PLEASE, STOP FEELING GUILTY || an honest talk about invalidating our struggles
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- Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2024
- Hello, dear friends!
I know this is an unusual upload for me and it was unplanned. This is actually a speaking portion from a separate video I'm editing but I felt so passionately about the topic, I decided to share it on its own--
It is good to be grateful. There are so many positive things to focus on. BUT it's been a crap year. And it is 1000% okay to feel unmotivated, sad, overwhelmed, stressed, etc.
No matter your current life-circumstances, whatever your feeling is completely valid.
Please, please, please do not guilt yourself for not being happy or feeling grateful for all that you do have because you know that there are other people far worse off than you.
The degree of terribleness in the lives of other people does not, in any way, invalidate your own feelings.
Empathy is a very good, important, necessary thing. Empathize with others but don't let it mutate into guilt.
This year, we have survived a pandemic, several natural disasters, political polarization and more. Just by getting through it all, being right here right now, doing whatever you have planned for today is an accomplishment in and of itself.
You are more than enough. Everything will be okay ❤️
BIG hugs,
Morgan
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I am 73 years old and love watching/listening to you. Your sweetness and amazing wisdom is impressive for someone so young!
Keep up the good work and let’s hope for that 50,000 subscribers!!!
I felt like you sat me down and gave me a “big sister pep talk” I really needed it. Thank you so much Morgan
You're making such an important point! My dad, who is a therapist, will always say that pain is not a competition. You do not have to "win" in order for your pain to be valid. You do not have to acknowledge that other people have it worse every time you talk about your pain. We all need perspective, but not all the time, and not when it stops you from processing your emotions properly. Feel the feelings (but don't drown in them) and let other people feel their feelings!
That is very well stated. Thank you for sharing your dad's advice!
I hate it when he acts like my therapist instead of my father, but it is sound advice.
This is so well said, Ellinor and is very very needed. Your dad may have planted these seeds, but these words are your own and they are wise and wonderful- thank you ❤️
"The protagonist of the story... That is you!" Wow! Thank you! You are so special!
Oh Morgan, you bring a ton of value with your light and caring way. Hugs to you! And I'll send positive thoughts in growing your channel.
Thank you so so much, Julia 💛
I wish you had a podcast!
Oh Mo! You always seem to show up as my internet big sister when I need you. Thank you!
Always happy to, my sister friend 🤗
For me the best thing happened to me this year is meeting your channel , it's like a therapy for me and am looking for ward to see what will come from you
This is the most amazing compliment- thank you so so very much Assia
pls make more of these they’re genuinely so helpful 😭
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I agree Morgan, I always say never dismiss your own feelings towards a situation you are going through. Yes there may be someone who is doing it tougher than you are but you can't feel what they are feeling, your not in their shoes. You are in yours and if they are hurting or sad, never dismiss the feelings. You are entitled to feel the way you do, never feel guilty for having those feelings :)
I lost my job, my internship, I had to stop college and become a homeschooling Mama, learned how to budget and how to truly care for others and our planet. It has made me assess my priorities and break down everything in my life. I see it as a positive and I will be just try to be kinder, more open and really go LIVE life.
I’m very emotional watching this. Thank you so, so much for talking about empathy. Also, thank you for speaking up about BLM. I’m so glad to hear you say BLM.
Last year we were wrapped in a knot work of grief, experiencing our first Christmas without my Mother in Love.
I needed this talk and the reminder to write, reflect and HOPE. I really am so grateful I found your channel.
Not me crying because that’s exactly what I’ve been doing to myself this entire year! I literally repeated the same things you said, that it’s ridiculous, that I’m being ungrateful with all I have and others don’t. But also, it HAS been difficult. Thank you, Morgan, for this talk. I needed someone to voice all these feelings for me
ahh Morgan, I really needed this today - thank you 🌻💛
This really resonated with me! When you said that getting through this pandemic was an accomplishment in itself, wow... I realize I’ve been hard on myself for not being as productive as I want or not being as focused, or whatever, but I haven’t given myself credit for making it this far. THANK YOU for this much-needed reminder! 🌟
Your videos absolutely do provide so much value! Not only are they so lovely to watch, throughout the day I might find myself feeling angry about the petty squabbles going on around me and I will remind myself to try to emulate the feeling that I get from watching your videos. I'll tell myself that feeling calm, and kind, and grateful, seeing the wonder and magic of the world, feels so much better than getting myself worked up over the negativity of others. So thank you for providing such a safe and warm platform and providing such a lovely example.
This is so beautifully said, Sophia, and an important reminder for us all- thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
Thanks Morgan for giving me the opportunity to be here. When I always watch your videos, I'll be like not feeling alone and you're always sympathetic to me. That always does help me a lot! Thank yooou!
I'll be the first to say that it's easier to say "don't feel guilty, it's okay" than to actually practice it, but it still is immensely relieving to hear it and we all need reminders like this, especially with everything going on right now. Thank you.🤗
I didn’t know I needed this until I watched it. Thank you, I feel so much better now!
You bring me so much hope and comfort during the hardest times. I’m so grateful I discovered your channel this year!✨
Gosh I needed this! I feel like I should be doing so much more with my life and the guilt of not being able to do the things I want to do or need to can be overwhelming. Hope you’re doing well Morgan! 💛🎄
It's so hard not to feel guilty about let yourself feel sad, upset, ect when you're growing and keep hear you shouldn't cause someone else has it harder, so you have no right. A toxic way of thinking that is very hard to break. ❤
Yes, exactly! It’s a very tough toxicity to rid yourself of. I hope that wherever you are in life, you’ve found a supportive group to grow with ❤️
@@MorganLong I have a couple and still working on it.
You are the big sister I never had. And I am so immensely grateful for you and your videos :)
You’re doing great! We all are! Thanks for the reminder!! 😀
Morgan you are thriving! You have come so far in the last year, I feel really proud and it most certainly gives me motivation. I am hoping to get a new phone next year and I am considering starting to vlog. Maybe you could do a video like 'a beginners guide to making a successful youtube channel'? Thank you!
Thank you so so much for this video. It came at the exact moment I needed it and I think it's a message that is not being circulated about as much as it should so thank you so so much.
"We've gotten this far, there can be no doubt,we're going to get through the whole thing", this helped me so much from the other side of the world 🥺❤
It's so helpful to think of the struggles we've gone through as accomplishments. I've also been feeling bad about not reaching certain goals I had set for myself this year, but in reality I've accomplished so much more than I thought I would just by getting through everything that has happened. thank you for this 💜
Hi Morgan, you don’t know me but after watching your videos I feel like my feelings are validated and heard.
You see, I am nurse but art and making videos are my passion. I’m so conflicted and scared to pursue RUclips especially growing up with family and friends who see this as a temporary thing and not worth my energy. I just kept posting videos and kept painting. It is exhausting but I am happy and I know I’m somewhere where I need to be.
It’s nothing compared to what other people are going through, but this feeling of doing what you love vs what you are expected to is crushing my soul. That feeling of missing out.
So finding your videos gave me hope, strength and happiness. I wish someday people would stumble upon my videos and art and take inspiration from it like I did with yours. I’m so happy I found your channel ❤️
Such powerful heartfelt words, thank you Morgan for another beautiful valuable video. Empathy not guilt - writing that as a reminder in my journal
You are such a light Morgan, especially in this dark year. Thank you ✨💛
Thank you sooo much for that Morgan, I really needed to hear this. I have to stay strong. Tomorrow is a new day & it'll be better.
i'm in a bad phase at the moment and i'm constantly asking myself why i'm feeling that way even though i should be really grateful for what i have at the moment. what you said makes me tear up and i had to stop eating to wipe my tears haha, the point is, thank you so much Morgan for your kind words and your positivity and everything you give to us and to the world.
Awww, i needed to hear this, with all the madness right now, i try to put out my first
novel, so it's weird to put out a sci-fi-novel into a dystopian-like-time lol and after a
productive summer, i had to remind me, that i don't need to write everyday to reach my goal, because a book is
finished, when it's finished. Have a nice day/night!
Well done, you!!!! Writing a novel is a HUGE accomplishment not many can say they’ve achieved. I’m so excited for you!
@@MorganLong Thank you :) (It's one of a bigger Serial ... not the best to start with but its a hell lot of fun!) And same with youtube, you can be proud of you too!
That was a word that a lot of people needed to hear. Thank you!
Thank you for listening!
Morgan, never feel bad that you haven't accomplish everything. You are making money on You Tube. You have a man who supports your ambitions. I am hoping that I can find a nice home like yours and live in peace. Also, I am an animal person, so the day I won my own home, I will definitely adopt a dog. They provide you with the emotional support that you need. I focus on meditation, yoga and watching your videos to give me the emotional support and peace that I need. Continue providing these inspirational videos. Never feel down. You have accomplished a lot. You have accomplished peace and happiness.
Ah dear Morgan... you have helped me through so much... thank you again...
I really needed this today! Thanks, Morgan ♥️
Hi! I don't know if you would be into it, but last abril I started the "Our Q&A a Day: 3-Year Journal for 2 People" with my boyfriend and it is so fun and can't wait for when we start our second year. and start to look back where our minds where the previous year. Maybe you would like it.
Also, I think there is a book you would like to read: Humankind, by Rutger Bregman. He is a historian and he takes historian facts to try to defend the idea that humans are actually kind, and this idea that we are mean and selfish doesnt hold up. He starts on pre-history and tries to understand why we, homo sapiens, were the ones to actually thrive.
I am loving your videos and all the "talks".
Thank you so much for these recommendations, Júlia! I love the sound of Bergman’s book ❤️
Such a good talk. You made a good point. We lived through a whole dang pandemic. If we do nothing else, THATS HUGE! Im glad you are safe from the wildfires. I cant imagine how intense that was. Good luck with getting to 50,000! I know you will make it soon.
So much good energy to you! You ARE doing enough, you are doing amazing and you deserve some time to relax. Running my business this year has been insanely difficult, and the guilt has definitely gotten to me. But I am glad to see other creators talking about how toxic that sort of guilt can be. The more we normalize self care and self forgiveness as well, the better things will be
Thank you so so much, Aria! I hope your business is doing well and that you have the time to relax and enjoy your success
I love this so much! Thank you for always inspiring me to believe in myself
Absolutely, oh wondrous you!
I subscribed to you this year in the spring, near when the pandemic began, and your videos have been such a source of comfort since then. I always look forward to your uploads. They remind me to appreciate the happy things in my life and make me feel less alone. I hope you reach your goal :)
You have speak my truth. Thank you and I hope you will reach your goal
Thank you Morgan. Thank you thank you thank you thank you. As always. 💕✨🎄🌙🎁💕
I am so happy and excited to see this pop up on my RUclips feed! I have just started twelve days of bookmas over on my channel so watching this was a nice break from editing and made me feel cozy and happy! thank you! and morgan... you are so beautiful, and I am so grateful to you for this... on many many levels, thank you beautiful. continue to be kind to yourself and others. you deserve the world and im so grateful for what your doing here. :)
Thank you for your lovely pep talk ❤️
I think this is such an important message, Morgan! A very impactful thing someone told me about a year ago is that everyone’s bandwidth is relative to their own life experiences. That helped me both to stop comparing my own struggle to others and also to empathize what other people are going through more. It’s such a great reminder, especially this time of year and also with what the world has gone through this year!
So well said, Emma!! As Ellinor commented, pain is not a competition and so it does absolutely no good to compare the pain of others to ourselves. We just need to feel our feelings and heal 💛
Thank you for being open and honest, Morgan. I really appreciated this video.
Definitely going to share your channel with my friends and subscribers - here's to 50,000!
Thank you so so much, friend
I really needed this right now, Morgan. Thank you.
Omg you made me cry, but in a good way. This video has just made me think back on everything I’ve been through this year and realise, like you said, how amazing it is to have got this far. Otherwise I’ve been focusing more on the negative of this year, especially losing my job and not seeing the positives in it, so thanks so much for that. You have definitely made me look at things in a more positive way and to remember to not feel so guilty when I have a bad day, which is something I definitely do. Although I’ll admit that your comment about finishing college in 2017 made me feel old 🤣🤣
I needed this conversation and you were the perfect person to hear this from. I have beat myself up endlessly about my personal and professional productivity during quarantine and this video really puts everything that’s happened this year into prospective. Thank you Morgan. 💗
Thank you for addressing this issue Morgan. This year has been difficult for all of us and despite that, we can't help but feel guilty whenever we think about all the things we haven't accomplished or done this year. I am so grateful that I get to spend the holidays with my family, but I know that not many people have that opportunity and it breaks my heart. But, I have to have hope that things will work out, and that we will all get through this together! Thank you Morgan, for always giving us your honest perspective on things. It really helps me to know that I'm not the only one that's feeling this way. I'm looking forward to your next video! All my love, Katarina🥰❤️
Thank you so so much, Katarina ❤️
You’re a gem- you will end up having more subscribers than you’ll have dreamed of 😊
I'm rooting for you girl! So excited for you 😊 stuff has been tough for everyone but I do feel things will improve from now on🙏
You have such a beautiful soul. Good luck with your 50,000 goal. There are millions of people out there who watch youtube so 14,000 out of all that is a drop in the ocean. So doable.
Take care and thanks for being you :)
Thank you for believing in me!! ❤️
Morgan, thank YOU! Your videos have given me so much joy and comfort through this year. 💛
Thank you so much, friend!! 💛
Thank you for your video. I needed it.
I can't wait for this channel to blow up and have at least 1 million subscriber
OH MY GOSH I NEEDED THIS SM 💖💖💖
Merry Christmas, Morgan! I am finally able to watch your vlogmas videos while playing a board game. This was a great summary of all the feelings we had this year and even though I don't live in the US, the election was brutal. It was just so sad to see how a country is divided... Lots of Love! Julie
Spoken beautifully! I hope you get your 50,000 subscribers. You are so genuine. You deserve it. Fingers crossed for you! I watched 1 episode and subscribed immediately because your content was wholesome and adorable and so lovely to watch in such a dark time. You make note of the hardship, you don't ignore it, and you try to show the strength and courage of what we each individually have been going through, while also honouring the goodness and empowerment of empathy and what it can accomplish for a community. Truly wonderful. I wish you all the best as with your subscribers. 🙏🤗❤️✨
Wow, I can’t believe that it’s me you’re writing about- thank you for seeing me in this light and sharing your own light with me ✨ You are absolutely wonderful, Emma 💛
Morgan Long Thank you Morgan for your lovely reply and for uploading such wonderful content. Keep going. You are so lovely and so much fun. You can do it, in no time you'll have way more than 50,000 subscribers.🤗🙏❤️
This is a much needed reminder Mo, thank you. 💛 I have spent most of this year feeling heavy, sad and exhausted. I definitely have told myself that others have it far worse and I shouldn't feel this way. But then I have felt unseen because I put on a brave face. This also reminds me that we are all in this together, though we experience it all through the lense of our own experience. Hugs to you! I know you will reach your goal and beyond! 💫
Heavy is really really good way to describe it. Many of us are feeling heavy in our own, very real, ways but like you said, we’re all in this together- thank you so much for being here, Kristen 💛
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Hello Morgan! Once again thank you for your video! It's exactly what I needed today! Lately I feel so lazy to do everything! As if nothing was motivating me enough. After 2 years living in Sweden I'm coming back home in France in one week (where time has flown this fast?!) and I can't wait. Especially after this year when I couldn't travel at all. I just felt guilty because of how I feel but this "meh" mood is normal because this year is not normal ! So you're absolutely right. We should appreciate and focus on little victories and accomplishments this year. And I know in my inner myself that you're right. Those two years changed a lot and I'm grateful and now a new life starts soon and I'll be the hero of my life as we all should be. Keep spreading this kind of thoughts. You're the best! ♥️
I’m sure these past two years have been so challenging and made you grow SO much. And then to top it all off with the craziness of the world right now, ANYONE in your situation would be exhausted. Rest, my friend, you deserve it ❤️
What a nice and necessary talk!🤍
morgan you really need to do a podcast! your voice is just so soothing!
Love this. I feel like we’re the only country in the world where people are so anti-mask/distancing/staying home. Someone correct me if I’m wrong?? I’m really depressed about it. I’ve been staying home and distancing and friends who don’t are galavanting around like nothing is unusual. Sigh...
i know you’ll reach 50k soon 🤍
Morgan... this was a lovely video. You are so wise beyond your years... and you do put out such high quality content. RUclips can be such a mess of "noise".. and it is rare and beautiful to find a calm, inspiring, soulful voice out there. But you are it. You make good heartfelt videos with such wonderful messages. I wish you the best of luck in your journey.. and I hope you get to your 50,000 subscribers. I am so happy to be one of them. Can't wait to see where you go in the future.
Thank you so so so very much for this Colleen-- it's a like a big warm hug for my soul 💛
Thank you for this video Morgan ❤️
You are so talented and have so much to be proud of already - I can't wait to see you reach new milestones!
Thank you so so much, Raquel ❤️
I love your messages! 🤗
I love your perspective! Thank you so much for sharing it 💖 You are such a wonderful, beautiful human being and I wish you allllll the best 🤍🤍
Thank you so so much, Julia 💕
I so agree with what you said about empathy xx
Needed to hear this today, thank you Mo
Omg I totally agree with you and understand what your thoughts are in this video please stay safe and strong love from John
Just what I needed thank you 😊
Amazing talk Morgan, expressing and validating our feelings is so important, for us to be able to manage our emotions and process our experiences. Your content is of value, so I wish you be able soon, to get the number of subscribes it needs for make your dreams come true! Obrigado amiga, for your incredible work. You are a blessing my friend!
Thank you so so very much, Dulce- your words are exactly what I needed
@@MorganLong 💛 😙🌳🎄🍁
Sending you lots of love 💕
Keep shining your light xo
Here early again! Love!
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I have watched a lot of your videos, but just realized I haven't subscribed to your channel! You've got +1 :)
Woohoo!! Thank you so much, friend!!
Hello friend thank you for summarizing what the world is currently struggling with and yes we will survive . . in the end everyone will reflect how we all came out of this and know how strong better humans we are and can be . . I am so excited for you to reach your goal (for the year) you have reached and continue to touched so many w/your beautiful wonderous soul . . stay amazing take care my friend hugs
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Thank you so so so much, Ida ❤️ I feel very comforted by your words 🤗
Thank you for this video, I really needed it.😊😊💖💖
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Nice one, very genuine
I've been feeling the same way...BUT I drafted 3 BOOKS AND made an album! So, I think that's a win. Taking December off! :) My dentist told me that people have been saying that they have started grinding their teeth when they haven't done that before. I found that interesting but it's understandable.
You're like the older sister I always wanted
Awww thank you so much!
@@MorganLong :)
You are amazing! 💕
thank you I love you so much
So much love and many hugs
I was wondering, do you and Landon still run a mile every morning, even with the colder weather? I love to run outside, but with the cold coming in, it’s getting harder😆
And also, I feel the same as you with with this year. I feel that I accomplished a lot, but I feel very fatigued as well. It feels as if this year has been a thousand years long! It’s strange. My mind still hasn’t grasped the fact that we’re at the end of it. It’s been hard, but I’m hopeful for some peace in our world in the upcoming future 💛🙏🏻
Lastly, I totally believe you can get 50k!!!! You are such a light, and people see it❤️
Who the hell would dislike this video?!! 😤
I wish you the best xxx
I loved this video so much
When I saw the thumbnail quickly, I read the text as “we ate only hummus”
I found this video when I was literally crying in my room because I need to study for my college entrance exam and it's just sooo hard. I've been getting anxious, my hair is falling, my muscles hurt and my heart beat is crazy. I don't know if I'm gonna make it.
YOU WILL MAKE IT. Look at all of the people who have made it- they did it, and so there can be no doubt that you will to. I know this exam is extremely important and scary but it will come and go and life will move quickly on no matter the results. So, you ARE prepared, you WILL do well, just try to find time to rest, do your best, and let the rest go ❤️
@@MorganLong I can't even say how much this means to me ♥️ You are an angel, thank you so so much, Morgan. ♥️😭
I hope you and everyone reach your goals :)
Thank you!
Thank you! You help us so much, could you please make a video about how your mental health journey? Do you go to therapy?
I’m so glad you found this helpful 🤗 I read a ton of self help books and would love to find a therapist I can afford.
@@MorganLong thank you for the answer! maybe you could share what books have helped you? :)
Hi Morgan, I’m having a hard time. Do you think people attract certain things into their lives or it happens by chance?
Do you journal on a physical or digital format?
Hi Morgan. Have you read, "The Power" by Rhonda Byrne?
You're so sweet and cute 😍🍓 much love beautiful lady 💜💜💜