An Older Lady Needs Our Help . . .
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
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This is so sad. That poor lady did not deserve all that abuse, why are some people so inhuman? Thank goodness there are incredibly kind people like yourself at the other end of the spectrum. You are a true angel Joel. Thank you for helping her, have sent a donation.
Thanks
Thank you Paula, I really appreciate this - I will ensure this goes towards this lady's new garden. Lots of updates to come - best wishes, Joel
I just lost my loving Mum this spring and she had her share of being treated badly specially in her later years when she was ill and I can’t stand what’s happened to this lady. I hope this helps a little. I hope you can give her a wonderful new pond and cherry tree! Please give my love from Norway ❤
Thank you so VERY much for this, I'm quite overwhelmed at your generosity - we're half way there with funds and I'm going to be spreading the word again soon in case anyone missed this. I really want to complete these works over winter so that the garden is a riot of colour in spring and that this lady has a lot of company with many creatures visiting and sharing the garden with her. Thank you, once again, this means a lot and I will definitely relay all these positive messages to her :) Very best wishes, Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton My pleasure, I hope you get the rest of the funds! This story really touched me, and I know a little about such obnoxious neighbours. We have a relatively new neighbour at the summer cottage, and after razing his own trees he took down two ancient small pines on our property. The last one he pressured my mum while she was ill to take down and it broke her heart. I will never forgive that. My grandparents loved those trees as well. Please keep us posted, it would be wonderful if she gets her garden in time for spring and can look forward to all the colours and life. 🌸🌱🌾🦎🐝
I love it when people help each other from their hearts. This lady deservs a garden overhaul. Oh and can somebody call the neighbour surgeon. There seems to be something rotten over the fence😂
To be like that you must be a very unhappy 😔 person, that’s my opinion or one of them
@@janiedunn637 Yes extremely unhappy
Thank you Matz, you're absolutely right. I am determined to give this lady some much deserved respite after a pretty terrible year, not aided by the people you'd think would want to help. So many people have been so generous already and I can't wait to show her how much people care. A tree in memory of her husband to replace the one the neighbours made her pay to have cut down, against her wishes really but they're taking advantage of her good nature and I'm about to put a further stop to it. I almost can't wait to plant a native hedge that will give her privacy and to give her the pond that will be appreciated by lots of birds this winter, as well as giving her something to look forward to for Spring. Very best wishes, and thanks again - Joel
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Just donated, thanks Joel. Love your shop too. Excellent value.
Some how this passed me by when you first put this up. Please accept my small donation. Good luck, and best wishes to the widow.
Thank you Keith, I hadn't "advertised" this enough really, but every penny goes directly to this lady and I'm determined that she finds sanctuary and respite alongside the creatures she has spent so many years trying to cater for. Best wishes, Joel
Just donated Joel. It's so heartwarming in these dreadful days to see people coming together with love and compassion. Thank you for being the kind and compassionate man that you are.
Thank you Helen, sincerely. I am pretty overwhelmed at everyone's support and generosity and I absolutely can't wait to show this lady how many wonderful people are out there, and that's she's actually not as alone as she feels. I am determined to give her a garden that is maintenance-friendly but at the same time allowing her to busy herself and get control of the garden she worked for many years to achieve for wildlife, and I will be documenting it all so everyone knows how much a little generosity and good will can make a huge difference to someone :) Very best wishes, Joel
Hey Joel, sorry for the late response and late donation. My pleasure🌻
That is such a terribly sad story, brought tears to my eyes.
That poor lady I feel so sad for her. And those neighbour's are an absolute disgrace. Shame on them.
However you are in the process of lining that incredibly dark and horrible cloud with a magical silver lining. This is such a beautiful thing to be doing. You are going to create the most beautiful space for that lady to sit and reflect, and to connect with her late husband. Can't think of a more beautiful thing for her.
You are a good soul Joel Ashton, many blessing sent your way x
Hi Miche, so good to hear from you and to read your wonderful words, you never fail :) I'm absolutely determined to bring this garden back to life and to make a sanctuary and haven not only for our creatures desperately in need, but a place of respite for her too. The garden will be maintenance-friendly BUT at the same time giving her something to occupy her mind and see flourish. I am hoping I can achieve this over the winter so that she can see the birds bathing in the new pond, birds visiting newly placed feeders, winter bulbs providing much needed nectar after our pollinators wake after their slumber - so many things in my mind, and people have been so generous and supportive already, we're nearly at the £5k mark and I couldn't be more grateful. I'm pretty overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, including your own and I promise that I'll be documenting this from beginning to end and I'll be on hand of course to ensure any maintenance issues in the future are taken care of by me. Very best wishes, and many thanks - Joel
@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton Thank you for your lovely message. What you are doing brings such warmth to my heart. It really does touch me very deeply. I myself personally understand what this will bring to that dear lady. Several years ago, my dear mum died in the most horrendous way. It was nature that took my hand, threw me a comfort blanket, and helped me to keep on keeping on. In every flower, every butterfly, every bee, every little birdy, the running of a stream, and so on that I looked upon, I saw my mum. I felt close and connected to her.
What you are doing is going to be an invaluable source of comfort for this lady. More than you can imagine.
I can't wait for her to dream upon it.
Thank you truly for what you are doing🙏
A donation from Connecticut USA. Hope you can help her!
Thank you Tracy, so much. After losing her husband late last year I am in constant touch with her, she does not know about the funds yet but I hope to tell her soon that there are lots of people that want to help her. Thank you again for your generosity, I hope to update everyone soon. Best wishes, Joel
Donated...from Australia. I love wildlife ponds no matter where.
I'm so very grateful for this Alix, really I am. I will keep everyone updated on progress here and of course will be filming it from start to finish and update videos to show everyone where their vital donations have gone and how they have made a huge difference - very best wishes, Joel
God restores and brings life! God bless everyone involved! 🌻
Thank you Kelly, so much.
Thank goodness she has you because those neighbors sound rather poopy!
Ha! Well put - I will be keeping everyone up-to-date Sandra, thanks so much for your support - Joel
"Poopy"!! An understandable understatement on here. No respect for an old lady.You dont f and blind at the elderly.
I've just come across this story and it really saddens me to hear about this lady's experience.
What a piece of work those neighbours are, they should be ashamed of themselves.
Best wishes to you, and good luck with the appeal on gofundme.
Thank you Paul, so much. Thankfully the neighbour issue has died down a little, I am hoping that this is because they have realised how alone she is and that this won't be taken to their advantage - it certainly won't be where I'm concerned. She and her husband worked so very hard for so many years to give their garden over to the creatures we know that are so desperately in need of our help. I am determined to give her a garden that will encourage the wildlife back, keep her company and allow her to manage areas and to keep her busy - I am hoping this can be done over winter to give her something to look forward to in the spring and of course a pond that will encourage birds to bathe and feeding areas near the house so she has some company too, whilst waiting for spring to burst into life with many bulbs and other plants to support our pollinators after their winter-slumber. Very best wishes to you - Joel
It would be great if we also could get some companies to sponsor this, maybe some garden centre or something? Great publicity for them to do some charity work too :)
Since I got my disability and wheelchair, watching the wildlife visiting my balcony has become extremely important. The more mobility issues you have, the more important it is to have accessible wildlife at your doorstep. My grandmother, who also recently got a wheelchair, can no longer access her garden that was her joy for many years. I hope this old lady can get a beautiful garden that she can continue to be in for many years, even if her mobility gets worse!
Hello there :) So good to hear from you, and thanks so much for explaining exactly how important this garden will be for this lady. With no close relatives, her husband gone and a totally unmanageable garden at the moment, I am determined to give her something where she can find solace, including native quick-growing hedging to give her privacy and s space she can enjoy the creatures that she worked so hard to accommodate before all this bad luck. Thanks so much, very best wishes - Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton I'm so happy to hear you are helping her with this! :) I feel so sorry for those who are without support like her. I'm looking forward to see what a lovely garden you will give her! Best wishes!/Anna
I’ve just made a small £5 donation Joel. I can’t imagine the stress this poor woman is going through at her age, a time where she should be relaxing. Keep up the fight for her!
Hi Tommu, £5 is not small, it really will make a difference, I promise you. I feel so anxious about what they might be telling her, she's quite timid and they are of course taking advantage of her good nature but hopefully I can get there real soon and make my presence known. I did offer to speak to the neighbours and explain that this garden has nothing to do with them having a water-logged garden whatsoever, but the offer was turned down. I am gutted I couldn't get there in time to save that tree, but I'm determined a new one will be planted in her husband's name and that she can look forward to spring, and see the changes during winter. Very best wishes, and thanks for your support, it really will help - Joel
Done. Just finish building a 28 meter long, as high as legally possible fence for my own sanity. Please do the same for this lady? Also, a bonus of rewilding my frontage to shrubs, tall grasses, perennials and a thyme lawn has been increased privacy. Bravo from Canada for you taking this on!
Thank you Debra, I really appreciate it. I am determined to not only provide a place of respite and sanctuary so she can enjoy the creatures she cares about, but also some privacy and hope. Very best wishes, and well done on your efforts! Best wishes, Joel
Joel: a word please!
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Yes, it is thát word: love. Thank you.
🤣Hey there Esther, thank you, as always - same back to you - best wishes, Joel
Best vid this year in my opinion also sad
Thank you, I just wish that her husband could have seen what we will all do for her, provide a sanctuary and some respite for not only the creatures she loves, but for her too. I will keep everyone updated :) Very best wishes, Joel
@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton ye I'm sure you'll do a great job as usual
More than happy to help Joel. Hope I never find myself in the same predicament.
I'm so very grateful for this Tracey, I'll be there for you if you ever do! I really hope that this can start a trend where we can all help others that would really benefit from a pond or a garden revamp to make access and maintenance easier - thanks so much, best wishes - Joel
Thank you Joel you have a big heart. 💚
Thank you Tracey, everyone here has been so generous with their support and I am going to ensure that this wonderful lady sees that she is not alone and that people really do care :) Best wishes, Joel
Hey Joel! It's so sad when something like this happens to someone, especially when the neighbours are so vile. Would have been nice of them to offer to help instead of adding to her burdens. Best wishes.
Absolutely this! I'm keeping in close contact but don't live close, otherwise I'd be checking in weekly if not daily! The help I did offer to "negotiate" with the neighbours was turned down, no doubt because they knew that they wouldn't be able to fool me. I really want her to have something to look forward to over these winter months, winter flowing bulbs, the birds etc that will be grateful for the bathing opportunities, and come spring to see it all come to life fully. Thanks ever so much, I'm doing my best to keep up with comments but I know I've failed lately, so apologies for that - hoping you and yours are well - best wishes as always, Joel
All good Joel, hope the same with you and yours. Never worry about a reply, nice to watch the videos and see you changing our ideas of gardening and inspiring us to do more! Bringing birds into the garden will be so beneficial to her, always been a bit of a twitcher and the joy of feathery visitors in the garden is always uplifting. Best wishes.@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton
@@SisterDogmataThank you, so much. I am really hoping that after the make-over her beloved creatures will return and find sanctuary there alongside her :)
What a dreadful time this lady is going through. So glad she has you on her side. I will give a (sadly) a small donation at the moment and more at the end of the month. You are amazing! Take care.
Hey Suzanne, thank you so very much, I am already pretty overwhelmed by people's generosity and care, it really will make a difference to her. I'll be filming it all, ensuring that there are areas that she can manage herself and keep busy but I will also go back regularly to ensure the garden is maintained, I just wish I lived so much closer so that I could keep an eye on her. She does write to me and keep me updated but a lot of the emails are so frustrating, hearing what the neighbours have done'/said etc. A native hedge is something I'd really like to put in, just as privacy more than anything this time! I'd like bird feeders, the pond in for winter as they will surely visit her again and she worked so hard for so long to achieve a nature friendly garden. Thank you so much, very best wishes - Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton Just wish I could do more Joel! I will do another donation at the end of the month. So happy she is in good hands - i really feel for her.
You're a legend Joel. Shocking story about that tree lie! You can replace that cherry tree with something that goes better with a revamped pond so all's well that ends well
Thank you Bill, so very much. That's absolutely what I am going to do, and I have a friend that may be able to engrave a small plaque to go underneath in memory of her husband. I'll be ensuring that the garden is maintenance-friendly of course but at the same time giving this lady something to occupy her and keep her busy and anything that she can't cope with I'll ensure I'm around to help with maintenance. I really appreciate this Bill, best wishes - Joel
Bless your sweet heart, Joel.
Thank you Jess, so much - we're nearly half-way now and I'm determined to give this lady something to look forward to, not only over winter when she can attract a lot of bird friends and other critters, but for spring too when everything bursts back into life :) Best wishes, Joel
Sooo sorry wretched neighbors they obviously are ignorant of many things
I get paid tomorrow I will sort something out
You're already generous enough Kevin, but she will be so very grateful (as will I!) - am determined to give her the garden she deserves, a replacement tree planted in memory of her husband, bird feeders, a little seating area and leaving some of the garden easily manageable to give her something to occupy her, I'll also be returning to give regular maintenance to the pond etc and helping with anything else she struggles with. I really appreciate everything you do, best wishes - Joel
Great work!
What a great story did you make a after video
I might be able to donate some plants to her too 🤗🌱
Only this morning I was wondering about how things were for this dear lady you posted about a while back. So sorry to hear she has lost her husband so even more important you can sort out a new pond and a garden overhaul for her Joel.x💚
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Thank you Lyn, I'm absolutely determined to give her a garden that's relatively low maintenance, but also allow her to busy herself. She has spent a lot of years looking out for the wildlife but now it has just become too much. I will be providing regular maintenance when and if she needs help of course and will be planting a tree in memory of her husband, to replace the one the neighbours paid for her to have cut down - all that ivy lost on it too. I desperately want the birds and other creatures to find sanctuary alongside her :) Very best wishes, as always - Joel
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Hope all goes to plan Joel. You're a star!💚😍x
Your such a lovely person Joel, you inspire me with what you do. The world needs more people like you!
Thank you Andrew, so very much. There are so many other people willing to help, and I appreciate every single donation, as I am sure she will when I visit her and tell her that her dreams are closer and that there are a lot of people out there that want to help her. I can think of nothing worse than being penned in by neighbours and not wanting to go out, and having the garden to look out on that was once a dream. Am determined to give her respite and a new pond, and if I can raise enough money to do the whole garden I certainly will. I'll be filming everything so everyone can see where their generous and selfless donations go :) Best wishes, Joel
You're a good man, mate. I'll be donating. Having children and grandchildren is important, my grandparents would never be subjected to this kind of abuse, me and my siblings wouldn't stand for it not even a little.
Thank you, I really appreciate it, I can't wait to show this lady how many people care and wish her well. I wish this lady did have children and relatives a lot closer, and I wish I lived closer too, that's why this sanctuary for not only the creatures she cares about but her as well is so important. I am sure this will bring new hope and comfort and I'm very grateful to everyone. Very best wishes, Joel
made my tear up , bless your heart
Me too! I had met Mike, her husband a few times when he was already ill and to think that she then had to return to facing the neighbours alone has made me even more determined to give her a place of respite and sanctuary alongside the creatures that will certainly lift her spirits and give her something to look forward to in spring. Very best wishes, Joel
i shared it to my gardening communityi do hope the support is raised@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton
Joel why not reach out to the owner of the companies you already use their products and see if they’d donate either free materials or funds and promote their products.
This is a great idea!
Such a good idea!
Hi Maria, this is a great idea, I have already made a list of my suppliers that could certainly help or even make a real difference, I will be donating man-hours and some materials and of course trying to shift some other client works to get this done asap! Thanks so much, very best wishes - Joel
That’s 👍🏻 Joel. 😊
Thank you Janie, so much - best wishes, Joel
You are such a nice guy Joel. I wanted to cry too hearing all that. I really hope you would be able to change her backyard into a beautiful retreat where she can heal. Keep us updated.
Thank you Charlotte, I am not surprised that so many of my viewers have already donated and sent good wishes and I am determined to film everything from beginning to end and will of course go back to help with regular maintenance, but at the same time leave areas that are manageable easily for her to keep her occupied and of course to plant a replacement tree in memory of her husband. Will keep you all updated - best wishes, Joel
The tree is an awesome idea. (I just donated as well) 🙂
@@charlotteseden9303 Thank you Charlotte, so much, I'm pretty overwhelmed by everyone's selflessness and generosity and can't wait to show her that she really isn't alone. I'm determined to build a sanctuary not only for her but the little creatures she loves too :) Best wishes, Joel
Have just donated - great idea. This world needed some kindness and compassion. I hope you reach your target Joel.
Thank you Jane, so much. I'm so very grateful for everyone's support and am determined that this lady has something to keep her going and to remain positive dreaming of the explosion of life in spring, including a replacement tree in memory of her husband. There will be very grateful birds over the winter and I want to help encourage these visitors back, she has worked so hard over so many years to achieve a wildlife friendly garden and now everything just seems to have fallen apart, not aided by terrible neighbours of course. Best wishes, and thanks again - Joel
So sorry for her loss, amidst putting up with those horrible neighbors. Some people just make me want to tell them just what I think of them. I tried using paypal, it wouldn't go through, if you have a paypal account, I'd like to send it directly you, if possible.
Thank you Wende, so much. They didn't want me telling them what I thought of them, funnily enough, although seriously I did offer to go there and demonstrate exactly how the way this lady's garden has NO impact on their own. The aggression seems to have died down, but with the loss of her husband and her being on her own now (no children) I am determined to make this garden a respite over winter, so she can see the birds coming to the pond and feeders and look forward to a garden bursting with life again come spring. She has worked so hard over the years to provide a sanctuary for so many creatures and I'm determined to give her back everything she worked for. If you could drop me a line at enquiries@wildyourgarden.com I will give details on how to donate. It's not obligatory of course :) Very best wishes, Joel
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email sent, I included my name in the subject so you'd be sure it's me..Wende 😊
@@itsmewendeThank you Wende, so very much 💕
Wonderful gesture Joel!
I hope you reach your target.
So good to spread goodness and love in this world, that needs it so much atm.
Donated..
Thank you, sincerely, for this - I promise to keep everyone updated and to show the make-over process and building of this vital habitat. This lady has worked so hard over the years to enable a home for many creatures. I'm determined to get a tree planted in that garden to replace the one the neighbours made her take down, and plant it in memory of her husband. I can't wait to show her that she really is not alone :) Best wishes, Joel
Some people are just dreadful, what is wrong with them, poor lady, sending a fiver to the gofund me!
Thank you Jean, so much. I'll be filming this from beginning to end of course so everyone can see where their valuable donations go and what a difference to her life they will make. Very best wishes, Joel
Joel your lovely! She needs a break!
Thank you Maria, I will be keeping everyone updated with progress, I'm so overwhelmed by all the support. Best wishes, Joel
Money sent.
What a brilliant idea joel 🐸💚🐸
Thank you - will be keeping everyone updated. Quite overwhelmed by everyone's support and can't wait to share it with her. Best wishes, Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton that’s amazing brilliant Joel 🐸💚🐸
Good man, been an inspiration to get into the garden which has perked me up through a bit of a rough time and given me a sense of purpose. Lovely to be able to give something back to others through you. All the best from Wales 🐑
I'm really grateful for this Owen, having the benefit of working outside has helped me enormously, and it certainly puts things in perspective, being amongst nature and seeing the very grateful creatures benefitting from a correctly managed green space or garden. I'm determined to give this lady something easily manageable (I'll be going back to do regular maintenance for her too, but leaving the easier things to keep her occupied) and to give her back the creatures she'd catered for previously. I really want to get a mature tree specimen to replace that one that the neighbours had cut down, and to plant it in memory of her husband. I'll be sure to keep you all updated and of course film this from beginning to the very satisfying end :) Best wishes, and thank you - Joel
That's a sad story Joel, it's lovely that you're helping them...I hope the horrible neighbours don't cause any more issues. I really wish I could donate something, but I really can't afford it, been out of work for some years (not for the want of trying). I don't even give to charities now, have to cut right back. I hope you can raise the money for the nice lady though, very sad to hear about her husband and a new wildlife pond and garden sounds like a great idea. 🙂
Hey there, a donation isn't obligatory at all and I understand that not everyone can afford it, I am going to ensure that this lady sees all the kind messages too, that will mean a lot and allow her to see she really is not alone now :) Best wishes, Joel
that lady derseves a brand new cherry tree too , bless her and you i hope she gets all the help she needs , what gross behavior from nieghbours :(
That's exactly what I have planned :) Alongside many other features including some privacy and a place where she can share her time with very grateful creatures :) Best wishes, Joel
Imagine a bunch of "Karens" nextdoor 😢😢. Instead of helping or just plainly behaving, they are a pest. Stay strong! Condoleances for your husband 🙏
Exactly this Esther! I will be showing this lady the wonderful messages of support, as well as demonstrating how kind people are and that there are more kind people than not. Can't wait to make this special sanctuary for her and the creatures she worked so hard to provide habitat for. Best wishes, Joel
I don't know how much work taking care of a pond is -- but I hope whatever you do for her ends up being low-maintenance -- for an older widow who has predatory neighbors who are trying to shame her about her yard (really what psychos), something she can easily maintain seems like the best solution. If she gets a pond I'm sure they'll complain about that too, I hope she's getting it all on record w/her phone. I hope whatever she gets ends up being enjoyable & can bring her some peace and joy but also be sustainable. My mother is a widow who just turned 65 and still has to work to pay her bills and I can't believe how many rude comments she's gotten about her lawn being brown in the summer... It can be worse the nicer the neighborhood you live in too, because rich neighbors can be so entitled. They don't understand what it's like to have limited resources (money, energy/health and otherwise).
Thank you Hayley, it will be as low maintenance as possible, but at the same time I want to provide things that will also keep her busy, taking into account her abilities of course. I will be returning regularly to maintain the pond and any other areas that she may struggle with, but I want it to be a respite for her and something to view over the winter and see come to life again in spring. I'm providing constant support and advice, albeit remotely at the moment as we live so far from each other - but the neighbours seem to have calmed for now. So sorry to hear about your mum, really I am. Best wishes, Joel
This is really nice. I have often thought about how to add more nature ponds, because unless you are this chap Joel, you will run out of gardens. I myself have managed a paltry 3 before running out. And this appears to be a good way of getting more ponds in. Ideally, though, I would love to get access / permission to public land as private gardens do over time change hands and the fate of the pond wouldn't be guaranteed. I have even thought of approaching new build developments as the ones round here do seem to leave a token bit of greenery, but that would likely be a fools' errand.
I know exactly what you mean David! I've seen some ponds and "wildlife areas" put into new build developments that don't even meet 1% of the diversity that is lost and destroyed to build these homes. Trees planted incorrectly that look fine for a season and then just stand there as a dead-reminder of what was lost, ponds that are overgrown or completely dried out, or over-grown with non-native plants. It's all a sales technique usually and I am yet to witness a real change. 3 ponds isn't paltry, believe me! I fully appreciate how lucky I am to do this work, but it doesn't stop me being very envious of some people's gardens and wishing they were my own :) This lady deserves a beautiful garden again and the company of the creatures she gardened for over many years but has lost. Best wishes, Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton Well, crowdfunding this pond and perhaps others is a brilliant idea and I hope it can be built upon. Thinking out loud, perhaps there is a need for some kind of platform where people who want a pond / nature garden but can't do it (for various reasons) and a group of volunteers to do the hard work. Something along those lines.
Good on you Joel, keep up the good work 👏 💖
Thank you Elizabeth, I really appreciate this. I will keep you all updated and am determined that the creatures she cared for before will return and find sanctuary alongside her. Best wishes, Joel
I don't have much, but I gave what little I could towards the new pond - and I'm really pleased to see there are others who can donate much more than me. I really hope that you meet your target very soon.
I know exactly what it is like to have toxic neighbours, repeatedly - I'm sorry to say. (I moved away from one set of toxic neighbours and within a couple of years was bang next door to another that was even worse).
They can make life so stressful.
You did the right thing, Joel, telling your friend to get the police involved. A lot of bullies will continue harassing, getting more oppressive and threatening - until you call the police, and then they just back right off. It's what we did, and your friend has to pluck up the nerve to turn the tables on them. They start getting lippy - just turn round and ask if they want another visit from the police. They don't like that.
A nice new pond will please this lady, and it'll be great if this could be done this winter. I wish I still worked as a gardener down in London, I'd have helped out.
Thanks Debbie, so very much. It's exactly as you describe, it's quietened down a bit, but no doubt because this rather timid lady who is averse to confrontation has done what they have wanted so far. They even said they'd send someone round to assess her garden and the pond and she would have to pay for their time! I offered to go back round and speak to the neighbours but they refused this "help", no doubt because they wouldn't be able to argue or convince me that the pond and garden are causing their problems - it's a high water-table and they know this already. I'm gutted about the tree, so many birds used it, bees around the ivy flowers etc, now nothing. I'm really hoping I can not only get a replacement tree but also a native hedge in to try to give her some privacy, planted a suitable distance from the fence to allow maximum space but no one leaning over the fence and destroying it. I absolutely hate the idea of her being penned in in her own garden (you'll know this feeling no doubt) and am determined to give her a place of respite and memories and something to look forward to over the winter months, and to see the grateful birds and other creatures using it before it establishes in the spring. I really appreciate your help Debbie, thanks so much - very best wishes, Joel
What horrid horrid neighbours 😡
Absolutely this. I hate that I was unable to be there before they'd convinced her to pay for her own tree to be cut down, all that life and the ivy lost with it. The language they use is terrible, let alone to someone so vulnerable, but they're using her vulnerability to their own advantage for sure. Not only am I going to provide a place of respite and privacy, but I am going to ensure that they're put back in their place - very best wishes, Joel
Hi Joel. You are a great person. I dont use paypal or any other way to pay via internet. Is there another possibility to send you money for this Ladies pond? cordial regards, WH
Hi there, thank you SO much for this, I really do appreciate it - you can always drop me a line at enquiries@wildyourgarden.com and I can give you an alternative way to donate, every single penny goes directly to this lady, I will be providing the labour and expertise and going back to regularly maintain the garden and pond, but at the same time making areas that she will find easy to manage and keep her busy. I am just desperate to get her something for the winter so she can look forward to seeing everything develop and have something to keep her going so she can see it in spring. Lots of creatures will be grateful for it during winter and I hope the company of these will help her through and give her something to keep her occupied - I'll also try to install a wildlife friendly hedge, for privacy too! Best wishes, and thank you again - Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton I have written you an e-mail. Maybe for the coming winter you can install a feeding station for birds and squirrels on or near the porch so that the Lady can reach it in snow as well without dangering herself on slippery wood or stones. If possible out of the neighbors sight. cordial regards, WH
Hi Joel
Left a little something for this good cause. I tell you what.. good job I don’t know the neighbours as I’d be round having a serious word with them 😤
Thank you George, so much. Believe me, if I lived closer etc... I did offer to go there and show them exactly how this lady's garden is NOT affecting theirs, but that would have meant that they would have been proved wrong and unable to take advantage of her good nature further, so they refused - it seems to have died down a little at the moment, but I'm determined to give both her and nature some respite and sanctuary they can share together :) I think people don't realise about criminal damage, this can include even painting a neighbour's fence (your side!) without permission, apparently it's just the same as going out and painting their car. I'll be ensuring this knowledge is shared! Best wishes, Joel
@@WildYourGardenWithJoelAshton Joel did I hear correctly that this is in North London ? Breaks my heart in thinking what the poor lady is going through. And I dread to think if this had a baring on her late husbands passing with all that emotional bullying that the neighbours put them through 😔
Chipped in a small amount. Very sad to hear about her loss. If was still living in London I'd try and offer a hand.
She absolutely needs to keep a record of the neighbours behavior, along with the opinion/evidence over the cherry tree. I suspect the neighbours are just making cover stories to try and remove the tree. If they don't like it, they should not be lying or harassing her. If she is getting verbal abuse, she should record it. While you are technically supposed to disclose when you are recording for evidence, if they perjure themselves in court then covert recording can be allowed in some cases. The neighbours soumd like right jobsworth so and so's and need someone to stand up to them to put them in their place.
Hope you manage to create something nice for her in memory of her husband. I've been trying to slowly help improve the communal green spaces where I live. Many of the elderly residents have been delighted otherwise neglected space has got a new lease of life.
Absolutely this Jay, thank you. Even a small amount helps and I will ensure that this lady sees all the wonderful comments and support shown here. I am hoping that the garden can not only be a sanctuary for nature once more, but that she can also find sanctuary there too, alongside them :) Very best wishes, and thank you again - Joel
What about people that maybe willing to help with man hours for free ?
That's a great idea Gareth, I will have to take my own guys off jobs and of course pay them, even if it's travel etc but if there were people London based or able to help that would be such a benefit - I'll keep everyone up-to-date on this and of course be filming it from start to finish and hopefully her reaction when I show her what fantastic people she has behind her and willing to help make a difference. Very best wishes, and thanks - Joel
Just tried to donate but it wouldn’t let me. Apparently there’s an issue with non-UK donations. I’m wishing you and her all the best, though.
Hi there, thank you so much. I didn't realise that there would be a problem, I'll check on this but feel free to email me at enquiries@wildyourgarden.com and I could give bank details - all funds will go direct to this lady and if there is a surplus I am hoping she can buy a new bench or similar, maybe a tree in her husband's memory and definitely a tree similar to the one the neighbours got her to cut down :/ Very best wishes, Joel
Just donated. This is bullying! I’d bet this would be different if she had 6ft + sons. Disgraceful behaviour, but aside, hope you reach the 10K soon.
Absolutely this Lesley! Thank you, sincerely, for your donation, it really will make a difference to her and I am determined to make a place of respite for her. I will also be filming everything from start to finish and can't think of a more deserving person. The neighbours know how kind she is and take advantage of her good nature, I did offer to go round and explain to them that their complaints were unfounded, the water-table was the problem, not another garden but funnily enough they didn't want to know and told her that THEY would get someone round and she would have to pay! I stopped that. I wish I lived closer so I could keep a better eye on it but she writes to me regularly and I can't wait to see her face when I show her how many people care and that her garden will be restored to not only it's former glory but something she can manage easily herself, and of course I'll be going back to do any maintenance required on the pond. Very best wishes, and thanks again - Joel
Shocking comment from Linda,youre a disgrace,great idea Joel,lets help the lady
I knew there'd be a few James, I am not sure why people object to helping others, to making a difference or expect other people to do everything for free, whilst they make no donation at all, or indeed offer help. But, thankfully again there are way more people like you :) I really appreciate it James, and I'm determined to give this lady some respite, some hope over the lonely winter months and something to look forward to for spring - the birds using her pond during the winter will be reward enough I am sure, but I am determined to get a suitable tree planted in memory of her husband and to make it as easily manageable as possible, giving her something to occupy herself and of course I'll be there for regular ongoing maintenance and updates for you all :) Best wishes, Joel
Well i hope you helped her old should off done it for free
Thanks Dawn, I'm helping her right now, and have been with advice and help regarding the neighbours and advised on the best people she should contact regarding the harassment. I'm determined to give her a garden she deserves, I am donating some materials and my labour for free, I hope this helps you make a decision on whether to donate or not, however small the donation it really will do good. I will be keeping everyone up-to-date with this project hopefully and moving forward. Joel
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Thank you for this incredible generosity, I shall ensure this super-thanks goes straight to this lady and her new garden and pond. I'm so very grateful - best wishes, Joel
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Thank you Kevin, I am going to put this towards this lady's garden of course :) You're always incredibly generous and it never goes unnoticed. Very best wishes, Joel