3:53 'Lifelong trauma is caused by lacking their bio father. Children's maturing stops when the father is kicked out of the house.' #EqualSharedParenting
.. World's largest child trafficking system is run by JUDGES. CALL Congress. Need sponsor names. Stop $Billions in SS Title IV-D anti-father incentives to divorce judges, police... #EqualSharedParenting twitter.com/PeopleHealthTru/status/1273707035494735872
@David Noel you bascially said what he said though woman can't tell men apart. They cant recognize aplha man. He's not really pandering if its truth in it not like derrick Jackson dumb self who literally makes money off broken women
@bigjayking24 3:53 'Lifelong trauma is caused by lacking their bio father. Children's maturing stops when the father is kicked out of the house.' #EqualSharedParenting
He is speaking so much truth. Every Man is a Male. But not every Male that you meet is a Man. A Male wants to be serviced. A Man wants to serve. A Man realizes that he was put on this earth to be a servant leader. WOW, WOW and WOW again!!!
Every girl is a female but not every female is a woman! A woman was put on Earth to be a servant leader ! It works both ways but guys like Donte Whitfield cater to girls , women, and females. How dare people use psychology and don't think it works both ways ? Selfishness is a disease to your character and a weakness.
I’m living out everything you said my brother. I have 4 girls to raise and how I treat myself, their mother and them is how I measure success in life, not money, trinkets or external attributes. There truly is a difference between MALEHood and MANHOOD.
In service of vs being served. Preach Dondre!!! My husband is in service of me. He caters to me and he don't deny. As I am in service of him as well. Grown man and grown woman status. Love without conditions. Awesome.
Correct. Viewers and comment readers should ensure that this fact isn't misunderstood. Though few will still miss the mark and take what he said literally.
beauty 43 , Believe you me I am so happy for you you should cherish that relationship and 1st and foremost thank the Almighty living God that I serve that you have your soul mate God-bless both of you maybe you 2 should give some classes or something
When a femal says, "It's so sexy when a man _______"i, the result of the statement seems self-serving. Just my observation. For example, A man is about serving, not being served would be beneficial to those being served. This is what I've noticed.
MArie Livingston his statement is beautiful, but so many women can't handle a Grown Man. So many immature women prefer grown males instead who are dysfunctional in a relationship!
@@birdchoyce1268 That maybe true, I'm a senior 60+ in age, and Believe me I do know that age is all in the mind if you don't mind I don't either but let me tell you I have run across some 20 year old men and I've run across some 75 year old males so I love this topic it is so desperately needed in today's societee with the generation coming up and for the past generation because a lot of grown men supposedly grown men have not even developed a lot of them are stuck at 12 13 14 or whatever, Preach brother preach I'm listening I'm here for
DE'ONDRE YOU BETTER PREACH!!!! BROTHER!!! YOU DONE SAID A MOUTHFULL!!!! THIS IS COMING FROM A GROWN AND MATURE WOMAN!!!!THANK YOU!!!! I'M GLAD I HAD 5 BROTHERS!!! THEY WERE THERE TO MENTOR MY BOYS!!!!
It's really applies to vvomen. Yall stop maturing the moment you begin to receive attention from men. Around age 15 a girl "develops" and men notice. The female catches the eye of grown men and she doesn't know why exactly. She subconsciously doesn't feel the need to become a better person. When her looks fade she becomes depressed because she is not being liked at approached at all. She gets prescribed medication.
@@beingmarilyngail8470 All you wanna do is name call and throw shade. Wheres your counter to the arguement ? No way can you be getting the attention you received when you were 25...FOH
This panel literally spoke into a situation in my life. I told my son's father just yesterday, I'm here to love and nurture and take care of our boys but I cannot make them men. I cannot make them hard that is not my job. I wanted him to also take into consideration his childhood. I'm definitely going to sit down with him to watch this again! Thank you so much!
Dondre’s point is so profound and so simplistic at the same time...and while there is an arrested development with some men ...there is also a role reversal with some women...for example the way he spoke about his mother essentially raising him by herself...she was put in a position to be both father and mother...so I can understand why some women take on that authoritative role because for one reason or another the father is not there and you have to be everything to everyone
Fatimah X I dont think there was a role reversal. She honored her role as a parent/mother. There was never an attempt to be or to replace his father. Rather an attempt for him to eliminate excuses for his negative choices and bad behavior as an adult. She taught him how to be a productive person/adult. His father was his father and he knew who his father was and how he was.
Fatimah X that's very true. I know too many single mothers who are simply trying to teach their boys to be men bc the Father's are either physically absent or mentally, emotionally, and spiritually absent. Good point.
I'm sooooooooooo glad that no one respond when this was 1st posted. I do have 1 ? so obviously w/your ratched/disrespectful/nasty comment is because your not educated....right? I have a feeling your mother if you had 1 which I'm questioning apparently is part of the 95% of AA females that ain't shit .................right? Many of those males aren't men a good portion are boys such as yourself. It's sad & unfortunate that you have such a fowl mouth & backwards/uniformed mindset. Last ? so your name is 1 Black Nation? Really?
That's a huge problem here. Mother's are trying to be everything. It's silly to say that "I had to be the mother and father". I've never in my life heard a man say I had to be the father and mother. NOT ONCE EVER! Why is that? In my opinion, ladies don't understand that being a mother is enough and NOT being able to be a father is fine. So trying to be both, they sometimes do a poor job at both. It's insulting to hear ladies say I had to be the father and then get applauded. Where is the respect and appreciation for the men?
Yes brother we need you. The men, out here realyyyyyy need you. Go bother, thank GOD for the wealth of wisdom he has given you. Thanks sister circle for having this positive message.
I love hearing enlighten men speak on their journeys! None of us will every be perfect but we must seek to be accountable to ourselves and those under our guidance.
Spirit Path Podcast I can only give one like? Outside of what the gentleman said and he owned his wrong on went on to correct his mindset and become accountable. This was the next best comment.
amen brother u are a catch. can I say I amen again. nothing sexy than a man that knows his boundaries and having the courage to stand on his beliefs strong
Man you better Preach!! Now that’s what I consider a Black King, a man that understands who he is, where he came from and what he has to do to be the best man he can be for himself as well as to the women in his life. We need more like you......
Gurl I was thinking the same thing... I listened to a few of Tony's post years ago before life coaching became popular, but these past few weeks, I have been binge watching his stuff like nobody's business honey! Tony is like the big little big brother I never had. I used to listen to Derrick Jaxn & I still listen to some of Stephen Laboissieré. I like Tony because he's transparent about where he's been, he married & happy & he talks to you & not at you as you were at the kitchen table waiting on Sunday dinner!
Why would he have to be listening to Tony Gaskin? Why couldn’t he just have matured and grown up by doing some soul searching and worked on being a better man? A lot men don’t take the time to self reflect....instead they seek out a woman’s body to distract themselves from facing themselves.
That’s a good messaging my brutha. As a man I am not quick to jump on the messaging of some guys who get on the horn to speak their “truth” in the company of women in order to hitch a ride on an emotional bandwagon. However this brutha really articulated a sincere truth that I is important to young black bruthas that are getting too much of their information about relationships and women from hip hop music. Dangerous. No...deadly....to the black race. Which is part of a larger strategy. Young men need to be re-educated on black relationships and it may not feel good. Many times you receive instructions, it typically doesn’t feel good because is “adding” another element to your understanding that you may have to assimilate into your being. You have to adjust. If your sitting in church and the preacher has you laughing and feeling all warm and cozy about yourself, you better reassess why you are there. You don’t need anyone validating your actions, you’re there to learn how to be better. Otherwise wise, what’s the point in going? Some bruthas will take what he says and throw it back at the woman, not realizing that’s exactly his point. You are being being a grown male, having a takers mentality by making sure you are “one upping” the woman by getting the last say. Rather than accepting the responsibility of a grown man whom is a leader realizing that it is the man that should lead by example in his actions. Rather than follow behind the woman in response to what he “may” deem as a negative reaction.
I agree with my brother on this topic, but I do want to clarify a few things: 1. It is perfectly fine for a man to be served by his wife so long as he is caring for her and their children as the Bible has spelled out. 2. In addition to fathers leading the way and setting he example for their sons and daughters mothers have a great responsibility too. It is important that mothers show their daughters how to be young ladies with dignity, pride, and standards. Not to mention saving themselves until marriage. 3. Oftentimes it is preached that females should save themselves until marriage. I cannot remember the last time in my 24 years that I ever heard a man/woman tell a young man to preserve himself until he meets his wife. The importance is not stressed and that is a major reason why infidelity is commonly committed by men. Because fathers are not always present, and our mothers/grandmothers are raising out young men, I say to women, take the time to instill self worth, respect, virginity, etc into your sons rather than telling him he has to be a Man, the Man of the house, the provider etc. It is not my intention to point fingers, but rather to shed light on another side of things.
I say "better raised children" who have"good parents" or "a good parent" with" a good mindset" can teach their children male or female child, self respect, respect others, discipline, ect.......and preservation until marriage if that's what you believe, nothing wrong with that. All I'm saying is it starts with the parents or parent. How you think, act,or what you believe, also effects what the child believes. Create that foundation at home.
Please don’t be afraid to just focus on what men’s roles are. You all are the leaders. The rise or fall of the family truly rests with you. It’s not at all equal. Men have the more challenging, more weighty responsibilities. And it’s tough to follow a man who insists we are both equally responsible. If so, then there’s truly no leader.
You are absolutely correct. Being a virgin when married erases the memory of how it was with the other person and eliminates that longing for more because you don't have any reference. AS it relates to a man being served by his woman, he is first required to give and then she reciprocates. That's the order and plan. As long as those rules are adhered to then marriages will be better in the long run. thirdly, Father are the pillars in a child's life. They are the foundation. When God gave the direction to train and teach, He gave it to fathers. Mother's are nurturers and yes required to teach their daughters how to carry themselves but fathers give value to their daughters, he is the one that sets the standards for he to live by in life and Fathers validates their sons. A son will always be looking for validation from every angle if he's not getting it from his father. Even if it means to join a gang and have a father figure give it to him. So you are absolutely right but just coming from female stand point with the importance of a father in the home. He's the first line of defense from all outside interference.
This man is basically talking about leadership and love! As a man there is a service provided to his wife just as there is a service provided to a husband by a wife who is a grown woman. Love in its truest, genuine form is not self seeking but when people play house or live out life in their own self seeking manner, selfishness is at its highest form. Being involved with an individual who wishes to honor you and respect you, that person is going to render service to you by loving you in a true and genuine manner and when you're deserving you'll return that same form of love and neither husband or wife, woman or man is neglected or disrespected. When a man speaks of this love it's gonna come from a man's pov and vice versa, so him speaking on the service provided to a woman by a man isn't touching on the topic of submission from a woman/wife to a man/husband. That all depends on what you believe and what works for you and your spouse but in love in general there is a service rendered by both parties and love is equal on both sides even if shown/displayed differently!
Im a man that feels like that statement dont appy to me & your comment is most sincere to me because this statement can be vice versa , so i thank you for your logic
Enjoyed this tremendously. Mr. Whitfiekd spoke the truth. When he described the difference btwn a grown man and a grown male, it confirmed what I'd learned sometime ago. Knowing the difference allows women to make better choices and find greater happiness. We don't have to settle. No one should. Thank you ladies of the Sister Circle.
no one is listening to this simp a women is supposed to be subservient to the man the man is the head of the women
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There are a lot of grown lil girls running around but we never discuss this it’s always about a man. Focus on self first before entering any relationship
Ok but we’re talking about grown males right now, don’t deflect from the conversation at hand. A part of being a man vs a male is accepting responsibility and allowing other men to hold you accountable. The day will come when women vs females are the hot topic. However, as men are naturally supposed to be the leaders, they’re being discussed first and that’s okay
Your right but these ladies didn’t have a Male example (Father /Mentor)to show them how a woman is to be with a man.Just like the men didn’t have a good example to learn from so the outcome is grown lil men and woman and the cycle continues to repeat itself.
So true! I have told many women that you can not teach a male child how to be a man because you aren’t one. This was so great to hear a grown man confess and profess the truth! Thank you!
Good stuff Brotha! you speak the truth. Still in relationships it takes two, you could still be a grown man and the relationship still not be successful if you have a "female" that is not, in fact a grown woman. Lots of times it appears that brothers speaking the truth will get a lot of the hooping and hollering of "go 'head preach"' from the sisters, but what also MUST be understood is, if she does not have the wisdom and maturity to accept and deal with a grown man, which I might add, does not cut on and off like a light switch, comes also with responsibility and accountability, and her also knowing and accepting her role, she will still find a way to blame that man for her own shortcomings, insecurities and the relationship still be trash. Usually when a woman speaks out on her role, when dealing with a "grown man" or a "real man" as we so easily toss out those phrases, as did for instance Fantasia and how she deals with her husband, the same women that congratulate this brother, will call out the sister and say she's stupid and her views are antiquated. It takes two to be wise and accountable to each other. Stop letting people without knowledge, guide your relationships and telling you things they don't even do.
A grown Male looks to be served first while a grown man looks to serve. The man provides, protects, and wants to cater. The grown male sits back and wants to be taken care of... Be 45 and acting like 15...
Jessie C Love - Y’all fall for any Man that tells y’all what y’all wanna hear, instead of what you need to hear. Women are worshiped & put on a pedestal enough in this country, how much more do y’all need?? That’s why so many of y’all single. If A Man is out trying to build, provide & protect, why would he come home to “Serve You”?? Shouldn’t you be serving him? Y’all delusional af 😂 lol. I’ll pray for you all.
AlphaKing -Right! This dude just as moist as the females he sittin’ with.This is destroying women, & more so BW in particular. They actually believe they should never be held accountable or do no wrong. Thanks to Nuts like this.
@@t193u yessir... it's sad that so many BW think this is how it should be.... they want the accolades of a man but none of the responsibility. I swear unfortunately alot of BW have become so entitled to being put on a pedestal it's just plain sad.... a BW could be 450 pounds and still feel a men should make love in be intimate with passion and lust of that of a model just because she is a "amazing black woman" an if he got a problem with her being a swine and ice cream eating whale... he is at fault and "not man enough to have such a woman" lmao.... GTFOH! Delusion at its highest level!
@bigjayking24 nigga you weak on top of WEAK....🤦🏾♂️ that's lower case on top all caps WEAK my dude... I'm a personal trainer that trains fat ppl (women) on the regular an I know from experience my dude....these big women would suck my piece right after a workout "sweat an all" cause they desire a lean fit man an be extra touchy feely bruh bruh....you reaching homie! I said "a woman that is 450 lbs would want a man to see her and desire her the same way he sees a model" dummy... smh where did I say ME? I only deal with baddies my dude, that get the bag aswell... so shit yo extra beta-simp-mangina ass down fuck boy.... lmao
Shonta Taylor I agree because you can’t teach a man something she is not and will full understand. A woman can definitely teach you good qualities, morals, values, etc but every man needs a MAN in their life not father but a MAN role model.
I been in love with this man since the Cosby Show 😍 Robert 😍 and to see him as a father, husband and still in the acting game ❤👏👏😍 Peace and blessings 👑
Hold my mule, while I shout right now! What powerful spoken words heard from a real grown man...waiting on your book. Thanks Sister Circle for being a great panel. 💕🌺💜🌸🎁
Beats OddS: ..... as if listening to another man talk is going to all of a sudden POOF make him be a man. Here's an interesting tidbit for you. Grown Boys/Males don't care, not one bit. They do the least possible, take care of self and females let them.
Estella Butler ..SUre it happens like that. But Responsible Men like him still need to say something... I believe there are those who will listen and start making changes in their live...simply because when you know better, you do better.
That was phenomenal. I've been saying there's a difference in a man and a grown male for years. But it came across more clearly coming from a man. Thank you so much.
Katoria Queendom - My ex husband has said to me and everyone us plenty of times that he’s been damaged by me before we got married. I wish I could fix it! Unfortunately we live different lives now but he’s stuck to when he was 18 y/o
I was just thinking the same thing. There are so many videos about what a male is what a man is, but I don't really see videos on women and how she should treat their man or their role. It's like the rules only apply to just men these days because only women are getting mistreated. Men and women should be building each other and growing together because we both as men and women make mistakes. To me it's what you learn from your errors. PEACE AND LOVE!
Another show about what a real man is. A real man gets up and go to work and handles his business, everything else comes 2nd. Its alot of phony ass women out her too.
Yes, women too. But It's not about blaming, it's a problem, regardless. Wrong thinking can be male or female. Some females don't know how to be a grown ass woman. But for now, this is from a "man's" perspective about the "male" who doesn't know how to be a "man" Stay focused.
he is just a plain simp he has not dropped any knowledge but plain foolishness the women is supposed to serve the man the man is the head of women man was created first then the woman
Thank you Dondre Whitfield for your courage, convictions and insights! Your insights that you expressed in this show is what I have been teaching/training other men for over 25+ years in my Men's Work, as a counselor, teacher, recovery coach, life coach, spiritual mentor, men's group facilitator and leader; and a researcher in Men's related issues. (9/23/18 Sunday @6:12pm E.T.)
What a beautiful segment- I want us as a society to get to a place - we gotta hold ourselves accountable! With severe consequence when we don't! While I understand from a psychological behavioral perspective - i just hate to see someone use poor parenting as an excuse to be a liar, coward,theif or cheater.....it screams weakness and narcissistic
This is my first time watching Sister Circle. Dondre Whitfield is absolutely awesome. His openness is very appreciated and needed in our communities. Thanks ladies for coming up with this show and having Dondre Whitfield on the show. I’m looking forward to seeing you all do more great shows.
~ AMEN * EVERY MALE IS NOT A MAN AND EVERY MAN IS NOT A GENTLEMAN. * EVERY FEMALE IS NOT A WOMAN AND EVERY WOMAN IS NOT A LADY. * AS MY FATHER THOMAS S. JONES, SR. TOLD OUR FAMILY AND MYSELF
Very impressed with this interview, most men don't think like this because they never had a strong father figure in their life. God bless all the men out there in the world that are being great leaders, fathers, uncles, brothers, step fathers, friends etc.
It goes both ways. Also the responsibility of a woman can't continuously be placed on the shoulders of the man. Grown Woman sooooooo many too are just A Grown Female.
@Black Man I'm in agreement. that's why we have a lot of soft men today, and even when the father is present in the home. the mother gets in the way if the boy needs discipline.
Wow, "A grown man looks to be of service a grown male looks to be served." 💖
5:30 'A solo mom can't teach a boy how to be a man'
2:38 'A man is a servant leader' not a servant of females. 'You got a divorce because you' controlled the leader.
3:53 'Lifelong trauma is caused by lacking their bio father. Children's maturing stops when the father is kicked out of the house.' #EqualSharedParenting
.. World's largest child trafficking system is run by JUDGES. CALL Congress. Need sponsor names. Stop $Billions in SS Title IV-D anti-father incentives to divorce judges, police... #EqualSharedParenting twitter.com/PeopleHealthTru/status/1273707035494735872
That’s what Jesus taught
"A man will show you who he is, based upon what he does ..."
Seems like common sense.
@David Noel so is this why sisters still date bums. Its pretty on point
@David Noel you bascially said what he said though woman can't tell men apart. They cant recognize aplha man. He's not really pandering if its truth in it not like derrick Jackson dumb self who literally makes money off broken women
Hallelujah good words
Exactly, our role as the woman, is to believe what we see as far as a man’s actions and avoid getting caught up with falling for potential
Dondre Whitfield needs a show, a podcast, or something! The brother is on point!
JenniferJ Williams agreed
Yes!
HE WENT TO CHURCH!!!!
Yes he is! Loved everything he had 2 say! #needmorelikehim
Thank you for sharing this information!!!
You have to place boundaries on everything.
i AGREE
He will be hired as a regular on this show !!!! He inspired me as a man and as a professional
warrior1975ify yes he was also on cosby show right
Angel Johnson Yes Angel he was on The Cosby show as Robert Vanessa's boyfriend LOL
warrior1975ify yes lol
I'm a woman, and I too was inspired to hear a"man" speak so truthfully. This is a big problem in our community, immature males & females.
Justly Rose oh ok
Love it. Men need a circle of positive male influences. Transparency, accountability,and vulnerability, repair, reset, forward to break cycles
@bigjayking24 3:53 'Lifelong trauma is caused by lacking their bio father. Children's maturing stops when the father is kicked out of the house.' #EqualSharedParenting
@bigjayking24 hell is eternal punishment for those who hurt children by removing their dad
@bigjayking24 learn a little, not the fas.cist feminist lies #EqualSharedParenting
He is speaking so much truth. Every Man is a Male. But not every Male that you meet is a Man. A Male wants to be serviced. A Man wants to serve. A Man realizes that he was put on this earth to be a servant leader. WOW, WOW and WOW again!!!
wowwwwwwwwww is all I can say !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Facts facts facts!!!!
Now listen to Pastor Gray interviewed on sister circle now what do you think???
Every girl is a female but not every female is a woman! A woman was put on Earth to be a servant leader ! It works both ways but guys like Donte Whitfield cater to girls , women, and females. How dare people use psychology and don't think it works both ways ? Selfishness is a disease to your character and a weakness.
STFU I DONT WANT TO SARVE AND I DONT WANT NOBODY TO SARVE ME
This brother need to write a book...that was well said
Male vs Man is his book.
I think not people need to be more careful what they say in their books...
The brother is speaking MUCH truth!! God bless you Sir!!
More like catering to women emotions
So was this too much truth? If a word is godly, how is it not truth? God IS truth and there is no deceit in Him!
What scriptures was given in this video?
DeltaRoots None but he was preaching!
Exactly! you see no response from Elmyra
Love this brother as an actor, but he's droppin some Priceless gems in this one
@Tru2God if you really feel like that then you are a good man as well! 😊👍🏽
@@sassydiva7821 Thank you my sister 🙏
Just go on ahead and add him to the circle! Thank you sir!! I love this show already but he was truly a BONUS!!
KDUB KDUB I truly enjoyed his perspective. Pure gold.
Jourdy Jay PERFECT way of putting it!!!!👍👍👍👍
Are we walking on pins cuz somebody iz abot to get 💥
I’m living out everything you said my brother. I have 4 girls to raise and how I treat myself, their mother and them is how I measure success in life, not money, trinkets or external attributes. There truly is a difference between MALEHood and MANHOOD.
👏🏽👏🏽 A Real Man 😊
In service of vs being served. Preach Dondre!!! My husband is in service of me. He caters to me and he don't deny. As I am in service of him as well. Grown man and grown woman status. Love without conditions. Awesome.
Correct. Viewers and comment readers should ensure that this fact isn't misunderstood. Though few will still miss the mark and take what he said literally.
Beautiful ❤️
beauty 43 , Believe you me I am so happy for you you should cherish that relationship and 1st and foremost thank the Almighty living God that I serve that you have your soul mate God-bless both of you maybe you 2 should give some classes or something
Hi you said your in service of your your Husband thats awesome. Plus he is in service of you.
STRAIGHT FACTS, NO SUGAR COATING AND NO CHASER.
Dondre is so handsome. His wife is gorgeous as well. Beautiful couple
tcoleman124 yes they are.
Yea, he aging tho as he should I guess. I use to have a mean crush on him. He was the shit back in his Hay Day
tcoleman124 He's still "Robert". He was so cute on the Cosby show w/Vanessa.
Yes they're blessed and beautiful
@@81sexislim Oh
I have tears in my eyes, I miss my man. He treated me like a queen
I am sorry for your loss
Wonder how you messed that up.
@@eastwaters4082 he died 10 years ago dearie
Speak that truth! Boundaries a must!! Come on grown Man!!!
The fact that this is not already well-known speaks volumes to the state of the our current Society civilization
Please write that book!! What a breath of fresh air!!!
Yes!! I would definitely buy his book
His book is out!!! I buy it on Amazon support black author's. ❣❣❣
@@kimgilbert1685 his book is out now buy it on Amazon. ❣❣
Wow we all fell to the floor at the same time 😭😭 a man of integrity. Amen
Superb Transperency!!! Thank you! 💎
Damn! He made me realize I've been a grown male to my wife for some years now!
☺️
Some young men act better, and more intelligent than some grown ass men!!
@@entertainmentmoviesandartu1594 I know lol!
@Joseph Dauda did he make you change lol
OMG this segment was so so so awesome. Please bring him back on the show
This is one of the best teachings on this subject I’ve heard! Especially as a mom of young men.
And he only did 8 min! That 8 min could save sons!
There's really nothing sexier than a grown ass man. So many grown males out here and it's discouraging. But the grown men give me so much hope!
misskingstonjamcutie same here. Transparency is so sexy.
Yesssss
misskingstonjamcutie and yet. Females keep choosing grown males to reproduce with.. 🤔
misskingstonjamcutie yes,and hopefully I find me a Dondre!!
When a femal says, "It's so sexy when a man _______"i, the result of the statement seems self-serving. Just my observation. For example, A man is about serving, not being served would be beneficial to those being served. This is what I've noticed.
Place boundaries I love it!! We are all responsible for our relationship.
"There's a difference between a grown male and a grown man "🤔
You'd better PREACH Dondre cause I don't think it's loud enough.
MArie Livingston: "There's a difference between being a grown male and a MAN" is what he said.
Did you receive that?! What?! Man!!!!! That’s a word right there!
MArie Livingston his statement is beautiful, but so many women can't handle a Grown Man. So many immature women prefer grown males instead who are dysfunctional in a relationship!
@@birdchoyce1268 That maybe true, I'm a senior 60+ in age, and Believe me I do know that age is all in the mind if you don't mind I don't either but let me tell you I have run across some 20 year old men and I've run across some 75 year old males so I love this topic it is so desperately needed in today's societee with the generation coming up and for the past generation because a lot of grown men supposedly grown men have not even developed a lot of them are stuck at 12 13 14 or whatever, Preach brother preach I'm listening I'm here for
DE'ONDRE YOU BETTER PREACH!!!! BROTHER!!! YOU DONE SAID A MOUTHFULL!!!! THIS IS COMING FROM A GROWN AND MATURE WOMAN!!!!THANK YOU!!!! I'M GLAD I HAD 5 BROTHERS!!! THEY WERE THERE TO MENTOR MY BOYS!!!!
I’m going to marry someone just like him
21 Divorced speak it into existence
Amen- me too girl. I feel it
@TroubleChizzy2010 Delusional & bitterness!
@@marblessed9597 Very bitter and broken... is all of that necessary?? 🤔😅
CHC4669 you hate us too
WOW!!! That was deep!!! I don’t believe I’ve ever heard a MAN say those words ever
Exactly. Thats why his words are so profound and just made our jaws drop.
That's because you've never spoken with me before 👀
Read the book "Visions for Black Men by Naim Akbar". That concept is explained in great detail and with examples.
ME EITHER!! VERY DEEP
This guy understands himself and purpose. Refreshing.
My GOD he betta preach.....He needs to go globally and teachhhhh. many men need this. luv it thank you brother.
I could listen to him forever, he needs to have his own show ☺ ♥
I say all the time, some men don't mature, they just get older. Hell, that statement could include women.
It's really applies to vvomen.
Yall stop maturing the moment you begin to receive attention from men.
Around age 15 a girl "develops" and men notice. The female catches the eye of grown men and she doesn't know why exactly. She subconsciously doesn't feel the need to become a better person. When her looks fade she becomes depressed because she is not being liked at approached at all. She gets prescribed medication.
@@jahrules8674 What drug are you on? You sound like a burnt out junkie. Boy bye
@@beingmarilyngail8470 what meds are you on ?
@@beingmarilyngail8470
All you wanna do is name call and throw shade. Wheres your counter to the arguement ?
No way can you be getting the attention you received when you were 25...FOH
@@jahrules8674 hey your opinion was hilarious I dont agree but there's some truth to it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This panel literally spoke into a situation in my life. I told my son's father just yesterday, I'm here to love and nurture and take care of our boys but I cannot make them men. I cannot make them hard that is not my job. I wanted him to also take into consideration his childhood. I'm definitely going to sit down with him to watch this again! Thank you so much!
Dondre’s point is so profound and so simplistic at the same time...and while there is an arrested development with some men ...there is also a role reversal with some women...for example the way he spoke about his mother essentially raising him by herself...she was put in a position to be both father and mother...so I can understand why some women take on that authoritative role because for one reason or another the father is not there and you have to be everything to everyone
Fatimah X I dont think there was a role reversal. She honored her role as a parent/mother. There was never an attempt to be or to replace his father. Rather an attempt for him to eliminate excuses for his negative choices and bad behavior as an adult. She taught him how to be a productive person/adult. His father was his father and he knew who his father was and how he was.
Fatimah X that's very true. I know too many single mothers who are simply trying to teach their boys to be men bc the Father's are either physically absent or mentally, emotionally, and spiritually absent. Good point.
purexample Sad but true...and when things go wrong it seems as though all the blame is put on the mother
I'm sooooooooooo glad that no one respond when this was 1st posted. I do have 1 ? so obviously w/your ratched/disrespectful/nasty comment is because your not educated....right? I have a feeling your mother if you had 1 which I'm questioning apparently is part of the 95% of AA females that ain't shit .................right? Many of those males aren't men a good portion are boys such as yourself. It's sad & unfortunate that you have such a fowl mouth & backwards/uniformed mindset. Last ? so your name is 1 Black Nation? Really?
That's a huge problem here. Mother's are trying to be everything. It's silly to say that "I had to be the mother and father". I've never in my life heard a man say I had to be the father and mother. NOT ONCE EVER! Why is that? In my opinion, ladies don't understand that being a mother is enough and NOT being able to be a father is fine. So trying to be both, they sometimes do a poor job at both. It's insulting to hear ladies say I had to be the father and then get applauded. Where is the respect and appreciation for the men?
He speaks so well it’s truly admirable!
Yes brother we need you. The men, out here realyyyyyy need you. Go bother, thank GOD for the wealth of wisdom he has given you. Thanks sister circle for having this positive message.
I had to watch this again! He is so on point! I can't wait 2 buy his book. THANK YOU FROM ALL US LADIES
I love hearing enlighten men speak on their journeys! None of us will every be perfect but we must seek to be accountable to ourselves and those under our guidance.
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I can only give one like? Outside of what the gentleman said and he owned his wrong on went on to correct his mindset and become accountable. This was the next best comment.
Every grown male needs to see this BEFORE entering a relationship. Periodt.
Periodt.
amen brother u are a catch. can I say I amen again. nothing sexy than a man that knows his boundaries and having the courage to stand on his beliefs strong
Man you better Preach!! Now that’s what I consider a Black King, a man that understands who he is, where he came from and what he has to do to be the best man he can be for himself as well as to the women in his life. We need more like you......
Miss Quad is a living witness to the grown male, she has been delivered😭
TRUE!!
I have so much respect for him for keeping it real he did a great job on the show
we need more of this. ❤this
I think this guy has been listening to Tony Gaskins. Either way he's speaking words of wisdom.
Gurl I was thinking the same thing... I listened to a few of Tony's post years ago before life coaching became popular, but these past few weeks, I have been binge watching his stuff like nobody's business honey! Tony is like the big little big brother I never had. I used to listen to Derrick Jaxn & I still listen to some of Stephen Laboissieré. I like Tony because he's transparent about where he's been, he married & happy & he talks to you & not at you as you were at the kitchen table waiting on Sunday dinner!
Yea sounds like it to me
Why would he have to be listening to Tony Gaskin? Why couldn’t he just have matured and grown up by doing some soul searching and worked on being a better man? A lot men don’t take the time to self reflect....instead they seek out a woman’s body to distract themselves from facing themselves.
Nzuri Moja WOW that’s deep
I see he really is how he looks; secure, strong and wonderful!! Congrats to his family 💖💖💖💝💞
That’s a good messaging my brutha. As a man I am not quick to jump on the messaging of some guys who get on the horn to speak their “truth” in the company of women in order to hitch a ride on an emotional bandwagon. However this brutha really articulated a sincere truth that I is important to young black bruthas that are getting too much of their information about relationships and women from hip hop music. Dangerous. No...deadly....to the black race. Which is part of a larger strategy. Young men need to be re-educated on black relationships and it may not feel good. Many times you receive instructions, it typically doesn’t feel good because is “adding” another element to your understanding that you may have to assimilate into your being. You have to adjust. If your sitting in church and the preacher has you laughing and feeling all warm and cozy about yourself, you better reassess why you are there. You don’t need anyone validating your actions, you’re there to learn how to be better. Otherwise wise, what’s the point in going? Some bruthas will take what he says and throw it back at the woman, not realizing that’s exactly his point. You are being being a grown male, having a takers mentality by making sure you are “one upping” the woman by getting the last say. Rather than accepting the responsibility of a grown man whom is a leader realizing that it is the man that should lead by example in his actions. Rather than follow behind the woman in response to what he “may” deem as a negative reaction.
Factsssssssssssssssssssssss! You better PREACH...even to the Preachers 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯🎆🎆💯
THIS is what a Grown Man Looks .. How a Grown Man Talks.. Proud to have heard THIS MAN say what he knows to be true and real !
I agree with my brother on this topic, but I do want to clarify a few things:
1. It is perfectly fine for a man to be served by his wife so long as he is caring for her and their children as the Bible has spelled out.
2. In addition to fathers leading the way and setting he example for their sons and daughters mothers have a great responsibility too. It is important that mothers show their daughters how to be young ladies with dignity, pride, and standards. Not to mention saving themselves until marriage.
3. Oftentimes it is preached that females should save themselves until marriage. I cannot remember the last time in my 24 years that I ever heard a man/woman tell a young man to preserve himself until he meets his wife. The importance is not stressed and that is a major reason why infidelity is commonly committed by men.
Because fathers are not always present, and our mothers/grandmothers are raising out young men, I say to women, take the time to instill self worth, respect, virginity, etc into your sons rather than telling him he has to be a Man, the Man of the house, the provider etc.
It is not my intention to point fingers, but rather to shed light on another side of things.
I say "better raised children" who have"good parents" or "a good parent" with" a good mindset" can teach their children male or female child, self respect, respect others, discipline, ect.......and preservation until marriage if that's what you believe, nothing wrong with that. All I'm saying is it starts with the parents or parent. How you think, act,or what you believe, also effects what the child believes. Create that foundation at home.
Please don’t be afraid to just focus on what men’s roles are. You all are the leaders. The rise or fall of the family truly rests with you. It’s not at all equal. Men have the more challenging, more weighty responsibilities. And it’s tough to follow a man who insists we are both equally responsible. If so, then there’s truly no leader.
You are absolutely correct. Being a virgin when married erases the memory of how it was with the other person and eliminates that longing for more because you don't have any reference.
AS it relates to a man being served by his woman, he is first required to give and then she reciprocates. That's the order and plan. As long as those rules are adhered to then marriages will be better in the long run.
thirdly, Father are the pillars in a child's life. They are the foundation. When God gave the direction to train and teach, He gave it to fathers. Mother's are nurturers and yes required to teach their daughters how to carry themselves but fathers give value to their daughters, he is the one that sets the standards for he to live by in life and Fathers validates their sons. A son will always be looking for validation from every angle if he's not getting it from his father. Even if it means to join a gang and have a father figure give it to him. So you are absolutely right but just coming from female stand point with the importance of a father in the home. He's the first line of defense from all outside interference.
Erna Atkins sounds like a cop out.
I so agree with you on the 3rd point. Men should be domesticated too. Domestication is not emasculation. Its a necessary life skill.
This is a conversation worth listening to. Keep it coming sister circle, you did that! Subscribed ❤️
This man is basically talking about leadership and love! As a man there is a service provided to his wife just as there is a service provided to a husband by a wife who is a grown woman. Love in its truest, genuine form is not self seeking but when people play house or live out life in their own self seeking manner, selfishness is at its highest form. Being involved with an individual who wishes to honor you and respect you, that person is going to render service to you by loving you in a true and genuine manner and when you're deserving you'll return that same form of love and neither husband or wife, woman or man is neglected or disrespected. When a man speaks of this love it's gonna come from a man's pov and vice versa, so him speaking on the service provided to a woman by a man isn't touching on the topic of submission from a woman/wife to a man/husband. That all depends on what you believe and what works for you and your spouse but in love in general there is a service rendered by both parties and love is equal on both sides even if shown/displayed differently!
Im a man that feels like that statement dont appy to me & your comment is most sincere to me because this statement can be vice versa , so i thank you for your logic
That was a great interview and definitely a teaching moment!
I love when syleana said. Hello somebody!!!!
Angela brookes i felt that there too, someone had to say it
Enjoyed this tremendously. Mr. Whitfiekd spoke the truth. When he described the difference btwn a grown man and a grown male, it confirmed what I'd learned sometime ago. Knowing the difference allows women to make better choices and find greater happiness. We don't have to settle. No one should. Thank you ladies of the Sister Circle.
This is truth!! Quad felt it too. I hope he speaks to the youth, great message!!
Amazing message...more grown males need to hear...and also for the women who accept them in this condition... Blessings...
no one is listening to this simp a women is supposed to be subservient to the man the man is the head of the women
There are a lot of grown lil girls running around but we never discuss this it’s always about a man. Focus on self first before entering any relationship
Yep, certainly goes both ways
Ok but we’re talking about grown males right now, don’t deflect from the conversation at hand. A part of being a man vs a male is accepting responsibility and allowing other men to hold you accountable. The day will come when women vs females are the hot topic. However, as men are naturally supposed to be the leaders, they’re being discussed first and that’s okay
Your right but these ladies didn’t have a Male example (Father /Mentor)to show them how a woman is to be with a man.Just like the men didn’t have a good example to learn from so the outcome is grown lil men and woman and the cycle continues to repeat itself.
Beta
There's alot of channels that speaks about girls..... Search for them... It seems like you just came deflect..... Hit dog hollering
So true! I have told many women that you can not teach a male child how to be a man because you aren’t one. This was so great to hear a grown man confess and profess the truth! Thank you!
Beautiful segment .Forever and always love y'all.
Good stuff Brotha! you speak the truth. Still in relationships it takes two, you could still be a grown man and the relationship still not be successful if you have a "female" that is not, in fact a grown woman. Lots of times it appears that brothers speaking the truth will get a lot of the hooping and hollering of "go 'head preach"' from the sisters, but what also MUST be understood is, if she does not have the wisdom and maturity to accept and deal with a grown man, which I might add, does not cut on and off like a light switch, comes also with responsibility and accountability, and her also knowing and accepting her role, she will still find a way to blame that man for her own shortcomings, insecurities and the relationship still be trash. Usually when a woman speaks out on her role, when dealing with a "grown man" or a "real man" as we so easily toss out those phrases, as did for instance Fantasia and how she deals with her husband, the same women that congratulate this brother, will call out the sister and say she's stupid and her views are antiquated. It takes two to be wise and accountable to each other. Stop letting people without knowledge, guide your relationships and telling you things they don't even do.
A grown Male looks to be served first while a grown man looks to serve. The man provides, protects, and wants to cater. The grown male sits back and wants to be taken care of... Be 45 and acting like 15...
Jessie C Love - Y’all fall for any Man that tells y’all what y’all wanna hear, instead of what you need to hear. Women are worshiped & put on a pedestal enough in this country, how much more do y’all need?? That’s why so many of y’all single. If A Man is out trying to build, provide & protect, why would he come home to “Serve You”?? Shouldn’t you be serving him? Y’all delusional af 😂 lol. I’ll pray for you all.
@@t193u facts! This dude sounds like a straight beta-simp-mangina.... these women can't do no wrong in this sad sad world lol....
AlphaKing -Right! This dude just as moist as the females he sittin’ with.This is destroying women, & more so BW in particular. They actually believe they should never be held accountable or do no wrong. Thanks to Nuts like this.
@@t193u yessir... it's sad that so many BW think this is how it should be.... they want the accolades of a man but none of the responsibility. I swear unfortunately alot of BW have become so entitled to being put on a pedestal it's just plain sad.... a BW could be 450 pounds and still feel a men should make love in be intimate with passion and lust of that of a model just because she is a "amazing black woman" an if he got a problem with her being a swine and ice cream eating whale... he is at fault and "not man enough to have such a woman" lmao.... GTFOH! Delusion at its highest level!
@bigjayking24 nigga you weak on top of WEAK....🤦🏾♂️ that's lower case on top all caps WEAK my dude... I'm a personal trainer that trains fat ppl (women) on the regular an I know from experience my dude....these big women would suck my piece right after a workout "sweat an all" cause they desire a lean fit man an be extra touchy feely bruh bruh....you reaching homie! I said "a woman that is 450 lbs would want a man to see her and desire her the same way he sees a model" dummy... smh where did I say ME? I only deal with baddies my dude, that get the bag aswell... so shit yo extra beta-simp-mangina ass down fuck boy.... lmao
When black men speaking truth listen
Mother’s can’t teach a boy to be a man. I absolutely agree
Shonta Taylor totally tired of woman talking that crap cause now a whole generation is fuck because of that very concept
Shonta Taylor I agree because you can’t teach a man something she is not and will full understand. A woman can definitely teach you good qualities, morals, values, etc but every man needs a MAN in their life not father but a MAN role model.
Shonta Taylor 💯💯 If you see the men of this generation you’d know it’s true.
Agreed. Moms can't teach manhood. They can raise grown boys but not grown men.
@@keishawilliams7546 Nah. Your sons need a father! Don't let women tell you any man can replace a child's father. That's a myth.
Lord yes. I am praying for a grown man. Had a grown male for 23 yrs. almost killed me. God is so good. Thank you. Pls keep helping us 😉😉
I just had to come back and say amen brother. please preach
I love this man n always have since he played Robert on the Cosby Show n have followed his career to the Man is he today! Good people!
YASSSS HE BETTER TELL IT AND HE'S TELLING NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!! WE RAISE GIRLS TO BE WOMEN AND BOYS TO BE GROWN MALES NOT MEN!!!
He expressed every point with such clarity and power! Great job!
I been in love with this man since the Cosby Show 😍 Robert 😍 and to see him as a father, husband and still in the acting game ❤👏👏😍 Peace and blessings 👑
Hold my mule, while I shout right now! What powerful spoken words heard from a real grown man...waiting on your book. Thanks Sister Circle for being a great panel. 💕🌺💜🌸🎁
Loved him since he was "Robert"!
A man that can share his relationships and vulnerabilities I AM REALLY GOING TO LISTEN TO AND LEARN
Fantastic....Every Man out there needs to hear this....🤗🤗
Beats OddS: ..... as if listening to another man talk is going to all of a sudden POOF make him be a man. Here's an interesting tidbit for you. Grown Boys/Males don't care, not one bit. They do the least possible, take care of self and females let them.
Estella Butler ..SUre it happens like that. But Responsible Men like him still need to say something... I believe there are those who will listen and start making changes in their live...simply because when you know better, you do better.
no a real man will not listen to this simp what he is saying is nonsense a women is supposed to submit to the man if he is a real man peiod
I'm definitely listening. I've always been a real man so it's good to hear the truth from one.
WOW! Circle of Sisters, Thank you for this eye opening interview that truly needs its own platform
Omg!! Hands down!! This was too good!! Basically what he was saying age don't make the man mind make the man.... Love it & him👏🏼✊👏🏼✊
That was phenomenal. I've been saying there's a difference in a man and a grown male for years. But it came across more clearly coming from a man. Thank you so much.
A lot of grown males out here! Really grown boys. Like he said a part of them stays at the age they were damaged.
Katoria Queendom - My ex husband has said to me and everyone us plenty of times that he’s been damaged by me before we got married. I wish I could fix it! Unfortunately we live different lives now but he’s stuck to when he was 18 y/o
That was about 28 years ago and he’s still stuck there
Spot on indeed!! Ty DW, for representing. God speed on your mission ✊🏽
Women are doing the same...come on ladies we ain't saints or exempt from this either!!!
I was just thinking the same thing. There are so many videos about what a male is what a man is, but I don't really see videos on women and how she should treat their man or their role. It's like the rules only apply to just men these days because only women are getting mistreated. Men and women should be building each other and growing together because we both as men and women make mistakes. To me it's what you learn from your errors. PEACE AND LOVE!
@@ojspikes714 Exactly!!!!
Kim Auguste “what you said@
Another show about what a real man is. A real man gets up and go to work and handles his business, everything else comes 2nd. Its alot of phony ass women out her too.
Yes, women too. But It's not about blaming, it's a problem, regardless. Wrong thinking can be male or female. Some females don't know how to be a grown ass woman. But for now, this is from a "man's" perspective about the "male" who doesn't know how to be a "man" Stay focused.
A powerful example of owning your actions and self reflection in order to make different choices... Thank you🙌🏾😘👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
EVERY woman and every MAN needs to view this! He dropped that knowledge HOT!
Honey Bee ...I wanted to hear more of what he had to say.
Me too!
he is just a plain simp he has not dropped any knowledge but plain foolishness the women is supposed to serve the man the man is the head of women man was created first then the woman
@@tmantman6896 lol beta-simp-mangina!
Thank you Dondre Whitfield for your courage, convictions and insights! Your insights that you expressed in this show is what I have been teaching/training other men for over 25+ years in my Men's Work, as a counselor, teacher, recovery coach, life coach, spiritual mentor, men's group facilitator and leader; and a researcher in Men's related issues. (9/23/18 Sunday @6:12pm E.T.)
What a beautiful segment- I want us as a society to get to a place - we gotta hold ourselves accountable! With severe consequence when we don't! While I understand from a psychological behavioral perspective - i just hate to see someone use poor parenting as an excuse to be a liar, coward,theif or cheater.....it screams weakness and narcissistic
This is my first time watching Sister Circle. Dondre Whitfield is absolutely awesome. His openness is very appreciated and needed in our communities. Thanks ladies for coming up with this show and having Dondre Whitfield on the show. I’m looking forward to seeing you all do more great shows.
~ AMEN
* EVERY MALE IS NOT A MAN AND EVERY MAN IS NOT A GENTLEMAN.
* EVERY FEMALE IS NOT A WOMAN AND EVERY WOMAN IS NOT A LADY.
* AS MY FATHER THOMAS S. JONES, SR. TOLD OUR FAMILY AND MYSELF
Wow, he was speaking some serious truth. I'm definitely buying his book for my grandsons.
✋NUTHING BUT THE TRUTH💯💯💯💯💯
All sisters and men need to hear this.
I wish my dad felt that way when i was born
Me too
You are sooo on point I wished that too As well
Your Heavenly Father felt that way & that's all that matters. You are loved! God bless you
Very impressed with this interview, most men don't think like this because they never had a strong father figure in their life.
God bless all the men out there in the world that are being great leaders, fathers, uncles, brothers, step fathers, friends etc.
Great husbands as well!
The same goes for grown women versus grown females.
Being Fire truth
But you already know that's not going to be specified
Facts
True
Not EXACTLY the same sentiments. A woman in a relationship is a to follow as a GODLY man leads. She is NOT a servant leader.
It goes both ways. Also the responsibility of a woman can't continuously be placed on the shoulders of the man. Grown Woman sooooooo many too are just A Grown Female.
The Difference Between A Gentleman and A Man. The Same As A Lady And A Woman.
THERE IS LEVELS TO THIS LIFE YALL🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏
Yessssss
This was deep! I have to share this video!😊👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Awww man I loved this!!!!
I so needed to hear this, thank you, stay Bless & safe 🙏
So in a nice/polite way he was saying that no woman can ever be the mother and the father. Simply well put. Hell they fail for it
I wish I could heart this
@@airofmystery6549 heart this video, my comment or both. Please do elaborate
@Black Man I'm in agreement. that's why we have a lot of soft men today, and even when the father is present in the home. the mother gets in the way if the boy needs discipline.
@@airofmystery6549 oh okay
This was awesome, real, transparent and necessary for many to hear. God bless Bro.Dondre and his beautiful wife wonderfully❤.