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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
- Welcome to 1 800 Drama Episode 14 on Monday 8 July at 7PM UK time, where we're live and going fishing with you in real time! In this r/AITA deep dive, we discuss graduation parties, family politics, spicy brains, and if it's ever appropriate to go through your partners belongings... Grab a cuppa and let’s go fishing LIVE together! 🍑🎣✨
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I've loved the live and pre-recorded episodes both equally! The only thing I'll say for any future lives is I hope your mics' inputs/your stream audio output levels can be set higher, as I've had more trouble hearing you two than with the pre-recorded ones. Regardless, with live vs pre-recorded, my vote is for whatever is easier/more fun for you two to do going forward!!
Me and my partner had an agreement that we had open access to eachothers stuff except one private spot in the house each, and we respected that and never looked in or touched each others spot unless with explicit permission. However if my partner needed medication, a mobility aid or any other medical need, and he had a strong suspicion that it was in my private area for whatever reason and looked, I would never ever fault him for that. Some things are more important than privacy and ego. The conversation afterwards would be about why he thought it was there and how we can make sure it is in a spot where he can easily grab it when needed next time, not about going trough my stuff.
Jaime I love your metaphors because they are clear what you mean. You do overexplain afterwards but I do the same.
Oooeeeh drama!
It sounds llike the person with the headphones is in an abusive relationship. Their girlfriend is minimizing their disability by calling their coping methods "quirks," and is essentially angry at OP for being disabled. Then she steals OP's most prized posession and lies about it. When OP confronts her about stealing and lying, she turns it around and makes it seem like OP is the one who needs to apologize. Saying "break up" might not even be strong enough. I would be asking if OP has someone they can rely on for emotional support as they confront this (possibly) abusive partner.
Hey shaaba and Jamie sorry I miss the live but love the video and I hope your guy's trip to US was amazing
This was so fun! Love you guys ^^
I turn 18 today so this extra long episode is like a gift 🥹❤️
Happy Birthday!
The audio is an issue. Even after the volume got adjusted it was hard to heard - admittedly I am listening on public transport with my earphones but this has never been an issue and also is not with other videos.
Im currently having the same issue. My phone is on full volume and it's hard to hear all of it (I do have auditory processing issues though so this isn't entirely the video but I don't tend to have this issue with shaaba or Jamie's usual videos.)
I lived for 12 years with a partner with undiagnosed ADHD with auditory issues who wore headphones most of the time. I 100% agree that OPs partner sounds extremely disrespectful and unkind. I just want to point out that living in a relationship with someone who uses headphones can come with challenges. Not to the degree where it is ever ok to disrespect someone (or steal something - that is just insane). But we reached a point where he wore them so much that I literally could not communicate with him. He was in his own world and could not hear me or talk to me. We had to set some boundaries at home so that we could still maintain our relationship and spend time together in ways that he could cope with without being overwhelmed without his headphones. I am not in ANY way justifying her behaviour which was disgraceful. I just wanted to point out that headphones are different from for instance glasses in that they can impact a relationship in a way that could justify having a respectful and open conversation. Whatever the solution might be. Set aside time to talk without the headphones. Learn sign language. Whatever. But it can be something to navigate with love and patience.
This is exactly what I thought! As you said, it's no excuse for the partner's terrible behavior, but you can't say it doesn't affect them. There is no comparison between someone wearing glasses to help them see and noise-cancelling headphones that make them unable to hear you. I'm glad you were able to communicate your needs and work out a compromise. Hopefully OP builds better trust, respect and communication in their next relationship.
I love your channel and your content so much, and I love to see you grow. I hope you can read this comment respectfully!
I just wanted to call out the ableist language you're using in this video. Narcissism also known as narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder caused by intense childhood trauma resulting in a disordered development of empathy and self esteem.
It does NOT make someone abuse, it does not cause gaslighting or love bombing. What you're thinking of is emotional abuse. NPD does not cause abusive behaviour, abusive behaviour is a choice and NPD is not. Blaming someone's wrong actions on a mental disorder doesn't only further stigmatize said disorder, it also hurt victims of abuse. Everyone is able of being abusive. Not just the mentally ill.
I hope you'll see this comment and learn how the language you're using and how it is ableist to those with NPD. I really love your channel. Sorry if any of this comes across as rude, I am autistic and bad with tone. Thanks so much
It's a problem I have in general between the lay use of "narcissism" as a term, which technically is separate from the psychological term of narcissistic personality disorder. I understand that on paper, they are actually separate terms with different definitions, and narcissism separate from the psych disorder is typically defined as a set of behaviours and ways of relation to others that are often abusive, but the fact of the matter is, using the term like this contributes to the stigmatisation of the personality disorder because most people don't know they're separate things. I think instead of saying narcissism in these contexts, it's better to just be specific and talk about the problem behaviours and abuse without using the term at all to avoid any ableism and contribution to negative stigmas.
Would you consider putting the text back up? I have ADHD and found it harder to follow discussions without the story up. That’s the main reason I watch this podcast on RUclips rather than listen to it. Don’t know if other viewers might find it helpful as well. If that’s not possible maybe a link to the stories?
Yeah I'm autistic and I also found it a lot more difficult to follow along without the text
Hey Shaaba and Jamie. Hope your trip to the United States went well.
I missed it? 😱😭😫
Really struggling to hear through the whole thing
swearing around young children
swearing more than 3 times in 10 minutes (unless discussing politics)
using swearing instead of learning additional adjectives
swearing after being asked not to swear around a person/in a situation
^ red flags.
swearing around school-age children who are not one's own
swearing more than an average of once in a 10 minute conversation
^amber flags
"Oof, Son. That must hurt so much, after how hard you have worked. Would you like me to handle it?"
And after finding out that she's been talking to the school and lying about texting,
" In your place, I don't think I would want to deal with those people when I was trying to celebrate my graduation. Would you like me to uninvite them?"
Bio mom hasn't done anything WRONG, but a little bit of asking for consent before taking action would probably have left biomon KNOWING that she isn't the drama.
There are emotive topics that explain swearing other than just politics though (abuse/injustice, quoting what someone else said etc.)
@@robnessvic yes. I was running out of spoons when I wrote that, and while I knew there were other things that belonged on the list, I couldn't think of them at the time.
Though I wouldn't actually classify it as swearing when someone quotes someone else who was swearing. For me, the definition of swearing is more about the feeling/precision of the message than the actual words.
The stories were odd this episode. Interesting discussions, though! I like the live format too, though I think I'll probably just watch afterwards 😅💗
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1st, also weres the pined comment with post links