I found my best friend dead, 7 months later I held my mom as she died, 6 months later my aunt died and that same week my dog passed. I don't even know what I am. I just keep going. I'm on my own so I pray. Last year sucked.
2023 was terrible for me, but I always remind myself that no matter what is happening, many ppl have it so much worse. I hope 2024 is fantastic for you
Nobody tells us how strange it truly is to lose a parent or anyone we know and love so intimately. I hope for you to have peace and contentment as you process this moment in your lives. With love and care, thank you for sharing.
This. We are expected to be OK with losing a parent because it's "natural". Well, lots of things are natural, and horrible. We're shamed for expressing our great love for our moms. We don't talk about our greif. So the greif comes as a surprise to the next friend who loses a dear parent. It's silly, and it needs to change.
I cared for my mother in pandemic starting 2 months after my father died. She passed. And I’ve fallen apart inside. I will be 3 years in June n I’m still struggling. Thanks for what you said
Hello Clay, my name is Calvin. I may not know you as I just stumbled across this video. However, I am sending you lots of love and peace throughout this difficult time in your life. I experienced a very similar situation at the end of 2023. My long-term partner at the time had left me out of nowhere and shortly after, I watched one of my pets pass away right before my eyes. Though our situations are different, I know how difficult that shock can be to push through and manage. You are not alone and there are so many people with you that love you and will always be here with you. Energy lives on forever, Much love.
Sorry you have had these difficulties in your life.... Know many others have something similar going on so don't feel alone.... We all need each other on a larger scale . Take good care of yourself.and find something in each day that gives you a glimmer of gratitude 🙏 ❤
I stumbled across this video as well. I've never seen Clay before, but I'm impressed with his honesty and vulnerability and I wish him the best. I wish you, Calvin, all the best as well. Losing a pet is devastating in and of itself, but to go through that while dealing with a breakup is unbearable. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you're starting to heal.
It's ok to not be ok!! I'm sorry for your loss!! My heart breaks along with you!!! Take all the time you need to grieve as long as you need...sending love, light and positive vibes your way
Clay, the fact that you are going thru all this pain and still be able to share your privacy and feelings peacefully in this video , and as a bonus give us life advice at the end, speaks volumes about your inner strength, values and good will. God Bless you.
I don't know you Clay but your video popped up on my homepage. I'm sorry for your loss! That's a very intense, heartbreaking start to the year! May you and your family find peace 🕊 Yes... these moments do remind us as to what is really important in life 🤍
Your video popped up on my feed randomly and I was in tears watching it. I lost my 37 year old brother, my uncle and my aunt within 6 weeks. I’m just now coming out of the shock to my body and heart. The grief is overwhelming. I with you peace
I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. I found my Mom deceased when I was 18. She was 42. Losing 2 family members so close together is overwhelming. My condolences to you and your wife's family.
Lost my wife of 27 years a year ago and I’m still not much better. I can understand why it’s important to let others know because it’s important for people to understand why you are the way you are. I pray you get through this and wish you strength.
Hi Clay, my name is Joe from Phoenix Arizona. I found my mother in 2006 in her home. She had not answered my call for more than 24 hours so I went over there same type of situation. But just a week ago Monday I lost my dad he died in the hospital after being taken there the night before from falling for whatever reason that one hit me much harder and I’ve been having a pretty hard time. I don’t know why you’re videopopped up. I’ve never seen your channel before but I’m gonna subscribe. I’ll be praying for you and your family.
This story sounds similar to what I’m going through - I also suddenly lost my mum 6 weeks ago, the circumstances sound similar and she was also 72. I can completely relate to your pain 😢.
I'm very sorry for your loss 😔 I also lost my mother a few years ago to cancer. I don't know if I could have handled it as well as I did if it was sudden! Lost my father suddenly at age 4. All of the best with your healing journey. May you find peace and joy again. I truly believe that your mum is healthier and happier than ever and is watching over you from across the veil 🤍
Clay , I am so sorry . I cannot even imagine how you and your family feel .. thank you for your vulnerability in sharing your losses . Your strength and courage during this time is helpful to all of us … love and prayers 🙏🏻🙏🏻to each one of you …❤
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my mom back in late January. It’s not easy. For me, I’ve found I feel rashy when I’m out these days. I don’t have a rash, but just feel anxious and uncomfortable in my skin. I’m wishing you and your family the best.
Andrew honey, I'm So sorry for your loss! YES, people Do want to know if your grieving! Just this moment I ran across this video; to everything there is a season! JESUS comfort you in this time of grieving, and reveal Himself to you with all the love HE has for you & your family! Much love, hugs & prayers! From the Childrey family in Illinois. (Lillywiggles is our Chihuahua lol)
This video just popped up on my feed. I lost my own mom at 74 last year. It’s the single most traumatic experience I’ve ever had. I just clicked subscribe. I don’t even know what your channel is about. I do know this video has hit my soul & it’s just what I needed in my own grief journey. Sending you the warmest of condolences ❤
Hi Clay, my condolences. I lost my mother 4 weeks ago (she was 91) and because we were close I thought this would be easier. I was good for the first two days then on the third day the waves of heaviness and anxiety hit me like a ton of bricks. I was having crippling muscle spams along my stomach and lower backside. Brain fog and moodiness ensued. I scheduled 2 months off work to get better but man what an experience. I think im halfway there, we will see. Cheers from Canada
You sir have been immensely helpful to me over the past 2+ years so let me pass some support back to you - may you have hope and love in your healing, and carry her on your back the rest of the way, you got this dude.
So sorry Clay. Your mom raised such a good man and we’re all thankful for you. You’ve helped so much of us with many things and watching your videos always feels like talking to an older brother. God bless ❤
God bless you and your family, Clay...thank you so much for sharing... I'm sorry you all have been through so much. Thank you for keeping it real and reminding us what's really important in this life. Thank you for your wisdom and continuing to share your teachings and wonderful advice, and helping us all to deal with our own situations. May you all be comforted and held in beautiful healing light. ❤
Oh my God, so shocking to hear all this, imagining what you’ve been through. Sending love to the whole family. May the rest of the year be filled with blessings. Stay strong. Age and conditions don’t matter, every loss is a major shock. You seem to be dealing strongly. Sending prayers to all of you.
YT algo put this in my feed today. I am so sorry for your family's loss. For both events to be so sudden and tragic. That is a lot to process. May God show up for you all in a tangible way as you walk out this grief. I wanted to tell you that I appreciate your transparency and vulnerability. I subscribed as I feel like whatever you have to say might be worth listening to. God bless.
Sound wisdom, my brother. May the Great Spirit comfort you and keep you strong in this time of loss and grief. I am 70 years old, and I know the sands continue to fall through the hour glass. We must savor the time we have left. Life passes so swiftly. Each of us must be fully present in the moment. Pure love is the strongest form of empathy. Don't be afraid to show those you care deeply about how you feel about them. We are all a miracle.
Hi Clay, your blog came up on my stream tonight. I'm glad it did. None of us are immune to adversity. Whether it's a loss of a parent, a child, a brother, or even an animal. Grief knows no bounds. My faith in Christ has brought me through some deep valleys., the loss of my Mom in 2012; the loss of my oldest brother in 2020; loss of several animals. I"ve been given abundant grace. This is my prayer for you my friend, abundant grace. The few words you spoke on this blog were inspiring.
Sorry you had that loss. I mean that. My Mom passed over Holidays of 2023, few weeks or 2 months ago. Still very hard to believe. Quite a life-change, especially when unexpected.
Hi, came across your video by accident but wanted to extend prayers for strength for you, your wife and families as you navigate this challenging time in your lives.
Just to let you know, I lost a parent also during Holidays of 2023, nearly Christmas Eve. My mother passed unexpected, and I couldn't save her. So, you are not alone. Give yourself time to grieve, because it does hit very, very hard. But, I had to write this, before I even watched much of your video. Trust me -- you are not alone. What I would suggest, is finding a good counselor to help through this grief time, because I had to do it when my Dad passed some years back. It really, really helped. Especially the second part with some Group Therapy that I got too.
So very sorry for those two significant losses 😢 And finding your mom had to be pretty traumatic. I wonder if some family art projects would be helpful for you as a family going through complex grief, but especially for your daughter 🙏
I am not sure why your video came across my path, but boy am I glad it did. My father passed two years ago so I know the pain and chaos your mind is in right now. I am so sorry for you double loss back to back and I wish nothing but serenity and calm for you and your family in this time. I have not seen any of your other videos, but I cannot imagine the 85K people,e who follow you do not care about you and wish you well. Peace my brother.
Deepest sympathies to you Clay. Sorry for your loss. Your Channel has been an amazing comfort to me and many others. I hope the love and support of your fans gives you some comfort too in your time of sorrow 🙏🙏🙏. SIP to your beautiful mama! She did an amazing job on you.
Clay, the sadness in your eyes is heartbreaking. I will lift you up before the throne of grace in prayers for comfort. Im very sorry for your loss and the loss your wife is enduring-huge losses. God sees your heart....He will never leave thee nor forsake thee...♡♡♡
I saw your title and wanted to watch. I am sorry about your losses. My daughter was given a book about death by Fred “Mr. Rogers” when she was 6 am we lost our grandmother. She’s 36 and still remembers that.
I’ve just come across your channel.I’m so sorry for the profound grief you and your family must be feeling at the moment. Thank you for sharing your perspective on life and the importance of showing up and not letting the ego get in the way of making decisions we would want to have made come the end of our lives. Take care.
I’m feeling you Clay and appreciate your openness and honesty. Who knows how much some of us talking about our experiences in any way feels supportive to you or anyone who reads this but I too will give it a brief go. Your 2024 is a bit similar to my 2002. My mother was found by a neighbor unconscious. She was hospitalised, very weak with an infection. She was not eating or drinking much and had hit her head falling. After 2 weeks the doctor decided to put her in my care. I took care of her for months and she was able to be fed, nurtured, and in family life in ways completely unfamiliar to her. I had also been caring for 2 of my sisters 4 kids while my sister sought treatment out of the country for what she thought was Hep C but it turned out her condition was more serious, within a few weeks of my mother coming to me, my sister found out she had cancer and it was throughout her body. She flew back to the states. She was hospitalised nearby and it was soon apparent that she was very close to dying. She wanted to get care in a non U.S. facility as she found the ones in the U.S. to be intrusive, pushy, and not in alignment with the care she could get out of the country. We both felt she might even have a fighting chance without being jabbed and radiated. Due to her physical limitations, I flew her by medical helicopter to the border of the U.S. and she went from there to a clinic she had been to before. Her teen daughter and I met her there. She had several amazing days and weeks of rest and recuperation and even one day at the beach with dolphins playing nearby - which according to the locals was a completely unusual occurrence for the area. She passed shortly after the two of us spent the night communing telepathically in what I can only say was a mind and heart meld. The only reason we were not talking aloud was because she was finally sleeping. She clearly telepathed to me she didn’t want me to leave her while she slept and then she telepathed that I could go and get some sleep at 4 AM. Four hours later she passed. I inherited all of her kids at that point. One of them I had raised previously and was now 18 so he went off on his own to find work and an apartment. The youngest was 7. I had not been raising him, I had been raising the middle two. It was nearing Christmas and I wanted the kids to be able to do some Christmas shopping so we went to the local drugstore which doubled as a gift shop. I was taking some Christmas packages the kids had already wrapped to the post office. While taking them from the trunk of the car I heard what I thought was a car backing up. But then I felt it coming close to me. I was facing away and did not have time to turn around. I began to move away from being side swiped on my left. As I did this, the faces of my niece and nephews flashed in my mind’s eye. I was going to feel it out and move as I needed to move, like being in a flow as I had done hundreds of times when doing stunts on motorcycles and horses and once nearly drowning. But when I saw their faces, I knew I had to do everything I could to save myself and apparently I used super human strength to twist away, nearly severing my core. I was able to stand and walk for a couple of minutes and then slumped down in shock. Our lives changed once again in that moment. It had been 6 months since my mom nearly passed and 3 months since my sister passed. I had inherited her children ages 7-16 as a single parent. I didn’t know it then but I would be bedridden for 5 years. It’s been 22 years and I have not had another year like that one. The children grew up and left for their own lives. My parents eventually got ill and my dad passed away 10 years ago. I found the regenerative treatment I’d been looking for shortly after getting married for the 2nd time. I healed nearly 100% from the severing in my core. With my partner, I went into an adjacent field of health to what I’d been doing. The two of us live in gratitude on a mountaintop with our cat. For me 2002 doesn’t seem like yesterday. Much has happened and changed. What I can say is I have no regrets. I showed up in 2002 despite the barrage of loss and grief and change. I engaged, I was myself in my emotions and my compassion. I didn’t have moments to contemplate if I was doing what I needed to do. I didn’t have time to reflect. I did not know then if I would look back on that year with appreciation for myself or whether I would know in my heart that I was not giving up on life and others. But over 2 decades later, I can say that my integrity came through in the dignified ways that do matter to me and on some level mattered to those around me. I’m grateful.
Really sorry to hear about all of this. Thank you for sharing your story. Your channel got me through a really hard time. Sending prayers and love now that you are in a hard time yourself.
Sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and all your loved ones and it takes a very strong person to admit they are not okie. Wim Hoff overcame his depression and grief after doing breathe work and ice baths. I hope when you are ready you get the help and support you need. When there is loss the worst thing to do is become a recluse
I’m so sorry to hear about what your family is going through, death is always a tragedy, let alone two so close together. The perspective we gain when a loved one leaves our lives in a way is their parting gift to us, leaving us with a reminder that we have limited time, and giving us fresh perspective on our own lives. Sending love and support ❤
I genuinely would not wish this treatment on my worst enemy. Rewatching this 3 times really helps me appreciate just how levelheaded he is considering what he must've felt. The best advice I can give is that it does get better and a candle will shine brighter after the match is out.
Thank you Clay for sharing these painful experiences. It's indeed traumatic and it's okay to not be okay at this time. Let the process of healing continue to transform you from the inside out.
Much love and blessings to you and your family. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your life and wisdom with the world. Love you man. During the Pandemic I went through the biggest breakup of my life with the love of my life of 7 years. I spent that year watching your channel consistently. You helped me get through my breakup and one of the toughest times in my life. We got back together 1.5 years after the initial breakup and are still together today. You were a comforting voice of reason when I needed it most and I thank you.
Never seen any of your videos other than this one that popped up. I now will follow you simply because of what you said as to what really matters. I wish more people especially in these divisive spaces and moments would understand that too. Condolences to your entire family and extended family.
Buddy, thank you so much for being so transparent. I am so sorry to hear of your recent losses and heartache. I had a near-death experience where I died and I saw the other side. I encourage you to look up near death experiences. Our bodies are only the wetsuits that we wear but our spirits do live on. Your mother is in a place of love and beauty beyond what we can imagine. I encourage you to look up near death experience. Testimonies. God bless you and give you the strength that no one else can during this time.
Terribly sorry for your losses, Clay. I hope you can find solace and peace after you grieve and reflect, and I appreciate your openness and honesty. God Bless
My condolences. I have no family left that I know of and I miss them all. I wish I would have seen them more often when they were still around. i hope you cherish those you still do have.
Clay, I lost my Mother as well at 72. It’s the little things that matter. Enjoy nature. I’m retired military and retired law enforcement. I live in rural Thailand now and enjoy feeding stray dogs, donating to disabled, flying kites and giving to the less fortunate. The smiles are worth more then money could ever buy.
I lost both of my parents within 2 months due to COVID. I fully understand and agree with what you. The pain you feel right now will never go away, but it will make you a better person as a result. Just keep going, man. 👊🏽
Wow I am so sorry I cannot imagine what u felt finding your mother deceased and on top of that losing your sister in law. Sending prayers may the lord give you the strength and peace in this difficult time 🙏
Sorrry to hear about your loss. This video just popped up into my feed probably because I am into the subjects of death, dying, well being, psychology, paranormal and horror. I appreciate you reaching out to the world through your video. I know you are reaching out because your video states "I'm not okay". Sometimes we need to seek deeper for answers. I am glad you find that your audience helps you by listening.
Some days I listen to you all day and I could only sleep when I hear you advice I've known about your mother and I was always wishing her well but I hope she can rip now my condolences for you and your wife, I hope you all can cope with all of this, thank you for everything you are like a father figure for me I'm forever grateful 🙏
Losing someone we care about is a cruel wake-up call, but it's important to help recognize how much we can grow when we work together and accept the love offered to us. Great video, Clay. I believe if we learn to be honest about how we appreciate our connections with each other and stop priveledging winning in relationships, mankind will eventually find its way to ease the suffering which none of us chose. Maybe someday we will have the intelligence and level of communication necessary to recreate this world we came from. What Im saying is, keep up the good work, and maybe someday, there will be an afterlife.
I’m sorry for your loss, you’ve helped me through some of the toughest times in my life and I’m thankful for your wisdom and advice, I hope messages of support help you feel you’re not alone ❤ take care of yourself and your family, sending you all love
"That you can look back and say that you showed up 100% as the person that you wanted to". Exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you, and may the special memories you made together with those who passed away help you through this difficult time.
Just came across this video and I am sorry for your losses. I just lost my dad last month from stroke complications - he had the stroke on Jan. 7 and we thought he was going to recover, then he passed on the 22nd. I've also lost my husband, stepdad, father-in-law, and an uncle in the last two years. It's a lot, but you have the right idea. These things sharpen your perspective on life for sure, so live as fully and lovingly as possible. I pray for emotional strength for you and your wife and families as you continue walking through the grief. 🙏
So sorry to hear about your losses. I am very glad you shared what has been going on with your family. The community on this channel do care for you very much and we all need love and support, especially with loss. I had a similar experience with my Mom and my Sister in law and it was very difficult. Be good to yourself and take the time to heal.❤
The guy I really liked and was dating ended it New Year’s Eve with me. January my mum passed away too. She had dementia and I was living with her. So I’m alone now in her home. It’s so difficult so your circumstances resonated with me. I hope you find peace. ❤
Lost my beautiful 6 day old first Grandbaby on Christmas morning 2023. Moving ahead daily is the hardest thing we are doing. I understand “ not being ok “ ❤️
Ouch. That hurt. I’m sorry. May you find some way to carry on. It’s very, sad. Support yourself to feel just a little better. And just a little better.
I’m so sorry. I just stumbled upon your site. It’s so sad how you found your mom. Thank you for sharing your most vulnerable moments. I’m going through a hard time also but staying silent in your pain is not good for anyone.🙏🏻❤️
That’s tough man. I lost my dad a year and a half ago and it hit really hard so I understand how it feels. Grief hits you in waves, one day you’re fine, the next you’re not but eventually you get through it and when you see photos or things that remind you of them that grief is replaced by a bittersweet feeling of affection that they’re not here anymore but that they gave so much to your life.
Oh my, universe was not kind to you during these weeks. Im so sorry, but do know you have a very loving community here that will support you in what you decide to do and talk about. Even if you need time away to have quality time with your family, or to just talk it out like this - we support you. No question! ❤ This channel is all about coming to terms with the aspects of grief and ofc finding and keeping love. The perspective may change, but the focus is the same. Self-care and love 🥰 Stay safe! We'll still be here when you are ready 🙏
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I found my best friend dead, 7 months later I held my mom as she died, 6 months later my aunt died and that same week my dog passed. I don't even know what I am. I just keep going. I'm on my own so I pray. Last year sucked.
I'm so sorry ❤❤❤ sending you love and hugs
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I’m so sorry for all your loss in the past year. Sending prayers for your heart. ❤️
2023 was terrible for me, but I always remind myself that no matter what is happening, many ppl have it so much worse. I hope 2024 is fantastic for you
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Nobody tells us how strange it truly is to lose a parent or anyone we know and love so intimately. I hope for you to have peace and contentment as you process this moment in your lives. With love and care, thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for the thoughtful words.
This. We are expected to be OK with losing a parent because it's "natural". Well, lots of things are natural, and horrible. We're shamed for expressing our great love for our moms. We don't talk about our greif. So the greif comes as a surprise to the next friend who loses a dear parent. It's silly, and it needs to change.
Agreed. It's strange not to have both parents
I cared for my mother in pandemic starting 2 months after my father died. She passed. And I’ve fallen apart inside. I will be 3 years in June n I’m still struggling. Thanks for what you said
Clay, Sorry for your loss. That’s beautiful where you are, what state are you in?
Hello Clay, my name is Calvin. I may not know you as I just stumbled across this video. However, I am sending you lots of love and peace throughout this difficult time in your life.
I experienced a very similar situation at the end of 2023. My long-term partner at the time had left me out of nowhere and shortly after, I watched one of my pets pass away right before my eyes. Though our situations are different, I know how difficult that shock can be to push through and manage. You are not alone and there are so many people with you that love you and will always be here with you.
Energy lives on forever,
Much love.
I'm sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace ❤
Sorry she left you and your pet passed. Love and positive energy ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sorry you have had these difficulties in your life....
Know many others have something similar going on so don't feel alone....
We all need each other on a larger scale .
Take good care of yourself.and find something in each day that gives you a glimmer of gratitude 🙏 ❤
I stumbled across this video as well. I've never seen Clay before, but I'm impressed with his honesty and vulnerability and I wish him the best. I wish you, Calvin, all the best as well. Losing a pet is devastating in and of itself, but to go through that while dealing with a breakup is unbearable. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you're starting to heal.
Same here. Condolences to you sir, and well wishes for you and the rest of your family.
Losing a parent is one of the toughest most challenging times. Wishing you peace and comfort ❤
And a good reason not to have kids. Why would you want to create someone to die?
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My sincere condolences 🙏🏻
It's ok to not be ok!! I'm sorry for your loss!! My heart breaks along with you!!! Take all the time you need to grieve as long as you need...sending love, light and positive vibes your way
Clay, the fact that you are going thru all this pain and still be able to share your privacy and feelings peacefully in this video , and as a bonus give us life advice at the end, speaks volumes about your inner strength, values and good will. God Bless you.
I don't know you Clay but your video popped up on my homepage. I'm sorry for your loss! That's a very intense, heartbreaking start to the year! May you and your family find peace 🕊 Yes... these moments do remind us as to what is really important in life 🤍
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😓 Thank you for being vulnerable for us.
My heart goes out to you brother. May God give you strength and bring you peace.
Your video popped up on my feed randomly and I was in tears watching it. I lost my 37 year old brother, my uncle and my aunt within 6 weeks. I’m just now coming out of the shock to my body and heart. The grief is overwhelming. I with you peace
I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. I found my Mom deceased when I was 18. She was 42. Losing 2 family members so close together is overwhelming. My condolences to you and your wife's family.
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I'm very sorry - this was a difficult thing to deal with for sure.
Lost my wife of 27 years a year ago and I’m still not much better. I can understand why it’s important to let others know because it’s important for people to understand why you are the way you are. I pray you get through this and wish you strength.
Hi Clay, my name is Joe from Phoenix Arizona. I found my mother in 2006 in her home. She had not answered my call for more than 24 hours so I went over there same type of situation. But just a week ago Monday I lost my dad he died in the hospital after being taken there the night before from falling for whatever reason that one hit me much harder and I’ve been having a pretty hard time. I don’t know why you’re videopopped up. I’ve never seen your channel before but I’m gonna subscribe. I’ll be praying for you and your family.
I was told this after a big loss and it helped my heart “Grief is not a problem to be solved, it’s evidence you have loved”
This story sounds similar to what I’m going through - I also suddenly lost my mum 6 weeks ago, the circumstances sound similar and she was also 72. I can completely relate to your pain 😢.
I'm very sorry for your loss 😔 I also lost my mother a few years ago to cancer. I don't know if I could have handled it as well as I did if it was sudden! Lost my father suddenly at age 4.
All of the best with your healing journey. May you find peace and joy again. I truly believe that your mum is healthier and happier than ever and is watching over you from across the veil 🤍
@@SimplyNobel thank you, your words really mean a lot 🙏😔
Prayers to your family.
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I understand your pain, truly.
I’m So Sorry For Your Losses , My Deepest Condolence I’m Praying For You And Your Family🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you. It has been hard for us, but we're hanging in there as best as we can.
Clay , I am so sorry . I cannot even imagine how you and your family feel .. thank you for your vulnerability in sharing your losses . Your strength and courage during this time is helpful to all of us … love and prayers 🙏🏻🙏🏻to each one of you …❤
Thank you, Kathy. I hope you're doing well.
So sorry for your loss Clay😢😢. Bless you and your family. Stay strong
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my mom back in late January. It’s not easy. For me, I’ve found I feel rashy when I’m out these days. I don’t have a rash, but just feel anxious and uncomfortable in my skin. I’m wishing you and your family the best.
My condolences 🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾 ❤
I understand this 💯
Bless U mate. Stuff like this shows what's really important.
I'm so sorry to hear this.
Sounds very traumatic for you. Take care of yourself x
Andrew honey, I'm So sorry for your loss! YES, people Do want to know if your grieving! Just this moment I ran across this video; to everything there is a season! JESUS comfort you in this time of grieving, and reveal Himself to you with all the love HE has for you & your family! Much love, hugs & prayers! From the Childrey family in Illinois. (Lillywiggles is our Chihuahua lol)
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Having to go through multiple things at once makes it so much more difficult. I hope you feel better soon!
This video just popped up on my feed. I lost my own mom at 74 last year. It’s the single most traumatic experience I’ve ever had.
I just clicked subscribe. I don’t even know what your channel is about.
I do know this video has hit my soul & it’s just what I needed in my own grief journey. Sending you the warmest of condolences ❤
Hi Clay, my condolences. I lost my mother 4 weeks ago (she was 91) and because we were close I thought this would be easier.
I was good for the first two days then on the third day the waves of heaviness and anxiety hit me like a ton of bricks. I was having crippling muscle spams along my stomach and lower backside.
Brain fog and moodiness ensued.
I scheduled 2 months off work to get better but man what an experience.
I think im halfway there, we will see.
Cheers from Canada
I'm so sorry
It’s a process that ebbs and flows…good … better… not so good days. Be gentle with yourself and reach out if you need support.
You sir have been immensely helpful to me over the past 2+ years so let me pass some support back to you - may you have hope and love in your healing, and carry her on your back the rest of the way, you got this dude.
So sorry Clay. Your mom raised such a good man and we’re all thankful for you. You’ve helped so much of us with many things and watching your videos always feels like talking to an older brother. God bless ❤
God bless you and your family, Clay...thank you so much for sharing... I'm sorry you all have been through so much. Thank you for keeping it real and reminding us what's really important in this life. Thank you for your wisdom and continuing to share your teachings and wonderful advice, and helping us all to deal with our own situations. May you all be comforted and held in beautiful healing light. ❤
Oh my God, so shocking to hear all this, imagining what you’ve been through. Sending love to the whole family. May the rest of the year be filled with blessings. Stay strong. Age and conditions don’t matter, every loss is a major shock. You seem to be dealing strongly. Sending prayers to all of you.
Just stumbled upon your channel. Please know that I am sending you so much love and peace and healing energy.
YT algo put this in my feed today. I am so sorry for your family's loss. For both events to be so sudden and tragic. That is a lot to process. May God show up for you all in a tangible way as you walk out this grief. I wanted to tell you that I appreciate your transparency and vulnerability. I subscribed as I feel like whatever you have to say might be worth listening to. God bless.
Sound wisdom, my brother. May the Great Spirit comfort you and keep you strong in this time of loss and grief. I am 70 years old, and I know the sands continue to fall through the hour glass. We must savor the time we have left. Life passes so swiftly. Each of us must be fully present in the moment. Pure love is the strongest form of empathy. Don't be afraid to show those you care deeply about how you feel about them. We are all a miracle.
Thank you, Clay...Blessed be❤🙏
Hi Clay, your blog came up on my stream tonight. I'm glad it did. None of us are immune to adversity. Whether it's a loss of a parent, a child, a brother, or even an animal. Grief knows no bounds. My faith in Christ has brought me through some deep valleys., the loss of my Mom in 2012; the loss of my oldest brother in 2020; loss of several animals. I"ve been given abundant grace. This is my prayer for you my friend, abundant grace. The few words you spoke on this blog were inspiring.
I’m so sorry Clay. I understand completely. I lost my mother to Covid 2 years ago the 23rd of February. Condolences to your wife as well.
Sorry you had that loss. I mean that. My Mom passed over Holidays of 2023, few weeks or 2 months ago. Still very hard to believe. Quite a life-change, especially when unexpected.
Thank you for sharing ❤ I'm sorry for your loss.
Hi, came across your video by accident but wanted to extend prayers for strength for you, your wife and families as you navigate this challenging time in your lives.
Wow, Clay. That's hard, but thank you for the thoughts of encouragement. I'll pray for your family
Just to let you know, I lost a parent also during Holidays of 2023, nearly Christmas Eve. My mother passed unexpected, and I couldn't save her. So, you are not alone. Give yourself time to grieve, because it does hit very, very hard. But, I had to write this, before I even watched much of your video. Trust me -- you are not alone. What I would suggest, is finding a good counselor to help through this grief time, because I had to do it when my Dad passed some years back. It really, really helped. Especially the second part with some Group Therapy that I got too.
So very sorry for those two significant losses 😢 And finding your mom had to be pretty traumatic. I wonder if some family art projects would be helpful for you as a family going through complex grief, but especially for your daughter 🙏
Very brave of you to share these shocking events. Sending love and prayers from UK to you and your family. 💕🙏
It sounds very difficult. My condolences. Thank you for helping us with your videos, I hope your loved ones help you too
I am not sure why your video came across my path, but boy am I glad it did. My father passed two years ago so I know the pain and chaos your mind is in right now. I am so sorry for you double loss back to back and I wish nothing but serenity and calm for you and your family in this time. I have not seen any of your other videos, but I cannot imagine the 85K people,e who follow you do not care about you and wish you well. Peace my brother.
Deepest sympathies to you Clay. Sorry for your loss. Your
Channel has been an amazing comfort to me and many others. I hope the love and support of your fans gives you some comfort too in your time of sorrow 🙏🙏🙏.
SIP to your beautiful mama! She did an amazing job on you.
Clay, the sadness in your eyes is heartbreaking. I will lift you up before the throne of grace in prayers for comfort. Im very sorry for your loss and the loss your wife is enduring-huge losses. God sees your heart....He will never leave thee nor forsake thee...♡♡♡
So sorry for your losses. Your in my prayers.
Thank you! I appreciate that.
I saw your title and wanted to watch. I am sorry about your losses. My daughter was given a book about death by Fred “Mr. Rogers” when she was 6 am we lost our grandmother. She’s 36 and still remembers that.
Sorry, for your losses. Much love and blessings to you and your family❤
I’ve just come across your channel.I’m so sorry for the profound grief you and your family must be feeling at the moment. Thank you for sharing your perspective on life and the importance of showing up and not letting the ego get in the way of making decisions we would want to have made come the end of our lives. Take care.
I’m feeling you Clay and appreciate your openness and honesty. Who knows how much some of us talking about our experiences in any way feels supportive to you or anyone who reads this but I too will give it a brief go.
Your 2024 is a bit similar to my 2002. My mother was found by a neighbor unconscious. She was hospitalised, very weak with an infection. She was not eating or drinking much and had hit her head falling. After 2 weeks the doctor decided to put her in my care. I took care of her for months and she was able to be fed, nurtured, and in family life in ways completely unfamiliar to her. I had also been caring for 2 of my sisters 4 kids while my sister sought treatment out of the country for what she thought was Hep C but it turned out her condition was more serious, within a few weeks of my mother coming to me, my sister found out she had cancer and it was throughout her body. She flew back to the states. She was hospitalised nearby and it was soon apparent that she was very close to dying. She wanted to get care in a non U.S. facility as she found the ones in the U.S. to be intrusive, pushy, and not in alignment with the care she could get out of the country. We both felt she might even have a fighting chance without being jabbed and radiated. Due to her physical limitations, I flew her by medical helicopter to the border of the U.S. and she went from there to a clinic she had been to before. Her teen daughter and I met her there. She had several amazing days and weeks of rest and recuperation and even one day at the beach with dolphins playing nearby - which according to the locals was a completely unusual occurrence for the area. She passed shortly after the two of us spent the night communing telepathically in what I can only say was a mind and heart meld. The only reason we were not talking aloud was because she was finally sleeping. She clearly telepathed to me she didn’t want me to leave her while she slept and then she telepathed that I could go and get some sleep at 4 AM. Four hours later she passed. I inherited all of her kids at that point. One of them I had raised previously and was now 18 so he went off on his own to find work and an apartment. The youngest was 7. I had not been raising him, I had been raising the middle two. It was nearing Christmas and I wanted the kids to be able to do some Christmas shopping so we went to the local drugstore which doubled as a gift shop. I was taking some Christmas packages the kids had already wrapped to the post office. While taking them from the trunk of the car I heard what I thought was a car backing up. But then I felt it coming close to me. I was facing away and did not have time to turn around. I began to move away from being side swiped on my left. As I did this, the faces of my niece and nephews flashed in my mind’s eye. I was going to feel it out and move as I needed to move, like being in a flow as I had done hundreds of times when doing stunts on motorcycles and horses and once nearly drowning. But when I saw their faces, I knew I had to do everything I could to save myself and apparently I used super human strength to twist away, nearly severing my core. I was able to stand and walk for a couple of minutes and then slumped down in shock. Our lives changed once again in that moment. It had been 6 months since my mom nearly passed and 3 months since my sister passed. I had inherited her children ages 7-16 as a single parent. I didn’t know it then but I would be bedridden for 5 years. It’s been 22 years and I have not had another year like that one. The children grew up and left for their own lives. My parents eventually got ill and my dad passed away 10 years ago. I found the regenerative treatment I’d been looking for shortly after getting married for the 2nd time. I healed nearly 100% from the severing in my core. With my partner, I went into an adjacent field of health to what I’d been doing. The two of us live in gratitude on a mountaintop with our cat. For me 2002 doesn’t seem like yesterday. Much has happened and changed. What I can say is I have no regrets. I showed up in 2002 despite the barrage of loss and grief and change. I engaged, I was myself in my emotions and my compassion. I didn’t have moments to contemplate if I was doing what I needed to do. I didn’t have time to reflect. I did not know then if I would look back on that year with appreciation for myself or whether I would know in my heart that I was not giving up on life and others. But over 2 decades later, I can say that my integrity came through in the dignified ways that do matter to me and on some level mattered to those around me. I’m grateful.
🙏♥️ sending so much love to you & your family
Really sorry to hear about all of this. Thank you for sharing your story. Your channel got me through a really hard time. Sending prayers and love now that you are in a hard time yourself.
Sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and all your loved ones and it takes a very strong person to admit they are not okie. Wim Hoff overcame his depression and grief after doing breathe work and ice baths. I hope when you are ready you get the help and support you need. When there is loss the worst thing to do is become a recluse
I lost my mom weeks ago ago due to a house 🔥 I’m praying for you
Sending prayer to you Clay and your family dealing with such loss 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
That's a lot! I'm sorry you and your family are dealing with so much grief at one time. My sincerest condolences to you all. Sending warm thoughts.
Thank you, Jessica.
Well said Clay. That’s why I don’t do no contact. Instead I’m loving, truthful & transparent. What others do & how they act is up to them.
Thankyou for sharing, you’re truly an amazing person, I can only imagine how beautiful of a person your mother was 💛✨
I’m so sorry to hear about what your family is going through, death is always a tragedy, let alone two so close together. The perspective we gain when a loved one leaves our lives in a way is their parting gift to us, leaving us with a reminder that we have limited time, and giving us fresh perspective on our own lives. Sending love and support ❤
Love you man. God bless you and your. We love you more than you think.
I genuinely would not wish this treatment on my worst enemy. Rewatching this 3 times really helps me appreciate just how levelheaded he is considering what he must've felt. The best advice I can give is that it does get better and a candle will shine brighter after the match is out.
I'm so sorry about your mother!!! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much.
And I'm so sorry about your sister in law!!! ❤❤❤
@@ClayAndrewsYou're welcome. ❤
Thank you Clay for sharing these painful experiences. It's indeed traumatic and it's okay to not be okay at this time. Let the process of healing continue to transform you from the inside out.
Much love and blessings to you and your family. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your life and wisdom with the world.
Love you man. During the Pandemic I went through the biggest breakup of my life with the love of my life of 7 years. I spent that year watching your channel consistently. You helped me get through my breakup and one of the toughest times in my life. We got back together 1.5 years after the initial breakup and are still together today. You were a comforting voice of reason when I needed it most and I thank you.
Never seen any of your videos other than this one that popped up. I now will follow you simply because of what you said as to what really matters.
I wish more people especially in these divisive spaces and moments would understand that too. Condolences to your entire family and extended family.
So so sorry for your loss, my heart feels for you. Sending you and your family a lot of prayers🙏🏽
Buddy, thank you so much for being so transparent. I am so sorry to hear of your recent losses and heartache. I had a near-death experience where I died and I saw the other side. I encourage you to look up near death experiences. Our bodies are only the wetsuits that we wear but our spirits do live on. Your mother is in a place of love and beauty beyond what we can imagine. I encourage you to look up near death experience. Testimonies. God bless you and give you the strength that no one else can during this time.
Terribly sorry for your losses, Clay. I hope you can find solace and peace after you grieve and reflect, and I appreciate your openness and honesty. God Bless
My condolences. I have no family left that I know of and I miss them all. I wish I would have seen them more often when they were still around. i hope you cherish those you still do have.
So sorry for your losses Clay praying for you and your family...😥you saved me...
Clay, I lost my Mother as well at 72. It’s the little things that matter. Enjoy nature. I’m retired military and retired law enforcement. I live in rural Thailand now and enjoy feeding stray dogs, donating to disabled, flying kites and giving to the less fortunate. The smiles are worth more then money could ever buy.
I lost both of my parents within 2 months due to COVID. I fully understand and agree with what you. The pain you feel right now will never go away, but it will make you a better person as a result. Just keep going, man. 👊🏽
Wow I am so sorry I cannot imagine what u felt finding your mother deceased and on top of that losing your sister in law. Sending prayers may the lord give you the strength and peace in this difficult time 🙏
Sorrry to hear about your loss. This video just popped up into my feed probably because I am into the subjects of death, dying, well being, psychology, paranormal and horror. I appreciate you reaching out to the world through your video. I know you are reaching out because your video states "I'm not okay". Sometimes we need to seek deeper for answers. I am glad you find that your audience helps you by listening.
Clay, your videos have helped me so much!! - sending much love and strength to you and your family
This video came on my feed. Sending love and prayers for you and your family. ❤
Some days I listen to you all day and I could only sleep when I hear you advice I've known about your mother and I was always wishing her well but I hope she can rip now my condolences for you and your wife, I hope you all can cope with all of this, thank you for everything you are like a father figure for me I'm forever grateful 🙏
Very sorry for the loss of both. They were lucky to have you in their lives. Heartfelt video. 😢
Losing someone we care about is a cruel wake-up call, but it's important to help recognize how much we can grow when we work together and accept the love offered to us.
Great video, Clay. I believe if we learn to be honest about how we appreciate our connections with each other and stop priveledging winning in relationships, mankind will eventually find its way to ease the suffering which none of us chose. Maybe someday we will have the intelligence and level of communication necessary to recreate this world we came from.
What Im saying is, keep up the good work, and maybe someday, there will be an afterlife.
That's horrible to find your mum like that. Stay strong brother. You got this.
Imagine having to go through that with no wife or friends
I did. No spouse, friends stayed away because they didn’t know what to do or say. I sat in the house alone. Showed me what I was really made of.
i can i had a devastating stroke lost all my animals and no one came to help me
Your words will reach many dealing with the same issues. Thanks for sharing. 🙏
I’m sorry for your loss, you’ve helped me through some of the toughest times in my life and I’m thankful for your wisdom and advice, I hope messages of support help you feel you’re not alone ❤ take care of yourself and your family, sending you all love
Losing Parents change us as a person. Losing any family is hard. Sorry for your loss ❤
"That you can look back and say that you showed up 100% as the person that you wanted to".
Exactly what I needed to hear today!
Thank you, and may the special memories you made together with those who passed away help you through this difficult time.
Just came across this video and I am sorry for your losses.
I just lost my dad last month from stroke complications - he had the stroke on Jan. 7 and we thought he was going to recover, then he passed on the 22nd. I've also lost my husband, stepdad, father-in-law, and an uncle in the last two years. It's a lot, but you have the right idea. These things sharpen your perspective on life for sure, so live as fully and lovingly as possible. I pray for emotional strength for you and your wife and families as you continue walking through the grief.
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So sorry to hear about your losses. I am very glad you shared what has been going on with your family. The community on this channel do care for you very much and we all need love and support, especially with loss. I had a similar experience with my Mom and my Sister in law and it was very difficult. Be good to yourself and take the time to heal.❤
I'm so sorry for your loss.
God bless you and your family with strength. Take good care. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
The guy I really liked and was dating ended it New Year’s Eve with me.
January my mum passed away too. She had dementia and I was living with her. So I’m alone now in her home. It’s so difficult so your circumstances resonated with me.
I hope you find peace. ❤
Clay, I have watched your videos for years. You have been a source of strength for many people. I am so sorry to hear this, we are all here for you
Sending love. We spoke once on zoom and I’ve always thought you’re an amazing guy.
The horrible down side of living a long life is seeing loved ones pass.
Hugs CLAY may Mum rest in peace.
Thank you
Lost my beautiful 6 day old first Grandbaby on Christmas morning 2023. Moving ahead daily is the hardest thing we are doing. I understand “ not being ok “ ❤️
Ouch. That hurt. I’m sorry.
May you find some way to carry on. It’s very, sad. Support yourself to feel just a little better. And just a little better.
Prayers for you clay you help so many people. ❤
I’m so sorry. I just stumbled upon your site. It’s so sad how you found your mom.
Thank you for sharing your most vulnerable moments. I’m going through a hard time also but staying silent in your pain is not good for anyone.🙏🏻❤️
I’m praying for you and your family. You put out great content that’s helpful and appreciated. I lost my mom suddenly in 2018 so I feel the loss. 🙏🏾
That’s tough man. I lost my dad a year and a half ago and it hit really hard so I understand how it feels. Grief hits you in waves, one day you’re fine, the next you’re not but eventually you get through it and when you see photos or things that remind you of them that grief is replaced by a bittersweet feeling of affection that they’re not here anymore but that they gave so much to your life.
Oh my, universe was not kind to you during these weeks. Im so sorry, but do know you have a very loving community here that will support you in what you decide to do and talk about. Even if you need time away to have quality time with your family, or to just talk it out like this - we support you. No question! ❤ This channel is all about coming to terms with the aspects of grief and ofc finding and keeping love. The perspective may change, but the focus is the same. Self-care and love 🥰 Stay safe! We'll still be here when you are ready 🙏
Bless your heart. Thank you for sharing your pain with others who may understand and share your pain.❤️