I just watched domestic violence tapes 1 and 2. My heart grieves tremendously for your childhood. I wish I could have been there to rescue that child. Alhumdulilah that Allah has guided you to Him. May Allah reward you for your efforts.
I tell my wife to hold off until I get outta work so we can watch together. I get home and she’s already glued to the screen. Subhanallah! This was an emotional one brother Yusha. May Allah bless you brother.
Assalamualaikum I escaped domestic violence and alot of Muslims ask me," What did you do to make him that way?" The Muslim community needs education to stop blaming the victims.
الجالية المسلمة لا تلوم الضّحية ..هي تتساءل بطبعها البشري كغيرها بكلام فيه حسن نِيّة مسبَقة .. ليس من حقّك ان تتحدّث عن جميع المسلمين بهذا الغضب و اللّوم ..انت لا تعرفهم فردا فردا .. حسن الظن بالآخرين من حسن الأخلاق ..رزقك الله الأمن و الأمان و حسن الصٌُحبَة أينما كنت
I am not a commenter, but i wanted to tell you I pray that you get to reconnect with your brother soon! May Allah make the journey to rekindle yalls relationship an easy one. Allhauma Ameen. Every time you post, its usually after my lecture i run to your chanel but i always seem to miss the live one!
WALLAHI yusha, i started crying around this time 24:36. Wallahi thats tough. this video actually made me cry. may allah bless you and perserve your children ameen.
I grew up in similar circumstances I definitely have PTSD witnessing my mum being beaten up…I was also abandoned by my mum living between different extended family and then had to live with my dad that was abusive and i strongly believe now has a personality disorder…for a long time I pushed the memories away especially during my 20s but once I hit 30 and trying to raise my own family a switch flipped and I became flooded with memories of the past…maybe it was because seeing my kids grow up it just triggered me…thinking how you could put your children through so much horror…I feel there’s not much I can do about the flashbacks and paralysing pain but Dua and Dhikr really helps only Allah can ease our pain alhamdulilah…may Allah ease the way for you brother
You deserve a medal for sharing your experiences so candidly. And for speaking up about a subject that has such far-reaching negative repercussions. I feel it has become your 'jihad'. Thank you.
You have been my favorite speaker for many years. The reason being you are very relatable and have a way to connect with us. These recent series have resonated with me so much, I’m sure everyone is touched by them along with myself. But man, when you say “I love you for the sake of Allah” at the end I really have to fight the tears back. The feeling of brotherhood and not being alone is so important. May Allah bless you and grant you good in this life and the next, amin!
As-salaamu alaykum. I can tell this is hard for you, but you are putting an amazing message to the youth, akhi. May Allah bless you, and may your trials be a means of your forgiveness, and your admittance into Jannahtul Firdaus.
Salaam, I got the opportunity to hear and watch you speak at bridgewater NJ Al Falah center. Your story is very inspiring and as I am trying my best to connect with my deen. Stories like these just take me a whole new perspective and place that pushes me forward. So many of us myself included hold grudges over anything and it’s inspiring to see things through your lens. You have a big heart and I would love to meet you again some day soon inshallah
Yes sooo true u shud leave and not worry abt financial etc. I left with my kids after 10 years of domestic abuse and I never regretted leaving Alhumdulilah
😭 Aslamalaikum I was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. I thought I had to stay for my kids. But I wished I left earlier, they are still having therapy though. I was told I provoked him too. And 10 years later his family have given me no support whatsoever as if it was all my fault. But it was the best step I took. Jazakhallakhrn brother for the podcast and for being there for us😭
the domestic violence over generations in your family is what my mom would call a generational curse......and thanks be to God Yusha, you have broken that cycle for your own children and all your future generations so that they will never know that kind of abuse and trauma.
May Allah bless you always, grant ease & healing, May He reunite you and your brother soon, jazakallahu khayran for opening up about your life, you’ve been through a lot, I pray your experiences will help countless people with their lives, May every word you share always be a means of inspiration, and May it weigh heavy on your scales Aameen. 🤲
My mother died when she was 18 and I was 11 months old. My grandmother used to say that my father who was 25 would beat her on every single issue big or small and at that time she already had me. So the violence started right after the marriage. Again he got married when he was 30 or 32 and my suffering began for a long time until I got married. May ALLAH give these abusers what they deserve in this world and in the Aakhirah. Yusha, you will always be in my prayers. I pray for both of us and all the women who still suffers this.
I remember I used to watch your videos when I 1st started practicing and your videos I really loved to watch. Seeing you sad is really emotional and heart breaking. I hope Allah rewards you greatly for your sabr and ease your pain brother
Sobhana Allaah you mentioned 5 and 10 years. I married my ex 10 years ago and left 5 years ago. I just had the realization that i regretted my choice of husband and am blessed i have left. I knew i was blessed for leaving from the start, but just 2 days ago i realized how bad i chose. Sobhana Allaah
Subhanallah this so hard to watch It reminds me of my childhood, now I’m 27 and It’s still hard. I remember when I would come home from school and my mom would be lying there in her own blood because my dad had beaten her so bad. I’ve never felt so weak and helpless in my life as I did in my childhood. It’s those memories that I wish to forget but rather it stays with you and breaks you as person.
May Allah bless you and keep you steadfast in deen, Alhamdo lillah to have you as brother. Speaking about your experiences means and add a lot for us, because you're talking about things that touching our real life
As a child of domestic violence and narcissistic mother nobody understand how numb u become. When the victim brings children into the situation I don’t care anymore. You’ve chosen for someone else to stau
I had this really mean and hateful principal who was probably a sadist when I was a young one. As a kid I was very sensitive and wouldn't speak out a lot, and would cry easily, she always wrote incident reports about me for literally no reason, then my parents would get really angry with me. Had this one incident during recess where this kid stole my beyblade, then I ran after him and the principle was outside, stopped him and took the beyblade, then she didn't give it back to me. She said your dad has to write a letter to me explaining why you should have it back. I knew my dad wouldn't do it so i wrote the letter myself in the best handwriting I could make. When I gave it to her she calle my dad and he took work off to come to the school, I was in deep trouble. She wrote a more serious incident report (what she described). In school they used to ring our classes through an old PA system, so they asked me to come to the office, and usually it was a bad sign, you'd get worms in your stomach. I get the the office and I see my dad sitting there with the principle, she talks a lot against me and says this letter is plagiarism, and my dad looks really angry with me, she just basks in this negative energy and conflict, then she gives the beyblade to my dad and says "Mr. ____________, you can throw the beyblade in the garbage if you want to", so he did. Sociopaths and psychopaths shouldn't be allowed in school systems. Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that adults need to be gentle and understanding with kids, and I could never imagine the implications of being neglected by parents and step parents, especially the way bro Yusha was, but you guys end up being #1 dads, masha'Allah. Parents, be role models for your kids and always be kind with your young ones, but don't hesitate to discipline your kids either when they need to be corrected.
May Allah bless you for sharing this story akhi. I know these types of things are difficult to share. And kids are so innocent it’s hard to understand why anyone would enjoy putting them through misery but that’s how sick our world has become. May Allah heal all the children who have suffered and give us strength to help others
As Salam Alaikum brother, hello from Oklahoma, I attend the Norman, ok Masjid. I missed ur recent visit. I wish I'd seen this before ur visit or I'd made sure to meet you. At this very moment I've been trying to get in to speak with my imam about this subject. I know ur pain. May Allah bless an heal you dear brother. Alhamdulillah Allahu Akbar
I has been through domestic violence myself. My mom was beaten by my dad then me and my siblings were beaten by my father... Now I don't live with my father anymore .. Allah rescued me.
May Allah bless you for sharing this brother Yushua. I would imagine sharing this with us has been incredibly triggering but also led you to a place of congruence. I like your comments on the importance of caring for our children in these scenarios. I believe we can only be truly compassionate and accepting parents when we practice these values towards ourselves. May Allah continue to facilitate your healing journey and bless your children. May Allah reunite you with all the loved ones you have lost in Jannatul Fridous, ameen
Ameen. Thank you very much. Yes children are precious innocent souls and our utmost effort should be to heal so that we can in turn raise children who do not have to experience what people like I experienced growing up. May Allah help us
Thank you brother for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about your family. I was exposed to domestic violence too and sexual abuse as a kid, I saw my mother's bf knock her front teeth out, the same one that sexually abused me and physically abused my baby brother. It really impacted my parenting and still does and my marriage. My mom calls me too on my bd and my kids bd - she calls it "your special day." she is old and unwell and although I dont celebrate Christmas anymore, I do like to keep her company if she doesn't have anywhere to go because I know she gets lonely on christmas and new year day. May Allah heal all the Muslims suffering from abuse and may Allah bring those in humanity who are strong and who are suffering to Islam. Ameen. I cant stop crying right now for the last 1/2 hour lol. I've been binge listening to your videos while I try get some online work of mine done. Alhamdulillah. jazak Allah khair for sharing.
May Allah bless your soul brother Yusha, it seems you have been through many hardships in life. If anybody is reading this in terms of domestic violence in marriages, and women attacking men - I have experienced it first hand, and if you don't call the police eventually they will, and you will get into trouble even if you are innocent. Walk away, walk away with dignity and be a man. Listen to this beautiful brother and his words of wisdom.
Honestly I take that as great advice, hopefully I never have to go through it but if I do and I don't leave her then I am definitely reporting if it gets to be a common serious thing, honestly thank you for this comment lol... But I probably wouldn't end up with a girl like that anyway, but hopefully I don't have one that snaps and start playing games when I am too deep into the relationship, if so I'll make sure to report it
@@xThePrinceOfPeace Brother girls like that lie about everything. Sometimes what seems like a good prospect turns to something bad, maybe I did something wrong, I know I did many things wrong. Rushing was one of them! May Allah SWT reward you for your beautiful words and patience. :)
Mashallah brother, this really hit home. I commend you for doing this hard work and trying to heal your wounds from the past. I would say from experience it's really tough to experience the healing process but I do believe you'll better yourself and be of more benefit to those around you and the rest of the ummah for your efforts. Keep at it brother, Allah ma'ak.
Alcoholic mother---- abondoned him when he was 5 years old--- left him to his grandmother--- mother left, did not come back for 3 years!Very traumatic childhood indeed.
سبحان الله ..كم يؤدّب الإسلام غضب الإنسان !! اللّهم أعِنّا على عرض ديننا على غير المسلمين قدر استطاعتنا طاعة لقول الحبيب محمًد صلّى الله عليه و سلًم : بلّغوا عنّي و لو آية !
May Allah grant you constant strength my Akhi, I know the struggle. Allah never gives us a test we cannot pass. Love from a brother from another mother. ❤️
This is an important topic that needs to discussed. It happens in the community, cases of “sheikhs” and “shaytans” abusing their spouse. There should definitely be initiatives to help abuse victims. May Allah bless u and give u piece of mind. What would u say helped u in starting the healing process? Have u done therapy? I hope I’m not being too intrusive.
Just finished this episode and I'm totally in agreeance with you. There's a dilemma though in Western societies, im trekking into controversial territory here. Men abusing and battering their wives is sickening, it's evil. On another note I knew a man being abused by his wife, one day she tried applying for welfare and when her husband got a call about it he told them they have enough money and that he works. She called the cops on him and said she was beaten and he was thrown in jail and lost his kids. She left her kids ipads, and leaves them alone in the apartment while she hangs out with her friends. The man's life was ruined, he can't even see his children, I went to court with him and they limit so much of his freedom, they won't believe him telling the truth. This society works to break up families to create more problems for the people, the harmony Allah put for both spouses is being compromised heavily here as liberal values take over. I pray for the tranquility in all your marriages, and please keep me in your duas that I find a wife who will be there for me and that I would be there for her.
Absolutely it is a two way street and even though there is very little proper help for women in these situations there is even smaller if any help for men in these circumstances and many times they end up exactly as you have said and this is part of why they won’t speak up. Much change needs to happen to protect all
@@YushaEvans This sounds right Jazak Allahu Khayr! I am with you and my thoughts insha Allah in how to offer an alternative. Also kindly consider my/the comments posted on your recent video.
Brother it is universal. Too many brothers and sisters grew up with this coznant dissonance , having to come up in cultures where women have no voice. Those women were their mother's, sisters and sometimes daughters even being emotionally and physically abused. And they don't take advice from Islam either.
May Allah subhaanahu ta aala bless you and make things easy for and bless you to be a source of guidance for the so many misguided oppresive people Aameen thumma Aameen 😥🤲💝 I know exactly what you are talking about I suffered in silence for a long time until Allah subhaanahu ta aala helped me Alhamdulillah 🤲😭💝
I'm crying listening to your video man.... May Allah make it easy for you and for all people man.. I've also had a rough childhood and some issues with my mother as well. I can't believe a man can even find it in his heart to lay his hand on a woman. God help the man who does that in front of me. What kind of monster are those men dude? I genuinely can't fathom it. Alhamdulilah all of those experiences shaped you into the person you are now and Allah gifted you with Islam. I love you my brother in Islam
This must have been difficult to share. May Allah bless you for sharing, use you as a light for others and allow you to fully heal, Allahuma Ameen 🙏🏽 we definitely need to do more as a community JazakAllah khair for raising awareness brother
Subhanallah im so sorry you have to gone through these hardships but Allah subhanah wataAllah knew you can come over it. May Allah give you patience and Replace your memories of the hardship to peace and taqwa May Allah wipeout all the bad memories. May Allah bless you and protect you. Always remember you have thousands and thousands of brothers and sisters that loves you very much. You are my favorite daae of all sheikhs I learned a lot from you . Please keep doing what you do and when Allah almighty calls you leave yougolden legacy. I hope you reunite you brother. Make a lot of dua ❤️❤️
Allah humma baarik dearest shiekh being a victim of domestic violence myself I feel for you .you and your family will always be in my duas may Allah subhaanahu ta aala always bless protect guide help reward and increase you in abundance with all forms of goodness Aameen thumma Aameen ya rabbul Aalameen 🤲😭🤲😭🤲😭🤲😭🤲😭🤲💝
I am a man and a muslim and I have been beaten in domestic way but I found out that I have ADHD 2020, my ADHD makes me procrastinate a word lol that I started to learn and understand, it really means that you say you are going to do something and you drag out on the time to do it so it's a big problem and headache for me, because it also means that important things are not prioritised because of less Dopamine in the brain, unfortunately 80 % of those who have ADHD has at some stage of life had problem with drug, alcohol or tabletabuse even smoking cigarettes because it triggers the dopamine to increase in the brain, now I'm just waiting for my diagnosis so I can get my medicine inshaAllah, so I don't procrastinate anymore which is the worst part of the symptom, that you don't clean your house properly, that you don't take care of yourself properly, the second and third part that is also very negative is the lack of planning and focus, that you normally only catch 60 to 70 % of a conversation, and because of the procrastination you don't plan a trip very well i.e. you pack the wrong things in your bag, you plan your trip late etc. But of course all of this doesn't give the spouse the right to abuse you but at the same time I wouldn't like to be married to me if I where the spouse at least. not before, now I'm working with myself to try to make my shortcomings become less and less and inshaAllah with my medicine the symptoms should be minimal, both my parents had mental problems so I was lucky to grow up in a loving fosterfamilj but before I came to them I was abused with sleeping pills and I wasn't allowed to go out for half a year until my social service assistant found out about the abuse, at that time I was only 4 to 5 years old, reason for the abuse was that the father in the house was driving taxi in the nighttime and sleeping in the daytime, but alhamdulillah took me away from that family, I want like you to work in the Muslim community to support the Muslim families especially with Neuro psychological disfunction such as bipolar, ADHD, OCD Dyslexia etc, and other other mental issues as jinns, schizofrenia, and also addictions like gaming, alcohol, betting, Internet and sex which is now seen more frequently because of more knowledge but also because of more fitna and wiswas from Shaytan nastaino billahi, JazakAllahu Khayr habibi Ana hibbuka fillah, many of the things was emotional for me because I have had both abuse that I don't remember because of survival Iinstinct, and abuse that I strongly remember
Salaam brother Yusha may Allah Subhanatalah bless you (Aameen 🤲) your reflections series recent one and others I.E the prison tapes have resonated so much to parts of my life truly inspiring to see how the deen has helped you so much throughout your life your an inspiration brother mashallah...
Never put your hand on your woman because once u cross this line there is no going back. Keep this in your minds always. Therefore the best thing is to be patient. I know someone who got divorced, admitted he slapped his wife, this man is a rich guy and his wife got the house and his other properties. Never in his many years of marriage he had abused his wife or children before the last episode. This person is generally known to be a well behaved, intelligent and a happy person, has great relationship within the community. Slapping your woman has huge consequences in America, if the wife files a divorce, so don’t make that mistake
For sure under no circumstances should a man put his hands violently on a woman. Not only is it disgusting but as a result you clearly can see the negative ramifications it can have on him and his family. Just don’t do it.
At age 3, his mother abandoned him to the grandmother. His mother was a victim of domestic violence. He was abused by his grandmother!?? His childhood was not normal.
He wasn’t abused by the Grandmother or Grandfathet. He was abused by his stepmother, whom his dad married, after his parents divorced. He saw the grandparents on visits. I think he began living with the grandparents full time after he became older. Possibly around age 15? The grandfather passed, but he stayed with his grandmother until he went to prison. His grandmother died a year before he got released. Listen closely to what he’s saying.
@@YushaEvans okay…by the way Allāh (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) says in the Qur’aan: An-Nisa' 4:86 وَإِذَا حُيِّيتُم بِتَحِيَّةٍ فَحَيُّواْ بِأَحۡسَنَ مِنۡهَآ أَوۡ رُدُّوهَآۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَىۡءٍ حَسِيبًا “When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or (at least) return it equally. Certainly, Allah is Ever a Careful Account Taker of all things.” That’s a command from Allāh (Azza Wa Jal). So it’s only proper that you return my greetings my dear brother, and may Allāh bless you.
I just watched domestic violence tapes 1 and 2. My heart grieves tremendously for your childhood. I wish I could have been there to rescue that child. Alhumdulilah that Allah has guided you to Him. May Allah reward you for your efforts.
I tell my wife to hold off until I get outta work so we can watch together. I get home and she’s already glued to the screen. Subhanallah!
This was an emotional one brother Yusha. May Allah bless you brother.
@lamfree assalam Aleikum brother,
You trie it and feel the heat.
Subhanallah lol may Allah bless you both for all of the support
Assalamualaikum I escaped domestic violence and alot of Muslims ask me," What did you do to make him that way?"
The Muslim community needs education to stop blaming the victims.
Subhanallah. This needs more attention.
Yes lot of education of righteousness.
Astaghfirullah plain ignorance that's sad. Alhamdulila it ended.
This is a nonsense question steeped in deep ignorance. It’s these very type of mentalities we need to correct
الجالية المسلمة لا تلوم الضّحية ..هي تتساءل بطبعها البشري كغيرها بكلام فيه حسن نِيّة مسبَقة .. ليس من حقّك ان تتحدّث عن جميع المسلمين بهذا الغضب و اللّوم ..انت لا تعرفهم فردا فردا .. حسن الظن بالآخرين من حسن الأخلاق ..رزقك الله الأمن و الأمان و حسن الصٌُحبَة أينما كنت
I am not a commenter, but i wanted to tell you I pray that you get to reconnect with your brother soon! May Allah make the journey to rekindle yalls relationship an easy one. Allhauma Ameen. Every time you post, its usually after my lecture i run to your chanel but i always seem to miss the live one!
Ameen thank you for this. And May Allah bless you for the support.
Ameen
WALLAHI yusha, i started crying around this time 24:36. Wallahi thats tough. this video actually made me cry. may allah bless you and perserve your children ameen.
I grew up in similar circumstances I definitely have PTSD witnessing my mum being beaten up…I was also abandoned by my mum living between different extended family and then had to live with my dad that was abusive and i strongly believe now has a personality disorder…for a long time I pushed the memories away especially during my 20s but once I hit 30 and trying to raise my own family a switch flipped and I became flooded with memories of the past…maybe it was because seeing my kids grow up it just triggered me…thinking how you could put your children through so much horror…I feel there’s not much I can do about the flashbacks and paralysing pain but Dua and Dhikr really helps only Allah can ease our pain alhamdulilah…may Allah ease the way for you brother
May Allah heal your wounds and give you peace Ya Salam Ameen ❤️
رزقك الله صلاح الحال و راحة البال و حفِظ لك أولادك بعينه سبحانه التي لا تنام و أسعدك بصلاحهم و توفيقهم و بِبرًهم بك و والدتهُم .. آمين
@@norama3998 امين اجمعين يا رب 🤲🏽
May Allah bless you too much for staying strong and guide your family(Ameen) you will be always in our prayers In Sha Allah 💖
Ameen, and May Allah bless you and yours.
Amiin ya Rabb!
Someone anyone should start these support systems for domestic violence victims. It needs to be started
You deserve a medal for sharing your experiences so candidly. And for speaking up about a subject that has such far-reaching negative repercussions. I feel it has become your 'jihad'. Thank you.
May Allah heal you and others from past trauma. Ameen
آمين
You have been my favorite speaker for many years. The reason being you are very relatable and have a way to connect with us. These recent series have resonated with me so much, I’m sure everyone is touched by them along with myself. But man, when you say “I love you for the sake of Allah” at the end I really have to fight the tears back. The feeling of brotherhood and not being alone is so important. May Allah bless you and grant you good in this life and the next, amin!
So true about leaving abusive relationship and never regretting.... I never ever once thought about him. Yusha Evans you are so right
As-salaamu alaykum. I can tell this is hard for you, but you are putting an amazing message to the youth, akhi. May Allah bless you, and may your trials be a means of your forgiveness, and your admittance into Jannahtul Firdaus.
Ameen even if it’s hard the goal is to raise awareness and bring about change in sha Allah
I am studying Youth Work and RUclips helps me learn about people so much.
Jazakallahu khayr
jazak'Allah khair for sharing your experiences brother.
Wa iyyak
Salaam, I got the opportunity to hear and watch you speak at bridgewater NJ Al Falah center. Your story is very inspiring and as I am trying my best to connect with my deen. Stories like these just take me a whole new perspective and place that pushes me forward. So many of us myself included hold grudges over anything and it’s inspiring to see things through your lens. You have a big heart and I would love to meet you again some day soon inshallah
Finally a Shiekh who didn't have good parents!!!!! God sent... Man
Thank you for this series!!!!! Much needed...
Yes sooo true u shud leave and not worry abt financial etc. I left with my kids after 10 years of domestic abuse and I never regretted leaving Alhumdulilah
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Aslamalaikum
I was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. I thought I had to stay for my kids. But I wished I left earlier, they are still having therapy though. I was told I provoked him too. And 10 years later his family have given me no support whatsoever as if it was all my fault. But it was the best step I took. Jazakhallakhrn brother for the podcast and for being there for us😭
the domestic violence over generations in your family is what my mom would call a generational curse......and thanks be to God Yusha, you have broken that cycle for your own children and all your future generations so that they will never know that kind of abuse and trauma.
Awesome video. I grew up with a family of Domestic abuse. Thank you for shedding light on this hidden issue in our communities.
May Allah bless you always, grant ease & healing, May He reunite you and your brother soon, jazakallahu khayran for opening up about your life, you’ve been through a lot, I pray your experiences will help countless people with their lives, May every word you share always be a means of inspiration, and May it weigh heavy on your scales Aameen. 🤲
Aameen
My mother died when she was 18 and I was 11 months old. My grandmother used to say that my father who was 25 would beat her on every single issue big or small and at that time she already had me. So the violence started right after the marriage. Again he got married when he was 30 or 32 and my suffering began for a long time until I got married. May ALLAH give these abusers what they deserve in this world and in the Aakhirah. Yusha, you will always be in my prayers. I pray for both of us and all the women who still suffers this.
I remember I used to watch your videos when I 1st started practicing and your videos I really loved to watch. Seeing you sad is really emotional and heart breaking. I hope Allah rewards you greatly for your sabr and ease your pain brother
Thank you for making it through.
Sobhana Allaah you mentioned 5 and 10 years. I married my ex 10 years ago and left 5 years ago. I just had the realization that i regretted my choice of husband and am blessed i have left. I knew i was blessed for leaving from the start, but just 2 days ago i realized how bad i chose. Sobhana Allaah
So underrated i want to genuinely cry
May Allah swt heal Yusha Evans and every victim of domestic violence ameen. The advice to get out of violent relationship is the best advice
Subhanallah this so hard to watch It reminds me of my childhood, now I’m 27 and It’s still hard. I remember when I would come home from school and my mom would be lying there in her own blood because my dad had beaten her so bad. I’ve never felt so weak and helpless in my life as I did in my childhood. It’s those memories that I wish to forget but rather it stays with you and breaks you as person.
May Allah bless you and keep you steadfast in deen, Alhamdo lillah to have you as brother. Speaking about your experiences means and add a lot for us, because you're talking about things that touching our real life
As a child of domestic violence and narcissistic mother nobody understand how numb u become. When the victim brings children into the situation I don’t care anymore. You’ve chosen for someone else to stau
Peace & Love
I had this really mean and hateful principal who was probably a sadist when I was a young one. As a kid I was very sensitive and wouldn't speak out a lot, and would cry easily, she always wrote incident reports about me for literally no reason, then my parents would get really angry with me.
Had this one incident during recess where this kid stole my beyblade, then I ran after him and the principle was outside, stopped him and took the beyblade, then she didn't give it back to me. She said your dad has to write a letter to me explaining why you should have it back. I knew my dad wouldn't do it so i wrote the letter myself in the best handwriting I could make. When I gave it to her she calle my dad and he took work off to come to the school, I was in deep trouble. She wrote a more serious incident report (what she described). In school they used to ring our classes through an old PA system, so they asked me to come to the office, and usually it was a bad sign, you'd get worms in your stomach.
I get the the office and I see my dad sitting there with the principle, she talks a lot against me and says this letter is plagiarism, and my dad looks really angry with me, she just basks in this negative energy and conflict, then she gives the beyblade to my dad and says "Mr. ____________, you can throw the beyblade in the garbage if you want to", so he did. Sociopaths and psychopaths shouldn't be allowed in school systems.
Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that adults need to be gentle and understanding with kids, and I could never imagine the implications of being neglected by parents and step parents, especially the way bro Yusha was, but you guys end up being #1 dads, masha'Allah. Parents, be role models for your kids and always be kind with your young ones, but don't hesitate to discipline your kids either when they need to be corrected.
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May Allah bless you for sharing this story akhi. I know these types of things are difficult to share. And kids are so innocent it’s hard to understand why anyone would enjoy putting them through misery but that’s how sick our world has become. May Allah heal all the children who have suffered and give us strength to help others
@@YushaEvansAmeen!!🤲🏻
may Allah preserve you bro. you did great job for the ummah.
It touches me your story. I have same now I suffer from PTSD.
This is so heartbreaking. I pray to Allah you find your brother inshaAllah.
As Salam Alaikum brother, hello from Oklahoma, I attend the Norman, ok Masjid. I missed ur recent visit. I wish I'd seen this before ur visit or I'd made sure to meet you. At this very moment I've been trying to get in to speak with my imam about this subject. I know ur pain. May Allah bless an heal you dear brother. Alhamdulillah Allahu Akbar
u r right about domestic violence.
I has been through domestic violence myself. My mom was beaten by my dad then me and my siblings were beaten by my father... Now I don't live with my father anymore .. Allah rescued me.
Jazakhallu khairun brother, these are important talks,
May Allah bless you for sharing this brother Yushua. I would imagine sharing this with us has been incredibly triggering but also led you to a place of congruence. I like your comments on the importance of caring for our children in these scenarios. I believe we can only be truly compassionate and accepting parents when we practice these values towards ourselves. May Allah continue to facilitate your healing journey and bless your children. May Allah reunite you with all the loved ones you have lost in Jannatul Fridous, ameen
Ameen. Thank you very much. Yes children are precious innocent souls and our utmost effort should be to heal so that we can in turn raise children who do not have to experience what people like I experienced growing up. May Allah help us
This is hard to watch. May Allah protect you bro Yusha.
Ameen akhi. May Allah bless you for all of your continued support
Thank you brother for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about your family. I was exposed to domestic violence too and sexual abuse as a kid, I saw my mother's bf knock her front teeth out, the same one that sexually abused me and physically abused my baby brother. It really impacted my parenting and still does and my marriage. My mom calls me too on my bd and my kids bd - she calls it "your special day." she is old and unwell and although I dont celebrate Christmas anymore, I do like to keep her company if she doesn't have anywhere to go because I know she gets lonely on christmas and new year day. May Allah heal all the Muslims suffering from abuse and may Allah bring those in humanity who are strong and who are suffering to Islam. Ameen. I cant stop crying right now for the last 1/2 hour lol. I've been binge listening to your videos while I try get some online work of mine done. Alhamdulillah. jazak Allah khair for sharing.
Waiting for more reflection episodes. I love these episodes. Thank you brother
Very true spoken. I like your honesty please next talk about verbal and emotional abuse' when you have childrens
May Allah bless your soul brother Yusha, it seems you have been through many hardships in life.
If anybody is reading this in terms of domestic violence in marriages, and women attacking men - I have experienced it first hand, and if you don't call the police eventually they will, and you will get into trouble even if you are innocent.
Walk away, walk away with dignity and be a man. Listen to this beautiful brother and his words of wisdom.
Honestly I take that as great advice, hopefully I never have to go through it but if I do and I don't leave her then I am definitely reporting if it gets to be a common serious thing, honestly thank you for this comment lol... But I probably wouldn't end up with a girl like that anyway, but hopefully I don't have one that snaps and start playing games when I am too deep into the relationship, if so I'll make sure to report it
@@xThePrinceOfPeace Brother girls like that lie about everything. Sometimes what seems like a good prospect turns to something bad, maybe I did something wrong, I know I did many things wrong. Rushing was one of them!
May Allah SWT reward you for your beautiful words and patience. :)
That word you said at 6:17 it's best to not use it may Allah bless you brother
JazakALLAH Khairan Katheera may ALLAH protect you and your family Duas Aameen YARABB
Ameen thank you
Mashallah brother, this really hit home. I commend you for doing this hard work and trying to heal your wounds from the past. I would say from experience it's really tough to experience the healing process but I do believe you'll better yourself and be of more benefit to those around you and the rest of the ummah for your efforts. Keep at it brother, Allah ma'ak.
You should talk about domestic violence between siblings / step sisters and brothers because it also happens
Australia needs it for both women and men.
I would take initiative to help this great Nation too.
Indeed we need these services far and wide
I can see how it all fits. May Allah swt ease your pain.
As Salam. May Allah make life easier and better for you Yushau. May you find comfort in your wife and children . Amin.
May Allah almighty give you strength and patience. God bless your family and heal you 🙏😍🤲🏽🌹
Ameen for all of us. Thank you
Alcoholic mother---- abondoned him when he was 5 years old--- left him to his grandmother--- mother left, did not come back for 3 years!Very traumatic childhood indeed.
May Allah bless you and heal your wounds Ameen
I pray that Allah gives Christopher shifaa and that HE reserves a place in Jannatul Firdous for you and your children.Aameen
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You will be with those whom you love."
And I ask Allah to be with you in jannah, Yusha 🙏
Good to know about your grandfather, grandma and mother.
Thank you
There's a place for the Muslims being abused in Whitby, Ontario called The Muslim Welfare Centre not far from Toronto.
Jazakallahu khayr
I suffered with an abusive father , its a horrible feeling
Forgive him brother. Parents undergo times you can't imagine that they loose ground and regret later when time has passed away.
It is a horrible trauma. May Allah allow you to heal and be helpful to others
@@YushaEvans Ya Rab , may Allah eliviate the pain of everyone that suffers in silence
@@eastafricanqueen9866 ameen
We've missed your talks dearest shiekh love and Duas from the UK 💯🤲😭🤲😭🤲💝💐
SAK thank you for sharing your story , my prayers go out to you may Allah heal you and give you peace
سبحان الله ..كم يؤدّب الإسلام غضب الإنسان !!
اللّهم أعِنّا على عرض ديننا على غير المسلمين قدر استطاعتنا طاعة لقول الحبيب محمًد صلّى الله عليه و سلًم : بلّغوا عنّي و لو آية !
Ameen!!🤲🏻
I experienced domestic abuse. But after that I experienced something worse and still havent recovered and Im older than you
His tale is traumatic , lot of trauma indeed.
May Allah grant you constant strength my Akhi, I know the struggle. Allah never gives us a test we cannot pass. Love from a brother from another mother. ❤️
Christofer meet your brother Yusha he loves you. PLEASE!
WE WILL WAIT FOR THIS MOMENT. IN SHAA ALLAH
In sha Allah
May allah reunite you with your loved ones and may allah reunite them as muslims with you.
Good Idea Mr. Yusha Evan hotline.
Very very Good Idea
This is an important topic that needs to discussed. It happens in the community, cases of “sheikhs” and “shaytans” abusing their spouse. There should definitely be initiatives to help abuse victims. May Allah bless u and give u piece of mind. What would u say helped u in starting the healing process? Have u done therapy? I hope I’m not being too intrusive.
May Allah almighty give you strength and patience.
now its giving me tears brother, may Allah give u happiness in life ameen. Allah test more his beloved ones,
I wish I could do something here to help woman in these situations 🤲😭 may Allah subhaanahu ta aala help us to help each other Aameen thumma Aameen 😥🤲
Just finished this episode and I'm totally in agreeance with you. There's a dilemma though in Western societies, im trekking into controversial territory here. Men abusing and battering their wives is sickening, it's evil. On another note I knew a man being abused by his wife, one day she tried applying for welfare and when her husband got a call about it he told them they have enough money and that he works. She called the cops on him and said she was beaten and he was thrown in jail and lost his kids. She left her kids ipads, and leaves them alone in the apartment while she hangs out with her friends. The man's life was ruined, he can't even see his children, I went to court with him and they limit so much of his freedom, they won't believe him telling the truth. This society works to break up families to create more problems for the people, the harmony Allah put for both spouses is being compromised heavily here as liberal values take over.
I pray for the tranquility in all your marriages, and please keep me in your duas that I find a wife who will be there for me and that I would be there for her.
Absolutely it is a two way street and even though there is very little proper help for women in these situations there is even smaller if any help for men in these circumstances and many times they end up exactly as you have said and this is part of why they won’t speak up. Much change needs to happen to protect all
@@YushaEvans This sounds right Jazak Allahu Khayr! I am with you and my thoughts insha Allah in how to offer an alternative.
Also kindly consider my/the comments posted on your recent video.
Brother it is universal. Too many brothers and sisters grew up with this coznant dissonance , having to come up in cultures where women have no voice. Those women were their mother's, sisters and sometimes daughters even being emotionally and physically abused. And they don't take advice from Islam either.
May Allah reward you and your family the best in Duniya and Aghira our dear Brother Yusha.
May Allah subhaanahu ta aala bless you and make things easy for and bless you to be a source of guidance for the so many misguided oppresive people Aameen thumma Aameen 😥🤲💝 I know exactly what you are talking about I suffered in silence for a long time until Allah subhaanahu ta aala helped me Alhamdulillah 🤲😭💝
Alcoholic mother and father--- my GOD. Alcoholism is very bad addiction.
Jajakallah khairan, May Allah (swt) bless you with his love and mercy. Ameen.
My beloved brother Yusha, where can i buy that sweater. Also May Allah grant you internal peace
I'm crying listening to your video man.... May Allah make it easy for you and for all people man.. I've also had a rough childhood and some issues with my mother as well. I can't believe a man can even find it in his heart to lay his hand on a woman. God help the man who does that in front of me. What kind of monster are those men dude? I genuinely can't fathom it. Alhamdulilah all of those experiences shaped you into the person you are now and Allah gifted you with Islam. I love you my brother in Islam
. I want write something but I couldn't.
This must have been difficult to share. May Allah bless you for sharing, use you as a light for others and allow you to fully heal, Allahuma Ameen 🙏🏽 we definitely need to do more as a community JazakAllah khair for raising awareness brother
Subhanallah im so sorry you have to gone through these hardships but Allah subhanah wataAllah knew you can come over it. May Allah give you patience and Replace your memories of the hardship to peace and taqwa May Allah wipeout all the bad memories. May Allah bless you and protect you. Always remember you have thousands and thousands of brothers and sisters that loves you very much. You are my favorite daae of all sheikhs I learned a lot from you . Please keep doing what you do and when Allah almighty calls you leave yougolden legacy. I hope you reunite you brother. Make a lot of dua ❤️❤️
Allah humma baarik dearest shiekh being a victim of domestic violence myself I feel for you .you and your family will always be in my duas may Allah subhaanahu ta aala always bless protect guide help reward and increase you in abundance with all forms of goodness Aameen thumma Aameen ya rabbul Aalameen 🤲😭🤲😭🤲😭🤲😭🤲😭🤲💝
I am a man and a muslim and I have been beaten in domestic way but I found out that I have ADHD 2020, my ADHD makes me procrastinate a word lol that I started to learn and understand, it really means that you say you are going to do something and you drag out on the time to do it so it's a big problem and headache for me, because it also means that important things are not prioritised because of less Dopamine in the brain, unfortunately 80 % of those who have ADHD has at some stage of life had problem with drug, alcohol or tabletabuse even smoking cigarettes because it triggers the dopamine to increase in the brain, now I'm just waiting for my diagnosis so I can get my medicine inshaAllah, so I don't procrastinate anymore which is the worst part of the symptom, that you don't clean your house properly, that you don't take care of yourself properly, the second and third part that is also very negative is the lack of planning and focus, that you normally only catch 60 to 70 % of a conversation, and because of the procrastination you don't plan a trip very well i.e. you pack the wrong things in your bag, you plan your trip late etc. But of course all of this doesn't give the spouse the right to abuse you but at the same time I wouldn't like to be married to me if I where the spouse at least. not before, now I'm working with myself to try to make my shortcomings become less and less and inshaAllah with my medicine the symptoms should be minimal, both my parents had mental problems so I was lucky to grow up in a loving fosterfamilj but before I came to them I was abused with sleeping pills and I wasn't allowed to go out for half a year until my social service assistant found out about the abuse, at that time I was only 4 to 5 years old, reason for the abuse was that the father in the house was driving taxi in the nighttime and sleeping in the daytime, but alhamdulillah took me away from that family, I want like you to work in the Muslim community to support the Muslim families especially with Neuro psychological disfunction such as bipolar, ADHD, OCD Dyslexia etc, and other other mental issues as jinns, schizofrenia, and also addictions like gaming, alcohol, betting, Internet and sex which is now seen more frequently because of more knowledge but also because of more fitna and wiswas from Shaytan nastaino billahi, JazakAllahu Khayr habibi Ana hibbuka fillah, many of the things was emotional for me because I have had both abuse that I don't remember because of survival Iinstinct, and abuse that I strongly remember
Salaam brother Yusha may Allah Subhanatalah bless you (Aameen 🤲) your reflections series recent one and others I.E the prison tapes have resonated so much to parts of my life truly inspiring to see how the deen has helped you so much throughout your life your an inspiration brother mashallah...
Wa salaam
May Allah bless you for the message. Yes it is truly the deen that saved me and it’s my greatest blessing
May Allah heal you. Bless your heart.
Thank you so much for doing this. I can relate to so much of your experiences. May Allah bless you.
He had a good grandfather.
May Allah bless your life brothar!
Never put your hand on your woman because once u cross this line there is no going back.
Keep this in your minds always.
Therefore the best thing is to be patient.
I know someone who got divorced, admitted he slapped his wife, this man is a rich guy and his wife got the house and his other properties. Never in his many years of marriage he had abused his wife or children before the last episode.
This person is generally known to be a well behaved, intelligent and a happy person, has great relationship within the community.
Slapping your woman has huge consequences in America, if the wife files a divorce, so don’t make that mistake
For sure under no circumstances should a man put his hands violently on a woman. Not only is it disgusting but as a result you clearly can see the negative ramifications it can have on him and his family. Just don’t do it.
His mother died at age 27.
Make Dua for your mom and your grandparents
You can't make Dua for your parents if they died as non muslims
I m so sorry I know so nobody taught or showed them about Islam me too I converted to Islam my parents passed away as Christians
May Allah help us understand why he chooses some for guidance and not others.
Allahuma amen Yaa Mujib Dua
Khalil Centre is an Islamic psychology centre
I wish there was something like this some Muslim organization to help the muslim woman in the UK 🤲💝
Asalamualikum brother.. Jazakallah.. May Allah bless u..love n regards.. 🌷👍
At age 3, his mother abandoned him to the grandmother. His mother was a victim of domestic violence. He was abused by his grandmother!?? His childhood was not normal.
He wasn’t abused by the Grandmother or Grandfathet. He was abused by his stepmother, whom his dad married, after his parents divorced.
He saw the grandparents on visits. I think he began living with the grandparents full time after he became older. Possibly around age 15? The grandfather passed, but he stayed with his grandmother until he went to prison. His grandmother died a year before he got released.
Listen closely to what he’s saying.
Masha Allah May Allah bless you .
Brothe Yusha in your view what should a man who's being battered do? Should he just turn the other cheek or should he grapple only without striking?
As salaamu ‘alaikum. Were you in Chicago at the conference??? I believe I spoke to you briefly
No i was not
@@YushaEvans okay…by the way Allāh (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) says in the Qur’aan:
An-Nisa' 4:86
وَإِذَا حُيِّيتُم بِتَحِيَّةٍ فَحَيُّواْ بِأَحۡسَنَ مِنۡهَآ أَوۡ رُدُّوهَآۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَىۡءٍ حَسِيبًا
“When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or (at least) return it equally. Certainly, Allah is Ever a Careful Account Taker of all things.”
That’s a command from Allāh (Azza Wa Jal). So it’s only proper that you return my greetings my dear brother, and may Allāh bless you.
@@bilaalal-maghreebi5899 و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته