My mother would have taken her secret to the grave with numerous family members lying for her. Finding out rocked my entire world. But it explained why the man who she is married to treated me horribly all my life.
@angeliquesmith7380 That strikes a chord with me . . . unless I misread. Raised by a step-parent who swore up & down he "loved me like I was his own." Growing up with 3 half-siblings that were "his own," it sure didn't feel that way to me. Friends of the family would say what a great guy he was to accept me & raise me. OH REALLY? Grrr...
Nine red-haired, blue-eyed kids! Blue eyes from our mother and red hair from our father. We all resemble our father to a degree as well as our mother-93% British Isles and 7% Nordic.
The first thing I did was setup a familiy tree to verify through matches if I am really related to my ancestors. I still have 3 GG Grandparents that I haven't verified.
Almost identical to my story, except my bio dad was an old friend of my mom's family. He visited us several times when I was small, and I had an unexplainable love for this man my whole life. When mom became ill she had me contact him and he came to visit her several times in the hospital. After she passed we stayed in touch by phone, and he came to take me out for lunch once. He called me one night and told me he had an abdominal aneurysm and had to go for surgery. He said he just wanted to tell me he loved me. I went to visit him in the hospital and he died the next day. He was 79 and I was 34. On May 6th of this year I found out through Ancestry, at 69 yrs old, that he was my father. I gained 2 half sisters and 1 half brother who have lovingly accepted me. I also realized that the brother I was raised with (11 months older than me) was probably my half brother. I'll never know that for sure because he passed in 2008. My mom's husband was a hard man to live with. He treated us all pretty badly. We never had a bond, and he's been gone since 2006. I'm so happy that my half siblings have accepted me, but extremely sad that I found out after our dad passed. I have no doubt that he knew I was his child. I have no anger toward anyone.
I always knew I was adopted by my dad but never knew my birth father. Took a DNA test and a first cousin came up. I contacted him and he tells me I have two sisters and a brother. I'm 72. Wish I'd have known them sooner. They knew nothing about me.
My story is similar, I found a half brother and knew I had 3 half sisters, but, I can't find their names since the persons with the connection dna don't want to communicate.
There was 5 of us kids in the house with with who we thought was our parents only 2 of us are actually my father's children. My mother had a lifelong affair with another man another man 18 years her senior it was her senior and she had 3 of his kids. Thankfully I am my father's others child because because I knew about that man and he was quite the scoundrel. My father died 26 years before my mother and she never told her kids There was always something wrong with her always knew it from the 1st. She hated me from the 1st that was just something about me that clashed with her and I truly grew up as Cinderella. But God's fixing all that and and I have my own family now and happier than Bliss
I have a friend who just found out he has a daughter he never knew about. Talk about a shock! It cost him his marriage because his eldest child is older than the new found daughter.
My ex girlfriend wanted to take this secret to the grave, but I uncovered her secret she gave birth to my baby 22yrs ago. Thanks for sharing excellent video.
My parents went to their graves with their secret also. I found out last year that I'm only half sibling to my other siblings. Any way my dad didn't treat me any different from his bio children
Did your father know that you weren't his biological child? They should have told you and your mother should have told her husband also. This is why I think all children should be tested at birth to see who their biological children are.
My dear friend learned last year that the man she was told was her father was not. Her mother's still living and completely denies the truth. My friend learned her bio father is still alive, had his DNA tested but also refuses to acknowledge her and her twin. Her only blessing is that her adopted father was a good man that actually was willing to be a parent...
@@nahalymtl9445 In my experience, it's a fine line. Most will say my step-father was such a saint for accepting me & raising me as his own. It didn't always feel that way. I was raised with 3 siblings that were his own, so the comparison I can make is valid.
This is currently happening to me, my parents are still alive. My dad is 50% Asian and I’m blonde haired and blue eyed. I mentioned a few weeks ago that I started Ancestry.com and they finally came clean that my mom had an affair 31 years ago, before I was born, obviously. I’m waiting for the kits to come so I can start the cycle. But thanks for the video!
It sounds like your father knew, though. While it was wrong of your mother to cheat, at least your father found out about it and was able to make his own decision about staying or not.
I’m adopted, I found my bio mom and she’s 82 and her kids didn’t know about me. It has been quite the journey.It has given me a whole new outlook on my life.I wished it had happened sooner, I just turned 60.But all 7 half siblings are alive(4 on my bio mom’s side and 3 on my bio fathers side. I probably won’t meet my bio dad because my half siblings think it will be too much for his health to handle. But other than that , it has been a very positive experience and I feel very blessed to have found where I came from after all these years. And now I have all of my family to get to know and love. I am ecstatic 🥰
I asked my parents if there were any secrets that I need to know about before I took my ancestry test. My parents have been together 50 years, but I know my dad had a lot of fun before they were married, so I am still waiting for half siblings to pop up.
The dad that raised me was so loving and that is my calm. He is now deceased. My mom 85. Me 65. My mom angrily says ...Can't make me tell. I still love her. 65 years made me a very forgiving woman.
My mom passed last year, she took the secret to her grave that my father was not my biological father. My step father is my biological father and she didn’t marry him until I was 15, now 63. Coming out of shock, please take the DNA, my regret is that I can’t ask her questions 😢 So sad, but I have good memories of my biological father.❤️
I did a DNA test and found out that my siblings are in fact my half siblings. Hmm, my mother tried to tell me this when I was in my early twenties but I didn't want to hear it. Now at 55 knowing that I have my biological father out there, I find that I do not want to contact him. To no avail I cannot contact him because he died sometime ago. I did manage to find his daughter on Facebook but I don't to contact her. I don't want to disrupt her life with this news and ruin any memory of " dad". So I alone deal with anger, disappointment, sadness and curiosity all at the same time. I love my dad, the INE who raised me and ill never tell him. He will be 92 this September. Ill just let sleeping dogs lye there.
My friend just found out that his father wasn't his father..his mother has passed to ask....his stepfather has passed...the brother he thought turns out was only his 1/2 brother too has passed. He contacts his real father to find out he has passed...his new found 2 half sisters have passed... Leaving him with no answers. He is 75 years old. That sucks. These sights were for peopke to find out their heritage...but instead it is crushing many peoples lives.
A similar thing happened to a close friend of mine. At 57 years of age, she found out that the man who she thought was her father was not. Her mother had abandoned her when she was a baby, and her 'father's ' mother had raised her.
Ancestry started DNA testing in 2012. I can imagine 2012 was THE WORST year of their lives for a lot of women who have been living with this same secret. I bet the divorce rate has gone up since then also.
With this new biology DNA testing.. Laws need to change.. people should all have a human rights to know who there biological parents are.. we should be able to sue for paternal results regardless of age..
My father is not my father. I'm Jamaican and I thought my father was a beautiful tall, dark-skinned Jamaican of African descent. After DNA it was uncovered that my father is a short, mostly European man which finally explained the light skin and freckles that I've struggled with understanding my entire life.
The parents may never have known for sure. The official father may have not known at all, and the mother may never have been sure. If she had relations with two men in the same general timeframe, how would she have known for sure?
You could substitute your scenario with people who commited serious crimes and were never linked to the scene and got away with it and took it to their grave, meanwhile another innocent person was convicted for the crime and sat in prison their entire lives. I for one, and VERY glad for the work done on DNA sequencing. It might not have a happy ending for paternity/maternity stories, but using DNA was a much needed tool in crime and punishment.
@@greywolf7577 that wasn't even possible until the late 90s though. Most of the people finding this stuff out now are much older than the millennial generation.
secrets secrets secrets !! I keep saying it & I'll say it til I go to my grave, get a DNA test done before you get married ! You want to be sure you are not marrying your father, mother, brother, sister aunts & uncles..it's a big 🌎 and small world, after 25 yrs genealogy researching I have found many tress that did NOT fork
We learned my husbands Aunts father was not the man who raised her with her sibs. Herself and her brother and sister all took DNA tests and she was only half sibling to them. She got hits on her DNA matches that showed who her real father was. 😱😱😱😱
I learned via Ancestry that my dad was not my bio father. I was 74 years old and all parents were dead, but I did some research with some first cousins and learned I had 3 brothers, but only one was living. I found him and took a DNA test for him to take, and he did, but when I saw him we both knew the truth, we looked like siblings. Not denying it, but he took the test to prove it. I have a whole new family history, leading back to a French Canadian and a girl from an orphanage in Paris, France, who met in Mobile in 1704 and married. The story is told also in the book "Old Mobile". Glad I didn't know the truth until after all were dead.
In my genealogy research I’ve found this situation several times within the two sides of the family. It’s not like this is the first generation where people were horsing around, it’s just the first generation that’s had the dna tool to prove it. Having said that, I am fortunate enough that in all my family’s cases, all the misbehavers! Are dead, so we can just enjoy our new family members.
I am a victim of paternal fraud. But I am the biological father who was denied my daughter. She is 25 years old now. The genealogy site 23 and me as well as social media have uncovered the truth. My cousin recently did 23 and me and it came back with a match of a young woman whom is the daughter of a girl i dated decades ago. I have reached out on social media,Spoke with her mother and although she acknowledges me now as her father,I have yet to meet my daughter nor do i feel very confident that day will come. My family are also victims and above all my daughter was the biggest victim of everyone being denied my loving and supportive family.There are no laws in place to protect the men in this situation and hold the women accountable.
When my dad died, (suddenly, 30 years ago) my aunt told me that he had been married prior and had a wife and daughter. Gave me the wife's married name at that time and name of the daughter. I'd known nothing about them at all, my mom knew he'd been married. but not about the daughter. My husband's father was orphaned as a baby, so he knows nobody on his dad's side, I got him 23andMe, then Ancestry to see if he could find relatives. He beat me to the punch on Ancestry by a few months and told me to use the Ancestry kit myself. For me, the unknown was my mother's biological father and I didn't know I'd find anyone. Well, first batch of relatives that came up were a bunch of first and second cousins and it was easy to go through the records and identify a grandfather. Seems he got married when my mom was a toddler and his new bride was about 5 months pregnant. I reached out to the closest match, told her that my mom didn't know her dad, it was the 30's, she was adopted by my grandfather when he married my grandma. They tried for years to have more kids, but it never happened. The relative was nice, tells me 'my grandfather worked for 'huge corporation' as a sign painter and traveled the world painting signs for new store openings, so she wouldn't be surprised to find more aunts and uncles. (Didn't tell her that my mom was older than her mom by 2 years) My aunt was a very genuine person, no reason to mislead me. I guess she thought I should know. Never expected to find any new surprises. I found with reasonable certainty who my grandfather was, now know where my siblings, mom, and I all get the creative streak and it blew my ability to claim first to graduate college. So to have someone show u as 95% chance half sibling with the same name as my older half sister was a surprise. I'm giving her the opportunity to reach out. My husband is convinced she did Ancestry to get answers, and I can provide them. He's right, but it's probably better to let her decide when she's ready to ask the questions and get whatever answers I have.
Reminds me of an old joke: A young woman went crying to her mother because her dad had told her she couldn't marry her fiancé because he was her half brother. Her mother tells her " it's okay, you go ahead and marry him....."
I'm beginning to believe that. I don't think Ancestor.com or 23 & Me had any idea what a Pandora's box it was going to open. I've heard some stories that would make your jaw drop.
I went on 23 and me but you can only connect and see people if they are on public. I could not connect because my b.d. was set to private. Some people don't want to be found.
Megyn Kelly had her on her show 3 or 4 years ago. she is the woman that started the Facebook group NPE (not parent expected) Her bio dad was her mom's boss. she knows no more than that as her mom, legal dad, and bio dad are all dead. she only knows he was her bio dad because she matched his daughter as half sibling.
Yes it is. I believe that there are thousands of families that will he torn apart with lies and deception that they had planned to take to their graves...but to be found out before that happens. Or they do take it to their graves leaving the person without answers.
My best friend and in are doing 4 family trees. Many of us took the DNA test and I was in charge of porting the test results over to the perspective trees. I was the first to find out that her mother was a half sibling to her brother. Before I said anything I researched her mom’s fathers history and then asked many questions. I passed the information on to her.
Woow. Spanish came from Spain =Europe. Hispanic / Latinos as label in the US are the Mestizos White europians (mainly Spainers 80%) and Natives on the new wold.
Since taking DNA test and finding relatives--Three new first cousins. One was adopted out (daughter of my mom's elder brother), one was never told who her dad was (my dad's younger brother) and one had NO idea that the man who raised him was not his dad (real dad, my dad's elder brother).
@@greywolf7577 I don't think he knew, or it simply wasn't discussed. It turned out later that a sister in the family had a different dad altogether. The dad at home (that raised them) was an alcoholic and stayed away a lot...
My daughter and I have worked for a year to find my son's/her brothers paternal grandpa. In about two hours I'm bringing him here to reveal that we have found out exactly who he was and....that he has two aunts and a 1st cousin that badly want to meet him. In fact, one of them will be flying in from Santa Fe if he will agree to meet. Said she'll rent a bed and breakfast for everyone to stay in for the weekend in Galveston. IF he agrees. This is a really big moment. My son never knew what his rightful paternal last name would have been, because his dad didn't even know. That has all come to an end. Their last name means curve on a bend. To me, it meant 'everything comes full circle by Gods good hand'. I'm nervous. I really hope he's brave enough to take this journey.
So heres one for you... I'm 56yrs.old. My mother died 8 years ago,my supposed father died 13 yrs.ago. to say the least we were a dysfunctional family. I had an older brother and an older sister. I have been sick for 3 years and finally got a diagnosis about 15 months ago.turns out I have a genetic disease called Fabrys. Both bio parents have to have the defected gene in order to have a child with fabrys. So I told my siblings to get tested.they do not have fabrys.my brother had a Frank talk with me and informed me he walked in on my mom with another man more than once( he is 10 yes. Older than me. So I sent away for a DNA test. I come to find out a man that was worked on our farm as a hired man is my bio father. He is deceased. I actually went to high school with his half sisters. I have not searched out his relatives. The man who raised me was awesome and will always be my dad. My parents divorced when I was 10. Knowing what I know now,makes me love my dad even more and explains a lot about how my mother treated me.not kindly. Things make a lot more sense now!
My 85 year old aunt just discovered her bio father was not the dad who raised her. After 50 years of searching, I also just found out my grandfather's name. Loving all the truths that are coming out by looking at DNA results. Makes me wonder what things we take to our graves will be revealed later on due to improved technologies.
Chile, at 85, people at the turn of the century were really messy . and we got given this polished god fearing picture of the people from past eras. Whew, Lordy Lord.
This happened to me,..... My Dads friend the neighbor I did a DNA test to inquire about my Hungarian lineage and gained an entire new family including 3 new brothers!
I often think about how wrong genealogy records must be (genetically speaking). How many secrets went to the grave long before DNA had ever been identified.
Just got my Ancestry results and discovered my father was not my biological father. Both mom and dad have passed. I am reaching out to people that match that I have never heard of. So far they are not responding. I am 49 years old.
Mexican and Spanish are different cultures and different nationalities, although both speak Spanish.. I feel you are using the word Spanish incorrectly here. Mexicans are Hispanic but Spanish are European... it is Mexican people who have the Native American roots
I hopping to fo this for my daughter so she we can find her dad if i can make it alive im not doing good in my life but im trying really hard to stay alive
We were contact a few years ago with a lady searching for her birth family. Turns out my GMA put a girl up for adoption in 66 . My GMA and GPA are both passed so because my GMA had already submitted dna years before her passing my dad had a sister it's crazy that she is so much like my GMA
I know of 3 unclaimed children my dad had he claimed me and my sister. I have another sister he didn't claim we all have the middle name Renee. I did the DNA wondering would I find more siblings but I found out my great grandmother was a product of a first cousin marriage. And that I'm kin to people I'm not suppose to be kin too back home. There was a lot of whoever I say is your daddy is your daddy back then DNA made no matter. I would've thought my step dad was my dad had my father's grandmother not told me he wasn't. All those family secrets come out when you do DNA testing
Being of Spanish descent, is not exclusive to going hand-in-hand with Native American/Indian heritage. That Spanish/Native American mix is what I know as being Mexican. “Mexican” means mixed. But it also could include a mix with Portugese ancestry too. I had no idea of any large immigration of Spaniards to America after the conquest sponsored by Queen Isabella & King Ferdinand. Small pockets of Spanish immigrants coming over throughout the 1800’s to now is possible, but doesn’t raise any questions why.
I know this video is old but I just did my Ancestry Dna and discovered I have 29% Spain 1% Portugal and 3% indigenous Dominican Republic. The point is I knew my mother side was of African descent with roots in the Carolinas and I always thought my dads family is from the Virgin Islands. I am 60% African. I only pulled 16% of that from my father. So I am very confused.
Your biological father could had been a Dominican, or maybe your father had Dominican ancestry, or perhaps it is your mother who has Dominican ancestry.
Yeah, there are many latinos who are native American-Spanish mixes. But, if someone is truly Spanish, it means they are from Spain or of Spanish (from Spain) descent.
@@Uber1937 Eso no es exactamente lo que intenté decir. Dejeme aclarar: Cuando se empezó a decir "Hispano" significaba persona de ascendencia Española al 100% nacida en el extranjero. El termino "Latino" significaba cualquier persona que era de un país donde la lengua era una de las lenguas romance. Los Latinos podían ser de Europa o de LatinoAmerica. Hoy en día, usan el termino "Hispano" como si fuera sinónimo de "Latino". Eso no es correcto. Aquí en EEUU, cuando uno decía que un hombre, por ejemplo, era "Anglo", significaba que era de ascendencia Inglesa. Hoy en día, hay gente que le dice "Anglo" a la gente blanca de descendencia Europea. Eso es incorrecto también.
Thank you for a great video talk. I'm 63 and my life is unfolding in a very similar way. It's surreal and I know I haven't processed it fully yet. I appreciate you bringing up this topic. It will help heal many, especially knowing we're not alone in this uncharted territory. It's hard to understand how something so important could be kept a secret from children. Not only for the bond and memories that could have been, but also for the medical aspect of it and knowing your roots. As I mentioned, this is all very new to me and unfolding daily. It's a strange feeling to wake up one day and realize that the person you thought was your dad and the siblings you thought shared with the same dad just isn't the case. Also so sad to realize that your siblings from your biological side, (one who has passed) were all cheated out of knowing that we all were family. You just can't get back that time and that's another thing to process. Wishing all who are on this journey the best and healthiest and happiest life. You deserve it.
I'm a little concerned that you focus only on the mother as keeping the secret from their child/children. It's difficult to know what the husband knew about the child's parentage. Perhaps the husband knew he was sterile and there may have been some agreement that the wife could conceive with a someone outside the marriage and the child would be raised by the married couple as their own. IVF has only been developed in the last 3 or 4 decades. Perhaps the mother had an affair and the husband was awarew of this but loved her so much he agreed to raise the child of the affair as his own child. DNA tests are only a recent phenomena. Many parents would not have been anticipating that their secrets would be exposed. I should imagine that children asking the parents about their parentage would be rather confronting to sonme of these people, and many of these would be elderly people. Don't be so hard on these women.
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog I'm not sure why you think that. My father is definitely my father and I don't know of anyone who has had to deal with a revelation like this about their parentage. I just felt you were being a little hard on the mothers and did not focus too much on the men involved in these situations.
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog There are so many mixed-up families, it's astonishing. Some may never know who knew what between the husband or step-father, the bio-father, OR the mother. As someone rightfully pointed out, there are instances where the mother isn't sure who the father is. I'm not a fan of all the secret-keeping & lies but it certainly is interesting & often sensatiinal, finding out. "Inquiring minds want to know!" I have thought for a long time that the rising number of broken homes contributed a lot to rising crime & poverty, especially the more acceptable it became. It's like we live in a world of "anything goes" with very little restraint and no shame in terms of morals or ethics. At one time, not so long ago, divorce was a disgrace! It makes me think that all those who kept family secrets & prentended they were like "The Cleavers" on "Leave It to Beaver" maybe wasn't such a bad thing after all, for the well being of society, anyway. As a product of one of the many mixed-up, messed-up, families, it definitely has done a number on every one of us in my family with long term consequences, spanning generations forward. Having the seecrets come out goes a long way toward understanding all the weird dynamics & denial, etc. If people weren't having babies outside of their marriages, all of our dysfunction, headache & heartache could have been avoided. Imagine that.
Native American is not related to Spanish in any valid DNA testing. South Americans and Mexicans would include both in many instances. However people of African descent in the USA not so much. In fact, if Africans have native DNA they're likely to have descended from slaves of Indian tribes who held many slaves (unless a known relationship existed post-slavery era). The biggest area of the country you see this is Oklahoma for obvious reasons.
I’ve had to answer (for two long dead uncles) three new first cousins lately, and I’m pretty unhappy that I have to deal with the pain they caused by fathering children and abandoning them. The amount of screwing around that went on in the 60s 70s 80s is disgusting. Men, stop sticking it in everything that moves.
A lot of people on here are finding out that it was their mother who cheated, not their father. So maybe you should give them the same advice. In any case, I think all babies should be tested at birth so that it is clear who the biological parents are.
@@greywolf7577 Well said! I would add to that that birth control was not as readily available or reliable it is today, at least not in the 60's and before.
Yes , found out who I thought was my grandfather wasn't and my dad died not knowing Then a friend at work found out his sister is his half sister 2 years ago and I had to break the news Then just a couple months ago my husband got a message on 23&me it said they thought they were family, the surname and city m/ state lead me to believe it was one of his cousins, I sent my telephone number, told them you must be a descendant of blah blah , then I thought let me look at the match, I go to 23&me look on my husband's page , oh they were a match a 1/2 sibling match!!!
why are all this stories, always ALWAYS, ignore the fact that the women who do this were whoring around and that is never mentioned! or dissected or analized? the side of the father that was lied to? ignored too!...they always make it look like it happend "organically" like they dont even ever address it. Women need to be held accountable for this fuckery they keep pulling on men and kids.
Things need change! If your kids or Grandkids or even your Great Grandkids try to look at their own roots this will change who their looking at!!! And they want to know the REAL thing!!
given the rate at which women are sexually assaulted in this country, which is one out of three, it makes no sense to assume that a woman “cheated” on her partner. Yeah you should not ever get married.
There may be good reasons not to tell. Husband wasn't fertile and one or both chose to get a donor, mother honestly not sure which man is the father and sexual assault. Why cause the pain to the child with honesty?
My mother would have taken her secret to the grave with numerous family members lying for her. Finding out rocked my entire world.
But it explained why the man who she is married to treated me horribly all my life.
Wow, very interesting!
She should have been honest with her husband.
Hi Angelique how are you going now? Can I ask how you feel towards those who lied to you?
I’m curious because it’s also relevant to me.
Looks like my story is going to turn out like yours very soon.
@angeliquesmith7380
That strikes a chord with me . . . unless I misread.
Raised by a step-parent who swore up & down he "loved me like I was his own."
Growing up with 3 half-siblings that were "his own," it sure didn't feel that way to me.
Friends of the family would say what a great guy he was to accept me & raise me. OH REALLY? Grrr...
Nine red-haired, blue-eyed kids! Blue eyes from our mother and red hair from our father. We all resemble our father to a degree as well as our mother-93% British Isles and 7% Nordic.
The first thing I did was setup a familiy tree to verify through matches if I am really related to my ancestors. I still have 3 GG Grandparents that I haven't verified.
Almost identical to my story, except my bio dad was an old friend of my mom's family. He visited us several times when I was small, and I had an unexplainable love for this man my whole life. When mom became ill she had me contact him and he came to visit her several times in the hospital. After she passed we stayed in touch by phone, and he came to take me out for lunch once. He called me one night and told me he had an abdominal aneurysm and had to go for surgery. He said he just wanted to tell me he loved me. I went to visit him in the hospital and he died the next day. He was 79 and I was 34. On May 6th of this year I found out through Ancestry, at 69 yrs old, that he was my father. I gained 2 half sisters and 1 half brother who have lovingly accepted me. I also realized that the brother I was raised with (11 months older than me) was probably my half brother. I'll never know that for sure because he passed in 2008. My mom's husband was a hard man to live with. He treated us all pretty badly. We never had a bond, and he's been gone since 2006. I'm so happy that my half siblings have accepted me, but extremely sad that I found out after our dad passed. I have no doubt that he knew I was his child. I have no anger toward anyone.
I always knew I was adopted by my dad but never knew my birth father. Took a DNA test and a first cousin came up. I contacted him and he tells me I have two sisters and a brother. I'm 72. Wish I'd have known them sooner. They knew nothing about me.
Wow, that is so interesting!
My story is similar, I found a half brother and knew I had 3 half sisters, but, I can't find their names since the persons with the connection dna don't want to communicate.
There was 5 of us kids in the house with with who we thought was our parents only 2 of us are actually my father's children. My mother had a lifelong affair with another man another man 18 years her senior it was her senior and she had 3 of his kids. Thankfully I am my father's others child because because I knew about that man and he was quite the scoundrel. My father died 26 years before my mother and she never told her kids There was always something wrong with her always knew it from the 1st. She hated me from the 1st that was just something about me that clashed with her and I truly grew up as Cinderella. But God's fixing all that and and I have my own family now and happier than Bliss
@@MsFranF I am so sorry you had to endure this in your life…and now you are blessed with happiness despite the trauma..happy for you!
I have a friend who just found out he has a daughter he never knew about. Talk about a shock! It cost him his marriage because his eldest child is older than the new found daughter.
My ex girlfriend wanted to take this secret to the grave, but I uncovered her secret she gave birth to my baby 22yrs ago.
Thanks for sharing excellent video.
Wow, amazing! Have you met your child?
Family Friendly Daddy Blog Yes 😊
My parents went to their graves with their secret also. I found out last year that I'm only half sibling to my other siblings. Any way my dad didn't treat me any different from his bio children
I have an upcoming video about this topic.
Did your father know that you weren't his biological child? They should have told you and your mother should have told her husband also. This is why I think all children should be tested at birth to see who their biological children are.
My dear friend learned last year that the man she was told was her father was not. Her mother's still living and completely denies the truth. My friend learned her bio father is still alive, had his DNA tested but also refuses to acknowledge her and her twin. Her only blessing is that her adopted father was a good man that actually was willing to be a parent...
Thank you. I will make a video response based on your comment.
There Are Good people in the world. 😃
@@iriscollins7583 yes there are. (Unfortunately, some people would resent the innocent child and this is an open door to neglect and abuse)
@@nahalymtl9445 In my experience, it's a fine line.
Most will say my step-father was such a saint for accepting me & raising me as his own. It didn't always feel that way. I was raised with 3 siblings that were his own, so the comparison I can make is valid.
This is currently happening to me, my parents are still alive. My dad is 50% Asian and I’m blonde haired and blue eyed. I mentioned a few weeks ago that I started Ancestry.com and they finally came clean that my mom had an affair 31 years ago, before I was born, obviously. I’m waiting for the kits to come so I can start the cycle. But thanks for the video!
Oh wow! I am sorry you are having to go through this.
It sounds like your father knew, though. While it was wrong of your mother to cheat, at least your father found out about it and was able to make his own decision about staying or not.
I’m adopted, I found my bio mom and she’s 82 and her kids didn’t know about me. It has been quite the journey.It has given me a whole new outlook on my life.I wished it had happened sooner, I just turned 60.But all 7 half siblings are alive(4 on my bio mom’s side and 3 on my bio fathers side. I probably won’t meet my bio dad because my half siblings think it will be too much for his health to handle. But other than that , it has been a very positive experience and I feel very blessed to have found where I came from after all these years. And now I have all of my family to get to know and love. I am ecstatic 🥰
Thank you so much for sharing. How fascinating!
I asked my parents if there were any secrets that I need to know about before I took my ancestry test. My parents have been together 50 years, but I know my dad had a lot of fun before they were married, so I am still waiting for half siblings to pop up.
Reading these comments makes me realise that the law really needs to be universally updated to 21st century "standards"...
The dad that raised me was so loving and that is my calm. He is now deceased. My mom 85. Me 65. My mom angrily says ...Can't make me tell. I still love her. 65 years made me a very forgiving woman.
Forgiveness is gold.
My mom passed last year, she took the secret to her grave that my father was not my biological father.
My step father is my biological father and she didn’t marry him until I was 15, now 63.
Coming out of shock, please take the DNA, my regret is that I can’t ask her questions 😢
So sad, but I have good memories of my biological father.❤️
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog i truly believe people should avenge as lives got destroyed by theses women are many
I did a DNA test and found out that my siblings are in fact my half siblings. Hmm, my mother tried to tell me this when I was in my early twenties but I didn't want to hear it. Now at 55 knowing that I have my biological father out there, I find that I do not want to contact him. To no avail I cannot contact him because he died sometime ago. I did manage to find his daughter on Facebook but I don't to contact her. I don't want to disrupt her life with this news and ruin any memory of " dad". So I alone deal with anger, disappointment, sadness and curiosity all at the same time. I love my dad, the INE who raised me and ill never tell him. He will be 92 this September. Ill just let sleeping dogs lye there.
Tu hermana tiene derecho a saber de ti.
My friend just found out that his father wasn't his father..his mother has passed to ask....his stepfather has passed...the brother he thought turns out was only his 1/2 brother too has passed. He contacts his real father to find out he has passed...his new found 2 half sisters have passed... Leaving him with no answers. He is 75 years old. That sucks.
These sights were for peopke to find out their heritage...but instead it is crushing many peoples lives.
That is horrible.
Sobrinos? Primos?
Yep, happened to me. It was utterly devastating.
I am so sorry to hear that!
That happened in my family with 2 family members. Honestly, you almost have an identity crisis. But now, I'm past it and ready to know the truth.
A similar thing happened to a close friend of mine. At 57 years of age, she found out that the man who she thought was her father was not. Her mother had abandoned her when she was a baby, and her 'father's ' mother had raised her.
Ancestry started DNA testing in 2012. I can imagine 2012 was THE WORST year of their lives for a lot of women who have been living with this same secret. I bet the divorce rate has gone up since then also.
Spanish, meaning from Spain... how does that relate to Native Americans?
Soy española. Los españoles fueron los primeros que llegaron a Estados Unidos, algunos dejarían descendientes
With this new biology DNA testing.. Laws need to change.. people should all have a human rights to know who there biological parents are.. we should be able to sue for paternal results regardless of age..
I haven't thought of that.
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog Yo sí
All children should be DNA tested at birth!
Yep, I found out at age 50. It’s a mess. Very hard to learn.
I am sorry you are going through this right now.
That really sucks. It is so hard. Be so, so nice to yourself because this so emotionally draining. I’m going through the same💜
I think if all babies were tested at birth to see who the parents were, it would solve a lot of these issues.
What was your goal in taking the DNA test? If you were looking for dirt on other people and drama, you found them.
I have a dna test sitting on the counter ... kind of afraid to find out who is out there ...
best to know the truth, hope you got some answers
My father is not my father. I'm Jamaican and I thought my father was a beautiful tall, dark-skinned Jamaican of African descent. After DNA it was uncovered that my father is a short, mostly European man which finally explained the light skin and freckles that I've struggled with understanding my entire life.
me too with the freckles coming out later in life!
The parents may never have known for sure. The official father may have not known at all, and the mother may never have been sure. If she had relations with two men in the same general timeframe, how would she have known for sure?
You could substitute your scenario with people who commited serious crimes and were never linked to the scene and got away with it and took it to their grave, meanwhile another innocent person was convicted for the crime and sat in prison their entire lives. I for one, and VERY glad for the work done on DNA sequencing. It might not have a happy ending for paternity/maternity stories, but using DNA was a much needed tool in crime and punishment.
If all babies were tested for who their biological parent was at birth, it would solve a lot of these problems.
@@greywolf7577 that wasn't even possible until the late 90s though. Most of the people finding this stuff out now are much older than the millennial generation.
secrets secrets secrets !! I keep saying it & I'll say it til I go to my grave, get a DNA test done before you get married ! You want to be sure you are not marrying your father, mother, brother, sister aunts & uncles..it's a big 🌎 and small world, after 25 yrs genealogy researching I have found many tress that did NOT fork
What is the moral of this / these types of stories ??.
What if everyone immediately to an Ancestry DNA test ?.
We learned my husbands Aunts father was not the man who raised her with her sibs. Herself and her brother and sister all took DNA tests and she was only half sibling to them. She got hits on her DNA matches that showed who her real father was. 😱😱😱😱
I learned via Ancestry that my dad was not my bio father. I was 74 years old and all parents were dead, but I did some research with some first cousins and learned I had 3 brothers, but only one was living. I found him and took a DNA test for him to take, and he did, but when I saw him we both knew the truth, we looked like siblings. Not denying it, but he took the test to prove it. I have a whole new family history, leading back to a French Canadian and a girl from an orphanage in Paris, France, who met in Mobile in 1704 and married. The story is told also in the book "Old Mobile". Glad I didn't know the truth until after all were dead.
Wow, that is fascinating! Thank you for sharing!
In my genealogy research I’ve found this situation several times within the two sides of the family. It’s not like this is the first generation where people were horsing around, it’s just the first generation that’s had the dna tool to prove it. Having said that, I am fortunate enough that in all my family’s cases, all the misbehavers! Are dead, so we can just enjoy our new family members.
I am from Mobile, your story is fascinating. Can you tell me more about this family from France to Mobile.
I am a victim of paternal fraud. But I am the biological father who was
denied my daughter. She is 25 years old now. The
genealogy site 23 and me as well as social media have uncovered the
truth. My cousin recently did 23 and me and it came back with a match of
a young woman whom is the daughter of a girl i dated decades ago. I
have reached out on social media,Spoke with her mother and although she
acknowledges me now as her father,I have yet to meet my daughter nor do i
feel very confident that day will come. My family are also victims and
above all my daughter was the biggest victim of everyone being denied my
loving and supportive family.There are no laws in place to protect the
men in this situation and hold the women accountable.
What a tragedy!
When my dad died, (suddenly, 30 years ago) my aunt told me that he had been married prior and had a wife and daughter. Gave me the wife's married name at that time and name of the daughter. I'd known nothing about them at all, my mom knew he'd been married. but not about the daughter.
My husband's father was orphaned as a baby, so he knows nobody on his dad's side, I got him 23andMe, then Ancestry to see if he could find relatives. He beat me to the punch on Ancestry by a few months and told me to use the Ancestry kit myself. For me, the unknown was my mother's biological father and I didn't know I'd find anyone. Well, first batch of relatives that came up were a bunch of first and second cousins and it was easy to go through the records and identify a grandfather. Seems he got married when my mom was a toddler and his new bride was about 5 months pregnant. I reached out to the closest match, told her that my mom didn't know her dad, it was the 30's, she was adopted by my grandfather when he married my grandma. They tried for years to have more kids, but it never happened. The relative was nice, tells me 'my grandfather worked for 'huge corporation' as a sign painter and traveled the world painting signs for new store openings, so she wouldn't be surprised to find more aunts and uncles. (Didn't tell her that my mom was older than her mom by 2 years)
My aunt was a very genuine person, no reason to mislead me. I guess she thought I should know. Never expected to find any new surprises. I found with reasonable certainty who my grandfather was, now know where my siblings, mom, and I all get the creative streak and it blew my ability to claim first to graduate college. So to have someone show u as 95% chance half sibling with the same name as my older half sister was a surprise. I'm giving her the opportunity to reach out. My husband is convinced she did Ancestry to get answers, and I can provide them. He's right, but it's probably better to let her decide when she's ready to ask the questions and get whatever answers I have.
Wow, that is very fascinating! Best of luck on your findings.
Reminds me of an old joke: A young woman went crying to her mother because her dad had told her she couldn't marry her fiancé because he was her half brother. Her mother tells her " it's okay, you go ahead and marry him....."
I think if all babies were tested at birth to see who the parents were that would solve a lot of these issues.
@@greywolf7577 And create other, perhaps more serious, issues.
@@abc24601 If someone decides not to start a problem, there won't be a problem. People need to stop being selfish.
@@abc24601 La verdad, ante todo. Muchas personas buscan a su madre y familia. La compra de óvulos es muy alta.
I just read that 10% have an other father than then think. And most of them will never find out.
This is why I think that all babies should be tested at birth to see who the parents are. End the lies.
That just happened to me I found out I’m not my dads but my mom’s ex boys friends
I'm beginning to believe that. I don't think Ancestor.com or 23 & Me had any idea what a Pandora's box it was going to open. I've heard some stories that would make your jaw drop.
I went on 23 and me but you can only connect and see people if they are on public. I could not connect because my b.d. was set to private. Some people don't want to be found.
This same thing happened to me, my bio Dad was daddys best friend he lived in our block, ...I now have 3 new brothers
Wow!
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog one for the memoirs🙏😅😅😂🤣
How did she find out who was her real father? What was her DNA results? By the way, thanks for sharing this story. You are interesting to listen too.
You are welcome. A half-sister reached out to her, who she never knew about.
Megyn Kelly had her on her show 3 or 4 years ago. she is the woman that started the Facebook group NPE (not parent expected) Her bio dad was her mom's boss. she knows no more than that as her mom, legal dad, and bio dad are all dead. she only knows he was her bio dad because she matched his daughter as half sibling.
Yes it is. I believe that there are thousands of families that will he torn apart with lies and deception that they had planned to take to their graves...but to be found out before that happens. Or they do take it to their graves leaving the person without answers.
This is why all babies should be tested at birth to find out who the parents are. It would end all the lies and deception.
My best friend and in are doing 4 family trees. Many of us took the DNA test and I was in charge of porting the test results over to the perspective trees. I was the first to find out that her mother was a half sibling to her brother. Before I said anything I researched her mom’s fathers history and then asked many questions. I passed the information on to her.
Families keep lots of secrets.
DNA 🧬 testing is now crushing those secrets
It's called privacy and people should be respectful of their parents privacy. Keep it at "parent is the one that parents."
Woow. Spanish came from Spain =Europe. Hispanic / Latinos as label in the US are the Mestizos White europians (mainly Spainers 80%) and Natives on the new wold.
"Laugh In", the Farkle Family skits:
all the Farkle kids look just the next door neighbor, Ferd Berfel.
Since taking DNA test and finding relatives--Three new first cousins. One was adopted out (daughter of my mom's elder brother), one was never told who her dad was (my dad's younger brother) and one had NO idea that the man who raised him was not his dad (real dad, my dad's elder brother).
Did the man who raised him know that he wasn't the biological father? It's the dishonesty that is the problem, not the mixed families.
@@greywolf7577 I don't think he knew, or it simply wasn't discussed. It turned out later that a sister in the family had a different dad altogether. The dad at home (that raised them) was an alcoholic and stayed away a lot...
My daughter and I have worked for a year to find my son's/her brothers paternal grandpa. In about two hours I'm bringing him here to reveal that we have found out exactly who he was and....that he has two aunts and a 1st cousin that badly want to meet him. In fact, one of them will be flying in from Santa Fe if he will agree to meet. Said she'll rent a bed and breakfast for everyone to stay in for the weekend in Galveston. IF he agrees. This is a really big moment. My son never knew what his rightful paternal last name would have been, because his dad didn't even know. That has all come to an end. Their last name means curve on a bend. To me, it meant 'everything comes full circle by Gods good hand'. I'm nervous. I really hope he's brave enough to take this journey.
mommas baby, fathers maybe! even before DNA was done this has been an issue!
So heres one for you... I'm 56yrs.old. My mother died 8 years ago,my supposed father died 13 yrs.ago. to say the least we were a dysfunctional family. I had an older brother and an older sister.
I have been sick for 3 years and finally got a diagnosis about 15 months ago.turns out I have a genetic disease called Fabrys. Both bio parents have to have the defected gene in order to have a child with fabrys. So I told my siblings to get tested.they do not have fabrys.my brother had a Frank talk with me and informed me he walked in on my mom with another man more than once( he is 10 yes. Older than me. So I sent away for a DNA test. I come to find out a man that was worked on our farm as a hired man is my bio father. He is deceased. I actually went to high school with his half sisters. I have not searched out his relatives. The man who raised me was awesome and will always be my dad. My parents divorced when I was 10. Knowing what I know now,makes me love my dad even more and explains a lot about how my mother treated me.not kindly. Things make a lot more sense now!
Wow, thanks so much for sharing your story!
Dealing with this (lies) now.
Not easy to come to terms with😐
My 85 year old aunt just discovered her bio father was not the dad who raised her. After 50 years of searching, I also just found out my grandfather's name. Loving all the truths that are coming out by looking at DNA results. Makes me wonder what things we take to our graves will be revealed later on due to improved technologies.
Chile, at 85, people at the turn of the century were really messy . and we got given this polished god fearing picture of the people from past eras. Whew, Lordy Lord.
Im 47.5 years old and my mom just told me my dad isnt my dad! Apparently my whole damn family knows but me!
Oh wow! I am so sorry you are having to go through that!
That so tough, I am so sorry.
This happened to me,..... My Dads friend the neighbor I did a DNA test to inquire about my Hungarian lineage and gained an entire new family including 3 new brothers!
This is why I believe that all babies should be tested at birth to see who the biological parents are.
@@greywolf7577 Me too and I'm a woman.
In some cases a woman might get pregnant with a stranger by rape. Feelings of denial could take place.
But in that case the husband should know and the children should know when they are old enough.
Why would Spanish be so rare? So people who are both Spanish & Native American are from Mexican roots?
I often think about how wrong genealogy records must be (genetically speaking). How many secrets went to the grave long before DNA had ever been identified.
Check out the videos from Kurimeo about Sephardic jews and moriscos from Spain.
If they are like my Mom, she would not tell the truth if asked.
Just got my Ancestry results and discovered my father was not my biological father. Both mom and dad have passed. I am reaching out to people that match that I have never heard of. So far they are not responding. I am 49 years old.
consolation is they were not aborted... there will be less stories like this in the next generation, because of abortion,
True.
food tech buddies I am vehemently pro life, that argument is no consolation when you find out your mother lied to you for 45 years.
Abortion is NOT a recent invention.
It's been happening since the dawn of time.
Abortion is a good choice if you aren't ready to have a child. It is better to have an abortion and then get pregnant again when you are ready.
Mexican and Spanish are different cultures and different nationalities, although both speak Spanish.. I feel you are using the word Spanish incorrectly here. Mexicans are Hispanic but Spanish are European... it is Mexican people who have the Native American roots
Not only Mexican people, but also Puerto Ricans. The Spanish invaded Borinquen, renamed the island and later took Native American wives (Tainas).
Yes I've been trying to help one of my adopted cousin find out about her father
It might work.
I hopping to fo this for my daughter so she we can find her dad if i can make it alive im not doing good in my life but im trying really hard to stay alive
Please keep trying and looking. Praying for you that you can be there for your daughter if you can't locate him.
We were contact a few years ago with a lady searching for her birth family. Turns out my GMA put a girl up for adoption in 66 . My GMA and GPA are both passed so because my GMA had already submitted dna years before her passing my dad had a sister it's crazy that she is so much like my GMA
Wow!
I know of 3 unclaimed children my dad had he claimed me and my sister. I have another sister he didn't claim we all have the middle name Renee. I did the DNA wondering would I find more siblings but I found out my great grandmother was a product of a first cousin marriage. And that I'm kin to people I'm not suppose to be kin too back home. There was a lot of whoever I say is your daddy is your daddy back then DNA made no matter. I would've thought my step dad was my dad had my father's grandmother not told me he wasn't. All those family secrets come out when you do DNA testing
Being of Spanish descent, is not exclusive to going hand-in-hand with Native American/Indian heritage. That Spanish/Native American mix is what I know as being Mexican. “Mexican” means mixed. But it also could include a mix with Portugese ancestry too. I had no idea of any large immigration of Spaniards to America after the conquest sponsored by Queen Isabella & King Ferdinand. Small pockets of Spanish immigrants coming over throughout the 1800’s to now is possible, but doesn’t raise any questions why.
I know this video is old but I just did my Ancestry Dna and discovered I have 29% Spain 1% Portugal and 3% indigenous Dominican Republic. The point is I knew my mother side was of African descent with roots in the Carolinas and I always thought my dads family is from the Virgin Islands. I am 60% African. I only pulled 16% of that from my father. So I am very confused.
Your biological father could had been a Dominican, or maybe your father had Dominican ancestry, or perhaps it is your mother who has Dominican ancestry.
Always ready for a true story..December 2020,,,still coming to terms with my story.
Yeah, there are many latinos who are native American-Spanish mixes. But, if someone is truly Spanish, it means they are from Spain or of Spanish (from Spain) descent.
Yo soy española. Los hispanos, como bien dices, son medio españoles, medio indígenas.
También muchos españoles llegaron a Estados Unidos, fueron los primeros, por tanto, esa mujer que dice ser de ascendencia española, es posible.
@@Uber1937 Eso no es exactamente lo que intenté decir. Dejeme aclarar:
Cuando se empezó a decir "Hispano" significaba persona de ascendencia Española al 100% nacida en el extranjero. El termino "Latino" significaba cualquier persona que era de un país donde la lengua era una de las lenguas romance. Los Latinos podían ser de Europa o de LatinoAmerica. Hoy en día, usan el termino "Hispano" como si fuera sinónimo de "Latino". Eso no es correcto.
Aquí en EEUU, cuando uno decía que un hombre, por ejemplo, era "Anglo", significaba que era de ascendencia Inglesa.
Hoy en día, hay gente que le dice "Anglo" a la gente blanca de descendencia Europea. Eso es incorrecto también.
@@Uber1937 Sí. De ascendencia Española, puede ser.
I found this out at the age of 65. Devastated.
I am so sorry to hear that.
10% of all children are given to the wrong man!! That is 1 out of 10. That is a lot of children... let that sink in☹️.
It's less than 1 %
@@alexhidell8022 I have read different sources that it is somewhere between 10 to 30 percent 1 percent is way too low
@@ericjennings6267 All of those sources are repeating the same legacy false source from decades ago.
@@ericjennings6267 No es cierto. Muchas mujeres compran óvulos y fingen ser madres.
the truth always prevails.
It’s very disturbing when it happens to you.
After words I thought,Imagine how Superman felt. Or Luke skywalker.
Thank you for a great video talk. I'm 63 and my life is unfolding in a very similar way. It's surreal and I know I haven't processed it fully yet. I appreciate you bringing up this topic. It will help heal many, especially knowing we're not alone in this uncharted territory. It's hard to understand how something so important could be kept a secret from children. Not only for the bond and memories that could have been, but also for the medical aspect of it and knowing your roots. As I mentioned, this is all very new to me and unfolding daily. It's a strange feeling to wake up one day and realize that the person you thought was your dad and the siblings you thought shared with the same dad just isn't the case. Also so sad to realize that your siblings from your biological side, (one who has passed) were all cheated out of knowing that we all were family. You just can't get back that time and that's another thing to process. Wishing all who are on this journey the best and healthiest and happiest life. You deserve it.
I'm a little concerned that you focus only on the mother as keeping the secret from their child/children. It's difficult to know what the husband knew about the child's parentage. Perhaps the husband knew he was sterile and there may have been some agreement that the wife could conceive with a someone outside the marriage and the child would be raised by the married couple as their own. IVF has only been developed in the last 3 or 4 decades. Perhaps the mother had an affair and the husband was awarew of this but loved her so much he agreed to raise the child of the affair as his own child. DNA tests are only a recent phenomena. Many parents would not have been anticipating that their secrets would be exposed. I should imagine that children asking the parents about their parentage would be rather confronting to sonme of these people, and many of these would be elderly people. Don't be so hard on these women.
It sounds like perhaps you have been in a similar situation?
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog I'm not sure why you think that. My father is definitely my father and I don't know of anyone who has had to deal with a revelation like this about their parentage. I just felt you were being a little hard on the mothers and did not focus too much on the men involved in these situations.
Let us assume I am wrong then.
@@FamilyFriendlyDaddyBlog There are so many mixed-up families, it's astonishing. Some may never know who knew what between the husband or step-father, the bio-father, OR the mother. As someone rightfully pointed out, there are instances where the mother isn't sure who the father is.
I'm not a fan of all the secret-keeping & lies but it certainly is interesting & often sensatiinal, finding out. "Inquiring minds want to know!"
I have thought for a long time that the rising number of broken homes contributed a lot to rising crime & poverty, especially the more acceptable it became. It's like we live in a world of "anything goes" with very little restraint and no shame in terms of morals or ethics.
At one time, not so long ago, divorce was a disgrace! It makes me think that all those who kept family secrets & prentended they were like "The Cleavers" on "Leave It to Beaver" maybe wasn't such a bad thing after all, for the well being of society, anyway.
As a product of one of the many mixed-up, messed-up, families, it definitely has done a number on every one of us in my family with long term consequences, spanning generations forward.
Having the seecrets come out goes a long way toward understanding all the weird dynamics & denial, etc.
If people weren't having babies outside of their marriages, all of our dysfunction, headache & heartache could have been avoided. Imagine that.
O ellas no son las madres.
Native American is not related to Spanish in any valid DNA testing. South Americans and Mexicans would include both in many instances. However people of African descent in the USA not so much. In fact, if Africans have native DNA they're likely to have descended from slaves of Indian tribes who held many slaves (unless a known relationship existed post-slavery era). The biggest area of the country you see this is Oklahoma for obvious reasons.
I’ve had to answer (for two long dead uncles) three new first cousins lately, and I’m pretty unhappy that I have to deal with the pain they caused by fathering children and abandoning them. The amount of screwing around that went on in the 60s 70s 80s is disgusting. Men, stop sticking it in everything that moves.
A lot of people on here are finding out that it was their mother who cheated, not their father. So maybe you should give them the same advice. In any case, I think all babies should be tested at birth so that it is clear who the biological parents are.
@@greywolf7577 Well said! I would add to that that birth control was not as readily available or reliable it is today, at least not in the 60's and before.
Y, las estériles, que dejen de comprar óvulos.
@@greywolf7577 Las mujeres que compran óvulos no son madres.
Until your ‘predictions’, you seemed intelligent.
In some cases a woman might get pregnant with a stranger by rape. Feelings of denial could take place.
Did dna test no trace of myMothers fathers dna! Big mystery here
That happen to me
Oh no!
OMG how amazing 🤦♀️
Yes , found out who I thought was my grandfather wasn't and my dad died not knowing
Then a friend at work found out his sister is his half sister 2 years ago and I had to break the news
Then just a couple months ago my husband got a message on 23&me it said they thought they were family, the surname and city m/ state lead me to believe it was one of his cousins, I sent my telephone number, told them you must be a descendant of blah blah , then I thought let me look at the match, I go to 23&me look on my husband's page , oh they were a match a 1/2 sibling match!!!
Wow, thanks for sharing!
What if rape was the cause? Not something you want to share.
The husband should be told if his wife was raped and the child should be told when they are old enough.
I needed this thank u
Parent means who raised child, donor is who made it possible.
True.
No
why are all this stories, always ALWAYS, ignore the fact that the women who do this were whoring around and that is never mentioned! or dissected or analized? the side of the father that was lied to? ignored too!...they always make it look like it happend "organically" like they dont even ever address it. Women need to be held accountable for this fuckery they keep pulling on men and kids.
Ahora, se giraron las tornas. Muchas compran óvulos, no son madres.
This sort of thing shows how many married women screw around. Never get married.
Things need change! If your kids or Grandkids or even your Great Grandkids try to look at their own roots this will change who their looking at!!! And they want to know the REAL thing!!
Uh, Bob - those women didn't get pregnant by themselves. Just saying. And yeah, you probably shouldn't get married.
given the rate at which women are sexually assaulted in this country, which is one out of three, it makes no sense to assume that a woman “cheated” on her partner. Yeah you should not ever get married.
Mommy's baby, daddy's maybe.
That is why to be Jewish you claim through your Mother, not your supposed Father. Now that's what I call common sense.😁
This is why every child should be tested at birth to see who the parents are.
No, porque puede haber comprado óvulos.
@@iriscollins7583 Ya no es así.
Don't do dna tests.
There may be good reasons not to tell. Husband wasn't fertile and one or both chose to get a donor, mother honestly not sure which man is the father and sexual assault. Why cause the pain to the child with honesty?
Your DNA is your DNA but your Father And Mother are the people that did that job.that part doesn't change.
No es cierto. Por esa regla de tres, los padres que lo hacen mal, no son padres?
I just found out last year the manb
thought was my father wasnt and mom just pass last month she said she planned on taking it to her grave
This is why I think all babies should be tested at birth to see who the biological parents are.
This guy repeats over and over. Does he think someone cares?
I repeat. You watch.
Barbara Allen you are watching someone work out their own issues. He just needed a soundboard.
So we just gon ignore the fact mans was SIXTY TWO (62) when he smashed the lonely housewife next door. BIG mood.