For anyone struggling: I decided to quit alcohol 6 months ago. Two months into recovery, I realized that alcohol was only half of the problem. I then decided to quit porn, and when I couldn't, I realized how powerful a grip it had on me. It was even more potent than ALCOHOL-and I had been drinking heavily for 10 hours a day for 7 years. This week marks 6 months sober from booze and 1 month from porn. I'm still early in my recovery and not nearly where I want to be yet, but holy Christ, it does get better! I'd love to chat if anyone has questions or just wants to vent. We're in this together :)
doc, it has been 7 days, no peeking or edging, I'm gonna stop counting days cause my goal is to build healthy habits rather than chasing numbers. Thanks for all the help through youtube, really appreciate what you do.
@@ax_1771 I did it alone . the main reason is when I tried having sex with a girl, and I couldn't get it up, that moment I realised this is dangerous and felt really bad in front of her. since then I did some research and I found out about porn induced erictile dysfunction and I stop immediately.
@@Pedro94-dp yes . I just stoped it right away and I was addicted for like 7 years . one thing I didint mention is that I bought this turkish honey that has "sildenafil" . thing that u find in viagra, it supose to help with ED . but I used that just as a .plecebo to help me regain confidence
Unfortunately like Christian Bale's Batman says, "People need a dramatic example to be shaken from their apathy." People can know porn is bad for them and do nothing about it, so like 'hitting bottom' with substance addiction they often need to have their life fall apart in some to make the message ring through. For me, thankfully my life did not fall apart... but my dramatic example came while on a magic mushroom trip. All this knowledge I knew on a cognitive level about how porn was bad for me was not impacting my decision making, BUT then while on shrooms, when my conscious mind had access to my unconscious processes, the impact of my actions hit me like a sledge-hammer and I gave up the next day. I went on and wrote a dissertation on Psychedelics and Psychotherapy, although I did not mention my own personal experience in it... 😅 So yeah, I do think psychedelics can be a useful tool in fighting porn or any addiction but also, if that's not for you a professional like Dr Trish is needed.
I am in week 2 amd have terrible head aches.... Its every time i quit the same... What i did is not human.. i edge for nearly for one month without ejaqulation and that bring me the most dangerous depression after release.. omg
For me the biggest issue in life is that I don't know what I am passionate about,I have chosen my job only from a money perspective. I want to find my passion and my free time hobbies. If I find this I can quit p0rn once and for all. I did Semen Retention for like max 15 days.I felt great,had a really masculine voice.Now I never had a girlfriend and I am 32 years old,is there still a chance for me?
Yeah man .. u got it ... for starters at least u are aware of your issue and things u lack ... now u know u r in deficit of passions and hobbies so go and find what u like ? Try everything reading , writing , playing chess, traveling or atleast research on some cool stuff like aliens or religions or history ... eventually u will find what u r passionate about ..... Think of this as a game or a movie where u r the main character trying to find out what's important for u .. and take it as a journey ... Best wishes man
Me also! But you can replace the word "Porn Addiction" with "Masturbation Addiction" or "Sex Addiction" in your head, as 90% of the recommendations in the vids could be applied to that as well. I guess she uses "Porn Addiction" (which is a bit black and white thinking imho) because it brings more attention.
@@Hunkzillathere’s other ways we can relax or sleep. Pleasure addiction is real. Overcoming this isn’t easy. It also becomes a coping mechanism for stress. Having people you can trust and speak about can help one become victorious!!!
@@Hunkzilla I began doing some workout late at night, to feel my body in a good way and to calm down, instead of lying in bed with the iPad in the one hand and...
"Show up in the world - and in relationships the way they want to" . Her very notion of 'if you give up vice - you can "go out into the world" and meet a lovely partner' is hopelessly absurd.
Thank you Dr.Trish for publishing this video, I told myself I know I want to quit porn officially today, it's not a addiction but it's still something prohibiting me from elevating in life. By my 20th birthday on January 12, I will be free by being free of porn every day. I feel bad for some of us Gen Z guys by being introduced to this at 17 or in worst cases, even before..
Im glad for Dr. Trish warning us about these dangers! I feel bad for older men who got this news so late but they can still recover! Im 22 and I want to stop this habit NOW! We can conquer this "social disease".
I've found porn at about 8 yrs old, I'm now 49. My problem is that I have no hobbies or anything I'm passionate about. I also get easily frustrated when I do try to get a hobby.
I would buy your program but it costs thousands of dollars! I'm a young guy, I don't have that kind of money. I guess I'm cut off from any professional help.
Any local rehab or counselor can assist you I used to be a rehab counselor. what she is offering is a model and programming process to get you back on track.
How do I deal with lost of motivation to quit pornography? I am not an avid porn consumer and I am able to to control it daily. However I do want to quit for good because I am a christian and know God hates fornication and I also want to get closer to God. I lost my motivation to quit however and don’t know how to get it back.
This is outstanding. As someone with Bipolar 1, mixed episodes, any tips for hypersexuality that vacillates to hyposexuality ,(part of being bipolar)? It really is difficult going from no interest to insatiable in 2-3 month cycles.
Hey, I’m interested as I am in the process of diagnosed Bipolar (not sure if 1or2) , but when you are in hyposexual state, do you personally feel ok? For me I feel good because I’m like “finally! No sexual desires!” But also when I’m hypersexual and manic, I feel good and don’t even want to watch porn, just want to interact and be with people. When I get in a depressive episode that’s when I’m most likely to binge on porn/mast sessions. It’s so confusing!
Now that you mentioned it, depression does bring out the same tendencies in me as you. Unfortunately when hypo, I would rather do it myself than with my wife because it's about mood regulation and goes on forever. When hyper, my wife can't keep up and I feel resentful, as though it's her fault I'm not satisfied. It's all part of the disorder and I'm learning every day how to deal with it
@@audioadhd I’m sorry to hear that about your wife, hopefully you two work something out. It really is very confusing! Never had a partner but do want to quit this habit and control myself more.
@@carolinadiaz3618 thank you for the empathy. Her love language is gifts so I try to bring balance through gift giving. She appreciates it and knows its my way of being conscientious of her and her efforts.
I’ve been going 28 days without any sexual activity on semen retention but I’ve looked when I’m bored sometimes. I’m ready to commit to this because I’m impeding my progress and benefits of SR.
This is great and all - only thing is most men don't WANT to stop! They ENJOY it way too much. My guy chose porn over me. Now he's almost 60 and alone...with his fantasy 'girls'...
Just decide to quit. Thinking, dreaming, writing, reading, and waching how to quit, is not quitting. Quitting is quitting. Promise yourself that you get a big reward (nothing with sex, porn or masturbation) after 3 days, 6 days, two weeks, one month. For me: I bought a expensive book that I always wanted. And after one month I gave myself a weekend roadtrip. After a year I enjoyed the company of my new girlfriend. 😉😃
23 days with no porn many girls tempting me to have sex but I refuse any girl in this world whether they are gorgeous or not damn care I will sex with my only married girl .
I havent had sex with a woman in 12 years nearly. So all I have is porn and masturbation. Whats the solution? Telling people they have to stop masturbating and watching porn for 3 years so their brain can heal. That seems pretty unrealistic to men who are addicted. The longest I went without any sexual activity was 362 days all the way back in 2015. I dont know how I did it but I've never been able to do it since... Why not teach us how to attract a partner? Because women dont respond to me like many other men in this comment section.
I hope that one day you talk about Porn industry in USA..and how this destructive dirty addiction comes from this vicious companies!!! i dont know why you aviod talking about them...??!! Because the root of this catastrophe comes from them..
True. The porn industry is run by men also, WEALTHY men. How tf do they charge money to watch a kids show but porn is free? That tells you a lot about the people who are in charge…
Longest I’ve done is 7 months it was hell. But that’s my world record I folded after that now I started again and it’s been 1 month clean it is tough keep going the more you go without and slip your brain still healing that way
My fetish took over my life and ruined my marriage. The porn I watched is always centered around the fetish. 23 days and counting no PMO, hoping to be at this thing
You look extremely ageless, OMG! You looked already very good years ago, but people would age after some time, in your case it looks like you reversed in age. lol. :)
Depends, just try to not use porn fantasy, because thats almost the same as using porn. You can masturbate but just try to stretch it as long as possible, don't count the days. Go on reboot nation you'll find alot of stories and tips. Good luck!
For anyone struggling: I decided to quit alcohol 6 months ago. Two months into recovery, I realized that alcohol was only half of the problem. I then decided to quit porn, and when I couldn't, I realized how powerful a grip it had on me. It was even more potent than ALCOHOL-and I had been drinking heavily for 10 hours a day for 7 years.
This week marks 6 months sober from booze and 1 month from porn. I'm still early in my recovery and not nearly where I want to be yet, but holy Christ, it does get better! I'd love to chat if anyone has questions or just wants to vent. We're in this together :)
Hey would leave to reach you in private, you get any active socials or something?
Keep it up 👍
@@Mattened thanks friend. You too!
I'll be at 1 month on the 11th. I agree and I think it's because porn typically comes before alcohol for most young people at least.
I started drinking in place of the real addiction i have which is porn. is this okay? Lesser of 2 evils?
doc, it has been 7 days, no peeking or edging, I'm gonna stop counting days cause my goal is to build healthy habits rather than chasing numbers. Thanks for all the help through youtube, really appreciate what you do.
Keep it Up! 👍
I quit porn 3 weeks now . and my life improved drastically also my ED is gone
thank you dr
Did you do it alone or got help from someone?
@@ax_1771 I did it alone . the main reason is when I tried having sex with a girl, and I couldn't get it up, that moment I realised this is dangerous and felt really bad in front of her. since then I did some research and I found out about porn induced erictile dysfunction and I stop immediately.
@@FunnyPeopleClips2002 In just 3 weeks and your ED is gone I think you were no too much addicted
@@Pedro94-dp yes . I just stoped it right away and I was addicted for like 7 years . one thing I didint mention is that I bought this turkish honey that has "sildenafil" . thing that u find in viagra, it supose to help with ED . but I used that just as a .plecebo to help me regain confidence
still going? i relapse after 3 weeks
It's my second day i hope to continue 🙏
Same
Same
Same
Same. I started having cognitive problems: Neurodevelopmental Disorders & Neurodegenerative Diseases.
Same
Congrats on the book Dr. Trish!!!
❤ love this video!! Thank you for explaining this porn addiction! you make it so clear 😊
Unfortunately like Christian Bale's Batman says, "People need a dramatic example to be shaken from their apathy." People can know porn is bad for them and do nothing about it, so like 'hitting bottom' with substance addiction they often need to have their life fall apart in some to make the message ring through. For me, thankfully my life did not fall apart... but my dramatic example came while on a magic mushroom trip. All this knowledge I knew on a cognitive level about how porn was bad for me was not impacting my decision making, BUT then while on shrooms, when my conscious mind had access to my unconscious processes, the impact of my actions hit me like a sledge-hammer and I gave up the next day. I went on and wrote a dissertation on Psychedelics and Psychotherapy, although I did not mention my own personal experience in it... 😅 So yeah, I do think psychedelics can be a useful tool in fighting porn or any addiction but also, if that's not for you a professional like Dr Trish is needed.
Dr.Trish thank you , your content is a life saver , great appreciation from UK 🇬🇧
UK is England bro
Thank you Trish for another brilliant talk :)
Love your videos, 2 weeks sober.
I can't thank you a lot, God bless you forever
I quit alcohol without professional help. And a bunch of other drugs too. Find your higher power
Hi Dr. Leigh, is there going to be a new "30-day challenge" video series this year in November?
Hope you’re ok! Not sure if the hurricane hit your part or North Carolina
I am in week 2 amd have terrible head aches.... Its every time i quit the same... What i did is not human.. i edge for nearly for one month without ejaqulation and that bring me the most dangerous depression after release.. omg
wonderful outfit ... never afraid to do the positive stuff you slowly understanding the right direction
For me the biggest issue in life is that I don't know what I am passionate about,I have chosen my job only from a money perspective. I want to find my passion and my free time hobbies. If I find this I can quit p0rn once and for all. I did Semen Retention for like max 15 days.I felt great,had a really masculine voice.Now I never had a girlfriend and I am 32 years old,is there still a chance for me?
Yeah man .. u got it ... for starters at least u are aware of your issue and things u lack ... now u know u r in deficit of passions and hobbies so go and find what u like ? Try everything reading , writing , playing chess, traveling or atleast research on some cool stuff like aliens or religions or history ... eventually u will find what u r passionate about .....
Think of this as a game or a movie where u r the main character trying to find out what's important for u .. and take it as a journey ...
Best wishes man
My problem isn't porn, necessarily, but I really want to quit my masturbation addiction. But I quite literally depend on it to relax me at night.
Me also! But you can replace the word "Porn Addiction" with "Masturbation Addiction" or "Sex Addiction" in your head, as 90% of the recommendations in the vids could be applied to that as well. I guess she uses "Porn Addiction" (which is a bit black and white thinking imho) because it brings more attention.
I depend on it to sleep .
@@Hunkzillathere’s other ways we can relax or sleep. Pleasure addiction is real. Overcoming this isn’t easy. It also becomes a coping mechanism for stress. Having people you can trust and speak about can help one become victorious!!!
@@Hunkzilla I began doing some workout late at night, to feel my body in a good way and to calm down, instead of lying in bed with the iPad in the one hand and...
They have a masturbation section on the website.
Day 6 and counting. Blockers on my phone seem to help alot
What blockers are you using, man?
I think that nobody in Norway have the knowledge that you have , Dr.
"Show up in the world - and in relationships the way they want to" . Her very notion of 'if you give up vice - you can "go out into the world" and meet a lovely partner' is hopelessly absurd.
i always make it to day7-9 and failed😢
Thank you Dr.Trish for publishing this video, I told myself I know I want to quit porn officially today, it's not a addiction but it's still something prohibiting me from elevating in life. By my 20th birthday on January 12, I will be free by being free of porn every day. I feel bad for some of us Gen Z guys by being introduced to this at 17 or in worst cases, even before..
Im glad for Dr. Trish warning us about these dangers! I feel bad for older men who got this news so late but they can still recover! Im 22 and I want to stop this habit NOW! We can conquer this "social disease".
I failed at 30, 44, 15 days. And starting again from right now
I neded to hear about this
I understand you’re big on brain training, but what if that isn’t an option? What else can I do? Consistency is my goal.
I'm still watching and quitting. Struggling to get over it. I just realised bcoz of porn I never got into relationship.
Danke!
1:23. My pron-addicted brain had me chuckling😂
😂
Day 6
I've found porn at about 8 yrs old, I'm now 49. My problem is that I have no hobbies or anything I'm passionate about. I also get easily frustrated when I do try to get a hobby.
Doc. Can exercise and meditation fix my compulsive porn use when I feel lonely or stressed?
Yes it helps a lot.
I does help me, I usually do it when I feel urges the strongest
If you are stressed go out for a walk or grocery shop! If lonely, contact someone!
I would buy your program but it costs thousands of dollars! I'm a young guy, I don't have that kind of money. I guess I'm cut off from any professional help.
Any local rehab or counselor can assist you I used to be a rehab counselor. what she is offering is a model and programming process to get you back on track.
How do I deal with lost of motivation to quit pornography? I am not an avid porn consumer and I am able to to control it daily. However I do want to quit for good because I am a christian and know God hates fornication and I also want to get closer to God. I lost my motivation to quit however and don’t know how to get it back.
This is outstanding. As someone with Bipolar 1, mixed episodes, any tips for hypersexuality that vacillates to hyposexuality ,(part of being bipolar)? It really is difficult going from no interest to insatiable in 2-3 month cycles.
Hey, I’m interested as I am in the process of diagnosed Bipolar (not sure if 1or2) , but when you are in hyposexual state, do you personally feel ok? For me I feel good because I’m like “finally! No sexual desires!” But also when I’m hypersexual and manic, I feel good and don’t even want to watch porn, just want to interact and be with people. When I get in a depressive episode that’s when I’m most likely to binge on porn/mast sessions. It’s so confusing!
Now that you mentioned it, depression does bring out the same tendencies in me as you. Unfortunately when hypo, I would rather do it myself than with my wife because it's about mood regulation and goes on forever. When hyper, my wife can't keep up and I feel resentful, as though it's her fault I'm not satisfied. It's all part of the disorder and I'm learning every day how to deal with it
@@audioadhd I’m sorry to hear that about your wife, hopefully you two work something out. It really is very confusing! Never had a partner but do want to quit this habit and control myself more.
@@carolinadiaz3618 thank you for the empathy. Her love language is gifts so I try to bring balance through gift giving. She appreciates it and knows its my way of being conscientious of her and her efforts.
How does ahe affect the recovery process? I mean I am 32 , so would I take more time to recover than someone in their teen's?
I’ve been going 28 days without any sexual activity on semen retention but I’ve looked when I’m bored sometimes. I’m ready to commit to this because I’m impeding my progress and benefits of SR.
Yes Mam
Please help me,pray for me!
Whenever I break my lead,I have to watch extreme stuff many times
Edit:11 days 12 days,after
I think when you hit rock-bottom you need to be in a separate environment with supervision, otherwise chances of relapse increase
Are there any free programs or apps on phone for porn recovery?
Pen to paper is best write out a plan outlay and your goals.
and what are the techniques``???? still dont know anything !
Focus on your Goals she does outlay the plan, but watch her other videos for more discussion on this topic.
Thakur you doctor
This is great and all - only thing is most men don't WANT to stop! They ENJOY it way too much. My guy chose porn over me. Now he's almost 60 and alone...with his fantasy 'girls'...
Dr Trish. Quitting porn was the easy part. But the constant sexual fantasies and staring at women is my issue
Doctor you are so beautiful
she's a babe
How long does it take to recover from ED?
About 90 days no relapse, but committed. for some people it can take more then 18 months.
OMG I FEEL SO BAD WHY CANT I FUCKEN STOP HELP ME O LORD
Just decide to quit. Thinking, dreaming, writing, reading, and waching how to quit, is not quitting. Quitting is quitting.
Promise yourself that you get a big reward (nothing with sex, porn or masturbation) after 3 days, 6 days, two weeks, one month.
For me: I bought a expensive book that I always wanted. And after one month I gave myself a weekend roadtrip. After a year I enjoyed the company of my new girlfriend. 😉😃
Day 11 no porn masturbation or orgasm. I'm finding ways to create substitutes for porn such as dining out and occasional drinking.
492 days and counting..
Congrats
I need sopport from you guys its my sixth day of quitting porn
Congrats, my friend! You can rock this out!
@@DrTrishLeigh thank you very much your support means a lot for me
23 days with no porn many girls tempting me to have sex but I refuse any girl in this world whether they are gorgeous or not damn care I will sex with my only married girl .
I havent had sex with a woman in 12 years nearly. So all I have is porn and masturbation. Whats the solution? Telling people they have to stop masturbating and watching porn for 3 years so their brain can heal. That seems pretty unrealistic to men who are addicted. The longest I went without any sexual activity was 362 days all the way back in 2015. I dont know how I did it but I've never been able to do it since...
Why not teach us how to attract a partner? Because women dont respond to me like many other men in this comment section.
Day 1
How you say we should implement techniques but give us NONE!!!
She shares some in some other videos .. u can go through her channel
I hope that one day you talk about Porn industry in USA..and how this destructive dirty addiction comes from this vicious companies!!! i dont know why you aviod talking about them...??!!
Because the root of this catastrophe comes from them..
True. The porn industry is run by men also, WEALTHY men. How tf do they charge money to watch a kids show but porn is free? That tells you a lot about the people who are in charge…
They are all satanically driven.
I’m struggling just to make it 30 days. I can’t imagine going 6 months….
Longest I’ve done is 7 months it was hell. But that’s my world record I folded after that now I started again and it’s been 1 month clean it is tough keep going the more you go without and slip your brain still healing that way
Keep it Up! 👍
Hope you will upload a video about fetishes, I think fetishes are the worst which can bring people to p0rn. Like foot fetish, etc.
My fetish took over my life and ruined my marriage. The porn I watched is always centered around the fetish.
23 days and counting no PMO, hoping to be at this thing
Day 7. Let's be honest it's really really really really really really really really really not easy!
Get caught! That speeds recovery up!
I watch porn all of time at night what can I do stop watching it
You look extremely ageless, OMG! You looked already very good years ago, but people would age after some time, in your case it looks like you reversed in age. lol. :)
Why would I stop watching porn?? It feels good, I do not buy into someone telling me not to do it
The earlier you quit, the better because you'll suffer the effects
What happens if i feel urge to masterbate? Should i masterbate or not?
Depends, just try to not use porn fantasy, because thats almost the same as using porn. You can masturbate but just try to stretch it as long as possible, don't count the days. Go on reboot nation you'll find alot of stories and tips. Good luck!
It’s better to just lift weights and exercise, at least that increase your testosterone. Keep your mind off women for a while.
@@carolinadiaz3618 I do lift weights.