Some African parents do too much but that also a huge part of why many of us are or becoming successful.
And committing suicide I know about Nigerians and they have been commuting suicide in higher rates.
All I heard was toxic parenting that is predicated on instilling fear in children. Grew up in such a set up but am disappointed we think that's love and it should be ok. So many adults now look back and realise there is so much to unlearn from how they were brought up.
And they do it differently and rise lunatics and idiots,its un fortunate.
@@fredkaijuka7717 spit
@@africanglobalnomad is that the best u can do?
@@fredkaijuka7717 Hardly so, punishment and canning were never tools for parenting. They were used as a means to transfer pain that parents endured at the hands of colonialist. Imagine being abused, canned in presence of your family by a colonial master-this culminated in trauma and anger which often got transferred to children and wives
@@globalcitizen161 its simple,do wht u think is right for ur kids and urself and dont critises others how do things differently.
I was raised by a single mother and an entire village of her relatives. I have been beaten and cuddled, talked up and punished. It was wholesome, filled with love, faith and a genuine "lesson" that my actions have results, positive or negative, and whatever the result, it was my responsibility to deal with them. "Take it like a woman" my mother used to say... best childhood ever! I wouldn't change a thing. It made me self aware very quickly, aware of my actions and inactions and made me a more responsive adult today. Would I beat or threaten my kids? I don't know, but I hope to be half as good as I got it😅
@@nonly1na clue of how lucky they are to be born nowadays because of how cruel and pathetic people acted back then.
That is abuse you're glorifying
keep crying @@clarkporter1340
This was good parenting though there’s a thin line between parenting and being violent. We were taught to be attentive, obedient and self aware. Takes a village to raise a child
It’s not a village, it’s your family. I didn’t hear they were discipline by a stranger.
@Sky if your african or studied English you know the symbolism of this saying and what village can stand for in different situations. Lets not get petty
Parenting in Africa should be viewed from three perspectives,before colonization,during colonization and after colonization.Africans consciousness was hugely affected by conquests and slavery.
Amen
You've put it so well 🐱
Exactly and it's unfortunate the elderly are not ready for that conversation.
whatever excuse you wanna use.... Most of these parents are like that cuz of poverty and luck of education and prob some of the wars in some countries in Africa it but I don't think it has anything to do with colonisation.
My grandma never experienced colonisation but she did experience the war between Ethiopia and Eri. A lot of these parents especially the women suffer from PTSD. They had the worst experience so they just inflict the same suffering on their children and I have no idea why that's the part I don't understand?
Some of the grousome practices are part of the culture too. Anyways poverty makes you do all sorts of ish you become angry and defenseless so they put their anger on their children...
yep,
My father used to say his mother would make him stand on his knees on rocks with all his books in his hand. Every morning he’d be late for school to drink coffee. My parents were very fearful of the US culture and the law, so my parents were very different raising me in the US compared to their upbringing in Ethiopia. I find I am much stricter with my children. My father says I am similar to his mom. I am stern, demand respect, but my teenage son and I also have an awesome
Friendship. Strict Discipline though stops for me at a certain age for me and has to transition somewhat into communication and openness. Yes expectations and respect should still be present because that’s how their upbringing was but being too strict in todays culture will push our kids away and into the arms of others for support or too scared to ask for help. Parenting is so different in the US and not the good better. I wish I had the support of an entire Ethiopian community to help me with child rearing, it is no joke!
My parents didn't allow me to date I was told there was no time for such things and I was supposed to be studying
Me too 😂😢
@@MaBlacks I think all African parents are the same
They think they are always right and if you talk to them about it they will call it disrespectful and deny it
@@joshuadala3508 true at the ned of the day they know more than you and they know better than you, you can't tell them anything.
"The look!" most African kids have experienced the look in one form or another it stops you on your tracks. I swear African parents are the same everywhere! 😂😂 Am Kenyan and I relate to all this. I was meant to understand that the disciplining was out of love and care and I see it now, much love to our very African parents and all their ways
We were beaten senseless at school and at home😅😅😅
I was raised by both my parents and my grandmother. Although my father never beat me I was scared of him. As the brother from Ghana said the threat of discipline was enough to scare me. My mother was a soft spoken sweet woman. She did spank me a few times. And she will tell me why I deserved it. Its important to point out though that I never doubted their love for me. And I turned out well❤✊🏾
May they rest in glory🙏🏾❤
I knew ma'am was Kenyan before she said it 😂😂 I was born in Zambia and it's wild how similar our cultures are. My mother used to give me "the look" and she'd whip my ass for misbehaving! I'm 22 and I'm still scared of her 😂
Oh “the look”😂😂🇳🇦
Are you a parent still raising young children?
It's worth listening since you don't normally ask for feedback from our children.
All the best.
Pls don’t overdue discipline.I see the difference between my family and others . I wish the home was not a hostile space and was a space to grow. I see how other less abusive families are not successful and min me is struggling.
I’ve seen less abusive Nigerian families have kids that go to Ivy League schools and not abusive households experience suicide of their child as well.
I was beaten at school and so did my father, my mother rarely did. The discipline helped to shape who l am today. My father is no longer on earth but l love him to bits.
Do you feel you were beaten because you were a delinquent, were you ever hugged after the beating. The act of beating is an act of inflicting pain - that pain which you learned over time to mask and within you shaped a copying mechanism of being the best or better kid. So yes you became a great child but one day if you unmasked the pain, you will be horrified to find what lies beneath
@@globalcitizen161 l don't have to unmasked anything, l will always love my father. He was neither a perfect father nor a horrible father. He had his shortcomings. As l said in previous comment, l am a strong person, a person l am today partly Because of my father, even at thousands of my from him the fear of him and respect for him still resonate and many years after his death.
People will have various opinions about "discipline" or corporal punishment, l respect their opinions but please respect mine.
Respect the relationship and make sure there’s not a trauma bond is what he is saying .
Best way is to talk to someone (therapist cause you might not want people to know your business) about him in full context and get some second opinions on things.
Lol the first sentence was relatable….
Really would like to see more of the things that were fun growing up African
We had gala but they banned it in the diaspora 😭😭
It was wholesome and love.
And if you talk to them about this they will deny it and call it disrespectful
I never hit my children, or threatened to hit them, but from a very early age I let them know (verbally), that acting out was not an option. I was lucky, they both got it, even though they are very different people. As they grew I just had to remind them a few times. I am not a yeller, so when I did have to speak sharply to them they felt it. As I get to the point of the matter. I know they are not afraid of me, but they do respect me. They do not always agree with what I say, so I allow them to voice their thoughts. If with reflection I see they have a better solution I go with their suggestion. But sometimes I have to stick to the original plan or thought. They may not be pleased but they go with what I have said. This way of parenting will not work for every child/home obviously. Some kids definitely need a different method.
Narcissistic abuse is the norm parenting style in Africa
Mmmm dear God thank You for everything, I remember growing up in the upcountry, the beating both at home and school,even the village elders would discipline you if you misbehave, I grew up in so much fear that UpTo date, I got so many questions why that was happening actually i don't know much about my family because I choose not to ask , the look eeeh just look that is a story for another day....Ngai
Sorry you had to go thru that, as a Cameroonian kid, now living in the US, i know both sides. I remember one day before school, i was being stubborn, ,my step mom undressed me and beat me with a stick, my whole body was bleeding and i was bruised, she made me take a cold shower after that and go to school, I obviously couldn't learn anything in school, African parents, not all, but a lot of them think that's discipline, that's abuse, if she did that in the US, she'll be locked up in prison, and up to this day, i haven't forgotten and she'll hear from me when the time is right.
This is why the average African people have discipline and manners but we can be rude though I can't lie.
@o k t o b e r hello, it should not be the default to be violent when someone is rude/not doing what you want. It doesn't and will not make the situation better. I hope this helps.
Lol stop it, that's such BS
My dad made me kneel on the ground and my hands were up at the same for 2 hours bcos of bad grade at elementary school. I still love him up to today. We now live in U.S and he is enjoying been a grandpa. become a nice grandpa lol.
Smh.. There's nothing to love about this..
@@LexMoy no sir, it’s a generation thing where most African parents think they can do whatever they want to the child. I was born in 1978 so that era was tough.
awesome info!
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Im Haitian and i had to stay on my knees and cross my arm. Tell this day my knees are strong 😂😂
In Africa, if you weren't violently punished for witchcraft, you're one of the lucky one's. There are kids in Nigeria who are abandoned because their parents think they're possessed.
Great discipline happens…. Some abuse happens… much love is shown.
Different parents are on different parts of the spectrum…the same as anywhere else in the world.
In the west, a lot of psychological parenting happens that can impact children in ways that are just as bad as physical
Read a book about parenting a black child please
@@rhe987 what does this mean? You can’t just leave a comment like this without context.
Where is the love shown in being rap*d, molest*d and SA'd?
As an African American, my parents, great grandmother, grandmother, and great Aunt all spanked( beaten) me. I am grateful for those spankings.
I'm not grateful for being rap*d, molest*d, and SA'd amongst other things!
My dad cuddled us never a disciplinarian but mum ! hummmm she is the bomb still scared of her in my late 20s .
Oh wow. 🤯 American born and bred here. This just gave me a lot of clarity. Some of the ways I was disciplined growing up (going outside and getting a switch, beatings for bad behavior, etc.) I assumed was the result of conditioning from slavery. But you mean to tell me that my own ancestors carried this (at times, inhumane) form of punishment over from Africa and we’ve maintained it for centuries? I’m shocked to say the very least. I need a moment.
Oh shut up, the kids in America are rude, unruly, undisciplined, disrespectful and violent. They need more whippings and discipline, not less.
Its okay. We turned out well
@@alicegauteng2358 Yep, very well! I'm American born and raised also and don't think I would be the adult I am now without my parents firm hand.
You can I’m surprised people don’t know that white people had it as well . Their research led to ban of it in countries because banning it makes children more successful. You turned out well but it’s best that type of discipline be researched on why it’s not helpful
This behaviour is propagated through the Boarding school system in Africa that was set up by the colonial missionary movement. It's a different but similar root in that the Boarding school system mirrors the old system in European schools where corporal punishment was the norm.
You guys were easy kids deal with by the way you're talking except from the the hoodie girl and journalist 😂🙏👍🏾
How can you decide to raise kids , if you are damaged Goods ?
You dont have to study Psychology , to answer that question
Just destroying the Future of their so called " Children "
Discipline has nothing to do with toughness , or punishment
This word describes the meaning of love
Discipline , equal the love to something
Its about caring , compassion and empathy
Good qualities
And in the Aftermath they are surprised , that all the time , they invested in was for nothing
Why ?
Because , all the things , that you do , will definitely come back to haunt you
" It rains on the just and the unjust ! "
You know what ?
Some of these children will become Survivors ad bow down to no one
To no one !!!!
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It takes the rod to pry out the foolishness
😶
It's not a sin to discipline your kid
Like?
Meanwhile the yt people that brought that verse to Nigeria have dropped their rod for over a decade because they know it’s harmful but here we are. These Nigerian kids in the diaspora will just cut their parents off. Chai
This is something an PIECE OF SHIT PARENT would say
My child is 18yrs. I still send him for a cane though his taller than me and definitely would beat me up but I know being an African child, you can't dare dream of dreaming hitting an elder
Keep doing that and see what happens, we can only be pushed so far until we retaliate
@@juniorbeckham2928 🤣🤣🤣🤣 his performing to the best of his ability in school, parents in my neighborhood use him as an example for their own kids.
FYI beating a child doesn't mean you ain't their friend, doesn't mean they don't understand that they did something that punishable, doesn't mean you love them less.
As a parent create boundaries for yourself too. I never beat him when I am angry, hurt people hurt people.
Clearly a child hasn't done, said something that drives you mad or make you feel disrespected or just the normal triggers.
@@mildredpearlkagoda551 I understand that and congrats on raising a great young man, but he's an adult now, you can't possibly still put you hands on him that's all i'm saying, in the US, at 18 he can join the military, get married etc. Let me ask you a question, I was born in Cameroon and moved to the US at 14, one day in Cameroon, one morning particularly before school, i was being stubborn, so my stepmom took my clothes off and beat my naked body with a stick, my entire body was bruised and i was bleeding, she then made me take a cold bath and I walked to school, mind you it was cold that morning. i obviously couldn't learn anything that day because i was traumatized, I ultimately retaliated. Up to this day I haven't forgotten about that incident, i'm 24 now and she's gonna hear from me very soon. My question is do you think what she did is discipline or abuse? Because if she did that to me in the US, she'll be in prison.
Have fun in the retirement home, when he gets older he’s going to despise you
@@Jennifer-uh8th 🤣🤣🤣🤣 take your western minded nonsense to the US and Europe, we respect our elders and take care of our own down here in Uganda
Oh, you should have interviewed a Nigerian, lol. You'll hear stories that will make you - the interviewer - have nightmares, not to speak of the interviewee. And RUclips will probably ban the video as well, lol.
What can I say, man? My parents beat us silly in those days. At a point, I thought they weren't my real parents. Now that I have come of age, I'd say the discipline they meted out, albeit harsh, was for our good. We all turned out fine, but I wouldn't apply the same methods they used to my kids.
I didn't turn out fine! Being beaten, rap*d, molest*d and SA'd was not for my good!
And their always bringing Christianity God and Jesus into every talk I’m not an atheist but I hate it when they do that it’s hypocrisy
Love me the African and Asia n South American parenting. It has saved us the sever decay these No spanking, cuddle societies are dealing with.
A few things can be improved but on the overall we have the upper hand in the parenting game
They like fake hair
Topic for another day