Shockingly brilliant. Thoroughly Biblical. Life giving when applied. Unfortunately, rarely applied - even by me. What a loss. A truly inestimable loss.
When Jesus washed the feet of his disciples and Peter thought to deny him, Jesus told him - unless I do so, you have no part of me. This is what stood out most to me in that story. When Jesus took the position of a servant, he was still Lord - never is Peter in a position to declare what will be done. Jesus is. And so it is to be in marriage.
@@chrism.1421 and the symbolism is of the washing of continual sanctification as your feet get dirty as you walk through life. Peter did not need to get washed completely because he was already saved, already baptized, already had the water covered his whole body (immersion ftw). Once saved, always saved. But sanctification is necessary and ongoing and it's something we are commanded to do for others in our local church
Grandaughter 20 just got engaged to her boyfriend 20. They are young and have no money. His unsaved parents are pushing them to live together first. They don’t understand his strong Christian beliefs. He met Jesus in 6 th grade. Please pray for provision for their wedding. My son in law is a pastor on a pastors salary and they live paycheck to paycheck.
The biggest lie I was ever told was that there was such a thing as “having fun”. It’s not fun. It’s fruitless and it’s degrading. It took me 29 years to figure most of this out. “Having fun” has consequences. Not just physical but psychological and spiritual. It brings you nothing but pain and suffering. My 20s were filled with “fun” and coincidentally ended horribly with me consumed by alcoholism and desperation. God, however, was always there, and when I called out to Him in earnest and humility He answered me and has never left me. It took a little longer to forgive my parents, but I am called to honor my parents, and I am called to carry my cross. The grace of God has no end. I will never turn away, especially now that I know Him. He’s blessed me so deeply with his very presence, and I just implore people who have found themselves in a similar situation to turn to Him. He will save you if you are willing to be saved. End your needless suffering, turn from sin, and repent.
@@cosmictreason2242parents, don't send your daughters to college at all. Maybe don't send your sons to college. We lost our daughter to wokeness when she went to college.
@@jeepstergal4043 yep. I don't speak out of ignorance. Elders need to trust their youngers on some things. Millennial men understand the culture better than GenXers
At least someone in church leadership is willing to talk about these issues honestly. You wouldn't believe some of the responses I've gotten from pastors about why I don't want to marry.
@@cosmictreason2242 same! And the pastors I've had don't care. I had two pastors try to hook me up with a fat chick (one was a single mother and the other had tattoos) and they implied that I was a misogynist for not wanting to marry them. And, apparently, that's not an uncommon story. A lot of pastors just don't care about men (or have complete contempt for us)
I'm 30 and unmarried. A lack of mature Christian women is one reason. Quitting my job, going to trade school and starting a business would be another. Do I want to have a wife and kids? Yes, but I'm not too upset that God hasn't given them to me yet because it would have been much more difficult to do what I'm doing now if I had that added responsibility.
If a man can move to a more righteous culture, say, to the Philippines, that is an option. You don’t HAVE to settle for a modern, independent, strong woman who don’t need no man. There are still cultures in the world that give rise to women who are fit, feminine, and friendly, but the time is running out on how long they can hold on to traditional values.
As a 34 year old man who would be very qualified on paper if i were 19, but feels like the expectations for me keep going up while the available options keep diminishing in their quality, I appreciate the support, even if only verbal encouragement, from Doug et al. Men are indeed useless without authority. I can't give it to myself. Wanting is free. The church community must come alongside and empower the single men, respecting them so that they can marry the young women
The end summary of marriage missed out something very important, the comprehensive surrender of the wife to the husband, leaving nothing lawful back. That's when a husband knows, he has the full commitment of his wife. A precious gift, given to none other....
@@j.p.5716it’s more correctly called a sin, but in a secular world it is seen as a blessing. I understand your reasoning I just don’t know how productive the correction is.
@@FrankleFarkle - Telling women that submission is a gift that they can give their husbands seems to imply to them that it is optional and if they do it they are doing something really special. Telling them (properly) that it is simply what God expects of them (Colossians 3:19) and that it is a sin if they do not submit to their husbands in everything sends a whole different (and more accurate) message.
Our obedience, being optional, can also be seen as a gift. It's a gift, to us (the fruit of the Spirit), which is God's gift to those to whom we submit to.
Too many churches have adopted worldly/feminist ideology. Even the very conservative churches I grew up in discouraged young men in such a way that it hamstrung their ability to get married.
It was only after I gave myself to God that I was saved and that I met my wife. From the moment I met her I knew that I was going to marry her. We both had sinful pasts, and we met inexplicably. It was a divine gift for both of us. God truly blessed us. We turned together to the Lord, and He has continuously blessed us. We’ve overcome things that I never thought possible in the darkest depths of my sin. I implore all of the young men out there to give yourself completely to God and to be unwavering in your faith. Speak to God, read the scripture, surround yourself with His word, turn from sin and be reborn in His image. His plan is divine. Stop trying to control it. Your part in this is in the decisions you make every moment of every day. God bless all of you who seek Him.
He can't. Proverbs 27:15 A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike; 16 Whoever restrains her restrains the wind, And grasps oil with his right hand.
"And I will put enmity between _you_ and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.” Genesis 3:15 -Without Jesus and seeking the kingdom, feminism and toxic masculinity have/has always been 'there', I think - 'Natural selection' _God's_ way... "But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? *He seeks godly offspring*. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth." Malachi 2:15 🙏
0:32 because it’s not possible right now? At least not for most of us. There’s literally no prospects or prospects who are interested in us. The culture is shifted too far off the rails. It would be great to be able to. But it’s not.
@@chrisschey7818 Which is why Job spent so much time in counsel with others and seeking to understand. Not only is your dictum off-target, as action in the absence of possibility has the same result as inaction in the absence of possibility, it is, probably by reduction and oversimplification, false.
@@chrisschey7818 What nonsense. Whether man or woman, if there is no suitable person available, you can't just invent one from thin air. And even if there was one that meets your qualifications, you still cannot MAKE them be interested in you! Why can't people get that through their heads? At least Pastor Doug acknowledges that being alone is an affliction! I think he's the only married pastor/leader I've EVER heard truly acknowledge this. And for that, I am thankful.
@@chrisschey7818 Dude, that is not helpful at all to these young men. A man can focus and act all he wants, but he can't conjure up a godly woman who desires him out of thin air.
"He is there to protect her" - You know what the most unprotected thing for a wife is in many cases? Is her domestic partner. He thinks their going to pair off? Does he realize there are 2 women for every man in college.
As a father of a teen daughter, who has known lots of other fathers of teen daughters...one issue I see, Doug, is the crazy imbalance of females to males at Christian colleges...I pray my kid meets a great guy some day...I don't know that sending her to a doctrinally great college with a ratio of 2 ladies to every gent is the way to go. A solution? Besides prayer, I don't have one.
@cosmictreason2242 yes I know who pays dowry - well then again maybe the father would have to pay to get rid of her? You mean the husband has to pay off her student loan? No that wouldn't work for me. There's sahm unitil that loans paid down.
@@cosmictreason2242 It is the #1 contributor. Whenever an economist points to collusion or supply chains, they are trying to blame anything other than money printer brr.
@@cosmictreason2242 Interest rate is the majority of inflation. The non monetary factors are talked about frequently because so many politicians love Keynesianism.
@@skylinefever half of US inflation (53%) is due directly to corporate profiteering as companies continue to keep their prices high even as inflationary costs drop
Also, too many women are in a huge hurry to have children, without making sure the relationship is solid first. Look at how many divorced women with kids there are.
There's really no incentive left for men, Christian or otherwise, to put up with any of this dating/"sexual marketplace" crap. Never any incentives, just nagging, nagging and more nagging lol.
When the only housing you can afford is a one bedroom apartment, having children or even getting married just isn’t very appealing. Plus, who would want to bring children into today’s screwed up world. We actually probably have way too many people already.
My parents married young. They had four children in Rapid succession, and We lived in a tiny two-bedroom apartment over a bakery in chicago. That wasn't unusual back then. You don't need a 4500 square foot house to raise children. 1000 square feet quite readily, just lower your expectations to be in line with reality.
The math isn’t mathing. Every man who remains single is depriving a woman of a husband. Also, Paul said a virgin woman cares about the things of the Lord in a way a wife cannot.
The only thing I would push back on a little bit is the part about what the Transformed Wife said about men preferring debt free virgins with no tattoos. It's not that that quote is so horrible by itself, but that it's one of many things she has said that tend to lean more on the side of make laws where there aren't any and speaking to people as if there is no redemption for them. But also... there are lots of men who love women with tattoos. 😅 You should be a virgin, and you should be debt free, but your life also isn't over if you have debt and you're not unlovable because you have past sexual sin. Again, not the worst quote in the world, I wouldn't blow up about it, but the transformed wife is kinda nuts and if there wasn't the context of her other posts behind that quote, it wouldn't be as bad.
@@mikedavis1069 you can be a debt free virgin with no tattoos and be less godly than woman with debt, a sinful past, and tattoos (I'm assuming repentance for the sin here). I don't think it's wrong for a man to prefer what he prefers, but I would never broadcast to all women a message like that. If I was talking to a debt free virgin, I would absolutely encourage her to stay that way until marriage, but the message to the woman with debt and a past she regrets is not gonna be "well men prefer the opposite of you." That may be generally true, but it's not true of every man and what is she supposed to do with that? I thank God that there can be redemption for women like that, y'know?
@@TheRichardAnne I don't deny any of what you say. Doug simply said the aforementioned virgin is most preferred. The rest certainly are not kicked to the curb.
@@mikedavis1069 he was talking about the reaction to that quote being bad and my point is that some of it probably was, but a lot of the reaction was actually reasonable. That's all I'm saying. I don't like the transformed wife. I don't think Doug is like her at all.
We as men today must meet a specific criteria, in order to be dateable by women. (Marriage is not even on the table at this point!) So some 90% of us men are invisibile to women anyway. If we do end up being able to date, then we must walk a dental floss thin tight rope in order to keep her interested. Otherwise she bounces to next man via a web app. A portion of women in this society like having a wedding. Being married and the duties of being a wife, that they do not want! Climb that corporate ladder, boss babe
"We as men today must meet a specific criteria, in order to be dateable by women." That's right. And so do women. At least for men, there's something you can do about it. There's not much you can do about your general looks. Men don't want ugly women.
@@Yesica1993 ugly t men can't do anything either. Those of us in the 70-90%ile of attractiveness resent your implication that because we have to work to attract women less attractive than us, makes us ugly
The humorous essay is such a lost art! This man is a master of it.
I'm so thankfull I met my wife at age 15,and was married at 17.That was 52 years ago!
Congratulations Sir! My husband and I just had our 45th anniversary. I was 21, and my husband was 24.❤
Praise God
@@OrpilorpPraise God
I'm thankful not to have any divorces under my belt, or children that I can't afford to deal with. 🙏✝️
You did well!
There is no thing quite as alluring as a husband who is truly the biblical head of his household.
Shockingly brilliant. Thoroughly Biblical. Life giving when applied. Unfortunately, rarely applied - even by me. What a loss. A truly inestimable loss.
"Because it is still October" 🔥🔥🔥☠️🏴
When Jesus washed the feet of his disciples and Peter thought to deny him, Jesus told him - unless I do so, you have no part of me. This is what stood out most to me in that story. When Jesus took the position of a servant, he was still Lord - never is Peter in a position to declare what will be done. Jesus is. And so it is to be in marriage.
@@chrism.1421 and the symbolism is of the washing of continual sanctification as your feet get dirty as you walk through life. Peter did not need to get washed completely because he was already saved, already baptized, already had the water covered his whole body (immersion ftw). Once saved, always saved. But sanctification is necessary and ongoing and it's something we are commanded to do for others in our local church
Grandaughter 20 just got engaged to her boyfriend 20. They are young and have no money. His unsaved parents are pushing them to live together first. They don’t understand his strong Christian beliefs. He met Jesus in 6 th grade. Please pray for provision for their wedding. My son in law is a pastor on a pastors salary and they live paycheck to paycheck.
Don’t forget the trans patriarchy! Men dominating as better “women”
So THAT’S where the progression will end!
This is firing me up for our church's men's night tonight! Thanks Doug for your wisdom!
Thank God I’m getting married in two weeks (God willing) 🙏🏻. Prayers would be appreciated brothers
He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the Lord.
By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher~ Socrates
Thank You for telling the truth in Satan's world of lies
This is his wheelhouse..
The biggest lie I was ever told was that there was such a thing as “having fun”. It’s not fun. It’s fruitless and it’s degrading. It took me 29 years to figure most of this out. “Having fun” has consequences. Not just physical but psychological and spiritual. It brings you nothing but pain and suffering. My 20s were filled with “fun” and coincidentally ended horribly with me consumed by alcoholism and desperation. God, however, was always there, and when I called out to Him in earnest and humility He answered me and has never left me. It took a little longer to forgive my parents, but I am called to honor my parents, and I am called to carry my cross. The grace of God has no end. I will never turn away, especially now that I know Him. He’s blessed me so deeply with his very presence, and I just implore people who have found themselves in a similar situation to turn to Him. He will save you if you are willing to be saved. End your needless suffering, turn from sin, and repent.
One reason many younger men (
@@gregb6469 fathers don't send your daughters to college
@@cosmictreason2242 -- Back in the day, girls went to college to get their Mrs degree; nowadays they go to get anything but that!
They raised their daughters like men and wonder who the daughters aren’t getting married.
@@cosmictreason2242parents, don't send your daughters to college at all. Maybe don't send your sons to college. We lost our daughter to wokeness when she went to college.
@@jeepstergal4043 yep. I don't speak out of ignorance. Elders need to trust their youngers on some things. Millennial men understand the culture better than GenXers
At least someone in church leadership is willing to talk about these issues honestly. You wouldn't believe some of the responses I've gotten from pastors about why I don't want to marry.
The churches are fumbling on these issues so badly, I'm surprised more men aren't becoming muslims tbh.
I want to marry but the options are very slim
I often argued that church attendance declined due to many pastors trying to just get the old bluepill to work again.
@@cosmictreason2242 same! And the pastors I've had don't care. I had two pastors try to hook me up with a fat chick (one was a single mother and the other had tattoos) and they implied that I was a misogynist for not wanting to marry them. And, apparently, that's not an uncommon story. A lot of pastors just don't care about men (or have complete contempt for us)
@@BubonicJitters - Those men are not pastors but wolves in sheep's clothing.
Man, this was excellent.
I'm 30 and unmarried. A lack of mature Christian women is one reason. Quitting my job, going to trade school and starting a business would be another. Do I want to have a wife and kids? Yes, but I'm not too upset that God hasn't given them to me yet because it would have been much more difficult to do what I'm doing now if I had that added responsibility.
If a man can move to a more righteous culture, say, to the Philippines, that is an option.
You don’t HAVE to settle for a modern, independent, strong woman who don’t need no man.
There are still cultures in the world that give rise to women who are fit, feminine, and friendly, but the time is running out on how long they can hold on to traditional values.
@@robstr12Doug is not fit by any means.
@@americandropbear5081
Doug is a 70ish man with a wife, children and grandchildren. He doesn’t have to be fit anymore.
@@americandropbear5081Doug is literally an old man 😂😂
Wives, girlfriends, in-laws, kids,
"If it ain't issued,
You don't need it." 😉
"Truly you have a dizzying intellect." Doug (7 minutes in...) "I'm just getting started!"
PRECISELY STATED! BRAVO!👏
This is excellent.
"internal library lady" 😂
I can’t wait for November!!!
As a 34 year old man who would be very qualified on paper if i were 19, but feels like the expectations for me keep going up while the available options keep diminishing in their quality, I appreciate the support, even if only verbal encouragement, from Doug et al. Men are indeed useless without authority. I can't give it to myself. Wanting is free. The church community must come alongside and empower the single men, respecting them so that they can marry the young women
The end summary of marriage missed out something very important, the comprehensive surrender of the wife to the husband, leaving nothing lawful back. That's when a husband knows, he has the full commitment of his wife. A precious gift, given to none other....
Is it really a gift for a wife to obey Jesus? Or is it more correctly called a sin if she does not?
@@j.p.5716it’s more correctly called a sin, but in a secular world it is seen as a blessing. I understand your reasoning I just don’t know how productive the correction is.
@@FrankleFarkle - Telling women that submission is a gift that they can give their husbands seems to imply to them that it is optional and if they do it they are doing something really special.
Telling them (properly) that it is simply what God expects of them (Colossians 3:19) and that it is a sin if they do not submit to their husbands in everything sends a whole different (and more accurate) message.
Our obedience, being optional, can also be seen as a gift. It's a gift, to us (the fruit of the Spirit), which is God's gift to those to whom we submit to.
@@michaelsowerby8198 _ Nonsense. Utter nonsense.
Too many churches have adopted worldly/feminist ideology. Even the very conservative churches I grew up in discouraged young men in such a way that it hamstrung their ability to get married.
It was only after I gave myself to God that I was saved and that I met my wife. From the moment I met her I knew that I was going to marry her. We both had sinful pasts, and we met inexplicably. It was a divine gift for both of us. God truly blessed us. We turned together to the Lord, and He has continuously blessed us. We’ve overcome things that I never thought possible in the darkest depths of my sin. I implore all of the young men out there to give yourself completely to God and to be unwavering in your faith. Speak to God, read the scripture, surround yourself with His word, turn from sin and be reborn in His image. His plan is divine. Stop trying to control it. Your part in this is in the decisions you make every moment of every day. God bless all of you who seek Him.
Praise God!
This tree bears good fruit.
Sharpening that serrated edge for NQN
How can a man lead if she won’t follow his initiative?
He can't.
Proverbs 27:15 A continual dripping on a very rainy day
And a contentious woman are alike;
16 Whoever restrains her restrains the wind,
And grasps oil with his right hand.
That's correct, and why men need legal.authority over their wives as well as children.
He leads himself. She is welcome to come
If not, her loss.
@@scottyyoch3537 no, it's his loss too when she divorces him.
@@ericjames7819 Then he is free to remarry a Christian woman, as an unbeliever has abandoned him (1 Cor 7:15)
The Pendulum swings.
Read: Fiat Ruins Everything by Jimmy Song. You are most welcome brothers.
"And I will put enmity between _you_ and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.” Genesis 3:15
-Without Jesus and seeking the kingdom, feminism and toxic masculinity have/has always been 'there', I think - 'Natural selection' _God's_ way...
"But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? *He seeks godly offspring*. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth." Malachi 2:15
🙏
'...why it is still october...' :)
Well said Sir
0:32 because it’s not possible right now? At least not for most of us. There’s literally no prospects or prospects who are interested in us. The culture is shifted too far off the rails. It would be great to be able to. But it’s not.
A strong man is never at a loss. He just acts. He focuses, works & acts.
@@chrisschey7818 Which is why Job spent so much time in counsel with others and seeking to understand. Not only is your dictum off-target, as action in the absence of possibility has the same result as inaction in the absence of possibility, it is, probably by reduction and oversimplification, false.
@@chrisschey7818 What nonsense. Whether man or woman, if there is no suitable person available, you can't just invent one from thin air. And even if there was one that meets your qualifications, you still cannot MAKE them be interested in you! Why can't people get that through their heads? At least Pastor Doug acknowledges that being alone is an affliction! I think he's the only married pastor/leader I've EVER heard truly acknowledge this. And for that, I am thankful.
@@chrisschey7818 Dude, that is not helpful at all to these young men. A man can focus and act all he wants, but he can't conjure up a godly woman who desires him out of thin air.
There are plenty of faithful Christian women out there
You said the T word 😂😂😂
Yes & with impunity. I got nastygrams from X the 3 times I did it. For being hateful!
"He is there to protect her" - You know what the most unprotected thing for a wife is in many cases? Is her domestic partner. He thinks their going to pair off? Does he realize there are 2 women for every man in college.
As a father of a teen daughter, who has known lots of other fathers of teen daughters...one issue I see, Doug, is the crazy imbalance of females to males at Christian colleges...I pray my kid meets a great guy some day...I don't know that sending her to a doctrinally great college with a ratio of 2 ladies to every gent is the way to go. A solution? Besides prayer, I don't have one.
@@scottramsay335 don't send her to college
That's at every college - Worry more about her education than whether she finds a soul mate at college - women have options.
@@cosmictreason2242 I think that's up his daughter? Or you one that thinks her father should get a brides price for her?
@ college is the most popular form of dowry these days (bride price is what the suitor offers, not the father). I'm saying it's not a very good dowry
@cosmictreason2242 yes I know who pays dowry - well then again maybe the father would have to pay to get rid of her?
You mean the husband has to pay off her student loan? No that wouldn't work for me. There's sahm unitil that loans paid down.
Want to end YOLO thinking? Make the interest rate high and the inflation rate zero.
The interest rate drives inflation
@@cosmictreason2242 It is the #1 contributor. Whenever an economist points to collusion or supply chains, they are trying to blame anything other than money printer brr.
@@cosmictreason2242 Interest rate is the majority of inflation. The non monetary factors are talked about frequently because so many politicians love Keynesianism.
@@skylinefever half of US inflation (53%) is due directly to corporate profiteering as companies continue to keep their prices high even as inflationary costs drop
The expansion of the money supply is inflationary
What do you say, then, to people who ended up unmarried in their 30s and beyond when they didn’t want to be?
@@NathanMarchandAuthor improve what is within your control, and counsel others to disciple the young women better.
I would love to get with the program, sadly my best efforts are clearly not attracting a Godly woman.
★★★★★
Genesis 3:16 NLT
Ecclesiastes 7:28
1 Timothy 2:9-15 KJV
Matthew 19:10-12
Micah 7:5
1 Peter 3:1-7
Proverbs 5,6,7
Proverbs 31:3
1 Corinthians 7:32-35
1 Corinthians 11:3
Ephesians 5:22-24
Revelation 14:4
Leviticus 12:1-8
Leviticus 20:16
Psalm 51:5
I’m just a causality
Also, too many women are in a huge hurry to have children, without making sure the relationship is solid first. Look at how many divorced women with kids there are.
There is nothing wrong with having children right away. In fact, working together to raise children is a way to build a strong marriage
Russel's right
Boost
Don’t think I’ll be getting married at my age of 30. My generation and younger are too messed up and traumatized.
@@LetsGo_Brandon pick a genz girl who lives with her parents. By faith condemn the world. Forsake the millennial girls
@ strangely that’s the very girl I’m talking to
"Traumatized" from what? It sickens me how this word is tossed around so casually these days.
@ passed the wall millennial you are
@@LetsGo_Brandon iirc she's 50. She's one of the honest fans of moscow but she gets a little bitter when it comes to the marriage subject
There's really no incentive left for men, Christian or otherwise, to put up with any of this dating/"sexual marketplace" crap. Never any incentives, just nagging, nagging and more nagging lol.
Thank you so much for choosing to remove yourself from the dating pool!
I loved seeing guys opt into "Monk mode."
@@sullathehutt7720 ignore aallen, they're a feminist atheist
They're out there.
@@aallen5256
You're welcome. I also remove others. 🙂
When the only housing you can afford is a one bedroom apartment, having children or even getting married just isn’t very appealing. Plus, who would want to bring children into today’s screwed up world. We actually probably have way too many people already.
My parents married young. They had four children in Rapid succession, and We lived in a tiny two-bedroom apartment over a bakery in chicago.
That wasn't unusual back then.
You don't need a 4500 square foot house to raise children. 1000 square feet quite readily, just lower your expectations to be in line with reality.
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Would Sarah have called Abraham “Lord” if he were poor?
She called him lord because he was her owner and her master. Just like every other husband owned his wife in that time.
And notice that Peter tells NT wives they are to be like Sarah.
Learn greek Doug. 1 tim 3:11.
Oh, and what say you about Dr. Ammon Hillman ❤❤
Saw that guy on a video from James White. A.H. is either on drugs, insane, or demon possessed. Horrifying!
SINGLENESS is a gift.
Matthew 19:10-12
But only Men can have this gift.
Women...
1 Timothy 2:12-15
they need kids.
The math isn’t mathing. Every man who remains single is depriving a woman of a husband. Also, Paul said a virgin woman cares about the things of the Lord in a way a wife cannot.
I had childhood illness that makes me incapable of having children; how do I get to Heaven?
Get lost with this nonsense.
The only thing I would push back on a little bit is the part about what the Transformed Wife said about men preferring debt free virgins with no tattoos. It's not that that quote is so horrible by itself, but that it's one of many things she has said that tend to lean more on the side of make laws where there aren't any and speaking to people as if there is no redemption for them. But also... there are lots of men who love women with tattoos. 😅 You should be a virgin, and you should be debt free, but your life also isn't over if you have debt and you're not unlovable because you have past sexual sin.
Again, not the worst quote in the world, I wouldn't blow up about it, but the transformed wife is kinda nuts and if there wasn't the context of her other posts behind that quote, it wouldn't be as bad.
I don't see it as law, but as good advice. They're three "green flags" from the male perspective.
Debt free virgins with no tattoos "ARE PREFERRED" but there is so few of those most have had to settle for less.
@@mikedavis1069 you can be a debt free virgin with no tattoos and be less godly than woman with debt, a sinful past, and tattoos (I'm assuming repentance for the sin here). I don't think it's wrong for a man to prefer what he prefers, but I would never broadcast to all women a message like that. If I was talking to a debt free virgin, I would absolutely encourage her to stay that way until marriage, but the message to the woman with debt and a past she regrets is not gonna be "well men prefer the opposite of you." That may be generally true, but it's not true of every man and what is she supposed to do with that? I thank God that there can be redemption for women like that, y'know?
@@TheRichardAnne I don't deny any of what you say. Doug simply said the aforementioned virgin is most preferred. The rest certainly are not kicked to the curb.
@@mikedavis1069 he was talking about the reaction to that quote being bad and my point is that some of it probably was, but a lot of the reaction was actually reasonable. That's all I'm saying. I don't like the transformed wife. I don't think Doug is like her at all.
I recommend Reepicheep as a guide to the roles of the sexes. At least I've tried that with evening reading time with our children
We as men today must meet a specific criteria, in order to be dateable by women. (Marriage is not even on the table at this point!) So some 90% of us men are invisibile to women anyway. If we do end up being able to date, then we must walk a dental floss thin tight rope in order to keep her interested. Otherwise she bounces to next man via a web app.
A portion of women in this society like having a wedding. Being married and the duties of being a wife, that they do not want!
Climb that corporate ladder, boss babe
Until the God pill is some insurance policy, guys will be red pill or black pill.
What are you gonna do? You sound like you've let yourself get cynical and passive
"We as men today must meet a specific criteria, in order to be dateable by women."
That's right. And so do women. At least for men, there's something you can do about it. There's not much you can do about your general looks. Men don't want ugly women.
@@Yesica1993 ugly t men can't do anything either. Those of us in the 70-90%ile of attractiveness resent your implication that because we have to work to attract women less attractive than us, makes us ugly