Story 1: AITA for telling my estranged father that he and his wife can be grandparents to his other kids future children? Story 2: 4:25 AITA For refusing to help my stepson with his son's surgery after he told me I'll never be his grandfather? Story 3: 9:27 AITA for telling my ex husbands girlfriend stay in her lane when it comes to MY kids Story 4: 13:47 AITA for refusing to babysit my dad’s girlfriends kids?
Story 2, stepson made it abundantly clear that he does not consider OP dad or grandfather. He won't even let OP TALK about the kid! No contact, not pictures, no gifts, not even allowed to mention the kids existence! They have no right to expect anything from OP, and need to realize when you push someone away, you don't get to ask them for favors later.
Story 2: I hope OP simply tells them that yes, he is selfish and cruel. And no, he's not paying. The real grandparents can help because family helps each other, and he's not family.
Second story: Okay, stepson doesn't want a relationship with OP. Okay, thats fine. We've all heard lots of stories about stepchildren who don't like their stepparents. Stepdad doesn't overstep the boundaries. Fine. That's all fine. But now the stepson is expecting the man he kept at a distance to pay for a child he probably hasn't even met? He is oversteping his own boundaries when it's convienent. That's bad. You can't expect someone you kept away for so long to suddenly jump in to help. At this point, not his grandkid, not his problem. Stepson has made that clear from the get go. Op, NTA.
And the extended family, I'm wondering if they as much assholes as the stepson, or whether they don't know the story. Its entirely possible they think OP is involved in his stepsons and step grandsons life.
@@brokenmask333 What marriage? She aided and abetted her son treating him like an ATM. "You are nothing to me, but you can pay my bills." Even the petty no grNpa rules. Son can get a loan or hit up "grandparents deemed acceptable" to his tiny ungrateful mind. Wife can make the big payment as a reward for her bad family building. Really, what child ever suffered by having MORE people love them.
Telling the EX's girlfriend to stay in her lane is the only correct thing to do, so NTA. Stepparents slash parents SO's are not meant to be disciplinarians. That shit falls on the kids actual parents.
Totally agree. Just because his girlfriend can't have kids she trying to take the place of op. The worst part was her ex was updating his mistress during his wife's labor and they were cousins.
@@Bleg94 Yeah, if it was me, I'd have told her if I ever wanted to fuck a married man, I'd get her advice. Until then, I don't give a shit what she says.
same. it was the 1st thing and usually the only thing i said to my baby momma's new boyfriends when she got them. "if they put hands on my daughter ill put hands on them" and i never had a problem. it wasnt a threat its just the way it is and most of them at least knew of me and knew how important my daughter was to me. the way i see it its a dads most important job to protect his children and to go to any limits to do that.
That poor man in the 2nd story. His son died in combat, and now his stepson is a hateful AH. You're not grandad, you're nothing to me and your presents are returned. AH behaviour. Totally unwanted and alienated.AH. Now they want his money.AH .All he wanted was the chance of a little boy to love again, and was basically told to go away - you're not wanted, and get out of our lives. Dad, do not pay a single dollar. Remind them firmly that they told you firmly, to go away from their little son, and you respect that. Thank you for your son's service and his ultimate sacrifice.
I love part where the mon says she respects her son but not her husband he should divorce her its clear they don't care for him they only want money. He was clear why he not helping, but they didn't care where were they when he lost his son
Story 2, what is that family?! Gaslighting on steroids. They were perfectly fine for years telling him "you are not my father", "you are not his grandson." Now they want money. My response would have been " cool, go ask the actual father/grandfather" .
Omg the second story broke my heart.....I wish I could let that man hold my son for a while just so he can feel even a little bit happy. Those people are monsters....they refuse to acknowledge him until they need money, such disgusting creatures. They robbed that kid of a kind and caring grandfather. They should be absolutely ashamed and beg for forgiveness , I don't know, I couldn't imagine doing that to my son..... If you have a relative that loves them so much and showers them with kindness, love and affection then wtf is Ur issue? I will always believe that a child should be loved and cared for until the day you die, as a parent, a grandparent or even a relative....
I want to have him as my dad or grandpa. I'm in my 30s, and I don't need money, but I lost my (Step)dad 15 years ago and I miss him so much everyday. Just to have that respect and love and care again, to have that different perspective and advice through life. I can't have kids of my own, but he could be a grandpa to my cats, like my mom is a grandma to them. All his wife saw him as was an ATM to help her take care of her son, and her son carried his mother's attitude to the natural conclusion. It's heartbreaking. You can't have things both ways.
2:29; NTA. He made his choice when he cheated on your mom and betrayed your family. His "mistress" made her choice when she knowingly screwed around with a married man and broke up a family with no remorse or care about it.
I`m not even sure if it wasn`t the other way around... She knew she couldn`t have children, than sees cousin popping out one child after another (not meant deragotory, just how that woman might see it) and thinks: "Hmmm... if I can`t have my onw children, I just take that man and be a stepmon and kick the real mum out..." Thank God, that didn`t work out...
Story 2: NTA."My wife says she respects her son's wishes and isn't trying to force him to do anything." OK, so tell her she also needs to respect *your* wishes and not try to force you to pay. And why are you still married to a woman that will allow her family to treat you like nothing more than a wallet when it suits them and an inconvenience when it doesn't? Absolutely, the step-son has the right to choose not to have a relationship with you, and you are right to respect that wish. You went above and beyond paying for things for him when he was growing up. But if he hasn't realized what a great man you are, and that family can be more than blood by now, then he has absolutely NO right a̶s̶k̶i̶n̶g̶ demanding money from you when you're not allowed so much as a lousy picture or to even send a birthday gift! Story 4: Dad: "It's not your job to parent girlfriend's kids, daughter!" Also Dad: "But also, parent girlfriend's kids by being free babysitting whenever we want!" NTA, OP. Girlfriend's insecurities and needing to be the smartest person in the world are beyond your pay grade - literally.
Title story: NTA. Oh boo hoo, the homewrecking new wife is having a sad because she can't have kids? Who gives a damn. The father only reached out to OP because he wants something. Good on OP for keeping these toxic people away from her kids. Story2: NTA. Boundaries cut both ways. The stepson went out of his way to exclude OP from his life. He only cares about OP's wallet. OP is right to refuse. And he should also start firmly putting people in their place. He doesn't have a stepson, he isn't family. And if the wife doesn't stop this nonsense, she'll be sleeping on the couch. Story3: Hella NTA. Kudos to OP for putting that homewrecking meddlesome beyotch in her place! Aww poor baby is having a sad? Who gives a damn. I hope OP gets full custody. Story4: NTA. Dad and new g/f want to have it both ways with OP. Nope.
On the Second Story totally in the right clearly this is one of those guys who never wanted a relationship with this man to begin with and then to make it even worse this man pay for his education his medical bills and treated him like his own while respecting his boundaries of not trying to be his father but love them as if he was one of his own. And then when the man had his own child he told the original poster you are not his grandfather you are not allowed to take pictures of him you're not allowed to give him gifts you're not allowed to spend time with him and you're not even allowed to call him family and the fact that this man's wife allowed it to happen that should have been a red flag to say to the wife either you tell your son I much a part of this family as he is or I will divorce you and cut off all contact with the family all together. This man has done so much for his stepson when he was younger and the stepson was one of those kids who wants to be in control of everything but yet when stuff goes out of control and he needs help he goes to the person that he knows that can potentially help him but won't because of the way he treated him. This is his karma. Also it makes me wonder does anyone else think that the stepson told them someone lying mess about how stepfather if not helping him pay for his son's surgery when in reality this man wanted nothing to do with him. I think the stepson has so much better and hatred for his mom for getting remarried that he took it out on the stepfather as a way of not going after the mother because if he went after the mother the mother probably would have just said I don't care. And the mother just allowed it because she didn't want to lose her child.
I don't really blame the mother either for this situation. I see it more as the spiteful kid unhappy and angry that his mother remarried and created the situation. I'd assume the mother also had a lot of restrictions put on her about him as well...and that puts her in a horrible situation with it. She's trying to keep both her son/grandkid and her husband now...and it's more husband vs grandkid in a lot of situations like this. My view is that the son is trying to punish his mother and "win" against her mothers husband. When you add the baby's need at this point, that just adds to the mess of it. The son probably has the view that it's a win/win to some extent. Guy caves and the money keeps flowing so son gets to squeeze some more cash out, or the guy refuses and potentially ends up divorced, and will spend the rest of his life pointing at how stupid his mother was for "trusting" him in the first place. Offering the money as a direct, legal loan rather than a gift is probably the best solution there. If it shakes the son out of the vindictive mode, the loan can be forgiven, if not, well, the cash gets paid back or the son suffers there.
@@AzraelThanatos Never loan to family, even stepfamily. Stepson can go to a bank if he wants a loan. And OP needs a therapist to find out why he allows this dynamic to continue. He needs to kick his wife to the curb.
Story 1 - NTA - It was his choice. You made the right choice. Story 2 ' NTA - He told you were not the grandfather and refused your present. He and your wife were wrong expecting you to pay. Story 3 - NTA - She has no right to dictate how you raise your children Story 4 - It is your choice if you want to babysit your step brothers if you cannot help them with their homework
The last story Molly got upset because op asked her mom for help on a project. Molly sounds like a control freak, op isn't trying to parent the boys she is just trying answer questions they have during classes. If he dad doesn't change his behavior op will never come again once they turn 18
11:56; NTA. Your ex's "mistress"/your "cousin" is out of line. She's just the "other woman" that helped break up the kids' real family. BTW remind her that family doesn't do what she did to family. Your ex and your cousin betrayed you and your children and family. They drove that wedge in your family. His mistress needs to step back and understand that she was not ever your children's mommy nor will she ever be. Tbh her trying to play mommy to her little cousins (in this situation) is creepy and borders on something else if you know what I mean.
Op#2. Do you still have the gift they returned? Give it back, tell them they can return it to the store, keep the cash, and that is the money you will contribute. If you’re not planning on leaving this family now, you will have no choice if the boy’s health deteriorates.
"Well, at least we know now why Mother Nature decided to not allow you to have kids." Yes, I would be that petty and horrible to my Ex's new paramour, if they tried to interfere with my family. She's not their mother. She's just the Ex's piece on the side.
NTA op dump the wife and stepson they made it clear your not FAMILY now they want money send them to a bank for a loan no one said anything about how he treated you all this time and now bc his son needs help your suppose to give your hard earn money to a stranger dump them all NTA
3rd bruh she slept with her cousins husband and then crys bc OP told her that she should stay in the line. I agree with OP, her exs gf has no saying in what her kids dress. And the husband has a nerve to scream to OP that she is the asshole but he is a cheater....
First story, it's amazing how many of these estranged parents/relatives only want to get back into their relative's life when there is something that they want.
Story 2 NTA. OP is respecting his stepsons wishes of not being a father him/grandfather to his son. The stepson should ask his father/ the baby's grandfather. Since stepson has all those people to harass OP, he can ask them to pay up.
Where was wife when stepson was issuing all his rules and restrictions? She aided and abetted the little monster's isolation. Like the returned gift, that includes your checkbook.
The first story it's pretty obvious that you don't give your father and his side piece who he married a chance to be grandparents when they couldn't have children on their own. That's their karma for what they did to your mom and what your dad did to you per se. In addition I will cut off anyone who will enable them and get them to guilt-trip you into letting him be in your life and your children's life again. If he wants to see the kids today he'll ask for money tomorrow. Stop it now before it gets any further.
@@BIGEAGLEDUDE And honestly I laughed so hard when he said she couldn't have children. Shitty people like that don't deserve kids and I would feel bad for any spawn they had considering all they've done to OP and the family.
7:26; NTA. The alienated, ostrasized and shunned you and now they are playing the victim? No. It doesn't work that way. They made their choices. Just remember that the baby needs help and they don't have to know that you helped the baby. Why haven't you noped clear out of that family?
2nd story, NTA. Your money, your prerogative. The wife can pay for it. You aren't an ATM, screw them Edit: im sorry. Why did you stay married to this woman???
That is pointless. You are married to his mother. It would be highly unlikely to be enforceable. Wife can easily divorce and takes half the debt and assets with her. So... silly. Courts could pull the duress argument, or you can't expect them to actually pay you back, plus you'd get a ton of crap from their family, your wife divorcing or being an a-hole for the rest of your life, etc. Just say "No". Tell your wife the next time her or any of her family mentions it to you, you are filing for divorce -- and do it.
Go into your room, close the door, Molly Know-it-all can parent them. Make a sign with Dad's immortal words and the date. " Sorry, I am not your parent. Ask Molly." Only answer them if the house is on fire. Molly needs malicious compliance education.
"Dad has five kids total, three with my mom and two with a woman BEFORE he married my mom". Wait, wtf? Who wants to bet the mom knew he was with another woman and did the same thing the future homewrecker did?
Harry Potter story: 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 I would tell Ex and that biyatch to kick rocks!! I said what I said! Not my fault she can’t have kids!! She was 100% right to tell her to stay in her lane!! As for the Ex I would let him know unfortunately those are our kids if she wants to be a mother get her a dog or a pet rock!! Oh yeah he got one more time to call me screaming/defending her about my kids!! NTA
Here's the thing about the last story your dad is basically trying to keep the peace for as long as possible because he can tell that his girlfriend that was a teacher is really starting to get jealous and uncomfortable with the fact that her boyfriend's older son is somewhat helping or tutoring her kids with their homework. And she doesn't like that my advice to you leave the house for the time being and let your dad and girlfriend work it out or tell him straight up she needs to get counseling or I won't be back for a while clearly this woman got major problems
This is exactly what I was going to comment. Also, if the GF is comparing answering questions/tutoring to parenting, then why does the GF think OP has to ask her questions instead of OP's own mother? Just ridiculous.
NTA and dad is correct. It's not OP's job to parent Molly's kids. Guess what else isn't her job? To babysit those same kids unless OP is getting paid cash money for doing so. Molly's childcare issues aren't OP's problem.
@@MrJpaynebb How the fuck help them with the work is parenting? She is just helping and thats it. The step mom is pretty weird, like she had an inferiority complex or something, and wanted to be the smarter one in the house. My mom was pretty happy of me helping my sister with school work, especially if it was in subjects she didn't remembered pretty well.
no way for a start your cheating dad never let them near your kids for what he did to his family sorry but that is how I feel only let your mother not mistress to be grandmother not your dad that"s it I think he has some bloody nerve asking
3rd story ex husband is insanley stupid and shamless to have the audacity to demand an apology for op for making his wife cry when op put her foot down when defending her child and reminding her that they are op's children not her's espcially after ex husband was cheating on op with said wife who was her cousin, WHILE SHE WAS IN LABOR WITH THIRD CHILD!!!!! Op should get full costudy of the children since it's clearly a toxic enviorment with those two and they don't need that espcially the youngest.
Not stepson now wants you to be grandpa for money. If anyone says anything about family list every point from your wife's son why he doesn't see you as his father and how you will not or never be seen as his sons grandfather. But now his son needs surgery your wife and her son want you to be grandpa to pay for surgery.
Stories like these remind me of why it was a great idea to stay married to one good man and not break up and blend families with someone else. These situations most always suck for 90% of the people involved. I babysat for a neighbors kid who was a mess over his parents divorce. He’d go outside and cry while slamming his book bag repeatedly into my trees. I’d have to go out and talk him down, comfort him, and get him to stop. I spent a lot of years trying to calm that kid down, just talking to him while feeding him cookies and milk, or something soothing to him. Eventually he learned to accept it, but the step parents thing was also messy and unhappy for him. It was as if his parents were so focused on themselves and their new partners happiness in the situation that there was no pity or time for him in any of this. And there never was really, that never changed. He stayed with my son at my house more than he ever did his own family, poor kiddo. Even after the babysitting ended because he was too old, he’d just get off the bus at my house and no one ever cared that he was gone. We basically had him at our house pretty solidly from 9 years old through high school until he partnered up and got married afterwards.
Blended families can be just as happy as non blended families. My older brother and sister are my siblings doesn't fucking matter they had a different dad and different last name.
@@tabithavanderpool418 I’m happy that was your experience. I hear many more horror stories than not so that’s what I was basing my opinion on-the wide variety of sad stories in my area and the unhappy endings that they had. I don’t know you but I do know them. Hence the differing opinion.
Story 3: thank god the girlfriend cannot have kids. I wonder if she deliberately targeted OPs ex husband because she knew she couldn’t have kids and saw it as an opportunity to have children.
That last one was just stupid on the dad & gf's part. I was neighbors with my best friends sister (I'm close with their family so the kids refer to me as Aunt Twiggy & I call them my nephews) I'd walk the kids to & from school/day care every day. While at their house after school I used to help my nephews with their homework. My best friends sister was appreciative of the help (she had 4 kids to take care of at the time plus cleaning & cooking) So, if my nephew asked for help I'd happily oblige him. Best friends sister didn't even bat an eye. She'd thank me & it was never a problem because I love those kids. Helping a child out with homework is not, I repeat NOT "parenting" And the fact the OP was a tutor too, you'd think they'd be more appreciative for the help.
I believe people should have a mandatory prerequisite exam of common knowledge and common sense before being allowed to have children. Some people are children in an adult's body. A 40 year old who acts like an entitled 16 year old should not reproduce.
Blimey, that last story is weird. You read about all these step-parents trying to force step-sibling relationships, and then this woman is pissed off a relationship exists!
Gotta love being called an asshole for stating facts. "You're not their mother, you never will be and they hate your guts." All true, all obviously in need of being stated cuz she thought otherwise. Women who can't give birth can still have children so I don't have sympathy for those crocodile tears.
Stay in your lane: YTA >>> You should apologize. You know, because faaaaaaaaaamily. You should also just get over the past, and move on. You know, "just to keep the peace." My fingers couldn't keep a straight face while typing that.
Bravo on the sister who let loose on the girlfriend of the ex who think she has the right to call the kids crazy because they love Harry Potter they are kids and newsflash I am 36 and Harry Potter Rocks! read it at 32 when I could buy it myself my mom hates it LOL
I would not have stayed married to someone who lets their child treat me like that. OP isn't the dad but OP was a good stepfather to the stepson and respected his boundaries. Respect goes both ways.
In the case of story 2, OP is not the asshole. I am a father though, so I understand the desperation the stepson feels. If I were him, I would have set ego and pride aside, and just been honest. “I know this isn’t your grandchild, and I have not been kind to you, but please - I am begging you as a scared father - please help me.”
M needs to make up her mind. If OP helping her kids with school work is "parenting" them, then M shouldn't be helping OP with her school work because then she would be parenting someone else's kid, and OP should call her mom to help and parent her. She can't have it both ways.
Last story is sad, the children are being taken care of & forming a bond with OP and the mom gets angry because the kids have too many people wanting to help them with school work. How many children worldwide wish they’d get help with school work, from anyone! Much less have an older “step sibling/mentor/I don’t know what it’d be called/OP” willing spend time with them & happy to help. Insanity, the dad’s girlfriend is way out of line telling OP not to communicate with her mom, sounds like she’s trying to be a school teacher to her rather than a person.
The only reason dear old Dad and his wife wants you around is for the FREE child care and FREE babysitter. Your old enough to pick who you want to live with; tell him your going to go to court and live with your Mom FULL TIME so get ready to pay ADDITIONAL child support.
Story about the sick “grandkid”: anytime anyone says anything to OP about “his grandkid”, OP should just ask them “who are you talking about? I don’t have any grandkids. If I did, I’d have pictures of them, memories of time with them, family that saw me have a relationship with them and their parents, and didn’t for years agree that I don’t have a son or grandson.” If they can’t/won’t respond to the treatment OP has been the victim of, and they’ve supported, just keep repeating the questions. And yes, seriously, why hasn’t OP just ghosted the lot of them, especially his wife/atm user.
So helping with the questions is parenting them.......but watching them isn't? isn't that usually the parents job, to make sure their kids don't off themselves or anyone/anything else? is OP isn't allowed to help, what th is the point of them watching the kids? I honestly think it might be time to limit contact with them to a very low level, though what that entails is up to OP of course.
The story about the step-son wanting OP to pay for his kids surgery is just sad, because it's not like that child was given an option as to whether or not they wanted a relationship with OP; it was something their father decided for them before they were even old enough to understand the concepts of marriage, divorce, and remarriage. OP would have just been another person in their life who could provide love and support, and the father prevented them from having that because of his own biases. OP isn't the asshole for respecting the wishes of his step-son, but it just feels bad that his child is the one who is suffering because of it. I guess that's normal though; families are constantly making shitty decisions and letting their children face the consequences. :/
I assume that once the stepson gets OP to pay for his kid’s surgery, OP will go back to being not his father and not the kid’s grandfather. OP is right to not let himself be taken advantage of and then discarded. The stepson’s actual family can pass a hat around.
grandson medical: I will say you are NTA with 2 words: What grandson? The parents went out of their way to exclude you from the kid's life... seriously- who returns presents meant with love? OP your WIFE went along with this treatment... even after you paid for everything for your stepson... sorry the kid is sick, but not your family... tell your wife to make a choice= honor yours or use the alimony your will be giving her to help pay for the stepson...
I'm not defending the ex-husband or anything, but how are people in this day and age still having no lock on their phone? Or having their messages -- private information -- displaying so plainly on the screen?
I love how the aunt referred to the child as OP's grandson. Clearly she didn't get the memo that OP is NOT the child's grandfather. Sounds like step-son is telling the family a different story.
No, I think Step-son was telling the truth. He is clearly not paying out of spite because he wanted to assert dominance when the kid was young and failed miserably, and will now choose to put his own wife's grandson in harms-way when literally everyone in his family is telling him to pay up. The Step-son was right to not let such a person near their kids and I think if we heard more from Step-son we would hear more about the frail ego of "step dad".
Or dad. However, more often than not, its not exactly a good thing for the kids. Most new partners of parents are jealous of the kids and abuse abd compete with them. It's better to just walk away. I don't feel sorry for any adult that act like they're the ones that got the bum deal.
ANY of my exes KNOW dont bs me after they did thier crap. I warned them once i was done, im DONE. Never had a back n forth with them or any of thier so. My kids my rule.
Story 4: so did that dude helping me with homework after school parent me? Hell no. Helping with homework is not parenting, that family seems a bit possessive of the kids 🙄
Story 1 - NTA. It's sounds like natural consequences for crappy decisions. Op's response to his affair partner was perfect lol. She sounds like trash. It sounds like op's dad just wanted to treat the grandkids like do-over kids since he failed at being a dad to op and his kids. Story 2 - NTA. Op deserved better than this. He wasn't good enough to be considered family but his money is good enough?? Relationships don't work like this. That's double true for stepparents. Op did their job until the stepson was an adult and decided to start his own family. Stepson did everything to exclude op. I would take this as my breaking point and leave these people behind. Story 3 - wow. What a piece of crap. The betrayal is even worse knowing the affair partner is a cousin. Honestly op was right being savage to her. Story 4 - "girlfriend's kids" lol no. NTA. It's messed up op's dad is trying to pawn off his own kid as a free babysitting service to impress the girlfriend. Molly sounds like an exhausting witch. Peggy hill syndrome sounds appropriate here.
OP2 is surrounded by cruel rascals who abuses and treats him like an ATM. If a divorce is going to hurt him financially then keep his wife but really stop supporting her financially and emotionally.
Story 1 I am sorry Okie your dad is an awful person and he's got some nerve to think that he can be your kids grandfather after everything he's done he'll know how that woman that you described as an awful person does he deserve to have kids so it's a good thing she doesn't
The number of fairly young women in these stories where she’s infertile is insane. I remember years ago that there was a morning sickness medication that caused infertility in the daughters. I guess there were more than I thought
Op#1. You said dad had children with a woman before your mother. Why did that marriage end? I ask because if he left wife 1 for your mother then yes yta, however if first wife died, or left him then nta.
Wish there was a little more resolutions to some of the stories - updates help a lot - it’s like a cliff hanger and no answer because the show has been cancelled
Story 2: Step son set the boundary, the OP is just respecting it. The OP wasn't even badgering or asking for anything but the step son went out of his way to be an ass once the child was born. He doesn't get to change the terms of the arrangement he set & be mad he doesn't get the result he was looking for. He's an adult, he can do what the OP really didn't have to do for him and take responsibilities for his own child. Story 3: Considering what the mistress did, she is lucky that she was able to sit in the same room without getting her head knocked between the washer and dryer for fixing her mouth to say ANYTHING about the children.
Story 3. You need to watch the kids, but not interfere with them. This requires malicious compliance. Every time they have a question, stop everything YOU are doing and take them to their mother. Patiently wait for her attention, allow the child to receive the answer, and then take the child back to her lessons. As soon as your father gets home, explain that now you have to complete YOUR lessons, since you spent so much time waiting for the step mom to parent their child.
Story 2: NTA first of all I can say these people are choosing beggars and entitled parents second why does OP have to pay if he isn't the biological father/grandfather of his STEPson and stepsons baby and three if you OP want to help your stepson make some sort of deal because what is the point of you paying your own money to save your stepsons baby when you won't be able to be around in the baby's life and make a deal with your stepson and his wife that you can see the baby sometimes but that's only if you pay for the surgery
Dress up is considered appropriate for girls, but not for boys, that just so much noise. Cat and Jack make some amazing dress up clothes for boys, not just super hero stuff
Story 1:
AITA for telling my estranged father that he and his wife can be grandparents to his other kids future children?
Story 2: 4:25
AITA For refusing to help my stepson with his son's surgery after he told me I'll never be his grandfather?
Story 3: 9:27
AITA for telling my ex husbands girlfriend stay in her lane when it comes to MY kids
Story 4: 13:47
AITA for refusing to babysit my dad’s girlfriends kids?
Please learn better English
NTA ALL THE WAY!
Story 2, stepson made it abundantly clear that he does not consider OP dad or grandfather. He won't even let OP TALK about the kid! No contact, not pictures, no gifts, not even allowed to mention the kids existence! They have no right to expect anything from OP, and need to realize when you push someone away, you don't get to ask them for favors later.
The stepson is so weird, the was no benefit to cut contact with Op except his enjoyment of being evil
So glad wife can now respect YOUR wishes.
Yeah just let them know clearly and firmly that you are not stepson's personal atm.
Story 2: I hope OP simply tells them that yes, he is selfish and cruel. And no, he's not paying. The real grandparents can help because family helps each other, and he's not family.
Second story:
Okay, stepson doesn't want a relationship with OP. Okay, thats fine. We've all heard lots of stories about stepchildren who don't like their stepparents. Stepdad doesn't overstep the boundaries. Fine. That's all fine.
But now the stepson is expecting the man he kept at a distance to pay for a child he probably hasn't even met? He is oversteping his own boundaries when it's convienent. That's bad. You can't expect someone you kept away for so long to suddenly jump in to help.
At this point, not his grandkid, not his problem. Stepson has made that clear from the get go.
Op, NTA.
And the extended family, I'm wondering if they as much assholes as the stepson, or whether they don't know the story. Its entirely possible they think OP is involved in his stepsons and step grandsons life.
You’re right.
But his marriage is most likely over
@@brokenmask333 What marriage?
She aided and abetted her son treating him like an ATM. "You are nothing to me, but you can pay my bills." Even the petty no grNpa rules.
Son can get a loan or hit up "grandparents deemed acceptable" to his tiny ungrateful mind. Wife can make the big payment as a reward for her bad family building.
Really, what child ever suffered by having MORE people love them.
@@brokenmask333 Doesn't sound like any great loss.
Telling the EX's girlfriend to stay in her lane is the only correct thing to do, so NTA.
Stepparents slash parents SO's are not meant to be disciplinarians. That shit falls on the kids actual parents.
Totally agree. Just because his girlfriend can't have kids she trying to take the place of op. The worst part was her ex was updating his mistress during his wife's labor and they were cousins.
Telling the cousin/ex's gf to stay in her lane was barely enough at that moment, she was way too nice imo xD
I doubt I would have been as nice to that homewrecking meddlesome little beyotch.
@@Bleg94 Yeah, if it was me, I'd have told her if I ever wanted to fuck a married man, I'd get her advice. Until then, I don't give a shit what she says.
same. it was the 1st thing and usually the only thing i said to my baby momma's new boyfriends when she got them. "if they put hands on my daughter ill put hands on them" and i never had a problem. it wasnt a threat its just the way it is and most of them at least knew of me and knew how important my daughter was to me. the way i see it its a dads most important job to protect his children and to go to any limits to do that.
That poor man in the 2nd story. His son died in combat, and now his stepson is a hateful AH. You're not grandad, you're nothing to me and your presents are returned. AH behaviour. Totally unwanted and alienated.AH. Now they want his money.AH .All he wanted was the chance of a little boy to love again, and was basically told to go away - you're not wanted, and get out of our lives. Dad, do not pay a single dollar. Remind them firmly that they told you firmly, to go away from their little son, and you respect that. Thank you for your son's service and his ultimate sacrifice.
I love part where the mon says she respects her son but not her husband he should divorce her its clear they don't care for him they only want money. He was clear why he not helping, but they didn't care where were they when he lost his son
Story 2, what is that family?! Gaslighting on steroids. They were perfectly fine for years telling him "you are not my father", "you are not his grandson." Now they want money. My response would have been " cool, go ask the actual father/grandfather" .
That, and if the wife kept giving me attitude, she'd be sleeping on the couch very quickly.
Omg the second story broke my heart.....I wish I could let that man hold my son for a while just so he can feel even a little bit happy. Those people are monsters....they refuse to acknowledge him until they need money, such disgusting creatures. They robbed that kid of a kind and caring grandfather. They should be absolutely ashamed and beg for forgiveness , I don't know, I couldn't imagine doing that to my son..... If you have a relative that loves them so much and showers them with kindness, love and affection then wtf is Ur issue? I will always believe that a child should be loved and cared for until the day you die, as a parent, a grandparent or even a relative....
I know, right? I want to have a solid hand on that guy's shoulder to tell him he's a good guy.
I want to have him as my dad or grandpa. I'm in my 30s, and I don't need money, but I lost my (Step)dad 15 years ago and I miss him so much everyday. Just to have that respect and love and care again, to have that different perspective and advice through life. I can't have kids of my own, but he could be a grandpa to my cats, like my mom is a grandma to them. All his wife saw him as was an ATM to help her take care of her son, and her son carried his mother's attitude to the natural conclusion. It's heartbreaking. You can't have things both ways.
2:29; NTA. He made his choice when he cheated on your mom and betrayed your family. His "mistress" made her choice when she knowingly screwed around with a married man and broke up a family with no remorse or care about it.
Story 3: Pretty karmaic that the family breaker and cheating pos can't have kids, which is what they deserve for their cruel actions.
I`m not even sure if it wasn`t the other way around...
She knew she couldn`t have children, than sees cousin popping out one child after another (not meant deragotory, just how that woman might see it) and thinks: "Hmmm... if I can`t have my onw children, I just take that man and be a stepmon and kick the real mum out..."
Thank God, that didn`t work out...
Story 2: NTA."My wife says she respects her son's wishes and isn't trying to force him to do anything." OK, so tell her she also needs to respect *your* wishes and not try to force you to pay. And why are you still married to a woman that will allow her family to treat you like nothing more than a wallet when it suits them and an inconvenience when it doesn't? Absolutely, the step-son has the right to choose not to have a relationship with you, and you are right to respect that wish. You went above and beyond paying for things for him when he was growing up. But if he hasn't realized what a great man you are, and that family can be more than blood by now, then he has absolutely NO right a̶s̶k̶i̶n̶g̶ demanding money from you when you're not allowed so much as a lousy picture or to even send a birthday gift!
Story 4: Dad: "It's not your job to parent girlfriend's kids, daughter!" Also Dad: "But also, parent girlfriend's kids by being free babysitting whenever we want!" NTA, OP. Girlfriend's insecurities and needing to be the smartest person in the world are beyond your pay grade - literally.
Title story: NTA. Oh boo hoo, the homewrecking new wife is having a sad because she can't have kids? Who gives a damn. The father only reached out to OP because he wants something. Good on OP for keeping these toxic people away from her kids.
Story2: NTA. Boundaries cut both ways. The stepson went out of his way to exclude OP from his life. He only cares about OP's wallet. OP is right to refuse. And he should also start firmly putting people in their place. He doesn't have a stepson, he isn't family. And if the wife doesn't stop this nonsense, she'll be sleeping on the couch.
Story3: Hella NTA. Kudos to OP for putting that homewrecking meddlesome beyotch in her place! Aww poor baby is having a sad? Who gives a damn. I hope OP gets full custody.
Story4: NTA. Dad and new g/f want to have it both ways with OP. Nope.
On the Second Story totally in the right clearly this is one of those guys who never wanted a relationship with this man to begin with and then to make it even worse this man pay for his education his medical bills and treated him like his own while respecting his boundaries of not trying to be his father but love them as if he was one of his own. And then when the man had his own child he told the original poster you are not his grandfather you are not allowed to take pictures of him you're not allowed to give him gifts you're not allowed to spend time with him and you're not even allowed to call him family and the fact that this man's wife allowed it to happen that should have been a red flag to say to the wife either you tell your son I much a part of this family as he is or I will divorce you and cut off all contact with the family all together. This man has done so much for his stepson when he was younger and the stepson was one of those kids who wants to be in control of everything but yet when stuff goes out of control and he needs help he goes to the person that he knows that can potentially help him but won't because of the way he treated him. This is his karma. Also it makes me wonder does anyone else think that the stepson told them someone lying mess about how stepfather if not helping him pay for his son's surgery when in reality this man wanted nothing to do with him. I think the stepson has so much better and hatred for his mom for getting remarried that he took it out on the stepfather as a way of not going after the mother because if he went after the mother the mother probably would have just said I don't care. And the mother just allowed it because she didn't want to lose her child.
I don't really blame the mother either for this situation.
I see it more as the spiteful kid unhappy and angry that his mother remarried and created the situation. I'd assume the mother also had a lot of restrictions put on her about him as well...and that puts her in a horrible situation with it. She's trying to keep both her son/grandkid and her husband now...and it's more husband vs grandkid in a lot of situations like this.
My view is that the son is trying to punish his mother and "win" against her mothers husband.
When you add the baby's need at this point, that just adds to the mess of it.
The son probably has the view that it's a win/win to some extent. Guy caves and the money keeps flowing so son gets to squeeze some more cash out, or the guy refuses and potentially ends up divorced, and will spend the rest of his life pointing at how stupid his mother was for "trusting" him in the first place.
Offering the money as a direct, legal loan rather than a gift is probably the best solution there. If it shakes the son out of the vindictive mode, the loan can be forgiven, if not, well, the cash gets paid back or the son suffers there.
@@AzraelThanatos Never loan to family, even stepfamily. Stepson can go to a bank if he wants a loan. And OP needs a therapist to find out why he allows this dynamic to continue. He needs to kick his wife to the curb.
Story 1 - NTA - It was his choice. You made the right choice.
Story 2 ' NTA - He told you were not the grandfather and refused your present. He and your wife were wrong expecting you to pay.
Story 3 - NTA - She has no right to dictate how you raise your children
Story 4 - It is your choice if you want to babysit your step brothers if you cannot help them with their homework
The last story Molly got upset because op asked her mom for help on a project. Molly sounds like a control freak, op isn't trying to parent the boys she is just trying answer questions they have during classes.
If he dad doesn't change his behavior op will never come again once they turn 18
11:56; NTA. Your ex's "mistress"/your "cousin" is out of line. She's just the "other woman" that helped break up the kids' real family. BTW remind her that family doesn't do what she did to family. Your ex and your cousin betrayed you and your children and family. They drove that wedge in your family. His mistress needs to step back and understand that she was not ever your children's mommy nor will she ever be. Tbh her trying to play mommy to her little cousins (in this situation) is creepy and borders on something else if you know what I mean.
Op#2. Do you still have the gift they returned? Give it back, tell them they can return it to the store, keep the cash, and that is the money you will contribute. If you’re not planning on leaving this family now, you will have no choice if the boy’s health deteriorates.
"Well, at least we know now why Mother Nature decided to not allow you to have kids."
Yes, I would be that petty and horrible to my Ex's new paramour, if they tried to interfere with my family. She's not their mother. She's just the Ex's piece on the side.
☺😊😁😄😉.
You got that right.
Hell yes!
God weeding the herd!!!🤣🤣🤣
NTA op dump the wife and stepson they made it clear your not FAMILY now they want money send them to a bank for a loan no one said anything about how he treated you all this time and now bc his son needs help your suppose to give your hard earn money to a stranger dump them all NTA
3rd bruh she slept with her cousins husband and then crys bc OP told her that she should stay in the line. I agree with OP, her exs gf has no saying in what her kids dress. And the husband has a nerve to scream to OP that she is the asshole but he is a cheater....
With the Harry Potter kids, I would love to see the video they took of the stepmom having a "meeting" with them
Definitely
Dude, I wish my kids wanted to dress up as Harry Potter characters.....then they wouldn't make fun of my HP pajamas.
I don't understand why that second guy is still married to his wife. NTA
She should be sleeping on the couch at a minimum. Act like an entitled jerk, face consequences.
First story, it's amazing how many of these estranged parents/relatives only want to get back into their relative's life when there is something that they want.
Story 2 NTA. OP is respecting his stepsons wishes of not being a father him/grandfather to his son. The stepson should ask his father/ the baby's grandfather. Since stepson has all those people to harass OP, he can ask them to pay up.
The stepson just realised that his wishes the good comes with the bad
Where was wife when stepson was issuing all his rules and restrictions?
She aided and abetted the little monster's isolation. Like the returned gift, that includes your checkbook.
Story 4:
If OP feels gracious, she can say: "Babysitters get paid, parents do it for free. If I`m not a parent, lets negotiate my hourly wage..."
#2 The f-ing audacity to ask for money. Hope OP wont falter, and maybe leave that woman too if she keep pushing.
The first story it's pretty obvious that you don't give your father and his side piece who he married a chance to be grandparents when they couldn't have children on their own. That's their karma for what they did to your mom and what your dad did to you per se. In addition I will cut off anyone who will enable them and get them to guilt-trip you into letting him be in your life and your children's life again. If he wants to see the kids today he'll ask for money tomorrow. Stop it now before it gets any further.
Well i have feeling that his dad will ended up left the mistress because she cant have children from another woman
@@hugoumero9723 then he should have done that years ago if he couldn't get kids for her
@@BIGEAGLEDUDE And honestly I laughed so hard when he said she couldn't have children. Shitty people like that don't deserve kids and I would feel bad for any spawn they had considering all they've done to OP and the family.
7:26; NTA. The alienated, ostrasized and shunned you and now they are playing the victim? No. It doesn't work that way.
They made their choices.
Just remember that the baby needs help and they don't have to know that you helped the baby.
Why haven't you noped clear out of that family?
2nd story, NTA. Your money, your prerogative. The wife can pay for it. You aren't an ATM, screw them
Edit: im sorry. Why did you stay married to this woman???
I would have a lawyer make a contract regarding a loan for medical Bill's. If you aren't the grandfather then you're a bank right?
That is pointless. You are married to his mother. It would be highly unlikely to be enforceable. Wife can easily divorce and takes half the debt and assets with her. So... silly. Courts could pull the duress argument, or you can't expect them to actually pay you back, plus you'd get a ton of crap from their family, your wife divorcing or being an a-hole for the rest of your life, etc.
Just say "No". Tell your wife the next time her or any of her family mentions it to you, you are filing for divorce -- and do it.
"It's not your place to 'Parent' her kids!"
"You are ABSOLUTELY right Dad! It is also not my place to BABYSIT her kids! So I wont anymore."
Go into your room, close the door, Molly Know-it-all can parent them.
Make a sign with Dad's immortal words and the date.
" Sorry, I am not your parent. Ask Molly."
Only answer them if the house is on fire. Molly needs malicious compliance education.
The last story. I would send the kids into the room with the step mum to ask the questions.
"Dad has five kids total, three with my mom and two with a woman BEFORE he married my mom". Wait, wtf? Who wants to bet the mom knew he was with another woman and did the same thing the future homewrecker did?
No. Likely had kids out of wedlock like alot of ppl.
So we are just making assumptions now?
Harry Potter story: 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 I would tell Ex and that biyatch to kick rocks!! I said what I said! Not my fault she can’t have kids!! She was 100% right to tell her to stay in her lane!! As for the Ex I would let him know unfortunately those are our kids if she wants to be a mother get her a dog or a pet rock!! Oh yeah he got one more time to call me screaming/defending her about my kids!! NTA
Here's the thing about the last story your dad is basically trying to keep the peace for as long as possible because he can tell that his girlfriend that was a teacher is really starting to get jealous and uncomfortable with the fact that her boyfriend's older son is somewhat helping or tutoring her kids with their homework. And she doesn't like that my advice to you leave the house for the time being and let your dad and girlfriend work it out or tell him straight up she needs to get counseling or I won't be back for a while clearly this woman got major problems
So, is the teacher, teaching or parenting when she is on her zoom calls with her students and answering questions???
This is exactly what I was going to comment. Also, if the GF is comparing answering questions/tutoring to parenting, then why does the GF think OP has to ask her questions instead of OP's own mother? Just ridiculous.
NTA and dad is correct. It's not OP's job to parent Molly's kids. Guess what else isn't her job? To babysit those same kids unless OP is getting paid cash money for doing so. Molly's childcare issues aren't OP's problem.
@@MrJpaynebb How the fuck help them with the work is parenting? She is just helping and thats it.
The step mom is pretty weird, like she had an inferiority complex or something, and wanted to be the smarter one in the house. My mom was pretty happy of me helping my sister with school work, especially if it was in subjects she didn't remembered pretty well.
no way for a start your cheating dad never let them near your kids for what he did to his family sorry but that is how I feel only let your mother not mistress to be grandmother not your dad that"s it I think he has some bloody nerve asking
And now the stepson will know the pain of losing a kid
The stepson son will get the operation the question is just who much it will cost the stepson?
3rd story ex husband is insanley stupid and shamless to have the audacity to demand an apology for op for making his wife cry when op put her foot down when defending her child and reminding her that they are op's children not her's espcially after ex husband was cheating on op with said wife who was her cousin, WHILE SHE WAS IN LABOR WITH THIRD CHILD!!!!! Op should get full costudy of the children since it's clearly a toxic enviorment with those two and they don't need that espcially the youngest.
So what if his side piece can’t have kids
Not stepson now wants you to be grandpa for money. If anyone says anything about family list every point from your wife's son why he doesn't see you as his father and how you will not or never be seen as his sons grandfather. But now his son needs surgery your wife and her son want you to be grandpa to pay for surgery.
Stories like these remind me of why it was a great idea to stay married to one good man and not break up and blend families with someone else. These situations most always suck for 90% of the people involved. I babysat for a neighbors kid who was a mess over his parents divorce. He’d go outside and cry while slamming his book bag repeatedly into my trees. I’d have to go out and talk him down, comfort him, and get him to stop. I spent a lot of years trying to calm that kid down, just talking to him while feeding him cookies and milk, or something soothing to him. Eventually he learned to accept it, but the step parents thing was also messy and unhappy for him. It was as if his parents were so focused on themselves and their new partners happiness in the situation that there was no pity or time for him in any of this. And there never was really, that never changed. He stayed with my son at my house more than he ever did his own family, poor kiddo. Even after the babysitting ended because he was too old, he’d just get off the bus at my house and no one ever cared that he was gone. We basically had him at our house pretty solidly from 9 years old through high school until he partnered up and got married afterwards.
Blended families can be just as happy as non blended families. My older brother and sister are my siblings doesn't fucking matter they had a different dad and different last name.
@@tabithavanderpool418 I’m happy that was your experience. I hear many more horror stories than not so that’s what I was basing my opinion on-the wide variety of sad stories in my area and the unhappy endings that they had. I don’t know you but I do know them. Hence the differing opinion.
Story 3: thank god the girlfriend cannot have kids. I wonder if she deliberately targeted OPs ex husband because she knew she couldn’t have kids and saw it as an opportunity to have children.
That last one was just stupid on the dad & gf's part. I was neighbors with my best friends sister (I'm close with their family so the kids refer to me as Aunt Twiggy & I call them my nephews) I'd walk the kids to & from school/day care every day. While at their house after school I used to help my nephews with their homework. My best friends sister was appreciative of the help (she had 4 kids to take care of at the time plus cleaning & cooking) So, if my nephew asked for help I'd happily oblige him. Best friends sister didn't even bat an eye. She'd thank me & it was never a problem because I love those kids.
Helping a child out with homework is not, I repeat NOT "parenting" And the fact the OP was a tutor too, you'd think they'd be more appreciative for the help.
That's crazy how is a step going to demand something and not related to me at all. I should know, I stopped that right away.
"The dude from twilight" 🤣🤣🤣 the fact that Robert isn't known as Cedric Diggory from Hairy Potter, but as "the dude from twilight" is hilarious
I like this voice a lot more than the other
I believe people should have a mandatory prerequisite exam of common knowledge and common sense before being allowed to have children. Some people are children in an adult's body. A 40 year old who acts like an entitled 16 year old should not reproduce.
I love how the kids upoaded the Girlfriends rant on facebook! You got yo love kids. LOL
It's amazing how ppl do wrong and then want everything to be ok he crazy as hell
Blimey, that last story is weird. You read about all these step-parents trying to force step-sibling relationships, and then this woman is pissed off a relationship exists!
Gotta love being called an asshole for stating facts. "You're not their mother, you never will be and they hate your guts." All true, all obviously in need of being stated cuz she thought otherwise. Women who can't give birth can still have children so I don't have sympathy for those crocodile tears.
Stay in your lane: YTA >>> You should apologize. You know, because faaaaaaaaaamily. You should also just get over the past, and move on. You know, "just to keep the peace."
My fingers couldn't keep a straight face while typing that.
About the step son, are you holding your money over your step sons head or is step son trying to stick his hand into your pocket?
Bravo on the sister who let loose on the girlfriend of the ex who think she has the right to call the kids crazy because they love Harry Potter they are kids and newsflash I am 36 and Harry Potter Rocks! read it at 32 when I could buy it myself my mom hates it LOL
If op can’t be a grandpa to his stepdad child then he doesn’t get his money 💰 and if I was op I would file for divorce and move on with life.
Story 3: If cousin was worried about the kids, maybe she shouldn't have broken up their family by sleeping with a married man.
I would not have stayed married to someone who lets their child treat me like that. OP isn't the dad but OP was a good stepfather to the stepson and respected his boundaries. Respect goes both ways.
In the case of story 2, OP is not the asshole. I am a father though, so I understand the desperation the stepson feels. If I were him, I would have set ego and pride aside, and just been honest. “I know this isn’t your grandchild, and I have not been kind to you, but please - I am begging you as a scared father - please help me.”
They, including your wife, kicked you out of their lives. Go see his daddy for the money. NTA.
As soon as the last OP's father said "You'e not the parent!" OP should have said "Dang straight!" and walked away, end of story! lol
Why would op dad think his daughter want someone who broke up her family and op needs to block the dad and his mistress phone number
First story: Nature was definitely doing the world a favour by denying the AP bio kids..no passing on of her damaged DNA..
M needs to make up her mind. If OP helping her kids with school work is "parenting" them, then M shouldn't be helping OP with her school work because then she would be parenting someone else's kid, and OP should call her mom to help and parent her. She can't have it both ways.
The Harry Potter one... I am SOOOO jealous! I been trying to get my kids to love hary potter for YEARS! Smh
Last story is sad, the children are being taken care of & forming a bond with OP and the mom gets angry because the kids have too many people wanting to help them with school work. How many children worldwide wish they’d get help with school work, from anyone! Much less have an older “step sibling/mentor/I don’t know what it’d be called/OP” willing spend time with them & happy to help. Insanity, the dad’s girlfriend is way out of line telling OP not to communicate with her mom, sounds like she’s trying to be a school teacher to her rather than a person.
HE COULD BUY HER SOME GRANDKIDS, GOD DIDNT WANT HER to be a MOTHER OR A GRANDMA
The only reason dear old Dad and his wife wants you around is for the FREE child care and FREE babysitter. Your old enough to pick who you want to live with; tell him your going to go to court and live with your Mom FULL TIME so get ready to pay ADDITIONAL child support.
Story about the sick “grandkid”: anytime anyone says anything to OP about “his grandkid”, OP should just ask them “who are you talking about? I don’t have any grandkids. If I did, I’d have pictures of them, memories of time with them, family that saw me have a relationship with them and their parents, and didn’t for years agree that I don’t have a son or grandson.”
If they can’t/won’t respond to the treatment OP has been the victim of, and they’ve supported, just keep repeating the questions.
And yes, seriously, why hasn’t OP just ghosted the lot of them, especially his wife/atm user.
So helping with the questions is parenting them.......but watching them isn't? isn't that usually the parents job, to make sure their kids don't off themselves or anyone/anything else? is OP isn't allowed to help, what th is the point of them watching the kids? I honestly think it might be time to limit contact with them to a very low level, though what that entails is up to OP of course.
The story about the step-son wanting OP to pay for his kids surgery is just sad, because it's not like that child was given an option as to whether or not they wanted a relationship with OP; it was something their father decided for them before they were even old enough to understand the concepts of marriage, divorce, and remarriage. OP would have just been another person in their life who could provide love and support, and the father prevented them from having that because of his own biases. OP isn't the asshole for respecting the wishes of his step-son, but it just feels bad that his child is the one who is suffering because of it. I guess that's normal though; families are constantly making shitty decisions and letting their children face the consequences. :/
I assume that once the stepson gets OP to pay for his kid’s surgery, OP will go back to being not his father and not the kid’s grandfather. OP is right to not let himself be taken advantage of and then discarded. The stepson’s actual family can pass a hat around.
grandson medical: I will say you are NTA with 2 words: What grandson? The parents went out of their way to exclude you from the kid's life... seriously- who returns presents meant with love? OP your WIFE went along with this treatment... even after you paid for everything for your stepson... sorry the kid is sick, but not your family... tell your wife to make a choice= honor yours or use the alimony your will be giving her to help pay for the stepson...
I'm not defending the ex-husband or anything, but how are people in this day and age still having no lock on their phone? Or having their messages -- private information -- displaying so plainly on the screen?
Story one: Tell “Papa was a rolling stone” you are going no contact.
You should agree to watch the kids and every time one of them asks you a question tell them you can’t and tell them exactly why you can’t.
In divorce the wife. tells stepson to eff off and don't care about the baby, not your grandkid
OP's wife is just as wrong as her stepson. Keep the same energy. She is respecting her son's wishes so she's capable of respecting OP's.
I love how the aunt referred to the child as OP's grandson. Clearly she didn't get the memo that OP is NOT the child's grandfather. Sounds like step-son is telling the family a different story.
No, I think Step-son was telling the truth. He is clearly not paying out of spite because he wanted to assert dominance when the kid was young and failed miserably, and will now choose to put his own wife's grandson in harms-way when literally everyone in his family is telling him to pay up. The Step-son was right to not let such a person near their kids and I think if we heard more from Step-son we would hear more about the frail ego of "step dad".
This why you never marry a single mom ever
Only a fool will do it and suffer for it
Or dad.
However, more often than not, its not exactly a good thing for the kids. Most new partners of parents are jealous of the kids and abuse abd compete with them. It's better to just walk away.
I don't feel sorry for any adult that act like they're the ones that got the bum deal.
@@Lokian_Mermaid I agree with you, these adults know what they got themselves into and they take it out on the kids most of the time.
15:35 Molly is putting her ego before the education of the students around her. This makes Molly a shitty educator and parental figure.
ANY of my exes KNOW dont bs me after they did thier crap. I warned them once i was done, im DONE. Never had a back n forth with them or any of thier so. My kids my rule.
If I had kids that wanted to wear weird stuff, I would ask if I could join in. I love dressing in weird stuff too.
Story 4: so did that dude helping me with homework after school parent me? Hell no. Helping with homework is not parenting, that family seems a bit possessive of the kids 🙄
Story 1 - NTA. It's sounds like natural consequences for crappy decisions. Op's response to his affair partner was perfect lol. She sounds like trash. It sounds like op's dad just wanted to treat the grandkids like do-over kids since he failed at being a dad to op and his kids.
Story 2 - NTA. Op deserved better than this. He wasn't good enough to be considered family but his money is good enough?? Relationships don't work like this. That's double true for stepparents. Op did their job until the stepson was an adult and decided to start his own family. Stepson did everything to exclude op. I would take this as my breaking point and leave these people behind.
Story 3 - wow. What a piece of crap. The betrayal is even worse knowing the affair partner is a cousin. Honestly op was right being savage to her.
Story 4 - "girlfriend's kids" lol no. NTA. It's messed up op's dad is trying to pawn off his own kid as a free babysitting service to impress the girlfriend. Molly sounds like an exhausting witch. Peggy hill syndrome sounds appropriate here.
1st two stories are Karma at its finest.
The Peggy hill comment was spot on
OP2 is surrounded by cruel rascals who abuses and treats him like an ATM. If a divorce is going to hurt him financially then keep his wife but really stop supporting her financially and emotionally.
Story 1 I am sorry Okie your dad is an awful person and he's got some nerve to think that he can be your kids grandfather after everything he's done he'll know how that woman that you described as an awful person does he deserve to have kids so it's a good thing she doesn't
The number of fairly young women in these stories where she’s infertile is insane. I remember years ago that there was a morning sickness medication that caused infertility in the daughters. I guess there were more than I thought
Op#1. You said dad had children with a woman before your mother. Why did that marriage end? I ask because if he left wife 1 for your mother then yes yta, however if first wife died, or left him then nta.
Wish there was a little more resolutions to some of the stories - updates help a lot - it’s like a cliff hanger and no answer because the show has been cancelled
TELLING HOSPITAL ITS A LOAN UNTIL STATE APPROVED PEDICURE , THEN HOSPITAL WILL REIMBURSE , CUT THEM A CHECK AS SOON AS ITS APPROVED. PLAYING YOU
Story 2: Step son set the boundary, the OP is just respecting it. The OP wasn't even badgering or asking for anything but the step son went out of his way to be an ass once the child was born. He doesn't get to change the terms of the arrangement he set & be mad he doesn't get the result he was looking for. He's an adult, he can do what the OP really didn't have to do for him and take responsibilities for his own child.
Story 3: Considering what the mistress did, she is lucky that she was able to sit in the same room without getting her head knocked between the washer and dryer for fixing her mouth to say ANYTHING about the children.
You did the right thing.
Story 3. You need to watch the kids, but not interfere with them. This requires malicious compliance. Every time they have a question, stop everything YOU are doing and take them to their mother. Patiently wait for her attention, allow the child to receive the answer, and then take the child back to her lessons. As soon as your father gets home, explain that now you have to complete YOUR lessons, since you spent so much time waiting for the step mom to parent their child.
This guy needs to leave this wife and her greedy family
Story 2: NTA first of all I can say these people are choosing beggars and entitled parents second why does OP have to pay if he isn't the biological father/grandfather of his STEPson and stepsons baby and three if you OP want to help your stepson make some sort of deal because what is the point of you paying your own money to save your stepsons baby when you won't be able to be around in the baby's life and make a deal with your stepson and his wife that you can see the baby sometimes but that's only if you pay for the surgery
Last story: If you're watching them and they do something they shouldn't do, or could get hurt, are you parenting them if you stop them from doing it?
Dress up is considered appropriate for girls, but not for boys, that just so much noise. Cat and Jack make some amazing dress up clothes for boys, not just super hero stuff
Horrible stepson, so why is OP still married to that wife.
The last story- Molly is a terrible. She's stunting her kids just to stroke her ego.