Recognizing Symptoms of Trauma with Bessel van der Kolk
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- Опубликовано: 1 мар 2016
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In this video Dr. Bessel van der Kolk sheds light on the impact of childhood trauma and how it manifests in behaviors such as substance abuse, relationship problems, and eating disorders.
Exploring the distinct nature of childhood trauma, Dr. van der Kolk identifies three key areas where trauma contributes to these challenges.
Dr. van der Kolk emphasizes that the problems faced by individuals with childhood trauma differ from those diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
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Yes. We need EMDR in schools , homeless shelters, food banks, churches. We need to act as a global society to relieve the effects of trauma. Did I say prisons. It’s the right thing to do and cheaper in the long run.
EMDR only helps when trauma is an isolated incident. As for people who are struggling with C-PTSD , it is almost useless.
@@saumitrsharma2816 yes, this is my feeling, too. I had EMDR for developmental trauma and it did nothing. I am having slow, but steady recovery with IFS and Somatic Experience.
Excellent ideas 💡
@@Michelle-72 hi what's ifs ?
@@nadernikmorad73 Internal Family Systems.
Very recognizable even to a non-psychologist and someone who has not suffered childhood trauma, this information needs to be brought into public awareness.
Definitely 💯 percent
After having had a stroke I’ve come to realise how sub-par I’ve been feeling my entire life. I grew up in a family with a lot of stress and tension and in school I just didn’t fit in and felt like nobody wanted me around. I grew up to be a nervous wreck and this has influenced relationships, study and work. Hopefully this stroke can transform me into a better person, a relaxed hippie. Baseline is somewhere different for me than “normal” people, that’s why I have a hard time getting well.
I hope you are well. I have issues from childhood as well and the chronic stress I live under everyday is my norm. I need to work on this.
Good luck in your exciting hippie life! Sounds good ;-)
I am 59 years old and I still have difficulty dealing with relationships. For a long time I could not learn, I was a failure in school. I have overcome a lot and managed to become a good tradesman. No family, I live alone. I know that I will never be what I could have been as a direct result of my fathers beatings.
I am so sorry. You can revert it. while there is life there's hope. Search for help.
@@RoseaneBFlower Thanks for your kind words, but my best years are in the rearview mirror. i try to make the best of my life. Thanks
@@RoseaneBFlower If you can find a good Somatic Experiencing Trauma Therapist they can help. If you go to their website they have certified therapists listed there. Also, Peter Levine's Book and CD or link to get the audio part on Sounds True. "Healing Trauma", Dr. Peter Levine. He has 12 practices in there that done over time will help the nervous system recover. Trauma treatment has come light years.
@@mustangjane77 Thank you. I don't feel that I need one 🙏🏽
@@RoseaneBFlower Maybe Richard Pluim would benefit but he is not interested.
I suffer from all of the three points he has discussed - for years I have been diagnosed with depression but no one explained PDST and its effects and that it can be the root of depression - instead practitioners have just been happy to drown me in medication without really addressing the root issue! or even correctly diagnosing it !
Because they have no training to truly help resolve your problems, take your cash, give you a pill repeat. Its equivalent really to giving a amputee a new pair of shoes, then asking him how he likes his new shoes, while the amputee is saying it sure would be nice if I had a leg to use the shoe on, complete disconnect.
So sorry to hear this!! Ii am a trauma therapist and this very thing is one of my pet peeves. I see this happen a lot. What appears to many, including therapists, as depression and anxiety is really rooted in an unbalanced, dysregulated nervous system. Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk, Steven Porges; these are some of the leading experts in the field of trauma. There are much better ways to treat PTSD and Complex Trauma today. Find a Trauma Therapist. There is also tons of information here on RUclips. Bessel's book "The Body Keeps Score" is a great place to start.
I recognize myself in everything you described -- eating disorders, self mutilation, emotional regulation..... it is no way to live. Thank you for your work and your passion as well as compassion
Thank you so much for this video! I am reading Dr. Van der Kolk's book and I am recognizing and relieving my childhood trauma in doing so. I cannot believe it took me 44 years to finally understand what is at the core of my challenging bonding and connecting to others and to keep a job and live my purpose. I realize that there has been a self destructive pattern with me. Everything I am excited about something and want to pursue it, at the first sign of challenge I let everything go and can't continue. I loose all interest and so on and so forth. Life become unmanageable and i cannot seem to create lasting bonds and relationships of any kind in my life.
Francesca de Mattéis I have the same problem
How do you figure 44 yrs? You have to start from when the trauma
started, which was probably from childhood (but no child is expected to
know how to deal with this issues). Thank God you found out...and this
book was very helpful.
I'm 44yrs old, my sexual abuse started when i was roughly 2 and a half yrs of age up until i was 14yrs old. I still remember to this day, being taken out of my mums arms and crying out 'mummy mummy'. My abuser was a family member. I hated going home.
Nicole Walden :(
the destruction caused in childhood is just the cruelest prison sentence for people who didn't deserve it
I went to a therapist- a physiotherapist who was a trauma worker and a breathing coach. Th breaching course picked up on my dry nervous cough. I coughed up lots and lots of phlegm, over 6 or 8 weeks. I still do this routinely, now... ...one effect was that I lost the suicidal thoughts I had had for decades.
I agree, as an adult trying to survive life, I am extremely guarded around people to the degree that I can feel quite exhausted after socialising and need to be alone to recover. I grew up in a very violent situation with a violent alcoholic father and a narcissist mother. I was also at a Catholic school where we had nuns teaching who regularly dished out harsh punishment. There was never any protection, I never felt safe and tried suicide quite young. Now I feel that I live in a terrible world and prefer to distance from most people. I can’t relax around groups of people especially, it’s hard work.
Today I listened to a radio interview recorded by Dr. Van der Kolk around 2012-2013 on the spiritual program "On Being" . I was most pleased to hear it broadcast on the NPR station. I was fascinated by all of the points made about how trauma gets into the body. Most beneficial was to hear (his) insights that Trauma is owned by the body in which it is, and that childhood (and other) trauma is more persistent when the psycho/social context is one in which the traumatized individual is "injured" by those who would normally be expected to protect and make the person feel safe. I also enjoyed hearing him say that "trauma is neither reasonable nor articulate" which sort of explains social difficulty that can make social interaction difficult for ones (like myself) who carry (long seated and persistent) trauma. Pesistent trauma has perplexed me personally and I am encouraged to know that there may be a solution by continuing body work such as yoga, and other treatments mentioned in the interview (rolfing, feldencris, etc...etc..). I have found swimming and excercise on erg rowing machine to be restorative. A very helpful group where people like me may find otheres who are similarly challenged is in the ACA (Adult Children of Alchoholics) where well structured meetings accompanied by a 12 step program are available for those seeking kinship and a safe place to reflect. In my opinion, Psychologists and Psychiatrists could possibly take their patients to better healing and more complete healing by identifying candidates and incorporating principles of ACA and Dr. Van Der Kolk's recommendations and insights into their practice. Thank you for producing this video and accepting public comment. Billy S, Windsor CT, USA
This is one of the best explanations because it was kept simple and concise.
I have developmental trauma disorder. Dr Bessel introduced me to my brain thanks to my EMDR therapist
Thank you for all your efforts to educate the public on the symptoms and treatment of trauma. I hope that eventually the symptoms become well known increasing the potential for people with trauma to be treated with compassion, loving-kindness and warm acceptance.
This really resonated with me. Thank you for posting this.
Yes, I can identify in numerous ways. I have been uncovering this topic for years and even at 68, I do not feel like it is near being treated well. Particularly, the part about getting so thrown off by something and unable to let it go. It mulls over in my mind, like an obsession even when I try numerous things to release it.
I look forward to another trauma summit. I learned a lot from the 2014 one. I signed up for your mailing list today, 4/15/17.
Bill Wood hope you are doing better now . What is helping?
Is his mailing list good ?
Thank you
Very important information it is healing just to hear it
Great video. Describes me to a T. Im definently a self protector. It doesn't take much for me to feel i have to protect myself from someone
I still suffer from memories of chronic childhood bullying at 60 years old resulting in an ongoing eating disorder and OCD and CPTSD. It is not a matter of attention...but yes it can be an affect disorder...regulating emotions and not having a sense of self. I'm still stucknon surviving and have never reached my full potential. Constantly 'scanning' for threats like a war vet..
I get every word you wrote. I hope things work out for you. You sound so much like me.
Take care of yourself. Thank you for posting my friend.
YES , 💯 percent , same here😢 ! Never reached my fill potential , always scanning for threats and the like😢
Me too.
I call my inability to make friends and play with the other kids "loser syndrome".
Nobody will let me use that term to describe my lack of social skills. They simply tell me I can't say loser.
Why does the world hate us so much?
I have been through layers of trauma. I am alone, responsible, smart, creative..and, finding out my whole life I was carrying a mountains. I was labelled "the emotional one". I figured out this was to cover up what was actually going on. I am alone, and, continue study myself. It's horribly sad, what is the alternative. I have capability to overcome the impossible, I only wonder what my life would be without it. "Carry the Mountain".
Yeah I here you. I think that to. Why couldn't I grow up in a healthy family? That is a good analogy carry the mountain. That's what it feels like. Just weighed down by all the baggage.
Join a social group, and slowly open your heart .....with boundaries in place.
I am now 67 yrs old, in almost total isolation by choice. Recently diagnosed as BPD, I live w chronic grief, childhood PTSD and the isolation is from inability to regulate emotions & misreading social cues--I either talk too much, say the wrong thing, clam up. People talk about 'coming out of the closet' I have a Masters and worked in 2 universities, while living in terror. Therapy has not helped, pills have not helped. I've never done drugs and fear alcohol as my father was an alcoholic. So, now, I do not think after having finally found some peace by completely staying away from people, there is much else I can do. I went thru mindfulness group therapy, dont even suggest it, not snapping anymore rubber bands on my wrists. I would not even be here but for the brilliant writing of Dr. van der Kolk. ...and Alice Miller. Books...Gutenberg gave humanity a gift beyond all gifts.
Have you read Pete Walker's book/website?Book is called Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. I think it's one of the, if not the greatest book out there on complex (childhood/developmental) ptsd and can be of help to u. Maybe you can also benefit from having a coach to help you with specific skills of relating, connecting and conversation which you probably never received (maybe your parents didn't engage you and were emotionally withdrawn, negligent?) and that's the reason for your struggles. I have a similar problem with relating/connecting/building natural rapport with people due to not having developed these skills. And in the past, i just told myslef i needed "more practice" but without building on skills, it just led to a series of failures which undermined my confidence even more and drove me further to hide in isolation. Now i think i will seek help from social skills coach.
@@lisaj5769 Just read your Reply to my comment. How incredibly helpful and kind your are and your information is. I will search for the book and read it, I promise. My income and 'health insurance'(in quotes because it's such a useless joke and covers almost nothing) won't cover a social skills coach, so I'll have to work on this myself. Thank you so much.
@@rachs57 Oh you're very welcome. I struggle with pretty much the same issue of self-imposed isolation, so i know just how frustrating and alienating that feels, and it can get very upsetting and hopeless when you can't pinpoint exactly what the problem is and so can't help yourself. For example, i often don't know what to talk about with people, or how to respond when others are talking to me, i think i also come across at times (unintentionally of course) too intense, get too personal, too eager (since i crave connection so much and feeling of being accepted), all of which can make people feel uncomfortable. Figure it's because i was not engaged with/properly socialized growing up. At the moment, i'm googling "how to relate to others" and hopefully, i will find some useful info. If you get too lonely, please write me again in the comment, and we can talk. :) know that you're not 100% alone and someone is here.
@@lisaj5769 I can pinpoint too many issues, I am flooded with memories constantly in thoughts and dreams. Frankly, and this is not self pity, just recognition, I grieve for the life I might have lived had I been able to function with "normal" cognitive emotions. Lisa J. there is too much to discuss and too personal for here, so I suppose there's no way to connect other than here. Thank you again.
@@rachs57 Sure, i hear you. It's too bad. There used to be a way to direct message people on youtube, but seems they disabled it a few years ago. I can only say that i deeply validate your grief and am sad with you. I just found this video and she seems to have several videos on isolation/social awkwardness with respect to trauma, so maybe this will also help. I really send you love and a very big warm hug. ruclips.net/video/LeH8eUlHGgI/видео.html
He's explanation of how we position ourselves in relationships describes my bdhavior precisely
What an insightful and clear description of the reasons why traumatized children grow into dysfunctional adults who get stuck in these painful destructive states. I am trying to support my brother who suffers from chronic depression/anxiety and problems with alcohol/gambling. Although I know first hand why he is this way, he seems to have very little insight into himself and claims that there is no connection to his childhood experiences. I believe he has suffered this terrible state for so long that there is a level of normality to the situation for him. However his family feel utterly overwhelmed and can no longer cope with it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Grew up with a couple of parents with mental illnesses. My mom was very sick especially. Remember visiting her when she was in an hospital, long term to recover. Our home always felt unstable. Started getting anxious very young, had a difficult time concentrating and doing well in school. Hadn’t put much thought into my troubles with attention. Want to work with this.
My mom was very violatile sick women. Constantly in a state and having to walk around on egg shells so she wouldn't lose it. Between my dad's drinking and my mom's insanity I'm still in a state of stress reaction. Frickin tiresome.
Early childhood trauma messes up the growth of a healthy I or Identity and you have to do it all over again yourself. Learning to love yourself, accept yourself, take good care of yourself and gradually letting go of various aspects of trauma. I am spending already three years in therapy just addressing my baby years.
I recognize some of these symptoms; sometimes I linger on a thought or an event I perceive as negative for a long time
yes indeed, my daughter experiences these symptoms, and I myself have to a much smaller degree.
Hi I had leuchemia when I weas 5 years old, and after that i was hardly misstreated for my older brother, who paid with me all his anger for not being attended properly for my parents, because they were looking after my well being (it was a matter of life or dead). I’ve never being diagnosted with trauma altough i went to a lot of psicologist. I had to dianosed the problem my self through lot of meditation. Itt’s been a painfull path and I had no help. I can recognize the tree symptoms that the doctor explains in this video. I just would like that everybody could have a good diagnoses as soon as possible otherwise your like will becom a nightmare
Glad to hear this information. But also disturbed that most counselors don't seem to have a clue. I took my child to see a counselor to try and help the trauma we were both experiencing due to divorce and loosing our home. She has to go into a horrible school and there was bullying and rejection. On top of that the church we attended had clicks and it was hard for her. She was tested at her request and it was found she suffered from depression and anxiety. Her orginal couselor missed this, after 3 years!
I´m experiencing this too, and I´m shocked how little therapists scan for that, it should be obvious!
Bethany McDaniel
kologdfkha
very interesting.
Effort regulation is big for me, to the point where I want to avoid doing nearly everything cos I feel exhausted just thinking about doing stuff. Focusing is also a problem and of course alcohol
It is AFFECT REGULATION, not effort. It means controlling emotions, the emotions go overboard & stay up for too long, being anger, sadness, ...
David Osbiston : I could have written those words. I have those identical feelings. Everything you wrote is me. Hope you are better these days, I am just beginning to get help.
Very brave of you to admit this. I can assure you, you are not alone! I have struggled with many things like study and anything requiring my focused attention, all my life. I manage these things better these days, however it's always an ever present issue. Best of luck and don't give up. Find ways that work for you and what ever you do, be compassionate with yourself.
Same here
It was a family story that I ate my way out of the bottom of the playpen as a baby....always wondered how long I was left in there. And if other things happened I don't remember that lead to my increase of racing thoughts, confusion, paranoia after menopause. Also see a lot of traits of a personality disorder. Lord knows it runs in our family 🙄
Very interesting. I'm matching last two things but first one is exactly opposite of me. I'm extremely focused person, up to the point of exhaustion. But I still think that is just coping mechanism after childhood trauma, like my own way of depersonalisation.
We are individuals with different innate capabilities and shortcomings. So are the effect of our different traumas can manifest in different ways. Healing is personal and the witness is our own dedicated self that is willingly goes into hurtful places of memory and willingly faces the truth. Safe environment is existential to have, to be able to open old wounds and to deal with it.
I wish you strength and the necessary supportive environment to work on yourself. I wish you healing!
" up to the point of exaustion" was familliar for me before I had serious breakdown. When we face trauma early in our life we dont know how to stop and to pay attention to our core and body. We loose the capacity to feel stillness because there is the spot where most of fellings and energy of old wound comes up. And it is scary. We work our adrenals to death, and that can become habit that is not easy to change. It can create lot of symptoms and syndromes in our body and psyche. Peter Levines work is the most efective work of all for trauma. But it is slow gradual process that continues thrue the whole life of us. It is not one thing, trauma is multiple things that happend and that our body keeps hidden untill someone turns the light on. We all have different strategies to carry on, mine was also " go go go". And then one drop of stress took me over my capacity to handle life. And shifted me to start healling somehow.
I've been experiencing dissociative seizures since I was a teen. They come randomly but tend to happen more when i've been under stress and haven't noticed. I am having further tests to rule out epilepsy but I am almost certain this is a symptom of complex trauma.
Yup. He covered the biggies quite well. Thank you for posting.
Now: Solutions, anyone?
Anti depressants or therapy works well
I disagree on antidepressants as an effective treatment - their focus is on the symptomatic and in many cases do not even treat the symptoms very well.
For me, I was finally able to release a very embedded childhood trauma experience from my body via a DIY psychedelic therapy. It's hard to recommend the path I took if only because it took me 3+ years, with a dedication that helped me avoid delusional thoughts. I have (or had) a distaste for faith and spiritual beliefs - due to my upbringing in a Christian household - and that insulated me from having prematurely religious interpretations of my experiences, though by the second year of my journey I was almost getting lost.
I started with DMT, then went to psilocybin, then LSD & finally MDMA: my recommendation now would be to start with MDMA, then psilocybin and/or LSD, with DMT (or perhaps ayahuasca) last. And with all of these, one needs guidance, preferably from a therapist.
MDMA - in a distraction-free environment - can help you examine yourself and your issues while feeling lucid & safe: it causes a serotonin dump which in turn triggers an oxytocin release. In this state, you are able to process trauma that your body has held on to (in an attempt to protect you from danger), because for a few hours you will finally feel safe.
The "classic," serotoninergic psychedelics (psilocybin, LSD, DMT) can aid with this also - reducing activity in the Default Mode Network, allowing memories from the subconscious to surface without the "ego" suppressing them.
It may be more powerful than an MDMA experience, but without necessarily feeling "safe" and as such, if the individual is unprepared to confront buried stressful memories, they run the risk of being re-traumatised; even becoming psychotic as the non-conscious and conscious clash and result in delusional thoughts.
As I said, it took me 3+ years of both experience and extensive reading to reach a place where I could - on a relatively low dose of psilocybin mushrooms - re-experience the emotions of extreme danger, ultimate vulnerability and loss of control; a very scary experience, but one that resulted in a bodily sensation of relief and a near overwhelming sense of gratitude.
This can be achieved by several means, with breath work, meditation, prayer, perhaps even yoga, and so on: this was just a simple means, repeating the non-ordinary state of consciousness is a guarantee with the substances, it's knowing what to do then that's the tricky part.
I recommend the book 'Trust, Surrender, Receive' by an underground MDMA therapist, written under the pseudonym 'Anne Other'
Old comment, but the writings of Alice Miller, John Bradshaw and Pete Walker are all valuable for understanding and recovery.
Psychotherapy is working amazingly for me - nearly 4yrs in but every penny has been so worth it. It’s helped with lifting depression, exposing and dealing with my anxiety, and my relationship issues and overeating/overspending habits. Sometimes it’s been hard as the very setting and facing the traumas/feelings is hard, but reading Pete Walker’s book Complex PTSD helped me understand what was going on and why I was finding everything so hard, and having that understanding has helped me keep going with therapy. I really agree with those who say that developmental trauma is caused in a relationship (or lack of) with responsive caregivers, and it’s the relationship with a good therapist that heals. I found anti-depressants to be a sticking plaster and they just cut me off completely from my feelings rather than addressing things - perhaps okay to get through a crisis or reach a stabilising point so that therapy can begin working, but they aren’t a long-term solution for many people.
4 years ago is a long time in some sense. are you still interested?
Yes I have it
CPTSD. Call it what it is so people can find your video. Complex PTSD.
Type in his name
Yeah I have seen some lectures of his and have never once heard him mention complex ptsd
Wow, it took 50 years to finally understand what happened to me🤭😪
Eli Ort Zane with me . So wish I had started earlier in life, but when I had a semi truck crash into me , and came down with PTSD , all my early childhood T’s came flooding in when I did emdr treatments for my PTSD. Getting better by studying and therapy. Healing seems to be a long journey.
Sorry it should start with same with me
Eli Ort 64 years for me. It’s sad.
I understand completely and am 62 myself and coming to grips with it all.
Yes.
My are very strong. Feel like shit. Afraid to go out of the house. Can't focus.
Yes! I have had problems with affect regulation and my tendency to « please » ever since a terrible interaction with my mother in my teenage years. This is a really screwed up world when I have been to 3 therapists and NONE of them helped me with this!
Forty years wasted in on and off traditional therapy let my life run through the hourglass, til my diagnosis with DTD in my late sixties.
I had many EMDR sessions
The symptoms Dr. Van der Kolk describes sound like what I might see in Borderline Personality Disorder. As a therapist, how would I differentiate childhood trauma from BPD?
Todd Hudson BPD is caused by childhood trauma.
PTSD also caused by it
I have all symptoms. Especially in the relationship. I noticed about my ptsd In a year but never have professional help that address my problem. I tried CBT, journaling, talk therapy. All those therapies helped me to understand my condition but still fails to heal me. I do acknowledge many progress in me. From severe depression, I have survived, even accomplished my thesis and able to work again. But then suddenly triggers come and I turn to be a monster. I am 100% the opposite when triggered. I am so calm and shy. I am introvert but love to play jokes. But suddenly, like the Hulk, I became very aggressive. I can hurt anyone who is near me. I hit my head, bite my tongue. I like to hurt myself so I don't hurt anybody else. I hurt my boyfriend and I don't even realize it. I cannot help myself when I disregulated. I can't think. I just sting like a bee. I bite like a lion. It's like there's a primitive response in my brain telling me "attack or attacked. Me or him to die". And I am frustrated. I don't know whether I can function as a normal person anymore. I am tired.
Hi Gita, Thank you for reaching out and sharing a little bit about your situation. I recommend that you check out this database through Psychology Today: www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
Through this site, you’re able to search for therapists and support groups based on location, and filter through the results based on a variety of factors - specialties, approaches, and methods.
Alternatively, I would also recommend that you review some of our blogs or free materials and reach out to our community. Many times, both practitioners and patients will comment on our materials, which may help you with what you are looking for. Here is the link to our blog: www.nicabm.com/blog/
I hope this is a step in the right direction to help you find the help you are looking for.
If youve tried CBT you maybe know that trauma is not in the mind or behaviour it is in the body. So any therapy that works with the body will help you. You cant change youre behaviour before you change youre biology. It is not so simple. You have to conect to body. Problem is not in youre thinking brain it is in youre reptilian part of brain, survival instincts. I tried talj therapies, and it didnt work. It is not in external, it was kept safe in my viscera, bones, fascia, diaphragms, joints. Everywhere. See the work of Somatic Expirience, EMDR, NARM, body psychotherapy, Irene Lyons SBSM. Anything from body conection in the picture. You cant negotiate energy. Energy only is. And it can be stuck, and this is what trauma is. Something that youre nervous system couldnt handle at the time when it happened, and it stayed stuck and uncovered. And it will drive you like a fast car when you are trigered. You cant control youre behavior or thoughts before you heal youre wound. Youre minds get clear after you heal, because the mind only tried to figure out what happened and it cant find a solution. Peter Levine the king of healing trauma. Respect to all others, but his work and Steven Porges killed it to spot.
trauma is one thing, life is another...
babies try to charm their surroundings. they have no other way to buy safety. I think we all can learn much to be at ease with the 'ourselves and our surroundings'
Off course that is my issue, developmental trauma
What can you do after 57 years?? what therapy could possibly help? I've about given up! on the backside of life now, alone, on ssd, adult son's who I broke the cycle for and had 17 years of life away from dysfunctional family, became a nurse, learned all I could to parent and raise them better...and work and live...now I'm alone and so tired of talk therapy that I know like the back of my hand...it's come to ketamine, tms, but still I'm completely broken...and not sure I even care anymore
I understand a little how you feel. I just quit my job of 30 years out of sheer panic and fear and now am depressed. I to am 57 and just worn out and have also had a lot of health issues. I encourage both of us to hang in there. Growing up in a dysfunctional home is a life long endeavour to get healthy and recover from. I can't believe I quit my job that I've hung onto for dear life so I could afford to live. This happened because of my childhood issues.
Can it equally be adulthood trauma?
How do you know all this...this is exactly what happens 😢
He also has this box I also have this
Very interesting.
Would you say that APD and/or ADHD could be trauma based?
By the way I believe that these core beliefs are almost impossible to actually know about unless you're lucky enough to find a good therapist experienced in childhood trauma and willing to see that most of your life is a construct upon which the bricks and mortar of blind terror have been layered as each new failed relationship compounds the original core belief.
Most people get stuck at the stage of realising their victimhood and find it quite a comfortable position to stay in (albeit very painful) compared with having to jump off the cliff into blind faith in another human being and allowing them to guide you. Hence the power of religion in a loving omnipotent God that can justify the desire to survive in even the most intolerable situations
Check out the book "Scattered", by Gabor Maté. You will find what you are looking for there. :)
@@MrImASkeleton Thank you, I will! Although the title suggests BPD rather than APD. APD is auditory processing disorder
TheLaura1304 yes I have seem that trauma one of side effect is adhd
@@laurenpaterson3475 I thought so. The trauma doesn't necessarily have to be post birth. It could be embryonic or foetal...
@@howard1beale My trauma started with a difficult foreceps birth. I am 68 and a very astute spiritual therapist led me to experience my birth while in a deep state with my eyes closed. I had no expectations but then actually felt the forceps, the pain, and the total confusion it caused me. Because my mom was young, didn't breastfeed me, and did not know what to do I suffered as a baby. I would encourage anyone to seek out someone who can help you establish a connection with being safe in your body. We have to be in our body to experience the pleasures of relationship to ourself and to the outside world. It is possible.
I had a hard time understanding some of his key points. . . . “affect regulation” is what I think he said
Affect is another way to say emotion. So... emotional (self) regulation. = affect regulation.
Great video, I have a 40 something year history of things I started but never finished. Problem issues that linger, low level substance abuse. Don't handle conflict well, hold grudges for far too long, kinda prefer my own company coz I cant get hurt then. Textbook stuff. History includes parents acrimonious separation&divorce at 5yrs , pre-puberty childhood sexual experience by an adult with devastating consequences at 8, hair colour persecution, friends & partners suicides, single parenting, and most recently after father died suddenly had trouble with law then falsely accused of grooming daughter and she taken away. where to begin..better get his book!.
Dear Andrew, daily self-care is the answer. Being yoga, exercise, nature, good sleep, healthy food, reiki, art or spirituality. If you learn & apply any of these or all of these regularly, you will improve & heal. There is also EFT. God will never give us more than we can handle. It is good that you have decided to work on it. You are the most important person in your life. Prayer & visiting churches, nature & sacred places will also raise your energy & you will improve & become clearer & healed quicker. You can turn your life around. Also watch the documentary: The Connection at theconnection.tv/
cognitive processing therapy (CPT) from apa.org . It's a version of all suggested above organized by psychologists. Thank me later. Good luck to you!
I am the scapegoat, my mother the narcissist. The psychiatrist I'm seeing has put me in a box and given me pills. He can not even say the word Complex with ptsd. If it's not in the DSM, it isn't valid. So, he invalidates me and I am so frustrated, it's actually making me feel worse. I don't drink, take drugs or self-harm. I barely cope with a day to day existence of nothingness. I'm estranged from my family and have become the outcast my mother wanted me to be. At 68, I've become my mother but with grief, heartache and loss of seeing my children and grandchildren. No friends, no life and I want it to just end.
Im sorry for youre suffer. It was not youre choice or mistake. You couldnt do it better because trauma drived ruined youre life. These are all paterns that are transmited from generation to generation as Jung says. I came to the point not wanting to live my life at the age of 38, and it was unbelivable impact. I work on my things slowly because healing is hard and thwre is a lot of resistance. But Im greatfull for the pain that brought me to try to find help for my lifelong problems. I wish all the best to you. I belive that there is still hope for you.
I suffer with PTSD chronical my psycholoog said
Yes to all of this. Trauma-informed care is Everything. We could even dismantle capitalism with it ;-)
Yes let's dismantle the system that has lifted more people out of poverty than any other system by far. Sounds like a brilliant idea.
Oh well.
You mean how i thought i always had adhd.... but it's actually severe anxiety? Yeah
Yes to all, plus the daily desire to die
Wanting to die everyday as well.
No. This is not about 'attention' but it IS PTSD . CPTSD can develop from chronic horrific childhood bullying into adulthood. It is sad and angering how he minimizes / dismisses the effects of childhood bullying vs.other forms of severe trauma. He does not even label it as trauma kids are committing suicide and victims as adults end up marginalized and in hospitals/ disabled.
You'll probably close down the comment section after this. Oh well.
No One talks of gambling
00:39 attention Aufmerksamkeit
I guess too old to comment on. lol
In other words, "ADHD" is BS. ADHD diagnosis is a way for parents to continue to not deal with their own shame and for pharmaceutical companies to get rich. All while not actually helping the kid.
Too bad there's no treatment. Poor people are just abused some more in psychiatric treatment. You lose your whole life.
Raphaela Velasquez I understand, please read and study you can help yourself if you take your time. Then you can know how to find a good therapist. I’m still doing it too. It’s not a quick fix. Keep trying
Having see many therapist over my life (57 now) - I think they are a hit or miss. I now find the YT is a wonderful resource. There are some really helpful people making videos. The videos are free -and can be rewatch - AND read the comments section as there are some rough diamonds there. This is my $0.02
@@inybinygirl whats YT?!
Eva Szczepanek - there are a number of really good resources here on yt (RUclips)
Oh Yes Yes! I recognised this and I am struggling with my weight my whole life. I am 1,5 m, and I was told I am fat. I weighed 120 pounds. 13 years old. An early developer! Your stomach is the size of your fist. I had scans done. My stomach is half of my fist size of 2, 5 inches. This result in having to eat very little because I FEEL stuffed and uncomfortable, because my stomach gets bloated. I know it's not good. My dad died 12 years ago and my family committed estate fraud. I gained 25 kg as a result of their cruelty, cutting me out, my little sister said, I am not a raman. I was forbidden to say goodbuy to my dad. I arrived at his old, age home the Friday night, just to hear he died the previous day. I was very shocked and traumatised. I got stomach and liver cancer. But, I am a messianic Hebrew teacher, I knew the power of forgiveness! 1 Peter 3:8-012 amplified classic. It seems I am always in the process of forgiving people to FREE MYSELF from their prison. I hold no grudge, yet their meanness and cruelty still affects my body and I don't like it. I am working with abused women and children and I teach them how to get free!
"The process of recovering from trauma-the process of healing-is a lot like my furniture project. There is no quick fix. There is no short cut.
There is no magic pill; an antidepressant can help, but it cannot heal on its own. Whether you’re facing a mental health struggle, an emotional wound or a harmful pattern of behavior, it takes work to heal from trauma, hard work and diligent commitment to the process."
You represent pure, uncontrollable abuse. What TRUST are you dare to imagine? Re-traumatizing someone is the exact opposite to what is needed. Jaw dropping how entitled and cruel some can get. You destroy my family as part of your plan? Because I am vulnerable, you take advantage of it? You hurt all that I love and care about? All who have children: that is how much you can do for them? That is how much you can fight for them?
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I HAVE to go home.
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