Jian is every parents dream. Despite being treated like a criminal, he doesn't hate his youngre brother and even smiled and clapped for him while he was acting cute. Seon on the other hand is just a baby but knows he has complete monopoly over his father and tried to cut the attention away from Jian. The father is an immature, idiotic man who is ruining 2 completely fine children's personalities. Jian is so anxious, i fell so sad watching him cry so hard. Father should be ashamed. Even if children are notorious, parents still love them. Imagine not loving an angel of a child like Jian and even having the guts to accept it on national television. I think he needs to grow up already, he fathered 2 kids but has no right to ruin their lives. Even if he starts treating Jian better, he'd do it out of shame and guilt. If i was the mother, i'd take Jian and divorce him ..
You're not overthinking it. He totally could. The father is designing him to manipulate. He's also a victim of bad parenting. I could totally see the younger one growing up being an entitled brat who has mastered manipulation. Its a good thing they came here to be honest
D I V Y A I think I have watch too many k-drama and always think that the younger brother will be a brat when he grow up. I kinda mad at the younger brother because I think he want more attention from his dad even tho his dad always paying attention at him but I know he is still a kid so I think its obvious that he acting like that. Please don't judge me. It's only my opinion.❤❤
The older brother in the first concern doesn't deserve that kind of treatment , I feel so bad for him, I'm literally crying😭😭 he's so cute and handsome and such an angel too Hope the father correct himself
Sad to hear what the father treated the older son. He's still very young to a point where or when he gonna grow up being apart from his dad. Everyone is upset at the father...i am too. I know how it feel, because i understand that feeling.
In The first concern, when Summi said she wanted to raise him, i got her. I cannot even take care of myself, yet, i have confident that i can love him more than his father.
Really sick of Korean men treating others like shit and then using excuses like "I'm not that affectionate" or "I don't know how to express myself" to cover up their blunders. The dads in both first and third concerns aren't even ashamed or embarrassed of their actions. I have been watching this programme for almost 4 years and this is the first time I'm ranting in the comments section.
Korean men are really really far behind. I mean there are still thousands or millions of husbands that don't even change one diaper in their life or have anything to do with raising their kids except scolding them. It's just sad.
Seeing the kpop idols we wish to marry or date kpop idols or if not atelast korean mens but to know reality they have to see this program, i changed seeing this program.....so decided to be fan, an army
@@sweetbearfanfictions5575 what? The program isn't bad. It solves problems. What the hell are you talking about? If watching this makes you not want to date koreans anymore I don't think that's bad.
@@1aa2aa3GiRl i think u got it wrong.... I didnt say, its, a, bad program, i, am saying its, a, good program, i am saying when idols reality shows shows perfect man, this show shows the other side that we have to be aware of
This was a tough week...all 3 concerns are really serious and i cried throughout the whole episode tbh. I hope life will get better for these families from now on.
I rarely cry watching TV shows, but seeing Jian crying really brought me to tears... At least I feel like his father was finally ashamed and regretting his behaviour. I hope they become a happy family from now on.
Second concern: This was so beautiful. The love between her and her grandkids is beautiful and hearwarming. I hope that she can still enjoy life doing what she's always wanted to do and should stop doing things for her grandkids because they are finally able to take over and take care of her instead. I loved this.
it's me liz honestly I don’t understand how the parents couldn’t have helped in any way, how can they just leave their kids with their grandparents and not support them at all. Maybe they did but it wasn’t aired in this episode
@@emmachou6301 I've noticed that it's actually not uncommon for the grandparents to take care of the grandchildren when the parents separate and I'm still wondering why. Single parents are perfectly capable of raising their children on their own (or even setting up a system where the kid sees one parent one week and the other the following) and grandparents can still help without being the only ones to raise the kids (this is how both my mom and I were raised). Then again that's just my opinion so maybe it's just the cultural differences between where we live and Korea. I personally think that the parents should still care for the child even if they are separated.
I could never understand the "father" in the first concern... Why would you make your own son feel like he isn't loved, make him get scared of the consequences of something he hasn't done?? Discipline is one thing and emotional abuse is another. I couldn't stop crying through the whole concern, especially when Jian said "I'll be a good boy too." He hadn't done anything wrong, that pure little angel 😥💔
For the first concern, I got so worked up. I hate it the mostwhen elders favour or compare children. It's just mentally exhausting forthe victim. Jian is such a bright kid and he looks very cute and handsome, he seems to have good manners too (The harassing part however, may be the result of the way his father treats him). Honestly, if his father wouldn't change, can we really say that he has a father? Sigh. Plus, if this keeps up, as Minsang said, they'd be meeting in the show again because of how distant the two children are. His excuse is also unacceptable. Please take your time with your family preciously. I just- wow.
Third concern: There is one thing I absolutely hate about parents. You could be telling them about something that is really upsetting and they always bring up things from the past to belittle you or tell you to pray when you need them to comfort you. Depression is no joke. People should realise that the brightest light can lose a lot of its energy and can one day turn dull. They need to be there for her and should be quite careful with what they say. I'm saying this because I've dealt with this since I was like 9 and my words are still not taken seriously. This is a major concern. And also, you don't have to go through the most traumatizing even to bhave depression, it could start from having insecurities which could lead to low self-esteem and self hate. Be aware of those around you and don't assume one is happy because of their smile. The brightest smiles hold the biggest pain.
You've spoken the truth. I deal with depression for 7 years now, and sometimes the smallest "wrong word" can trigger:(. Can I ask, how you're doing now?
I'm late but.... My family doesn't believe in mental illness. They think it's a result of substance abuse or over thinking. They believe that you can control it. The thing is, I am depressed. Since I am an adopted child, I have been discrimimated a lot and until now, I have little value in my family's eyes. I wanted to get help desperately that I found a job to pay for a check up but my adoptive siblings wanted to be there. When the doctor told them that I was under so much stress, they laughed at me and told me there's nothing to be stressed and depressed about. they made me quit my job and now I live with them full time. I am still depressed but I don't have the chance to get the help I need. I try to cheer up by myself. And having faced the life that I've lived so far, I trully wholeheartedly hope that this young girl gets the help and support she needs... because it's hard to just fucking live with it.
i tried to tell my illness to my family but im scared that they would say like "im tired too" and such . thats why ive been keeping it to myself almost 5 years
That grandma is one of those people that inspire humility and selfless sacrifice. I cried and cried. All i wish is that she is happy and healthy until her last day.
The first concern is really heart breaking..... How can a father be like that...... That guy have no right to be a father.... He is destroying his two children's life.
First concern: How dare he ruin his kids like that? How dare he do that? Of course there should be a difference in how you treat your kids depending on their age but Jian will grow to hate his father and he will not be close to Seoun(?). This is just sad and I'm very angry at this man. I'm so mad. He even made me cry, ogg.
I watched the last concern few days before starting to stan nu'est so now I'm rewatching the whole show, I was shocked when I knew they were actually here
My heart hurts for Jian. He's such a precious, handsome and charming boy. He deserves all the love. To think that he has so much sadness behind that cheerful smile of his is heartbreaking. I just wanna hug him and give him all my love! I really hate it when a family shows favoritism towards one child. Growing up in such an environment can mentally and emotionally affect a child. If the father doesn't change his ways, either Jian will grow up despising his dad and his younger brother or the younger brother will think he's superior than his older brother and the family will eventually fall apart. They're such a beautiful family and I really hope and wish the best for them, especially for Jian!
I can never and will never understand parents that prefer one child over the other. I can't accept the father's unseemly "I will try to love them both equally" response. Unacceptable! Both of them are so adorable and lovely yet he got jealous over his first son because he took all his wife's attention since he was born. Like is that even an excuse?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Gosh the second concern had me bawling like a baby. I don't understand how people can be so cruel and belittle a person minding their own business and working hard to provide for her grandkids. I'm a bit confused though, so their parents left the kids with the grandma and cut off all contact? So one of the parents doesn't even talk to their own mum?
Honestly, I've watched this show for a few years now and I've never been this angry with anyone as much as I am now. Seriously, the first concern broke my heart. The father wasn't even paying attention when his 9-year-old son was crying. I don't care how tired, jealous or mentally ill you are, don't do this to your child. When Sunmi said that she wanted to raise the child I was honestly agreeing with her on a spiritual level. It's just so sad and frustrating to witness a child growing up in such a household. And then the father goes on to say that boys should grow up in strict environments in order to grow into nice people. Well, let me tell you something mister. Your child will definitely not grow up fine if you run around saying that you don't love him. And honestly, Jian is literally the epitome of a dream child. Come on, he's being treated like some criminal. Yet still he smiles, and is so pure. The boy is handsome, nice and even shows a set of nice manners. But seriously, this won't continue until the end. One day he'll get tired of the treatment he gets and that's when the father is going to regret his actions. But then it wouldn't even matter, cause it would be too late to realise that.
I personally think this was one of the saddest Hello Counselor episodes out of the ones I have watched however as much as I felt and was concerned for the last two concerns I just couldn't cry anymore since my tears had all been drained from bawling my eyes out and sniffling at the first concern honestly the dad is kind of disgusting and I really just wanted to hug Jian he's such a pure kid and knowing he's had all of those tears built up in him and what will come out of him if this continues is honestly just a shame I really felt for Jian and wanted to knock some sense into his dad - it was just such an emotional concern considering he's probably not even hit puberty yet but he's already on the verge of rebelling.
27:30 I've never cried so much in my entire life. You can see all the pain, sorrow and sadness in the poor kid's eyes and his dad is just sitting there doing NOTHING. He is ridiculous and should visit a psychiatrist because he needs serious help
The father isn't just ruining his relationship to his son but also the relationship between those two brothers. He is really an idiot i cant believe how you can be like that
In the second concern I felt really bad for the grandmother and her grandchildren. She literally took care of them with no support from anyone else and never complained even with so many hardships. One thing I really do not understand is that even if the parents got divorced why did you ask your parent to take care of your child. They are yours and you should have taken responsibilities for your actions. Either one of the parents should have taken them in.
the first concern was just too much. Hearing all that stuff made me wanna slap the living shit out of that so called father. After seeing Jian cry I started crying too. He looks so hurt and that just broke my heart
I can't eat my food because I'm so busy crying. I feel bad for Jian. He doesn't deserve that :( And I cried more at the second story because I was raised by my grandparents as well and I cannot bear to see them getting hurt or being sick.
Ren and Jr ie!!! And already watched this ep last week and I cried for like every concern. I swear the dad is just... Hope the Grandma takes a rest now!! At least sometimes, until she builds it up.
And hope the last girl can be more open with her feelings. I have siblings and think its a matter of fact to look after themm when I was younger and they were young. But I had other siblings to help when I couldn't. The stress of doing it alone must make it harder for her. Plus we're all our own people so have different feelings towards different tasks. She's doing well!!
I get annoyed sometimes when they ask them too. But its their culture sort of. But anyway JR likes showing Aegyo, though he gets shy he's naturally cute anyway. All of Nu'est are if you see them. Especially on their own vlives etc they want to do it when they're alone as well:)
Wow so it's not normal for a guy to like doing aegyo? Is it all the same "men are not supposed to cry or show any emotion"? There are some idols that specifically enjoy it and their image is built around it, JR is one of them... His company made him act tough for almost his whole career, so I'm glad he can relax now and act the way he wants.
I’ve been watching this for a while and this is the only episode that made me cry so much. All 3 concerns were hard hitting and now my eyes are swollen
Dude I'm only on the first concern and I'm already asking myself if that man wants to die? How could you treat another human being let alone your son like that. He's 9 years old in Korean age meaning he's 7 or 8. How can he already be a disappointment? You know who's a disappointment? You.
*First concern begins* me: cries *reveal the older son* me: cries harder *edit* I’m crying too much at concern number 2, I can’t see. Everything is blurred
It's been 3 years and jian must be 13, I just hope he remains a good boy and that in the future he will become a wonderful man and father regardless of whether his own father has changed since that day or not. He deserves all the love in the world.
2nd concern... its broke my heart....i was raised by my grandparent too... since my parents passed away wen i was jus 5 n 7.... i how how much my grandparent love me n how they tried to do everything for me i love tem too so much but im not that good at expressing my heart n now i lose my grandma too. i m alone wit jus my grandpa im truly sorry sorryyyyyyyyyy
25:32 *Dear Jian, it’s 2024 as I write this for you sweetheart. I hope your happy & healthy. You must be so grown up now. I hope your parents marriage is much better, stable & your all close. I know 1 day you’ll read these comments & hope you smile seeing how many people’s hearts you’ve won. Im sending you much love from 🇬🇧 (UK). My son & daughter are the same age as you & I can say you’re a child anyone would be so blessed to have. Look after your mummy she loves you a lot & I’m sure your still a amazing big brother to your little brother. Hand on heart I pray your family are closer & not apart🙏🏼🧿Stay forever blessed young man, I’m sure your still winning many hearts ♥️🙌 Prof V x*
The First Concern: He was saying he is being strict But all I Saw the Father Hatred for jian, Scolding him for the things he have not done, parents usually shout kids for their mistakes to make them discipline but he was just too harsh on him for no reason, I didnt find jian mistake for him to be get scolded.
people have NO IDEA how DESTRUCTIVE preferential treatment is goodness man. pray for this man, that the Lord shows him the severity of what he's doing and that He convicts him. pray for his deliverance aswell and for him to be able to forgive his son
the first and second concern make me cry so hard tonight😭😭😭Jian you are so cute and it make me sad when i see you cry , that grandmother too is very hardworking and very loving person.
OMG!!! I still feel angry when i watched the first concern , by the way this is my first comment on hello counselor because i couldn't bear his father i wished if i can punch him on his face at least to wake up . When i watched him crying i couldn't stop my tears i felt so sorry for him to bear such burden on his small age ; I wish if Hello counselor can give me his address i would like to send him an encouragement letter to make him feel that his loved from all over the world and he isn't alone. Love from Morocco
30:13 "I'll be a good boy too" Oh my god I can't stop my tears...no child deserves to be brought up like this, especially one as small and innocent like Jian. The moment his father said he wasn't affectionate, I got so mad I almost broke my computer screen- I hate when people use such ridiculous excuses to explain their own wrong doings instead of owning up. Stop being such a hypocrite, if you can be affectionate to the younger son, why can't you be just as affectionate to Jian?
Its been 10 yrs that my grandma is raising me and my 2 brothers. She's in her mid 80's and watching the second concern made me cry so much. Im so grateful to my grand parents especially my grand ma. Hope that the girl and her family has been able to live happily after the show
I think that there is not ONE episode of hello counselor I haven't watched. I was so happy to see JRen here, but the first concern made me forget about everything. What kind of father would do that to their children. He's not even doing anything great to his younger son. There was not even shame in his face. Not even after getting the reactions from everyone in the show, specifically Jians. It's so disgusting. He is messing both of the kids life's up. Jian started showing those behaviors at school and the father doesn't even get that it's all his fault. Jian is such a cute kid. Taking care of his younger brother and not getting angry at him. I would divorce the father right away before he breaks my kids mental health. Or at least I would take the whole family to family therapy.
I'm rewatching this episode and it only the first concern but i can't stop bawling my eyes out😭 I just want to hug the older son and glare at the father
This episode of hello counselor breaks my heart so much, from the first concern up to the last. I cried nonstop seriously. This was two years ago and I hope Jiian's father treat him like how he seo an. The grandmother I hope she already stop working and living her life to the fullest doing what makes her happy. And to the eldest daughter I hope she already overcomes her depression and making her dreams come true.
I've been watching hello counselor for probably around a year now on and off, the first concern really made me shed tears, Jian is so sweet like and angel and I can't believe he endured growing up like that 😥
I cried so hard with the second concern, I don’t understand why some people are so mean, it’s touching how this family loves each other, I hope their grandma take a break and have her deserved rest and pampering
I couldn't stop my eyes from tearing as I was watching the first concern. It's so sad. It must have been very difficult and heartbreaking for Jian to be treated differently by his own father.
Jian is so pure and sweet, when he started to cry I could not hold my tears anymore and I cried to see him cry, I wish I could hug him 😭😭😭😭 his father is so mean 💔
While I was definitely crying over the grandmother's story (who am I kidding, I was crying the whole time) I think the emotional abuse that Jian was suffering from was a much bigger concern. Even if his dad treats him better moving forward, the scars on his heart are already there and their affect can already be seen in his behavior. The fact that so many people were accepting or dismissive towards that is concern. A trend that I've seen throughout this show is that the Korean culture seems to be very lenient on abusive husbands and fathers. Good old patriarchy I guess
Jian is a sweetheart and he deserves so much better than he is treated. He is a great son and brother. I don't get why his father dislikes him. It just breaks my heart 😕💔
I never cried watching this program ( and I can tell you that I watched a LOT of episode) but the first concern had me crying my eyes out ! Just seeing that 9yrs old little boy crying because he feels like he’s father doesn’t love him hurt me soo bad, The shake in his voice😭 I really wish I could slap the smile off the father face. He almost destroyed his son, and the worst part is that he didn’t understand where was the problem... I can’t like ... what is that type of father😭 a 9yrs old little boy crying hard ! At such a young age ! And because of his own father ! That’s awful I can’t handle this😭😭😭
the first concern i think that all in the family have to be treated equally he didn't do anything wrong the second concern i really respect those grandparents that work hard to raise their grandchildren the grandmother did her very best and it's time for her to rest and enjoy the rest of her lifetime the third concert i feel really bad for her she knows how her parents facing hardships and she tries to endure everything on her own to not make it more hard for them i hope that she opens up to her parents or get a real friend to share her concerns depression is really dangerous it can lead to many bad thing but remember no matter how hard it is don't do anything to your self :-)
@@jamesheng1878 it has nothing to do with stigma.. Simply those parents eere stigma on name of parents... There r many divorce rate why should it would be still a stigma
@@tingle2323 firstly make some sense in your explanation. I don’t know where you live but I assume not in Asian judging by your comment. It is lovely that you are clearly in a place that accepts divorce more openly, but in Korea and all of Asia that is still not the case. Please do more research.
@@jamesheng1878 first u should put sense enough to ask what I actually mean.i live in Asia. I answer to the girl's comment. ।that. Not doing divorce in the name of stigma on being single mothers isn't in Korea because in Korea divorce rate is already high. And second I said those parents are stigma who don't care about children. As the commenter said that being divorce doesnt mean not caring the child. I refer to those parents.
it breaks my heart when kids have to suffer and shed tears because of an adult's behavior... seriously... I hope the kids get stronger and somehow realize that they are really precious and they don't need to fight for someone's love or approval because that will destroy them mentally, be happy by yourselves, make a lot of friends and surround yourselves with people who appreciate you, if someone doesn't appreciate them, there will always be someone who does
sunmi relates to the daughter on a cellular level, maybe that's why she's too emotional. for someone who loves her, I know that she did not struggle to put herself on that girl's shoes. she feels. im just glad that she's much better now and still working hard to overcome her demons. she's a very strong person and i highly respect her. i stan queen 👑👑👑
For South Korea having the highest suicide rate, I really fear for the boy's life. I would not be able to sit in the room and just listen to him speak like that without assaulting him, I don't know how they do it.
Awww the older brother is so cute, kind and a loving kid!!❤ I am a stranger and I completely fell in love with him so how could u possibly hate him when you're his father!!!!!!!! U don't deserve such an angel!!
I was wondering why a lot of people in the audience were crying and then realized my cheeks were full of tears… This show is givin' me so many lessons. Thanks!
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Jian is every parents dream. Despite being treated like a criminal, he doesn't hate his youngre brother and even smiled and clapped for him while he was acting cute. Seon on the other hand is just a baby but knows he has complete monopoly over his father and tried to cut the attention away from Jian. The father is an immature, idiotic man who is ruining 2 completely fine children's personalities. Jian is so anxious, i fell so sad watching him cry so hard. Father should be ashamed. Even if children are notorious, parents still love them. Imagine not loving an angel of a child like Jian and even having the guts to accept it on national television. I think he needs to grow up already, he fathered 2 kids but has no right to ruin their lives. Even if he starts treating Jian better, he'd do it out of shame and guilt. If i was the mother, i'd take Jian and divorce him ..
You're not overthinking it. He totally could. The father is designing him to manipulate. He's also a victim of bad parenting. I could totally see the younger one growing up being an entitled brat who has mastered manipulation. Its a good thing they came here to be honest
seperating the siblings would ruin it even more
D I V Y A I think I have watch too many k-drama and always think that the younger brother will be a brat when he grow up. I kinda mad at the younger brother because I think he want more attention from his dad even tho his dad always paying attention at him but I know he is still a kid so I think its obvious that he acting like that.
Please don't judge me. It's only my opinion.❤❤
The older brother in the first concern doesn't deserve that kind of treatment , I feel so bad for him, I'm literally crying😭😭 he's so cute and handsome and such an angel too
Hope the father correct himself
Sad to hear what the father treated the older son. He's still very young to a point where or when he gonna grow up being apart from his dad. Everyone is upset at the father...i am too. I know how it feel, because i understand that feeling.
My mom was asking me why i'm crying!
@@0qelix the man has changed now he treats his older son better
티i same 😫
In The first concern, when Summi said she wanted to raise him, i got her. I cannot even take care of myself, yet, i have confident that i can love him more than his father.
Exactly!
IKR!
i hope she adopt him lol
I felt the same. I have a son. This broke my heart for him and I wanted to hug him and feed him all of a sudden.
Ikr me too I’m only 12 though-
Really sick of Korean men treating others like shit and then using excuses like "I'm not that affectionate" or "I don't know how to express myself" to cover up their blunders. The dads in both first and third concerns aren't even ashamed or embarrassed of their actions. I have been watching this programme for almost 4 years and this is the first time I'm ranting in the comments section.
Korean men are really really far behind. I mean there are still thousands or millions of husbands that don't even change one diaper in their life or have anything to do with raising their kids except scolding them. It's just sad.
Seeing the kpop idols we wish to marry or date kpop idols or if not atelast korean mens but to know reality they have to see this program, i changed seeing this program.....so decided to be fan, an army
@@sweetbearfanfictions5575 what? The program isn't bad. It solves problems. What the hell are you talking about? If watching this makes you not want to date koreans anymore I don't think that's bad.
@@1aa2aa3GiRl i think u got it wrong.... I didnt say, its, a, bad program, i, am saying its, a, good program, i am saying when idols reality shows shows perfect man, this show shows the other side that we have to be aware of
DDAENG IDOL Well I wrote "What" two times so of Course I didn't get you Right. Well okay. But you being an army is totally not relevant lol.
This was a tough week...all 3 concerns are really serious and i cried throughout the whole episode tbh.
I hope life will get better for these families from now on.
same
which usually do not get better unless you file police report like me
This trueeee i cry non stopppppp.. even they make funny also i still cry
The first concern 😭😭 my heart breaks for the Jian😭😭😭
look at sunmis eyes she is mega pissed off at that good for nothing father
Only a few minutes into the first concern and I really want to slap some Sense into that husband's face. what a sad excuse of a "father".
qwayne same with as many episodes as i had watched i never felt like i wanted to beat someone so badly
same. he less grown up than his older son. I feel really sad for Jian
But how did 73 people in the first did not find that a concern
Exactly
I rarely cry watching TV shows, but seeing Jian crying really brought me to tears... At least I feel like his father was finally ashamed and regretting his behaviour. I hope they become a happy family from now on.
Second concern:
This was so beautiful. The love between her and her grandkids is beautiful and hearwarming. I hope that she can still enjoy life doing what she's always wanted to do and should stop doing things for her grandkids because they are finally able to take over and take care of her instead. I loved this.
it's me liz honestly I don’t understand how the parents couldn’t have helped in any way, how can they just leave their kids with their grandparents and not support them at all. Maybe they did but it wasn’t aired in this episode
@@emmachou6301 I've noticed that it's actually not uncommon for the grandparents to take care of the grandchildren when the parents separate and I'm still wondering why. Single parents are perfectly capable of raising their children on their own (or even setting up a system where the kid sees one parent one week and the other the following) and grandparents can still help without being the only ones to raise the kids (this is how both my mom and I were raised). Then again that's just my opinion so maybe it's just the cultural differences between where we live and Korea. I personally think that the parents should still care for the child even if they are separated.
I could never understand the "father" in the first concern... Why would you make your own son feel like he isn't loved, make him get scared of the consequences of something he hasn't done?? Discipline is one thing and emotional abuse is another. I couldn't stop crying through the whole concern, especially when Jian said "I'll be a good boy too." He hadn't done anything wrong, that pure little angel 😥💔
For the first concern, I got so worked up. I hate it the mostwhen elders favour or compare children. It's just mentally exhausting forthe victim. Jian is such a bright kid and he looks very cute and handsome, he seems to have good manners too (The harassing part however, may be the result of the way his father treats him). Honestly, if his father wouldn't change, can we really say that he has a father? Sigh. Plus, if this keeps up, as Minsang said, they'd be meeting in the show again because of how distant the two children are. His excuse is also unacceptable. Please take your time with your family preciously. I just- wow.
The kids are all so nice well mannered and responsible this episode
Except the little brat from the first concern
Except Seo-an
Jade'T all 4 year olds are like that. He was well mannered for a 4 year old in my opinion
Third concern:
There is one thing I absolutely hate about parents. You could be telling them about something that is really upsetting and they always bring up things from the past to belittle you or tell you to pray when you need them to comfort you. Depression is no joke. People should realise that the brightest light can lose a lot of its energy and can one day turn dull. They need to be there for her and should be quite careful with what they say. I'm saying this because I've dealt with this since I was like 9 and my words are still not taken seriously. This is a major concern. And also, you don't have to go through the most traumatizing even to bhave depression, it could start from having insecurities which could lead to low self-esteem and self hate. Be aware of those around you and don't assume one is happy because of their smile. The brightest smiles hold the biggest pain.
You've spoken the truth. I deal with depression for 7 years now, and sometimes the smallest "wrong word" can trigger:(. Can I ask, how you're doing now?
I feel you find strengh
@Shizuko Shin hug
I'm late but....
My family doesn't believe in mental illness. They think it's a result of substance abuse or over thinking. They believe that you can control it.
The thing is, I am depressed. Since I am an adopted child, I have been discrimimated a lot and until now, I have little value in my family's eyes. I wanted to get help desperately that I found a job to pay for a check up but my adoptive siblings wanted to be there. When the doctor told them that I was under so much stress, they laughed at me and told me there's nothing to be stressed and depressed about. they made me quit my job and now I live with them full time. I am still depressed but I don't have the chance to get the help I need. I try to cheer up by myself. And having faced the life that I've lived so far, I trully wholeheartedly hope that this young girl gets the help and support she needs... because it's hard to just fucking live with it.
i tried to tell my illness to my family but im scared that they would say like "im tired too" and such . thats why ive been keeping it to myself almost 5 years
The first concern made me cry so hard😭😭 Jian is so cute how dare he call his child annoying? I want to be his Noona he's so adorable💜😭
That grandma is one of those people that inspire humility and selfless sacrifice. I cried and cried. All i wish is that she is happy and healthy until her last day.
The first concern is really heart breaking..... How can a father be like that...... That guy have no right to be a father.... He is destroying his two children's life.
First concern:
How dare he ruin his kids like that? How dare he do that? Of course there should be a difference in how you treat your kids depending on their age but Jian will grow to hate his father and he will not be close to Seoun(?). This is just sad and I'm very angry at this man. I'm so mad. He even made me cry, ogg.
i was watching it for jren but ended up crying to every single concern
I watched the last concern few days before starting to stan nu'est so now I'm rewatching the whole show, I was shocked when I knew they were actually here
Same. I thought i could laugh as usual but now im crying like a shit instead
@@wontaekschild1473 what does that mean
Second concern really hits me hard. Grandmother is a hero. I hope she’ll live a long and healthy life. Be happy, grandma 💕
My heart hurts for Jian. He's such a precious, handsome and charming boy. He deserves all the love. To think that he has so much sadness behind that cheerful smile of his is heartbreaking. I just wanna hug him and give him all my love! I really hate it when a family shows favoritism towards one child. Growing up in such an environment can mentally and emotionally affect a child. If the father doesn't change his ways, either Jian will grow up despising his dad and his younger brother or the younger brother will think he's superior than his older brother and the family will eventually fall apart. They're such a beautiful family and I really hope and wish the best for them, especially for Jian!
i dint think ive ever cried so hard for the first boy..... i cant even. IM SOOO UPSET i cant even express wtf
I can never and will never understand parents that prefer one child over the other. I can't accept the father's unseemly "I will try to love them both equally" response. Unacceptable! Both of them are so adorable and lovely yet he got jealous over his first son because he took all his wife's attention since he was born. Like is that even an excuse?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The second concerne 😭😭😭 My heart is breaking right now for the granddaughter but I Salute the grandmother for bringing them up with love😘😗
Gosh the second concern had me bawling like a baby. I don't understand how people can be so cruel and belittle a person minding their own business and working hard to provide for her grandkids. I'm a bit confused though, so their parents left the kids with the grandma and cut off all contact? So one of the parents doesn't even talk to their own mum?
Bruh when Jian started crying, I can’t with my tears like seriously. I feel so bad, He deserves all the love he can get.
Honestly, I've watched this show for a few years now and I've never been this angry with anyone as much as I am now. Seriously, the first concern broke my heart. The father wasn't even paying attention when his 9-year-old son was crying. I don't care how tired, jealous or mentally ill you are, don't do this to your child. When Sunmi said that she wanted to raise the child I was honestly agreeing with her on a spiritual level. It's just so sad and frustrating to witness a child growing up in such a household. And then the father goes on to say that boys should grow up in strict environments in order to grow into nice people. Well, let me tell you something mister. Your child will definitely not grow up fine if you run around saying that you don't love him.
And honestly, Jian is literally the epitome of a dream child. Come on, he's being treated like some criminal. Yet still he smiles, and is so pure. The boy is handsome, nice and even shows a set of nice manners. But seriously, this won't continue until the end. One day he'll get tired of the treatment he gets and that's when the father is going to regret his actions. But then it wouldn't even matter, cause it would be too late to realise that.
I personally think this was one of the saddest Hello Counselor episodes out of the ones I have watched however as much as I felt and was concerned for the last two concerns I just couldn't cry anymore since my tears had all been drained from bawling my eyes out and sniffling at the first concern honestly the dad is kind of disgusting and I really just wanted to hug Jian he's such a pure kid and knowing he's had all of those tears built up in him and what will come out of him if this continues is honestly just a shame I really felt for Jian and wanted to knock some sense into his dad - it was just such an emotional concern considering he's probably not even hit puberty yet but he's already on the verge of rebelling.
First time crying for all 3 concerns!!!
27:30 I've never cried so much in my entire life. You can see all the pain, sorrow and sadness in the poor kid's eyes and his dad is just sitting there doing NOTHING. He is ridiculous and should visit a psychiatrist because he needs serious help
For real! Fake ass man,looking down as if he felt guilty. You are 200% right.
The father isn't just ruining his relationship to his son but also the relationship between those two brothers. He is really an idiot i cant believe how you can be like that
@@keepscrolling1767 the wife wasn't a problem in the 1st concern (OP was referencing to Jian, his brother, & his father)
Wow 1 hour of crying. 😢😅
Literally cried a river, i just want these kids and grandma to be happy.
This show makes me want to stay single lmaooo
Got the same feelin xdd men are sh*t xddd you never know who you are really marrying
Hahaha One!!
MOOD
Yazzy Raka truuueeee
But then again, seeing the boyfriend in the second concern....
In the second concern I felt really bad for the grandmother and her grandchildren. She literally took care of them with no support from anyone else and never complained even with so many hardships. One thing I really do not understand is that even if the parents got divorced why did you ask your parent to take care of your child. They are yours and you should have taken responsibilities for your actions. Either one of the parents should have taken them in.
the first concern was just too much. Hearing all that stuff made me wanna slap the living shit out of that so called father. After seeing Jian cry I started crying too. He looks so hurt and that just broke my heart
I can't eat my food because I'm so busy crying. I feel bad for Jian. He doesn't deserve that :( And I cried more at the second story because I was raised by my grandparents as well and I cannot bear to see them getting hurt or being sick.
Ren and Jr ie!!! And already watched this ep last week and I cried for like every concern. I swear the dad is just... Hope the Grandma takes a rest now!! At least sometimes, until she builds it up.
And hope the last girl can be more open with her feelings. I have siblings and think its a matter of fact to look after themm when I was younger and they were young. But I had other siblings to help when I couldn't. The stress of doing it alone must make it harder for her. Plus we're all our own people so have different feelings towards different tasks. She's doing well!!
I cried because Jian is so precious and he is literally angel that deserves all the love in the world. 😭😭😭😭
omg stop asking idols for aegyo
I think it makes them uncomfortable
they have so much more than that to show
They're told in advance what they'd be asked to do. What grown man enjoys acting like that
I get annoyed sometimes when they ask them too. But its their culture sort of. But anyway JR likes showing Aegyo, though he gets shy he's naturally cute anyway. All of Nu'est are if you see them. Especially on their own vlives etc they want to do it when they're alone as well:)
I love when they do that... I've started stanning a few idols after I saw their aegyo
Wow so it's not normal for a guy to like doing aegyo? Is it all the same "men are not supposed to cry or show any emotion"? There are some idols that specifically enjoy it and their image is built around it, JR is one of them... His company made him act tough for almost his whole career, so I'm glad he can relax now and act the way he wants.
It was not forced to the Idols.. They like it that y they do it😥😥
the first concern breaks my heart but i gotta say the nu’est boys are looking handsome
I’ve been watching this for a while and this is the only episode that made me cry so much. All 3 concerns were hard hitting and now my eyes are swollen
The second concern broke my heart 😭😭💔💔💔 I want to protect that grandma
I cried so hard for the older child in the first concern.He's so pure hearted and I wish him all the best for his future
Dude I'm only on the first concern and I'm already asking myself if that man wants to die? How could you treat another human being let alone your son like that. He's 9 years old in Korean age meaning he's 7 or 8. How can he already be a disappointment? You know who's a disappointment? You.
I’ve never cried this much for hello counselor :(
*First concern begins* me: cries
*reveal the older son* me: cries harder
*edit* I’m crying too much at concern number 2, I can’t see. Everything is blurred
i am addicted to this show
It's been 3 years and jian must be 13, I just hope he remains a good boy and that in the future he will become a wonderful man and father regardless of whether his own father has changed since that day or not. He deserves all the love in the world.
2nd concern... its broke my heart....i was raised by my grandparent too... since my parents passed away wen i was jus 5 n 7.... i how how much my grandparent love me n how they tried to do everything for me i love tem too so much but im not that good at expressing my heart n now i lose my grandma too. i m alone wit jus my grandpa im truly sorry sorryyyyyyyyyy
25:32 *Dear Jian, it’s 2024 as I write this for you sweetheart. I hope your happy & healthy. You must be so grown up now. I hope your parents marriage is much better, stable & your all close. I know 1 day you’ll read these comments & hope you smile seeing how many people’s hearts you’ve won. Im sending you much love from 🇬🇧 (UK). My son & daughter are the same age as you & I can say you’re a child anyone would be so blessed to have. Look after your mummy she loves you a lot & I’m sure your still a amazing big brother to your little brother. Hand on heart I pray your family are closer & not apart🙏🏼🧿Stay forever blessed young man, I’m sure your still winning many hearts ♥️🙌 Prof V x*
The First Concern: He was saying he is being strict But all I Saw the Father Hatred for jian, Scolding him for the things he have not done, parents usually shout kids for their mistakes to make them discipline but he was just too harsh on him for no reason, I didnt find jian mistake for him to be get scolded.
people have NO IDEA how DESTRUCTIVE preferential treatment is
goodness man. pray for this man, that the Lord shows him the severity of what he's doing and that He convicts him. pray for his deliverance aswell and for him to be able to forgive his son
the first and second concern make me cry so hard tonight😭😭😭Jian you are so cute and it make me sad when i see you cry , that grandmother too is very hardworking and very loving person.
This whole episode made me cry from start to finish.
The second concern was heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time. I hope she does rest. Such a loving family
ohh GOD the first concern lill boy jian broke my heart especially when he said "i will be a good too" at the end ............
OMG!!! I still feel angry when i watched the first concern , by the way this is my first comment on hello counselor because i couldn't bear his father i wished if i can punch him on his face at least to wake up . When i watched him crying i couldn't stop my tears i felt so sorry for him to bear such burden on his small age ; I wish if Hello counselor can give me his address i would like to send him an encouragement letter to make him feel that his loved from all over the world and he isn't alone. Love from Morocco
30:13 "I'll be a good boy too" Oh my god I can't stop my tears...no child deserves to be brought up like this, especially one as small and innocent like Jian. The moment his father said he wasn't affectionate, I got so mad I almost broke my computer screen- I hate when people use such ridiculous excuses to explain their own wrong doings instead of owning up. Stop being such a hypocrite, if you can be affectionate to the younger son, why can't you be just as affectionate to Jian?
Its been 10 yrs that my grandma is raising me and my 2 brothers. She's in her mid 80's and watching the second concern made me cry so much. Im so grateful to my grand parents especially my grand ma. Hope that the girl and her family has been able to live happily after the show
One of the episodes where all the concerns were very real ones.
I think that there is not ONE episode of hello counselor I haven't watched. I was so happy to see JRen here, but the first concern made me forget about everything. What kind of father would do that to their children. He's not even doing anything great to his younger son. There was not even shame in his face. Not even after getting the reactions from everyone in the show, specifically Jians. It's so disgusting. He is messing both of the kids life's up. Jian started showing those behaviors at school and the father doesn't even get that it's all his fault. Jian is such a cute kid. Taking care of his younger brother and not getting angry at him. I would divorce the father right away before he breaks my kids mental health. Or at least I would take the whole family to family therapy.
What a great grandmother. So strong, I wish them all the best. I hope they'll show how they are doing in the future 💕
this episode was so sad, I never cried this much
P.S: the most refreshing moment was Sunmi saying swear words
I'm rewatching this episode and it only the first concern but i can't stop bawling my eyes out😭 I just want to hug the older son and glare at the father
This episode of hello counselor breaks my heart so much, from the first concern up to the last. I cried nonstop seriously. This was two years ago and I hope Jiian's father treat him like how he seo an. The grandmother I hope she already stop working and living her life to the fullest doing what makes her happy. And to the eldest daughter I hope she already overcomes her depression and making her dreams come true.
Omg Jian concern make my cry parents should love kids equal ♥️
Ahh nice to see Jonghyun and Minki finally in Hello Counselor 😍
He's so cute handsome.... Love you Jian... Be happy
I've been watching hello counselor for probably around a year now on and off, the first concern really made me shed tears, Jian is so sweet like and angel and I can't believe he endured growing up like that 😥
I cried so hard with the second concern, I don’t understand why some people are so mean, it’s touching how this family loves each other, I hope their grandma take a break and have her deserved rest and pampering
*Me, a straight girl sees Sunmi slaying like the queen she is* : Marry me my darling, you can step on me anytime.
I couldn't stop my eyes from tearing as I was watching the first concern. It's so sad. It must have been very difficult and heartbreaking for Jian to be treated differently by his own father.
I never cried soo much while watching other episodes. This one gets me soo emotional.
It broke my heart to see Juan cry 😭 especially when he said he thinks his dad doesn’t love him:(
This was the first time I cried watching this show while seeing that little angel Jian...
I LITERALLY CRIED WITH THE FIRST ONE. HOW CAN A PERSON LIKE THAT BE CALLED FATHER?
Im not usually a very emotive person but i felt so sad for the older son that i actually cried. He's only a child gosh
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This ep is the most emotional one till date for me. I couldn't help my tears from falling. 😭😭😭
Jian is so pure and sweet, when he started to cry I could not hold my tears anymore and I cried to see him cry, I wish I could hug him 😭😭😭😭 his father is so mean 💔
I was angry over the first concern and then cried a bunch over the second.. I know exactly what it means to have a hardworking grandma. I love you!
First Time I can't stop crying by seeing hello counselor
While I was definitely crying over the grandmother's story (who am I kidding, I was crying the whole time) I think the emotional abuse that Jian was suffering from was a much bigger concern. Even if his dad treats him better moving forward, the scars on his heart are already there and their affect can already be seen in his behavior. The fact that so many people were accepting or dismissive towards that is concern. A trend that I've seen throughout this show is that the Korean culture seems to be very lenient on abusive husbands and fathers. Good old patriarchy I guess
Jian is a sweetheart and he deserves so much better than he is treated. He is a great son and brother. I don't get why his father dislikes him. It just breaks my heart 😕💔
The grandma made me cry like a river 😭
I never cried watching this program ( and I can tell you that I watched a LOT of episode) but the first concern had me crying my eyes out ! Just seeing that 9yrs old little boy crying because he feels like he’s father doesn’t love him hurt me soo bad, The shake in his voice😭 I really wish I could slap the smile off the father face. He almost destroyed his son, and the worst part is that he didn’t understand where was the problem... I can’t like ... what is that type of father😭 a 9yrs old little boy crying hard ! At such a young age ! And because of his own father ! That’s awful I can’t handle this😭😭😭
the first concern i think that all in the family have to be treated equally he didn't do
anything wrong
the second concern i really respect those grandparents that work hard to raise their grandchildren the grandmother did her very best and it's time for her to rest and enjoy the rest of her lifetime
the third concert i feel really bad for her she knows how her parents facing hardships and she tries to endure everything on her own to not make it more hard for them i hope that she opens up to her parents or get a real friend to share her concerns depression is really dangerous it can lead to many bad thing
but remember no matter how hard it is don't do anything to your self :-)
I love how beautifully emotional Koreans can be.
N Americans aren't sensitive enough for a show like this
All 3 stories had me ballin out crying
First concern elder kid is so adorable and his parents are blessed to have a calm child. Even I want to raise him myself 😘
My heart BROKE when jian started clapping with his bright smile...and then drastically changed to tears... ouuu😭😭
Man, I feel bad for the older brother from the first concern...how can one not adore that cutie pie?
All the concerns this week were so sad but handled really well by the show
Druundev korea I guess. Divorce has a really bad stigma in korea
@@jamesheng1878 it has nothing to do with stigma.. Simply those parents eere stigma on name of parents... There r many divorce rate why should it would be still a stigma
@@tingle2323 firstly make some sense in your explanation. I don’t know where you live but I assume not in Asian judging by your comment. It is lovely that you are clearly in a place that accepts divorce more openly, but in Korea and all of Asia that is still not the case. Please do more research.
@@jamesheng1878 first u should put sense enough to ask what I actually mean.i live in Asia. I answer to the girl's comment. ।that. Not doing divorce in the name of stigma on being single mothers isn't in Korea because in Korea divorce rate is already high. And second I said those parents are stigma who don't care about children. As the commenter said that being divorce doesnt mean not caring the child. I refer to those parents.
it breaks my heart when kids have to suffer and shed tears because of an adult's behavior... seriously... I hope the kids get stronger and somehow realize that they are really precious and they don't need to fight for someone's love or approval because that will destroy them mentally, be happy by yourselves, make a lot of friends and surround yourselves with people who appreciate you, if someone doesn't appreciate them, there will always be someone who does
sunmi relates to the daughter on a cellular level, maybe that's why she's too emotional. for someone who loves her, I know that she did not struggle to put herself on that girl's shoes. she feels.
im just glad that she's much better now and still working hard to overcome her demons. she's a very strong person and i highly respect her. i stan queen 👑👑👑
I feel so bad for Jian.....and here crying for him.......his dad is the worse father
For South Korea having the highest suicide rate, I really fear for the boy's life. I would not be able to sit in the room and just listen to him speak like that without assaulting him, I don't know how they do it.
it is just about time lol
Awww the older brother is so cute, kind and a loving kid!!❤ I am a stranger and I completely fell in love with him so how could u possibly hate him when you're his father!!!!!!!! U don't deserve such an angel!!
That first concern....
the eldest is such a sweetheart
My heart aches for him😭😢
This whole episode is such a tear-jerker
I was wondering why a lot of people in the audience were crying and then realized my cheeks were full of tears… This show is givin' me so many lessons. Thanks!