We over-promise cause we don't know ourselves. So we fail to see what we really are capable of committing to and we are incapable of seeing and accepting that the relationship we are in will not last because we are simply not compatible for the long run. The only solution to this is, for us to give our lives to Christ so he can teach us what love really is and who we really are so we can attract and maintain healthier and life long relationships.
47:06 guys Kamo was such an amazing girlfriend from what he says. 😢 I wonder what made them break up!! I love Thato so much, but bhutiza may have an issue with commitment. How is he leaving such great women?😂😂😂😂 don’t come for me I don’t have a father!
Lebo is correct, our parents’ love is conditional upon the fact that we’re their kids. Yes they’ll love you no matter you becoming a druggie and all, but it’s conditioned on you being their kid. They’d have nothing that would make them love you regardless of what you do and how you turn out IF you weren’t their kid.
In my opinion, I think loving unconditionally just means that you love selflessly, you love without limitations, and without expecting anything in return, not necessarily about you loving them and letting them do them and being free, or they stay how they are. Love/partners or relationships rather, are supposed to edify us, build us and make us better, and bring out the best in us. Unconditional love also includes you wanting the best for them, that means at certain times, you are going to have to correct behavior that might jeopardize the relationship, you're going to compromise certain things etc, they gonna do the same.. same with parents for example, they love unconditionally but they correct, they advice, the guide, they GET MAD and they reprimand because they want the best for us. God loves us unconditionally and still reprimands us, still corrects us, still convicts us because he doesn't want us to perish and wants the best for us. that is just me though.
The coincidental thing about friendships hit home😭😭This is so me, as soon as that space no longer exists, the friendship dissolves. It's almost a out of sight out of mind kind of thing
Lebo you're not mentally unstable they just gave it a name and it lived on you, the things you were going through in high school, the sucidal thoughts,that's basically a normal phase that everyone goes through as a teenage but then to you according to your persona and curiosity it frustrated you, remember brain fully develops at the age of 16 apart for your frontal lobe and then after that it's all evolution and a lot can happen in the brain during that phase. If you had mental issues it should have manifested when you were a child don't let them fool you, you are ncah big dawg there's literally nothing wrong with you ❤
"South africa has fallen. You'll never cheat on person is what love is now " 😂Lebohang Rampedi ?! but man isn't lying , that's not a good definition of love .
Guys there are considerate women eyy. It's just that men also become too comfortable. I agree that both partners should show up for one another and love each other according to their respective needs. This is a continuous dance of communication, consideration, honesty and effort. The expression of such issues is the first step. Amazing episode Lebo and Thato :)
In Iyanna’s words “Romantic love IS supposed to be conditional. We are like two adults agreeing on a contract. If you’re not holding up your end of the contract, it should end”.
So real! I understood their point but I didn’t agreet at the same time. Commitment to me is loving someone completely and with their flaws. However staying in a bad relationship is not ideal, making it unconditional
The problem if the girl does not spend money, it limits what you guys can do together. For example you could be booking a trip to Cape Town for the week but if you are the only one spending then you are limited to maybe booking a weekend stay at a hotel somewhere. I feel like people don't look at it from this perspective. Men do not overwhelmingly have more money than women, the disparity comes in the upper classes where men will dominate the money making positions. But for more middle and lower class people, this thing of men being "providers" will not work. A counter point people love to make is that men should just find the women who are willing to pay as well. The issue is that many women regardless of social status etc still have the delusion that men should pay for everything.
A woman's life gets put on hold, especially if you marry her and give her kids, she might have to stop her career and needs to put her family first, so yes men need to carry the burden of providing for his family, its selfish of a man to expect those things and still expect his woman to work and still take care of their children
Men love and that's it.... Women can try but only men can love... We don't care much about where she come from, what she does for a living or the education... If we like what we see we go for it period.... We can literally spend everything on her just for the sake of being with them... Nature has us 😢😢😢
It’s really awesome that you guys finally got a studio. 🥳 I have a suggestion though. I feel like the background it’s looking a little plain. Maybe investing in some cool pillows/wall art and a plant on the side would make things look even better.❤️
Lebo? Stop. You’re triggering us in this episode. I don’t necessarily think there’s a population of women that are wicked, I think there’s a large population of women who are uninformed and misinformed. Because most men have no love languages or knowledge of how they want to be loved they think the experience of love is how much love they can give to a woman and how they can validate women to feeling like their close to perfection. Once you’re in a relationship that requires reciprocation it comes as a shock to women because the model that they’re used to is what they can receive instead of how they can create safe spaces to also contribute and give
@kesegokgagodi4425 they fail to acknowledge that part, they need to start by asking what causes it, get to the root of the problem, then you'll know what you're dealing with
@seated so what would you call people you know who sees as a friend but you don’t see the conditional love of an intentional friendship. Is it that I don’t try? because I see these same people who see me as a friend but the relationship of a friendship is not necessarily there.
Lebo I agree with everything you said so far, but why were you not transparent with her about your 500rds, it was your fault because you wanted her so bad that you decided to shot yourself in the foot- transparency is important in a relationship/even if you were not in a relationship she didnt know that you didnt have money.
17:35 The most toxic. You stick to the "we're together no matter what" while you are literally dying inside. I literally had to wait for the other party to end things because I had made a promise. I eventually became toxic too because I needed him to leave me! I know better now❤ and I am in a happy and healthy relationship.
Thato's comment on love??😂 , what he said now and what he said when he was with his known ex girlfriends is soo different. Like wth😂🤦🏾♀️ was he lying then or was he on some cognitive dissonance level
Lebo would make a great poet cause he is really wise with the way he pick his words ,so realistic and very expressive ❤ I love him🎉❤
Awwww the way Lebo is always complimenting and hyping Thato🥹🥹 the brother Love is real.
😂”I’m just a chill guy” is the equivalent of “I’m just a girl”
I don't think we give Lebo enough flowers, he's really good! His ability of expression is extremely impeccable guys. What a great Artist!
House of Rampedi!! 💃🏾💃🏾 Congratulations 🎉👏🏾
We over-promise cause we don't know ourselves. So we fail to see what we really are capable of committing to and we are incapable of seeing and accepting that the relationship we are in will not last because we are simply not compatible for the long run. The only solution to this is, for us to give our lives to Christ so he can teach us what love really is and who we really are so we can attract and maintain healthier and life long relationships.
47:06 guys Kamo was such an amazing girlfriend from what he says. 😢 I wonder what made them break up!! I love Thato so much, but bhutiza may have an issue with commitment. How is he leaving such great women?😂😂😂😂 don’t come for me I don’t have a father!
Maybe they’re aren’t as great as you think
😂😂😂
@@bokamosotsatsi7104 maybe, just maybe. But Thato seems like he is the wrong one in acrimony!
@@Youngandunfilteredwrong one in acrimony is wild 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Even when he mentioned his girl coming to him with something or preparing a meal… Kamo was doing all that 😩
Lebo is correct, our parents’ love is conditional upon the fact that we’re their kids. Yes they’ll love you no matter you becoming a druggie and all, but it’s conditioned on you being their kid. They’d have nothing that would make them love you regardless of what you do and how you turn out IF you weren’t their kid.
What a thought-provoking conversation, I literally appreciate how authentic you guys are.❤
Lebo cooked in this ep😭🙏
I agree with Lebo, never tell a hun you’re broke.
In my opinion, I think loving unconditionally just means that you love selflessly, you love without limitations, and without expecting anything in return, not necessarily about you loving them and letting them do them and being free, or they stay how they are. Love/partners or relationships rather, are supposed to edify us, build us and make us better, and bring out the best in us. Unconditional love also includes you wanting the best for them, that means at certain times, you are going to have to correct behavior that might jeopardize the relationship, you're going to compromise certain things etc, they gonna do the same.. same with parents for example, they love unconditionally but they correct, they advice, the guide, they GET MAD and they reprimand because they want the best for us. God loves us unconditionally and still reprimands us, still corrects us, still convicts us because he doesn't want us to perish and wants the best for us. that is just me though.
Well said in my opinion 👏
Come on Thato big tiiingsss!!!! Congratulations 🔥🔥. From Due South to House of Rampedi!!!!
The coincidental thing about friendships hit home😭😭This is so me, as soon as that space no longer exists, the friendship dissolves. It's almost a out of sight out of mind kind of thing
Thato is such a good listener
Lebo you're not mentally unstable they just gave it a name and it lived on you, the things you were going through in high school, the sucidal thoughts,that's basically a normal phase that everyone goes through as a teenage but then to you according to your persona and curiosity it frustrated you, remember brain fully develops at the age of 16 apart for your frontal lobe and then after that it's all evolution and a lot can happen in the brain during that phase. If you had mental issues it should have manifested when you were a child don't let them fool you, you are ncah big dawg there's literally nothing wrong with you ❤
"South africa has fallen. You'll never cheat on person is what love is now " 😂Lebohang Rampedi ?! but man isn't lying , that's not a good definition of love .
We love the deep talks at the beginning ❤❤❤
Its beautiful to watch the relationship you have as brothers...your parents must be very proud❤
Love you guys ❤🎉 congratulations on the studio Thato!!
PRE ORDER !!!
We love LEBO ❤
Guys there are considerate women eyy. It's just that men also become too comfortable. I agree that both partners should show up for one another and love each other according to their respective needs. This is a continuous dance of communication, consideration, honesty and effort. The expression of such issues is the first step. Amazing episode Lebo and Thato :)
Congratulations on the new studio, guys!!! Big W🥳
"Maybe Romeo would've been kicking it to this day"🤣🤣
Lebo really cooked on that "What does love look like" topic 😮😮..I'm inspired ♥️
We are blessed to have you guys to bring such conversations❤
In Iyanna’s words “Romantic love IS supposed to be conditional. We are like two adults agreeing on a contract. If you’re not holding up your end of the contract, it should end”.
Guys, I've subscribed for the spotify episodes but everytime I have to come back to youtube just to come see Lebo's facial expressions 😭😭🔥🔥🔥
22:48 - “I’m just a girl” point is valid. It sucks.
To add: You can if you want to love someone unconditionally. But staying in a relationship should be conditionally 18:30
So real! I understood their point but I didn’t agreet at the same time. Commitment to me is loving someone completely and with their flaws. However staying in a bad relationship is not ideal, making it unconditional
Oh my word what a great episode ❤️❤️Bathong Lebo is so funny 😂😂
The problem if the girl does not spend money, it limits what you guys can do together. For example you could be booking a trip to Cape Town for the week but if you are the only one spending then you are limited to maybe booking a weekend stay at a hotel somewhere. I feel like people don't look at it from this perspective.
Men do not overwhelmingly have more money than women, the disparity comes in the upper classes where men will dominate the money making positions. But for more middle and lower class people, this thing of men being "providers" will not work.
A counter point people love to make is that men should just find the women who are willing to pay as well. The issue is that many women regardless of social status etc still have the delusion that men should pay for everything.
A woman's life gets put on hold, especially if you marry her and give her kids, she might have to stop her career and needs to put her family first, so yes men need to carry the burden of providing for his family, its selfish of a man to expect those things and still expect his woman to work and still take care of their children
Lebo is a genius this guy has data
Guys, I'm so considerate hle. Very understanding, also.
Empathiness nehhh😂😂😂.I love u guys soooo much❤
the equivalent of "Im just a girl" is "boys will be boys" . 🤔
Very well articulated👏
Lebo is funny 😂
What a beautiful episode ❤
My faves dropped 5 DAYS AGO and I am only seeing this now😭. Am I even a fan?😭
Men love and that's it.... Women can try but only men can love...
We don't care much about where she come from, what she does for a living or the education... If we like what we see we go for it period.... We can literally spend everything on her just for the sake of being with them... Nature has us 😢😢😢
Some other people when you seat them down and tell them you never liked this they just fight you and it never ends well💁♀
thank you for the consistency.
your parents are blessed jitas yall solid 🙏🙏🙏
i love how lebo defines "I'm just a girl"🤣
Lebo is me😂😂😂I believe
i cant wait to order the seated merch hey😊
37:18? Lebo is onto something!!!!😭😭
I love these brothers to death😍😍😍😍
I am literally screaming!!!!
Pre-order 🎉🎉🎉
It’s really awesome that you guys finally got a studio. 🥳
I have a suggestion though. I feel like the background it’s looking a little plain. Maybe investing in some cool pillows/wall art and a plant on the side would make things look even better.❤️
If you're confused and you want advices, come here
33:45 😅Lebo was defeated with the definition
33:14 “Three, three, three, ayiiiiiih, four”😹😹😹
Very close to 200K 🎉🎉🎉❤
"We?"🤣🤣🤣🤣
30:16 that's why when yall ask where we want to eat we say anything🤕
29:05 Women are very considerate, I think y'all just haven't met the best bunch
Love you guys😂❤
Lebo? Stop. You’re triggering us in this episode. I don’t necessarily think there’s a population of women that are wicked, I think there’s a large population of women who are uninformed and misinformed. Because most men have no love languages or knowledge of how they want to be loved they think the experience of love is how much love they can give to a woman and how they can validate women to feeling like their close to perfection. Once you’re in a relationship that requires reciprocation it comes as a shock to women because the model that they’re used to is what they can receive instead of how they can create safe spaces to also contribute and give
"So good" "Too good" 😭😂😂😂
i❤theRampedibrothers
48:28 can Lebo let Thato finish talking??😪😭😭
Nah you have to be able to let her know that money is not good at the moment so you can see if she also considers you in the relationship.🤞🤞
Lebo's intro😂😂
Drop the link!!
Drop the link ❣️
"South Africa has fallen, you'll never cheat on a person is what love is now?" 😂🤣oh Lebo
I am weak the way I laughed 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Drop the link Rampedi brother's, we're here for it🌾 🌾Christmas clothes are coming along nicely😂😁
We need to accept basadi ba fedile guys.
Ba feditswe kemang?😭
Every cause has a reaction
@kesegokgagodi4425 they fail to acknowledge that part, they need to start by asking what causes it, get to the root of the problem, then you'll know what you're dealing with
Drop the link❤
@seated so what would you call people you know who sees as a friend but you don’t see the conditional love of an intentional friendship. Is it that I don’t try? because I see these same people who see me as a friend but the relationship of a friendship is not necessarily there.
Bro 😂 that’s crazy you believe them then they leave
Lebo is soo boring, I literally had to run and open RUclips to see the setup❤😍
Drop the link !
Re tlo nyala mare😂😭
lol but you guys are petty Aowaa!!
Yes 😂 man🤗
Kamo and Thato need to fix things
Haw, no longer together leKamo???👀
Quick question - is Lebo Cancerian? As a cancer, I can fully relate to him when it comes being weak for love😂😭
Right?😭😭😭
Lebo I agree with everything you said so far, but why were you not transparent with her about your 500rds, it was your fault because you wanted her so bad that you decided to shot yourself in the foot- transparency is important in a relationship/even if you were not in a relationship she didnt know that you didnt have money.
17:35 The most toxic.
You stick to the "we're together no matter what" while you are literally dying inside.
I literally had to wait for the other party to end things because I had made a promise. I eventually became toxic too because I needed him to leave me!
I know better now❤ and I am in a happy and healthy relationship.
Obvious you must drop the link
the way Lebo keeps referencing "the kids" ?? is he not like 24?😭
In a sense Lebo you spent your money for her time 😢
It was transactional
You needed something she needed something
Majita
L POD. ❤
❤
Lebo is me😂😂i sleep angry and wake up feeling okay!
28:47: emotional skill missing in women.
❤📍
Thato's comment on love??😂 , what he said now and what he said when he was with his known ex girlfriends is soo different. Like wth😂🤦🏾♀️ was he lying then or was he on some cognitive dissonance level
It’s called having different perspective and also just growth.
Drop the link!