This is a really profound one.🙇♀️🙌 Thanks sir and ma. I guess those who will have controversies about it need to watch again and again. They didn't say they were justified for falling before marriage.... What this video buttresses is the unreliability of trusting in oneself. That I want to stay sexually pure doesn't mean I can ever do it on my own... Except God helps... I hope we all get a deeper revelation of the grace in God. Sexual purity is God's will. But by any man's strength can he do it by himself.🙇♀️
Do you know that there some people who never had sex before marriage but few years afterwards ended up becoming adulters? Most of the times it was because it was a struggle on their part to have kept their bodies and not necessarily because they dependent on God..... So, when we talk about dependency on God for sexual purity it is very broad and must be from start to finish........... God's idea is not just before the marriage but afterwards it must still be cherished... No self righteous man can depend on God or wholly di the will of the Father. Thank you Tito for helping me understand how to go about these things.....
15 minutes into this video and you have fully described my relationship. Go to we keep falling and falling even last night. No sex but still very close to it and I was tired last night. We would cry and make rules and make promises and yet for months, we are not able to stop. Last night I fully understood that even when I say I am leaving it all to God, I am not, I am still trying to control everything with rules and my efforts. Now opening RUclips to see this video as the first video this morning is a divine arrangement. Thank you ma, may God continue to bless your union.
I was having a conversation with my sister some days ago and telling her how I had failed at sexual purity and she said "Stop focusing on it, because as you focus on it, the devil holds sway ... Truly relying on God is the only way! Thanks for this video!
This is really an eye-opener. This video just broke the word i received from the Holy Spirit some months back about my relationship down. He told me that we should focus on him and that He's going to keep us, and that it's not our will that'll keep us. Now I'll learn to just rely on God's help.
To reiterate what Tito said about focusing too much on no sex before marriage isn’t really the best. I watched true talk with Ella and Dara where Aunty Lara said sometimes when we focus on the things we don’t want to do, we tend to fall and she was talking along the lines of no sex before marriage. Just focus on all the other you want to do,stay careful and flee like God said and God will take care of you! Thank you so much for this video Tito🥰 The fact that my fave RUclipsrs are talking about sexual purity these few days means God is def speaking! Keep allowing God to speak through you!
Yes yes. I think we should focus more on God and what He wants us to do. Let that be the goal. That everyday we live, whatever we do, it is as led by God! Focusing on what we want to do isn’t a wise decision in the long run because like Paul said, we usually don’t do what we want to do! 😩God bless you Martey!❤️
Nope, I do not agree. Sexual purity is a big deal before marriage especially if you are in a relationship. Focus on keeping yourself out of trouble by applying wisdom. Not focusing on it would be detrimental to one’s holiness. This your auntie Lara is not the standard, Jesus is . Also knowing the ministries she’s affiliated with, Lara would never agree to this post by Titi..
@@PFNetworkSchools what exactly is the issue? Because you’re busy commenting on a lot of posts. Where in the video was it stated that sexual purity isn’t a big deal? Which one is hyper grace? Which sun isn’t a big deal? Which God are you defending? What’s going on?😂
Thank you for this inspiring clip. Now I understand why late Benson Idahosa said we should always lean on God's help. Pst Adeboye said "nobody can do anything except for the mercy, grace and favour of the Lord! I love you guys!
Mr Samuel said something so profound. "It's not a value point but a law for most people in the church" How do we breach this in the conversation of no sex before marriage in the church.
I think explaining the entirety of the gospel helps to give a clearer picture. Let people know what Jesus did, who they actually are, what the relationship with Jesus provides, the Holy Spirit, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ! Let grace train us. And watch people live the best versions of their lives borne out of a relationship and not rules!
This cuts across ever area of our life. For example, Whenever a take a hiatus from designing due to academic work, when I decide to come back to it and a client gives me a job, due to the break, my head would feel empty and my creative dull and I would just scream out or in my mind "God abeg". Suprisely, I come out with much better designs than when I'm trying to purge creativity from my mind myself or when I engage deep thinking by myself with my "This small thing, I can do it jhoor" thought. There are just two steps to the success of anything and nothing else. 1. Dependancy in God to help you succeed. 2. Consistent obedience to all his instructions that he would give.(which is still by his power to help you obey). Thank you ma for this. God bless you.
Omg this video blessed me!! I follow you on IG and TikTok but I never knew you had a RUclips channel so happy I found it. Everything you spoke about was amazing while listening the Holy Spirit changed my own thinking cause I am team no sex before marriage but the Holy Spirit brought me back to my constant fear and obsession of not wanting a broken home and picking the wrong spouse. While listening to you talking about surrendering to God and giving him the urges to not want to have sex before marriage, here and now I replaced sex for my unending fear of not wanting to end up having a broken home and choosing the wrong spouse. Due to my background there are so many broken homes and marriages where I am coming from and watching your video this morning just helped me realise that I can surrender this fear and burden I have carried for so long because God is strong enough to handle it. In the past I have always surrender it but some how I take it back from Gods hands through constant anxiety, questioning and the fear of what if. Thank you so so much Ma❤❤❤❤.
The point that stood out for me is "YOU CANNOT SIN YOUR WAY OUT OF SALVATION" i feel like the realisation of this word brings u out of the consciousness of SIN into the consciousness of who you are in Christ. God cannot love you less than He loves you right now.
I really appreciate how you guys were real with the whole teaching..I've been struggling this for close to 6 years with my fiance but recently I just surrendered everything to God and it has been going smoothly ...I no longer fall or feel guilty of the sins we've committed together... thank you for this ma and sir . God bless you richly
Hi! I don't mean to be intrusive but 6years? that's long, it is one of the reasons you have the challenge. Please set a timeline, when do you want to get married and what is holding you back. You know people by revelation not observation. Place a demand on yourself and your partner, ask and answer the critical question of when? So sorry if I intruded into your privacy. A thousand apologies in advance.
What can I say? Thank you Tito. I've been the person who "collected work from God" and took responsibility for their own purity for a long long time. I felt like staying sexually pure would ensure that my relationship would last for both our lives. Staying pure became the point, like you said. And then my relationship ended a few months ago and... In my disillusionment, I did some things that genuinely surprised even me 😂 And then God began to show me how much of my self worth I'd tied to my chastity, and how I should have tied my value to Him instead. And instead of feeling guilt for what I did, I started to feel peace. This, as you may imagine, was incredibly confusing for me 😂 I haven't really been able to talk about what happened and what God showed me afterwards to anyone else because I feel like it wouldn't really make any sense to them (it's still strange to me), but this video has given me so much context and so much information. Your doctrine is sound, and it made me immeasurably happy to just hear the Gospel, the true Gospel in this time when I really need it. What can I say Tito? Thank you.
@@sf-prime1161 I don't think there was anything in my comment that implied that at all. I didn't say my chastity being important to me was a bad thing, I said that the fact that it became the most important thing to me was a bad thing, which is objectively true. I was good in my eyes, not because I was saved by grace, but because I had never kissed a man before. That was a problem. Self righteousness is just as terrible and consumptive as fornication, or homosexuality, or any other thing you can think of. I hope that helps 👍🏾
Yes a key point here is FOCUS! If your aim is not to see or get A and your strategy is to keeping focusing on not seeing A, kai you will see A everywhere! But If your aim is not to see A, and then your strategy is to FOCUS on B, C ,D, F, G... Z then after a while you would even forget that A even existed! And this is a hooge game changer! Secondly is the dependence on God via an active, currently working, living relationship with God and not depending on yourself and rules and laws (they didn't say not SETTING nor keeping to them). I think this is the summary of this video... Oooh, I am soo glad I found and decided to listen to this video! Much love guysssss.
The kind of mental shift I just had🙏🏿. Thank you God because this is not only timely but it has lifted the burden from my strong head to learning to rest in you even in the subject of Purity. Thank you Tito ma'am for this!❤️
14 minutes in and I am already feeling the power in this video. This is going beyond the gist that brought me here. This is a whole sermon.TitOluwa, thank you for yielding o. Love, from🇸🇱
I think what should be taught more in singles forum or meeting is how to control sexual urges. Because they emphasize more on not having sex buh they fail to tell us how. Of course, there are times we have to see in a private place because I don't understand how a year or 2 yrs relationship will go without meeting at least once in a private place to discuss important issues. So our speakers should emphasize more on how to resist the devil and the reality. Not just wat they assume and they think it can be done Thanks
I jos love it and learning soo much. Basically Idolisation of Sexual purity takes us away from depending and focusing on God to strengthen our desire to honour him, it makes us self righteous because we think we can do it by ourself and at the end of the day there is no honour for God because it makes feel good and feel like we made it happens.
It's great that you guys were vulnerable to share and help those who have made mistakes to move on, repent and not feel guilty. however, the Truth is that GOD CAN HELP YOU TO BE SEXUALLY PURE THROUGH YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND COURTSHIP. With God's grace, help and giving you boundaries, YOU CAN REALLY DO IT WITH JESUS. This should not be an encouragement/excuse for sexual impurity. Read books, fellowship with the word of God together and you will be glad you did.
I know a lot of people will have issues with lot of truths disseminated in this clip, but to be honest, this is one of the best sermon I have heard so far...Welldone Sir&Ma...May the good Lord always be with you and Grace you more and more daily
I can across you tito in aproko dr channel then RUclips start to suggest your video's to me i have subscribed....am older than you both i can be a parents to you two but i have learnt one or from watching you two amazing couples ❤ nothing is more important than purpose in life ❤️
Thank you so much for this eye opener, and for being so open about your experience. Truly speaking it can be a lot, but focusing on it is going to make the whole relationship a big struggle
This brought so much light to my my mind. Thank you both so much! I'm not in a relationship yet, but I have harboured a fear of pre-marital sex for so long. But this is the beginning of my mind renewal. God is able to keep us from falling. Thank you again 💗
True but sin is detrimental to your growth in your salvation. You know the Bible says that because of the fear of God, men depart from inquity. Also the not Paul writing to the Philippians to work out their salvation with fear and trembling. Philippians 2.12.
@@chidimmaebereokonkwo416 I don't think there is nothing like growth in salvation but there is growth and maturity in our walk/relationship/fellowship with God. Also, the completion of that bible verse (Philippians 2:12-13) says for it is God who works in you to will and act in order to fulfill his good purpose. The problem is that most people don't complete that sentence. It is God who works in you.... SALVATION is not by your efforts/works.
Yeah. It's true that 'you can not sin your way out of salvation' ( being saved from the sinful nature, poverty, sicknesses, anxiety, stress and so on, by the finished works of Christ). Once you are saved, you are saved forever, and this is why we can still sin then come back to God and we're forgiven. But for how long do we want to remain a babe? I Corinthians 3:1-3. Then, what does Bible means when it says " work out your salvation with trembling and fear" . You know what, this Christianity is a partnership!. By partnership I mean: there's a role you need to play as a Christian in order to come to full expression of your walk with God, and there is also a role the holy spirit needs to play as well. This idea of 'grace teaching' needs to be well balanced, else people would be lawless. We should always remember that the ministry of grace was brought by Jesus as a means of EMPOWERMENT to walk with God and not a LICENCE to continue in our old ways, cos what's the point of salvation if we still live the same kind of life we lived before we were saved?. In summary, the real ESSENCE of salvation is to receive GRACE ( God's divine energy) in order to live a godly life. This may take time, but it's a possibility!. ( Romans 8:19). Now, the balance: the church of God today needs to be taught that, though even if you sin, you would l Be forgiven, but the EMPHASIS you still be on the fact that we can live HOLY cos Jesus has PAID price for our HOLINESS, and has even gone far as sending us the HOLY SPIRIT to remind us of everything he taught ( John 14:26b). The reason why it seems hard for us to live only is simply because we have relied so much on efforts or work to DO the THINGS OF THE SPIRIT ( holiness included) or we believe we just have to 'surrender' and allow the Holy spirit do the work. I reiterate: it's a partnership that involves active participation from a believer. Fortunately, the holy spirit is always available to help, but we're too pride or not truly ready to be purified, changed, healed etc
There are some typo errors like using ONLY instead of HOLY, and also using ' pride' instead of ' proud' Unfortunately, one can't edit his comment on RUclips lol
It's the way I laughed through out this video for me. I can't do anything with the help of God yet I will be acting like event planner to plan everything that will work😂😂💔. What a life!
God it's so hard, had to call off a relationship that barely started because of this same issue. Can two walk together except they be in agreement. It's hard to stay pure it's even harder when only one person see the need. Seems impossible to get a guy who even wants it.
Deeeeeeeeppppppp....Total dependence on God ...Having done all...stand .....You can only stand with God by your side ...without God, person go fall Thank you Tito and Sam....More grace peeps😊
W0w, thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!!!11 I don't know how I stumbled on your channel, but I feel like it was a divine arrangement. I have been dealing with so much guilt and thoughts in my relationship, wondering how to do things right. This was very timely. God bless you ma, sir.
This video just did it for me mehn! Need to watch it again with my wife. This was literally our story for 7 years of dating. Honesty it was God that kept us because omoooooooo. In fact it must have been God 😆 Thank you for sharing. This was so encouraging to watch. May the Grace of God always help us to do the right things always. And always remind us when we faulter that we are not condemned but redeemed. Love always from my wife and I ❤👍
In God is the total package… mentally, physically,spiritually and in all ramifications! A whole sermon my FAM! God bless you both o!! The rhema is rightly divided.
I have viewed some of your videos but never commented, but I will have to say this now. You guys are doing great, this message here comes from a place of understanding revealed by the Holy Spirit. Just like Jesus told Peter that flesh and blood did not reveal Christ to him. Thank you.
hi tito, i feel so blesed by this, because this is something i've been struggling with recently and I felt led by the holyspirit to watch this and he's really speaking to me from this that I've come to realize that I've been struggling with God over control for things I shouldn't be worried about but rather focus more on building my relationship with him by the help of the holyspirit and also reminds me of how when I beame born-again a lot of things got dropped without me even thinking of it, but just wanting to know more about God and being in his presence.. God bless you from being his vessel and speaking out about this because a lot of christians don't talk about this.
I get the point of not focusing on no Pre-marital sex. But, you can sin your way out of salvation.Continued Salvation is conditioned on living in accordance to the word of God by God’s enablement.
By the GRACE and WISDOM of God my wife and I didn't have sex before marriage and we didn't go there at all in anyway. Of course we intentionally set strict boundaries and measures to ensure. Nothing physical at all. 100% sexual purity is very possible. Thanks for your sincerity though...
I bless God for your lives... I pray also that God bless you both ijn. This entire energy we put into being sexually pure would be easier if we hand it ALL to God, period!!!. I pray to have a man who loves God and understands this(and many more things too🤪), Amen. P.S: her laughter/screams is so contagious 😂. We love you ❤❤❤
I'm blessed b by your words. I've gotten a good strategy to do what is required of me as a Christian in courtship. God bless you for the revelation. I just have a reservation as regards "you can't sin your way out of salvation". Yes we are still Christian even when we sin I know that part but the works done in our body will be judged on the last day if we haven't repented of it while still àlive.
It's not given unto man to direct his ways..it takes the help of the spirit to stand sexually pure as singles and stay faithful as the married... Thank you sir and ma,i have been blessed by these words... Let's do well to listen again and again especially those having issue with the right doctrine of sexual purity and faithfulness in marriage. God help us all 🙇🏼♀️
Oh my God.... I believe stumbling on this video is pure divine direction I really learnt alot.... thank you for sharing God bless your union in Jesus name
Thank You for this. As you were talking about sexual purity and submission to God, I was seeing another aspect of my life. Thank You. It sounded in others areas of my life
You guys are fabulously awesome! Kai God bless you... I learnt alot. Not many out there would have yielded to or even had the courage to letting us into their own personal experiences! So for others coming to give a comment! Know one thing! These people are sharing their experiences with us... This is not theory, this is what happened to them practically! And they have yielded to share this so intimate (at least to me I consider it such) details with us. They are not reading from a book, they are sharing what happened to them, telling you their past ... It happened to them oooo... It's not theory... So be wise when you come to comment! Learn to listen (not just hear), perceive and receive what God is trying to say to you. Don't listen so that you can begin contradicting and correcting or begging to differ... No matter how nice you try to put it... They may not have said or expressed or consolidated their thoughts in the most fantastic of ways or may not have used the best of terminologies or vocabulary or definitions and yes you may have your reservations here and there, but hey... It's better to ask questions if unclarified about anything in the video than just assuming that this is what they meant by what they said and then begin begging to differ... Also note that you can private message them via IG and you can also start your own RUclips channel ! Selah sweet hearts 💕🥰
You can actually sin your way out of salvation. Please read Ezekiel 33:17-20. Adam and Eve shouldn't have been sent out of the garden in the first place if there's such thing as "you can't sin your way out of salvation"- that is why we need to be watchful as Christians. Also, is Matthew 7:21-23 nothing to you? May God help us.
@@blessedbunyan Please please!!! Don’t be saying what you don’t know. How can you quote Ezekiel for something that was made available after Jesus died? And also Adam and Eve? Had Jesus been revealed to the world? Had he fulfilled his ministry? Had he fulfilled the law? Was Adam and Eve born again? No now. Don’t just argue. Please read your Bible. Read from Romans to Revelations. Read. And ask that the Holy Spirit open your eyes. You CANNT SIN YOUR WAY OUT OF SALVATION!
This will be the last here tho, do you claim the promises in the old testament? Why do you do that when Christ wasn't revealed at that time? The Bible is whole, everything written before Christ was revealed is a pointer to what we're experiencing now. What do you have to say about Matt7:21-23 (the word of Christ Himself)? Finally, remember Judas Iscariot was saved but lost his salvation. May God help us!
Thank you. This is beautiful! Key notes: God’s grace Not by my strength Relationship with God God’s Leading Total dependence Understanding who you are in Christ
I’m so blessed to have come across this video, so powerful. We cannot do anything on our own- we need & must depend on God for EVERYTHING like children depending on their parents. God bless you both ❤
I wish I could pass a comment on every of your statements. Each is loaded with realities. The part of giving one's life to Christ, I usually say that I had no life let alone having one to give. Rather, He gave me His life! This video is quite helpful. I made a decision years back, not like yours though. I'm close to its expiry and the thought of going back comes to me everyday! Of course, I have learnt to do things from the place of rest but it seems I've excluded that decision from the list. But this minute, I do ALL things from the place of rest. I receive the enablement that Christ gives. I receive God's grace and I am helped by Him. Thank you so much for this.
God loves you and desires you to be His Child. He died on the cross so you could be alive. We're all born sinners and we receive salvation by accepting christ as our Lord and savior. Accept Him today and He'll be your father.
Jesus loves youuu and wants you...He has seen you and how you want to please your mum...He says it's not by your works, but by His Grace.. He loves you
Thank you for this video 😭😭😭 I just came across your channel this evening and I have been super blessed This video opened to my eyes to see how much God wants me to totally depend on Him for my entire life 🥹🥹🥹 I’m actually short of words right now but my prayer for you guys it that you won’t fail God and you won’t stop yielding🤲🏾🤲🏾
While It is true that God through His Spirit helps us in living a holy life, the Christian too has the responsibility to "Flee" from any situations and conditions that will make you vulnerable to premarital sex. That's my take on this issue
You speak exactly like my bishop Bishop mike okonkwo I blessed the day I found you on Instagram and since that day I have being glued Thank you for preaching the gospel (Jesus)
Amazing video. You guys are doing well! First time here but I've watched many videos. But please, I'll suggest that the Mrs allows the Mr talk. He starts and then she overshadows him. Seen it in most videos
I was just passing when I saw this video and I honestly just wanted to watch the first five minutes and pass, but somehow I watched till the end 😅. The caption of this video doesn't do justice to the content of this video honestly. God bless you both ❤
Coming across your page, then to this video for the very first time, really made my morning.❤️Words and thoughts inspired by God 💯thank you for yielding, and putting this up!✨
@TitOluwa Sam-Oladapo Thank you very much on this topic.... very precised. But i want to ask this question......during that time you guys were vulnerable did it occur to you that the relationship was not purposeful or Mr Samuel was not the right person. And how did you deal with it. Thank you
This is a really profound one.🙇♀️🙌
Thanks sir and ma.
I guess those who will have controversies about it need to watch again and again.
They didn't say they were justified for falling before marriage....
What this video buttresses is the unreliability of trusting in oneself.
That I want to stay sexually pure doesn't mean I can ever do it on my own...
Except God helps...
I hope we all get a deeper revelation of the grace in God.
Sexual purity is God's will.
But by any man's strength can he do it by himself.🙇♀️
Amen!! End of story!!!!
Exactly the point
Very Apt!
Do you know that there some people who never had sex before marriage but few years afterwards ended up becoming adulters? Most of the times it was because it was a struggle on their part to have kept their bodies and not necessarily because they dependent on God.....
So, when we talk about dependency on God for sexual purity it is very broad and must be from start to finish...........
God's idea is not just before the marriage but afterwards it must still be cherished...
No self righteous man can depend on God or wholly di the will of the Father.
Thank you Tito for helping me understand how to go about these things.....
15 minutes into this video and you have fully described my relationship. Go to we keep falling and falling even last night. No sex but still very close to it and I was tired last night. We would cry and make rules and make promises and yet for months, we are not able to stop. Last night I fully understood that even when I say I am leaving it all to God, I am not, I am still trying to control everything with rules and my efforts.
Now opening RUclips to see this video as the first video this morning is a divine arrangement. Thank you ma, may God continue to bless your union.
Same with me. God help us
You need to stop visiting him in his house and other private places. No sleep overs, no cohabitation
I was having a conversation with my sister some days ago and telling her how I had failed at sexual purity and she said "Stop focusing on it, because as you focus on it, the devil holds sway ... Truly relying on God is the only way! Thanks for this video!
Not Sam being shy lol! He's a good man Savannah!! This is my current favorite YT channel. Much love from Kenya! 🇰🇪
This is really an eye-opener. This video just broke the word i received from the Holy Spirit some months back about my relationship down. He told me that we should focus on him and that He's going to keep us, and that it's not our will that'll keep us.
Now I'll learn to just rely on God's help.
To reiterate what Tito said about focusing too much on no sex before marriage isn’t really the best.
I watched true talk with Ella and Dara where Aunty Lara said sometimes when we focus on the things we don’t want to do, we tend to fall and she was talking along the lines of no sex before marriage.
Just focus on all the other you want to do,stay careful and flee like God said and God will take care of you!
Thank you so much for this video Tito🥰
The fact that my fave RUclipsrs are talking about sexual purity these few days means God is def speaking!
Keep allowing God to speak through you!
Yes yes. I think we should focus more on God and what He wants us to do. Let that be the goal. That everyday we live, whatever we do, it is as led by God! Focusing on what we want to do isn’t a wise decision in the long run because like Paul said, we usually don’t do what we want to do! 😩God bless you Martey!❤️
Amennnn, Keep making Jesus proud!🥰
Nope, I do not agree. Sexual purity is a big deal before marriage especially if you are in a relationship. Focus on keeping yourself out of trouble by applying wisdom. Not focusing on it would be detrimental to one’s holiness. This your auntie Lara is not the standard, Jesus is . Also knowing the ministries she’s affiliated with, Lara would never agree to this post by Titi..
@@PFNetworkSchools what exactly is the issue? Because you’re busy commenting on a lot of posts. Where in the video was it stated that sexual purity isn’t a big deal? Which one is hyper grace? Which sun isn’t a big deal? Which God are you defending? What’s going on?😂
Thank you for this inspiring clip. Now I understand why late Benson Idahosa said we should always lean on God's help. Pst Adeboye said "nobody can do anything except for the mercy, grace and favour of the Lord!
I love you guys!
Thanks for sharing because most people just say they did not have sex until marriage but they don't tell us the struggles
I love that you caught it! We’re all trying tbh! Thank you for watching!💜
I'm telling you.
Abi?
People rarely tell us the behind the scenes.
Father I receive the grace to live the way you want us to live in this season of this relationship
I cried... This is so profound
I trust God to keep and preserve me for Him.
Mr Samuel said something so profound. "It's not a value point but a law for most people in the church" How do we breach this in the conversation of no sex before marriage in the church.
I think explaining the entirety of the gospel helps to give a clearer picture. Let people know what Jesus did, who they actually are, what the relationship with Jesus provides, the Holy Spirit, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ! Let grace train us. And watch people live the best versions of their lives borne out of a relationship and not rules!
Very very profound point he made
This cuts across ever area of our life. For example,
Whenever a take a hiatus from designing due to academic work, when I decide to come back to it and a client gives me a job, due to the break, my head would feel empty and my creative dull and I would just scream out or in my mind "God abeg".
Suprisely, I come out with much better designs than when I'm trying to purge creativity from my mind myself or when I engage deep thinking by myself with my "This small thing, I can do it jhoor" thought.
There are just two steps to the success of anything and nothing else.
1. Dependancy in God to help you succeed.
2. Consistent obedience to all his instructions that he would give.(which is still by his power to help you obey).
Thank you ma for this. God bless you.
Omg this video blessed me!! I follow you on IG and TikTok but I never knew you had a RUclips channel so happy I found it. Everything you spoke about was amazing while listening the Holy Spirit changed my own thinking cause I am team no sex before marriage but the Holy Spirit brought me back to my constant fear and obsession of not wanting a broken home and picking the wrong spouse. While listening to you talking about surrendering to God and giving him the urges to not want to have sex before marriage, here and now I replaced sex for my unending fear of not wanting to end up having a broken home and choosing the wrong spouse. Due to my background there are so many broken homes and marriages where I am coming from and watching your video this morning just helped me realise that I can surrender this fear and burden I have carried for so long because God is strong enough to handle it. In the past I have always surrender it but some how I take it back from Gods hands through constant anxiety, questioning and the fear of what if. Thank you so so much Ma❤❤❤❤.
The point that stood out for me is "YOU CANNOT SIN YOUR WAY OUT OF SALVATION" i feel like the realisation of this word brings u out of the consciousness of SIN into the consciousness of who you are in Christ. God cannot love you less than He loves you right now.
Kimon!!!!!!
I really appreciate how you guys were real with the whole teaching..I've been struggling this for close to 6 years with my fiance but recently I just surrendered everything to God and it has been going smoothly ...I no longer fall or feel guilty of the sins we've committed together... thank you for this ma and sir . God bless you richly
Hi! I don't mean to be intrusive but 6years? that's long, it is one of the reasons you have the challenge. Please set a timeline, when do you want to get married and what is holding you back. You know people by revelation not observation. Place a demand on yourself and your partner, ask and answer the critical question of when? So sorry if I intruded into your privacy. A thousand apologies in advance.
Fiancing for 6yrs??
May God help.us
@@nazzichess.clotheline 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What can I say? Thank you Tito.
I've been the person who "collected work from God" and took responsibility for their own purity for a long long time. I felt like staying sexually pure would ensure that my relationship would last for both our lives. Staying pure became the point, like you said.
And then my relationship ended a few months ago and... In my disillusionment, I did some things that genuinely surprised even me 😂
And then God began to show me how much of my self worth I'd tied to my chastity, and how I should have tied my value to Him instead. And instead of feeling guilt for what I did, I started to feel peace. This, as you may imagine, was incredibly confusing for me 😂
I haven't really been able to talk about what happened and what God showed me afterwards to anyone else because I feel like it wouldn't really make any sense to them (it's still strange to me), but this video has given me so much context and so much information. Your doctrine is sound, and it made me immeasurably happy to just hear the Gospel, the true Gospel in this time when I really need it.
What can I say Tito?
Thank you.
Did your relationship end because you made sure staying pure was the goal, or u felt u should have felt more relaxed ?
and how is holding your chastity as a value a bad thing ?
@@sf-prime1161 I'm not sure if I fully understand your question, but no, it didn't end because we had purity as a goal.
@@sf-prime1161 I don't think there was anything in my comment that implied that at all. I didn't say my chastity being important to me was a bad thing, I said that the fact that it became the most important thing to me was a bad thing, which is objectively true.
I was good in my eyes, not because I was saved by grace, but because I had never kissed a man before. That was a problem. Self righteousness is just as terrible and consumptive as fornication, or homosexuality, or any other thing you can think of.
I hope that helps 👍🏾
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Yes a key point here is FOCUS!
If your aim is not to see or get A and your strategy is to keeping focusing on not seeing A, kai you will see A everywhere!
But
If your aim is not to see A, and then your strategy is to FOCUS on B, C ,D, F, G... Z then after a while you would even forget that A even existed!
And this is a hooge game changer!
Secondly is the dependence on God via an active, currently working, living relationship with God and not depending on yourself and rules and laws (they didn't say not SETTING nor keeping to them).
I think this is the summary of this video...
Oooh, I am soo glad I found and decided to listen to this video!
Much love guysssss.
The kind of mental shift I just had🙏🏿. Thank you God because this is not only timely but it has lifted the burden from my strong head to learning to rest in you even in the subject of Purity. Thank you Tito ma'am for this!❤️
14 minutes in and I am already feeling the power in this video. This is going beyond the gist that brought me here. This is a whole sermon.TitOluwa, thank you for yielding o. Love, from🇸🇱
You just earned a subscriber. I am glad to have chanced on your video!
I think what should be taught more in singles forum or meeting is how to control sexual urges. Because they emphasize more on not having sex buh they fail to tell us how.
Of course, there are times we have to see in a private place because I don't understand how a year or 2 yrs relationship will go without meeting at least once in a private place to discuss important issues.
So our speakers should emphasize more on how to resist the devil and the reality. Not just wat they assume and they think it can be done
Thanks
I jos love it and learning soo much. Basically Idolisation of Sexual purity takes us away from depending and focusing on God to strengthen our desire to honour him, it makes us self righteous because we think we can do it by ourself and at the end of the day there is no honour for God because it makes feel good and feel like we made it happens.
It's great that you guys were vulnerable to share and help those who have made mistakes to move on, repent and not feel guilty. however, the Truth is that GOD CAN HELP YOU TO BE SEXUALLY PURE THROUGH YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND COURTSHIP. With God's grace, help and giving you boundaries, YOU CAN REALLY DO IT WITH JESUS. This should not be an encouragement/excuse for sexual impurity. Read books, fellowship with the word of God together and you will be glad you did.
I know a lot of people will have issues with lot of truths disseminated in this clip, but to be honest, this is one of the best sermon I have heard so far...Welldone Sir&Ma...May the good Lord always be with you and Grace you more and more daily
I can across you tito in aproko dr channel then RUclips start to suggest your video's to me i have subscribed....am older than you both i can be a parents to you two but i have learnt one or from watching you two amazing couples ❤ nothing is more important than purpose in life ❤️
Thank you so much for this eye opener, and for being so open about your experience.
Truly speaking it can be a lot, but focusing on it is going to make the whole relationship a big struggle
This brought so much light to my my mind. Thank you both so much! I'm not in a relationship yet, but I have harboured a fear of pre-marital sex for so long. But this is the beginning of my mind renewal. God is able to keep us from falling. Thank you again 💗
Rejoice not oh my enemy, for when I fall, i shall rise up; and when I sit in darkness the Lord will be my light.
Micah 7:8
Thank you Jesus, I finally found this page! Thank you ma and sir
This is really timely for me. God just used you to help me out of this situation.
I must say I love the fact that Tito knows this and said "you cannot sin your way out of salvation". Many Christians are yet to understand this.
True but sin is detrimental to your growth in your salvation. You know the Bible says that because of the fear of God, men depart from inquity. Also the not Paul writing to the Philippians to work out their salvation with fear and trembling. Philippians 2.12.
@@chidimmaebereokonkwo416 I don't think there is nothing like growth in salvation but there is growth and maturity in our walk/relationship/fellowship with God. Also, the completion of that bible verse (Philippians 2:12-13) says for it is God who works in you to will and act in order to fulfill his good purpose. The problem is that most people don't complete that sentence. It is God who works in you.... SALVATION is not by your efforts/works.
Yeah. It's true that 'you can not sin your way out of salvation' ( being saved from the sinful nature, poverty, sicknesses, anxiety, stress and so on, by the finished works of Christ). Once you are saved, you are saved forever, and this is why we can still sin then come back to God and we're forgiven. But for how long do we want to remain a babe? I Corinthians 3:1-3. Then, what does Bible means when it says " work out your salvation with trembling and fear" . You know what, this Christianity is a partnership!. By partnership I mean: there's a role you need to play as a Christian in order to come to full expression of your walk with God, and there is also a role the holy spirit needs to play as well. This idea of 'grace teaching' needs to be well balanced, else people would be lawless. We should always remember that the ministry of grace was brought by Jesus as a means of EMPOWERMENT to walk with God and not a LICENCE to continue in our old ways, cos what's the point of salvation if we still live the same kind of life we lived before we were saved?. In summary, the real ESSENCE of salvation is to receive GRACE ( God's divine energy) in order to live a godly life. This may take time, but it's a possibility!. ( Romans 8:19).
Now, the balance: the church of God today needs to be taught that, though even if you sin, you would l
Be forgiven, but the EMPHASIS you still be on the fact that we can live HOLY cos Jesus has PAID price for our HOLINESS, and has even gone far as sending us the HOLY SPIRIT to remind us of everything he taught ( John 14:26b). The reason why it seems hard for us to live only is simply because we have relied so much on efforts or work to DO the THINGS OF THE SPIRIT ( holiness included) or we believe we just have to 'surrender' and allow the Holy spirit do the work. I reiterate: it's a partnership that involves active participation from a believer. Fortunately, the holy spirit is always available to help, but we're too pride or not truly ready to be purified, changed, healed etc
There are some typo errors like using ONLY instead of HOLY, and also using ' pride' instead of ' proud'
Unfortunately, one can't edit his comment on RUclips lol
It's the way I laughed through out this video for me. I can't do anything with the help of God yet I will be acting like event planner to plan everything that will work😂😂💔. What a life!
What a life!!!🤣🤣
The fact that I have exams next week but I can't leave your page.
Omooo there's so much value here. Thank you 💓
I appreciate this!!
God it's so hard, had to call off a relationship that barely started because of this same issue. Can two walk together except they be in agreement. It's hard to stay pure it's even harder when only one person see the need. Seems impossible to get a guy who even wants it.
It's well. The Lord will help you
It's true ey and the other thing is if you fall you'll be the only person to repend and feeling guilty
Deeeeeeeeppppppp....Total dependence on God ...Having done all...stand .....You can only stand with God by your side ...without God, person go fall
Thank you Tito and Sam....More grace peeps😊
Just few minutes into the video and I'm already laughing my eyes out.
You both are hilarious😂😂😂
See you at the end!
I actually watched because of Sam😂 Tito,your enthusiasm about sending the right message is just beautiful 😍!God bless your beautiful union
This video blessed me.
Thank you for shining the light!
Love you both!
W0w, thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!!!11
I don't know how I stumbled on your channel, but I feel like it was a divine arrangement. I have been dealing with so much guilt and thoughts in my relationship, wondering how to do things right. This was very timely. God bless you ma, sir.
This video just did it for me mehn! Need to watch it again with my wife. This was literally our story for 7 years of dating. Honesty it was God that kept us because omoooooooo. In fact it must have been God 😆
Thank you for sharing. This was so encouraging to watch. May the Grace of God always help us to do the right things always. And always remind us when we faulter that we are not condemned but redeemed.
Love always from my wife and I ❤👍
In God is the total package… mentally, physically,spiritually and in all ramifications! A whole sermon my FAM! God bless you both o!! The rhema is rightly divided.
Love how real Bolaji is, yet grounded in the word!
I have viewed some of your videos but never commented, but I will have to say this now. You guys are doing great, this message here comes from a place of understanding revealed by the Holy Spirit. Just like Jesus told Peter that flesh and blood did not reveal Christ to him. Thank you.
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This video is spot-on and practical.
Every believer struggling with self righteous, sexual purity and sin consciousness should watch this.
This video is indeed timely😭. Thank you Sir and Ma.
hi tito, i feel so blesed by this, because this is something i've been struggling with recently and I felt led by the holyspirit to watch this and he's really speaking to me from this that I've come to realize that I've been struggling with God over control for things I shouldn't be worried about but rather focus more on building my relationship with him by the help of the holyspirit and also reminds me of how when I beame born-again a lot of things got dropped without me even thinking of it, but just wanting to know more about God and being in his presence.. God bless you from being his vessel and speaking out about this because a lot of christians don't talk about this.
I get the point of not focusing on no Pre-marital sex. But, you can sin your way out of salvation.Continued Salvation is conditioned on living in accordance to the word of God by God’s enablement.
By the GRACE and WISDOM of God my wife and I didn't have sex before marriage and we didn't go there at all in anyway. Of course we intentionally set strict boundaries and measures to ensure. Nothing physical at all. 100% sexual purity is very possible.
Thanks for your sincerity though...
I bless God for your lives... I pray also that God bless you both ijn. This entire energy we put into being sexually pure would be easier if we hand it ALL to God, period!!!.
I pray to have a man who loves God and understands this(and many more things too🤪), Amen.
P.S: her laughter/screams is so contagious 😂. We love you ❤❤❤
I’m so blessed by this💖💖🙌🏻 Omo, in a nutshell, I love you guys❤️ God bless you both❤️
I'm blessed b by your words. I've gotten a good strategy to do what is required of me as a Christian in courtship. God bless you for the revelation.
I just have a reservation as regards "you can't sin your way out of salvation".
Yes we are still Christian even when we sin I know that part but the works done in our body will be judged on the last day if we haven't repented of it while still àlive.
You guys just look amazing together and your husband look much more older than you one can never imagine he is two years younger than you
You're blind. He looks younger
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@isaaconyinyechigift419 You can still leave your comment without being insultive about it.
God bless you both. Thank you for yielding to the Holy Spirit to share this. Gosh! What a mind shift!
Finally someone addressed this!!
I love you tito❤️❤️
Great Word.
God richly bless you.
Thank you very much
The message shared was educative hence, We need Bro Sam to talk more too, and sometimes let him talk the talk more often. ❤❤
We love you both❤❤❤
3 minutes in and her energy has stolen my attention 😂👏👏
Thank you for this 🙏🏽
This was sent to me in a time of need
I Thank God for the work He is doing through you
This is truth. God-filled in every word. God has blessed you both! Lots of love
I was supposed to subscribe and I saw this on my yt
Lol
God no Dey joke
It's not given unto man to direct his ways..it takes the help of the spirit to stand sexually pure as singles and stay faithful as the married...
Thank you sir and ma,i have been blessed by these words...
Let's do well to listen again and again especially those having issue with the right doctrine of sexual purity and faithfulness in marriage.
God help us all 🙇🏼♀️
Oh my God.... I believe stumbling on this video is pure divine direction
I really learnt alot.... thank you for sharing
God bless your union in Jesus name
Oh wow i needed to hear this!!God bless you both.🥰
See this is the leading of the Holy Spirit!! Thank you both! Thanks for being REAL!
Omo!! This is so deep and rich.
Thank you sooo much Mr & Mrs Oladapo. God bless you🙏
Thank You for this. As you were talking about sexual purity and submission to God, I was seeing another aspect of my life. Thank You. It sounded in others areas of my life
I strongly believe it's not a coincidence that I ran into this content at this time.
Thanks for this light you've revealed to us. God bless you
You guys are fabulously awesome!
Kai God bless you...
I learnt alot.
Not many out there would have yielded to or even had the courage to letting us into their own personal experiences!
So for others coming to give a comment!
Know one thing!
These people are sharing their experiences with us...
This is not theory, this is what happened to them practically! And they have yielded to share this so intimate (at least to me I consider it such) details with us.
They are not reading from a book, they are sharing what happened to them, telling you their past ... It happened to them oooo... It's not theory...
So be wise when you come to comment!
Learn to listen (not just hear), perceive and receive what God is trying to say to you.
Don't listen so that you can begin contradicting and correcting or begging to differ...
No matter how nice you try to put it...
They may not have said or expressed or consolidated their thoughts in the most fantastic of ways or may not have used the best of terminologies or vocabulary or definitions and yes you may have your reservations here and there, but hey...
It's better to ask questions if unclarified about anything in the video than just assuming that this is what they meant by what they said and then begin begging to differ...
Also note that you can private message them via IG and you can also start your own RUclips channel !
Selah sweet hearts 💕🥰
😂good one
Yes! Salvation is free. It is a gift to us. We are saved by Grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our efforts or works.
Exactly! I hope people(Christian will understand is not by works).
Interestingly I read Romans 7 this morning and now its in the video. Thanks.
Thank you so much. I'm really blessed by this message ❤️
This is so loaded!! I'm not even in a relationship and I learned so much. God bless you both!
"You can't sin your way out of salvation". That hit home for me!!!! Eeiiiiii 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Ayeee 🔥!!!
You can actually sin your way out of salvation. Please read Ezekiel 33:17-20. Adam and Eve shouldn't have been sent out of the garden in the first place if there's such thing as "you can't sin your way out of salvation"- that is why we need to be watchful as Christians.
Also, is Matthew 7:21-23 nothing to you? May God help us.
@@blessedbunyan Please please!!! Don’t be saying what you don’t know. How can you quote Ezekiel for something that was made available after Jesus died? And also Adam and Eve? Had Jesus been revealed to the world? Had he fulfilled his ministry? Had he fulfilled the law? Was Adam and Eve born again? No now. Don’t just argue. Please read your Bible. Read from Romans to Revelations. Read. And ask that the Holy Spirit open your eyes. You CANNT SIN YOUR WAY OUT OF SALVATION!
@@titoluwasam-oladapo can I like this reply more than once?? 😂😂😂
This will be the last here tho, do you claim the promises in the old testament? Why do you do that when Christ wasn't revealed at that time? The Bible is whole, everything written before Christ was revealed is a pointer to what we're experiencing now.
What do you have to say about Matt7:21-23 (the word of Christ Himself)?
Finally, remember Judas Iscariot was saved but lost his salvation.
May God help us!
I was tremendously blessed by this
The Lord bless you sir and ma
I'd like a session with you
Thank you. This is beautiful!
Key notes:
God’s grace
Not by my strength
Relationship with God
God’s Leading
Total dependence
Understanding who you are in Christ
Yes!! Thank you!!
God bless you ma cause this would really help my generation Christians to understand cause this has brought a better understanding to me 🙇🙇
I love the fact that it was scriptural based. God bless you and your union.
"You can not sin your way out of salvation." Word.
I don't subscribe to just any channel because I'm doing a clean-up, it's my third video at a sitting and this made me subscribe. Thanks for this.
Kaiiiiii, ma'am I'm really grateful, I'm really grateful. God bless you for this ❤
I’m so blessed to have come across this video, so powerful. We cannot do anything on our own- we need & must depend on God for EVERYTHING like children depending on their parents. God bless you both ❤
Wow!!! God is just too amazing!❤ It's how I was just led to watch this video for me. Thank you so much guys! This blessed me in no small way!❤❤❤
This video is power packed!!!! You serve God by His spirit and put no confidence in the flesh!!! Thank you Tito 💙
I wish I could pass a comment on every of your statements. Each is loaded with realities.
The part of giving one's life to Christ, I usually say that I had no life let alone having one to give. Rather, He gave me His life!
This video is quite helpful. I made a decision years back, not like yours though. I'm close to its expiry and the thought of going back comes to me everyday!
Of course, I have learnt to do things from the place of rest but it seems I've excluded that decision from the list. But this minute, I do ALL things from the place of rest.
I receive the enablement that Christ gives.
I receive God's grace and I am helped by Him.
Thank you so much for this.
Felt this!!!!!!!!
I think most people having issues with this video just need to rewatch with an open heart......
I’m not even a Christian,But I absolutely love the vulnerability and sincerely in this video!I plus love your vibes 😂🥂
We love you
God loves you and desires you to be His Child. He died on the cross so you could be alive. We're all born sinners and we receive salvation by accepting christ as our Lord and savior. Accept Him today and He'll be your father.
Jesus loves youuu and wants you...He has seen you and how you want to please your mum...He says it's not by your works, but by His Grace..
He loves you
We focus on trying to be Holy , that we cant with out The Help of the Lord
Thanks for dis message very helpful
Thank you for this video 😭😭😭 I just came across your channel this evening and I have been super blessed
This video opened to my eyes to see how much God wants me to totally depend on Him for my entire life 🥹🥹🥹
I’m actually short of words right now but my prayer for you guys it that you won’t fail God and you won’t stop yielding🤲🏾🤲🏾
While It is true that God through His Spirit helps us in living a holy life, the Christian too has the responsibility to "Flee" from any situations and conditions that will make you vulnerable to premarital sex. That's my take on this issue
I think this video is half truth and I consider it dangerous
You speak exactly like my bishop
Bishop mike okonkwo
I blessed the day I found you on Instagram and since that day I have being glued
Thank you for preaching the gospel (Jesus)
Wow!
This is my first time engaging..
Trust me i got value...May God bless you for being real.
Learnt so much from this Video. May God help us to stay faithful to him 🙏.
Amazing video.
You guys are doing well! First time here but I've watched many videos.
But please, I'll suggest that the Mrs allows the Mr talk. He starts and then she overshadows him. Seen it in most videos
You nailed it sis and bro,this thought has kept me in bond for so long,thank God for this knowledge it has really freed me,knowledge is truly powerful
I can relate to this so well. Thank you for sharing this. Most believers don’t share this part.
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Who did the research?
It's not an often shared part though 😜
True word!! Thank you for loving Jesus!!
Thank you so much ❤️
This gave me so much clarity
I was just passing when I saw this video and I honestly just wanted to watch the first five minutes and pass, but somehow I watched till the end 😅. The caption of this video doesn't do justice to the content of this video honestly. God bless you both ❤
Coming across your page, then to this video for the very first time, really made my morning.❤️Words and thoughts inspired by God 💯thank you for yielding, and putting this up!✨
@TitOluwa Sam-Oladapo
Thank you very much on this topic.... very precised.
But i want to ask this question......during that time you guys were vulnerable did it occur to you that the relationship was not purposeful or Mr Samuel was not the right person.
And how did you deal with it.
Thank you