I went natural and grew my hair past my shoulders. I went and got a blow out. This lady burned my hair clean off. I never went back. And Justice was served because a year later her salon shut down. I started over and a few months later I went and got braids. I picked this lady up from HER HOUSE. Dropped her at the salon while I parked my car. She had a stinky attitude once I got in the shop. And proceeded to talk bad about me in her language, not realizing I could understand her. I had been going to this place on and off since I was 14. This lady finished my hair and during the process of burning the ends she was secretly burning the upper parts of the braids where my hair was. I had my glasses off so I did not realize until she got to the front of my hair 😢 I was young and dealing with a lot but I should’ve left as soon as she showed me her nasty attitude. NOW , NO ONE TOUCHES MY HAIR. I see so many people praising stylists who have no integrity. And you can tell because they overcharge and the edges be thinning, ends split and hair not flourishing etc. LADIES if your hair is not thriving with a stylist PLEASE start doing your own hair. If a stylist is not passionate about helping your hair thrive they are not a good stylist and that is negative energy being transferred to you and your hair. Stop supporting these people and letting them touch your hair. I promise you it will force the industry to reform itself and save you a lot of pain.
That is so true , if more women stand up for themselves and protect their hair from these stylists they will have no choice but to change their ways if they want to keep making money 💰 Thanks for sharing your story ❤️
I can 100% attest to this topic. I have thick long 4b/4c hair that is a dark sandy color. A lot of women thought I had short hair because I keep it in updos like buns. When I wear it out and down women either love it or get really jealous especially if they hear other people complimenting my hair. The shock factor is beyond unreal when people see my hair. People have asked me to straighten my hair, too. I tell them that's not my cup of tea. I don't like straight hair on me and I don't want to ruin my hair.
Pretty hair privilege is real and you’ve just described it ❤ but how annoying is it when people feel like they can tell you what to do with your hair constantly
Length is not necessary for hair jealousy, healthy hair is enough. You speaking length like that gets automatic jealousy like some people can't grow long hair.
Although it is true that short hair can be healthy let's be honest how often do you see women hating on women with short natural hair? It being healthy or not? That is very seldom sis. Very. It is the women with length who get the stares and eye rolling. Not you ear and neck length naturals. And honestly that is considered baldheaded. I am not trying to be rude but it is. Just like relaxed hair that was short and broken off to ear and neck length was considered baldhead so is the case with natural hair. The only difference is texture.
This is why I don't go to hairstylist. I watch youtube tutorials. Hair stylist ain't what they used to be back in the 80s, 90s,and early 2000s. We had good hairstylists back then.
No hairstylists back then were no different, they were scissor happy, & quick to relax or press kinky hair, etc. Millennials were traumatized & brainwashed into hating their hair by the older generations. We said enough is enough. I'm glad to see gen Z enjoying the benefits of their real hair. Minus the wig epidemic.
Another tip: DON’T accept any gifts (products,tools,head wraps etc.) ESPECIALLY products because people put nair,relaxer,bodily fluids in the hair products that they’re gifting to you. DO NOT USE OR ACCEPT IF THE SEAL HAS BEEN BROKEN OR TAMPERED WITH 🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️
This video is so validating. I've often experienced this jealousy from looser haired naturals as they feel like long hair is "their thing" especially when they can tell you're genuinely in love with your texture and how creative we can be with it.
I don't know if this applies as natural hair jealousy but at my workplace when I first started working there alot of people wanted me to do a scalp test to see if it was real and because I was so hell bent on proving a point one day around lunch time I did and from there they were just so amazed and amused on how I managed to grow 4c type hair that long only one white man believe it was actually real but my fellow black people didn't....so now when people say my hair is a wig I take it as a compliment cause it reaffirms how much effort and work I've put in to give people that illusion
You’ve just described pretty hair privilege and hair jealousy all in one .The fact that you do benefit from a type of pretty privilege has riled these people up to be jealous of you . Thanks for sharing your story 🤍
@@msch3891 yep scalp test....they really wanted to see that it grew out of my own scalp some wanted to touch and that's one boundary I don't let anyone cross.....nobody touches my hair except for me or my mom😅😅😅😅
Hair jealousy is real. I remember growing up other blacks would say you need a perm. Your hair is too thick and nappy. Nowadays they be giving those side-eye stares. You just know they are some jealous females. One girl even offered to silk press my hair but I noticed her silk pressed hair is damaged and the hair hardly has any movement. Stiff as a board. Uh no. I will silk press my own hair or go to a trusted, qualified, individual. I dont need your hands in my head. Can't even manage your own hair health.
Omg that is so true , thank you for sharing ❤️!! Many don’t know not to take care of their own hair so it’s bizarre they try take care of other people’s hair 😳 I’ve also gotten those comments about my hair being thick and ‘rough’ but then in the same breath when I do a particular hairstyle they’ll ask me what I did to get my hair so voluminous and bouncy 🙄
@@TheCocoaClubThat how you get it so voluminous part is true. I get that often as well. The answer is to keep your hair healthy in its natural state. Also get the hair silk pressed correctly. Blow dry the wet first to stretch the curls like the professionals do on youtube. Go over no more than twice when straightening. Preferably once if you got it down pact. Use heat protectant. Sometimes it is not that the hair is damaged it is just that the silk pressing method was not done right. Or the right hair products were not used. Healthy kinky hair looks good when silk pressed. Damaged hair looks bad even when straightened. If anything it being straightened shows how damaged it truly is. The hair is limp and stiff and the ends are see through. Also having the wrong people in your head can mess your hair up over time. Everyone does not have prospering, flourishing hands when it comes to hair. Whether intentionally or unntentionally. Some people don't know what they are doing and it shows in their own hair. But want to do yours so bad. Girl bye. Take care of the hair strands you got first then we can talk about if you can do my hair.
When I was in 6th grade I was the only girl in my class that didn’t have a relaxer and I constantly got teased about it so I snuck and relaxed my hair and when I went to school I got a round of applause 🤦🏽♀️ it was so embarrassing. It gave me a complex for several years and I constantly over processed my hair because I felt like it wasn’t straight enough.
I had to stop the vid mid way to address the feminity comment. Feminity is not equated with long hair. There are plenty of beautiful women with short hair and they are still feminity. As a society, we need to stop this nonsense. I love seeing women with long, mid-length, short hair, twa, or bald. It's all about how she carries herself. Feminity is what you, as a woman, make of it!
when i worked in retail their were always cheap customers that found little things "wrong" with the clothes. "oh theres a stain here can i get a percentage off" "$50? for this basic top". instead of just admitting that their broke ahh couldnt afford it, they resorted to nitpicking the item so we could give them discounts. thats exactly how you have to see these ppl. theyre jealous cheap haters that want to make you lower your worth so they can get a bargain.
I agree, had a hairstylist cut my hair when me and my mum sepcificly said trim. At the time my hair was done my back... since then I've been doing my own hair now. Now that we have RUclips I've been watching hair tutorials, watching other naturals grow their hair and makes me confident to see that my hair can also regrow. I don't trust any stylist now.. I'm comfortable to do my own hair for now on. 😊
Yes. A lot of people talking about "clipping ends because they are thin" don't understand that layers exist. I grew my natural hair from twa to past bra length in three years without even one trim.
Had a jealous lady do cornrow for me cos I was lazy to do it myself and she literally rough handled my hair and i wanted to cry...took my hair 3 months to recover😢...after that i asked my neighbor to braid my hair and she was soooo gentle, she has locks and whenever i made DIYs for my hair i give some to her daughter. Ever since it's her or i do it myself
I can relate. I went to this braider to cornrow my hair, no extensions. Some how half my hair length was gone when I removed them a couple weeks later. My family and friends could not believe what happened to my hair.
Man I was told by a hairdresser “you need to relax your hair if you want me to keep braiding your hair because I can’t keep breaking my hands just to do your hair” 😂😂😂😂 it was one of the most awkward situations!!
@@Spokentruths725 Just realized how stupid what the stylist said was. Like ma'am, what do you want someone to wear besides the hair they naturally have on their head?
It’s quite unfortunate. It comes from even your own family members. My own mother used to always say that didn’t know how to take care of my daughters hair and that I would make her hair break off. My own sister used to piggyback off of that and say the same thing. My sister would be the one who braided her hair from toddler all the way up to elementary school…reluctantly, because I didn’t know how to braided. My daughters hair never really grew past her neck line while my sister did her hair all those years. When I stopped sending her to my sister to get her hair braided, my daughter hair began growing like weed!! I treated her hair and found someone else to braid it so my mother never saw her actual length. When I finally silk pressed it in junior high school her hair was past her bra. Then now in high school it at the top of her behind. My mother saw her hair and told her to turn around. When she saw the length she didn’t say a word! She quickly switch the subject. The next week she called me and told me that she found a good garlic shampoo that is suppose to help her hair grow and keep it strong from breaking and that she is good to give me the shampoo for my daughter’s hair to help me with her😒. As if I have trouble growing her hair and keeping it healthy. Smh It’s sad and sickening. They really thought AND hoped that her hair would break off but keeping my sister’s hands out off her hair did the total opposite. You have to be careful about the energy you allow in and around you.
Honestly if a black woman does not have a decent length of hair on her own I don't listen to them. Family or not. Hush up. A lot of black women don't really even know how to care for their own hair but got so much advice on the next females haircare practices. Talk to me when you are free of bald spots and hair breakage. Until then do not sweat your lips to me about hair care. Get some hair of your own first. I am not talking about women who cut their hair short either. I am talking about these struggle haired women trying to grow hair and cannot.
What got me is when you said your mother saw the length and said nothing. But had the nerve to send you a shampoo saying here is some shampoo to keep her hair from breaking as if you were not taking care of her hair already by having the right hairstylists in her hair. Had that been me I would have said I am good. I don't need the shampoo to keep her hair brom breaking. You see the length. Clearly I know what to do. Where was the acknowledgment for the length achieved? You can tell a hater by the things that they don't say as well as the things that they do. Me I keep people like that away from me. Family or not.
You shy, you die ladies. I told my hairdresser how to handle my hair and she soon followed suit. I also don't jump from one stylist to another. I prefer to take care of my hair. Your hair, your crown. If you can't handle it you are not allowed to braid it.
I once had a weird interaction when I was in a queue, running some errands. These two ladies were RIGHT in front of me talking about my hair. They were having a back and forth on whether it’s real (my 4c was in two pigtail like buns). One was convinced I added extra hair. The other said the pigtails are the same colour as the rest of my hair so it’s all natural. They finally decided to ask me and one didn’t look too pleased to hear it’s my hair. 😂😂
I’ve had so many stories relating to my hair. One woman said “ I love your hair, it looks so real”. Few minutes later she returned with paper and pen and asked for the brand name. I went to buy hair to braid my hair. The woman in the shop kept showing me these small packages with very expensive hair. I was confused as to why the packages were so small .she then said if you want it to look like what you’re wearing you will need several packages . That’s when I realized she thought I wearing a weave. She apologized but was clearly embarrassed My hairdresser complained that my hair took too much time to do and used too much products. He then proceeded to cut my waist length healthy hair to shoulder length . He is now former hairdresser .
We need to start looking at it this way: think about how much 12 inches of straight virgin hair is. You can’t even buy 12 inches of virgin 4c hair! I’m not talking about that processed Yaki hair either! Nothing wrong with it yaki/ coily but it’s not the same as the hair growing from your scalp! Your hair is rare and priceless sis!!!😊
I'm glad someone said it. It seems like an attack on natural hair. Jealousy and hatred. How do you go to a professional and your hair ends up in worse condition? They always want to push getting a relaxer or straightened so it can be prettier. 🙄🤮
I've experienced it, I just never really realized what it was until now. I learned a long time ago how to do my own hair. I believe in people transferring energy. I don't want no negativity near my strands. I'm also very particular about the words I use to describe my hair. I will never call my hair "hard to manage" or things like that. You gotta breathe life into the things you love, your hair included. 🤗💕✨️ Great video!!!
Thank you love ❤️ Very well said , we need to verbally and physically nurture our hair . Also, I do think more women need to learn how to do their own hair to avoid going through these bad experiences .
Your right. I have natural thick hair and I heard from a licensed stylist a number of times how I should relax it, dye it, texlax it to make my hair more manageable. Even when I went to her to relax it it still took her hours to do my hair. She told my sister that she hated 4c hair and not every one can have good hair.
@@heavenly894 I stopped going years before my sister did. She was pushy and always trying to get me to buy her products. her shopped closed down and another salon was in the same shopping center. I was shocked to see her working there so I never went back there. After my sister's hair was styled wrong my sister stopped going as well. thankfully the stylist left that salon and works someone else. the stylist still leaves texts to my sister about her needing to come in to get her hair done. my sister never replies back though
I haven’t been to a salon in 15 years i cut my own, i learned how to do every style i want.. hair to my hips now. I’ve learned the longer hair is the more manageable it is because it’s more heavy so it doesn’t curl up tight.
I can relate. Ive cut my hair 3 times to neck length in the span of 10 years because of this. Now I dont let anyone touch my hair. My hair is back to bra strap length now and i take no ones advice on my hair, even loved ones lol
My 4c hair goes to the middle of my back, it’s pretty long, and I worked very hard growing it. I’ve had girls pull my hair or think I’m better than them. I remember I was told I was lying about my ethnicity 😂 black women with 4c hair can have long hair. Just because a lot of us don’t straighten it, doesn’t mean it’s short. I went 7 years heat free, and 9 years perm free and my hair made a beautiful, healthy return!
I prefer the term Pure Blk Women. Calling us (Un)ambiguous implies that we’re missing something as opposed to us being complete and rich with beauty. Our identity is whole.
I think maybe you are just giving more value to the word ambiguous than what it is. Words like unmatched , unbiased, uncommon do not automatically have a negative connotation either as he important thing is the literal meaning. I don't mind "pure" but I can see the rest of society throwing it back in our faces all the time and I don't mind unambiguous bc it literally means no confusion (about my identity)
“Unambiguous” is commonly used. I agree with the comment that it doesn’t have a negative connotation. It simply denotes that the woman is not mixed and/or has more Negroid/Afrikan features. No guessing or confusion.
because what makes it “pure”? i don’t have a single white family member that i’ve ever seen and i’ve met all my great & great-great relatives, they’re all black. i have lighter skin & hazel eyes but when people ask me “what are you mixed with?” i say, “just black for all i know.” i try to educate them that we really can look “different” & still be just as black.
i agree with hating the terms though because if someone called me an “ambiguous looking black woman” i’m just gonna look at them stupid.. i don’t really feel the need to be further categorized & separated from other black people as i already do. in the words of jay-z “still n*gga”.
I love my hair I’m thicken it up right now. I’m sorry I ever tried to straighten her with relaxers n cover her with weaves constantly. I was trying to fit in.
Unfortunately I had a stylist rip out a lot of my hair during the blow dry process. She was in a rush to get me done. Then I told her I didn’t want it straightened. She straightened it anyway. I told her I didn’t want layers. She layered it anyway. I asked her for a trim. I just wanted a clean blunt cut straight across. It was uneven. What’s crazy is even though it looked nice, my hair was super thin from being ripped out from the blow dry process. My hair wasn’t super healthy at the time to begin with, but it was worse after. I don’t wear it straight often or hardly at all and I more so just needed the cut to start fresh cause I had a lot of breakage. I am thankful however I didn’t have any heat damage from the experience. But my hair was so thin from being ripped out during the blow dry process. I would say it took almost 3 years to this date for my hair to recover. Since then, no one else has touched my hair 😂. Your video just explained exactly what happened. The compliments, being in a hurry, being rough, the suggesting I trim it, all of it! I’m grateful my hair has recovered, thriving, and not letting anyone else touch it ever again. Thank you for shedding light on this subject. This is something that’s not talked about much!
Exactly! This is why I only let my sister, cousin and sister in law do my hair. They are professionals. My mom had the same experience with a beautician. She cut a BUNCH OF my mom’s hair under the guise of giving her a trim!
When I was younger, a girl always said that my hair was always stale even if it was a new hairstyle she always criticized my hair. Now I get that, I understood that she was always jealous of my hair.
I had a black lady with short hair that was jealous of my hair and I let her do my hair and she purposely messed up my hair had me looking like I been in a fight. Never again will I do that.
Is it real. Black ladies, every minute invested in learning how to do your own hair is worth it! I have 3c/4a type hair and never never went to salons. Love my curls and will protect them ❤
True, I totally agree with you I’m 2C front 3A back. I love being wash and go. I found videos doing the Plop method and it works for me. I only go to a colorist every 6 weeks to dye and maintain my blonde. Black ladies can be blonde or any color and not have breakage it may cost $$$ but it’s your hair so it’s worth it.
Facts, people really can be jealous of anything. I've taken a lot of heat over the years because my hair grows... Usually from people who keep ruining their hair with creamy crack, chemicals, toxins and bad procedures. They mad at me because they can't make the connection between what they do to destroy their natural hair and the fact that it doesn't grow.
I don't know if anyone has ever experienced this...strangers or people whom I do not know very well, seeming to come in very close proximity to me in general and to my hair. I have long, and full natural hair. On the rare occasions I have worn it in a pony tail in public, I have had to wrap it into a bun for fear of some random person attempting to touch, yank, cut or pray something strange over my hair. The fascination to lunatic levels of interest so baffling and scary.
I actually have been experiencing this noticeably within the last year. I have full microlocs that are now past my shoulders ( 4 years loc'd in September). Glad to know I'm not imagining that. It happens whenever I'm in public, crowded locale or not: people veering out of their way to come too close to me, generally. No matter if I try to position myself out of the way. It's annoying and interesting.
The power of your hair! It's really disturbing. People and bw think bw can't have beautiful hair. When you love what you have people hate it even more.
@@kaorieknighth9161 Been noticing the same thing. I have sisterlocks now (not in my profile pic lol) just below my bra strap and I've noticed this too. People get really close to just to try and examine if my hair is real or not. I'm really getting tired of the stares. I've even contemplated cutting my hair because of this.
I started my hair growth journey around 19, and my mom started it with me because she saw how long my hair got, and she was used to cutting hers because she love short hairstyles, but she decided to grow her natural hair. It grew nice and long! So she decided to straighten it I told her mom do not let them cut your hair ! Or trim it ! I will trim it for u! My mom said okay, when she got in the chair she got a blow out and they convinced her she needs to trim it, I said no ! And my mom shooed me away! This lady cut off about 4 inches and would have cut more of my mom didn’t speak up! The weird thing is after that lady cut my mom’s hair it neverrrrr grew back ! We are wondering why!
Not to scare you, but some people are into witch craft. I would advice you and your mother to start praying over her hair daily. That may be the reason why her hair isn’t growing 😢
Whew! Where to begin? Thank you for this video. The advice is true. I have had the looks, the compliment bombing you spoke of and the questions from multiple people “Is that your real hair?” I’m grateful that I am finally learning how to love my hair and features.
I had a cousin who braided my hair so tight my scalp started bleeding then she got mad at me for crying I was a minor and she’s a year older she would always tell people I was wearing wigs even when it was my own natural hair,now as a adult I have a permanent bald spot I’m embarrassed of
The hair follicles have been damaged from where your cousin pulled. You need to awaken those hair follicles to start the hair growth production. Buy a scalp massager and get some oil. Preferably Rosemary Oil. Apply the Rosemary Oil and massage for about a good 5 minutes. It will take some time to see results but it will start to grow again.They say wash the oil out after. I use Mielle's Peppermint Oil after and don't shampoo out.
That is absolutely horrid 😮 we really need to watch out for everyone including family members . Perhaps look into oils like @gmcmim1 has suggested that increase hair growth and do some scalp massages to get the blood circulating in that spot .
My hair isn’t natural. I cut and permed it and it’s in a terrible state. Not really sure what to do with it. But I adore big natural hairstyles. I’m sorry y’all go through ppl being jealous of your hair❤❤❤
I just wrote about this. Unambiguous bw are so beautiful with their gorgeous hair. I've learned that they get the jealousy from light skin blw. My mom had relatives that said her hair was wasted on an ugly girl because she wasn't light skin.
i wouldn’t necessarily say they get their jealousy from light skin women, because we face textorism too. i’m a lighter complexioned black woman & my 4c hair was never something i was bullied for. it was the only “relatable” physical attribute i had that resembled my bullies. but my little sister who is a slightly darker brown skinned girl (meagan good’s complexion) with 4a hair, was praised for it by the same older girls i was picked on by. telling me she was “too pretty to be my sister”. while also telling me i “thought i was better than them” while also turning down any kind of friendship or games i wanted to play. to the point they were huddling outside with adults, banging on my great-aunt’s door, begging for me to be let outside just to fight them because i’d go in the house when i realized the group of girls were going to pick a fight no matter what i said or did. i hate the stigma that light skin women are these villians. i’ve always found unambiguous bw to be beautiful but i never experienced the same appreciation within the black community from my sisters until i was an adult & now people will compliment my locs. but that same great-aunt was darkskin & would also sometimes call my little sister and i “dirty red girls”. so it was weird seeing how she wasn’t passable for criticism to an older generation but in ours, her beauty was marveled.
@@MAROBI333 i appreciate your compassion & i agree 1000%; i hate that your mother was even subjected to that kind of ignorance due to european beauty standards being forced upon poc. we truly have to get better at loving & accepting others despite our indifferences, we’re all human under the same God at the end of the day & God doesn’t make mistakes.
All of us black women are beautiful. We come in different shades. From my personal experience, dark-skinned women can often project their insecurities about how they feel about their own skin tone onto light skinned bw. I have skin of a lighter hue and was often was bullied by women in my family with skin of a darker hue. They would obsessively talk about skin color and had a festistic fixation with my skin tone. Going as far to make snarky comments about the legitamacy of my African heritage, tell me i'm not dark enough to be considered black, call me derogatory names like house slave, bedwench, light bright, mutt, recessive gene carrier, etc. Let's take time to acknowledge that dark-skinned people are often willful participants in colorism themselves. I'm not going to be shamed into not loving my golden olive skin tone or the admiration I get because of it. We are all reflections of each other. Dark skin or not.
I am big and grown and two months ago my cousin just braided my hair and pulled it way too tight. It didn’t hurt while she was braiding it, but it was hurting so much. I had sores in my head for weeks! My scalp is JUST healing. She is always commenting that my hair is so thick and growing long. I am just letting it grow natural without a perm now. She is nearly bald, and so is her daughter but I didn’t think she would do that to me. Iwas paying her decent money. This hurt me so much because I was so good to her, and she is my family.
That sounds so horrible , so said you had to go through that ❤️ Perhaps learning to do your own hair or going to someone else who can vet throughly can help. Also , never apologise for your natural hair being thick and long or whatever state it’s in. It is your hair and it deserves to be well taken care of.
@@TheCocoaClub thank you for saying this. I never learned to braid and these braiders here charge $400 and try to up charge for my thick hair. I guess I was trying to be thrifty. It will soon be a year since my last perm. That is why I used to perm my hair, because I could do it myself. I know that, that cousin will never touch my hair again. I stay away from people who can’t wish me well because I stay cheering for my black sisters. BTW hearty congratulations on your channel. Your content is creating the most beautiful kind of community. God bless you 🪮💕
I am gonna be honest. A lot of black women dont know how to care for their hair without breaking it off. So don't expect them to care for yours. Family or not. Learn to care for your own hair or go to a trusted individual. Them being family or not. There is a saying that blacks know how to style some hair. That may be true but how many know how to manage hair? Braids is not managing the hair if your hair is falling out after you take them out or is still the same length after years of getting braids. What are they not doing? What are you not doing? Don't get too caught up in who can style some hair. Who can manage some hair. Maintenance is everything. I am not saying do not adore or appreciate hairstyles at all. Styles mean nothing if your hair is falling out. Black folks love to talk about how diverse their hairstyles are compared to other racial groups which is a lie. They have a different vast of hairstyles that they wear. All humans have diversity. But not all have the maintenance skills to keep their hair on their head. And that is where the care for your hair comes in to play.
This topic is real! Women need to stop because you literally can’t isht what other people eat. The only person you can compete with is yourself. Be better than you were yesterday. It’s a win win situation.
I have hated my hair all these years since i was a kid , so i always relaxed it i was able to grow it up to shoulder length. My hair was damaged so Last year November i cut my hair and decuded to start over and go natural so maybe im a bad person for admitting that i do get jealous when i see black woman with long 4c hair bcz i don't know if I myself could ever achieve it😢
You’re already on the right path by accepting and acknowledging your feelings . Jealousy is an emotion that everyone experiences, the way in which you deal with that jealousy is what truly matters. If you use your jealousy to hate and degrade other people, you’re negatively using it. To use it in a positive way , you can use the emotion to motivate you to take care of your natural hair to the best of your ability so it can become long too ❤️
If you have long natural hair clip your own ends. I've heard too many horror stories of hair stylists cutting off to much length. I clip my own ends every couple of months.
I watched this video a couple of weeks ago, and I felt it might have been a bit of a reach. I started wearing my natural hair straight since then and I've had friends telling I need to put my hair braids, like I usually do. I found it strange because I rarely wear my hair straight. These are the same friends that wear straight units when we're going out or have special events, so I thought they would like my long straight natural hair. I don't even think the hair is the issue, because I get attention with my hair with in any style. I'm starting to realize that other blk wm put themselves on a pedestal, because the maybe couple shades lighter than me and conform to western beauty standards. I think when I wear straight hair and conform to the same beauty standards they follow, and outshine them they get jealous. There's no pleasing people. I'm starting to understand the importance of not playing down my beauty for anyone.
Thank you for sharing your experience . Unfortunately, even those close to us may end up feeling threatened when they see a positive change in us and the word reacts positively back to us . Never downplay your beauty.
One reason why I do my own hair I went to a salon in my 20s because Rihanna was rocking that tapered look from that UMBRELLA album. The lady cut off almost all my hair. NEVER AGAIN. I’ve learned to do my own 3c hair. It’s never been healthier ❤️. It’s bad enough people try and touch my hair to see if it’s REAL like one lady said. That’s the other thing I’m tired of trying to prove my hair is naturally curly it’s like it’s against the law for a woman of my complexion a BLACK woman to have naturally curly hair… get over it My hair is my own all the more reason why I NEED TO PROTECT IT ❤️
I've been natural for a very long time I wore locs for a very long time and they were past my thighs. The assumption that the weight of my extremely long locs began my excruciating neck pain I began to have and caused me to chop off my locs in the hope of finding relief.... The pain never ceased and my beautiful locs, which I still have today, sits in a large bag waiting yo one dat be reattached to my hair. But I have found what makes my hair grow and turned out to be the very same method that was used to grow my locs. I never put any tension on my scalp, after every wash, I deep condition it with a moisturizing hair mask for 30 mins under a steam cap, then rinse. U then add lots of leave in conditioner and argon oil and very loosely start a braid then quickly turn it into juicy twists. I oil my scalp with Jamaican black castor oil with Rosemary and massage my scalp as needed. I don't do anything else to my hair and I wash it every 1-2 months according to how I feel and my hair is growing at the same exact rate as my locs did when I had them... at this rate I will be natural for the rest of my life and I'm so proud of my crown... The photos of all th!!ese beautiful black women with all that gorgeous natural hair makes me so proud of my hair.
yes- I am jealous but not in a bad way its just what I want for myself- but I am never part of the stupid people who are like her hair is FAKE its a wig!!! no one can have that much hair etc.
A girl was ripping my hair apart while detangling my dreds. She didn't get far when i yelled, "are u crazy?" She then said I'm tinder headed. I was like if u mean i can feel when hair is ripped out my scalp, then yeah! Others in the shop then agreed that i have extremely dense hair and they don't like doing it basically. Only two other customers out of hubdreds had my density. So its been 12 yrs since anyone has retwisted my locs. I've also never lost a loc either. Be careful out there ❤
My hair is bra strap length and the stylist I was going to always gave me so many compliments. Last October she ruined my hair and i loathe clumps while getting a simple silk press. I was going to big chop but decided to just do protective styles and try to grow it back in full and slowly trim. I’ll do my own trims now and no longer do silk press again
I’m glad I found this article..I wore a relaxer for years I never appreciated my curls and now I do the jealousy is astounding on the rare occasion I go to a salon I go to a white owned that specializes in curly hair.
My hair wasnt even long but it was blonde and coily and i wouldnt hear the end of "is that your hair" it was mind boggling. I recently shaved my head and am back to the twa stage already so im not looking forward to the comments
A hair stylist braiding my hair with her hands still wet with hair dye. Needless to say, my hair broke and fell out. It took me a year to regrow it. I am never going back to Sarrie Hair in Camberwell
The jealousy is REAL! when other women of African descent or other women in general see my hair once it’s straighten (cause I normally wear wigs) i get the most weird a** back handed compliments 😂😂😂😂 haters!
I think my is in the 4s, more like from 3a to 3c. However, the longer it gets, the straighter it gets. I put gel braids and then mousse my edges are bone straight like a relaxer. The back is a nice wave. Different textures throughout. Nobody ever guesses where I am from.
Yes, there is length jealousy, texture jealousy, and just plain jealousy of your essence and energy, I've experienced it but not by the hand of a stylist thank goodness. I once had a coworker come right out and say to me, that the only reason men even look at me is because of my hair.
So true, if you don't want to cut it ,don't be pressured by NoOne to cut your hair. Jealous is real ladies .that's why I do my own hair.i had to set backs because I was still learning how to care for my hair,it's no way I will allow a none caring person to chop inches after all that hard work. I'm 23 inches now ,and loving it ❤. Be careful ladies.
My hair was down to my butt before. I tell the truth by accepting Jesus Christ as my personal savior. I jealous nobody hair I say that with all my heart and soul. Upon Jesus Christ dying for my sins. I always had long hair growing up as a baby. If you do not believe me you are hater.
@@reginakc I did not say anybody was hating on my hair. I said if they do not believe that I have long hair before. Then they are a hater. You misunderstood me. In the past females told me they were jealous of my long hair. This girl in my classroom had a bald head and she was jealous of my hair. So she conspired with this guy in my classroom to cut my hair. And he cut my hair with the scissors in the art room. So my mother came up to the school and reported this. And he got expelled from school for cutting my hair. Then he came back to fight me. But then I had moved to Long Island and the children in long island had just seen me when my hair was cut. So do not judge me. What you do not know about me.
As a stylist, and a believer working in a Christian salon where we take our time, enjoying our work with care, I relate. I understand that it can be hard to come by in today’s world.
Unfortunately there are a lot of mixed and exotical pages that do this but you haven’t gone there to tell them to not divide us( and they specifically always speak to uabw and never other groups of women) At least this page doesn’t dump on other groups of women unlike those pages
@@DidyW actually I did go to those pages and let them know the division was pointless and that the obsession with dark skinned women is almost comical. At first I tried reasoning with them but then I noticed Those type of pages depend on us for their self esteem to make them feel superior to something. That’s why I blocked them all from my timeline. I’d rather starve them of money, views, attention, and another dark skinned woman to attempt to feel superior over. Chrissie has a point. They need us. Why give them what they need. Ever notice they don’t have many views and subscribers? Why help their movement when they talk the way they do about us? Fuck them as far as I’m concerned. Let them have their space in peace.
@@DidyW and when I said cause division… I meant amongst uabw.. In my eyes dark skin women need to uplift each other vs throw shade like this. Yeah I experienced it. I have bra strap length natural hair. A lot of black women haven’t found a way to grow it that long yet and they wish it was my length or longer. I just want us to stay on code 🤷🏾♀️
Noticed these salon be jealous and they always over cut when my hair is thriving...now I do my hair myself and only go to salon when it's for braiding definitely no cutting
About the compliments, that is very true a person that over compliments you know right off the bat that they're jealous. That's the reason why I'm around women or come across women that brags about how magnificently beautiful I am I take it with a grain of salt and don't believe them. But I on the other hand, I LOVE giving women compliments. That is actually part of my ministry that I actually have adopted to make women feel beautiful, but I know people do it for different reasons and everybody doesn't think like I do.
A lot of black women are anemic because of fibroid, they are stressed out at work dealing with micoagression nonsense, they don't eat well and exercise enough becausetheyre taking care of everyone else, and often engage in not the best hair care practices. All these things affect hair health. We need to take better care of ourselves and every black woman can grow their hair to their genetic hair ceiling whatever that is and have healthy long hair. We are dealing with a lot out here and people need to have some grace. Also in general this video is just weird
Those are important factors that need to be considered and that’s why I said before taking someone’s advice on your hair make sure the advice is coming from a place of love and education❤️
Yesss thank you I felt the video in general the topic is weird I’m tired of us talkin about our hair n other bw hair it’s weird it’s jus hair let to each it’s own why are we our hair??? Stop talkin about hair There’s more to talk about and advance in with the black community as women instead of Hair
@@jennifercooljeo6552 we don’t know specifically what causes fibroids. Some are driven by estrogen likely as they have receptors some are estrogen null. It is absolutely true that fibroids are way way way more common in black and Asian women vs white women. These are facts. There is objective data on this. Little study has been done on how and when and why fibroids form in certain groups - which is a shame- but we do see familial trends so there is likely also a genetic component. As yes they can cause excessive bleeding and yes that can make you severely iron deficient anemic and yes that can cause hair thinning/loss of density.
I did too but I thought my old stylist was just scared to trim my hair (kitchen stylist we were both 19/20 years old) she constructed tf outta wigs tho and her hair was always healthy and long during and after our high school days so i always trusted her with her hands in my head but I kinda let the bias in when she said that and I never heard any other older more experienced stylist say those words I thought she was bluffin but to answer your question i have heard that before. Hope it helps. As time went on I was tired of the unevenness so I just resorted back to trimming
i’m not unambiguous at all clearly black and my hair is not long at all it’s very short and these heauxs are super jealous of my hair 😂 they say i have a perm and i have never had a perm and i haven’t relaxed my hair is over a DECADE! they say im not 4c .. they say i am not truly natural and embracing my natural hair because i style it .. they say i don’t love myself because i don’t wear it in a 1970 fro and if not that they try to come for the products I use .. say it flakes it’s hard it’s sticky i cant go in the rain my pillows are soiled and non of that is true and don’t get me started on them talking about “chemicals” 🙄 i could go on and on but i digress
@@TheCocoaClub when I wear the twa the heauxs have something to say about the beat face 😂😂😂 i look better without makeup or it’s bad for your skin 🙄 I been wearing makeup over 30 years and my skin look better than any and every beech that ever said something like that to me 😂 i truly can’t stand these miserable broads .. they need Jesus
When black women were slaves, white women were jealous of their beautiful long hair ,and some would cut off their hair .they hated to see a black woman with her hair out SOME white would just make they cover it up ,so it wouldn't be seen .And to see black women hating on blacks because of her beautiful hair is just shameful. We really need to do better ladies. Stop hating on each other's hair .our Grandparents,,and before them put up with enough of that mess.
My thing is, if ppl can't stand 4c hair so much, then why do they go out of their way to give it so much attention? We literally be minding our own business lol. That's like me being a doctor, and constantly complaining about McDonald's workers. Shouldn't such a person not even care? I guess when they see us getting preferential treatment it gives them cognitive dissonance. I went shopping with my bf at sephora and he gets me whatever I want and when I tell you people can't stop staring.
Lol, if women don't learn by now not to listen or pay attention to other women, women be jealous and it shows. Yall best learn how to care for yalls hair and style it by watching RUclips and social media. Keep folks out your heads
I went natural and grew my hair past my shoulders. I went and got a blow out. This lady burned my hair clean off. I never went back. And Justice was served because a year later her salon shut down. I started over and a few months later I went and got braids. I picked this lady up from HER HOUSE. Dropped her at the salon while I parked my car. She had a stinky attitude once I got in the shop. And proceeded to talk bad about me in her language, not realizing I could understand her. I had been going to this place on and off since I was 14. This lady finished my hair and during the process of burning the ends she was secretly burning the upper parts of the braids where my hair was. I had my glasses off so I did not realize until she got to the front of my hair 😢 I was young and dealing with a lot but I should’ve left as soon as she showed me her nasty attitude. NOW , NO ONE TOUCHES MY HAIR. I see so many people praising stylists who have no integrity. And you can tell because they overcharge and the edges be thinning, ends split and hair not flourishing etc. LADIES if your hair is not thriving with a stylist PLEASE start doing your own hair. If a stylist is not passionate about helping your hair thrive they are not a good stylist and that is negative energy being transferred to you and your hair. Stop supporting these people and letting them touch your hair. I promise you it will force the industry to reform itself and save you a lot of pain.
That is so true , if more women stand up for themselves and protect their hair from these stylists they will have no choice but to change their ways if they want to keep making money 💰 Thanks for sharing your story ❤️
You hit it on the head with this comment. Love it.
Good for you ❤taking a stand
Nope! I do my own hair.
U talking about the Latinos they dirty and jealous want everything black women got, our body our men, they are a hot stankin mess
I can 100% attest to this topic. I have thick long 4b/4c hair that is a dark sandy color. A lot of women thought I had short hair because I keep it in updos like buns. When I wear it out and down women either love it or get really jealous especially if they hear other people complimenting my hair. The shock factor is beyond unreal when people see my hair.
People have asked me to straighten my hair, too. I tell them that's not my cup of tea. I don't like straight hair on me and I don't want to ruin my hair.
No doubt
Pretty hair privilege is real and you’ve just described it ❤ but how annoying is it when people feel like they can tell you what to do with your hair constantly
I'd b happy if they are jealous 😂😂
Length is not necessary for hair jealousy, healthy hair is enough. You speaking length like that gets automatic jealousy like some people can't grow long hair.
Although it is true that short hair can be healthy let's be honest how often do you see women hating on women with short natural hair? It being healthy or not? That is very seldom sis. Very. It is the women with length who get the stares and eye rolling. Not you ear and neck length naturals. And honestly that is considered baldheaded. I am not trying to be rude but it is. Just like relaxed hair that was short and broken off to ear and neck length was considered baldhead so is the case with natural hair. The only difference is texture.
This is why I don't go to hairstylist. I watch youtube tutorials. Hair stylist ain't what they used to be back in the 80s, 90s,and early 2000s. We had good hairstylists back then.
Nah...I had run ins with scissor happy stylists back then too. And over processing my hair until it fell out.
No hairstylists back then were no different, they were scissor happy, & quick to relax or press kinky hair, etc. Millennials were traumatized & brainwashed into hating their hair by the older generations. We said enough is enough. I'm glad to see gen Z enjoying the benefits of their real hair. Minus the wig epidemic.
Another tip: DON’T accept any gifts (products,tools,head wraps etc.) ESPECIALLY products because people put nair,relaxer,bodily fluids in the hair products that they’re gifting to you. DO NOT USE OR ACCEPT IF THE SEAL HAS BEEN BROKEN OR TAMPERED WITH 🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️🙅🏾♂️
This video is so validating. I've often experienced this jealousy from looser haired naturals as they feel like long hair is "their thing" especially when they can tell you're genuinely in love with your texture and how creative we can be with it.
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I don't know if this applies as natural hair jealousy but at my workplace when I first started working there alot of people wanted me to do a scalp test to see if it was real and because I was so hell bent on proving a point one day around lunch time I did and from there they were just so amazed and amused on how I managed to grow 4c type hair that long only one white man believe it was actually real but my fellow black people didn't....so now when people say my hair is a wig I take it as a compliment cause it reaffirms how much effort and work I've put in to give people that illusion
You’ve just described pretty hair privilege and hair jealousy all in one .The fact that you do benefit from a type of pretty privilege has riled these people up to be jealous of you . Thanks for sharing your story 🤍
Scalp test?😂 Whew!
@@msch3891 yep scalp test....they really wanted to see that it grew out of my own scalp some wanted to touch and that's one boundary I don't let anyone cross.....nobody touches my hair except for me or my mom😅😅😅😅
@@cebile1493 🤯🤣 Ooh no. 🙅🏿♀️❌ ❎ ✝️ Sounds like a horror movie.
I let people think my hair is weave because I don't want them trying to touch my hair.
Hair jealousy is real. I remember growing up other blacks would say you need a perm. Your hair is too thick and nappy. Nowadays they be giving those side-eye stares. You just know they are some jealous females. One girl even offered to silk press my hair but I noticed her silk pressed hair is damaged and the hair hardly has any movement. Stiff as a board. Uh no. I will silk press my own hair or go to a trusted, qualified, individual. I dont need your hands in my head. Can't even manage your own hair health.
Omg that is so true , thank you for sharing ❤️!! Many don’t know not to take care of their own hair so it’s bizarre they try take care of other people’s hair 😳 I’ve also gotten those comments about my hair being thick and ‘rough’ but then in the same breath when I do a particular hairstyle they’ll ask me what I did to get my hair so voluminous and bouncy 🙄
Please say that again
@@TheCocoaClubThat how you get it so voluminous part is true. I get that often as well. The answer is to keep your hair healthy in its natural state. Also get the hair silk pressed correctly. Blow dry the wet first to stretch the curls like the professionals do on youtube. Go over no more than twice when straightening. Preferably once if you got it down pact. Use heat protectant. Sometimes it is not that the hair is damaged it is just that the silk pressing method was not done right. Or the right hair products were not used. Healthy kinky hair looks good when silk pressed. Damaged hair looks bad even when straightened. If anything it being straightened shows how damaged it truly is. The hair is limp and stiff and the ends are see through. Also having the wrong people in your head can mess your hair up over time. Everyone does not have prospering, flourishing hands when it comes to hair. Whether intentionally or unntentionally. Some people don't know what they are doing and it shows in their own hair. But want to do yours so bad. Girl bye. Take care of the hair strands you got first then we can talk about if you can do my hair.
When I was in 6th grade I was the only girl in my class that didn’t have a relaxer and I constantly got teased about it so I snuck and relaxed my hair and when I went to school I got a round of applause 🤦🏽♀️ it was so embarrassing. It gave me a complex for several years and I constantly over processed my hair because I felt like it wasn’t straight enough.
@@81redddd Aww babe 😢I hope your hair is better now . Thanks for sharing ❤️
I had to stop the vid mid way to address the feminity comment.
Feminity is not equated with long hair. There are plenty of beautiful women with short hair and they are still feminity.
As a society, we need to stop this nonsense. I love seeing women with long, mid-length, short hair, twa, or bald. It's all about how she carries herself.
Feminity is what you, as a woman, make of it!
when i worked in retail their were always cheap customers that found little things "wrong" with the clothes. "oh theres a stain here can i get a percentage off" "$50? for this basic top". instead of just admitting that their broke ahh couldnt afford it, they resorted to nitpicking the item so we could give them discounts. thats exactly how you have to see these ppl. theyre jealous cheap haters that want to make you lower your worth so they can get a bargain.
Factsssss !!
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I agree, had a hairstylist cut my hair when me and my mum sepcificly said trim. At the time my hair was done my back... since then I've been doing my own hair now.
Now that we have RUclips I've been watching hair tutorials, watching other naturals grow their hair and makes me confident to see that my hair can also regrow.
I don't trust any stylist now.. I'm comfortable to do my own hair for now on. 😊
Bless you for your insight. May heaven protect us from jealous people!
Yes. A lot of people talking about "clipping ends because they are thin" don't understand that layers exist. I grew my natural hair from twa to past bra length in three years without even one trim.
My stylist trims my hair following my natural layers and i love her for that.
Same
Hi, did u have a lot of fairy knots?
Had a jealous lady do cornrow for me cos I was lazy to do it myself and she literally rough handled my hair and i wanted to cry...took my hair 3 months to recover😢...after that i asked my neighbor to braid my hair and she was soooo gentle, she has locks and whenever i made DIYs for my hair i give some to her daughter. Ever since it's her or i do it myself
I can relate. I went to this braider to cornrow my hair, no extensions. Some how half my hair length was gone when I removed them a couple weeks later. My family and friends could not believe what happened to my hair.
@@justme2.030 damn...so sorry that happened. As for me, I took it down that night, I have very sensitive scalp so I couldn't endure.
Sameee, I took mine about 5 days later. 6 months worth of growth gone 🥲
I love a gentle braider 😌
Man I was told by a hairdresser “you need to relax your hair if you want me to keep braiding your hair because I can’t keep breaking my hands just to do your hair” 😂😂😂😂 it was one of the most awkward situations!!
Girl me too 😭 like those exact words
I heard a stylist tell a client to get a relaxer because “natural hair isnt for everyone” smh 🙄
@@Spokentruths725 Just realized how stupid what the stylist said was. Like ma'am, what do you want someone to wear besides the hair they naturally have on their head?
But she's a black hairstylist. She's supposed to style black hair ! How does her statement make sense ?
Lmao…I would have laughed in her face and started looking for certified cosmetologists right in her face
It’s quite unfortunate. It comes from even your own family members. My own mother used to always say that didn’t know how to take care of my daughters hair and that I would make her hair break off. My own sister used to piggyback off of that and say the same thing. My sister would be the one who braided her hair from toddler all the way up to elementary school…reluctantly, because I didn’t know how to braided. My daughters hair never really grew past her neck line while my sister did her hair all those years. When I stopped sending her to my sister to get her hair braided, my daughter hair began growing like weed!! I treated her hair and found someone else to braid it so my mother never saw her actual length. When I finally silk pressed it in junior high school her hair was past her bra. Then now in high school it at the top of her behind. My mother saw her hair and told her to turn around. When she saw the length she didn’t say a word! She quickly switch the subject. The next week she called me and told me that she found a good garlic shampoo that is suppose to help her hair grow and keep it strong from breaking and that she is good to give me the shampoo for my daughter’s hair to help me with her😒. As if I have trouble growing her hair and keeping it healthy. Smh It’s sad and sickening. They really thought AND hoped that her hair would break off but keeping my sister’s hands out off her hair did the total opposite.
You have to be careful about the energy you allow in and around you.
Very sad. Keep your daughters and yourself away from that energy. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
That’s horrible
Honestly if a black woman does not have a decent length of hair on her own I don't listen to them. Family or not. Hush up. A lot of black women don't really even know how to care for their own hair but got so much advice on the next females haircare practices. Talk to me when you are free of bald spots and hair breakage. Until then do not sweat your lips to me about hair care. Get some hair of your own first. I am not talking about women who cut their hair short either. I am talking about these struggle haired women trying to grow hair and cannot.
What got me is when you said your mother saw the length and said nothing. But had the nerve to send you a shampoo saying here is some shampoo to keep her hair from breaking as if you were not taking care of her hair already by having the right hairstylists in her hair. Had that been me I would have said I am good. I don't need the shampoo to keep her hair brom breaking. You see the length. Clearly I know what to do. Where was the acknowledgment for the length achieved? You can tell a hater by the things that they don't say as well as the things that they do. Me I keep people like that away from me. Family or not.
Oh my that’s horrible ☹️ I hope you and your daughter are in a better place place ❤️
Exactly why I just do my own hair. I dust my hair accordingly. No need to cut inches of my entire head.
You shy, you die ladies. I told my hairdresser how to handle my hair and she soon followed suit. I also don't jump from one stylist to another. I prefer to take care of my hair. Your hair, your crown. If you can't handle it you are not allowed to braid it.
I miss 22nd century natural . She deleted her channel. I found her info was so helpful to my thick hair
😳She did? Do you know why?
Wait really?! I love her whyyyyyy😢
She's still on IG.
@chariseh9524 she has a Facebook page but she has a e book on how to take care of natural hair plus her health care products on a new site.
I once had a weird interaction when I was in a queue, running some errands.
These two ladies were RIGHT in front of me talking about my hair. They were having a back and forth on whether it’s real (my 4c was in two pigtail like buns). One was convinced I added extra hair. The other said the pigtails are the same colour as the rest of my hair so it’s all natural.
They finally decided to ask me and one didn’t look too pleased to hear it’s my hair. 😂😂
I’ve had so many stories relating to my hair. One woman said “ I love your hair, it looks so real”. Few minutes later she returned with paper and pen and asked for the brand name.
I went to buy hair to braid my hair. The woman in the shop kept showing me these small packages with very expensive hair. I was confused as to why the packages were so small .she then said if you want it to look like what you’re wearing you will need several packages . That’s when I realized she thought I wearing a weave. She apologized but was clearly embarrassed
My hairdresser complained that my hair took too much time to do and used too much products. He then proceeded to cut my waist length healthy hair to shoulder length . He is now former hairdresser .
Ask them the same thing back.
@@marciareid2482 whaaaatt??
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We need to start looking at it this way: think about how much 12 inches of straight virgin hair is. You can’t even buy 12 inches of virgin 4c hair! I’m not talking about that processed Yaki hair either! Nothing wrong with it yaki/ coily but it’s not the same as the hair growing from your scalp! Your hair is rare and priceless sis!!!😊
Non-black ppl have ALWAYS envied the Royal Coil.
Yes becasue they have lice fur hair like a 🐕 and 🐎.
I'm glad someone said it. It seems like an attack on natural hair. Jealousy and hatred. How do you go to a professional and your hair ends up in worse condition? They always want to push getting a relaxer or straightened so it can be prettier. 🙄🤮
I've experienced it, I just never really realized what it was until now. I learned a long time ago how to do my own hair. I believe in people transferring energy. I don't want no negativity near my strands. I'm also very particular about the words I use to describe my hair. I will never call my hair "hard to manage" or things like that. You gotta breathe life into the things you love, your hair included. 🤗💕✨️
Great video!!!
Thank you love ❤️ Very well said , we need to verbally and physically nurture our hair . Also, I do think more women need to learn how to do their own hair to avoid going through these bad experiences .
Your right. I have natural thick hair and I heard from a licensed stylist a number of times how I should relax it, dye it, texlax it to make my hair more manageable. Even when I went to her to relax it it still took her hours to do my hair. She told my sister that she hated 4c hair and not every one can have good hair.
@@Serenityblu23wow! Thats insane! I hope you no longer let her do your hair
@@heavenly894 I stopped going years before my sister did. She was pushy and always trying to get me to buy her products. her shopped closed down and another salon was in the same shopping center. I was shocked to see her working there so I never went back there. After my sister's hair was styled wrong my sister stopped going as well. thankfully the stylist left that salon and works someone else. the stylist still leaves texts to my sister about her needing to come in to get her hair done. my sister never replies back though
THIS!!❤❤❤❤ SAME!!
I haven’t been to a salon in 15 years i cut my own, i learned how to do every style i want.. hair to my hips now. I’ve learned the longer hair is the more manageable it is because it’s more heavy so it doesn’t curl up tight.
I can relate. Ive cut my hair 3 times to neck length in the span of 10 years because of this. Now I dont let anyone touch my hair. My hair is back to bra strap length now and i take no ones advice on my hair, even loved ones lol
❤Good for you. 👏🏿👏🏿💯💯
My 4c hair goes to the middle of my back, it’s pretty long, and I worked very hard growing it. I’ve had girls pull my hair or think I’m better than them. I remember I was told I was lying about my ethnicity 😂 black women with 4c hair can have long hair. Just because a lot of us don’t straighten it, doesn’t mean it’s short. I went 7 years heat free, and 9 years perm free and my hair made a beautiful, healthy return!
❤❤❤❤❤ Love this sis!
I prefer the term Pure Blk Women. Calling us (Un)ambiguous implies that we’re missing something as opposed to us being complete and rich with beauty.
Our identity is whole.
I think maybe you are just giving more value to the word ambiguous than what it is. Words like unmatched , unbiased, uncommon do not automatically have a negative connotation either as he important thing is the literal meaning. I don't mind "pure" but I can see the rest of society throwing it back in our faces all the time and I don't mind unambiguous bc it literally means no confusion (about my identity)
“Unambiguous” is commonly used. I agree with the comment that it doesn’t have a negative connotation. It simply denotes that the woman is not mixed and/or has more Negroid/Afrikan features. No guessing or confusion.
because what makes it “pure”? i don’t have a single white family member that i’ve ever seen and i’ve met all my great & great-great relatives, they’re all black. i have lighter skin & hazel eyes but when people ask me “what are you mixed with?” i say, “just black for all i know.” i try to educate them that we really can look “different” & still be just as black.
i agree with hating the terms though because if someone called me an “ambiguous looking black woman” i’m just gonna look at them stupid.. i don’t really feel the need to be further categorized & separated from other black people as i already do. in the words of jay-z “still n*gga”.
"Pure" is problematic because it implies that racially ambiguous people are impure (unpure).
I love my hair I’m thicken it up right now. I’m sorry I ever tried to straighten her with relaxers n cover her with weaves constantly. I was trying to fit in.
Thanks for sharing!!❤ However, you choose to do your hair make sure that it’s your choice of styling and embrace your natural beauty
She forgave you.
I’ve dealt with this from my own friends and white bald men.
Unfortunately I had a stylist rip out a lot of my hair during the blow dry process. She was in a rush to get me done. Then I told her I didn’t want it straightened. She straightened it anyway. I told her I didn’t want layers. She layered it anyway. I asked her for a trim. I just wanted a clean blunt cut straight across. It was uneven. What’s crazy is even though it looked nice, my hair was super thin from being ripped out from the blow dry process. My hair wasn’t super healthy at the time to begin with, but it was worse after. I don’t wear it straight often or hardly at all and I more so just needed the cut to start fresh cause I had a lot of breakage. I am thankful however I didn’t have any heat damage from the experience. But my hair was so thin from being ripped out during the blow dry process. I would say it took almost 3 years to this date for my hair to recover.
Since then, no one else has touched my hair 😂. Your video just explained exactly what happened. The compliments, being in a hurry, being rough, the suggesting I trim it, all of it! I’m grateful my hair has recovered, thriving, and not letting anyone else touch it ever again.
Thank you for shedding light on this subject. This is something that’s not talked about much!
Exactly! This is why I only let my sister, cousin and sister in law do my hair. They are professionals.
My mom had the same experience with a beautician. She cut a BUNCH OF my mom’s hair under the guise of giving her a trim!
Thank you for sharing your experience and I’m glad you’re in a better place ❤️
Talk about the conspicuous staring 👀
When I was younger, a girl always said that my hair was always stale even if it was a new hairstyle she always criticized my hair. Now I get that, I understood that she was always jealous of my hair.
So True! I Love My TexturedMassive Cloud and BSL silk pressed Natural Hair up against My Super soft Deep Cocoa Complexion!
I had a black lady with short hair that was jealous of my hair and I let her do my hair and she purposely messed up my hair had me looking like I been in a fight. Never again will I do that.
I give positive compliments also encouraging words, it come back right back to my hair,my hair is waist Ienght
Is it real. Black ladies, every minute invested in learning how to do your own hair is worth it! I have 3c/4a type hair and never never went to salons. Love my curls and will protect them ❤
True, I totally agree with you I’m 2C front 3A back. I love being wash and go. I found videos doing the Plop method and it works for me. I only go to a colorist every 6 weeks to dye and maintain my blonde. Black ladies can be blonde or any color and not have breakage it may cost $$$ but it’s your hair so it’s worth it.
Facts, people really can be jealous of anything. I've taken a lot of heat over the years because my hair grows... Usually from people who keep ruining their hair with creamy crack, chemicals, toxins and bad procedures. They mad at me because they can't make the connection between what they do to destroy their natural hair and the fact that it doesn't grow.
Yes girl. Lets get this video trending
I don't know if anyone has ever experienced this...strangers or people whom I do not know very well, seeming to come in very close proximity to me in general and to my hair. I have long, and full natural hair. On the rare occasions I have worn it in a pony tail in public, I have had to wrap it into a bun for fear of some random person attempting to touch, yank, cut or pray something strange over my hair. The fascination to lunatic levels of interest so baffling and scary.
I actually have been experiencing this noticeably within the last year. I have full microlocs that are now past my shoulders ( 4 years loc'd in September). Glad to know I'm not imagining that. It happens whenever I'm in public, crowded locale or not: people veering out of their way to come too close to me, generally. No matter if I try to position myself out of the way. It's annoying and interesting.
The power of your hair! It's really disturbing. People and bw think bw can't have beautiful hair. When you love what you have people hate it even more.
@@kaorieknighth9161 Been noticing the same thing. I have sisterlocks now (not in my profile pic lol) just below my bra strap and I've noticed this too. People get really close to just to try and examine if my hair is real or not. I'm really getting tired of the stares. I've even contemplated cutting my hair because of this.
I honestly don’t care with jealousy. It’s not my business to care about what someone else thinks or says about me or my hair.
I don't trust anybody to touch my locs!!! I started them and so it shall be!
I started my hair growth journey around 19, and my mom started it with me because she saw how long my hair got, and she was used to cutting hers because she love short hairstyles, but she decided to grow her natural hair. It grew nice and long! So she decided to straighten it I told her mom do not let them cut your hair ! Or trim it ! I will trim it for u! My mom said okay, when she got in the chair she got a blow out and they convinced her she needs to trim it, I said no ! And my mom shooed me away! This lady cut off about 4 inches and would have cut more of my mom didn’t speak up! The weird thing is after that lady cut my mom’s hair it neverrrrr grew back ! We are wondering why!
Not to scare you, but some people are into witch craft. I would advice you and your mother to start praying over her hair daily. That may be the reason why her hair isn’t growing 😢
Whew! Where to begin?
Thank you for this video. The advice is true.
I have had the looks, the compliment bombing you spoke of and the questions from multiple people “Is that your real hair?”
I’m grateful that I am finally learning how to love my hair and features.
Ask the same back to them.
I had a cousin who braided my hair so tight my scalp started bleeding then she got mad at me for crying I was a minor and she’s a year older she would always tell people I was wearing wigs even when it was my own natural hair,now as a adult I have a permanent bald spot I’m embarrassed of
The hair follicles have been damaged from where your cousin pulled. You need to awaken those hair follicles to start the hair growth production. Buy a scalp massager and get some oil. Preferably Rosemary Oil. Apply the Rosemary Oil and massage for about a good 5 minutes. It will take some time to see results but it will start to grow again.They say wash the oil out after. I use Mielle's Peppermint Oil after and don't shampoo out.
That is absolutely horrid 😮 we really need to watch out for everyone including family members . Perhaps look into oils like @gmcmim1 has suggested that increase hair growth and do some scalp massages to get the blood circulating in that spot .
@@gmcmim1yes do this !!!
I’m sorry that happened try Alma oil it brought mine back
Try eating sea moss and do try applying sea buckthorn oils to your scalp. It’s helping my hair grow among other wonderful things.
My hair isn’t natural. I cut and permed it and it’s in a terrible state. Not really sure what to do with it. But I adore big natural hairstyles. I’m sorry y’all go through ppl being jealous of your hair❤❤❤
I’m sorry that happened to you
I hope your hair grows back and you recover
Don't let it get you down, even if it takes some time you can get your hair back to a healthy state 💓
I just wrote about this. Unambiguous bw are so beautiful with their gorgeous hair. I've learned that they get the jealousy from light skin blw. My mom had relatives that said her hair was wasted on an ugly girl because she wasn't light skin.
i wouldn’t necessarily say they get their jealousy from light skin women, because we face textorism too. i’m a lighter complexioned black woman & my 4c hair was never something i was bullied for. it was the only “relatable” physical attribute i had that resembled my bullies. but my little sister who is a slightly darker brown skinned girl (meagan good’s complexion) with 4a hair, was praised for it by the same older girls i was picked on by. telling me she was “too pretty to be my sister”. while also telling me i “thought i was better than them” while also turning down any kind of friendship or games i wanted to play. to the point they were huddling outside with adults, banging on my great-aunt’s door, begging for me to be let outside just to fight them because i’d go in the house when i realized the group of girls were going to pick a fight no matter what i said or did.
i hate the stigma that light skin women are these villians. i’ve always found unambiguous bw to be beautiful but i never experienced the same appreciation within the black community from my sisters until i was an adult & now people will compliment my locs.
but that same great-aunt was darkskin & would also sometimes call my little sister and i “dirty red girls”. so it was weird seeing how she wasn’t passable for criticism to an older generation but in ours, her beauty was marveled.
@jalaaaah super sad story. I'm so sorry you went through that. No matter our complexions, bw need to let the Colorism go. It's hurtful on both sides.
@@MAROBI333 i appreciate your compassion & i agree 1000%; i hate that your mother was even subjected to that kind of ignorance due to european beauty standards being forced upon poc. we truly have to get better at loving & accepting others despite our indifferences, we’re all human under the same God at the end of the day & God doesn’t make mistakes.
@@jalaaaah Absolutely 💯 Wise words for sure. Thank you. ❤️
All of us black women are beautiful. We come in different shades. From my personal experience, dark-skinned women can often project their insecurities about how they feel about their own skin tone onto light skinned bw.
I have skin of a lighter hue and was often was bullied by women in my family with skin of a darker hue. They would obsessively talk about skin color and had a festistic fixation with my skin tone. Going as far to make snarky comments about the legitamacy of my African heritage, tell me i'm not dark enough to be considered black, call me derogatory names like house slave, bedwench, light bright, mutt, recessive gene carrier, etc. Let's take time to acknowledge that dark-skinned people are often willful participants in colorism themselves. I'm not going to be shamed into not loving my golden olive skin tone or the admiration I get because of it. We are all reflections of each other. Dark skin or not.
I am big and grown and two months ago my cousin just braided my hair and pulled it way too tight. It didn’t hurt while she was braiding it, but it was hurting so much. I had sores in my head for weeks! My scalp is JUST healing. She is always commenting that my hair is so thick and growing long. I am just letting it grow natural without a perm now. She is nearly bald, and so is her daughter but I didn’t think she would do that to me. Iwas paying her decent money. This hurt me so much because I was so good to her, and she is my family.
That sounds so horrible , so said you had to go through that ❤️ Perhaps learning to do your own hair or going to someone else who can vet throughly can help. Also , never apologise for your natural hair being thick and long or whatever state it’s in. It is your hair and it deserves to be well taken care of.
@@TheCocoaClub thank you for saying this. I never learned to braid and these braiders here charge $400 and try to up charge for my thick hair. I guess I was trying to be thrifty.
It will soon be a year since my last perm. That is why I used to perm my hair, because I could do it myself.
I know that, that cousin will never touch my hair again. I stay away from people who can’t wish me well because I stay cheering for my black sisters.
BTW hearty congratulations on your channel. Your content is creating the most beautiful kind of community. God bless you 🪮💕
If she did it to herself, and her own flesh and blood expect the same when it comes to you. That's just the name of the game
I am gonna be honest. A lot of black women dont know how to care for their hair without breaking it off. So don't expect them to care for yours. Family or not. Learn to care for your own hair or go to a trusted individual. Them being family or not. There is a saying that blacks know how to style some hair. That may be true but how many know how to manage hair? Braids is not managing the hair if your hair is falling out after you take them out or is still the same length after years of getting braids. What are they not doing? What are you not doing? Don't get too caught up in who can style some hair. Who can manage some hair. Maintenance is everything. I am not saying do not adore or appreciate hairstyles at all. Styles mean nothing if your hair is falling out. Black folks love to talk about how diverse their hairstyles are compared to other racial groups which is a lie. They have a different vast of hairstyles that they wear. All humans have diversity. But not all have the maintenance skills to keep their hair on their head. And that is where the care for your hair comes in to play.
You guys have beautiful hair. Any type beautiful hair can breed jealousy.
This topic is real! Women need to stop because you literally can’t isht what other people eat. The only person you can compete with is yourself. Be better than you were yesterday. It’s a win win situation.
I have hated my hair all these years since i was a kid , so i always relaxed it i was able to grow it up to shoulder length. My hair was damaged so Last year November i cut my hair and decuded to start over and go natural so maybe im a bad person for admitting that i do get jealous when i see black woman with long 4c hair bcz i don't know if I myself could ever achieve it😢
You’re already on the right path by accepting and acknowledging your feelings . Jealousy is an emotion that everyone experiences, the way in which you deal with that jealousy is what truly matters. If you use your jealousy to hate and degrade other people, you’re negatively using it. To use it in a positive way , you can use the emotion to motivate you to take care of your natural hair to the best of your ability so it can become long too ❤️
This channel is growing like crazy🌱🌱🌱. I'm here for it!
Thank you 🤩 ❤️
Went to this beauty parlour, they totally gutted my eyebrows. Freaking hated it
Dont trust folks with my hair. I've been through too much
If you have long natural hair clip your own ends. I've heard too many horror stories of hair stylists cutting off to much length. I clip my own ends every couple of months.
HEALTHLY TYPE 4 HAIR IS THE PRETTIEST HAIR TYPE TO ME NOTHINGGGGGG LIKE TYPE 4 HAIR AFRO HAIR
This is true,
Happen to me and hair haven't grew back. By a hairstylist!
So sad 😢 I hope things get better❤
Carrier oil plus peppermint and rosemary in equal parts. Massage your head your follicles will be revived. These stylists are haters mehn
She probably had cursed hands. Pray over your head/hair ❤
I watched this video a couple of weeks ago, and I felt it might have been a bit of a reach. I started wearing my natural hair straight since then and I've had friends telling I need to put my hair braids, like I usually do. I found it strange because I rarely wear my hair straight. These are the same friends that wear straight units when we're going out or have special events, so I thought they would like my long straight natural hair. I don't even think the hair is the issue, because I get attention with my hair with in any style. I'm starting to realize that other blk wm put themselves on a pedestal, because the maybe couple shades lighter than me and conform to western beauty standards. I think when I wear straight hair and conform to the same beauty standards they follow, and outshine them they get jealous. There's no pleasing people. I'm starting to understand the importance of not playing down my beauty for anyone.
Thank you for sharing your experience . Unfortunately, even those close to us may end up feeling threatened when they see a positive change in us and the word reacts positively back to us . Never downplay your beauty.
One reason why I do my own hair I went to a salon in my 20s because Rihanna was rocking that tapered look from that UMBRELLA album. The lady cut off almost all my hair. NEVER AGAIN.
I’ve learned to do my own 3c hair. It’s never been healthier ❤️.
It’s bad enough people try and touch my hair to see if it’s REAL like one lady said.
That’s the other thing I’m tired of trying to prove my hair is naturally curly it’s like it’s against the law for a woman of my complexion a BLACK woman to have naturally curly hair… get over it
My hair is my own all the more reason why I NEED TO PROTECT IT ❤️
I've been natural for a very long time I wore locs for a very long time and they were past my thighs. The assumption that the weight of my extremely long locs began my excruciating neck pain I began to have and caused me to chop off my locs in the hope of finding relief.... The pain never ceased and my beautiful locs, which I still have today, sits in a large bag waiting yo one dat be reattached to my hair. But I have found what makes my hair grow and turned out to be the very same method that was used to grow my locs. I never put any tension on my scalp, after every wash, I deep condition it with a moisturizing hair mask for 30 mins under a steam cap, then rinse. U then add lots of leave in conditioner and argon oil and very loosely start a braid then quickly turn it into juicy twists. I oil my scalp with Jamaican black castor oil with Rosemary and massage my scalp as needed. I don't do anything else to my hair and I wash it every 1-2 months according to how I feel and my hair is growing at the same exact rate as my locs did when I had them... at this rate I will be natural for the rest of my life and I'm so proud of my crown... The photos of all th!!ese beautiful black women with all that gorgeous natural hair makes me so proud of my hair.
Yes people will complain. That is in recent videos I uploaded I offer tips and to be sure to say that natural hair is beautiful.
White people was hating on Beyonce hair in the Cecred video lol.
These girls were telling me to relax my hair because I was heat training😂 my hair was waist length and straight.
yes- I am jealous but not in a bad way its just what I want for myself- but I am never part of the stupid people who are like her hair is FAKE its a wig!!! no one can have that much hair etc.
If you use that emotion of jealousy to motivate you to reach your hair goals , you’re actually being productive in a positive way ❤️
A girl was ripping my hair apart while detangling my dreds. She didn't get far when i yelled, "are u crazy?" She then said I'm tinder headed. I was like if u mean i can feel when hair is ripped out my scalp, then yeah! Others in the shop then agreed that i have extremely dense hair and they don't like doing it basically. Only two other customers out of hubdreds had my density. So its been 12 yrs since anyone has retwisted my locs. I've also never lost a loc either. Be careful out there ❤
Very insightful video!
My hair is bra strap length and the stylist I was going to always gave me so many compliments. Last October she ruined my hair and i loathe clumps while getting a simple silk press. I was going to big chop but decided to just do protective styles and try to grow it back in full and slowly trim. I’ll do my own trims now and no longer do silk press again
I’m glad I found this article..I wore a relaxer for years I never appreciated my curls and now I do the jealousy is astounding on the rare occasion I go to a salon I go to a white owned that specializes in curly hair.
My hair wasnt even long but it was blonde and coily and i wouldnt hear the end of "is that your hair" it was mind boggling. I recently shaved my head and am back to the twa stage already so im not looking forward to the comments
A hair stylist braiding my hair with her hands still wet with hair dye. Needless to say, my hair broke and fell out. It took me a year to regrow it. I am never going back to Sarrie Hair in Camberwell
Oh my goodness I live your beautiful 4c hair like mine. But mine isn't so thick.
The jealousy is REAL! when other women of African descent or other women in general see my hair once it’s straighten (cause I normally wear wigs) i get the most weird a** back handed compliments 😂😂😂😂 haters!
I think my is in the 4s, more like from 3a to 3c. However, the longer it gets, the straighter it gets.
I put gel braids and then mousse my edges are bone straight like a relaxer. The back is a nice wave. Different textures throughout. Nobody ever guesses where I am from.
Yes, there is length jealousy, texture jealousy, and just plain jealousy of your essence and energy, I've experienced it but not by the hand of a stylist thank goodness. I once had a coworker come right out and say to me, that the only reason men even look at me is because of my hair.
So true, if you don't want to cut it ,don't be pressured by NoOne to cut your hair. Jealous is real ladies .that's why I do my own hair.i had to set backs because I was still learning how to care for my hair,it's no way I will allow a none caring person to chop inches after all that hard work. I'm 23 inches now ,and loving it ❤. Be careful ladies.
👍Excellent video production here!
My hair was down to my butt before. I tell the truth by accepting Jesus Christ as my personal savior. I jealous nobody hair I say that with all my heart and soul. Upon Jesus Christ dying for my sins. I always had long hair growing up as a baby. If you do not believe me you are hater.
I don’t think anyones hating on you tbh
@@reginakc I did not say anybody was hating on my hair. I said if they do not believe that I have long hair before. Then they are a hater. You misunderstood me. In the past females told me they were jealous of my long hair. This girl in my classroom had a bald head and she was jealous of my hair. So she conspired with this guy in my classroom to cut my hair. And he cut my hair with the scissors in the art room. So my mother came up to the school and reported this. And he got expelled from school for cutting my hair. Then he came back to fight me. But then I had moved to Long Island and the children in long island had just seen me when my hair was cut. So do not judge me. What you do not know about me.
As a stylist, and a believer working in a Christian salon where we take our time, enjoying our work with care, I relate. I understand that it can be hard to come by in today’s world.
No.
And you sound crazy
I’ve experienced this from uabw and white women.. but I don’t see the point in more division
It’s not about causing division, it’s about talking about our experiences and finding ways to overcome them .
Unfortunately there are a lot of mixed and exotical pages that do this but you haven’t gone there to tell them to not divide us( and they specifically always speak to uabw and never other groups of women)
At least this page doesn’t dump on other groups of women unlike those pages
@@DidyW actually I did go to those pages and let them know the division was pointless and that the obsession with dark skinned women is almost comical. At first I tried reasoning with them but then I noticed Those type of pages depend on us for their self esteem to make them feel superior to something. That’s why I blocked them all from my timeline. I’d rather starve them of money, views, attention, and another dark skinned woman to attempt to feel superior over. Chrissie has a point. They need us. Why give them what they need. Ever notice they don’t have many views and subscribers? Why help their movement when they talk the way they do about us? Fuck them as far as I’m concerned. Let them have their space in peace.
@@DidyW and when I said cause division… I meant amongst uabw.. In my eyes dark skin women need to uplift each other vs throw shade like this. Yeah I experienced it. I have bra strap length natural hair. A lot of black women haven’t found a way to grow it that long yet and they wish it was my length or longer. I just want us to stay on code 🤷🏾♀️
So many white women get so nasty once they see my real hair. Even if their hair longer, they can't stand how thick and shiny my hair looks
Noticed these salon be jealous and they always over cut when my hair is thriving...now I do my hair myself and only go to salon when it's for braiding definitely no cutting
About the compliments, that is very true a person that over compliments you know right off the bat that they're jealous. That's the reason why I'm around women or come across women that brags about how magnificently beautiful I am I take it with a grain of salt and don't believe them. But I on the other hand, I LOVE giving women compliments. That is actually part of my ministry that I actually have adopted to make women feel beautiful, but I know people do it for different reasons and everybody doesn't think like I do.
A lot of black women are anemic because of fibroid, they are stressed out at work dealing with micoagression nonsense, they don't eat well and exercise enough becausetheyre taking care of everyone else, and often engage in not the best hair care practices. All these things affect hair health. We need to take better care of ourselves and every black woman can grow their hair to their genetic hair ceiling whatever that is and have healthy long hair. We are dealing with a lot out here and people need to have some grace. Also in general this video is just weird
Those are important factors that need to be considered and that’s why I said before taking someone’s advice on your hair make sure the advice is coming from a place of love and education❤️
Yesss thank you I felt the video in general the topic is weird I’m tired of us talkin about our hair n other bw hair it’s weird it’s jus hair let to each it’s own why are we our hair??? Stop talkin about hair There’s more to talk about and advance in with the black community as women instead of Hair
Most blk girls aren’t trying to take care of themselves that’s why. The excuses are not specific to blk girls.
And fibroids and cyst are an estrogen issue due to diet and hormones with can happen the anyone. You aren’t doing anything special just try harder
@@jennifercooljeo6552 we don’t know specifically what causes fibroids. Some are driven by estrogen likely as they have receptors some are estrogen null. It is absolutely true that fibroids are way way way more common in black and Asian women vs white women. These are facts. There is objective data on this. Little study has been done on how and when and why fibroids form in certain groups - which is a shame- but we do see familial trends so there is likely also a genetic component. As yes they can cause excessive bleeding and yes that can make you severely iron deficient anemic and yes that can cause hair thinning/loss of density.
I heard that all split ends can be reversed without trimming.. has anyone else heard this??
I did too but I thought my old stylist was just scared to trim my hair (kitchen stylist we were both 19/20 years old) she constructed tf outta wigs tho and her hair was always healthy and long during and after our high school days so i always trusted her with her hands in my head but I kinda let the bias in when she said that and I never heard any other older more experienced stylist say those words I thought she was bluffin but to answer your question i have heard that before. Hope it helps.
As time went on I was tired of the unevenness so I just resorted back to trimming
BLACK WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL ❤
i’m not unambiguous at all clearly black and my hair is not long at all it’s very short and these heauxs are super jealous of my hair 😂
they say i have a perm and i have never had a perm and i haven’t relaxed my hair is over a DECADE!
they say im not 4c .. they say i am not truly natural and embracing my natural hair because i style it .. they say i don’t love myself because i don’t wear it in a 1970 fro
and if not that they try to come for the products I use .. say it flakes it’s hard it’s sticky i cant go in the rain my pillows are soiled and non of that is true
and don’t get me started on them talking about “chemicals” 🙄 i could go on and on but i digress
Honestly, it’s crazy the mental gymnastics they go through 😂😂
@@TheCocoaClub when I wear the twa the heauxs have something to say about the beat face 😂😂😂 i look better without makeup or it’s bad for your skin 🙄
I been wearing makeup over 30 years and my skin look better than any and every beech that ever said something like that to me 😂
i truly can’t stand these miserable broads .. they need Jesus
When black women were slaves, white women were jealous of their beautiful long hair ,and some would cut off their hair .they hated to see a black woman with her hair out SOME white would just make they cover it up ,so it wouldn't be seen .And to see black women hating on blacks because of her beautiful hair is just shameful. We really need to do better ladies. Stop hating on each other's hair .our Grandparents,,and before them put up with enough of that mess.
Is the voice over in this video natural or computer generated?
My voice with an added voice effect ❤️
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My thing is, if ppl can't stand 4c hair so much, then why do they go out of their way to give it so much attention? We literally be minding our own business lol. That's like me being a doctor, and constantly complaining about McDonald's workers. Shouldn't such a person not even care? I guess when they see us getting preferential treatment it gives them cognitive dissonance. I went shopping with my bf at sephora and he gets me whatever I want and when I tell you people can't stop staring.
Lol, if women don't learn by now not to listen or pay attention to other women, women be jealous and it shows. Yall best learn how to care for yalls hair and style it by watching RUclips and social media. Keep folks out your heads
*Reverse Hair Texturism ....here we go*
You sound Australian
You are very helpful and informative 🤡🤯🤨. Keep up the amazing 🥲 work . 😎