@@saram3156 I'm a retired investment manager. When my son was in high school he played sax. He was pretty good, and he got to the point he needed a better instrument. What his teacher recommended was pricey, and he said something about it being an investment. I said no, we're not buying a sax to be an investment. We're buying one to have a good sound. Same with clothing. It's not an investment unless you're buying it specifically expecting it to go up in price, AND you're going to sell it.
As a person who does go to black tie events at least a couple times a year, it’s a place I’ve had to be thoughtful about how I spend money. If I can impart any wisdom in this area, it’s that formal separates are amazing. If you have to go to black tie events, you will get so much more life out a well-tailored floor length skirt in a timeless fabric like satin, taffeta, or tulle than a whole dress. It will pair nicely with a beautiful sweater, a sequined top, or even a crisp white dress shirt a la Caroline Herrera. A stylish and well-made skirt is not going to ride the tides of trendiness the ways full gown will. Last fall I wore my gold satin skirt with a satin camisole, gold cummerbund, and ivory blazer. Later that winter I wore that same skirt with a dolman sleeve sweater in olive for a Christmas event. Nobody that saw both knew or cared that the skirt was the same. People remember the meal, not the ingredients!
The earrings principle is equally true of eyeglasses, if you wear them. I spend BONKERS amounts on frames and lenses, because I wear them constantly -- I have to, because I can't see without them, and I only take them off at night. You can buy cheaper ones, but they break or fall apart, and a great pair of high-end frames are both jewelry and a medical necessity.
I wasn’t even thinking about that but same. I can see without mine but due to a botched LASIK procedure will get a wicked headache if I don’t wear them (paid $4K to receive an astigmatism 🤬) I look for frames that fit my face, are light, and give me the best field of view possible. Often, I will wear the frame for several years, and get sunglasses even less frequently but it is worth it.
Feeling this bigly about outerwear. I live in a cold climate, but was also broke, so for years I wore a $60 coat until it fell apart. I replaced it with a $900 coat and I was astonished at how much that one item improved my life. Imagine not feeling constantly uncomfortable when outside in inclement weather!
I’m sitting here on Poshmark etc waiting for a max mara coat in my size to come up!! 😢living in cape cod I’m wet and I am cold!! We are finally having a 60 degree day 😅
@@Squishbiscuits Depends on where in Canada -- if you're going to Vancouver or anywhere in the Lower Mainland it's rainy and cold, but not freezing. Toronto and surroundings are cold, but it's NYC cold, aka good wool coat cold, not arctic parka. The Prairies and Quebec are both REALLY cold, and you need a parka/balaclava/snow boots.
I agree! Living in the cold it really is important to have a good quality coat. It truly is a quality of life difference when you are freezing cold all the time in a cheap one.
Exactly. Now, I usually buy on Ebay. But I'll snatch up a Canada Goose coat if I like it. They actually keep you warm. I also like Perfect Moment ski jackets.
I feel like the one point I want to make is while good quality goods are usually expensive, expensive goods are not always good quality. The most important thing is to do your research on the brand and the item that you need before you buy. I also think there is a big jump in a lot of categories before you get to the really good quality - there isn't a huge difference between a $50 pair and a $200 pair of shoes, but there is a huge difference between a $50 pair and a $700 pair of shows. The threshold is genuinely pretty high before you get to the kind of quality that it's worth spending a lot, in my opinion.
surprised that you didn't mention pajamas! I feel like I learned this from you but I genuinely spend at least a third of my life in pajamas so it makes sense for them to be nice and soft and well made
Oh I completely agree with you. I make beautiful viscose or cotton lawn nightshirt for myself....and tend to put one on as soon as I get home! They look like a nice dress, so I can totally answer the door wearing one.
That might be a personal thing. I don't care much about pajamas, I wear like underpants and a cotton T- shirt and feel totally fine. But I also don't like to hang out with things I wear inside the bed outside if my bed, so...Now, lounge wear I might tempted to invest in a few nicer pieces, if my budget allows ( but I also feel good in the cheap h&m things I have...)
I use this principle when buying yarn because I spend so much time making something, it should feel good in my hands. The finished object should also hold up well over time.
I second this. Of course I have a larger stash than needed, but it is moderate and I really go through it. Now I am knitting from gifted low-cost yarn and it is such a difference!
I think especially jewelry and earrings are a thing we forget that last for ever. I have items that I inherited that I wear more often then cheap earrings because they are nicer
Oh, perfect timing. I have been just explaining to my husband my rules and reasoning for starting no/low buy until end of the year. We are not having money issues, so he is curious why I would do it. He sees it as punishment. But for me it goes deeper. I noticed that I am getting faster and faster when deciding to buy something. Before, I would take weeks, even months, to decide to acquire an investment piece. Now, it is matter of days, or worst case, hours. My habits are changing and I am not ready to accept them.
I bought an "heirloom quality" bedframe for the price of a small used car because in less than 10 years I had gone through two ikea wooden frames and one standard metal frame. I'll never have to buy another bed for as long as I live, and it doesn't squeak. Ever. Worth every penny.
My husband and I couldn't find a bed frame we liked, and would last. He finally decided to design and build one himself. We've been sleeping on it over a decade and still like it. It was alot of work, but was worth it.
Yes! I finally bought a truly waterproof jacket in lockdown, so that the weather would NEVER stop me leaving the house if I wanted to. Now, it's lasted into motherhood for me, and means I can head out with my baby every day in comfort, even if it's pouring with rain. Critical for my mental wellbeing!
You accidently echoed a sentiment from a Terry Pratchett book about shoes; although that one focuses more on how a soldier can't afford good shoes so the constant need to repurchase keeps the poor soldier eternally poor and incapable of buying the quality shoes
Yes! I had to go looking for the original quote. “The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money. Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles. But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet. This was the Captain Samuel Vimes 'Boots' theory of socioeconomic unfairness.” ― Terry Pratchett, Men at Arms: The Play
I would love if you did a whole video on undergarment brands that are worth the higher budget. Like lasting, super comfortable daily wear stuff. I know criteria for that will vary a lot person to person, but I find it to be one of the hardest things to muster the inspiration to really dive into researching myself lol
@ros8986 this is absolutely true! Especially synthetic materials. I still buy cheap-ish undies, like fruit of the loom, but if I avoid frying them in the dryer they last years. Ditto bras, nice socks...dryers are really rough on fabric. I also don't wash delicates with things like jeans with zippers.
I personally love Intimissimi. They make lovely, delicate, beautiful and yet simple underwear that does not wear off easily and is very comfortable on the skin. I've been purchasing from them for over 5 years, and the underwear is still as new, holding its shape. It's the only brand I've had multiple lace underwear from, and not suffer from any scratches or rashes, i don't know how they make it so soft! 😅 I also like their microfiber line a lot, it's so minimalistic and has invisible lines under my garments. It simply feels like wearing nothing almost 😂
There are some things that simply are going to wear out. Like bra bands. They have multiple hooks so they can be tightened when they stretch out. But stretch out they will. Unless you switch to stays, I guess?
I was nodding along with each item until you came to the swimsuit example, and then I had some thoughts! I believe there’s another category of thing that justifies breaking your excellent guidelines: something that will allow you to participate in an activity, without which its lack might be enough to push you into sitting it out. And finding a swimsuit that allows you to leave the body drama behind for a day might - perhaps! - be enough reason to bend these sensible guidelines.
I agree - finding a swimsuit that gave me the coverage I desired without looking dowdy or like I am cosplaying as an olympic swimmer meant shelling out quite a substantial sum for me - but I was so happy at the beach this spring feeling confident and beautiful :)
This is also one where your body makes a big difference. If you're straight sized and can wear and fit in to just about anything, then it really doesn't make sense to spend money. But if you're like me and plus size and super busty, getting something that fits is a struggle. And often involves underwire lol. And is usually pretty expensive. But I've gotten away with my single expensive fancy suit made for curvy girls for the last 5 summers. The best investment ever!
Yeah I find I'm much more likely to go swimming, hiking & to the gym now that I finally have clothes that cover everything I want with support, whilst also drying quickly. Bonus: UPF modest swimwear also makes excellent warm weather hiking gear - it made packing for my rainforest adventures a breeze!
Yes! Just wrote a different comment about the expensive top I bought years ago. Just the top-saved some money by pairing it with cheaper bottoms. Leaving body drama behind is absolutely worth it.
This is a fair consideration! I'm straight sized and maybe swim a couple times per year, so even fast fashion swim suits tend to last many years. So it doesn't make much sense for me to spend tones of money. But, I do spend money like this on bras (and bralettes) as that changes my confidence and silhouettes in clothing.
Totally agree with investing in jewlery you never take off! I only buy real silver or gold jewleries for pieces I know I'll always wear and will just stack others on top. A total game changer!
I find these videos so incredibly helpful. Your discussions of level of formality, how to not look frumpy in it, color (especially the bit about two-colored outfits!), and the lose vs tight silhouettes now are forever in my head and made such a change to my wardrobe. I actually now feel like myself when I am dressed. Thank you so much!
I'm South Asian, so it may be slightly different, but for my wedding I bought a two-piece skirt & tunic (lehengha suit) with a dupatta (veil) that I can now reuse as a scarf in different outfits (along with both pieces matched with different items of clothing). It was expensive at the time but my bridal kameez & dupatta are neutral enough (in my preferred metallic) to be rewearable multiple times (at other weddings)!
Definitely add swimwear to this list! As a former swimwear buyer for a big box store, mom, and grandma who spends her summers at the pool and on the beach, we ladies with womanly bodies need the support and coverage of well-made, quality swimwear. This is true for even occasional swimmers. A quality garment will give you comfort and confidence, and if you hand wash it and line dry it, it will last. Also, when you try on your potential purchase, try on the next size up. Remember, these are mass produced items, and it’s how the suit fits you, that’s important. I’ve always done this, and it makes a big difference. Nobody knows what size I purchased, but EVERYONE sees how I look in it, or at least those who care to notice an old lady.
I am teetering on the edge of splurging…to me….on better quality sheet sets instead of inexpensive Walmart sets. My brain-voice shrieks when I look at linens that cost several hundreds of dollars. But, even though I am technically poor, I’m over not spending money for good quality items for myself. ✌🏻☺️
Most people spend thousands on a car that we use on average a few minutes a day. But we somehow internalised that investing in good quality bedding and sheets (we spend around one third of our life in bed) or underwear we wear next to our skin all day is decadent. Thank you for helping me unlearn this! (This post was written in bed, luxuriating under my new extra wide and long summer duvet with a linen cover. Best invested money ever 🎉)
This is why I like thrifting for high quality pieces (I always go with specific “holes” in my wardrobe in mind). You can see how the item has worn over time and after washes. It is less expensive and therefore less of a crime if it doesn’t fit into my wardrobe the way I wanted (fantasy self) making it easier to remove the things that aren’t serving me well. Also, I have animals. It makes it easier for me to actually wear my garments if they weren’t hundreds of dollars. I love leggings. SIL got me a pair of Vuori for Christmas. They are lovely…but I never wear them.
THANK YOU for mentioning your wedding jumpsuit! I originally eloped in a beaded white dress from Macy’s that was only $90. Then I got pregnant and could no longer wear that pretty “bridal” dress to our “party” wedding which is actually this coming weekend. I got another white dress for $100 that can accommodate my growing bump that is pretty but just isn’t my dream dress at all. I’ve been feeling really insecure about not just biting the cost and getting a “fancy” wedding dress. Your jumpsuit story makes me feel so much better! This dress is still adorable and it’s good that I saved the cash.❤❤❤
congratulations on your pregnancy and upcoming wedding party! omg I bet you will be absolutely GLOWING and also possibly glad to be able to move naturally in your body without worrying about ruining a super expensive gown :)
@@HannahLouisePoston Thank you so much! This is honestly so meaningful to me, it’s so lovely and encouraging to be cheered on by you! I’m excited to have a great time!
Love this concept, but I would argue you left out a major category, sleep & loungewear. Maybe it's just me, but being disabled, I LIVE in my comfy clothes. Thanks to your recommendation, I currently own 5 pairs of printfresh bottoms, 3 shorts, 2 pants (all but one bought secondhand.). I spend more of my life in those clothes than anything else in my wardrobe. The same goes for sleepwear, I need something that is going to be really soft, breathable & natural fiber, so it makes sense that I just spent $75 on a secondhand PF nightgown (still had the tags attached.) I would say that investing in comfy clothes is going to help slim down my wardrobe considerably.
I am retired with some chronic illnesses so I also spend more time in very casual at-home wear, as opposed to my leaving-the-house clothes. I am slowly trying to up the quality of my pieces. I live where spring/summer/fall are really warm and humid. So I mostly buy linen, and 100% cotton with a soft hand feel. I’m done with clothes that are even a little bit scratchy. ✌🏻✌🏻
If I could afford it, I would even go the extra mile and get my footwear made specifically for me. The ordeal of bad shoes and boots, even sandals, is costing us a lot even if the cost is not monetary. The jumpsuit is GORGEOUS and suits you so well, Hannah. That was a stroke of genius.
I have a semi-custom pair of sandals that I wear all the time, which were like $200, probably the most I've ever spent on something I wear, but they're leather and actually fit my hard-to-size feet, so they were absolutely worth it (had them for five years now, at least). One day I'm gonna save up for custom leather pumps, not even going to consider buying off the rack for high heels.
I’m thinking of doing that once my current pair of leather sandals wear out. I wear these at least half the year and they’ve lasted me five years. They’re just now starting to wear out in a way that is making them a bit uneven to walk in, and of course I don’t want that to cause issues to my feet and alignment.
Quick story. I was driving home from somewhere, glanced over at a bridal shop, and saw the wedding dress of my dreams. It was a lot of money for my parents, but they bought it for me, and my husband's sister also wore it for her wedding a few years later. The total cost per wear? $30. Okay, my story is not relevant, since I got married in 1973, but I thought you might get a smile out of it.
@@crisfer22 $60 was the actual cost of the dress. I was happy that my sister-in-law chose to wear it for her wedding, but it was only worn twice that I know of. It was donated years later, so perhaps a third person was able to use it, or use parts of it, in some way.
I also decided to wear something I already had at my wedding making the most expensive thing of the day this gorgeous french tart we had for dessert. absolutely no regrets.
I am getting married in a few months and trying to take that approach when buying things. I decided that I do want a white dress (tried some other dresses first but I made me realise I do actually want white more than I initially thought) so I bought a simple white evening dress on sale and will glam it up with things I will wear again, such as a nice bag, jewellery, a shawl of jacket (getting married in October). With every item apart from the dress, which I do not think I will ever wear again (I will try to dye it after but am not sure it will work), I am only considering things that work with my everyday style and needs. It’s not that easy and I have been pulled into liking some things that are not “everyday me”, attracted to the shiny 😅
@@s.a.4358 congrats! it’s a tricky balance for something like a wedding day - remember you can always rent, borrow, or go vintage if you’re looking to save some money but still get something “extra” for such a special day.
@@linnearoyale I would love to rent or go vintage / second hand but being plus size it is a lot harder to find stuff, especially in Europe. I am thinking of using some family jewellery and maybe borrow a handbag though 🙂
yes! i just bought new underwear, and while i didnt go expensive i went with 100% cotton. materials affect us! and higher prices usually equate with better materials. like... most of us are wearing PLASTIC AND GASOLINE almost everyday 😭‼️myself included! I feel like it's one slow (and pricey) but intentional change that really serves your lifelong health.
I recently got a cream leather coat and it has turned out to be a top 5 of all time purchase. It goes with everything and immediately elevates it. “No regerts”
I have a chronic health condition and my weight fluctuates from a 2 to an 8. This makes life very hard for me because I essentially have a “sick” wardrobe and a “well-ish” wardrobe. You can imagine, I suppose, how much I like spending money on my sick wardrobe, so I mostly buy cheaper, fast fashion items that I won’t feel bad about giving to goodwill when/if I find remission again. My greatest wish is that I could count on being able to fit into my clothes from year to year, mostly because it would mean I was healthy, but also because I love my clothes and it breaks my heart to get sick and have that loss on top of all the other losses. I never know if I’ll be able to get them out again. Once, it was almost a decade.
I'm sorry you're going through that. Whilst I may not understand your condition, I would rather invest in a capsule with some key pieces for each size than feel bad that I'm not at a certain weight. Like you said, it's enough stress as it is without worrying about fitting into your clothes too! I know it's not the same but I have many wrap type clothes (dress/ top/ coat), elasticated waistbands & scarves to help me through fluctuations. I also like sleeveless mid-layers because I tend to put weight on disproportionately in my arms.
So sorry about that, i hope you’re able to stay in remission. I have a chronic illness that has caused severe weight fluctuations for me as well, especially in the past 7 years. I have come to love flowy clothing a lot for that reason. I inherited a few vintage linen pants that were baggy even at my heaviest, I just adjust with the drawstring and they looked great when my weight dropped too. The same goes for kaftans, crocheted tops, kimonos, maxi skirts, oversized shirts, etc. Stretchy clothes like leggings or athleisure can accommodate quite a bit of fluctuation but not quite as much as I’ve needed, but those tend to wear out quickly anyways so by the time I had to purchase in a new size it didn’t feel like as much of a blow. Jeans are the worst, I think. I mostly had to phase them out, they’re too uncomfortable when I’m flaring anyways. I just have one pair that I bought at my heaviest but I can wear baggy like boyfriend jeans because of the fit when I’m down several sizes, though definitely not past a certain point.
This is why I spend more money on my health. The right kind of supplements to support my body the way I need it and investigate health myself. Following lots of functional medicine doctors that are all about looking at and finding the cause of the health issues. The body needs to come first before things you put on the body ❤ Be well and I hope you'll find a resolution to your health issues.
Twins! I wore a gorgeous flattering jumpsuit I already owned as my wedding outfit. I thought 'why waste money buying something uncomfortable and risky when I can wear something I already know I love'. It was perfect for my big day.
The good winter coat and boots are especially worth spending on if you live in an area with a true winter - often that will be the only part of your outfit anyone sees!
I lucked out. My hair stylist cuts my hair once every 2-3 months and he does a fabulous job. He precision, dry cuts my curly hair for $57.00. It grows out beautifully. I love these principles. I have a lot of in between pieces that are decades old. They are almost art pieces. They go to the theatre, the opera, the symphony, the fine dining scene and the galleries with me. I have found a few of them in thrift stores but many of them were purchased on a payment plan. I have a favourite retailer who often buys a statement piece for me and discounts it. I buy one or two pieces per year but I haven’t purchased anything for about five years now. Everything is still wearable, elegant, and a bit edgy and classic. It works very well for me. Formal clothing doesn’t really suit the city I live in or the events I attend. Be prepared to hand wash or use a gentle cycle for lingerie, knits and delicates. Buy a good laundry detergent too. Your investment pieces will wear longer and better.
Take care of your things. Even my lower quality, inexpensive clothing lasts longer than you would think because I take great care of it when laundering.👍🏻👍🏻
Omg your bridal ensemble was so artsy and inspired!! Yes wedding dresses do go for thousands even at “basic” stores like David’s bridal! A hack I found was buy the “sample” or “defect” dresses- mine supposedly had a defect under like 20 layers of crinoline that I could not find after searching- and it was half price! But not as good a deal as yours! Btw I agree w the commenter who mentioned dying your jumpsuit another color? It could be versatile!
There is a saying: “I’m too poor to be cheap” However, like you explained, it should only apply to main regular wear/use pieces. No trends; no fast fashion, etc.
Yes! For me the biggest version of this are my glasses! I wear them every day and they sit on my face. I get glasses much less frequently now than I used to but I spend much more on them. I go to a specialty shop where a trained professional (can we give it up for the trained stylists??) can help me find the right size and shape for my face and then adjust the frames (for free) whenever I need an adjustment.
I’ve been having the same mindset about my sewing projects lately: research, quality/specialized fabric and mock-ups for those frequently worn pieces. I’m currently making a proper trench coat (with proper couture techniques) and am in the planning stages for a long classic wool overcoat. But i also thrifted some fabric for a fun summer dress, which will be quickly made with a serger!
What a wonderful video. Shoes end up being my biggest investment because I have specific shoe needs due to trick knees. I never regret a good shoe purchase. Love the haircut advice. I finally learned that one over the past 3 years.
My favorite wedding outfit ever was when I rented a gown from Rent the Runway, I felt like I got something quality wise that was way better than I could have bought, and I FELT so good! I’m planning on renting again now that I need another navy gown for a wedding (navy is NOT my color)
I love this concept and I would expand it to include a specific category of fringe pieces. They are part of specialty "gear" pieces that, while not used often, are key pieces that should be invested in based on the technical aspect of their construction. These pieces are very much dependent on lifestyle and geography. Similar to winter coats I am thinking rain coats, waterproof shoes, wind shells, base layers, winter sneakers or boots (a la sorrel joan of artic boots). How well these items function are usually correlated to price. I invested in a pair of north face winter sneakers and I've had them for almost 20 years. I rarely wear them but when it's below zero they are a key shoe in my wardrobe. I know they will keep my feet just as warm as boots, have tread profile to prevent slips while aslo reflecting my sytle. A rain coat that is actually waterproof with features like a hood, sealed seams, and adjustable cuffs that will keep you dry and comfortable is another example.
I grew up solely on thrifted clothing, except for shoes. For this reason I have always balked at the prices of brand new clothes. Even now when I can afford to buy new clothing I still choose to buy mainly from the thrift store, for several reasons: the thrill of the find, the lower cost, the impact on the environment, I can pay for several pieces of clothing for the price of one brand new item, and the fact that I usually find extremely high quality and unique items for a fraction of their price if bought new. One thing I learned to do is to thrift formal gowns whenever I find a good quality piece with a classic silhouette. Although I didn’t need these items when I bought them, and they do take up space in my closet (though I only have 4 of them), I know I won’t find myself struggling to find a gown when the occasion arrives and I can avoid both the feeling of “I have nothing to wear to this event” and the urge (or need) to spend hundreds on an item that I’ll only wear for a couple of hours. I have also had friends or family borrow them, which means they get more use.
That's so interesting, I have the opposite issue where I've gotten a few just in case dresses but at 31 virtually none of my friends plan on getting married, or they've been married for like 6 years already, and I have no fancy events!
@@thenopedetective To be fair, I'm a college student (albeit slightly older), and the students in my sports club come up with 'party themes' or we have 'formal wear' for our end of year party so I get to pull out my dresses for that.
Negative Underwear is so amazing! Their bras are my favorite, especially the sieve collection. I’ve never encountered such a mesh fabric on an under garment that actually doesn’t tear, it’s seriously like magic. And that’s not even mentioning the comfort! Everything they make is SO comfortable. They really are worth the money!
Agree on all fronts. Bed sheets and bathroom towels are 100% worth the splurge. Shampoos and personal hygiene products are worth the splurge for me for the same reason. Good socks are important. As with haircuts, it is important to take care of one’s hands and feet. If mani/pedis are in the budget, I get it. I am all in for day spas and mani pedis. My comfort in my skin and things that touch my skin are worth the splurge. Excellent advice. I have never regretted buying solid gold or silver jewelry and nearly always regret costume jewelry or plated jewelry. Lastly, splurge on a good car. Get something that is sturdy, well made, safe, and comfortable.
Requested that my library system purchase your book for our collection!! The request was approved and I’m number one on the holds line. Cannot wait to read it!!
My wedding dress was $20 but my leather sandals I wear the hell out of half the year were twice that (on sale) 😂 thank god too because the marriage lasted a year and the sandals have lasted five thus far hahaha!! I’ll for sure invest in even better and more aesthetically pleasing sandals when these are done for because these are so blah, just sooooo comfortable.
Loved this, as always Something it made me think of was how my relationship to a "work coat" changed over time. I have a corporate job, and I used to live in a city where I commuted by public transport to the office every day. So I very much needed a good quality, smart coat (like a knee length wool trench or similar), and because of the rigours of public transport, by the end of the season it would be really worn out. I found that if I bought cheaper ones, they would be dead half-way through the season, so definitely worth buying the good quality one. So I had to have it in my budget to spend a chunky amount on a work coat every year. And because of the annual nature of the purchase, I could go for it with the statement and the trendy. Then I moved to a smaller city, and commuted by car. And so I've had the same 2 work coats (winter and summer) for 6 years. I probably could have gotten away with a much cheaper coat!
Oh my goodness - thank you for mentioning haircuts! We all lived through the pandemic and most of us did not have access to a good stylist during those times. In my opinion - they should have been included in the pool of 'essential workers'! I now get my hair cut by one stylist that I feel lucky to have found. I schedule my haircuts for every other month, consider her fee money well spent, and tip her like the professional she is. She is able to give me a hair style that will actually last for the full two months without looking unkempt.
This is so interesting to me because I came to the opposite conclusion during the pandemic. My hair looks fine when I cut it, especially if I tweak it in the following days. The professional cut just wasn't that much better. I do however have sensory issues and going to a hair salon is an unpleasant experience that I only managed to force myself to ensure maybe twice a year. That probably changes the equation of worth a bit.
@@executive_function_not_found I think this depends heavily on your hair type & length. I stopped cutting mine short because it took too much upkeep with my natural curls (wavy & curly hair tends to need a few weeks to 'settle' into a new cut). I now go twice a year just to avoid the dreaded triangle head (my hair goes flat on top if it gets too long). Also lol your username is relatable.
Thank you for sharing. My brother passed away at the end of last year. I had to inform my family, make the arrangements, host part of my family and I had to leave right after his services to the hospital because my daughter was in labor. I definitely understand holding gratitude and grief simultaneously. Hang in there and enjoy the fruits of your hard work.
I only buy solid gold jewelry now. I only add a piece or two per year but it’s changed my life and my jewelry consumption SO MUCH. And now I’m to the point where all my daily pieces and most of my occasion pieces are gold and I never have to deal with tarnishing or replacing.
I agree with the principle, I'd add that I'm willing to spend a lot on a pair of sunglasses - I only own one, and have them for years - because they make such a difference in comfort! A good pair of sunglasses is like a good pair of shoes, which I agree are super important for comfort and practicality. If you camp, a good tent and sleep system are worth spending on as well as an ergonomic backpack. Personally I also spend a lot on earplugs (Loop - I have adhd and oh my god where have these been my entire life, SO WORTH IT). I would also add socks on your list - I bought 100% pure linen socks on Etsy and never looked back. I only own linen socks now (plus wool for winter). Linen is vastly underrated for winter, it's far more comfortable and warmer than cotton, not to mention temperature regulating and antibacterial. Also linen sheets, you'll never look back!
I love this idea of spending money on things that touch your skin! My partner always says to spend significant/more money on things that separate you from the ground- shoes, beds/matresses, couches car tires. I had never thought about it but I think he is right!
I love your point about designer consignment. I feel like my lowest cost-per-wear items (and those that bring the most joy) are all designer consignment. Most of them I bought for less than their mid-market counterparts even!
You're so spot on with the "in between formality" point. I'm an engineer and I have to wear pants that give me good mobility for work. I have all these nicer clothes that are not practical to wear to work but not nice enough for going out or more formal events and they just sit forever in my closet
I also spend a bit for shower and bathing products. Nothing decompresses me as a shower or bath in the nicely scented wash or bubblebath. They don't have to be expensive, but sometimes I splurge on a treat shower gel I use once a week. It usually lasts for a few months this way.
I did buy an expensive wedding dress but it’s so hard for me to find things I feel good in, so I didn’t mind spending the extra money 🤗 no regrets. I’m on the same page about everything else, though!
I agree with all of these, with the exception of the swimsuit. Inexpensive swimwear is so unflattering and depressing. For me it has to be super well constructed (likely with underwrie), of excellent fabric, in a timeless colour, and come in DRESS SIZES, not s/m/l. Those usually run $200+ and to me it's worth every penny, even if I only wear it on vacation.
So true. I think that young/slim/small-chested women can get away with this, but I’m not any of those things and need quality swim wear for decent fit, coverage, and support. It’s worth it!
Seconded! If you have hips, butt, chest, and not a traditional magazine bod, it matters to have sturdy well constructed swimwear that can handle it. I have really liked the "tap short" bottoms from Galamar. They are $$$, but great coverage and thick, flattering materials/cuts. I have also found a nice full coverage bottom from Patagonia too that is a bit less expensive.
I love this way of analyzing your wardrobe! My husband and I use “cost per wear” as a yardstick for where to put our money. It works well for us and is easy to calculate (approximately).
With the principle of 24/7 wears, I've recently gone for good qualities (thus not cheap) on dental options (e.g. ceramics) for years, and I'm so thankful with my past self!
Yesyesyes! Agree with all of this, but the HAIRCUT thing is something I'm thinking about lately. I have my hair trimmed about every 8 weeks, and I'm already feeling a bit anxious about how I'll afford this in retirement/ the Poverty times. Certainty I plan to buy fewer clothes [SOB] so that I can still get to the hairdresser often enough.
I made my wedding dress from a collection of vintage handkerchiefs, and I have been thinking SO MUCH about the historic practice of remaking garments out of pieces with lots of fabric. This summer I'm taking it apart to make the skirt a separate i can wear on more occasions. I wonder how thoughtful I could be in purchasing formal wear with the intention of refashioning myself in the future or having it refashioned. Def not a normal consideration, but the idea of rewearing formal wear is one i feel so committed to haha.
Definitely different for everyone - I wear my statement earrings (different pairs) every day. Not all of them were expensive, but for me, the expensive ones were more than worth it. They make my whole outfit, frankly.
I love this content. I love how personal it is in a way. Like when I watch these videos I have to be alone and in my own space because you really make me think deep about the way I interact with the spaces and things I have curated for myself and how to simplify and recognize some of the chaos that naturally occurs and accumulates around me. I love what you said about touch. The things that are with you every day. Like an extension of your soul. It so exciting to wear in your clothing. I love putting on a shirt that is worn in and stretched out in all the right places just from wearing it all the time. It’s like you have imprinted on it. I think that why we like to wear our lovers clothing from time to time. You can feel their body and there impression. There is a sense of comfort and personality. I have some lovely jackets I’ve collected over the years timeless and fit well but I never reach for them. I’m always drawn to my thrifted denim jacked I found in my home town antique store. It was a random day I was spending with my mom. It’s fits perfectly goes with everything and it’s a brand I’ve never heard of and doesn’t exist today. Just pure magic. To anyone else it’s just an old jean jacket but to me it’s home. Anyways, thanks for letting me rant. I really connect with this video and I think it’s time I go through my closet and touch everything and see what makes me feel most like me, things that up lift me and bring me confidence. Thank you!
I always hear that high quality items will last longer, and I do believe that is true. At the same time, I’m scared to invest in expensive shoes and clothing because I’m worried about my ability to keep them “nice.” What if I scuff the expensive shoes, or spill olive oil on the fancy pants, or get pit stains on the nice top, or get a hole in the elegant sweater? I would be more devasted if these common problems happened with expensive items
I think along with buying the more expensive item you have to learn to take care of the more expensive item. So learn how to get the stains out of a silk shirt and learn how to remove scuff marks from the shoes and learn how to mend hole. Or at the very least learn who in your city/town provides those services.
On the swimsuit thing, I bought just the top of an expensive suit that I feel amazing in. Gorgeous, different, very secure, still cute while also covering enough to wear in front of family. I've paired that patterned top (that also has some size adjustability, just in case) with solid colored cheaper bottoms. I've had it FOR YEARS (8 maybe?). Because it's a thing that can & should be reworn, I don't mind at all that it's the only one I have, and it does sooo much heavy lifting for the whole "oh, I have to be in a swimsuit?" mental challenges that might pop up. Definitely worth it for me.
I would love to spend more on a really high quality shoe etc. But I have such trust issues with companies now I just don't know what company to trust with my money 😒
Okay I agree about formal wear EXCEPT for a good suit if you like the style of suits. A good, new suit can function as separates and also is really amenable to tailoring (because it's not been tailored before). Suits will never go out of style and the statement pieces with them (ascotts, jewelry, blouses) can be easily changed out and gotten secondhand.
Concur whole-heartedly on the idea of investing in outerwear! A couple years ago, during the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale, I fell hard for a cashmere/wool grey coat that was more than I thought should be spent on such an item. But, it’s been a brilliant purchase, it feels amazing every time I wear it, and I get compliments frequently. Plus, it’s something I envision wearing forever. You looked like a million bucks in your wedding jumpsuit! Good call on that! ❤
I really appreciate this perspective, You continually wow me. It's interesting you perspective on jewelry. I have very nice, expensive high quality earrings for my nose and other "less common" ear piercings, I put them there and never remove them, and for some reason that was easy. But to invest in an every day necklace or earrings for my main holes... I just can't pull the trigger! I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing your unique wisdom.
Great advice, "how much will I use this?" is one of the first things I will ask myself when deciding on a purchase. I realised this year the areas in my wardrobe that are lacking are shoes, outerwear and bags. I would frequently put together a cute look then "ruin" it because I needed to wear shoes, jacket and bag and while I like all of the few I had they didn't fit with all of my clothes (I am a lot more maximalist than Hannah when it comes to colours especially :)). I realised the answer to complimenting a maximalist wardrobe with a budget for only a few new items is choose "minimalist" or "classic" shapes and colors that go with everything (I know, genius, lol). Shoe problem is all but fixed now. Life is too short for shoes that hurt your feet, so good quality, sturdy leather and comfortable soles were the most important to me. My solution for bags: I have one nice leather bag that I love (polêne numero un in sandalwood, thank you HLP for introducing me to the brand!), and I realised for summer I favor something light and uncomplicated, so instead of investing in another expensive bag, I just got a fun canvas tote. They are cheap enough that I could easily get a few to switch it up, they are washable and don't take up much room, and they can still look classy if they are well maintained. My only problem now are jackets. I am too choosy with outerwear. I like cozy wool coats, can't wear those now, too warm. Literally most of the warmer weather jackets I see, instant dislike. Blazers? Hate. Trenchcoat? Nope. Workwear? too boxy... it's a problem.
Maybe you can try finding a nice leather jacket in your best neutral colour? Not too bikey and a bit classic. Goes a long way in spring and fall ( at least in our west European weather). Although tempting ( price/animals): dont get a vegan leather, they dont last. After a year the coloured top coat starts to crack at the areas where it touches the skin. ( Very obvious at the thriftstore).
Thank you. This is the video I needed to end my agony over whether to re-buy the diamond studs I left in a hotel one of the RARE times I took them out to put in some damn statement earrings. I wore them daily. Never removed them - except to put in the damn statement earrings I work twice a year. Also -the amazing thing about Birks is that you can have them resoled forever.
Watching your videos has helped me so so much! I need it splained to me and I swear I get there! It just takes processing. I started just buying things I love buying like heels and coats but I live in central fl and NEVER wear any heeled shoes😂 it's the fantasy
The levels or formality is so true: my mother and grandma don't get it when i say "it's gorgeous but i don't live a life for this"... like very fancy going out/dinner stuff, not formal enough for those special special SPECIAL days, but also too dressy for most of my outings. Maybe in my 30s when i have more money, but rn it's a waste
Very helpful, intelligent and illuminating. I find your videos are always thoughtful (if I didn’t know better, I’d say you were a Philosophy major), but mostly, they’re eye-opening. A few of the things I learned from you lately: my wardrobe, as it is, overwhelms me; I often buy for who I wish to be (or think I could be,) often neglecting who I actually am (therefore chasing an idea instead of embodying the self-awareness and wisdom I’ve gained with time;) I tend to invest in “special pieces”, and overlook what is on my body on a daily or regular basis. There’s more - I need to sit down with a journal and learn about my lifestyle before I reorganise my mindset and my closet . Thank you, thank you! 💛
Thanks, Hannah! What great content! ❤ Yes to jewelry that is worn everyday (I have earrings, bracelets, rings & a necklace that stays on me ) & looking for quality, along with a cost per wear for items & a good haircut, etc. 😊♥️
Thank you for the insight! I find this principle can also be applied to your home. I ´m also going through the process of moving to a new house and putting new purchases through this lens is helping me put my money were it´s gonna have most impact on my life (ex. bedsheets, pillow and not a funky kitchen gadget lol). I would enjoy a video on how this principle applies to other areas :)
This is a well thought out video! The first thing I look at when shopping for a garment is the care instructions. Machine wash only except for delicates. I appreciate the mention of Negative, I've been really struggling to find something that meets my needs since my favorite brand went out of business.
I will be borrowing a dress for the next wedding from my teenage daughter. It is a stunning dress she wore once to her valedictory night. It was fairly expensive and she may never wear it again. Thankfully I am happy to reduce the cost per wear!
To expand on this, my partner says “invest in things that separate you from the ground.” For example: shoes, chairs, and beds.
or a house
Also tires! Not entirely with the theme of the channel, but old weathered or balding tires can be very dangerous to drive on.
@@saram3156 I'm a retired investment manager. When my son was in high school he played sax. He was pretty good, and he got to the point he needed a better instrument. What his teacher recommended was pricey, and he said something about it being an investment. I said no, we're not buying a sax to be an investment. We're buying one to have a good sound. Same with clothing. It's not an investment unless you're buying it specifically expecting it to go up in price, AND you're going to sell it.
And clothes in case you trip and fall
This is soooo practical!! And smart!!😅
As a person who does go to black tie events at least a couple times a year, it’s a place I’ve had to be thoughtful about how I spend money. If I can impart any wisdom in this area, it’s that formal separates are amazing. If you have to go to black tie events, you will get so much more life out a well-tailored floor length skirt in a timeless fabric like satin, taffeta, or tulle than a whole dress. It will pair nicely with a beautiful sweater, a sequined top, or even a crisp white dress shirt a la Caroline Herrera. A stylish and well-made skirt is not going to ride the tides of trendiness the ways full gown will. Last fall I wore my gold satin skirt with a satin camisole, gold cummerbund, and ivory blazer. Later that winter I wore that same skirt with a dolman sleeve sweater in olive for a Christmas event. Nobody that saw both knew or cared that the skirt was the same. People remember the meal, not the ingredients!
The earrings principle is equally true of eyeglasses, if you wear them. I spend BONKERS amounts on frames and lenses, because I wear them constantly -- I have to, because I can't see without them, and I only take them off at night. You can buy cheaper ones, but they break or fall apart, and a great pair of high-end frames are both jewelry and a medical necessity.
I wasn’t even thinking about that but same. I can see without mine but due to a botched LASIK procedure will get a wicked headache if I don’t wear them (paid $4K to receive an astigmatism 🤬) I look for frames that fit my face, are light, and give me the best field of view possible. Often, I will wear the frame for several years, and get sunglasses even less frequently but it is worth it.
I do this too. My frames are the only Gucci/designer product I own. Absolutely worth it.
Sunglasses are the same for me. I wear contacts but I wear sunglasses everyday, all year round, every time I go outside.
I wish I could do this! Sunglasses is an area I refuse to spend money because I don’t know why but I always loose them, scuff them or break them!
Also metal frames for the most worn or study/home glasses. Mine has survived getting literally stomped on so much. 😅
Feeling this bigly about outerwear. I live in a cold climate, but was also broke, so for years I wore a $60 coat until it fell apart. I replaced it with a $900 coat and I was astonished at how much that one item improved my life. Imagine not feeling constantly uncomfortable when outside in inclement weather!
As someone moving to Canada on Sunday….I am currently preparing my wallet to cry so that my body is warm
I’m sitting here on Poshmark etc waiting for a max mara coat in my size to come up!! 😢living in cape cod I’m wet and I am cold!! We are finally having a 60 degree day 😅
@@Squishbiscuits Depends on where in Canada -- if you're going to Vancouver or anywhere in the Lower Mainland it's rainy and cold, but not freezing. Toronto and surroundings are cold, but it's NYC cold, aka good wool coat cold, not arctic parka. The Prairies and Quebec are both REALLY cold, and you need a parka/balaclava/snow boots.
I agree! Living in the cold it really is important to have a good quality coat. It truly is a quality of life difference when you are freezing cold all the time in a cheap one.
Exactly. Now, I usually buy on Ebay. But I'll snatch up a Canada Goose coat if I like it. They actually keep you warm. I also like Perfect Moment ski jackets.
I feel like the one point I want to make is while good quality goods are usually expensive, expensive goods are not always good quality. The most important thing is to do your research on the brand and the item that you need before you buy. I also think there is a big jump in a lot of categories before you get to the really good quality - there isn't a huge difference between a $50 pair and a $200 pair of shoes, but there is a huge difference between a $50 pair and a $700 pair of shows. The threshold is genuinely pretty high before you get to the kind of quality that it's worth spending a lot, in my opinion.
look at me spending thousands on my wedding dress and statement jewelry and buying cheep every day items. I think I really needed this video
My husband showed me the way of “buy once cry once” years ago and you’re so right it is paradigm shifting
@@lillyrose6568 and folks, here we have Exhibit A of 'glass half empty VS half full' types of people 😂
Me to my "dry clean only" clothes as I trust a net laundry bag to keep them safe in the washing machine: May the odds be ever in your favor!
surprised that you didn't mention pajamas! I feel like I learned this from you but I genuinely spend at least a third of my life in pajamas so it makes sense for them to be nice and soft and well made
Oh I completely agree with you. I make beautiful viscose or cotton lawn nightshirt for myself....and tend to put one on as soon as I get home! They look like a nice dress, so I can totally answer the door wearing one.
Yes I remember Hannah mentioning she invested in some printed robes (can't remember if it was cotton or silk)?
That might be a personal thing. I don't care much about pajamas, I wear like underpants and a cotton T- shirt and feel totally fine. But I also don't like to hang out with things I wear inside the bed outside if my bed, so...Now, lounge wear I might tempted to invest in a few nicer pieces, if my budget allows ( but I also feel good in the cheap h&m things I have...)
@@traceyvincent2217This is exactly what I'm looking for! Could you share links for which one you bought? Thanks ❤
Yup. I got a lovely pair made from good organic cotton on Etsy and I love them.
I use this principle when buying yarn because I spend so much time making something, it should feel good in my hands. The finished object should also hold up well over time.
I second this. Of course I have a larger stash than needed, but it is moderate and I really go through it. Now I am knitting from gifted low-cost yarn and it is such a difference!
I love this as a consumer of handmade knits!! Many cute pieces on Etsy but when I see they’re acrylic I’m like :( nope
I've made hats out of polyester yarn only for it too look like a lifeless sack after washing. My natural fiber hats are still in amazing shape!!
Agreed. If a project feels good in my hands I get more enjoyment from the work, and eventually the wear.
I think especially jewelry and earrings are a thing we forget that last for ever. I have items that I inherited that I wear more often then cheap earrings because they are nicer
Oh, perfect timing. I have been just explaining to my husband my rules and reasoning for starting no/low buy until end of the year.
We are not having money issues, so he is curious why I would do it. He sees it as punishment. But for me it goes deeper. I noticed that I am getting faster and faster when deciding to buy something. Before, I would take weeks, even months, to decide to acquire an investment piece. Now, it is matter of days, or worst case, hours. My habits are changing and I am not ready to accept them.
Good luck, I hope it goes well
Omg, I noticed this about myself too. My decisions are getting quicker, which is scary. I'm going on a low buy for the rest of the year too.
I bought an "heirloom quality" bedframe for the price of a small used car because in less than 10 years I had gone through two ikea wooden frames and one standard metal frame. I'll never have to buy another bed for as long as I live, and it doesn't squeak. Ever. Worth every penny.
My husband and I couldn't find a bed frame we liked, and would last. He finally decided to design and build one himself. We've been sleeping on it over a decade and still like it. It was alot of work, but was worth it.
brand and style please?
Yes! I finally bought a truly waterproof jacket in lockdown, so that the weather would NEVER stop me leaving the house if I wanted to. Now, it's lasted into motherhood for me, and means I can head out with my baby every day in comfort, even if it's pouring with rain. Critical for my mental wellbeing!
You accidently echoed a sentiment from a Terry Pratchett book about shoes; although that one focuses more on how a soldier can't afford good shoes so the constant need to repurchase keeps the poor soldier eternally poor and incapable of buying the quality shoes
I was just thinking about this!! It's sage wisdom.
Yes! I had to go looking for the original quote.
“The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.
Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.
But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.
This was the Captain Samuel Vimes 'Boots' theory of socioeconomic unfairness.”
― Terry Pratchett, Men at Arms: The Play
Vimes' Boots Theory!
Came to say the same thing!
Yes! en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boots_theory
I would love if you did a whole video on undergarment brands that are worth the higher budget. Like lasting, super comfortable daily wear stuff. I know criteria for that will vary a lot person to person, but I find it to be one of the hardest things to muster the inspiration to really dive into researching myself lol
@ros8986 this is absolutely true! Especially synthetic materials. I still buy cheap-ish undies, like fruit of the loom, but if I avoid frying them in the dryer they last years. Ditto bras, nice socks...dryers are really rough on fabric. I also don't wash delicates with things like jeans with zippers.
Depending on your preference shop arq makes some lovely cotton underwear
@@Luna04567 it seems they’re closing down :(
I personally love Intimissimi. They make lovely, delicate, beautiful and yet simple underwear that does not wear off easily and is very comfortable on the skin. I've been purchasing from them for over 5 years, and the underwear is still as new, holding its shape. It's the only brand I've had multiple lace underwear from, and not suffer from any scratches or rashes, i don't know how they make it so soft! 😅 I also like their microfiber line a lot, it's so minimalistic and has invisible lines under my garments. It simply feels like wearing nothing almost 😂
There are some things that simply are going to wear out. Like bra bands. They have multiple hooks so they can be tightened when they stretch out. But stretch out they will. Unless you switch to stays, I guess?
I was nodding along with each item until you came to the swimsuit example, and then I had some thoughts!
I believe there’s another category of thing that justifies breaking your excellent guidelines: something that will allow you to participate in an activity, without which its lack might be enough to push you into sitting it out. And finding a swimsuit that allows you to leave the body drama behind for a day might - perhaps! - be enough reason to bend these sensible guidelines.
I agree - finding a swimsuit that gave me the coverage I desired without looking dowdy or like I am cosplaying as an olympic swimmer meant shelling out quite a substantial sum for me - but I was so happy at the beach this spring feeling confident and beautiful :)
This is also one where your body makes a big difference. If you're straight sized and can wear and fit in to just about anything, then it really doesn't make sense to spend money.
But if you're like me and plus size and super busty, getting something that fits is a struggle. And often involves underwire lol. And is usually pretty expensive.
But I've gotten away with my single expensive fancy suit made for curvy girls for the last 5 summers. The best investment ever!
Yeah I find I'm much more likely to go swimming, hiking & to the gym now that I finally have clothes that cover everything I want with support, whilst also drying quickly.
Bonus: UPF modest swimwear also makes excellent warm weather hiking gear - it made packing for my rainforest adventures a breeze!
Yes! Just wrote a different comment about the expensive top I bought years ago. Just the top-saved some money by pairing it with cheaper bottoms. Leaving body drama behind is absolutely worth it.
This is a fair consideration! I'm straight sized and maybe swim a couple times per year, so even fast fashion swim suits tend to last many years. So it doesn't make much sense for me to spend tones of money.
But, I do spend money like this on bras (and bralettes) as that changes my confidence and silhouettes in clothing.
Totally agree with investing in jewlery you never take off! I only buy real silver or gold jewleries for pieces I know I'll always wear and will just stack others on top. A total game changer!
I find these videos so incredibly helpful. Your discussions of level of formality, how to not look frumpy in it, color (especially the bit about two-colored outfits!), and the lose vs tight silhouettes now are forever in my head and made such a change to my wardrobe. I actually now feel like myself when I am dressed. Thank you so much!
Me too
I'm South Asian, so it may be slightly different, but for my wedding I bought a two-piece skirt & tunic (lehengha suit) with a dupatta (veil) that I can now reuse as a scarf in different outfits (along with both pieces matched with different items of clothing).
It was expensive at the time but my bridal kameez & dupatta are neutral enough (in my preferred metallic) to be rewearable multiple times (at other weddings)!
Cool that you've been able to reuse those things. It must let you enjoy good memories
That is awesome!! 💕
Definitely add swimwear to this list! As a former swimwear buyer for a big box store, mom, and grandma who spends her summers at the pool and on the beach, we ladies with womanly bodies need the support and coverage of well-made, quality swimwear. This is true for even occasional swimmers. A quality garment will give you comfort and confidence, and if you hand wash it and line dry it, it will last. Also, when you try on your potential purchase, try on the next size up. Remember, these are mass produced items, and it’s how the suit fits you, that’s important. I’ve always done this, and it makes a big difference. Nobody knows what size I purchased, but EVERYONE sees how I look in it, or at least those who care to notice an old lady.
Glasses (for those of us who wear them) and bedding both should get invested in according to this principle. High use value for sure
I am teetering on the edge of splurging…to me….on better quality sheet sets instead of inexpensive Walmart sets. My brain-voice shrieks when I look at linens that cost several hundreds of dollars. But, even though I am technically poor, I’m over not spending money for good quality items for myself. ✌🏻☺️
@@heidimeigs5192 if you can afford it, do it! We spend one third of our life in bed, this time should feel as nice and relaxing.
Most people spend thousands on a car that we use on average a few minutes a day.
But we somehow internalised that investing in good quality bedding and sheets (we spend around one third of our life in bed) or underwear we wear next to our skin all day is decadent.
Thank you for helping me unlearn this!
(This post was written in bed, luxuriating under my new extra wide and long summer duvet with a linen cover. Best invested money ever 🎉)
This is why I like thrifting for high quality pieces (I always go with specific “holes” in my wardrobe in mind). You can see how the item has worn over time and after washes. It is less expensive and therefore less of a crime if it doesn’t fit into my wardrobe the way I wanted (fantasy self) making it easier to remove the things that aren’t serving me well. Also, I have animals. It makes it easier for me to actually wear my garments if they weren’t hundreds of dollars. I love leggings. SIL got me a pair of Vuori for Christmas. They are lovely…but I never wear them.
THANK YOU for mentioning your wedding jumpsuit! I originally eloped in a beaded white dress from Macy’s that was only $90. Then I got pregnant and could no longer wear that pretty “bridal” dress to our “party” wedding which is actually this coming weekend. I got another white dress for $100 that can accommodate my growing bump that is pretty but just isn’t my dream dress at all. I’ve been feeling really insecure about not just biting the cost and getting a “fancy” wedding dress. Your jumpsuit story makes me feel so much better! This dress is still adorable and it’s good that I saved the cash.❤❤❤
congratulations on your pregnancy and upcoming wedding party! omg I bet you will be absolutely GLOWING and also possibly glad to be able to move naturally in your body without worrying about ruining a super expensive gown :)
Hope you have a fab time! 🎉
@@HannahLouisePoston Thank you so much! This is honestly so meaningful to me, it’s so lovely and encouraging to be cheered on by you! I’m excited to have a great time!
Love this concept, but I would argue you left out a major category, sleep & loungewear. Maybe it's just me, but being disabled, I LIVE in my comfy clothes. Thanks to your recommendation, I currently own 5 pairs of printfresh bottoms, 3 shorts, 2 pants (all but one bought secondhand.). I spend more of my life in those clothes than anything else in my wardrobe. The same goes for sleepwear, I need something that is going to be really soft, breathable & natural fiber, so it makes sense that I just spent $75 on a secondhand PF nightgown (still had the tags attached.) I would say that investing in comfy clothes is going to help slim down my wardrobe considerably.
I am retired with some chronic illnesses so I also spend more time in very casual at-home wear, as opposed to my leaving-the-house clothes. I am slowly trying to up the quality of my pieces. I live where spring/summer/fall are really warm and humid. So I mostly buy linen, and 100% cotton with a soft hand feel. I’m done with clothes that are even a little bit scratchy. ✌🏻✌🏻
Chronically ill and couldn’t agree more!
If I could afford it, I would even go the extra mile and get my footwear made specifically for me. The ordeal of bad shoes and boots, even sandals, is costing us a lot even if the cost is not monetary. The jumpsuit is GORGEOUS and suits you so well, Hannah. That was a stroke of genius.
I have a semi-custom pair of sandals that I wear all the time, which were like $200, probably the most I've ever spent on something I wear, but they're leather and actually fit my hard-to-size feet, so they were absolutely worth it (had them for five years now, at least). One day I'm gonna save up for custom leather pumps, not even going to consider buying off the rack for high heels.
I’m thinking of doing that once my current pair of leather sandals wear out. I wear these at least half the year and they’ve lasted me five years. They’re just now starting to wear out in a way that is making them a bit uneven to walk in, and of course I don’t want that to cause issues to my feet and alignment.
Quick story. I was driving home from somewhere, glanced over at a bridal shop, and saw the wedding dress of my dreams. It was a lot of money for my parents, but they bought it for me, and my husband's sister also wore it for her wedding a few years later. The total cost per wear? $30. Okay, my story is not relevant, since I got married in 1973, but I thought you might get a smile out of it.
Does that mean it was $60? Or did you wear it a bunch after the weddings?
@@crisfer22 $60 was the actual cost of the dress. I was happy that my sister-in-law chose to wear it for her wedding, but it was only worn twice that I know of. It was donated years later, so perhaps a third person was able to use it, or use parts of it, in some way.
I also decided to wear something I already had at my wedding making the most expensive thing of the day this gorgeous french tart we had for dessert. absolutely no regrets.
I am getting married in a few months and trying to take that approach when buying things. I decided that I do want a white dress (tried some other dresses first but I made me realise I do actually want white more than I initially thought) so I bought a simple white evening dress on sale and will glam it up with things I will wear again, such as a nice bag, jewellery, a shawl of jacket (getting married in October). With every item apart from the dress, which I do not think I will ever wear again (I will try to dye it after but am not sure it will work), I am only considering things that work with my everyday style and needs. It’s not that easy and I have been pulled into liking some things that are not “everyday me”, attracted to the shiny 😅
@@s.a.4358 congrats! it’s a tricky balance for something like a wedding day - remember you can always rent, borrow, or go vintage if you’re looking to save some money but still get something “extra” for such a special day.
@@linnearoyale I would love to rent or go vintage / second hand but being plus size it is a lot harder to find stuff, especially in Europe. I am thinking of using some family jewellery and maybe borrow a handbag though 🙂
You speak truth and facts. I spend the bulk of my wardrobe money on jewelry, bras and footwear and it works so well for me 💖
yes! i just bought new underwear, and while i didnt go expensive i went with 100% cotton. materials affect us! and higher prices usually equate with better materials. like... most of us are wearing PLASTIC AND GASOLINE almost everyday 😭‼️myself included! I feel like it's one slow (and pricey) but intentional change that really serves your lifelong health.
I recently got a cream leather coat and it has turned out to be a top 5 of all time purchase. It goes with everything and immediately elevates it. “No regerts”
I have a chronic health condition and my weight fluctuates from a 2 to an 8. This makes life very hard for me because I essentially have a “sick” wardrobe and a “well-ish” wardrobe. You can imagine, I suppose, how much I like spending money on my sick wardrobe, so I mostly buy cheaper, fast fashion items that I won’t feel bad about giving to goodwill when/if I find remission again. My greatest wish is that I could count on being able to fit into my clothes from year to year, mostly because it would mean I was healthy, but also because I love my clothes and it breaks my heart to get sick and have that loss on top of all the other losses. I never know if I’ll be able to get them out again. Once, it was almost a decade.
I'm sorry you're going through that. Whilst I may not understand your condition, I would rather invest in a capsule with some key pieces for each size than feel bad that I'm not at a certain weight. Like you said, it's enough stress as it is without worrying about fitting into your clothes too!
I know it's not the same but I have many wrap type clothes (dress/ top/ coat), elasticated waistbands & scarves to help me through fluctuations. I also like sleeveless mid-layers because I tend to put weight on disproportionately in my arms.
So sorry about that, i hope you’re able to stay in remission. I have a chronic illness that has caused severe weight fluctuations for me as well, especially in the past 7 years. I have come to love flowy clothing a lot for that reason. I inherited a few vintage linen pants that were baggy even at my heaviest, I just adjust with the drawstring and they looked great when my weight dropped too. The same goes for kaftans, crocheted tops, kimonos, maxi skirts, oversized shirts, etc. Stretchy clothes like leggings or athleisure can accommodate quite a bit of fluctuation but not quite as much as I’ve needed, but those tend to wear out quickly anyways so by the time I had to purchase in a new size it didn’t feel like as much of a blow. Jeans are the worst, I think. I mostly had to phase them out, they’re too uncomfortable when I’m flaring anyways. I just have one pair that I bought at my heaviest but I can wear baggy like boyfriend jeans because of the fit when I’m down several sizes, though definitely not past a certain point.
This is why I spend more money on my health. The right kind of supplements to support my body the way I need it and investigate health myself. Following lots of functional medicine doctors that are all about looking at and finding the cause of the health issues.
The body needs to come first before things you put on the body ❤
Be well and I hope you'll find a resolution to your health issues.
Twins! I wore a gorgeous flattering jumpsuit I already owned as my wedding outfit. I thought 'why waste money buying something uncomfortable and risky when I can wear something I already know I love'. It was perfect for my big day.
The good winter coat and boots are especially worth spending on if you live in an area with a true winter - often that will be the only part of your outfit anyone sees!
I lucked out. My hair stylist cuts my hair once every 2-3 months and he does a fabulous job. He precision, dry cuts my curly hair for $57.00. It grows out beautifully.
I love these principles. I have a lot of in between pieces that are decades old. They are almost art pieces. They go to the theatre, the opera, the symphony, the fine dining scene and the galleries with me. I have found a few of them in thrift stores but many of them were purchased on a payment plan. I have a favourite retailer who often buys a statement piece for me and discounts it. I buy one or two pieces per year but I haven’t purchased anything for about five years now. Everything is still wearable, elegant, and a bit edgy and classic. It works very well for me. Formal clothing doesn’t really suit the city I live in or the events I attend.
Be prepared to hand wash or use a gentle cycle for lingerie, knits and delicates. Buy a good laundry detergent too. Your investment pieces will wear longer and better.
Take care of your things. Even my lower quality, inexpensive clothing lasts longer than you would think because I take great care of it when laundering.👍🏻👍🏻
Omg your bridal ensemble was so artsy and inspired!! Yes wedding dresses do go for thousands even at “basic” stores like David’s bridal! A hack I found was buy the “sample” or “defect” dresses- mine supposedly had a defect under like 20 layers of crinoline that I could not find after searching- and it was half price! But not as good a deal as yours! Btw I agree w the commenter who mentioned dying your jumpsuit another color? It could be versatile!
There is a saying: “I’m too poor to be cheap” However, like you explained, it should only apply to main regular wear/use pieces. No trends; no fast fashion, etc.
Yes! For me the biggest version of this are my glasses! I wear them every day and they sit on my face. I get glasses much less frequently now than I used to but I spend much more on them. I go to a specialty shop where a trained professional (can we give it up for the trained stylists??) can help me find the right size and shape for my face and then adjust the frames (for free) whenever I need an adjustment.
I’ve been having the same mindset about my sewing projects lately: research, quality/specialized fabric and mock-ups for those frequently worn pieces. I’m currently making a proper trench coat (with proper couture techniques) and am in the planning stages for a long classic wool overcoat. But i also thrifted some fabric for a fun summer dress, which will be quickly made with a serger!
Your scientific understanding of fashion and spending is just mind boggling. You should definitely write a book someday! ❤ Love from India!
I agree! I already bought her poetry book and I totally would buy a book about fashion spending.
What a wonderful video. Shoes end up being my biggest investment because I have specific shoe needs due to trick knees. I never regret a good shoe purchase.
Love the haircut advice. I finally learned that one over the past 3 years.
My favorite wedding outfit ever was when I rented a gown from Rent the Runway, I felt like I got something quality wise that was way better than I could have bought, and I FELT so good! I’m planning on renting again now that I need another navy gown for a wedding (navy is NOT my color)
I love this concept and I would expand it to include a specific category of fringe pieces. They are part of specialty "gear" pieces that, while not used often, are key pieces that should be invested in based on the technical aspect of their construction. These pieces are very much dependent on lifestyle and geography. Similar to winter coats I am thinking rain coats, waterproof shoes, wind shells, base layers, winter sneakers or boots (a la sorrel joan of artic boots). How well these items function are usually correlated to price. I invested in a pair of north face winter sneakers and I've had them for almost 20 years. I rarely wear them but when it's below zero they are a key shoe in my wardrobe. I know they will keep my feet just as warm as boots, have tread profile to prevent slips while aslo reflecting my sytle. A rain coat that is actually waterproof with features like a hood, sealed seams, and adjustable cuffs that will keep you dry and comfortable is another example.
I grew up solely on thrifted clothing, except for shoes. For this reason I have always balked at the prices of brand new clothes. Even now when I can afford to buy new clothing I still choose to buy mainly from the thrift store, for several reasons: the thrill of the find, the lower cost, the impact on the environment, I can pay for several pieces of clothing for the price of one brand new item, and the fact that I usually find extremely high quality and unique items for a fraction of their price if bought new.
One thing I learned to do is to thrift formal gowns whenever I find a good quality piece with a classic silhouette. Although I didn’t need these items when I bought them, and they do take up space in my closet (though I only have 4 of them), I know I won’t find myself struggling to find a gown when the occasion arrives and I can avoid both the feeling of “I have nothing to wear to this event” and the urge (or need) to spend hundreds on an item that I’ll only wear for a couple of hours. I have also had friends or family borrow them, which means they get more use.
Every time I don't buy a formal dress that fits at the thrift store, I have a wedding or event with that level of formality within a year.
That's so interesting, I have the opposite issue where I've gotten a few just in case dresses but at 31 virtually none of my friends plan on getting married, or they've been married for like 6 years already, and I have no fancy events!
To add, it's basically shopping for the life I want instead of the life I have 😅
@@thenopedetective To be fair, I'm a college student (albeit slightly older), and the students in my sports club come up with 'party themes' or we have 'formal wear' for our end of year party so I get to pull out my dresses for that.
Negative Underwear is so amazing! Their bras are my favorite, especially the sieve collection. I’ve never encountered such a mesh fabric on an under garment that actually doesn’t tear, it’s seriously like magic. And that’s not even mentioning the comfort! Everything they make is SO comfortable. They really are worth the money!
Can you do an updated daily go-to makeup GRWM? I feel like the makeup you’re wearing here is so paired down, but perfectly effective and appropriate.
Agree on all fronts. Bed sheets and bathroom towels are 100% worth the splurge. Shampoos and personal hygiene products are worth the splurge for me for the same reason. Good socks are important. As with haircuts, it is important to take care of one’s hands and feet. If mani/pedis are in the budget, I get it. I am all in for day spas and mani pedis. My comfort in my skin and things that touch my skin are worth the splurge. Excellent advice. I have never regretted buying solid gold or silver jewelry and nearly always regret costume jewelry or plated jewelry. Lastly, splurge on a good car. Get something that is sturdy, well made, safe, and comfortable.
Requested that my library system purchase your book for our collection!! The request was approved and I’m number one on the holds line. Cannot wait to read it!!
My wedding dress was $20 but my leather sandals I wear the hell out of half the year were twice that (on sale) 😂 thank god too because the marriage lasted a year and the sandals have lasted five thus far hahaha!! I’ll for sure invest in even better and more aesthetically pleasing sandals when these are done for because these are so blah, just sooooo comfortable.
LOVE your wedding outfit. You look comfortable and you look like yourself and the accessories make it wedding. Nicely done
Loved this, as always
Something it made me think of was how my relationship to a "work coat" changed over time.
I have a corporate job, and I used to live in a city where I commuted by public transport to the office every day. So I very much needed a good quality, smart coat (like a knee length wool trench or similar), and because of the rigours of public transport, by the end of the season it would be really worn out. I found that if I bought cheaper ones, they would be dead half-way through the season, so definitely worth buying the good quality one. So I had to have it in my budget to spend a chunky amount on a work coat every year.
And because of the annual nature of the purchase, I could go for it with the statement and the trendy.
Then I moved to a smaller city, and commuted by car. And so I've had the same 2 work coats (winter and summer) for 6 years.
I probably could have gotten away with a much cheaper coat!
Oh my goodness - thank you for mentioning haircuts! We all lived through the pandemic and most of us did not have access to a good stylist during those times. In my opinion - they should have been included in the pool of 'essential workers'! I now get my hair cut by one stylist that I feel lucky to have found. I schedule my haircuts for every other month, consider her fee money well spent, and tip her like the professional she is. She is able to give me a hair style that will actually last for the full two months without looking unkempt.
YES!!!! I feel so fresh after a good haircut, and I believe hairdressers are actual magicians. An undervalued and probably underpaid profession.
This is so interesting to me because I came to the opposite conclusion during the pandemic. My hair looks fine when I cut it, especially if I tweak it in the following days. The professional cut just wasn't that much better.
I do however have sensory issues and going to a hair salon is an unpleasant experience that I only managed to force myself to ensure maybe twice a year. That probably changes the equation of worth a bit.
@@executive_function_not_found I think this depends heavily on your hair type & length. I stopped cutting mine short because it took too much upkeep with my natural curls (wavy & curly hair tends to need a few weeks to 'settle' into a new cut). I now go twice a year just to avoid the dreaded triangle head (my hair goes flat on top if it gets too long).
Also lol your username is relatable.
Would love to hear your thoughts on this same concept but for home purchases :)
Thank you for sharing. My brother passed away at the end of last year. I had to inform my family, make the arrangements, host part of my family and I had to leave right after his services to the hospital because my daughter was in labor. I definitely understand holding gratitude and grief simultaneously. Hang in there and enjoy the fruits of your hard work.
I only buy solid gold jewelry now. I only add a piece or two per year but it’s changed my life and my jewelry consumption SO MUCH. And now I’m to the point where all my daily pieces and most of my occasion pieces are gold and I never have to deal with tarnishing or replacing.
I agree with the principle, I'd add that I'm willing to spend a lot on a pair of sunglasses - I only own one, and have them for years - because they make such a difference in comfort! A good pair of sunglasses is like a good pair of shoes, which I agree are super important for comfort and practicality. If you camp, a good tent and sleep system are worth spending on as well as an ergonomic backpack. Personally I also spend a lot on earplugs (Loop - I have adhd and oh my god where have these been my entire life, SO WORTH IT). I would also add socks on your list - I bought 100% pure linen socks on Etsy and never looked back. I only own linen socks now (plus wool for winter). Linen is vastly underrated for winter, it's far more comfortable and warmer than cotton, not to mention temperature regulating and antibacterial. Also linen sheets, you'll never look back!
I love this idea of spending money on things that touch your skin!
My partner always says to spend significant/more money on things that separate you from the ground- shoes, beds/matresses, couches car tires. I had never thought about it but I think he is right!
I smiled at your wedding jumpsuit story! It reminded me to thank my past self for renting my wedding dress. Excellent video! Thanks ❤❤❤
The Aritzia parka is everything! Remember when you were a maximalist! lol. Minimalism forever! Timeless. 🥰🥰
Once again - you deliver GOLD!! (Have been soo helped by your "levels of style". Thank you!)
I love your point about designer consignment. I feel like my lowest cost-per-wear items (and those that bring the most joy) are all designer consignment. Most of them I bought for less than their mid-market counterparts even!
You're so spot on with the "in between formality" point. I'm an engineer and I have to wear pants that give me good mobility for work. I have all these nicer clothes that are not practical to wear to work but not nice enough for going out or more formal events and they just sit forever in my closet
I totally get it, good points that you’ve made. Sometimes I just make mistakes on the big purchases that I make
I also spend a bit for shower and bathing products. Nothing decompresses me as a shower or bath in the nicely scented wash or bubblebath. They don't have to be expensive, but sometimes I splurge on a treat shower gel I use once a week. It usually lasts for a few months this way.
these are good principles for life in general! the relationships closest to you should be the highest quality
I did buy an expensive wedding dress but it’s so hard for me to find things I feel good in, so I didn’t mind spending the extra money 🤗 no regrets. I’m on the same page about everything else, though!
I highly recommend the underwear brand okko and for socks tabio (or other japanese sock brand)
I agree with all of these, with the exception of the swimsuit. Inexpensive swimwear is so unflattering and depressing. For me it has to be super well constructed (likely with underwrie), of excellent fabric, in a timeless colour, and come in DRESS SIZES, not s/m/l. Those usually run $200+ and to me it's worth every penny, even if I only wear it on vacation.
So true. I think that young/slim/small-chested women can get away with this, but I’m not any of those things and need quality swim wear for decent fit, coverage, and support. It’s worth it!
Seconded! If you have hips, butt, chest, and not a traditional magazine bod, it matters to have sturdy well constructed swimwear that can handle it. I have really liked the "tap short" bottoms from Galamar. They are $$$, but great coverage and thick, flattering materials/cuts. I have also found a nice full coverage bottom from Patagonia too that is a bit less expensive.
I love this way of analyzing your wardrobe! My husband and I use “cost per wear” as a yardstick for where to put our money. It works well for us and is easy to calculate (approximately).
With the principle of 24/7 wears, I've recently gone for good qualities (thus not cheap) on dental options (e.g. ceramics) for years, and I'm so thankful with my past self!
Yesyesyes! Agree with all of this, but the HAIRCUT thing is something I'm thinking about lately. I have my hair trimmed about every 8 weeks, and I'm already feeling a bit anxious about how I'll afford this in retirement/ the Poverty times. Certainty I plan to buy fewer clothes [SOB] so that I can still get to the hairdresser often enough.
I made my wedding dress from a collection of vintage handkerchiefs, and I have been thinking SO MUCH about the historic practice of remaking garments out of pieces with lots of fabric. This summer I'm taking it apart to make the skirt a separate i can wear on more occasions. I wonder how thoughtful I could be in purchasing formal wear with the intention of refashioning myself in the future or having it refashioned. Def not a normal consideration, but the idea of rewearing formal wear is one i feel so committed to haha.
All great points. Thrift buys are a good way to try new styles (different to own) too.
Definitely different for everyone - I wear my statement earrings (different pairs) every day. Not all of them were expensive, but for me, the expensive ones were more than worth it. They make my whole outfit, frankly.
Came back to this video thinking I can apply these principles to wardrobe decluttering as well!
I love this content. I love how personal it is in a way. Like when I watch these videos I have to be alone and in my own space because you really make me think deep about the way I interact with the spaces and things I have curated for myself and how to simplify and recognize some of the chaos that naturally occurs and accumulates around me.
I love what you said about touch. The things that are with you every day. Like an extension of your soul. It so exciting to wear in your clothing. I love putting on a shirt that is worn in and stretched out in all the right places just from wearing it all the time. It’s like you have imprinted on it. I think that why we like to wear our lovers clothing from time to time. You can feel their body and there impression. There is a sense of comfort and personality.
I have some lovely jackets I’ve collected over the years timeless and fit well but I never reach for them. I’m always drawn to my thrifted denim jacked I found in my home town antique store. It was a random day I was spending with my mom. It’s fits perfectly goes with everything and it’s a brand I’ve never heard of and doesn’t exist today. Just pure magic. To anyone else it’s just an old jean jacket but to me it’s home.
Anyways, thanks for letting me rant. I really connect with this video and I think it’s time I go through my closet and touch everything and see what makes me feel most like me, things that up lift me and bring me confidence.
Thank you!
I always hear that high quality items will last longer, and I do believe that is true. At the same time, I’m scared to invest in expensive shoes and clothing because I’m worried about my ability to keep them “nice.” What if I scuff the expensive shoes, or spill olive oil on the fancy pants, or get pit stains on the nice top, or get a hole in the elegant sweater? I would be more devasted if these common problems happened with expensive items
Or lose the gold earrings, God forbid! 😂
I think along with buying the more expensive item you have to learn to take care of the more expensive item. So learn how to get the stains out of a silk shirt and learn how to remove scuff marks from the shoes and learn how to mend hole. Or at the very least learn who in your city/town provides those services.
On the swimsuit thing, I bought just the top of an expensive suit that I feel amazing in. Gorgeous, different, very secure, still cute while also covering enough to wear in front of family. I've paired that patterned top (that also has some size adjustability, just in case) with solid colored cheaper bottoms. I've had it FOR YEARS (8 maybe?). Because it's a thing that can & should be reworn, I don't mind at all that it's the only one I have, and it does sooo much heavy lifting for the whole "oh, I have to be in a swimsuit?" mental challenges that might pop up. Definitely worth it for me.
I would love to spend more on a really high quality shoe etc. But I have such trust issues with companies now I just don't know what company to trust with my money 😒
I prefer websites that allow free returns from multiple brands so you can try things out. Like Yoox.
Okay I agree about formal wear EXCEPT for a good suit if you like the style of suits. A good, new suit can function as separates and also is really amenable to tailoring (because it's not been tailored before). Suits will never go out of style and the statement pieces with them (ascotts, jewelry, blouses) can be easily changed out and gotten secondhand.
Concur whole-heartedly on the idea of investing in outerwear! A couple years ago, during the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale, I fell hard for a cashmere/wool grey coat that was more than I thought should be spent on such an item. But, it’s been a brilliant purchase, it feels amazing every time I wear it, and I get compliments frequently. Plus, it’s something I envision wearing forever.
You looked like a million bucks in your wedding jumpsuit! Good call on that! ❤
This is genuinely so helpful. For prescription glasses wearers this makes so much sense too, as something that is on our faces everyday!
I really appreciate this perspective, You continually wow me. It's interesting you perspective on jewelry. I have very nice, expensive high quality earrings for my nose and other "less common" ear piercings, I put them there and never remove them, and for some reason that was easy. But to invest in an every day necklace or earrings for my main holes... I just can't pull the trigger! I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing your unique wisdom.
Great advice, "how much will I use this?" is one of the first things I will ask myself when deciding on a purchase. I realised this year the areas in my wardrobe that are lacking are shoes, outerwear and bags. I would frequently put together a cute look then "ruin" it because I needed to wear shoes, jacket and bag and while I like all of the few I had they didn't fit with all of my clothes (I am a lot more maximalist than Hannah when it comes to colours especially :)). I realised the answer to complimenting a maximalist wardrobe with a budget for only a few new items is choose "minimalist" or "classic" shapes and colors that go with everything (I know, genius, lol). Shoe problem is all but fixed now. Life is too short for shoes that hurt your feet, so good quality, sturdy leather and comfortable soles were the most important to me. My solution for bags: I have one nice leather bag that I love (polêne numero un in sandalwood, thank you HLP for introducing me to the brand!), and I realised for summer I favor something light and uncomplicated, so instead of investing in another expensive bag, I just got a fun canvas tote. They are cheap enough that I could easily get a few to switch it up, they are washable and don't take up much room, and they can still look classy if they are well maintained. My only problem now are jackets. I am too choosy with outerwear. I like cozy wool coats, can't wear those now, too warm. Literally most of the warmer weather jackets I see, instant dislike. Blazers? Hate. Trenchcoat? Nope. Workwear? too boxy... it's a problem.
Maybe you can try finding a nice leather jacket in your best neutral colour? Not too bikey and a bit classic. Goes a long way in spring and fall ( at least in our west European weather).
Although tempting ( price/animals): dont get a vegan leather, they dont last. After a year the coloured top coat starts to crack at the areas where it touches the skin. ( Very obvious at the thriftstore).
About boots, the more you wear a good pair, the better they fit and look. Same for a good bag. Use makes them more beautiful. 💜
Thank you. This is the video I needed to end my agony over whether to re-buy the diamond studs I left in a hotel one of the RARE times I took them out to put in some damn statement earrings. I wore them daily. Never removed them - except to put in the damn statement earrings I work twice a year.
Also -the amazing thing about Birks is that you can have them resoled forever.
I agree I got my wedding dress for $100! Worth it
Would you consider making a video about sturdy clothes that passed the new mom test?
Watching your videos has helped me so so much! I need it splained to me and I swear I get there! It just takes processing. I started just buying things I love buying like heels and coats but I live in central fl and NEVER wear any heeled shoes😂 it's the fantasy
Thankyou for all your thoughtful content. I buy the best quality I can afford.
The levels or formality is so true: my mother and grandma don't get it when i say "it's gorgeous but i don't live a life for this"... like very fancy going out/dinner stuff, not formal enough for those special special SPECIAL days, but also too dressy for most of my outings. Maybe in my 30s when i have more money, but rn it's a waste
Very helpful, intelligent and illuminating. I find your videos are always thoughtful (if I didn’t know better, I’d say you were a Philosophy major), but mostly, they’re eye-opening. A few of the things I learned from you lately: my wardrobe, as it is, overwhelms me; I often buy for who I wish to be (or think I could be,) often neglecting who I actually am (therefore chasing an idea instead of embodying the self-awareness and wisdom I’ve gained with time;) I tend to invest in “special pieces”, and overlook what is on my body on a daily or regular basis. There’s more - I need to sit down with a journal and learn about my lifestyle before I reorganise my mindset and my closet . Thank you, thank you! 💛
Thanks, Hannah! What great content! ❤ Yes to jewelry that is worn everyday (I have earrings, bracelets, rings & a necklace that stays on me ) & looking for quality, along with a cost per wear for items & a good haircut, etc. 😊♥️
Thank you for the insight! I find this principle can also be applied to your home. I ´m also going through the process of moving to a new house and putting new purchases through this lens is helping me put my money were it´s gonna have most impact on my life (ex. bedsheets, pillow and not a funky kitchen gadget lol). I would enjoy a video on how this principle applies to other areas :)
This really resonated! I have spent so much on formal wear that I only wore one time. Thank you for sharing your most thoughtful advice!
This is a well thought out video! The first thing I look at when shopping for a garment is the care instructions. Machine wash only except for delicates. I appreciate the mention of Negative, I've been really struggling to find something that meets my needs since my favorite brand went out of business.
This was a great list of specifics!! Could you do a home version? 🤨
Brilliant advice! Whenever I bought an ultra-trendy item, I regretted it. I'd never feel comfortable in it, because I'd not feel like "me".
I will be borrowing a dress for the next wedding from my teenage daughter. It is a stunning dress she wore once to her valedictory night. It was fairly expensive and she may never wear it again. Thankfully I am happy to reduce the cost per wear!