Thanks Neil. This is one of the most in-depth explanations of Harville and Helen's revolutionary approach to couples. So good to be with H & H up close.
I'm not really resonating AT ALL with the idea to "not bring any negativity and negative energy into the relationship." Sounds like classic spiritual bypassing and compulsive positivity. Safety to me is not the absence of negativity or discomfort and hurt.
What if I don't see a wound from childhood in myself? I guess it's hard for most to see, but seriously I have been blessed with both my parents. No one had any deal breaker issues growing up. The ex wife had all sorts of issues. Her dad was never really there for her growing up. I had to deal with that until she left. I had no idea what was going on. She still blames me 500 %. Now we get to parallel parent, and she's moved on with someone else. That'd be cool if I thought she had changed.
What if I don't see a wound from childhood in myself? I guess it's hard for most to see, but seriously I have been blessed with both my parents. No one had any deal breaker issues growing up. The ex wife had all sorts of issues. Her dad was never really there for her growing up. I had to deal with that until she left. I had no idea what was going on. She still blames me 500 %. Now we get to parallel parent, and she's moved on with someone else. That'd be cool if I thought she had changed.
Thanks Neil. This is one of the most in-depth explanations of Harville and Helen's revolutionary approach to couples. So good to be with H & H up close.
absolutely beautiful
thanks so much
Had to pause this to send a thank you to my partner.
I want to learn more about type of listening.
I'm not really resonating AT ALL with the idea to "not bring any negativity and negative energy into the relationship." Sounds like classic spiritual bypassing and compulsive positivity. Safety to me is not the absence of negativity or discomfort and hurt.
What if I don't see a wound from childhood in myself? I guess it's hard for most to see, but seriously I have been blessed with both my parents. No one had any deal breaker issues growing up.
The ex wife had all sorts of issues. Her dad was never really there for her growing up. I had to deal with that until she left. I had no idea what was going on. She still blames me 500 %. Now we get to parallel parent, and she's moved on with someone else. That'd be cool if I thought she had changed.
They discuss this feeling/situation in a different talk. Have a listen to some of their other vid.s
Absolute malarkey.
Why do you say this? Just curious.
It's definitely not
What if I don't see a wound from childhood in myself? I guess it's hard for most to see, but seriously I have been blessed with both my parents. No one had any deal breaker issues growing up.
The ex wife had all sorts of issues. Her dad was never really there for her growing up. I had to deal with that until she left. I had no idea what was going on. She still blames me 500 %. Now we get to parallel parent, and she's moved on with someone else. That'd be cool if I thought she had changed.