I don't believe anyone should impose a dresscode on the rest of the world. And manners are subjective and vary greatly across families, friend groups and cultures. The world would be incredibly boring and incomplete if we were all the same. Humanity is a vast and colorful tapestry of a wonder.
@S.O.A_Zero Exactly. Shorts are correct dresscode in some countries. Naked bodies in public are appropriate in some cultures. Speaking loudly and having a laughing fit is seen as a sign of jovial familiarity and trust in some friend groups. These are all equally valid, and being able to experience them all is part of enjoying life to the fullest.
@@JuanMiPibernusI somewhat agree but look where that has gotten us. You do you. I will do me. I will choose to be well dressed and well mannered in such a manner that is fitting in the setting I am in. I always feel better when I do so.
@@zacharysilver911 Same in the U.S. 10 years ago,I was considered solidly "conservative":socially,fiscally,and politically. Under the current iteration,I am considered a "liberal".
Although the quote is attributed to intelligence i believe its relevant to being a gentleman “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” So as you suggested having own values and neither impose them on others are disregard those values others hold
@@jac627 perhaps if the definition of “gentleman” is very surface level and not about characteristics or attributes. I know I’m stepping into the fire even mentioning this, but take Donald Trump. Whether you love or hate the guy, he does not embody gentlemanly values of humility, sportsmanship, generosity, putting other people before himself etc. But there he is wearing tailored Brooks Brothers suits, so does that make him a gentleman? I say no. You might say yes
@@jac627why does everything have to be a political debate? You can be whoever you want and believe whoever you want, the problem with this channel is too many labels, dress how you want, act how you want, boom simple as that
Conservatively dressed yes. In my experience most men who dress elegantly are stereotypically politically conservative. However that is not a requirement for being a Gent.
I would overall agree with your observation, John. Many of my fans and friends lean toward conservatism, but it's by no means an essential part of being a gentleman, or a good man.
@@Gent.Z thank you for making this video. I love to dress good but don't like when people assume that i'm a conservative. I do have some conservative ideas but i lean more to the opposite side.
Oh, no, it isn't my impression that suave and dapper gentleman are conservative at all. This cannot be true because think of the time when almost all men wore suits , and so it would be impossible for all of them to be conservative !
@@sarahgodwin-xd1wr Western society WAS objectively far more conservative at that time though. I understand your thought process but the truth is that even many of the "liberals" of that era would still be considered very conservative by today's standards
I don't think this is correct. Look at a Trump rally... is there a single person in attendance who isn't scruffy? How about famous people: - George Clooney :Very much a gentleman. Very smart and well groomed. Definitely not a conservative. - Kid Rock, Ted Nugent, Steve Bannon, Donald Trump, Boris Johnson, Nigel Farage, etc... none are gentlemen. All are scruffy.
This is the absolute peak of your work I feel, and very timely! A beautiful video, excellently done. I feel you're beginning to cut new ground here. Top stuff.
@@Gent.Z I'm honoured to receive a reply from you! I love most of your content, but this is something beyond. You're really helping to shape our future with content like this- evidence that gentlemanly pursuits are not just about respecting heritage, but about how we move forward in the world. Again, many thanks.
Genuinely loved this video. Aside from manners and style, a gentleman listens, both to those with whom he agrees and those that might hold other opinions.
If you break down the word "conservative" it means wanting to conserve. Conserve what? The important things in life, those values and beliefs that make us better, but also willing to accept that some things do need to change.
@@RockTo11 Definitions of words have change over history, even the understanding of what liberal and conservative means. It also depends on what your context is. Do you mean fiscally, collectivist vs. individualist or authoritarian vs democratic?
@@thechairman74 There are, as far as I am concerned, two things at play: 1. the definition of "conservative" is that of favoring traditional views (social, political, religious, etc.) and almost always opposes change. That's a textbook definition... and that is what the video's premise is about. 2. The other looser definition is that of opposing flamboyancy. So, dressing conservatively would not necessarily formal, but would not be loud or scruffiness. Same goes for other things. A Corvette is not a conservative car. An F-150 is not a conservative vehicle (even though I bet ?50% of people driving those are right-leaning). A conservative car would be something "sensible". A gentleman or a well-dressed person who presents themselves well is not conservative. It is more a question of good taste and of high standards in quality. So, a Corvette is definitely not conservative, but neither is an Aston Martin. Both are flamboyant. But the Aston Martin is elegant, sophisticated, and definitely not sensible or conservative. Therefore:... My point is that by definition, being "conservative" has nothing to do with taste, style, manners, etc. Liberal by the same standard does not equate to being a hippy (unless it is far-left, which is basically completing the circle to far-right in terms of scientific illiteracy (but that's a whole other topic not meant for here)). In their purest forms, "conservative" means no change, tradition only, and severely judging those who try go against those tenets. Liberalism means (often) change for change's sake. Severely judging of those who don't agree with their ever-changing "values". George Clooney : a dapper and well dressed gentleman. Definitely not conservative. Steve Bannon : A scruffy bad mannered person who is definitely not a gentleman.
I believe that quite a few posters have missed the point completely. It has nothing to do with political viewpoints or ideology. It has to do with common decency. That's the true hallmark of a gentleman. Decency and kindness transcend politics.
Yes except that certain political philosophies are antithetical to tradition and tolerance. For example to be a Marxist and to be a gentleman would be a paradox given one is supposed to reject bourgeois values. In this way I can say that while there is great room for diversity of perspectives there are certain attitudes which simply don’t mesh together which more frequently arise from the socialist circles than they do from classically liberal or conservative ones.
@williampeters9838 Well, keep in mind that Marx, Engels, and Lenin wore suits. Speaking as a socialist, I think it more accurate to say that different political factions vary in what they tolerate. They're all intolerant in some way. In my experience, leftists aren't intolerant of people dressing as gentlemen.
@josephprice4095 Rather than a-political, I think the point is to know the time and place to discuss politics (which isn't everywhere all the time) and when you do discuss it, to be civil about it.
I can see your personal growth in your videos. A year ago, you were more like 'wear this, don't wear that,' You still have that, but lately with much deeper insight. Keep on growing.
That was excellent I am an older man but found this debate fascinating ..thank you for this discussion. I shall be rewatching this from time to time to help align my thinking and aspirations towards being a gentlemen..
Thanks for this video. I'm a masculine man who is left-leaning. It bothers me when other masculine influencers always seem to sneak in their right wing views. It alienates those who look to them for guidance but do not necessarily follow their political views.
I disagree with all sides of the political spectrum and also think that the words "conservative" and "liberal" dont have any meaning as they have changed so much over the years,decades and centuries, but nevertheless if you observe how the LGBT pokemons and radical feminist dress and act or how many things the BLM riots have vandalized or how just stop oil protesters litterally block traffic or how all progressive protesters scream like cry babies or the chaos and lawlessness that homeless drug addicts,illegal immigrants and hood negroes have caused,all of which are largely enabled by progressive socialist law makers(even though the conservatives havent spoken out enough against hood negroes),I am pretty sure that decency and kindness which are essential to being a gentleman arent found on the progressive side and neither is masculinity(even though in my opinion even the conservative media hasnt promoted masculinity and traditional familly values enough)
I disagree with all sides of the political spectrum and also think that the words "conservative" and "liberal" dont have any meaning as they have changed so much over the years,decades and centuries, but nevertheless if you observe how the LGBT pokemons and radical feminist dress and act or how many things the BLM riots have vandalized or how just stop oil protesters litterally block traffic or how all progressive protesters scream like cry babies or the chaos and lawlessness that homeless drug addicts,illegal immigrants and hood negroes have caused,all of which are largely enabled by progressive socialist law makers(even though the conservatives havent spoken out enough against hood negroes),I am pretty sure that decency and kindness which are essential to being a gentleman arent found on the progressive side and neither is masculinity(even though in my opinion even the conservative media hasnt promoted masculinity and traditional familly values enough)
@xtalllllllllyes, but taking advice from extremists may be *less* helpful. And unfortunately a lot of the political views espoused atm are pretty radical...
It is nice to find a male-focused influencer who isn't trying to sell some ultramasculine, red pill, toxic way of thinking. Just a polite man trying to show others the way of style and manners.
Great video, James. As someone in their sixties, I am impressed with the mature way you handled this subject. I am a socialist. And old enough to remember when everyone, no matter their politics, dressed in suits. Being a gentleman is not monopolized by conservatives. I have Marxist literature on my bookshelves and blazers and suits in my closet. And I have civil political discussions with my Republican friends.
A gentleman does not make assumptions about peoples political leanings, education level, sexuality, or experience. Instead he observes and listens, and if required, he asks.
To be fair, we make assumptions through every interaction. Otherwise we would fail to function. It may be more accurate to say that a gentleman will not project his judgments in a manner which would disturb the moment at hand.
What I love about this talk is the overarching idea that a gentleman is concerned for others, polite, and kind. With these values one can be either conservative or liberal. The problem with politics is the lack of balance - the importance of the middle way. A gentleman to me is a centrist. One cannot be a gentleman and still reject ideas like providing for those who are less fortunate. I love all your shows. It is a reprieve from all of the news and programming that deluges the airways and netways. FYI, I am an independent middle of the road (leaning left) woman age 78. And, I love what you are doing with Gen Z. Keep going.
I’m a 63 year old proud conservative male. I have been brought up by a Mother and Father who believed in conservative values, and I was blessed with an upbringing that practiced those values. My Father would take me and my older brothers back in the 1960’s to the same barber and would have very rigid haircut and styling parameters. He took us to the same men’s clothing store, where he knew the owner quite well and had us fitted with suits, shirts and ties. My father had excellent taste and also had rigid requirements for my Mother and sisters. We were taught manners and proper cultural traditions both at home and in public. He was a highly respected “Madmen” from the 1950’s through the 80’s. And although we were conservatives, some of my families friends including mine were often Liberals. My father used to say the power of your convictions doesn’t get strengthened in an echo chamber. William F. Buckley was my hero, and his show Firing Line was at the epicenter of lively political, social and cultural debate. I’ve learned much from my liberal friends, but also have strengthened many of my conservative convictions when challenged and scrutinized by them. Often, as things often were then we would part agreeing to disagree. But with most educated, cultured company we still part friends and could remain convivial as Gentleman often do.
Well done, well said. If there is one thing I wish we had from the past, it is the collegiality that the US Congress (both houses) operated with. They did their best to govern rather than always being at ideological loggerheads. It was not perfect. The Southern intransigence on race was appalling and sometimes still is. Whilst some of the rich and conservative do dress very well (everything bespoke), a lot are in jeans and a T-shirt. And I have seen men who are most unwealthy dress exceeding well out of respect for where they were and what they were doing. They dressed properly for the time and place. Keep up the good work. You handled a tough question well.
Important point: a gentleman embodies self respect, competence and reliability. These three points are foreign and at odds with liberals. A well traveled, educated and successful man will have viewed, experienced and be witness to the failures of social liberal failures domestic agitators refuse to admit.
I can't entirely agree. There are plenty of liberal men who embody the qualities you listed. Christopher Hitchens, Richard Dawkins, Jordan Peterson, and Douglas Murray are perfect examples.
@@WilhelmHandNone of them are conservatives or modern day liberals. They fit the classic liberal definition( maybe not Hitchens because he was a Marxist).
I'm an older lady (58) and I find your channel very refreshing and entertaining as well! I realize I'm not your target audience, but I hope the gentlemen viewing will keep in mind that being true to themselves and their own values, and being true to their conscience, and having integrity (which I know is important to you as well) is also part of being a gentleman. I only says this because I hope others will be aware that no matter which political figure one may quote, it's looking to their actions and not their words, in which the truth is found, and in which the actual effects of their legacy matters. And that caring about injustice is also in each human being's own best interest after all.
I could not agree more with you dear chap. And I must say it’s quite refreshing to find a safe space for the exploration of positive contemporary masculinity. While traditional gender roles are not for me, adopting a gentlemanly and just overall courteous attitude has allowed me to find community many times over in the most marvelous and often whimsical situations. Thank you for your efforts and best of luck in future endeavors.
You have definitely hit the nail on the head on this topic. The gentleman is the one everyone looks to to handle a situation or matter with sensitivity, decorum and diplomacy. One has ones own opinions and beliefs , but is intelligent and mature enough to listen objectively to the points of view of those he is in discussion with . The manner in which he handles difficult discussions and situations is the reason people look to him as the voice of reason , calm and objectivity . I think this is an aspect that the gentleman in today's society can make a lasting impression to those around him.
Very daring topic to tackle. My approach has generally been that a gentleman listens rather speaks during political discussions and tries not to let people actually know what he thinks. Answer questions, only when asked, with, "Interesting point", or "I hadn't considered that idea. I may look into it". A gentleman avoids rabid, fanatical attempts to persuade and instead speaks by example. Chivalry is neither conservative nor liberal and there's nothing wrong with classical ( I deliberately avoided the word "traditional" or "conservative") male or masculine behaviors, characteristics or roles, as long as one maintains an open mind and is not forcing a point of view. Politics are somewhat like sex, something best discussed only with someone close and when gauging compatibility for a potential longer term relationship. Interestingly enough, I was once on my way back from a work related seminar, a passenger, in a vehicle with three female co-workers who also attended. These three were unmistakably, outspokenly, what would be considered radical feminist liberals. It was raining and yet when when we suffered a flat tire, they all expected me to exit the vehicle and change the tire. I did so uncomplainingly, without outward expression but with a wry inner smile.
Well made video! Reminds me of a book I was reading regarding the Decadent/dandified aesthete. The observation was that it was no predictor of political affiliation.
@@Gent.Z It's mentioned by the compiler/editor of "French Decadent Tales" by Oxford University Press, if I recall rightly. More of a "by the by" statement of observation rather than the entire thesis being committed to politics and decadence. "Reactionary" being rather cozy with either side of the political aisle, it seems...
A gentleman never discusses politics, religion or sex in a social situation unless he is in the company of close friends and/or knows the inclinations of those with whom he is mingling. Gentlemen never discuss women (especially family relations) who are not present unless again it is with close friends and even then tread lightly. There are gentlemen in all parts of the political spectrum. It is an attitude and demeanor, not an opinion.
Been talking about this with my wife. Interesting topic! Our thoughts… Far-leaning politics are not conducive to gentlemanliness. Reminded of Stoicism, one of the core values is temperance or moderation. We think to be a gentleman is to be moderate in mood, action, and beliefs. With that said, I think gentlemanliness is perceived as politically conservative in the US because postmodern liberal ideology is often antithetical (I.e. gender, civics).
The problem is that the word “conservative” is such a loaded word. The terms Liberal and Conservative have changed in meaning so much. (For example the founders of “Conservative” thought were self proclaimed liberal conservatives.) Hayek said it best when he said to avoid contemporary labels altogether and call oneself an old Whig. On a side note though, I don’t see how anyone can without being at least somewhat superficial wish to act like a gentleman in one sphere of his life and isolate those sensibilities from the rest of his views. To stand in the tradition of Burke, Smith, Tocqueville, Madison and others is to stand for the political philosophy most closely aligned with what it means to be a gentleman in the traditional sense. The entire idea of being a gentleman developed not out of an arbitrary preservation of western traditions but a worldview in which a mandatory dutiful love is at its center. The phrase “noblesse oblige” wasn’t meant to be a condescending or elitist term but a genuine statement about how with greater means comes greater responsibility. It was believed that every man was born into this world with a duty to God, to family, to civil authorities, to his neighbor, to the dead, the living, and the unborn. Some of us still believe this.
Well put! I would add that if gentlemen out there would like to know more about the conservative tradition (as opposed to the so-called Conservatism we see today), I invite them to read the works of Sir Roger Scruton. He was certainly a gentleman as James describes above, but he was also faithful to his own views and was a bit of an eccentric. I think eccentricity is a characteristic shared by both conservatives and gentlemen. Perhaps it could act as a bridge where the two can come together.
@@ArthurDecker1970I love Scruton. I agree. What he did so well was try to act as a bridge between post-Christian modernity and Western tradition. It admittedly is difficult to see tradition as not arbitrary if there isn’t a belief in some higher power but he tried to reconcile them admirably.
As a liberal, you have to be open to other ideas, I'd say you have to be a humanist. And as a conservative you have to conserve: so you have to be an environmentalist. Both combined, and I think you have a Gentleman.
A Conservative mentor of mine has a wonderful gentlemanly line. He is a man that has built 9 figure businesses and with that started charities of his choosing. Once a person patting himself on the back by railing on how more money should go towards the needy ext… he responded “It is very easy to be charitable with another man’s money”. I liked that he did not give tacit approval, while he also got his point across in an extremely efficient way. Because there is a difference between words & deeds.
A true gentleman understands that extremes are often not the truth. Gentlemen have reasons why they believe something out of logic and they think for themselves. Gentleman are not preachy, but understand that they don’t have to rudely disagree or agree with anyone
A true gentleman always endeavors to not unintentionally offend others, and discussing religion and politics are almost guaranteed to offend someone. This is why politics and religion were traditionally seen as inapporopritate subjects for discussion in naval wardrooms, officer's messes, and clubrooms.
I must agree with posters below that kindness and consideration are the hallmarks of a gentleman. He makes an excellent point when he says a gentleman ought to be well-traveled. Too many Americans have no passport, have not been out of the country but hold very strong (and usually negative) views about foreign affairs. I have been fortunate to have traveled in my work (I am now retired) and have been to places like India where many people live lives of signification deprivation. Too many of us Americans (especially those who refer to "shithole" countries) have no understanding of, or empathy for, those who live in less prosperous or developing countries. A true gentleman has a grounded grasp of life abroad and appreciates his good fortune.
Sadly, there are parts of the US that are 'Third Worlds' for the poor. It's a pity they can't afford to travel to almost any European country to see how even the relatively poor live very reasonable lives, often.
To quote another very well dressed man: "Vintage style not vintage values." A gentleman is a gentleman to all he interacts with, he upholds common human decency and respects the viewpoint of those he encounters. Because only in this way can he understand why they hold them.
I actually love the conspicuous contrast of sartorial conservativeness and political liberality. It subverts peoples expectations and allows for many interesting dialogues with individuals' whose perspective you might not ordinarily be exposed to. As Eli Pariser once said, "It is easier than ever to hear only what you want to hear. That doesn't make a good citizen".
2:53 As someone who considers himself a liberal, I would just like to say that so long as you are not trying to control or abuse a woman (something that a gentleman would never do), I believe that chivalry is just good manners.
I would add that a gentlemen needs to be firm when needed, either regarding others unacceptable behaviour, or their expressing extreme views. Open mindedness is not of course equivalent to politely accepting everything. Also, the Nazis were noted for their gentlemanly behaviour in social situations. Should we disregard their politics and call them gentlemen? Having been prompted by our host to think of these things, I've concluded that it is the observer who decides if someone is a gentleman. That observer is you.
Might I add though, that as an older millennial, the rule in bars and restaurants was "No politics, no religion." These are places that people go for a reprieve from the mundane slog and the onslaught of information overload. Do research (not clickbait), maintain an open mind, give to causes in which you believe, and go out to bars with the mindset of meeting people and forming connections instead of trying to be "right"
I think there's a legitimate discussion to be had about whether liberals or conservatives are more open-minded. I think historically liberals were more open-minded, but now conservatives are. I say this because I notice that I don't see many different viewpoints among liberals - they seem pretty united about most issues. Meanwhile, we conservatives disagree on a lot of stuff, as we're a hodgepodge of conservative Christians, libertarians, neocons, paleocons, nationalists, etc. These are all separate ideologies that are hugely different, oftentimes as different from each other as we are from liberals. But somehow we manage to stay on the same voting bloc.
There are a lot of different viewpoints within the left-wing spectrum as well, just to name a few: "Liberals, social democrats, democratic socialists, communists, anarchy communists, syndicalists, Lenists, Maoists. The Bernie Sanders crowd barely has anything in common with like the Biden crowd, and the real communist crowd don't like the Bernie Sanders crowd etc.
@@leoandersson6461 I get what you're saying on one level, but I think that in a lot of ways the different groups on the left can easily be put on a spectrum (except maybe the anarchists), getting further to the left as you go along. Social democrats are like liberals but going one step further. Democratic socialists are like social democrats but one step further. Communists are like democratic socialists but one step further. And so on and so forth. Of course this leads to different viewpoints, but from the right (I say this as a conservative myself) it just looks like a big iceberg with more and more extreme variations the farther down you go. Meanwhile, rightists are not easy to put on a spectrum. For example, I'm a conservative Catholic. Let's just assume for a minute that I have a libertarian friend. Neither one of us is further to the right than the other, but we each have issues that we are more stereotypically conservative on. For instance, I would support a ban on abortion, gay marriage, and even pornography, whereas my libertarian friend would oppose at least the second two bans and maybe even the first as well. Meanwhile, he'd probably support an end to social security, food stamps, and the minimum wage. I'd for sure oppose the second two and maybe even the first. Add MAGA, neocons, evangelicals, redpillers, and the occasional white nationalist to the room and you've got a group full of people who share about as much in common with each other as they do to liberals. I mean, if I'm a communist, I might not like Joe Biden, but I might say, "Well, at least he's closer to me than Donald Trump." Now, I can't say "At least that redpiller is closer to me than Joe Biden," because he's at least as far from my ideology as Joe Biden is, if not even further.
@@gunsgalore7571 Yeah, true. But all those ideologies you mentioned still have a lot of common ground in values and world views and can also be put on a spectrum. All of them are anti-feminist, anti-LGBTQ, pro-private property, pro-gun, pro-traditional values and usually restricted immigration, low taxes, anti-collectivism, anti-welfare, anti-wokeism, very free market, all of them see the world as if the West has been poisoned by left-wing ideologies, that there's an attack on the white man and Europe and America need to go back to a more traditional values, but they usually differ in their extremity and like a way to present it, some do it from a religious point of view, some do it in a belief of freedom point of view, some do it in a men's rights point of view the most extreme does it in like racial or nationalistic point of view, but the same content is still there, just on different degrees. I remember when I was right-wing extremist. I followed Christians, Odinists, alt-rightists, neo nazis, red pillers, republicans, libertarians, because there was something I could find common ground with all of them. All of them criticized let's say immigration, feminism or LGBTQ which I was against at that time.
@@leoandersson6461 There's some common ground, but I don't think some of what you mention is really there. You mention anti-feminist, anti-LGBTQ, pro-private property, pro-gun, pro-traditional values, pro-restricted immigration, low taxes, anti-collectivism, anti-welfare, anti-wokeism, and pro-free market. Some of these are definitely common ground, but some aren't. For instance, many libertarians are fine with or even support feminism & LGBTQ, while they typically don't really care about traditional values. Certain segments within conservative Christianity, especially Catholicism, are cautious or even opposed to heavy restrictions on immigration. Many are also pro-welfare, but not to the same extent that liberals are. Neo-Nazis do not value strong private property rights, low taxes, or a free market, as weak property rights and strong state control of the economy are essential to how fascism works. I'd agree we're all anti-woke on the right, but that's only because wokeism manages to touch on so many different issues.
Altruism and Patronage is merely some feel-good antidote for the filthy rich. A Gentleman is altruistic and generous, not just to make oneself feel better.
I agree, a gentleman is altruistic and generous. However, it can sometimes be difficult to know people's motives. I think everyone who makes the world a better places deserves credit for their efforts.
The problem is that power does not corrupt. Addiction to power corrupts. If you are a gentleman, you know the perils of becoming addicted to power. If one is not an addict, power reveals your true nature. A selfish man will abuse his power because he is evil. A gentleman will use his power to make the world a better place than he found it. If you are a gentleman who becomes an addict, then you will try to do good, but your addiction will drag you down and you will find yourself committing evil acts but justifying them in some way. He is the man who commits acts of charity as a feel-good antidote to offset the selfish acts he commits to feed his addiction. He justifies his actions by saying it all balances out. I commit good here, so I am justified in being evil over here An evil man addicted to power becomes a man willing to do whatever it takes to satisfy his lust for power. He is a horror and the reason why people look down upon the filthy rich. I honestly believe that if we put every politician on the state or federal level on LDN for 180 days, just like you would treat an opium addict, the world of politics would transform overnight. Once relieved of their addiction to power, I wonder how many politicians would act like the monsters everyone thinks they are?
No, patronage can be many things. For me patronage is often the route to seeing the changes I wish to see but am otherwise unable to effect. Living in a world where some have the same wealth as several nations combined is indeed a travesty, but that's not to say that individual achievement is to be scorned. At the end of the day we don't live under communism so we expect to see some wealthier than others- and its certainly not fair to judge others for being unwilling to give up the security wealth affords. Rather we need a discussion about what we wish to see- and I don't think hating those higher on the ladder merely for their position (indeed, even to dismiss any good acts they do) is helpful for anyone.
A gentleman is driven by Core Values such as honor, courage and commitment. He is purpose driven, driven by a purpose larger than self. A gentleman opens doors for women, children, and other men. A gentleman always says “please,” and “thank you.” A gentleman is open to listening to people who don’t look or act like him. A gentleman is open to change. A gentleman exhibits Courage, physical and moral courage. He does what is right even when others aren’t looking. He doesn’t like, cheat or steal. He will run towards chaos to help those who can’t help themselves. A gentleman will lay down his life so that others may live.
You not taking a side or making your political stance clear was honestly what I was hoping for this video. I appreciate your neutrality on this channel as it is something I try to do on my platform as well. Arguing politics online with strangers is as exhausting as it is mind numbingly stupid. Not to mention that because your channel is one that has to acknowledge gender roles exist for a lot of your subject matter, given the current climate on social media, you’re only 3 steps steps away from being boxed in to the redpill/dating advice/mens improvement space and without giving away my political stance, I think both sides of the spectrum can come up with reasons why that would ultimately change the identity of this channel for the worst. Step 1 would be taking a political stance, and the other two would involve you presenting yourself in an un-gentlemanly way that’s clip friendly and farms comments.
I love tradition and culture and of course my tradition and culture especially. That is basically the definition of conservative. Your videos are great!
The very acts of gentlemanly behavior are by definition the expression of tradition - i.e. the very embodiment of traditional conservatism. The current era allows for debasing counter currents to enter the public dialogue , primarily due to the unrefined voices of social media, which may confuse the vulnerable person regarding the very definition of words. However, this should not be an issue for a gentleman, who understands the necessity of specific standards in language - without which society fails. The gentleman's aim is to preserve the better things in life, that is to conserve the best of that which was passed along to him through his own best expressions. This understanding, in no small part, provides the impetus for a gentleman to measure his own words. Even as the times move, he resolves himself to move from the graceful lineage - framed beyond the the destablizing winds of the day. A gentleman's care to engage in traditions of decorum, fashion, culinary and linguistic engagement, as well as his honor of station and place in society are all practices of his greater conservatism. Beware of the restriction social trends that tell the contemporary man that he is not allowed to define himself as traditional, conservative, masculine, ethical, or gentlemanly. To be fair, that is to be reasonable, we make assumptions through every interaction and it is our responsibility to define the assumptions by which we will live. Foregoing this, we begin to fail to function. It is vital that a gentleman remove hesitation from his habit, while retaining that value of the considerate pause. It may be more accurate to say that a gentleman will not project his judgments in a manner which would disturb the moment at hand than it is to say that a gentleman could be such without exercising his faculty of judgment.
Curious about your thoughts on shaving / not shaving; table manners and mannerisms; the use of language and flirting; and last, but not least, hand gestures while talking.
Traditions are solutions to problems long forgotten about But if we remember the problems And we know how they were solved... Innovation beckons There is no such thing as progress Just change Sometimes for the better Sometimes not!
7:40 I actually highly disagree here. Being libertarian or individualistic doesn’t mean that you disrespect others or have no consideration for them. There is still an acknowledgment that you treat others the way you want to be treated. And you get satisfaction from knowing that you treat others well, etc. I hear this rhetoric when it comes to religion as well- that atheists won’t have the same morality as Christians and aren’t good people. You treat people well because you want to remain in good standing with people. Actions have consequences. Why be rude and risk adverse retaliation?
I am enamored of the mod movement, which showed how one could believe in traditional dress and manners, yet still be progressive and open minded. Paul Weller is one of my icons.
In 1788 Baron Adolphe Knigge wrote his book „about dealing with people“ not only about dressing, manners etc., but about how to deal respectfully, responsibly with all human beings, to be a gentleman.. maybe it seems to be old fashioned or „conservative“, it was a very liberal approach, because he included everyone; status, money, race, sexual orientation or political beliefs weren’t important. These are values I can’t see in the American conservatives any more😢 ( this book was a must-read for well educated upper class people from then on till today here in 🇩🇪 Germany..)
A true Gentleman ... is a man Man who does not exhibit the abomination of "low impulse control" in any given situation. A true Gentleman considers, and intelligently evaluates ... before deciding upon the appropriate response, or any course of action.
Hello. I like your Chanel. Your values sounds a little bit like the free masonry values. That you have to respect other opinions. So you may grow inside with different inspirations. I think I like it. Also thumbs up for your channel.
I won't do what I sometimes do and type out a quote from the video because the entire video was quotable! What a breath of fresh air. Interesting you bring up morality, I actually struggle to ground morality philosophically. I hope to eventually get around to reading Mills, Sidgwick, maybe some Kant, and company, or at least listening to some reliable podcasts on the subject. It really is disconcerting once you actually start thinking about how to ground morals, it really is quite difficult, *wanting* it to be the case that morality is objective doesn't *make* it so. Thank you for indulging this unusually tangential comment! But as for your points about debate, different political views being compatible with being a gentleman, and collectivism and helping others, I entirely agree. We need to stop calling each other bigots and other such ungracious remarks and remember that ideologies, including ideologies that are in no small part opposed to one's own, often come from a place of caring and wanting to be kind. Well, James, this was an especially delightful video, thank you!
I am convinced that gentlemen are on both sides of sides of the political divide. I want to clarify that for me to be a gentleman includes rejecting discrimination based on gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic class, sexual orientation and gender identity. Best regards
Seems to me suits where not that tight back then. There is a certain “modern cut” that to me and others look like the suits are too small for the man wearing them.
I think gentlemen tend to have more conservative/traditionalist values ( generally speaking ), but this is not a rule and there are exceptions , of course.
I disagree. It has nothing to do with political viewpoints. It has to do with common decency. That's the true hallmark of a gentleman. Decency and kindness transcend politics.
Etiquette, manners and courtesy are the lubricants of society and are essential to its proper functioning. Without it, the gears begin to grind and eventually the machinery of society breaks down. Unfortunately, all three are in short supply in modern society, and we can see the results.
Nicely laid out. It is simply a fact, UK to US, that men generally vote more conservative, women more liberal. In the US, without the women's vote, the political Left would be a weak, piddly little version of what it is today.
Conservative in manners yes. He is not loud, in your face, jumping on tables etc.
Very true
Well dressed and well mannered is what everyone should do always
"Men want to see women naked, Women want to see men in a suit"
I don't believe anyone should impose a dresscode on the rest of the world. And manners are subjective and vary greatly across families, friend groups and cultures.
The world would be incredibly boring and incomplete if we were all the same. Humanity is a vast and colorful tapestry of a wonder.
@@JuanMiPibernusIn fact nobody does. Every place, situation and group of people requires a dress code and etiquette specific for the situation.
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Exactly. Shorts are correct dresscode in some countries. Naked bodies in public are appropriate in some cultures. Speaking loudly and having a laughing fit is seen as a sign of jovial familiarity and trust in some friend groups. These are all equally valid, and being able to experience them all is part of enjoying life to the fullest.
@@JuanMiPibernusI somewhat agree but look where that has gotten us. You do you. I will do me. I will choose to be well dressed and well mannered in such a manner that is fitting in the setting I am in. I always feel better when I do so.
I think gentlemen are almost always “conservative”, but not necessarily always “Conservative.”
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Capital C Conservatives in the UK aren’t conservative at all
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Same in the U.S.
10 years ago,I was considered solidly "conservative":socially,fiscally,and politically.
Under the current iteration,I am considered a "liberal".
@@sammajor2075Same. Ever heard of project 2025?
Call me lib but I dislike that agenda so much.
You’re doing a phenomenal job with this channel, James. Bringing fresh topics and perspectives to the men’s content space.
Thank you, sir.
Although the quote is attributed to intelligence i believe its relevant to being a gentleman “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” So as you suggested having own values and neither impose them on others are disregard those values others hold
Yes sir. I think our political climate would be much healthier if more people were able to take this stance.
Well said, Andy!
Highly agree here. I find itself doing it often and it typically leads to good results.
Potentially very touchy subject matter, and I think you handled it excellently.
Thank you, Preston.
James, you continue to surprise me and for the better. You tackle tricky questions well. Bravo
Nice group photo.
Thanks, Douglas. All credit goes to the photographer ;)
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I like the message of decorum and civility, definitely something we need in society now.
Being a gentleman has nothing to do with any political alignment.
You said in one simple, concise sentence what this video couldn’t manage to quite hone in on. Not one of his best, but I appreciate the effort
Perhaps, but gentlemen are more likely to be conservative in my opinion.
@@jac627 perhaps if the definition of “gentleman” is very surface level and not about characteristics or attributes. I know I’m stepping into the fire even mentioning this, but take Donald Trump. Whether you love or hate the guy, he does not embody gentlemanly values of humility, sportsmanship, generosity, putting other people before himself etc. But there he is wearing tailored Brooks Brothers suits, so does that make him a gentleman? I say no. You might say yes
@@jac627why does everything have to be a political debate? You can be whoever you want and believe whoever you want, the problem with this channel is too many labels, dress how you want, act how you want, boom simple as that
@@GoneNForgotten it doesn't, I was pointing out a fact. Facts don't care about your feelings.
Well said, James! Your channel has become a haven of positivity for everyone!
Very elegantly said. Thanks for making a video about these subject. Bravo!! Well needed. Thank you so much📚⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Thank you, Dione.
I would suggest that a gentleman is also a gracious loser, something definitely lacking in the current atmosphere.
Conservatively dressed yes. In my experience most men who dress elegantly are stereotypically politically conservative. However that is not a requirement for being a Gent.
I would overall agree with your observation, John. Many of my fans and friends lean toward conservatism, but it's by no means an essential part of being a gentleman, or a good man.
@@Gent.Z thank you for making this video. I love to dress good but don't like when people assume that i'm a conservative. I do have some conservative ideas but i lean more to the opposite side.
Oh, no, it isn't my impression that suave and dapper gentleman are conservative at all. This cannot be true because think of the time when almost all men wore suits , and so it would be impossible for all of them to be conservative !
@@sarahgodwin-xd1wr Western society WAS objectively far more conservative at that time though. I understand your thought process but the truth is that even many of the "liberals" of that era would still be considered very conservative by today's standards
I don't think this is correct. Look at a Trump rally... is there a single person in attendance who isn't scruffy? How about famous people:
- George Clooney :Very much a gentleman. Very smart and well groomed. Definitely not a conservative.
- Kid Rock, Ted Nugent, Steve Bannon, Donald Trump, Boris Johnson, Nigel Farage, etc... none are gentlemen. All are scruffy.
This is the absolute peak of your work I feel, and very timely! A beautiful video, excellently done.
I feel you're beginning to cut new ground here. Top stuff.
Thank you very much. Yes, this is a new area of conversation for me. I'm happy with how it has been recieeived.
@@Gent.Z I'm honoured to receive a reply from you! I love most of your content, but this is something beyond. You're really helping to shape our future with content like this- evidence that gentlemanly pursuits are not just about respecting heritage, but about how we move forward in the world.
Again, many thanks.
@@Olyfrun Thank you for saying that. It's my honor to make these videos and to have such a fantastic audience.
Absolutely magnificent job with this topic.
Thank you, Sam.
Well said.
From a conservative (Myself)
Genuinely loved this video. Aside from manners and style, a gentleman listens, both to those with whom he agrees and those that might hold other opinions.
If you break down the word "conservative" it means wanting to conserve. Conserve what? The important things in life, those values and beliefs that make us better, but also willing to accept that some things do need to change.
"willing to accept that some things do need to change" That is not part of the definition of the word though.
@@RockTo11 Definitions of words have change over history, even the understanding of what liberal and conservative means. It also depends on what your context is. Do you mean fiscally, collectivist vs. individualist or authoritarian vs democratic?
@@thechairman74 There are, as far as I am concerned, two things at play:
1. the definition of "conservative" is that of favoring traditional views (social, political, religious, etc.) and almost always opposes change. That's a textbook definition... and that is what the video's premise is about.
2. The other looser definition is that of opposing flamboyancy. So, dressing conservatively would not necessarily formal, but would not be loud or scruffiness.
Same goes for other things. A Corvette is not a conservative car. An F-150 is not a conservative vehicle (even though I bet ?50% of people driving those are right-leaning).
A conservative car would be something "sensible".
A gentleman or a well-dressed person who presents themselves well is not conservative. It is more a question of good taste and of high standards in quality. So, a Corvette is definitely not conservative, but neither is an Aston Martin. Both are flamboyant. But the Aston Martin is elegant, sophisticated, and definitely not sensible or conservative.
Therefore:...
My point is that by definition, being "conservative" has nothing to do with taste, style, manners, etc.
Liberal by the same standard does not equate to being a hippy (unless it is far-left, which is basically completing the circle to far-right in terms of scientific illiteracy (but that's a whole other topic not meant for here)).
In their purest forms, "conservative" means no change, tradition only, and severely judging those who try go against those tenets.
Liberalism means (often) change for change's sake. Severely judging of those who don't agree with their ever-changing "values".
George Clooney : a dapper and well dressed gentleman. Definitely not conservative.
Steve Bannon : A scruffy bad mannered person who is definitely not a gentleman.
I believe that quite a few posters have missed the point completely. It has nothing to do with political viewpoints or ideology. It has to do with common decency. That's the true hallmark of a gentleman. Decency and kindness transcend politics.
Agreed. Many missed the point.
Yes except that certain political philosophies are antithetical to tradition and tolerance. For example to be a Marxist and to be a gentleman would be a paradox given one is supposed to reject bourgeois values. In this way I can say that while there is great room for diversity of perspectives there are certain attitudes which simply don’t mesh together which more frequently arise from the socialist circles than they do from classically liberal or conservative ones.
@@williampeters9838 Hence my statement in reference to common decency. A true gentleman is a-political.
@williampeters9838 Well, keep in mind that Marx, Engels, and Lenin wore suits. Speaking as a socialist, I think it more accurate to say that different political factions vary in what they tolerate. They're all intolerant in some way. In my experience, leftists aren't intolerant of people dressing as gentlemen.
@josephprice4095 Rather than a-political, I think the point is to know the time and place to discuss politics (which isn't everywhere all the time) and when you do discuss it, to be civil about it.
Off topic, but I just wanted to express some gratitude-this channel is excellent. Keep up the good work!
I can see your personal growth in your videos. A year ago, you were more like 'wear this, don't wear that,' You still have that, but lately with much deeper insight. Keep on growing.
Thank you. Yes, I have made a lot of progress in my abilities since I began this project. It's been a wonderful journey or self-discovery and growth.
a recent study says the more conscious of fashion, the more educated.
Swap fashion for style and you are part way there.
Its also important to remember here that correlation does not equal causation.
That was excellent I am an older man but found this debate fascinating ..thank you for this discussion. I shall be rewatching this from time to time to help align my thinking and aspirations towards being a gentlemen..
A gentleman should be discrete about his political views, never residing on the extremes of any philosophy.
Not so just say what you mean and mean what you say.
Extremism is never extreme to an extremist
Thanks for this video. I'm a masculine man who is left-leaning. It bothers me when other masculine influencers always seem to sneak in their right wing views. It alienates those who look to them for guidance but do not necessarily follow their political views.
I disagree with all sides of the political spectrum and also think that the words "conservative" and "liberal" dont have any meaning as they have changed so much over the years,decades and centuries, but nevertheless if you observe how the LGBT pokemons and radical feminist dress and act or how many things the BLM riots have vandalized or how just stop oil protesters litterally block traffic or how all progressive protesters scream like cry babies or the chaos and lawlessness that homeless drug addicts,illegal immigrants and hood negroes have caused,all of which are largely enabled by progressive socialist law makers(even though the conservatives havent spoken out enough against hood negroes),I am pretty sure that decency and kindness which are essential to being a gentleman arent found on the progressive side and neither is masculinity(even though in my opinion even the conservative media hasnt promoted masculinity and traditional familly values enough)
I disagree with all sides of the political spectrum and also think that the words "conservative" and "liberal" dont have any meaning as they have changed so much over the years,decades and centuries, but nevertheless if you observe how the LGBT pokemons and radical feminist dress and act or how many things the BLM riots have vandalized or how just stop oil protesters litterally block traffic or how all progressive protesters scream like cry babies or the chaos and lawlessness that homeless drug addicts,illegal immigrants and hood negroes have caused,all of which are largely enabled by progressive socialist law makers(even though the conservatives havent spoken out enough against hood negroes),I am pretty sure that decency and kindness which are essential to being a gentleman arent found on the progressive side and neither is masculinity(even though in my opinion even the conservative media hasnt promoted masculinity and traditional familly values enough)
@xtalllllllllyes, but taking advice from extremists may be *less* helpful. And unfortunately a lot of the political views espoused atm are pretty radical...
It is nice to find a male-focused influencer who isn't trying to sell some ultramasculine, red pill, toxic way of thinking. Just a polite man trying to show others the way of style and manners.
Thank you for sharing this James. A breath of fresh air that needs reminding.
Great video, James. As someone in their sixties, I am impressed with the mature way you handled this subject. I am a socialist. And old enough to remember when everyone, no matter their politics, dressed in suits. Being a gentleman is not monopolized by conservatives. I have Marxist literature on my bookshelves and blazers and suits in my closet. And I have civil political discussions with my Republican friends.
Its encouraging to see some good advice being given to young men.
Your wise beyond your years. A true inspiration.
A gentleman does not make assumptions about peoples political leanings, education level, sexuality, or experience. Instead he observes and listens, and if required, he asks.
To be fair, we make assumptions through every interaction. Otherwise we would fail to function. It may be more accurate to say that a gentleman will not project his judgments in a manner which would disturb the moment at hand.
What I love about this talk is the overarching idea that a gentleman is concerned for others, polite, and kind. With these values one can be either conservative or liberal. The problem with politics is the lack of balance - the importance of the middle way. A gentleman to me is a centrist. One cannot be a gentleman and still reject ideas like providing for those who are less fortunate. I love all your shows. It is a reprieve from all of the news and programming that deluges the airways and netways. FYI, I am an independent middle of the road (leaning left) woman age 78. And, I love what you are doing with Gen Z. Keep going.
This video is absolutely on point!
I’m a 63 year old proud conservative male. I have been brought up by a Mother and Father who believed in conservative values, and I was blessed with an upbringing that practiced those values. My Father would take me and my older brothers back in the 1960’s to the same barber and would have very rigid haircut and styling parameters. He took us to the same men’s clothing store, where he knew the owner quite well and had us fitted with suits, shirts and ties. My father had excellent taste and also had rigid requirements for my Mother and sisters. We were taught manners and proper cultural traditions both at home and in public. He was a highly respected “Madmen” from the 1950’s through the 80’s. And although we were conservatives, some of my families friends including mine were often Liberals. My father used to say the power of your convictions doesn’t get strengthened in an echo chamber. William F. Buckley was my hero, and his show Firing Line was at the epicenter of lively political, social and cultural debate. I’ve learned much from my liberal friends, but also have strengthened many of my conservative convictions when challenged and scrutinized by them. Often, as things often were then we would part agreeing to disagree. But with most educated, cultured company we still part friends and could remain convivial as Gentleman often do.
Well done, well said. If there is one thing I wish we had from the past, it is the collegiality that the US Congress (both houses) operated with. They did their best to govern rather than always being at ideological loggerheads. It was not perfect. The Southern intransigence on race was appalling and sometimes still is.
Whilst some of the rich and conservative do dress very well (everything bespoke), a lot are in jeans and a T-shirt. And I have seen men who are most unwealthy dress exceeding well out of respect for where they were and what they were doing. They dressed properly for the time and place.
Keep up the good work. You handled a tough question well.
Important point: a gentleman embodies self respect, competence and reliability. These three points are foreign and at odds with liberals. A well traveled, educated and successful man will have viewed, experienced and be witness to the failures of social liberal failures domestic agitators refuse to admit.
I can't entirely agree. There are plenty of liberal men who embody the qualities you listed. Christopher Hitchens, Richard Dawkins, Jordan Peterson, and Douglas Murray are perfect examples.
@@hakeemfrancis1099 Several of your examples are not liberals.
@@WilhelmHandNone of them are conservatives or modern day liberals. They fit the classic liberal definition( maybe not Hitchens because he was a Marxist).
@@hakeemfrancis1099 Your disagreement is flawed. Noentheless, you are free to live is such perimeters as you wish
I'm an older lady (58) and I find your channel very refreshing and entertaining as well! I realize I'm not your target audience, but I hope the gentlemen viewing will keep in mind that being true to themselves and their own values, and being true to their conscience, and having integrity (which I know is important to you as well) is also part of being a gentleman. I only says this because I hope others will be aware that no matter which political figure one may quote, it's looking to their actions and not their words, in which the truth is found, and in which the actual effects of their legacy matters. And that caring about injustice is also in each human being's own best interest after all.
I could not agree more with you dear chap. And I must say it’s quite refreshing to find a safe space for the exploration of positive contemporary masculinity. While traditional gender roles are not for me, adopting a gentlemanly and just overall courteous attitude has allowed me to find community many times over in the most marvelous and often whimsical situations.
Thank you for your efforts and best of luck in future endeavors.
I know a few Conservatives I wouldn't call gentlemen.
I know a few gentlemen I wouldn't call conservative.
You have definitely hit the nail on the head on this topic. The gentleman is the one everyone looks to to handle a situation or matter with sensitivity, decorum and diplomacy. One has ones own opinions and beliefs , but is intelligent and mature enough to listen objectively to the points of view of those he is in discussion with . The manner in which he handles difficult discussions and situations is the reason people look to him as the voice of reason , calm and objectivity . I think this is an aspect that the gentleman in today's society can make a lasting impression to those around him.
Very daring topic to tackle. My approach has generally been that a gentleman listens rather speaks during political discussions and tries not to let people actually know what he thinks. Answer questions, only when asked, with, "Interesting point", or "I hadn't considered that idea. I may look into it". A gentleman avoids rabid, fanatical attempts to persuade and instead speaks by example. Chivalry is neither conservative nor liberal and there's nothing wrong with classical ( I deliberately avoided the word "traditional" or "conservative") male or masculine behaviors, characteristics or roles, as long as one maintains an open mind and is not forcing a point of view. Politics are somewhat like sex, something best discussed only with someone close and when gauging compatibility for a potential longer term relationship. Interestingly enough, I was once on my way back from a work related seminar, a passenger, in a vehicle with three female co-workers who also attended. These three were unmistakably, outspokenly, what would be considered radical feminist liberals. It was raining and yet when when we suffered a flat tire, they all expected me to exit the vehicle and change the tire. I did so uncomplainingly, without outward expression but with a wry inner smile.
Well made video! Reminds me of a book I was reading regarding the Decadent/dandified aesthete. The observation was that it was no predictor of political affiliation.
Sounds like a good book. What’s the title?
@@Gent.Z It's mentioned by the compiler/editor of "French Decadent Tales" by Oxford University Press, if I recall rightly. More of a "by the by" statement of observation rather than the entire thesis being committed to politics and decadence. "Reactionary" being rather cozy with either side of the political aisle, it seems...
Gentkemenaly treatment of what can be a sensitive topic. Bravo!
Thank you, John.
A gentleman never discusses politics, religion or sex in a social situation unless he is in the company of close friends and/or knows the inclinations of those with whom he is mingling. Gentlemen never discuss women (especially family relations) who are not present unless again it is with close friends and even then tread lightly. There are gentlemen in all parts of the political spectrum. It is an attitude and demeanor, not an opinion.
A gentleman avoids discussing politics, but a true gentleman has tolerance and respect for all, until they show intolerance and disrespect.
Been talking about this with my wife. Interesting topic! Our thoughts…
Far-leaning politics are not conducive to gentlemanliness. Reminded of Stoicism, one of the core values is temperance or moderation. We think to be a gentleman is to be moderate in mood, action, and beliefs.
With that said, I think gentlemanliness is perceived as politically conservative in the US because postmodern liberal ideology is often antithetical (I.e. gender, civics).
The problem is that the word “conservative” is such a loaded word. The terms Liberal and Conservative have changed in meaning so much. (For example the founders of “Conservative” thought were self proclaimed liberal conservatives.) Hayek said it best when he said to avoid contemporary labels altogether and call oneself an old Whig. On a side note though, I don’t see how anyone can without being at least somewhat superficial wish to act like a gentleman in one sphere of his life and isolate those sensibilities from the rest of his views. To stand in the tradition of Burke, Smith, Tocqueville, Madison and others is to stand for the political philosophy most closely aligned with what it means to be a gentleman in the traditional sense. The entire idea of being a gentleman developed not out of an arbitrary preservation of western traditions but a worldview in which a mandatory dutiful love is at its center. The phrase “noblesse oblige” wasn’t meant to be a condescending or elitist term but a genuine statement about how with greater means comes greater responsibility. It was believed that every man was born into this world with a duty to God, to family, to civil authorities, to his neighbor, to the dead, the living, and the unborn. Some of us still believe this.
Well put! I would add that if gentlemen out there would like to know more about the conservative tradition (as opposed to the so-called Conservatism we see today), I invite them to read the works of Sir Roger Scruton. He was certainly a gentleman as James describes above, but he was also faithful to his own views and was a bit of an eccentric. I think eccentricity is a characteristic shared by both conservatives and gentlemen. Perhaps it could act as a bridge where the two can come together.
@@ArthurDecker1970I love Scruton. I agree. What he did so well was try to act as a bridge between post-Christian modernity and Western tradition. It admittedly is difficult to see tradition as not arbitrary if there isn’t a belief in some higher power but he tried to reconcile them admirably.
As a liberal, you have to be open to other ideas, I'd say you have to be a humanist. And as a conservative you have to conserve: so you have to be an environmentalist. Both combined, and I think you have a Gentleman.
I really enjoy this channel. The world is in desperate need of true gentlemen
A Conservative mentor of mine has a wonderful gentlemanly line.
He is a man that has built 9 figure businesses and with that started charities of his choosing.
Once a person patting himself on the back by railing on how more money should go towards the needy ext… he responded
“It is very easy to be charitable with another man’s money”.
I liked that he did not give tacit approval, while he also got his point across in an extremely efficient way. Because there is a difference between words & deeds.
A true gentleman understands that extremes are often not the truth. Gentlemen have reasons why they believe something out of logic and they think for themselves. Gentleman are not preachy, but understand that they don’t have to rudely disagree or agree with anyone
A true gentleman always endeavors to not unintentionally offend others, and discussing religion and politics are almost guaranteed to offend someone.
This is why politics and religion were traditionally seen as inapporopritate subjects for discussion in naval wardrooms, officer's messes, and clubrooms.
I must agree with posters below that kindness and consideration are the hallmarks of a gentleman. He makes an excellent point when he says a gentleman ought to be well-traveled. Too many Americans have no passport, have not been out of the country but hold very strong (and usually negative) views about foreign affairs. I have been fortunate to have traveled in my work (I am now retired) and have been to places like India where many people live lives of signification deprivation. Too many of us Americans (especially those who refer to "shithole" countries) have no understanding of, or empathy for, those who live in less prosperous or developing countries. A true gentleman has a grounded grasp of life abroad and appreciates his good fortune.
Sadly, there are parts of the US that are 'Third Worlds' for the poor. It's a pity they can't afford to travel to almost any European country to see how even the relatively poor live very reasonable lives, often.
To quote another very well dressed man: "Vintage style not vintage values." A gentleman is a gentleman to all he interacts with, he upholds common human decency and respects the viewpoint of those he encounters. Because only in this way can he understand why they hold them.
I actually love the conspicuous contrast of sartorial conservativeness and political liberality. It subverts peoples expectations and allows for many interesting dialogues with individuals' whose perspective you might not ordinarily be exposed to. As Eli Pariser once said, "It is easier than ever to hear only what you want to hear. That doesn't make a good citizen".
2:53 As someone who considers himself a liberal, I would just like to say that so long as you are not trying to control or abuse a woman (something that a gentleman would never do), I believe that chivalry is just good manners.
As far as what I see as a gentleman - it would be summed up the Poem "If" by Rudyard Kipling.
I couldn't careless what others think about me anymore. That's the joy of being older. Alot people misjudge others and do it intentionally.
I would add that a gentlemen needs to be firm when needed, either regarding others unacceptable behaviour, or their expressing extreme views. Open mindedness is not of course equivalent to politely accepting everything.
Also, the Nazis were noted for their gentlemanly behaviour in social situations. Should we disregard their politics and call them gentlemen? Having been prompted by our host to think of these things, I've concluded that it is the observer who decides if someone is a gentleman.
That observer is you.
The green-yellow light works well with the tie brother
Great video, great channel, thank you
Thank you, Joe.
good for YOU for taking this on
I agree, a gentleman is mostly about respect and good manners.
Might I add though, that as an older millennial, the rule in bars and restaurants was "No politics, no religion."
These are places that people go for a reprieve from the mundane slog and the onslaught of information overload. Do research (not clickbait), maintain an open mind, give to causes in which you believe, and go out to bars with the mindset of meeting people and forming connections instead of trying to be "right"
Well said! Thank you for the video.
I think there's a legitimate discussion to be had about whether liberals or conservatives are more open-minded. I think historically liberals were more open-minded, but now conservatives are. I say this because I notice that I don't see many different viewpoints among liberals - they seem pretty united about most issues. Meanwhile, we conservatives disagree on a lot of stuff, as we're a hodgepodge of conservative Christians, libertarians, neocons, paleocons, nationalists, etc. These are all separate ideologies that are hugely different, oftentimes as different from each other as we are from liberals. But somehow we manage to stay on the same voting bloc.
The pendulum swings doesn't it? It'll go back the other way in a couple of decades.
There are a lot of different viewpoints within the left-wing spectrum as well, just to name a few: "Liberals, social democrats, democratic socialists, communists, anarchy communists, syndicalists, Lenists, Maoists. The Bernie Sanders crowd barely has anything in common with like the Biden crowd, and the real communist crowd don't like the Bernie Sanders crowd etc.
@@leoandersson6461 I get what you're saying on one level, but I think that in a lot of ways the different groups on the left can easily be put on a spectrum (except maybe the anarchists), getting further to the left as you go along. Social democrats are like liberals but going one step further. Democratic socialists are like social democrats but one step further. Communists are like democratic socialists but one step further. And so on and so forth. Of course this leads to different viewpoints, but from the right (I say this as a conservative myself) it just looks like a big iceberg with more and more extreme variations the farther down you go.
Meanwhile, rightists are not easy to put on a spectrum. For example, I'm a conservative Catholic. Let's just assume for a minute that I have a libertarian friend. Neither one of us is further to the right than the other, but we each have issues that we are more stereotypically conservative on. For instance, I would support a ban on abortion, gay marriage, and even pornography, whereas my libertarian friend would oppose at least the second two bans and maybe even the first as well. Meanwhile, he'd probably support an end to social security, food stamps, and the minimum wage. I'd for sure oppose the second two and maybe even the first. Add MAGA, neocons, evangelicals, redpillers, and the occasional white nationalist to the room and you've got a group full of people who share about as much in common with each other as they do to liberals.
I mean, if I'm a communist, I might not like Joe Biden, but I might say, "Well, at least he's closer to me than Donald Trump." Now, I can't say "At least that redpiller is closer to me than Joe Biden," because he's at least as far from my ideology as Joe Biden is, if not even further.
@@gunsgalore7571 Yeah, true. But all those ideologies you mentioned still have a lot of common ground in values and world views and can also be put on a spectrum. All of them are anti-feminist, anti-LGBTQ, pro-private property, pro-gun, pro-traditional values and usually restricted immigration, low taxes, anti-collectivism, anti-welfare, anti-wokeism, very free market, all of them see the world as if the West has been poisoned by left-wing ideologies, that there's an attack on the white man and Europe and America need to go back to a more traditional values, but they usually differ in their extremity and like a way to present it, some do it from a religious point of view, some do it in a belief of freedom point of view, some do it in a men's rights point of view the most extreme does it in like racial or nationalistic point of view, but the same content is still there, just on different degrees. I remember when I was right-wing extremist. I followed Christians, Odinists, alt-rightists, neo nazis, red pillers, republicans, libertarians, because there was something I could find common ground with all of them. All of them criticized let's say immigration, feminism or LGBTQ which I was against at that time.
@@leoandersson6461 There's some common ground, but I don't think some of what you mention is really there. You mention anti-feminist, anti-LGBTQ, pro-private property, pro-gun, pro-traditional values, pro-restricted immigration, low taxes, anti-collectivism, anti-welfare, anti-wokeism, and pro-free market. Some of these are definitely common ground, but some aren't. For instance, many libertarians are fine with or even support feminism & LGBTQ, while they typically don't really care about traditional values. Certain segments within conservative Christianity, especially Catholicism, are cautious or even opposed to heavy restrictions on immigration. Many are also pro-welfare, but not to the same extent that liberals are. Neo-Nazis do not value strong private property rights, low taxes, or a free market, as weak property rights and strong state control of the economy are essential to how fascism works. I'd agree we're all anti-woke on the right, but that's only because wokeism manages to touch on so many different issues.
Altruism and Patronage is merely some feel-good antidote for the filthy rich.
A Gentleman is altruistic and generous, not just to make oneself feel better.
I agree, a gentleman is altruistic and generous. However, it can sometimes be difficult to know people's motives. I think everyone who makes the world a better places deserves credit for their efforts.
The problem is that power does not corrupt. Addiction to power corrupts. If you are a gentleman, you know the perils of becoming addicted to power. If one is not an addict, power reveals your true nature. A selfish man will abuse his power because he is evil. A gentleman will use his power to make the world a better place than he found it.
If you are a gentleman who becomes an addict, then you will try to do good, but your addiction will drag you down and you will find yourself committing evil acts but justifying them in some way. He is the man who commits acts of charity as a feel-good antidote to offset the selfish acts he commits to feed his addiction. He justifies his actions by saying it all balances out. I commit good here, so I am justified in being evil over here
An evil man addicted to power becomes a man willing to do whatever it takes to satisfy his lust for power. He is a horror and the reason why people look down upon the filthy rich. I honestly believe that if we put every politician on the state or federal level on LDN for 180 days, just like you would treat an opium addict, the world of politics would transform overnight. Once relieved of their addiction to power, I wonder how many politicians would act like the monsters everyone thinks they are?
@@TheEldritchGod as we see with the current Conservative Party... Power corrupts, PaddyPower corrupts absolutely ... boom tisssh
No, patronage can be many things. For me patronage is often the route to seeing the changes I wish to see but am otherwise unable to effect.
Living in a world where some have the same wealth as several nations combined is indeed a travesty, but that's not to say that individual achievement is to be scorned. At the end of the day we don't live under communism so we expect to see some wealthier than others- and its certainly not fair to judge others for being unwilling to give up the security wealth affords. Rather we need a discussion about what we wish to see- and I don't think hating those higher on the ladder merely for their position (indeed, even to dismiss any good acts they do) is helpful for anyone.
A gentleman is driven by Core Values such as honor, courage and commitment. He is purpose driven, driven by a purpose larger than self. A gentleman opens doors for women, children, and other men. A gentleman always says “please,” and “thank you.” A gentleman is open to listening to people who don’t look or act like him. A gentleman is open to change. A gentleman exhibits Courage, physical and moral courage. He does what is right even when others aren’t looking. He doesn’t like, cheat or steal. He will run towards chaos to help those who can’t help themselves. A gentleman will lay down his life so that others may live.
Good show my young chap. Cheers 👍😎
Love the meet-up photo 👌
You not taking a side or making your political stance clear was honestly what I was hoping for this video. I appreciate your neutrality on this channel as it is something I try to do on my platform as well. Arguing politics online with strangers is as exhausting as it is mind numbingly stupid. Not to mention that because your channel is one that has to acknowledge gender roles exist for a lot of your subject matter, given the current climate on social media, you’re only 3 steps steps away from being boxed in to the redpill/dating advice/mens improvement space and without giving away my political stance, I think both sides of the spectrum can come up with reasons why that would ultimately change the identity of this channel for the worst. Step 1 would be taking a political stance, and the other two would involve you presenting yourself in an un-gentlemanly way that’s clip friendly and farms comments.
James, I think travel is the best thing a person can do!
I love tradition and culture and of course my tradition and culture especially. That is basically the definition of conservative.
Your videos are great!
Very well said - I concur.
I like the black and brown suit you’re wearing.
😆 the light effect 😅
The very acts of gentlemanly behavior are by definition the expression of tradition - i.e. the very embodiment of traditional conservatism. The current era allows for debasing counter currents to enter the public dialogue , primarily due to the unrefined voices of social media, which may confuse the vulnerable person regarding the very definition of words. However, this should not be an issue for a gentleman, who understands the necessity of specific standards in language - without which society fails. The gentleman's aim is to preserve the better things in life, that is to conserve the best of that which was passed along to him through his own best expressions. This understanding, in no small part, provides the impetus for a gentleman to measure his own words. Even as the times move, he resolves himself to move from the graceful lineage - framed beyond the the destablizing winds of the day. A gentleman's care to engage in traditions of decorum, fashion, culinary and linguistic engagement, as well as his honor of station and place in society are all practices of his greater conservatism.
Beware of the restriction social trends that tell the contemporary man that he is not allowed to define himself as traditional, conservative, masculine, ethical, or gentlemanly. To be fair, that is to be reasonable, we make assumptions through every interaction and it is our responsibility to define the assumptions by which we will live. Foregoing this, we begin to fail to function. It is vital that a gentleman remove hesitation from his habit, while retaining that value of the considerate pause. It may be more accurate to say that a gentleman will not project his judgments in a manner which would disturb the moment at hand than it is to say that a gentleman could be such without exercising his faculty of judgment.
a true gentleman is a follower of Christ, for He is the prime example of a gentleman
I disagree. Respectfully
A mostly agree my good sir.
Curious about your thoughts on shaving / not shaving; table manners and mannerisms; the use of language and flirting; and last, but not least, hand gestures while talking.
God damn I love your tie
I would say I am culturally conservative and politically progressive, economically liberal if balanced, and socially - I am a gentleman.
Traditions are solutions to problems long forgotten about
But if we remember the problems
And we know how they were solved...
Innovation beckons
There is no such thing as progress
Just change
Sometimes for the better
Sometimes not!
7:40 I actually highly disagree here. Being libertarian or individualistic doesn’t mean that you disrespect others or have no consideration for them. There is still an acknowledgment that you treat others the way you want to be treated. And you get satisfaction from knowing that you treat others well, etc. I hear this rhetoric when it comes to religion as well- that atheists won’t have the same morality as Christians and aren’t good people.
You treat people well because you want to remain in good standing with people. Actions have consequences. Why be rude and risk adverse retaliation?
I am enamored of the mod movement, which showed how one could believe in traditional dress and manners, yet still be progressive and open minded. Paul Weller is one of my icons.
In 1788 Baron Adolphe Knigge wrote his book „about dealing with people“ not only about dressing, manners etc., but about how to deal respectfully, responsibly with all human beings, to be a gentleman.. maybe it seems to be old fashioned or „conservative“, it was a very liberal approach, because he included everyone; status, money, race, sexual orientation or political beliefs weren’t important. These are values I can’t see in the American conservatives any more😢
( this book was a must-read for well educated upper class people from then on till today here in 🇩🇪 Germany..)
A true Gentleman ... is a man Man who does not exhibit the abomination of "low impulse control" in any given situation.
A true Gentleman considers, and intelligently evaluates ... before deciding upon the appropriate response, or any course of action.
I just can't warm to , what I would describe as "calculating". You could be describing salesman or politician.
Very well stated and spoken.
Hello. I like your Chanel. Your values sounds a little bit like the free masonry values. That you have to respect other opinions. So you may grow inside with different inspirations. I think I like it. Also thumbs up for your channel.
I won't do what I sometimes do and type out a quote from the video because the entire video was quotable! What a breath of fresh air.
Interesting you bring up morality, I actually struggle to ground morality philosophically. I hope to eventually get around to reading Mills, Sidgwick, maybe some Kant, and company, or at least listening to some reliable podcasts on the subject. It really is disconcerting once you actually start thinking about how to ground morals, it really is quite difficult, *wanting* it to be the case that morality is objective doesn't *make* it so. Thank you for indulging this unusually tangential comment!
But as for your points about debate, different political views being compatible with being a gentleman, and collectivism and helping others, I entirely agree. We need to stop calling each other bigots and other such ungracious remarks and remember that ideologies, including ideologies that are in no small part opposed to one's own, often come from a place of caring and wanting to be kind. Well, James, this was an especially delightful video, thank you!
I am convinced that gentlemen are on both sides of sides of the political divide. I want to clarify that for me to be a gentleman includes rejecting discrimination based on gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic class, sexual orientation and gender identity. Best regards
Conservative in some things... Liberal in others...
But always a gentleman.
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You know what I'll agree with that. This is a masterful video, his best yet I think. Bravo, and kudos!
Seems to me suits where not that tight back then. There is a certain “modern cut” that to me and others look like the suits are too small for the man wearing them.
Our Prime Minister is trying to look like Daniel Craig too ;)
Im a Conservative so for me, yes.
Tradition is the passing of the torch, keeping the fire alive is conservative and through refinement of that purpose, we are thus.
It is the art of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it - Aristotle
Do you have any plans to do a London meet up / event?
Yes, I'll be announcing it shortly
Labels are so loaded. Treat people well. Treat women well. Do what is right while respecting others' beliefs.
Are women people, why they should be separate? Treat men well, treat women well (treat other gender well).
I think gentlemen tend to have more conservative/traditionalist values ( generally speaking ), but this is not a rule and there are exceptions , of course.
A gentleman never reveals his power level.
A gentleman is well-reasoned and given to exercise restraint. These are fundamentally conservative values.
I disagree. It has nothing to do with political viewpoints. It has to do with common decency. That's the true hallmark of a gentleman. Decency and kindness transcend politics.
Someone hasn't studied UK Conservatives. ;)
@@josephprice4095A part of being a gentleman is embracing traditionalism which is inherently conservative.
Etiquette, manners and courtesy are the lubricants of society and are essential to its proper functioning. Without it, the gears begin to grind and eventually the machinery of society breaks down. Unfortunately, all three are in short supply in modern society, and we can see the results.
Nicely laid out. It is simply a fact, UK to US, that men generally vote more conservative, women more liberal.
In the US, without the women's vote, the political Left would be a weak, piddly little version of what it is today.