AITA World's Most Terrible Parents MISS WEDDING??
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DON'T WORRY EVERYONE I FIGURED OUT WHAT NC MEANS
Oh ok 😂😂
I think you should still call it “going to North Carolina”.
Deaddddd 🤣
Me yelling "NO CONTACT" 😂
Hello, may i ask why it was tried to charge my credit card at your company? I am not even in the US
She sent them an invitation. They ignored it. End of story. Too bad for them.
She actively discussed the “these things are only combined for a wedding. Unless maybe quinceanera or a sliver of bat mitzvahs” (these parents, like the “Family Guy” ones, could probably miss either the one you can reasonably have your phone pencil in while still in the delivery room. Aim for no other plans either the weekend before or after. It’d be a miracle in that simple but… finishing studies isn’t a exact besides family travel stuff but this is off topic.
Her aunties (I have heard this from another teller and not there yet on this play so whomever actually did the dress/food/lodging-out-of-towners/how-open-a-bar/registry stuff) wouldn’t indulge someone over 8 with that (graduating seniors get the fraction that applies).
They not only had no excuse they managed a rare negative quantity of excuse even if the paper invite left the chat…
NC means no contact here. As a North Carolinian, I understand the confusion 😂
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If my daughter was engaged, I'd be asking about the date and offering to help. The parents never ever asked about it. Then they ignored a physical invitation and text (can't imagine either of my parents ignoring a text from me). Then they said they had a game to go to instead of asking for more info about the event. The parents are nuts and the brother has become so entitled he thinks it's ok to steal. She is not the a.h. and don't blame her for limiting contact.
Congratulations to op and making delicious lemonade out of dried up lemons.
People don't have to understand. Some folks try to become peace makers, but don't realize you shouldn't decorate a bush on fire until the fire's been put out. The parents maybe guilty, but more likely they just want to feel better, so they can go back to their unhealthy normal and quit having people judge them, but their actions are terrible.
Definitely NTA. The bride told them it was a wedding. She only needed to tell them once. I'm engaged one week. I've told my family once. Thats all they needed. They've been talking about it all weekend and repeatedly asking me what date (I don't have one yet) and telling me they want to be first to know when I have a date. They definitely won't forget the date once I tell them. That's the correct way to react and what those parents should have been like initially.
Shes not wrong. They havent supported her throughout her entire life. Why do they need to be at her wedding?
I would love if these were longer!! Like an hour honestly 😁😁
Agreed!!!!!
Omg. I cant imagine my parents and siblings not being at my wedding. As the only daughter out of 3 kids i was the only one my dad would give away and the only moment for my mom to be mother of the bride. This breaks my heart.
My sisters missed my wedding because it was a Covid elopement and they were both out of the state and couldn't get there. One of them cried. The other didn't seem to care at all, but par for the course, we've never gotten along and I don't think she would have come if she could. She didn't come to my reception a year later, didn't RSVP either now that I think of it. She was the spoiled one growing up, but at least my parents don't play favorites anymore and they came to both my wedding and the reception. These parents ought to be ashamed of themselves!!
Not to be creepy but please let me know when you start doing audiobooks…. Your cadence and reactions illustrate the situation so well. ✨
YES! Such a great, engaging voice
I need the update! lol this was wild start to finish
I couldn’t wait so I looked it up on Reddit and in my best Jamie voice, HOLY SMOKES! It’s even more wild than this one
Lol this vid just saved you from my semi annual subscription clean out
Not sure if it's been pointed out yet in a comment (and it will probably be in the update) but the brother ended up getting rid of the invite behind the parents' back b c he didnt want to share them, and then the parents weren't paying attention whenever OP brought up the wedding, thinking she meant something else? I don't quite remember what.
Then the brother dogpiled on her to cover up his misdeeds, so the parents wouldn't know he knew.
My heart breaks for OP. Even with all the love from friends, family & even strangers on the internet, you still can’t help but want to feel that love & acceptance from your parents. It’s sad, but this sounds like the beginning of a clean break. NTA
Wow just wow! I feel so bad for OP. She needs to tell any family giving a hard time that she sent invites/texts and they were ignored!! She did absolutely nothing wrong and I probably wouldn't communicate with parents/brother anymore the rest of the family would depend on if they kept giving her a hard time about this.
The North Carolina bit made me giggle so much.
I love how many people have corrected NC meaning No Contact in here. I went No Contact with my mom when i was 18 (am 34 now) and it was before i learned the internet abbreviation for it but it's interesting to see she isn't familiar with that world and those online conversations. And it didn't cross her mind that it could be anything other than North Carolina lol...
Loved this reaction. What a post!
NC is for No Contact, not North Carolina
Jamie you left me on a cliff hanger…. Nooooooooooo!!! Please post immediately with the update video. Love your channel 💕
It’s poorly titled - they got an invite same as everyone else - they were told about the wedding, all she did was refuse to beg
NC on Reddit is usually No Contact. Now that everyone knows the truth and you have your husband and in-laws to help support you, OP needs to leave them permanently in the past. And your earlier comment about wanting them to be grandparents to any children- Would you want these people to be grandparents to your children?
The update is soooooo juicy!!
Get a new phone, start your new life without them, golly what a storm 😅
Can.not.wait. For the update!!
the update is definitely worth it!
17:09 I just stumbled upon your channel and I love this so deeply much! Your energy is so bubbly and entertaining! If I ever get married I will most certainly be making a playlist with your best advice videos or maybe I'll hire you! Even though I don't always like channels with religious undertones I love this so much, like Charlotte Dobre! I have never been happier to find a random video. Thank you so much for being your fine and exquisite self you marvelous woman!!!
P.s. I love your makeup as well...
Hey Jamie! I got married las month and all went great. Really great, actually. Our only regret is having so much leftover food because we didn't really tell anybody if they wanted more durig the party. The staff tood the food home, so it didn't waste. 😊😊😊😊
Thaaaaaaank-you for your videos!!! Especially the one where you told us about your wedding. It put things in perspective for me. ❤❤❤
I can't believe that none of the other relatives didn't just casually mention wedding plans to her parents. Not sure we got the whole story.
based on OP's edits, im SHOCKED that some people read this post, and chose to reply with "WELL DID YOU REMIND THEM??"
I need the update
Ha ha NC is no contact 😃
We already had our wedding but I love watching!
Why does this sound like my life😢😮
Need the update! I already know what it is but I want to see your reaction
Wow I hope she is in therapy
This screams narcissist mother who is insecure/jealous of her own daughter. Yikes. Poor OP.😢
Oh this brings up painful memories of my horrifying relationship with my sibling. I hope my sibling doesn't cause the drama at my wedding 😬 don't worry, I have a contingency plan.
She literally sent them a wedding invitation, and tried to tell them multiple times. Mom & brother are just mad because they were found out to be jerks. Not the butthole.
Do Not let your mother in until she proves she is intrested in a relationship with you. NOT THE SITUATION. She will get what she want and return to treating you the same way. Know from experience.😢😢😢
Mother and father of the bride…. Umm shouldn’t even need an intervention to know when and where the wedding will be… that is so sad and it would be hard for me to believe they felt any remorse bc without ppl calling them out would they have ever cared?
I feel like this is something my parents would do
Part 2!! Update!!!
She deliberately didn't tell them it was her wedding and also scheduled it for a date when her brother had a college football game he was playing in. Obviously he could not attend. It sounds like it turned out exactly as she wanted it to. I think the who bunch is a bunch of a holes.
Update???
So even though it's for different reasons, it's not likely my parents will attend my wedding slash and fasting either. And it's mainly because of the fact that I no longer follow the religion I was raised in. And they think I'm going to hell so at this point. I don't need toxic. My father rarely even says that he loves me
Beveragino 😂 can we please be friends 😅
Waitwaitwait...how did...during an entire year did *nobody* else in the family talk about their daughters upcoming wedding? How did OPs grandfather not ever have a conversation with his son about the wedding? Do the parents just live in a bubble without any communication with the outside world? Fishy fishy...
(But I get this is more fun to pretend it's real)
Assuming everything is fake isn't the answer. Life is stranger than fiction. Families are messed up in so many ways so commonly.
I think the point is they knew what was happening and chose to ignore it and then plead ignorance because she hadn't pushed them to go (exactly right on her part, you shouldn't have to continually remind your parents to attend your wedding)
She sent them an invitation!! I assume that it was a wedding invitation 🤦♀️ as she sent the same one to other guests. She sent them a follow up text to ask if they were coming and got no response. She tried to talk to them about it and talked with other family in front of them about it in the year leading up to it and they pretended not to notice. She asked them in person if they were coming on such and such date (when she presumably didn't mention it was her wedding) and they said no, that her event wasn't as important as her brother's game! They 100% knew what they were doing. They knew about the wedding and when it was and snubbed their daughter. They just thought they wouldn't get backlash and were mistaken.
They probably tune out as soon as she's mentioned. They clearly don't care about her. Going as far as to talk over her, missing every event in her life, and even assume any talk of her wedding was a lie & a grab for her mom's attention.
Someone has never lived with a narcissist and it shows.
OP needs to cut ties with those parents, they are abusive to her, and not people she and her new husband should want even around any future grandkids, and they didn't deserve the invite let alone for any follow up effort to make sure they knew, but they made a consious choice and she was rewarded for being the bigger person with them finally having any consequences for their actions whatsoever. The parents and brother are very unsafe for her, and possibly her husband to be around at all.
The aunt’s post and the grandpa reaming them out had me giggling like a little gremlin 🤣
North Carolina 🤣🤣
I wouldn't have invited these people in the first place 😅
I would break my heart if my parents chose not to come to my wedding. And honestly as someone whos dad passed away and will never get to walk me down the aisle, I hope that dad lives with that guilt and it destroys him.
Can't wait for her to read the update! It'll be worth it! Thankfully, I've already read it, otherwise I would have had to immediately search for it.
Brother is "the Golden Child," the parents were publicly shamed. Go on with a happy married life. with .out. them.Mother sounds like a raging narcissist.
Sadly, a similar dynamic to this is kinda common… not this dramatic, but parents putting the son first over the daughter. It’s about valuing sons and being “boy moms” over raising daughters … so sad
My brother for real developed a personality disorder, and I truly believe it was the effect of being utterly spoiled, being allowed to bully and escape consequences, and being constantly told he was so very smart and special. He is smart. He isn’t particularly kind, hard-working or responsible, and abandoned two children by the time he was 40.
Just from the headline: NTA! If they love you, they attend the event that is important to you. If you didn't invite them, it also has it's reasons and then it would be best not to tell. So I completly understand. Edit: I am pretty sure NC is not north Carolina but No Contact :D
Her family all suck, apart from her grandpa. I don't understand why she wants any relationship with them. I'd do what they do and put in zero effort - go no contact. Her mum and bro are awful and her dad's frankly not much better. Growing a backbone at this point is too little too late. They're not sorry they were crap to her for her entire life, they're sorry they're being called out on it publically
Its so satisfying to hear an abuser get humbled and publically shamed ❤ Its so sad that it went on this long, and OP will never not be hurt by the way they've been treated. This kind of obsessive son-favoring behavior hurts families for generations. My grandma was that way but had to get over it when both of her "favorite son"s became her daughters lmao I hope to keep my bloodline clear of that ish going forward
Both of your grandma's favorite sons transed their genders? Did I read that right? I mean, good for them, I'm just surprised.
I can’t imagine how any one could possibly “make up” from missing a WEDDING. I mean that’s kinda a big deal. Don’t know that there’s anything that anyone could do to rectify missing such a huge event in someone’s life. On the other hand, it sounds like OP and her husband were far happier NOT having the toxicity around them on their big day. She didn’t miss anything by not having them there.
Yes Jamie, need the update!
Also.... as for someone who has had a significant amount of family dysfunction, abuse, etc., as well as cut off a majority of my family (Including parents)... I just want to say to OP, you are not alone, I'm sorry, and there are people who will support you in distancing yourself from your family. God says to respect your parents yes, but if it is causing you to sin in other areas, then you really are not honoring God (Treat your body as a temple, and taking in toxicity isn't doing this or allowing you to become the person God designed you to be)... In other words... How much poison do you take before you die? If your family has harmed you, you are not living abundantly. Let this "cut off" bring them closure to the Lord and I'll be praying this situation turns to good in Jesus name!
Hey Jamie, just an FYI for the next time you do a video like this: having a trigger warning for parental abuse would be really helpful for your viewers. I understand you didn’t realize where this story was going, but once you did, adding a trigger warning in the beginning would be so helpful to viewers going through issues of their own, so they can decide whether or not they are in a good mental space to watch. I love your content and have been watching since I got engaged in 2019 (I had a COVID wedding in 2020 and still watch your content). Just offering some food for thought for the next time you post more sensitive content 😊
Can you do a video about how to gain trust back with vendors after you lose faith in them ❤ enjoyed the video
Was she adopted and they never told her?!? How does this make any sense? 😢😢