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  • Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
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    The incredible weight loss transformation of Vannessa from 1000-Lb Best Friends!
    Vannessa Cross from 1000 Lb Best Friends on TLC has had an amazing weight loss transformation. More than just losing weight, in my opinion, Vannessa represents everything that REAL body positivity should be. Her attitude, confidence and outlook are just some of the factors that led to her massive success. Today we'll discuss some of the factors that contributed to Vannessa's success and how we can do the same in our own lives.
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    0:00 - Meet Vannessa Cross
    2:48 - Before Her Transformation
    5:47 - Ambivalence
    8:09 - How to Resolve Ambivalence
    8:46 - One of Vannessa's Biggest Obstacles
    11:15 - Commitment Device
    13:21 - Her Attitude and Confidence
    16:50 - Meghan
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  • @KianaDocherty
    @KianaDocherty  4 месяца назад +95

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    • @MosDaft
      @MosDaft 4 месяца назад +8

      I think her sister Jackie is afraid that she's not going to be the "thin, pretty one" anymore. That's why she has spent her entire life sabotaging her.

    • @thecatherd
      @thecatherd 4 месяца назад

      So excited for your course! You've been a huge inspiration to me since I found your channel last year. I've been making small changes in my life because of you that have been adding up. I cannot express how grateful I am.

    • @dizzyboy92
      @dizzyboy92 4 месяца назад +1

      Can you make a book? Thanks

    • @pilarzuniga3147
      @pilarzuniga3147 4 месяца назад +1

      Please make your course available internationally! I want to get it from chile!

    • @d53380
      @d53380 4 месяца назад +2

      I’d love to hear your thoughts on the carnivore diet.

  • @jlconnors7872
    @jlconnors7872 4 месяца назад +2907

    I think Jackie is so used to being the “skinny” sister, that Vanessa attempting to change her life for the better is seen as a threat.

    • @GabriellaHartman
      @GabriellaHartman 4 месяца назад +187

      How embarrassing for her

    • @stoheha
      @stoheha 4 месяца назад +261

      Something to keep in mind is that it can all be staged for the show. I say this as a person that used to work on a reality television series.

    • @_caramel_8515
      @_caramel_8515 4 месяца назад +22

      That’s what I was thinking

    • @lmao_tse_tung
      @lmao_tse_tung 4 месяца назад +65

      That's what got me. I get an obese person sabotaging a diet but a thin person? That's another level of heinous

    • @jlconnors7872
      @jlconnors7872 4 месяца назад +153

      @@stoheha That maybe the reason, but Kiana also has brought up many times how when one person tries to improve their life, sometimes someone close to that person starts distancing themselves or starts sabotaging because the dynamics of that relationship changes.

  • @magules13
    @magules13 3 месяца назад +169

    She lost weight for her health, and only her health. She was never concerned with how people looked at her. That’s super inspiring.

    • @ZomboCed
      @ZomboCed 2 месяца назад

      She did it for her kid tho

    • @spr1ngandastorm
      @spr1ngandastorm 2 месяца назад

      ⁠@@ZomboCed her kid's health and her health because she was concerned with her son copying her behaviors and she was realizing she wasn't healthy either

    • @ZomboCed
      @ZomboCed 2 месяца назад

      @@spr1ngandastorm yeah i agree. But without her son around. She might have never changed tho. So she really at the end of the day did it for him

  • @danielsheehan3783
    @danielsheehan3783 4 месяца назад +1824

    The thing with Vanessa’s sister is wild. I just can’t imagine my sister showing up with a bakers dozen while I was actively losing weight

    • @misstoujoursplus
      @misstoujoursplus 4 месяца назад +105

      Her sister is just mean, you can read it on her face. Mean and unhappy. Imagine the courage needed for Vanessa to achieve her goal !

    • @mahogara
      @mahogara 4 месяца назад +49

      It's so scary. I really hope her sister gets some help with whatever issue she has, because she definitely isn't ok.

    • @Bunn.B
      @Bunn.B 4 месяца назад +58

      Since it's TLC don't know how much is staged etcetc, however the sisters' sabotaging, words and anger is because Vanessa's size makes her feel superior, her wins are predicated on her siblings presumed failures. That's why she went after the son. He's a reflection of his mother. So if he stays big and unhealthy, then Vanessa in her reasoning is still failing. Hence there's so many people sharing experiences how they've lost friends, family, partners, loved ones etc. when they started their WL journey.

    • @starsantheoriginal
      @starsantheoriginal 4 месяца назад

      ​@@mahogarashe probably likes to eat but doesn't want to get fat herself, so she lives vicariously through her sister by shoving that food down her throat. It probably gives her the satisfaction of eating without doing it. Now she doesn't have that in front of her, so she lashes out. Her showing back up with fast food again is so fucking gross

    • @Laf631
      @Laf631 4 месяца назад +28

      It's crazy how comfortable people are with sabotaging others' success. Not even in as blatant a way as Jackie, but I've come back from break at work to find someone left candy on my desk or my mom has sent me "just thinking of you" cookies. Jackie knows what she's doing -- she flat-out says she thinks Vanessa should just eat a donut and get over it -- but so many people wrap up showing how they care about you with gifts of food, and when you reject the food, you're rejecting them. Trying to be healthier for yourself triggers a lot of people you wouldn't necessarily expect and in ways you don't always anticipate.

  • @evanwakelin7944
    @evanwakelin7944 4 месяца назад +1647

    I'm so jaded by YT cynicism that I assumed the title was sarcastic.
    It was great / refreshing to see that it wasn't, and in fact a very positive helpful story for people.
    Thanks Kiana!

    • @summero-my5in
      @summero-my5in 4 месяца назад +10

      Same

    • @drewthedweeeb
      @drewthedweeeb 4 месяца назад +36

      Yes! I want 2024 to be the year of youtubers lifting people up

    • @Rosalie-bc4hh
      @Rosalie-bc4hh 4 месяца назад +5

      Same 😊

    • @ParkJiminFTLFFProductions
      @ParkJiminFTLFFProductions 4 месяца назад +17

      That's why I love Kiana 😊 she's super insightful, informative and entertaining ❤

    • @Bunn.B
      @Bunn.B 4 месяца назад +14

      ​​@@ParkJiminFTLFFProductionsI watch her for the same reasons. Even though delusional BoPo annoys the f outta me, I still can't stand the mean girl bullying and behaviour so many snark channels have and foster within their community.

  • @SimBits
    @SimBits 4 месяца назад +616

    That’s Vanessa???? I didn’t even recognize her, she looks fantastic! Good for her!

  • @JaceReboot
    @JaceReboot 4 месяца назад +860

    Body positivity is at its core about self love. And when ya love yourself you realize you deserve the best you are capable of, feeling your best mind and body. And when ya do have the confidence of self love it just happens to be a byproduct that you support others. No need to tear anyone down and elevate yourself when ya already feel on top of the world.

    • @KianaDocherty
      @KianaDocherty  4 месяца назад +52

      💯💯💯

    • @JaceReboot
      @JaceReboot 4 месяца назад +23

      @@KianaDochertyalso commitment devices are super effective in a wide range of situations. Be it dieting or substance/drug abuse or self damaging behaviour in general. I mean I use 2 major commitment devices to avoid a Benzoate relapse and can say they have proven effective for nearly a decade now. One, I simply avoid social circles where illegal access to my past drug of choice is made all too easy. Two, I self disclose to all medical professionals and exercise my right to deny care in regards to prescriptions for benzoate based anxiety meds. I mean saying no to a doc and avoiding places seem like small actions yet they prevent a large and damaging choice very effectively

    • @GrafRamolo
      @GrafRamolo 4 месяца назад

      😝🫵🏻🤡

    • @galc4m153
      @galc4m153 4 месяца назад +3

      100%, im proud of her💪

    • @zellalaing5439
      @zellalaing5439 2 месяца назад +1

      That first sentence is the epitome, well said ❤

  • @KaraCamilleDelonas
    @KaraCamilleDelonas 4 месяца назад +241

    Vanessa's interactions with her sister are something that most people would think are just exaggerations or excuses. I'm so glad they got it all on video for the world to see. The way her sister actively tried to sabotage her is actually so shocking and disturbing. Her packing her bags and getting away from her was the smartest thing she could've done to set herself up for success

  • @GlasUndMetall
    @GlasUndMetall 4 месяца назад +192

    As someone who's lost 200 lbs. over the last 5 years I can say with confidence that living in victimhood and self-hatred is just as addictive as food. I used to love to hate myself and "Why me?" lived in my head like a squatter. Finding value in myself, learning that I can have worth and NOT CARING what other people think were keys that unlocked the door to weight loss for me.

    • @katharineeavan9705
      @katharineeavan9705 4 месяца назад +8

      "lived in my head like a squatter" is a total gutpunch of a line

    • @boosqueezy2418
      @boosqueezy2418 3 месяца назад +1

      esp nowadays when victimhood gives you clout

    • @GlasUndMetall
      @GlasUndMetall 3 месяца назад +4

      @@katharineeavan9705 Felt exactly like that though, to me. Had to do some eviction.

    • @GlasUndMetall
      @GlasUndMetall 3 месяца назад

      @@boosqueezy2418 I feel social media has been great for me in regards to being able to teach myself all sorts of different forms of art and explore other cultures and the way other people live but yes, the drawbacks can be profound and normalizing victimhood I personally, my opinion, don't think will ever lead to positive outcomes.

    • @jenniferkemnitz
      @jenniferkemnitz 11 дней назад

      Thank you

  • @ladinulubas3959
    @ladinulubas3959 4 месяца назад +714

    I clicked the video SO fast.

    • @venzivenzivenzi
      @venzivenzivenzi 4 месяца назад +5

      NO SAME 😭

    • @MrQuestful
      @MrQuestful 4 месяца назад +1

      Right?! Same 😂🫶🏽

    • @Contessa6789
      @Contessa6789 4 месяца назад +4

      Haha same! A video from Kiana is a treat

    • @FuHackers-wx9lq
      @FuHackers-wx9lq 4 месяца назад +1

      I only have a handful of videos... I click on immediately too. She's one of them! 👍

    • @skippygirl959
      @skippygirl959 4 месяца назад

      Same here!

  • @amandaredd3057
    @amandaredd3057 4 месяца назад +379

    That's totally true: nothing can inspire change like the wellbeing of your kids. I was never as heavy as Vanessa but I was certainly heavier than was healthy (and a smoker to boot). My husband died suddenly when I was 35 and I realized our 5 year old son now only had me. I was dedicated like I'd never been before! I've lost 100 lbs (and counting) AND I'm also cigarette free - it's been 4 years now! I live a much MUCH healthier lifestyle now which my son understands too so it's doubly beneficial. Great job, Vanessa! So inspirational ❤

    • @EmyN
      @EmyN 4 месяца назад +15

      Omg girl you killed it!

    • @efoxkitsune9493
      @efoxkitsune9493 4 месяца назад +15

      And great job, you!! 👏🔥 I hope you're really proud of yourself, because you should be! Your boy is lucky to have you. All the best to you both!

    • @amandaredd3057
      @amandaredd3057 4 месяца назад +3

      @@efoxkitsune9493 thankyou ❤

    • @breezygrl10
      @breezygrl10 4 месяца назад +8

      How beautiful. I love parents that have their commitment to their kids. I told my mom for my highschool graduation gift I wanted her to quit smoking. And she did and hasn't picked it back up.
      You mamas are so awe-inspiring. I hope you and your son are dealing well with the loss. You're so strong and amazing for this 😭

    • @CainXVII
      @CainXVII 4 месяца назад +1

      That is great!! I am sure your son will appreciate it a whole lot :)

  • @BoopSnootAndTroubleshoot
    @BoopSnootAndTroubleshoot 4 месяца назад +430

    "When will I look like you?"
    "Just come to me every day, we'll take care of that"
    BEST ANSWER EVER!!!!!!

    • @Li_Tobler
      @Li_Tobler 4 месяца назад +54

      Right I had to rewatch that 2 times, such a brilliant response, the best she could give really! Absolutely awesome trainer right there, a rarity from my experience!

    • @shazzboz
      @shazzboz 4 месяца назад

      And a good doctor for that fake rack

  • @Star2Be5394
    @Star2Be5394 4 месяца назад +501

    Vanessa's joy and confidence is positively inspiring. Proof? When I started this video, I was feeling down about myself. I just got back from a trip a few days ago where I didn't eat very well or exercise much. I had thoughts like "Why should I even bother to work out today? I'm so tired and I look terrible after letting myself go..." But after watching just a few clips of Vanessa, her attitude really inspired me to get up and do a home workout as I watched the rest of this video. Feeling better about myself now because of it. Go Vanessa!

    • @lynneatsrocks
      @lynneatsrocks 4 месяца назад +12

      good job!!!❤

    • @Star2Be5394
      @Star2Be5394 4 месяца назад +2

      Thanks!@@lynneatsrocks

    • @Li_Tobler
      @Li_Tobler 4 месяца назад +6

      @@Star2Be5394 Hey Megan! I relate to how you feel and I was also encouraged and lifted up by Vanessa! I just wanted to make your day a little bit better and say that I find you to be so gorgeous! Like a 50's Hollywood movie star 🎀👗💄💖

    • @EmyN
      @EmyN 4 месяца назад +1

      Yessss way to go!

    • @imaginekudryavka9485
      @imaginekudryavka9485 4 месяца назад +4

      Go you! ❤ Sometimes it's the little things. I'm not on a weight loss journey, but I'm a recovering drug addict who has been using exercise as one healthy substitute. I've usually been thin (even underweight) but unhealthy, and I crave nothing more than an overall healthy lifestyle. But if a couple of weeks go by without me working out, or I'm a little bloated because I smoked weed and got major munchies, I tend to feel like a failure. Funny enough, it's not actual failures but rather FEELING like a failure, that can lead me down a downward spiral because I think I'm not cut out for this, I suck, so nothing matters and I might as well start using because it's all the same. I have relapsed like that before. So more than anything, I basically force myself to be positive and believe in myself - faking it till I make it. Sure, at first I feel like a fraud, it seems ridiculous to be making bad choices and still be thinking "I know I can do this, the future is bright, I'm on the right path, I'm a kickass person". On the surface, that may seem even problematic for your recovery, but it really is not. As long as you aren't pretending like you didn't mess up, it's much better than beating yourself up, because every addict who is past the denial stage already has done that so you aren't adding anything to it. In contrast, being understanding and kind to yourself will do wonders to your confidence.

  • @arctic_desert
    @arctic_desert 4 месяца назад +61

    Hearing "you have to want to change more than you want to stay the same" while I'm on my way to the grocery store is a real gut punch, thank you 😊

  • @pinkmonkeybird2644
    @pinkmonkeybird2644 4 месяца назад +9

    When my twins turned 18 recently, I made the meal they requested: teriyaki chicken and tofu, sushi rice, and roasted broccoli. As we gathered to eat, I noticed my husband had no broccoli and commented on it. He replied that he despised broccoli but ate it because he wanted to set a good example for his children so they’d adopted healthy eating habits. But now that they are legal adults, his job is over and he will never eat broccoli again. This is that same love and devotion, just writ large. We do things for our children that we’d never do for ourselves, and that’s a beautiful thing indeed.

  • @Turtletoots3
    @Turtletoots3 4 месяца назад +158

    My PMS is on overdrive and I'm crying right now. I hope she has the strength to keep it up and stay awesome.

    • @Li_Tobler
      @Li_Tobler 4 месяца назад +6

      Get well soon! I'm sure she'll somehow feel your positive wishes and energy towards her and keep going 🔥

    • @WobblesandBean
      @WobblesandBean 4 месяца назад +3

      I'm so sorry. I have fibroid tumors, so believe me, I get it. Please feel better soon 💜

  • @amandaredd3057
    @amandaredd3057 4 месяца назад +82

    I know skinny women who don't have half the confidence of Vanessa. It's such an attractive quality in all people. It's beautiful and I wish we all could feel that way about ourselves! I find it with age for sure and try to relay the importance of it to my son who's on the edge of his pre-teen years.

  • @alamedadanceparty
    @alamedadanceparty 4 месяца назад +165

    She so right about saying she has to learn how to “give up her joy” in leaving her unhealthy food choices behind. I can totally relate to this feeling.

    • @StutiRajguru
      @StutiRajguru 4 месяца назад +7

      Me too! When I found out I had to give up gluten and dairy for my medical condition, I legit had meltdowns because I felt like I was "giving up my joy". Food was my coping mechanism and my escape. Giving that up has been the hardest challenge for me so far, and I have still not 100% achieved it. But I am proud to say food is no longer my "source of joy" and my escape. A few months ago, this would have felt impossible - now it's my reality!❤

    • @myfirstvegancookbook1409
      @myfirstvegancookbook1409 4 месяца назад +2

      It's so difficult. You have to find joy in other places.

    • @alamedadanceparty
      @alamedadanceparty 4 месяца назад

      ​@@StutiRajgurugood for you! You must be really proud of how far you've come. 💪💪💪

    • @alamedadanceparty
      @alamedadanceparty 4 месяца назад

      ​@@myfirstvegancookbook1409yes, totally agree. It is important to find healthy coping mechanisms to replace those destructive habits. I am trying to do this with my sneak eating, and it's a long journey. When I'm stressed and overwhelmed is when I'm at biggest risk to just want to eat my feelings. 😵‍💫

    • @Ilivedbih
      @Ilivedbih 4 месяца назад

      ​@@myfirstvegancookbook1409 For me it was the realization that it's not an actual joy, but addiction which causes me misery.

  • @Hellscap3
    @Hellscap3 4 месяца назад +48

    i remember when i started trying to lose weight again, i put my foot down when my mother kept buying cakes, cookies, etc. she normally didnt even buy that many but once i started dieting she started buying more and saying things like "well its fine in moderation" and well that is true, part of my issues were those foods i didnt feel i could control myself enough around to have moderation. It's a struggle to have to fight for yourself when people claim to be doing it with good intentions, especially family. but i knew i would sit and eat the entire cake loaf she bought within an hour if i let myself even have a bite of it. So i refused to eat cakes for the month, let them all rot and she stopped buying them. Since then i've lost 55lbs and kept it off for over 2 years. I feel the reason i could get through that is because of how confident i've gotten in myself over the years, i didn't want to let myself lose again so I didn't, i wanted better for myself.
    Stay strong everyone, good luck with your goals.

    • @boosqueezy2418
      @boosqueezy2418 3 месяца назад +1

      i’m now thin but there are still certain foods i know i can’t control myself around. i just refuse to buy them

  • @OliveDiamonds
    @OliveDiamonds 4 месяца назад +119

    omg seeing her in that bikini gives me life! Im 269 and I could never imagine myself wearing anything that shows my stretch-marked stomach! Im so glad to see her have so much confidence and doing amazing on her weight loss!

    • @missscarlet9054
      @missscarlet9054 4 месяца назад +21

      I know! That panover from Megan fully covered talking about how insecure she feels to Vanessa just spread out in that string bikini giving no shits - it was so perfect.

    • @randomperson6433
      @randomperson6433 4 месяца назад +3

      I lost a lot of weight and would never wear a two piece thanks to my belly that looks like punched down bread dough. Wish I could have her confidence too 😂

  • @tylociraptor8131
    @tylociraptor8131 4 месяца назад +55

    My jaw fucking DROPPED when I saw her on the treadmill. WOW. Wow. She's amazing!!!

  • @marilenalouis
    @marilenalouis 4 месяца назад +237

    Yes! Give her center stage, people deserve to get inspired by her 🙏

  • @tella6630
    @tella6630 4 месяца назад +222

    I ABSOLUTELY adore Vanessa. Her dedication and motivation is inspiring, but i especially love her bubbly, funny and sweet personality 💞

  • @Gorlcaptain
    @Gorlcaptain 4 месяца назад +85

    I can’t believe her sister enabled so hard! I appreciate my siblings.. kept me from doing a lot of stupid things edit* and Vanessa is SO strong through resisting her sister temptations and also keeping her mindset through the phone call. Sometimes you gotta just say, I love you but I gotta say goodbye right now. That’s INCREDIBLY tough.

  • @MaximilienNoal
    @MaximilienNoal 4 месяца назад +133

    I lost 25 kilos years ago and my BMI is fine since then. It takes effort to stay that way but it's well worth it!

  • @ramshahashmi9674
    @ramshahashmi9674 4 месяца назад +42

    I really appreciate how you use popular media as a way to disseminate scientific information. Like at the core of it, this video was primarily about self schema and its impact on behaviour but it felt so tangible because you used familiar faces and stories to explain that. I’ve been following your channel since its inception and I don’t comment on videos usually but I just had to let you know how much I appreciate the work you put into your content. Haven’t missed a single one of your videos and gonna continue too to so! Great work Kiana!!
    PS: also girl you’re literally so stunning what’s your secret please tell cause omg

  • @pettykittyfam
    @pettykittyfam 4 месяца назад +55

    Her sister is not a nice person 😭 Anyone who loves thier sister would 💯 support her & try to help her in this journey.
    Good for Vanessa ❤
    She's absolutely amazing 😻

  • @thxwanderer
    @thxwanderer 4 месяца назад +73

    So I'm at such a massive turning point (finally hitting just under 200lb which is something I've struggled with for a while. I lost weight but then it got stagnant) and it's videos like this that continue to motivate, inspire, and push me to hit the next mark. ❤

    • @I_LUH_uve_strawBERry
      @I_LUH_uve_strawBERry 4 месяца назад

      Plateauing is so frustrating! But you got this. Keep going! 🎉

  • @Bunn.B
    @Bunn.B 4 месяца назад +60

    The part about Ambivalence is so true. It's always a battle. "Is succumbing to my addiction and getting my temporary fix and its consequences worth more than my health, my goals, my progress?"

  • @facepalm18
    @facepalm18 4 месяца назад +35

    17:00 you are so right, i remember the first time i tried to get clean (been clean now for 4 years!) My dad & i were talking & he asked if i saw myself as a winner or a loser. I didnt answer, just started crying & he told me that i have to see myself as a winner or else ill never do better for myself. & He was right!

  • @MoistNasa
    @MoistNasa 4 месяца назад +77

    OUR QUEEN 👸🏻 someone that not only REALLY loves herself but is capable of actually loving and helping others.

  • @allisonpierce3471
    @allisonpierce3471 4 месяца назад +12

    I LOVE Vanessa! I bought a cameo from her for christmas for my best friend, and it was the sweetest message for her, and so encouraging and genuine. She's the greatest lmao.

  • @Dimitri_Novi
    @Dimitri_Novi 4 месяца назад +66

    I just cant help but smile when she talks, such an inspiring story!😅

  • @suna2317
    @suna2317 4 месяца назад +16

    I’ve been obese throughout my 20s and it has been a major cause to a lot of my battles with depression. Building self-respect has been one of my biggest life goals. A big part of it is teaching myself that I’m worthy of the space I take, that I deserve to be here, to make myself healthy to live a longer and more fulfilling life. Vanessa’s confidence in her self-identity is what I aspire for. She’s bold, honest and loving to herself in a genuine way. She has good days and bad days but I can see for her, it’s not so much about how she looks in her body but how she feels. That connection with yourself is powerful and I think she is a truly body positive person.

  • @northwestclasspnw7974
    @northwestclasspnw7974 4 месяца назад +21

    Probably one of your best videos yet. Ambivalent is exactly how I feel about drinking less/not at all. I'm tired of feeling so awful, the extra calories, the embarrassing things I say or do. It's not worth the warm feeling being drunk gives

  • @Champagnebear
    @Champagnebear 4 месяца назад +14

    Wow! Don’t follow the show but so happy for Vanessa. Her change came from loving herself and not hating herself, that probably helped her succeed.

  • @lynneatsrocks
    @lynneatsrocks 4 месяца назад +54

    as much as i relate to megan, i aspire to be as strong and confident as vanessa! i’m currently 218lbs but i used to be 254lb. when im sad i remember how far ive come from that weight and realize the people around me love me no matter the size. losing weight doesn’t = becoming more beautiful. its ur mindset and personality that drives you that are. ily girl as a new viewer im so happy ur channel is here

    • @ErinIrwin
      @ErinIrwin 4 месяца назад +1

      Great job!!

    • @lauren8627
      @lauren8627 4 месяца назад +1

      Wow! That is amazing. If you can get that far, you can achieve whatever goals (weightloss or otherwise) you set your mind to. How incredible ❤.

    • @lynneatsrocks
      @lynneatsrocks 4 месяца назад +1

      @@ErinIrwin tysm ^_^🤍🤍

    • @lynneatsrocks
      @lynneatsrocks 4 месяца назад

      @@lauren8627 it was hard at first but when i got started i can’t stop

    • @lynneatsrocks
      @lynneatsrocks 4 месяца назад +1

      @@lauren8627 tysm

  • @zkye8431
    @zkye8431 4 месяца назад +5

    What a strong woman. I have nothing but respect for her and her commitment to improving her health. Especially with such obstacles along the way like her inconsiderate sister.

  • @OnTrailWithKit
    @OnTrailWithKit 4 месяца назад +14

    You nailed it on a lot of points. What motivated me, like you said, was thinking about my life without all the things I loved and wanted to do. I rode horses as a kid, and hiked up mountains. Something I could no longer do at 291lbs. I thought about how absurd it sounded to give up anything I love in favor of being unhealthy and not living the life I knew I wanted.
    I had the Gastric Sleeve done May 1st, 2023. As of today I'm 183lbs and only have 20lbs till I hit my goal weight. I also decided to push myself even further, and am going to hike the entire length of the Appalachian Trail, about 2,200 miles. This time last year I couldn't even fathom being where I am now, preparing for what I am.
    Vannessa was also a huge motivation the whole time. Watching her weight loss, confidence and self love grow was so empowering. She's a goddess and a queen and I am so excited to watch her progress even further (and getting Betsy May Cross cut off!)

  • @Ale_V72
    @Ale_V72 4 месяца назад +31

    I can feel the slight change of tone in this video after your recent video saying you had lost your narrative. Going back to exemplifying theory on behavioral changes with real-life examples. I love your videos!!! I was literally searching for you yesterday wondering when would you upload again! So excited to see this one :)

  • @danibearhugs
    @danibearhugs 4 месяца назад +29

    Okay so first I agree. That is body positivity at its core. She chose health but also loves herself no matter what. Second I am not in their weight situation but I workout and compete. What you said about self fulfilling prophecy is beyond relatable. Thinking I am not capable to doing what the people I aspire to be has held me back for my entire sport career. It is a full circle of self doubt to proving it because my mind believes it. This is a great video!

  • @GrownUpGamer30
    @GrownUpGamer30 4 месяца назад +56

    Hi Kiana, love your videos, our channels are from very different subjects but your editing is an inspiration to me. Have a nice week!

  • @mirandalovesfood
    @mirandalovesfood 4 месяца назад +9

    I couldn’t imagine treating my sister like that

  • @TaniDraws
    @TaniDraws 4 месяца назад +23

    Just when I was thinking 'would be cool if another Kiana video dropped', you delivered! So excited!

  • @angelheart678
    @angelheart678 4 месяца назад +9

    The positive attitude applies to everything in life, not just losing weight. Which is another thing i learned from this video. Having a can do attitude in life is so important. So inspiring.

  • @Chizuru_Yukimura
    @Chizuru_Yukimura 4 месяца назад +32

    What I really like about your videos is you can definitely see that a lot of research, script writing and thought process is involved in the making of it and as your subscriber I absolutely appreciate that!

  • @MilkByCow
    @MilkByCow Месяц назад +2

    I hope Vanessa knows she has fans. I’ve never seen someone in a situation determined to bring her down, thrive the way she is. We can now see the physical manifestation of joy she expresses in her voice.
    I’m a rando younish normal weight Asian dude on the Canadian west coast being inspired by a Southern American middle-aged lady’s physical and mental attitude in awe of her unrelenting joy.

  • @navy6562
    @navy6562 3 месяца назад +3

    My take is that body positivity isn't accepting an unhealthy body. It's loving yourself enough to acknowledge when you're in good or bad shape and doing whatever you can to protect yourself. Especially if you start to feel that this body you love and respect might fail due to health reasons. So what if you're not the standard of beauty? As long as you take good care of yourself and take steps to make sure you protect it from harm, you're being body positive.

  • @shainatilley4291
    @shainatilley4291 3 месяца назад +2

    It's not over!! Dr. Proctor was sharing on Instagram about filming happening recently for the new season!!

  • @amogus5902
    @amogus5902 4 месяца назад +6

    i remember seeing a youtube video on her about a year ago, and at 0:43 i literally gasped. she's done so beyond incredible for herself, i am so proud of this lady

  • @fluddie6832
    @fluddie6832 4 месяца назад +6

    Kiana, hearing you talk about your own struggles with poor self identity I will say this - I've been subscribed to you as early as one of your first videos and my first impressions of you were about how gorgeous, intellectual and kind spirited you were. I want you to see those things in yourself, because they most definitely shine through! Keep pushing forward, I will continue to support your journey! In a world where people like you are a rarity, believe me, you are a gem!

  • @DTyrannosaurus
    @DTyrannosaurus 4 месяца назад +5

    When I changed my attitude from how people experience me to how I experience the world my life improved instantly.

  • @CainXVII
    @CainXVII 4 месяца назад +3

    I had never heard about this woman but I love her. What a gem. Losing weight for the sake of her son

  • @andianderson3017
    @andianderson3017 4 месяца назад +14

    I love this! I knew about her but hadn’t considered seeing her as a role model. You’re so right! She’s fantastic both before and after losing weight!
    This is seriously the video I needed today. Even when you don’t post often absolutely no one on RUclips inspires the kind of excitement in me that your videos do. You have a gift. Please keep going!

  • @CheetoFireCat
    @CheetoFireCat 4 месяца назад +17

    HOLLLLLY SHEET!! I didn't even recognize her🤯💪🏽❤️ WAY TO GO!!❤

  • @muslimah_soumaya123
    @muslimah_soumaya123 4 месяца назад +4

    my biggest change happened when I stopped thinking like a victim and instead I take responsibility for everything I made my body go through and I sincerely apologize to my body, now I am working out and working on my diet to be a little bit better pray for me guys

  • @Bunn.B
    @Bunn.B 4 месяца назад +20

    What I like about Vanessa is that she's older in age and like Melissa Neill and the iconic Ernestine Sheppard, is showing people you can do it at any age, it's never too late. ♥️♥️

  • @liviatoo1239
    @liviatoo1239 4 месяца назад +18

    YESS i absolutely LOVE HER SM she is such a positive person

    • @KianaDocherty
      @KianaDocherty  4 месяца назад +6

      Same lol. I loveee her. She better get a spin off 😩

  • @miki410
    @miki410 4 месяца назад +3

    My favorite thing about this video is seeing how much inspiration and joy you are clearly getting from Vanessa's positive attitude and spirit. With so many RUclipsrs focusing on tearing others down, this is such a refreshing change of pace.

  • @zeals936
    @zeals936 4 месяца назад +5

    Been following her since her journey. So glad she’s getting recognition because she’s what socials need! Not that garbage

  • @Kovitlac
    @Kovitlac 4 месяца назад +8

    I relate to Megan so hard. I got myself to a healthy weight and have been here several years now, and well I do feel proud of my accomplishment to a degree, I haven't lost any of the insecurity I had as an obese young adult. I still feel an immense amount of shame and regret, and those feelings are incredibly hard to shake. It's a big part of why I'm in therapy and have been for quite a while now.

  • @FinalFaintasy
    @FinalFaintasy 4 месяца назад +4

    You’ve got me hooked on watching 1,000-lb sisters and now this. Not only are they entertaining and informative (mainly due to your insight into these shows), but they inspire me to diet and get off the couch to exercise. I can’t thank you enough!

  • @joerom4717
    @joerom4717 4 месяца назад +4

    Vanessa and these women are adding quality years to their lives and are such inspirations.

  • @XOChristianaNicole
    @XOChristianaNicole 4 месяца назад +5

    Legit was thinking, only yesterday, “I wonder what Kiana’s been up to - if she has any new content?”
    And here you are, with new content, a day later.
    Ask and you shall receive.
    Thanks, doll.

  • @turb303
    @turb303 27 дней назад +1

    0:11 its CRAZY how this dynamic would switch around in time

  • @denisruskin348
    @denisruskin348 4 месяца назад +7

    Wow. What a drastic change. Things like these really put a smile on my face. Same as when people that I've known me as a chubby lad tell me how good I look after loosing 50 pounds.

  • @mistermanman
    @mistermanman 4 месяца назад +1

    I love Vanessa. She loves herself so much and it shines through her positive attitude.

  • @lpngnl1513
    @lpngnl1513 4 месяца назад +9

    Man, I stumbled across your content a while ago, and the message you have always driven at about how to change and how self-perception drives us to improve has been huge. Thank you for being such a positive voice in this space.

  • @daniellle4270
    @daniellle4270 4 месяца назад +4

    I’ve been rooting for her ever since she actually started her weight loss journey! I love seeing how she tries to encourage her friends to get healthy as well

  • @wawaweewa8749
    @wawaweewa8749 4 месяца назад +5

    This woman!! Is true body positivity! She is an inspiration!

  • @pinkypie8322
    @pinkypie8322 4 месяца назад +2

    OMG look at Vanessa, what an inspiration WOW!! I cant believe what she achieved! Yes she had WLS but I watched some scenes on TLC, she had disciplin, good for her, she is so incredible!

  • @cautiousgalaxy4613
    @cautiousgalaxy4613 4 месяца назад +6

    Honestly its so much easier to change for other people than yourself i think at least. Ive only been able to lose weight is because of my nephew. I got so tired of not being able to play with him. Ive lost around 70 pounds and can run with him now. I have at least 100 more pounds to go but its so worth it being able to be with him especially since hes at the age where he is playing sports.

  • @danwn777
    @danwn777 4 месяца назад +2

    I love these type of videos it's never to late to make a change

  • @DanielBrazRPM
    @DanielBrazRPM 3 месяца назад +1

    I’ve been working out for 2 years and now my friends and strangers talk to me as if I am a mountain of muscle, and I’m proud of that
    “People might judge my body, but no one has to come home with me” besides all of what I said earlier, that hit like a truck

  • @ecstaticbutter9164
    @ecstaticbutter9164 4 месяца назад +3

    A new video?! It’s been so long! We need a video on the weight loss medication craze! Ozempic, Wegovy, saxenda, zepbound, the list goes on! Would love love love to a video about these! LOVE your content!

  • @MsKatze
    @MsKatze 4 месяца назад +6

    I love her! She is such a character, and it's a joy to watch her!

  • @alexisajluni9184
    @alexisajluni9184 4 месяца назад +3

    I love Vanessa and she’s radiant with positivity. I wish I could be more like her, she’s such a lovely light

  • @AliPi7
    @AliPi7 4 месяца назад +3

    You have to believe you deserve it. You deserve to feel healthy and show up for life in your best body and mind.
    You have to believe you matter and you’re worth it.

  • @Christina.N.
    @Christina.N. 4 месяца назад +2

    Vanessa is an absolute Queen. She’s an absolute inspiration. 🎊 🎉 Practically crying here ❤😂

  • @Deea88
    @Deea88 4 месяца назад +4

    Mums...they can always do for their children what they cannot do for themselves. Good for her!

  • @mimiveggie8653
    @mimiveggie8653 4 месяца назад

    I just discovered your channel and I like how objective yet compassionate your analysis is. Well done!

  • @tanjapater
    @tanjapater 4 месяца назад +2

    I have seen and heard a certain quote many times lately and thought it would be quite fitting here when you look at Meghan versus Vanessa: "whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right". I have been so interested in affirmations lately as well, and this keeps coming up. Your mind will look for evidence of whatever you think is true about you. When you want to change, you need to indeed see yourself as a different person, and here you can see the difference with what is possible if you do or if you don't. Great video!

  • @youungstunnaa
    @youungstunnaa 4 месяца назад +1

    this was a great episode!!!! I love when you do the informational docu style videos
    so excited for your how to change course!! You're killing it girlie

  • @crystalh1612
    @crystalh1612 3 месяца назад

    I love how your channel works to clarify body positivity

  • @89tilinfinity29
    @89tilinfinity29 3 месяца назад +1

    I gotta say I'm a meghan, I never thought of it like that but I have seen myself as a loser and a failure. But over the years I've learned that I am because I'm choosing to be, fixing that programming is extremely difficult. The times ive been the proudest of myself is when ive.made positive actions to go the other direction. My biggest fault is that when things go bad, I find a way to make them worse, I'm a self sabotager to the fullest. Thanks for the content, hope you do make a video on that topic, there's many meghans out there and we can definitely use the help.

  • @Lawlllz
    @Lawlllz 4 месяца назад +5

    Another slam dunk Kiana. I love the positivity and motivation that you inspire in me and in others. You’re the best!

  • @Elfetta1000
    @Elfetta1000 4 месяца назад

    Just wanted to say how much I LOVE watching your videos. Your commentary is always insightful and fun to watch. Thank you for your hard work!

  • @sarahlennox8963
    @sarahlennox8963 3 месяца назад +1

    I seriously love Vanessa's personality.

  • @tylert271
    @tylert271 4 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for doing this video! I'm watching this on my birthday and I'm actually really excited about all the changes I'm gonna make for myself this year.

  • @gueyhoo9261
    @gueyhoo9261 4 месяца назад

    Always happy to see you, Kiana! I'm considering getting your course. So many things to change: smoking, losing weight, procrastinating.

  • @Ruth-tu9mu
    @Ruth-tu9mu 4 месяца назад +1

    Vanessa is soooo inspiring 🎉 Love this breakdown! And congrats on launching your course!!!

  • @emilycathcart7387
    @emilycathcart7387 4 месяца назад +2

    Vanessa has the confidence and attitude we all deserve to have. She is amazing!

  • @littlemonster2483
    @littlemonster2483 4 месяца назад +1

    Thanks so much for this video @KianaDocherty!!! 💕 Your video make me realize that I'm stuck in ambivalence with my eating disorder. 😳 I feel like I'm being pulled in two different directions despite everything and wanting to change but it's not happening!
    I want to conquer my atypical anorexia (It's been back & forth between atypical and actual anorexia!) but I've been struggling with letting it go. It's always been a messed up comfort to me since I was 16 and now still battling at age 31!!! 😔
    Learning that I'm dealing with ambivalence hopefully will help when I see my therapist next!!!
    Love your videos Kiana!!! 💕 I always learn something from them and yes Vanessa is definitely the new Body Positivity Queen 👑

  • @jenhasken
    @jenhasken 4 месяца назад +1

    Just want to thank you for another excellent video. You have a kind of integrity in your approach that is really unique and really important.

  • @phoeline3695
    @phoeline3695 4 месяца назад +1

    This episode is amazing, thank you for it Kiana. It really spoke to me. The story and all of what you said. Love!

  • @wooshiey
    @wooshiey 4 месяца назад +1

    as a long time viewer of your channel and currently struggling to find the motivation to be healthier - i have never signed up for a course faster! i'm so excited for it!

  • @pistashleyo5897
    @pistashleyo5897 4 месяца назад +4

    Your channel is top 5 for me! You are such an inspiring person yourself and educating people is thebway 🎉

  • @Epicturtle007
    @Epicturtle007 2 месяца назад

    Her attitude is inspiring and motivational, your analysis is insightful and helpful. Thank you!

  • @taffysaur
    @taffysaur 4 месяца назад +2

    This was a really inspiring video. I don’t have a weight problem, but I certainly do have bad habits I need to be more motivated to change, and my self-confidence (or lack thereof) probably doesn’t help me.
    I’m so happy for Vanessa, and proud of her!

  • @Banky33764
    @Banky33764 4 месяца назад

    Wow, I loved this. As someone who watches *zero* TLC content, I'm so grateful you shared Vannessa's success with us. Her personality, positivity and attitude are infectious.