Cutting someone off in silence: it's the best method

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    Cut people off:quit explaining to them what they are doing wrong. I dont fool with you anymore.leaving someone high and dry. Move in silence

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  • @love83forever
    @love83forever 5 лет назад +1020

    When you talk too much, people get gratified by your anger. It is best to ignore them and cut them off in silence so their egos get crushed.

    • @TylerJTI
      @TylerJTI  5 лет назад +69

      Preach preach

    • @tonylee-UK
      @tonylee-UK 5 лет назад +26

      Your comment has opened my eyes. Thank you.

    • @love83forever
      @love83forever 5 лет назад +44

      @@tonylee-UK You are welcome Tony! Manipulative people play a lot of psychological games. They don't see other people in a loving, caring and humane way. That is why it is difficult for you to understand them. I fully see the darkness of their souls.

    • @love83forever
      @love83forever 5 лет назад +3

      @@TylerJTI Thanks, I am glad that my reasoning resonated with you. I appreciate all your insights and content. Thank you

    • @felishapittman2778
      @felishapittman2778 5 лет назад +34

      I finally figured this out and I have finally had enough and blocked their asses in every aspect! My mental health was at stake...I feel so much better now.

  • @kentrellcastle3
    @kentrellcastle3 5 лет назад +1988

    This came at the right time! I just cut somebody off in silence the other day and I think its better than telling them becuz they should know better already....

    • @queenesquiresquad
      @queenesquiresquad 5 лет назад +30

      kskillz Tv exactly!!!!

    • @oya_the_goddess8854
      @oya_the_goddess8854 5 лет назад +160

      kskillz Tv exactly & they call us cowards for not speaking up. People know what the fuck they be doing . If not , that just means they have no morals .

    • @Dreamsareareality
      @Dreamsareareality 5 лет назад +7

      Yessss! I agree

    • @kentrellcastle3
      @kentrellcastle3 5 лет назад +38

      @@oya_the_goddess8854 facts!! Thats why we go silemce on them

    • @oya_the_goddess8854
      @oya_the_goddess8854 5 лет назад +98

      kskillz Tv exactly lol I use to always be called a coward for “not speaking up” I do communicate but when a person is being consistent in a negative light and trying to use me ... I don’t have to explain why I don’t want them in my life. People know , they just try to play dumb.

  • @mimirich8766
    @mimirich8766 4 года назад +263

    I cut someone off but made the mistake of letting them back in because time had passed. Biggest mistake. They did not change. Now I must take a stand. My mental health depends on it.

    • @_madame_sene
      @_madame_sene 3 года назад +17

      I’ve been there multiple times. DO IT!

    • @ancientsoul4811
      @ancientsoul4811 3 года назад +14

      Me too..when you let them back in....they will do it again. It's who they are and what they do.Good Bye and God bless.

    • @asiaparks7158
      @asiaparks7158 3 года назад +1

      Amen!

    • @rnopes21
      @rnopes21 3 года назад +3

      I've done that too. Never again.

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 17 дней назад

      Bingo

  • @tiflps
    @tiflps 5 лет назад +648

    That’s right . It got to the point where the person was comfortable disrespecting me in my face . Cut off with no communication.

    • @tiflps
      @tiflps 5 лет назад +40

      Nicki B they did once but I didn’t respond

    • @jamescobb5709
      @jamescobb5709 5 лет назад +17

      stay strong sista because its all good once we know how to defend & fortify ourselves to see the traitors coming. Breath the oxygen into ur soul & let the resonance heal ur heart with energy charges from ur solar plexus(science of blackwomans organic healing through bio-memory).U are love my sista & without ur awareness no-one would be here today. Know ur cell.

    • @feefee8627
      @feefee8627 5 лет назад +30

      It's good not to have any friends I don't have any and I don't regret it!!

    • @cedricmiller2167
      @cedricmiller2167 5 лет назад +14

      @@feefee8627 I have to agree no new friends wanted period people be hating just because your doing good for yourself. Only people I communicate with as friends are people I where friends with since childhood or highschool

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +1

      @@jamescobb5709 thank you also I needed also to hear this as well ...

  • @georgialove7385
    @georgialove7385 5 лет назад +28

    Honestly, a person doesn't have to do anything wrong directly to me for me to get rid of them. If I don't like their lifestyle, energy or the company they keep, I get rid of them. Especially if they talk to people who don't like me. If a person is negative and doesn't have any goals, you dismiss them.

    • @aretwothetoo7758
      @aretwothetoo7758 Месяц назад +2

      This really confirmed something for me, thank you!!!

  • @krissykriss73
    @krissykriss73 5 лет назад +870

    Silence=self respect... peace Tyler❣️

  • @redpooh5
    @redpooh5 5 лет назад +651

    The older I get the wiser I become!#Team No Friends and yet I’m peaceful!!

    • @denitajohnson5887
      @denitajohnson5887 5 лет назад +11

      Yeah..we need...at least one friend...

    • @user-mj4or8sh3g
      @user-mj4or8sh3g 5 лет назад +62

      Loneliness is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people anymore.

    • @vincentb9159
      @vincentb9159 5 лет назад +3

      Amen!

    • @annabanana6406
      @annabanana6406 5 лет назад +3

      redpooh5 same 👍🏼

    • @karajones4638
      @karajones4638 5 лет назад +18

      Since ive perged my life has gotton so much better all the so called friends gone and my life has really really improved

  • @lajetteholland2905
    @lajetteholland2905 5 лет назад +123

    My father taught me Military Silence..never consort with the Enemy's

  • @Nienie007
    @Nienie007 5 лет назад +558

    I always walk away in silence. I don't feel the need to keep communicating the same issue.They're always wondering what happened. My happiness comes first. This was a amazing message.

    • @airlebron7467
      @airlebron7467 4 года назад +18

      This is maturity and being wise. Takes years

    • @malichibailey5914
      @malichibailey5914 3 года назад +7

      So true..i use that strategy as well..works like a charm

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 2 года назад +4

      @@malichibailey5914 bingo don't say nothing

    • @SharlenesJourney
      @SharlenesJourney 2 года назад +1

      Amen yesss💪🏾

    • @2oldforthisshit
      @2oldforthisshit Год назад +1

      Hey i just blocked my best frnd because recently I felt like she is too judgement al and I always was fake to get her attention and she only liked the fake version of me.. I was never full and happy with her.. But we also had crush each other.. But she thinks and behaves like she is someone great and iam lucky to have her as my friend.. Always lower my self esteem.. I acactually hated her before but I started developed a crush on her and then I acted cool and she liked me but now I feel exhausted😢.. I blocked her from insta both her accounts (only to not engage for a while) but tuned out I unfollowed her mistakly... I feel awkward now.. That we never had a open problem btw us recently.. And when she looks I unfollowed her both account.. It will be awkward when she finds it😢 what can I do

  • @carolb3869
    @carolb3869 5 лет назад +415

    Walk!!!
    Just walk, no words.
    Very powerful.
    Your silence is deafening.

  • @Aisha_Davis
    @Aisha_Davis 4 года назад +64

    I’ve cut off a few people in silence. They gaslighted me when I tried to resolve the issues so I gave up. I deserve better.

  • @lf8177
    @lf8177 5 лет назад +731

    Most of the people I had to cut off weren't even love interests! Toxic friends, family and neighbors. Yet EVERYTHING applies. Thank you Tyler. 💯👍🏽😃

    • @chilloften
      @chilloften 5 лет назад +15

      L F co-workers.

    • @tamarag9981
      @tamarag9981 5 лет назад +23

      Ikr i had to let some family and love interests go myself.....especially if they aint loving or caring about me like i did them.

    • @thouxan211
      @thouxan211 5 лет назад +3

      Ion Fuck with ppl at all that's How you find out what you dont like about them

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +1

      Same

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +2

      @@tamarag9981 yess indeed .. but most people don't understand how hard it is when you able to work on somethings . I had to block someone off from social media Because I think it's about my mental health than trying to worry so much about her ...

  • @heathermason7875
    @heathermason7875 5 лет назад +207

    Louder for the people in the back! Everyone wants to say that ghosting is cowardly, but expect you to keep engaging in a pointless back and forth with that person for years. If its so wrong to cut people off without warning, THE WHY TF DO I FEEL BETTER THAN WHEN I WAS CONSTANTLY TRYING TO WORK IT OUT WITH THEM? 🤔

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +9

      Exactly .

    • @SuperMichelleDJ
      @SuperMichelleDJ 4 года назад +29

      Heather Mason There's nothing wrong with ghosting. If people want to feel hurt because they wonder why they were cut off without warning, then maybe they should have thought about it while they had the opportunity to mend the friendship by stopping their dissrespectful behaviour or whatever it was that caused you to ghost them.

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 3 года назад +2

      My daughter kept standing me up and using me and bouncing so I have cut her off with silence. She refuse to make it right so I am out. She grown, so she reaping what she sow.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 года назад

      @@ladybird491 i cut my mama off 2 weeks before mothers day !!

    • @eleanor_m355
      @eleanor_m355 Год назад +3

      @@SuperMichelleDJ The funny thing about ghosting though is that it's usually the toxic people who ghost the person they no longer need in their life because they used up what they could get from them. It's ok to ghost if you're in a toxic relationship, but not if you are the toxic one pointing fingers and accusing people of things that you already do/ scapegoating.

  • @renatelewis538
    @renatelewis538 5 лет назад +278

    I cut out the love of my life who used me left me came back over and over again. Silently. Just walked away. Hurting but feeling great. Never want to see him again.

    • @virginiawatson3402
      @virginiawatson3402 5 лет назад +40

      Renate Lewis keep standing in your power. Show him the woman he thought you never were: strong, resilient and determined. Ignore, block, bob and weave. Cut him off and trust God. I cut the love of my life off 16 months ago (he HAD a huge ego - notice I said had) and I didn’t budge. He had to come back a new person. God used me to help him see himself. People won’t hear a sermon; they’d rather see one. Let him FEEL what life is like without you. You’re irreplaceable. Your absence will be his teacher. Let time do what it do. Heal yourself from all your pains and wounds that allowed you to tolerate such behavior. Know that you are worthy of true love and respect. Don’t cave. Don’t give in. Work from your mind and not your heart. Trust God. You can do it!!!!!🤗💕

    • @angelamason9432
      @angelamason9432 5 лет назад +18

      Whoever it was ,was not hardly the love of your life if they were they wouldn't act like that.

    • @goodie9613
      @goodie9613 5 лет назад +6

      Be strong babe. Things will get better!

    • @GlacticSoul
      @GlacticSoul 5 лет назад +3

      Yes stay strong sis you got this❤️

    • @CodyCole80
      @CodyCole80 5 лет назад +18

      Renate Lewis
      That’s the best way to do it. When he realizes you’re really gone, he’ll be shocked! Please don’t go back. I’ve learned that when you’re at peace without certain people, that’s means they just aren’t meant to be in your life-at least not close. 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @kamranhamidfar1725
    @kamranhamidfar1725 4 года назад +29

    Never ask unsupportive and haters why they treat you that way; the will never tell you. Simply cut them out no matter who they are. Even family members

  • @Dreamsareareality
    @Dreamsareareality 5 лет назад +331

    Move in silence, you can talk and talk people understand actions. Just cut them off. Do not chase people. Even Jesus was firm. Spend time with those who love you and appreciate you. We are more than enough. Thank you Tyler!!

  • @followerofYeshua1
    @followerofYeshua1 5 лет назад +578

    I went ghost on all my family and so called friends. I don't put up with negativity and disrespect from my own kids. So why would I put up with it from others when I don't have to? Bye bye gramma, bye uncle, sisters, friends, and the list goes on. It's just me and my kids the past few months and I'm loving it. Peace and quiet.
    Funny thing is just about all of them live right down the street from me. When they text I don't read it. When they call I don't answer. Notes left on my car get crumbled up I don't read them. I already don't do social media so they know not to reach me there. I've had ppl knock and ring on my door while my car is parked in the driveway. I just ignore and eventually that person leaves. Nobody is taking my energy away from me.

    • @sweetapplepie70
      @sweetapplepie70 5 лет назад +15

      Amen boo Good Night 💤🌙
      😊 Sweet Dream
      🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠

    • @sweetapplepie70
      @sweetapplepie70 5 лет назад +8

      @BlackHawk 66 yes indeed my friend bless u to ➕➕🅰🅰🅰➕➕
      🍀🍀😊😊😊🍀🍀
      📖📖🙏🙏🙏📖📖

    • @followerofYeshua1
      @followerofYeshua1 5 лет назад +39

      BlackHawk 66 Yes it really does make you stronger. I've also been able to grow spirituality. My mind is more clear. I am happier. I'm more courageous when it comes to doing things I've been wanting to do. I've raised my vibration. Im not allowing ppl to drain my energy anymore.

    • @daniellee1722
      @daniellee1722 5 лет назад +16

      That is a bold move and one I can't do with family. I'm in business with a brother who always belittles me (not to mention his vile wife) but sad to say the money's too good to cut him outt my life. I envy your independence.

    • @TylerJTI
      @TylerJTI  5 лет назад +15

      Preach it😊

  • @strawberrypancakes2438
    @strawberrypancakes2438 Год назад +31

    I went swimming with a "friend" and her sister. I almost drowned and she laughed at me. Her sister was the one who saved me. I still think about that near death experience almost everyday. There are days when I cannot breath because I feel like I am under water. If it were not for her sister, I would be dead. She is an angel.

    • @closingthedivide1187
      @closingthedivide1187 2 месяца назад

      Wow! This sounds extremely traumatic. Glad that you were able to get away from that toxic "associate", and that God sent someone to save you! Do all you need to do to heal and don't look back 🤍.

  • @skyfall1481
    @skyfall1481 2 года назад +52

    If they don’t appreciate you, give them the gift of your of your absence. The quickest way to get someone’s attention is to remove yours. I like how you said be prepared to take heat for it, it’s true, it won’t be easy.

  • @ronnyreed4095
    @ronnyreed4095 4 года назад +24

    Time away from someone shows you either how much you miss that individual or how much better your life is without that person.

  • @KaylynElise3000
    @KaylynElise3000 5 лет назад +315

    Everybody lets get through this year, jump into 2020 grow learn from our mistakes, love , live life& trust our spirits!✌😘💝

    • @miamiflorida2043
      @miamiflorida2043 5 лет назад +9

      Tyler don't be playing

    • @superiorvessel8496
      @superiorvessel8496 5 лет назад +11

      I don't call it mistakes l call them Life lessons✊🏿

    • @prettyietv92
      @prettyietv92 5 лет назад +4

      I'm w. You sis ✊🏿

    • @goldenbeauty3032
      @goldenbeauty3032 5 лет назад +2

      Yes I agree!

    • @gothamcity007
      @gothamcity007 5 лет назад +7

      Seriously! I'm still recovering after 3 months. Heartbreak is a bitch- I'm just grateful to GOD for everything especially removing that toxic ass bitch out of my life.

  • @JustMe-es9dc
    @JustMe-es9dc 5 лет назад +196

    I did this recently, cause people feel like they can disrespect you and your just gonna take it. #Forward movement!

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 4 года назад +16

      Period . Never fall in love with someone who disrespect you

    • @planttok2116
      @planttok2116 4 года назад +5

      Camille Warren I’m young, but I still get my peace and quite. I always stay and my room and only come around when it’s positive and peaceful. I’m saving up for my own dog for comfort and I’ve been thinking about cutting some friends off because they don’t put time in me and ain’t love me like I did with them,and growing more to more positive people and getting my own money, getting close to got a being spiritual, and figure out want I wanna do for my 14 birthday ☺️😋

    • @thierryestiverne4686
      @thierryestiverne4686 2 года назад +1

      Same here if it’s either family or friend they think they could disrespect and you just gonna take it anyway just cut these motherfuckers out of your life it’s not worth explaining or arguing or the headache you know what’s best for you at the end of the day

    • @JustMe-es9dc
      @JustMe-es9dc 2 года назад +2

      @@thierryestiverne4686 I with you! My worst enemies have always been in my family, sad! but so very true!

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@JustMe-es9dc family don’t always have your back learning this doing me

  • @astrogoddess9433
    @astrogoddess9433 5 лет назад +368

    Agree...when ppl do you wrong and not for you...
    Give them Silence...it speaks very Loudly....Dont Give Any Warning..
    This method is the best...

    • @taraMimi717
      @taraMimi717 5 лет назад +10

      I have a Real problem with this I don’t even like to SPEAK WHEN THEY STRIKE ME WRONG

    • @Luke-pd7xj
      @Luke-pd7xj 3 года назад

      I want to cut off an old friend but my gut is telling me I should tell him straight up or I could just block him on all social media stuff. Any suggestions? I’m just tired of dealing with people who don’t bring the same energy to the friendship.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 2 года назад +2

      @@Luke-pd7xj move in silence they will eventually get the picture !!

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 6 месяцев назад

      @@Luke-pd7xj why do even have social media for to expose yourself on it ??

  • @sophisticatedmm3632
    @sophisticatedmm3632 5 лет назад +157

    This shit is absolutely GOLDEN. I'm not going to keep giving chances.

  • @thescentofawoman4436
    @thescentofawoman4436 5 лет назад +218

    Riiiiiighttttt. This message is confirmation for me! FORWARD IN SILENCE. 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🤐🤐🤐

    • @candiced2138
      @candiced2138 5 лет назад +2

      @Tray Ross Your spouse and children are your real family and priority. There seems to be more drama and chaos when you try to maintain relationships with your extended family. I think a lot of people feel obligated to stay close and connected to certain family members no matter how bad they treat you. Those days are over for a lot of people.

    • @ashleyjones104
      @ashleyjones104 5 лет назад +1

      @Tray Ross Good for you, same here but I still have this aunt trying to be in my life she just don't get it lol 🤣✌

    • @gmatinky3965
      @gmatinky3965 5 лет назад +1

      As well as for me move in silence 🚶🙊

    • @superiorvessel8496
      @superiorvessel8496 5 лет назад

      Yess

  • @amariseshalina776
    @amariseshalina776 5 лет назад +88

    I moved in silence last year, blocked all communications some folks will never change. Thank you Tyler.

  • @cliffhangerfivenina4623
    @cliffhangerfivenina4623 5 лет назад +106

    The sad part it could be your immediate family (Mother, Sister, Cousin, Grandparents, etc)!!!!

    • @Wavy-Waves
      @Wavy-Waves 5 лет назад +4

      CliffHanger Capone I had to do this & it is so sad. My own Momma told me she wish she had aborted me 45+ years ago. After I realized she has for years brainwashed my only child to hate me, disrespect me and walk out my house and live with her. My child isn’t productive in life at all & that is how she likes it. I am so distraught and speechless. The stress has greatly affected my health. So I had to cut off contact to try & save myself. It is a shame!

    • @CoachingChosenOnes
      @CoachingChosenOnes 5 лет назад +1

      @Property of Yah Your 8 year old son?

    • @Rev201287
      @Rev201287 5 лет назад +1

      speak! we as grandparents and uncle's cousins off cutting In

    • @millionairetobe
      @millionairetobe 4 года назад

      @Property of Yah He's a product of YOUR parenting

    • @WOG18
      @WOG18 4 года назад

      For me my in-laws ! Yikes

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 5 лет назад +45

    Silence is the very best way to handle a no win situation. 😉
    No arguing
    No explaining
    DONE DEAL!!
    YAY!!
    Thank you for sharing and caring!!

  • @virginiawatson3402
    @virginiawatson3402 5 лет назад +433

    “We teach people how to treat us by what we allow.” When we reward bad behavior and all the ish, our actions is saying it’s okay. It has nothing to do with being nice. It has all to do with fear of losing. TD Jakes said “let them walk.” We don’t have to beg for love; we are love. I’m standing in my power and it feels good. I will never (again) tolerate bad behavior. I’ve developed some amazing cut off skills, but they came when I developed healthy boundaries and standards. When those are in place at the gate, I weed out a whole lot of fools before it can even get started!! Thank ya Jesus for the healing! Wishing everyone power and courage to choose “self” over anyone else.

    • @superiorvessel8496
      @superiorvessel8496 5 лет назад +12

      💜Self-Love is the best Love💕

    • @corinaweber9014
      @corinaweber9014 5 лет назад +7

      Very well put. I'm learning this now.

    • @Dreamsareareality
      @Dreamsareareality 5 лет назад +6

      Preach!!!!!

    • @miguelrobb5719
      @miguelrobb5719 5 лет назад +12

      Virginia Watson teaching people how to treat us is right...to extent. No matter who you are or what you are about, there's just going to be people out there that's not going to like you and is going to try you either way. The best thing to do is just not deal with them

    • @virginiawatson3402
      @virginiawatson3402 5 лет назад

      Miguel Robb exactly!

  • @The.Whoever
    @The.Whoever 5 лет назад +147

    I up and cut my family off 5 years ago. They were left looking more lost than Nemo.
    Nothing is more painful than "family" constantly abusing and hurting you then pulling the "but we're family" card when you decide to hold them accountable. It was the most painful thing I ever had to do and I grieved the "family" I never had for years after. It was a tremendous loss for me. But I don't regret it.
    I only regret not doing it sooner. Although it affected me deeply for a while after, I have finally been able to heal. Everything has been going right in my life since without much effort or struggle. It's like things just fell right into place for me once I cut out all the space fillers in my life.
    It's so tragic that I'm happier without them. I almost feel guilty for being so happy and of sound mind. But then I remember they ain't shyt and never will be.
    Do you what you gotta do, ppl. You matter too. This is YOUR life. You're responsible for your own happiness.

    • @sofumer4124
      @sofumer4124 5 лет назад +9

      I can relate to your story, i got my peace of mind!

    • @The.Whoever
      @The.Whoever 5 лет назад +2

      @@sofumer4124 Nothing like it! 🤗

    • @pn6528
      @pn6528 5 лет назад +16

      Wow..its like your were taking the thoughts and experiences right outta me. I can totally relate with every last word. You are spot on...And trust, you definitely made the right decision..as did I. Free at last. Free at last. Thank God all mighty, I am Free at Last..
      P.s. I lol when you said "cause they aint shyt and never will be"...Truth.

    • @markwhittaker6866
      @markwhittaker6866 5 лет назад +2

      The Whoever
      PREACH!
      And also well done.
      Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
      Stay blessed.

    • @shaniquegrant5758
      @shaniquegrant5758 4 года назад +1

      Amen!🙏

  • @jenessalovespink3964
    @jenessalovespink3964 5 лет назад +51

    When you no longer put up with abusive narcissistic family members they always paint you as the bad guy and themselves as the victims. They will never take accoubability for their actions. You have to be strong and hold your ground because you deserve to be treated with respect. Now my family respects but also fears me at the same time because they know I will leave anytime I choose. This life is not cut out for the weak.

    • @angelamason9432
      @angelamason9432 5 лет назад +7

      It is not even about being weak. It's really about them being stupid. I don't care who you are what disorder you have if you run away good people you are stupid. And that's why they crash. And that's why it's okay with me. Because anybody and I mean anybody who means them any good they run them away. And the irony is who do they get stuck with. People who are just like them people that don't give a damn just like they don't give a damn. And I never feel sorry for for them. They too weak to love anybody love takes strength 🙄🙄

  • @anabelindaguzman7183
    @anabelindaguzman7183 5 лет назад +18

    These 56 people who thumb this down must either be doormats or the toxic people who deserves to be cut off in silence!

  • @gennardgwinn4607
    @gennardgwinn4607 5 лет назад +64

    I'm an expert in walking away in silence. It's a hey and bye from a distance and keeps it moving. Mamma, uncles, Aunts, cousins, so-called friends, co-workers. Now I'm been told I have a nasty attitude.
    I love it!!!

  • @onetakesun694
    @onetakesun694 5 лет назад +31

    I never been one to explain what you’re doing wrong, because without a doubt they always try to justify their actions. I just get quiet on people and keep doing my thing. I’m not the explanation type. People love to make you seem like you’re the bad one when it’s them all along.

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +1

      Exactly when they can't mirror themselves .. it's funny because the way they are doing that . They are doing that with their families also.. this is why I cut her off completely now . She was showing me her true colors.. block her on Instagram and deleted the number .. immaturity I can't take that .. just so much immature

  • @ladybird491
    @ladybird491 3 года назад +6

    People who don't care about wasting your time deserve no goodbye. Period.

  • @lacrossslounge5403
    @lacrossslounge5403 5 лет назад +80

    Just did this they keep texting.. BLOCK FEATURE ON NOW !!!✌🙅

  • @AM-xe4iq
    @AM-xe4iq 5 лет назад +56

    FACTS. After a while you’re just going to stop responding. There’s not going to be a big speech at the end about why. They already know why. That person has pulled you every which way, got you accepting bullsh*t and one day, you will just silently walk away. They will send you that text, make that phone call or whatever and you won’t respond. Silence speaks volumes. That person that was so used to manipulating you & so used to you always responding, is going to get the axe with no warning.

  • @elmerbaez6784
    @elmerbaez6784 5 лет назад +11

    This year I ripped 4 people out of my life. I've been dealing with them as a friend but, when they showed me their true colors, and I felt empty when they left. I cut them off in Silence. I am happy now. I don't tolerate BS anymore. I have God, my plants, my dog and my fish and a good job. Thank you, Lord. Discernment is a spiritual decision, not an ego decision. We have the authority to say NO MORE!!!! Thank you for this video.

  • @fayegipson2227
    @fayegipson2227 5 лет назад +41

    He is do right. Silence speaks volumes and it shows class. As my mother use to say,"I an show you better than I can tell you"

  • @emerypride7098
    @emerypride7098 5 лет назад +118

    I really feel this. A lot of my friends think i'm wrong for doing people this way and say that I should communicate, express myself more and tell the person why I feel mistreated. Honestly we are all adults. A person knows if they are mistreating you. if not they are mentally unstable and you shouldn't be dealing with them any how. I am not explaining anything. I am removing myself from their lives. No fight, no begging people to change. Like what are they goin to say "Oh wow I didn't realize lying and ignoring you would hurt your feelings until you brought it to my attention" hahaha . I don't think its considered giving up easy. And for me its more peaceful to just walk away. I really hate pointless arguments, its stresses me. Thats why I ghost ppl like its no tomorrow!!

  • @feefee8627
    @feefee8627 5 лет назад +154

    If you want to cut someone out of your life these are the signs
    No communication
    Quit calling and texting
    Being distant
    They act mean or funny
    Can be physical like fighting
    Last but not least they make new friends and ignore you

    • @gmatinky3965
      @gmatinky3965 5 лет назад

      Exactly 🅰➕✔💯♠

    • @Denise53657
      @Denise53657 5 лет назад +2

      So true. It's hard for me also to face the facts...

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +10

      Exactly ... Be distant

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +8

      @@Denise53657 nisey it's gonna be okay .. I am the same thing as you are right now .. but honestly people be treating other people like crap even if you apology to them...

    • @taiyang_x
      @taiyang_x 4 года назад

      FeeFee 86 it hurts but i need inner peace

  • @MsTea-nx1br
    @MsTea-nx1br 5 лет назад +16

    SILENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER .....WHEN YOU GET SILENT AND DAYS MONTHS AND YEARS GO BUY AND THEY DONT EVEN ASK WHY OR BRING IT UP .....IS BECAUSE THEY KNOW EXCITELY WHAT THERE DOING WRONG BUT THERE PRIDE AND DISRESPECTFUL WAYS WOULDN'T LET THEM SAY ANYTHING TO YOU ABOUT IT.

  • @carolstanhope3625
    @carolstanhope3625 5 лет назад +36

    You're absolutely right! No drama,no trauma. Narcissistic people,get a big kick out of watching you beg & squirm.Jesus said there would be days like these.'A man's enemies,will be person's of his own household'.🤔

    • @melaniem8040
      @melaniem8040 8 дней назад

      The comment about a narcissist is spot on thx

  • @lo9437
    @lo9437 5 лет назад +107

    I recently cut tides with someone that literally came into my life on there terms after grieving the lost of my partner months ago. They acted like they were genuinely being supportive to find out they were a narcissist. They would be inconsistent with communicating, dodge questions and had bad intentions also tried to manipulate me to think I was over exaggerating my feelings. Last major straw was when they text me , hey wyd and I responded and they didn’t respond until over a week later as if nothing happened! Let’s just say I know my worth and I’ve quietly stepped back and cut them off . People do what u allow them too ! Don’t be a option but a priority even if it’s to yourself .

    • @artb7257
      @artb7257 5 лет назад +5

      Were we dating the same man? My situation was exactly the same as yours, especially, the "wyd" texts. We definitely know our worth. I kicked him to the curb in silence and never looked back, he definitely got the message and disappeared. These narcs are a piece of work. Hope all is well with you.

    • @BeautifulMorning-hx4my
      @BeautifulMorning-hx4my 5 лет назад +8

      Yep narcissists love those "wyd" textes, and from now on if someone cannot ask me " how I Am doing", then they will get no response, Period!

    • @lo9437
      @lo9437 5 лет назад +7

      Thanks Art B , yes they are a piece of work and it’s crazy how they think we don’t recognize the behavior smdh

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +4

      I think most of us need silent.. people are treating other people like crap these days... I know something isn't right. But she kept liking my photos on Instagram without saying anything too me.. sadly what is the point on having someone numbers if you don't communicate to them..!! But when I told her the reason why I stopped talking to her I had family emergency Prombles and my kids... Iv been really busy with my family and my life.. but when I told her did I get a response back ... I knew she wasn't a true friend to me it's okay because God doesn't like ugly at all.. I never understood why people don't check in with one another..

    • @_madame_sene
      @_madame_sene 3 года назад +1

      This is so my story..met my ex bf narc/psychopath shortly after my mom died. 3 years of emotional and mental stress over this over grown child. I tried and gave benefit of the doubt and chance after chance to let his actions match up with his words which led to him physically assaulting me just the other night. I’ve walked away and will not be giving him anymore access to any part of my life.

  • @YungLito777
    @YungLito777 3 года назад +11

    The funny thing about cutting these toxic people off is that when they come back they come crawling like the snakes that they are and I love it

  • @MrYusu-jg2if
    @MrYusu-jg2if Год назад +5

    Never allow yourself to be a side character for their Life.

  • @TASconfidential
    @TASconfidential 5 лет назад +73

    Wise words!!!!
    I’ve never had an argument, or felt the need to “explain”, or “mediate” the situation when I have been wronged. I just obliterate them and move on. I just disappear.
    They knew they were wrong to begin with.... so why on earth would I need to confirm it with them?
    Cut them off, move on, and bring peace in your life!!!
    Amen!!! 🙏🏾

  • @llovethelord
    @llovethelord 5 лет назад +43

    "Make a move in silence and don't go back!" Thank you so much for that statement and that's exactly what I will do!

  • @MrJRW1
    @MrJRW1 5 лет назад +56

    This is some good advice. Sometimes silence can be more powerful than any words.

  • @mortennnnn
    @mortennnnn 5 лет назад +8

    Silence is louder than noise

  • @weesebowski8651
    @weesebowski8651 5 лет назад +34

    To better days ladies and gents, do not put up with that disrespect! I just cut someone off last night and I as much as it hurts me I slept like a baby. Work on yourselves and dont let this bring you down, we deserve better.
    I needed to hear this today, thank you!

  • @jasoncardwell8535
    @jasoncardwell8535 4 года назад +46

    Cut them off in silence then sit back and watch them plead in your inboxes, DM'S, AND THE VOICE MAILS AND UNREAD TEXTS. I love that part.

  • @dezicherise1907
    @dezicherise1907 5 лет назад +191

    We not taking nobodies HIGH and DRY having ass excuses.I love it,🤣🤣🤣

  • @taniathomas7353
    @taniathomas7353 5 лет назад +92

    This is definitely confirmation! My family has definitely shown their true colors especially while I’m in a vulnerable state such as just having a new baby! They have been cut off and don’t even know it! I mean business!

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 5 лет назад +8

      Stand your ground & don't answer text/ phone calls. I had to do this 3 years ago when my dad passed & his estranged brother was trying to profit from his passing.

  • @PinkQB
    @PinkQB 2 года назад +10

    So true ,don't say anything just keep your distance and if they are smart enough they'll get it. If they care enough they'll fix it. If not, you'll know.

  • @BlessedIndeed1
    @BlessedIndeed1 Год назад +19

    Amen Brother. Silence is felt deep. My absence is a goodbye kiss of mercy and kindness. I need not do a thing but be quiet and strong. The Lord knows everything and has me covered. What they sow, they will reap. Be Blessed. Always.

  • @cosmok783
    @cosmok783 5 лет назад +144

    I’m glad I’ve cut off some people in Silence this year to be honest and great video as always man :-)

  • @Cbhughes26
    @Cbhughes26 5 лет назад +9

    I agree. Some people don't deserve an explanation or may not be open enough to handle a tough conversation. No need to waste your energy or risk disappointment by opening up to a toxic person

  • @izzyforever4760
    @izzyforever4760 5 лет назад +15

    I had to do this many times with a lot of dudes ghosting me then playing with my emotions. I learned to move on and never look back I see it as their loss. I am too good for dumb games like that

  • @raulluna3135
    @raulluna3135 5 лет назад +28

    Its better to cut people in silence i aint wasting my time on these type of people much love and respect tyler

  • @janiemiller825
    @janiemiller825 5 лет назад +23

    True - best not to waste energy debating with type people. Cut them off
    Save your energy for the people in your life that appreciate you genuinely & treat you well. Amen 🙏

  • @Ama28
    @Ama28 5 лет назад +36

    Thank you for sharing this. I have a coworker that can be mean spirited towards me, and wait to attack me. I ignored her all day n she had the nerve to ask me if im ok and i said im fine n she said im not so i said goodluck. Its so annoying. Time to get out of that environment for good. I tries everything its too toxic. Even in silence it gets on their nerves but thats ok, bc i love myself enough to let them know back up off of me. Thank you.

    • @LoveMusic-dv4sl
      @LoveMusic-dv4sl 5 лет назад +10

      Keep doing what your doing & stay strong! She will eventually get the message that you mean business, and don't let anybody mistreat you.

    • @a.m.9993
      @a.m.9993 5 лет назад

      Proud of you!

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад +2

      @@LoveMusic-dv4sl it funny I did the same thing as well.. I just cut some off ... I just cut her off completely. She would like my photos on Instagram without speaking too me.. but when I told her than the reason why I stopped talking to her due to family emergencies purposes and my kids that I have alot going on. Just to test the waters did I get a text message nope.. I just block her on Instagram and delete her number..

  • @grezzer1427
    @grezzer1427 5 лет назад +78

    Get rid of toxic people as fast as you can, thank you so much Tyler for this video.

  • @candiced2138
    @candiced2138 5 лет назад +31

    I remember when you did that video last year. It's still true today. If a person is not uplifting you or adding positivity to your life why keep them around. They will make feel guilty but stick to your guns.

  • @TheRealestRT
    @TheRealestRT 5 лет назад +99

    You are so right about this one ☝️

  • @lisapardue6791
    @lisapardue6791 5 лет назад +20

    It’s NOT OKAY !!!!!!!
    Cut them off !!!!!!!
    Silence says a lot !!!!!
    No words spoken!!!!!!
    Enough is enough!!!!!
    It’s time to move on!!!!
    Get da steppin !!!!!!

  • @keylayajones2806
    @keylayajones2806 2 года назад +7

    My family has treated me like crap my entire life. Whenever I talk about how it's affected me, they either make excuses or tell me "that's on you". I'm moving in with my boyfriend soon and when I leave, I'm not even gonna tell them I'm moving out, I'm gonna pack my stuff and just never come back🤷‍♀️

  • @marishkaspirit
    @marishkaspirit 5 лет назад +14

    This is really the best way to cut someone off. In silence.

  • @hereforthelaughs1119
    @hereforthelaughs1119 5 лет назад +95

    Thanks you Tyler! I did this last year and my message was clear,it was time to walk away from all the toxic energy drainer's in my life. 1 year free

  • @twosix13
    @twosix13 5 лет назад +66

    I blocked someone I thought I loved... Today!
    Dude is not waking up this decade!
    I'm most definitely not sorry and karma has had its justice!
    What a waste of time and hope! Celebrating my freedom today!!

    • @givegodthanks
      @givegodthanks 5 лет назад

      I want to do the same I was planning on ignoring the calls did you block there number.

    • @twosix13
      @twosix13 5 лет назад +5

      rosey bless this decision was a hard one! It took me 2 weeks in deep meditation to think about the repurcutions. Including what this means for my karma. I prayed to God and the rosary several times. The answer God gave me was to get my life back.
      You will have to go deep if this is what you're planning to do.
      Because this isn't about the other person.
      This is for you.

    • @twosix13
      @twosix13 5 лет назад +8

      Tsubaki I've been here before several times. In this case you will have to mourn them as if they have died in reality. It will be the most painful thing you will endure. You may also feel like you are dying. But it's their piece that has attached themselves to you that is dying and keeps holding on. But it's a trap of pain. The best thing is to forget about other people for now. Do small things that make you happy and start filling your time with that. There were times when it took me 2 years to mourn someone. It was so painful but it gets better with time. You will need to change your energy by doing prayers to God. Because once you fill your energy with God no other evil thoughts come in and that is what is consuming you. You just have to switch what consumes you. And then you will not notice it but slowly you will forget them.

  • @jovieg5861
    @jovieg5861 5 лет назад +29

    👍 I agree entirely. Don't be where I am not wanted 💯

  • @millionairetobe
    @millionairetobe 4 года назад +13

    Had to do this with my parents. I feel lighter and I'm genuinely happy. Just got a raise at my job and my side business is picking up and I'm in the process of buying new house. ALL of this happened 6 months after ending those toxic relationships. I'm still trying to figure out if I decide to have children in the future if I want them to be in their lives or not.

    • @johnnyallen3856
      @johnnyallen3856 2 года назад

      I know this is old my guy but did you come up with an answer

  • @fatimamadou7021
    @fatimamadou7021 5 лет назад +43

    I cut them off completely imagine they were family members and thats how I intend to continue cause they drained me emotionally for quit a time now I want my freedom and peace for the sake of my children. Thanks tylar

    • @moonstarslove6117
      @moonstarslove6117 5 лет назад +2

      nakintu shabnam : I moved on to all my sisters. I been married 25 years, they ass divorce 3 times over. Telling me to leave my man. Misery love company.

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 5 лет назад

      Me too ...

  • @Shay4YourMind81
    @Shay4YourMind81 5 лет назад +47

    Thank you Tyler, I like when you talk about this topic. It kills me when I see people hang on to "friends" whom they should have gotten rid of a long time ago. I've done this myself, but eventually had to let some people go, because it was starting to affect my quality of life. I now have a very small circle, and choose to keep it that way. Anytime I've cut off a toxic person, I quietly faded on them, because I knew that talking to them would not get through to them. I don't have the time for this. Cut them off, if they're not acting right!

  • @athena_the_hun1097
    @athena_the_hun1097 5 лет назад +30

    True that!
    Don’t spend anymore energy on it. 🛑
    It may not be easy but it’s rewarding over time.

  • @skillgor
    @skillgor 4 года назад +6

    Thank you tyler I now realize. All of the "friends" that fucked with me and I would just take the insults and trash talk are assholes. Lately I've been thinking a lot about who I can trust and who are actually friends and it comes down to 2 or 3 people now. I also talked to an old friend today which explained to me a lot of things about highschool and changing friend groups and toxic people that need to be cut out. I cut out everyone that brought me emotional unstability and pain so i hope things will be better off now. Hope anyone who reads this has a good life.

  • @donnajustbeingreal6607
    @donnajustbeingreal6607 5 лет назад +79

    EXACTLY... Toxic relationship.. once you check their behavior. That person continues to do. Just cut them off in silence. Don't waste your breath. Move on!
    Yes God sends signs. 🙏🏾
    Peace Love and Blessings to you Tyler 💜

    • @TylerJTI
      @TylerJTI  5 лет назад +3

      Hey miss Donna, how are you doing how all is well with you. Peace and blessings to you

    • @donnajustbeingreal6607
      @donnajustbeingreal6607 5 лет назад

      @@TylerJTI I'm doing fine. 🤗 Peace Love and Blessings to you too. 🙏🏿💜

    • @superiorvessel8496
      @superiorvessel8496 5 лет назад +1

      Well said!

    • @donnajustbeingreal6607
      @donnajustbeingreal6607 5 лет назад +1

      @@superiorvessel8496 👍🏿

  • @ladybird491
    @ladybird491 3 года назад +8

    Hi Tyler, I am thankful to have found this video. I am currently cutting everyone I have known off in silence, not one has been accountable for their actions and disrespect and act like it has all been in my head. I am by myself alot now cause I am cutting people off in silence.

  • @SharlenesJourney
    @SharlenesJourney 2 года назад +7

    Tyler you’re a very wise man🙏🏾 I cut people off without saying anything sometimes people are on a test trial with me especially new people who want to come into my life I don’t have time for this I rather be alone like what are you offering me that I can’t do for myself already ? I honestly hate people I don’t want any friends who just want to drain me and take up my time my time is valuable I would rather use it for me than to sit up here giving it to someone who is going to end up wasting it. People also like to throw secret slick shade and that’s something that I also have no time for ✌🏾

  • @jeanalexandre1105
    @jeanalexandre1105 5 лет назад +4

    Cutting people off in silent is the best way because it's not what you say is the action you took to get there

  • @ChocoliciousChik
    @ChocoliciousChik 5 лет назад +71

    So glad you uploaded this! I really needed to hear it. I just got out of a 9 year relationship with a guy that’s already moved on and I’ve been having a hard time letting go. This video is going to be on repeat, it really got to me. Thank you

    • @MzSam2U
      @MzSam2U 5 лет назад +2

      I'm in the same boat!

  • @doomguy8235
    @doomguy8235 6 месяцев назад +3

    You saved my life. I was attached to someone that didn’t give me the time of day to even acknowledge me while I went above and beyond to attend to their calls and needs. I was blinded by the illusion of love for them while there was none from their side. Hanging on to the hopes they might someday see me for who I am and their feelings might change. I did myself wrong and I need to correct my path in life. I forgot my self-worth and I’m starting to build it back up again. Thank you so much.

  • @SpirituallyGifted888
    @SpirituallyGifted888 5 лет назад +32

    Narcissists! Either let them go silently or give them the same treatment. Drives them bat shit crazy😂 Don't know why this was in my recommended but the universe knew I needed to hear this. It's been a month with no communication and no contact🙌🏿🙌🏿🤞🏾

    • @Stoic-ds4so
      @Stoic-ds4so 5 лет назад +1

      Loool word, it's like these RUclips algorithm's read my mind. At this point with some cunts and listening to this is simply the final push I need. Actually looking forward to the bat shit crazy outrage, my camera will be ready to capture it all 💯👌🏽

    • @SpirituallyGifted888
      @SpirituallyGifted888 5 лет назад

      @@Stoic-ds4so 😂😂😂💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🤞🏾

  • @sarahdavies3690
    @sarahdavies3690 5 лет назад +30

    Thank you, so needed this message, I've been chasing and chasing, and putting up with really bad behaviour, and so much silent treatment. I need to toughen up, enough is enough. Thank you 🙏

  • @miamiflorida2043
    @miamiflorida2043 5 лет назад +21

    Hey I need your E-mail brother. The reason why they do that kind of shit because they think you're going to always be there. You have to show people you don't need them especially when they're not doing you right. I conclude this message by saying your never going to be good enough for someone who don't want you....

  • @serenaslattery3631
    @serenaslattery3631 5 лет назад +10

    Thank you.
    Actions, specifically silence, speak louder than words.
    I have had to walk away in silence from family, stalking exes, so called friends to save my own sanity.
    Makes my mental health much better.
    When their behaviour patterns never change and they keep hurting you, in and out of your life when they feel like it, you have to take control, take care of yourself.

  • @QIKWIA
    @QIKWIA 2 года назад +6

    YES, YOU'RE RIGHT MR. TYLER..👊🏿
    SILENCE IS GOLDEN!
    THE WORST AND MOST HURTFUL THING YOU CAN DO TO A PERSON IS TO TOTALLY IGNORE THEM...
    YUP.

  • @fataliahellfire1865
    @fataliahellfire1865 5 лет назад +12

    I've done this before.
    It takes time for you and close friends who were part of that individual's lives to heal, but time mends the wounds.
    Don't give up.

  • @JACK.DEATH-Sariel
    @JACK.DEATH-Sariel 5 лет назад +14

    I guess the remaing 10% don't give a dam either way. Good vid bro. I'm the King of silence my whole life. God does want someone better for me. They never change people, the older they get, the more they stay the same.

  • @marshamcdonald1475
    @marshamcdonald1475 5 лет назад +34

    Thank you Tyler. I needed this!!! You just gave me the ok not to take this abuse anymore!!!! God Bless you.

  • @giamb26
    @giamb26 5 лет назад +5

    Absolutely Tyler!!! I work with her and I have been silent and no contact since Jan.1 of this year and it will continue forever because she won't change and I have had enough!!! GOD BLESS Tyler and Thank you!!!

  • @queenesquiresquad
    @queenesquiresquad 5 лет назад +7

    So true. I will tell someone that something is wrong and if they keep doing it, I just walk away in silence.

  • @LoveMusic-dv4sl
    @LoveMusic-dv4sl 5 лет назад +37

    Nothing but the truth! 😊👍👏

  • @taylorellis6901
    @taylorellis6901 3 года назад +5

    I have just cut off everyone in my life I’m doing me now I’m working on my self

  • @dawnweissrm9965
    @dawnweissrm9965 5 лет назад +10

    God tells us in his word to "wipe your saddles" move on. Your awesome, thanks for your video.

  • @redbone8844
    @redbone8844 2 года назад +3

    I’m in tears 😢😣😣 listening to this you are so right I’m so thankful I found you this morning you are heaven sent!! I’ve watched a lot of videos you’re now one of my favorites!! I’m free I cut that Narc off 🙌🏽

  • @JS-Jms
    @JS-Jms 5 лет назад +19

    Tyler, you are so, so, so, so right. Just realized today I need to just cut someone off, and just the way you explained it. In silence.👍

  • @drewpdrew2004
    @drewpdrew2004 5 лет назад +9

    Preach! Only if you knew how much you're telling my life story. I'm sick of toxic fake friends and family. Time to move on in silence!

  • @Palpac
    @Palpac 5 лет назад +2

    This dude is on point! Don’t reply to them don’t say goodbye or anything, because if you do they will keep txting you, ringing you or showing up on your doorstep and keep bringing you down, with all their bullshit. You go silent on them they will eventually get the message.

  • @joecochran5027
    @joecochran5027 5 лет назад +4

    Speaking the truth and nothing but the truth!! Every second you waste on the wrong person is a second that you can't spend on the right person