I always feel a huge sense of relief after watching your videos. You have such a great way of explaining what’s going on and practical advice on how to change/deal with it. Thank you!
Also I find that looking at the pros of weight gain can help, like looking at better energy levels, not feeling so cold all the time, better concentration, better sleep etc... All helps to combat the negative thoughts about weight gain xx
So need this today. I’m on the recovery from ED and HA , my weight is now back to the normal range but I still have no period and still binge time to time. I don’t know how much weight I still have to gain.
Understandable, but how about the moving aspect I literally get board with just sitting down all day even if I am preoccupied with other constructive activities?
Tabitha I’ve been desperate to listen to my extreme hunger but because I’m a kid I can’t. You answers this in a previous stream, and said I need to argue with my parents and therapists, and I DID, but they’re forcing me not to. I literally can’t eat more if I want to because of my age and how my mum is still controlling my diet. Today I had to argue with my psychologist with all your points, and she said that my body’s confused so a lot of hunger cues aren’t genuine. I just don’t know what to do, I have a million people saying to listen to it, and my therapists telling me not to.
Show them these videos darling and consider getting a new therapist if you feel like the one you have isn’t helping you recover! Consider booking an appointment with Tabitha with your parents present where perhaps she could explain some of this to them and you can move forward and begin to eat as much as you want/deserve to! Good luck poppet
I know most people will disagree with my opinion, but I wouldn't suggest listening to extreme hunger. I have been recovering for the past few months and I wasn't making any progress due to fear of weight gain. I eventually got sick of being sick and hungry and just gave in to my extreme hunger. I gained a lot of weight, 30 pounds, within a two month span and I felt horrible. I swelled up so bad that I couldn't walk without pain and I was bed ridden for many weeks. I could barely stay awake during the day. I was stuck in a spiral of eating so much that I felt as though I would burst, but pushing past it and eating more. I then started purging after eating because I felt so guilty and just to relieve the discomfort of the huge quantity of food in my stomach. I decided to just start eating a healthy amount of food and some of the water weight finally subsided and I could get out of bed again, but as soon I began controlling my intake I relapsed for many weeks and got really sick. Only now am I eating normal, but I really regret not recovering slower and with healthier food. I ate so much sugar and processed food. It took it's toll on my body especially my digestion. I understand why people tell you to listen to the extreme hunger, but you will gain weight back really fast and not be able to process it emotionally, and it could lead you to a bad place. I wish I had weight restored slowly and enjoyed the process of refeeding and creating a healthy relationship with my body and food. I feel as though I gained the weight back, but am still very sick and have a very distorted view of food still. I spent months reading recovery blogs and I think some of what the people out there are pushing is not great for everyone.
Also, how can I cope if my disgust towards weight gain is to do with gender dysphoria?? I’m a trans man and I feel disgusting as my body becomes more and more feminine, more curvy, and my chest getting bigger. I can f e e l the femininity of my body increasing, and it’s horrible. How do I cope with weight gain when it makes me feel like less of a man?
Alexander Curtis Tabitha responded to me in a live once (I’m in the opposite situation) but I’m sure this applies to you too , your end goal is too change that right ? And you will not be able to handle the physicality or mental challenges of transition when you’re in the starvation state
I'm also a trans man and recovering from an eating disorder and I'll give you some tips. One buy some chest binders this will make your chest look more masculine and flat and ask your mother to book an appointment with your GP to get on puberty blockers. Puberty blockers stop periods and your breasts from growing i am not old enough to go onto testosterone i have to wait 2 years but i am on puberty blockers, at first my parents did't really want to but you've got to annoy them so much that they finally say yes. You've got to nag them and tell them why you need to, what will happen if you don't/how you feel. For me i had an appointment, then 2 months later i had another appointment then 3-4 months later i was on them. Also any age can go onto them. To answer your question about how will you cope honestly you just have to put up with it which sucks but is the truth, baggy clothes are you friends dysphoria and recovering wise. You're telling yourself a part of your eating disorder is there so you don"t become more feminine but eating disorders go far more down than that trust me, if you don't solve your eating disorder problem even on puberty blockers even on testosterone even after surgery you will still have an eating disorder, it will just find another excuse. i know your mother doesn't allow you food and that is so wrong so maybe to get around this while she's sleeping sneak out and grab food, she might find out but you need to do it and she can't guard the pantry 24/7. Lastly there's this website called TrevorSpace full of lovely people all from the LGBTQ+ community, on this Website everybody helps each other out and people post tips on how to pass, and you can just chat to people normally. Also it's not face to face which is great if you only like talking to people through writing. I really recommend it.
Alexander Curtis same with me but look at me fully recovered not on any blockers or hormones ,also I would really advise as much as it’s scary to leave your body alone for at least 2 years after your Ed to let it trust you again , I tried blockers and it gave me extreme hunger again . Just proves what’s more importantl. If you ever want to transition , recovery is the first option
I have a bit of Anorexia but the problem is it’s not that serious, just have had 1400 calories for a while (started at 1100 but I couldn’t manage while being with my family so I upped my limit) and I’m only a tiny bit underweight, my BMI is 16.3 but I have a distorted body image apparently even though I don’t think so, I think I look like I have as much fat as a baby and I’m obese... anyway, I’m having to raise my calories to 1600 but I’m so scared and I miss having 1400 and I want to skip meals because the thought of how much relief it will bring me sounds so amazing but I’d never be able to with my family watching me all day long... I wish my ED was worse. I wish I could go to a clinic, it’s stupid and selfish I know but it feels like some kind of achievement, but at the same time I want to be normal and not obsessive, not count calories obsessively, just eat whatever just because I’m craving it, not have to weigh all my food, not feel guilty because I’m having my snack that will make my daily intake go up by 200 calories and I could have just not had it even though my parents and therapist say I have to... I’m just so confused with my two different minds and I don’t know how I feel anymore... I’m too fat to be eating more, I hate myself, but I love food and want to be normal, but I also want to be bad enough to end up in a clinic and I want to be able to go on a diet or fast because it’s trendy, and I want to eat really little, but I also want to be able to exercise easily without getting frustrated at my feet which won’t flex as well as they used to because of my vitamin b12 deficiency...
you don’t have a ‘bit of anorexia.’ you have anorexia. Tabitha didn’t go to a clinic, and she was very ill. you are severely underweight. your ed is lying to you. eat more food, that is not nearly enough.
I always feel a huge sense of relief after watching your videos. You have such a great way of explaining what’s going on and practical advice on how to change/deal with it. Thank you!
Life tip: learn to love yourself as much as Tabitha loves her cats
Also I find that looking at the pros of weight gain can help, like looking at better energy levels, not feeling so cold all the time, better concentration, better sleep etc... All helps to combat the negative thoughts about weight gain xx
So need this today. I’m on the recovery from ED and HA , my weight is now back to the normal range but I still have no period and still binge time to time. I don’t know how much weight I still have to gain.
Yes thanks for sharing your journey it is such a grown up healthy approach and you are such a good role model and I am glad for your recovery to
Thank you so much for these videos!!! 💕
Thankyou so much for everything you do and all your RUclips videos. Help so much
I'm OK at the moment but I have gained so little I know its going to be real tough soon probably need to binge on self help videos and say bring it on
thank you a lot Tabitha ❤
Understandable, but how about the moving aspect I literally get board with just sitting down all day even if I am preoccupied with other constructive activities?
Tabitha I’ve been desperate to listen to my extreme hunger but because I’m a kid I can’t. You answers this in a previous stream, and said I need to argue with my parents and therapists, and I DID, but they’re forcing me not to. I literally can’t eat more if I want to because of my age and how my mum is still controlling my diet. Today I had to argue with my psychologist with all your points, and she said that my body’s confused so a lot of hunger cues aren’t genuine. I just don’t know what to do, I have a million people saying to listen to it, and my therapists telling me not to.
Maybe show these videos to your parents
Yep show these videos. Plus Kayla rose, Follow the intuition etc. and many other ED recovery coaches who advocate following your mental hunger.
Show them these videos darling and consider getting a new therapist if you feel like the one you have isn’t helping you recover! Consider booking an appointment with Tabitha with your parents present where perhaps she could explain some of this to them and you can move forward and begin to eat as much as you want/deserve to! Good luck poppet
Im so sorry
I know most people will disagree with my opinion, but I wouldn't suggest listening to extreme hunger. I have been recovering for the past few months and I wasn't making any progress due to fear of weight gain. I eventually got sick of being sick and hungry and just gave in to my extreme hunger. I gained a lot of weight, 30 pounds, within a two month span and I felt horrible. I swelled up so bad that I couldn't walk without pain and I was bed ridden for many weeks. I could barely stay awake during the day. I was stuck in a spiral of eating so much that I felt as though I would burst, but pushing past it and eating more. I then started purging after eating because I felt so guilty and just to relieve the discomfort of the huge quantity of food in my stomach. I decided to just start eating a healthy amount of food and some of the water weight finally subsided and I could get out of bed again, but as soon I began controlling my intake I relapsed for many weeks and got really sick. Only now am I eating normal, but I really regret not recovering slower and with healthier food. I ate so much sugar and processed food. It took it's toll on my body especially my digestion. I understand why people tell you to listen to the extreme hunger, but you will gain weight back really fast and not be able to process it emotionally, and it could lead you to a bad place. I wish I had weight restored slowly and enjoyed the process of refeeding and creating a healthy relationship with my body and food. I feel as though I gained the weight back, but am still very sick and have a very distorted view of food still. I spent months reading recovery blogs and I think some of what the people out there are pushing is not great for everyone.
Also, how can I cope if my disgust towards weight gain is to do with gender dysphoria?? I’m a trans man and I feel disgusting as my body becomes more and more feminine, more curvy, and my chest getting bigger. I can f e e l the femininity of my body increasing, and it’s horrible. How do I cope with weight gain when it makes me feel like less of a man?
Alexander Curtis Tabitha responded to me in a live once (I’m in the opposite situation) but I’m sure this applies to you too , your end goal is too change that right ? And you will not be able to handle the physicality or mental challenges of transition when you’re in the starvation state
Sophie Carter I’m just too young to transition, I’ll have to wait 2 years before I start hormones, so it’s hard to be motivated
I'm also a trans man and recovering from an eating disorder and I'll give you some tips. One buy some chest binders this will make your chest look more masculine and flat and ask your mother to book an appointment with your GP to get on puberty blockers. Puberty blockers stop periods and your breasts from growing i am not old enough to go onto testosterone i have to wait 2 years but i am on puberty blockers, at first my parents did't really want to but you've got to annoy them so much that they finally say yes. You've got to nag them and tell them why you need to, what will happen if you don't/how you feel. For me i had an appointment, then 2 months later i had another appointment then 3-4 months later i was on them. Also any age can go onto them. To answer your question about how will you cope honestly you just have to put up with it which sucks but is the truth, baggy clothes are you friends dysphoria and recovering wise. You're telling yourself a part of your eating disorder is there so you don"t become more feminine but eating disorders go far more down than that trust me, if you don't solve your eating disorder problem even on puberty blockers even on testosterone even after surgery you will still have an eating disorder, it will just find another excuse. i know your mother doesn't allow you food and that is so wrong so maybe to get around this while she's sleeping sneak out and grab food, she might find out but you need to do it and she can't guard the pantry 24/7. Lastly there's this website called TrevorSpace full of lovely people all from the LGBTQ+ community, on this Website everybody helps each other out and people post tips on how to pass, and you can just chat to people normally. Also it's not face to face which is great if you only like talking to people through writing. I really recommend it.
ame Desu thank you a lot, I’m planning to go on blockers when I’m weight restored. It’s nice to not feel so alone (:
Alexander Curtis same with me but look at me fully recovered not on any blockers or hormones ,also I would really advise as much as it’s scary to leave your body alone for at least 2 years after your Ed to let it trust you again , I tried blockers and it gave me extreme hunger again . Just proves what’s more importantl. If you ever want to transition , recovery is the first option
I wish I could sleep better after putting on weight, but my sleep is worse than ever!
It chills out after time, just keep going!
Yeah stick in there
Fat is so hard to accept.
I have a bit of Anorexia but the problem is it’s not that serious, just have had 1400 calories for a while (started at 1100 but I couldn’t manage while being with my family so I upped my limit) and I’m only a tiny bit underweight, my BMI is 16.3 but I have a distorted body image apparently even though I don’t think so, I think I look like I have as much fat as a baby and I’m obese... anyway, I’m having to raise my calories to 1600 but I’m so scared and I miss having 1400 and I want to skip meals because the thought of how much relief it will bring me sounds so amazing but I’d never be able to with my family watching me all day long... I wish my ED was worse. I wish I could go to a clinic, it’s stupid and selfish I know but it feels like some kind of achievement, but at the same time I want to be normal and not obsessive, not count calories obsessively, just eat whatever just because I’m craving it, not have to weigh all my food, not feel guilty because I’m having my snack that will make my daily intake go up by 200 calories and I could have just not had it even though my parents and therapist say I have to... I’m just so confused with my two different minds and I don’t know how I feel anymore... I’m too fat to be eating more, I hate myself, but I love food and want to be normal, but I also want to be bad enough to end up in a clinic and I want to be able to go on a diet or fast because it’s trendy, and I want to eat really little, but I also want to be able to exercise easily without getting frustrated at my feet which won’t flex as well as they used to because of my vitamin b12 deficiency...
you don’t have a ‘bit of anorexia.’ you have anorexia. Tabitha didn’t go to a clinic, and she was very ill. you are severely underweight. your ed is lying to you. eat more food, that is not nearly enough.
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I agree, this comment is very triggering. Please take consideration of other people.