Ladies, have self respect and don’t play their games! Why men have to have the last day? No way!! Don’t let them drag you on!!!! You are beautiful and you will get the deserving man ❤
I had an intimate experience with a guy who told me... "I've never had this with anyone before." Among other gushful things about my inner world. (He's definitely not a player.) And now he's been avoiding me, even when i see him in public, he barely says hi. We live in the same neighborhood. I have a feeling he'll come back around, but its so strange to me. I think our connection scared the shit out of him. I'm not chasing this dude.. he needs to show the fuck up if he wants to be with me.
I totally get this!! I had this strong attraction to a guy and he would invite me out and flirt and there was a connection, but when we would see eachother in public we would freeze and avoid eachother. Meanwhile I couldn’t even catch my breath! I think the connection and desire is so strong sometimes that it is scary because nobody wants to get hurt or feel disappointed, it’s the avoidant attachment, but once you let that go because that stems from fear I could see a 🔥 or something being explosive 🧨…. I’ve never felt such a strong attraction to someone and I’m 37 twice divorced 😂
He probably got alittle scared. You're right, don't chase. We, as women, do get tired of men waiting to decide what their next move is or when they'll be back. But he more than likely will make another move towards you.
What doesn't make sense is that the guy is crazy about you yet doesn't want a relationship. For women it's pretty clear, if we don't like the guy enough we won't want a relationship. Or is that only me?
Wanting someone and being in a mature space to want commitment are not the same thing, so it's really important you recognize early on what type of guy you're choosing to invest your time and energy in.
Yet, women will give themselves to douchebag who is "funny", "exciting". Some women are event telling they would hook up with "bad men" while they will pretend to be prude with guy they like. I doubt that guy who is crazy about you, don't want relationship. "Players" don't bother to much about it. They go to next "victim".
Its been going on for 6 years now, he has said that he loves me, im his person, we have a lot of passion, but he has said he is not a ready for a relationship... So im done, cant wait for him to become ready anymore, coz i am.
I dated a guy off and on for 13 years. He did all the signs especially staring at me and wanting to see me. The problem was he never did #3 which was most important to me so although he asked to be in a relationship multiple times I couldn’t fully invest in him because he never seemed interested in my life or interest. I finally decided to end things for good even though he said he’s always wanted me and still does. It’s hard not to call him but I don’t want to waste any more time on something that left me unfulfilled.
The question is why he never ask about you? Is he expecting you to share your life even he don't ask or he is just not interested? If he's not, what are those expressions or actions that make him looks not interested?
Very useful ty. The man I still love was in category 2, but I've had all 3 of these. I've been giving him space & time from me & improving & caring for myself.
this is very helpful... last night I have finally walked away from my man... two things that's most challening in our relationship.. we are long distance and our age gap is too big
My heart is 💔. I broke up with my ex today. I was in a situation like this video.He didn't give me what I needed emotionally but he has no problem interacting and flirting with other women. He pays them compliments but not me. He has NEVER opened up or talked about the future with me; never tried to know me on a deeper level. Never acknowledged to others that he was in a relationship, incl his family. Never showed any jealousy. It hurts like **** but I can't take it anymore. Yet, he got very upset when I left him! He's very handsome, charming and intelligent. He won't be by himself for long. He claims he's in love with me. 🙄
Sounds exactly like my ex down to every last detail...😢 mine got married 5 months after he finally ghosted me after using me for over a year in this way and then I found out he had been seeing his current wife at the same time as me....we are kept secret for a reason 😢 now I pity her and wouldn't want to be in her place so even though it feels devastating devastating now women are always better off without a man who can do these things to ANY woman! Character doesn't change....
@Penney Batley I understand and agree with everything you said. My ex was having an emotional affair with his ex. He had told me previously that there was nothing between him and this woman. Long story short, I found out so many things he did. He lied to me about so many things. It hurt me very deeply. It took me over two years to heal. Though I still had feelings for him, I wasn't in love with him anymore. I think I mainly wanted closure when we got back together. Nothing had changed; not wasting my life with him anymore. Guess what? This morning, a guy I knew years ago contacted me this morning. I was shocked!!! I never dreamed I would ever hear from him again. He's a lot different for the better. He's so much more emotionally mature and he seems to want to build with me. I'm taking it slow. 🐌
You deserve so much more! He's the moron! You are a very smart woman! You know your worth! Who cares that he moves on, you'll move on with someone when the time is right too. Don't get sucked back in to that.. my Mom had to tell me that once in my early twenties, not to answer that phone call.. she was right.. I didn't need to go backward! The future was much brighter!!😎🏖🌞
Its been going on for 6 years now, he has said that he loves me, im his person, we have a lot of passion, but he has said he is not a ready for a relationship... So im done, cant wait for him to become ready anymore, coz i am and i have told him this.
I've had all 5 signs with someone 8 years ago. I thought he might be guy 1 (shy) so I asked about making things official. Unfortunately, he told me he was #3 - not ready for a relationship. After that conversation, our friendship took a nose dive and ultimately crashed, leaving me drowning in the worse grief I've ever known. I was afraid of love before, now I'm terrified of going through that kind of grief again. I haven't been able to connect with anyone ever since.
It sounds like it's an invitation to a good conversation about where he's at, what he's feeling and what's getting lost in the process. Talk to him, share your vision for what you want and ask him what he's excited about, then together work to close the gap.
@bernmendez, how can we define deep feelings? Is it already considered as real love? Or not yet developed? I was told my guy has deep feelings towards me, but I cant get what type of feelings are. Love, strong passion, or first stages of love??
Deep feelings in the context of this video means emotional connection and depth hinging on love. Getting to know your guy through kind yet fierce conversations is perhaps one of the steps that will be needed to get to the bottom of what's going on with him.
Gosh I know someone that does pretty much all of what’s on this list. But he’s twice my age so at first I assumed he was just being “fatherly” (maybe he is). But I’m starting to wonder because I only met him a few months ago.
Mine is a complex one. it's going to be long, I'm just venting here. So it started when I started my high school...all students of our batch were coming one by one, we were all gathered in school garden. I felt something for him when I saw him for the first time(let's name him X), I just used to observe him. I lived in a place where most of the guys were pervert and the environment was not safe for girls. But after going to that school, I saw different type of guys, respectful, friendly with girls. X was also like that, he was very calm and soft spoken, bubbly person. He was also a little funny & weird although as it was starting of High school he was a bit immature. He was friends with one girl who was a bully(although she's a good person now), one day that girl made fun of my looks and he also made some comments about my looks, that time I cried for a whole day. That environment was very new for me, I was very innocent back then. Slowly I started to understand these people and started standing up for myself. I slowly started bonding with everyone. One day we were going to a class upstairs and X was walking beside me, he tried to talk to me but I confronted him about what he did to me, he apologized to me for it. But it was a fake apology bcoz after some days I heard from someone that he made fun of my looks behind my back to someone, and sometimes when we used to text...(he always texted me first, replying to my stories and all)...he said some cursing words and sometimes joke around about my looks. I stopped talking to him on text. After some years...I changed a bit...I would say a glow up and I gained some confidence, X and I still talked to each other as we were classmates but he never dared to make fun of my looks again..he has also become a little mature and sometimes I roasted him as I had grudges but he took it lightly although now I've stopped doing this becoz I think it's immature and it just makes me remember those things instead of making me feel good. Then in 11th, he got transferred to another section so we didn't talk anymore. Now school is over and me and my friends hang out sometimes and me and X meet each other because of common friend groups. He has also changed now, he doesn't make fun of anyone's looks anymore(atleast in front of me, I don't know if it's real him or not) but I'm not able to forget that completely, and even after his past behaviour, whenever I hang out with my friends and X is there and we talk to each other a little bit, I can't stop thinking about him after the hangout. I'm not sure If I love/like him or not. But I just can't stop thinking about him. We talk to each other like friends. I don't really talk to him that much...he just initiates conversation sometimes with me and asks questions about what's going on in my life, my interests, career stc. He is a kind and generous person and doesn't want to make anyone feel left out thus he initiates conversation most of the time. We don't really talk openly to each other, there's still an awkwardness between us like when we are in a friend group and all of the other friends become busy in something or go somewhere and only us are left alone, we don't talk to each other. I don't know if he likes me or not but even if he does I know he won't say anything because it would hurt his ego as he made fun of me in the past and I also don't give him that much attention because I respect myself now, recently it was one of my friend's birthday, it was kind of a reunion and X was also there, we talked a bit as usual and now again I'm constantly thinking about him. I just keep thinking about our interactions and my feelings towards him. I'm confused as hell because I can never confront him about this as it will ve too pathetic of me😃
Do you understand what Limerence is? If you get some professional help to deal with your Limerence, you will have a much happier life and you won't cheat yourself out of the real Love that you deserve...you just need some help learning how to love and be loved in the real world...I wish you the very best...
There's this coworker who looks at me when I'm not looking at him and when I look at him, he looks elsewhere. He doesn't talk to me when there are other people in the team or other people in office around, he talks to me only when I am alone or I am with 1/2 other people in the team. I asked him about this weird behavior of his in office and he denied it, but he said he's attracted to me. Does this mean he has feelings for me?
Yes!! He admitted being attracted to you but probably a combination of being an introvert and being scared of an office romance that could potentially go sour and eventually be extremely awkward at work. Some people have rules about not dating coworkers but I think I would struggle with that because it's a normal way to meet and get to know people. Plus once you have the feels, it's super hard not to act on it. He sounds introverted because we introverts are pretty private people and don't generally like to speak in front of a large group of people let alone a group of people with your crush in it, cuz coworkers may catch on.. lol!! Hope you figure it out soon!. I'm sure you are waiting for him to ask you to lunch, coffee, a movie, anything.. maybe you could ask him out as friends.. like a daytime shopping, hiking adventure to get the ball rolling and try to figure out if it could work for you guys.
Oh wow, that would be hard to figure out. Hopefully he is both single and open to dating a coworker.. waiting after he admitted being attracted to you would be torture for sure!
Ok, it's making more sense now. I see why you are wondering. He's fighting his feelings and for good reason!! He's already disrespected his wife telling you he was attracted to you though. I see why you are thinking about him. Evil wants to destroy marriages and temptation is all around. The good ones fight temptation to it's death. They are rare. You want a rare one.. and not a married rare one who gives you false hope. That's my opinion anyway. Hope it helps some. It sounds like advice my mother would give to me when reading it back, lol. Help, I've become my Mother!
I am a guy and I personally don't like the phrase 'excuse' you are using repeatedly. Do we really need excuses? We know we want to know about her, spend time with her...just that we are afraid of being vulnerable. We don't feel safe to connect with someone at a deeper level, to let her see my insides. I think we men just want to be trusted enough to allow us to do things for her, to have a chance to enter her world. In my story, I always felt that she never trusted me fully. She admired me but sometimes got disgusted by me. I felt I was invading her world which she doesn't want. I never looked back!
I am seeing someone who says he is not Intrested in a serious relationship. but he can tell when I feel uncomfortable am in pain or somthing is wrong. I amm 44 I have never seen that. But I can also see he doesn't want to get too invested but he has said he is a jealous lover sadley
Do u see the problem within all start of relationships is that man behavior? From u as a man on love topic, u see it's man not behaving diving right in or deceiving woman or man doing multiple women, same time without them knowing each other, or men in the end of ur speech, that man still need time out after that to make him step up, it's devastating news.
Great topic!!! Thank you! Question…What if you both met online, and you don’t live in the same state, neither of us like long distance relationships but something kept us going, so we went through all those tough conversations for 3 months everyday. FaceTime and calls all day even while at work. We hated to disconnect with each other. Then he says He should be the one to make the 1st move and risk and travel so we can meet in person. By the time we met, we had felt like we had already known each other for much longer than just 3 months. The sparks were more intense than they ever were by phone, the attraction and the Chemistry as well. He did all those gazing looks that you mentioned. Staring into my eyes, kissing my forehead, holding me tightly, even putting his fingers through my hair to move it away from my face. Well… We spent a couple of days together, and with each day it just got better and better, but then he had to get on a flight and leave and that was hard for me and hard for him but I thought and hope that before he got on the flight that he would say something that could possibly give me as to where he would like this to go and he didn’t. Is that a bad sign? One of our very first conversations he did say that he’s not good with his words but he’s good with his actions. I sent him a text while he was on his flight saying I hope you found the trip worth it and I hope you enjoyed yourself. Have a safe trip back home. Please don’t forget to call me to let me know that you arrive safely. Well he called me and let me know that he arrived safely and kept me on the phone until he went to shower and sleep. But he never answered the beginning part of my text. Is this a red flag or is it just that he’s shy? I do realize that just like myself he was married to someone for many many years and this person cheated on him publicly and he was the leader of a church. I can only imagine how devastating it was for him and he has confirmed that it was. He’s a really good person. I see the way he takes care of his mom, his relationship with his kids and he’s definitely a rare breed as far as his morals & integrity but he won’t be outspoken. Now if I probe then he’ll open up but I wish I did t have to probe.
He'll probably be guarded because of everything that has happened to him but hopeful that you will go see him next if things are still going well. I think a red flag would be not returning phone calls or not acting as excited to talk to you. If he's still calling, that's a good sign!
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2:16 body language
3:14 flirtatiousness
4:00 going to want to know your inner world
4:40 will want to be with you
5:13 slightly jealous
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I'm not holding my breath anymore. Done.
Love it, Judy : )
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Ladies, have self respect and don’t play their games!
Why men have to have the last day?
No way!!
Don’t let them drag you on!!!!
You are beautiful and you will get the deserving man ❤
Thanks for sharing.
I had an intimate experience with a guy who told me... "I've never had this with anyone before." Among other gushful things about my inner world. (He's definitely not a player.) And now he's been avoiding me, even when i see him in public, he barely says hi. We live in the same neighborhood. I have a feeling he'll come back around, but its so strange to me. I think our connection scared the shit out of him. I'm not chasing this dude.. he needs to show the fuck up if he wants to be with me.
I totally get this!! I had this strong attraction to a guy and he would invite me out and flirt and there was a connection, but when we would see eachother in public we would freeze and avoid eachother. Meanwhile I couldn’t even catch my breath! I think the connection and desire is so strong sometimes that it is scary because nobody wants to get hurt or feel disappointed, it’s the avoidant attachment, but once you let that go because that stems from fear I could see a 🔥 or something being explosive 🧨…. I’ve never felt such a strong attraction to someone and I’m 37 twice divorced 😂
He probably got alittle scared. You're right, don't chase. We, as women, do get tired of men waiting to decide what their next move is or when they'll be back. But he more than likely will make another move towards you.
HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU
What doesn't make sense is that the guy is crazy about you yet doesn't want a relationship. For women it's pretty clear, if we don't like the guy enough we won't want a relationship. Or is that only me?
Wanting someone and being in a mature space to want commitment are not the same thing, so it's really important you recognize early on what type of guy you're choosing to invest your time and energy in.
@@BernMendez 🙏
Yet, women will give themselves to douchebag who is "funny", "exciting". Some women are event telling they would hook up with "bad men" while they will pretend to be prude with guy they like. I doubt that guy who is crazy about you, don't want relationship. "Players" don't bother to much about it. They go to next "victim".
@@303machineprobably because the good guy that the woman would prefer to be with will never approach her or try to move forward.
A guy who is interested in me wants a relationship has asked for it but is afraid of our age difference .. what should I do
Its been going on for 6 years now, he has said that he loves me, im his person, we have a lot of passion, but he has said he is not a ready for a relationship... So im done, cant wait for him to become ready anymore, coz i am.
You waited 6years....?hmmmm. That's long girllllll.....
Thanks for sharing.
I dated a guy off and on for 13 years. He did all the signs especially staring at me and wanting to see me. The problem was he never did #3 which was most important to me so although he asked to be in a relationship multiple times I couldn’t fully invest in him because he never seemed interested in my life or interest.
I finally decided to end things for good even though he said he’s always wanted me and still does.
It’s hard not to call him but I don’t want to waste any more time on something that left me unfulfilled.
The question is why he never ask about you? Is he expecting you to share your life even he don't ask or he is just not interested? If he's not, what are those expressions or actions that make him looks not interested?
Very useful ty. The man I still love was in category 2, but I've had all 3 of these. I've been giving him space & time from me & improving & caring for myself.
Glad this was useful : -)
this is very helpful... last night I have finally walked away from my man... two things that's most challening in our relationship.. we are long distance and our age gap is too big
So good, Bern. Incredibly clear explanation.
My heart is 💔. I broke up with my ex today. I was in a situation like this video.He didn't give me what I needed emotionally but he has no problem interacting and flirting with other women. He pays them compliments but not me. He has NEVER opened up or talked about the future with me; never tried to know me on a deeper level. Never acknowledged to others that he was in a relationship, incl his family. Never showed any jealousy.
It hurts like **** but I can't take it anymore. Yet, he got very upset when I left him! He's very handsome, charming and intelligent. He won't be by himself for long. He claims he's in love with me. 🙄
hes a liar flirt and an ASS, move on.
Sounds exactly like my ex down to every last detail...😢 mine got married 5 months after he finally ghosted me after using me for over a year in this way and then I found out he had been seeing his current wife at the same time as me....we are kept secret for a reason 😢 now I pity her and wouldn't want to be in her place so even though it feels devastating devastating now women are always better off without a man who can do these things to ANY woman! Character doesn't change....
Sorry to hear what you're going through and sending you strength and courage.
@Penney Batley I understand and agree with everything you said. My ex was having an emotional affair with his ex. He had told me previously that there was nothing between him and this woman. Long story short, I found out so many things he did. He lied to me about so many things. It hurt me very deeply. It took me over two years to heal. Though I still had feelings for him, I wasn't in love with him anymore. I think I mainly wanted closure when we got back together. Nothing had changed; not wasting my life with him anymore.
Guess what? This morning, a guy I knew years ago contacted me this morning. I was shocked!!! I never dreamed I would ever hear from him again. He's a lot different for the better. He's so much more emotionally mature and he seems to want to build with me. I'm taking it slow. 🐌
You deserve so much more! He's the moron! You are a very smart woman! You know your worth! Who cares that he moves on, you'll move on with someone when the time is right too. Don't get sucked back in to that.. my Mom had to tell me that once in my early twenties, not to answer that phone call.. she was right.. I didn't need to go backward! The future was much brighter!!😎🏖🌞
Its been going on for 6 years now, he has said that he loves me, im his person, we have a lot of passion, but he has said he is not a ready for a relationship... So im done, cant wait for him to become ready anymore, coz i am and i have told him this.
6years.....?that's long girl !
Grateful you're recognizing this and want to move on.
I've had all 5 signs with someone 8 years ago. I thought he might be guy 1 (shy) so I asked about making things official. Unfortunately, he told me he was #3 - not ready for a relationship. After that conversation, our friendship took a nose dive and ultimately crashed, leaving me drowning in the worse grief I've ever known. I was afraid of love before, now I'm terrified of going through that kind of grief again. I haven't been able to connect with anyone ever since.
What if you are living together? But he’s not as open or interested in your life as before
It sounds like it's an invitation to a good conversation about where he's at, what he's feeling and what's getting lost in the process. Talk to him, share your vision for what you want and ask him what he's excited about, then together work to close the gap.
@@BernMendez 😉🥰ty
@bernmendez, how can we define deep feelings? Is it already considered as real love? Or not yet developed? I was told my guy has deep feelings towards me, but I cant get what type of feelings are. Love, strong passion, or first stages of love??
Deep feelings in the context of this video means emotional connection and depth hinging on love. Getting to know your guy through kind yet fierce conversations is perhaps one of the steps that will be needed to get to the bottom of what's going on with him.
Gosh I know someone that does pretty much all of what’s on this list. But he’s twice my age so at first I assumed he was just being “fatherly” (maybe he is). But I’m starting to wonder because I only met him a few months ago.
Thank you for this! It was very helpful!
Glad this helped you.
Mine is a complex one. it's going to be long, I'm just venting here.
So it started when I started my high school...all students of our batch were coming one by one, we were all gathered in school garden. I felt something for him when I saw him for the first time(let's name him X), I just used to observe him. I lived in a place where most of the guys were pervert and the environment was not safe for girls. But after going to that school, I saw different type of guys, respectful, friendly with girls. X was also like that, he was very calm and soft spoken, bubbly person. He was also a little funny & weird although as it was starting of High school he was a bit immature. He was friends with one girl who was a bully(although she's a good person now), one day that girl made fun of my looks and he also made some comments about my looks, that time I cried for a whole day. That environment was very new for me, I was very innocent back then. Slowly I started to understand these people and started standing up for myself. I slowly started bonding with everyone. One day we were going to a class upstairs and X was walking beside me, he tried to talk to me but I confronted him about what he did to me, he apologized to me for it. But it was a fake apology bcoz after some days I heard from someone that he made fun of my looks behind my back to someone, and sometimes when we used to text...(he always texted me first, replying to my stories and all)...he said some cursing words and sometimes joke around about my looks. I stopped talking to him on text. After some years...I changed a bit...I would say a glow up and I gained some confidence, X and I still talked to each other as we were classmates but he never dared to make fun of my looks again..he has also become a little mature and sometimes I roasted him as I had grudges but he took it lightly although now I've stopped doing this becoz I think it's immature and it just makes me remember those things instead of making me feel good. Then in 11th, he got transferred to another section so we didn't talk anymore. Now school is over and me and my friends hang out sometimes and me and X meet each other because of common friend groups. He has also changed now, he doesn't make fun of anyone's looks anymore(atleast in front of me, I don't know if it's real him or not) but I'm not able to forget that completely, and even after his past behaviour, whenever I hang out with my friends and X is there and we talk to each other a little bit, I can't stop thinking about him after the hangout. I'm not sure If I love/like him or not. But I just can't stop thinking about him. We talk to each other like friends. I don't really talk to him that much...he just initiates conversation sometimes with me and asks questions about what's going on in my life, my interests, career stc. He is a kind and generous person and doesn't want to make anyone feel left out thus he initiates conversation most of the time. We don't really talk openly to each other, there's still an awkwardness between us like when we are in a friend group and all of the other friends become busy in something or go somewhere and only us are left alone, we don't talk to each other. I don't know if he likes me or not but even if he does I know he won't say anything because it would hurt his ego as he made fun of me in the past and I also don't give him that much attention because I respect myself now, recently it was one of my friend's birthday, it was kind of a reunion and X was also there, we talked a bit as usual and now again I'm constantly thinking about him. I just keep thinking about our interactions and my feelings towards him.
I'm confused as hell because I can never confront him about this as it will ve too pathetic of me😃
Do you understand what Limerence is? If you get some professional help to deal with your Limerence, you will have a much happier life and you won't cheat yourself out of the real Love that you deserve...you just need some help learning how to love and be loved in the real world...I wish you the very best...
He has all of this but he told me he doesn't love me .....
If there's been enough time, then love yourself enough to move on and connect with someone who will. It may seem "impossible" but it's very doable.
My crush at work does all of these, for me it was love at first sight
Is he pursuing you?
Yes very very helpful.God bless you
You're so welcome, Raziya. Blessings to you too.
There's this coworker who looks at me when I'm not looking at him and when I look at him, he looks elsewhere. He doesn't talk to me when there are other people in the team or other people in office around, he talks to me only when I am alone or I am with 1/2 other people in the team. I asked him about this weird behavior of his in office and he denied it, but he said he's attracted to me. Does this mean he has feelings for me?
Yes!! He admitted being attracted to you but probably a combination of being an introvert and being scared of an office romance that could potentially go sour and eventually be extremely awkward at work. Some people have rules about not dating coworkers but I think I would struggle with that because it's a normal way to meet and get to know people. Plus once you have the feels, it's super hard not to act on it. He sounds introverted because we introverts are pretty private people and don't generally like to speak in front of a large group of people let alone a group of people with your crush in it, cuz coworkers may catch on.. lol!! Hope you figure it out soon!. I'm sure you are waiting for him to ask you to lunch, coffee, a movie, anything.. maybe you could ask him out as friends.. like a daytime shopping, hiking adventure to get the ball rolling and try to figure out if it could work for you guys.
@@LuLu-kz4pv he's super extroverted actually and didn't ask me yet for a coffee, movie or lunch, anything! Plus he behaves weird in office!
Oh wow, that would be hard to figure out. Hopefully he is both single and open to dating a coworker.. waiting after he admitted being attracted to you would be torture for sure!
@@LuLu-kz4pv well there comes the challenging part...he's married with a kid!
Ok, it's making more sense now. I see why you are wondering. He's fighting his feelings and for good reason!! He's already disrespected his wife telling you he was attracted to you though. I see why you are thinking about him. Evil wants to destroy marriages and temptation is all around. The good ones fight temptation to it's death. They are rare. You want a rare one.. and not a married rare one who gives you false hope. That's my opinion anyway. Hope it helps some. It sounds like advice my mother would give to me when reading it back, lol. Help, I've become my Mother!
I am a guy and I personally don't like the phrase 'excuse' you are using repeatedly. Do we really need excuses? We know we want to know about her, spend time with her...just that we are afraid of being vulnerable. We don't feel safe to connect with someone at a deeper level, to let her see my insides. I think we men just want to be trusted enough to allow us to do things for her, to have a chance to enter her world.
In my story, I always felt that she never trusted me fully. She admired me but sometimes got disgusted by me. I felt I was invading her world which she doesn't want. I never looked back!
Thanks for sharing!
I am seeing someone who says he is not Intrested in a serious relationship. but he can tell when I feel uncomfortable am in pain or somthing is wrong. I amm 44 I have never seen that. But I can also see he doesn't want to get too invested but he has said he is a jealous lover sadley
Very helpful! Thanks
Kiela, You're so Welcome!!
I have guy #3 in my life. Sigh. I need to have the talk I've been avoiding.
Well my 'boyfriend' doesn't do any of these. No surprise really
Sorry to hear this Hellen. Perhaps a deep conversation is in need : )
@Bernardo Mendez I've tried but he says he wants nothing serious but wants me as his girlfriend. I suspect he already has a girlfriend
@@helensanderson7092,Oops 😬.Time to heal heart and move on?
Do u see the problem within all start of relationships is that man behavior? From u as a man on love topic, u see it's man not behaving diving right in or deceiving woman or man doing multiple women, same time without them knowing each other, or men in the end of ur speech, that man still need time out after that to make him step up, it's devastating news.
Hi Pearl, this is just one challenge that arises in the dating world, there are many more and not all stem from men : )
Love this 🎉❤
🙏 phone call
Thank you.
Thank you!
You're welcome!
watch their pupils do they dilate in front of you
heres what you have to do, aSK HIM TO BE EXLCUSIVE, if he says no then BYE!
I did same.... We married today with kids!
Good for you : )
Thanks for watching, Amanda.
@@gladicongladys624 is the secks life still wonderderful ? or does he give exceuseuse like "im dirty" or "its getting too late"
@@amandaburleson2035 sex life is topnotch! No, I've always been an obsessive cleaner! I could sweep the floor 10x a day if need be
Great topic!!! Thank you! Question…What if you both met online, and you don’t live in the same state, neither of us like long distance relationships but something kept us going, so we went through all those tough conversations for 3 months everyday. FaceTime and calls all day even while at work. We hated to disconnect with each other. Then he says He should be the one to make the 1st move and risk and travel so we can meet in person. By the time we met, we had felt like we had already known each other for much longer than just 3 months. The sparks were more intense than they ever were by phone, the attraction and the Chemistry as well. He did all those gazing looks that you mentioned. Staring into my eyes, kissing my forehead, holding me tightly, even putting his fingers through my hair to move it away from my face. Well… We spent a couple of days together, and with each day it just got better and better, but then he had to get on a flight and leave and that was hard for me and hard for him but I thought and hope that before he got on the flight that he would say something that could possibly give me as to where he would like this to go and he didn’t. Is that a bad sign? One of our very first conversations he did say that he’s not good with his words but he’s good with his actions. I sent him a text while he was on his flight saying I hope you found the trip worth it and I hope you enjoyed yourself. Have a safe trip back home. Please don’t forget to call me to let me know that you arrive safely. Well he called me and let me know that he arrived safely and kept me on the phone until he went to shower and sleep. But he never answered the beginning part of my text. Is this a red flag or is it just that he’s shy? I do realize that just like myself he was married to someone for many many years and this person cheated on him publicly and he was the leader of a church. I can only imagine how devastating it was for him and he has confirmed that it was.
He’s a really good person. I see the way he takes care of his mom, his relationship with his kids and he’s definitely a rare breed as far as his morals & integrity but he won’t be outspoken. Now if I probe then he’ll open up but I wish I did t have to probe.
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He'll probably be guarded because of everything that has happened to him but hopeful that you will go see him next if things are still going well. I think a red flag would be not returning phone calls or not acting as excited to talk to you. If he's still calling, that's a good sign!