To me Kate doesn't seem like a plain Jane, she is a like upper classy elegant woman. Remember real confidence is silent. Sometimes the things that shine bright are shallow. Kate follows royal protocol.
She is very (classy) plain jane. A plain jane can still dress up for occasions; doesnt make them any less of a plain jane. Its not like it means your ugly or anything. The point is you dont look at her and think Dayum!! You look at her and think she is girlfriend, wifey and mom material, shes a good girl, low maintenance ect by appearance. She is pretty, but not drop dead gorgeous. And that is not criticism its still a positive thing.
@@suras8984 I guess our opinions vary in drop dead gorgeous. Google Kate's smile, it's better than any make up in the world. Like I said, she is a future queen and follows royal orders. She can't dress in a way she wants. We can't tell what she really is like. So nope, I don't think she is low maintenance
I wouldn't call her low maintenance or a plain jane. She wore a full face hours after giving birth. She just follows royal standards because she could be queen one day. So we don't really know anything about her really.
I mean - she was being photographed for billions to see - she kind of HAD to wear a full face! She's the future queen consort! But if you see candid photos of her on the weekends, she's very plain!
I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to fix yourself up and get glammed. I do it from time to time but some women display an attitude of entitlement and like to rub it in people’s faces they have it all which is great to be successful and confident. it’s refreshing to be humble about your riches and keep a low radar
How the hell is she plain Jane? She's a classic beauty! I think duchess Camilla is better example of plain Jane, she 's always looked average, but she had no problem to catch Prince Charles
I've read that Camilla was very confident and attractive. They probably have good chemistry. Looks aren't always everything...there are beautiful women with zero charisma. (I'm not a fan of Camilla)
I think they connected on a spiritual level and that Diana had issues when it came to her self esteem and it affected a lot of her marriage. There was a huge age difference, it was an arranged marriage (really one of the last dynastic marriages to occur), and he was barred from being able to marry Camilla (plus she was married at the time too).
If you watched the entire video, it's obvious that Shallon means that she is very low maintenance and quite. She IS beautiful but has no sex appeal. Shallon said she loves Kate and she seems to be a great wife and mother but she's very simple, mellow and predictable which can get boring.
There's more to people than what meets the eye. Meghan Markle is an actress and has forged this seductive image, done sexy photo shoots etc, that most young-ish actresses do. I look like any other person, nothing special about me from the outside, but I am a freak on the inside and I live with a man who recognizes that and loves me for it :) Point is, Kate has a public persona that she chooses to show the world. We don't know what she's like behind closed doors.
I started following you 2 months ago, but my mindset has totally changed since I started watching your videos. Life has been so much more easier by following certain rules :D thank you for that! :)
She not literally a plain Jane obviously she very beautiful, Shallon even said that she is beautiful if you recall, but she means that figuratively she is the “plain Jane” to men as in she is low maintenance.
She is secure and safe. She is stunning but she isn't this difficult, brat! Men marry the nice, passive women. They will sleep with the crazy, loud , 'strong' woman but they won't marry them.
Lency T they call her "plain" because she doesn't dye her hair blonde (crazy yellow/gray artificial colour ofc, not natural blonde) doesn't expose too much skin, doesn't apply gruesome kardashian style makeup.... Oh and her assets aren't as big as watermelon. I think i understand why men prefer "plain Jane" this girls are good looking.
True,she is a lady, something classy and timeless far from the average girl, honestly,you need to own being a lady you can born a woman but lady girl,you have got work to do to become one
@@somebody6777 Kate was very different Pre-Royalty. They obviously have to change and conduct themselves in the appropriate manner. But Kate spent most of her Pre-Royalty years, just being Kate! Boozing, partying, socialising, holidaying and shopping. Nothing wrong with any of those things ofcourse, she was young. But that's all she was doing.
@@monalisasmile6629 ok,were I am living in a place were we don't have a royal family and stuff like this so I don't really care about the royal aspect but in the end of the day,she is a beauty icon and a fashion icon, saying she is plain is idk weird,even here and we don't really care about the royal family she is an icon yes she did changed to fit the royal family which show us she respecting her new title but she isn't plain
When news of William's choice of Uni became public knowledge, there was an increase of applicants (female) wanting to enrol at St. Andrew's. Basically a flock of female students were all heading there lol. Which is why Kate, with her mother's help, did the same.
I like Kate because she is good for the royal family and does her job well. Great mother, dresses appropriately, follows protocol. She also had time to be groomed and be tested for the role and her loyalty to Will.
"My history belongs to me. My accomplishments belong to me and I share them with people who I feel safe with and that's something they have to earn." Wow. Big thank you for this.
She is plain as hell in every way possible even by British standards BUT what made me think "hmm okay" was there was video she was doing an appearance at a hospital and the nurses where lined up either side, clapping as she walked down taking photos. There was one moment she basically broke protocol to walk over and hug and have a chat to one of the nurses who was the birth of first son (a small black lady) who looked semi shocked she remembered her lol that moment made her shine to me. I'm a complete sucker for kindness over everything
I actually asked my bf this a few weeks ago and he said bc women look prettier naturally and more approachable. Sooo makeup and fashion can push some guys away in my opinion BUT it won’t push the right guy a way.
I had the same problem actually. I don't talk about careers, college or jobs anymore because those are topics that are subconsciously competitive. A relationship isn't a sports team. I talk about bubblebaths, sipping champagne and flipping my hair at the beach. My girly, relaxing hobbies. Stuff they won't hear from their guy friends. It works.
I agree,I think it's best to wait to form a connection first,before you go into career,money etc,let them know you for you first,most guys are easily intimidated by accomplished or beautiful women
It’s true! I used to talk about sports and video games because I enjoy them, but I constantly go put into the “one of the guys” category. If you act like a guy friend, you get treated like a guy friend. You can still have those interests, but they need to be balanced out with more girly hobbies.
If a guy loses interest in you because you have a career and are successful, then he was a pathetic fuck in the first place. Why would want a guy like that. Better to weed those guys out. The right guy won't have a problem with it
I understand what you're trying to say and it's a very interesting topic. I remember in proms, I used to be the best dressed and everyone used to gawk at me but I was never asked out, in many other events and gatherings it seemed like guys were too intimidated to talk to me, a couple of guys even said that they consider me way too out of their league. And I always wondered why, because I had the figure, the personality, rhe looks, the smile, the career, the education, the achievements everything so thank you for the video, definitely insightful.
Their relationships is beautiful to watch. They look and work as a team, and you could tell in their engagment interview they really love and respect each othet. Classy couple
You set up this competitive dynamics..hits the bull eye..everytime i watch your video, its like i've left the dark ages and welcoming my renaissance, lol..thanks alot Shallon
Omg so true and Guilty. As. Charged. re: leading with your resume! I love this concept of they have to earn access to our achievements. We don’t need to put everything out there on day 1 for them to judge if we’re goon enough. They need to be impressing us, not the other way around! You hit the nail on the head, love all your vids Shallon!!!
How is Kate a “Plane Jane?” Her suits and jewelry cost more than my life🤦🏾♀️ Her family is so wealthy, and her hair and body is perfect. My old boss used to do hair at a Salon in England that does the Royal Families Hair. He thinks Kate Middleton is “hot,” so do most men in England.You did do a great analysis, and I learned something. I just done think Kate is a good example.
I have always been the girl who tried to please everyone. I changed my personality my opinions etc. After finding you and bing watching your videos I changed. My mindset changed. Thank you ❤
I studied fashion and now I design and wear my designs. My brother once told me the exact same thing that "guys find you strange because of your fashion sense" and I was like f#*k guys I love clothes too much. 😁
Listen, "guys" dont need to be attracted to you anyways. That level of uniqueness deserves somebody equally as unique. You need that ONE, not "guys". At the very least, someone who appreciates your uniqueness. No one should ever have to water themselves down to get a spouse. Women are not required to be every "guys" type. Keep being you girl, I've been dreaming of repurposing used clothes myself.
Yes that’s exactly right. Men do not want drama in the long run! Btw, Kate Middleton is not a plain Jane at all. I’ve seen her look VERY hot but she seems very private aswell! Meaghan isn’t a classic beauty. She has to put a lot of effort into being ‘hot.’ On a bad day, she actually looks BAD. I find her annoying how she tries to stir the pot and be difficult.
The only people who love to stir the pot, are the tabloids and the courtiers of BP! Kate wasn't very 'private' Pre-Royalty. She was always seen out and about! Boozing, partying, socialising etc. Remember, if you compare their wedding day looks. Kate wore a lot more makeup than Meghan did. Although both brides looked beautiful!
@@nellieltuodelschwanck1236 They both are white. Colored (not black) is Meghans mother. Yes Meghan had some African features as her curled hair, but she eradicated ones efficiently. Her plastic surgery was done also with intention to seem more white. But her skin is totally of white race, only slightly brownish. Many white woman especially south European have such skin. So this woman identifies herself with coloured people only in words and only when it is useful for her PR. All her attempts are directed to seem white.
I've always known this lol (esp going up as a tomboy and growing out of that in HS/college). My mindset is still kinda dude-ish lol. GENERALLY- Good* guys are simple, no-drama, no ultimatums, don't making little issues big, flexible, and are straight to the point. Most of these guys are non-glam, non-heavy makeup in their preferences. Be natural, honest, and you.
Having class and being sophisticated cannot be labelled as being a plain Jane! Kate Middleton is a beautiful woman who carries herself in a dignified way. She does not need to act sexy to grab anybody's attention (her beauty does that for her) and she does not need to be all touchy feely to get a guy to be near her. From what I've seen on the media about her, this woman is classy. She is dignified and carries herself like a true royal.
That is not true. They just don't like women who are arrogant. Going around bragging how beautiful, succesful, or whatever you are is a huge turn off. Same with guys, I hate anyone who brags.
Honestly this is why I dress up though. I want to weed out those guys that are looking for some simple woman that will take care of them. There are guys who want the glamazons and are totally down to take care of their woman, and they don’t care if she’s high maintenance. Those are the kinds of guys I’m trying to attract
This is really funny, because I just had a conversation with several of my male friends about Kate Middleton. the general consensus was that she is somebody who is incredibly beautiful, very hot, classy as all get-out, and she is somebody that they highly respect. I think that men are inherently selfish, and want women to be there for them. They are not really great about being there for their girlfriend or wife. It truly takes a feminist man to be there for a woman. I'm really not sure if men are made that way... If they have it in them.
I would never call Kate a plain Jane. She is lovely, poised, well educated, loves sports, never takes a misstep in the BRF. Kate is a jewel and William is lucky to have her. Have you seen her in her beautiful gowns? She is gorgeous. She looks fantastic in sportswear....anything she puts on. She is a natural beauty. And she is respectful to the RF....she has class.
You look beautiful Shallon and your voice animations crack me up. I just believe if a guy has a healthy self esteem and high worth he'd be able to love and accept you as a woman. I don't understand why we have to coddle them all the time and their 'feelings' and fragile egos wth. They say they want 'Queens' but actually want maids. They can't even step up to and maintain their own social roles. There is no reason for a man to struggle in this world because they have everything handed to them on a platter in society. NOw we gotta play plainjane to coddle their egos too. Not me. They earn more than women but if they see you looking cute they worry " can i afford her?" !@# PUH-LEASE!!!
You are the first coach who actually explained feminine and masculine energy PRACTICALLY ❤️❤️❤️ thank you my husband calls me the rose with thorns and wishes I could clip them off. Now I get it. Poor guy
I think you are off on this one. She's no plain Jane. Kate is more of a classic beauty who has learned to carry herself well to fit in her circumstances.
Classy men don't want women who look desperate. You can have an outgoing personality as long as you remain classy and feminine. Instead of dressing half naked, dress modest but accentuate your figure. Make sure your hair, makeup, and Jewelry brings out the best in you.
Glad I watched this again. Of course, I spent the morning texting someone I had a crush on, and I may as well have written a paper! I am now remembering what you said about not texting more than he does; and the "confidence is quiet," as so many of your other listeners are pointing out about Kate below. Thank you, Shallon! And thank you, young ladies!
Wish this channel existed when I was a teen! I learnt all these lessons the hard way, and I’m still learning. The way Shallon puts her points across they really make sense in a practical way. She’s a feminist, in that she tries to empower women and make us look at things from a different perspective. Growing up I always felt I had to be a certain way, now I’ve completely changed my perspective on what’s it’s like to be a women. I love it! I feel strong and confident.
The shade in the title 😂 But seriously, I have definitely noticed that a lot of guys go for the "basic", girl-next-door type of chick. Thanks for another great video, Shallon!
I'm eastern European and I agree with what you say and I like how you reason. I wouldn't call Kate "plain Jane", I would refer to her as to a natural beauty that is very elegant and this is where they win and vulgar women lose.
When I was in college, I saw that too. (Shallon actually did a video called why guys go after basic sorority girls) But usually those guys go after those girls for a hookup, and they are also immature at 18. Now that I’m older I promise you the right guys don’t go after those girls anymore, they want a partner they can settle down with and the predictability Shallon was talking about, not wondering if she’s just all about high maintenance with her spray tan, nails, extensions, heavy makeup, etc. they want more than just looks. There’s actually a girl I know from college who was one of those basic sorority girls and she’s gorgeous and got all the guys in college, but she never matured and still in the college-mindset and she can attract guys because she’s pretty , but once they know she’s basically all looks, can’t keep them.
Guys generally just want to fuck those girls. It seems like guys want to marry women who are “naturally” attractive - “natural” makeup, “natural” hair color, no lash extensions, no fake tan, no obvious plastic surgery, etc. I say “natural” because while men say they prefer no make up and natural hair, they say we look sick without makeup and they hate gray hair lol. Men don’t like fake, they don’t like feeling like they’re being tricked. It’s silly but that’s what I’ve noticed.
Omg first I thought I don’t like you but then I kept continuing watching and you are saying so intelligent things and you are far away from superficial! So interesting to listen to you ! Much love xx
Why is Kate a Plain Jane. She is gorgeous, smart, has an impeccable taste and manners. She is an epitome of classy. We don't know how she acts when she is with people she knows. I am sure she is a very good conversationalist. After all, she charmed a future king! Not being flashy and loud does not equal being Plain Jane! She follows in the footsteps of the Queen!
This was GOOD!!! She’s not saying Kate isn’t beautiful, she IS. She stated that- but what she’s referencing to is that Kate seems more conservative in her looks and doesn’t exude sex appeal. I totally got what she was saying!
This content is relatable, accurate, and very much so needed! Thank you for this video and sharing your knowledge! Your authenticity is very refreshing 🙂
The women called plain Janes by some other women are often quite intelligent and brains will beat beauty every time. The "fun and bubbly" type of woman you describe is rarely particularly clever. It is also worth mentioning that one of the first things Prince William mentions about the beginning of his relationship with Kate is that she had a great sense of humor and they had a good giggle. There is also something called compatibility - Prince William could never be attracted to a woman like Meghan Markle. In fact I'm sure that any man who finds Kate attractive would consider Meghan vulgar. I wouldn't underestimate the passion potential of the understated women, or so called plain Janes, either. P.S. I don't know how it is in New York but statistically a bar is considered the last place a woman should be expecting to meet her husband.
He has always cheated on Kate. He even kept breaking up with her when they were dating to go chase other women. She knew what she was signing up for (to be queen)
I think Kate is understated. That's not a plain jane. I think we are so used to seeing the kylie and gaga's of the world and anyone opposite to that is plain.
Kate Middleton isn't a Plain Jane, she is a Royal and has protocols to follow, she is expected to act in certain ways. She can't just dress and act like MM. What do you expect her to do? She has a purpose to be in the BRF. She is the Queen in waiting. She is beautiful, natural and elegant. She dressees beautifully and never sets a foot wrong. Beauty is a subjective matter but most people will agree that Kate Middleton isn't a Plain Jane. IMO, Gwyneth Paltrow is the definition of a Plain Jane but she has a good figure 😄.
What do you guys mean a plain Jane? Kate Middleton is gorgeous. She’s moreso beautiful than Britney Spears. I know I’m going to catch hate but Kim was very hot about 6 years ago or so. She’s overdone the removal of her features. Kate is very attractive and saying a woman who is classy and top tier from a European country with a royal theme is questionable.
Wishful thinking!!! 🙄🙄🙄😤 Why Kate stans do always putting others famous women down to bring up Kate? And why always comparing her to someone else to give her a compliment? For the record Britney at her prime was way more prettier, desirable and charismatic than Kate could never be in her all life! Britney catches instantly William attention with her hot self, Kate on the other hand struggle to get his attention for a long time, and she chased him endlessly to make him put the ring on hit! So please stop deluding yourself; additionally Kate should thanks the inventors of airbrushed and filters, she only looks to be dropped dead gorgeous with the airbrushed, photoshopped and filters in each pictures and videos of her; but without makeup and airbrushed she looks more than ten older.
Lol! I'm sorry but this is complete BS. Men don't care about fashion or Instagram stories. How old is this woman? Going to Coachella isn't an achievement, rofl!
She isn't "plain" whatsoever - she's refined, and doesn't need to overact for male attention. We call that "a lady". Sorry for the cultural difference!
Thanks for this video. I like what you said about people needing to earn your trust before you give them details of your history. what do you if the person you are talking to gives you explicit details about their past . I appreciate them being candid and sharing but at the same time i feel like they are fishing for information in my past.i I feel like you are never obligated to share anything unless you are comfortable sharing it.i feel like I'm a plain jane and I am proud to be that way. I know there is a guy out there who will appreciate my real self. Sometimes less is more.
Ok I like what you said at the end. You always drive the point home with great skill and make it make sense. You one of a few RUclipsrs that end a video with satisfying solutions. You just earned a sub, sis.
My main problem with men is them being too intimidated by me. I tried so hard in the past to make them feel safe etc etc but that’s such BS in my opinion. I can’t spend another relationship 24/7 worried about looking less strong and independent than what I am, nor I can dedicate all my precious time too them just because they are too insecure. It doesn’t matter what you do or how much you prove you love them, they will always be insecure. I need Someone with enough self esteem to be with me. I want a partner that walks by my side, not a “boy” to take care of. I don’t wanna be my partner’s 2nd mom!!
I feel you’re a bit off on this one. Will famously got a crush on Kate when he saw her in a fashion show wearing a transparent dress. And during their break up, Kate really glammed it up and was seen having fun all over town. I do think you’re right that she’s sweet and drama free but the fact that she can catch his eye in a revealing dress and not wait around for him during their break up is what hooked him. And she’s definitely not plain Jane at all. She’s always been in crazy good shape, legs for days, hair goals and just over all super pretty.
Don't forget that what initially hooked William is when Kate wore that totally see-through dress she wore on the runway at their school's fashion show. They were friends before that, of course, but that made him see her as a woman, rather than as just a friend.
I've always had the mindset of dressing very lowkey while on a date since I find that by dressing down the person focuses more on you instead of what are you wearing.
Im totally like your friend. Im sort of shy, but everyone thinks Im intimidating. Why? When I was in school, I was super low key, and I realized, to gain respect I wont change my shyness, but change the way you look. And I did. And that was the best thing I did in my life: change outside but Im the same old Vicky inside. My husband: is the outgoing guy. And maybe as you friend, thats why I like you Shallon.
Kate actually showed a lot more personality BEFORE she married into Royalty. She was no shrinking violet! There were times, she was fun and daring and not not-so-shy at all! It seems, since she became a Royal, eight years ago, she adopted the persona of being shy, timid, reserved, regal, classy, elegant etc etc. No choice of course. But Pre-Royalty, she was 'mooning' the male students at Marlborough college, everytime they passed by her dorm room window. She was attending Club Fever and launch parties for vibrators, wearing cute pink bunny ears. She was friends with Emma Sayle - her friend from Downe House Public school and former rowing partner, who founded Killing Kittens - a exclusive club, which organises sex parties for wealthy clients. She famously modelled a see-through slip dress with black underwear beneath at St. Andrew's. She was constantly snapped smashed out of her skull, falling in and out of a cab, wearing skimpy outfits and usually flashed various body parts. She'd get so paralytically drunk on uni night outs, that she had to be carried back to her room by William's friends because she couldn’t walk. That old Kate was far more interesting...
Ladies, Please listen to Shallon. I use to do this all the time back when I was dating on Match (totally dating myself). I would lead with my travel, education, and career and didn’t understand why the guys I went on dates with felt like they were competing with me. I ended up moving out of the city and became a little more of a chill person and then met my husband.
To me Kate doesn't seem like a plain Jane, she is a like upper classy elegant woman. Remember real confidence is silent. Sometimes the things that shine bright are shallow. Kate follows royal protocol.
She is very (classy) plain jane. A plain jane can still dress up for occasions; doesnt make them any less of a plain jane. Its not like it means your ugly or anything. The point is you dont look at her and think Dayum!! You look at her and think she is girlfriend, wifey and mom material, shes a good girl, low maintenance ect by appearance. She is pretty, but not drop dead gorgeous. And that is not criticism its still a positive thing.
@@suras8984 I guess our opinions vary in drop dead gorgeous. Google Kate's smile, it's better than any make up in the world. Like I said, she is a future queen and follows royal orders. She can't dress in a way she wants. We can't tell what she really is like. So nope, I don't think she is low maintenance
@@suras8984 true, I agree with you
@@suras8984 Kate is drop dead gorgeous. Not only that, but she has really rare aristocrathic appearance.
exactly! my style is more like Kate
I wouldn't call her low maintenance or a plain jane. She wore a full face hours after giving birth. She just follows royal standards because she could be queen one day. So we don't really know anything about her really.
I mean - she was being photographed for billions to see - she kind of HAD to wear a full face! She's the future queen consort! But if you see candid photos of her on the weekends, she's very plain!
I guess nowadays a natural beauty that’s elegant and classy is considered a “plain Jane”. Damn.
You didn't get it
Confidence in your beauty is silent too.😘
It's in the eye of the beholder cause I kinda think Kate has a mannish face and shes just not pretty at all but she seems very elegant.
LMFAO!Anyone who doesn't look like a fake Instagram model is considered plain now.
Kate is beautiful. Maybe they'd rather have intelligent than hot. Just a thought.
Kate is not a plain Jane she’s just not loud and a superficial diva
Loud is something Kate's never been. She's never really had an opinion on anything. But it's not required of her anyway.
As a royal, Shes not allowed to have a public opinion. None of the royals are
She is classy, I like her
I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to fix yourself up and get glammed. I do it from time to time but some women display an attitude of entitlement and like to rub it in people’s faces they have it all which is great to be successful and confident. it’s refreshing to be humble about your riches and keep a low radar
J .S you are actually so rude tf... “manjaw”?
To be fair, we don't know what Kate is really like. It's not like she can do whatever she wants.
NG don’t be stupid, you don’t really know anybody I bet you don’t even know yourself!
@@ng38477 I hope u r a child and not an adult who should know what u said is not PC at all. Or maybe you are just really ignorant??
Because Meredi are predictable and they want safe ladies for their wives and children's mother. While they like wild for their sex partners.
How the hell is she plain Jane? She's a classic beauty! I think duchess Camilla is better example of plain Jane, she 's always looked average, but she had no problem to catch Prince Charles
I've read that Camilla was very confident and attractive. They probably have good chemistry. Looks aren't always everything...there are beautiful women with zero charisma. (I'm not a fan of Camilla)
I think they connected on a spiritual level and that Diana had issues when it came to her self esteem and it affected a lot of her marriage. There was a huge age difference, it was an arranged marriage (really one of the last dynastic marriages to occur), and he was barred from being able to marry Camilla (plus she was married at the time too).
If you watched the entire video, it's obvious that Shallon means that she is very low maintenance and quite. She IS beautiful but has no sex appeal. Shallon said she loves Kate and she seems to be a great wife and mother but she's very simple, mellow and predictable which can get boring.
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Oh trust me Camilla was never attractive at all. Google some old pictures and you’ll see what I mean. She was always ugly.
Camilla looks like a bloody man with a wig you weirdo!!!
It's almost as if people connect and fall in love for reasons other than looks and fashion.
Kardashians, honestly are plane janes with a lot of surgeries, duchess is sooo beautiful and elegant!
I feel that too
There's more to people than what meets the eye. Meghan Markle is an actress and has forged this seductive image, done sexy photo shoots etc, that most young-ish actresses do. I look like any other person, nothing special about me from the outside, but I am a freak on the inside and I live with a man who recognizes that and loves me for it :) Point is, Kate has a public persona that she chooses to show the world. We don't know what she's like behind closed doors.
well said darling!
I started following you 2 months ago, but my mindset has totally changed since I started watching your videos. Life has been so much more easier by following certain rules :D thank you for that! :)
How is Kate plain? She's so beautiful and elegant.
Exacly..
She not literally a plain Jane obviously she very beautiful, Shallon even said that she is beautiful if you recall, but she means that figuratively she is the “plain Jane” to men as in she is low maintenance.
She is secure and safe. She is stunning but she isn't this difficult, brat! Men marry the nice, passive women. They will sleep with the crazy, loud , 'strong' woman but they won't marry them.
Lency T they call her "plain" because she doesn't dye her hair blonde (crazy yellow/gray artificial colour ofc, not natural blonde) doesn't expose too much skin, doesn't apply gruesome kardashian style makeup.... Oh and her assets aren't as big as watermelon. I think i understand why men prefer "plain Jane" this girls are good looking.
Sorry but I have to disagree. Kate is beautiful.
Kate is far from a plain Jane.
Kate is a classy lady with natural makeup. She’s not flashy an that’s okay.
True,she is a lady, something classy and timeless far from the average girl, honestly,you need to own being a lady you can born a woman but lady girl,you have got work to do to become one
Exactly
@@somebody6777 Kate was very different Pre-Royalty. They obviously have to change and conduct themselves in the appropriate manner. But Kate spent most of her Pre-Royalty years, just being Kate! Boozing, partying, socialising, holidaying and shopping.
Nothing wrong with any of those things ofcourse, she was young. But that's all she was doing.
@@monalisasmile6629 ok,were I am living in a place were we don't have a royal family and stuff like this so I don't really care about the royal aspect but in the end of the day,she is a beauty icon and a fashion icon, saying she is plain is idk weird,even here and we don't really care about the royal family she is an icon
yes she did changed to fit the royal family which show us she respecting her new title but she isn't plain
Let’s be honest, would he even be sought after if he wasn’t a prince?
True haha
He was pretty hot back then
When news of William's choice of Uni became public knowledge, there was an increase of applicants (female) wanting to enrol at St. Andrew's.
Basically a flock of female students were all heading there lol.
Which is why Kate, with her mother's help, did the same.
When he was young, yes.
Now not so much.
Up until he started balding, maybe. I though he was cute when he was young, didn't turn out so well. 😒
I like Kate because she is good for the royal family and does her job well. Great mother, dresses appropriately, follows protocol. She also had time to be groomed and be tested for the role and her loyalty to Will.
'Meredi' omg, I've never heard my name in the plural. 😂👍
Lol
I was thinking Meredithians. Maybe that could be the adjective? 🤣
I don’t think men like dealing with drama. Simple/humble girls normally carry less drama.
And men don’t carry drama?? Fucking idiot
"My history belongs to me. My accomplishments belong to me and I share them with people who I feel safe with and that's something they have to earn." Wow. Big thank you for this.
She is plain as hell in every way possible even by British standards BUT what made me think "hmm okay" was there was video she was doing an appearance at a hospital and the nurses where lined up either side, clapping as she walked down taking photos. There was one moment she basically broke protocol to walk over and hug and have a chat to one of the nurses who was the birth of first son (a small black lady) who looked semi shocked she remembered her lol that moment made her shine to me. I'm a complete sucker for kindness over everything
Aw like Princess Diana... also I caught that shade you threw at British people. kikiki
@@sophiaatn5339 as a Brit myself... I said what I said loool
Are you blind? She is absolutely gorgeous.
I actually asked my bf this a few weeks ago and he said bc women look prettier naturally and more approachable. Sooo makeup and fashion can push some guys away in my opinion BUT it won’t push the right guy a way.
A real confident man would never blame a woman for looking too beautiful that he couldn't approach her. That just screams insecure.
Uhmm Kate is not plane, she's classy and beautiful af
I had the same problem actually. I don't talk about careers, college or jobs anymore because those are topics that are subconsciously competitive. A relationship isn't a sports team. I talk about bubblebaths, sipping champagne and flipping my hair at the beach. My girly, relaxing hobbies. Stuff they won't hear from their guy friends. It works.
I agree,I think it's best to wait to form a connection first,before you go into career,money etc,let them know you for you first,most guys are easily intimidated by accomplished or beautiful women
It’s true! I used to talk about sports and video games because I enjoy them, but I constantly go put into the “one of the guys” category. If you act like a guy friend, you get treated like a guy friend. You can still have those interests, but they need to be balanced out with more girly hobbies.
If a guy loses interest in you because you have a career and are successful, then he was a pathetic fuck in the first place. Why would want a guy like that. Better to weed those guys out. The right guy won't have a problem with it
Ha! Great comment. I do all of those things but thought it would be boring to talk about. You are so spot on though. Thanks for sharing xx.
SHe’s not a plain Jane and she is absolutely gorgeous and she’s perfect for the real family as she does her job and is professional and doesn’t whine.
She is not plain jane lol she is just elegant and beauty!!:)
I understand what you're trying to say and it's a very interesting topic. I remember in proms, I used to be the best dressed and everyone used to gawk at me but I was never asked out, in many other events and gatherings it seemed like guys were too intimidated to talk to me, a couple of guys even said that they consider me way too out of their league. And I always wondered why, because I had the figure, the personality, rhe looks, the smile, the career, the education, the achievements everything so thank you for the video, definitely insightful.
Their relationships is beautiful to watch. They look and work as a team, and you could tell in their engagment interview they really love and respect each othet. Classy couple
Okay but you have to admit that Kate is on the prettier side of plain.
Right? "Plain" to me isnt exactly attractive. I picture average and boring. Kate's gorgeous. Pretty much the opposite.
I don’t she necessarily meant plain = unattractive. She just isn’t pretty in an over the top way.
@@starminoui shes not allowed to be overtly sexual though. Shes a royal.
@@DeniseBobese she is strikingly seductive, yet folded in such elegant manner that makes her looks decent, and pretty "plain".
The "plain jane" you're talking about is unbridled feminine energy.
Thank you 🙌🙌🙌
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You set up this competitive dynamics..hits the bull eye..everytime i watch your video, its like i've left the dark ages and welcoming my renaissance, lol..thanks alot Shallon
She ain’t a plain Jane lol ...
she was a model before and is more beautiful than average but she has to wear more conservative clothes for etiquette
She has never been a model
@@wednesdaysdoll that wasn't a model. Plus, she's too ugly to be one.
She just did a fun fashion project in college. She was never a professional model.
Plain Jane or not, if someone's gonna cheat, they will do so.
She is not a plane Jane, she is naturally classy
Omg so true and Guilty. As. Charged. re: leading with your resume! I love this concept of they have to earn access to our achievements. We don’t need to put everything out there on day 1 for them to judge if we’re goon enough. They need to be impressing us, not the other way around! You hit the nail on the head, love all your vids Shallon!!!
How is Kate a “Plane Jane?” Her suits and jewelry cost more than my life🤦🏾♀️ Her family is so wealthy, and her hair and body is perfect. My old boss used to do hair at a Salon in England that does the Royal Families Hair. He thinks Kate Middleton is “hot,” so do most men in England.You did do a great analysis, and I learned something. I just done think Kate is a good example.
They find her hot bc women in England look awful in general, so average looking Kate looks like a godess to them.
I have always been the girl who tried to please everyone. I changed my personality my opinions etc.
After finding you and bing watching your videos I changed. My mindset changed. Thank you ❤
Love yourself
I studied fashion and now I design and wear my designs. My brother once told me the exact same thing that "guys find you strange because of your fashion sense" and I was like f#*k guys I love clothes too much. 😁
Listen, "guys" dont need to be attracted to you anyways. That level of uniqueness deserves somebody equally as unique. You need that ONE, not "guys". At the very least, someone who appreciates your uniqueness. No one should ever have to water themselves down to get a spouse. Women are not required to be every "guys" type. Keep being you girl, I've been dreaming of repurposing used clothes myself.
@@DeniseBobese totally
Yes that’s exactly right. Men do not want drama in the long run! Btw, Kate Middleton is not a plain Jane at all. I’ve seen her look VERY hot but she seems very private aswell! Meaghan isn’t a classic beauty. She has to put a lot of effort into being ‘hot.’ On a bad day, she actually looks BAD. I find her annoying how she tries to stir the pot and be difficult.
The only people who love to stir the pot, are the tabloids and the courtiers of BP!
Kate wasn't very 'private' Pre-Royalty. She was always seen out and about! Boozing, partying, socialising etc.
Remember, if you compare their wedding day looks. Kate wore a lot more makeup than Meghan did. Although both brides looked beautiful!
@@nellieltuodelschwanck1236 They both are white. Colored (not black) is Meghans mother. Yes Meghan had some African features as her curled hair, but she eradicated ones efficiently. Her plastic surgery was done also with intention to seem more white. But her skin is totally of white race, only slightly brownish. Many white woman especially south European have such skin. So this woman identifies herself with coloured people only in words and only when it is useful for her PR. All her attempts are directed to seem white.
I've always known this lol (esp going up as a tomboy and growing out of that in HS/college). My mindset is still kinda dude-ish lol. GENERALLY- Good* guys are simple, no-drama, no ultimatums, don't making little issues big, flexible, and are straight to the point. Most of these guys are non-glam, non-heavy makeup in their preferences. Be natural, honest, and you.
Kate isn't a plane Jane. Her family is wealthy and she had an amazing upbringing. She looks good to me.
Having class and being sophisticated cannot be labelled as being a plain Jane! Kate Middleton is a beautiful woman who carries herself in a dignified way. She does not need to act sexy to grab anybody's attention (her beauty does that for her) and she does not need to be all touchy feely to get a guy to be near her. From what I've seen on the media about her, this woman is classy. She is dignified and carries herself like a true royal.
Guys feel intimidated by beautiful, successful and strong women. They have a hard time finding a guy because they earn much more and are so up there.
That is not true. They just don't like women who are arrogant. Going around bragging how beautiful, succesful, or whatever you are is a huge turn off. Same with guys, I hate anyone who brags.
Honestly this is why I dress up though. I want to weed out those guys that are looking for some simple woman that will take care of them. There are guys who want the glamazons and are totally down to take care of their woman, and they don’t care if she’s high maintenance. Those are the kinds of guys I’m trying to attract
Honestly we NEVER knew & still DONT know how Kate is! She seems so lovely & supporting.
This is really funny, because I just had a conversation with several of my male friends about Kate Middleton. the general consensus was that she is somebody who is incredibly beautiful, very hot, classy as all get-out, and she is somebody that they highly respect. I think that men are inherently selfish, and want women to be there for them.
They are not really great about being there for their girlfriend or wife. It truly takes a feminist man to be there for a woman. I'm really not sure if men are made that way... If they have it in them.
I would never call Kate a plain Jane. She is lovely, poised, well educated, loves sports, never takes a misstep in the BRF. Kate is a jewel and William is lucky to have her. Have you seen her in her beautiful gowns? She is gorgeous. She looks fantastic in sportswear....anything she puts on. She is a natural beauty. And she is respectful to the RF....she has class.
You look beautiful Shallon and your voice animations crack me up. I just believe if a guy has a healthy self esteem and high worth he'd be able to love and accept you as a woman. I don't understand why we have to coddle them all the time and their 'feelings' and fragile egos wth. They say they want 'Queens' but actually want maids. They can't even step up to and maintain their own social roles. There is no reason for a man to struggle in this world because they have everything handed to them on a platter in society. NOw we gotta play plainjane to coddle their egos too. Not me. They earn more than women but if they see you looking cute they worry " can i afford her?" !@# PUH-LEASE!!!
There you go, you get it!!! I agree with everyone's you said, because it's absolutely true 💯
You are the first coach who actually explained feminine and masculine energy PRACTICALLY ❤️❤️❤️ thank you my husband calls me the rose with thorns and wishes I could clip them off. Now I get it. Poor guy
"Wear low buns to the bar" I'm cryinggg HAHAHA
I think you are off on this one. She's no plain Jane. Kate is more of a classic beauty who has learned to carry herself well to fit in her circumstances.
Classy men don't want women who look desperate. You can have an outgoing personality as long as you remain classy and feminine. Instead of dressing half naked, dress modest but accentuate your figure. Make sure your hair, makeup, and Jewelry brings out the best in you.
Thank you! I needed to hear this.
The problem is finding a man who can handle your past or your true nature
Glad I watched this again. Of course, I spent the morning texting someone I had a crush on, and I may as well have written a paper! I am now remembering what you said about not texting more than he does; and the "confidence is quiet," as so many of your other listeners are pointing out about Kate below. Thank you, Shallon! And thank you, young ladies!
"quiet storm confidence ", says it all . Thank you for this very insightful video .
Wish this channel existed when I was a teen! I learnt all these lessons the hard way, and I’m still learning. The way Shallon puts her points across they really make sense in a practical way. She’s a feminist, in that she tries to empower women and make us look at things from a different perspective. Growing up I always felt I had to be a certain way, now I’ve completely changed my perspective on what’s it’s like to be a women. I love it! I feel strong and confident.
The shade in the title 😂
But seriously, I have definitely noticed that a lot of guys go for the "basic", girl-next-door type of chick. Thanks for another great video, Shallon!
I'm eastern European and I agree with what you say and I like how you reason. I wouldn't call Kate "plain Jane", I would refer to her as to a natural beauty that is very elegant and this is where they win and vulgar women lose.
ok that's a really weird theory because from what i see at uni, guys are drawn to the most extra girls (lash extensions, nails, gym tights)
I think she means to marry and be serious with.
How many of them are going to commit though?
Apparently, Kate Middleton had a wild side to her. But she's so contained and graceful.
When I was in college, I saw that too. (Shallon actually did a video called why guys go after basic sorority girls) But usually those guys go after those girls for a hookup, and they are also immature at 18. Now that I’m older I promise you the right guys don’t go after those girls anymore, they want a partner they can settle down with and the predictability Shallon was talking about, not wondering if she’s just all about high maintenance with her spray tan, nails, extensions, heavy makeup, etc. they want more than just looks. There’s actually a girl I know from college who was one of those basic sorority girls and she’s gorgeous and got all the guys in college, but she never matured and still in the college-mindset and she can attract guys because she’s pretty , but once they know she’s basically all looks, can’t keep them.
Guys generally just want to fuck those girls. It seems like guys want to marry women who are “naturally” attractive - “natural” makeup, “natural” hair color, no lash extensions, no fake tan, no obvious plastic surgery, etc. I say “natural” because while men say they prefer no make up and natural hair, they say we look sick without makeup and they hate gray hair lol. Men don’t like fake, they don’t like feeling like they’re being tricked. It’s silly but that’s what I’ve noticed.
I always thought Kate is so beautiful
Idk to me Kate doesn’t seem plain. She seems refined and classy
Omg first I thought I don’t like you but then I kept continuing watching and you are saying so intelligent things and you are far away from superficial! So interesting to listen to you ! Much love xx
Why is Kate a Plain Jane. She is gorgeous, smart, has an impeccable taste and manners. She is an epitome of classy. We don't know how she acts when she is with people she knows. I am sure she is a very good conversationalist. After all, she charmed a future king! Not being flashy and loud does not equal being Plain Jane! She follows in the footsteps of the Queen!
This was GOOD!!! She’s not saying Kate isn’t beautiful, she IS. She stated that- but what she’s referencing to is that Kate seems more conservative in her looks and doesn’t exude sex appeal. I totally got what she was saying!
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This content is relatable, accurate, and very much so needed! Thank you for this video and sharing your knowledge! Your authenticity is very refreshing 🙂
The women called plain Janes by some other women are often quite intelligent and brains will beat beauty every time. The "fun and bubbly" type of woman you describe is rarely particularly clever. It is also worth mentioning that one of the first things Prince William mentions about the beginning of his relationship with Kate is that she had a great sense of humor and they had a good giggle. There is also something called compatibility - Prince William could never be attracted to a woman like Meghan Markle. In fact I'm sure that any man who finds Kate attractive would consider Meghan vulgar. I wouldn't underestimate the passion potential of the understated women, or so called plain Janes, either. P.S. I don't know how it is in New York but statistically a bar is considered the last place a woman should be expecting to meet her husband.
To me Kate isn't a plain Jane, she could be the next Queen so for that reason she needs to always look right and act in a certain way
I'VE. NEVER. RELATED. TO. A. VIDEO. THIS. MUCH.
I love this practical advice! Stability is HOT. Embracing it and chillin’ is even more 🔥. Thanks for the reminder of the simplicity of it all.
what do you think about william’s cheating rumors ?
maryam A lol what about them?
@@masseiy he cheated with Kate's best friend! their neighbor
He has always cheated on Kate. He even kept breaking up with her when they were dating to go chase other women. She knew what she was signing up for (to be queen)
The rumour was leaked by a friend of MM and Jessica Mulroney.
Honestly it's like the Kennedy's on steroids. Is anyone really surprised?
To me kate is nothing like a plain Jane. She is a true role model I believe.
It's not that Kate is a plain Jane.
She's beautiful in a classy kind of way and at the same time normal.
Meghan, not so much.
I think Kate is understated. That's not a plain jane. I think we are so used to seeing the kylie and gaga's of the world and anyone opposite to that is plain.
I'm a plain Jane and I'm perfectly OK with it 😂😂😂
Kate Middleton isn't a Plain Jane,
she is a Royal and has protocols to follow, she is expected to act in certain ways. She can't just dress and act like MM. What do you expect her to do? She has a purpose to be in the BRF. She is the Queen in waiting. She is beautiful, natural and elegant. She dressees beautifully and never sets a foot wrong. Beauty is a subjective matter but most people will agree that Kate Middleton isn't a Plain Jane. IMO, Gwyneth Paltrow is the definition of a Plain Jane but she has a good figure 😄.
Kate is european and has sophisticated style. In Europe what US ppl call hot we call a bit cheep and kitsch . But ur observations are great :)))
What do you guys mean a plain Jane? Kate Middleton is gorgeous. She’s moreso beautiful than Britney Spears. I know I’m going to catch hate but Kim was very hot about 6 years ago or so. She’s overdone the removal of her features. Kate is very attractive and saying a woman who is classy and top tier from a European country with a royal theme is questionable.
Wishful thinking!!! 🙄🙄🙄😤 Why Kate stans do always putting others famous women down to bring up Kate?
And why always comparing her to someone else to give her a compliment?
For the record Britney at her prime was way more prettier, desirable and charismatic than Kate could never be in her all life!
Britney catches instantly William attention with her hot self, Kate on the other hand struggle to get his attention for a long time, and she chased him endlessly to make him put the ring on hit!
So please stop deluding yourself; additionally Kate should thanks the inventors of airbrushed and filters, she only looks to be dropped dead gorgeous with the airbrushed, photoshopped and filters in each pictures and videos of her; but without makeup and airbrushed she looks more than ten older.
“What the hell are we all supposed to do? Wear low buns out to the bar?” NO! 💃😆🤣
Lol! I'm sorry but this is complete BS. Men don't care about fashion or Instagram stories. How old is this woman? Going to Coachella isn't an achievement, rofl!
She's just telling her own thoughts, don't take her seriously.
She isn't "plain" whatsoever - she's refined, and doesn't need to overact for male attention. We call that "a lady". Sorry for the cultural difference!
Thanks for this video. I like what you said about people needing to earn your trust before you give them details of your history. what do you if the person you are talking to gives you explicit details about their past . I appreciate them being candid and sharing but at the same time i feel like they are fishing for information in my past.i I feel like you are never obligated to share anything unless you are comfortable sharing it.i feel like I'm a plain jane and I am proud to be that way. I know there is a guy out there who will appreciate my real self. Sometimes less is more.
I love your videos!!!!! It's so great that you post them so frequently now 🤗
The Future King And Queen🥰❤️
Seriously? Kate is a classic beauty. She’s just not the in your face trashy-sexy of the Kardashians.
Ok I like what you said at the end. You always drive the point home with great skill and make it make sense. You one of a few RUclipsrs that end a video with satisfying solutions. You just earned a sub, sis.
Just be yourself and the right person will be with you
Kate is beautiful, elegant, classy, and real. Not pumped full of fillers and Botox. She loves being a wife and a mom. She is not a plain Jane.
Is Kate a Plain Jane though? Idk shes stunning and classy to me. I just started the video though so I'm listening....
My main problem with men is them being too intimidated by me. I tried so hard in the past to make them feel safe etc etc but that’s such BS in my opinion. I can’t spend another relationship 24/7 worried about looking less strong and independent than what I am, nor I can dedicate all my precious time too them just because they are too insecure. It doesn’t matter what you do or how much you prove you love them, they will always be insecure. I need Someone with enough self esteem to be with me. I want a partner that walks by my side, not a “boy” to take care of. I don’t wanna be my partner’s 2nd mom!!
Why is Tinsley Mortimer from RHONY still not married? She's beautiful and sweet. Why is her guy leading her on for 2 years now??
@@shallonlester haha OMG ! She is stunted for sure but she seems like the sweet basic girl that would go along with whatever a guy wants
Ahhh I love you!! I look up to you so much and take all your advice and use it in my own relationship. I believe it has really improved it.
I feel you’re a bit off on this one. Will famously got a crush on Kate when he saw her in a fashion show wearing a transparent dress. And during their break up, Kate really glammed it up and was seen having fun all over town. I do think you’re right that she’s sweet and drama free but the fact that she can catch his eye in a revealing dress and not wait around for him during their break up is what hooked him. And she’s definitely not plain Jane at all. She’s always been in crazy good shape, legs for days, hair goals and just over all super pretty.
Don't forget that what initially hooked William is when Kate wore that totally see-through dress she wore on the runway at their school's fashion show. They were friends before that, of course, but that made him see her as a woman, rather than as just a friend.
Kate is many many this. Plain Jane just ain't one honey
koriri sawar sort of
Depends... for my latin American culture she is not even cute.
I've always had the mindset of dressing very lowkey while on a date since I find that by dressing down the person focuses more on you instead of what are you wearing.
Kate is amazing and she looks pretty normal.
Im totally like your friend. Im sort of shy, but everyone thinks Im intimidating. Why? When I was in school, I was super low key, and I realized, to gain respect I wont change my shyness, but change the way you look. And I did. And that was the best thing I did in my life: change outside but Im the same old Vicky inside.
My husband: is the outgoing guy.
And maybe as you friend, thats why I like you Shallon.
Kate actually showed a lot more personality BEFORE she married into Royalty. She was no shrinking violet!
There were times, she was fun and daring and not not-so-shy at all! It seems, since she became a Royal, eight years ago, she adopted the persona of being shy, timid, reserved, regal, classy, elegant etc etc. No choice of course.
But Pre-Royalty, she was 'mooning' the male students at Marlborough college, everytime they passed by her dorm room window. She was attending Club Fever and launch parties for vibrators, wearing cute pink bunny ears.
She was friends with Emma Sayle - her friend from Downe House Public school and former rowing partner, who founded Killing Kittens - a exclusive club, which organises sex parties for wealthy clients. She famously modelled a see-through slip dress with black underwear beneath at St. Andrew's. She was constantly snapped smashed out of her skull, falling in and out of a cab, wearing skimpy outfits and usually flashed various body parts. She'd get so paralytically drunk on uni night outs, that she had to be carried back to her room by William's friends
because she couldn’t walk.
That old Kate was far more interesting...
Catherine is very smart
She's very confidence and know what she's worth 🌹🌹🌹🌹👏👏👏
every time I watch your videos I'm like: ''damn, she's really smart"
I think the difference between Kate & Meghan is one classy & one isn’t!
Ladies,
Please listen to Shallon. I use to do this all the time back when I was dating on Match (totally dating myself).
I would lead with my travel, education, and career and didn’t understand why the guys I went on dates with felt like they were competing with me.
I ended up moving out of the city and became a little more of a chill person and then met my husband.