Let's Catch Up!! Post-Breakup Healing Process, Spirituality and London
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
- hi friends, welcome to this rambly lil video where I chat about where I am in my post-breakup journey, the power of creative expression to help process feelings, my current relationship to spirituality and exciting life updates like going to Coachella (!!). as always, this community has been such a point of inspiration and connection for me in this rocky few months and i'm sending the biggest hugs through the internet!! thank you for being in this lil corner of the internet 💌
Timestamps:
00:00 welcome!! lil intro
1:00 1: Hosting a Creative Night: Using Painful Feelings as Inspiration
3:23 Where I am in my Breakup Process (reading you my piece)
14:16 2: My Relationship to Spirituality
15:10 being offered my dream job -- and declining it
15:27 Anam Cara book by John O'Donohue
16:14 Tarot Cards as a Tool for Self-Reflection
19:05 3: Coachella
20:52 Feeling Alone and Missing my Ex: The Fluctuating Healing Process
23:11 Finding Peace Within
Music:
Music by Breathing Piano - The Quiet Creek - thmatc.co/?l=F2FC63E4
Music by HAI KU - If It Must Be So - thmatc.co/?l=8B7FDDFA
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Casual Magic of the Day: i cleaned my whole apartment and it feels so FRESH! tidy space, tidy mind ;)
Song of the Day:
Currently Reading:
What are YOU grateful for today?
FAQ:
How old are you? ~ 24
Where are you from? ~ The UK! Near London.
Where did you go to university? ~ Minerva Schools at KGI
One of the best decisions you ever made? ~ Taking a gap year!
if no one has told you today, you are enough. 💛
hiiiiii friends!! let's catch up like we're on facetime
Well, thats facetiming a lot of people!! Hah
@@joaodotcodes hahaha I love that whenever I meet you guys in person it feels so seamless to get to know you!!
Jade keep living✨
Ralph Smart says in his videos he’s Facetiming his audience from out in nature ☀️😎
Hi Jade, I love that you want to engage in relationship with spirituality.. I believe the only, best and peaceful way to is to come to Jesus Christ. You're a sweet soul and Jesus has made a way for you and everyone to be their best self and also have a wholesome loving relationship with Him.
I hope you reflect on this and also study and seek to know Jesus as well ❤
2:15 oh my god i misheard it as something elseeee and i was like whaaaaa
Me too lol
I genuinely can’t understand what she’s actually saying hahahah
hahahaa wait this is so funny, it's pizza and SNACKS gurl
Nah but what did she really say??
Sameee
Jadeeeee you neeed to make a video about EVERYTHING about friendships: how to make friends, how to grow friendship, how to let go. You inspire me so much ilyyy❤❤
She already did one video on friendships :) ruclips.net/video/zE2V0QkVByc/видео.html
You have SUCH a gift with words Jade. That written piece was mind blowing, vulnerable, and gorgeously articulated. Keep journaling!! And keep them documented!! Thank you so much yet again ❤💎
I was reunited with my favourite word recently, "sonder", which means: "The profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passing in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it." I think we can all find strength and community in our collective yet individual struggles ❤ Always reminds me of the power of kindness.
there’s a cafe I really love in Cape Town South Africa with that name 🥹
Jadeeee your voice, it is so therapeutic, your gifts of creativity are truly flowing, your energy a blessing
bless you, thank you for sending *your* gorgeous energy my way
9:25 "i craved my independent 16-year-old self, hidden safely in her books, heart untouched and whole." JADEEEEE PLS THIS MADE ME TEAR UP😭i am seven months post-breakup and also a year since discovering that i too, am queer (nonbinary & aroace!). with the help of medication and determination, i have found myself now, at 23, feeling drawn to the things i devoured prior to romantic relationships and even technology, like reading again, going to the library, the desire to volunteer at places. i had to let the leech as you put it, drain me, and it still is, but i think it's almost done. thank you for being so vulnerable. sending you so much love💎
🥺🥺🥺 wow, thank you for sharing
Can I just say it is amazing that you wrote that in an hour, you express your thoughts do beautifullyy, my diary is just full of 'lols and whatevs' 😂 also it felt like listening to my own life, being 16 driven and independent and then 22/23 in a loving relationship but feeling trapped
that piece had me sobbing, crying and it felt like someone was speaking my heart out!!!!!!!!!!!!!i love you jade. we got this
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Hey Jade! I'm only 16 right now, but whilst watching this video I got the urge to put down a comment for the first time - it actually makes me a bit nervous. But I just wanted to say that watching your emotionally frank and humane videos really help during the stressful time of taking GCSEs right now. You inspired me to be self-compassionate and you allowed me to acknowledge the importance of honouring my emotions! So thanks sm! :)
💎 As a person who has English as a second language, omg, your writing is stunning. I love that as a British, you use various vocabulary and use the language in such a beautiful way.
I saw your story about John O'Donohue's interview on his book Beauty and immediately listened to it. It touched me so much when I needed it most. I bought Anam Cara and Beauty. I really can't wait to start reading them. Thank you for inspiring us in the most authentic way, Jade. ❤
Truly! In the most authentic, uplifting way. Your writing gave me goosebumps!
2:15 am I hearing that right?? 😭
bruh i said pizza and snacks 😭
Hmmmm… yeah i had to replay that too. Of course you can have that thing with others but still with people you dont know anything about…
LMAO i didn't even notice how that sounded-
Hahaha same I had to replay that 😂😂😂
@@UnJadedJade OMG I WAS SHOCKED 😭
Hi Jade, I have to say that's as the most honest and transparent I have seen anyone be online and I truly appreciate it. Im a 30 year old Irish gal about to move to London in September for a 2 year MSc in Physiotherapy. I first truly experienced the loneliness of London last summer during an internship, and I am feeling very nervous and apprehensive about moving there again to experience the loneliness all over again. Isn't it astounding that in a city packed full of people, we feel the loneliness! Anyway thank you for your honesty in your videos. It's so refreshing and just what I needed to hear today. Stay safe and well. Perhaps il bump into you on the pearly streets of London ☺💕
Agreed, love your authenticity Jade! Such a great quality, making you relatable :)
I recently broke up with my boyfriend for similar reasons. He is an incredible person (emphasis on incredible) but this part of me kept getting louder and louder. I am having difficulties trying to not regret my choice to leave this person but to move forward and your video helped me put words on so many emotions. Thank you so much jade 💎
This entire rude awakening from hyper-independence and the hurts that come with living, really living, in touch with your needs and feeling and all, I relate to it entirely. It is extremely humbling, extremely painful as someone who's been nearly identical to you as a teenager. Thank you for sharing this. It made me feel connected, especially being surrounded by people who never seemed to have this jarring curve ❤💎
he richness of life does not come from being alone FOR YOU, but for some prefer being alone, always remember you are speaking from your own perspective, your opinions and perspectives are not facts, for me i am happiest when single, i have been in many relationships, very happy ones where i was so in love. however for me and many women proabably older than you, we prefer to be single, i dont even have friends but i am so happy, with me my cats, my art. studies have proven single childless women are the happiest and healthiest demographic. however society conditions women that we need men to be happy, this is false
In the realms of beauty, she shines like a star, Her radiance surpassing, near and far. Her eyes, like pools of celestial light, Draw hearts closer, igniting love's might. 🧿❤
gahhh thank you for being here and for your lovely words!! 💌
@@UnJadedJade thanks to you jade for being with me supporting through your videos. 🧿❤
That piece was beautifully written and straight from your soul. Thank you for daring to be so vulnerable in the harsh times we live in 💎
I moved alone to Australia at the beginning of this year and the homesickness has really been hitting me lately. I was literally writing yesterday about how it's so hard sometimes to be an adult and be expected to always pick yourself up. Some days you're thriving but others you just want a hug and to be safe with people who know you. Thank you for being so vulnerable, just opening up and talking about these kinds of experiences can bring a lot of comfort.
Sending lots of love from down under!!
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I'm also in Australia! Although I've lived here my whole life. Which state are you in, if you don't mind sharing?
Hi Jade!! I've just seen this video and I felt the need to write. I've been following you for a while and having discovered this little corner of the internet is one of the most healing and beautiful things that has happened to me this year.
You know, we live in a society that wants us to believe that living fast, following new trends and doing what the majority does without even reflecting about it... is the right thing to do. If you want to act differently, just to be original and yourself is very frustrating sometimes. My intuition tells me not to be like that, but then I ask myself, "Am I the only one who doesn't want to follow the mass?".
Then I see your videos, and I see this beautiful person you are and I just feel so happy because it proves that I am not alone and that there is people like me, who think like me and want to show their true selves to the world, not a mold that the masses have created. Jade, you're a VITAMIN PERSON, you make others feel better because you radiate positive energy, but most importantly because you are unique.
You have helped me so much these last few months. I feel more conscious and spiritual, not afraid of embracing and loving my authentic self. I still can't believe how brave you were in sharing this with the world. It's amazing. And this channel is art, you are art. We love you, Jade💜🌻🦋
PS: your smile has healing powers, don't ever stop smiling!💎🥰
Jade, your videos feel like a warm safe hug. I feel so seen, so human. I appreciate you being so vulnerable with us more than anything, creating this wonderful lovely welcoming corner of the internet. This is a safe space that i hope we can all come to when we need that sense of comfort and encouragement. We are never alone in what we are going through .
We are so proud of you. You are a gem 💎!
JADE you are truly a blessing 💎 You deserve a comment section that feels like home because you genuinely inspire each and every one of us.
jade!!! your piece was so so beautiful. you are so good at articualting your pain. as someone who has experienced something very similar recently, i relate to you on such a spiritual level. i just wanted to come on here and i say i am so proud of you. it takes so much strength and courage to take the step that you did. i also find it so crazy that someone living on the other side of the world somehow so perfectly encapsulates all of my fears about adulthood. so much love and power to you jade. you make me feel less alone in this arduous journey.
The way you’re true to your emotions during this period in your life is so inspiring to me. Having recently broken up with a serious partner, I often feel that parasite within me as well. Thank you for your vulnerability. ❤️
Jade, you beautiful, kind soul!! You are a light in the world!! Thank you for sharing the deepest parts of you. You have no idea how many people you help unconsciously… sending you so much love❤
💎i've been seeing you on youtube since last 5 years, i've seen all of those journeys via this small corner of internet, and i feel like i myself went through soo many phases and glow ups and glow downs all these years, but however the times were, i always kept coming back to you, and this place. Kinda felt like i grew up with you..all along this journey. And i just wanna say this that you always makes me strive to become the better and most authentic version of myself. I never go empty handed from any of your video you make. Thanks for being one of my most unjaded casual magic of all time on this internet!!🌻
Hi Jade. Thank you, first of all, for opening up to us. You are a true inspiration for out generation, an make the internet feel like a safe space, and not such a draining place. I am going through a tough growing up process (according to my psychologist) and it's so hard. I feel seen by you, and I love watching your videos. Would love to hug you right now. Thank you for everything, our jewell ;) 💎
These are my favourite kinds of videos from you jade! I love your honesty, it makes me feel so heard and understood. I've learnt how to sit with my uncomfortable emotions and find beauty in the fact that life is never constant. Thank you
Jade, a huge thank you for always being so open and the most gorgeous representation of honesty and vulnerability. You can't even imagine how healing and relieving is to hear your thoughts and reflections. Please keep doing what you are doing, because you are doing it amazingly. A big hug from Argentina!💎
jade, to see you embrace the process makes me loves u more, you're doing an amazing job !! loads of love ❤
your ring is so so lovely. it compliments your eyes in the prettiest way!
eeeep thank you so much!! my mum got it for me for my birthday and i love it so much
“Is iomaí bláth a chuireann óige di” is an old Irish seanfhocail (proverb) that my Irish teacher gave me before leaving school 2 years ago and one I often think of. It roughly translates to “There are many layers to youth”. I am currently in a similar situation to you Jade, battling between being independent and dependent. To me, this proverb reminds me that we can be both, and that that’s ok!🦋☘️
Jade, you are THE gem, you have no idea how much i needed this! 💎 It's crazy, because i'm on a long car ride rn (not driving myself) and i was feeling the post-breakup blues so intensely, and then my thoughts moved on to "i wonder how Jade is coping" and next thing i know, i get the notification for the most relatable video...! Thank you ❤️
I don’t usually comment on anything but you are such a beautiful and special person and I’m sure you know that but it needs to be said! This channel is my safe space and I’m learning that whatever happens in life everything will be okay. Thank you for sharing your journey of life 💕
Thank you for your radical vulnerability, watching your videos is so healing in so many ways, every time. Thank you Jade
Your writing is beautiful and felt really relatable in a way that made me feel both sad and happy simultaneously. Thanks for your vulnerability, I think you touched a lot of people in a positive way 💕
When you said that the leech might be reborn as well I cried. You were so nice to a dark part.
Hi Jade, I was waiting for your new video and can’t wait to watch it! ❤️
You helped me through a life changing journey the last few months and my little journal is full of quotes that you said. Your videos mean a lot. 🦋
💎 hi Jade! This is such a beautiful video (I’m obsessed with your writing!), thank you for being so genuine & open. I’m 20 and I’ve never been in a romantic relationship, so while I can’t relate to the roller coaster of going through a breakup, I can relate to the struggle of wanting to be simultaneously independent-to care for yourself-and to be cared for. I think your content really has a way of helping people feel connected through these types of shared experiences, and I hope reading the comments helps you feel less alone too 🫶🏻
💎dear jade, thank you so so so much for what you're doing. you know, every time i watch your video i tear up, but those are tears from sheer happiness and solace from seeing how strongly you react to everything that comes your way and how you stay positive no matter what happens. you've taught me so many things awww. sending you rays of warm sunshine🥺💗☀
Jade your timing is soo good! I was just having a bad day , i totally lost all my motivation to keep going....... feeling very low today for some reason! .......but then you posted this video , i needed to hear this! You inspire me soo much ! 💗✨
💎 jadeeeee thank you so much for sharing these parts of your life with us!!! every time i watch one of your videos i feel so seen :)) i currently dealing with a question of spirituality and faith, but as a stem girlie it feels so counterintuitive to lean into that! it’s so nice to hear that we don’t have to pick one or the other but that whatever makes us happiest is the best choice
💎I absolutely adored this video Jade… the vulnerability you give us Jade, like we’re your close friends, is so honouring
And I just feel so deeply connected to you, and learning with you…. The whole section on spirituality and how you are entering this phase of your life is so eye-opening and just enhances my creative juices ten-fold, just purely by how the topics you bring up just expand my perspective… I just feel like anything is possible when I see you Jade💎
Hi Jade! As always, such a beautiful video! The piece you read was mind-blowingly beautiful. It was raw, it was beautifully written, it contained bits and pieces of normal life layered with deep emotions and reflections. It was absolute art. I think it could even maybe deserve a whole video of its own. It was truly, truly beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing it!
Jade!!!! Every upload you do makes me absolutely swell with excitement and I am just so thankful for your insight and reflection and vulnerability on this lil corner on the internet ❤ I’ll be in London at the end of June and it makes me so happy to know I’ll temporarily share a city with you! I’m about to enter my 20s and it’s so enlightening to hear your reflections on growing pains of this period of life 🦋✨💎sending you so much love!!
This video is so precious to me Jade. Your courage to just be you, to show authenticity and vunerability on social media is something so precious to me. Really you are such a kind and lovely human 💕 Send you lots of love and let's go spirituality!! 💎💎💎!!
PS: I recently read your book which I believe is indeed the best study guide I could have ever needed because of how great it was written. I wish every student would read it because of how amazing it really is. They would learn so much. Thank you for writting it!!
💎 Aarrgghh sweet Jade. You just.... inspire me deeply. As a 24 year old -in her post burnout, heartbreak and spiritual era I resonate to your content so much. Your realness, rawness and your vulnerability in sharing these bits of yourself are so valuable. You've mentioned before how you feel the internet needs more realness (agreed) and I feel like you're a prime example of being the change you want to see (slay).
As someone who creates content too (on a VERY different scale and a different genre) I often overthink too on what to share, how to share that etc., how things are being perceived and if I'll be understood. But you're a beautiful reminder to me on how this intimacy can bring so much connection. Honestly.. can we just exchange digital friendship bracelets, sit on a bed in dim lighting (salt lamps & fairy lights) with hot tea, read tarot cards, philosophise about life, meditate and share our feelings?
💎 Aww your content looks so cool! 🧡
You are a diamond, healing is a long and not straightforward process but you are a queen and you will get through. Wishing for you to experience your new rebirth with so much joy and happiness
You dated someone for three years and then ended it over a phone call? You didn't talk in person?
And this person did not hurt or betray you? They did not mistreat you? And you still love and miss him? And you feel like it was a dream relationship you always wanted?
I feel like not all the details have been provided. Otherwise, this is some real narcissism modern relationship stuff. It's almost like because our generation lives in the safest time, that we have to go and create dramas to feel important and busy.
And if there was a reason for a relationship break down (you fell out of love, or they mistreated you in some way, or there were clashes that were not going to work etc), then you should probably disclose that. Otherwise the idea that people are 'randomly' going to be broken up with by people who 'really love them' is a dangerous notion to normalise.
Masquerading discarding someone and running away as self development is a joke. Did you two try couples therapy? Did you talk it out? Did communicate with the person you invested 3 years into? That's self-development. That's growth.
Omg Jade you don’t know how much I needed to watch and see this video I’m going through the same same thing. I had this calling to break up with my ex because I was so stuck and stressed in life and the relationship was not going anywhere and things started to fall apart as expected. I went on long journey of healing and after a while I have visited family and I felt better as soon as i started living alone the blues were crazy and I blamed my self for feeling sad and I started regretting the decision again and felt so alone and I thought I’m not normal and something is wrong with me but after seeing this video I cried and cried feeling so relieved and supported. Thank you Jade and I’m sending you so much love 💎❤❤❤❤
you are a gem💎im going through a similar experience and this feels so validating, im in tears. the pain truly feels neverending.
💎 Jade, is so heart warming and at the same time refreshing, like swimming in the sea during a hot day, to be able to share in your vulnerability and this phase of your life💎
I've know about your channel for years now, but since the major focus of your content was academical, I'd always feel triggered to watch it, cause I've been having procrastination issues during my doctorate😖
But in this phase of your life, as you reconnect with yourself from the ground up, I'm grateful to witness it. I'm reconnecting with my spiritual side as well (trying to find a tarot deck cause the one I made and loved a few years back is starting to crumble😅), and tap into my inner child and higher self, learning about the flow of energy of the universe and all that good stuff so I can Manifest the life of my dreams and be content with my life in every phase❤️✨
Hope this phase and growth serves your better purpose❤️ the rain may make us long for the sun but without it there would be no flowers❤️
Love from Portugal ❤️💎
hi jade🦋 thank you for your honesty and willingness to share your thoughts and feelings so vulnerably - your words were beautiful and the leech metaphor was brilliant. you‘re such an inspiration to me and remind me to be kind to myself. sending you so much love and patience and good energy
I am amazed by your authenticity and you inspire me to come to terms with my identity
it feels so hard to be yourself in the uncertainty of social life
there are so many things to keep up with everyday and you just feel somewhat broken
thank you Jade I am sending you all my love to you now❤
Hi Jade! It really does feel like I am catching up with my friend when I watch your videos. I loved listening to your writing, the way you use words, it was so beautiful and powerful.❤ It also brought me so many thoughts on my on life and dealing with both break-ups and loneliness. 💎💎❤
🪬🧿 Thank you Jade for being your authentic, vulnerable self! It inspires me everytime I watch your videos. You're a beautiful human being! ❤
Love from the Netherlands (from Friesland!)
Oh Jade ♾️ the heart takes time to heal … and the triggers are everywhere and the good moments just replaying … what a great catch up with YOU ! ♥️loads of love and 💎💎💎
that blue crystal is beautiful !! your willingness to open up to yourself and the internet about this time in your life is a true gift 💎 thank you for being here :)
Thank u for sharing your journey with us my cutie Jade. You're glowing and I love you so much💕✨
You're a gem! 💎
no YOU're a gem!! you're always the cutest, thank you ily
Had a little cry listening to this - this is EXACTLY how i felt two years ago when i had a break up and it gives me comfort knowing that this is how the healing process is for other people too! the leech analogy is so relatable 💎💎💎
Jade showing off her crystals and tarot book is so cute and wholesome 🥰 spiritual girl era is here!! 💖✨💎
P.s. this is my favorite type of content of urs everrr
Hi Jade, That piece you wrote and read..... I'm almost in tears right nowww.... Can relate to the feelings of a semi fresh heartbreak 😭
💎💎💎 I've been here since before your graduation journey and at that time i was graduating from high school, i graduated years later than most of my friends, they were already in their university era and i feel so behind in life ashamed and also that was when my depression started to worsen. After finishing high school i should have started university but i didn't, i spent a whole year rooting in bed speak to no one and processing a break up that I realised I never truly processed. It was devastating, it still feels like that most days
Thank you for being you and creating this space ❤
Jade..we are in this together..I love ur authenticity..been following you for so long and so proud of how far you've came..sending you soo much love❤
💎Love the raw honesty! I am not going through the exact same, but its a sort of break up with a lifestyle and community. Sending you a hug! 💎
I definitely feel the same way about journaling, and this video really is just reminding me to take the time to sit down and let my thoughts flow onto the page
💎Wow! This is just an amazing video, it really feels like we are sharing life updates through FaceTime. Thank you for sharing Jade! The words at the end made me almost cry. As I'm now less than a month living on my on for university I understand certain feelings you are going through. The loneliness is sometimes unbearable but this little corner of the internet and your past videos have made me sit in de moment en take the time to feel all the feelings life throws at me right now. Thank you for being here💙
I watched your breakup video 2 months ago when I was stressed about my relationship for similar reasons to yours and agonising about how/when to end it. Your video really helped me process my own feelings, because sometimes subtle intuitions that you're being stifled and not quite being able to be yourself any longer are difficult to properly honour as valid so it was really helpful to see someone else bring those to the surface. Now I'm 2 weeks post-breakup and despite the pain feeling proud that I stayed true to how I was really feeling instead of dismissing my internal compass. Just wanted to say thank you for being so brave and vulnerable, because it helped me find a way through this difficult moment in my own life
It's refreshing to see authenticity and vulnerability on yt. Keep staying true to yourself, Jade 💎
Jade, you write so beautifully! I have been trying to journal, and I will admit the way I write is super different. But I loved listening to you. I have been watching you for about a year now, last year I was doing my a-levels, and I would watch your videos on study tips, and now I enjoy watching and just learning more about you.
I am also almost 6 months post-break up, and surprisingly the "leech" sometimes still fights back. At the start of my break up, it fought so hard, that I wrote texts but would always stop myself from sending them, because I knew that I would have to deal with the pain all over again. Know that you are doing well! Keep your head up high, and enjoy life. As you said, you set your own expectations!! 💎
Thank you for opening up and charing Jade. It felt so special to listen to your inner thoughts and feelings 💎
The fact that your videos have timestamps makes me so happy for no reason. I never skip any parts of the video but their presence makes me happy
Gosh Jade, hearing you read your journal was so emotional and confronting but so beautifully written and cathartic. I’m dealing with so many big emotions as I’m going to university in September, and I’m not ready to leave school or my friends or my support system here. It’s so hard to process but you have made it so much easier. Now I’m off to find a journal, and buy some tarot cards. Love you! 💗 💎
This is so real! Thank you for sharing the truth about feeling lonely and thinking of your ex in those moments, while still being sure that your break up was necessary and that you are on the best path for your well-being! I am going through something very similar. Sending you lots of love
Thank you for sharing ur writing w us! The way you encapsulate ur words are so beautiful🌸✨I feel so seen! Ur videos feel like such a comforting & safe space to go to when I’m feeling down💗💗
thanks for what you said about us if we have a struggle right now, that we will get through and get to where we are aiming, as that is very much me right now. Thanks too for what u wrote and read, it was really insightful and illuminating and gave me a bit of clarity, London is cool, I lived there when I was 17/18 and it takes a few months until u love no end💎
Jane, I'm so grateful for your videos. Sometimes, when I had a bad day or when my anxiety is kicking in, I just come here and listen to you and feel like myself again. Just like a little catch up with a person that I truly respect :) Everything is going to be fine, you're strong enough, we all are ❤💎
Your voice is the most gentle and soothing voice on social media. And I will forever be grateful to be able to watch your videos. ♥️
You are incredible sweet Jade💎 You are helping me so so much on my own healing journey towards the light from the darkness of something different yet pain is pain and we are alchemists. Sending love and hugs and friendship kisses from across the sea in Ireland xxx
As someone who lives in London, same age as you and someone who sees themselves as similar to you, I want you to know how strong you are❤️ I love how you embrace your vulnerability and there’s tremendous beauty and strength in accepting it and growing from it. We are all proud of you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I bet you're a really nice person too💜💛💜
@@RikkeGade ❤️
Thank you so much for this video. My breakup is 2 years ago and I still am not over it. Thank you so much for sharing. It helped me so much to accept my own feelings more. When I broke up I feel like a lot of people were like “yes but you are young …” “yes but you have your whole life before you …” “yes but but but …” I feel like partly why my healing process is taking so long is that I have the expectation that it should be ok by now. Which it is not. Actually I’m kind of proud that it’s taking so long, because it shows that I took this serious and it’s not as easy as everyone says. Actually kind of proud of myself
Hey! You may not hear this a lot, but how you feel is valid. Break ups are super hard, and to be honest, we can't control how we feel for someone else. It just happens. I bet you are doing great things for yourself and trying your best!
I personally broke up with someone who I knew I loved more than they loved me. It's been 5 months. Today is her birthday and it really sucks not to be with her. I think you have a wonderful perspective on how you feel, and I fear I may not be over this for a long time as well. I know I took my relationship very seriously for sure as well.
Getting over a relationship that meant so much to you is so hard. I hope this can get easier for both of us.
I am currently on a gap year and I always used to place my own self worth in my grades, my logic and my own professional development. the pursuit of romance felt useless to me. just like you, I got three a stars at A Level and placed a lot of value in my own educational pursuits. over the course of this gap year, its like ive finally managed to come into contact with my emotional side, and ive started to appreciate the importance of having people around. watching your videos is so refreshing and I relate to you so much :) keep inspiring people Jade
Vulnerable videos are great; but I felt I should comment on this... I think the idea of "feminine energy" and "masculine energy" is the opposite of feminism. There's a dangerous strand of "spirituality" that looks like empowerment but it's actually just reaffirming sexist ideas about gender binaries as if they are inevitable, whereas they are just our current social order, and part of gender liberation is getting rid of these notions that put people in a box.
(There's more nuance than that but this is just a short online comment so that's the best I've got.)
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I can definitely see this argument!! But I see it as more of a yin (traditionally feminine) and yang (trad. masculine) that we all possess and isn’t connected to one’s gender. Everyone’s goal, regardless of their gender, should be to balance feminine and masculine energy. I don’t think one type of energy is dominant or more important; they’re both powerful and necessary. To me, femininity is about embracing softness, healing, play, creativity and courageous vulnerability, while masculine energy is about challenge, striving, healthy competition, motion etc. Men need to cultivate feminine energy just as much as women need to own masculine energy. I’ll definitely think more about how they perpetuate existing gender binaries!! I’ve also never resonated with the strand of spirituality that talks about “dark femininity” or how it shows up in relationships etc. But my current definition has served me in my thinking so far 🦋 thank u for sharing!! x
Thank you! I felt like that too. Terms like "feminine and masculine energy" can be so dangerous. There's nothing wrong with wanting to rest and not wanting to hustle. But labelling rest as feminine and work as masculine just upholds sexist, patriarchal stereotypes. These terms get used by the alt right to promote the opposite of feminism, we shouldn't use them.
@@UnJadedJade Thanks for giving it some thought and a reply :)
Here's my further thoughts, about separating what is good and what is oppressive from what you say.
I agree that we should balance different types of energy, and that neither are more important, and agree with lots that you say! Lots of thinking is like this, some good and some bad, or a good surface hiding something rotten underneath. It's the gender essentialising nature of it that I think is bad.
The idea that men need "feminine energy" and women need "masc energy" -- I agree with what it's about. Women should be strong and courageous and so on; men should have calm and caring and so on. So this aspect of it is good for empowerment and challenging gender norms and move us to a better place.
But at the same time, this masks entrenched sexism. why is being dominant seen as "masculine energy", why is being gentle seen as "feminine energy"? This treats the gender roles that we have as being essential to gender. But we see cultures where women are typically strong and commanding, and cultures where men are more calm and gentle. It's our social ideas projected onto "nature" to reinforce our social ideas.
(And also it reproduces the idea of the gender binary, instead of more fluid and free ideas. Opposite of queer, in other words)
So I think we would do better to think of these different types of energy and finding balance without gender essentialising nonsense! Take the good ideas and shed the bad.
Hope those further thoughts are welcome
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(There is also a difference between what this thinking means for men and women under patriarchy, but this has become too much of an essay as is...)
Jade you're a ray a sunshine. You've been through a difficult time but it sounds like you're coming out stronger 💕
Ahhh Jade! I could say so much but I’ll try to keep it concise. I feel so connected to you and your experiences, especially in the this phase of life. You’re going through a major breakup after a multi year relationship at the same time as me. I feel like a mirror to your experiences, it’s very similar to what I have been going through. You write so beautifully and so eloquently about everything I have been feeling. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. I feel seen and known. “I am biting back” ❤💎
💎💎💎💎💎this video was so wholesome. The way you read your journal was amazing. I could feel every emotion through your words. It could be hard to put these things out in public but it is helpful for so Many people who are going through the same phase in their lives. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Thanks for putting out this video❤
Beautiful writing 💙Thank you for sharing your human feelings in such a poetic way
You are such a beautiful writer Jade, and thank you for sharing this, it will be relatable for so many people 💌
What you just read was one of the most beautiful things I have ever heard ❤️
Wow, Jade. Your writing is beautiful and really transports the listener into what you're feeling. Great work
I cannot express how much I love this video ❤ Thank you so much! Also the crystal 🔮 💎
that writing touched me so beautifully thank u for sharing jade
💎💎💎💎 u r my literal teacher and mentor and therapist and just a girl whose honesty and openness i adore sm !
gahhhh thank u thank u 🥺
💎Hey Jade! Thank you for sharing your journey and experiences with us! Love you!
Loved your message at the end of the video.❤
Thank you for opening yourself to us, it means a lot! I hope all of us can overcome whatever we're going through! stay strong jade
❤thank you for the video and bravery to be so open and sharing personal journey online.
Also, I just love how you make even things completely outside of my interest, seem fascinating. I never thought of being into it, but hearing you talk I can see what you see there - how beautiful and unique natures creations can be. Architecture of color and light 💎
Your videos are like a warm hug everyone needs🥺🥰 Love you❤
💎❤ I love listening to you talk about your journey through life and it's really resonating with me and helping me in my own journey of trying to become who I really am 😊
In a world that is go go go and everyone in their own bubble with busyness of their own lives, consumerism, distractions your videos are such a lovely break from that. I am going through my own spiritual journey after dealing with anxiety/panic which was wake up call from my own distractions and busyness. It was message from my body telling me I needed to stop and I needed desparately to pay attention to myself in very intimate and real way, which meant facing my difficult and uncomfortable emotions. Your videos are such blessing because this journey can feel so isolating especially in western society, you show me that I am not alone. 💎
I appreciate you so much Jade you are such an inspiration for me and I just want you to know how strong and beautiful you are🙏🏻💕
You always appear at the right time💗🦋✨Have an amazing day Jade🤍✨