I agree Sheikh! Men just use the excuse "You are the mother, you are responsible for educating & fulfilling all needs of the child/children" now a days even financial needs.
Divorce such men , if they ask u to full fill financial needs , that reason alone makes it permissible to divorce him . Also " men just use the excuse" is the wrong sentence here cuz that is generalising men instead u should be writting "some men ".
literally no man says this 😂 men of this day and age are very responsible. may your fathers and their forefathers, but not this generation. alhamdulillah from what i’ve seen, by the grace of allah, they are very responsible regardless pray for the ummah as the prophet SAW used to do, that is what’s best for you
R u sure that u wont be sinful for divorcing such man ? Who even gave female right to divorce ? A man can even beat his wife, and shout and do what not, but as long as basic rights are fulfilled, woman cant divorce, or else, Allah court will serve justice. Man has all right in marriage. Learn Islam, and dont give fatwa like a mufti. @@ranjan2004
Dear sister I love you for the sake of Allāh. I understood all what you are going through. Just keep your relationship with Allāh strong by doing all that He commanded and be patient but don't accept any immoral attitude from your step father. You are a precious pearl so preserve your dignity and put your trust in Allāh. This is your own test. With lots of prayers Allāh will ease everything and it will become a story for you to tell one day.
SheikhASSIM IS SO RIGHT MAY ALLAH GRANT HIM GOID IN BOTH WORLDS AMIN, yes absent father no quality time love laughter hugs the father is always serious sometimes it’s the father is jealous of the mother and start the problems and jealousy
Unfortunately, fathers start to hug kids ( grand children) when they become grand fathers. It's really very sad that most of the fathers treat their own kids very harshly. And till the time they understand the sweetness of father-kid relationship, it's too late and the damage is already done to his relationship with his own Kids. It's really a very bitter truth of life.😞😢😞
The more love you give, the more bad they become. U learn parenting from west, and see the result of their parenting Come to asia, here elder bro, father brother, aunt, neighbors, all have right to straighten a child, and see the result, whole life they pray for their family. Train your child like army man. Sometime love, sometime abuse, sometimes both.
@@servantofallah9425please ! Our prophet Muhammed peace be upon him would never be this! He is the most kind the most compassionate if anything we should learn from him how to be kind and gentle to children ! More love doesn’t make anyone bad
It's true my father plays with my niece and holds her it saddens me that he had never hold anyone of us siblings especially as babies nor played with us.
My father is very very strict..he is someone whom I will fear even after his death..I’m so lonely from my early age..my father used to scold and beat me up from my childhood even if I was her daughter and was very calm and emotional.although his intention was good but his parenting was so bad…even up to this days,he can’t talk softly…if I drop something by mistake,he will curse me..I’m not human and I’ll not be a human anymore..I’m jobless although I’m not graduated.and the financial situation is not good.so I’m d fee facing a lot..but I love my father.I know he is a pure soul but he has anger issues.❤
I know a person man he provides money he is always angry rude aggressive no time off to spend with wife and kids he’s absent father absent husband kids grew up seeing no love between parents they slept in seperate room and flirt with his wife’s cousins he wanted kids to prove he’s a man in society
Not all mothers and fathers or even stepfathers are loving I felt this so so deeply… I grew up with a mother and father divorced then stepfather came along and problems still existed in my house til today I grew up in an abusive household emotionally mentally physically and most importantly SPIRITUALLY where my mom got caught up with doing shirk a lot and tried to kill me I had no love in my teenage years or early adult years I was molested and emotionally abused by my stepfather where they gave everything too my older brother where they thought he was a better child
😢. I'd only say: be strong and steadfast as you are. Remember that irons are strong and hard because of being beaten and hit so many times...You'll In Sha Allah have a sweet family life with your husband and children.
Sister..just you being here is a testament that their problems aren’t yours & didn’t make you. I believe you will continue to stay steadfast and prosper. I Love You🌸
Imagine the reward you can gain if you remain at the same spot you prayed your fard prayer for a long time. Imagine the reward if you remain at the same spot you prayed Fajr and recite the adhkar of the morning and remain at the same spot you prayed Asr and recite the adhkar of the evening. Dont miss this out. Make this a habit. When the worshipper has finished praying and he sits in the place where he prayed, the angels pray for forgiveness for him, as is mentioned in the hadith which was narrated by al-Bukhaari (445) and Muslim (649) from Abu Hurayrah, according to which the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The angels pray for one of you so long as he remains in the place where he prayed, so long as he does not commit a sin. They say: ‘O Allah, forgive him; O Allah, have mercy on him.’” According to another report narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim: “So long as he does not commit a sin there, so long as he does not cause annoyance to others there.
Sheikh..Thank you for being a genuine Soul. Many wld prefer the children under 12….”easier” to “guide” YOU choose the path of resistance. Teens & young adults are a much harder ppl to guide. Alhamdulillah ❤️
*Solution* Let the maid do the household work and let the mother spend time with husband & children. This also means the mothers should keep the phone & kitty party a bavk seat
And when the woman has to be both parents because fathers in the US don't care for their kids and they can just walk away without any responsibility. They don't give love, time , they don't take fare of them financially. Not all fathers but most here in the US are like that. It makes it difficult for mothers to raise the kids positively. Women cannot raise boys to be men. We can only teach them how we as women think men should behave but not yow to act, or think. That is a man's job they have to learn by visible example. When they are raised in a home of arguing, fighting, screaming that becomes their nature. That's what is the " normal" behavior for them because that is what they know. When people see the misbehaving children they look atvthe parents. They don't know how the story started. Then when the mom tries to correct the behavior by screaming and yelling it's not teaching nothing. When we respond by hitting it's not teaching them not to hit. Again it's visible example and it's our faults. I'm having a hard time with mine and knowing and acknowledging the issue,it's hard to hold myself together. There are so many of them and one of me. Like I said I have to be mom and dad. I have to work 48 to 62 hours a week to get by. On my days off I wish I could relax but the reality is, I have to be a referee, a maid, a cook, a councilor, a mediator, mom, dad, Dr. , Mechanic, maintenance, tech support, soccer mom, emotional support system, bill payer, tutor, ect..... I have no me time,I have none of the support I get. No family and no friends because don't have time to be a friend at the moment. I wish people could stop judging and start understanding. We as parents are at fault because we didn't realize we were destroying our children by our own personal problem that we displayed infront of them
One word Sibling’s WIFE or HUSBAND Esp wife as she teaches your brother how bad we have been to him when we were toddler or teens or in college together
Do t k ow which world is he from Fathers give more attention than mothers Specially to daughters as mothers are unfair to daughters and side with their so s no matter how bad they are to the sister I think I this shaikh has such strict fathers Alhamdulillan in our culture mother is the strict one And daddy is such a darling But we miss mama more when she isn’t well or have travelled somewhere Miss her even though she was the stricter ones
I agree with you sheikh but I wish you drank water with your right hand. You disappointed me when you drank with your left hand. This is very serious to me when people talk about imitating our beloved prophet and advice people to do so but they forget themselves. They advise people and forget themselves
bro calm down, he’s a human not a prophet, he makes mistakes and sins. YOU sin as well, stop acting like you don’t simply advise people and move on, no need to nitpick
There are many problems in the Ummah. Talks like these have been going on for a long time, it isn't something that just started. If you look around, you will find many videos relating to the genocide in Palestine. People are speaking out, and they're talking about other issues. If a society only tackles problems one at a time, it gets sidetracked as newer generations become older.
I agree Sheikh! Men just use the excuse "You are the mother, you are responsible for educating & fulfilling all needs of the child/children" now a days even financial needs.
Divorce such men , if they ask u to full fill financial needs , that reason alone makes it permissible to divorce him . Also " men just use the excuse" is the wrong sentence here cuz that is generalising men instead u should be writting "some men ".
literally no man says this 😂 men of this day and age are very responsible. may your fathers and their forefathers, but not this generation. alhamdulillah from what i’ve seen, by the grace of allah, they are very responsible
regardless pray for the ummah as the prophet SAW used to do, that is what’s best for you
@@ranjan2004 right. Women have become slaves to employment. People have started connecting studying with employment.
Wounded fathers
R u sure that u wont be sinful for divorcing such man ? Who even gave female right to divorce ? A man can even beat his wife, and shout and do what not, but as long as basic rights are fulfilled, woman cant divorce, or else, Allah court will serve justice. Man has all right in marriage. Learn Islam, and dont give fatwa like a mufti. @@ranjan2004
Dear sister I love you for the sake of Allāh. I understood all what you are going through. Just keep your relationship with Allāh strong by doing all that He commanded and be patient but don't accept any immoral attitude from your step father. You are a precious pearl so preserve your dignity and put your trust in Allāh. This is your own test. With lots of prayers Allāh will ease everything and it will become a story for you to tell one day.
You nailed sheikh Assim MashaAllah shukran Jazakum Allah khair
Sheikh got me so hard with "Ya'ani.. who cares" 🤣
SheikhASSIM IS SO RIGHT MAY ALLAH GRANT HIM GOID IN BOTH WORLDS AMIN, yes absent father no quality time love laughter hugs the father is always serious sometimes it’s the father is jealous of the mother and start the problems and jealousy
Very nicely explained, Thank you Sheikh. JAZAK ALLAH.
Thank you fine to hear it children needs 2 parents that love them and lead them to be wise and good Insha Allah ✨🙏✨❤️Alhamdulilah Rabb Alameen ☝️
Unfortunately, fathers start to hug kids ( grand children) when they become grand fathers. It's really very sad that most of the fathers treat their own kids very harshly. And till the time they understand the sweetness of father-kid relationship, it's too late and the damage is already done to his relationship with his own Kids.
It's really a very bitter truth of life.😞😢😞
The more love you give, the more bad they become. U learn parenting from west, and see the result of their parenting
Come to asia, here elder bro, father brother, aunt, neighbors, all have right to straighten a child, and see the result, whole life they pray for their family. Train your child like army man. Sometime love, sometime abuse, sometimes both.
@@servantofallah9425please ! Our prophet Muhammed peace be upon him would never be this! He is the most kind the most compassionate if anything we should learn from him how to be kind and gentle to children ! More love doesn’t make anyone bad
It's true my father plays with my niece and holds her it saddens me that he had never hold anyone of us siblings especially as babies nor played with us.
My father is very very strict..he is someone whom I will fear even after his death..I’m so lonely from my early age..my father used to scold and beat me up from my childhood even if I was her daughter and was very calm and emotional.although his intention was good but his parenting was so bad…even up to this days,he can’t talk softly…if I drop something by mistake,he will curse me..I’m not human and I’ll not be a human anymore..I’m jobless although I’m not graduated.and the financial situation is not good.so I’m d fee facing a lot..but I love my father.I know he is a pure soul but he has anger issues.❤
Millions of people have grown up like this.
Your parents raised you to be so kind and good hearted thank Allah for that
I know a person man he provides money he is always angry rude aggressive no time off to spend with wife and kids he’s absent father absent husband kids grew up seeing no love between parents they slept in seperate room and flirt with his wife’s cousins he wanted kids to prove he’s a man in society
@@hajira5013 There are fathers and mothers that are far from perfect we know that... May Allah guide them and us
I'm so sorry!
This lecture is divided in different videos and this clip was taken from the title: Family Conflict Resolution
Jazakallahu khayran for this beneficial knowledge. Ma sha Allah and allahumma barik to you.
Not all mothers and fathers or even stepfathers are loving I felt this so so deeply… I grew up with a mother and father divorced then stepfather came along and problems still existed in my house til today I grew up in an abusive household emotionally mentally physically and most importantly SPIRITUALLY where my mom got caught up with doing shirk a lot and tried to kill me I had no love in my teenage years or early adult years I was molested and emotionally abused by my stepfather where they gave everything too my older brother where they thought he was a better child
I'm really sorry sister, May Allah heal your soul ❤
😢. I'd only say: be strong and steadfast as you are. Remember that irons are strong and hard because of being beaten and hit so many times...You'll In Sha Allah have a sweet family life with your husband and children.
@@AMT-bq7hhThe Iron! That is a beautiful analogy!! Bless You🌸
Sister..just you being here is a testament that their problems aren’t yours & didn’t make you. I believe you will continue to stay steadfast and prosper. I Love You🌸
Allah is with you
Interesting!
Where can I find the full lecture
@Farzana2418
ruclips.net/video/NAzKe3zus7g/видео.htmlsi=huRdDuRj3Iicc7-5
Imagine the reward you can gain if you remain at the same spot you prayed your fard prayer for a long time. Imagine the reward if you remain at the same spot you prayed Fajr and recite the adhkar of the morning and remain at the same spot you prayed Asr and recite the adhkar of the evening. Dont miss this out. Make this a habit.
When the worshipper has finished praying and he sits in the place where he prayed, the angels pray for forgiveness for him, as is mentioned in the hadith which was narrated by al-Bukhaari (445) and Muslim (649) from Abu Hurayrah, according to which the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The angels pray for one of you so long as he remains in the place where he prayed, so long as he does not commit a sin. They say: ‘O Allah, forgive him; O Allah, have mercy on him.’”
According to another report narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim: “So long as he does not commit a sin there, so long as he does not cause annoyance to others there.
Sheikh..Thank you for being a genuine Soul. Many wld prefer the children under 12….”easier” to “guide” YOU choose the path of resistance. Teens & young adults are a much harder ppl to guide. Alhamdulillah ❤️
Salaam, please correct the video image. It is flipped left and right and it is showing the sheikh is drinking water with left hand.
Reflection of the camera
The video is flipped, just to let you know
*Solution* Let the maid do the household work and let the mother spend time with husband & children. This also means the mothers should keep the phone & kitty party a bavk seat
Stop music back ground it's annoying
exactly
And when the woman has to be both parents because fathers in the US don't care for their kids and they can just walk away without any responsibility. They don't give love, time , they don't take fare of them financially. Not all fathers but most here in the US are like that. It makes it difficult for mothers to raise the kids positively. Women cannot raise boys to be men. We can only teach them how we as women think men should behave but not yow to act, or think. That is a man's job they have to learn by visible example. When they are raised in a home of arguing, fighting, screaming that becomes their nature. That's what is the " normal" behavior for them because that is what they know. When people see the misbehaving children they look atvthe parents. They don't know how the story started. Then when the mom tries to correct the behavior by screaming and yelling it's not teaching nothing. When we respond by hitting it's not teaching them not to hit. Again it's visible example and it's our faults. I'm having a hard time with mine and knowing and acknowledging the issue,it's hard to hold myself together. There are so many of them and one of me. Like I said I have to be mom and dad. I have to work 48 to 62 hours a week to get by. On my days off I wish I could relax but the reality is, I have to be a referee, a maid, a cook, a councilor, a mediator, mom, dad, Dr. , Mechanic, maintenance, tech support, soccer mom, emotional support system, bill payer, tutor, ect..... I have no me time,I have none of the support I get. No family and no friends because don't have time to be a friend at the moment. I wish people could stop judging and start understanding. We as parents are at fault because we didn't realize we were destroying our children by our own personal problem that we displayed infront of them
One word
Sibling’s WIFE or HUSBAND
Esp wife as she teaches your brother how bad we have been to him when we were toddler or teens or in college together
Do t k ow which world is he from
Fathers give more attention than mothers
Specially to daughters as mothers are unfair to daughters and side with their so s no matter how bad they are to the sister
I think I this shaikh has such strict fathers
Alhamdulillan in our culture mother is the strict one
And daddy is such a darling
But we miss mama more when she isn’t well or have travelled somewhere
Miss her even though she was the stricter ones
Did sheikh drink with his left hand during this talk? Correct me if wrong please...
The image is probably flipped due to RUclips copyright issues.
Sibling rivalry can be for adults severe sibling rivalry. Shiekh doesn't understand this
Solo sex can be a sin that causes a lot of damage, suddenly this type of sinner gets hated by others.
The last part, where did you get this from?
Sheikh y u drinking with ur left hand 😮 have I seen correctly or am I wrong here?
It’s the camera
The image is flipped.
Rasool Allah Sallallahu alaihi wasallam kisses his daughter and his sister
He got up for them and spread his cloak for them to sit
I agree with you sheikh but I wish you drank water with your right hand. You disappointed me when you drank with your left hand. This is very serious to me when people talk about imitating our beloved prophet and advice people to do so but they forget themselves. They advise people and forget themselves
The camera is returning a mirror effect. It's actually his right hand.
bro calm down, he’s a human not a prophet, he makes mistakes and sins.
YOU sin as well, stop acting like you don’t
simply advise people and move on, no need to nitpick
Bro chill. It's the reflection of the camera
People are dying in Gaza ,and this shuyuk telling stories about kids. This is situation of Muslims.
Children are dying in Palestine and people like you are on youtube, May Allah guide you
There are many problems in the Ummah. Talks like these have been going on for a long time, it isn't something that just started.
If you look around, you will find many videos relating to the genocide in Palestine. People are speaking out, and they're talking about other issues. If a society only tackles problems one at a time, it gets sidetracked as newer generations become older.