Salam. May Allah make things easy for you. I can't say I've been through physical abuse like you have, but I've been emotionally neglected, blackmailed and forced to make life decisions that I never wanted to, which broke me inside out. So this episode really helped me personally. People who haven't been through what you have just don't understand why you are the way you are. And yes, it is super HARD to open up to others and form healthy relationships. So hard wallahi. May Allah make it easy for all of us. May Allah heal all wounded hearts and souls. Ameen.
If u ever come to Johannesburg South Africa pls stay with us and ur family U most welcome I truly had the same life as u I feel tht pain But My ALLAH HAS BLESSED ME WITH ONLY THE BEST I LIVE FOR JANNAH NOT DUNIYAH I have learned to take zero crap from people And it's still hurtful 💔 but sajdah and zhikr takes me through life and my husband. He is truly amazing I thank Allah aza wajal every day for him And my kids Keep us in ur duas Wasalaam
Takes a lot to talk about such experiences you had to endure as a child. Many Allah give you blessings and happiness in your life and with everything you do Inshallah.
i feel you bro. I used to get abused too, been choked, beat until i had bruises, but this was normal life for me, i thought thats how life was supposed to be, but i became older and more conscious of my surroundings so i realized my dad was wrong and i confronted him, he has cried a few times and realized he was young and dumb, he was in his 20s when he did this to me. I forgive him, but i still get angry sometimes when i think about it
Same. Every time I talk to him and I see the same mindset or behavior in him I get very angry inside.and he said he never touched me. That makes me even more angry. It's a great fitna for me. If it's not my dad and Allah wants to keep the family ties I never spoke or wants to see him again. My whole life is ruin. I cannot have relationships, trust nobody. I don't have kids because I don't want them to suffer from my parenting bc iam so broke Inside.this trauma effected my entire life and decicions I make. Everything. Sad. My mom one day takes a iron from laundry and burns my butt as I was 5 years old bc I was playing so loud. I cannot sit for weeks. My Dad beats me up almost every day. For hours and hours until I was 16.the last time he tried was at 17. I still see his anger in him today but he is old now. If he was 25 years younger... Sad. But I forgive. But the scars are burning like fire inside my chest nearly my intire life.
People make "introvert" seem like a bad thing. I am an introvert. Not as a kid, but when I entered the 8th grade. I became an introvert, and I love my life way more by myself then when I used to talk to people. My only 2 friends are my wife and my mom, that's it. I barely speak to my two friends. I spend most of my time with Allah(SWT).
When I enter long study and cramming sessions I am an introvert, aftergraduating i open up but I have to remember other ppl might be in an introvert phase like me, havin the right vocabs words help me understand.
It was very difficult for me to listen this episode, and I can't imagine how you endured all these at such an young age. Happiness, bliss and peace of mind are some of the best gifts from Allah that a lot of us takes them for granted. Listening to the sufferings and trauma you had to go through, I am regretful of the times I didn't thank Allah SWT for these gifts. May Allah forgive all of us and may Allah accept my duas for all the people who are in distress, trauma and abuse. May Allah make everything easy for you brother Yusha, accept your duas and good deeds, forgive your mistakes and grant you peace in this duniya and the next.
SubhanAllah its true our children don’t belong to us we are slaves ourselves and we have keep that on the front of our hearts…jazakAllahu khair my brother
Assalamualaikum brother, I am always listening to your lectures brother. I just listened to your talk of domestic violence tape 2 child abuse tonight. These domestic violence tapes have been so beneficial and helpful to me brother by the mercy of Allah. May these tapes be the means of taking you and your family easily to jannah. Amin. Whatever you are doing is an unique ability given to you by allah. May he continue to give you this ability. Amin. I always pray for you brother. Allah have me relief this year from an abusive marriage of 26 years. I understand what you are talking about brother. Stay firm and strong on all that you are doing inshallah. From your sister in England
Masha Allah 💌Life was so hard for you as a child, but you are an, so better person now. a Teacher for so many, children and adults🤲. "life is my QUALIFICATION". Your QUOTE💌
And brother yusha. You are very lucky that you become the person that you are today. Scholar, family, a job and so on. You are not so broken as you maybe think. It can be way more worst. Trust me.
Ma sha Allah. You have so much of Noor & Zeenah on your face. I just can't imagine what you hv gone through in your child hood life. May the Almighty Allah bless you with happiness & contentment in sha Allah.
I'm so sorry you have suffered so much in your young life, from those who should have protected you. ....Trauma leaves scars ...that will take your whole life time to heal and it is so hard to forgive but anger kills you not the perpetrator, even though they don't deserve forgiveness...you do...I wish you and yours blessings and peace for now and the future.
I wish to someday meet you Brother Yusha! Thank you for these videos! It helped me so much to leave some of my past behind! Thank you, and I love you for the sake of Allah SWT!
I have been through the same thing my brother, my step mom was so evil to me and my sisters and brothers. My father helped her , now that we all on our own and we made it Alhamdulilah, now she wants to be our friend and send us prayers, my sisters and brothers said they forgave her for the sake of Allah and I think I forgave her too but I am still working on it. I been through worse situations with my step mom . I don’t want to talk about it cause it make me feel angry but I always thought that it’s the will of Allah the Almighty. I love Allah so I let it go . Thank you so much my brother in faith for this video.
Mashallah. Forgive her for the sake of Allah and inshallah Allah will show you mercy in the Day of Judgement. That's what I did personally.. wasn't easy but it was worth it
Although I'd most of my life lived in War zone and witnessed many horror scenes, there is nothing like what brother Yusha witnessed. Alhamdullilah brother for where you're now. God bless 🙌
Ustazah Asma' Harun taught us to recite Surah Al Ghafir:44 , many times with the meaning, when we encounter difficulties. When we leave our problems to Allah & trust Him to help us, Insya Allah , our problems will be solved. Based on my experience so far, it always turns out better than I expected.... Alhamdulillah for His help.
Brother mashaAllah you are extremely brave . These reflections push us to look beyond the surface. May Allah bless you and your family success of this life and next
What a brave, honest, and sincere confession of something that must have been very painful just to process. Thank you so much for this. I am a revert myself, and this encouraged me to reflect on my journey, and even start some difficult discussions from my end. May Allah always be with you.
May Allah the most kind remove all your difficulties, heal you completely and grant you the best of this life and the next ameen. May Allah bless you abundantly ameen.
Thank you for being transparent about your pass. So many people have experienced abuse. But believe it or not, there are qualities of the abuser that you learn and can use in a positive way. Reflect what was good about the abuser, because there are some useful qualities. For example, my dad was an abusive alcoholic, but he also was a man of courage. Since then, I have learned to remember his courage when faced with difficult situations. So Allah, in his wisdom, has given us certain people in our lives so that we can take the good from them and discard the bad. I have never had a desire to drink alcohol from witnessing what alcohol did to my dad. And remember that abusers are hurt people too. Pray for them and forgive them. Tell them if you can. It will really set you free. May Allah allow us all to stand up for children who are being abused when we know it. And remember, Allah is the BEST OF PLANNERS. YUSHA, I'M GLAD THAT YOU HAVE REALIZED THAT YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE AUTHENTIC AND USE YOUR PASS TO HELP OTHERS WHO HAVE BEEN A CHILD OF ABUSE.
It needs a special clarity of purpose to put yourself out there like the way you have. May Allah reward and forgive you and us all. Very helpful akhi. 👍
May Allah accept your Ibadah Sheikh and reward you for your Sabr Aameen . Been their and still have flash back Alhamdulillah but threw our hardships comes our reward na am Yaani for every hardship their was two ease before the hardship comes the ease and after the hardship theirs another ease Alhamdulillah
Everything is according to Allah's plan. You have all the energy to bring this awareness. Most of us can't do. So forgive and turn all the memories to something beneficial to others not necessarily to your side. Alhamdulillah for Islam.
Thank you for sharing. This def makes me feel less alone, and know that ultimately we will rise out of our circumstances. May Allah swt grant us ease and remove all hardships!
Aameen! There is always light and the end of the tunnel.. we just have to find it! For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease [i.e., relief]. (94:5) - Saheeh International Translation of Qur’an By the way, the videos on the playlist on my channel might inspire / benefit some people! The playlist is more for people looking into Islam but Muslims might also benefit / be inspired by the videos on the playlist! Anyway all the best to anyone reading this comment!
It was difficult for me to hear you say that sometimes you need to have to be away from your wife and children. It really made me sad to hear this. Am so sorry for what you went through. May Allah make it easy on you my brother. May Allah grant you peace of mind and please continue with your dahwah. May Allah forgive us our sins and grant us janaa tul firdaus. So sorry brother from an elder sister in Nairobi kenya.
Salam alleikum this been extremely helpful I appreciate you talking about your hardship may Allah reward for It Ameen🤲🏾 definitely help me reflect on my journey in life for that thank you 🙏🏾
I love you too brother Yusha and I hope and pray Allah brings you solace and the peace you are searching for Aameen. Whenever you are ready to make part 3 of this, I’ll be here to listen inshaAllah. I don’t know if anyone else will be here to listen, but I’ll be here. Though you might not feel it because of your experiences, let me tell you… You are a great individual and inspiration to me and millions of Muslims worldwide. I’m going to speak for the masses when I say you carry a nobility and calmness in your voice, speech, and demeanor that rivals the greats of the past. You are a treasure to us and the entirety of the Ummah. Obviously I don’t know, but I think and feel that Allah has put you through these heavy burdens so that you turn out this great SubhanAllah. No matter what you do, don’t ever stop speaking publicly or digitally to the masses. Your voice holds an inherent quality of what a Muslim can and should be. You seek to help people and especially in the times we live now, we need you more than ever brother. I see noor in your face and spirit, so I know what I’m experiencing comes from Allah and that is never wrong. Peace be upon you dear brother!
Thank you Brother Yusha for sharing your experiences! The difference it makes is significant. Unfortunately this is a common behavior of parents who experienced bullying or abuse. Later on they become abusive and hurt whoever is under their care. My mom went through domestic violence from my father. I heard my father was beat up when he was little. My mom now is a person who likes to control a lot. I’m not allowed to think, decide, choose, or plan for my own life. She says to me repeatedly to not “ruin” what she has already planned. Recently I’ve got this urge to get married. I just got to the point where I just want to be a wife and a mother. I got a marriage proposal and my mom freaked out and took my phone, passport, and everything else away and even threatened the man who proposed to me. I was hit, beat, and pinned to the ground and she sat on my arm. Pulled my hair and dragged me with it. Left me with bruises and red spots on my face and neck. Threatened me with a prayer against me and said that Allah is mad and against me. She uses Islam as a weapon against me and my siblings are all on her side. All because I wanted to get married and knew a man who wants to marry me. Thankfully I know better to not let any of this get to me even though I no longer feel safe and comfortable with my family anymore. My mom is person that delays marriage a lot, which is a negative thing from the Islamic perspective because marrying early is highly encouraged. She constantly said that there are people who get married at 30 or 35 because they were “developing” themselves. Keep in my mind that I’m in my early-to-mid 20s, which is an age that already surpassed the marriage age. I feel ready and needy for marriage, which is something that only a person establishes within him or her self and not the parents. She also constantly says “what will the people say” or “people will think you’re nothing”. Just constantly worrying about societal opinions and what other people think, ironically. I’m glad you broke the cycle brother Yusha. On my way to break my family’s cycle as well. Alhamdulilah
You are so brave and so strong to share your stories. You are truly an inspiration to all of us that have endured trauma as children. May Allah continue to bless you and your family
Salam alaykum Brother Yusha. I once was a student who transported you while you visited Pomona CA when you gave a talk at my university. At the time you were starting a TV channel. Many things have changed. Perhaps consider reading the book Overcoming Codependence by Pia Mellody. I am currently reading it right now and it's helped me understand the generational results of lasting trauma, as well as facing and growing past the trauma faced by the "inner-child" in adulthood. May ﷲ grant you ease and patience and success in your healing.
I had the same problem with r husband who abused me very bad but Alxamdullillaah I am now healing although he kept my children I don’t have any connection with them he is very bad man.
Salaam Alaikum brother. You childhood was very much similar to me. After my mother died when I was 11 months old, my father used to abuse and beat me most of the time. I only had my grandmother who was like a strong walls between me and my father. When she died I used to live alone and I had to get married at 25. My father got married after me. My step mother was very jealous me I don't know why. One day I heard her screaming her lung out and I found out that she was complaining about her mobile phones being stolen and guess who stole it, me. It was a feature phone and at that time I was using Nokia N8. Nobody believed me except my uncle and my cousin. It was a plan devised by her so that i would leave the house and I did in the middle of the night with my son who was only 6 months old. My cousin gave me one of his apartment to live for sometime until something turns out. Brother Yusha You reminded me of everything and my heart is heavy again.
Man it gets me upset that the adults we grew up with thought physical harm against us was the way to solve problems. I hated getting beat so bad that I don't even want to whip my kids for actually doing something wrong. I feel there is other ways to teach kids right from wrong than making them physically hurt to force them to do what you want them to do/"listen to them". Like it legitimately effected my life negatively that I don't believe in making my kid listen by beating it into them
I pray to Allah that you heal completely and get all the rewards in the hereafter inshallah! Very proud behavior man. May Allah protect you and your family
The only way to survive abuse is the remembrance of Allah that the oppressors well be judged by the most high for their action. Quran 14:42 "And never think that Allah is unaware of what the wrongdoers do. He only delays them [i.e., their account] for a Day when eyes will stare [in horror]."
Nay Allah reward you for sharing your story. And May Allah make these talks a healing to you and everyone who is suffering out there. Any advice on how one can help a person who is in a domestic violence situation and can’t get out of it?
I was burst to tears while watching this video. I was wondering how someone who has physical disability could have done such horrible abuse to an innocent child. Well, the wicked step mother exists everywhere. Prophet Muhammad PBUH was always right. He said in your body there is a heart. If it is good, so the entire is good. May ALLAH grants your Stepmom hidayah / guidance and ask for your forgiveness. I am sure she will reap what she sow. And may ALLAH heals your inner child wound completely because you are a good and special guy. Bi'idznillah.
Amin Ya Rabb dear brother Ana hibbuka fillah, may Allah give you Jannat Al Firdows Amin Ya Rabb I'm also a revert like you habibi and I have experienced similar but smaller problems and abuse, so I feel you brother, I really feel you dear brother jazakAllahu khayr
This hit home! It’s almost like your talking about my childhood and how it’s impacted me to recover from such… the part you mentioned you need to be alone, I was bashed with words app it’s looked at as selfish act for dealing with my own traumas whilst trying to be a single mother
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh akhi Yusha..ana min Singhafura..i know im 1 yr late..i just want to let u know, ana uhibbuka filla..for as long as ure muslim..wallahi..im being honest..
This was so extremely inspiring to hear... I believe in sha Allah your story is not over and it will only become better for you, the ones you love and the ones you will help with your coaching and in all other forms. MashaAllah TabarakAllah...
Subhanallah for who u became, Allah aza wajal truly saved u, u r really an inspiration and trust me thrs many that's going through exactly wht u did U just b the best husband and father to ur family Keep the ummah in ur duas, and likewise will I Stay blessed
Salaam Alaikum. Brother, may Allah fill your heart and soul with peace and mercy and may Allah heal you from within. I can't express how grateful I am that you decided to put it out in the world. I have never, never heard any Imam or Da'i openly talk about abusive parents (with the exception of Ustad Nouman Ali Khan). In many cultures, parents have been raised in stature so absolutely that even if they beat the hell out of you, you're expected to suck it up cos Wa Bil Walidayni Ihsana. May Allah protect us all. May Allah guide the parents so that they realize that they will be held accountable in the court of Allah for breaking the Amanah.
Subhaan Allaah, jazakallah khair for opening up about your childhood in order to help others. I pray it benefits many. I was touched and teared when u spoke of the love u have for your children. Aameen aameen Aameen to your heartfelt duas for your kids. May Allaah make all three of them upright, righteous, pious, godfearing and of the best character. May Allaah protect them and your whole family from the evil eye. May Allaah heal your inner child and recover u completely and give u so much inner peace, and everyone who has had a traumatic childhood, may allaah heal and cure your inner child. Aameen to all your duas brother, Aameen aameen Aameen 🤲🤲🤲🤲
Asslamu Alaykum, thank you for making these videos I was waiting for the next one. May Allah SubhanahouWaTala continue His blessings on you. I advise if that is a still picture printed in paper.
Ya Allah , may Allah make it easier Ameen . Totally relatable sadly. Stayed alone in a room most of my younger years on constant punishment and being told I was a bad seed. I wrote so many story books as a child while being punished.
I try to line up your convert and faith journey to ths abuse journey, i watched long ago... 19 :30 - first right of a child is a righteous parent, choose a compatible righteous spouse Amin to your du'as! So glad you can heal with your kids, I hope. pray Allah continues to heal you swiftly for a good purpose. 32 :00 - Allah gives rewards those who go through trials, thse with easy lives will wish they were shredded... 34 :30 - good point on limits and helping others. 37 :30 - Taqwa of a day returned, no soul dealt with unjustice balance ... graves is where things begin. 44 :00 - Talks about therapy maybe to talk things out. will try to be non judgemental and straight forward and may refer to compile Muslim mental health pros. I am happy you opening up and trying to make good change, and I hope you continue to heal.
My dad was very controlling. Whatever he wanted from his children, whether it was for us to give him our wage each week or to tell us something, he would use our mum as his mouth. And she got beat up few times. Just being in the same room with him was frightening. I grew up in fear.
May Allah heal you Yusha. But this fire you have inside wouldn't have been there if not for the past. We all are broken, it's just few who find purpose after being broken.
I wish I would have watched this before meeting you. I would have made more of an effort to not make a mistake. May Allah (SWT) bless your soul brother.
hey yusha you have been of the lights that guided me to islam im from the charleston and greenville sc that my childhood is exactly the same almost to detail that its errie how similar we are my childhood abuse has broken me but those have effected me to the point of suicide attempts... need some help from my muslim community if you know south carolina its that being a muslim there can be tricky aND DIFFICULT I AM REACHING OUT FOR HELP ITS RUINED ME TO WHERE I LOST EVERYTHING NEED SOME HELP PLEASE GET BACK TO ME asap.... thanks Salaams Jafar Saddiq Ishmael
As salaam alaykum wa rahmatullah, I'm from Charleston originally. You should be able to find help in Columbia at Masjid Muslimeen inshaAllah. The imam there, in the past (I haven't been there in over 8 years) helped Muslims with housing. One of the assistant imams, Mutahhir Sabree, is helpful as well. Columbia is a good place as far as South Carolina goes to get on your feet. Then check out the community at Masjid At Tawheed in Stone Mountain, GA .
Assalamualaikum.....un-boxing is a way to heal...let go... forgive.... refresh.... empty the cup...fill in with new hope & duas... prayers to the Allah The Almighty.... it's a test from Him...so we would surrender to Allah seek for His guidance... protection and care....❤️❤️🇲🇾🇲🇾
Sometimes therapy doesn’t work because the damage is severe. Subhanallah I resonated with most of it, but the thing is I’ve not healed and i don’t know if I ever will heal from it.
I think some parents who have been abused in their own childhoods, don’t always realize that they themselves have become abusers of their own children. There needs to be more in depth parenting classes. Idk how we get them to go? But I wish we could force them! 😁 I understand your plight, but you can overcome this, with the help of Allah, insh’Allah!!🤲🏻 Remember, “holding these things inside, (grudges) is like you drinking poison & expecting the other person to die!” It can also make you physically ill. It can shorten your life. That would hurt your children greatly!!Please allow your heart to heal. When I was diagnosed with a severe illness, (i posted that on another thread on one of your “Prison Tapes”) I realized that it is all sooo not worth it!! May Allah heal & comfort you, insh’Allah!!🤲🏻 I appreciate that you want to help others, but please don’t take on the weight of the world’s abuse all by yourself! You have not totally healed yet yourself. But possibly facilitate them getting services, idk? It’s a lot! I only tell you this as a person that knows what I!’ talking about. These are such heavy issues for one person to take on when you already have enough on your own plate. May Allah reward you for your efforts & intentions to help those in need of mental health services. “Allah Knows Best!!”
Salam. May Allah make things easy for you. I can't say I've been through physical abuse like you have, but I've been emotionally neglected, blackmailed and forced to make life decisions that I never wanted to, which broke me inside out. So this episode really helped me personally. People who haven't been through what you have just don't understand why you are the way you are. And yes, it is super HARD to open up to others and form healthy relationships. So hard wallahi. May Allah make it easy for all of us. May Allah heal all wounded hearts and souls. Ameen.
Ameen
Amen. same for you sister
You are one of the people that led me to accept Islam . I come from a background of abuse . Thank you for sharing your story.
Ive blocked out most of the abuse I witnessed and endured by my dad. How amazing is the mind at erasing all memory of past trauma. Alhamdhulillah.
If u ever come to Johannesburg South Africa pls stay with us and ur family
U most welcome
I truly had the same life as u
I feel tht pain
But My ALLAH HAS BLESSED ME WITH ONLY THE BEST
I LIVE FOR JANNAH
NOT DUNIYAH
I have learned to take zero crap from people
And it's still hurtful 💔 but sajdah and zhikr takes me through life and my husband. He is truly amazing
I thank Allah aza wajal every day for him
And my kids
Keep us in ur duas
Wasalaam
Takes a lot to talk about such experiences you had to endure as a child. Many Allah give you blessings and happiness in your life and with everything you do Inshallah.
I feel you brother..
I pray that God Almighty bless you and your family.
Peace be upon you and all the believers..!
i feel you bro. I used to get abused too, been choked, beat until i had bruises, but this was normal life for me, i thought thats how life was supposed to be, but i became older and more conscious of my surroundings so i realized my dad was wrong and i confronted him, he has cried a few times and realized he was young and dumb, he was in his 20s when he did this to me. I forgive him, but i still get angry sometimes when i think about it
Asslamu Alaykum,
May Allah SubhanahouWaTala bless you and guide you and your loved ones because you forgave him.
Same. Every time I talk to him and I see the same mindset or behavior in him I get very angry inside.and he said he never touched me. That makes me even more angry. It's a great fitna for me. If it's not my dad and Allah wants to keep the family ties I never spoke or wants to see him again. My whole life is ruin. I cannot have relationships, trust nobody. I don't have kids because I don't want them to suffer from my parenting bc iam so broke Inside.this trauma effected my entire life and decicions I make. Everything. Sad. My mom one day takes a iron from laundry and burns my butt as I was 5 years old bc I was playing so loud. I cannot sit for weeks. My Dad beats me up almost every day. For hours and hours until I was 16.the last time he tried was at 17. I still see his anger in him today but he is old now. If he was 25 years younger... Sad.
But I forgive. But the scars are burning like fire inside my chest nearly my intire life.
Thanks brothers. I wish y'all well too
People make "introvert" seem like a bad thing. I am an introvert. Not as a kid, but when I entered the 8th grade. I became an introvert, and I love my life way more by myself then when I used to talk to people. My only 2 friends are my wife and my mom, that's it. I barely speak to my two friends. I spend most of my time with Allah(SWT).
When I enter long study and cramming sessions I am an introvert, aftergraduating i open up but I have to remember other ppl might be in an introvert phase like me, havin the right vocabs words help me understand.
It was very difficult for me to listen this episode, and I can't imagine how you endured all these at such an young age. Happiness, bliss and peace of mind are some of the best gifts from Allah that a lot of us takes them for granted. Listening to the sufferings and trauma you had to go through, I am regretful of the times I didn't thank Allah SWT for these gifts. May Allah forgive all of us and may Allah accept my duas for all the people who are in distress, trauma and abuse. May Allah make everything easy for you brother Yusha, accept your duas and good deeds, forgive your mistakes and grant you peace in this duniya and the next.
Precious name مُتَّقِن
I needed to hear the ONES that get away with everything in this life- being Dealt with on Justice Day and Punishment in the grave!
SubhanAllah its true our children don’t belong to us we are slaves ourselves and we have keep that on the front of our hearts…jazakAllahu khair my brother
Assalamualaikum brother, I am always listening to your lectures brother. I just listened to your talk of domestic violence tape 2 child abuse tonight. These domestic violence tapes have been so beneficial and helpful to me brother by the mercy of Allah. May these tapes be the means of taking you and your family easily to jannah. Amin. Whatever you are doing is an unique ability given to you by allah. May he continue to give you this ability. Amin. I always pray for you brother. Allah have me relief this year from an abusive marriage of 26 years. I understand what you are talking about brother.
Stay firm and strong on all that you are doing inshallah.
From your sister in England
Masha Allah 💌Life was so hard for you as a child, but you are an, so better person now. a Teacher for so many, children and adults🤲. "life is my QUALIFICATION". Your QUOTE💌
May Allah bless u brother guys don’t forget if u can fast today is Thursday alhamdallah
And brother yusha. You are very lucky that you become the person that you are today. Scholar, family, a job and so on. You are not so broken as you maybe think. It can be way more worst. Trust me.
Ma sha Allah. You have so much of Noor & Zeenah on your face. I just can't imagine what you hv gone through in your child hood life. May the Almighty Allah bless you with happiness & contentment in sha Allah.
I'm so sorry you have suffered so much in your young life, from those who should have protected you.
....Trauma leaves scars ...that will take your whole life time to heal and it is so hard to forgive but anger kills you not the perpetrator, even though they don't deserve forgiveness...you do...I wish you and yours blessings and peace for now and the future.
Alhamdulillah! Thanks for sharing your experiences.
I wish to someday meet you Brother Yusha! Thank you for these videos! It helped me so much to leave some of my past behind! Thank you, and I love you for the sake of Allah SWT!
As a parent with 2 kids i got a lot of lessons from you brother, May Allah Almighty reward you.Amin
I relate so much to the numbing and becoming emotionless as a result man.. sooo much
Alhamdulillah brother yusha
May Allah protect us and keep us all on the straight path and may he help all those
straggling, May Allah reward you for ur straggles brother 🤲
Ameen
I have been through the same thing my brother, my step mom was so evil to me and my sisters and brothers. My father helped her , now that we all on our own and we made it Alhamdulilah, now she wants to be our friend and send us prayers, my sisters and brothers said they forgave her for the sake of Allah and I think I forgave her too but I am still working on it. I been through worse situations with my step mom . I don’t want to talk about it cause it make me feel angry but I always thought that it’s the will of Allah the Almighty. I love Allah so I let it go . Thank you so much my brother in faith for this video.
Mashallah. Forgive her for the sake of Allah and inshallah Allah will show you mercy in the Day of Judgement. That's what I did personally.. wasn't easy but it was worth it
Although I'd most of my life lived in War zone and witnessed many horror scenes, there is nothing like what brother Yusha witnessed.
Alhamdullilah brother for where you're now.
God bless 🙌
Ustazah Asma' Harun taught us to recite Surah Al Ghafir:44 , many times with the meaning, when we encounter difficulties.
When we leave our problems to Allah & trust Him to help us, Insya Allah , our problems will be solved.
Based on my experience so far, it always turns out better than I expected.... Alhamdulillah for His help.
You're very good brother ,I like your motivational speeches
Brother mashaAllah you are extremely brave . These reflections push us to look beyond the surface. May Allah bless you and your family success of this life and next
Been waiting ages for this!!
We don't realize what damage long term can be created from bad parenting
What a brave, honest, and sincere confession of something that must have been very painful just to process. Thank you so much for this. I am a revert myself, and this encouraged me to reflect on my journey, and even start some difficult discussions from my end. May Allah always be with you.
Subhanallah
thank you. so relatable.
May Allah the most kind remove all your difficulties, heal you completely and grant you the best of this life and the next ameen. May Allah bless you abundantly ameen.
May Allah continue to side u and increase u ameen
Thank you for being transparent about your pass. So many people have experienced abuse. But believe it or not, there are qualities of the abuser that you learn and can use in a positive way. Reflect what was good about the abuser, because there are some useful qualities. For example, my dad was an abusive alcoholic, but he also was a man of courage. Since then, I have learned to remember his courage when faced with difficult situations. So Allah, in his wisdom, has given us certain people in our lives so that we can take the good from them and discard the bad. I have never had a desire to drink alcohol from witnessing what alcohol did to my dad. And remember that abusers are hurt people too. Pray for them and forgive them. Tell them if you can. It will really set you free. May Allah allow us all to stand up for children who are being abused when we know it. And remember, Allah is the BEST OF PLANNERS. YUSHA, I'M GLAD THAT YOU HAVE REALIZED THAT YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE AUTHENTIC AND USE YOUR PASS TO HELP OTHERS WHO HAVE BEEN A CHILD OF ABUSE.
It needs a special clarity of purpose to put yourself out there like the way you have. May Allah reward and forgive you and us all. Very helpful akhi. 👍
May Allah accept your Ibadah Sheikh and reward you for your Sabr Aameen . Been their and still have flash back Alhamdulillah but threw our hardships comes our reward na am Yaani for every hardship their was two ease before the hardship comes the ease and after the hardship theirs another ease Alhamdulillah
Made duaa for you akhi!
May Allah SWT grant U success. You r such an inspiration!
Everything is according to Allah's plan. You have all the energy to bring this awareness. Most of us can't do. So forgive and turn all the memories to something beneficial to others not necessarily to your side. Alhamdulillah for Islam.
Thank you for sharing. This def makes me feel less alone, and know that ultimately we will rise out of our circumstances.
May Allah swt grant us ease and remove all hardships!
Aameen! There is always light and the end of the tunnel.. we just have to find it!
For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease [i.e., relief]. (94:5)
- Saheeh International Translation of Qur’an
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It was difficult for me to hear you say that sometimes you need to have to be away from your wife and children. It really made me sad to hear this. Am so sorry for what you went through. May Allah make it easy on you my brother. May Allah grant you peace of mind and please continue with your dahwah. May Allah forgive us our sins and grant us janaa tul firdaus. So sorry brother from an elder sister in Nairobi kenya.
May Allah grant you healing and give you peace Ameen
Salam alleikum this been extremely helpful I appreciate you talking about your hardship may Allah reward for It Ameen🤲🏾 definitely help me reflect on my journey in life for that thank you 🙏🏾
I love you too brother Yusha and I hope and pray Allah brings you solace and the peace you are searching for Aameen. Whenever you are ready to make part 3 of this, I’ll be here to listen inshaAllah. I don’t know if anyone else will be here to listen, but I’ll be here. Though you might not feel it because of your experiences, let me tell you… You are a great individual and inspiration to me and millions of Muslims worldwide. I’m going to speak for the masses when I say you carry a nobility and calmness in your voice, speech, and demeanor that rivals the greats of the past. You are a treasure to us and the entirety of the Ummah. Obviously I don’t know, but I think and feel that Allah has put you through these heavy burdens so that you turn out this great SubhanAllah. No matter what you do, don’t ever stop speaking publicly or digitally to the masses. Your voice holds an inherent quality of what a Muslim can and should be. You seek to help people and especially in the times we live now, we need you more than ever brother. I see noor in your face and spirit, so I know what I’m experiencing comes from Allah and that is never wrong. Peace be upon you dear brother!
Thank you. This is your truth and thank you for sharing it with us! May Allah heal you and your heart.
Assalamu alaykum dear brother its very brave and strong of you to share all this with us, thanks brother, im feeling with you.
btw. whenever i see a bookshelf like yours i always get curious about the books, can you maybe make a book tour video sometimes?
Thank you Brother Yusha for sharing your experiences! The difference it makes is significant. Unfortunately this is a common behavior of parents who experienced bullying or abuse. Later on they become abusive and hurt whoever is under their care. My mom went through domestic violence from my father. I heard my father was beat up when he was little. My mom now is a person who likes to control a lot. I’m not allowed to think, decide, choose, or plan for my own life. She says to me repeatedly to not “ruin” what she has already planned. Recently I’ve got this urge to get married. I just got to the point where I just want to be a wife and a mother. I got a marriage proposal and my mom freaked out and took my phone, passport, and everything else away and even threatened the man who proposed to me. I was hit, beat, and pinned to the ground and she sat on my arm. Pulled my hair and dragged me with it. Left me with bruises and red spots on my face and neck. Threatened me with a prayer against me and said that Allah is mad and against me. She uses Islam as a weapon against me and my siblings are all on her side. All because I wanted to get married and knew a man who wants to marry me. Thankfully I know better to not let any of this get to me even though I no longer feel safe and comfortable with my family anymore. My mom is person that delays marriage a lot, which is a negative thing from the Islamic perspective because marrying early is highly encouraged. She constantly said that there are people who get married at 30 or 35 because they were “developing” themselves. Keep in my mind that I’m in my early-to-mid 20s, which is an age that already surpassed the marriage age. I feel ready and needy for marriage, which is something that only a person establishes within him or her self and not the parents. She also constantly says “what will the people say” or “people will think you’re nothing”. Just constantly worrying about societal opinions and what other people think, ironically. I’m glad you broke the cycle brother Yusha. On my way to break my family’s cycle as well. Alhamdulilah
Jazakallah
When karma comes to bite the abuser, it's known as 'poetic justice'.
You are so brave and so strong to share your stories. You are truly an inspiration to all of us that have endured trauma as children. May Allah continue to bless you and your family
Salam alaykum Brother Yusha. I once was a student who transported you while you visited Pomona CA when you gave a talk at my university. At the time you were starting a TV channel. Many things have changed. Perhaps consider reading the book Overcoming Codependence by Pia Mellody. I am currently reading it right now and it's helped me understand the generational results of lasting trauma, as well as facing and growing past the trauma faced by the "inner-child" in adulthood. May ﷲ grant you ease and patience and success in your healing.
This is similar to the life I had ..he speaks the truth...takes ages to to get over this ..and the worse thing is it comes back to haunt you
I had the same problem with r husband who abused me very bad but Alxamdullillaah I am now healing although he kept my children I don’t have any connection with them he is very bad man.
Salaam Alaikum brother. You childhood was very much similar to me. After my mother died when I was 11 months old, my father used to abuse and beat me most of the time. I only had my grandmother who was like a strong walls between me and my father. When she died I used to live alone and I had to get married at 25. My father got married after me. My step mother was very jealous me I don't know why. One day I heard her screaming her lung out and I found out that she was complaining about her mobile phones being stolen and guess who stole it, me. It was a feature phone and at that time I was using Nokia N8. Nobody believed me except my uncle and my cousin. It was a plan devised by her so that i would leave the house and I did in the middle of the night with my son who was only 6 months old. My cousin gave me one of his apartment to live for sometime until something turns out. Brother Yusha You reminded me of everything and my heart is heavy again.
I love you for the sake of Allah.. insyaAllah. Continue the journey insyaAllah you are one of the people in heaven. Biiznillah. Aamiinn..
May Allah SWT bless you and your family!
Always your reflections hit me so hard. 😭
Man it gets me upset that the adults we grew up with thought physical harm against us was the way to solve problems. I hated getting beat so bad that I don't even want to whip my kids for actually doing something wrong. I feel there is other ways to teach kids right from wrong than making them physically hurt to force them to do what you want them to do/"listen to them". Like it legitimately effected my life negatively that I don't believe in making my kid listen by beating it into them
I pray to Allah that you heal completely and get all the rewards in the hereafter inshallah! Very proud behavior man. May Allah protect you and your family
The only way to survive abuse is the remembrance of Allah that the oppressors well be judged by the most high for their action. Quran 14:42 "And never think that Allah is unaware of what the wrongdoers do. He only delays them [i.e., their account] for a Day when eyes will stare [in horror]."
May Allah reward you and protect you and your family.
Thank you so much brother yusha I wish all the best for you. From morocco
Nay Allah reward you for sharing your story. And May Allah make these talks a healing to you and everyone who is suffering out there.
Any advice on how one can help a person who is in a domestic violence situation and can’t get out of it?
I was burst to tears while watching this video. I was wondering how someone who has physical disability could have done such horrible abuse to an innocent child. Well, the wicked step mother exists everywhere. Prophet Muhammad PBUH was always right. He said in your body there is a heart. If it is good, so the entire is good. May ALLAH grants your Stepmom hidayah / guidance and ask for your forgiveness. I am sure she will reap what she sow. And may ALLAH heals your inner child wound completely because you are a good and special guy. Bi'idznillah.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
ما شاء الله
JazakaAllah Khyran
Amin Ya Rabb dear brother Ana hibbuka fillah, may Allah give you Jannat Al Firdows Amin Ya Rabb I'm also a revert like you habibi and I have experienced similar but smaller problems and abuse, so I feel you brother, I really feel you dear brother jazakAllahu khayr
This hit home! It’s almost like your talking about my childhood and how it’s impacted me to recover from such… the part you mentioned you need to be alone, I was bashed with words app it’s looked at as selfish act for dealing with my own traumas whilst trying to be a single mother
Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh akhi Yusha..ana min Singhafura..i know im 1 yr late..i just want to let u know, ana uhibbuka filla..for as long as ure muslim..wallahi..im being honest..
Thanks for shareing your story with us ..wating to lunch your new website
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Very helpful
btw. whenever i see a bookshelf like yours i always get curious about the books, can you maybe make a book tour video sometimes?
This was so extremely inspiring to hear... I believe in sha Allah your story is not over and it will only become better for you, the ones you love and the ones you will help with your coaching and in all other forms. MashaAllah TabarakAllah...
Subhanallah for who u became, Allah aza wajal truly saved u, u r really an inspiration and trust me thrs many that's going through exactly wht u did
U just b the best husband and father to ur family
Keep the ummah in ur duas, and likewise will I
Stay blessed
May Allah Subhanawatala reward you for your patience
Salaam Alaikum. Brother, may Allah fill your heart and soul with peace and mercy and may Allah heal you from within. I can't express how grateful I am that you decided to put it out in the world. I have never, never heard any Imam or Da'i openly talk about abusive parents (with the exception of Ustad Nouman Ali Khan). In many cultures, parents have been raised in stature so absolutely that even if they beat the hell out of you, you're expected to suck it up cos Wa Bil Walidayni Ihsana. May Allah protect us all. May Allah guide the parents so that they realize that they will be held accountable in the court of Allah for breaking the Amanah.
dear brothers and sisters, may I ask you to make doaa for me, I am 41 years old, married six years ago and still have no children.
Thank you brother
Very helpful videos man! Keep up the brilliant work mashallah. I totally support you man .. TOTALLY and I feel you so much
Subhaan Allaah, jazakallah khair for opening up about your childhood in order to help others. I pray it benefits many. I was touched and teared when u spoke of the love u have for your children. Aameen aameen Aameen to your heartfelt duas for your kids. May Allaah make all three of them upright, righteous, pious, godfearing and of the best character. May Allaah protect them and your whole family from the evil eye.
May Allaah heal your inner child and recover u completely and give u so much inner peace, and everyone who has had a traumatic childhood, may allaah heal and cure your inner child.
Aameen to all your duas brother, Aameen aameen Aameen 🤲🤲🤲🤲
What a horrible woman...reminds me of the hadith of the woman who was cruel to a cat and sent to hellfire.
Because of the abuse I went through I have no friends
Allah is your friend.
@@ismaelal-amazighi41 in sha Allah! May Allah guide us all to be Walis of Allah!
Ameen
Asslamu Alaykum, thank you for making these videos I was waiting for the next one. May Allah SubhanahouWaTala continue His blessings on you. I advise if that is a still picture printed in paper.
Ya Allah , may Allah make it easier Ameen . Totally relatable sadly. Stayed alone in a room most of my younger years on constant punishment and being told I was a bad seed. I wrote so many story books as a child while being punished.
Yusha May Allah bless u with happiness in this world an the next life Ameeeen😥😥😥😥❤️
Love🌹
I try to line up your convert and faith journey to ths abuse journey, i watched long ago...
19 :30 - first right of a child is a righteous parent, choose a compatible righteous spouse
Amin to your du'as!
So glad you can heal with your kids, I hope. pray Allah continues to heal you swiftly for a good purpose.
32 :00 - Allah gives rewards those who go through trials, thse with easy lives will wish they were shredded...
34 :30 - good point on limits and helping others.
37 :30 - Taqwa of a day returned, no soul dealt with unjustice balance ...
graves is where things begin.
44 :00 - Talks about therapy maybe to talk things out. will try to be non judgemental and straight forward and may refer to compile Muslim mental health pros.
I am happy you opening up and trying to make good change, and I hope you continue to heal.
My dad was very controlling. Whatever he wanted from his children, whether it was for us to give him our wage each week or to tell us something, he would use our mum as his mouth. And she got beat up few times. Just being in the same room with him was frightening. I grew up in fear.
So sad brother
I have been in prison brother yusha evans and believe me it isn't easy at all
May Allah heal you Yusha. But this fire you have inside wouldn't have been there if not for the past. We all are broken, it's just few who find purpose after being broken.
Powerful
❤🕊
I wish I would have watched this before meeting you. I would have made more of an effort to not make a mistake.
May Allah (SWT) bless your soul brother.
hey yusha you have been of the lights that guided me to islam im from the charleston and greenville sc that my childhood is exactly the same almost to detail that its errie how similar we are my childhood abuse has broken me but those have effected me to the point of suicide attempts... need some help from my muslim community if you know south carolina its that being a muslim there can be tricky aND DIFFICULT I AM REACHING OUT FOR HELP ITS RUINED ME TO WHERE I LOST EVERYTHING NEED SOME HELP PLEASE GET BACK TO ME asap.... thanks Salaams
Jafar Saddiq Ishmael
As salaam alaykum wa rahmatullah, I'm from Charleston originally. You should be able to find help in Columbia at Masjid Muslimeen inshaAllah. The imam there, in the past (I haven't been there in over 8 years) helped Muslims with housing. One of the assistant imams, Mutahhir Sabree, is helpful as well. Columbia is a good place as far as South Carolina goes to get on your feet. Then check out the community at Masjid At Tawheed in Stone Mountain, GA .
Assalamualaikum.....un-boxing is a way to heal...let go... forgive.... refresh.... empty the cup...fill in with new hope & duas... prayers to the Allah The Almighty.... it's a test from Him...so we would surrender to Allah seek for His guidance... protection and care....❤️❤️🇲🇾🇲🇾
Sometimes therapy doesn’t work because the damage is severe. Subhanallah I resonated with most of it, but the thing is I’ve not healed and i don’t know if I ever will heal from it.
😢😢😢😢😢😢
Fire 🔥
I think some parents who have been abused in their own childhoods, don’t always realize that they themselves have become abusers of their own children. There needs to be more in depth parenting classes. Idk how we get them to go? But I wish we could force them! 😁
I understand your plight, but you can overcome this, with the help of Allah, insh’Allah!!🤲🏻
Remember, “holding these things inside, (grudges) is like you drinking poison & expecting the other person to die!”
It can also make you physically ill. It can shorten your life. That would hurt your children greatly!!Please allow your heart to heal. When I was diagnosed with a severe illness,
(i posted that on another thread on one of your “Prison Tapes”) I realized that it is all sooo not worth it!!
May Allah heal & comfort you, insh’Allah!!🤲🏻
I appreciate that you want to help others, but please don’t take on the weight of the world’s abuse all by yourself! You have not totally healed yet yourself. But possibly facilitate them getting services, idk? It’s a lot!
I only tell you this as a person that knows what I!’ talking about. These are such heavy issues for one person to take on when you already have enough on your own plate. May Allah reward you for your efforts & intentions to help those in need of mental health services.
“Allah Knows Best!!”
Allah Akbar