My dad caught me smoking when i was 17 too, he didnt say anything, no scolding no slapping. Later that night i found him secretly wipe his tears as he look at my mom photo (my mom and dad divorced when i was on elementary school). Then i promise to myself i wont cause any trouble again. That was an emotional episode for me so I just want the boy on this concern to be more considerate, being a single dad isnt easy, raising kids without a mom to share every problem is so stressing
*I started crying so much for the son as fast as I saw him. The look is in his eyes was not telling me that he is enjoying his life while drinking and smoking unlike others teenagers in his older that thinks it fun. I don't get it how many people here are hating on him. His eyes was telling me that it's hard for him too, he is tired and the only thing he can do is drink and smoke and that many things is boiled inside him. He is not a trash like everyone is saying, no he seems like a sad boy and that breaks my heart into hundred pieces. Everyone looked from the father's perspective but no on tried look at the sons as much. Even though I cried for the dad too because the look in his eyes was similar to his sons. Both of them are tired.*
Omg! Thank you! I thought the same. He clearly has attachment issues bc of the divorce and is showing avoidant and self destructive behaviors. That boy just needs a lot of love and support and a good psychologist to help him out figure out what's on his mind. I cried when I saw this video, bc I've been through similar issues and I still live with anxiety to this day bc of my childhood traumas. I too lived like nothing was wrong until I was 15 and then I started to understand that my childhood was just wrong. I had similar coping mechanisms, but thankfully, I was able to go through life and solve my issues on my own with the help of a therapist a few years later, but just like my therapist said, I am not the norm. So I can only imagine what this poor boy is going through. I was able to sustain all of this and become a healthy adult, but the majority of these kids usually continue showing the self destructive behaviors in their adult life. Btw, the fact that the father is permissive is not a good thing. Permissive parenthood is not healthy and does not create secure attachment. Besides, he's only permissive because he wants to ignore the fact that he has not been able to give the support the child needs. Look, I can understand that being a single parent is hard, but it's not the child's responsibility to understand that. Single parenthood is problematic. Most children from single parent households develop psychological problems that usually stem from a lack of secure attachment. Sure it may be hard for the father, but it's not the child's fault. The child has not asked to be born into a single parent household. We're talking about a minor here. Not an adult. Children need love and support. And most of the time, a single parent's best effort is NOT enough. It's the hard truth. If he's not able to solve the issue on his own, it's the father's responsibility to look for professional help. The child has to understand nothing. The child doesn't have to act like an adult. And I'm here to tell everyone that acting like an adult when you are a kid, reverse roles will leave scars for the rest of your life, bc I have been through it. So don't ask the child to "be the bigger person" or "be more understanding". The child is already blaming himself enough! These comments are the worse and really triggered me. Sorry if I sound too harsh.
Trembling hands, dilated eyes, dry mouth, dark circles, defensive attitude, high expenditure etc... he is addicted and is most probably on some drugs as well. he needs to go to rehab asap
I honestly believe the son is suffering from a depressive disorder . Drinking and smoking- addictive behaviours , are all associated with depressive disorder and he is displaying many signs of it. Saying he cant quit, but no admitting his is addicted is also typical addict behaviour. He needs to speak to some professional therapists. Mental health in young people( males especially) isn't paid enough attention to in korea
@@mygradeflife2754 this could be true because if his parents divorced when he was 8 he might've blamed himself or just got too caught up in the mess. as a child of divorced parents i am also struggling with depressive disorder besides some other things like anxiety and ptsd so i do understand what he went through and it is possible for him to be struggling with some mental illness. i also do understand him when it comes to alcohol and smoking(weed) because i also did use that to make myself feel better but hence my mom is an alchoholic and my dad is a drug addict i saw what it did to them, their marriage and in the longer term me and my sister. i do think he is addicted but as long as he doesnt want to admit he has a problem theres absolutely no way he's getting better any time soon. i really wish he realises it and gets proper help because if he doesnt i am really worried about his future.
The shaky hands might be due to anxiety. A close friend of mine has the exact same thing, hand tremors. She was diagnosed for it being some sort of anxiety thing. Maybe that's what he has considering that he said he had it before he started drinking.
the son's eyes held no emotion, they were just completely blank. I think he's burying some demons with alcohol and cigarettes. I hope he gets therapy or goes to rehab before he starts relying on other drugs. plus, he needs new friends, going to somebody else's house on a daily basis to drink & make noise is poor behavior & they need to be dropped ASAP.
it really looked like he was numb and hes dealing with major shit. But everyone just went against him rather than ask him if he was okay or if there was a true reason behind this. I believe he needs to get his mental health checkup because i can promise you, hes depressed
Joyce Chen that’s the biggest grievance I have about this show. They treated him like a criminal instead of a victim. barely scratched surface about what’s going on with him & I agree, he’s depressed - those eyes say a lot & his dad is hurting as well cause he’s trying but doesn’t know what to do.
Cultural differences... Sadly people from different countries see things differently, which for us is shocking, but for them it's normal. But again, it's just the culture, some cultures are more accepting of certain things whereas others aren't.
In my opinion, mostly in asia or asian people especially when youre a male, people are not strick on you. They do not judge you heavily as female. Male critics tends to be push asibe because of their "good" quality. . . . With this issue, it's very minimal, and we think we have a much tougher situations than this. We also see this at any generation...we see this as rebelion or the person has nothing else to do because the parents are too good to them. Personally, i don't really see this as a big problem, just a bit since it is affecting his studies. Btw, most asian men tend to get into either smoking or drinking at any age they want to start then it's very hard to take it from them.
I think because the crowd is mixed in ages. From a parent or mature adult perspective this is obviously wrong, but I can imagine many of the young adults his age and in their early 20s that are in the audience don't see it is as a big deal and think the dad is just overreacting
Where I'm from this is totally normal. We are allowed to drink in public at age 18 and usually on Saterdays we drink a bit of wine with our families (religion). I know alot of the girls in my age smoke, drinking isn't weird to do though it depense where since we aren't allowed in public or to drink in the streets in general (unlike Korea). The son has to understand why what he's doing is wrong since it effecting his studies. [sorry if my english isn't the best]
Everyone saying here it's not a big concern in Asia but no its actually wrong, just think realistically. The continent doesn't even matter because I think everything is the same. Of course mmy things it's a big issue but as much people who thinks it's a issue there is many who thinks it's not that shocking even though its wrong
I agree...everyone was talking about how his eyes look tired cause he is mentally suffering and while I agree that there could be something going on behind the scenes...but those are the eyes of an addict and I can say this cause I have seen those up close before...he NEEDS rehab
I admire the families who go on this show to get help, it’s not easy to go on public tv and talk about your problems, and it’s a good start, but it’s concerns like these that really need professionals involved. This family could really benefit from some therapy, especially the son. I hope he gets better, and starts giving his dad and sister an easier time.
reyanime They probably stay quiet because the can’t believe what they are hearing, if you know what I mean. They are not professionals, it is an entertainment show after all. But I think this show is to help these people start to change and move away from their problems.
Yeah even I felt bad for him. He fall into a dangerous path and it's not his fault, it happens to a lot of people and it's okay but hope he can recover from this addiction. It might have been hard for him as well. Such a young boy.
@@tomorrow. yes but there are lot of ppl out there who don't do that while living hard life it's not abt drinking nd smoking he is just being a brat with nonsense reason ,he is rude, ignorant nd cunning for his own good like he is the only one having feelings .think abt the father what joy he had in his life nd his son is totally inconsiderate .u know wrong PPL who uses right excuses to make them look right . He want everything but can't talk to his father while he is begging to talk. His attitude is problematic.
This is just such a messy awful situation for everyone involved. Honestly I think maybe the son needs to leave his father's home. I think he needs to go to some rehab, or visit a therapist to get sober.
Maisie Zoer He definetely needs to get help ! I don’t think it is a solution to leave the house, it would only lead to another problem, and he needs his dad, and sister to reconnect, and build a healthy stable family !!!! He needs love, and care so he could heal ! My heart breaks when i see teens/yound adults, they are all so important, even if they fall sort , and the father needs to be more persistent, and take a break from work to have the time for conversation with his son face to face, so he could open up, and not being in this crazy cycle of thinking that his father will hurt him! The other important help should be from his mother , even if they don’t spoke in years. They should speak to him to him honestly , not how to fix the problem or what not to do, instead first the conciquences about his behavior, and his life will not go instantly from bad to good, if he don’t choose/want to have , he needs to see his worth, and change school if needed, for a new start, and start to go therapy,church,rehab and found real friends who have a good influence on him, keep him away from trouble! He have to value his life , and make long term decisions for his future. He needs a healthy enviorment for his mental,phyical health socially I think that’s why he needs a new institute ,community of people like a group of teenagers with the same problem like therapy group . I really want to see his face full of life! 🙌🏻😥❤️
I'm so glad Yeongja is on this show.... I was so frustrated with both the dad and the son. The dad sounds like hes trying his hardest not to lose his relationship with his son, and because of that hes basically enabling his son to do whatever he wants... and the son takes advantage of that. This was a very frustrating concern and they both need to be in rehab . I hope his daughter turns out okay from all this...
Diamond Ray his father never spent time with his son and when he slapped him, the son took it harder than if they had ever bonded, since he was so disconnected with his father before and the only actual interaction was a slap, he hates his father. he sees his father struggling but doesn’t care
the point is that son only received material things from his dad. He is addicted because he wasn't raised properly and being addicted always comes from deep emotional problems. Don't think he isn't ashamed ,but it's not how it works , addiction is sickness and it's hard to stop. He is lonely you can see that clearly. And his father slapping him was a trauma to him. No matter what if you already feel bad about yourself , every action or word can hurt much more. I don't like the attitude of the hosts here, the boy needs psychological support and it's not his fault he is not emotionaly well, the circumstances did this to him.
If the father doesn’t buy him alcohol, he will steal and illegally drink/smoke with his friends. He was caught continuously SO MANY TIMES, that’s why the father told him to drink and smoke at home hence there’s no way to speak senses into him... What else could you do in that situation ? Watching your son sitting in jail? He probably know that it’s not right to do so but he has no choice. Idk it was a difficult decision.. imo personally. If he would stop when the father doesn’t buy him those stuff then that’s a different case.
He said he didn't feel anything wrong with his health yet... He looks more tired than me and I'm going to a hospital extreem sleep deprivation. There's already something wrong with his health and he's just draining his energy trying to regain it with what caused him to loose it in the first place
He is telling then he doesn't think that he can stop drinking.He is just admitting to addiction but these hosts keep asking if he'll listen to his father and quit, as if it's easy. He needs rehab and lots of time to get over this.Smh!
Thats true but i think they were referring to his attitude and resistance to start trying and change the habits in the first place. He didn’t say he would try and it would be difficult, he just said he wouldn’t be able to stop, which is why they were frustrated. If he had agreed to at least attempt to quit i think they would’ve seen his will to change, but he didn’t show that. He does need rehab and time though, and it seems he might be under some mental stress and issues. Hopefully he gets the help he needs :(
Beatrize Kirstt Gabutina my friend has the darkest eye circles but she only gets 4-6 hours of sleep a night. she said it’s because during the summer she use to take naps during the day causing her sleeping schedule to get all messed up, but tbh her mom should’ve done something about it. her dark circles are blackish.
I actually really feel for the son. Obviously he has mental issues, most likely depression. It’s quite easy to start depending on bad habits when you feel alone/misunderstood. I hope he gets help and I hope him and his father make up.
Don't take advantage to your dad kindness boy.. bcz your dad not gonna be with you forever. Pls cherish every moment with your dad and always make he proud of you. If you don't want to feel regret at the end of the day...🖤
This boy is in so much pain, you can see the loneliness in his eyes so he uses cigarettes and alcohol to console that loneliness. The divorce has traumatized him so much, he knows it but it’s hard for him to admit it. I cried through this whole episode, I could feel the pain through the screen that’s how much hurt he has in his heart and you can tell he bottles it up and let’s it out when he drinks. Don’t bash him in the comments and say he’s a negligent son, he’s doing his best. They all are and I applaud him. He needs serious help, this program was just a step for them and I hope they all go see a therapist. I love the dad so much, so deal with this and still go to work. He loves his kids so much but it’s a bit hard for him to express it when he’s always away. I pray that they sought professional help after this show...
I really cried so badly after watching this cuz it made me think about how many times I actually neglected my parents and that I was just being a selfish immature kid. Our parents are really the ones who love us the most and wants the best for us so I hope everyone here can take time to appreciate their parents in whatever way🙏🏻 I hope this boy really changes and realises his faults and hopefully get rid of his smoking and drinking habits. I rly hope he turn into a new leaf !! Stay strong to the dad ! He’s really been thru so much ..
I feel bad for the father but also feel bad for this young boy..”I can’t stop drinking” however ... I hope he quits somehow.. and their relationship gets better.. his condition isn’t good he almost looks like forcing himself to stay awake ..
Big applause for Youngja!!! Even I could tell he wasn't really upset about the slap but used his father's guilt to control him and make him buy whatever he wanted.
i see everyone feeling bad for the dad, what about the son? he's clearly not doing well... the moment i saw him and he said hello i cried, i'm not sure why but i cried... ofc i feel bad for the dad to, but the son also...
Ina J it’s his fault that he’s not doing well lol. he’s a spoiled brat who uses his “traumatic” experience with his dad to get what he wants. i don’t feel bad for him at all.
@@joongult ok im just going to state my opinion. From my perspective, he uses that exuse because theres something more going on, something he doesn't want to tell them. I could be wrong. But this is just how i feel
I understand what you're thinking of the son is not fully in fault here. I also understand my everyone is in his father's side more. I think the reason why the son is turning like that maybe because of the absence of a mother's figure that make him somehow feeling lonely without realising. It's also part of his father's wrongdoing to spoil his kids with money without providing them more communications as family. I think the son needs to open his heart for his father, and his father needs to be more discipline for his son. They will get better, I know if both of them want to be more understanding..
Youngja is really a queen! What he said to that kid is really true and wise. She always tries to be funny while being rightfull, I truly respect and admire her.
I feel like sometimes they don't listen to people cry for help, when he was saying that he couldn't quick drinking or smoking i don't think it meant he didn't want to i think he actually means he CANT and he needs real help
I’m literally crying so much... I feel so bad for the dad, and I have so much respect for him being such a great dad and human being. I hope the family will be very close, so they dad can be happy.
I know I’m 2 years late though.. but he is clearly addicted and can’t just quitt even if he would try. They/ his dad should have went with him to a rehab instead of the show bc the show didn’t really help him
Was I the only one who thought the boy looked high? He needs to treat his father well and be nicer to his sister. He also needs to understand that single parenthood is difficult and rather than adding to the difficulty, he needs to be mature and be a role model to his sister. When I watch episodes with kids like this, I would wish they had African parents. The only reason you get traumatized by a slap is if you hear a ringing sound in your ear, five finger marks on your face, teary eye, signs of fainting and a headache. Other than that, your dad was just exercising his hands. Happy the MCs didn't fall for his excuses. How do you even feel traumatized over a slap but so comfortable to ask your dad to buy you alcohol and cigarettes? The latter is when you should be more scared but that is not the case. The father needs to cut his sons credit card or put a 100 dollar limit on it. I don't see why an ungrateful child should be spending 2000-3000 dollars per month. If he needs extra expenses then he should work for it. Hopefully, he gets treatment for his trembling hands and his addiction.
weed is really hard to find therefore is really expensive in korea so theres no way a kid this young would be able to get his hands on it. If anything hes probably just tired or hungover. Drinking alc takes a toll on your body and he probably drinks to not feel tired and depleted
This one really touched me. The dad is working so hard for the kids and I hope they will be able to live happily together in the future with the children understanding their dads sacrifice more and all of them talking more often and being together as a family.
I am also 18 years old & think that my dad loves my sister more than me. But now I realised that he did everything to raise me .❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I taught a huge lesson today 🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you
You boy you are lucky because your dad takes care of you so much 😢😢, but me never because my dad died when I was at young age 😢😢. Hope you change and please teke care and respect your father 😔
I was an addict, and have been almost a year and a half sober. Believe me, this son has an addiction that will only get worse as time passes. Until he recognizes that he's powerless and needs help and gets that help, nothing good will happen. Godspeed.
I want to beat his friends who makes him bad boy! See little boy, his dad's wish not grandiose! Just little talk, getting dinner together, and make lesser to consume cigarette and alcohol. Actually I know dad just holding tears everytime he speak about his story. Still he must check up to hospital why the son started getting hand tremble or tremor.
Honestly his friends might be in similar situations. Just as messed up as his situation is, theirs might be too, maybe even worse. That's not something one person starts but more likely a result of many stupid ideas together that got offhand and noone can control them anymore. So I think the question is not how everything started but how can this be stopped? The son really looks like a drug addict (not saying he's taking illegal things but honestly if you're as addicted to alcohol and cigarettes as he is, then you're a drug addict) and he should get professional help asap. He even himself said he doesn't think he's able to quit.
No in my opinion I think If he is having hand tremor problem he should tell his dad bcus he is old enough . His dad is always working and have too many things in his head to be concern about. My mom is also always busy to make money. Even if I have fever she don't know cus she can't be 24/7 hours wiht me so I have to tell her to let her know
I understand the frustration but at the end of the day, this kid is addicted to alcohol. It affects his ability to think rationally as well as shifts his mood and personality. He doesn't need more judgement, he needs professional help. He said it twice himself that he doesn't think he can stop drinking ... this is a huge problem, I wish they show us where this kid is now
his dad made me cry. he sounds so sad and depressed. he literally is giving his life working until 2am so his children can spend more money than a fucking married adult. 3000dollars!? that's absurd. look at how emotional he became after hearing a single i love you. this really broke me. the son needs help as well its too late for him to stop on his own.
he has no life in his eyes, eyes r puffy due to drinking n smoking at young age. features r so basic too. where is the handsomeness???? i mean yea he is ok but not THAT 'good looking'. I dont get it...??? his dad is more handsome to me..
@@NhiAngela0101 i guess everyone has different standard of beauty? You might think he is average, but for me and some he is good looking. If only he behave just fine, being a good boy, polite, doing well on school, more people would find him attractive
He is good looking but he looks sick because of the alcohol and this makes him unatractive for me. Also just the action of drinking too much is unatractive to me
What a great father. He has so much love for his children that he will give anything for them! I have so much respect for families raising children alone! I can never imagine the hardships you all go through this man deserves more than this! I hope the son does change ! ❤️
when the boy saying 'I love you', the dad cries in an instant is like all the hard work he was doing is paid off. I think, no matter who his son would he be, that 'I love you' is worth the tough lifetime he was spending so far. he doesnt really care about another thing, one he cares is knowing that his kids love him, and it's strengthening him in many ways.
I never got any😂 my parents told me if I want money to get a job and at 15 I sure as hell did and was working 15 hours during school months and 30+ hours during the summer.
The moment wn his son said “I love you dad” the smile n that tears which his father showed ,made me realised that he was dieing hard to listen this from his son!
I'm just glad this kid is living in Korea. Alcohol addiction is bad enough (especially at such a young age) but who knows what other dangerous shit he'd be putting into his body if he lived in America where other hard drugs are so easily accessible...
lol what? korea has a stigma against mental illness so he will probably never get healed of his addiction. and btw just bc drugs arent as common in korea doesnt mean koreans dont do drugs.. they do
@@coolcucumbers7601 Austria as well haha When I think about my high school where 15 year olds were caught taking magic mushrooms and many definitely smoked weed. Most students were drinking and smoking as well
My heart broke when the dad told him he wanted to talk to him more and have meals together again... I hope his son realizes how much his dad does for him before its too late.
Its not good that he fights with his sister. Just like my mom always says, "you and your brother are all y'all got, you're gonna need each other one day" I mean it is true. Your family is all that's left when it comes to loved ones really. Their mom left so it's just them and their dad now. I can see that he wants them to be close before they split.
As soon as the song father played at the end I burst into tears, I want to give the boy a hug, because he seems so out of it, it seems emotionally, not just from the drinking and smoking, I feel like he just needs someone to tell him what he's done wrong, but let him know it will be all right, he needs attention from his father, and he needs to be together with his family. The father needs to know that he has to set boundaries, once a child is shown they have no reprocussions for their actions, they think they can do it again, and they loose respect for the adult. I want to give them both hugs, and tell them how to fix this.
Do you know what I'd give to have a dad like him? My dad never even held my hands when we crossed streets. I witnessed and went through emotional and physical abuse. Be grateful for having a dad like him. I hope you realise this someday
Coming from someone who has a father in the same position as this man, I can say that I really related to this episode. First time I teared up. But I can’t get mad at this dude because I feel like I’m almost him in a way. My mom also left and through that, I also find myself taking out my anger on my sister (never my dad-I respect him so so much) and crying myself to sleep since I bottle up all my feelings. I wish there was a way for me to let it all out but I’d never go as far as to drink or smoke. I could tell he loves his sweet dad and is just trying to be cool about it all. This episode makes me really appreciate my dad even more.
you just get slapped by hand, your dad gets slapped by the reality of life... not all your friend will be with you when you get slap by the reality of living after you graduate. I feel sorry and bad for your dad.
I kind of understand this guy to an extent. My father hit me. But the thing is it wasn’t a slap. He came after me like a man. He grabbed me by my shirt lifted me up head butted me 3 times dropped me I got back up he started pushing me backwards I got my foot caught under a stone table and severely sprained my ankle fractured my foot. Continued to do this until I stayed down in the ground. My mother on the other hand hit me with brushes combs cord phones belts. I get putting your trust in someone that hurts you you will never forget it. It took me a long time to be okay with it too. People have different personalities but if he’s that mad and unforgiving about it he should just move out. But he’s just manipulating his father guilt. He needs a job and buy his own stuff. I had a job when I was 15. He’s need a job and to move out and probably counseling by a real doctor/therapist.
I been crying since the beginning of the video the son seems depressed and lonely the father also seems lonely I hope they can reconnect and have a happy life together
His parents divorced when he was 8, the mom low key left him and he wants me to believe that he is not smoking and drinking because of that. Bullshit. He is addicted already and people only get addicted if they are using drugs as excuse to escape something. Someone can drink one beer and not get addicted , someone can smoke a cigarette and not get addicted but if you are depressed and traumatized and feeling sad, you just want to forget the pain and feel better so ofc the son is relying on drugs to easy the pain. I hope the father takes him to a therapist.
@11:22 I’m happy that even though this is a serious concern and there is obvious problem, the son could smile because this means that he is able to feel happiness. The son is obviously feeling lonely and tired as well. I’m sure he would want to change but it’s difficult when you’re in a family situation where you feel tired. Watching his parents divorce and having a father who was poor, he must’ve started to get a little depressed so he used smoking and drinking as a way to relieve this.
it's very interesting because i'm french and at 18 years old in france you can drink , go to club ,... you are not a teenager anymore you are an adult and if you look young people they have ever drink alcohol before their majority , at 16 or 17 years olds …. and when i read the comment section it's very interesting to see different type of vision … you can see the cultural difference . …
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My dad caught me smoking when i was 17 too, he didnt say anything, no scolding no slapping. Later that night i found him secretly wipe his tears as he look at my mom photo (my mom and dad divorced when i was on elementary school). Then i promise to myself i wont cause any trouble again. That was an emotional episode for me so I just want the boy on this concern to be more considerate, being a single dad isnt easy, raising kids without a mom to share every problem is so stressing
Hope u grow to be a healthy and strong human .
@@arosathi5800 thank you so much
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i am so glad you realised your father is precious early. Some people only know that after their parents gone forever.
@@reidesuga yeah, i was a big mess on middle school. Even until now i still feel sorry everytime i look at my dad going home late after work :(
*I started crying so much for the son as fast as I saw him. The look is in his eyes was not telling me that he is enjoying his life while drinking and smoking unlike others teenagers in his older that thinks it fun. I don't get it how many people here are hating on him. His eyes was telling me that it's hard for him too, he is tired and the only thing he can do is drink and smoke and that many things is boiled inside him. He is not a trash like everyone is saying, no he seems like a sad boy and that breaks my heart into hundred pieces. Everyone looked from the father's perspective but no on tried look at the sons as much. Even though I cried for the dad too because the look in his eyes was similar to his sons. Both of them are tired.*
i agree with you. its quite obvious that smoking and drinking is his coping mechanism because of the things happening in his life...
That’s exactly what I thought!!!
Nice fanfic
Omg! Thank you! I thought the same. He clearly has attachment issues bc of the divorce and is showing avoidant and self destructive behaviors. That boy just needs a lot of love and support and a good psychologist to help him out figure out what's on his mind. I cried when I saw this video, bc I've been through similar issues and I still live with anxiety to this day bc of my childhood traumas. I too lived like nothing was wrong until I was 15 and then I started to understand that my childhood was just wrong. I had similar coping mechanisms, but thankfully, I was able to go through life and solve my issues on my own with the help of a therapist a few years later, but just like my therapist said, I am not the norm. So I can only imagine what this poor boy is going through. I was able to sustain all of this and become a healthy adult, but the majority of these kids usually continue showing the self destructive behaviors in their adult life.
Btw, the fact that the father is permissive is not a good thing. Permissive parenthood is not healthy and does not create secure attachment. Besides, he's only permissive because he wants to ignore the fact that he has not been able to give the support the child needs. Look, I can understand that being a single parent is hard, but it's not the child's responsibility to understand that. Single parenthood is problematic. Most children from single parent households develop psychological problems that usually stem from a lack of secure attachment. Sure it may be hard for the father, but it's not the child's fault. The child has not asked to be born into a single parent household. We're talking about a minor here. Not an adult. Children need love and support. And most of the time, a single parent's best effort is NOT enough. It's the hard truth. If he's not able to solve the issue on his own, it's the father's responsibility to look for professional help. The child has to understand nothing. The child doesn't have to act like an adult. And I'm here to tell everyone that acting like an adult when you are a kid, reverse roles will leave scars for the rest of your life, bc I have been through it. So don't ask the child to "be the bigger person" or "be more understanding". The child is already blaming himself enough! These comments are the worse and really triggered me. Sorry if I sound too harsh.
YESSS ugh its so sad
Trembling hands, dilated eyes, dry mouth, dark circles, defensive attitude, high expenditure etc... he is addicted and is most probably on some drugs as well. he needs to go to rehab asap
deathinfatuated I don’t see his dilated eyes
I honestly believe the son is suffering from a depressive disorder . Drinking and smoking- addictive behaviours , are all associated with depressive disorder and he is displaying many signs of it. Saying he cant quit, but no admitting his is addicted is also typical addict behaviour. He needs to speak to some professional therapists. Mental health in young people( males especially) isn't paid enough attention to in korea
@@mygradeflife2754 this could be true because if his parents divorced when he was 8 he might've blamed himself or just got too caught up in the mess. as a child of divorced parents i am also struggling with depressive disorder besides some other things like anxiety and ptsd so i do understand what he went through and it is possible for him to be struggling with some mental illness. i also do understand him when it comes to alcohol and smoking(weed) because i also did use that to make myself feel better but hence my mom is an alchoholic and my dad is a drug addict i saw what it did to them, their marriage and in the longer term me and my sister. i do think he is addicted but as long as he doesnt want to admit he has a problem theres absolutely no way he's getting better any time soon. i really wish he realises it and gets proper help because if he doesnt i am really worried about his future.
My dark circles and hand tremors are way more than his but I haven't touched any sort of drug or alcohol my whole life
The shaky hands might be due to anxiety. A close friend of mine has the exact same thing, hand tremors. She was diagnosed for it being some sort of anxiety thing. Maybe that's what he has considering that he said he had it before he started drinking.
the son's eyes held no emotion, they were just completely blank. I think he's burying some demons with alcohol and cigarettes. I hope he gets therapy or goes to rehab before he starts relying on other drugs. plus, he needs new friends, going to somebody else's house on a daily basis to drink & make noise is poor behavior & they need to be dropped ASAP.
yes, i found that so heartbreaking..
it really looked like he was numb and hes dealing with major shit. But everyone just went against him rather than ask him if he was okay or if there was a true reason behind this. I believe he needs to get his mental health checkup because i can promise you, hes depressed
Joyce Chen that’s the biggest grievance I have about this show. They treated him like a criminal instead of a victim. barely scratched surface about what’s going on with him & I agree, he’s depressed - those eyes say a lot & his dad is hurting as well cause he’s trying but doesn’t know what to do.
@@ElsieBabyixo i think they provide professional help too... they just don't air it
@@factsonly4930 Doubt it... its Korea
how do concerns like this not get all 200 votes?? smh
Cultural differences... Sadly people from different countries see things differently, which for us is shocking, but for them it's normal. But again, it's just the culture, some cultures are more accepting of certain things whereas others aren't.
In my opinion, mostly in asia or asian people especially when youre a male, people are not strick on you. They do not judge you heavily as female. Male critics tends to be push asibe because of their "good" quality.
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With this issue, it's very minimal, and we think we have a much tougher situations than this. We also see this at any generation...we see this as rebelion or the person has nothing else to do because the parents are too good to them.
Personally, i don't really see this as a big problem, just a bit since it is affecting his studies.
Btw, most asian men tend to get into either smoking or drinking at any age they want to start then it's very hard to take it from them.
I think because the crowd is mixed in ages. From a parent or mature adult perspective this is obviously wrong, but I can imagine many of the young adults his age and in their early 20s that are in the audience don't see it is as a big deal and think the dad is just overreacting
Where I'm from this is totally normal. We are allowed to drink in public at age 18 and usually on Saterdays we drink a bit of wine with our families (religion). I know alot of the girls in my age smoke, drinking isn't weird to do though it depense where since we aren't allowed in public or to drink in the streets in general (unlike Korea). The son has to understand why what he's doing is wrong since it effecting his studies.
[sorry if my english isn't the best]
Everyone saying here it's not a big concern in Asia but no its actually wrong, just think realistically. The continent doesn't even matter because I think everything is the same. Of course mmy things it's a big issue but as much people who thinks it's a issue there is many who thinks it's not that shocking even though its wrong
it's also important to keep in mind that in korea because of the age system, 18 in Korea is actually 16-17 in the USA.
You're correct and the legal drinking age in SK is 20 (western 18)
Drink Bleach 21 in America
@@lmontferr Theyre saying that in Korea the legal drinking age is 20 which would be the equivalent of being 18 in the US
Allie Foster Ik I was saying that the legal drinking age in *america* is 21
@@lmontferr sorry i read the comments wrong 😬😬
He should really get therapy or go to rehab, he sounds addicted. This is so sad. I feel so bad for the father :(
I feel bad for the son as well
I agree...everyone was talking about how his eyes look tired cause he is mentally suffering and while I agree that there could be something going on behind the scenes...but those are the eyes of an addict and I can say this cause I have seen those up close before...he NEEDS rehab
I admire the families who go on this show to get help, it’s not easy to go on public tv and talk about your problems, and it’s a good start, but it’s concerns like these that really need professionals involved. This family could really benefit from some therapy, especially the son. I hope he gets better, and starts giving his dad and sister an easier time.
You were fully correct...
if Youngja is mad then u know you did it wrong..
Yeah, sometimes they stay way too quiet, but I'm glad she said something.
She wasn’t mad with that perverted dad smh
@@nnh4744 how is the dad perverted?
@@chloekim7208 It's about another concern
reyanime They probably stay quiet because the can’t believe what they are hearing, if you know what I mean. They are not professionals, it is an entertainment show after all. But I think this show is to help these people start to change and move away from their problems.
i know everyone hates the kid or something, but I seriously feel bad for him and his dad. he needs therapy
You are right... both need theraphy to connect again with each other
I just want to sit with him and listen to whatever he feels. I want to accompany him, make he feel better and more comfortable.
I think both of them need therapy
Yeah even I felt bad for him. He fall into a dangerous path and it's not his fault, it happens to a lot of people and it's okay but hope he can recover from this addiction. It might have been hard for him as well. Such a young boy.
@@tomorrow. yes but there are lot of ppl out there who don't do that while living hard life it's not abt drinking nd smoking he is just being a brat with nonsense reason ,he is rude, ignorant nd cunning for his own good like he is the only one having feelings .think abt the father what joy he had in his life nd his son is totally inconsiderate .u know wrong PPL who uses right excuses to make them look right . He want everything but can't talk to his father while he is begging to talk. His attitude is problematic.
This is just such a messy awful situation for everyone involved. Honestly I think maybe the son needs to leave his father's home. I think he needs to go to some rehab, or visit a therapist to get sober.
Or more like they had to go counseling all together.
Laura Barnes why would you disagree
Laura Barnes well u have to have reasons
Maisie Zoer He definetely needs to get help ! I don’t think it is a solution to leave the house, it would only lead to another problem, and he needs his dad, and sister to reconnect, and build a healthy stable family !!!! He needs love, and care so he could heal ! My heart breaks when i see teens/yound adults, they are all so important, even if they fall sort , and the father needs to be more persistent, and take a break from work to have the time for conversation with his son face to face, so he could open up, and not being in this crazy cycle of thinking that his father will hurt him! The other important help should be from his mother , even if they don’t spoke in years. They should speak to him to him honestly , not how to fix the problem or what not to do, instead first the conciquences about his behavior, and his life will not go instantly from bad to good, if he don’t choose/want to have , he needs to see his worth, and change school if needed, for a new start, and start to go therapy,church,rehab and found real friends who have a good influence on him, keep him away from trouble! He have to value his life , and make long term decisions for his future. He needs a healthy enviorment for his mental,phyical health socially I think that’s why he needs a new institute ,community of people like a group of teenagers with the same problem like therapy group . I really want to see his face full of life! 🙌🏻😥❤️
I'm so glad Yeongja is on this show.... I was so frustrated with both the dad and the son. The dad sounds like hes trying his hardest not to lose his relationship with his son, and because of that hes basically enabling his son to do whatever he wants... and the son takes advantage of that. This was a very frustrating concern and they both need to be in rehab . I hope his daughter turns out okay from all this...
Diamond Ray his father never spent time with his son and when he slapped him, the son took it harder than if they had ever bonded, since he was so disconnected with his father before and the only actual interaction was a slap, he hates his father. he sees his father struggling but doesn’t care
the point is that son only received material things from his dad. He is addicted because he wasn't raised properly and being addicted always comes from deep emotional problems. Don't think he isn't ashamed ,but it's not how it works , addiction is sickness and it's hard to stop. He is lonely you can see that clearly. And his father slapping him was a trauma to him. No matter what if you already feel bad about yourself , every action or word can hurt much more. I don't like the attitude of the hosts here, the boy needs psychological support and it's not his fault he is not emotionaly well, the circumstances did this to him.
If the father doesn’t buy him alcohol, he will steal and illegally drink/smoke with his friends. He was caught continuously SO MANY TIMES, that’s why the father told him to drink and smoke at home hence there’s no way to speak senses into him... What else could you do in that situation ? Watching your son sitting in jail? He probably know that it’s not right to do so but he has no choice. Idk it was a difficult decision.. imo personally. If he would stop when the father doesn’t buy him those stuff then that’s a different case.
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Ohmygod I feel so bad for the dad. I just started tearing up because I feel like I know how he feels, and the frustration that he experiences.
Me too... after looking at the boy...because the boy is looking so young. I feel so bad.
He said he didn't feel anything wrong with his health yet... He looks more tired than me and I'm going to a hospital extreem sleep deprivation. There's already something wrong with his health and he's just draining his energy trying to regain it with what caused him to loose it in the first place
YOUNGJA. ON POINT. AS USUAL.
SuJu_Mimi I cried when she started talking. You felt her pain and frustration.
exactly!
That's why she is one of my favorite MCs
Since he is teenager he SHOULD quit drinking and smoking although he CAN'T.
He is telling then he doesn't think that he can stop drinking.He is just admitting to addiction but these hosts keep asking if he'll listen to his father and quit, as if it's easy. He needs rehab and lots of time to get over this.Smh!
Thats true but i think they were referring to his attitude and resistance to start trying and change the habits in the first place. He didn’t say he would try and it would be difficult, he just said he wouldn’t be able to stop, which is why they were frustrated. If he had agreed to at least attempt to quit i think they would’ve seen his will to change, but he didn’t show that. He does need rehab and time though, and it seems he might be under some mental stress and issues. Hopefully he gets the help he needs :(
Look at the bags under your eyes man! That's not healthy
Yes,its not healthy
So if i say "one of my classmates has more darker bags" would it be bad? Bc no one really cared about it😶😶😶😶but he wasnt bullied
bro what i naturally have dark circles but i guess since im sleep deprived it makes them look even worse
I have them naturally ;-;
Beatrize Kirstt Gabutina my friend has the darkest eye circles but she only gets 4-6 hours of sleep a night. she said it’s because during the summer she use to take naps during the day causing her sleeping schedule to get all messed up, but tbh her mom should’ve done something about it. her dark circles are blackish.
I actually really feel for the son. Obviously he has mental issues, most likely depression. It’s quite easy to start depending on bad habits when you feel alone/misunderstood. I hope he gets help and I hope him and his father make up.
yea, it’s so heartbreaking.. i think he has anxiety and really lost his faith in support from his family
Don't take advantage to your dad kindness boy.. bcz your dad not gonna be with you forever. Pls cherish every moment with your dad and always make he proud of you. If you don't want to feel regret at the end of the day...🖤
He will be left with soo much regret in the future.. I already feel bad for him
This boy is in so much pain, you can see the loneliness in his eyes so he uses cigarettes and alcohol to console that loneliness. The divorce has traumatized him so much, he knows it but it’s hard for him to admit it. I cried through this whole episode, I could feel the pain through the screen that’s how much hurt he has in his heart and you can tell he bottles it up and let’s it out when he drinks. Don’t bash him in the comments and say he’s a negligent son, he’s doing his best. They all are and I applaud him. He needs serious help, this program was just a step for them and I hope they all go see a therapist. I love the dad so much, so deal with this and still go to work. He loves his kids so much but it’s a bit hard for him to express it when he’s always away. I pray that they sought professional help after this show...
I really cried so badly after watching this cuz it made me think about how many times I actually neglected my parents and that I was just being a selfish immature kid. Our parents are really the ones who love us the most and wants the best for us so I hope everyone here can take time to appreciate their parents in whatever way🙏🏻 I hope this boy really changes and realises his faults and hopefully get rid of his smoking and drinking habits. I rly hope he turn into a new leaf !! Stay strong to the dad ! He’s really been thru so much ..
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I feel bad for the father but also feel bad for this young boy..”I can’t stop drinking” however ... I hope he quits somehow.. and their relationship gets better.. his condition isn’t good he almost looks like forcing himself to stay awake ..
Omg I'm crying for the dad...
26:00 the dads smile when He said "i love you"😭😭
i hope this boy gets help, and for the family can be happy
Big applause for Youngja!!! Even I could tell he wasn't really upset about the slap but used his father's guilt to control him and make him buy whatever he wanted.
i see everyone feeling bad for the dad, what about the son? he's clearly not doing well... the moment i saw him and he said hello i cried, i'm not sure why but i cried... ofc i feel bad for the dad to, but the son also...
Well im an anti natalist firstly. i totally agree. The boy is suffering too. I feel bad for him.
Ina J it’s his fault that he’s not doing well lol. he’s a spoiled brat who uses his “traumatic” experience with his dad to get what he wants. i don’t feel bad for him at all.
@@joongult ok im just going to state my opinion. From my perspective, he uses that exuse because theres something more going on, something he doesn't want to tell them. I could be wrong. But this is just how i feel
I understand what you're thinking of the son is not fully in fault here. I also understand my everyone is in his father's side more. I think the reason why the son is turning like that maybe because of the absence of a mother's figure that make him somehow feeling lonely without realising. It's also part of his father's wrongdoing to spoil his kids with money without providing them more communications as family. I think the son needs to open his heart for his father, and his father needs to be more discipline for his son. They will get better, I know if both of them want to be more understanding..
He's an addict who manipulates his father to get what he wants. It's what addicts do. My cousin did the same to her mother.
Youngja is really a queen! What he said to that kid is really true and wise. She always tries to be funny while being rightfull, I truly respect and admire her.
I feel like sometimes they don't listen to people cry for help, when he was saying that he couldn't quick drinking or smoking i don't think it meant he didn't want to i think he actually means he CANT and he needs real help
He's handsome tbh. He has deep voice too. 😂
I guess its because he smokes one pack a day or maybe he was just born with it lol
this show REALLY NEED real psychologist not just famous ppl advice.😡
They do after the show they get counseling.
@@michellekercy4430 how do you know?
@@imaanansar3393 they have follow up ep
@@sanasb6553 where is it
@@anjaliroy6843 once in ten or twenty episode they will show how much they improve
I’m literally crying so much... I feel so bad for the dad, and I have so much respect for him being such a great dad and human being. I hope the family will be very close, so they dad can be happy.
His habit is seriously bad. He's dad must be suffering a lot. I hope he understands and quit his habit.
I know I’m 2 years late though.. but he is clearly addicted and can’t just quitt even if he would try. They/ his dad should have went with him to a rehab instead of the show bc the show didn’t really help him
I cried when the son told his father he loves him! 😭😭 I cried harder when the father cried! ☹️😭😭❤️
Was I the only one who thought the boy looked high? He needs to treat his father well and be nicer to his sister. He also needs to understand that single parenthood is difficult and rather than adding to the difficulty, he needs to be mature and be a role model to his sister. When I watch episodes with kids like this, I would wish they had African parents. The only reason you get traumatized by a slap is if you hear a ringing sound in your ear, five finger marks on your face, teary eye, signs of fainting and a headache. Other than that, your dad was just exercising his hands.
Happy the MCs didn't fall for his excuses. How do you even feel traumatized over a slap but so comfortable to ask your dad to buy you alcohol and cigarettes? The latter is when you should be more scared but that is not the case. The father needs to cut his sons credit card or put a 100 dollar limit on it. I don't see why an ungrateful child should be spending 2000-3000 dollars per month. If he needs extra expenses then he should work for it. Hopefully, he gets treatment for his trembling hands and his addiction.
i also did think he was high every now and then when they're asking him questions he seemed very confused and disoriented
High as a kite
I was assuming he was high too. He seemed lost a few moments
I don't think having any type of parents would help, once a kid is like this, a beating won't help, I recommend him seeking a rehab center.
weed is really hard to find therefore is really expensive in korea so theres no way a kid this young would be able to get his hands on it. If anything hes probably just tired or hungover. Drinking alc takes a toll on your body and he probably drinks to not feel tired and depleted
When the child said he love his father i cry so hard because its the first time he heard it. Please live your father and get some time with him
This entire episode i was just bawling my eyes out
This concern hits way too close to home.
This one really touched me. The dad is working so hard for the kids and I hope they will be able to live happily together in the future with the children understanding their dads sacrifice more and all of them talking more often and being together as a family.
I feel so sad and sorry for his father😞😞
I am also 18 years old & think that my dad loves my sister more than me. But now I realised that he did everything to raise me .❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I taught a huge lesson today 🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you
I think he needs counseling and also some rehab..
the father must have felt so happy after hearing those 3 words i love you from his son
Limit his allowance!!
He was catch stealing before , the father limiltless his card to avoid his son doing that again
17:36 아주 마음 아픈 얘기죠... 힘내세요 ❤️
You boy you are lucky because your dad takes care of you so much 😢😢, but me never because my dad died when I was at young age 😢😢. Hope you change and please teke care and respect your father 😔
Ur father will always be looking upon u from heaven. Don't be sad dear exol fam 💙
@@benwu6974 thank you fam 😢😊
I was an addict, and have been almost a year and a half sober. Believe me, this son has an addiction that will only get worse as time passes. Until he recognizes that he's powerless and needs help and gets that help, nothing good will happen. Godspeed.
I want to beat his friends who makes him bad boy!
See little boy, his dad's wish not grandiose! Just little talk, getting dinner together, and make lesser to consume cigarette and alcohol. Actually I know dad just holding tears everytime he speak about his story.
Still he must check up to hospital why the son started getting hand tremble or tremor.
Honestly his friends might be in similar situations. Just as messed up as his situation is, theirs might be too, maybe even worse. That's not something one person starts but more likely a result of many stupid ideas together that got offhand and noone can control them anymore. So I think the question is not how everything started but how can this be stopped? The son really looks like a drug addict (not saying he's taking illegal things but honestly if you're as addicted to alcohol and cigarettes as he is, then you're a drug addict) and he should get professional help asap. He even himself said he doesn't think he's able to quit.
No in my opinion I think If he is having hand tremor problem he should tell his dad bcus he is old enough .
His dad is always working and have too many things in his head to be concern about.
My mom is also always busy to make money. Even if I have fever she don't know cus she can't be 24/7 hours wiht me so I have to tell her to let her know
And I think his dad has eyes problem he blinks to often . And he is too thin
I understand the frustration but at the end of the day, this kid is addicted to alcohol. It affects his ability to think rationally as well as shifts his mood and personality. He doesn't need more judgement, he needs professional help. He said it twice himself that he doesn't think he can stop drinking ... this is a huge problem, I wish they show us where this kid is now
his dad made me cry. he sounds so sad and depressed. he literally is giving his life working until 2am so his children can spend more money than a fucking married adult. 3000dollars!? that's absurd. look at how emotional he became after hearing a single i love you. this really broke me. the son needs help as well its too late for him to stop on his own.
I wish my dad had been like this so kind
I pray for him everyday since last year I hope he is doing well💜
The poor father. I got teary-eyed listening to him speak.
I'm sorry, but the guy is actually really good looking
Agree, i would date him of course but his personality is just sucks
he has no life in his eyes, eyes r puffy due to drinking n smoking at young age. features r so basic too. where is the handsomeness???? i mean yea he is ok but not THAT 'good looking'. I dont get it...??? his dad is more handsome to me..
@@NhiAngela0101 i guess everyone has different standard of beauty? You might think he is average, but for me and some he is good looking. If only he behave just fine, being a good boy, polite, doing well on school, more people would find him attractive
Lmao whats his ig hhhh
He is good looking but he looks sick because of the alcohol and this makes him unatractive for me. Also just the action of drinking too much is unatractive to me
What a great father. He has so much love for his children that he will give anything for them! I have so much respect for families raising children alone! I can never imagine the hardships you all go through this man deserves more than this! I hope the son does change ! ❤️
The Dad is so tall and handsome!
when the boy saying 'I love you', the dad cries in an instant is like all the hard work he was doing is paid off. I think, no matter who his son would he be, that 'I love you' is worth the tough lifetime he was spending so far. he doesnt really care about another thing, one he cares is knowing that his kids love him, and it's strengthening him in many ways.
This is the saddest one I have seen ever. I am so heart broken and am sobbing
Gosh this one just made me think about my mum🥺. We gotta be good to our parents. Periodt
$50 a day allowance? that's generous i got $20 for the whole week
I got $0 my whole life
@@Najia93 MOOD
I never got any😂 my parents told me if I want money to get a job and at 15 I sure as hell did and was working 15 hours during school months and 30+ hours during the summer.
Idont get allowance ;(
$1 for a decade is enough
I get no money at all......😂😔😂
Those sad eyes from the son is breaking me,and I can’t believe how much I can relate
I think that he's depressed, he probably drowns his emotions and problems with alcohol and other bad things.
The moment wn his son said “I love you dad” the smile n that tears which his father showed ,made me realised that he was dieing hard to listen this from his son!
Am not the only one who has a crush on the son- thought he needs to see a doctor.
It's been three years since this was uploaded...I hope they are living a happy live..
I'm just glad this kid is living in Korea. Alcohol addiction is bad enough (especially at such a young age) but who knows what other dangerous shit he'd be putting into his body if he lived in America where other hard drugs are so easily accessible...
so truuu
Alcohol problems are even more severe in Korea, since a lot of the, are forced to drink...
I’m not glad he’s living in Korea. He should be treated for his addiction right away.
lol what? korea has a stigma against mental illness so he will probably never get healed of his addiction. and btw just bc drugs arent as common in korea doesnt mean koreans dont do drugs.. they do
@@coolcucumbers7601 Austria as well haha When I think about my high school where 15 year olds were caught taking magic mushrooms and many definitely smoked weed. Most students were drinking and smoking as well
I was tearing so hard and feel sorry to the dad . It’s heartbroken how some kids treat they’re parents so badly
My heart broke when the dad told him he wanted to talk to him more and have meals together again... I hope his son realizes how much his dad does for him before its too late.
i can't help and just started tearing up right after the father crying. it's hard to see a mother cry but it's harder to see a father crying.
Communication is the most important 👌 i hope they try to get along together & being a happy family soon ❤
Omg he’s such a nice dad how can he never say “I love u” to him..this actually made me cry..this is so heartbreaking 😭
Its not good that he fights with his sister. Just like my mom always says, "you and your brother are all y'all got, you're gonna need each other one day" I mean it is true. Your family is all that's left when it comes to loved ones really. Their mom left so it's just them and their dad now. I can see that he wants them to be close before they split.
I’m actually sobbing rn this episode is so sad
Guys 18 means he is either 16-17. Korean age is different
After the Dad cried hearing his son saying „I love you“ I started to cry so hard
Dad, FIGHTING!!!!!!!! I hope good things will begin to happen...
As soon as the song father played at the end I burst into tears, I want to give the boy a hug, because he seems so out of it, it seems emotionally, not just from the drinking and smoking, I feel like he just needs someone to tell him what he's done wrong, but let him know it will be all right, he needs attention from his father, and he needs to be together with his family. The father needs to know that he has to set boundaries, once a child is shown they have no reprocussions for their actions, they think they can do it again, and they loose respect for the adult. I want to give them both hugs, and tell them how to fix this.
young-ja said what in my mind perfectly
Do you know what I'd give to have a dad like him? My dad never even held my hands when we crossed streets. I witnessed and went through emotional and physical abuse. Be grateful for having a dad like him. I hope you realise this someday
the son out here looking like twitter's white boy of the month
KSKSKSKSKS thats why i thought he was cute then
i love yeongja so much, she took every word out of my mouth
my heart breaks for this family. I hope they come together and that the sun get help and the family starts being together more.
I'm so happy to see new videos like these uploaded! This show always sparks my interest.
our country has kids that are 14-15 years old that drinks alcohol 🤦🏿♂️
But by international age he is 16 only in korea 18
life is gud plus in korea your are only an adult when you are 20 because of the two years you get extra
What ur from? America?
life is gud Asia is more conservative remember that
First episode that make me cry
i can’t stop my tears :(
First time I'm crying watching hello counsellor... The dad is living hard life
He knows how to manipulate his dad and that’s pretty frickin sad.
Coming from someone who has a father in the same position as this man, I can say that I really related to this episode. First time I teared up. But I can’t get mad at this dude because I feel like I’m almost him in a way. My mom also left and through that, I also find myself taking out my anger on my sister (never my dad-I respect him so so much) and crying myself to sleep since I bottle up all my feelings. I wish there was a way for me to let it all out but I’d never go as far as to drink or smoke. I could tell he loves his sweet dad and is just trying to be cool about it all. This episode makes me really appreciate my dad even more.
you just get slapped by hand, your dad gets slapped by the reality of life... not all your friend will be with you when you get slap by the reality of living after you graduate. I feel sorry and bad for your dad.
THEY NEED EUJIN WISE WORDS LIKE EUJIN IS A ADVANCE EUJIN IS A WISE MAN LIKE FR
I kind of understand this guy to an extent. My father hit me. But the thing is it wasn’t a slap. He came after me like a man. He grabbed me by my shirt lifted me up head butted me 3 times dropped me I got back up he started pushing me backwards I got my foot caught under a stone table and severely sprained my ankle fractured my foot. Continued to do this until I stayed down in the ground. My mother on the other hand hit me with brushes combs cord phones belts.
I get putting your trust in someone that hurts you you will never forget it. It took me a long time to be okay with it too. People have different personalities but if he’s that mad and unforgiving about it he should just move out. But he’s just manipulating his father guilt. He needs a job and buy his own stuff. I had a job when I was 15. He’s need a job and to move out and probably counseling by a real doctor/therapist.
4:55 the boy is lightly crying
The son needs a therapist. He probably has Conduct Disorder. But he’ll definitely regret it in the future, if changes aren’t made.
I been crying since the beginning of the video the son seems depressed and lonely the father also seems lonely I hope they can reconnect and have a happy life together
"My mom hit me with a fish 🐟" 😂😂🤣🤣 cant understand youngja's mother
When the son tell his dad that he loves him. Me also got my eyes tears 😭
His parents divorced when he was 8, the mom low key left him and he wants me to believe that he is not smoking and drinking because of that. Bullshit. He is addicted already and people only get addicted if they are using drugs as excuse to escape something. Someone can drink one beer and not get addicted , someone can smoke a cigarette and not get addicted but if you are depressed and traumatized and feeling sad, you just want to forget the pain and feel better so ofc the son is relying on drugs to easy the pain. I hope the father takes him to a therapist.
@11:22 I’m happy that even though this is a serious concern and there is obvious problem, the son could smile because this means that he is able to feel happiness.
The son is obviously feeling lonely and tired as well. I’m sure he would want to change but it’s difficult when you’re in a family situation where you feel tired.
Watching his parents divorce and having a father who was poor, he must’ve started to get a little depressed so he used smoking and drinking as a way to relieve this.
it's very interesting because i'm french and at 18 years old in france you can drink , go to club ,... you are not a teenager anymore you are an adult and if you look young people they have ever drink alcohol before their majority , at 16 or 17 years olds …. and when i read the comment section it's very interesting to see different type of vision … you can see the cultural difference . …
In asia we only can drink or go to club when we reach our legal age at 20 or 21
That’s really true, I live in the uk and at 13-14 we already start going to parties and getting drunk!
In Korea you should be 19 to be considerated an adult. Also i think this is Korean age which adds one or two years to your actual age so he is 16-17
Yeah I agree it's the same in England
In my country people can't drink a sip,even hes 50 year's old... Culture deference on its height.. 😂
Couldn't stop my tears when the dad started crying. I really hope they find a solution.