This is What Your EX is Thinking When NO CONTACT is ACTUALLY Working AND They Reach Out to You

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  • @theicewolf714
    @theicewolf714 6 месяцев назад +67

    No contact is not to get you're ex back , it's to get you back. Almost a year NC. AND IM BACK !

    • @kevindorsey5010
      @kevindorsey5010 Месяц назад

      True facts 💯💯

    • @derrickmoon3296
      @derrickmoon3296 18 дней назад +1

      It only took me a few weeks. I don't need her she took me for granted. She will regret what I brought

  • @elle_skye
    @elle_skye 6 месяцев назад +119

    45 days of no contact , focusing on myself and loving myself . not thinking about him coming back anymore 😊

    • @ADayInTheLifeOfJames
      @ADayInTheLifeOfJames 6 месяцев назад +4

      ❤️

    • @nadlat8880
      @nadlat8880 6 месяцев назад +14

      7 months of absolutely NC, it got easier

    • @MsTwiththeTea1980
      @MsTwiththeTea1980 6 месяцев назад

      @@nadlat8880❤blessings to you and your future

    • @Sunitha001
      @Sunitha001 6 месяцев назад +11

      Dont even know how long I have been on NC. Decided to let him go too. More Power to us.

    • @MsTwiththeTea1980
      @MsTwiththeTea1980 6 месяцев назад

      @@Sunitha001 blessings to you

  • @nataliemarie23
    @nataliemarie23 6 месяцев назад +31

    21 days no contact. Has been hard but I know it will be worth it in the long run.

  • @sy7zx
    @sy7zx 6 месяцев назад +22

    Funny thing if they don't communicate like adults then will decay over time and getting worst, so communication is the golden key to sort out stuff before everything goes in sh...t

    • @doubleJJ01
      @doubleJJ01 5 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly, they don't take things seriously, act like a child and disappeared

  • @vestedredsox
    @vestedredsox 6 месяцев назад +20

    Just give it time you’ll get over them

  • @anaaviles6552
    @anaaviles6552 6 месяцев назад +27

    Gaining my power back! Starting 2024 with a mindset of self love abundance! Endless blessings for you Coach Blac and all the community 🙏🏼❤️✨🥳🎶

  • @imyourwifesbigdsidepiece5048
    @imyourwifesbigdsidepiece5048 6 месяцев назад +20

    My ex ended it 6 weeks ago, it turned into long distance as she moved for a job. I went immediate NC. A week ago she randomly sent me a meme “if distance wasn’t a thing we’d probably be f*cking right now”. I responded casually “you always did send funny sh*t”. A female friend also posted me in an insta story and my ex reached out to her about me. Regardless of if she wants the relationship back at some point she’s still thinking of me. NC did that. It also helped me appear strong & helped build my confidence back.

    • @xannecorinnex
      @xannecorinnex 4 месяца назад +1

      Did you ever get back together or are you both still in NC?

  • @TruthAddiction1975
    @TruthAddiction1975 5 месяцев назад +19

    No contact definitely works. Ive used it in a couple of different points in my life. Depending on the level of bond that you had with them, it can take anywhere from 2 weeks to 3 months. You must not reach out in anyway and the first time they hit you up, dont answer back until the next day, and make sure you keep an attitude of you could care less that your talking to them or not when you do, specially if its a text message. Say things like, sorry i didnt get back to you but i was out or i was busy. DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY POWER BACK. Before you know it, they will be all about getting together and youll have great make up sex lol. Heres the thing though, healthy relationships should not require "no contact" and more then likely it will go bad again, but atleast you got to hit it again lol. Just remember, expect the person you meet to be who they are when you found them, dont expect them to be who you think they could be. Good luck

    • @Freudster21
      @Freudster21 19 дней назад +1

      This is the comment I’ve been looking for. Once they leave like that, and been talking with, out with, hooking up with other men…they’re done. When they come back, and assuming you had a healthy respectful relationship up until they rug pulled and left in a toxic fashion, then once they realize grass wasn’t greener and the excitement wears off, then hit it and keep them as a FWB and remember how they tossed you away like trash, don’t develop too much feelings, minimize it as best as you can, and use her for sex only. She is now in the sex only category and loses all GF or wife privileges or chance of them again. Cuz yes like you said it’s already toxic due to their character. This is common in women and I have experienced it several times over the years.

    • @MattBlogna
      @MattBlogna 18 дней назад

      27 years together and left been 8 months no contact not a word

    • @Freudster21
      @Freudster21 18 дней назад +1

      @@MattBlogna Ahh well screw her, time for you to heal and move on. Sorry brotha

    • @MattBlogna
      @MattBlogna 18 дней назад

      @@Freudster21 can't believe it house 2 kids we had issues but thought we could work through them but totally blindsided me I loved her family she loved mine

    • @Freudster21
      @Freudster21 18 дней назад

      @@MattBlogna Yea been through it, not 27 years, but it can happen anytime. They turn on a dime. Just make it one day at a time

  • @alex96610
    @alex96610 6 месяцев назад +14

    I’m going on 4 months no contact on 01/11 and I’m still missing her. I know the relationship wasn’t the best. She was emotionally unavailable, but I still want her back. I want to send a last chance message but I know I shouldn’t.

    • @derrickmoon3296
      @derrickmoon3296 18 дней назад

      Don't be string. She didn't value you. Find someone that will

  • @francisamonoo2916
    @francisamonoo2916 6 месяцев назад +24

    I am so happy each time I listen to you. 16yrs of marriage is down. Practicing no contact has given me the confident to move on and my life is better than before.

    • @TheTruth100_
      @TheTruth100_ 6 месяцев назад +1

      My ex girl reached out after 5 years of me going no contact to express how she regretted how she has acted for a long times saying she wanted to "clear the air" between us, and explained she left me for someone else and she should of been open and honest with me. Complimented me saying I'm an awesome guy and I always kept it 100, and if I have questions now or in the future she will be there. Can someone explain the ambiguousness of this statement? Part of me wants to talk again but I cut her off and kind of ghosted her after that. Thanks for your insight.

    • @charzanboo9940
      @charzanboo9940 6 месяцев назад +1

      @TheTruth100_ If you're still interested, ask her out. If she can't confirm, tell her get in touch if she ever changes her mind. Women will never be direct in their interest.

    • @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker
      @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker 5 месяцев назад +2

      I, as well. No contact again since Dec 26. He has a girlfriend now after only 8 months of divorce 😳 Just have to glow myself up and will trust God to do the rest. 😢

  • @CassieCummings-mx3bj
    @CassieCummings-mx3bj 3 месяца назад +2

    After 8 months of no contact and working on myself! I’ve gotten better, mentally and physically and to a point where I stopped hurting and wanting him to contact me and boom! He finally broke no contact after 8 months! I haven’t responded…and don’t think I will.

  • @TheDon6
    @TheDon6 6 месяцев назад +2

    Needed this brother

  • @BigHeartNoBS
    @BigHeartNoBS 6 месяцев назад +7

    Oh no no no no no no there are no second chances with me once you cheat on me and lie to me for the better part of a year! Absolutely not! I'm enjoying the peace of being single, and if I take this dude back and he lies to me and cheats on me again, his nuts are going to wind up on the forest floor out there with the coyotes! I'm not taking any risks. I'm staying single. I'm going to start dating again when this life is over and I'm in the afterlife, because dating in this world sucks. I had a near-death experience and I've been to the other side before, and it's not a place where people can lie, nor do they want to. I'd rather just wait until my afterlife to start dating again because then at least I know I won't be lied to or cheated on. I will be respected and loved the way I deserve to be. I do feel you offer excellent advice in the video. Thank you so much!

  • @danasmith8390
    @danasmith8390 6 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent content much appreciated

  • @robinebneth1946
    @robinebneth1946 6 месяцев назад +2

    Another most excellent video from you.
    Thank you sooo much 🤗
    I totally agree with what you are saying 👍👍👍

  • @moniquehodge9976
    @moniquehodge9976 6 месяцев назад +1

    Awesome advice…

  • @zeldsfan
    @zeldsfan 6 месяцев назад +5

    Almost 3 months and she hasn't contacted me at all, for unknown reasons she sent me an early halloween card filled with love and thought she'd change her mind. Sent a letter out, it came back unopened. Ain't gonna reach out to her again until she considers coming back.

  • @Belle_Ame03
    @Belle_Ame03 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks coach for this wonderful advice ! I will start to apply this to myself .. I will patiently wait and trust this process

  • @ale_1442
    @ale_1442 6 месяцев назад +12

    It has been a hell of a long journey but I finally regained my power back he reached out multiple times but without any intention of meeting up so I set firmer boundaries and waiting to see his next move. Tired of him wasting my time. I deserve better cause i am a woman of value and if he can’t see that then that’s too bad he is missing out and somebody else will notice it eventually. Thank you always coach for your support!

  • @Inmindofraphael
    @Inmindofraphael 2 месяца назад +1

    After one year, i can calmly say i moved on prioritizing myself first

  • @user-gi2uf2zw1k
    @user-gi2uf2zw1k Месяц назад

    Carefully giving your hearts back to each other. LOVE that!!

  • @lynette1803
    @lynette1803 6 месяцев назад +5

    I appreciate all the great advice you give. I’ve been separated from my ex for a year. I want you to know that your videos helped me heal and move on

  • @amyrowe8014
    @amyrowe8014 3 месяца назад +1

    I’ve experienced this w a compliment from a woman versus a man’s compliment

  • @stepphhx9589
    @stepphhx9589 6 месяцев назад +7

    You bring me peace & clarity. I have been going thru a hard break up where he ended up cheating, i keep reaching out, and protesting & i get discarded for the past 1.5 week. I have finally decided that i am done trying to talk things through bc he clearly doesn’t care. Its rough out here

  • @matt1yas
    @matt1yas 6 месяцев назад +7

    Coach I just want to say that your words are soothing and calming during this deadly difficult time…
    I wish i had the money to take a session with you… I feel like my case is almost desperate by now as she broke up with me and yet we still live together, not on purpose… I make mistakes and it just make it worse everyday

  • @uzuriaholmes
    @uzuriaholmes 6 месяцев назад +12

    I was in no contact for two months. Binge watching these videos made my heart sad. Nevertheless, I end up reaching out and we shared a long night of passion together, and kissed one another goodbye. I had an amazing time and now I'm moving forward. No contact helped me not fall apart, and just be okay that the situation is over. I'm not walking into the New Year broken no sir! ❤

  • @moniquehodge9976
    @moniquehodge9976 6 месяцев назад

    I am living this now.. he seems unsure of what to say to me and testing for my motivation to speak back. He compliments (eye raising) me more. I keep the energy light and I don’t bring up the past…

  • @cloverwalker3203
    @cloverwalker3203 5 месяцев назад +1

    Don’t think I want him back. I feel free and calm! Boy bye!

  • @josuefalu2073
    @josuefalu2073 6 месяцев назад +7

    Hey coach, awesome stuff as usual. Thanks for doing what you do!

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for watching and commenting 🙏

  • @miller5170
    @miller5170 6 месяцев назад +6

    Can you do a video on starting over with your ex? How to move slowly and how to date again? Thanks 🙏🏼

  • @asowatanabe2131
    @asowatanabe2131 6 месяцев назад +5

    God bless ya Brother, you helped me a lot this year after 23 years of relationship, i learned being myself again. God bless ya

    • @MsTwiththeTea1980
      @MsTwiththeTea1980 6 месяцев назад +1

      Blessings to you 😊glad to hear you are healing

  • @danellemartinez5479
    @danellemartinez5479 6 месяцев назад +1

    You could keep it moving once you where with someone else ✅

  • @tioswift3676
    @tioswift3676 6 месяцев назад +1

    Video request; when ex contacts you during no contact, asks to talk, then blocks you?

  • @dtnv7324
    @dtnv7324 6 месяцев назад +2

    love your vids my brother, is there any chance to listen to you on spotify? I really enjoy listening to this stuff while Im on my way. Cheers!

  • @tonuma3537
    @tonuma3537 4 месяца назад +1

    After 3 months and a week of no contact, he comented on my March 8th post " happy Woman's Day!" Me: thanks, and he reacted with a red heart . Nothing else from both of us.

  • @peggycastillo5337
    @peggycastillo5337 6 месяцев назад +2

    104 days … after he requested me on FB and after I admitted to Love. He has been deleted and no contact at all since 09/06/23. I’m content and no longer think about him like I use to.

  • @boltlitening45
    @boltlitening45 5 месяцев назад

    The two primary drivers made so much sense. Her parents did not approve of us because of the age difference (I'm 40, she's 26) and they're very traditional. It makes sense that it would be more painful for her to be with me if it caused disappointment with her parents. Sucks but it helps to understand this.

  • @JimmyH7
    @JimmyH7 6 месяцев назад +1

    Can you do a video on multiple break ups and getting your ex back?

  • @Deadbrothermg123
    @Deadbrothermg123 6 месяцев назад +13

    Thank you coach!
    I am reading the book you recommended The masculine in relationship.
    It would be great if you could do a talk about the way to set New Boundaries with your ex after reconnecting. Because boundaries and respect tend to be broken and laughable at the end of a relationship

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад +9

      Love this! I will think of a way to incorporate this to a future video . Also good job taking action and grabbing the book

  • @mrf4308
    @mrf4308 6 месяцев назад +5

    He's right. Don't rush it once they come back, unfortunately I did, and after 3 weeks she told me she didnt feel the same and dropped me like a lead weight once again 😢

    • @gesailer
      @gesailer 6 месяцев назад +1

      U made it 3 weeks? We talked about getting back together one day and agreed to take it slowly. the very next day she said „nah, we were just talkin about it, i don‘t want to try it again“ 😂

    • @mrf4308
      @mrf4308 6 месяцев назад

      Cold man, I feel your pain. Although we lasted 3 weeks, we only saw each other for 2 weekends as we live separately. She actually reached out last Friday night, just casually asked if I'm okay and that she's wanted to call me but hasn't. Complete head f**k.

    • @gesailer
      @gesailer 6 месяцев назад

      @@mrf4308 that's the worst part. They give hope and in the next moment take it away. Gotta have an attitude like we met for the first time: I've let her do 100% of the relationship work up to a point where she already thought about giving up :D now I am the one hurting. Yeah, this sukcs. But be assured: your next girl is already out there not knowing it what a great guy you are. This thought keeps me sane now and then :)

    • @mrf4308
      @mrf4308 6 месяцев назад +2

      Thanks, that's some kind words. Keep strong, keep believing, find your own happiness and hopefully we'll both find the partners we deserve 🤞

  • @bipbop7231
    @bipbop7231 6 месяцев назад +13

    Hello, Coach! My thoughts are that you articulate your message so well. It’s refreshing and very easily understood. Glad you’re feeling better. 😁

  • @Savannah339
    @Savannah339 6 месяцев назад +3

    I can confirm that I was in more pain than happy at the time. I felt like the communication was lacking and I told him 3 times how it made me feel. 😞 I didn’t feel like he took me seriously. That was our only issue. It was the most painful decision to make. It wasn’t easy. I wanted to work things out but he didn’t want to.

    • @clydedowe1638
      @clydedowe1638 6 месяцев назад

      Damn that crazy

    • @cristianmoore9267
      @cristianmoore9267 6 месяцев назад

      My husband left me like trash its gonna be OK ❤ I'm feeling what you're feeling

  • @chiscarva
    @chiscarva 6 месяцев назад

    mine currently reached out a few days ago to wish me a merry christmas after a little under a month of no contact but they’re still dating their partner so im kinda annoyed but still happy to know no contact is working enough that they reached out, slow progress

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 5 месяцев назад

      Sounds like hes a micro cheater and breadcrumbing...

  • @daliasmith3230
    @daliasmith3230 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hi coach! I love listening to you!!
    Last Thursday I went to a lounge/bar for my friend’s birthday. My ex was the DJ there. When I walked by the DJ booth he said hi. The DJ booth sits up high. My friend said he was looking at me the whole time and he sees me having fun and everyone speaking to me. The 2nd DJ takes over and my ex walked by and touched my hand and said hey baby.. I said hi..
    fast forward.. my friend and I were walking towards the back to say hi to the birthday guy. As I was walking my ex grabbed my hand and hugged me and said don’t act like we are strangers.. he asked how I’m doing.. we talked a little bit. He told me it hurt him for us to break up but we both had a lot going on and we were stressing each other out. He told me that he was going to call me the next day so we can talk.
    He text me the next day and told me it was good seeing me. I told him it was good seeing him as well.
    I haven’t heard from him since.. it’s been exactly 1 week today.
    Why didn’t he call me like he said he would? Will he call me?

  • @faithgitau9650
    @faithgitau9650 6 месяцев назад +1

    Know we are talking with him he come clean to what happened he was sorry for what he did to me.we are in good tearms know.

  • @chitti700
    @chitti700 6 месяцев назад +3

    It’s been one month and I still remind her every minute. We imagined a beautiful life together.I wish she will come to me and we will have a great life together❤

  • @ChosenYaYa
    @ChosenYaYa 6 месяцев назад +2

    Good stuff! 💯💯💯

  • @kevinkincadesr.4303
    @kevinkincadesr.4303 5 месяцев назад +1

    I seen my Ex drove by my Apt she had no reason being on my street. It's been over 6 months since I seen her I don't even look at her Facebook page I have no reason for the 1st time I'm working on myself. No contact works If she don't come around good that's fine too no worries.

  • @Cristiano907
    @Cristiano907 6 месяцев назад +15

    They hardly ever come back, especially if you were only dating short term. These videos only apply to long term relationship breaks up.

    • @themoonbleu627
      @themoonbleu627 6 месяцев назад +3

      Anyway if you’re so attached after a short period maybe self love should be the focus …

    • @jcymngo
      @jcymngo 5 месяцев назад +1

      Not true

    • @anam_cara_222
      @anam_cara_222 4 месяца назад

      If you think the purpose of no contact is to win your ex back, you've missed the point. No contact is for the self, not for the other person.

    • @norswil8763
      @norswil8763 2 месяца назад +2

      That’s true, if it was short term than there wasn’t enough time to create a strong emotional bond, any dependancy, memories, real and honest love, you didn’t grow together and you never went through and supported them in hard times. All these things pull on their heart in no contact, in time they’ll miss you and reflect on the positive qualities.
      In a short term relationship if you’re fighting or it’s not working than walk, because if you can’t get along and work in the honeymoon phase it’ll never work - I had a 2 year honeymoon phase with my ex, it was easy and nothing but bliss and chemistry. That’s the difference.

    • @artemisappollo1491
      @artemisappollo1491 2 месяца назад

      ​@@norswil8763I totally agree with everything you said 👍💯

  • @faithgitau9650
    @faithgitau9650 6 месяцев назад +1

    After five years after breaking up with him l forgive him .we started talking with him but he told me he what's a DNA l told him am ready.l still love him so much.

  • @user-cy1mv1vw3x
    @user-cy1mv1vw3x 6 месяцев назад +1

    My ex only wants to hangout at our house. He feels I'm not ready to hangout in public. He told me he missed me and we did get closer and we kissed. But I started on him and it pushed him away. I feel like I am moving fast and he wants to take it slow. Your videos have helped me so much, thank you.

    • @jcymngo
      @jcymngo 5 месяцев назад

      What nonsense line did you fall for?

  • @bessyclips3752
    @bessyclips3752 6 месяцев назад +1

    Would love to hear from you coach I’m really stressed and confused by this action

  • @jinhangchen8524
    @jinhangchen8524 6 месяцев назад +1

    2 week strong. I do have trouble sleeping and shit. I got this tho.

  • @tak4837
    @tak4837 6 месяцев назад +2

    Hi coach, today is my 24th day of no contact. Focusing on myself but also i cannot forget him .. hoping to get back with him. I don’t know whether it is possible or not ..

  • @marycampeau9378
    @marycampeau9378 12 дней назад

    oh my dude you are describing my ex

  • @user-vd6bx8ni9v
    @user-vd6bx8ni9v 6 месяцев назад +1

    I'm still no contact and he hasn't reached out. After been unblocked for 15 mo ths and then unblocked 39 days ago, ive give up. His lack of effort says it all. Lack of effort =lack of interest. Period.

  • @jacksonegbuson5291
    @jacksonegbuson5291 5 месяцев назад

    She break up with getting comfortable talking to another man in same house making me feel depressed and damaging my mental health, why she keep going out enjoying herself and her new boyfriend, she was making me feel less and arguing all the time because of her going out to clubs and parties with another and guy and friends, I have been a good to her and love her support her but I just can't take no more I ask her to leave when I heard her talking to some guy telling him she missed him, I told I can't go through this anymore why we are in same house, she park her bag and leave without apologizing, I stay no contact now she is trying to come back saying she want us to amend things and apologizing, I am still taking my time just don't want to rush into it, I want her to feel that pain she put me through even though I know I still love her....

  • @MikeHalley
    @MikeHalley 6 месяцев назад +1

    I'm doing no contact . I'm not planning to reach out. its up to her to reach out to me and while that's happening I'm getting on with my life

  • @jamyrongarrertt1219
    @jamyrongarrertt1219 6 месяцев назад +2

    Well it’s been 6 months since my breakup and he attempted to cheat and blocked me but he unblocked me and I tried to reach out multiple times but he has not responded, so I think it’s time to finally move on for the moment even though I don’t want to 😔, but hopefully he reaches out at some point but for now I have to move on because I can’t keep crying every time I think of him

  • @RLRSHP
    @RLRSHP 6 месяцев назад +1

    💯

  • @cristianmoore9267
    @cristianmoore9267 6 месяцев назад

    I keep reaching out ive tried being strong ive went hours without messaging him ... But it gets hard and lonely 😢

  • @Ciyotnnakauebluzy2seanuh-pv6gb
    @Ciyotnnakauebluzy2seanuh-pv6gb 6 месяцев назад +1

    This is in fact true....

  • @marksmangamingchannel6838
    @marksmangamingchannel6838 2 месяца назад

    After 9years.. my ex left me 6 weeks ago. we have a 6 year old had some contact.. so bk to day one of nc.. jus contact for our son. I hope she comes bk one day an give me a chance to show how much im a better person .. time will tell.

  • @user-lp1lu9fy6t
    @user-lp1lu9fy6t 6 месяцев назад +5

    At the end of the day I'm financially better off by a long shot and for Me that's all that matters😉

    • @NaJohnsonWPhilly
      @NaJohnsonWPhilly 6 месяцев назад +3

      No doubt buddy go buy another chick 😅treat urself

  • @mjsocks5929
    @mjsocks5929 4 месяца назад

    I’m becoming a God. I’m forgiving myself and healing. Gym, SR, Clean Eating. Never take them back.

  • @flat4wankel
    @flat4wankel 6 месяцев назад +3

    Didn't work for me. She monkey branch back in late feb. Beg , cry, march and april. I went no contact after that. She reaches out june. Been a roller coaster.. she comes and goes, goes by to the new guy ghost me. Every damn month.
    Last i heard of her was after she spent 3 days with me on thanksgiving with her girls and she was still with the new guy. After i drop her off that friday night, she went back to him and i haven't heard of her since. Again in No contact for 22 days. It hurts me so much she doing this. I feel this time she not coming back and she never gave me any closure. We talked on the phone for a little bit after drop her off and she tells me she loves me. So painful

  • @DeepEnd-sm3uw
    @DeepEnd-sm3uw 6 месяцев назад +2

    I been gone going on 4 weeks now.
    I'm dealing with a 11yr breakup.
    This shit spanking my asssssd braaa

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад

      Hang in there man. How are you working on yourself during this no contact period?

    • @DeepEnd-sm3uw
      @DeepEnd-sm3uw 6 месяцев назад

      I've been watching more Stoic Videos, and Videos like yours. I been digging deep within myself, and understanding myself understanding my feelings and emotions. Also, holding myself accountable and I stop being indenial. Im working hard on understanding these emotions and being more Stoic.
      I'm the one who actually walked away, because it got so bad to he point every time I got in the bed, she went and slept on the couch. After 3months of that I called quits.
      We got a child together, so that be the tough part when we have to come across each other. Smh

  • @user-px2wd3hy7z
    @user-px2wd3hy7z 6 месяцев назад

    When is it past the point of new return? Is there a time frame for your ex to return or change their mind?

  • @whitney4whity656
    @whitney4whity656 2 месяца назад

    4days of no contact but I guess this time am not interested in getting back with my ex his called off the relationship like 4times now and enough is enough sometimes people take you for granted when your too available for them.

  • @ciobsterash1
    @ciobsterash1 6 месяцев назад

    We are broken up since september, after a few months after we’ve been engaged, she broke up with me out of the blue stating that she feels alone and all that. I tried to fix things, but i see that this was a mistake, she was constantly non-responsive to my efforts and now i’m in no contact for 2 weeks.
    Facts, i know from a commom friend that she does not understand why i am acting defensive and why i refused to be friends with her.
    Facts: she did not return the ring! She did not ask for her apartment key back! She did not give me my apartment key back!
    If my efforts were in vain, what the actual F is she thinking / wanting???

    • @Felix-ms5tj
      @Felix-ms5tj 6 месяцев назад

      Getting your ex back should no longer be a worry because I pleasantly experienced something unique, a more effective and faster tip to achieve the goal. ruclips.net/video/28R5YRHmXvQ/видео.html

  • @tumbleweedconnection7906
    @tumbleweedconnection7906 6 месяцев назад +2

    Hey coach. What about no contact after a 2nd breakup with same person? She broke up with me back in January bc after about 9 months together she thought we should have been in love and didn't think we were going to get there. I expressed how I felt gave her time then nagged a bit she was sure at least 4 times it wasn't going to work then I went no contact and after 11 days she reached out then a week later told me she didn't think it was over for us. We got back together beginning of April and it was amazing for 7 months. Fell in love within 3 months and were building something special. Then a group trip (5 couples) to Nashville in early November didn't go well for us. I got very aggravated with her snoring and bailed on one nighttime activity bc I didn't feel well and she turned that into "we're not compatible " and some other ridiculous stuff and ended it 2 days after the trip which was only a 3 day trip?? So abrupt no signs before the trip that things were not great but she said "didn't you feel me pulling away?" She is bad at communicating and I think when she thought we might be it for each other that she got scared and came up with reasons why it won't work. I reached out a few times after this breakup but have been in no contact for 10 days. She told me no hope but the last time she said basically the same thing 5 times. Do I give up or hold out hope? Thanks.

  • @richarddiaz4934
    @richarddiaz4934 4 месяца назад +1

    What do you recommend we say when she contacts you?

  • @FlyGhostsvk
    @FlyGhostsvk 6 месяцев назад

    Im friend with my ex its been few days after our break up and she is still saying good morning and still typing on daily base …. and we are class mates and i dont know what to do to stop talking to her and after some time try talking again or keep the contact talk to her make her laugh and hope i fix what i have ruined.

  • @SharonKhavere-tp9hw
    @SharonKhavere-tp9hw 19 дней назад

    Thanks so much coach I have been a guy 3years bt one he just walk way and he never said anything about then one day her came to my door calling me to open bt I didn't open so he get so bad then now he has mute me

  • @GageMohammad-oy6hq
    @GageMohammad-oy6hq 6 месяцев назад +1

    She keeps on viewing my stories but doesn’t reach out

  • @ayomikunakinola2020
    @ayomikunakinola2020 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hey coach he has broken up with me for like 2 months and 3 weeks now i pleaded with him for like the first 3 days and my aunt even pleaded on my behalf he said he was okay just being friends with me but I've maintained no contact with him now for like 2 months and 1 week he saw me outside like 2 weeks ago and came after me just asking about my whereabouts since we broke up i answered him tho he said he tought i was going to snub him while we were talking he told me he blocked me on Whatsapp and also while i was leaving he pulled me back and said "what were you expecting me to say "and since then he hasn't spoken to me till now

  • @francisamonoo2916
    @francisamonoo2916 6 месяцев назад

    I don't want her back. Almost one year of no contact.

  • @AbdulRahman-xx3wk
    @AbdulRahman-xx3wk 15 дней назад

    What if your wife just informed u that after 25yrs that your son may not be yours

  • @jibberjabber2
    @jibberjabber2 6 месяцев назад

    Hey coach my wife of 5 years broke up with me and she is currently in another country so we are long distance at the moment. I’ve been in no contact and she reaches out to me from time to time. How would I go about having fun with her again and going on a date with her from long distance? Every time we talk on FT it’s genuine vibes and we’re laughing and she expresses how much she misses me.

  • @tonnypacker.1
    @tonnypacker.1 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hey coach my ex was sheeting me for at list one month now. Whn I found out, i immediately break the relationship. But I was surprise within a week she started showing up with the guy open making it official relationship. What I dd was forcing myself in No Contact, she knw showing signs of interest.
    My question is,is she in a rebound or it not a rebound relationship. Coz am kine like confuse

  • @luisrochel289
    @luisrochel289 5 месяцев назад +1

    How effective is no contact when you work together and there has to be some sort of communication?

  • @gladyswairimu6194
    @gladyswairimu6194 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hello Coach
    He broke up with me and keeps saying I have trust issues.
    I want him back
    What do I do?

  • @gosalem10
    @gosalem10 5 месяцев назад

    does this apply to exes that are possibly in a rebound relationship ? my ex is reaching out to me, breaking my "no contact" every 2 weeks. the last text I got from her was to ask me if I had received the divorced documents.

  • @AussieRic
    @AussieRic 6 месяцев назад

    when your doing no contact buy she messages every day just general rubbish stuff should i be nasty and ignore, shes already said 2 weeks ago she cant see us working, but she wont stop messaging daily like 7 times a day, im trying to do the no contact what should i do?

  • @kunihirahalimah8227
    @kunihirahalimah8227 6 месяцев назад +1

    Coach can we talk privately 😢

  • @cj_8686
    @cj_8686 4 месяца назад

    @coachblac ive been in no contact with my wife for 22 days. And two weeks ago she gave me tight hug and squeezed tightly when i tried to pull away. Then after she was done with our hug she kissed me on my lips. Is this a sign of confussion on her end??

  • @sarak6083
    @sarak6083 6 месяцев назад

    My friend said to a girl we may take a short trip weather permitting she responded what ever you want. What does does this mean for him?this is after he used no contact

  • @Cataraism
    @Cataraism 12 дней назад

    Please help me understand why my ex won’t come get his stuff!

  • @Eric-em7zq
    @Eric-em7zq 6 месяцев назад

    My ex told me she move on in I should no last month in I got a text from her new boyfriend in she said we will never get back together ever so how do I get her back if I’m blocked

  • @imjustb3tter
    @imjustb3tter 6 месяцев назад

    30 days of no contact and the world will still collapse if we don't get back together

    • @Felix-ms5tj
      @Felix-ms5tj 6 месяцев назад

      Getting your ex back should no longer be a worry because I pleasantly experienced something unique, a more effective and faster tip to achieve the goal. ruclips.net/video/28R5YRHmXvQ/видео.html

  • @SIRICKO
    @SIRICKO 6 месяцев назад +1

    Do we keep them on out friendlist if im in no contact ?

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  6 месяцев назад

      As long as you are not directly contacting them you are fine

  • @danielgilgenast3093
    @danielgilgenast3093 4 месяца назад

    Second no contact in a row with same person, first took 4 weeks for them to reach out this one still going and its 32 days, she reached out 2 weeks ago, and im fucking losing it

  • @hemannathan8423
    @hemannathan8423 6 месяцев назад

    nc for 1 year

  • @maneeshrawat342
    @maneeshrawat342 4 месяца назад

    What will happen if both are playing game of no contact may be my gf is also following no contact?

  • @scottoz7891
    @scottoz7891 6 месяцев назад +2

    Im GONNA chime in real quickly. Not if SHE'S a Narcopath. A shapeshifter. CHAMELEONS always changing their colors. Get educated AND dedicated. in due time ❤❤ BTW. You're VIDEOS ARE Very valuable..

  • @danettecook2709
    @danettecook2709 6 месяцев назад +1

    I love your videos. It’s been 3 days since I went no contact with my boyfriend of 6 months. A couple of times he’s taken a rude tone with me and I don’t like it. He can be mean. We got into an argument on the phone as he seemed obligated to book me a flight (he said he owed me from a flight I had to cancel that I had booked in November bc of him). We are long distance.
    I was trying to tell him why I needed to check a bag and he got pissed and cut me off and his tone was terrible. I raised my voice, trying to state my reasons and he said he didn’t like my tone and hung up on me. I’m shocked, angry and won’t allow someone treating me so disrespectfully. We didn’t officially break up but I want an apology. I haven’t heard a peep from him. Should I just move on?

    • @TheDon6
      @TheDon6 6 месяцев назад +5

      Yes

    • @ULTIMATEUNITED2000
      @ULTIMATEUNITED2000 6 месяцев назад

      Well you raised your voice at him and he was booking a flight for you for you which seems like a loving reason. He might see this in a different perspective. I personally think you are both in the wrong for the simple fact of arguing. You shouldnt raise your voice and it can be perceived your making a situation out of nothing. Let the air settle then if I were you let him reach out to you or you do this if you care and see if you can have a cool down discussion. The comment above saying "yes" is stupid

    • @ULTIMATEUNITED2000
      @ULTIMATEUNITED2000 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@TheDon6stupid response

  • @dorisortega4846
    @dorisortega4846 4 месяца назад

    Coach my ex and i had a rough breakup and we both blocked eachother on whatsapp, and about two weeks ago, he unblocked me, but i left him blocked 🚫 if he really wanted to communicate he can get creative, i know that for a fact. It seems like he just needs an ego boost and I'm not going to unblock him unless he apologizes for his behavior😅

  • @cristianmoore9267
    @cristianmoore9267 6 месяцев назад

    He said hes made him mind up and doesnt wanna be with me. Does that mean he will never come back?

  • @JBuenoVerse
    @JBuenoVerse 6 месяцев назад

    Can someone tell me if it's possible to still get my ex back after no contact if I logged into her Instagram account, which I know it's an invasion of privacy, but her info was saved on my pc before even the break up and I couldn't resist the temptation and found out that she was talking to another guy, which happens to be a guy a met in Miami , which we live in Pennsylvania and he keeps trying to visit her and she was all into it like "baby when you visiting me" she sent me screenshots to prove that he did not come here, but she was doing this to get over me according to her that it wasn't serious, but to me is her actions that count. I then rejected her and played the reverse card on her and haven't talked to her since it's been about two weeks. I was respectful and will she come back with no contact after all this?

    • @Felix-ms5tj
      @Felix-ms5tj 6 месяцев назад

      Getting your ex back should no longer be a worry because I pleasantly experienced something unique, a more effective and faster tip to achieve the goal. ruclips.net/video/28R5YRHmXvQ/видео.html

  • @nayelibazan9630
    @nayelibazan9630 4 месяца назад

    My BF moved out 2 months ago. Since we have been dating long distance, he moved in with his mom and we are 1 Hr away. He argue a lot and we see each other very little. He ended it about 2 weeks ago. We were in no contact for 1 week and he sent me flowers at work on Valentines. I called him to say thank you and we have been talking since. I don’t want to ask what we are but I want to know what we are, if he’s coming back. I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t really communicate. I feel like I have been in the unknown since he left. I don’t, if I ask him he says he doesn’t know, or says it’s hard. This is causing me anxiety, depression. *need help.