Happy New Year Anna, 2020 vision. This is what I told my wheel chair bound friend who only thought as himself as a burden to all others. I put him on a pedestal to make him believe himself. He found a beautiful partner and they now have a 2 year old child together. They found each other at a sport he and I have shared for many years.
@@YourWingmam I as a wheelchair user myself never had trouble getting girls because 2 girls at my 🏫 have a huge crush on me. I used to get picked by a girl back in elementary school because I use a wheelchair. People in my are ok with 2 girls having a huge crush on me. I am pretty independent myself as a wheelchair user.
I'm not disabled, but this video made a grown man cry (literally). Especially the part about not letting your condition become your entire identity. Very useful tips, not only for the disabled. Thank you so much.
You're so welcome! And thank you for commenting. Everything starts with our belief systems. Beliefs are just repetitive thoughts and thoughts can be changed. 2020 ... you got this! :)
I've been on the wheelchair for almost 10 years had an accident I'm a pretty good-looking guy it's just that the depression really gets to me I just found your videos wish you would make a couple more on dating disabilities
Might I also add that being comfortable with your disability is so important. Self image is a major key that we over look once you find your purpose and confidence things just fall into place. It’s also important to know that most people won’t understand your disability or are just afraid to ask questions and it’s always important to educate people in a healthy way and stand up for yourself. Thank you for not forgetting about individuals with disability’s God bless, Jake
Thank you Anna. Very thoughtful and to the point. As a man that is in a chair that has been blessed with a couple wonderful relationships. I am happy to see this covered in a manner that is direct and on point. Although, I am not currently in a relationship at the moment, I am glad to see content that is addressing the topic.
Great job Anna! Will share. The greatest disability we all have is overcoming the mental drawbacks of life. I'll pray for my brothers and sisters in chairs. I've had to beat cancer and did. I believe prayer had a lot to do with it. I also pray for a healthyer New Year for you and everyone going through a storm. The sun will shine. It only takes alitte bit of light to alumminate.
One of the best compliments my ex gave me was "90% of the time I forget you're in a wheelchair. It's just not how I see you because you're so determined and you don't limit yourself." I'm a man with disabilities; I'm NOT a "disabled man".
How to Get a Girlfriend if You're in a Wheelchair (Interabled Relationships) Foundation for being the kinda guy that can make women great again ;) --members.wingmam.com/men-programs/ Check out the amazing offerings of #21Studios for great men & women: The 22 Convention (Make Women Great Again!): t21c.com/wingmamtv *or* 21C events (for men!): t21c.com/wingmamtv21c *Any extra tips for dating when you're in a wheelchair? Comment!* xo AJ Bonus tip from Chris: have a suitable location planned when a date is agreed. (Thanks, Chris!)
Wow impromtu video on a monday anna?, its winter outside but your sporting an oldskool summer attire. Albeit happy newyear as I glean this is the last video for this decade/year in 2019. Kudos & goin forward in 2020 when you hit 100k will you go on a nationwide tour? Well expressed & handled this not so often discussed topic Anna. Much respect as your covering a good niche sector in back to back videos. I know you've read psychology but have you also delved into Anthropology/Sociology/philosophy? etc....
I won't be available for comments tomorrow and hope some of my viewers will be out celebrating the new year, so yes, this is the last video of 2019! As an INFJ with health issues, you can count on me never going on tour lol I can't even schedule a livestream because of health issues. (Which I'd rather not focus on.) Haven't read any non-fiction outside of psychology, health, business and spirituality, but I suspect there's some overlap. Happy New Year! :)
I have been in a wheelchair because i can not walk at all due to a falling accident i had when i was a baby. I like girls but some look at me like i am something that should be in the toilet some don't enjeccted frustration in me.
@Anna Oh dear sorry to hear that as I dont think you''ve ever mentioned that before & I hope its nothing too serious! tomorrow as we speak is new years eve & yes the following is the newyear hope you will live it up despite the topsy turvy year but reflect on all your bolstering acceomplishments over the decade/your bourgeoning sub-base/viewership for your channel plus more.
I would be a challenge to help. Because I done convinced myself that I'm lucky to not feel the need to have a partner like most people. It probably was discouragement that brought me to this point. But I honestly feel it helped me in the long run to see life from a different perspective.
Thank you for this video Wingmam. I am in a wheelchair. My disability is Spina Bifida Hydrocephalus. I've always feared and worried about getting a girlfriend for most of my life.
A decent woman will love you for your mind, if that makes her happy, and makes her smile! Also, it doesn't hurt to walk around with a puppy in your arms! Way to go Anna, another fantastic video!
Exactly. Too many men (/people) focus on their limitations. Wrong mindset! Sure, some women won't want to sign up for a wheelchair, so what, next. Puppies never hurt ;)
I'm disabled and in a wheelchair and I've had 2 gf's in the time that I've been in the wheelchair (4 years). it ended not because things didn't work out, but they both passed away.. different years, but same month and same day. Since my last one, I haven't been trying. Can't really offer any other tips for you though. I have always been independent and I will never change that. If I need help I will ask or if it's offered and I need it, I will accept it. I live alone and do everything on my own. I don't let the fact that I'm disabled stop me from anything or make me shy away from women.
Brilliant. Indeed, love is the greatest risk of all because even when it works out, everyone will face the end at some point. I'm happy for you that you've loved twice and sad for you that you've lost them. Thank you for watching and commenting... :)
@@YourWingmam losing them was very hard, but I managed. I mean, I'm only 45 and have already lost 2 gf's from death, but for most they just get dumped. I'm just not ready to deal with something like that again so I'm giving it time before I look for anything. In either case, no matter what I go through or have to deal with, I never let anything or anyone change who I am. I will remain a good guy until the end. I will never be a "nice guy" mind you. (like what you mentioned in one of your videos about nice guys.. that's just not me at all lol). Oh and you're welcome :)
Thank you for the video, what do you do though when you can't drive? For me its really embarrassing telling potential mates in my life that I don't drive..
i watched this because i have a neighbor who was seriously injured in a car crash. she was a pedestrian, and she is still overcome by grief - 5 years later. she just can't seem to move forward with life. she's only 37, and very bitter about this. she's not in a chair, but it is real hard for her to get around. i've wondered if it might be she feels no one will love her again. i try to comfort her and hug her, to no avail. i wish i could be more helpful. i deliberately do not feed this negativity, nor do i offer any form of pity. i don't go out of my way to see her, but just try to let her know that she is lovable the way she is when i do see her. we met when i rode past her house on my mountain bike, and she called out to me wanting to check out the bike - and maybe me too. thing is i'm 57 and she's 37, and even if that were not a factor, i think there might not be room in her heart for anyone but her daughter and her grief, both of whom live with her, rent free.
Sometimes, people learn to identify with their sad stories because it feels familiar and safe. You can only do what you can do, but you can't rescue her. That's her job. She may not find it in this lifetime. But continue to be kind and don't wait for her to change. If you have social media, share this video if you think it will indirectly help her or someone else. You're a good man! Happy New Year! :)
@@YourWingmam happy new year to you too, and it was very kind of you to respond and offer your thoughts. i appreciate that, and agree with what you said. this is the reason i don't push on this or even knock on her door. if i see her out, i stop and say hello and visit for a while, but otherwise i respect her sovereignty, and never offer advice. ever. unless it is asked for, which it hasn't. i've not decided what i'll do if she comes to my door, though, but that's very unlikely.
@@johngonzalez4298 happy lunes hermano, Yes Anna knows how to unlock hidden gems in topics nobody is talkin about out here in the youtubestreets. This marks the last vid of the decade & year much respect hermano for all your encouraging/supportive commentary.
@@jarodorla6949 Saludos hermano, this topic was an interesting topic because I feel like it's not talked about much but Anna did a great job covering her points of her video. The same to you on your supportive/encouraging commentary and much success for the upcoming new year hermano 👍🏻
@@johngonzalez4298 si hermano Im in full agreement as Anna has been dispensing quality vids back to back addressing issues not many in the same field are highlighting so its promisingly progressive. A good way to end the year & builds intrighue for whats in store in the new decade new year.
Anna Maria I am all for you encouraging those in wheelchairs to seek love. Some do find happiness and that is a wonderful thing. My experience concerns my beloved nephew, who was injured in a accident in 2009 when he was 46. After rehabbing at the Shepard Center in Atlanta, a wonderful place of healing, he moved back to his home town in 2011 and came across a classmate who was divorced as was he (twice). They married, and we were thrilled. It lasted a little more than two years, she came to the realization that she couldn’t handle a spouse in a wheelchair, put him in a nursing home, and filed for divorce. He went back to the Shepard Center and eventually found a home with some young friends he had made previously. They were wonderful people. This was now late 2014. We were very close, spoke at least once a week or more. I had no idea he was spiraling into depression. On November 7, 2017 he ended his life. I have not and probably never will get over it. I am sorry for telling such a sad tale my word to those contemplating such a relationship is to be realistic about expectations and don’t get into a situation you are not able to handle.
How terribly sad for your family. I absolutely agree that it is vitally important to choose a mate well, don't rush into a relationship, don't make it your everything, *do not get married without a prenup* , and to make sure your life revolves around you and not her -- not that a couple can't and shouldn't become a team, but that takes time, a lot of time and we would do best always being sure of ourselves in our own world first, because we never choose well when we are desperate and lonely. Thank you for sharing that story, I hope others will learn from it. Also, a reminder to reach out to those we love, especially when we haven't heard from them. Depressed people rarely reach out. *We are not responsible for the choices they make* but we can do our part to help them feel loved and important. :)
Literally this is the only video on RUclips on this subject I've seen... You definitely can get a girl you don't even need to try very hard when you're like me. Thank you for the video xox
I have CP. Thanks, I needed this video. Happly Married 22 years. Widowed 10 years. I need to get back out there again. I have lots of love to give to someone who needs it and would appreciate it.
Late to the party, but thank you for covering this topic. I'm more comfortable with things than I used to be (I'm in my 40s and have Spina Bifida). I just wish I'd known more of this when I was younger.
I wanted to say I think your vids are pretty spot on and are well spoken. I also wanted to provide a bit of insight as why so many men seem to comment negative-sounding things. I understand you are a dating coach and what your services are. Due to the demographic, you will be speaking with mostly men. Men who've been through the ringer of divorce, losing children to exes who simply traveled across the city/state/country/world with no repercussions, etc. and I think the men who comment negative sounding things are really trying to communicate to you the ultimate reality of what men have to go through. Unlike women, men have to continuously put everything on the line for a woman. Men must give up literally everything they've worked for at the chance a woman will take him seriously (a man who is truly looking for a decent woman and/or wife. A man who's strictly "pumping-and-dumping" will not do this and these are the men women impulsively go for in most cases). I think one major question the men want to communicate to you is, "What is it a woman ultimately 'loses' or invests in an exchange with a man?" I think it's basic nature- women want men who are successful for offspring, blah, blah, blah. I don't think it's a bad thing at all. I think what messed it all up was women wanting to become men with all the benefits of a woman along with pampering from the government if a woman makes any "mistake" ("pampering" being relative, meaning they won't drive a Maserati, but they will be taken care of by the state. Men do not get this same treatment). This did nothing but turn the US into a free bed-and-breakfast/brothel for American women and when the rides up? Find some beaten down chump to marry who doesn't know what just happened. Lastly, I think what all the men are really looking for in the comment section who aren't beta orbiters for you is this- for you to give a legitimate response to the question, "Why is a woman worth it?" I think the men here truly want a decent woman but have lost hope (as they should. I just completely gave up on American women and moved to Europe. If I even hear of an American woman coming somewhere I'll be I just leave.). Personally, I was lucky in life to be able to mentally switch from a "Tyronne" to a "husband" (I have tattoo's, 8 pack abs, big dick, travel, etc and also have 4 college degree's) and I've just been part of too many situations to genuinely take a woman in as my "girlfriend" or take seriously. I have countless stories on how women have men wrapped around their finger from the start and I was completely on both sides of it. I think the men are looking for an answer, but the reality is everyone already knows what the answer is but nobody wants to have the true courage to ultimately accept it and move on from both men and women's side. Again, I'd love to hear from a woman to answer the question, "Why a woman is worth it". This is the ultimate answer everyone is looking for.
Hello fellow Canadian! I've been in a chair for the past 10 years. I just decided to randomly search this topic, and your video popped up! You really nailed it. I feel all of these ways every day. At first, I was confident to try and date as a wheelchair user. But somehow, I lost the will to keep trying. And it's honestly for all of the reasons you described. I'm going to check out some more of your videos. Thank you for saying all this stuff. I already knew it, but you just need to hear it sometimes.
Hi Anna, I was just at my wife's uncle's funeral this past week and he was in a wheel chair. Met and married an attractive woman had two children and lived a hard but fulfilling life. He brought alot of positive energy to the family and will be missed.
So sorry for you loss and my condolences to his wife and children. Real love isn't bound by body alone, so many people have proven that, your uncle, too. :)
Anna can you please do one on people with cerebral palsy? I have cerebral palsy in my legs and I am crippled could you please do one on that subject thank you your videos are great .
As always, you are providing others with important, insightful and practical information. Thank you, Anna. And you highlight a valuable lesson for all of us..... attitude and self-belief is your most important tool. Have an awesome 2020!
I think this advice goes both ways and not just the chair bound. I met a girl in church who had a stutter. I guess she was attracted to me as I was very patient with her and always let HER finish her communication. I had no problem with her but I had chosen not to date anyone at that time as I was not in a good state for any woman then.
Pro tip for my guys in wheelchairs... If a girl bends down to talk to you she likes you and is subconsciously submitting herself to you... You're also going to be approached way more than the normies and they're all very very hot.
Excellent video. Got me thinking of a movie i seen couple months ago. It's called the Upside. Has Kevin Hart, and another guy who you would know, but i forgot his name. Excellent actor. Nicole Kidman in it also. Based on true story of guy in a wheelchair. Not sure if you watch movies or not, but it's excellent. Just like you! 😇
Hit it on the button! I have been deaf with a lisp all my life. But my confidence allowed to to have amazing relationships with very beautiful women. I am now facing possible amputation of my left leg. It was depressing at first. But I know it won’t stop me from living a great life. Things will be a bit more challenging, but still great!
While I hope you get to keep your leg, I hope even more that you can keep your positive spirit and amazing attitude. Way more important! Challenge is an opportunity to rise up, even if you're rising up on one leg. You got this. :)
Thanks, my positive strong spirit isn’t going anywhere. I told the Doctor I rather be able to run with a prosthetic device then hobble around on a injured foot. What ever the outcome I’ll be ok. Matter of fact I have a date next week with a sexy school teacher. I’m already on my way. Thanks again for the great video. I hope other men take your advice
Ever since I stumbled on your channel a few days ago this video is by far my favourite. The topic is 💜💜💜and I guess the comments are nt filled with negativity towards members of the opposite sex. Hugs
Okay, before watching the video, my two tips would be: 1. Be conspicuously wealthy 2. Set appropriate standards Can't wait to see what you've come up with. 😃
I agree. I have seen, on multiple occasions, girls choose guys in wheelchairs over ambulatory guys. Actually, on a couple occasions, I have been brutally shot down by women who ultimately chose guys in wheelchairs. Keep your heads up fellas. I get rejected at least 500 times before I even can get her number. Most of them ghost me, but eventually someone goes out on a date with me. Here is the thing, I am badly deformed from obesity, and still get a date every couple years.
Thank you for your encouraging comment! By the way, my mom was a slim, stunning woman and my dad was obese, uneducated, no wealthy, and not attractive by society standards but he had confidence up the ying yang and even though he was overweight, he was also strong. My mom always felt safe with him. She mentioned it all. the. time. She was very much in love with him and stayed loyal for over 10 years after he died. Not all women will go for a man who is overweight for a variety of reasons -- will he die, can he keep up, will he want to keep up, can he get *it* up etc. *But if you are 100% ok with who you are, like my dad was, then you can still get a good woman.* However, if you're not 100% confident, then work on the things that you can that will improve your own esteem. :) This will help if interested: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
@@YourWingmam I am very confident (not cocky). I am educated, earn a good living, am very physically strong... I have a lot of great qualities. I am floored every time I get rejected. 🤣 I am funny. Have women laughing right off the bat. I was told by a few women that it isn't like I am horror movie bad looking, it is just there is so much competition. Because there are more than enough super hot guys my age, I will never be able to compete for women who require good looks or a fit body. Honestly, I talk to everyone. I don't go thinking this girl likes this or that. Who would know what anyone likes without talking to them 1st? Obviously I don't approach people who seem annoyed at my existence.
@@gregorydixon277 Then it's just a matter of time! Keep doing your thing and focus on making your life the best it can be in all the areas within your control.
@@YourWingmam The "just a matter of time" seems absurd. Waiting night work for women but not for men. Like how long do you wait? What if 10 years have passed by just "waiting".
Henry Ford: Whether you think you can, or you think you can't -- you're right. I'm disabled and my ex wife is also disabled. I will tell the story of one time we worked well together compensating for the other's disability, and will share one big difference between me and my ex. I am vision impaired, my ex has only one arm / hand that works correctly. The time we worked well together I was driving a mountain pass at night and was driving really slow because I could not see well. This particular night it was pitch black, probably new moon. My ex said she could drive because she could see better, fair enough, it worked and she was able to climb the pass at a much more reasonable speed. We reach the summit, and now we're coming down the other side. She is having trouble controlling the speed of the car because she can't downshift, her one hand on the wheel doesn't leave a way to use the shifter. To compensate for her disability coming down the pass I am using the shifter as necessary to help her control the speed, while she is steering and using the peddles. When I learned to drive it was in a car with a manual transmission. Prior to this trip she thought I was downshifting the automatic transmission on mountain passes, "merely because I liked to shift." One big difference between me and my ex, and why I started this comment with the Henry Ford quote. For me nothing goes on the list of things I can't do until I have proved I can't by trying several ways to complete the task, tried to figure out a reasonable accommodation. To date only two things are on the can't list: I can't arc weld, I can't make radioactive iodine capsules.
Wonderful. Thinking of the Julia Roberts movie, she's an actress in England, meets the English guy in the book store. He has friend with a wife in a wheelchair. Seems to be extra caring and affectionate towards her. Good example of how it could be!! Wonderful, this was.
Happy New Year Saint Wingmam excellent advice for a unique subject. If a person has the correct mindset they can do anything. There's a motivational speaker from Australia born without arms and legs. The man is married to a beautiful woman and has kids.
Yes, that's Nick Vjicic! I mention him in this video: ruclips.net/video/5gtgtiSI7T4/видео.html Great speaker, great man, great inspiration! Happy New Year!
Classy. Well done you. I could stop there, maybe should. But will forge ahead. With the exception of tip 9, everything you said also applies to men over fifty and especially over sixty. And, God forbid, if they want to start a new family so are dating women young enough for that. So again, that was a class act. It was an honor to watch it.
Excellent insightful video Anna I’m not in a wheelchair but i am on disability think you for sending me to this video Anna you have given me good perspective Anna think you! :)
I'd have zero issue dating a girl who used a wheelchair as long as she was hot and had the same qualities that I look for in a woman that didn't use a wheelchair. In some instances she may even be more attractive to me if she really impressed me meeting tough challenges and showed me how strong her character is
@@YourWingmam One thing you missed was the fact that women usually won't initiate romantic relationships with men with disabilities. They're usually too intimidated, so if you're a guy, you have to be the one to ask if she's interested.
Hey Anna Great video!!!!!!!))) I did not see your video post but I checked tonight and seen your new video had been posted!!!))) Hope you have a Happy New Year!!!!))) 😊😊😊💥💥💥⚡️⚡️⚡️☄️🎈🎈🎈💥😊
I have a bad back. And I have allowed this issue in my spine which causes me a lot of pain from what I see “as an issue I don’t want to put another person through”. What you say in the start of the video is exactly I run through my mind.
Awareness is the first step (/spin) to change! If you read some of the comments, you’ll see that others in chairs have got GFs, if they can you can. Work on what you can and you’ll start to feel more confident - or at least less doubtful about the things out of your control. :)
103:sek, yes confidence is important but, what if I have two invisible disabilities instead of something obvious as an example of sitting in a chair, my issues is that I’m a person that is olmost blind, and I’m Autistik, I can fil wen some one near me are looking at me and I wonder why women is not talking to me, or rather I think I’m scareing them away when I’m telling them that I'm Autistic, I cant make eye contact with them, so I think it's strange that they look at me but never talk to me
I just discovered you recently on here and I must say you’re very smart and wise and beautiful. Just curiosity how long have you been a dating expert? Keep up the good work looking forward to seeing more videos 😊😊
Thank you! Officially (as my day job) going into my 5th year, but unofficially giving solicited and unsolicited advice for over 15 years :)) Edit: and studying psychology since I was a teenager lol ;)
Hey I am from India I am born handicap had two operation Last one I had was in November 2019 I am so so want to get in a relationship but I have so many insecurits if that certain someone will like or if they like but are they gonna be with me
I am 37 and even as a man I totally reprogrammed and shifted my mind about what I want to be attracted to in a woman. If that is found in a wheelchair, so be it!!!
I'm in a wheelchair and I'm 21 years old but I'm very shy in public and especially around women. I'm very skinny and have quite low self esteem and feel like I'll never get a girlfriend because I'm just so far down this rabbit hole :(
Thank you for watching and for sharing your experience, big hug! I had a friend who was a star athlete and ended up in a 'chair in his early 20s. But he continued to always have beautiful (and kind) girlfriends. He never had much $, lived on disability income. But man did he have the best attitude. (He passed away last year. 😢 An amazing light left this world.) I encourage you to watch this video: ruclips.net/video/5gtgtiSI7T4/видео.html And if you're up for a challenge, consider doing my WakeUP2Luv program. I used to have terribly low self-esteem, but I changed that. It took a lot of years and focus. I've complied the things that are scientifically proved and also worked best for me into my program. It's not easy, there's a lot of work, but if you do the work, it'll help you change your (love) life: members.wingmam.com/get-women/.
I'm not in a wheelchair, I'm in good physical condition, and I could not get a girlfriend even if my life depended upon it. But then again, I live close to Toronto, Canada, the lesbian capital of Canada, so that might have something to do with it.
Well it might not be that common but it sure does happen more than you seem to think. Moreover that is not how attraction woks with women, not that I have been in a relationship myself I have read a lot about it, a lot has to do with not being mister nice guy meaning not kissing up to them, calling the shots, dare to be interesting, playful sensual/sexual(and mix that up enough to not become a clown), not be afraid to lose them. Above all have a life, have goals, not depend on a girl to be happy. That seems like a lot all together and it is might take years if you want to have all the options but these are at least things you can work on to have a better chance. For some or through circumstances your handicap might indeed be an obstacle but please don't give up to soon.
Well it might not be that common but it sure does happen more than you seem to think. Moreover that is not how attraction woks with women, not that I have been in a relationship myself I have read a lot about it, a lot has to do with not being mister nice guy meaning not kissing up to them, calling the shots, dare to be interesting, playful sensual/sexual(and mix that up enough to not become a clown), not be afraid to lose them. Above all have a life, have goals, not depend on a girl to be happy. That seems like a lot all together and it is might take years if you want to have all the options but these are at least things you can work on to have a better chance. For some or through circumstances your handicap might indeed be an obstacle but please don't give up to soon.
My question is recently this checker lady at the store changed her hair and she looks really good and I usually go to her line because she is super nice how do I get her number?
I'm not in a wheelchair but I do got this disability my disability is me having a stroke on the right side of my body cost me to limp cost me to sound funny and also to cost my arm to be broken like my wrist and by that it's hard for me to get a girlfriend hard for me to talk to a girl and that's weird because I think that of myself I don't look more better than anybody else I look normal I just normal and I talk normal I don't see what's wrong I mean I don't look like I'm disabled just I had a stroke that affect my right side of my body so I don't understand I'm not trying to say I'm a Prince Charming type of guy but my looks on the level of what girls want but soon as they see my arm a female turn the other cheek so I don't understand that but I don't let that get to me because females going to be females and I know females got the way welcome to guys it don't matter if they disable or not like one girl I talked to she told me that I was ugly and handsome and it the same time I asked her what's soul different about me that make you say that and she said you owe me because you got a peanut head you handsome because your eyebrows eyelashes and your lips which I respond to that and that's was alright with me because at the end of the day yes I do got a peanut head but I also got a good taste of myself so ever since then I did not let any girl say anything bad about me which I wouldn't care because at the end of the day I am who I am yes I got disability and I'm proud of it I'm not going to hate myself because I want be girls think of me because I don't care what they think this who I am yes when I'm with you I hated myself because I was like this but one thing about it I got a little older and realize I'm going to have to deal with this for the rest of my life and I will get used to it that's what I'm doing right now but one day it will be a female out there for me that will accept me for who I am and for my disability it just the fact that it easy for me to talk to a girl like on the phone go on a date in that letting them know everything about me and my situation was going on with me cuz I feel like that the only way for me to get a girl instead of instead of talking to a girl face to face see one thing about me before I like to talk and I like, see and I like getting to know a person before I see a person because I feel like with females that you meet in person face-to-face though the females always turning you down so so I just been laid back I mean don't get me wrong had plenty of girls in the past but all them girls are had what through neighborhoods School and through friends but all of that was it nothing because those girls already know me so they don't care if I have a disability or not is it the fact meeting girls that you don't know is the hard part so that's the main one I having problems with and that's the reason why I'm sending a comment I know this was a long paragraph So forgive me I just love to talk that's one of my goals to be an author hopefully one day albeit whole book about myself and what everything I went through in life but this main thing it's about how a disability could get a normal girl I'm sign out ✌✌✌
I haven't seen it yet but have watched several of her interviews. I like her and her message. Red pill doesn't mean rage pill. Red pill, to me, simply means waking up to women's nature, the good, bad and the ugly. We all have a dark side (men included) and so it's a matter of understanding each other and figuring out how to live in harmony. Totally possible *if desired!* :)
As always you expressively exhibit an anoiting for accuracy. Now a collaboration between you and her would be sublime. It would be cool for you to watch it & give your honest review going forward as I know you are already booked with a litany of topics in 2020. albeit you are the standout of 2019 youtubesmodestkept secret is now out & about.
@@YourWingmam I have cerebral palsy in my legs and I am 45 never been married I don't date much because I can be self conscious about my CP and the way I look and walk that's my problem I know not women this year I will try and get out of my comfort zone and try to be more outgoing and put myself out there and just give dateing a shot. My luck I did your tips for dicks and it worked for a little while found this beautiful blond she was 48 and I'm 44 I like older women to be honest with you age does not make a difference with me but I have found out older or younger women okay the same game it does not matter to them I guess . Being. Single is a bitch I like women but I don't like crazy women . Please help.
@@jeremycarpenter2731 yes ghosting is a frustrating experience, all you can do is move on& optimise your selections so if 1 disappoints you are unfazed. In the interim focus on developing yourself in every facet of your life.
Right. Look at this video of this guy that not only is in a wheelchair but needs her help to do everything from eating to pooping. She is one of the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. ruclips.net/video/5pWrZQZb4BM/видео.html. At first I thought that they were already together before he became disabled, but she wrote to him first after seeing his video. Your're right that it's easier for a guy in a wheelchair than it is for a woman. Maybe because women tend to be more inclined to care taking.
Exactly! I mentioned them in the video notes. People who judge others negatively do so because they perceive the world through their own limitations (from whatever awful things happened to them).
How do you handle the STD question....the direct approach? the is a HIV home test kits open wide please? Or I dont care what you say.....like Dr. House said everybody lies.....Im not going to stick my anything anywhere anytime unless im 98.95 percent sure its not going to fall off the next day......sorry.
Better to be safe than "sore" I say ... here's a blog I wrote about disclosing STDs: wingmam.com/2016/11/when-should-i-disclose-i-have-an-std/ Not sure if it'll help but might give some insights. :)
If a guy is dating a woman in a wheelchair. He is looked at as a "Sexual Pervert" who's taking advantage of the disabled.🕵️♂️♿ If a woman is dating someone in a wheelchair, she's looked at as a "Gold Digger" and lazy. She's just living off of his disability money." Or The assumption he is rich and ready to die which makes her a Grave Digger. 💃⛏️⚰️💰💰💰 This is why I love Russian and Ukrainian women.
@@YourWingmam I personally know from having friends who experienced this from both sides. I am stated from what they have told me. No assumptions here.
Happy New Year Anna, 2020 vision. This is what I told my wheel chair bound friend who only thought as himself as a burden to all others. I put him on a pedestal to make him believe himself. He found a beautiful partner and they now have a 2 year old child together. They found each other at a sport he and I have shared for many years.
*That makes my heart so happy!* Thank you for watching and sharing that encouraging story!! Happy New Year! :))
ARE YOU SINGLE WOMAN 👩 ANNA JORGENSEN.
MY NAME IS Ryan CARLSON
Your Wingmam CAN I ASK A QUESTION IF YOU DONT MIND
@@YourWingmam I as a wheelchair user myself never had trouble getting girls because 2 girls at my 🏫 have a huge crush on me. I used to get picked by a girl back in elementary school because I use a wheelchair. People in my are ok with 2 girls having a huge crush on me. I am pretty independent myself as a wheelchair user.
Hey coach wingman
I'm not disabled, but this video made a grown man cry (literally). Especially the part about not letting your condition become your entire identity. Very useful tips, not only for the disabled. Thank you so much.
You're so welcome! And thank you for commenting. Everything starts with our belief systems. Beliefs are just repetitive thoughts and thoughts can be changed. 2020 ... you got this! :)
I've been on the wheelchair for almost 10 years had an accident I'm a pretty good-looking guy it's just that the depression really gets to me I just found your videos wish you would make a couple more on dating disabilities
Great topic Anna! Very thoughtful. Just another reason why we love you.
Thanks for watching, commenting and complimenting my work!! :))
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I'm not in a wheelchair, but I love your creative, benevolent topics! You're a refreshing component of the RUclips community!
Thank you so much! A lot of the advice applies to everyone, really. :))
Might I also add that being comfortable with your disability is so important. Self image is a major key that we over look once you find your purpose and confidence things just fall into place.
It’s also important to know that most people won’t understand your disability or are just afraid to ask questions and it’s always important to educate people in a healthy way and stand up for yourself. Thank you for not forgetting about individuals with disability’s
God bless,
Jake
Well done, I'm really impressed with how you dealt with this topic.
Thanks so much for watching and commenting! :)
Thank you Anna. Very thoughtful and to the point. As a man that is in a chair that has been blessed with a couple wonderful relationships. I am happy to see this covered in a manner that is direct and on point. Although, I am not currently in a relationship at the moment, I am glad to see content that is addressing the topic.
Thank you for watching and for your thoughtful comment! Happy New Year! :))
Great job Anna! Will share. The greatest disability we all have is overcoming the mental drawbacks of life. I'll pray for my brothers and sisters in chairs. I've had to beat cancer and did. I believe prayer had a lot to do with it. I also pray for a healthyer New Year for you and everyone going through a storm. The sun will shine. It only takes alitte bit of light to alumminate.
Thank you, Tim, and God bless you! The sun *will* shine! :)
One of the best compliments my ex gave me was "90% of the time I forget you're in a wheelchair. It's just not how I see you because you're so determined and you don't limit yourself."
I'm a man with disabilities; I'm NOT a "disabled man".
What happened to the ex?
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Bonus tip from Chris: have a suitable location planned when a date is agreed. (Thanks, Chris!)
Wow impromtu video on a monday anna?, its winter outside but your sporting an oldskool summer attire. Albeit happy newyear as I glean this is the last video for this decade/year in 2019. Kudos & goin forward in 2020 when you hit 100k will you go on a nationwide tour? Well expressed & handled this not so often discussed topic Anna. Much respect as your covering a good niche sector in back to back videos. I know you've read psychology but have you also delved into Anthropology/Sociology/philosophy? etc....
I won't be available for comments tomorrow and hope some of my viewers will be out celebrating the new year, so yes, this is the last video of 2019! As an INFJ with health issues, you can count on me never going on tour lol I can't even schedule a livestream because of health issues. (Which I'd rather not focus on.)
Haven't read any non-fiction outside of psychology, health, business and spirituality, but I suspect there's some overlap. Happy New Year! :)
I have been in a wheelchair because i can not walk at all due to a falling accident i had when i was a baby. I like girls but some look at me like i am something that should be in the toilet some don't enjeccted frustration in me.
@Anna Oh dear sorry to hear that as I dont think you''ve ever mentioned that before & I hope its nothing too serious! tomorrow as we speak is new years eve & yes the following is the newyear hope you will live it up despite the topsy turvy year but reflect on all your bolstering acceomplishments over the decade/your bourgeoning sub-base/viewership for your channel plus more.
I would be a challenge to help. Because I done convinced myself that I'm lucky to not feel the need to have a partner like most people. It probably was discouragement that brought me to this point. But I honestly feel it helped me in the long run to see life from a different perspective.
Comments are often full of pissed men but she still has solid subscriber base and lots of views. Amusing.
Thank you for this video Wingmam. I am in a wheelchair. My disability is Spina Bifida Hydrocephalus. I've always feared and worried about getting a girlfriend for most of my life.
A decent woman will love you for your mind, if that makes her happy, and makes her smile! Also, it doesn't hurt to walk around with a puppy in your arms! Way to go Anna, another fantastic video!
Exactly. Too many men (/people) focus on their limitations. Wrong mindset! Sure, some women won't want to sign up for a wheelchair, so what, next. Puppies never hurt ;)
@@YourWingmam well the next are far and few between. I don't think you understand just how bad it is for disabled people 😕
I'm disabled and in a wheelchair and I've had 2 gf's in the time that I've been in the wheelchair (4 years). it ended not because things didn't work out, but they both passed away.. different years, but same month and same day. Since my last one, I haven't been trying. Can't really offer any other tips for you though. I have always been independent and I will never change that. If I need help I will ask or if it's offered and I need it, I will accept it. I live alone and do everything on my own. I don't let the fact that I'm disabled stop me from anything or make me shy away from women.
Brilliant. Indeed, love is the greatest risk of all because even when it works out, everyone will face the end at some point. I'm happy for you that you've loved twice and sad for you that you've lost them.
Thank you for watching and commenting... :)
@@YourWingmam losing them was very hard, but I managed. I mean, I'm only 45 and have already lost 2 gf's from death, but for most they just get dumped. I'm just not ready to deal with something like that again so I'm giving it time before I look for anything. In either case, no matter what I go through or have to deal with, I never let anything or anyone change who I am. I will remain a good guy until the end. I will never be a "nice guy" mind you. (like what you mentioned in one of your videos about nice guys.. that's just not me at all lol). Oh and you're welcome :)
Loss takes time to process. When you’re ready you’re ready, until then be gentle with yourself for your choices in how you honour your grief :)
Thank you for the video, what do you do though when you can't drive? For me its really embarrassing telling potential mates in my life that I don't drive..
i watched this because i have a neighbor who was seriously injured in a car crash. she was a pedestrian, and she is still overcome by grief - 5 years later. she just can't seem to move forward with life. she's only 37, and very bitter about this.
she's not in a chair, but it is real hard for her to get around. i've wondered if it might be she feels no one will love her again. i try to comfort her and hug her, to no avail. i wish i could be more helpful. i deliberately do not feed this negativity, nor do i offer any form of pity.
i don't go out of my way to see her, but just try to let her know that she is lovable the way she is when i do see her. we met when i rode past her house on my mountain bike, and she called out to me wanting to check out the bike - and maybe me too. thing is i'm 57 and she's 37, and even if that were not a factor, i think there might not be room in her heart for anyone but her daughter and her grief, both of whom live with her, rent free.
Sometimes, people learn to identify with their sad stories because it feels familiar and safe. You can only do what you can do, but you can't rescue her. That's her job. She may not find it in this lifetime. But continue to be kind and don't wait for her to change. If you have social media, share this video if you think it will indirectly help her or someone else. You're a good man! Happy New Year! :)
@@YourWingmam happy new year to you too, and it was very kind of you to respond and offer your thoughts. i appreciate that, and agree with what you said.
this is the reason i don't push on this or even knock on her door. if i see her out, i stop and say hello and visit for a while, but otherwise i respect her sovereignty, and never offer advice. ever. unless it is asked for, which it hasn't.
i've not decided what i'll do if she comes to my door, though, but that's very unlikely.
Interesting video. Happy New Years Anna 🥂❤
Thanks for watching and Happy New Years, John! :))
@@YourWingmam 🥰😉
@@johngonzalez4298 happy lunes hermano, Yes Anna knows how to unlock hidden gems in topics nobody is talkin about out here in the youtubestreets. This marks the last vid of the decade & year much respect hermano for all your encouraging/supportive commentary.
@@jarodorla6949 Saludos hermano, this topic was an interesting topic because I feel like it's not talked about much but Anna did a great job covering her points of her video. The same to you on your supportive/encouraging commentary and much success for the upcoming new year hermano 👍🏻
@@johngonzalez4298 si hermano Im in full agreement as Anna has been dispensing quality vids back to back addressing issues not many in the same field are highlighting so its promisingly progressive. A good way to end the year & builds intrighue for whats in store in the new decade new year.
Not being sexually functional is the issue.
I just found this. As a 24 year old male in a wheelchair this boosted me a lot just now.
It’s a numbers game, ask every girl you would normally ask b4 being in wheelchair, you will find one eventually.
Have a Happy and Healthy New Year. Good Luck, Rick
Happy New Year, hope 2020 is your best year so far! :)
Anna Maria I am all for you encouraging those in wheelchairs to seek love. Some do find happiness and that is a wonderful thing. My experience concerns my beloved nephew, who was injured in a accident in 2009 when he was 46. After rehabbing at the Shepard Center in Atlanta, a wonderful place of healing, he moved back to his home town in 2011 and came across a classmate who was divorced as was he (twice). They married, and we were thrilled. It lasted a little more than two years, she came to the realization that she couldn’t handle a spouse in a wheelchair, put him in a nursing home, and filed for divorce. He went back to the Shepard Center and eventually found a home with some young friends he had made previously. They were wonderful people. This was now late 2014. We were very close, spoke at least once a week or more. I had no idea he was spiraling into depression. On November 7, 2017 he ended his life. I have not and probably never will get over it.
I am sorry for telling such a sad tale my word to those contemplating such a relationship is to be realistic about expectations and don’t get into a situation you are not able to handle.
How terribly sad for your family. I absolutely agree that it is vitally important to choose a mate well, don't rush into a relationship, don't make it your everything, *do not get married without a prenup* , and to make sure your life revolves around you and not her -- not that a couple can't and shouldn't become a team, but that takes time, a lot of time and we would do best always being sure of ourselves in our own world first, because we never choose well when we are desperate and lonely. Thank you for sharing that story, I hope others will learn from it. Also, a reminder to reach out to those we love, especially when we haven't heard from them. Depressed people rarely reach out. *We are not responsible for the choices they make* but we can do our part to help them feel loved and important. :)
WingmamTV Thanks for understanding. I got “triggered” I guess and it all came tumbling out.
That's alright, I don't mind at all :)
damn that's depressing and sad....
Literally this is the only video on RUclips on this subject I've seen... You definitely can get a girl you don't even need to try very hard when you're like me.
Thank you for the video xox
Thank you for watching and for your comment! :))
I have CP. Thanks, I needed this video. Happly Married 22 years. Widowed 10 years. I need to get back out there again. I have lots of love to give to someone who needs it and would appreciate it.
Thank you so much for this video. I am a wheelchair user myself and this has boosted my confidence.
Late to the party, but thank you for covering this topic. I'm more comfortable with things than I used to be (I'm in my 40s and have Spina Bifida). I just wish I'd known more of this when I was younger.
Better late than never! Thanks for watching!
From the bottom of my heart,thanks Anna,you're an angel!
I wanted to say I think your vids are pretty spot on and are well spoken. I also wanted to provide a bit of insight as why so many men seem to comment negative-sounding things.
I understand you are a dating coach and what your services are. Due to the demographic, you will be speaking with mostly men. Men who've been through the ringer of divorce, losing children to exes who simply traveled across the city/state/country/world with no repercussions, etc. and I think the men who comment negative sounding things are really trying to communicate to you the ultimate reality of what men have to go through.
Unlike women, men have to continuously put everything on the line for a woman. Men must give up literally everything they've worked for at the chance a woman will take him seriously (a man who is truly looking for a decent woman and/or wife. A man who's strictly "pumping-and-dumping" will not do this and these are the men women impulsively go for in most cases). I think one major question the men want to communicate to you is, "What is it a woman ultimately 'loses' or invests in an exchange with a man?"
I think it's basic nature- women want men who are successful for offspring, blah, blah, blah. I don't think it's a bad thing at all. I think what messed it all up was women wanting to become men with all the benefits of a woman along with pampering from the government if a woman makes any "mistake" ("pampering" being relative, meaning they won't drive a Maserati, but they will be taken care of by the state. Men do not get this same treatment). This did nothing but turn the US into a free bed-and-breakfast/brothel for American women and when the rides up? Find some beaten down chump to marry who doesn't know what just happened.
Lastly, I think what all the men are really looking for in the comment section who aren't beta orbiters for you is this- for you to give a legitimate response to the question, "Why is a woman worth it?" I think the men here truly want a decent woman but have lost hope (as they should. I just completely gave up on American women and moved to Europe. If I even hear of an American woman coming somewhere I'll be I just leave.).
Personally, I was lucky in life to be able to mentally switch from a "Tyronne" to a "husband" (I have tattoo's, 8 pack abs, big dick, travel, etc and also have 4 college degree's) and I've just been part of too many situations to genuinely take a woman in as my "girlfriend" or take seriously. I have countless stories on how women have men wrapped around their finger from the start and I was completely on both sides of it.
I think the men are looking for an answer, but the reality is everyone already knows what the answer is but nobody wants to have the true courage to ultimately accept it and move on from both men and women's side.
Again, I'd love to hear from a woman to answer the question, "Why a woman is worth it". This is the ultimate answer everyone is looking for.
If I do that video, there’ll still be negative comments ;) but I’ll put it on the maybe list, fair enough?
Hello fellow Canadian! I've been in a chair for the past 10 years. I just decided to randomly search this topic, and your video popped up! You really nailed it. I feel all of these ways every day. At first, I was confident to try and date as a wheelchair user. But somehow, I lost the will to keep trying. And it's honestly for all of the reasons you described. I'm going to check out some more of your videos. Thank you for saying all this stuff. I already knew it, but you just need to hear it sometimes.
Hi Anna, I was just at my wife's uncle's funeral this past week and he was in a wheel chair. Met and married an attractive woman had two children and lived a hard but fulfilling life. He brought alot of positive energy to the family and will be missed.
So sorry for you loss and my condolences to his wife and children. Real love isn't bound by body alone, so many people have proven that, your uncle, too. :)
To take the time to do a video like this shows how much true heart you have. Very moving.
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Great topic Anna.
Thanks for watching and commenting! :)
how do you stay so positive Anna
Compassion and gratitude :)
Anna can you please do one on people with cerebral palsy? I have cerebral palsy in my legs and I am crippled could you please do one on that subject thank you your videos are great .
I have loved the guy who in wheelchair and he rejects me so what should in order to be loved by him??? Is there any advice??
Awesome cannel and awesome and wonderful lady running it. Happy to have found it!
You are so wise and kind...
Thank you! :))
How to Get a Girlfriend if You're in a Wheelchair?
Be rich:)
If that's all one has to offer, sure. Great excuse for any man who can't get a good woman. :)
And have a very large cattle prod!
juniorgod321 douche
@Bob Smith are you saying I stink or something?? lol
As always, you are providing others with important, insightful and practical information. Thank you, Anna. And you highlight a valuable lesson for all of us..... attitude and self-belief is your most important tool. Have an awesome 2020!
Yes, beliefs and attitude are the key to how our lives look! Thanks for your thoughtful comment and Happy New Year! :))
I have dealt with mobility issues my whole life its tough
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I think this advice goes both ways and not just the chair bound. I met a girl in church who had a stutter. I guess she was attracted to me as I was very patient with her and always let HER finish her communication. I had no problem with her but I had chosen not to date anyone at that time as I was not in a good state for any woman then.
Very kind and thoughtful of you to add this topic ❤️
Thanks for watching! :)
Keep up the good work, pretty woman! Good video! Happy New Year!
Thank you and Happy New Year! :)
Thank you for this video
Don't use the chair as a crutch. The capacity and ability to love goes beyond doing cartwheels. Making love is better than sex (most of the time).
Absolutely! :) I'm sad for those who've never had love to make love. :(
Wow you are a sensitive, caring woman...
Shhh, don’t tell anyone ;)
Pro tip for my guys in wheelchairs... If a girl bends down to talk to you she likes you and is subconsciously submitting herself to you... You're also going to be approached way more than the normies and they're all very very hot.
Actually, yes, true on the bending over or squatting down. Good point! :)
Excellent video. Got me thinking of a movie i seen couple months ago. It's called the Upside. Has Kevin Hart, and another guy who you would know, but i forgot his name. Excellent actor. Nicole Kidman in it also. Based on true story of guy in a wheelchair. Not sure if you watch movies or not, but it's excellent. Just like you! 😇
Thanks! ;) Will check it out :)
Bryan Cranston
Hit it on the button! I have been deaf with a lisp all my life. But my confidence allowed to to have amazing relationships with very beautiful women. I am now facing possible amputation of my left leg. It was depressing at first. But I know it won’t stop me from living a great life. Things will be a bit more challenging, but still great!
While I hope you get to keep your leg, I hope even more that you can keep your positive spirit and amazing attitude. Way more important! Challenge is an opportunity to rise up, even if you're rising up on one leg. You got this. :)
Thanks, my positive strong spirit isn’t going anywhere. I told the Doctor I rather be able to run with a prosthetic device then hobble around on a injured foot. What ever the outcome I’ll be ok. Matter of fact I have a date next week with a sexy school teacher. I’m already on my way. Thanks again for the great video. I hope other men take your advice
Awesome and good luck on your date! :)
Ever since I stumbled on your channel a few days ago this video is by far my favourite. The topic is 💜💜💜and I guess the comments are nt filled with negativity towards members of the opposite sex. Hugs
Okay, before watching the video, my two tips would be:
1. Be conspicuously wealthy
2. Set appropriate standards
Can't wait to see what you've come up with. 😃
1. There will always be women who will only go for money.
2. If money is *all* a man has, that's the kind of women he'll attract. ;)
@@YourWingmam Correct on both counts.
WHY not were all humans. I would date a woman in a wheel chair. I have so much respect for ppl like that. End of story.
Thank you! :)
I find men are far more accepting of women with disabilities then the other way around.
Happy new year, Viking Girl!
And a Happy New Year to you, too! :)
I agree. I have seen, on multiple occasions, girls choose guys in wheelchairs over ambulatory guys. Actually, on a couple occasions, I have been brutally shot down by women who ultimately chose guys in wheelchairs. Keep your heads up fellas. I get rejected at least 500 times before I even can get her number. Most of them ghost me, but eventually someone goes out on a date with me. Here is the thing, I am badly deformed from obesity, and still get a date every couple years.
Thank you for your encouraging comment! By the way, my mom was a slim, stunning woman and my dad was obese, uneducated, no wealthy, and not attractive by society standards but he had confidence up the ying yang and even though he was overweight, he was also strong. My mom always felt safe with him. She mentioned it all. the. time. She was very much in love with him and stayed loyal for over 10 years after he died. Not all women will go for a man who is overweight for a variety of reasons -- will he die, can he keep up, will he want to keep up, can he get *it* up etc. *But if you are 100% ok with who you are, like my dad was, then you can still get a good woman.*
However, if you're not 100% confident, then work on the things that you can that will improve your own esteem. :)
This will help if interested: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
@@YourWingmam I am very confident (not cocky). I am educated, earn a good living, am very physically strong... I have a lot of great qualities. I am floored every time I get rejected. 🤣 I am funny. Have women laughing right off the bat. I was told by a few women that it isn't like I am horror movie bad looking, it is just there is so much competition. Because there are more than enough super hot guys my age, I will never be able to compete for women who require good looks or a fit body.
Honestly, I talk to everyone. I don't go thinking this girl likes this or that. Who would know what anyone likes without talking to them 1st?
Obviously I don't approach people who seem annoyed at my existence.
@@gregorydixon277 Then it's just a matter of time! Keep doing your thing and focus on making your life the best it can be in all the areas within your control.
@@YourWingmam The "just a matter of time" seems absurd. Waiting night work for women but not for men. Like how long do you wait? What if 10 years have passed by just "waiting".
Henry Ford: Whether you think you can, or you think you can't -- you're right.
I'm disabled and my ex wife is also disabled. I will tell the story of one time we worked well together compensating for the other's disability, and will share one big difference between me and my ex. I am vision impaired, my ex has only one arm / hand that works correctly.
The time we worked well together I was driving a mountain pass at night and was driving really slow because I could not see well. This particular night it was pitch black, probably new moon. My ex said she could drive because she could see better, fair enough, it worked and she was able to climb the pass at a much more reasonable speed. We reach the summit, and now we're coming down the other side. She is having trouble controlling the speed of the car because she can't downshift, her one hand on the wheel doesn't leave a way to use the shifter. To compensate for her disability coming down the pass I am using the shifter as necessary to help her control the speed, while she is steering and using the peddles. When I learned to drive it was in a car with a manual transmission. Prior to this trip she thought I was downshifting the automatic transmission on mountain passes, "merely because I liked to shift."
One big difference between me and my ex, and why I started this comment with the Henry Ford quote. For me nothing goes on the list of things I can't do until I have proved I can't by trying several ways to complete the task, tried to figure out a reasonable accommodation. To date only two things are on the can't list: I can't arc weld, I can't make radioactive iodine capsules.
Wonderful. Thinking of the Julia Roberts movie, she's an actress in England, meets the English guy in the book store. He has friend with a wife in a wheelchair. Seems to be extra caring and affectionate towards her. Good example of how it could be!! Wonderful, this was.
Love knows no bounds, thanks for your comment! :)
Happy New Year Saint Wingmam excellent advice for a unique subject. If a person has the correct mindset they can do anything. There's a motivational speaker from Australia born without arms and legs. The man is married to a beautiful woman and has kids.
Yes, that's Nick Vjicic! I mention him in this video: ruclips.net/video/5gtgtiSI7T4/видео.html Great speaker, great man, great inspiration! Happy New Year!
What if I’m technically not disabled but so fat I go everywhere on a rascal scooter?
Work on what you can :)
That sounds like disability.
Classy. Well done you.
I could stop there, maybe should. But will forge ahead. With the exception of tip 9, everything you said also applies to men over fifty and especially over sixty. And, God forbid, if they want to start a new family so are dating women young enough for that. So again, that was a class act. It was an honor to watch it.
Thank you for a classy comment! :))
I am in a wheelchair, thank so much,for the info!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Excellent insightful video Anna I’m not in a wheelchair but i am on disability think you for sending me to this video Anna you have given me good perspective Anna think you! :)
I'd have zero issue dating a girl who used a wheelchair as long as she was hot and had the same qualities that I look for in a woman that didn't use a wheelchair. In some instances she may even be more attractive to me if she really impressed me meeting tough challenges and showed me how strong her character is
Happy new year anna
I'm not trying to be an ass, but women are as concerned with looks as we think. There's an abundance of data on this issue.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
@@YourWingmam Not a problem. Thanks for the video!
@@YourWingmam One thing you missed was the fact that women usually won't initiate romantic relationships with men with disabilities. They're usually too intimidated, so if you're a guy, you have to be the one to ask if she's interested.
Hey Anna Great video!!!!!!!))) I did not see your video post but I checked tonight and seen your new video had been posted!!!))) Hope you have a Happy New Year!!!!))) 😊😊😊💥💥💥⚡️⚡️⚡️☄️🎈🎈🎈💥😊
I posted a day early because of the holiday, glad you found it and Happy New Year!! :))
I have a bad back. And I have allowed this issue in my spine which causes me a lot of pain from what I see “as an issue I don’t want to put another person through”. What you say in the start of the video is exactly I run through my mind.
Awareness is the first step (/spin) to change! If you read some of the comments, you’ll see that others in chairs have got GFs, if they can you can. Work on what you can and you’ll start to feel more confident - or at least less doubtful about the things out of your control. :)
Thanks for the reply. Greatly appreciate it!
103:sek, yes confidence is important but, what if I have two invisible disabilities instead of something obvious as an example of sitting in a chair, my issues is that I’m a person that is olmost blind, and I’m Autistik, I can fil wen some one near me are looking at me and I wonder why women is not talking to me, or rather I think I’m scareing them away when I’m telling them that I'm Autistic, I cant make eye contact with them, so I think it's strange that they look at me but never talk to me
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I hope this has been helpful to you 🙏
Thanks for the vide
Ehi Anna let me say that you are a smart and humble woman, all the best
I just discovered you recently on here and I must say you’re very smart and wise and beautiful. Just curiosity how long have you been a dating expert? Keep up the good work looking forward to seeing more videos 😊😊
Thank you! Officially (as my day job) going into my 5th year, but unofficially giving solicited and unsolicited advice for over 15 years :))
Edit: and studying psychology since I was a teenager lol ;)
WingmamTV you’re welcome!! Wow that’s awesome congrats :))
Thanks for this RUclips, I have love now, but I have two get over my disability
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I’m Canadian from Winnipeg and I’m in a wheelchair and I’m 12 years old
Good video. Some of the best dates I had was With people who were disabled.
Thank you for that encouraging comment! :))
Hey I am from India I am born handicap had two operation Last one I had was in November 2019 I am so so want to get in a relationship but I have so many insecurits if that certain someone will like or if they like but are they gonna be with me
I am 37 and even as a man I totally reprogrammed and shifted my mind about what I want to be attracted to in a woman. If that is found in a wheelchair, so be it!!!
Thank you for being here! :))
I'm in a wheelchair and I'm 21 years old but I'm very shy in public and especially around women. I'm very skinny and have quite low self esteem and feel like I'll never get a girlfriend because I'm just so far down this rabbit hole :(
Thank you for watching and for sharing your experience, big hug! I had a friend who was a star athlete and ended up in a 'chair in his early 20s. But he continued to always have beautiful (and kind) girlfriends. He never had much $, lived on disability income. But man did he have the best attitude. (He passed away last year. 😢 An amazing light left this world.) I encourage you to watch this video: ruclips.net/video/5gtgtiSI7T4/видео.html
And if you're up for a challenge, consider doing my WakeUP2Luv program. I used to have terribly low self-esteem, but I changed that. It took a lot of years and focus. I've complied the things that are scientifically proved and also worked best for me into my program. It's not easy, there's a lot of work, but if you do the work, it'll help you change your (love) life: members.wingmam.com/get-women/.
Please do a video on dating when you have impaired hearing.
I used to skydive before a stroke left me unable to control my left side. Skydiving is all about body position control in the air.
I'm not in a wheelchair, I'm in good physical condition, and I could not get a girlfriend even if my life depended upon it. But then again, I live close to Toronto, Canada, the lesbian capital of Canada, so that might have something to do with it.
When she passes by, stand up and shout hallelujah. Lol
Funny guy ;)
@@YourWingmam What's you facebook page to follow?
I always think that women only date men who are muscular, tall, wealthy, and owns a business. They don't men who are in a wheelchair.
Well it might not be that common but it sure does happen more than you seem to think. Moreover that is not how attraction woks with women, not that I have been in a relationship myself I have read a lot about it, a lot has to do with not being mister nice guy meaning not kissing up to them, calling the shots, dare to be interesting, playful sensual/sexual(and mix that up enough to not become a clown), not be afraid to lose them. Above all have a life, have goals, not depend on a girl to be happy. That seems like a lot all together and it is might take years if you want to have all the options but these are at least things you can work on to have a better chance. For some or through circumstances your handicap might indeed be an obstacle but please don't give up to soon.
Well it might not be that common but it sure does happen more than you seem to think. Moreover that is not how attraction woks with women, not that I have been in a relationship myself I have read a lot about it, a lot has to do with not being mister nice guy meaning not kissing up to them, calling the shots, dare to be interesting, playful sensual/sexual(and mix that up enough to not become a clown), not be afraid to lose them. Above all have a life, have goals, not depend on a girl to be happy. That seems like a lot all together and it is might take years if you want to have all the options but these are at least things you can work on to have a better chance. For some or through circumstances your handicap might indeed be an obstacle but please don't give up to soon.
love your work keep up the goods we fat baldly scotsmin
You forgot "funny!" ;) And thanks!
@@YourWingmam hahahaha your rite I did ps you should have your own show coz u r funny.
My question is recently this checker lady at the store changed her hair and she looks really good and I usually go to her line because she is super nice how do I get her number?
You are beautiful!
Oh thank you!
Everytime I watch one of your videos I am so taken of how beautiful you are. You have such a pretty face and you are a very smart woman.
Thanks and thank you for watching and leaving positive comments on my videos! :)
An interesting video might be how having the channel has affected your own relationships with the opposite sex.
I see a flat kitty...wrote Road Dog...
All great in theory. Not as easy in real life
I know. Start here: ruclips.net/video/5gtgtiSI7T4/видео.html
Roll that wheelchair into your $20 million home. Women will follow.
I still need some sax. I have been patient but cant be toyed with forever. haha
Salus populi suprema lex.
Is you family from DK or Norway ?
Born: Canada; Dad: Danish; Mom: Mexican/Spanish... that's right I'm a spicy Viking and I'm sorry! ;)
@@YourWingmam Don't apologise. :-) That's a great mix and you're helping people. Thank you.
I'm not in a wheelchair but I do got this disability my disability is me having a stroke on the right side of my body cost me to limp cost me to sound funny and also to cost my arm to be broken like my wrist and by that it's hard for me to get a girlfriend hard for me to talk to a girl and that's weird because I think that of myself I don't look more better than anybody else I look normal I just normal and I talk normal I don't see what's wrong I mean I don't look like I'm disabled just I had a stroke that affect my right side of my body so I don't understand I'm not trying to say I'm a Prince Charming type of guy but my looks on the level of what girls want but soon as they see my arm a female turn the other cheek so I don't understand that but I don't let that get to me because females going to be females and I know females got the way welcome to guys it don't matter if they disable or not like one girl I talked to she told me that I was ugly and handsome and it the same time I asked her what's soul different about me that make you say that and she said you owe me because you got a peanut head you handsome because your eyebrows eyelashes and your lips which I respond to that and that's was alright with me because at the end of the day yes I do got a peanut head but I also got a good taste of myself so ever since then I did not let any girl say anything bad about me which I wouldn't care because at the end of the day I am who I am yes I got disability and I'm proud of it I'm not going to hate myself because I want be girls think of me because I don't care what they think this who I am yes when I'm with you I hated myself because I was like this but one thing about it I got a little older and realize I'm going to have to deal with this for the rest of my life and I will get used to it that's what I'm doing right now but one day it will be a female out there for me that will accept me for who I am and for my disability it just the fact that it easy for me to talk to a girl like on the phone go on a date in that letting them know everything about me and my situation was going on with me cuz I feel like that the only way for me to get a girl instead of instead of talking to a girl face to face see one thing about me before I like to talk and I like, see and I like getting to know a person before I see a person because I feel like with females that you meet in person face-to-face though the females always turning you down so so I just been laid back I mean don't get me wrong had plenty of girls in the past but all them girls are had what through neighborhoods School and through friends but all of that was it nothing because those girls already know me so they don't care if I have a disability or not is it the fact meeting girls that you don't know is the hard part so that's the main one I having problems with and that's the reason why I'm sending a comment I know this was a long paragraph So forgive me I just love to talk that's one of my goals to be an author hopefully one day albeit whole book about myself and what everything I went through in life but this main thing it's about how a disability could get a normal girl I'm sign out ✌✌✌
Anna have you watched the red pill movie by cassie raye? if so what did you think of it?
I haven't seen it yet but have watched several of her interviews. I like her and her message. Red pill doesn't mean rage pill. Red pill, to me, simply means waking up to women's nature, the good, bad and the ugly. We all have a dark side (men included) and so it's a matter of understanding each other and figuring out how to live in harmony. Totally possible *if desired!* :)
As always you expressively exhibit an anoiting for accuracy. Now a collaboration between you and her would be sublime. It would be cool for you to watch it & give your honest review going forward as I know you are already booked with a litany of topics in 2020. albeit you are the standout of 2019 youtubesmodestkept secret is now out & about.
@@YourWingmam I have cerebral palsy in my legs and I am 45 never been married I don't date much because I can be self conscious about my CP and the way I look and walk that's my problem I know not women this year I will try and get out of my comfort zone and try to be more outgoing and put myself out there and just give dateing a shot. My luck I did your tips for dicks and it worked for a little while found this beautiful blond she was 48 and I'm 44 I like older women to be honest with you age does not make a difference with me but I have found out older or younger women okay the same game it does not matter to them I guess . Being. Single is a bitch I like women but I don't like crazy women . Please help.
The older blond ghosted me Wich means she stopped comminicating with me and I don't know what I did wrong. Very frustrating.
@@jeremycarpenter2731 yes ghosting is a frustrating experience, all you can do is move on& optimise your selections so if 1 disappoints you are unfazed. In the interim focus on developing yourself in every facet of your life.
just find one in a wheelchair too :)
Everyone turns me down
Is there a gerl out there that wants to start up a familiy with kids really want kids of my own that ar mine and not som won esls
I pray that you receive the partner who is truly best for you, the partner God has for you 🙏
Right. Look at this video of this guy that not only is in a wheelchair but needs her help to do everything from eating to pooping. She is one of the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
ruclips.net/video/5pWrZQZb4BM/видео.html.
At first I thought that they were already together before he became disabled, but she wrote to him first after seeing his video.
Your're right that it's easier for a guy in a wheelchair than it is for a woman. Maybe because women tend to be more inclined to care taking.
Exactly! I mentioned them in the video notes. People who judge others negatively do so because they perceive the world through their own limitations (from whatever awful things happened to them).
Im going to the 7-11 you need anything..im picking up water..
I think I missed part of this convo lol ;)
How do you handle the STD question....the direct approach? the is a HIV home test kits open wide please? Or I dont care what you say.....like Dr. House said everybody lies.....Im not going to stick my anything anywhere anytime unless im 98.95 percent sure its not going to fall off the next day......sorry.
Better to be safe than "sore" I say ... here's a blog I wrote about disclosing STDs: wingmam.com/2016/11/when-should-i-disclose-i-have-an-std/
Not sure if it'll help but might give some insights. :)
If a guy is dating a woman in a wheelchair. He is looked at as a "Sexual Pervert" who's taking advantage of the disabled.🕵️♂️♿
If a woman is dating someone in a wheelchair, she's looked at as a "Gold Digger" and lazy. She's just living off of his disability money." Or The assumption he is rich and ready to die which makes her a Grave Digger. 💃⛏️⚰️💰💰💰
This is why I love Russian and Ukrainian women.
People who makes those assumptions without reason or evidence say much more about themselves than who they are judging. :)
@@YourWingmam I personally know from having friends who experienced this from both sides. I am stated from what they have told me. No assumptions here.
@@jayrider2726 I believe you... but what I'm saying is that if someone is judging, that's their problem. Next. :)