There are many different types of abusers. My ex-husband was a lot like Rile. I could have that type of conversation, but no knowing until later of the outcome of it.
True. A colleague of mine, a teacher, reconciled with her abusive husband even after several abuse-separation-reconciliation attempts. She got killed ultimately. 😢🕊️🇵🇭
Dead women in an abusive or toxic relationship; do not trigger him with ur baby in ur hands. The abuser might hurt the baby or u. This is not realistic, although I like this scene a lot. An abuser wouldn’t let her leave so easy. He was making sure she needed him for a while and wouldn’t just give up power over their victim like this. Stay safe
I disagree. She was in a hospital, not in a secluded area. Many abusers do things in private and act differently in public. She felt safer there and knew that was the best place to leave him. Every abuse story is different.
Mine made my 10 year old daughter suicidal, she has been for over 4 years yet no one listens to me when I tell them he’s been beating my kids, past 3-4 years they don’t talk about it with no one so I look crazy for simply worrying about them
@@LivingInPeace2024late reply but I agree. I don’t think it was that realistic but confronting him in front of the baby he wanted, in a public place where he works and has a reputation and paycheck where there’s cameras and security is a lot safer than doing it alone in private
This is extremely unrealistic. Trying to logically convince an abuser that what he is doing is wrong?!? If he abused her while pregnant with their child then why would he suddenly understand and calmly walk away?!? My ex husband flipped at the hospital while I was giving birth to our son. He didn't need to scream or put a finger on me. He manipulated the situation. Charmed the nurses, made me look like a crazy and unfit mother by just talking to them behind my back. My best friend caught him. He acted as the loving worried husband and father. Obviously I didn't notice because I was so tired from having just given birth, and on edge because I was scared to death of him. I didn't leave. My ex husband conviced me through years of abuse that I wouldn't survive alone. I felt vulnerable and scared of being a single mom. During the pregnancy he would continually threatened to take away our son as soon as he was born if I ever did something to upset him. At the birth, I was more concerned about keeping everyone happy, even tried to push faster because he kept looking at his watch. Thank G-d for my nurse and best friend that where there and quickly picked up on the red flags that I wouldn't see. That friend offered me support and wisdom, and waited patiently for me to slowly have the courage to leave. It took years! And therapy, and friends, and court orders... That scene just invalidated what DV victims have to go through. Especially when there is a kid involved.
i genuinely wish u so much happiness, content, love, peace. i am so sorry you went through any of this, you even writing this out shows your strength. I hope it isn't annoying to read that, I get annoyed when people tell me how strong I am, but my point is you are displaying what it really looks like and people will read this and relate, or understand. I am excited for you to move forward and have some wonderful, beautiful, fun days and nights which I know you will, just as the negative experiences come so do the positive, most happy ones.
This is the reason why I didnt read the book to a finish. This scene happened in the book. I dont understand what people were going on and on about why they hyped this book so much.
Thank you for this. My best friend is in a similar situation and I’ve questioned how much support I give. It’s hard to stand by and watch but if I push too hard she won’t share anything. It’s good to hear you say that she stuck with you for years and was just patient.
@@an-qo6by Thank you so much for all your beautiful blessings and words of encouragement! It reminds me of how much kindness and compassion there is in us. Thank you for that.
Uh, you say I want a divorce while he is holding the baby? Stupid scene...no way an abused mom would put her newborn in that situation..made for TV hallmark movie
unpopular opinion but in a way I really loved this scene because it felt therapeutic and like a release- not that it is realistic, but because in this scene, we all get to watch her tell him exactly what he is, for him to digest and understand what she is saying (also unrealistic), and accept it, that was just nice to watch, because it doesn't really happen in real life, so at least here we get to watch it play out and feel idk, it feels satisfying. and kinda empowering? for being able to save herself and her daughter. what her mom couldn't do.
Guys, don't take this so negatively. I agree with the comments that most of the time it's hard to negotiate with an abuser because the abuser, having tasted power, doesn't want to lose it. But in the movie, Ryle didn't really mean to hurt her. He's just sick from the stress of losing his brother... he's self-destructed, it's true. And he's the kind of guy you can deal with. Because he didn't bask in his power over Lily. That's my opinion. High praise for the cast and everyone who worked on the movie.
No he meant to hit her, he is an abuser for sure They’re charming people nice and kind at first but then that one moment of outburst and the first hit, yes they mean it, he was just trying to control it but they can’t
No he meant to hit her, he is an abuser for sure They’re charming people nice and kind at first but then that one moment of outburst and the first hit, yes they mean it, he was just trying to control it but they can’t They’re is no excuse at all for hitting abusing anyone I don’t care at that point why he does it, and yes they can end up killing you Starts with a slap but it builds to get worse then one night he tries to kill you but by the grace of God there’s a distraction and your able to run but it doesn’t end there always until you show them your strength and look at them In the eye and say truth then it ended for me cause he knew he could no longer control me
This movie is a yes and a no. Not for the love story but for the handling of the abuse. Wish it could be this simple to deal with abusers or maybe it was just me, not handling it the righ way.
No, it's not you, it's the film setting unrealistic standards. Or maybe they wanted to show him in a more sympathetic light as in not completely ''lost'' or something...
This is the story of the author's parents. It is just one out of thousands of different DA stories involving thousands of different personalities and relationship dynamics.
@@m.l.bishop1914 the reference that the author uses about her parents was about Lily blooms Parents not about Lily and Ryle relationship. It's Extremely unrealistic that a relationship with any kind of violence like that would end with the abuser saying "ok i love you and i don't want to hurt you anymore so im gonna leave you alone." Regardless of personalities and dynamics Abuser want to have total control ,leaving a abuser is the most dangerous for a women.
This movie persuade to me what I wish I would have been strong enough to do. You all keep hating for no reason. It's a movie, a ideal situation, a situation I wish I was strong enough to do.
This is so unrealistic. Anyone who has been mistreated emotionally and or physically knows that the one doing the mistreating never understands, accepts, and walk away quietly when told what they have done.
She gave the baby to him and then broke the news? Realistically an abuser would have tried to hurt the baby to make sure she complies. Weird choice. But also a smart one, as a hospital is a good place to do it, as it is quite public
There are many types of abusers. I was in 2 different abusive relationships with men. One was a relationship when I was 21. He almost killed me. My second was with my husband of 11 years. Two different types of abusers. My ex-husband was mentally and physically abusive and had shown in in front of the children a time or two. He got mad at me one time for defending myself by putting scratches on his neck and that we could not attend a party at his family. No one can say, Well, she can't do that or she should of done that. Each situation is different unless you were exactly in their shoes, you can't really comment what Lily should of done.
OMG abusers are so not like this. I tried to convince my abuser to say the words he was an abuser. They do not see in their minds what they are doing wrong so they continue the same behavior over and over. Sure he acts like this now but as soon as they not in that hospital you know he’s going back to destroy her
Si has leído el segundo libro sabrás que Ryle realmente no cambia y que después hace todo lo posible por destruir la relación entre Lily y Atlas y utiliza a su hija para seguir manipulando e intimidando a Lily.
He could still throw the baby out the window or whatever to get back at her these sociopaths don’t care if they’re arrested they don’t care about consequences Also, Blake is beautiful and good actress, check, check but a very arrogant person 😊
She was in a hospital, public place and his job so if he did anything bad to her or their little girl, all she has to do is call out for help if things went awfully wrong. She had no better chance to tell him than right here. They became a mother and father to a beautiful baby girl and the second he said he would keep his daughter safe. That was when she straight up asked him while looking at their baby girl, “What if the person she loved was hurting her, what would you say to her?” That truly put it into his perspective if his little girl was with an abuser. I imagine he would beg his daughter to leave so she could never be hurt again. It was for the sake for their little girl, stop the cycle of abuse before it ever got to their daughter. Thanks for uploading.
@@deepankananag2478 it's not a gamble, she knew he won't do anything where people around, one thing about abuser is they care about their reputation outside the house.
I see all these comments saying it’s unrealistic but The hospital was the best place for her to no it at!! Ive been a victim , by her taking his power at his workplace during such an intimate moment may just cause that man to think get help and change…
People who haven’t been in these situations believe that the best scenario is the abuser to be punished and “hung.” Unfortunately, as much as it hurts us who were physically hurt, the best case scenario is that the man actually learns, grows, and becomes someone the baby can rely on. It’s not the most satisfying ending, but it gives the kid the best chance (if it’s possible for abusers to genuinely change).
The movie is heavily romanticized because they’re giving it from a perspective that the woman is feeling even though she’s being abused. She’s so in love that it’s hard to look at it from a destructive angle and see him as a monster. People on the outside, looking in, always see the monster, they see the person there in love with. You have to be realistic about the perspective of the person, the movie wasn’t about you it was about her.
My abuser came back and said hebwas glad I left, and that sacred me to death. We been broken up for years, and I was still scared he was coming back. Yea crazy I know in my rational mind. Still, I live in fear.
It is not crazy, it is normal in such cases. It does ease up as the years go by and you replace the bad memories with good ones. Stay wise and alert but do go on living your life.
I understand that DV outcome here is unrealistic, what I cannot understand why is the need to put such a bad outcome in this movie? A movie which is actually about hope and redemption, about the fact that you need to hope that there is the other side of the coin. If you want real DV stuff, then watch the news or simply create a horror movie.
This makes me so sad. I’ve never been abused but I’ve been around enough victims to know this movie is trash. So glad i didn’t see it. You can tell this is classic fake feminist getting her way and ruining what could have been a true eye-opening movie! 😒 i hope this movie gets remade!
This is so creepy knowing that Justin brought in his best buddy to play the Doctor in this scene…he’s not an actor! If what is coming out is true, he deserves what’s coming!
I couldn't help but wonder if Riley got any kind of help at 6 years old when he tragically, accidently shot his beloved brother, Emerson. Of course it effected Riley! Just so sad 😢
The script is terrible and acting just as bad! Talk about "romantizing" physical abuse! He doesnt even come close to the real thing and she was so not credible at all either! For someone who was supposedly being abused, it was a sigh and roll the eyes! Too much fluff!
I couldn’t wait to see this movie, them when I figured out what he was doing to her, I hated it. Abuse is wrong on any level. This scene could be therapeutic, but realistically probably could happen unless the abuser realized what they have done and got help!
Always remember your worth as a woman. If you missed the red flags early in your relationship, it’s never too late to walk away from an abusive partner. You are a worthy and precious gem who deserves love, respect, and happiness.❤
I know all the comments are saying the end scenes aren't realistic to what abuse is like but it's never the same black and white scenario for everyone. Sometimes it can be more covert and subtle, even amicable on the surface and mixed up with a lot of love and sadness for the person..even still hope that they can change. We've all had different experiences and I don't think the movie is romanticising abuse at all. It's just showing another angle of what an abusive relationship can look like.
It was powerful, but this is not how it ends. They abuse you forever by using the child as their weapon, alongside the corrupted family court system. This ending is how, I feel, many victims wish leaving an abuser should end 😔 😢💔💜💔
Same here. I felt so bad when it ended, so I watched it again. Probably broken people like broken people that's why I fall for Blake(atlas) after watching this movie.
Blake she is not up to the task of such a film. Too bad! The actress should have been chosen carefully, the message would have been conveyed at its true value
It’s more dangerous to leave then to stay sometimes, at least for me cause he knew he lost control but I made it out if it and through it for a happy life with me I do like what she said to him about what would you say to your daughter
I get abuse hurts all the same but i also know everyones story is mot the same nor is every abuser the same theres nothing romantic about this movie its bringing awareness people need to understand things before forming an opinion
It’s a shame Blake couldn’t be bothered to be a real advocate for Domestic Abuse. Maybe one day she’ll get off her high horse and see how wrong she was.
Well to be fair, actors shouldn't be expected to be advocates for this or that. That's not their job. She should have still been more serious and respectful about the subject instead of giddily promoting her haircare products during promotion...
@@erinwilson3369 Right, and advocacy/activism to those who actually know something about the subject either through life experience or working with victims or in the legal/social sphere.
I'm speaking from a family point of view experience d most of our lives.Always looking forward. We already know intense unrealistic don't focus on that.Because it can be reality ❤
I think there is not nessesarity to show such intimate naked things in the movie because this is stopping to be a part of art and becomes just as part of not part of art. You can not put the Art into the obviousness
A lot of movies make “chemistry” just be fighting, bickering, or enemies to lovers. I think people have forgotten that chemistry can be relaxed and subtle.
Most of people hide tha storm beneath the skin, by accepting and normalizing things like abuse, so that they know it is what it is, but act like nothing happen.
I imagine if she was crying and begging to leave him, it would only anger him further. Instead she did her best to stay calm, collected and to put it into perspective if their baby girl was in the same shoes as she was with him. Stopping the cycle of abuse before it ever got into the life of their child.
@@TheRealDeal92 but it's not that easy, the resolution and his attitude. It's not that simple that an abuser changes his ways like that. I like the movie but I think it's something idyllic. I think it doesn't accurately represent a person who was abused, or even the abuser. It superficializes that.
@@evelinalarzio1205 yes, but she comes to the resolution of leaving him, and it's that simple? Like she forgive him and his father so fast? People that has a trauma, not forgive or heal just like that. And sometimes, the abuser cannot accept the ending of a relationship. It's not that easy
As a dv survivor SHUT UP!!! Just let this be a movie!!! That’s all it is. Life is life and a movie is a movie!!! Meant to takes us to a place different than where we are. Stop takin everything so seriously.
Rough topic. Being a boomer dude I was never exposed to this. My dead uncle maybe with my sisters 50 years ago or more. Not hitting though etc. Ending was a tough watch until new possible love interest. Wiped an eye to be honest. Got me thinking......about my fellow males. I don't know any abusers however and please don't forget the 99 percent of us men who could never do that. Not a broad brush men here and I hope as there are a few Courtney Clenney types out there right?
This is what I think ,for what it's worth: The ONLY people allowed to comment on this clip is the people who were actually abused. Period. The rest of us don't have a fucking clue.
Are you the comments monitor? I am entitled to comment then and that is so kind of you to give your permission.. btw your comment should have read 'the ONLY people allowed to comment on this clip ARE the people who were actually abused',
This movie is such a bullshit man, it is 2024, and I am sad for anyone watching this in 2025+. Right after giving birth, the mother enjoys conversation like "you want a divorce". Of course...
He was busy counting his money from the sale of booze and her hair products. Why would it have been hard for him to watch this scene as he wrote this part of the script? Pull the other one dearie.
This is a hard subject matter but since I do not care for this actress Blair lively I have not watch this movie and I will not she didn’t do this subject any favours the male actor producer did a hell of a lot better
He could still throw the baby out the window or whatever to get back at her these sociopaths don’t care if they’re arrested they don’t care about consequences Also, Blake is beautiful and good actress, check, check but a very arrogant person 😊
As an abuse surviver i can say it isnt that easy to leave. I wish it was but it isnt. Would never have that conversation with a child close by
For real and if they’re financially abusive it’s damn near impossible. Been there.
There are many different types of abusers. My ex-husband was a lot like Rile. I could have that type of conversation, but no knowing until later of the outcome of it.
I was thinking the same thing....he has a reputation to uphold he's covert ...she was probably safest there...
i cringed all thru that conversation. was waiting for an fit of anger with him holding the bab
You can’t Romanticize abuse. Real abused women know better.
Its not the real in the movie .... but in live ...... you can now 🥲
True. A colleague of mine, a teacher, reconciled with her abusive husband even after several abuse-separation-reconciliation attempts. She got killed ultimately. 😢🕊️🇵🇭
Dead women in an abusive or toxic relationship; do not trigger him with ur baby in ur hands. The abuser might hurt the baby or u. This is not realistic, although I like this scene a lot. An abuser wouldn’t let her leave so easy. He was making sure she needed him for a while and wouldn’t just give up power over their victim like this. Stay safe
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I disagree. She was in a hospital, not in a secluded area. Many abusers do things in private and act differently in public. She felt safer there and knew that was the best place to leave him. Every abuse story is different.
No.. you should never never risk your Babys life
Mine made my 10 year old daughter suicidal, she has been for over 4 years yet no one listens to me when I tell them he’s been beating my kids, past 3-4 years they don’t talk about it with no one so I look crazy for simply worrying about them
@@LivingInPeace2024late reply but I agree. I don’t think it was that realistic but confronting him in front of the baby he wanted, in a public place where he works and has a reputation and paycheck where there’s cameras and security is a lot safer than doing it alone in private
This is extremely unrealistic. Trying to logically convince an abuser that what he is doing is wrong?!? If he abused her while pregnant with their child then why would he suddenly understand and calmly walk away?!? My ex husband flipped at the hospital while I was giving birth to our son. He didn't need to scream or put a finger on me. He manipulated the situation. Charmed the nurses, made me look like a crazy and unfit mother by just talking to them behind my back. My best friend caught him. He acted as the loving worried husband and father. Obviously I didn't notice because I was so tired from having just given birth, and on edge because I was scared to death of him. I didn't leave. My ex husband conviced me through years of abuse that I wouldn't survive alone. I felt vulnerable and scared of being a single mom. During the pregnancy he would continually threatened to take away our son as soon as he was born if I ever did something to upset him. At the birth, I was more concerned about keeping everyone happy, even tried to push faster because he kept looking at his watch. Thank G-d for my nurse and best friend that where there and quickly picked up on the red flags that I wouldn't see. That friend offered me support and wisdom, and waited patiently for me to slowly have the courage to leave. It took years! And therapy, and friends, and court orders... That scene just invalidated what DV victims have to go through. Especially when there is a kid involved.
i genuinely wish u so much happiness, content, love, peace. i am so sorry you went through any of this, you even writing this out shows your strength. I hope it isn't annoying to read that, I get annoyed when people tell me how strong I am, but my point is you are displaying what it really looks like and people will read this and relate, or understand. I am excited for you to move forward and have some wonderful, beautiful, fun days and nights which I know you will, just as the negative experiences come so do the positive, most happy ones.
This is the reason why I didnt read the book to a finish. This scene happened in the book. I dont understand what people were going on and on about why they hyped this book so much.
Thank you for this. My best friend is in a similar situation and I’ve questioned how much support I give. It’s hard to stand by and watch but if I push too hard she won’t share anything. It’s good to hear you say that she stuck with you for years and was just patient.
@@an-qo6by Thank you so much for all your beautiful blessings and words of encouragement! It reminds me of how much kindness and compassion there is in us. Thank you for that.
Pretty much what happened with me…10 years later it hasn’t ended
It's Hollywood making dv look pretty when it's beyond ugly. All survivors know that as fact.
Survivors also sometimes romanticise the abuse though,until they SEE the abuse for abuse
This was movie was based on a book that is written by a woman who makes DV look cute and romantic.
Uh, you say I want a divorce while he is holding the baby? Stupid scene...no way an abused mom would put her newborn in that situation..made for TV hallmark movie
unpopular opinion but in a way I really loved this scene because it felt therapeutic and like a release- not that it is realistic, but because in this scene, we all get to watch her tell him exactly what he is, for him to digest and understand what she is saying (also unrealistic), and accept it, that was just nice to watch, because it doesn't really happen in real life, so at least here we get to watch it play out and feel idk, it feels satisfying. and kinda empowering? for being able to save herself and her daughter. what her mom couldn't do.
Guys, don't take this so negatively. I agree with the comments that most of the time it's hard to negotiate with an abuser because the abuser, having tasted power, doesn't want to lose it.
But in the movie, Ryle didn't really mean to hurt her. He's just sick from the stress of losing his brother... he's self-destructed, it's true. And he's the kind of guy you can deal with. Because he didn't bask in his power over Lily.
That's my opinion.
High praise for the cast and everyone who worked on the movie.
I agree. As I replied to a different comment, I mentioned there are different types of abusers. My ex-husband was a lot like Rile.
No he meant to hit her, he is an abuser for sure
They’re charming people nice and kind at first but then that one moment of outburst and the first hit, yes they mean it, he was just trying to control it but they can’t
No he meant to hit her, he is an abuser for sure
They’re charming people nice and kind at first but then that one moment of outburst and the first hit, yes they mean it, he was just trying to control it but they can’t
They’re is no excuse at all for hitting abusing anyone
I don’t care at that point why he does it, and yes they can end up killing you
Starts with a slap but it builds to get worse then one night he tries to kill you but by the grace of God there’s a distraction and your able to run but it doesn’t end there always until you show them your strength and look at them
In the eye and say truth then it ended for me cause he knew he could no longer control me
This movie is a yes and a no. Not for the love story but for the handling of the abuse. Wish it could be this simple to deal with abusers or maybe it was just me, not handling it the righ way.
Stop that immediately! Of course it is not you. This is a movie.😌
No, it's not you, it's the film setting unrealistic standards. Or maybe they wanted to show him in a more sympathetic light as in not completely ''lost'' or something...
I have no experience in any kind. I loved this movie so much
@@yevgeniyaleshchenko849yes that’s what i was thinking
This is so unrealistic when it comes to trying to leave an abuser
This is the story of the author's parents. It is just one out of thousands of different DA stories involving thousands of different personalities and relationship dynamics.
I agree. It really is unrealistic. I was thinking the same thing.
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@@m.l.bishop1914 the reference that the author uses about her parents was about Lily blooms Parents not about Lily and Ryle relationship. It's Extremely unrealistic that a relationship with any kind of violence like that would end with the abuser saying "ok i love you and i don't want to hurt you anymore so im gonna leave you alone." Regardless of personalities and dynamics Abuser want to have total control ,leaving a abuser is the most dangerous for a women.
This movie persuade to me what I wish I would have been strong enough to do. You all keep hating for no reason. It's a movie, a ideal situation, a situation I wish I was strong enough to do.
The end result- she knew she had to leave to protect herself and her daughter. 👏🏻 💪🏻 And she did… Tragic in any circumstance…
This is so unrealistic. Anyone who has been mistreated emotionally and or physically knows that the one doing the mistreating never understands, accepts, and walk away quietly when told what they have done.
She gave the baby to him and then broke the news? Realistically an abuser would have tried to hurt the baby to make sure she complies. Weird choice. But also a smart one, as a hospital is a good place to do it, as it is quite public
Not all abusers think the same.
They don't just see what they're doing, and they don't just accept you leaving like this.
There are many types of abusers. I was in 2 different abusive relationships with men. One was a relationship when I was 21. He almost killed me. My second was with my husband of 11 years. Two different types of abusers. My ex-husband was mentally and physically abusive and had shown in in front of the children a time or two. He got mad at me one time for defending myself by putting scratches on his neck and that we could not attend a party at his family. No one can say, Well, she can't do that or she should of done that. Each situation is different unless you were exactly in their shoes, you can't really comment what Lily should of done.
OMG abusers are so not like this. I tried to convince my abuser to say the words he was an abuser. They do not see in their minds what they are doing wrong so they continue the same behavior over and over. Sure he acts like this now but as soon as they not in that hospital you know he’s going back to destroy her
Si has leído el segundo libro sabrás que Ryle realmente no cambia y que después hace todo lo posible por destruir la relación entre Lily y Atlas y utiliza a su hija para seguir manipulando e intimidando a Lily.
Not sure why she felt the need to smile while she said these things to him. Most women cannot even confront their abuser.
The movie did not do to justice to the book!! The casting was all wrong for the characters!!
I totally disagree. The actors were perfect!
He could still throw the baby out the window or whatever to get back at her these sociopaths don’t care if they’re arrested they don’t care about consequences
Also, Blake is beautiful and good actress, check, check but a very arrogant person 😊
Abuse is about control, not anger management. He'll be back.
She was in a hospital, public place and his job so if he did anything bad to her or their little girl, all she has to do is call out for help if things went awfully wrong. She had no better chance to tell him than right here. They became a mother and father to a beautiful baby girl and the second he said he would keep his daughter safe. That was when she straight up asked him while looking at their baby girl, “What if the person she loved was hurting her, what would you say to her?” That truly put it into his perspective if his little girl was with an abuser. I imagine he would beg his daughter to leave so she could never be hurt again. It was for the sake for their little girl, stop the cycle of abuse before it ever got to their daughter. Thanks for uploading.
Why recap the scene everyone else have already seen?
But would you bet your child in that gamble that just because it's his work place he won't do anything like loose his mind
@@deepankananag2478 it's not a gamble, she knew he won't do anything where people around, one thing about abuser is they care about their reputation outside the house.
@@nurrohmah2675 people are unpredictable I doubt that most moms would try their luck with that one
Overall this film might have taken a shitty turn but she eventually made the right decision of leaving him for her daughter’s protection
This scene was in the hospital. So, the chances that an abuser would flip is little. I agree that it's heavily romanticised, though.
The film is a bit unrealistic...abusers are very difficult to handle.
In life, such people have to go to another country. Or obtain a court order that prohibits them from approaching you for life.
I see all these comments saying it’s unrealistic but The hospital was the best place for her to no it at!! Ive been a victim , by her taking his power at his workplace during such an intimate moment may just cause that man to think get help and change…
Absolutely unrealistic. He will only seeth more and want to take back whatever control he thinks he had before
People who haven’t been in these situations believe that the best scenario is the abuser to be punished and “hung.” Unfortunately, as much as it hurts us who were physically hurt, the best case scenario is that the man actually learns, grows, and becomes someone the baby can rely on. It’s not the most satisfying ending, but it gives the kid the best chance (if it’s possible for abusers to genuinely change).
The movie is heavily romanticized because they’re giving it from a perspective that the woman is feeling even though she’s being abused. She’s so in love that it’s hard to look at it from a destructive angle and see him as a monster. People on the outside, looking in, always see the monster, they see the person there in love with. You have to be realistic about the perspective of the person, the movie wasn’t about you it was about her.
This is so far from the truth. It’s sickens me.
My abuser came back and said hebwas glad I left, and that sacred me to death. We been broken up for years, and I was still scared he was coming back. Yea crazy I know in my rational mind. Still, I live in fear.
It is not crazy, it is normal in such cases. It does ease up as the years go by and you replace the bad memories with good ones. Stay wise and alert but do go on living your life.
Well it’s supposedly be bout the parents of the gal that wrote the book from what I heard.
Never happen like this
This is the most unrealistic abuse scenario and romanticises the entire thing and it’s just disgusting
Poor kid. Got sandwiched between two actors who hated each other 😢
I understand that DV outcome here is unrealistic, what I cannot understand why is the need to put such a bad outcome in this movie? A movie which is actually about hope and redemption, about the fact that you need to hope that there is the other side of the coin. If you want real DV stuff, then watch the news or simply create a horror movie.
This makes me so sad. I’ve never been abused but I’ve been around enough victims to know this movie is trash. So glad i didn’t see it. You can tell this is classic fake feminist getting her way and ruining what could have been a true eye-opening movie! 😒 i hope this movie gets remade!
It was giving me anxiety that he had her baby in her arms. I thought he was going to hurt her..
This is so creepy knowing that Justin brought in his best buddy to play the Doctor in this scene…he’s not an actor! If what is coming out is true, he deserves what’s coming!
Extreme lead up to…
“Let’s go meet your grandpa!”
“Hi, pops.”
“That’s enough of that.”
Tf? lol anticlimactic
I was glad. He doesn’t deserve her time.
I was abused in a way I never knew it was possible no one will ever know😢
I couldn't help but wonder if Riley got any kind of help at 6 years old when he tragically, accidently shot his beloved brother, Emerson. Of course it effected Riley! Just so sad 😢
Who the heck is Riley
The script is terrible and acting just as bad! Talk about "romantizing" physical abuse! He doesnt even come close to the real thing and she was so not credible at all either! For someone who was supposedly being abused, it was a sigh and roll the eyes!
Too much fluff!
This movie wasn't very good at all. Very disappointing, unrealistic, and the characters weren't fully developed. It also left too much out and vague.
Full makeup and false eyelashes, every woman gives birth just like this!
😂😂😂😂
My friend's sister taught her husband how to do her makeup so he could fix her up right after delivery. Crazy.
And don’t forget the untied hair lmaoooo
@@m.l.bishop1914insecurity is wild
I hope mine will be like this
I couldn’t wait to see this movie, them when I figured out what he was doing to her, I hated it. Abuse is wrong on any level. This scene could be therapeutic, but realistically probably could happen unless the abuser realized what they have done and got help!
Blake sucks....is this thw scene her husband wrote
Her husband wrote this ...totally unrealistic.
Always remember your worth as a woman. If you missed the red flags early in your relationship, it’s never too late to walk away from an abusive partner. You are a worthy and precious gem who deserves love, respect, and happiness.❤
The ending was really stupid and dumb I really didn't like how it ended
I know all the comments are saying the end scenes aren't realistic to what abuse is like but it's never the same black and white scenario for everyone. Sometimes it can be more covert and subtle, even amicable on the surface and mixed up with a lot of love and sadness for the person..even still hope that they can change. We've all had different experiences and I don't think the movie is romanticising abuse at all. It's just showing another angle of what an abusive relationship can look like.
It was powerful, but this is not how it ends. They abuse you forever by using the child as their weapon, alongside the corrupted family court system. This ending is how, I feel, many victims wish leaving an abuser should end 😔 😢💔💜💔
This is a movie ppl. Yes it’s a serious matter but she is not responsible for ppl being the way they are. She is just an actor in a movie.
I enjoyed that movie!
I loved the movie I didn’t want it to end💕
Same here. I felt so bad when it ended, so I watched it again. Probably broken people like broken people that's why I fall for Blake(atlas) after watching this movie.
End of the film 🎥
Blake she is not up to the task of such a film. Too bad! The actress should have been chosen carefully, the message would have been conveyed at its true value
It’s more dangerous to leave then to stay sometimes, at least for me cause he knew he lost control but I made it out if it and through it for a happy life with me
I do like what she said to him about what would you say to your daughter
I get abuse hurts all the same but i also know everyones story is mot the same nor is every abuser the same theres nothing romantic about this movie its bringing awareness people need to understand things before forming an opinion
She should have had a team of medical staff with her , when she asked for a divorce.
It’s a shame Blake couldn’t be bothered to be a real advocate for Domestic Abuse. Maybe one day she’ll get off her high horse and see how wrong she was.
A narcissist never learns lmao she’s been a pos since childhood, you can’t expect her to suddenly change now bc of a movie
@@coconut2184 she does seem to be pretty cold about important things. Narcissism for sure!
That’s not her job. Her job was to act in this movie. Leave the therapy to those who are qualified
Well to be fair, actors shouldn't be expected to be advocates for this or that. That's not their job. She should have still been more serious and respectful about the subject instead of giddily promoting her haircare products during promotion...
@@erinwilson3369 Right, and advocacy/activism to those who actually know something about the subject either through life experience or working with victims or in the legal/social sphere.
Liked the book better than the movie...
You're supposed to
I'm speaking from a family point of view experience d most of our lives.Always looking forward. We already know intense unrealistic don't focus on that.Because it can be reality ❤
This is the fakest ending I ever saw. Unrealistic of the real danger women leaving abusers face.
I think there is not nessesarity to show such intimate naked things in the movie because this is stopping to be a part of art and becomes just as part of not part of art. You can not put the Art into the obviousness
Is it me or she has more chemistry with her abuser than with the "love of her life"?
This sounds like something that an abuser would say
That is probably intentional from the movie’s point of view. Chemistry will get you so far. The love of your life, will be there no matter what.😌
@@maya-o5e1x No, that's not what the OP meant... They just made an observation about actors' chemistry, that's all...
A lot of movies make “chemistry” just be fighting, bickering, or enemies to lovers. I think people have forgotten that chemistry can be relaxed and subtle.
Wtf, her father and his husband were abusers, why she's so calm?
Most of people hide tha storm beneath the skin, by accepting and normalizing things like abuse, so that they know it is what it is, but act like nothing happen.
I imagine if she was crying and begging to leave him, it would only anger him further. Instead she did her best to stay calm, collected and to put it into perspective if their baby girl was in the same shoes as she was with him. Stopping the cycle of abuse before it ever got into the life of their child.
@@TheRealDeal92 but it's not that easy, the resolution and his attitude. It's not that simple that an abuser changes his ways like that. I like the movie but I think it's something idyllic. I think it doesn't accurately represent a person who was abused, or even the abuser. It superficializes that.
@@evelinalarzio1205 yes, but she comes to the resolution of leaving him, and it's that simple? Like she forgive him and his father so fast? People that has a trauma, not forgive or heal just like that. And sometimes, the abuser cannot accept the ending of a relationship. It's not that easy
Forgives*
Why she was visiting her dad ? While she hated him?
As a dv survivor SHUT UP!!! Just let this be a movie!!! That’s all it is. Life is life and a movie is a movie!!! Meant to takes us to a place different than where we are. Stop takin everything so seriously.
Read the books, folks. And keep in mind, they are fiction. Read It Ends With Us first, and then It Starts With Us second. They are well written.
It's based loosely on the author's parents marriage.
Rough topic. Being a boomer dude I was never exposed to this. My dead uncle maybe with my sisters 50 years ago or more. Not hitting though etc.
Ending was a tough watch until new possible love interest. Wiped an eye to be honest. Got me thinking......about my fellow males. I don't know any abusers however and please don't forget the 99 percent of us men who could never do that. Not a broad brush men here and I hope as there are a few Courtney Clenney types out there right?
Yeah. This isnt the way it goes but whatevs
Can’t she tie her freaking hair even in childbirth? It’s so unrealistic!
Maybe she didn't have a hair tie to pull her hair n
Back during birthing her child so stop being fricking rude
@@adrianacarrera7104 I am sure that the hospital would have provided her with a cap, at least for hygienic reasons
@@adrianacarrera7104it’s a movie…
Geeh it's a movie
@@carolinaviola5244 exactly!
Would love to watch it
I wouldn't let him touch my child
It’s his child too
I did like the movie, however don’t try this home with an abuser 😂Because it’s unrealistic
Ridiculous.
This is what I think ,for what it's worth: The ONLY people allowed to comment on this clip is the people who were actually abused. Period. The rest of us don't have a fucking clue.
Are you the comments monitor? I am entitled to comment then and that is so kind of you to give your permission.. btw your comment should have read 'the ONLY people allowed to comment on this clip ARE the people who were actually abused',
Best movie ever
where can i watch this movie with Eng Sub???pls tell me guys
Read book, better
Netflix
Movie trash
Lame as hell lol
What the f*ckery is this? After he abused her, this is the ending?!
YES he's an abuser but he's not a bad guy , he loved her he really loved her that's why he let her go
Maybe he let go..... you never now the future .... 😢
This movie is such a bullshit man, it is 2024, and I am sad for anyone watching this in 2025+. Right after giving birth, the mother enjoys conversation like "you want a divorce". Of course...
Its never going this in the world like this , to easy
Bin dear do that 2 girls.... and 5 years later still shit like hell
This must have been hard on Ryan to watch.
He was busy counting his money from the sale of booze and her hair products. Why would it have been hard for him to watch this scene as he wrote this part of the script? Pull the other one dearie.
اليك أكتب ..
شيخ البلد ، خلف ولد 🤭♥️
Bunch of over acting
In movies today guys cry all the time like real crybabies
It's a movie
If Blake lively is in it's a hard pass🤮
8:32 - Simp alert! SIMP ALERT!!!
Lame movie
É una brutta favola a lieto fine
Garbage movie😂😂😂
You probably think it's garbage,cause you are probably just like him !
@@kelrazehcnas9800cry about it 😂
Keep your mean opinions to yourself!
Amazing movie❤
And yet here you are watching a clip from the movie! And commenting so the algorithm sends you more content. Hope my comment gets you a notification 🔔
304s always ruin the good 1's. No accountability for her infidelity. She did him the favor. No need to catch a case for a 304.
Thank god the sex offender’s registry is public. Right Raul Jimenez? 👀
Te movie is great
Ummmm what??? 😂😂😂😂 she never cheated and he abused her????
This is a hard subject matter but since I do not care for this actress Blair lively I have not watch this movie and I will not she didn’t do this subject any favours the male actor producer did a hell of a lot better
He could still throw the baby out the window or whatever to get back at her these sociopaths don’t care if they’re arrested they don’t care about consequences
Also, Blake is beautiful and good actress, check, check but a very arrogant person 😊
Why she was visiting her dad ? While she hated him?