I resonate so strongly with all of her HSP talks! It’s like listening to soothing music. I can’t go back, but I wish when I was a child someone had been able to nurture and reinforce my sensitivity as a good thing vs criticizing and invalidating my feelings to the point where I grew up doubting the validity of my feelings and how I saw the world around me.
I so identify with the question, "Am I on the right planet?" I have struggled for years thinking I just don't fit in with society. I'm one of those people who would go to work or a party and say something right out of left field and it's like the record player stops and scratches with everyone looking at me like I was on glue lol. I will definitely try to connect with more of my "kind"to reduce my anxiety thinking I am a leper so to speak.
The worst feeling in the world is when every detail you see that nobody else notices or cares about. Every question you ask because you're curious or you don't see the logic, while nobody cares and don't take you serious, or get annoyed even.
I so identify with this! But since they are who they are, just as I am who i am, it’s up to me to seek out other HSP’s with more similar ways of seeing the world we live in.
Is it weird to be highly sensitive but still prefer people to be frank and more upfront as opposed to tip-toeing around situations? I feel more hurt when I feel as though people have issues with me but just aren't saying anything. I just want to know, are you in or are you out so that I can deal with it and decide how I want to react.
That's why I always had more male friends than female friends. I had maybe a handful of female friends that where really chill tho. But guys tend to be more direct and practical about situations instead of emotional and indirect, and I like that.
It drives me up the wall because I keep looking for someway to fix the issue. But a lot of the time there is nothing that can be done. Or when I find out the time I put in wasn't worth it. Just tell me. Otherwise it'll be on my mind.
I related to this question so much. It can be so draining over analyzing a person and almost trying to read their mind by watching their expressions, tones of their voice and their actions. Especially once the thought inserts my mind I can't stop from over thinking and analyzing it until I find a solution.
Dr. Aron, you remind me so much of my late grandmother who passed away 20 years ago when I was just 14. I am highly sensitive and I suspect so was she. She was a nurse, a fierce activist, and would often cry when singing along to her favorite songs. I understand now why I felt this connection with her like she was the only person in my life who understood me. I often think that my life would have gone much better had she not died young (she would be 81 if alive today). I miss her all the time.
I am smitten with this research. It makes me almost want to return to the classroom to get certified as an HSP counselor, if such a thing exists. Thank you for all that you’ve done and continue to do. ❤️
It is so refreshing to feel so understood and know that I am NOT alone. This resonates with me so much! I am so grateful to have come across this information to learn more about myself and how many are like me.
The whole mirror thing, I hadn't really thought about that and my high sensitivity, but I lived in Thailand for two years and I went to the Norwegian community church there for 17 May (special day in Norway) I had just been in Thailand for about a year or so, I didn't miss home or anything, but when we started singing the National song, I started crying and I couldn't understand, because I wasn't sad, but the tears kept running and running. Later I understood that all these older people, that had been living in Thailand for years now, maybe haven't seen their grown up kids back home, maybe didn't even have anymore family back home and so on, I picked up their feelings and became their medium for this sorrow.
I had similar exp 9 times. In one group setting I kept calling my friend and telling her repeatedly I don't know why am I crying 😭 and these tears are not mine.
I did NOT know this about the bed/tent making! So funny. I always wondered why I preferred the 'mind reading' sympathetic just knowing thing with me. Wonderful to know this!
yes relatable! and my husband and I had to assemble a bed about a month ago and I kept telling him to stop ordering me around and hes like im just reading the directions. lol oh the struggle it all makes sense now.
I am glad Dr. Aron talked about being hardy....because I have used that word in my own frustration with my HSP. I never understood what was wrong, but I knew I wanted to be hardy like other people. It is difficult to accept that sometimes just "words" can sometimes cause such a major reaction within myself.
I learned so much in just a few hours by her about myself. Some I knew yet wanted to deny. But allowed my mind to open to it all in a way that I can accept and work on it. Thank you kindly for posting this for us. If you have anymore. Or recommendations for HSPs especially one with horrible childhood teens and young adult age I would love to learn more about it and myself. ❤️
I posted these videos for HSPs like you. You are quite welcome! If you search for my name on the RUclips website, you will find many HSP videos with both Dr.s Elaine Aron and Ted Zeff. Just scroll down. :-) Shari Dyer
Everything had a different prospective in my life when I discovered that most of my struggle to “fit” was due to being a HSPs. Since then, I am trying to find how could I “surf” the “waves” of my so called “different wire”, and I would like to share with you in particular one side of my life. I am deeply involved in and concerned about nature devastation and animal wellbeing: my pain for this sometimes reaches a point where I wish I could decrease the intensity, as if trying to reach for a handle to control it, or to completely stop the huge incoming stream … Most (not all) people are strongly concerned about human suffering and the unthinkable violence against humanity. MY QUESTION is whether HSPs can perceive, discern and make a difference between the suffering, violence and abuse against All SENTIENT BEINGS ON THE EARTH as opposed to those against HUMANITY (only). For me violence is violence, no matter who are the victims: different culture and tradition should not be the reasons (but they are most of the time) to justify the violence (e.g. the brutality of farming animals, foods like palm oil, among others, responsible for forest destruction and animal extinction and so on...). Could someone help me to understand where HSPs stand in the perception of this devastation of all sentient life forms? Is there any relation to this perception and being a HSP?
No one can answer for all HSPs. We are all individuals influenced by our past and how we deal with the world. But I, for one, am with you, although I do not feel the intensity you describe about the suffering of sentient beings and nature in general. It's just a constant ache. And while this virus is a scourge for many, the social distancing and closing down of so much of industry is allowing the earth to heal a bit. I admit to a deep pleasure in seeing crystal clear skies, fluffy clouds that it seems I can touch, and vibrant colors in the natural world around me.
i can tell you that being an HSP and an empath, i have been given info, or direction in which i was able to save the lives of a couple of children, due to following the feelings i was given, which lead me in an unbelievable encounter with destiny in which , my timing was perfect to be at the right place at the right time, over 400 km from where i would normally be
I'll tell you. i've always been an extrovert in THIS respect: i get more energized/uplifted when I'm with people, and I can get down when I'm alone. but I've always only ever had 1 or 2 close friendships with people i can process deeply with and this is where I don't relate to many extroverts (I'm in theatre--there are a lot of us). So when you discovered that approximately 30% of HSP's are extroverts, I was like, "Thank you!" and "Of course! I've been found!" There may be research on this already but I wonder where differences in HSP's who are identified as extroverts vs introverts lie? My sensitivities and awareness have always been with people rather than physical environment. It's part of why I'm a good actor. And I believe I am less bothered than my introvert friends by environmental overstimulation, although that's changing as I age. I don't enjoy parties--not b/c they are overstimulating, but because I can't have what I consider interesting, meaningful conversations at parties. Anyway, it was a relief to learn that a healthy proportion of HSP's are in fact extroverts. Some of us are not as superficial as we are sometimes assumed to be :)
Do you know it’s funny but that is exactly what I have fallen into as a HSP 41:00 about advising on different options for treatment. Throughout my own life, having suffered so much, you gather a huge amount of knowledge and can really advise on so many issues just because you know where to look! Love this thank you 🙏
this explains so much about myself!! I've been leaning towards becoming a one on one holistic coach for women with PCOS (also I have PCOS myself), which makes so much sense as to why I am gravitating towards that. I am lacking some confidence but sounds like its my calling now and I have the traits to be great at it :)
Love your lectures on HSP's. Thanks.A friend of mum's , an English teacher, described that her brain is the human computer she makes use of, instead of artificial intelligence . This being the message paraphrased .
The comment on sensitive people getting more bored in relationships is so accurate. I’ve been thinking I had BPD for over two years (undiagnosed) but after getting into therapy and being shown HSP information (along with some other clinical diagnoses info) it really seems like this might be what is actually happening.
You open the door to contemplation on sensitivity. How can you judge sensation from the Array of circumstances creating individual's ?. How can any thinking person understand the deep?
I think another gendered observation - that could be associated with women - is that "deep processing" makes us appear very smart, a thing that is not very accepted and makes life harder, in exactly the same way high sensitivity and tapping into emotions are affecting men. If for them is not ok to show emotion, for us is not ok to show brilliance which often comes from HSP trait, because we are capable of making unusual and interesting connections. As HSP women, we are too, affected in a gendered way...
I take life as it occurs. Something good can't suddenly turn rotten. So true words. Much love n appreciation💭💛💜 A human brain is supreme to a smartphone.
“Attachment is different from love. [...] Love, I think, is when you’re attracted to the other person in some way - I want to be around you, I want to know a lot about you, I want to know what your day was like, I want to know what you’re thinking. I want to know all about you. And I want to help you as much as I can.” (44:30)
What about if ur in love (I'm a HSP) and in a relationship with a man who has social anxiety? I wonder if that's y I'm ok with him not wanting to go anywhere lol. And u hit the nail on the head with becoming bored bc the conversations aren't very deep, but he deals with it great so far. He listens to me and answers my questions and even asks me sum too. I'm 47 and this is the first time that I've ever felt sexually compatible with my partner. Thank u so much!!
Hello Nicole, Elaine doesn't monitor these posts, but she has writing a book called "The Highly SensitivePerson In Love", and soon a movie called Sensitive And In Love will be out. Here is a link to the books - hsperson.com/books/. I hope this helps. Best wishes!
No entiendo bien inglés pero gracias por este material, aprendo a salir del trauma de los transtornados. Hoy entro en contacto con mi niña interna para reconciliarme con ella Thanks for this video, i no understand much English but thak. Today un to contact whit mi litle girl for Say: i'm sorry for i Alone You.
I think there are many different types of 'narcissists'. Some are raised by a highly caring mother, but the genetics of narcissism still show through in their personality (from the fathers side for example)
Our frontman talks about your book all the time. He is an introverted, musical freak,creative mastermind, that yells up on a stage, how can he be HSP, he always have issues with people n wear earbuds after shows...Band is called GORDON GAZELLA
When you own what you do not feel familiar with ,possibly sharing it with an audience the problem no longer is tangibly difficult. I am not sure if I have expressed this correctly? Thanks. We excel. Love. I agree with you.
In my opinion, the most interesting part of this video is at 17:06 where she talks about a researcher that concluded that the HSP trait is a category and not a dimension. This is intriguing because usually in psychology we use categories when classifying personality disorders, which are qualitative differences in behavior that really make people stand out from the average person. I am very curious as to what are the implications of the fact that the HSP trait is a category. Do people that are HSP really stand out in the same way that for example, someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder does? I'm also a bit skeptical about the claim that the HSP trait is a category.
I emailed Elaine in regards to your comment. Here is her reply: Funnily enough, I was just working on this part of the new Author's Note for the 25th Edition of the HSP Book! Answer to the Q, in a Although I said in this book that usually you are either highly sensitive or not, I had no direct evidence for that point. I assumed it because Jerome Kagan of Harvard found it true for the trait of inhibitedness in children, and that seemed to be an understandable misnomer for sensitivity, given that it was based on observing children who do not rush into a room full of complicated, strange toys, but pause to look at it first. But many scientists thought sensitivity must be more like height, with most people in the middle, not a distinct category, like apples and oranges. For a doctoral thesis at the University of Bielefeld in Germany, Franziska Borries did a particular statistical analysis that allows distinguishing between categories and dimensions. In a study of over nine hundred people who took the HSP Scale, she found that being highly sensitive is indeed a category, not a dimension. Mostly you either are or you are not. Research continues on the question, however. Another study did not find two groups[EA1] . Ah, science! Two other studies of this question, using a different method, found three groups that are somewhat distinct-those who are highly sensitive, very roughly 20% to 35%; a medium group, maybe 40 to 47%; and low, 25 to 35%. But it’s difficult to know the exact percentage of HSPs in any given population, as there will always be reasons why there might be more or less in a particular population studied. For example, many studies use psychology majors as subjects, but more of these may be highly sensitive. Plus, a test is not the trait but a rough measure of it. Some people will score in the middle for reasons unrelated to their actual sensitivity level. For example, some people just rate everything lower or higher than others, or maybe they were distracted that day, or whatever. Also, men tend to score slightly lower on the HSP Scale, even though there is reason to think that there are just as many males born with the trait. Somehow taking the test seems to affect men differently, probably depending on the culture they are in. [EA1]I think I provided a reference for this but did not make it yellow to indicate what line to put with it.
@@Shari225Thanks for responding to my post. Also sorry for this post because it is kind of long. I just love psychology. Inhibitedness seems to be similar to sensitivity, although I don’t know too much about inhibitidness. Has inhibitedness been studied enough for it to be considered close enough to sensitivity? I haven’t read any of Elaine Aron’s books, just heard the three talks on RUclips so this might have been discussed in one of her books, but maybe the HSP trait should be looked at scientifically as well as psychologically as well as from as many perspectives as possible, to see where the scientists who think HSP is a dimension are coming from as well as to see other people’s views on the trait. For example, look to see what Eastern thinker’s opinion on the HSP trait is. In my opinion, an eclectic approach to knowledge is usually the best way to go. Also, the category vs dimension issue seems like it is a matter of subjectivity. What did Elaine Aron mean when she said “mostly you either or you are not sensitive”. Furthermore, one perspective one could use to determine whether HSP is a category or not might be to do a longitudinal study in HSP’s keep diaries of their life experiences from a child all the way to adulthood, and see if there experiences seem to be unique enough. I know it’s more subjective and less scientific, but it might be a useful angle to approach the question of whether sensitivity is a category or a dimension. A drawback would be that, according to what Elaine Aron said in her video, other traits interact with sensitivity to affect how sensitivity manifests itself in different sensitive people. I mention this because I tend to prefer field research as opposed to lab research. I understand what you mean in the second paragraph. As a college undergraduate, I majored in psychology so I know all about confounding variables. They are hard to completely control for, especially in psychology where you are dealing with traits which are abstractions, and which have various correlations with other traits.
I’m pretty sure it’s HPS I have. In middle school I was overlooked. Our play was given a small part. I was so scared for weeks leading up to it. When I was onstage I got into the role and was awarded best actor. My sister even said wow you looked real in your part. Nobody understood the potential.
If I was anymore sensitive I would be an animal, seriously.... I bought a van an left my Apt behind 2 go live in the desert and or forest....how can I forget my lousey childhood, I remember everything....as well as I remember 9-11
To answer the soul energy being more powerful, no. We are all equal in value and truly all one, but we experience life differently. In no way are HSPs superior. Different, but not more powerful soul wise. You can cause a war with that thought, I am glad she brushed it aside. It’s borderline egotistical not in a bad way, but it lacks a sense of spiritual unity consciousness. The non sensitives tend to feel superior over sensitive because the world has seen them as meek, but HSPs should not go that same route but try to find the connection while celebrating differences. My non HSP sensitive husband is very powerful spiritually, and so are your non HSP friends too. That question can be answered with more deep reflection.
Very true. I don't like that mentality at all. Comparing humans in value just by picking one quality and judge a person in one particular situation. Everyone has the same value but we shouldn't judge a fish by its ability to climb trees.
When it comes to non-sexual intimacy or afterwork downtime for a HSP. I am curious if there has been much research into a mild form of 'little space' It's from a form of fetish LG/CG (little girl/caregiver) yet more about the soothing euphoria of the soul returning to an 'innocent space', with age regression acting. Partner puts on PG Disney type movie (No meaness/horror/controversial undertones), adult colouring therapy book, brushing hair, sooth voice, hugs with no agenda, hair brushing, pancakes for breakfast. Placing oneself into a 'space' of soul protection that the partner facilitates for you. No, sex/weird dress up is not part of it for 90% of people who do this. It can help a non-sensitive partner become mindful of the innocent environment we sometimes need.
It resonates so much but there are some misrepresentation of personality concepts that are being linked to HSP mistakenly. Disagreeable people can also be HSP.
I'm still trying to figure out if I am HSP or autistic, I was diagnosed with autism and Generalized Anxiety at 16. I am dealing with symptoms related to Autism and seem HSP like as well that make it very hard for me to work my current job, I was getting so overstimulated last shift that I had to leave early because I was extremely dizzy and forgetting things constantly.
No it isnt, and that is very much an opinion bc it not only lacks experience, but the fact of the matter is that autism is responsible for the majority of the technological advances you enjoy using in your daily life. It's an increased sensitivity, paired w a different way of thinking and experiencing the world. Being so sensitive only becomes such a problem in a backwards, toxic world, which is why you're under the impression autism is a negative thing. Toxicity and chronic illness are the culprit of the "negativity" you're talking about, not autism itself.
What's the difference between being "sensitive" and being "HSP"? Calling yourself HSP gives you a medicalised category to hang onto, a bigger sense of entitlement and another identity to hang onto one's sense of self in our individualistic culture. The lecturer does not seem to understand autism from what she explains in this talk. Autistic people have a normal exprience of mirror empathy (feeling what another person is feeling) but struggle with cognitive empathy (thinking in the way another person thinks.) Non-autistic people seem to have an automatic social capacity to think in the way others think, while autistic people have to develop this skill by observation, trial and error. In order to succeed in this task, we rely on our intelligence. So an exceptionally intelligent autistic person will have an easier time thinking in the way others think compared to an autistic person with low intelligence, as the skill of thinking in the way others think can be developed, especially if this is important to the autistic person, and moreso as they age and have time to practice. The diagnostic criteria for autism is much more robust compared to the diagnostic criteria for HSP and therefore more likely to give you real insights into your strengths and difficulties. If you're diagnosed with autism, you will have many common needs and interests with others who have the same diagnosis. Meanwhile the diagnostic criteria for HSP will have you lumped in with people who consider everyone around them to be abusive and narcissistic and with people who latch onto the HSP label in order to feed into this perception that everyone around them "just doesn't get it." Have a look at this comment section for many examples of this attitude. Of course some people are more or less sensitive than others. Some people are mostly sensitive to themselves while others are more caring and more motivated to see others as they are. I think we have all had experiences with people who consider themselves highly sensitive and caring, who nonetheless rely on projecting their own cognitive perceptions onto the other person in order to feel like they understand them. For example they see you feel sad and project their own cognitive interpretation onto you, as an explanation for why you feel bad. If they share their interpretation with you, and you object to their interpretation, they continue to use the lens of their own cognitive projection in order to understand your objection. I think this is part of why many people, autistic and non-autistic, end up feeling misunderstood and invisible amidst these theatrics of interaction. Sometimes those who conduct themselves in the world as if they can read minds, seem to consider their own emotional presence and their own powers of observation as sacred, so they can't even imagine they fail to understand other people. This lecturer asserts that "you either are HSP or you aren't" and attempts to use statistical analysis and brain scans analysis in order to justify this assertion. Such analyses are highly subject to bias, in particular in the social sciences, where too often the data on its own is meaningless, yet the researcher is convinced it's meaningful because of the narrative they're following, and so the data is manipulated to fit into the conclusions. The only diagnostic criteria employed by the lecturer seems to be a self-assessment questionnaire, comprised entirely of leading questons, which rely on the person's assessment of how their experience compares to their subjective understanding of what should be the norm.
I cannot tease out your symptoms to help clarify things, but I do sympathize with your work predicament. Today's workplace pressures can be trying for non-HSPs, let alone others. It's important to appreciate this, even if you have some issues that may predispose you to overstimulation.
The answer to the question about narcissistic people was either too clinical or too vague = not very helpful! I'm an HSP and I dont feel that question was adequately answered. Also cranio-sacral helps HSPs
I was in love with an avoidant narcissist with high sensitivity also. I needed to learn attachment theory to understand him and also me, and go out from that relationship. In my opinion she is saying that we should educate ourselves on the matter and that it is a complex answer to this question. I recommend Kraig Kenneth's channel.
"And I think it's so much harder for men to be among non-sensitive men." Me: * eyes my big brother at the corner of our room who just doesn't get it. * As a male HSP, and the black sheep in the family.. ooof the evil things I want do I just wanna become as narcissistic as these people but I cant mannn I cant.
I've not had the best luck with online HSP groups. The leader of one admits that he does drugs, while the other was plagued by infighting. Thanks for the link, and helping me to keep hope alive.
The answers could have been little better. I feel the questions were quite good, but a therapist would have been able to answer them better and also more specifically.
There's intuiting and there's mind reading. Guys on various levels can pick up on ques from women, but we can't open your mind up and sift through it like so many of you desire. We're not gods and you should be thankful to be with a guy that can pick up on a mood and openly ask what's wrong rarher than say he should know already. Meet us in the middle.
I can feel a lot but I can't read minds. No one can. Reading minds is just assuming. I don't like to assume. I'd like to communicate. I know when something is wrong. If something is wrong I would like to talk about it. I can't read your mind, that's too easy for you to expect. It's you trying to avoid a difficult conversation...
Well, she talked about Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Non-Sensitive People, but surely there's a group that lies between the two, a group of Sensitive People, but not Hyper-Sensitive.
The four aspects of High Sensitivity are 1.) Depth of Processing, 2.) Overstimulation, 3.) Empathy and 4.) Sensitivity to Subtleties, Certainly there are people who empathy who are not Highly Sensitive. The same with the other three aspects. It is the combination of all four that defines High Sensitivity. And with that in mind, either you are, or you are not.
Thanks Shari for clarifying it, with those four sensitivity factors. By the way, my HSP Self-Test results, on Elaine's Website, did place me in the HSP category, and a few extra points above the line. But, Meyers Briggs Tests score me in borderline area between an extrovert and introvert.
It depends on the person and how she or he deals with being an HSP. Remember, there are three good assets (empathy, depth of processing and sensitivity to subtleties) and only one that can be a problem (overstimulation).@@srujithsunny6022
Thing is, we are not the push-overs people think, we are just aware of the energy around us and it effects us much more... We develop different ways to handle it... In general I would say we are super diplomatic but we can also since when there is no other way but pure conflict...
Narcissists are usually indistinguishable in public. It isnt until entering a relationship with one that you experience that side of them. When an HSP leaves a narcissitic relationship, they learn how to recognize narcissism. With this experience, these HSPs can see the trait from a distance. So they get called out on the manipulation they do. That's how they get "knocked down" off of their superiority pedestal.
@@aeilorux7056 that or you grow up around them and pick up their vibe. The sad thijg for me is running into one that doesn't give me that "off" feeling; there's still a good person in them lost and caught up in the damage they've suffered in childhood. I used to think all of them were worthless trash, but since running into some of those types I pity them and hope there's hope some can actually be helped and are willing to change.
I dare the villains by stating that apart from the physical violation which is cruel, i have the most sound mind we can think of. Sick ppl need help, the talented are able to cope on their own. Thanks.
I resonate so strongly with all of her HSP talks! It’s like listening to soothing music. I can’t go back, but I wish when I was a child someone had been able to nurture and reinforce my sensitivity as a good thing vs criticizing and invalidating my feelings to the point where I grew up doubting the validity of my feelings and how I saw the world around me.
Same here
I so identify with the question, "Am I on the right planet?" I have struggled for years thinking I just don't fit in with society. I'm one of those people who would go to work or a party and say something right out of left field and it's like the record player stops and scratches with everyone looking at me like I was on glue lol. I will definitely try to connect with more of my "kind"to reduce my anxiety thinking I am a leper so to speak.
Kat L oh I totally related. It makes me so self conscious because sometimes I say things or answer questions in a way that is not "normal"
this is so accurate.
Yup same here
The worst feeling in the world is when every detail you see that nobody else notices or cares about. Every question you ask because you're curious or you don't see the logic, while nobody cares and don't take you serious, or get annoyed even.
100% this.
I so identify with this! But since they are who they are, just as I am who i am, it’s up to me to seek out other HSP’s with more similar ways of seeing the world we live in.
I feel you!! 😅
You can say that again!
Yes!
Is it weird to be highly sensitive but still prefer people to be frank and more upfront as opposed to tip-toeing around situations? I feel more hurt when I feel as though people have issues with me but just aren't saying anything. I just want to know, are you in or are you out so that I can deal with it and decide how I want to react.
That's why I always had more male friends than female friends. I had maybe a handful of female friends that where really chill tho. But guys tend to be more direct and practical about situations instead of emotional and indirect, and I like that.
It drives me up the wall because I keep looking for someway to fix the issue. But a lot of the time there is nothing that can be done. Or when I find out the time I put in wasn't worth it. Just tell me. Otherwise it'll be on my mind.
@@338holly Exactly. It's quite frustrating and draining.
I related to this question so much. It can be so draining over analyzing a person and almost trying to read their mind by watching their expressions, tones of their voice and their actions. Especially once the thought inserts my mind I can't stop from over thinking and analyzing it until I find a solution.
ashleymo I am realizing over analyzing other people gets me nowhere 🤦🏻♀️
Dr. Aron, you remind me so much of my late grandmother who passed away 20 years ago when I was just 14. I am highly sensitive and I suspect so was she. She was a nurse, a fierce activist, and would often cry when singing along to her favorite songs. I understand now why I felt this connection with her like she was the only person in my life who understood me. I often think that my life would have gone much better had she not died young (she would be 81 if alive today). I miss her all the time.
Why such an alienating title?
I am smitten with this research. It makes me almost want to return to the classroom to get certified as an HSP counselor, if such a thing exists. Thank you for all that you’ve done and continue to do. ❤️
You're most welcome! I'm sure I speak for Elaine too. I'll email her about your wish to be an HSP counselor. I think that's a great idea.
Me too! Great idea
"Priestly advisor to a warrior king... " Wow, if that doesn't describe big portions of my life. Looking to be my own warrior queen at this point.
It is so refreshing to feel so understood and know that I am NOT alone. This resonates with me so much! I am so grateful to have come across this information to learn more about myself and how many are like me.
Such a beautiful intelligent woman. Thank you for this !
The whole mirror thing, I hadn't really thought about that and my high sensitivity, but I lived in Thailand for two years and I went to the Norwegian community church there for 17 May (special day in Norway)
I had just been in Thailand for about a year or so, I didn't miss home or anything, but when we started singing the National song, I started crying and I couldn't understand, because I wasn't sad, but the tears kept running and running.
Later I understood that all these older people, that had been living in Thailand for years now, maybe haven't seen their grown up kids back home, maybe didn't even have anymore family back home and so on, I picked up their feelings and became their medium for this sorrow.
I had similar exp 9 times. In one group setting I kept calling my friend and telling her repeatedly I don't know why am I crying 😭 and these tears are not mine.
I did NOT know this about the bed/tent making! So funny. I always wondered why I preferred the 'mind reading' sympathetic just knowing thing with me. Wonderful to know this!
I'll
yes relatable! and my husband and I had to assemble a bed about a month ago and I kept telling him to stop ordering me around and hes like im just reading the directions. lol oh the struggle it all makes sense now.
I am glad Dr. Aron talked about being hardy....because I have used that word in my own frustration with my HSP. I never understood what was wrong, but I knew I wanted to be hardy like other people. It is difficult to accept that sometimes just "words" can sometimes cause such a major reaction within myself.
I learned so much in just a few hours by her about myself. Some I knew yet wanted to deny. But allowed my mind to open to it all in a way that I can accept and work on it. Thank you kindly for posting this for us. If you have anymore. Or recommendations for HSPs especially one with horrible childhood teens and young adult age I would love to learn more about it and myself. ❤️
I posted these videos for HSPs like you. You are quite welcome! If you search for my name on the RUclips website, you will find many HSP videos with both Dr.s Elaine Aron and Ted Zeff. Just scroll down. :-) Shari Dyer
Everything had a different prospective in my life when I discovered that most of my struggle to “fit” was due to being a HSPs.
Since then, I am trying to find how could I “surf” the “waves” of my so called “different wire”, and I would like to share with you in particular one side of my life. I am deeply involved in and concerned about nature devastation and animal wellbeing: my pain for this sometimes reaches a point where I wish I could decrease the intensity, as if trying to reach for a handle to control it, or to completely stop the huge incoming stream …
Most (not all) people are strongly concerned about human suffering and the unthinkable violence against humanity.
MY QUESTION is whether HSPs can perceive, discern and make a difference between the suffering, violence and abuse against All SENTIENT BEINGS ON THE EARTH as opposed to those against HUMANITY (only).
For me violence is violence, no matter who are the victims: different culture and tradition should not be the reasons (but they are most of the time) to justify the violence (e.g. the brutality of farming animals, foods like palm oil, among others, responsible for forest destruction and animal extinction and so on...).
Could someone help me to understand where HSPs stand in the perception of this devastation of all sentient life forms?
Is there any relation to this perception and being a HSP?
No one can answer for all HSPs. We are all individuals influenced by our past and how we deal with the world. But I, for one, am with you, although I do not feel the intensity you describe about the suffering of sentient beings and nature in general. It's just a constant ache. And while this virus is a scourge for many, the social distancing and closing down of so much of industry is allowing the earth to heal a bit. I admit to a deep pleasure in seeing crystal clear skies, fluffy clouds that it seems I can touch, and vibrant colors in the natural world around me.
@@sharidyer4332 thank you Shari
Putting up a tent together, and WALL PAPERING A BATHROOM together, are both excellent tests of a marriage.
i can tell you that being an HSP and an empath, i have been given info, or direction in which i was able to save the lives of a couple of children, due to following the feelings i was given, which lead me in an unbelievable encounter with destiny in which , my timing was perfect to be at the right place at the right time, over 400 km from where i would normally be
I'll tell you. i've always been an extrovert in THIS respect: i get more energized/uplifted when I'm with people, and I can get down when I'm alone. but I've always only ever had 1 or 2 close friendships with people i can process deeply with and this is where I don't relate to many extroverts (I'm in theatre--there are a lot of us). So when you discovered that approximately 30% of HSP's are extroverts, I was like, "Thank you!" and "Of course! I've been found!" There may be research on this already but I wonder where differences in HSP's who are identified as extroverts vs introverts lie? My sensitivities and awareness have always been with people rather than physical environment. It's part of why I'm a good actor. And I believe I am less bothered than my introvert friends by environmental overstimulation, although that's changing as I age. I don't enjoy parties--not b/c they are overstimulating, but because I can't have what I consider interesting, meaningful conversations at parties. Anyway, it was a relief to learn that a healthy proportion of HSP's are in fact extroverts. Some of us are not as superficial as we are sometimes assumed to be :)
I'm one too. Welcome!
Do you know it’s funny but that is exactly what I have fallen into as a HSP 41:00 about advising on different options for treatment. Throughout my own life, having suffered so much, you gather a huge amount of knowledge and can really advise on so many issues just because you know where to look! Love this thank you 🙏
this explains so much about myself!! I've been leaning towards becoming a one on one holistic coach for women with PCOS (also I have PCOS myself), which makes so much sense as to why I am gravitating towards that. I am lacking some confidence but sounds like its my calling now and I have the traits to be great at it :)
Such a soothing voice. Thanks. I wish you posted more frequently tho. Happy content that’s down to earth yet lofty.
I agree.
Omgoodness I was just about to comment the same thing and this was the first comment I saw lol.
I am a HSP but I am quite blunt. People don’t like it, I don’t care!
So true. But to bad that most people will go "What are you?"
Love your lectures on HSP's. Thanks.A friend of mum's , an English teacher, described that her brain is the human computer she makes use of, instead of artificial intelligence . This being the message paraphrased .
There must be degrees to sensitivity, especially since we're spiritually awakening and becoming even more sensitive as we unlock our DNA
The comment on sensitive people getting more bored in relationships is so accurate. I’ve been thinking I had BPD for over two years (undiagnosed) but after getting into therapy and being shown HSP information (along with some other clinical diagnoses info) it really seems like this might be what is actually happening.
Thank you for this gift
Thank u. Much love outta China.
You open the door to contemplation on sensitivity.
How can you judge sensation from the Array of circumstances creating individual's ?.
How can any thinking person understand the deep?
Very thoughtful and insightful answer to the narcissist question.
Sensitive ppl are gifted through their special traits. I agree with explaining love in 5 minutes. So right. Complexes . I am not jealous, though. Thx.
I think another gendered observation - that could be associated with women - is that "deep processing" makes us appear very smart, a thing that is not very accepted and makes life harder, in exactly the same way high sensitivity and tapping into emotions are affecting men. If for them is not ok to show emotion, for us is not ok to show brilliance which often comes from HSP trait, because we are capable of making unusual and interesting connections. As HSP women, we are too, affected in a gendered way...
So true.
The word your looking for is Sex not gender. Gender is just made up terminology.
That's interesting. What makes you think it's not safe for women to demonstrate brilliance?
@@SisypheanRoller Experience and observing, I guess...
Thank you so much Dr Aron.
I take life as it occurs. Something good can't suddenly turn rotten. So true words. Much love n appreciation💭💛💜
A human brain is supreme to a smartphone.
The remote relationship is such a good idea. All of this fits in perfectly. Thanks my daughter is.
At 14:55 She has just demonstrate her highly sensitive personality lol. She couldn't bear to not answer the question.
totally
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“Attachment is different from love. [...] Love, I think, is when you’re attracted to the other person in some way - I want to be around you, I want to know a lot about you, I want to know what your day was like, I want to know what you’re thinking. I want to know all about you. And I want to help you as much as I can.” (44:30)
Thank you Dr Aron 🙏
What about if ur in love (I'm a HSP) and in a relationship with a man who has social anxiety? I wonder if that's y I'm ok with him not wanting to go anywhere lol. And u hit the nail on the head with becoming bored bc the conversations aren't very deep, but he deals with it great so far. He listens to me and answers my questions and even asks me sum too. I'm 47 and this is the first time that I've ever felt sexually compatible with my partner. Thank u so much!!
Hello Nicole, Elaine doesn't monitor these posts, but she has writing a book called "The Highly SensitivePerson In Love", and soon a movie called Sensitive And In Love will be out. Here is a link to the books - hsperson.com/books/. I hope this helps. Best wishes!
No entiendo bien inglés pero gracias por este material, aprendo a salir del trauma de los transtornados.
Hoy entro en contacto con mi niña interna para reconciliarme con ella
Thanks for this video, i no understand much English but thak. Today un to contact whit mi litle girl for Say: i'm sorry for i Alone You.
Te agradezco que contactes con tu niño interior. Yo también lo he hecho. ¡Bien por usted! ¡Se pone mejor, créeme!
@@Shari225 Gracias por responder. Estoy en tratamiento, en recuperación Pero sola no, tengo ayuda y estos vídeos que vuelvo a ver me sirven bastante.
I think there are many different types of 'narcissists'. Some are raised by a highly caring mother, but the genetics of narcissism still show through in their personality (from the fathers side for example)
Thanks again.... so true.
Thank you 💕🙏💕
Our frontman talks about your book all the time. He is an introverted, musical freak,creative mastermind, that yells up on a stage, how can he be HSP, he always have issues with people n wear earbuds after shows...Band is called GORDON GAZELLA
Sounds like overcompensation to me.
I wouldn't trade anything about being an empath.
This is what I need the most. I highly appreciate . TY.
Thanks.
Love this... I do it my way. True words
Haha yes! Every marital fight seems to happen at night right before sleeping at like 1-2 am... 😖
Thank you very much
When you own what you do not feel familiar with ,possibly sharing it with an audience the problem no longer is tangibly difficult. I am not sure if I have expressed this correctly? Thanks. We excel. Love. I agree with you.
25:00 Meditation, EFT, etc.
In my opinion, the most interesting part of this video is at 17:06 where she talks about a researcher that concluded that the HSP trait is a category and not a dimension. This is intriguing because usually in psychology we use categories when classifying personality disorders, which are qualitative differences in behavior that really make people stand out from the average person. I am very curious as to what are the implications of the fact that the HSP trait is a category. Do people that are HSP really stand out in the same way that for example, someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder does? I'm also a bit skeptical about the claim that the HSP trait is a category.
I emailed Elaine in regards to your comment. Here is her reply:
Funnily enough, I was just working on this part of the new Author's Note for the 25th Edition of the HSP Book!
Answer to the Q, in a
Although I said in this book that usually you are either highly sensitive or not, I had no direct evidence for that point. I assumed it because Jerome Kagan of Harvard found it true for the trait of inhibitedness in children, and that seemed to be an understandable misnomer for sensitivity, given that it was based on observing children who do not rush into a room full of complicated, strange toys, but pause to look at it first. But many scientists thought sensitivity must be more like height, with most people in the middle, not a distinct category, like apples and oranges. For a doctoral thesis at the University of Bielefeld in Germany, Franziska Borries did a particular statistical analysis that allows distinguishing between categories and dimensions. In a study of over nine hundred people who took the HSP Scale, she found that being highly sensitive is indeed a category, not a dimension. Mostly you either are or you are not.
Research continues on the question, however. Another study did not find two groups[EA1] . Ah, science! Two other studies of this question, using a different method, found three groups that are somewhat distinct-those who are highly sensitive, very roughly 20% to 35%; a medium group, maybe 40 to 47%; and low, 25 to 35%. But it’s difficult to know the exact percentage of HSPs in any given population, as there will always be reasons why there might be more or less in a particular population studied. For example, many studies use psychology majors as subjects, but more of these may be highly sensitive. Plus, a test is not the trait but a rough measure of it. Some people will score in the middle for reasons unrelated to their actual sensitivity level. For example, some people just rate everything lower or higher than others, or maybe they were distracted that day, or whatever. Also, men tend to score slightly lower on the HSP Scale, even though there is reason to think that there are just as many males born with the trait. Somehow taking the test seems to affect men differently, probably depending on the culture they are in.
[EA1]I think I provided a reference for this but did not make it yellow to indicate what line to put with it.
@@Shari225Thanks for responding to my post. Also sorry for this post because it is kind of long. I just love psychology.
Inhibitedness seems to be similar to sensitivity, although I don’t know too much about inhibitidness. Has inhibitedness been studied enough for it to be considered close enough to sensitivity? I haven’t read any of Elaine Aron’s books, just heard the three talks on RUclips so this might have been discussed in one of her books, but maybe the HSP trait should be looked at scientifically as well as psychologically as well as from as many perspectives as possible, to see where the scientists who think HSP is a dimension are coming from as well as to see other people’s views on the trait. For example, look to see what Eastern thinker’s opinion on the HSP trait is. In my opinion, an eclectic approach to knowledge is usually the best way to go. Also, the category vs dimension issue seems like it is a matter of subjectivity.
What did Elaine Aron mean when she said “mostly you either or you are not sensitive”. Furthermore, one perspective one could use to determine whether HSP is a category or not might be to do a longitudinal study in HSP’s keep diaries of their life experiences from a child all the way to adulthood, and see if there experiences seem to be unique enough. I know it’s more subjective and less scientific, but it might be a useful angle to approach the question of whether sensitivity is a category or a dimension. A drawback would be that, according to what Elaine Aron said in her video, other traits interact with sensitivity to affect how sensitivity manifests itself in different sensitive people. I mention this because I tend to prefer field research as opposed to lab research.
I understand what you mean in the second paragraph. As a college undergraduate, I majored in psychology so I know all about confounding variables. They are hard to completely control for, especially in psychology where you are dealing with traits which are abstractions, and which have various correlations with other traits.
Dr. Aron is a scientist. I refer you to her talk for therapists: ruclips.net/video/C7u7kDuA2tM/видео.html
Thanks for this video !
Thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for uploading this! Love from Germany ♥
You are quite welcome! I'm happy you found this. The more people who know about being HSP the better!
@@sharidyer4332 Exactly! Her message is so important
I’m pretty sure it’s HPS I have. In middle school I was overlooked. Our play was given a small part. I was so scared for weeks leading up to it. When I was onstage I got into the role and was awarded best actor. My sister even said wow you looked real in your part. Nobody understood the potential.
Might be but... I don't think it's about just one moment in life
Like when people say *I often cry, so I'm HSP".
It's much more than that.
Need a break. Thank you Elaine A.
Expecting people to read between the lines and not being direct. Yes and yes haha
It's 2022, so I wonder: what are you thoughts on her answer about the differences between autism and HSP? Do you agree with her or not? 33:00
💯 same!
Thanks for all your comments - it does mean a lot to me and, I know to Elaine, that the videos help you and other HSPs.
If I was anymore sensitive I would be an animal, seriously.... I bought a van an left my Apt behind 2 go live in the desert and or forest....how can I forget my lousey childhood, I remember everything....as well as I remember 9-11
Career 37:35
Need this help desperately. It seems I'm not the only one.
To answer the soul energy being more powerful, no. We are all equal in value and truly all one, but we experience life differently. In no way are HSPs superior. Different, but not more powerful soul wise.
You can cause a war with that thought, I am glad she brushed it aside. It’s borderline egotistical not in a bad way, but it lacks a sense of spiritual unity consciousness.
The non sensitives tend to feel superior over sensitive because the world has seen them as meek, but HSPs should not go that same route but try to find the connection while celebrating differences.
My non HSP sensitive husband is very powerful spiritually, and so are your non HSP friends too. That question can be answered with more deep reflection.
Very true. I don't like that mentality at all. Comparing humans in value just by picking one quality and judge a person in one particular situation. Everyone has the same value but we shouldn't judge a fish by its ability to climb trees.
thank you for your research and thoughtful presentation. I wanted to share something with you but I am not comfortable sharing it like this in public.
Elaine doesn't monitor these videos. If you go to hsperson.com, I think you can contact her from there.
When it comes to non-sexual intimacy or afterwork downtime for a HSP. I am curious if there has been much research into a mild form of 'little space' It's from a form of fetish LG/CG (little girl/caregiver) yet more about the soothing euphoria of the soul returning to an 'innocent space', with age regression acting. Partner puts on PG Disney type movie (No meaness/horror/controversial undertones), adult colouring therapy book, brushing hair, sooth voice, hugs with no agenda, hair brushing, pancakes for breakfast. Placing oneself into a 'space' of soul protection that the partner facilitates for you. No, sex/weird dress up is not part of it for 90% of people who do this. It can help a non-sensitive partner become mindful of the innocent environment we sometimes need.
A innocent environment sounds nice :)
It resonates so much but there are some misrepresentation of personality concepts that are being linked to HSP mistakenly. Disagreeable people can also be HSP.
I love you.Your insights. Me.
Hi who is Sherri with all of Dr Aaron videos? Does she have her own page? Thanks
HSP have few friends.
I am still looking for my calling
HSPs don't need many friends. You will find your calling. How old are you?
I am an HSP born to two Narcs!
That must have been hell for you growing up with narcs for both parents.
The reversal would bring my status back to normal .
At 16:00 , one foot on the gas and one foot on the brakes!
I'm still trying to figure out if I am HSP or autistic, I was diagnosed with autism and Generalized Anxiety at 16. I am dealing with symptoms related to Autism and seem HSP like as well that make it very hard for me to work my current job, I was getting so overstimulated last shift that I had to leave early because I was extremely dizzy and forgetting things constantly.
They're the same thing ;)
Autism is negative, sensitivity is positive....it's not the same thing at all. In my opinion.
No it isnt, and that is very much an opinion bc it not only lacks experience, but the fact of the matter is that autism is responsible for the majority of the technological advances you enjoy using in your daily life. It's an increased sensitivity, paired w a different way of thinking and experiencing the world. Being so sensitive only becomes such a problem in a backwards, toxic world, which is why you're under the impression autism is a negative thing. Toxicity and chronic illness are the culprit of the "negativity" you're talking about, not autism itself.
What's the difference between being "sensitive" and being "HSP"?
Calling yourself HSP gives you a medicalised category to hang onto, a bigger sense of entitlement and another identity to hang onto one's sense of self in our individualistic culture.
The lecturer does not seem to understand autism from what she explains in this talk. Autistic people have a normal exprience of mirror empathy (feeling what another person is feeling) but struggle with cognitive empathy (thinking in the way another person thinks.)
Non-autistic people seem to have an automatic social capacity to think in the way others think, while autistic people have to develop this skill by observation, trial and error. In order to succeed in this task, we rely on our intelligence. So an exceptionally intelligent autistic person will have an easier time thinking in the way others think compared to an autistic person with low intelligence, as the skill of thinking in the way others think can be developed, especially if this is important to the autistic person, and moreso as they age and have time to practice.
The diagnostic criteria for autism is much more robust compared to the diagnostic criteria for HSP and therefore more likely to give you real insights into your strengths and difficulties. If you're diagnosed with autism, you will have many common needs and interests with others who have the same diagnosis. Meanwhile the diagnostic criteria for HSP will have you lumped in with people who consider everyone around them to be abusive and narcissistic and with people who latch onto the HSP label in order to feed into this perception that everyone around them "just doesn't get it." Have a look at this comment section for many examples of this attitude.
Of course some people are more or less sensitive than others. Some people are mostly sensitive to themselves while others are more caring and more motivated to see others as they are. I think we have all had experiences with people who consider themselves highly sensitive and caring, who nonetheless rely on projecting their own cognitive perceptions onto the other person in order to feel like they understand them. For example they see you feel sad and project their own cognitive interpretation onto you, as an explanation for why you feel bad. If they share their interpretation with you, and you object to their interpretation, they continue to use the lens of their own cognitive projection in order to understand your objection. I think this is part of why many people, autistic and non-autistic, end up feeling misunderstood and invisible amidst these theatrics of interaction. Sometimes those who conduct themselves in the world as if they can read minds, seem to consider their own emotional presence and their own powers of observation as sacred, so they can't even imagine they fail to understand other people.
This lecturer asserts that "you either are HSP or you aren't" and attempts to use statistical analysis and brain scans analysis in order to justify this assertion. Such analyses are highly subject to bias, in particular in the social sciences, where too often the data on its own is meaningless, yet the researcher is convinced it's meaningful because of the narrative they're following, and so the data is manipulated to fit into the conclusions. The only diagnostic criteria employed by the lecturer seems to be a self-assessment questionnaire, comprised entirely of leading questons, which rely on the person's assessment of how their experience compares to their subjective understanding of what should be the norm.
I cannot tease out your symptoms to help clarify things, but I do sympathize with your work predicament. Today's workplace pressures can be trying for non-HSPs, let alone others. It's important to appreciate this, even if you have some issues that may predispose you to overstimulation.
#SuperSensing💝
How to find communities or fellow HSPs around you?
There is a list here: hsperson.com/events/
The answer to the question about narcissistic people was either too clinical or too vague = not very helpful! I'm an HSP and I dont feel that question was adequately answered.
Also cranio-sacral helps HSPs
I was in love with an avoidant narcissist with high sensitivity also. I needed to learn attachment theory to understand him and also me, and go out from that relationship. In my opinion she is saying that we should educate ourselves on the matter and that it is a complex answer to this question. I recommend Kraig Kenneth's channel.
"And I think it's so much harder for men to be among non-sensitive men."
Me: * eyes my big brother at the corner of our room who just doesn't get it. *
As a male HSP, and the black sheep in the family.. ooof the evil things I want do I just wanna become as narcissistic as these people but I cant mannn I cant.
I don't doubt it. We women don't have to deal with the boy code. This video might help: ruclips.net/video/tJ6pdmmMwuI/видео.html
@@Shari225 Thank youuu
How to connect to other HSPs? I'm in Oakland, CA, near San Francisco.
Hi Fernando. There are a whole lot of HSP groups online. I hope this helps. Search: hsp support groups online
Hi Fernando. There are a whole lot of groups online. hsp support groups online. I h
Thank you! Good start here, in case it helps anyone highlysensitive.org/sites/
I've not had the best luck with online HSP groups. The leader of one admits that he does drugs, while the other was plagued by infighting. Thanks for the link, and helping me to keep hope alive.
Is there a part 2? I only see 1 & 3
Part 2: ruclips.net/video/xYTeeytvuwo/видео.html
You help a great deal. I feel a bit lost .
37:40 career advice
The answers could have been little better. I feel the questions were quite good, but a therapist would have been able to answer them better and also more specifically.
She is a therapist as well as a researcher. If you want more information on HSPs, here is a link: ruclips.net/video/C7u7kDuA2tM/видео.html
@@Shari225 Thank You! Possibly then to give specific answers, one has to go down to individual levels which is not possible in a general lecture.
We want to get things done our way. It doesn't mean that we'd be difficult, or asocial. Need some sleep. Be back. Appreciate .
Men say that they do not know to read minds.... we have to find a way to communicate...
There's intuiting and there's mind reading. Guys on various levels can pick up on ques from women, but we can't open your mind up and sift through it like so many of you desire. We're not gods and you should be thankful to be with a guy that can pick up on a mood and openly ask what's wrong rarher than say he should know already. Meet us in the middle.
I can feel a lot but I can't read minds. No one can. Reading minds is just assuming. I don't like to assume. I'd like to communicate. I know when something is wrong. If something is wrong I would like to talk about it. I can't read your mind, that's too easy for you to expect. It's you trying to avoid a difficult conversation...
They can attune, but choose not to. Same with narcs and psychos.
What about malignant narcissists?? 👺
You can learn a whole lot about narcissism here: ruclips.net/user/results?search_query=dr+ramani+narcissism+
what about the overly sensitive person ..
you can't anything to them without hurting their feelings ..
Perhaps in some cases, these are folks who have unhealed wounds from childhood. They can be very difficult to deal with.
I wonder what she’d say about a zodiac “ Cancer”& hsp & empath. I think I might crawl into my “ shell “
Oh and also married a zodiac “ Cancer “ x32yrs
Well, she talked about Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Non-Sensitive People, but surely there's a group that lies between the two, a group of Sensitive People, but not Hyper-Sensitive.
The four aspects of High Sensitivity are 1.) Depth of Processing, 2.) Overstimulation, 3.) Empathy and 4.) Sensitivity to Subtleties, Certainly there are people who empathy who are not Highly Sensitive. The same with the other three aspects. It is the combination of all four that defines High Sensitivity. And with that in mind, either you are, or you are not.
Thanks Shari for clarifying it, with those four sensitivity factors. By the way, my HSP Self-Test results, on Elaine's Website, did place me in the HSP category, and a few extra points above the line. But, Meyers Briggs Tests score me in borderline area between an extrovert and introvert.
30% of HSPs are extroverts. You might well be one.
@@Shari225 Is it good thing or bad thing to be a HSP and living in the current world??
It depends on the person and how she or he deals with being an HSP. Remember, there are three good assets (empathy, depth of processing and sensitivity to subtleties) and only one that can be a problem (overstimulation).@@srujithsunny6022
I think that his theory lacks support.
When was it recorded?
I don't remember the exact date, but it was the spring or summer of 2013.
We get bored 😑😂😂😂😂😂
Too bad everything she touched on isn't as simple as she described here. And if you're attracting narcissists, ask what you can do to change it.
There is an excellent interview with Dr. Ramani that addresses this:
ruclips.net/video/im3dOkUSYC8/видео.htmlsi=gQLkeqghbP2JWdrc
She said that Hsp’s can “knock down” narcissists. “ you can usually knock them down.” She sounds pretty rude in my opinion.
Thing is, we are not the push-overs people think, we are just aware of the energy around us and it effects us much more... We develop different ways to handle it... In general I would say we are super diplomatic but we can also since when there is no other way but pure conflict...
Olle yes. Not rude.
Narcissists are usually indistinguishable in public. It isnt until entering a relationship with one that you experience that side of them. When an HSP leaves a narcissitic relationship, they learn how to recognize narcissism. With this experience, these HSPs can see the trait from a distance. So they get called out on the manipulation they do. That's how they get "knocked down" off of their superiority pedestal.
@@aeilorux7056 that or you grow up around them and pick up their vibe. The sad thijg for me is running into one that doesn't give me that "off" feeling; there's still a good person in them lost and caught up in the damage they've suffered in childhood. I used to think all of them were worthless trash, but since running into some of those types I pity them and hope there's hope some can actually be helped and are willing to change.
Than you have not experienced a narc, your lucky! That are pure evil!!
I dare the villains by stating that apart from the physical violation which is cruel, i
have the most sound mind we can think of. Sick ppl need help, the talented are able to cope on their own. Thanks.