Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Telling Our Stories (Full Length)
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2017
- The documentary Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Telling Our Stories provides a glimpse into the realities faced by several grandparent led families from across BC. These grandparents didn’t plan to be full time caregivers at this later stage in their lives. Their stories are varied, but many of the threads are the same: loss, isolation, grief, hardship, love and determination. The grandchildren are their priority and they need and deserve, love, stability and all the support possible to ensure they can succeed in life. “This documentary will make you laugh, make you cry, and we hope, make you think.”
What are your plans after your children have grown, left home, and had children of their own? Do you ever imagine yourself - raising your grandchildren - full time? Growing numbers of grandparents are raising their own grandchildren. Why? Sometimes a parent has died, sometimes it is because of mental illness, the stories are varied, but the reality is that these grandchildren have often faced trauma, and neglect. They are kids who desperately need loving care. These grandparents raising grandchildren (GRGs) didn’t plan to be full time caregivers at this stage in their lives.
Unlike foster parents, GRGs receive little, to no, financial support. They try and navigate our labyrinth of complicated bureaucracies - legal, financial, and governmental. They feel isolated. Their friends aren’t raising grandchildren. Seniors organizations tend not program for elders who are raising children full time. Seniors housing is adult only.
Over the years, Parent Support Services Society of BC (est 1974) began to hear more and more from this growing population of grandparents who raise their grandchildren. These grandparents decided to make a movie about their stories.
Help Parent Support Services of BC tell these unique and powerful stories of resilience.
Parent Support Services runs Support Circles for grandparents and other caregivers across BC.
For more information, or if you have questions or concerns please contact our GRG Support Line grg(at)parentsupportbc.ca.
Donate to help us continue our work in support of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren. parentsupportbc.ca/donation
My grandma was able to take all 6 of us. She is so strong. I am so very blessed to have my grandma as my guardian.
Do you call her grandma or mom
Kourttney Leik What a wonderful person ur grandma is. May GOD BLESS her abundantly!!!!!
Wow...your grandma is an absolute angel.
My grandparents also raised me together with my sister and older cousins. I'm always grateful to them, that's why now that I have job even if it's little I send them money like 2k PHP every month.
My heart goes ❤️ to anyone raising children that they didn’t birth! All children deserve to be loved and feel wanted!! No child chooses to be here we choose for them!!!
So much respect ✊ to these these people!
God bless these grandparents. God bless them richly.
Thank you for sharing this! Grandparents raising grandchildren need so much more support, recognition, respite,and attention than we give them.
My grandparents raised me from the time I was 8 to the time I was 16. I have nothing but good things to say about them
We have had our 2 grandsons for 3 years. My son died 5 years ago. Mom brought the boys to us when she just couldn’t do it. We haven’t seen her since.
I’ve been raising my great granddaughter since she was born. That was 10 years ago last month. Best decision I ever made. ❤️♥️
Thank you, you're a good man
This was so touching! I was raised by grandparents and they helped me through college. Its difficult for the grandparents because children don't understand what's going on and can feel abandoned. For anyone going through this, I hope these children know they are loved and that the grandparents know they are a blessing!
Hello pretty lady how are you doing
I work for a social service agency and i see this alot. God bless these grandparents
The 1year I lived with my grandparents was the best year of my young life. I got C pluses and Bs in school and being enthusiastic about my life. Once I started drinking and using drugs my grandmother said she wasn’t going to deal with this again. I went back home and got into serious criminal and drug addiction problems.
I don’t blame my grandparents for not being able 26:25 to keep me with them 😇
They gave me the gifts of love no matter what I did or didn’t do. God bless them both ❤
Phoenix is Johns mini me. Too cute
Love and hugs to all Grandparents raising Grandchildren 💕
True Hero
My grandson's have recently been put into foster care I've raise my 5 and 1/2-year-old grandson for the last 5 and 1/2 years with my daughter being in and out of his life now I have a one-year-old also grandson the father hasn't let me get close to him and he's never let him say the night now they're in foster care I have papers where she is giving them to me the oldest one a less than a year after he was born well I'm being told I wasn't a placement for them after five and a half months of nothing no return phone calls no text messaging nothing I don't know if I can afford an attorney I live in a small town but I would give my last breath to have them and my eldest one he's like my son instead of my grandson we are attached at the hip you couldn't get a piece of paper between us I can't imagine what he's thinking I cry everyday when I pull in the driveway I cry getting the house I cry all the way to my bedroom I still sleep with his Mickey mouse doll I just can't understand why I wasn't first choice to begin with for one on my eldest because everybody in this small town knows I've had him since the day was born and then my youngest one he knows my voice he smiles when I'm in the room I've changed his diaper maybe twice please help me understand this I'm not a placement and that comes from the new worker that the old workers had told oh she wasn't a placement I've never been in trouble I work and nobody's ever had a problem with it before so why now I want my both of my grandsons with me and I want my oldest one especially to be with me we're just close and grandkids are more special than anything in the world I don't talk to my daughter now cuz her boyfriend and her attacked me robbed me meet me up in March19th2021 there's evil and her boyfriend's eyes I see it everybody does and stop the first time she's ever laid her hands on me it's just the first time I've ever done anything about it really done anything about it she's been to jail twice we just had our hearing they got out of it with probation and I'm still without my grandchildren I know you shouldn't play favoritism and I'm not trying to but if I could just get my one back I could work on getting the other or I would take visitation but I think they should both be here with me single people do have their grandchildren I work at a good job make good money now I do since I got away from the low grade pay I was at and I was still raising my grandson then and that was before his brother was born I don't see what the difference is now I can't get it past my mind is how I'm not a replacement on my eldest only grandparents maternal and other what should I do I don't want him to grow up to hate me cuz I've always told him I'd always be there to get him no matter what my little blue eyes is gone blue eyes to blue eyes they come in threes not just in Pairs we all share the same eyes my oldest says before always wake up I love you wake up I want to see them pretty blue eyes and I'd say no you wake up I want to see your pretty blue eyes and we always told each other we loved each other before we went to sleep before he done his 100 mile a minute talk before he passed out I miss you I miss it I'm lonely without him lonely grandma without any family I miss two holidays so far with him and everything we said we were going to do this summer his birthday is in December
@@sabrinamabe8985 - A heartbreaking story. If I could make things easier for you, I certainly would. Will send prayers 🙏🏾
@@sabrinamabe8985did you see the resources on here for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren (GRG)??? They have all sorts of assistance they could give you here in BC
my wife and i have had our three beautiful grandchildren now for over a year. the parents both on drugs. My daughter lives five minutes away and goes months without seeing the children. It happens allot,But tonight my two year old granddaughter woke up and came in our room and just wanted rocked back to sleep. But tonight was different. I picked her up and began to rock. and she looked up at me and said. pawpaw. where did my mommy go. I miss and worry and love my daughter very much. and at that moment i felt more pain than i thought humanly possible and began to sob. On one hand i hurt for and over my daughter and on top of that i hurt for my granddaughter. I didnt know pain like that existed. thats all.
Thank you for sharing your powerful story. It sounds like you could use some support. If you live in BC and are a Grandparent or other caregiver raising a relative - check out our Support Circles and our Support Line. parentsupportbc.ca/grandparents_raising_grandchildren You can call 1-855-474-9777 from anywhere in BC. If you live elsewhere - still drop us a line, we may be able to help you find supports in your area.
Thank you for sharing. My granddaughters and myself go through the same thing. I tell them that sometimes people can’t love us the way we wish they could.
Bless you.
You are loved ❤️❣️♥️❣️
It truly is heartbreaking. God Bless Y'all.
My heart is so broke but so full at the same time. The grand and great grandparents are so wonderful. This breaks my heart.
I wish all these grandparents strength , good health and success G-d should bless you all for the love you give
I was raised by my grandparents
Hi
I lived with them for 7 years I want to back to them
I work for one of the major U.S. supermarket chains. Trust me, I've seen the scenarios presented in this video time and again. There are many, many grandparents who are raising their grandchildren. So much of the time, the reason why boils down to one word - drugs. What really floora me is that some of them are actually GREAT grandparents. I don't know what this world is coming to. My hear goes out to these grandparents and great grandparents (sometimes aunts and uncles also) who care enough to step up to the plate.
I was raised by Grandparents, sometimes mishap happens in marriage and its the grandparents that mostly step in thats what my grandparents did for me, they raised me, financially supported with their pension, i am 23 now, sadly my grandpa passed when i was in final year of college ! It is a kind of blessing that i was lucky enough to have such a great grandparents but unlucky enough to have selfish deadbeat parents.
thank you for sharing your story. I can relate because I was raised by my grandparents because my mom couldn't take care of me
Me too.
My daughter lost two jobs because of the pandemic and she had to relocate to another state far far away. My grandson being in school came to live with me. It’s definitely a change as I am fifty seven and raising a boy. I see this happening more and more. My daughter didn’t have a drug issue, hers was a job issue but we still have to do what we have to do.
My ex was raised by his grandparents. The only downside was that they both passed on while he was in his 20s. After that, he felt really alone
Thank God for grandparents.
My paternal grandparents had me 95% of the time - even had my own bedroom. My mom had me every other weekend while dealing with her own health issues and my dad worked on the family farm and at the local factory.
This made me cry! Our Grandparents having to go through so much to raise our Grandchildren. It's a struggle at times! Financially it can pull us down a whole lot & it can be very hard to find support for us out there. Thank God (& I mean this literally) for an organizations like GRG! I appreciate you guys very much & I'm happy to know that when I need help, I know I can call on our GRG trust here in New Zealand. Thank you for sharing & hearing other stories about what other Grandparents (from other parts of the world) are going through or have gone through with bringing up their grandchildren & their struggles they had to endure along the way. As well as all the positive that comes out of it also! God Bless You...
If you live in BC we have a Kinship Care Support LIne you can call. 1-855-474-9777 staffed by a social worker and lawyer. They are really helpful, can help you navigate complex systems and refer you to resources like our support circles.
This is heartbreaking and heartwarming ❤
What an excellent documentary. How sad that our government isn't providing more supports. We those grandparents and kids are all so beautiful.
My grandparents pretty much raise me.. and I had an amazing life and I thank God for both of them everyday... They were always there for me. My grandmother passed away 2 years ago.. I just didn't lose my grandmother but I lost my mother too... it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with in my life.. but I know she's in a better place and she loved me with her whole heart.. they were the best parents I could have ever asked for..
God Bless you brother. I was raised by my grandmother and the thought of her passing someday is absolutely crippling.
@@Schuylock Well I hope it doesn’t come for a long time. It is very hard especially when your grandparents raised you. You’re just not losing your grandparents but you’re losing your parents also.
These stories are beautiful good on these grandparents for taking on a huge responsibility I love my grandparents they are literally the only people I can be one hundred percent honest with about anything and I’m glad to have people like that in my life a grandparent is one of the most important people in a young persons life
I was raised by my grandparents (parents) and now my nephews and nieces are being raised by grandparents (parents) - my therapist told me that the best grandparents can’t replace the worst parents ... they never met mine
That's crazy. The worst parents can destroy their children's lives. Sack your therapist. Lol.
Some parents abuse their kids...wtf is your therapist thinking?
Dat therapist is crazy
The replies are missing the point.
Im proud of you pop! I hope that you may lived a long life because your grandson really needs you so much. How touching te stories of grandparents raised their grandchildren knowing their old and they also need some company. We must not forget them. Let us visit them all the time.
These grandparents are making a difference in those young lives
Makes one feel like Horton hears a who ... We're here we're here ... 2019 3boys two since birth one came to me at 18months ... 9,6,2 and I won't have had it any other way 🙏🙏🙏 God is good . . . All the time
What beautiful people ❤️❤️
If people are grown up enough to reproduce they should take care of their kids. It’s not fair to the grandparents. There are women who can’t have children and these baby makers want to have fun.
Good on these people. I wish them well.
This video has made me laugh and cry. I for some reason though that I was the only one in this category. I have had my baby for six years . I got her at 8 months old. Long story short she has two bothers that were adopted out very quickly . Does anyone know what steps I need to take to start looking for them ? I would like to see them and have them get to know each other before my time on earth comes to an end. 😢
Have you tried looking on Facebook.. I hope it works out well for you all.. Mabey you could contact the adoption agency.
I have adopted two great grandchildren from a grandson and a granddaughter. They are cousins. I am in America and I know some kin have had issues with the system here but I was fortunate both times. I have my 13 year old great granddaughter now. I am so sorry for those that have struggles with the system as it is stressful enough dealing with all the issues the kids are going through and the heart break of children’s and grandchildren on drugs and homelessness.
Thats a cool 4 generation pitcher i love that idea i wish i had one like that.
Grandmothers role in the African culture is something normal. Grandparents should have a meaningful role in the lives of their grand children. Kudos these grandparents who continue to a great job.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking too. This is 100% not unusual in any way in many cultures throughout human history
Thanks for sharing! I made the decision to hire an attorney and seek custody of my energetic two year old grandson from my illegal drug using daughter. It was a big and serious decision to make; my grandson deserves stability and proper training. I am waiting for a court date on pins and needles and pray it goes in my favor. Which means in his favor as well as he is neglected. Whether my daughter will ever straighten up is anyone’s guess. Videos like this are invaluable!
If you live in BC we have a Kinship Care Support LIne you can call. 1-855-474-9777 staffed by a social worker and lawyer. They are really helpful, can help you navigate complex systems and refer you to resources like our support circles.
What happened?
I hope the best for you and the strength to carry on. Prayers to you.
This government should be ashamed of how its treating these grandparents. To stop helping these Gparents with these children who are at risk of repeating the cycle of addiction is so wrong. The one woman that said her daughter continued to get help with EVERYTHING and the child stopped getting even their basic needs met. So basically the drug addict was given priority over the child. How can anyone afford to raise a child on $400 a month with no other help.This is not supporting these Gparents at all. Most of these people are on a fixed income and have health issues themselves. They have stepped up to the plate to rescue these children from foster care and the government is turning their backs on them and to me thats very sad.
So sweet
I hope we get to hear the parents speak about this as well.
grand parents do it in a gesture of 💕 love but raisin a kid in North America cost 250k. So it’s also a very generous gesture.
That been said, my is son is 7 years old. We go through 7 fertility cycle to have my son. He is the fist grand child on both side family...he got so much love from the large family. We can’t predict the futur and we hope the best for him. But if it happen he will be teenager father, my husband and I will definitely raise our grand kid. All kids deserve a family. No doubt on this.
Yes I have 4 I'm raising by my self.1&2&5&7
May you be blessed
Cool gparents
Im a single nana and single mom to my youngest she's 16. I've had baby for over a year and I don't see this ever ending or her going back to mom
Must be nice to pop out kids, and just make your parents and grandparents raise them
These grandparents are real heroes!! They sacrified their everything for these kids. And mostly, the kids are better off with them. I've seen some people raised by their grandparents, they've grown into beautiful and compassionate adults!
I hope many more “parents” leave their children alone with their parents if they know they hate being one. Just because you’re there physically doesn’t mean your a good parent. I’m saying this because my Husbands sister does this. She left her 2 oldest and then comes and pretends like she’s been there all those years. She doesn’t like being a mom. She always says “man I wish I can just leave”. Leave then! Everyone knows she doesn’t love her children. She let her parents and sister raise them (8 total) basically. Doesn’t make them food, buys only junk food, doesn’t care for their health, let’s them sleep on the floor while she sleeps on a bed, doesn’t care if they shower or eat, makes the oldest change the youngest diaper, goes out every weekend, etc.. I have tried to be compassionate and helpful to her yet anyone tells her anything she tells them off. It’s irritating!
If you don’t like being a “mother” leave! The kids will be better off without you telling them that you hate being there! 😤
I’m a grandma raising my granddaughter mother walked out
God bless you❤
Hi, I live at Saint-Louis de Gonzague in province of Quebec. Sorry for my English , I will tried to explain to you guys. Question: Province of Quebec they have a group like yours? Association? Of grandparents raising grandchildren??
I haven't seen a word about it in the stories but I'm assuming these monsters being called parents are being arrested and prosecuted for child abuse. Does anybody out there know if this is the case?
Is there any GRG support group in Honolulu HI?
I was raised by my grandparents.
It's not exactly easy to raise children on social security income.
This was depressing
ISNT the GOVERNMENT Find a BETTER care gives THA their gparents themselves
I live with my grandparents because they live in America and my parents want me to study here because in the country I'm originally from has a very harsh education system and my parents work in that country
My stepmom (who I'm still close to even though she's long divorced from my dad) has no grandchildren but is raising 2 of her niece's grandchildren. That's too much burden for a 75 year old woman but she does it gladly.
Her niece's lineage is particularly plagued by dysfunction...died from drugs a few years back. She had four daughters and only one has a nice stable family. One other ther one is ok too but not as traditional. But the youngest two...drugs, violent boyfriends, criminal activity ect.
Each if them had two children each. My stepmom raises two, the above mentioned stable family daughter raises one, and my step brother raises another. Hawaiian style, the family always comes together like that, no matter what.
Wow ironically their GOVERNMENT is so cruel , instead OF double HELP and attention They MAKE itworst ....
Junkies reqp the rewards and pay no concequence. Backwards system
New sub l have just seen this video, it is now 2021 & on the 20th of January you get a new president Joe Biden contact him & ask for his help to try to solve this issue godbless the grandparents l am one my self.
But this is Canada.