Pregnancy + Birth Q&A - no ultrasounds, free birth, intimacy during pregnancy?

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  • Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
  • Join me as I honestly answer your questions about pregnancy and birth! From free birth, midwifery care, home birth, nutrition during pregnancy, sex during pregnancy, opting out of ultrasounds, to modern pregnancy culture VS ancient wisdom, and more!
    ** I am not a medical professional, these are simply my opinions - please consult your care team and inform yourself before making any health-related decisions :) **
    Thank you for watching angels!
    Resources Mentioned:
    My favorite birth vlog -
    • HOME BIRTH VLOG | *Raw...
    Documentaries -
    The Business of Birth
    Orgasmic Birth
    Nutrition -
    Trace Mineral Drops - rstyle.me/+yoM...
    Shilajit
    Seeking Health Optimal Prenatal
    Nettle + Raspberry Leaf tea (Mountain Rose Herbs)
    Books-
    Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
    Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin
    Orgasmic Birth by Elizabeth Davis
    Birthing From Within by Pam England
    Sacred Birthing by Sunni Karll
    Real Food For Pregnancy by Lily Nichols
    All of Peggy Vincent's books!
    IG accounts -
    / indiebirth
    / noellekovary - nutrition
    / lindseymeehleis
    / freebirthsociety
    / badassmotherbirther
    Free Birth Course - www.freebirths...
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  • @RohiniElyse
    @RohiniElyse  Год назад +16

    Mama’s and mama’s to be - I love you and I respect you greatly, regardless of how your birth story is written. Please know that I’m simply sharing my opinions and what feels good in my bones, PLEASE listen to your own inner wisdom and always always trust that voice over anyone else’s. I am no professional. I am a woman questioning this crazy wacky birth system in the US - big time. I’m seeking out another option outside of what I was taught, and that feels most empowering to me. I hope you do what feels most empowering for you - whether that’s birthing in a cave, a hospital, a friends house, a midwifery center, or on the kitchen floor! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rallyrally
    @rallyrally Год назад +55

    for anyone watching this, please know that it is possible to have a very calm, unmedicated, and empowering birth in hospital. That was exactly my experience in a canadian hospital with a midwife. The OB popper her head in to say hi, but I didnt have any issues so the entire birth was just with my midwife and a couple nurses. My midwife dimmed the lights, we put on calming music, I used the bath, medicine ball, peanut ball. But I also felt very safe having the equipment there to monitor baby's heartbeat. Also at the very end a respiratory specialist came in to check my baby because of a small complication that turned out to be totally fine, but again I felt good knowing that professional was in the building, even if they didn't have to do anything. Home births can be wonderful and empowering but it's also possible to have a beautiful hospital birth.

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +5

      Sooo beautiful!! Absolutely ❤️ That sounds like a wonderful experience. Every woman should have the option to birth where she feels most empowered with the support team that will help that vision come to life 🙏🏻

    • @BYSTUDIOKY
      @BYSTUDIOKY Год назад +2

      This was my experience as well!

    • @TheFabFarmer
      @TheFabFarmer 7 месяцев назад +1

      Also for anyone watching, it’s good to k ow that your chances of having a cesarian increase by 30% just by walking into a hospital during labor…also noteworthy is the infant and maternal mortality rate for the US medicalized birthing system.

  • @allnamesarechosen_
    @allnamesarechosen_ Год назад +80

    Just wanted to drop a comment to say that there's no scientific proof whatsoever or evidence of any kind regarding Ultrasound waves being traumatic for a fetus or a baby. Ultrasounds have been used for over 30 years with no known adverse effects, through them we can diagnose ectopic pregnancies or miscarriages which can happen to healthy uterus bearers no matter their age or overall health, or how much they trust in themselves, to monitor fetal growth and determine dates, to ascertain and confirm the position of the baby which is very important for vaginal births, but overall it is a magnificent piece of technology our ancestors didn't have to bring to life those we will love with the outmost care. I am here thanks to an ultrasound. You do you, but you still have a platform, let's not spread misinformation on the internet

    • @crarls27
      @crarls27 Год назад +19

      I personally cannot imagine forgoing ultrasounds - we are fortunate to live in a time when they exist. I was diagnosed with placenta previa via an ultrasound and would MUCH rather have that awareness than go blindly into a potentiality high-risk situation during labor. Modern technology is not without its faults, but I want my baby to be safe (and myself too!).

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +24

      Like I shared in this video, I wanted to explain what I’m doing that feels good for me personally - every woman is fully capable and empowered to make decisions that feel best for them. If someone feels intuitively that they don’t want to do an ultrasound, maybe it would be helpful to know that they are indeed optional. If someone feels strongly about getting ultrasounds, then this video may reinforce their decision seeing as they don’t agree with me. Sharing differing opinions is how we learn 🙏🏻 I fully trust that my audience can decide for themselves what to listen to and what to leave

    • @niematansolamenteazucaralg2259
      @niematansolamenteazucaralg2259 Год назад +14

      do you not hear how ditsy you sound???

    • @niematansolamenteazucaralg2259
      @niematansolamenteazucaralg2259 Год назад +18

      @@RohiniElyse let me guess you are also not going to vaccinate because it feels empowering and you feel strongly about it(??)

    • @allnamesarechosen_
      @allnamesarechosen_ Год назад

      @@niematansolamenteazucaralg2259 yeah, actually turns out she’s part of Aubrey Marcus’ cult “fit for service”. Apparently she’s being quite open about this on podcasts, is the usual anti vax ableist sexist kind of cult. 🫥

  • @laurenwood2156
    @laurenwood2156 Год назад +44

    So what about the many cases where birth does need to be "medicalized" in order to keep the mother and/or baby safe? Soooo bizzare when people say "this is a new practice going to the doctor for birth" as if that's a bad thing when the maternal and infant mortality rates have declined 95-99% since doctors were involved. Like birth wherever you want, but lets stop the false narrative that more "natural" equals better or safer for mother and baby.

    • @ilonadevries18
      @ilonadevries18 Год назад +3

      it does mean equal safety! Dont het me wrong its amazing that we have a medical system but if mother and baby are healthy, why would you give birth in a hospital? When there are things going on before hand then its definitly something to thinks about but so many healthy births are being “helped” by forcing all these extra things like ocytocin, to many vaginal check up, plating beloons etc. And dont get me started at inducing from 39 weeks on..

    • @crgreenfield7223
      @crgreenfield7223 Год назад +3

      Her midwives would have a connection with a local hospital. So if it is needed then she can be transferred. 🙏🏼

    • @abigailfraser6788
      @abigailfraser6788 Год назад +1

      95-99% LOL someone’s drank the koolaid and it’s you who is spreading misinformation
      The statical difference in the UK for hospital birth vs home birth is 0.4%
      She’s a smart women she knows the risks and I don’t blame her for her choice, she’s well informed and prepared.
      The US doesn’t realise that the rest of the world (Europe and Asia) 80% of babies are born by midwife In hospitals, birthing centres and at home. Doctors are usual present when there is something wrong or it’s a high risk pregnancy.

    • @holymudblood
      @holymudblood Год назад +3

      Completely agree! Also as someone who works in a Maternity Ward/L&D, I feel like people don’t realise how quickly things can go wrong during birth 😅 I respect everyone’s choice but for me, I want to be in a hospital 😂

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +5

      I hear you! From what I understand, one of the reasons the infant mortality rate has risen is due to the living/health conditions of the times as well. I always think about the show call the midwife, women were (and still are in some places) living and birthing in pretty upsetting conditions. There are plenty of studies that give the conclusion that a natural birth without interventions is safer for mother and baby, doesn’t mean it needs to be at home! The US has a very high infant mortality rate and maternal mortality rate during birth compared to other countries who don’t turn birthing in a hospital into a profit grab. It’s not the Mama’s, it’s the system. That’s what I’m trying to share and speak against because it’s super super messed up. I highly recommend the business of birth documentary if you are curious to learn more ❤️

  • @TaylorNoelS
    @TaylorNoelS Год назад +8

    I’d love for you to do a Q&A video with Sage about your baby and the birth! It would be interesting and encouraging to hear how he’s supporting you through your dreams of becoming a mother. I know it can be hard to “convince” some partners to go a more natural route, so I would love to hear his advice

  • @crgreenfield7223
    @crgreenfield7223 Год назад +12

    Thank you for sharing. I see a lot of myself in you when I was pregnant with my first. One suggestion I would have is to try and be aware of your ego’s attachment to certain outcomes with birth. I had a very challenging 3 day natural labour at home. My baby was posterior. Eventually I choose to transfer to hospital because I knew intuitively that my baby was stuck in a bad position. My homebirth midwives would have left me to continue labouring because there was no problem with heartbeat or anything. But I just knew intuitively that he was stuck in a bad position. He was delivered at the hospital via forceps. Which sounds terrible… but it actually was a very gentle forceps birth & he only had a small scratch on his face. I definitely needed the help. Anyway… I realized my ego had many many attachments to a natural birth. It was a good ego-death learning experience for me when I became a mother. And for the record my son is SO chilled out and aware. He is a reishi baby. Anyway… birth is crazy. 😅 I sincerely hope you get the birth of your dreams. But possibly also preparing mentally for different outcomes may be helpful?! 🙏🏼

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +3

      Thank you for this comment ❤️ Absolutely. There definitely is an attachment there because I want it so bad! And yet I know deeply I will be given the perfect lesson for me at the time, whatever that may be. Thank you for sharing your story and perspective 🙏🏻 sending love to you and your sweet Reishi babes!

    • @crgreenfield7223
      @crgreenfield7223 Год назад

      Thank you Rohini! Truly wishing you all the best! You are going to be an amazing mama 🤍🙏🏼👼

  • @alexathena568
    @alexathena568 Год назад +2

    Your comment about healing birth trauma in your lineage is so powerful and special. Birth can be such a sacred experience that I think we don’t recognize enough in modern society. Wishing you the very best in your labor!!
    I had a redemptive birth with my second after a very traumatic first birth and was able to have a peaceful, unmedicated, calm, yet FAST two hour birth and it was LIFE-CHANGING. Truly. Knowing your power and leaning into that will leave you shaped anew.

  • @nikolnikolova5934
    @nikolnikolova5934 Год назад +9

    Hey! I don’t mean to be rude or judgmental so plz don’t take it that way but do you regret your tattoos now with what you know about metal toxicity?

  • @kaitlananderson4302
    @kaitlananderson4302 10 месяцев назад +1

    It's so great to have a youtuber I can relate to in the way I think about natural childbirth and natural life in general. Please ignore the comments from the people who don not align with you.

  • @Kiara_Ann
    @Kiara_Ann 4 месяца назад

    Proud of you for doing what you know is best for you and baby. And for being an example for other women

  • @jasmiinelim
    @jasmiinelim 6 месяцев назад +8

    Coming back after hearing about what happened..my heart breaks for rohini 💔 however, i wonder if this vid had something to do with the tragedy 😔

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  5 месяцев назад +4

      It did not. I understand your intentions but reading this comment is very painful for me - we do not know why she passed away, it was sudden and most likely had something to do with her heart, but we won’t know for months until we receive the full autopsy back. I still stand 1000% behind my beliefs on natural birth, co-sleeping, baby wearing and all of it

    • @graceluke_
      @graceluke_ 5 месяцев назад +15

      It’s absolutely tragic a cardiac abnormality could have been caught earlier on…

    • @swtxtc03
      @swtxtc03 5 месяцев назад +13

      Yes, those ultrasounds and the 20 week anatomy scans are so important in detecting so many things. My cousin's baby had some sort of heart defect that was seen in the anatomy scan. He had to stay in the NICU and had surgery to fixed the heart defect. He just turned 3.

    • @friedsammy
      @friedsammy 5 месяцев назад

      This comment is so unbelievably cruel. It makes me so sad that a woman could say this to another woman. I urge you to practice empathy❤️❤️

    • @Livyer408
      @Livyer408 4 месяца назад +2

      This comment is so horrible. Sudden infant loss happens to babies no matter their birth, including those born in hospitals. It is cruel and evil to somehow place shame on Rohini for the loss of her own infant with zero evidence or knowledge of the situation.

  • @TaylorNoelS
    @TaylorNoelS Год назад +4

    Question about the ultrasounds! You said that there are women that get ultrasounds all the time and baby seems to be fine, but you’re choosing not to because ultrasounds could be traumatic. I’m curious in regard to the sound where you’re getting information about that? I’d like to look into it because it seems difficult to know if baby is not “fine” after the ultrasound. I’ve never heard this reasoning.
    It seems to me that it could be more of a personal thing that you don’t want to subject your baby loud noise, because surely there’s no evidence of a traumatized baby due to this?
    Truly just curious, I totally respect your decision!! I know you said you don’t easily spit facts, so it would be helpful to know where you’re reading about this.

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Such a great question, I appreciate how you worded this too 🙏🏻 I’m trying to remember where I first heard about it.. probably on Instagram if I’m being honest, and then the book sacred birthing by Sunni Karll touches on it too. Also the free/wild birthing community (again, on IG) advocates for no testing/no ultrasounds during pregnancy.
      But overall the reason I chose not to is because my intuition and guidance really didn’t feel it was necessary. I like the idea of a hands off pregnancy and birth! Even if ultrasounds have a subtle or small affect on the baby, I just don’t feel the need to do it.. going back to that “what would pregnancy and birth look like with gentleness and wholeness in mind” - reducing possible trauma from all angles, spiritual, emotional, etc .. even if it can’t be scientifically proven. I know quite a few mama’s who have gone the wild birth route and it’s been super inspiring for me - trusting the deep wisdom of the body and my inner knowing 🌟
      I’m sure when the time comes you’ll know what feels best for you ❤️

    • @maddieb579
      @maddieb579 10 месяцев назад +1

      The Book 'Gentle Birth Gentle Mothering' by Dr. Sarah Buckley has a whole chapter on the safety/risks of ultrasounds. We can only truly make an informed decision if we know the risks of Ultrasounds. :)

    • @TaylorNoelS
      @TaylorNoelS 10 месяцев назад

      thank you! @@maddieb579

  • @tmdelvecc
    @tmdelvecc Год назад +5

    I would have liked an unmedicated natural birth but found out my placenta still completely covers my cervix at 34 weeks. Natural birth would result in hemorrhaging and is potentially life threatening for both me and baby. If something like this were to happen to you, do your midwives have a plan for you? Just curious. I am really mourning being forced into a c section.

    • @tmdelvecc
      @tmdelvecc Год назад +1

      Also wanted to add that I am healthy, in my twenties and these placenta complications can happen to anyone. Might be worth checking once?

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +2

      Sending you love mama ❤️ I cannot imagine what this has been like for you.. I follow Delilah loepsky on RUclips and she had her placenta shift right at 39 weeks I believe and was able to have a natural labor after thinking she would need a c section. Maybe her recent videos can give you some peace or hope 🙏🏻
      We’re about 25 minutes away from a big hospital, so if need be I can be rushed there. Also my assistant midwife has been an ER nurse for 20 years, so I feel very held in her capable hands ❤️

    • @tmdelvecc
      @tmdelvecc Год назад +3

      @@RohiniElyse thanks for the reply! I have followed her last two pregnancies and fortunately her placenta was just low this time rather than completely covering the cervix. Anyway it just stung a little hearing you say you are healthy therefore nothing is going to go wrong. I sincerely hope you get the birth you hope for with no complications.

  • @edwardleecaliforniausa
    @edwardleecaliforniausa Год назад +1

    Good morning Rohini happy Wednesday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you and I enjoy your channel

  • @mosellehaney4269
    @mosellehaney4269 Год назад +1

    Loving your vids lately 🦋💗 sending you all the best

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +1

      Thank you love ❤️ same to you 🙏🏻

  • @luvnoh8
    @luvnoh8 Год назад

    Thank you for always sharing and being so honest! I've loved learning through your experience and taking notes for my future family

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +1

      Thank you for your kindness and support Angel ❤️ grateful for you

  • @dudatsimoes
    @dudatsimoes Год назад +1

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Ahh I’m so happy to hear this! Thank you angel 🫶🏼

  • @veeautumn888
    @veeautumn888 Год назад +1

    Will you be doing a baby item haul of everything you have for the babe? And like things you plan on using for postpartum journey for you and the little babe!!

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад +1

      Definitely! I think that would be so fun to share, especially once we’re a few months in and I can recommend certain items 🫶🏼

  • @classicalmloo1216
    @classicalmloo1216 11 месяцев назад +1

    We are so trained to think of history as a relic, backward even and stupid. We hear the horror stories if when things go wrong. But what about the quiet stoic women who didn’t get a page in a book. The herbalist, who healed her clans. But what if we look at history as a map and a guide, where we have been, where we want to go back to?
    Do your thing Rohini.

  • @forest-fairies
    @forest-fairies Год назад

    Blessings to you two and baby 🤍🌱

  • @Growbacktoyourroots9
    @Growbacktoyourroots9 7 месяцев назад +1

    If you had a midwife there, it is not a free birth. I thought the title of this video was a bit misleading.

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  7 месяцев назад

      Yes I know :) I was asked about free birth in the q&a and talked about it so that’s why it’s in the title. My actual birth vlog I titled home birth ❤️

  • @alisonheppermann431
    @alisonheppermann431 Год назад

    So wonderful for you to talk about this! People look at me like I’m crazy when they found out I was doing (planning another) a home birth. Research some statistics. Cascading interventions

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Yes 🙏🏻 it’s really shocking once you dive into it.. proud of you for choosing what feels best for you ❤️

  • @haileyyardley3118
    @haileyyardley3118 Год назад

    love you. thank u for sharing ❤

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Thanks for tuning in love 🥹❤️

  • @hannahkate2342
    @hannahkate2342 5 месяцев назад +1

    Bbs m9ve out of ultrasound and fetal waves they don't like them

  • @reedwinckler6346
    @reedwinckler6346 Год назад +1

    Not even pregnant but am 23 and know one day I will want to be -- this is the most helpful video I've seen regarding natural pregnancy and I have saved it (along with many of your others) for some guidance when the time comes. thank you ro and so happy for u ❤‍🩹

  • @travellingfemme
    @travellingfemme Год назад +1

    I haven’t watched your channel since you and Sage broke up and now y’all are back together, bought land, and are having a baby. Congrats!!! When did they get back together?

  • @delilahmertoglu
    @delilahmertoglu 10 месяцев назад

    I just found your RUclips channel and I absolutely love your calm, self-assured demeanor. It's so lovely to engage with content that resonates with you on the internet. I think you'll make a wonderful mom. You seem so ready for the transition from maiden to mother.

  • @maddiewilliams2783
    @maddiewilliams2783 Год назад +2

    I am loving this era for you and I can't wait to keep following along 💝 thanks for sharing with us

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Thank you love 🥹❤️ I’m grateful you’re tuning in to it all!

  • @carmelnoel5810
    @carmelnoel5810 Год назад +21

    I just want to hop in here and say if you’re a fellow c-section mama browsing these comments, you’re amazing, your birth story is beautiful in its own way & there is nothing lesser about taking that route- whether you choose it for yourself or not. You bore your baby & therefore birthed your baby.🤍

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Absolutely love ❤️ I know many of my dear friends who have had c sections and admire their strength and courage greatly

  • @CayleeMullins
    @CayleeMullins Год назад

    Working with The Farm must be a pleasure. I agree with so much of what you said!! Praying for a gentle & peaceful birth of you and baby 😌

    • @RohiniElyse
      @RohiniElyse  Год назад

      Thank you beautiful ❤️🌹🌟